In this episode, I am sharing a powerful and emotional interview with Maddi Kolberg. Maddi is a mother, writer, nature lover and a true warrior.  Maddi is sharing her daugher’s story, Lux-Ember and how they have been searching for answers, being an advocate for her family all while navigating something most of us will never fully understand. I would love and appreciate it if you would please share Maddi’s story and if you feel called to her daughter’s Go Fund Me link is below.  Please keep this family in your prayers. Connect with Maddi:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_maddi_kolberg/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/the.madison.martin Go Fund Me Page: https://bit.ly/3NYu1NKMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am joined by Tom Glaser.  Tom is Licensed Psychologist and Life coach with over 35 years of experience, Tom is also a bestselling author and yoga instructor. His book, “Full Heart Living: Conversations with the Happiest People I Know,” is an amazon.com bestseller. Whether counseling, writing, or teaching, his passion for helping people live their best lives flows through. In this episode we discuss: 1)  Tom’s life experience from trauma to triumph, what trauma can mean in the body, what triumph means and how to search for triumph every day.  2) What full heart living is, how to embrace it, be vulnerable to build connections and relationships and how all of our past stories lead us to where we are and who we are in our life today. 3)  The gift of trauma, how we need to stand up for ourselves first, feel what we need to feel before we can see the situation differently.  Learning to shift perspective, see the story from a different light, have compassion or empathy means allowing ourselves to feel the feelings first. The more we heal ourselves the more we have the ability to share our lessons with others and help them to heal too. Connect with TomEmail:  [email protected]: www.fullheartliving.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/fullheartliving/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fullheartliving LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tom-glaser-69774910/ Tom’s book is available at https://www..fullheartliving.com “Full Heart Living: Conversations with the Happiest People I Know”  Relationship Building Game: "Full Heart Living Conversation Sparks" Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode, part 5 of this series on how to heal and own your story, I am sharing some thoughts on how to own your presence and own your future.   We started with owning your past, owning your emotions, owning the path to forgiveness, owning your choices and now to wrap it up it is owning your presence to own your future. In this episode we discuss:1) The most reliable way to predict the future is to create it.  Learning to stay in the present moment, not spiral and focus on what you need every single day to be your best self. 2) Take a regular inventory of what you need every single day and believe in your worth to give yourself what you need to be your best self.3)  Know that the big ideas that tap you on the shoulder are for you.  You are worth of the ideas, of the tap long before the tap. 4)  Below I am sharing the Hypnosis/Subliminals Bundle that includes many of the tools that I use to support my own healing and subconscious reprogramming. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmHypnosis/Subliminals Bundles for Leaders in Life and Businesshttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/56vXSnx9 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing a coaching clip from one of my programs.  It was all about our thoughts, our subconscious programming and how we tend to plan for the worst case scenario.  When we plan for lack, for the shoe to drop, we create that reality.  The In this episode we discuss:1)  Where you are spending your energy, time and resources in planning for the worst case scenario. 2) How can you look for proof in your experience, for what you have overcome to show that you are more than capable to deal with whatever shoe might drop in your future? 3) Below I am sharing the link for the Hypnosis Bundles that I am releasing as a birthday bundle special.  These NLP activations are all available in the Rising Leaders Collective, and if you are not a member, you can purchase the collection separately to work on reprogramming your own subconscious thoughts. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmHealing to Own Your Story (April Program)https://www.marshavanw.com/healingforward Hypnosis & Subliminal Bundle for Leaders in Life and Businesshttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/56vXSnx9 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am joined with Mindset & Success Coach, Kelly-Anne Appleton. As a self-proclaimed “seeker” Kelly-Anne has spent the last 20 years of her life on a quest to learn to love and understand herself. After years of personal growth and healing she finally happened on material that reinforced and solidified her belief that everything she was searching for was inside her. In 2020 she became certified in that work through the Proctor-Gallagher Institute. As an empathetic and intuitive Mindset & Success Coach, she is passionate about helping others to transform their lives through this work, to break patterns, to uncover their power, to create a life they love, and to truly know they are worthy of all good things.In this episode we discuss: 1) What the law of attraction is and isn’t.  How we can create some simple shifts to create change in your mindset, thoughts and beliefs. 