Do things always seem to happen to you in life? Is that a perspective that you have, that as you go through life when unwanted events occur, that, these things are happening to you? I wanna share a different perspective with you. This got a great deal of discussion recently when it came up. Several years ago, I learned a very, powerful piece of wisdom. You could call it a nugget, but this isn't a nugget. It's more like a 10 ton boulder. My mentor, Jim Forton, was coaching me and he said you are in 100% influence of the circumstances of your life. And for most people who aren't in the personal development world, they jump right into the, oh my God, that's victim shaming. Nobody asked for cancer. Nobody asked to be mugged or, you know, whatever else. That's not the point of the statement. The point of the statement is that no one can make us think, feel, or believe anything about any situation in our life, unless we first choose to entertain that idea. People can make comments, but unless we choose to entertain that idea, then we're not going to adopt that idea. What this means is that we get to choose the meaning that we put on any situation.  [00:02:46] Now, when we're going through life and we are dealing with other people, they have free will and choice just as much as we do. And some of those people may do things that we find unpleasant, disgusting, unfair, downright heinous even. But, the only meaning that's on that is what we do. The only meaning that is on that is the meaning that we choose to give it So take, for example, let's just say there is a business contract, a client contract, and something happens and the person can't fulfill the contract, or it was almost done. But then at the last minute, the contract doesn't get signed. The client pulls out and it's like, ‘Oh my God. Why does this always happen to me?’ Well, number one, I don't do that, but for some people they do now, it's one thing to sit back and take an honest assessment of situation. And say, okay, what happened here? Is there something systems sales call, communicating the offer, the expectations, like, is there something here that needs to be improved? That's totally appropriate, but it's something else to say that, oh my God, this always happens to me. I'm attracting clients who… do this. Like why do they always find me? Well, maybe somebody just had bad situation happen. Maybe their finances changed. Maybe their needs changed. . We can either choose to allow ourselves to be at the mercy of other people's choices, or we can choose to be in command of the next steps. Right. So you could look at that situation and be in a pity party, and ‘why is this always happening? People are always cheating me’ or, I don't know. I could think of a lot of different examples. I don't wanna go down that rabbit. I don't like that negative energy in here, but to step back and say, okay, well, let's assess what happened here. Let's email this person. Let's find out if there are any gaps that we need to address and get a deeper understanding, that is being in a place of empowerment rather than living by circumstance. [00:05:18] So whether it's something with my family, with my husband, with my business, with people that I do business with personally, when something comes up, I will ask myself: “Okay. What did I do to co-create this?” Maybe I didn't communicate clearly what my needs were. Maybe I didn't communicate clearly what my expectations were because if I communicated my expectations, clearly, maybe this person I chose to do business with would say, oh, we're not a fit. Maybe I didn't ask a question. I should have asked. That one has actually happened to me. I was in a situation where I did not know what I did not know. I was making an investment. I felt like it was the best investment for me. And in hindsight, I look back and I thought to myself, it would've really been nice if they had a process in place to do this gap assessment, because they thought I was at a place that I was not. I was not a fit for this investment I made, but once I made the investment, in integrity, I'm committed. I follow through on my investment and I made the most of what was provided to me that I could. But then I still had to seek out someone who could help me identify the gap. And when I found that person, I knew immediately, oh, this is what I needed. Like, this was the secret ingredient to the recipe, except it's no secret ingredient to anybody who's been in business for a very long time. But for me being a new entrepreneur and I say new, because I’ve only been in business four years, that's still relatively new. It was a gap that I had and I did not know. So I could have sat here and I could have blamed the people that I signed on to work with and said, oh my God, they should have done this. They should have done that. But you know what, it's also my responsibility to ask questions. It's my responsibility to educate myself the best that I can. To know what I don't know, or to at least ask the question in order for me to be successful with you moving forward in this work. From your perspective, what must I have in place to achieve success in your program? I didn't ask that question, So I could either choose to be a victim. Or feel taken advantage of, or I can choose to take responsibility for the fact that I could have asked better questions. I could have taken responsibility for, maybe looking for another person at that same time to say, Hey, come in here , and show me what I'm missing, because I've made this investment over here. Things aren't going the way I would like them to go. And I don't know what I am missing here.  [00:08:35] Because everything that we do, it's a two way street. Rarely anything is unilateral. And when it is unilateral, really what we have to do is we have to look at ourselves and say, okay, how did I co-create this? What boundaries that are important to me id I not hold? Which of my values did I ignore here that threw me so far out of alignment? When we're brave enough to go down the rabbit hole of every single situation in our life to ask ourselves, where did I not trust myself? Where did I let fear overtake me? How did I contribute to this? And maybe we didn’t contribute. Maybe we put our blinders on. Where did I put my blinders on here? Right? What was I avoiding? When we can go down that rabbit hole, we can really get some amazing transformation in our life. And I'm gonna tell you sometimes, depending on where you are in your journey of transformation, taking a look in that mirror is not always easy. Sometimes it's pretty darn messy.  [00:09:50] In taking ownership of your life, people talk about mental, emotional health. They talk about being self actualized, having a fulfilling life. The very first thing, well it's one of, many of the very first things, it's taking ownership. We take ownership through awareness. We take ownership through asking great questions. It's one of the things that's really allowed me to shift in, move out of this place where I was years ago of being someone who happened to be a hypnotist, who charged for my services, to being a business owner, to stepping into a role. I call it CEO. I know that people really overuse that, but that's the way I think of myself as being outside of my business. And my business works for me and my business provides a service. I just happen to go into the business. To deliver that service. And that's been a huge shift for me, and it's forced me to take ownership of the decisions that I make, the decisions that I avoid, the things that I do, the things that I don't do, and even my own physical, mental, and emotional health. Because without that, for me being the service in the business, helping people transform. That's very important. And when I don't hold those boundaries, when I don't take that level of responsibility for myself, it impacts my ability to serve others. [00:11:31] So I challenge you to reflect, and in situations in the past where you may have feelings of frustration or anger or resentment from the past, reflect back and ask yourself what was my role in this? And when I say, what was my role in this? I'm not saying, “Did you ask for it” or anything like that, but where could you have taken a different level of responsibility and maybe the outcome, or more importantly, your interpretation of the situation change? Because when we interpret situations, our interpretations influence our future decisions. So it may not necessarily mean that you could have changed the situation, but you change your interpretation around it, which shifts your emotional state around it, which directly impacts your ability to make decisions going forward. [00:12:32] I have a whole lot more to say on this. I think it's gonna be for a part two episode maybe, or a few weeks down the line, but all of these things, these interpretations, the meanings that we put on things, whether or not we choose to empower ourselves to take responsibility for our interpretations of the things that happen in our life. Those things all come back to your inner voice. Master your inner voice if you want to be fulfilled. If you want that self actualized life. If you want to be more in touch with your intuition. If you want internal peace and know that's not a holy grail, it is actually available to you. If that is what you want, you must master your inner voice. If that interests you, join me in the Facebook group. The link is going to be in the show notes. I am starting to do weekly live shows. I love to dig into this stuff. It's my gam. It's my passion. I really could go on and on and on and on. And when you are there with me to ask questions, everybody can get more out of it. So hope see you in the Facebook group. If you are looking to work with me, there are now two ways you can do that. You can apply to work with me One on One, or you can apply to join me in a hybrid mastermind, where you get the benefit of group conversations, group perspective, but you also get the benefit of one on one work with me as we help you to tame that inner voice, releasing the fear and the doubt so you have the clarity and the focus you need to create the impact, the legacy and the lifestyle that you have worked so hard to have because none of it matters if you're not fulfilled doing it. And that is what I'm here to help you do see you next week. Want to work One on One with Penny, go here and apply so we can see if we are a fit. Sign up for the email list to learn more about the new hybrid program launching soon.  The Facebook Group is here.

Hello, hello. It is Penny. And I'm here to talk today about mental and emotional health m. And mental and emotional health as a business leader, as an entrepreneur. But this very much applies to everyone. Whether it's your children, your partner, your employees, when it comes to our mental and emotional health, because we're all very good at doing, we're all very good at getting caught up in action taking, many times we don't recognize that our mind and our body is calling out to us until we really feel it. So for example, probably like many other entrepreneurs, there are times when I'm here in the office. I get head down, I get into flow, and hours and hours can go by and I don't recognize that all that time has gone by until I have a headache. And that headache is because I am so hungry because I haven't eaten in six or eight hours. That state, being hungry, which can quite easily become hangry, that impacts our ability to handle stress and things that are going on in our business, in our life mentally and emotionally, because we have taxed our brain to the point from a metabolic standpoint, that it is difficult for us to deal with a stressor or a situation. So now I am much more mindful and I do my best to pay better attention.  [00:03:01] Now you may say, well, yeah, but you know, I fast. Well, if you're on a fasting schedule, that's fine. Your body becomes acclimated to that. But say for instance, you're someone who grabs a quick breakfast. Maybe you're having a breakfast of oatmeal and fruit, which even though it has fiber, there's a lot of, carbs in that. Your body, the way your metabolism works, your blood sugar crashes much more quickly, and it gives you peaks and valleys and it affects your energy, your mental focus. You can have brain fog, nevermind the irritability, and, not able to handle the stressors day to day, but when we are experiencing stress in our business, and I'm even talking about the normalized stress. Daily stress, stress day in and day out, high pressure over commitment, overwhelm, that is not normal. But we normalize it. That's the culture of business. That paradigm is shifting. It's changing, but we shouldn't be in that state every day. We don't have the opportunity to process our emotions. We don't have the opportunity to allow our bodies to rest. When our bodies don't rest, it shortens our mental and emotional bandwidth. I think you can see where I'm going here.  [00:04:30] Now. one of the things that can create stress, worry, fear in the business is our inner voice. Because there's some part of us that's telling us that we have to push that hard. There's some part of us telling us that we have to go one more minute, one more hour, one more day, before we give ourselves some time off. It's our inner voice that says, oh, we have to go the extra mile for this client and I have to do it right now. Now that's not to say that customer service client care is not important. It's actually very important, but I've been there. I know. And I know what some of you are doing when it's not urgent. You're making it urgent in your mind. And you're causing yourself to have to do more and more. Your inner voice is talking you into believing that only you can do a certain task well enough. That if you don't do it, it'll take longer if someone else does it. And you're not able to let go of control in the business, it's your inner voice. That's telling you that you have to be super cautious and super afraid of what other people may think.  [00:05:56] When we can step into this place, where one, we realize that control is an illusion and two, we can accept ourselves for doing our very best and accept that we're smart enough to know when we need to go out and gather more knowledge, then we can let go of all of that. Now I'm not talking about perfectionism. Perfectionism is, that is just like a total and complete waste of mental, emotional, and physical energy. I'm not talking about the, oh, well, once I, reach this next milestone, it'll be good enough. Or when I reach the next milestone, it'll be good enough. No, I'm talking about; you get into a situation. You're like, oh, you know what? I have a knowledge gap here. Let me fill the knowledge gap. And then I will, I will be ready. That voice in your head is telling you it's not good enough, people aren't gonna like it. What if they don't like the new direction that your company is taking, maybe you bring in a new partner in the company or you sell an equity share, whatever that looks like. It's important to be aware, and wise, about what you're doing. But when you are allowing your mind to run your emotions, then it becomes detrimental. And when I say, when you allow your mind to run your emotions, yes. All of our emotions come from our mind. But what I'm saying is when you let your thinking run your emotions, that's when we get into the weeds of mental and emotional health, because unnecessary fear and worry is caused by our thoughts. [00:07:50] I had a coach, once, who called it future surfing, living in the future. Right? Most of the things that we get caught up in our head about in the future, most of the things never come true. We are just spinning our wheels and burning our mental, emotional energy. So if you're finding yourself, getting into worry, getting into fear, getting into doubt, I want you to recognize that is a function of your thoughts and your thinking. It's not the same as anticipation, if you're like, well, I have to anticipate what might be coming, well, yes. I mean, you can anticipate next steps, but fear around those next steps, worry and doubt as to whether or not they will be good enough if they will be in place one time, those types of things, you have the capacity and the ability to project timelines, you have the capacity and the ability to develop a plan B. If you're getting caught up in a situation where you're thinking, well, I said I was gonna have this out by, I don't know, let's say the 21st of the month, and now there's been some snafu and it takes me till the 23rd. What are people gonna think? Well, you know what? People are gonna think all manner and range of things. [00:09:12] If you realize that you can't make a deadline, just own up to it and say, hey, I was expecting to have this to you by this date, whatever the reason is like I underestimated or something unexpected came up, it is taking longer. I will notify you as soon as it's available. I expect it to be before and then give another projected date. This happened to me just the other day. I led a full day workshop. The videos needed to be edited. And I chose to edit the videos myself, because number one, I was the only person that knew where the timestamps were that the video needed to be cut. And if I had to watch the whole damn thing to find the timestamps, then I may as well clip it, process it and export it because that only takes 10 extra minutes. And something came up on my schedule that was unavoidable, and it delayed my ability to get it out there. And I just sent an email and said, Hey, this is what's happening. Is it possible that someone was unhappy with that? Absolutely. But it's better than not saying anything and hoping people don't notice. And because of the delay, there is a bonus that I'm giving on the back end of that. There is a way to stay in integrity around these things.  [00:10:39] So when it comes to your mental and emotional health, the most important thing you can do is get present with yourself. Even when you're busy, head down, be present with yourself, you can be in flow and be aware of your own internal state. At the same time, it takes practice if you've never done it before. But you can do it. You can be mindful when you're in flow and make sure that your body is being taken care of. You can be present and be mindful when you're in a project with a deadline. And if you're just going all in, you can be mindful and present and make sure that your needs are being taken care of. If you get completely lost in the weeds, set an alarm, as a reminder to eat lunch. Set a timer, you can get a habit tracker to remind you to drink water, to be healthy. And you may say, well, what does that have to do with mental and emotional health nourishing? Our body has a lot to do with our mental and emotional health, listening to our body exercising, getting outside. I feel like I've slipped for a moment back into. Healthcare mode, but that's totally not the intention of what I'm doing here, but I know that mental and emotional health has become the buzzword. [00:12:04] If you listen to your body, if you nourish shit well, if you drink water, if you get outside, if you exercise, that goes a long way toward your mental and emotional health and oh, and for God's sake, don't forget to have some fun, right? Throw some fun in there too. Just for good measure. But be present with your mind, be present with where your attention is. As you're making decisions, be aware of what is driving you to make the decisions that you're making. And if it is your inner voice, getting into fear, worry, and doubt, then that is something that can be shifted. That can be neutralized. You can’t turn the voice off, like a switch. That voice comes from the ego, but you can neutralize the emotion behind it. It's the emotion that impacts our mental and emotional health. Those are the things that I work with people on all the time. [00:13:00] I want to invite you, if you are a highly successful professional, if you find that taming, this inter voice is something that's going to allow you to let go of the fear and the doubt so that you can move forward with clarity and focus, creating that impact, creating the legacy, having the lifestyle that you desire. If, you recognize that taming, that inner voice is a huge part of that, then I would love to have you in my Facebook group. Yes. I know. Social media, whatever. I would love to have you in my Facebook group, because I'm going in and doing weekly live trainings in the Facebook group. I've only recently done that, but I am supporting other entrepreneurs who are ready to have that mental and emotional health. They're ready to let go of that fear. They're ready to overcome the self doubt. Because it's those things that keep us from feeling fulfilled in what we do. It's that inner. That we feel like we're 95% to this great and wonderful life, but then every, so often something crops up and here we go again and it's like, Ugh, is it ever gonna end? Well, that's what I help you with. So anyway, I would love to see you in the Facebook group. I'm gonna put the link to the group in the show notes, it's called On The Path. The name will be changing soon to what I don't know yet. I will be inspired and you will be the first to know when I do, but the link is in the show notes. I want you to go join the Facebook group. I'll give you access to a powerful hypnosis that will allow you to amplify your confidence. And I would just love to see you there. Would love to love up on you, share some amazing resources with you, so you can go out there and just do the damn thing. Do the thing that you're here to do until next week, bye now. Find your way over to the Facebook Group! We would love to have you there.

