Are there things you are "trying" to do? Lose weight? Not yell at your kids? Be more organized? Trust your spouse? Today I want to teach you how using the word "try" can be detrimental to creating what you want and how to shift it so that you can actually have what you say you want.   

I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Matt and Katie! They are an incredible couple who have conquered pornography in their marriage and they both have so much wisdom to share! I hope you enjoy their story! And don't forget to give them a follow on social media! 

We often hurt ourselves without even knowing it. The way that we respond emotionally can create an injury over time if we aren't conscious of it and don't change the behavior that is creating it. This episode is inspired by my own injury so let's dive in and see how it's related!  

I'm so excited to offer business coaching for 2024! If you are ready to have your business feel easy and aligned with you and your dreams, this is for you! You can find all the details on my website by clicking here! Hurry! Only 2 spots left and we begin next week!

Resolutions aren't actually about what we think they are. Today I'm diving into what they're about and how you can guarantee you'll always hit every resolution you set.  If you're tired of setting the same resolutions every year, I have the perfect class for you! Inside my program this month I am hosting a brand new Master Class all about GOALS! Join my program today and you'll automatically get access to this class AND all the recordings! I'll see you there!

Allowing is a verb. It requires action. And today I learned that I have to allow myself to be healed. Join me as I discuss what allowing can look like and the difference it can make in healing from your husband's pornography problem. 

What's the difference between letting go and giving up? And what if you feel like giving up? How do you switch? This week I had a few experiences that I'm sharing that have highlighted this for me and I want to share what I'm learning. I'm still learning how to let go. Join me.    Merry Christmas ladies! If you want the best Christmas present ever, come join my coaching program! Now is the perfect time and I will send you a gift in the mail to go under your tree! Click here to sign up today!

Is there something in your life you want to change or stop doing? Maybe a habit you want to break or an interaction with your spouse that always happens that you don't like? Maybe you have a belief about yourself you are tired of holding onto? This is for you. Today I am going to teach you a tool that is one of the most helpful in changing any behavioral, emotional, or cognitive pattern in your life.    Come join me for a free call! This Thursday, December 14 @ 11am est I am hosting a class called "Porn is Not OK.". If you want to know how to be ok IF your husband is watching porn even though you're not ok WITH your husband watching porn, this is for you! Click here to register for free and get access to the replay!

Stressful schedules, in-law gatherings, school parties, triggering situations...the holidays can be difficult to navigate. So today I am offering my best tips and advice on how to handle the holidays so that you can actually ENJOY them instead of just feeling stressed out!  I want to send you a Christmas gift! If you join my program throughout December, I am going to send you a Christmas present in the mail! That way you not only get what you WANT for Christmas (which is coaching), you ALSO get a wrapped present that you are guaranteed to LOVE! Click here to sign up today!

Finding the right professional help is like finding a good stylist...and I have some bad hair day horror stories to prove it! Bottom line, if you have a result you are looking for, it's worth paying someone who can get you there. 

Have you heard that addicts need to hit rock bottom before they reach out for help? Well, turns out we are a lot more like them than we think! Today I am talking all about what rock bottom is, how we usually think about it, and how we have our own rock bottom to be aware of. Spoiler alert: Rock bottom isn't necessary to create change.    Come join me this week ladies! I am hosting a live, 5 day training inside my coaching program called "BEcoming Unbreakable" where I am teaching you how to process your emotions in order to:  Let go of emotional baggage, disconnect triggers to render them powerless, rewrite painful memories, connect with your body to feel safe with your emotions, and unlearn negative beliefs that are no longer serving you.  Click here to join today!