2) Identifying some of the blocks you might have when it comes to the law of attraction and how to learn to recognize and shift these blocks to create change in your life. 3) Kelly-Anne has a 3 part masterclass coming up in the beginning of April all on the Law of Attraction and how to implement it in your life. Connect with Kelly-AnneFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/kellyanne.appleton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/appletonkellyanne Email: [email protected] the masterclass: https://bit.ly/3iCqyWNJoin the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcm Join Healing Forward: https://www.marshavanw.com/healingforward Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, part 4 of this series on how to heal and own your story, I am sharing some thoughts on how to own your choices.  The irony of this topic is not lost on me, the name of this podcast is Own Your Choices Own Your Life, in case you forgot what you were listening to, and it is not ironic to me that it was the words choices, own your choices, radical responsibility that changed my life.  I love that without knowing it years ago, before I had a business, that I named this podcast by this title.  This is a mantra that has shifted everything for me. So far we have unpacked the process of healing and owning our past and owning our emotions, and this episode we are talking all about owning our choices. In this episode we discuss:1)  What does the word owning and choices mean, how can we unpack them and see that we are and how we have living these words in our life.  Words can have different meanings and depending on where we are in our journey it makes a difference. Words can be triggering or expanding and it reflects where we are in our journey. 2) By owning all of our decisions, that might feel like a lot of responsibility, but we can also take back a lot of our own personal power.  Set reasonable goals, interrupt your patterns that are not serving you, flip the script, be kind and compassionate with yourself. Create a mantra to interrupt your pattern and disrupt the thought process.  The faster you can catch yourself and disrupt the pattern or flip the script the faster you can create change. 3) Create a mantra to call yourself out on your own BS when you are not living up to your own choices.  4) Recognize why you are making the choices you are making.  Is it to impress someone else? Is it to meet the expectations for someone else; to not disappoint someone else, as a people pleaser, or a martyr.  Ask what your choice is? Allow yourself to make a decision or choice and know that you will make mistakes, but this only gives you feedback to make a different choice next time. 5) Go internally, ask if your decisions are actually moving you in the direction of what you want to create in your life?  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmHealing to Own Your Story:https://www.marshavanw.com/healingforward Owning Your Choices Collaborative Book:https://amzn.to/3sRF1UZMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing a coaching analogy that recently occurred.  A client was asking how to overcome the hurt, anger, frustration of others' behaviours and I gave her an analogy about recognizing that everything is energy and we get to decide how much energy we give to something or someone at any point in time.  The In this episode we discuss:1)  Look at your energy as a piggy bank, what are your daily deposits and withdrawals, and are you doing way more withdrawals than deposits? 2)  If energy is money, how much money are you spending on people, circumstances and situations that are literally bleeding your piggy bank dry? 3) What if you love your piggy bank enough to value the money (or deposits) that go in and out every single day? Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmHealing to Own Your Story Healing ForwardMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am joined with Business Coach & Community Leader, Mariangelica Forero.  Mariangelica is the CEO and founder of Honest Hustle and The Honest Hustle Club, a community of heart-centered and inspiring entrepreneurs. Through a mindset-strategy approach, she supports driven entrepreneurs in building a business and life that is aligned to them. Mariangelica brings real-talk and honest conversations to the table on resilience, mindset, and growing a successful business no matter your current circumstances!  She encourages her community to show up fully in life and business, believe in their worth, and aim for goals higher than what society has said they’re allowed to.In this episode we discuss: 1) The importance of pulling your story into your business.  It helps to share who you are, what you are creating, why it is important to you, and what legacy you are creating.  So many times we forget to share these parts of ourselves with others. 2) How valuable communities are, and containers that foster community. Working through the experiences and lessons of embracing change, mindset, resilience and the concept of gratitude and abundance.  3) Learning what it is to truly be grateful, and how this is a process that comes from actually seeing both sides of the coin.  Having and actually experiencing the times of not having and what that looks like.  Those experiences of not having truly do show us how to be and how to practice gratitude.  Abundance is also being grateful for where we are and choosing to want to build more.  Connect with Mariangelica Email: [email protected]: https://www.honesthustle.caInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/honest.hustle/ Work with Mariangelica:I offer a free Manifestation and Affirmation Calendar on the first of every month. I would encourage listeners to get on the list to receive it and allow the journal prompts, affirmations and 5 minute activities to help you continue to dig into a better understanding of yourself. They can get this on my website at www.honesthustle.ca/calendar and well as connecting with me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/honest.hustle/ Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing a bonus episode on the steps to healing to own your story.  