Hey everybody, we are going a different direction today. Welcome back. I'm excited that you are here. Today I wanna talk about the surprise benefits of doing the deep subconscious work, because there are surprises that people get. Unexpected things can happen, so I wanna share with you some of the wins that my clients have gotten in my group program, as well as one on one work. Because what I have found is that in my group program, people get so much added benefit out of that because things that they never considered are brought up by other participants, you know. Questions, insights, life experiences, and light bulbs just pop off all the time in the group program. It's a 10 week program. It's actually, as this episode is released, we're about three weeks into it. It will, be the first of the year when I run it again. So you want to be on my email list so that you know when that rolls out or you can just message me on social media and let me know that you want to be in the group program when that rolls out. But here let's just let's roll with this.  [00:02:32] So one of the unexpected benefits that my clients get is they truly truly cannot grasp what it means to be neutral about their past until it happens, and what that literally means for their life. So take one client, for example, came to me for stress and tension in her neck. She always had tight muscles in her neck and she wanted to take care of that. She felt it was emotional in nature. Now, when she and I connected, she had not shared with me that from time to time, she would have what felt like a panic attack. Now she wasn't diagnosed with these, but she would just “get triggered” by something and hyperventilate and feel overwhelmed. So we do this work because, if you've ever read Dr. John Sarno's book, “Mind Body RX”, then you will know that he says that chronic discomfort in the body is caused by repressed rage. We did this work together and once we went through a process of forgiveness, there was peace. This is the one thing that surprises all of my clients. They truly had never in their life experienced true peace. Now, what was the unexpected benefit of doing that work? Because there was a component of everything that involved this individual's father. As a full grown adult, there was fear and trepidation around even visiting her father because of everything that had happened and the expectations around the current behavior that was happening. After we did this work, she was able to spend time with him, accepting him for who he was with no expectations and to be at peace completely free of fear, free of any resentment, any frustration. And, shortly afterwards, there were some changes in his health and she was able to be present with him to be at peace with their relationship to reconcile that relationship. And when he transitioned, she had closure. She had closure. [00:05:18] Another unexpected benefit, if you've listened to the podcast, if I think it's episode 11, it might be 10, it's the interview with Justina, and she talks about how her son after we did the work for the first time, jumped up into her arms, hugged her and said, I love you. He was never, an affectionate; I shouldn't say never affectionate, but he, he was not a touch affectionate child. Her hugs were not how he connected with her. And when she let go of what she was dealing with, he, I mean, we did another interview back in February and he just, he loves on her all the time. Put a price on that for me. Because I know so many entrepreneurs and business owners and business leaders who do what they do, because they are determined to break the generational pattern of what they grew up in. Whether it was poverty, a stressed household, financial insecurity, whatever those things were, and then you get into this cycle of being so dedicated to your business the one thing that you, wanted to do was be able to be present with your children and now, you don't know how to do that because you feel guilty when you're not in the business. You feel guilty when you're with your kids, because you're thinking about the business, those kinds of things. So yeah.  [00:06:50] I've had clients unexpectedly lose 10 to 15 pounds, no dieting, no suggestions for weight loss, but when they drop the weight of the emotion and the beliefs that they were carrying around, the weight fell off. So let me see, what's another unexpected one. I'm going off a memory here. So you have to bear with me just a little bit because a lot of these things overlap. Another person, I think I mentioned it in a recent episode, we we're dealing with people pleasing, right? People pleasing. Oh, my gosh. Talk about a complete pivot in change in life. This person is now traveling the world, running a business that they love. An independent location business, and is no longer in corporate. And when you. See the photos, like the social media post you can see the change in the face. That's another thing. Oh my gosh. I have worked with clients where we do a session; at the beginning of the session, I'm just gonna toss some numbers out here to give you an example. At the beginning of the session, let's say they're 40 years old at the beginning of the session they're tense, they're stressed, they're carrying the weight of all this emotion. They look. 50 55 years old because they're all of this stuff just on the inside it's just putting so much weight on 'em. And at the end of the session, they can look 30, 35 years old. They literally gain back years of their life in a single session. Now, can I predict when that's gonna happen? No, but it's just one of those beautiful, unexpected things.  [00:08:42] People have come to work on something to do with business and find that their marriage just, it rekindles. Something shifts, something changes, and things just start to fall into place. These are things that you can't necessarily put a finger on. You can't put a price on them. And they're super, super impactful. One of my recent clients was just in this real head space. She has a great high ticket offer, but she would get in her head from month to month. You know, this client's rolling off. I gotta get another new client in. How did… So we, worked through the things that were connected to these thoughts, and feelings. I use conversational hypnosis a lot. And when I say conversational hypnosis, I'm not talking Ericsonian metaphors and stories and those kinds of things I'm talking about triggering the subconscious mind and pushing the subconscious to solve its own problem. In a sense, what I'm doing in the session is, I'm guiding the client a much better way to think in terms of problem solving so that they can unravel their own knots. I'm just kind of like pushing and guiding them there. So the things that were coming up in these sessions ended up not having anything to do with money, but, let me tell you the things that have shifted and unfolded and unlocked for her are unbelievable. People that she has known for years, now all of a sudden it's like, oh, what are you up to? I love what you're doing. Let's see how we can partner together. How can we work together? How can I take what you're doing and bringing it in, and she is signing clients effortlessly on a monthly retainer at 50% higher than what she was when we were working together. It was just that simple. And she is in this extremely rewarding trusting, allowing, letting it be an easy place. [00:11:10] So anyway, if that sounds like something you want, hit me up, let me know. You can get on the email list by going to Pennychiasson.com and signing up for the mindset myth, sign up for the mindset myth. That will get you on my email list. And I will let you know when the next workshop is rolling out in January. I can't wait to see what unfolds with this group of highly successful people, because I was blown away with what happened in spring. Each group tends to be unique and aligned in its own way, and I just really look forward to being able to share with you some of the takeaways that people have to give you more examples of what's possible when you simply tame your inner dialogue. When you take care of what it is that's creating this voice that causes you to feel less confident than you should be. Let's work on it. Because you're here to make an impact. And if you're allowing your subconscious thinking to hold you back, you're not stepping into the full potential of the service that you could be offering the world. And I'm here for it, man. I am here for you, and ladies. I use man colloquially. But anyway, I guess that's showing my age and the time that I grew up in and, there's always areas for us to work and improve. I'll see you next week. If you want to listen more to Justina's initial transformation, listen to her first guest episodes here. To learn more about how our hypnosis work affected long her business and relationships in the long term, give this episode a listen.

