Did you know there are 2 definitions of the word "compromise"? Today I'm going to talk about both definitions and how they often show up in our marriage. The second defition will blow your mind!

How do you deal with the moments of acute pain? Like when you first find out about your husband's pornography problem or when he relapses? There are a few ways we typically respond that unintentionally make our lives more difficult. Today I'm going over what those are and how to avoid them. 

What is a boundary? How do I know if it's "healthy"? What if someone is violating my boundary? Am I supposed to be feeling anything negative if I set one? Is it ok to set one to avoid negative emotion? I am answering all these questions and going through examples in this episode so tune in! If you want more help with boundaries and want more clarity around them, go check out The Porn Addict's Wife podcast episode 17: boundaries v consequences   Want more one on one help setting boundaries? Come to my "How To Set Boundaries Workshop" next week! Come join me live for 4 days of coaching from April 17-20 all around boundaries and I'll teach you what they are and how to set them. I'd love to give you the one on one help you need for your situation so come join me by clicking here!

I am honored to introduce you to Allyson! She is one of my clients who wanted to share her story with you on the podcast! She is sharing her personal story, her biggest struggles, and the things that have helped her the most. I hope this helps you in your journey forward! Thank you Allyson for sharing your story!    

Have you ever felt humiliated by your husband's actions? I have. And it inspired this episode today. I am diving into the difference between shame and humiliation, explaining the shame cycle and the humiliation cycle, and giving you the key to getting out of both!  See the video of this episode on youtube by clicking here! Join me for "How to Set Boundaries Workshop"! This will be a week of coaching to help you learn what healthy boundaries are, how to set them, and how to do so in a way that makes you feel safe even if your husband is still watching porn. Register today for just $19 and join us April 17-20 @ 12pm est. See all details here!

What is the relationship between forgiveness and peace? And where does God fit into all of this? After all, we are commanded to forgive in the scriptures and God tells us He forgives us if we come to Him...so how does that all fit in? Today I'm sharing a few thoughts on the relationship between forgiveness and God and what it looks like to me. I hope you enjoy.   If you want to join the How To Forgive Master Class, click here. 

This has been too long in coming :) The first part of Monica's story can be found in between episodes 72 & 73. Start with that part of her story and finish with this! A huge thank you to her for being the most incredible client and willing to share her journey with all of you! 

A few weeks ago on Instagram, I asked you if you wanted to forgive your husband. And the vast majority of you said yes. Then I asked you why you haven't yet. Today I am going to read your responses and go through them with you and offer why they are keeping you stuck. If you truly want to forgive your husband, I can teach you how. Sign up today to join my How To Forgive Master Class and get instant access to my lifetime coaching program. 

How do you forgive yourself for a pornography addiction? How do you forgive your spouse for one? How do you move on past something without carrying the shame and guilt with you even if you know it was wrong? Rob joined me today to discuss this and it's an episode you won't want to miss!

How do you know if you are stuck in resentment and pain? How do you know if you are holding onto it and haven't let it go yet? What does it look like and why do we do it? Plus, how do we stop? Covering all of that and sharing SO many personal examples because I have done this so much in my life!  If you want to forgive your husband but don't know how, I want to invite you to join my How To Forgive Master Class. This class will be taught live inside my coaching program starting March 27 so join today for lifetime access so you don't miss it! Sign up here!

Are you waiting for him to say sorry? Do you feel like you're stuck without closure because he hasn't acknowledged what he's done to you? Or maybe he has said sorry and you don't know why you aren't feeling any better about it? This is for you. Today I'm diving into why we want an apology and what happens if we don't get it.  Join me for my "How To Forgive" Master Class this March! From March 27-30 I am launching a brand new class inside my coaching program and I want to work with you. If you've been struggling with forgiveness but really want to move on, this is for you! Come join my program today and let's go forward!

Do you have to forgive your husband for his pornography addiction? For the lying and the hurt and the pain? First off, let's dive into what forgiveness is and then we will answer this question.  Other episodes of the podcast on forgiveness:  Episode 53: Forgiveness  Bonus Episode: My Journey of Forgiveness (after episode 24) Want to learn how to move forward and forgive your husband? Come join my new Master Class "How To Forgive" on March 27. This class will be taught inside my coaching program so come join us today for lifetime access and for one on one help moving forward and forgiving. I can't wait to see you there!