There were previous episodes on owning your past, your emotions and your choices and as I broke it down, it became clear that an episode on forgiveness was a must.  There are a ton of definitions on forgiveness and here I am sharing messages that hit home for me and have helped me to move forward, forgive and let go. One definition of forgiveness by Iyanla Vanzant is, “Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is simply denying your pain the right to control your life." Today I want to share some points on forgiveness that literally changed my life many years ago and I still continue to use these tools today.  In this episode we discuss:  1) The difference between wounds and scars and what are they doing to you, or how are they affecting you in your life? Acknowledge it to own it to change it, not to place blame on someone else. 2) “Until you heal the wounds of your past, you are going to bleed.  You can bandage that bleeding with alcohol, drugs, food, unhealthy items, but eventually it will all ooze through and stain your life.  You must find the strength to open the wounds up, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in the past, the memories and make peace with them.” Iyanla Vanzant.  3) Start somewhere small, identify something you have been holding onto and how that has or has not been serving you. Acknowledge, consider the hurt, the pain and look at how it has affected you in your life.  Next, accept what you cannot change, and observe your own reactions to your behaviour with no judgment. Decide if you agree to forgive this person and if you are ready to move away as a victim, this situation etc?  Recognize what this behaviour is doing to you and your life?4)  Acknowledge your emotions about the harm done to you and how they affect your behavior, and work to release them. Ask yourself what can you learn from the experience? Literally let it go, through subliminal, NLP tools or subconscious reprogramming, this requires healing, and mantras to disrupt your pattern that isn’t serving you and is allowing you to hold onto this energy.  How can you repair this situation, circumstance and not let it hold you back? 5) Give yourself grace, compassion and respect that every single relationship is a reflection of your relationship with yourself.  You go first. Repair, learn, forgive, and continue to rinse and repeat as much as necessary. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmDisrupt Your Default Patterns (10 day program starting in March, last chance to join)https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/5zycUk2V Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing a quick episode on one of my favourite quotes by Joseph Campbell.  “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”  You are holding the key, even though or especially when it doesn't feel like you do.  You hold the keys. Now ask yourself if you are willing to use them?  The In this episode we discuss:1)  What are you avoiding?  Money, relationships, things you know aren’t working for you?  I like to look at that as a cave.  Sometimes we can hate entering that cave every single day, and those days we have to sit back and remind ourselves that we have the keys. We are either freeing ourselves or locking ourselves in the cave. 2)  The courage we are looking for comes from entering the cave. That simple,  Do the thing and build your courage every time you enter the cave.  Even standing and staring at the cave is wasting energy. The very cave you are afraid to enter turns out to be the source of what you are looking for.3) “We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” Joseph CampbellJoin the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmHealing to Own Your Story (April Program)**LINKMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode, part 2 of this series on how to heal and own your story, I am sharing some thoughts on how to own your emotions.  There is a big distinction here between the words of owning and controlling your emotions.  I never love the word controlling, we aren’t robots, we are feeling, moving, emotional human beings.  I think we can identify, break down and take responsibility for our emotions.  This process requires curiosity, listening, not judging, not resenting, acceptance, empathy, compassion and understanding.  Learning how to own our emotions, our responses, our triggers is one key way in how we can change how we respond instead of reacting towards different experiences that trigger these emotions. In this episode:1) Learning how to identify your emotions, what your triggers, patterns and responses are can teach you a lot about yourself.  Learning how to recognize your emotional patterns, what you are feeling and not focusing on controlling it, and Identifying these feelings, getting curious, journaling and unpacking them is how you can learn to heal and change these responses. 2) By approaching your emotions with curiosity, empathy, and acceptance, you can shift the focus from criticizing yourself or building a case against someone else to understanding yourself and taking actions that are more in line with what you want, thereby recognizing you have more power in your life than you think. 3) Own and take responsibility for your feelings, and when you are learning to speak or communicate them with others, learn to speak in the first person, not in a defensive manner of what others are doing wrong.  Blaming others is projecting responsibility on other people. This does not lead to change. 4) If you have been told to continuously bury your emotions, suck it up, throw it under the rug, and stop complaining, this can be a really difficult process for you to work through.  Suppression does not work, it is a band aid approach that does not lead to lasting change. Looking for professional help can be a huge source of support. Also the power of subconscious reprogramming can help to heal limiting thoughts, behaviours in order to change them moving forward. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode I am sharing a really quick episode on a quote that recently hit home for me. The quote was by Brad Bizjack and he said, “There are people in your life who will not become the best version of themselves until you decide to become the best version of yourself”  So after reading that quote, let yourself imagine who is waiting for you to go first?  In this episode we discuss:1)  What if the people we can impact the most and the people who can impact our life the most are the people we haven't met yet. That shifts our mindset for how we show up.  Even when it comes to posting on social media, I send that post out and bless and release it, knowing it will support the people it is meant to. 2)  How do you need to go first?  What is working, what is not working?  How can you look back and see how this has proven true in your life? 3)  What are you waiting for? Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmDisrupt Your Default Patterns (10 day program starting in March, last chance to join)https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/5zycUk2V Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

Today we are speaking with Energetic Business Coach, Kari Russell.  Kari is an audacious 5/1 Sacral Generator, teaching her clients how to lead with their energy and intuition forward. Through mastering her own energetics in Human Design, Kari has built a thriving multiple six figure coaching business rooted in deep power & freedom.  Through her own rapid expansion, Kari is leading other women to create next level wealth and liberation. Kari’s signature coaching style fuses Human Design, Mindset Work, Emotional Intelligence, Spirit and Self-Expression to help her clients unlock wealth and build their business their way!In this episode we discussed: 1)  Understanding and learning about Human Design, it’s never about being in a box, it is about owning and embracing who we are.  Go to Kari’s facebook group for a free masterclass on learning about your design type and authority. 2) The meaning of triggers, how we can shift the understanding of it and how to see our triggers as expanders.  We dove into the women who can be and are expanders in our life. 3) The meaning of fear, how to recognize it, how to shift it and use it as a compass in our life.  Kari shared how our best strategy for anything in our business is to understand our energy and how it can work for us instead of against us. Connect with KariInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/karirussellcoaching Facebook: https://facebook.com/groups/wildlyaudaciousactivated Listen to Kari’s Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/wildly-audacious/id1574497199 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing some thoughts on how to own your past.  This may seem counterproductive since we are always told to stay in the present moment, but have you ever thought about how much energy, time, thoughts, are spent replaying your past?  It is not as simple as just moving forward or ignoring those feelings that are wrapped up in your past stories.  We have all spent years pushing things under the rug and we know that doesn’t work.  What if instead we learn how to own our past and spend the time healing it in order to bring out our best self forward into our future? In this episode we discuss:1)  Our current life is a result of all of our past actions, choices, and experiences and our future is determined by the meaning of those stories, how we act in the present moment and not letting it define us in the future. 2)  Perspective is everything.  The story only has the meaning that you give it and learning to remain more neutral, more forgiving as opposed to judging your past, will help to put it all into perspective.  3)  Where can you acknowledge and accept the past you cannot change. This is the serenity prayer in that serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.  This is where perspective can improve from, recognizing what we can control. Where can you forgive yourself or others for what your past stories are?  4) With perspective, acknowledgment, acceptance, forgiveness, surrender and owning what was yours to control, you will be able to see how life has happened to help you become who you are today.  If you don’t own it it owns you. 5) NLP techniques and subconscious reprogramming is one key tool to heal your limiting beliefs, from hypnosis, subliminals, EFT Tapping and other NLP techniques it will help you to heal and own your past stories. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmDisrupt Your Default Patterns (10 day program starting in March, last chance to join)https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/5zycUk2V Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing 4 tips to improve your ability to receive.  Everyone wants to increase their feelings of abundance, increase their wealth, financial freedom, yet without the ability to receive what is already available in front of us, we will never hold more abundance. Receiving and giving are two sides of the same coin, and for many giving is easier than receiving.  Today I want to share the 4 key steps to receiving. In this episode we discuss:1)  Identifying the 4 blocks, people pleaser, hider, fighter or victim, and unpacking our responses, triggers and how this shows up in our lives.  Working through the NLP techniques, this requires healing this story and then shifting to seeing it all differently.  I invite you to take the Story Blocks Quiz, https://www.marshavanw.com/story-blocks 2) Identify what receiving means to you? Do you see that as a sign of weakness to ask for help?  Are you judging yourself for asking for help?  