Ladies, join me today on a very special episode. This weekend, I am processing emotion and I am taking you along with me. I am sharing an experience I had this weekend and how it brought up some emotion from over 10 years ago and how I dealt with it alone and with my husband. This is a vulnerable episode that I hope you learn from. 

Today I am going to bring together what we talked about last week and discuss what that looks like in relationships. How do we emotionally invest in a relationship when the other person seems to not be doing any work on their end? I'm going over the biggest lie that our brain believes about this and sharing why it's so important to recognize.  Don't forget to sign up for my email list to be the first to know when tickets go live for our Nashville retreat in October! I can't wait to see ya'll there!

There are two kinds of emotional investment-one that will produce the results that you want (a better marriage, a goal weight, a dream job) and one that won't. Today I am breaking down what emotional investment is, the two main types and the patterns they create, and why it's so important in order to achieve those goals you want. 

What thoughts do you have about your husband? And how is that affecting your relationship? Today I am giving a few examples from clients about negative (and positive) thoughts we often have about our husbands that prevent us from moving forward. 

So many of us struggle with making decisions. And it's all because of what we are thinking. Today I am breaking down how to make decisions in 4 simple steps and what our brain often does in those steps to make making decisions so difficult! Whether it's deciding what to wear or where to send your kids to school or even to stay married, this is a simple formula you can follow to make any decision in your life. 

Do you struggle making decisions? Do you want to make a decision but feel like you "can't" or "don't know what to choose"? Today I am breaking down what indecision really is, the problems with it, why it's so appealing, and offering a small tip to help you start changing.   

What do we do when we want two seemingly opposite things? Especially when we can't decide which one is "better"? How do we choose? How do we look at that? Today I am going to dive into what this looks like, how our brain likes to make decisions and what to do when you want to opposite things. (If you are struggling with trust, this is for you!) Come join my FREE Trust Workshop! May 23-25 @ 1pm est! Sign up here for free and join us!

If your husband is struggling with depression (as so often goes hand in hand with addictive behavior), it can be super tough to know what to do. Do you recommend therapy? Is it ok to talk to him about it? Am I supposed to leave him alone? Our desire to help and our desire to not make anything worse often lead to an internal conflict that leaves us feeling hopeless and frustrated. Today Rob and I talk about what to do and not to do based on our 10+ years of marriage and working through his depression. Please pass this episode along to anyone who may be in a similar situation so they can find something helpful for them!  Don't forget to sign up for my FREE Trust Workshop! May 23-25 @ 1pm est! Register here today!

Sometimes when we go through something traumatic, we forget to allow ourselves NOT to think about it. In fact, our brain thinks it is super important for us to constantly have it on our minds. But this often leads to anxiety and hyper-focus that creates emotional overwhelm and exhaustion. Today I'm going to talk about why this happens and why it's important to let it go.  Sign up for my FREE Trust Workshop! May 23-25 @1pm est via Zoom. Click here to register today!

The thoughts we think about ourselves, our relationships, our fears and emotions...all of those create our story. And the story we tell ourself about our life creates our security blanket. It makes us feel warm and safe. But it also prevents us from going forward. Today I'm going to dive into this with specific examples and explain why becoming aware of your security blanket is so important to growth. 

When our brain thinks there is a problem, it often chooses one of these 3 mindsets in order to handle it. Today I am going to dive into what each of these 3 mindsets are, the problem with the first 2, and why it is so important to get to acceptance. This is a deep episode that you will not want to skip! Let's go!

Let's Celebrate! This is the podcast's 100th weekly episode and I am so excited about it! Today I am going to share with you how I started and what that looked like to where we are now and the lessons I've learned along the way. I am so excited for everything that is in store and I am so grateful to all of YOU for making this happen! 