Today I am going over HOW you actually process your emotions and WHY it's the most vital skill you could learn. I am outlining the 3 main ways we typically respond to emotion and why they aren't what is best for the life we want to create. This is the one skill that has enabled me to confidently face my future without fear so tune in!   Come join me next week for my brand new course: Becoming Unbreakable. This course will be taught in a live, 5 day training where I will be working with each client individually until they master the skill of processing their emotions. We are going to release all of the emotional baggage that's being carried around and learn how to confidently face the unknown of the future. This is where suffering becomes optional and moving forward becomes a reality. Join my program today and you'll automatically be enrolled in this course. Don't miss it! We start in one week! Get details here and join today!

It feels like you are fighting, barely treading water, and it's exhausting, right? Today I want to offer how you can take all that energy, all that fight inside of you and apply it in a different way to get far greater results. It's time to fight smarter, not harder.    Come join me for a free Course Preview of the "Becoming Unbreakable" course! Click here to join me for a live call on Thursday, November 16 @ 11am est. I will be going over what you can expect in the Becoming Unbreakable course and I will answer any of your questions! Sign up today!   Ready to fight smarter and become the master the one skill that will truly make you unbreakable? Click here to join my lifetime coaching program today! This will automatically enroll you in the "Becoming Unbreakable" live, 5 day training that I am leading inside my coaching program at the end of this month. Today is the perfect time to join so you can get a jumpstart on this skill. Click here to join today!

We say we want certain things-to lose weight, change jobs, be more present with our kids, heal from our husband's pornography problems-but are we making the decision to create that result from our primitive brain or our pre-frontal cortex? And why is that so important to clarify? Today I am discussing all of that after a little self reflection exercise and I encourage you to do the same!   I am teaching a brand new course this month inside my coaching program called "Becoming Unbreakable" and I want to invite you to join me. I am teaching the exact process and skill that I have mastered that has enabled me to conquer every circumstance that I thought would break me. Find details and reserve your spot today!

This last 12 months have been the hardest months of my life. But they are also what has made me unbreakable. Today I am talking about why it was the hardest year and how I faced it to become who I am today.  I am teaching a brand new course on Becoming Unbreakable this month in my coaching program and I want you to come. I am reserving 20 spots for new clients to join this live, 5 day training and I will walk each woman through the exact process I have used over and over again to become unbreakable. Click here to join today and save your seat. C

When we experience trauma, our brain responds in a way to prevent us from getting hurt again. Which is great. However, when this programming is run unchecked, it can actually lead us to creating a mentality that leads to isolation and pain. Let's talk about it.  Don't know how to process your emotions? I can help! Inside my coaching program this month I am doing a deep dive into how to process your emotions and I would love to have you join us. Sign up today for lifetime access and come master the skill that will lead you to healing quicker than anything else. 

Do you have a certain date that's painful? Or maybe a memory that always brings up negative emotion? Maybe it's your anniversary or your birthday or the date you found out about all of your husband's pornography problems. If so, this is for you. I'm diving into WHY this happens and HOW to fix it. Permanently.  Come coach with me for free! Next week I'm hosting a FREE class teaching how to connect with your spouse even if he's still watching porn. I'd love to have you there! Click here for full details and to sign up!

Do you feel really vulnerable with your husband? Or even just by yourself becaue of everything you've gone through? In this episode I am going to teach you what it means to be vulnerable and what vulnerability truly is.  Come join my next free class! How to Re-Connect with your spouse after betrayal trauma. October 30 @ 11am est! Click here to sign up!

Do you struggle communicating with your husband about his pornography problem? Do you find that it either leads to an argument or you shut down? I am diving into the 7 most common mistakes that I see women make so that you can start having more productive conversations with your spouse!  Click here to access my Free webinar: How To Talk To Your Husband About His Pornography Problem for more in depth coaching and teaching on this topic!

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What is victim mentality? And how do we conquer it? And do we sometimes stay a victim to ourselves? Join me today as I talk about all of this and how to actually beat victim mentality to start taking control of your life.    Did you miss the doors being open in the coaching program? Don't worry! Sign up here to be the first to know when they open again!