If you receive help does it mean that you can’t do it yourself? And does that interfere with your belief about independence? Be honest and break down the meaning of the word receiving, and how would your life change if you changed the definition of the word receiving? 3)  Practice every single day starting with the small things, when someone compliments you, says thank you and means it.  Don’t deflect, push it away or throw back a compliment to take the attention off of you, practice receiving it. 4) Let go of judgements, and give freely with no attachments or expectations of what you want or expect to receive.  The attachments or expectations only hurt you and block you from receiving what is available for you. 5) Identify your own self-worth stories, opinions or limitations because this is holding you back more than you may realize.  Receiving takes practice, consistency, repetition and NLP subconscious pre-programming tools.  Wherever you are blocking yourself in one area, you are blocking yourself in all areas of receiving.  This requires you to practice being present, recognizing your default patterns, Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmDisrupt Your Default Patterns (10 day program starting in early March)https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/5zycUk2V Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

Today we are speaking with Author Peyton Garland. Peyton is a writer, wanna-be rapper, and coffee shop hopper who loves connecting people to a grace much bigger than expected. Her debut book, Not so by Myself, was promoted by Former White House Press Secretary Dana Perino and endorsed by TED Talk speaker and creator of the More Love Letters movement, Hannah Brencher. She lives in Colorado with her husband, Josh (JG), and their two gremlin dogs, Alfie and Daisy.In this episode we discuss: 1) The shift from perfection to grace and how this was initiated by a good friend who gave Peyton permission to ask for help and support which led to 3 different diagnosis from a mental health professional. This opened the door to letting go of bitterness and perfectionism which led to embracing the term grace. 2) We spoke about shame, the weight of it, how to shift from it and the doors it opened in Peyton’s life when she learned to shift from perfection to grace. 3) The power of holding the door open for the people behind you.  Once you have learned the lessons, they have changed your life, learning how to pay that forward to impact others, shorten their learning curve and be a source of support is how we can continue to hold that door open for others. Connect with PeytonWebsite: https://peytongarland.squarespace.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/peytonmgarlandauthor Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/peytonmgarland Email: [email protected]’s book: Not so by Myself , https://amzn.to/3GaBK6oNot so by Myself Study Companion Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode I am sharing the concepts of recognizing our default patterns.  These are the deep patterns, shadows or limiting beliefs that we have held onto for years.  Most of these default patterns might help to keep us safe especially if we came through times of trauma and these were our methods of protecting ourselves.  These patterns protect us during times of stress but there comes a point where it doesn’t help us in our current lives and we aren’t living under that same trauma, so we don’t need these behaviours.  It is also understanding the power of our limiting beliefs and how they spill into all areas of our lives and we can’t outwork or outmuscle our limiting beliefs.  It involves recognizing the repeat patterns, learning from them and then creating an opposite choice or decision.In this episode we discuss:1)  Identifying the 4 blocks, people pleaser, hider, fighter or victim, and unpacking our responses, triggers and how this shows up in our lives.  Working through the NLP techniques, this requires healing this story and then shifting to seeing it all differently.  This is the power to disrupt our patterns in order to change our responses. I invite you to take the Story Blocks Quiz, https://www.marshavanw.com/story-blocks 2) The shadows and patterns never go away.  Our reaction to them changes. It’s important to recognize that shadows will always continue to be present, and to not resist them.  When we resist them we judge them and that only keeps us stuck in this downward spiral. 3) In order to consciously change your conscious behaviours or patterns, it starts by healing the subconscious mind first and recognizing that it is part of you.  Instead of fighting and resisting it, recognize those patterns as an old friend who was simply trying to keep you safe. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmDisrupt Your Default Patterns (10 day program starting in early March on presale now)https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/SC4BdKTM Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode I am sharing the concepts of can you show up when no one is there to cheer you on?  Can you show up for 1 person and hold space when you truly were hoping for 10? We must grow into the capacity to hold space for others whether it is in life or business.  This ties into the message that we have to follow our gut, our dreams and our desires long before we see them come to life.  In this episode we discuss:1) Can you first show up for yourself every day to follow your dreams and desires?  When the vision drops or the dream is tapped on your shoulder, can you follow through when there’s no proof of what it will look like or unfold?  This is how the podcast and my book started, following up on the mission I was meant to create, with no clue how it would unfold. 2) What do you do when no one shows up, no one is supporting you, or it feels like no one is believing in you?  Can you show up in those times? 