Hey, welcome back. People often ask me how to know if they're a right fit to work with me. And the answer is it depends. There are a lot of things that go into my personal client selection process. And that's because I want to know I can get the person, the result that they've asked for. Now you and I both know that there are no guarantees in life, however, when we are smart about our choices, we exponentially increase the likelihood of that outcome. Someone recently asked me, you know, penny, what is your success rate? And I'm like, 90 or 95% closer to 95 than it is to 90. And they're like, really? And I said, well, yeah, that's because I'm very selective in my client process. [00:02:03] Now, a lot of times people might not think they're ready when they really are. And that is because we have bias towards ourselves. We have self judgment. We see ourselves through a different lens than someone who is objective about our problem. When someone shows up and they wanna connect with me, to work one on one, the number one key component to maximizing the likelihood that you’re going to get the outcome that you desire is complete honesty. I do not reveal what takes place on my interview calls. It's a sales call, but it's more of an interview because I'm not going to sell anything. I'm not going to propose that we work together unless we are a fit. And the most important aspect of this is honesty. I ask a lot of questions. Some of them are deeply personal because they allow me to assess one: The readiness to do the work. But two: What are the things that you have never considered that are contributing to your problem that might be contributing to your problem? [00:03:26] You know, we always talk about the layers of the onion and, sometimes people, they're looking at one aspect that they want to address. And they don't realize that this other thing is actually the more important issue to address. That the thing that they reach out to me for is a superficial layer of a much deeper problem. And if I am not aware of the much deeper problem, then what can happen is when we move into the work, we can begin to get a result. But then all of a sudden a wall goes up and. , we make progress, but we can't get the complete resolution. And what happens is we're not dealing with the real problem. Now, sometimes the way these things are linked together, if you simply know which the more prominent issue is, it's easy to unravel to get you the result that you want. So for example, someone can reach out to me and say, you know, I want a little more self-confidence. I get nervous every time I have to go on camera. I've been doing it for years. I just don't wanna be nervous anymore. And we do the work and we get great results. We're having great headway. And then all of a sudden another issue will pop up. And when we explore it deeper, it will turn out. Perhaps this is just an example. Perhaps this person didn't tell me that they had a binge eating disorder that has not been addressed. There's a whole other component of things under there that are impacting what we're working on. We're just working on a peripheral issue, not the core issue.  [00:05:26] And before anyone reaches out to me and wants hypnosis for their binge eating disorder, I do not work with binge eating disorders. And here's why. The research, the established literature says that persons with diagnose binge eating disorders of any kind, be it anorexia bulimia or whatever that might look like for you. If you meet diagnostic criteria for any binge eating disorder, it requires a team approach. And that is outside of what I do. I'm not a healthcare professional in that realm. I'm not a therapist, but I mean, we made significant headway, but without addressing the other issue. It wasn't gonna happen. And it's not something that I address. Now. I have worked with many clients who had binge eating disorders in the past. They worked with therapists and they were able to move beyond that. They took care of it. Then the work that we do together is actually fairly simple. We're still just dealing with a peripheral belief, a peripheral issue, but we're not having to deal with that much deeper thing. [00:06:40] So honesty is huge, especially, if there are significant repeating patterns of something in your past. It changes the way that I look at the work we do together. So take, for example, you're needing to make a pivot in your business. We're in a recession, depending on who's definition you're going on these days. And, say all of a sudden, outta nowhere, you've never, ever, ever had an issue with your confidence or your clarity around your business. And now all of a sudden, outta nowhere with no rhyme or reason, you're like, oh my God, I'm in this place. And I, I have to move and I can't move. I feel like I'm in quick sand. I can't move if you and I connect and I'm asking you questions, and this has never showed up in your past before. There's one way to handle it. Then if you and I connected and you're like, oh yeah, you know, throughout my life at different times, in college this happened then in high school, this happened. And you know, this comes up for me a lot where, when it comes time for the rubber to meet the road, I find myself kind of like in quicksand, but in the past, I've always been able to push through it right now. I can't afford the time to be stuck here and push through. I gotta move. Then we're gonna deal with it in a different way because every client is individual. Every issue is individual and you need an individualized approach to get you to the end result that you want.  [00:08:20] The other thing about working with me is; I wanna know what you've done about it before. I wanna know. Have you worked with other coaches? Have you worked with other hypnotists? Are you journaling? Are you meditating? Do you do Yoga? Tai Chi? Like what are you bringing into your life to solve this issue? And it gives me a lot of insight as to where we are on the spectrum of solving the issue because ethically. I don't want to sell you less than what you need, but I also do not want to sell you more than what you need. So we take a look at that. I look at your mindset. What are your expectations in the process? If you are using the words I'm stuck. I'm struggling. Everything is hard. Everything is so hard. I don't know why this keeps happening to me. I'm stuck here. I'm stuck here. I don't know what to do then. There's a pretty good chance. You and I are not going to be a fit to work together because even that language of stuck and struggling is so disempowering. There's a lot of work that goes into just changing the way we talk to ourselves. And if you have addressed your self talk to a large degree, I mean, hell sometimes I even say, you know what, I'm feeling really stuck right now, but I'm not stuck. Right. There's a difference. And depending on the degree that this is woven in your language gives me an indicator of how much support, how much resources outside of our one on one work together are gonna be required to get you to where you want to go because the work that you and I do together, I can facilitate, we can get you a shift, but if you're not going to change your habits and thinking, you're gonna talk yourself right back into the same place. If you're one of those people, who's going to talk yourself back into the same place and you're not insightful and resourceful about it, then most likely we're not gonna be a fit to work together. [00:10:35] Again, you'll notice. I'm not saying absolutely because there's context, right? If you are in momentum and you have come 90% of the way, and you just need to jump this hurdle to get the rest of the way that's different. Sometimes when we hit a rough spot, we tend to revert back to old language when we're in a rough spot. That's why I have you fill out an application. I see where your mind is when you were in enough of a situation that, you know what, damnit, I need some help. Let me fill out this application versus where you are when we actually connect, because our life is not a straight line. It's not straight up straight down, straight 45 degree angle, 60 degree angle, nothing like that. We are riding waves in our life every day, based on our context and our circumstances. So it gives me a basis of comparison of where you are.  [00:11:32] Now, there are some absolutes on things I do not work with. If you have been diagnosed with major clinical depression and you got therapy, you're on medications for that. If you have any dissociative disorder, I do not work with clients with dissociative disorder, all of my work is virtual. And, I don't have a connection to your therapist or other professional to navigate things that might come up because, therapist might perceive things from a different light than I do. Bipolar. Schizophrenia. Any type of psychosis, I'm really focused on working with your confidence, your motivation, helping you to move forward, to unlock your full potential. And I, I know this it's like, oh, everybody says that unlock your full potential. We don't recognize how our mind can hold us back until it's no longer holding us back. That's the reality of the situation. We truly have no idea how much our life is run through the filter of the subconscious mind, how much our decisions that we think we're making we aren't really making until we have this stuff out of the way.  [00:12:48] So if you are interested in working with me. If you are motivated, if you are willing to commit to some simple mindset, work between sessions, if you are focused on the solution and not the problem, and you are willing to be a partner in this dance that gets you to where you want to go. I want you to go over the website. I want you to fill out an application and let's see what this looks like. Based on what you heard in this call, unless you're dealing with one of the things I said, I absolutely do not work with, make no assumptions as to whether or not you are a fit. Unless you're wanting me to fix this for you, and you think that everyone else in the world is to blame for your problems, because if everyone else in the world is blamed for your problems and there's zero self responsibility for your role in what has taken place in your life, then I can tell you, while I might provide you some guidance as to how to move forward you won't like working with me. So most likely in that scenario, I'm not even gonna give you the opportunity.  [00:14:00] And I know that sounds harsh and that sounds hard, but you have to be a willing participant in the process. And if you're not willing to be a willing participant to take that self responsibility to take action on your own behalf, then you're not gonna get the result you're looking for. And then what's gonna happen is you're gonna be pissed off at me, even though I show up 110%. I mean, we both know there's no such thing as 110%, but I show up with my heart for my clients. I show up dedicated to helping you get to where you want to go. And I'm not going to expend my energy, my effort, my time, my personal responsibility if you aren't willing to show up in your personal responsibility. And let's work together because the kind of work I do is not stage hypnosis. It is not what you see in the movies. This is life changing transformative stuff. So unless you really wanna transform and have a life changing experience then, don't apply. If you do then do. Yeah, I know there are gonna be some people who are going to disagree with this episode there. I know my email box is going to fill up and say, how dare you as a hypnotist, say these things we are supposed to help everybody. I'm not required by anybody to help everybody. I will do my best for the people who will show up and allow me to serve them because I'm here for my clients. I'm not here for me. I will show up for people who will allow me to serve them at my greatest capacity. That's who I wanna show up for. I wanna show up for you because if you've hung out to the end of this episode, then I know that you're looking for someone who is committed to you, committed to your results. And that's what I'm about. So click the link in the show. Fill out an application. Let's see if we're a fit to work together because you know what, nothing lights me on fire better than seeing the people I work with, get what they want and you deserve it. So go click that link, fill out that application, get on my calendar,rest assured if there are any red flags on the application, I will reach out to you because I know your time is valuable.  Until next week. Find the application here.