What is commitment? How commited are you to your healing? How do you know? And what do you do if you aren't as commited as you thought? Today I am sharing a few thoughts on commitment that I learned this week in my business mastermind and how I am applying them to help me be more commited to your emotional healing. Come join me and let's go forward!

Join me today to learn what true confidence really is. Spoiler alert: it's not what you think! Plus, learn about the difference between confidence and false confidence and how pride is related to all of it. Plus, I tell you the exact formula to follow to start increasing your confidence!  You are in luck!! I have turned my "Confident Sexuality Master Class" into an evergreen course that you can now access by clicking here! SImply sign up and you will automatically have access to all the replays from this last week! Plus, you can now check out other courses that I over by clicking here! 

We all feel insecure about some things. But our brain often takes it one step further and turns it into shame. In this episode I am going to go into what insecurity is, what shame is, how they are different, and how our brains often make our insecurities worse. Let's go deep on this one ladies! It's good!

Sometimes we don't give ourselves permission to feel emotions. Today, I am going over why we do this, what happens when we do it, and why it's so important to stop doing it. Your feelings are allowed. :) For more episodes on this topic, check out the Episode titled "Your Feelings Are Valid" and "Thoughts About Feelings".    Come coach with me! I am coaching next week for 4 days and I would love to see you there! This will be a master class called Confident Sexuality where I will be teaching you how to overcome your physical insecurities and emotional guards so that you can show up to your intimate relationship with confidence. Sign up here today!

Insecurities are not personality traits that are unchangeable. They are a combination of thoughts and feelings that we can change. In our sexual relationship, there are 3 main areas where insecurities rise: physical insecurities, sexual insecurities, and insecurities around pornography. Today I am going to discuss what insecurites are, when they come up, the difference in these 3 areas, and how to change them for good.  Come join me for my Confident Sexuality Master Class. Just in time for Valentine's Day, I am going to teach you how to conquer your physical insecurities and vulnerabilities so that you can finally begin feeling confident in your sexual relationship. Check out the details today and register so you don't miss it. 

I just got an email from a sweet follower and I want to share it with you. If your husband is addicted to sex and you are struggling with how it's affecting you and your sex life, this is for you.  I can help you. Come join me. 

How often should you have sex with your husband? Should he initiate or should you? Do you find yourself cringing at anything ultra feminine because it reminds you of pornography so instead you put on a baggy t shirt and pretend you're asleep? Today I am diving into the thoughts that we have about sexuality and why it's so important to become aware of them and how they are affecting your sexual relationship wtih your husband.  If your sexual relationship with your husband is not where you want it to be, I want to invite you to come join me for a special Master Class I am hosting in February all about Confident Sexuality. This class is from February 13-16 just in time to make sure you have an unforgettable Valentine's Day. Get all the details and sign up today here!

How do you actually hit the goals you keep setting every year? How do you actually lose that same 10 lbs that has been on your list forever? In this episode I am walking you through the steps that you need to take in order to hit your tangible goals-whether that's going back to school, starting a business, losing weight, or writing a book. Whatever your goal is, today I am going to teach you how to hit it.  Want help working through your goal and making a plan to hit it? I'd love to help you! Come join me for my Resolutions Master Class! This class is just $19 and it's 4 days of teaching and coaching to give you the one on one help you need in order to figure out what you want to achieve, what's in your way, and how to overcome each obstacle to ensure that you finally get the goal you want! Class is January 23-26!  Click here for full details and to register today!

Y'all ever known anybody who hoards things? Trinkets? Knick knacks? Furniture? Broken cars? Just in case they might need them later? Today I am going to introduce you to something I call emotional hoarding. Join me as I discuss what emotional hoarding is, why we do it, why we should stop, and what it could look like if we did.  Come join me for my brand new Master Class: Resolutions from January 23-26! If you have some new year goals that you don't know how to hit or have something that you feel called to do but aren't sure how to get it done, I want to invite you to join me. In this class we are going to work through what you want and I am going to help you figure out exactly what's in your way and how to overcome it. Register today by clicking here. 