You know when you reach your breaking point? And you think, "How did I get here?" Today I am going to give you the secret to preventing this from happening-no matter the circumstance. I'm going to dive into what emotional overwhelm is, the secret to preventing it, and tell you why this is so important in your life!  If you want help applying what I teach in this episode, come join my coaching program! Not only do you get one on one coaching from me, you also get to join an incredible group of women so that you know you are not alone. Come join us today!

Have you ever thought, "Life's not fair"? Or "It's not fair that he has this pornography addiction and I'm the one dealing with the emotional fallout of it"? Most of you have. And that's ok. But I want to show you today how that is not a useful way of thinking...and it's using the word "fair" incorrectly. This is a tough love episode today ladies that, if you listen and apply it, will completely change your entire mentality! Come join me in coaching! Prices are going up on April 1 so now is the perfect time to join! Click here to sign up today for liftime access!

What is forgiveness? What does it look like? How do we do it? Why don't we do it? What prevents us from forgiving? Today I am going to dive into this and let you know exactly how to do it and what to do! This is not one to skip! Follow me on IG @jolenewinncoaching Click here to join my lifetime coaching program before the price goes up on April 1! Click here to schedule a free consultation call to secure your spot in the men's group starting April 14!

Today Rob joined me on the podcast to talk about the men's group that is beginning on April 14! In this episode we go over why we are starting it and what makes this program so incredible for those who are struggling with a pornography addiction.  If you are ready to uncover the source of your pornography addiction and eliminate it for good, simply click here to join the group!  Want to know a little bit more about what the approach is for this group? Great! Simply click here to join the free webinar we are hosting next Thursday, March 24 @1pm est: How To Overcome A Pornography Addiction. 

Did you know that healing can happen without feeling like you're running on a hamster wheel? That it can even be done with ease? I'm not saying it'll be EASY, but there are things you can do that will certainly make your healing journey filled with more EASE and less mental exhaustion. Today I am going through a few that you can immediately start implementing in order to make your healing process erase all the mental anxiety and drama! If you've been thinking about joining my coaching program, there is no better time than right now! My introductory program price is going up beginning April 1 so click here to join today!

I LOVE hearing other couples who are working through pornography addiction and I am so excited to bring you Chandler and Jade's story! Chandler is the mastermind and owner of an accountability app for porn addicts called RELAY and he and his wife were gracious enough to come on the podcast and share their story. Give this young couple a listen because they have some powerful shifts in mindset that are incredible! Be sure to go follow them on IG  @joinrelay!  Our very first men's coaching group is NOW ENROLLING! It will begin on April 14 and will run for 4 months so if your husband is ready to overcome his pornography addiction once and for all, sign up today! Have him click here to sign up for a free consultation call and we will get his spot saved! Hurry! There are only 7 spots left!   If you have been thinking of joining my coaching program, there's never been a better time! The Lifetime Program introductory price is ending soon and prices will be going up on April 1! Join today by clicking here and signign up for lifetime access!

Do you know the difference between being betrayed and feeling betrayed? Today we are going to talk about it and go into why it is so crucial to know the difference!  If you are ready to take what you are learning on the podcast and apply it so that you finally move forward, I want to invite you to come join my coaching program. This is where you take WHAT you are learning on the podcast and start understading HOW to apply it in order to move forward. Simply click here to join today for lifetime access! 

I had the privilege of talking with Kristen Jenson, the author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures and the owner of Defend Young Minds. She and I discussed how to talk to kids about pornography, how she got started in her business, how she wrote these books, and all the resources she has for you as parents! I am so grateful to her for the work she does and her willingness to sit down and share her wisdom with me! I know it will help all of you who have kids so listen in and go follow her through the links below!  Her IG @defendyoungminds Website: https://www.defendyoungminds.com/

What is intimacy? What is preventing you from feeling it right now? What can you do to fix it? I'm answering all of these questions on this episode today so get ready! And come join my program for the full class I taught called "Intentional Intimacy" and for one on one coaching with me! Let's go forward ladies! 