[00:00:00] Penny: We're gonna talk about something a little unsexy today, but it is something that is going to make a difference in your life. We're gonna talk about emotions because I'm seeing some things in the online coaching space, whether it's in groups. In short form content that I'm seeing of people that I follow, that I find detrimental [00:00:30] our emotions are good period. In the story. Our emotions are good. People often talk about their north star, their why in. Part of that is emotion driven. Your emotions are a compass to leading a fulfilling and satisfying life. If you want to have a [00:01:00] self actual lies life, if you want to live in authenticity, then you have to become a master of your emotions. [00:01:10] And when I say a master of your emotions, I'm not talking about controlling your outward appearance, as opposed to the way you feel on inside. I'm not talking about pushing things down and managing them. Though mastery of emotions is about managing, but it's not about managing in a way that you are exerting control so that you are not reacting. [00:01:38] If you find that you have to control yourself so that you are not reacting, then you are not responding to your emotions correctly, and it's not your fault. It's not like our parents were giving owners manuals to teach us how to help us to satisfy our emotions, [00:02:00] to help us through those moments of understanding what we're feeling, how our circumstances and our thoughts contribute to that, so that we can just satisfied in the moment and move on and leave that moment behind us feeling completely. [00:02:18] Neutral about it because when you have satisfied your emotions appropriately, when you look back to the past, you can be neutral about it. If it's something that was unpleasant, you maintain what you maintained the insight. You grow from it, but it's no longer eating at you inside now with happy emotions through desire. [00:02:49] When we look back on memories through desire, we can tap back into that joy, the happiness, the love, the excitement, whatever it was that we were feeling.[00:03:00] We typically don't tune into unpleasant emotions. By choice. Unless when we start thinking about something, we choose to allow ourselves to ruminate on it. [00:03:13] Then we can, bring things back again. But if some aspect of the past, a memory of thought about something unpleasant, if it just pops into your mind, it should not trigger anger. It should not trigger things that make you feel down depressed. Grief being an exception. And I'm gonna talk about grief. [00:03:36] This is actually going to be a long episode. It's going to be an episode that you are going to come back and listen to again and again, I should actually charge what I'm sharing with you in this episode, because if you take it and you implement it and you use it, it will change your [00:04:00] life. I'm going to use anger as an example, because anger is a very misunderstood emotion. [00:04:07] We think it's bad.  [00:04:09] We have been conditioned in society that it's not an acceptable emotion motion that we shouldn't feel this. The first thing I'm gonna hit on here is gratitude. Bypassing it's. When we take a situation that was unfair, that angered us where we were wronged and we can see the silver lining, whether it was an opportunity for personal growth. [00:04:38] We. Changed direction in our life. And it resulted in us having a much better life. Maybe we learned to be a better parent because of what happened. Maybe we learned to be a better partner, a better business person. If you're feeling that anger and you say, you know what? I just need to [00:05:00] be grateful that. [00:05:02] And I don't care how you feel in the blank. If you are doing that, you are gratitude by passing. You are not dealing with the anger and that anger will come back and it will bite you in the ass. If it doesn't bite you in the ass, in your relationships, if it doesn't bite you in the ass, in your. decisions. [00:05:21] If it doesn't bite you in the ass, in your emotional and mental health, it will bite you in the ass. In your physical health anger. It has been shown in studies. Anger is more deadly than a type, a personality. [00:05:39] I might circle back later and throw in an example. I don't wanna get off track here, but gratitude bypassing. If you were using your silver lining to condition yourself that it's inappropriate for you to feel anger or to push that emotion down, please stop doing that. Instead, I want you to ask [00:06:00] yourself what about this was unfair and that's gonna tell you the next steps to take. [00:06:06] What about this was unfair when you understand what about it was unfair? Ask yourself two questions. Number one. Is can I make fair? Making fair means going to the other person who was involved perhaps and having a conversation in letting them know how this event in the past made you feel. even if your present day self. [00:06:31] This is a scenario. It's not gonna be true for everyone. If your present day self can see that the person who hurt you simply didn't know better, that they're incapable of understanding. I don't care that your conscious present day self says that. And part of you may be going, oh, well, I shouldn't hurt them. [00:06:50] They never actually meant to do it. Mm. Go have that conversation. You can do it from a place of peace and say, [00:07:00] you know what? I'm just looking to move on. I, don't currently Harbor any ill feelings, but I want to just be able to clear this off my plate. and move on from it and start fresh and have a conversation. [00:07:14] If you can have that conversation without being attached to them saying, I'm sorry. Do that, if you go into it being attached to them saying, I'm sorry, then, it can just end up fueling that anger. The goal of the process is to gain some insight from this person, because as you talk about what hurt you more than likely you're going to become emotional. [00:07:42] And when you become emotional, your subconscious is activated. And if you can have that conversation and get that insight,  [00:07:48] it can literally knock the leg right out from under that table. So something to consider there, if it is a situation [00:08:00] where this person, so totally hasn't changed and you are aware that if I address this, it is going to turn into a huge, ugly mess. It's not anything I want to bring into my life. Then there's a process of forgiveness to consider. [00:08:17] And in forgiveness, you want to allow this insight to occur in your forgiveness process. And this is just for you. They know nothing about it. You're never gonna tell them about it. You would never give them the benefit of knowing that you have given yourself this gift, because they're gonna twist it around and they're gonna, they're gonna ma make it about them. [00:08:41] Right? One of the ways that I recommend to people who aren't doing one on one, work with me. To go through this forgiveness process is to do a journaling process. Like a lot of people write the letter, they burn it and all of these things, but there is no insight [00:09:00] in that process unless you've worked with a counselor, a therapist, and they've given you advanced journaling techniques. [00:09:08] So what I tell people to do is to imagine you're having the conversation with this. and you pour it all out. One paper you want to use pen and paper or pencil and paper do not type it. Do not use your iPad. You want the, stimulation that comes from the energy that you expend physically to write this out and you're just gonna dig into. [00:09:37] You hurt me when you made me think you made me feel and just begin to pour that emotion out. If you allow yourself to tap into that emotion, what is going to happen is randomly things that you totally forgot about. Totally forgot about. At the time when it happened was really a [00:10:00] thorn in your side, these things are gonna come up and you pour that emotion out and then allow yourself to sit and ponder what happened in this person's life that this whole thing transpired, because somewhere along the way, We picked up misperceptions. [00:10:25] We had interpretations that what this person did was about us and in the coaching industry, if you're familiar with anything, you're familiar with the concept that, what comes out of someone has everything to do with them. And it's not about us. I don't care if your father was an abusive asshole. [00:10:49] When he was abusing, it had nothing to do with you. However, when we are younger, when we don't have a [00:11:00] lifetime of context and experience and understanding to know these things, our subconscious mind, and an attempt to rationalize and to find a way to protect us and to safeguard us starts making assumptions. [00:11:15] It's trying to define what's happening because it wants to protect us. Sometimes it makes the wrong assumption. Not because we did anything bad or wrong, but because we didn't have enough information. How many times, if you tried to solve a problem, when there was not enough information as an adult, you can go, you know what? [00:11:36] I don't have enough information when we are younger childhood adolescents, we cannot do that. Okay. So clearly if we had a father who was an abusive asshole, maybe he drank too much. Maybe he ran around on mom. Maybe he could never keep a job who knows. It doesn't matter. Something [00:12:00] happened that triggered all of that because nobody wants. [00:12:07] To be that person. Nobody, when they're five years old, thinks to themselves, I want to grow up and be a horrible person. If you can allow yourself that insight while you're in this emotional state. And then you say, you know what, it's time to let this go. And then begin journaling with the words I [00:12:29] forgive you because I'm worthy. Of the freedom that forgiveness is gonna give me. I forgive you because yeah, you just simply didn't know any better and I'm no longer gonna leak my personal power over it. And you keep going with the, I forgive you because you just keep putting ending on it after ending on it, after ending on it until you have poured everything outta your soul, and then just let it be done at that point. [00:12:56] If you wanna burn it by all means burn.[00:13:00] But know this. If you have a pattern with a person where they just repeatedly over and over, things just kept happening, there might be a part of you that has connected with your, present day anger. As being a protective mechanism, sometimes our subconscious mind won't reveal everything that we need to let go, and it will hold onto some of those nuggets. [00:13:32] So what will happen is your anger will be greatly minimized, but it, won't be gone. That's where having the benefit. A professional like myself who is well versed in emotions and the patterns and the beliefs and the protective mechanisms that the brain puts in place that will allow you to move forward from this point, because we can see here and [00:14:00] recognize the patterns. [00:14:02] and the subconscious moments that reveal, oh, there's something else there. Basically, even in hypnosis, you can have blind spots and a great hypnotist will reveal those blind spots so that you can move past them, shine the light and let it go. But this is a great way to take care of. When I work with clients, here are some things I want you to know about anger specifically. [00:14:37] One is that in women, a lot of times we identify our anger as sadness because when we were much younger, we were taught. Little girls shouldn't be angry. It's not nice to be angry. It doesn't look pretty. It doesn't look nice. And this is gonna depend on your age as to whether or not you heard those terms. [00:14:57] Growing up in the deep south in [00:15:00] the seventies, a phrase I often heard was pretty is, is pretty does, and that meant don't be angry. Be seen, not heard. . It matters what other people think. There are a lot of things that get rolled into that one. Right? So a lot of times as women, we think we feel sad when we're really angry because sad is an acceptable emotion. [00:15:27] ? Sad is acceptable for. A lot of men, you're taught that you have to manage that anger. You have to stuff it down. You can't let, 'em see you be weak. You have to manage it. When I hear someone say that they have to manage their anger, I know that what they have to do is set themselves free from something in the past, because there was some moment where something triggered. [00:15:55] The mechanism that this is unfair and anger is the [00:16:00] fight in fight or flight. Your brain is not willingly going to let go of old anger. If it believes it's protecting you. It's a process. And here's what I can tell you is that you can be free of it. This is one of the most rewarding aspects of the work that I do. [00:16:21] And it is the one thing that changed my personal life because I had anger. I was using that silver lining. I was gratitude. Bypassing. I have experience with this. I know exactly what it looks like when I see it. I was gratitude, bypass it like crazy and did not realize that anger was eating me up alive until my emotional health hit the wall 80 miles an hour. [00:16:52] There's a whole podcast episode on that, sometimes that anger is at ourselves and that's okay [00:17:00] too. There's a way to resolve that as well. But in your day to day life, as you're going through your day and something is unfair and it makes you angry. The first thing you do is say, okay, what's causing me to feel angry and maybe Bob didn't reply to your email. [00:17:19] You wanted to reply within 24 hours and Bob has not replied to your email and you're instantly angry. Well, is that really unfair? Do you have enough information, . So you might spike off with that anger and you're like, you know what? I sent that on Monday morning and it's really not fair because. [00:17:41] Bob is a project manager. He probably came in and had a hundred emails in his inbox. Right. Maybe he just didn't get to it yet. So should I really be angry? No. Let me send a follow up email. Boom. Anger is satisfied. Now take that same [00:18:00] scenario, And. you're like, okay, let me send a follow up email. [00:18:05] Then Bob emails you back. And Bob says, you know what? I think that this really isn't a priority. So I just put it in my procrastinate folder. I'll get to it next week. Well, I think most reasonable people would've emailed back and said, you know, this isn't a priority for me right now. Do you really have to have a, like, there would've been some kind of communication, right? [00:18:30] Well, that is unfair, right? It's a little unfair that he just tabled it without communication. So how do you satisfy that? I would go straight to Bob and say, you know what? Let's work on our communication. I can understand it's not a priority for you. However, I was expecting an answer today. If you had let me know yesterday, It's not a priority for you. [00:18:55] I could have adjusted accordingly. So what can we [00:19:00] do? So this does not happen again because this has inconvenienced me in X, Y, Z way. And how do we move forward? Now if Bob's a real jerk, something else may ensue after that. But that's the way you address that in a healthy way. It should satisfy the anger. [00:19:21] If you address the person and you come to a satisfactory resolution. this podcast isn't about, conflict management, but I think you get the idea of what I'm. If you found out that it was an oversight with Bob. Say it was an oversight and you were seething and you were stewing over it and you're thinking, God, this happened again. [00:19:46] This always happens. Why do these things keep happening to me? Ho, ho ho. What you're feeling is you're triggered in the present moment. , but there is stuff that you need to let go that you are [00:20:00] still caring with you. That's a sign. If you have an interaction with someone and you find in that interaction, that the enormity of your emotions exceeds the situation that you're in, that you are overreacting, that you were triggered, that you reacted, you didn't respond, there's work to do there. [00:20:20] That does not have to happen. Can be free of that. If you're experiencing sadness, what have you lost? If you're feeling guilt, what have you done that you need to make fair about? Sometimes when we feel guilty, feeling that we've done something wrong, sometimes come to find out the other person didn't perceive it that way at all. [00:20:44] We're judging ourselves through our own lens. are fear, like worry, nervousness, having these repeating thoughts of irrational fears, ask yourself what is there for me to be afraid of. If there's [00:21:00] nothing for you to be afraid of begin to retrain your mind. This is simply your thoughts running outta control. [00:21:06] Learn to manage your thoughts. Stop your thoughts. Sometimes we feel like we have to hold onto fear. We can look back and we can see something that we were afraid in the moment. [00:21:20] And we hold onto that fear. It's like, it becomes a part of our identity. Well, if you wanna move forward and be happy and successful and fulfilled, you have to let that go. You have to reframe that. And that has to take place subconscious. If you're holding onto that as part of your identity, that is where the subconscious work comes in. [00:21:43] We can afraid that we're not gonna be good enough that we're not gonna be smart enough that people may find that we're a fraud in business because we don't give ourselves as much credit for being as good as other people see that we are. We've made . A decision in business in the [00:22:00] past where it ended up in a really bad business deal. [00:22:03] And that business deal emotionally shook us so bad that now every decision we make is through the lens of what if, what if, what if I screw this up again? How do I avoid getting in another business deal like that? See when our brain puts emotional importance on. So. It's gonna hold onto it. There are a lot of subconscious techniques. There's absolutely nothing wrong with affirmations. There's absolutely nothing wrong with scripting. There's absolutely nothing wrong with generic hypnosis audios. Those things are all great until we hit the level of the protective mechanism and without a guide to facilitate you through the release of those things. [00:22:49] Our mind it's it's, it's gonna hold on to what it deems important. And if you wanna set yourself free so that you can unlock your full [00:23:00] potential and move forward, you have to tame that inner dialogue and our inner dialogue triggers, emotions, emotions trigger further internal dialogue. And this is where the spiral comes in. [00:23:13] And when we hit a spiral, a lot of things can happen. We can throw ourselves into our work. We can throw ourselves into exercise. We can throw ourselves into gambling. We can throw ourselves into drinking. We can throw ourselves into overeating. It can look like a lot of different things, right. So if you're distracting away from your feelings, I encourage you to reflect on everything that I've shared in this episode. [00:23:42] Listen to it again and again, because each time you listen, I guarantee you will have further revelations about yourself, about the way you think about the way you react, whether it's in business or your personal life, and allow these things to begin to [00:24:00] unravel. if you were someone who has been in the work, if you've worked with coaches, If you've worked with therapists and you feel like you are 80 to 90% of the way there, but there is just this little thing. [00:24:16] There's one little thing that you can't seem to put your finger on that you feel like if that one little thing moved and shifted that it would unlock a whole new world for you. I want you to reach out. We are gonna put the link in the show notes. I want you to apply for a call with me and let's see if there is something that I can do to help you to unlock this and shift it. [00:24:42] And that if we're a fit to work together, you do not need to be ruled. By your emotions, your emotions are important. Your emotions are good. They're telling you how to fulfill yourself. They're letting you [00:25:00] know when you are out of alignment with what it is that you need. [00:25:05] The problem comes in when we don't know how to properly manage them in the moment. And when we have a backpack full of rocks. From the past that we carry around us every day. If you wanna put down that backpack full of rocks and get on your way, click the link, fill out the application. I always have some availability, even though it's limited, just reach out. [00:25:32] Let's see how we can work together. Have a great week. Listen to Episode 21 here! Want to work with me to start the work at managing your emotions, sign up for a call here. 