It's now 2023. So let's talk about resolutions. Trust me. It won't be what you think. 

What are you making room for? Too often we feel that we are emotionally at our wits end, and we are full of negative emotion that we've been carrying around for our entire lives. This is called emotional baggage. Sometimes we do this subconsciously, unaware that we are even doing this. And sometimes, we want it because it's familiar and we are afraid of what our lives would look like if we let it go. 

We often think that it's only possible to feel peace once we have gotten rid of the adversity. But today I am going to talk about how to feel peace IN adversity. I am going through a few tips to help you reframe the way you experience adversity and give you personal examples to help you apply it. I love you all! Merry Christmas!   Don't forget to come join me this week for a free coaching! Sign up here and join me daily from Monday-Thursday at 2pm est!

We often think that the emotion that we are unwilling to feel, the emotion that we are suppressing isn't affecting anyone but ourselves. And that's a lie. Today I want to introduce you to a concept I call the Ripple Effect.  I want to invite you to come join me for a week of free coaching! This is my Merry Christmas gift to you and the last time I am doing this event for free! Sign up for Coach Week today through my website and come join us! 

Today Rob joined me on the podcast to talk about what it's like when you are in the thick of it. We share about an experience we have had over the last few weeks and tips that have helped us work through it individually and as a couple. The truth is, you have to go through the suck to come out on the other side and have the relationship you want to have. We are going to show you how.    Come join me for Coach Week! Join me for a week of free coaching and get all your questions answered! Sign up today through my website!

Sometimes we need to mourn. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to process grief. But grief and despair are two different things and in this episode I am going to talk about what those differences are and when it's important to allow grief to be processed.

Sometimes we have sneaky thoughts. Thoughts that sound really nice and pretty. Thoughts that seem like they're positive. But they're not. Today I am going to teach you how to recognize these thoughts, why it's important to see them, and go through examples of them so you can begin to see them in your own mind. 

With the holidays coming up, I wanted to help you with a few thoughts on how to get through them. Join me today as I give you a few tips and help you apply concepts you've already learned in how to interact with you family to hopefully make it the best holiday season yet! Ready to start taking everything you are learning on the podcast to the next level? If so, then now is the best time to join my coaching program! Not only will you get individual coaching from me, you will also get access to my online course. In this course you will have access to all my videos to help you take what you are learning on the podcast and start learning how to apply it. See all the details here and sign up today!

Have you ever thought that you are back at square one? Or maybe that you should be farther along in your healing than you are? Or perhaps you have thought that the pain you are feeling is so much worse because of how long your husband has been hurting you? Today, that's what I'm going to talk about. I'm going to discuss the way we think about timelines and why it's important to start letting that all go.  Don't forget to take advantage of the amazing coaching program price before it goes up on November 15! Get all the details and sign up today! 

Do you trust yourself to make good decisions? What actually makes a decision good? Today I am going to talk about self trust and why it's so important to understand-especially when you are struggling with trusting someone else.  If you want to learn how to apply this concept in a deeper way, go check out my How To Trust Master Class and get access to all my teaching and coachign on trusting your husband and trusting yourself.  Ready to take what you are learning on the podcast to the next level? Come join my coaching program! You get lifetime access to all my coaching calls and content and you get to join the most incredible group of women! Prices go up on November 15 so join today!

Oftentimes, we aren't even aware that we are feeling distrust because it is masquerading as anxiety. These two emotions are very similar and today I am going to talk about what these emotions feel like, why we feel them, and why it's so important to differentiate between the two (and how to do it!).  If you are struggling with trusting your husband, come join me for my "How To Trust" Master Class! I will teach you what trust is (and isn't!), the roadblocks we have to trust, how to start trusting your husband again, and the secret to trusting that we often forget! Get all the details here and sign up today! If you've been thinking of joining my coaching program, now is the best time! Prices are going up on November 15 so sign up online today before they do!