Happy Valentine's Day!! Let's talk about love languages! SO many women are convinced that they give and receieve love in a certain way...and I'm going to talk about that today. Join me as I talk about what love languages are, how they can often be misused and why it's so important to be aware of your brain and how it thinks about love languages.  Join me for Coach Week! It's a week of free coaching! Register before February 16, 2022 to join and get access to all the calls and recordings! Click here to join!

Have you noticed that sometimes you tend to blame someone else for how you are feeling? "I'm upset because he...", "I'm frustrated when you...". This is called using an emotional scapegoat. Join me today as I dive into what this means, why it's so important to recognize and how to change it!  I'm launching a new class inside my coaching program on February 17 called Intentional Intimacy. If you want to learn how to connect with your spouse on on emotionally intimate level (even if he's still addicted to porn), come join us! Click here to join my lifetime coaching program today to get access to all my classes, calls, and content!

Is there something you see in your life that you wish you saw differently? Perhaps it's the way you see your husband or the way you think about your kids or your job. Today I am going to talk about why changing your perspective is so important and give you 5 tips/tools to help you do it that apply to any situation. 

Today I have my favorite guest (My husband Rob) joining me and going through some of the most frequently asked questions we get about his addiction and his recovery. He talks about what helped him the most, how he sees life differently now, and what he did to completely recover. Plus, there are a few great announcements you won't want to miss!

Do you feel like you are just going through the motions? Like you are meant to have a life that is more than what you have but you don't know how to get it? I have the answer for you today! Join me as I talk about the way to get the life that you want and HOW to create it. It's not a secret. It just takes a little focus and some intentionality. It's totally doable.  Come join coaching and I will help you figure out what you want in your life and teach you how to create it! Click here to join today before our Kickoff call on January 20!  (p.s. Join today so you don't miss out on our February coaching class! It's all about Intentional Intimacy and it's going to be amazing!)

Connecting with your spouse when he's addicted to pornography and you wish he weren't isn't easy. And learning how to communicate in that framework isn't easy. That is why I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Sam Tielemans! Sam is a licensed marriage and family therapist and works specifically with couples who are working to conquer pornography addiction. Ladies, if you are struggling knowing how to connect with your husband and talk to him about his addiction, this is for you! Be sure to leave a rating and review to let Sam know what you think! If you're ready to take this to a deeper level and apply everything you've been learning on the podcast, come join my coaching program! I am going to help you overcome those hurdles that are preventing you from feeling free from your husband's pornography addiction and help you to finally live your life as MORE than the porn addict's wife. Sign up for a free consultation call with me to talk more about it or simply sign up directly through my website! Don't miss our kickoff call on January 20!

We tend to not deal with our emotions. But the problem with this is that then we store them. And we compartmentalize them, thinking that if they look neat and tidy, then we will deal with them later (Or maybe we won't have to). But, eventually, if you don't deal with your emotions, you run out of storage. Just like your email account, you have a certain capacity for storage that, once you hit, you cannot take any more. And that's when we break down. Today I'm going to talk about why this happens and how to prevent it from happening again.  Come join my coaching program! I am now offering LIFETIME access to all my coaching and content and I am SO excited about it! Join today so you can be on our Kickoff Call on January 20! We are going to talk all about those New Year's resolutions you have, the goals you've set, how to achieve them and what is in your way. If you haven't decided on goals yet, come! I will help you uncover what it is you want and WHY and help you create a plan to make it happen! Click here to join today!

Want to know the secret to actually accomplishing all of your resolutions for 2022? Here it is: you've been doing it all backwards so far. Today I am going to explain a concept to you called Be Do Have. And it is going to completely change how you think about the way you approach your life and your goals. We usually approach life with the attitude of Have Do Be. Once I HAVE the body/money/marriage/kids I want, then I will DO the things I want to do and then I will BE the person I want to be. It's opposite, my friends. Join me today and I'll show you.  Come join me in coaching! Sign up today for LIFETIME ACCESS to all my content and coaching calls! Simply click here to join and let's get started today!