Does it really have to be hard to overcome that anxiety that we bump up against from time to time in life and business. Is it really a long, hard journey to work through the issues that have created it and get past them. I'm not gonna be around the bush here. The answer's no, it absolutely does not. The prevalence of coaching, and I'm not knocking coaching let's just be 100% straight up, I have coaches I've had other coaches in the past, I have 100% benefited from coaching, but for people who have only given themselves the opportunity to work with coaches are only given themselves the opportunity to work with therapists, to work through normal average everyday things have this misperception that this is like some fucking cross you have to bear. And it's not. I mean, when we're engaging in therapy, when we're engaging in coaching, we are dealing with surface level strategies. [00:02:14] I was recently a part of a conversation with someone I know who had an experience where they went through a week of an intense period of anxiety. And it all started with a decision that they made to go along with something that someone else wanted. So this person has a tendency to people, please. They went along with what this other person wanted, even though they knew that going into this situation, it was 100% something they did not want to do. 100%. So if you watch my previous podcast episode, you know, I've talked about alignment and values and what brings us happiness and joy. When we make a decision that throws us totally out of alignment, it's going to activate our subconscious mind because our subconscious mind does not like situations that cause us to feel unpleasant feelings. The mind just does not like it. So, what does it do? The mind fires off one thought, then it fires off another thought. And then the next thing you know, those thoughts begin to make you feel bad and you're going, why did I do this? And then it's… it's like firecrackers going off of emotion and thoughts. And we can end up in a spiral that creates this anxiousness, this anxiety. And there's just this perception that it takes forever to work through it. And I want to tell you that it does not. I'm actually gonna walk you through a couple of very short case studies to make my point.  [00:03:54] Now, as a former healthcare professional, I'm going to make this very clear. One: I'm not knocking therapy because with people who have diagnosed conditions, they have trauma and really complex issues around that therapy is totally appropriate. Is therapy appropriate for people dealing with normal everyday problems? Sure. You wanna see a therapist and if just talking about it makes you feel better. That's great. But I'm going to make clear that I'm not talking about clinically diagnosed anxiety, the anxiety that gets in the way of your living every single day, because here's the thing, I'm gonna go into this sidebar for 30 seconds and then I'm back to the topic at hand. The word anxiety is a word that people use to describe how they feel. It is also a clinical term. I'm not talking about the clinical term. We're just gonna make that clear. I don't diagnose people. I don't treat people. However, I do help people get control of their confidence, their self-esteem, let go of self judgment, let go of people pleasing so that they have dominion over their thoughts, so that you have control over where your mind is going to a much greater degree. Now you may say, well, Penny, you can't control your mind, and if you know me long enough, you know that I live by the mantra that control is in illusion. Absolutely. So, what do I mean by controlling your thoughts? When we get into that situation where our thoughts are popping off like firecrackers, and they're creating all these feelings, that is coming from the past, the mind is going, oh, here we go again, we're doing something we don't like. Oh, here we go. We're gonna have to get on an airplane. We hate airplanes. Oh, why did you say yes to something you didn't want? Again, all of those thoughts are rooted in the past. And they're rooted in the past because somewhere in the past, the mind put an importance upon those things that was emotional in nature, and there's still emotions stored up around those things. So the mind is like, I don't wanna feel that way again. [00:06:09] When you can go in, and if you think of the old experiences, the old perceptions, the old biases, if you think of those things as legs on a three-legged stool, and you go in and you're able to neutralize the emotion around those events so that you can go, yeah, this thing happened to me. I don't let it run my life anymore. Because I have the benefit of taking what I know now and letting that neutralize the past so that I can move forward so that in the future, I can choose to go into a venture with someone. Do it with my eyes open. And if it's someone coming to me with something that doesn't align with my values, it doesn't align with what I want. I'm not going to feel obligated to say yes, because I'm totally confident in knowing that it's okay for me to want what I want and that I can say no out of compassion and kindness, and it means nothing about them. And it means nothing about me. I'm just honoring myself and I'm standing up for what's important to me. [00:07:21] I've worked with clients; I probably had a handful of clients that we worked together for about a dozen sessions, but most of my clients in under eight weeks, usually within six to seven sessions, we bust through multiple levels of these beliefs and we neutralize 'em. We eliminate them. So that they can move forward with a clean slate. When you have that clean slate you're not bringing all this stuff from the past. It's just amazing. It's light. It's free. It's peaceful. These are words my clients use. So, I have one client that had had a lifetime. of anxiety. He made the comment once that he woke up one morning, he could hear his daughter singing in the other room and he thought, wow, this is peaceful. And as soon as he had the thought, “this is peaceful”, his mind went into overdrive. The other thing that this person had dealt with is they had been through 11 years of therapy for anger management. I think we did a total of six sessions together. Not only did we eliminate the anxiety, we eliminated the anger issues. We busted through the pattern where this individual was attracting business partners and friendships of people that wanted to manipulate them. Once he got sovereignty of himself, he was no longer available to be manipulated by other people, and this person is doing some major freaking things now because once he got out of the anxiety, and once he was objective about his relationships, he just hit the ground running finding investment capital. Let's put it that way. Getting investment capital for a product he was launching. I have had another client who lived through a lifetime of people pleasing and that people pleasing came about because at a very early age, he learned to keep the peace because father was an alcoholic. He learned to keep the peace. That was what he did. He was in a job that he hated. It was actually causing physical symptoms, causing him to have to take time out of work, to take leave. And he had a very specific goal in mind. I'm not gonna share it here, but it involved letting go of people pleasing and letting go of this anger. [00:09:56] Well, once he shed the people pleasing, he realized that a lot of very major decisions he had made in his life were based on people pleasing. They were based on what some people might, would call a codependent type personality. He let that go. This person is now they're outta corporate, they're building their own business, and they're doing it their way. They're traveling the world and supporting other people in making their lives better. They're, oh gosh, I could just go down the list because the majority of my clients have some amalgamation of these things and it doesn't always come up as anxiety or people pleasing, but my point being is that you can radically change your life. You can radically shift your way of thinking and being so that as things come up that in the past would've caused you anxiety or people pleasing, you're just like, oh yeah. Oh, okay. Now, you know, I really don't think I wanna do that. And you're okay with it. Or you can say, well, I understand that you really want to do this. I would enjoy doing that. Is there somewhere we can meet in the middle? Like how can we both get our needs met in this situation and feel comfortable having those conversations without having to just lay your sovereignty down at someone else and give over yourself to keep the peace. [00:11:36] So when we get into these behaviors, it's subconscious, it's past experiences, and, to quote one of my clients, for them therapy felt like scraping the scab off, letting the wound bleed, as soon as it started to heal, you scrape the scab off again, you let it bleed some more. And, the work that we did was like going in doing surgery and fixing the problem. It depends on what you want. Do you want fast results or do you want to drag this around with you like a bag of rocks. And we all get to choose. And some people aren't ready to do this work, and I totally totally respect that. Some people aren't ready to do this work , and sometimes I have to very kindly and compassionately, you know, let people know that, maybe you're really not quite ready to do this work because this work is messy. It's messy. It's powerful. And I like for people to have some tools and some skills and some before diving in if they're not planning to work with me long term. So if you're dealing with this, if you are having this anxiety, if you catch yourself up in people pleasing, then I want you to go back and listen to some of the past episodes. We will pull those links. We will put those in the show notes. And not only can you hear me talk about it from a different perspective, but you can also witness my own evolution and how I have learned to help people through these issues, help them through these issues quickly so that they can just get on with living their life, because you deserve to get on living your life as well. And when you are ready, when you are in that place, reach. just go to the website: pennychiasson.com. Reach out. I'm happy to chat. You can apply for a call and I will see you next week. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Are you numbing yourself out with your business? Hi, this is Penny. Welcome back to Design Your Destiny. And this is something that I see as I stand back and I observe a lot of very successful people who are entrepreneurs and they race from one big launch, project, or business deal to the next. Now don't get me wrong, I understand how business works. We can't just take our foot off the gas and stop and just let everything go. Not when we're talking very large businesses when we need to be evolving product lines, streamlining services, adapting to the market. I totally get all of that. But have you ever thought to yourself if I wasn't spearheading a big project, if I wasn't about to go into a launch. If I wasn't creating a new product, I don't know what I would do with myself. Like I really just don't know what I would do with myself. All I know is throwing myself into my business. Then you are really treading into dangerous territory from a mental, emotional, and physical health standpoint. because when we stay in that state of always on, of always having to be on our toes, to go, to anticipate, to be vigilant, even hyper vigilant to things that could crop up and cause issues in our business, we're staying in a constant state of stress activation.  [00:02:50] One of the newest fads going around is for people to reveal, you know now that you've left your past job or profession, what's a big scam that no one knows about. And I'm going to tell you that disease is a scam. And here's what I mean by that. Over 90% of all doctors' visits are due to symptoms and conditions caused by stress. Everything from low back pain, to autoimmune disease, to high blood pressure, to heart disease, diabetes, asthma, the list goes on. These things are due to stress activation. And one thing that I know about most very high level entrepreneurs that I have connected with the one thing that they want is they want longevity. They want a happy life. You want longevity, you want a vibrant, vital life. And if you're burning the candle at both ends, and you're staying under this constant high pressure, it has probably crossed your mind that you know what, I'm probably not gonna live another 10 years. This is something that was just related to me recently. You know, I'm just going from one thing to the next. I probably won't live another 10 years. And this person is younger than I am. So that's a very stark realization as to what is going on in this process. A lot of people think of stress as having a lot of things happening in your life. That's not the only place that stress comes from.  [00:04:42] Stress comes from mental pressure. It comes from emotional pressure. It comes from pressure in the past. So imagine. If you're going into this big launch and things are going really well, however, in the past you had one launch that really if you could just take that section of your life and you had a big, giant eraser, and you could just wipe it the fuck outta your mind, you would all of the emotion, the interpretations, the meaning and the beliefs that were created around that, they're going to be in your subconscious underneath the surface. Your mind is going to be constantly searching and comparing. Now that's not the same as learning. We can learn from an experience and not have any emotional issue with it, if we learn that lesson and we accepted it and we let it go. But if we're in a state of comparison or like, oh, we can't let this happen again, rather than starting fresh and starting anew, that is running underneath the surface. And your mind is looking for ways to avoid the pain that you experienced before. So there can be a lot of stress coming in, and that could be one of the reasons you find yourself running from one project to the next. [00:06:02] Is there a part of you that has to prove to yourself that you can repeat your success? Because maybe a part of you thinks you just happen to be in the right place at the right time before, or maybe you just got lucky. So that's one of the things that keep us from running one project to the next we have to prove to ourselves. We can also have these hidden stories. Believe it or not. We have uncovered these stories with people who make a ton of money. You would think someone would not have these stories, but this person's family actually was very comfortable. There was no poverty involved or anything like that. They were very comfortable. However, the father and the mother came from very little means, and they had built up a very comfortable lifestyle, but the mother and the father operated from the fear of, “we have to make sure we have money. We can't spend all the money. We have to be frugal with the money. We have to save for a rainy day”. And this stuff was trickling over into someone's business. Who's making eight figures. It was trickling in like there was this hesitation, there was this mental hand break about investing to go to a next level. And out of the blue, we reveal this thing that like, you have to work hard for your money, right. So this person was unable to pause because it was instilled in them from their parents, that they worked hard to be comfortable. So you have to work hard to be comfortable. That's what it takes to be comfortable. That's what it takes to have more than enough money is to work hard. So this person doesn't know how to take a break. They work themselves into the ground and actually was recently hospitalized from working themselves into the ground; from creating that stress, there was so much stress their body wasn't able to fight infection and it took them down, took 'em out.  [00:08:15] The other thing that can happen is we lose sight of what it is that we want. We lose sight of our vision. In the early days of building a business, we're so committed. We're so disciplined. We're so all freaking in on what's happening, that we lose sight of what we really wanted. And we get caught up in needing to build this success and then build the next success. We forget to celebrate what we've achieved because God forbid, this is in some circles, God forbid you're successful, and you actually appreciate the fact that you're successful because that means you must not care about people who you passed on the way up. Which is totally not true. You can be compassionate and kind and charitable through giving and elevating humanity. Money allows us to do that. Money allows us to grow that. But we can lose sight of what it was we really wanted when we were younger. And we get caught on this hamster wheel and now we don't know how to get off. Well, I know how to get off. And the first step is to like pause. You have to really pause and do the inner work and dig in and see what's important to you. Allow yourself to reconnect with who you really are, to reconnect with that happiness, because sometimes when we get into this place of running from project to project, launch to launch, business to business, what we're doing is, we are numbing ourselves from the fact that something is not aligned with us. We're unhappy. we're dissatisfied with life, but if we stop for 10 minutes and we have to sit with what's between our ears and we have to think about it, then we realize that we have built this big thing. We have all this wealth and we're miserable. [00:10:22] Me personally, I never want to be in that place. And fortunately, I've learned about these patterns as I'm growing my business so I can do checks and balances on myself to make sure my decisions are taking me in a direction that maintains that connection with myself that maintains that happiness. But for some people work is their drug. Work is the drug of choice. Work is what numbs you from being dissatisfied with what you've created, or having to sit with your thoughts around what you believe about yourself. This is a very complex topic. It's something that I could spend hours on and really dive in. Each and every person is different, that's why I've given so many different scenarios. There is no one size fits all. That's why my work is not one size fits all. Everything is highly individualized and custom tailored to my clients. Because a one size fits all approach is not going to fit. It might make you feel better for a little while, but if you wanna solve the problem. and get out of this rut, then it's gonna take commitment to yourself. It is going to take diving into what's going on in your life, and it takes attention to detail of your life, of what's happening for you, what's going on for you personally. So if you're ever interested in diving into this, knowing what it is to get connected inward, to remember what happiness is, to remember what brings you joy, I am more than happy to connect with you on that. Just go to the website, pennychiasson.com, and apply for a call with me. Apply for a call and you and I can get together and chat about what vision it is you have. And if you have no idea what that vision is, if that seems so foreign to you, let's connect anyway, because I can get you moving in the right direction, just on that call.  Until next week, bye now! Thanks for tuning in today! 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Welcome back to Design Your Destiny, everyone. Today, I'm gonna be talking about something that is common, and that is: what do you do when you commit to something, but you don't follow through. Like, what do you do? I think it's a challenge that many people fall into. And oftentimes my clients have faced this challenge. To be committed to something means that you have decided to do something. There are many factors that can come into play in our commitment to do something. One of those things is how committed are we to the thing that we are pursuing– whether it's a business venture, a partnership, deciding to relaunch the podcast as I am here, changing directions, deciding to build out your business in a new and different way. How committed are you to that?  Probably one of the most common mainstream, if you will, ways of looking at commitment is people who decide to go into fitness, or to weight loss, healthier eating those types of things. And people often associate their success, or lack of it, with their willpower.  The first myth that I want to debunk is that willpower works.Willpower does not work. Willpower is a function of the conscious analytical mind. Our conscious analytical mind, even though we believe it runs the show, it does not run the show. So as you go through your day, say you're someone who has, committed and I'm gonna use health as an analogy, but you can apply this to anything in your business. You can apply it to anything in your life, say that you were committed to your health, and you decided that you're going to stop drinking caffeinated beverages, and you're going to drink warm water. That's a big thing right now, “the warm water challenge”.  Say you're gonna commit to that each and every time that you go to drink water, you are making a choice each and every time you think, oh, you know what? I would really like a cup of coffee, or I would love a soda or an energy drink. You are making a decision when you're using willpower. You were relying solely on individual decisions to get you where you want to go.  [00:03:59] So what does that mean? If you're relying on individual decisions to get you where you want to go, when you end up with a lot on your plate, whether it's a lot of deadlines coming due, something unexpected happens in the business or with the client or a project, or even in your personal life, your relationships, especially if you have kids, life can be really unpredictable when these unpredictable things come up. If you're relying solely on your decision making and you get into a space where your stress response is activated, you have a lot of things going on in your conscious mind that you are sorting out, you're going to possibly, most likely, revert to your old habit. It's easier. It's easier than having to make the conscious choice. Now water versus energy, drinks and caffeine. That's kind of easy because you can set your day up by making sure that all you have available is water, but if you're stressed out and you're worn down and you're going to the kitchen and you have all kinds of options, your mind's just not even gonna think about it. Your subconscious goes, oh, well, we always go to the caffeine, let's go to the cafe. Your willpower is like a battery on your cell phone. The more tired we become, the more that we have on our mind, the more things that we are processing, the weaker that willpower becomes.  [00:05:33] If you're committing to something new, the biggest, most important thing you can do is just decide, and in the words of one of my mentors, declare it, make a declaration. Actually, a couple of my mentors, when it comes to bringing something new into your life, you define it, you decide it, and you declare it. And that really just sets it in your mind as an unbreakable standard, which goes to identity. If you've listened to episodes 86 and 87, GREAT, if you have not, I want you to go back and listen to episodes 86 and 87. I talk about identity because this is another piece of commitment. When you are committing to something, your identity should be an identity that supports the actions that you are taking. Your identity should support the actions that you're taking from how you identify yourself, the beliefs that you have within that identity. How someone with that identity, like what actions they take. What do they delegate? What are their capabilities? If there's,Something that you don't have that you need, then you're gonna be the person who's going to go out and learn that you're going to acquire that skill, that knowledge, that reference point, if you will, so that you can deliver what it is that you want. And when those things fall into place, then your outcome will come about. But if you're committed to an outcome and you have no idea what the identity is that's going to get you there. You know I want to start this company. I want to hit a hundred million dollars. I'm at 40 million. I want to hit a hundred million. I don't know. Let's say in 18 months, what is the identity? That's gonna get you there because what got you to 40 million is not going to get you to a hundred million. So just being committed and knowing you want to get there is not. Who do you need to be?  [00:07:42] Another piece of this is when you find yourself not following through on commitment, what are the things that you are doing? And there's a very key question that you can ask yourself. And that question is, what am I committed to? Because we are always committed to something, even if we're committed to staying the same. Sometimes we can be in a situation in our life where we're doing what we're doing, because it's what we've always done. It doesn't necessarily align with what we want, but we don't know what we would do with our. If we weren't doing it because we've just always been moving to the next thing and moving to the next thing, and I'm gonna do a whole podcast episode on what all of that means. But if you're wanting to shift, and the shift is not happening, then you're committed to something else more than what you're committed to, what it is that you want.  And so where is the alignment? Where is the alignment in that? Are you aligned with the thing you're committed to, that maybe you don't know that you're committed to? Sometimes we're committed to avoidance. Sometimes we are committed to our suffering. Sometimes we are committed to an identity that has us believing that we can't be more that Our whole lives. We get filled with other people's perceptions of us. We get filled with our own faults, perceptions about ourself and our abilities, usually to the negative. Right. Are you committed to holding onto that identity, which is going to limit your commitment to the thing that you want? Just a deep question for you there. [00:09:39] One of the things that I have come to realize over the last year that I'm blessed with. I, for a while, just assumed that everybody processed information this way, but one of the things I've really come to own is my ability to see people's patterns. In their thoughts and in their behaviors, the way that it's showing up in their life. And when that pattern is identified, we can basically take the legs off the table and collapse that, which is not serving you so that we can build back something that is stronger. Something that supports your identity, something that supports what you are committed to and when your identity and your values support what you're committed to, and you've eliminated the bullshit beliefs that are supporting this identity over here that's not serving you anymore, that's when the world really opens up to you. That's when possibility opens up to you,. [00:10:50] It doesn't matter where you are in life. If you were someone who has built your businesses from the ground up, think back to when you first started, as you shifted, and as you grew your identity, your characteristics, your traits, your values adapted and adjusted and moved with you. The same is true now. And I think that sometimes we get so immersed in what it is that we're doing, that we can lose sight of the big leaps that we made early in our career. And this ability to see these patterns is something that I have a lot of gratitude for, because I had made the faulty assumption that all people in business have this ability. All people who are expert hypnotists, all people who are coaches, all people who do transformational work, that they have this ability. And it's simply not the case. So what is it that you have that's unique to you? How does commitment and where you're wanting to go, how does all of that align? What does it look like for you? And I know I took you in a little bit of a circle here at the end, and we made some twists and some curves, but I did that intentionally because the answer is inside of you and through pondering and processing, you might be surprised to find that you tap into something you didn't know was there before. So until next time, please subscribe, leave a review. And I do look forward to catching you on the next episode of design your destiny. Check out Episode 86 and Episode 87 here.  Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