Today I am sharing an advanced concept that I taught this last week at my Go Forward Retreat in Nashville. I am going to teach you about what transactional and transformational relationships are, what the difference is, and why it's so important and powerful to shift into transformational relationships-especially with yourself!  If you are struggling with trusting your husband, I want to invite you to join my How To Trust Master Class next week! From October 24-27 I am going to teach you what trust really is, the lies we believe about trust, and how to put yourself back in control of the trust in your relationship (rather than leaving it at the mercy of his actions). Sign up here today!

Worry feels really important. Our brains think that worrying about something means that we care about it. But what if that's not true? Today I am going to dive into why we worry, why it isn't useful, and how to stop  yourself from worrying!    Do you struggle to trust your husband? Do you want to trust him but find that you just don't and you're not sure why? Are you tired of trusting him only to have him do something that completely changes your feelings about him all over again? If this is the case for you, I want to invite you to come to my "How To Trust" Master Class. From October 24-27 I am going to teach you all about how to solve the trust issue in your marriage and put trust back in your control. Get all the details and sign up here today!

Do you ever feel like you are alone in whatever you are struggling with? Maybe it's your husband's pornography addiction but maybe it's your weight or your self improvement or maybe it's you wanting to start your own business or go back to school...there are so many things that we struggle with that we feel alone about. And today, I am going to talk to you about the importance of teaching your brain that you are not alone and the most powerful way to make that happen. 

Did you know you're not your body or your thoughts? I know. It seems a little weird. But you are actually your soul. And just as your body and your mind need nourishment and attention, your soul does too. In fact, it requires even more of it. And yet we tend to ignore it. Today I'm going to discuss why it's important to take care of your soul, what your soul truly is, and offer a challenge to begin changing your life.  If your soul is ready to go to Nashville and change your life, reserve your spot today! There are just a few spots left and we are going to begin a transformation into who you want to be in just 3 short days. I can't wait to see you there!  Ready to start moving forward but aren't totally feeling the Nashville retreat? No worries! You can join my coaching program right away and begin by diving into the online course that I've created that teaches you exactly HOW to begin applying the material from the podcast so that you can begin moving forward today. Sign up today!

Do you ever think that you never would've chosen this? That, had you known about his pornography problem before you got married that you never would've said yes? If you have ever had those kinds of thoughts before, you are not alone. This is super common and something I want to address today!  If you want to coach with me one on one, come join me in Nashville. I am hosting an in person exclusive coaching experience and I want to invite you to come. Spots are limited and will sell out so get your spot reserved today. 

Do you find yourself worrying that something that happened before will happen again? Today I'm going to talk about why this happens, and why it's important not to do it anymore! Let's go! Come join me in Nashville! If you are ready to apply what you are learning on the podcast and want one on one help doing it, I want to invite you to come to my first ever LIVE event. Grab your best friend and come spend 3 days with me in Nashville, TN. I am going to teach you how to break through the things that are blocking you so you can propel forward into who you want to be. Click here for full details and to register!

Today my book launches! It is called "The Not-Enough Wife-Why We Look Outside Ourselves And How To Stop". And it's really good. Today I am going to talk about what inspired me to write the book, a little bit of the journey I had in writing it, and what each chapter is about. I would love your support by heading to Amazon and purchasing it and writing a review to let me know what you think! I love you ladies! This is for you!

Do you worry about your husband relapsing if he's alone? Yeah. Most of us have. This one is for you. I am going to break down why our brain is so worried about this, why it's not helpful, and how to work through it when it happens to you.  Don't forget to sign up for FREE COACHING! Come join me this week for a week of free coaching calls! Register here today and get help applying everything you are learning on the podcast! Ready to take all of this to the next level? Come to Nashville! I am hosting an intimate, in person retreat in Nashville, TN from October 13-16 and I want you to come. This is your chance to get the personal attention you want from me plus make incredible new friends in one of the most fun cities! Get all the details and sign up here! Hurry! Spots are going to sell out!

We try to manage other people's emotions a lot. And it sounds really nice. Like, "I just don't want to add to his stress" or "I don't want to make her feel anxious". Today I'm talking about why this doesn't work, why we want to do it, and why it's important to stop.  Don't forget to register for Coach Week! It's a week of free coaching with me and it starts next week! 