Where does God fit in to all of this? To me, it's like asking where Jesus fits into Christmas. The answer is the same: He is the reason for all of it. Join me today as I discuss how God fits in and how the miracles we want may not be the miracles we are getting...and expecting certain miracles might make us miss the ones we have.  Merry Christmas, ya'll! I love you!

Ladies! I have a new offer! You can now join my program at ANY time AND get lifetime access to all content and coaching! Listen in as I talk about what the program looks like and why it's changing and why I am SO excited about it!! Come join me today by heading to my website!

Just like an addict follows a physical addiction cycle, as the porn addict's wife, we often follow an emotional addiction cycle right along with it. If you feel like you are constantly "triggered" by his addiction and don't know how to get out of it, this is for you. In this episode I break down the cycle AND how to break it!  Join me for my FREE 3 day training: "More Than the Porn Addict's Wife" from December 13-15 @ 3pm EST! This training is all about YOU and helping you learn how to create the life you want. On purpose. Click here to register today! If you are ready to stop living in a cycle of your husband's addiction and are ready to take what you're learning on the podcast and apply it even deeper, I want to invite you to join my coaching program. The next group begins in January and it has a spot just for you! Click here to see all the details and sign up today!

I am so thrilled to bring you this interview I did with Brock Bevell! He is a retired police officer who struggled with an opioid addiction and a pornography addiction and he now helps other men conquer their own addictions! In this episode, he and I sit down and he gives an inside look at pornography addiction from the point of view of the addict and breaks down the addiction cycle. Go listen to the whole thing and follow him for more information on how your husband can work with him in his online program!  To stay up to date on what's happening in coaching, go sign up for my email list! You will be the first to know about free coaching and updates on groups! Head to my website to sign up today!

I often hear, "I'm broken". And, once upon a time, I felt that way too. But it's not true. Today I am going to show you why it's so important to change that thought and offer you a new one-one that has been extremely powerful for me. This thought helped me open up the future so that I could see that there was possibility and hope even during my husband's pornography addiction. Join me today and I'll show you! Ready to create your own future instead of simply existing in the life you have? Sign up today to start coaching! I have 18 more spots that open up in January and they are ready for you!  Plus, if you sign up for coaching before December 13, you get access to my 3 Day Intensive: "More Than the Porn Addict's Wife" for FREE! (Full details for this training can be found here!)   Not sure what the best next step is? No worries. Sign up for a free consultation call today and we will get on the phone and chat about it!

Want to know the key to actually creating the life you want instead of reacting to it? Step 1: Create Space. Today I am going to tell you exactly what this means, why it's so important, the beliefs you need to adopt to make it happen AND how to actually create those needed beliefs! This is not life coaching 101. This is the next level. This is taking everything you have learned on the podcast so far and taking it deeper. And this is just the beginning. If you want to be more than the porn addict's wife, this is where you start! Registration is OPEN for my 3 day intensive: More Than the Porn Addict's Wife! This training will run live from December 13-15 and is available to sign up now on my website! The focus has been on who you are in relation to his addiction and now we are going to shift it. After all, you are more than just the porn addict's wife. So let's start creating instead of reacting!  I am now accepting 20 new clients to begin coaching with me in January! If you have a resolution to make 2022 a better year than this one, this is where you begin! Sign up for a free consultation call with me today and let's get you started! Or simply head to my website and sign up right away! 

Do you ever find yourself overreacting? Exploding about something you aren't even that upset about, it's just the last thing to set you off? We all do it. This is what happens when you suppress your emotions-they often transfer to something else. In this episode I'm going to explain what this is, why it happens, and how to stop doing it. If you want to learn how to stop exploding, this is the one for you! Exciting announcement! I am running a 3 day intensive: More Than the Porn Addict's Wife from December 13-15. This will be where we dive deep into YOU-not just who you are in relation to your husband's pornography addiction. Watch for registration to open on November 29! And head to my website and sign up for my email list in order to receive early registration access AND a discount code!  Ready to start implementing everything you're learning on the podcast? Let's do it! I am now accepting clients to being on January 1! Sign up directly through my website today and get $500 the price when you pay in full up front. Merry early Christmas!