3) The importance of being neutral, not letting the highs be too high and not letting the no’s be too low.  The story only ever has the meaning that we give it so it is up to us to decide what meaning we are giving it.  This work is done by recognizing our default patterns. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmDisrupt Your Default Patterns (10 day program starting in early March on presale now)https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/SC4BdKTM Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we are speaking with Author and Addictions expert, John Giordano. John has gone through incredible life transformation, from the stigma of childhood sexual abuse, homelessness and severe addiction to being a renowned addiction expert with 36 years of sobriety.  He started his own holistic treatment center with only $300 which he eventually sold for $45,000,000. Currently he is a published author of 3 books, including his latest book 'The Kid From The South Bronx Who Never Gave Up'  and is the Chaplain for the North Miami Police Department. In this episode we discuss: 1) Why there is only a 5-8% recovery rate for the typical addiction treatment programs. John breaks down lots of details on the current models and why he created a different recovery model that didn’t exist at the time. 2) TRT, Trauma Release Technique, that John created to help support people through their traumas to create long lasting change. 3) The resilience factor and how no matter how many challenges John faced, he chose to never give up.  His mission and purpose became so much larger than him and he continued to set out to support others in dealing with their addictions. Connect with JohnWebsite: https://www.JohnJGiordano.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-giordano-45648662 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/john.giordano.3958 Buy John’s book on Amazon: The Kid From the South Bronx Who Never Gave Uphttps://amzn.to/3reSGEq Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode I am talking about perfectionism and how it is a 20 ton block that we hold onto to keep ourselves “safe, protected and we believe unaffected by the potential opinions and judgements of others.”  As Brene Brown says, “If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism or blame.” Perfectionism is a learned behaviour that typically comes from childhood and a lot of times it is a block that we use to keep ourselves from being hurt, yet all it is doing is keeping us from being seen.  In this episode we discuss: 1) I am a recovering perfectionist and perfectionism/fighter is one of the 4 blocks I refer to when it comes to owning our stories.  The others are victim, hider and people pleaser. If you want to take the free Blocks to Owning Your Story Quiz, https://www.marshavanw.com/story-blocks2) I used to wear perfectionism as a badge of honour, thinking it was because I was a striver, I worked hard, I had a level of excellence that I expected of myself.  When actually healthy striving is self-focused in “how can I improve”, whereas perfectionism is other focused, “what will they think”?  I wanted others to see that I could do x,y,z, and it also allowed me to fly under the radar from a young age, and not be the source of issues, problems, or growing up long before I needed to.  I thought this pressure was helping me and it did for many reasons, until it didn’t. 3) This became a very self-destructive pattern of behaviour that literally blew up once we started dealing with teen substance abuse and I was living the complete opposite of a perfect life.  “When perfectionism is driving us, then shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver.” Brene Brown. I was living in shame, feeling not good enough, feeling that I didn't want to be seen, yet all I deeply craved was connection and being seen. 4) This pattern went on repeat until I couldn’t do it any longer.  It no longer worked and I was blocking myself from being seen, from receiving support, from connection, from the people who have since impacted my life, and from setting up for the work I am doing now.  I learned how to shift this through the writing process.  There are no authors published who are perfectionists, it’s not doable. As soon as I set down my shield, I was able to live my life, truly live it. I am not sure where I would be if I didn't because the research shows that perfectionism is the path to depression, anxiety, addiction and life paralysis. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Values in Life and Business in presale right now for $333, will be $777https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/UAzksMtn Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode I am sharing the concepts of learning to hold more and not carry in.  This concept hit me when I was working through some negative feedback, challenging dm’s, people asking for support and so much doubt about how to show up.  I have spent the last 9 months learning more about my human design, and how as a sacral generator, my authority is to respond when I feel the pull.  This does not mean that I react to everything around me, but more that I have learned how to respond in a way that respects my boundaries and energy. In this episode we discuss:1) The duality of emotions that we all carry every single day.  For years I would swing back and forth in between the highs and lows, almost letting the highs be too high and the lows be too low.  I have learned how to become more neutral in my energy and reactions.  Since the stories only have the meaning we give it, this is the same message.  2) I wanted to share the concept of learning to hold more yet not carry it.  When we hold the energy, emotions and our meaning or perception of these emotions, we are allowing ourselves to continue to grow.  