How do you believe something you've never believed before? How do you change what you believe? And why bother? Why is it so important to do it? Today I am diving into a concept I am teaching at the in person retreat in October and it has changed my life. Want to believe you can trust your husband? Want to believe you can lose weight? Want to believe you are a good mom? Want to believe you are good enough? This is for you. 

Do you ever have a gut feeling that something is off? Do you have intuition that he's hiding something or that he's relapsed and not telling you? Today I am diving into what intuition is, why we feel it, and what to do about it. This is a good one ladies!    Come to my Free webinar next week!  “How To Talk To Your Husband About His Pornography Problem” Free Webinar and Communication Workshop Monday, September 25-Wednesday, September 27 @ 11am est

In this episode I am so excited to be talking to my client Ghazal about her story! She is so powerful and one of the things I admire most about her is her willingness to look inward and her courage to take action even when it scares her. I know you will find inspiration from her story! 

Do you ever feel like you don't love him like you used to? Like the things he's done have changed it so it's not possible to feel the way you used to feel about him? Today I'm diving into why this happens, how to change it if you want to, and what it means if you don't. 

In this episode, my client Shawnie is talking about her story! She joined coaching about one year ago and she came to the in person retreat last year as the youngest client there :) She is being open and vulnerable and I hope y'all find hope in her strength and story!  Thank you Shawnie!

Do you feel unsafe during physical intimacy with your spouse? Today I am going to talk about why that is and give you some ideas of what you can do to help you work through it. The main thing I want you to know is that however you feel is ok. It's normal. And you don't need to judge yourself for it.   

First time ever my twin sister Kristi came on the podcast! She joined me today to talk about her experience going to the in person retreat in Nashville last year so listen in to hear what it was like from her perspective.  Bonus-at the end you'll hear some of our answers to common "twin" questions we get!   Ready to reserve your spot at this year's in person retreat? Sign up today!

That's right. I'm closing the doors to coaching. Listen in to find out why and what that means for you.  Ready to join before the doors close? Click here to sign up now!

Rob joined me on the podcast today to talk about what we've been working through the last 9 months. And one of those is attraction. In this episode we are diving into what he learned about attraction to other women, how our society perpetuates beliefs that aren't true, and how to work through attraction in your marriage. I hope you find this episode helpful in moving forward!

Have you ever wondered this? When is enough, enough? How much of this should I take? When should I leave? Is there a certain time when we should separate? Today I am diving into this question and I hope that even if you've never thought this you take a listen.   I'm bringing back Coach Week! Come try out coaching for free next week and get personal help from me with whatever you are going through. Details will be up on the website today so be sure to check it out and watch for emails letting you know when you can sign up!

How much should I know? What questions should I ask? Are there certain details I need to be made aware of? Today I am going to dive into this topic - and probably not in the way you expect!   Win a spot at my retreat! I am giving away a spot at my retreat and you could win it! To be eligible make sure you sign up and secure your spot before August 20 and then I will be refunding the full price to one lucky sign up! Click here for details and to sign up today!   My program is $1k off until August 20! Simply sign up for my lifetime coaching program and select the pay in full option at checkout! The discount is already applied so you can simply sign up and you're in! Click here to join today!

Our energy follows out attention. And where we put our energy is where change happens. So it begs the question, where are we putting our attention? Today I am going to take you through a process to figure out where you are putting your physical and emotional energy so that you can change it if you want to. 

Do you want him to reassure you that you are moving forward? Or that he finds you attractive? or that he's working on his addiction? If you are seeking reassurance from him, this is for you. I'm going to teach  you what reassurance is, why you want it, and how to get it for good. Enjoy! 

External validation feels great. We all like to hear it, right? Today I am going to talk about what it really is and why we like it and how it can be a problem.   

Coping mechanisms seem great, right? After all, they help us deal with stress. Today I'm going to dive into why coping mechanisms can be a problem and give you an alternative to that that's even better. 