Not only is it important to become aware of our feelings, its important to become aware of the thoughts we have ABOUT our feelings. The way you approach your emotions can radically alter the way you experience them. On the podcast today I am going to go over some very common thoughts that my clients have about emotions and offer you some alternatives that will hopefully help you approach your emotions in a much better way! Come coach with me! You can now sign up for the next group that will begin on January 1! Two groups will be starting: One on Thursdays at 3pm EST and one on Tuesdays at 8:30pm EST. There are 10 spots available in each group and the groups will run for 6 months. Plus, sign up today and pay in full up front to get $500 off! Details are all on my website! Head to the website to reserve your spot today!  Have a few questions or concerns about joining the group? That's totally normal. I would love to chat with you about it and answer your questions! Simply sign up for a free consultation call with me and we will get on the phone and chat about your situation to make sure this is the right next step for you! Mark your calendars! Coach week will be December 27-30! This is a week of free coaching that I will be hosting as a kick off to the group that begins the following week! Sign ups will be on the website soon but for now, just mark your calendar! All are welcome and it's completely free! Come coach with me! I'd love to meet you!

Let's say you want to trust your husband again-how do you do it? Today I'm going to offer a new concept to you: conscious trust. We often think that trust is something that is earned, and that is felt based on the actions of others. But I want to counter that today with another option-one that doesn't leave you at the mercy of someone else's decisions. Trust is something you can feel anytime you want. Toward anyone. Even yourself. Join me on this episode and I'll tell you how.  Don't forget to stay in touch! Sign up for my email list by heading to my website so you can get sent funny gifs, coaching tips, and be the first to know about meet ups, groups, and free content!

Buffering is anything that we do to distract ourselves from how we are feeling. It is the buffer we place between  ourselves and our emotions. In many cases, these buffers look like scrolling Instagram, or texting, or playing video games. Other times, these buffers are concentrated, false pleasures that mimic natural pleasures, like pornography and concentrated sugar. Today I'm going to teach you what a buffer is, and how it applies to your husband's pornography addiction.  Ready to conquer your own buffering? Let's do it! Sign up for my next group that will begin coaching on January 1, 2022! Click here to schedule a free consultation call today to get started!

My daughter broke her arm and had to have surgery this weekend: unexpected. And as I was spending countless hours in various hospitals, I began to look at the way our brain responds to unexpected circumstances (for example, a husband's pornography addiction). In this episode, I break down a few of the ways our brain responds and how to combat it when it isn't the most helpful thing. I hope ya'll enjoy this today and share it with someone else who is going through something unexpected!  Holidays are just around the corner! Don't forget to ask for what you REALLY want this Christmas-coaching! My next group will begin on January 1! If you are ready for a new year, and a new you, now is the time to sign up! Reserve your spot today by booking a free consultation call with me to go over all the details!

Overcoming beliefs is a simple, 5 step process. Not easy. But simple. And when you learn how to apply it to any belief (including the one we all have of "I am not enough", it is life changing. In this episode I am breaking down that 5 step process that I teach in my coaching program and illustrating how it works with the example of this belief. I am also showing you how your brain is strengthening that belief all the time and how to stop it!  Want to save your spot in the next coaching group beginning Jan 1, 2022? Let's do it! Sign up for a free consultation call today and we will get you all set up!

As a follow up to the most recent episode, here is a conversation I had with my husband about the relationship between pornography addiction and sex. He breaks down his side of how they are not the same, how he experienced them during his addiction, and how he came to understand the difference between the two. We talk about how it affected us sexually and emotionally and how that has evolved during our relationship. If you like what you hear, please go leave a rating and review to help others find the podcast! Thinking about signing up for coaching? Let's chat about it! Sign up for a free consultation call with me today! I would love to chat with you, answer your questions, and get you more clarity on how you can overcome the struggles you have with your husband's pornography addiction. 