We’re at an inflection point as a society. We’ve been made promises, going back decades, that haven’t been met. But nobody is coming to save us. Now’s the time for us all to step fully into our authentic selves, not hide. In this episode, I talk about the need for awakening individuals to help lead the way away from the stresses of typical American society toward something better. 1:30 - You can’t reach self-actualization with concerns about this 4:02 - What I saw in Seattle in 2004 that surprised (and dismayed) me 6:25 - Why the answer to changing things is US 7:32 - What’s responsible for the “Great Resignation” 10:11 - How to start becoming the change you seek in the society surrounding you After you listen to The World is Waiting for YOU… Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, and they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

How do you show up fully in a relationship for the other person without getting out of integrity with yourself? At the end of the previous episode, I left you with a final thought about reciprocity being about showing up 100% in your relationship. In this episode, I continue diving into this topic, as well as discuss boundaries and how they’re really meant to help you form and maintain healthy relationships. 0:58 - How my husband and I were reciprocal in showing up regarding our kids 2:28 - How to handle it when you and your partner struggle or are at an impasse 4:39 - The benefit of consistent reciprocity and what you can do if nothing changes 6:21 - What boundaries are really about 9:31 - Is there room for you to show up differently in your relationships? After you listen to Balance Between Reciprocity and Setting Boundaries In Your Relationships… You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

You have relationships everywhere: with yourself, your loved ones, friends, co-workers and acquaintances, and on and on. I’ve found a simple misperception at the root of a lot of issues in relationships that’ll surprise you. In today’s episode, I reveal what it is and how children are, in fact, a reflection of their parents. 1:54 - How kids can 100% be a reflection of their parents, even if they seem like complete opposites 5:07 - How your childhood can subconsciously affect your relationships with others 9:12 - A common misperception I often see in clients that goes back to World War II 15:23 - A game-changing recommendation if you have kids, especially younger ones 16:58 - Leaving you with this last thought about reciprocity and relationships   Read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Are your repeated thoughts getting in the way of what you want out of your life? I’ve talked before about how the way you think and show up is based on your beliefs formed from the thinking patterns in your subconscious mind. In this rapid-fire episode, I walk you through a list of different things you can do to reprogram some of those patterns and beliefs, giving you the space to change unwanted habits. 1:38 - How to use affirmations to begin to reprogram your thinking 3:55 - What gives your affirmations a really profound effect 4:39 - How to use scripting for reprogramming your thinking 5:48 - Watching these can help you reprogram too 7:00 - How self-hypnosis can help you reprogram (without the deep trance) You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

People have anxiety on the mind. I’ve had a lot of questions asked about anxiety recently, so I want to break it down. In this episode, I give you my definition of anxiety and talk about where it comes from and the strategies I use when I feel anxious. 1:34 - How I define anxiety and why I leave it so broad 3:26 - How the way you think can cause anxiety 12:25 - Things I do if I start to feel anxious 16:47 - The question you can ask yourself every time you get that anxious feeling about something 18:29 - The one question you should NEVER ask yourself in this situation, above all   Visit Uncommonly More. Watch “Stop It!” - Mad TV skit with Mo Collins and Bob Newhart on Youtube. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Even though I first heard of my special guest today only recently, I already feel like I’ve known him forever. Darren Monroe has worked with entertainment companies and musical artists like DreamWorks, MoTown, and Mary J. Blige, and he’s helped market billion dollar films like Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Shrek, and the Fast and Furious series. But he’s also sold products, programs, and services in over 100 countries since launching his online business in 2005. Now, he assists small businesses to monetize, stand out, and market themselves in highly competitive marketplaces. So I wanted to do an interview with Darren where he discusses brand strategy, but with viewpoints, you might not have been exposed to often (if at all). 3:23 - How Darren got started in the entertainment industry and transitioned to online business 9:19 - One of the best things you can do for yourself as an entrepreneur 11:08 - Taking an unconventional path to successfully marketing yourself and your business 16:50 - Why you shouldn’t fear judgment from being authentic (and what being authentic really means) 28:01 - The things that’ll push you to continue and gain you success, no matter how others judge you 31:17 - A way to focus on calling out BS in your industry without victimizing or empowering anyone 37:55 - Darren’s simple but powerful tips for entrepreneurs new to Tik Tok and online marketing   Sell It Like Serhant: How to Sell More, Earn More, and Become the Ultimate Sales Machine by Ryan Serhant Mentioned apps: Motivation, Calm Visit Darren’s website to contact or work with him. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

I can’t wait for you to hear today’s episode! I have a great conversation with my client Katie Soy, a writer and storytelling consultant who helps entrepreneurs and businesses to leverage the power of personal and brand storytelling with persuasive messaging. But her story goes beyond that... She went through a mental health journey that not only helped her with healing but is helping others as well. In this episode, she and I discuss her journey and her series of children’s books that’s created a community of parents and kids wishing to write stories in support of their own mental and emotional health. 3:36 - Katie talks about what propelled her onto her mental healing journey 7:27 - The one thing you can control in your life 10:09 - The story Katie found herself stuck in and the breakthroughs that began the healing process 13:48 - How I helped Katie discover the emotional blocks to continuing her healing 19:57 - Katie discusses what led her to create her book series for kids and how it reflects her journey 24:51 - Some of the most emotional work I’ve done with clients 26:51 - The fun to be found within Katie’s small but mighty community   What Language Is (And What It Isn’t and What It Could Be) by John McWhorter Connect with Katie at her website where you can find her Firefly books and join the Firefly Society. You can also follow her on Instagram. You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

What happened at the Oscars between Chris Rock and Will Smith has had a lot of people talking about trauma response lately and how it can present itself. People pleasing and perfectionism can sometimes (but not always) be trauma responses, or they can be learned behaviors with an extremely frustrating effect on people’s lives. In this episode, I want to talk about these two behaviors/responses and the variety of ways in which they impact people. 2:01 - An example of where people-pleasing tendencies can come from 7:22 - The first thing you’ve got to recognize regarding people-pleasing behavior 8:00 - Examples of where perfectionism can come from 10:02 - The effects of perfectionism I saw on others while living in New England 14:02 - The question to ask yourself if you’re dealing with perfectionism You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