Do you feel like you're waiting for something bad to happen? Like you can never fully relax because you don't know if he'll relapse again? In this episode I'm discussing why our brains operate this way and how to start changing it!  Join my next free coaching call! Come try out coaching on Wednesday, July 18 @ 11am est! Click here for details!

How do you stop being controlled by others or your life circumstance? How do you become emotionally independent rather than feeling like your emotional state is dependent on your husband's behavior or pornography problem? Today I'm going to give a few ideas from our Founding Fathers and the early American army to answer that question. Happy Independence Day everyone!     

I had no idea what a life coach was when I signed up for life coach training. I just knew it helped me and I wanted more of it. Today I am going to tell you what a life coach does, what my job is and how it can help you. I hope this helps you decide if this is what you are looking for! If you want more information on how to work with me, head to my website!

This is for the hard days. The days you don't want to get out of bed or you feel like you'll burst into tears at a moment's notice. That's exactly where I am today. So I'm going to share a few tips or tools on what you can do on those days to help you through them. The last one is the most important. :) I love you ladies. 

This is a great question! Today I am going to dive into whether or not it's a good idea to have your husband tell you when he messes up (and how that's different from an accountability partner). I'm also going to dive into why it can be so hard to have him tell you and what to do about it. 

Are you worried about going to the beach with your husband? Or his work party? Or going out to dinner and running into an attractive waitress? Today I am going to talk about the biggest mistakes we make in triggering situations and my tips on what to do instead.  Want more on triggers? Check out Episode 112: Triggers and Bonus: Conversations with Rob: Triggers and Temptations.     

Are there areas in your relationship where you just want him to reassure you? Maybe it's that you can trust him? Or that he actually finds you attractive? Today I am going to talk about what it really means to want reassurance and why it's not actually possible the way we think it is.    Come coach with me for free! Join me on Wednesday, May 31 at 11am for a free coaching call! It's like a "try it before you buy it" call for anyone who wants coaching! Click here for details!   Want to coach with me one on one? I am opening up 5 private coaching spots this summer only and it won't be an offer I open up again! Want to chat about it to see if it's right for you? Email me at [email protected] and we will set it up!    

I am so excited to announce that I am opening 5 private coaching spots this summer! If you want to work with me but want a personal coaching experience, this is for you! This is a limited time offer that expires on June 1 so sign up today by clicking here!  Select the payment option for the Private Coaching plan that works best for you to secure your spot today.    I cannot wait to work with you! 

Today is a very special episode with guest host Rob! This is a solo episode where he is discussing how pornorgraphy affects your brain and ultimately affects your relationships and your life. If you like this one, go give him some love and support by leaving a podcast review on iTunes! He'd love to know you appreciate his honesty!   

Did you just find out your husband is addicted to porn? Or maybe you just found out about a relapse or a detail you didn't know before. This episode is for you. Today I am going through my biggest tips on what to do next that will help you start healing right away. I'm also listing some additional podcast episodes that might help! 

Want this to be the best Mother's Day yet? I have a few ideas on how to make that happen. Listen in as I give 4 tips on how to get what you want this Mother's Day (or for anything you want in life!)

Have you ever thought something like, "I want to know he's as invested in this relationship as I am", or "I just want to know that he loves me as much as I love him" or "It's not fair that I'm putting in more work than he is"? That's what this episode is all about. WHY our brain does that and what it's actually trying to avoid. Plus, what happens when we do it and why it's so important to stop.  Sign up today for my next FREE class! May 22 at 11am est I am hosting a free call "Finding Peace When Your Husband Is Untrustworthy". Click here to save your spot and get access to the live call and the replay! Struggling with your body image as you get ready for summer? Yeah. Join the club. Literally. This month inside my coaching progam I am teaching a brand new Master Class called "How To Not Hate Your Body". I am going to be teaching you how to actually change the way you FEEL about your body, not just give you pretty mantras to recite to try to fake it til you make it. If you are ready to completely change how you feel about your body, you can get access to this class by joining my lifetime coaching program today by clicking here. I'll see you there.