Buckle up, ladies, this is a good one. It's very common for you to think that your husband's pornography addiction is about you. But today I'm going to tell you WHY you think that and WHY it's not true. Take some notes and be sure to subscribe to the podcast because there will be a follow up bonus episode with my husband about this very topic that will be releasing this week!  Want to get on the waitlist for the next coaching group? Sign up for a free consultation call with me today and we will get you on the list! 

Over the years I have found that there are 3 main keys that, if developed, will help you move forward from your husband's porn addiction faster than anything else. The best news is that each of these are internal characteristics that YOU can develop and they are completely free! So join me today as I discuss what they are and why they are so crucial to getting unstuck and moving forward.  Don't miss out on Coach Week! It is an entire week of FREE coaching that is running from October 3-7! Click here to register today and you'll get access to all the call recordings! Come join me to ask your questions or listen in! The last group of clients that I am taking for this year begin on October 11! If you want to make sure you are one of them, click here tosign up for a free consultation call so we can get your spot reserved today! 

I am SO excited to bring you a conversation I had with my client Monica! She was gracious and honest and open and is sharing what her experience was like finding out about her husband's pornography addiction, how she and I came to work together, her journey with therapy, and the biggest hurdles she struggled to overcome regarding her husband's addiction. I hope y'all can find some hope and wisdom from her story and know that you are not alone. And if she can find the healing she so desperately yearned for, so can you! Don't miss out on Coach Week! It begins on Monday and it is free! Click here to register before you miss it!

Is pornography addiction infidelity? Join me today as I take a deep dive into this question and answer it-probably not in the way you'd expect. I go through the reasons our brain wants to believe that addiction to pornography is infidelity, why it's not serving you to do so, and offer a few thoughts that could change the entire direction you choose to take. Buckle up for this tough one ladies! Don't forget to come to Coach Week! If you struggled with today's episode, let's get you coached. Join me for a week of free coaching by registering now. You will not only have the chance to get coached live by me, you can learn from others getting coached and get access to the call recordings. Register today before you miss it! Only 8 more spots are available in the next round of coaching. And that's it until next year! Reserve your spot today by clicking here and paying the deposit to guarantee that one of those client spots is yours! 

How do you look at yourself? How do you perceive yourself and see yourself in your life? Do you even know why it matters? Join me today as I discuss the concept of self-perception and why it is so important to become aware of and master in your own life. Simple shifts inside your mind can add up to immeasurable change! Don't forget to register for Coach Week! Join me for a free week of coaching from October 4-7 at 12pm est! I will be going live on zoom each day to teach and coach just for you! Register today by clicking here so you get access to the calls and the recordings! I can't wait to see you there! Ready to start taking what you are learning on the podcast and applying them to your life? Then it's time to join the next group of women who are ready to do the same! The last group of the year begins on October 11 and it has only 10 spots! This is your chance to not only surround yourself in a wonderful community of like-minded women, but to also get the one on one coaching you need from me. Let's go. Now is your chance to finally move forward. Click here to sign up for a free consultation call today and get your spot reserved!

Today I am going to give you look at one of the 5 main tools I teach in my coaching program: Self Acceptance. It sounds basic, and perhaps it is, but it is the one that can propel you forward if you can master it. This is learning how to accept where you are without judging yourself for it. As humans, we have a lot of judgement for our thoughts and our feelings, and all that does is prevent us from moving forward. Thoughts like, "I shouldn't think that" or "I should feel differently" sound really nice but they aren't helpful. Join me today as I give you a new way of looking at yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings.  Join my next coaching group! It begins on October 11 and has just 10 spots so reserve yours today! We will coach together in  a small group every week to make sure you not only have the one on one guidance you need from me but also the support you crave from other incredible women! Click here to sign up for a free consultation call to reserve your spot today!