When we carry all of it and let it weigh us down, it can become a heaviness that actually holds us down and keeps us stuck, because we lose that line of what is ours to carry. 3) When we carry things that aren’t ours to carry, one of two things happens.  We deplete ourselves of all of the energy that we can be using to create change in our lives.  Secondly, when we carry the emotions of others, we are not allowing them to carry it and that leads to nothing changing. 4) Picture carrying a backpack and take a really close look as to what is in that backpack and ask yourself if you are carrying things that aren’t yours to carry?  From guilt, shame, frustration, judgment, fear, or whatever negative emotions you are carrying, it is affecting your ability to create change in your life.  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmDisrupt Your Default Patterns (10 day program starting in early March on presale now)https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/SC4BdKTM Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we are speaking with Author, Survivor and Advocate, Jenna Ashlyn.  Jenna Ashlyn is a volunteer for Southern Ohio’s Survivor Advocacy Outreach Program, providing support and services to victims of abuse. She's a lover of animals of most types and spends her extra time being a mom and cuddling with her cocker spaniel. She studied creative writing at two universities and worked for a campus literary magazine. Jenna’s writing has appeared in numerous literary magazines, including Night Roses, The Atwood Review, and Poet’s Choice. In 2015, she won the overall writing award in the StarJewel Nationals and Talent Showcase arts contest, and in 2019, she was nominated for a Maier Award, which celebrates the best writing of University students. In 2020, Jenna released her debut novel, Within the Gray. Her second novel, Sheila's Men is set to be released early January 2022.In this episode we discussed: 1) Jenna’s story, how she learned her resiliency and how she shifted from being a victim of her story to being a woman, mom and victor who thrived because of her story. 2) Emotional triggers, doing the work, creating the vision for where you are going no matter what your circumstances, and the process of vulnerability and sharing your story.  3) The process of sharing your story, becoming a published author and using your lessons to help others who are also working through challenging stories.  We are not alone and when we share our stories we help others to see that we are more alike than different.  Connect with JennaFacebook: www.facebook.com/authorJennaAshlyn Twitter: www.twitter.com/JennaAshlyn1Instagram: www.instagram.com/jennaashlEmail: [email protected] Jenna’s books, Within the Gray and Sheila's Men can be found on Amazon, Google Play, and wherever books are soldMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode I am joined with my friend, Soul & Success Coach, Lindsay Anderson. Lindsay is a highly intuitive Soul + Success Coach, Published Author and CEO of MY CORE Collective.  Lindsay dove deep into her healing journey after having suffered from burnout and vicarious trauma in her life as a social worker.  It’s through her unwavering passion for soul-full success that Lindsay birthed her business.  Coaching with Lindsay has been described as “nothing short of soul-shaking. She fiercely embraces ego and shadow healing with excitement and deeply-rooted trust. By aligning with Human Design and The Gene Keys, Lindsay’s coaching and reiki training business continues to scale and she’s made it her mission to help her clients magnetize soul-full success too! In this episode we discuss: 1) What shadows are, how to recognize them, how they show up in our lives and in our business, and how we can use those shadows to our strengths instead of letting them be blocks or hold us back in our lives.  2) The steps to transmute our shadows, stop resisting them, and how to recognize the shadows as old friends instead of consistently resisting them. 3) . The next topic we lead into is Scripting and Systems in our business for generators and manifesting generators.  This podcast episode was released during the launch of Successful & Satisfied - A Unique Business Coaching Intensive program starting February 26th, 2022.  Link in bio to join us!Connect with Lindsay: Email: [email protected]: https://www.mycorecollective.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mycorecollective Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin Successful & Satisfied - A 3 month unique business coaching intensive program for Generators and Manifesting Generators.https://mycorecollective.mykajabi.com/successful-satisfied?preview_theme_id=2149638757 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts on receiving negative feedback, either in our posts on social media, podcasts, in real life, from family, friends or wherever. “There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.” ~Aristotle.  This is a tough one and my inbox has been full lately of dm’s of people I know and don’t know with positive and negative questions, so it felt appropriate to bring this topic up on this podcast.  In this episode we discuss:1)First off go inward.  When the negative messages show up, check inward.  How are you showing up, what are you saying, are you being honest with compassion, are you speaking your truth, sharing your story?  Are you speaking from a place of being inside your story or on your story? This shift is huge. 2) Don’t let shame be part of the narrative.  Shame is a very powerful emotion and it keeps us stuck in our stories.  Shame goes very closely with bitterness, anger, resentment, and armouring up.  This only continues to squash our voice and give away our own personal power.  3)  Control what you can control.  Break it down and take full radical ownership for your choices, actions, behaviours, etc.  This is where your own personal power lies.  4)  Watch or decrease your expectations especially for the things you can’t control. 5) Stop trying to prove yourself to whomever, this proving energy comes from a place of lack and will put you on a hamster wheel that is so hard to get off of. 6) Treat people how you want to be treated, rise above and BE the change you wish you see in the world. 7) Go back to your core values.  This is the foundation for everything you say yes and no to and this is how you know yourself and when you know yourself it is SO much easier to respond instead of react 8)  LET IT GOJoin the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.