There was a time when I thought “New Age spirituality” was actually relatively new. I also thought the influences of spirituality were just for flowy skirt-wearing, crystal-loving people. My reality and way of thinking growing up didn’t take a kind view towards those types of people, so it’s kind of amazing I’ve gotten into it myself (without the flowing skirts part, though). In this episode, I discuss the woo woo because my spiritual practices impact everything I do. I’ve had big shifts recently that have positively impacted me too, and I can’t wait to share some of those with you as I celebrate this special episode! 3:26 - My journey into “New Age spirituality” and the concept of energy 9:00 - One tool I use myself and sometimes share with clients 11:04 - The most important tool I’ve learned to use for my energy 17:13 - How Human Design is helping me do my best to follow this advice 20:26 - Ways I use crystals and how they help with my energy 22:48 - Some advice if you’re empathic and entering a group setting Get my free guide “3 Ways Becoming a Hypnotist Can Change Your Life” and become the go-to professional in your niche. Masaru Emoto’s books on water Episode 83 with Human Design expert Andrea Niño de Guzmán Numerology Nation: “Angel Number 88: Why It Appears to You” Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Have you ever heard the saying about becoming the average of the five people you spend the most time with? Conversations you hear and engage in with the people around you impact you subconsciously. In part two, I talk about how a short Tik Tok video recently sent me into a crisis of questioning my business approach. It serves as a reminder to be aware of what information you take in as you strive for a successful identity transformation. 2:21 - What you should consume when transforming your identity into one you desire 3:18 - My recent experience on Tik Tok that almost derailed me 7:31 - What social media (and media, in general) is designed to do 9:19 - An underlying belief I commonly see in clients 11:05 - Another common belief among those struggling with success You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Is there a part of you that knows you’re meant for something different or bigger? Or that there’s more possibility for you out there than you can imagine right now? While an identity transformation may not reveal what that is, you can use characteristics of identity to expand your success. In today’s episode, I want to talk about the role of your identity in transforming areas of your life whether that’s in life, business, or relationships (with others or yourself). 2:14 - How identity plays a role in your success 3:47 - One way in which your identity can change (but it doesn’t always work) 5:14 - Why affirmations don’t always work to change your identity either 8:23 - The level of thinking it takes to expand your success 10:45 - How my identity shifted from when I first started my business   Get my free guide “3 Ways Becoming a Hypnotist Can Change Your Life” and become the go-to professional in your niche. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

When you think of stress, do you typically think of work, money, or relationship problems? Most people do, but it goes deeper than that. With so much stress out there right now, both within ourselves and in the world, I want to take the time to talk about it. In this episode, I discuss how stress affects you physically, how you can eliminate it in your life, and why doing so is about more than just checking things off a list. 1:34 - What stress is, good vs. bad stress, and how it affects the body 4:47 - The biggest contributor to stress on the body you probably don’t know about 8:04 - Other environmental factors that contribute to stress 9:44 - The domino effect that can come when your stress response gets triggered 11:59 - A few ways to help eliminate stress in your life You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

It amazes me how many people believe self-doubt disappears with success. They see confident people and don’t believe those types of thoughts creep in. So when you’ve achieved success and it does still come up, it causes frustration and feelings that you’ll never get past it. In this episode, I want to share with you three strategies successful people use to overcome your self-doubt. 2:12 - The link between success, recognition, and self-worth 5:14 - The simple thing you can do once you’re aware of going into self-doubt mode 6:23 - A strategy commonly talked about and practiced in business circles 8:03 - The most important method for silencing your inner self-doubting critic (and one way I put it into practice) 10:14 - RAC and the Olympian-turned-coach who struggled with self-doubt despite doing this Meditations by Marcus Aurelius Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

When most people reach out to me, they’re doing so because they feel blocked around money. Something has happened in the past that’s creating issues around their ability to manifest the money, job, or relationship. As part of the process of working with me, I have people list the benefits of the change they’re looking for which tells me a lot about where we’re starting. And in almost all cases, they’ll list that they want to trust themselves. In this episode, I talk about how that’s not really the problem and expose the deeper issue at play. 4:02 - What you’re really saying if you tell yourself you’re untrustworthy 7:31 - What to ask yourself when lacking self-trust and how to easily release judgment Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

I’m celebrating my birthday with a special guest! Andrea Niño de Guzmán is a transformation catalyst who’s deeply studied everything about the Human Design System and the impact it can have on people’s lives. I recently booked a call with Andrea, and what she told me about my Human Design was clearer to me than all the Youtube videos I’ve watched to learn about the system. In this episode, she discusses what Human Design is, reveals all five energy types, and talks about how the system encourages you to embrace the real you. 3:58 - Overview of what Human Design is and its origins and purpose 8:07 - The five archetypes in the Human Design system 15:45 - How Human Design exposes the conflict with traditional business rules that don’t resonate 21:47 - How the definitions in the system serve as guiding mechanisms for how you relate to others 24:17 - How knowing your Human Design archetype can shed light on certain life situations and allows you to be yourself 30:52 - The two biggest takeaways from this conversation with Andrea Connect with Andrea at her website or on Instagram.  Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Hypnosis has really started gaining traction in the mainstream over the past couple of years. But most people still think of it as a last resort, or only first hear about it as a possibility when they’re desperate for a solution. In this episode, I discuss the misperceptions about hypnosis and why it should be your first choice instead. 1:24 - A common reason why many people hesitate to use hypnosis 2:23 - Some misperceptions about undergoing hypnosis 3:19 - What happens when you put off hypnosis and try everything else first 6:35 - Why hypnosis is an effective way to get beyond your issue(s) 9:08 - How hypnosis gives you freedom to do what you want, the way you want, with healthy boundaries You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Many of us don’t have big swings in emotions. But when we’re happy, we know what it feels like. Happiness exists on a continuum. It doesn’t have a scale, so you can feel various levels of it, from peace and contentment to outright joy. In this episode, I want to talk about happiness and unhappiness so that when you experience the latter, you understand the reason why. I also reveal some ways in which you can move from unhappiness into a more positive state. 2:12 - Why you might take for granted those times you’re in a subtly positive state 2:56 - How our emotions resemble an orchestra 4:43 - What your states of unhappiness are trying to tell you 7:25 - One very common reason for unhappiness and how to avoid it on social media 10:40 - Another way you can end up feeling unhappy and how to start feeling better 12:52 - Three happiness boosters and how they work to brighten your mood National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255 Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/ Do you find yourself working with clients who only make it 80-90% of the way to success, no matter what you do? Get trained to remove subconscious blocks that prevent them from attaining 100% success. Reserve your spot to become a certified, world-class hypnosis coach! Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

While I love everything I talk about on this podcast, today I get to talk about something I love most: hypnosis! Recently, I sent an email out to my list based on questions I’ve received about hypnosis training. But some of the questions that came up surrounded hypnosis itself. So in this episode, I’m just going to run through and hit the high points on a handful of them and clear up some misconceptions along the way. 1:13 - Can you use hypnosis to treat OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder)? 5:28 - Can you use hypnosis to handle forgiveness? Self-Blame? Shame? Guilt? 11:03 - A question one of my graduates gets asked by other people regarding hypnosis 13:14 - What you want and don’t want in any hypnotist you choose to work with 15:48 - What are the qualifications to be a hypnotist? (The answer will surprise you!) For more information on getting my hypnosis training, head here for all the details. Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

A lot has changed since my guest today was last on the show. It was 2020 and Justina Gonzalez was a mom of one, transitioning to work with a company focused on others’ mental wellness, and still evolving to become a leader and coach to others in her industry. Now, as a mom of two, she’s a subconscious sales transformation coach who helps online entrepreneurs craft powerful offers to scale with ease. She’s back on the podcast to dive into where her life and her career has gone since then. In this episode we talk about attachment, limiting beliefs, and other common obstacles that prevent success for you and your business. We also discuss how our work together on uncovering and releasing those hurdles has helped Justina shift the way she approaches marketing and coaching clients. 1:42 - Justina’s gift and how she used it to shift her mental wellness business in a new direction 7:32 - What happens when you place too high a level of attachment on things and forget to have fun 12:44 - What helped Justina take the focus off attachment to results in her coaching business 13:59 - How social media can affect your attachment to money and self-worth 17:04 - The result of Justina identifying and releasing a subconscious money pattern and being in her zone of genius 22:50 - Transparency in how Justina helped me with my retreat offer and expressing the woo-woo side of myself with no apologies 27:05 - Why you should apply your frequency (i.e., energy) to everything you do in business 30:50 - The deep-seated trauma Justina discovered when working with me and how it affected her relationships (both before and after) 36:53 - The most important thing you can do to get what you want Follow Justina on Facebook and listen to episode 11, “Your Internal State is Reflected in Your Business and Relationship -- with Justina Gonzalez”. Book your 90-minute offer optimization call with Justina here and use the code TCPFAM20 to get 20% off. If you are passionate about selling your offer and want to learn how to use subconscious selling to increase your bank account join Justina’s group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/3571236842917208. Curious about working with Justina? Check out her page here: https://justinagonzalez.mykajabi.com/soso-sales-page Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

How do you unplug and de-stress from the day to day stuff that aggravates you? Where do you go, and what do you do? Whether it’s happening in your business, family, or personal life, it can wear you down. And if you let that stress linger for long enough, you begin to normalize and become numb to it... until it hits you in the face in the form of exhaustion, sickness, or something else that really grabs your attention. Self-care is important, but it also has two sides to it because while you need to unplug, you can go to extremes with it too. How’s that possible? In this episode, I use myself as an example to talk about how extreme self-care can become an obstacle to what you want. 3:23 - Two things I became extremely aware of during my own personal COVID crisis 5:50 - The wonderfully surprising thing I learned about my business after being away from it for five weeks 8:52 - How I changed my approach to self-care and stopped using it as a default avoidance mechanism 11:33 - What my self-care morning routine looks like to support my reaching the next level this year 16:15 - Why I don’t talk to my family about my business Aligned Planners from Chelsea Arns Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

How are you doing with your first quarter goals? Whatever your goals are, you start off with so much excitement, momentum, and motivation. But then around this time of year, challenges start showing up and little by little you start putting the brakes on. There’s a lot of reasons why this happens, but in this episode I want to offer some tips to help you get back in control. 2:00 - Explaining some of the neuroscience behind habits 3:46 - What I recommend if you’re running into issue from attempting a huge change 5:54 - How to address your dwindling motivation to keep working toward your goals 7:45 - Why refusal to take action on your goals can be fear-based even if you don’t feel like you’re afraid 12:18 - How I was actually conditioned to go for the struggle in an attempt to keep me safe and secure Episode 72: “The No-Bullsh*t Approach to Dealing With Your Emotions” with Lisa Carpenter Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

You’ve most likely experienced imposter syndrome at some point. It occurs in varying degrees. For some people, it comes as random thoughts. For others, they get caught up in it and have difficulty pushing past it to move forward. I even recently discovered that some people believe you have to live with it all the time. But is that true? In this episode, I talk about imposter syndrome and what it takes to get rid of it once and for all. 1:49 - The crescendo of hurdles that imposter syndrome can trigger 3:48 - Where imposter syndrome thoughts and feelings come from 5:54 - Why affirmations, journaling, etc. might not be enough for you to overcome imposter syndrome 10:03 - How to know if you need to unplant the seed where imposter syndrome took root 12:09 - Why having money and success still doesn’t necessarily eliminate imposter syndrome Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

If you’ve done any personal development work, you know that success in any area of your life can look like anything. Whether it comes to your career, health, relationships and so on, it all begins with your relationship with yourself. So in today’s episode, I want to take the opportunity to share some ways to look at things that’ll help you be more successful in 2022. 1:40 - How the words you say to yourself have the greatest impact on your life 4:58 - Two of the most common ways internal conversations with yourself show up 7:31 - How to break the cycle of overdoing 12:48 - What you can do when negative self-talk repeats itself 17:16 - Where I always encourage people to start when working through their self-talk Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

We make intentions with the arrival of every new year. Soon though, we get distracted or forget about it and lose sight of what it is we want. But sometimes there are things we have to let go of or release before we can move forward. Getting closure opens things up so quickly. A couple of weeks ago, I had a huge shift that helped me get closure. And it’s not something I can really define, but I want to share that experience with you in this episode in hopes that it too gives you some insight or a new way of looking at things. 2:06 - What inspired the huge shift I underwent 4:06 - Asking these three questions gave me some guidance for making the shift 5:25 - Revealing the ultimate message that came through for me 8:40 - Why I’m feeling optimistic about the year ahead despite what others say 10:27 - How to make your own shift for the next phase of your life Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Today is a special day. It’s Thanksgiving Day in the U.S. as I record this, but that’s not why I’m sitting in my office right now. So why did I decide to push the record button today? Because something happened to me a year ago today, something that’s causing me to feel immense gratitude. In this episode, I tell you about what I went through last Thanksgiving and why gratitude is a gift that never goes away. 1:07 - Where I was a year ago on the day of recording this podcast 3:36 - The day when things came to a head and I knew I needed help 5:18 - Why I’m in such a state of gratitude today 6:45 - How gratitude affects the body and is more than just a feeling 8:25 - The true healing power of gratitude 10:03 - How I give the gift of gratitude to myself every day Get on the waitlist for Jim Fortin’s Transformational Coaching Program. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Hello joyful souls! Today, I speak with my dear friend and mentor Lisa Carpenter. She’s a master coach and emotional resiliency expert with a no-bullshit approach to helping you take care of things in your life. And I know that about her personally because two years ago, she called me out on my bull and helped me make a huge change. In this episode, we discuss positivity culture, processing your emotions, and doing so in healthy ways. 2:28 - The cultural influence of toxic positivity 7:40 - What your emotions are really drying you to do 9:25 - The tendency to not allow people, especially women, to feel their emotions 13:42 - How people generally tend to deal with their emotions 18:21 - The difference between living in your past emotions versus excavating the past 21:17 - Misconceptions people have about the goal of attaining happiness 24:50 - Tools that help Lisa process her emotions Connect with Lisa at her website, on Instagram, and listen to her podcast. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