Think about that thing you want to do but haven't done yet. That's what we are talking about today. Buckle up, ladies, this is a tough love episode about why you don't have the life you want or why you aren't doing the things you want to do-spoiler alert-It's not the reasons you think! Today I am diving into both making decisions and taking action, why it's crucial to do both, what not doing both looks like, and what's standing in the way of doing both. I'm sharing some of my personal examples and how I applied what I've learned about thoughts and emotions to move me forward. Come with me!  Don't forget to register for Coach Week! This is a week of free coaching I am hosting via Zoom from September 6-9 and I want you to come! Sign up for free today! If you're ready to take everything you're learning on the podcast and take it to a whole nother level, come join me in Nashville. I am hosting an in person, intimate, 3 day retreat in Nashville TN from October 13-16 and I want you to come join me. We are going to take everything you've been learning and go deeper. You'll get coaching, classes, and one on one attention from me in a way that I've never offered before. Spots are limited so sign up today! Details and registration available here. 

I know many of us feel this way. We want to open up to someone about our husband's pornography use but it's not our secret to tell, right? Well, maybe not. Today I'm going to address this concern and offer some thoughts that I hope will help you decide to open up and do so in a way that works for both you and your spouse.  Ladies, come join me for Coach Week! September 6-9 @ 3pm est! I will be hosting live coaching calls each day in celebration of my book being released on September 6! Sign up for FREE by clicking here! Come join me in Nashville! I am hosting a live retreat in Nashville from October 13-16 and I want you to come! The intimacy of this experience wille enable you to get one on one attention and coaching from me all while joining the most incredible group of women who are ready to welcome you! Click here for sign up details!

Today I am giving ya'll a sneak peek of my book that is coming out September 6! The book is titled The Not Enough Wife (Why We Look Outside Ourselves And How To Stop). This book is for any woman who has felt like she isn't enough. Not skinny enough, sexy enough, smart enough, gracrious enough...the list goes on and on. In this book, I am going to teach you why so many of us believe this about ourselves, why it’s so important to change it, and how to start changing it right away. Women spend so much time fearing, stressing that they're not enough. And I'm going to teach you exactly how to change that once and for all.  Head to my website today to sign up for my email list to be the first to know book release details AND to sign up for my FREE Book Launch Coach Week from September 6-9!

Our brain often wants someone to blame. And it often doesn't want to blame him. As crazy as that sounds. Today I'm going over who our brain often wants to blame ( In laws, our past self, his past self) , why it happens, and why it isn't helpful.     

Most of us try to avoid confrontation. Our brains don't like it because of the emotion it brings up. But, sometimes, confrontation is exactly what we need. Otherwise, we stay in conflict. Today I am going to explain what this looks like when we are in conflict with another person as well as when we have internal conflict, why it's important to confront, and how to do so.  Are you coming to Nashville?! Come join me and 14 other amazing women for this incredible, in person coaching experience. We are going to break through the mental barriers that are keeping you stuck where you are and push past into who you want to become. If you are ready to find out who YOU are again (not just who you are in relation to your husband's pornography use), this is the event for you! Click here to find the details and reserve your spot!

Learning how to think of your spouse with compassion is one of the greatest tools that you can learn to help you start improving your communication and the way you think about him and his pornography use. Today I am going to talk about why it's so important, a common mistake that many make when starting to transition to compassion, the biggest mental barriers to getting there, and more. Come join me!  Ladies! Come join me in Nashville! I am hosting a girl's weekend getaway in Nashville, TN from October 13-16! This is an intimate gathering designed to get you the one on one attention you've been craving as well as the support from like minded women! This is an experience you won't want to miss! Get all the details and sign up here! Hurry! Spots are going fast!

A very special bonus episode with all of the details you need about the upcoming retreat I am hosting in Nashville TN in October! If you are thinking about joining, listen in! And then sign up right away because there are only 15 spots total and they are going to sell out! I can't wait to see you there! Click here for full event details and to sign up!