What are you giving to the world this holiday season? What do you give to the world every day? You’re giving something. You’re giving through the things you teach others whether it’s about yourself, the world, or what’s possible with every conversation and interaction. In this episode, I discuss the effect that your words and actions can have on the world around you. 1:43 - How your words and actions can cause a negative ripple effect 3:57 - How your acts of kindness can cause a positive ripple effect 4:56 - The positive effect you still have even when acting kindly towards those who don’t appreciate it 7:35 - My challenge to you this holiday season Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Think about the biggest thing you want to have in your life. That can look different for every person. Some want to attain wealth and security. Others want a relationship while others are on a journey of self-discovery. You have free will and get to choose. In this episode, I share some of my thoughts around changing your baseline emotional state to get what you want out of life. 2:05 - What has the greatest impact on how you choose to feel about life 3:28 - How your limbic system works in response to your emotions 5:29 - How you can change the strongest neural pathways in your brain to support peace and calm in your life 8:56 - What to say to yourself every morning to begin to positively program your mind 10:44 - What to do when something happens that triggers an emotional response Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

In last week’s episode, I talked about the role society plays in instigating the darkest moments where we question the point of our lives, our careers, etc. In it, I promised to discuss how to disengage and disassociate from that mindset in a healthy way. So today, I reveal the secret to having the happiness and joy you deserve. 0:39 - The secret to finding your happiness and joy within 2:25 - How I learned this valuable lesson a couple of years ago 3:53 - The choice you get to make every day 4:28 - Your challenge when you see other people’s portrayals of success 6:24 - How to create the best standards for yourself Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

In an episode with Ella Mae a few weeks back, we talked about the dark night of the soul. It’s the place our mind goes to when we question why we do what we do and if it even matters what we do. You could be a gazillionaire entrepreneur, a stay-at-home parent, a celebrity, or a college student still trying to find direction--it’ll still hit you at certain points in your life like a ton of bricks. So in this short episode, I talk a little about what influences us to have these moments. 2:01 - Society’s role in our “dark night of the soul” moments 3:33 - What you see isn’t the full picture 5:46 - Why carefully curated images create impossible standards even for the people at the center of them 6:57 - Seeing the same pattern in some of clients as the late Zappos CEO 8:40 - What’s coming up the next week and what I want you to do with this bite-sized episode Episode 64: “Moving From a Business That Doesn’t Matter to Happiness Through Peace with Ella J Mae” Do you find yourself working with clients who only make it 80-90% of the way to success, no matter what you do? Get trained to remove subconscious blocks that prevent them from attaining 100% success. Reserve your spot to become a certified, world-class hypnosis coach! Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

If you’ve listened to my show before, you’re going to hear something different from what you’re used to today. Usually, I avoid discussing politics and world events on the podcast because it’s antithesis to my goal of creating expansion for you through a higher vibration that keeps you open to possibility. But today, I want to address the elephant in the room that’s only grown larger over the last couple of years... not just in the U.S. but worldwide. Ultimately, though, this episode is about possibility and showing our fellow human beings love, kindness, and compassion to create the better world we all want to obtain. 3:21 - Where our attention, as a global society, needs to be 4:54 - What is not your (or anyone else’s) business 7:55 - How your mind can be easily influenced (and yes, manipulated) 10:11 - The best thing you can do to reduce your chances of being influenced or manipulated 11:49 - Ways in which we’re all more alike than different 13:40 - Elevate or destroy ourselves: which path will you choose? Do you find yourself working with clients who only make it 80-90% of the way to success, no matter what you do? Get trained to remove subconscious blocks that prevent them from attaining 100% success. Reserve your spot to become a certified, world-class hypnosis coach! Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Have you ever found yourself putting in a lot of effort, energy, and time to sort out why something is an issue in your life? Wondering why you make certain choices or repeat some patterns? Then I want you to listen up, because looking for the why behind your actions can become your quicksand as you attempt to move forward in your life. 4:30 - What happens when someone asks, “Why...” 5:50 - What to ask yourself instead of “Why...” 7:30 - Identifying where we can work things out ourselves, and where we need support  9:25 - If you’re stuck in your stories, you’re not who you are today, you’re who you were yesterday. 15:45 - What to ask yourself to get to where you want to be You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your subconscious blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Going on a spiritual journey involves all sorts of interesting facets. You learn about awareness, managing your attention, living in the present moment, and realizing that there are energies that influence our thoughts, actions, experiences, and perceptions of the world. Some people walk a little on the woo woo side in their journeys, and for all my practicality, I do too. I even work with a shaman!  So today, I’ve invited onto the show a modern medicine woman, Sand Symes. Sand is a shamanic practitioner, seer, transformational coach, and pioneer of ancestral healing journeys who acts as a bridge between the spiritual and physical realms. In this episode, she discusses the development of her gift and how her work centers on supporting the healing of wounds we women carry from our ancestral line. * This page contains affiliate links. I earn from qualifying purchases and will be awarded a small commission at no extra cost to you in the event of a sale. * 2:56 - The childhood incident that caused Sand’s gift of seeing beyond the senses to go away for awhile 5:15 - What convinced Sand to seek out teachers who’d help her better understand what she was seeing 7:48 - Sand discusses the process of “hollowing herself out” and starting her shamanic practitioner journey 14:00 - Why Jesus, by definition, was actually a shaman and how the core of every religion is the same 21:32 - How to start eliminating some of the initial negative emotion you feel when triggered by an event 27:20 - Why you should consider incorporating a consistent spiritual practice 31:25 - How Sand takes women on a journey of embodying spiritual practices and resolving ancestral wounds Connect with Sand at her website. Download her free manifestation gift and join her Radical Visionary Mastermind or Sovereignty Blueprint programs. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Today, I’m coming to you from Sedona, Arizona where I’ve wrapped up my Ultimate Alignment retreat. This powerful week helped expose the effect of others' energy on us and how we get so caught up in the world around us that we become unaware of our own energy. So in this episode, I discuss some everyday tools to help you manage how you feel, show up in life, and connect with the energy within so that you can have a deeper sense of peace. 2:31 - The power of becoming aware of your own energy 5:00 - How I teach others to become aware of energy 6:01 - The realization one person at the retreat had about their lifetime of experiencing nausea and headaches 6:54 - How being able to go within changes your perception about yourself 8:28 - The check-in to give yourself every day, not matter what you’re doing 9:45 - Other things to keep in mind as you practice awareness about everything Watch Camden Hoch’s Yin Yoga Sequence on YouTube. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Can you think back to a time when you had to redo something or start over, and it turned out better than you could’ve ever imagined? I tried recording this interview with Ella Mae last week, but a case of the internet lag gremlins caught us in the middle of our conversation and caused us to reschedule it. I’m glad for the do-over, though, because despite a great discussion the first time around, the interview this time went exactly where it needed to go. Ella is an expert at helping people bring their offers into the world, from ideation to launch, and helping them scale what’s working and fix what isn’t. She’s undergone a period of struggle with work and life perspective and come out on the other side. In this episode, we discuss this “dark night of the soul” period and the insights and takeaways she’s experienced in the two years we’ve known each other. 1:49 - How Ella went from copywriter to entrepreneur 8:31 - How societal expectations and norms can lead to building a life you hate 11:00 - The wake-up call on work (and life) many entrepreneurs experience but don’t talk about 16:27 - How to know when your thoughts slip into truly suicidal territory so you can get help 20:12 - What triggered my depression and struggle with suicidal thoughts 22:52 - Ella starting to come out of her “dark night of the soul” phase with a simple way to forgive herself 27:06 - How working with me served as a turning point for Ella 32:48 - Learning how to truly feeling appreciation in your body 38:41 - Why Ella thinks TV (and media generally) has screwed so many of us over National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 Connect with Ella on Instagram or Clubhouse. You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Imagine growing up in communist eastern Europe with an unflattering perspective about people in the west. Then as a teenager, you immigrate to the U.K. and suddenly your outlook gets turned around on its head. My guest Dessy Tslova has had to overcome culture, media, and so-called acceptable social norms from her native Bulgaria to be the creative entrepreneur she is today. She loves fashion and design and has really come a long way over the years working with me, but I’ll let her tell you her story. You’re sooo gonna want to tune into this episode! 1:51 - What it was like growing up in communist Europe and getting exposed to Western culture 4:57 - Some of the biggest challenges Dessy faced when exploring fashion as a money-making endeavor 9:59 - How entrepreneurship felt for Dessy after she went solo 13:39 - A discovery Dessy made since becoming a parent that used to hold her back 15:59 - How Dessy got past her conditioning about seeking help to work with me 23:31 - Dessy describes how her mentality is stronger these days 24:26 - The negative consequences of following the old adage “forgive and forget” 30:01 - The pandemic-related evolution that’s transforming Dessy’s life right now Have you read up on mindset hacks, tips, and tricks but have yet to get the results you want? With The Mindset Myth, you’ll discover the real reason you’re not getting the breakthroughs that others enjoy. Download your copy of The Mindset Myth here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Setting goals with a strategic plan of action to achieve them is part of designing your destiny. You’re unlikely to succeed if you don’t know where you’re going or have a plan to get there. So today, I’ve brought on a special guest to talk about effective goal setting so you can achieve the life of your dreams. ALoN David came to the U.S. in 1995 with nothing but his own ambition and determination to make something of his life. After years of trying and failing with other people’s planners and systems, he created the ultimate goal setting system: the 90X® Planner which has helped many other entrepreneurs set and achieve their goals. In this episode, he covers the core fundamentals and principles behind his approach to planning and goal setting. 3:05 - The first thing you need to do before you create a product 4:30 - A better way to write down your goal 6:50 - Why you need to go deeper into your reason for achieving your goal 8:26 - Why you want to focus on “what” instead of “how” 12:24 - Other core principles that matter for achieving your goals 16:32 - Why the goal itself really doesn’t matter 19:50 - How to know when it’s time to work on the bigger picture 22:04 - How Alon coaches people around implementing his planner to achieve their goals Connect with ALoN at his website or on Instagram. You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

You’ve heard me talk about comfort zones and growth before on this podcast. Today I want to expand a bit on last week’s episode and talk specifically about identity. When you shed your old identity, it can bring about discomfort and emotion. You can feel out of sorts, even ungrounded. In this episode, I discuss identity upleveling and the uncertainty that arises as you shift into a new personal, professional, or spiritual being. 1:36 - What happens to your brain and your body as you experience uncertainty 2:57 - How your brain starts changing from the time you’re born 3:42 - Examples of how your mind can struggle to process shifting into a new professional identity 7:20 - The way our society can create discomfort around your desire to change identity 8:38 - The emotional impact of your personal connections when forming a new spiritual identity 11:21 - How I work with my clients on identity upleveling   Have you read up on mindset hacks, tips, and tricks but have yet to get the results you want? With The Mindset Myth, you’ll discover the real reason you’re not getting the breakthroughs that others enjoy. Download your copy of The Mindset Myth here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Taking on the journey to become a better version of you is never an easy path. If you have been on the verge of giving up and going back to where you started, let me tell you that the "new and improved you" is well worth the fight. There is no fast track to creating the life that suits you best, but you can learn to get on a steady habit of eliminating the elements that hinder your progress. If you want to know more, I am more than happy to share with you exactly how to get started on creating the life you desire.  1:54 - Creating a new identity  2:28 - How to use intuitive gifts to create opportunities 3:11 - The story of how I became a different person since I changed my career path 5:08 - What holds us back from becoming better 5:31 - How not to get stuck between the past and the future 8:31 - The importance of surrounding yourself with the right people  9:49 - What do you need to let go of to be who you want to be Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

I’m back with another special guest to help your kids cope with the stress of school and COVID. Marie Cancellieri is a personal transformation coach and master tapping practitioner with 20 years of educator experience. She loves serving parents, teens, and pre-teens, and her mission involves giving overwhelmed and stressed families the tools to address their emotional well-being. In this episode, she talks about using her #1 stress reduction tool to help you get out of whatever’s holding you back or keeping you stuck. 2:25 - Why tapping was the missing piece Marie needed for her business and classroom 5:31 - What you’ll learn very quickly as a teacher if you don’t validate your students’ feelings 9:54 - How Marie empowers parents to speak to their teen or tween about boundaries 14:40 - Marie reveals the principle behind tapping 16:14 - Walkthrough of a tapping strategy you can use to help empower your child 21:13 - Marie offers her biggest takeaway for parents Connect with Marie at her website or on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I’d love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.