Today we are speaking with Men's Guide and Facilitator, Paul Simard.  Paul is a TEDx Speaker (The Mythical Man), and a trained mental wellness and small-group facilitator, as well as a coach focusing on men and couples, as well as small-to-medium sized organizations.  He is the founder of huMENity, a peer-driven support community that encourages men to connect more deeply with their emotional and physical selves, as well as a facilitator and men’s coach. His work focuses on men of all ages, in small group work as well as one-on-one coaching. He uses a variety of tools in order to create safe spaces for participants to move through a range of experiences, from stress and anxiety to addiction, abuse and trauma. His primary goal is to help participants to create a deeper sense of alignment within in order to set the foundation for more empowering and fruitful relationships, whether that is at home, in the community or in the workplace.   He is also the author of many articles on mental wellness, masculinity/femininity and leadership, and has been a guest on multiple podcasts and at several speaking events. In this episode we discussed: 1) The guideposts for his work as a Men’s Guide and Facilitator are remembering and permission.  Remembering that you matter, giving grace towards yourself, and permission to explore more of what you may want, exploring what you are feeling and using these two pillars as guide rails in the growth journey. 2) The messaging around shame, vulnerability, being open, blame, discomfort and it all intertwines in our relationships and experiences as humans. 3) How as women we can create an environment that is more conducive and open for men to share their experiences and emotions.  This is important not just for our significant others, but also as a mom of 2 boys, I found this to be incredibly important to embrace the terms modelling and letting go.  Letting go, meaning letting our boys have the opportunity to learn from their choices in life as opposed to micromanaging everything as a parent. Connect with PaulWebsite: https://www.humenity.coInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul_sim17 Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/paul.sim.17 Email: [email protected] to connect with Paul:https://www.humenity.cohttps://www.sacredsons.comhttps://www.mydadcave.com Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts on the concept of how far your story can reach.  We will talk about the intentions for sharing your story, whether you are in or on your story, why you are choosing to share it (in speaking, podcasting or written form), letting go of the expectations for sharing it, and scripting out your beliefs that your story can go places you never imagined. In this episode we discuss:1) How do you know if it is time to start sharing your story, and how to know if you are ready? What do some of those first steps look like? There has to come a point when you recognize that your story is no longer for you. 2) When you start to share it, it’s important to not be attached to who is going to approve, who is cheering you on, or who disagrees with your choices.  Letting go of expectations and attachments will allow your story to go further than you could ever imagine. 3)  Focus on your intention for why you are wanting to share it.  With the power of scripting, mindset work, subconscious reprogramming, and not trying to micromanage the outcome, your story can go places you could have never imagined.  We are seeing this with Every Body Holds A Story, as the first volume is in edits and it is being launched in to the world, and the next round of the books, volume 2 and a brain health version are starting the writing process in the middle of March.  The application to apply is below in the show notes. Apply to be a published author in the next round of Every Body Holds A Story https://www.everybodyholdsastory.com/assessments/2147570491 Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Values in Life & Business Program starting the beginning of Februaryhttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/UAzksMtn Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts on the difference between standing IN vs standing ON your story.  This is a powerful shift that I learned a number of years ago and I am so grateful to share it with you today in hopes that it will inspire a shift in your story and journey.   In this episode we discuss:1) What does it mean to stand IN your story, how you show up, where your energy goes, and how you may be feeling perpetually stuck in your story and not feeling any hope for change. I also share the difference of standing ON your story and a few key shifts for how you can make that happen, even if it feels like you can’t, I promise you you can. 2) The role of shame, secrecy, armour and fear of judgement in you feeling stuck inside your story and a few things you can do to shift that.  3)  The ripple effect and how it can be way bigger than you could ever imagine, and how actually your pain (when you choose to face it to change it) can actually become part of your purpose.   Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Values in Life & Business Program starting the beginning of Februaryhttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/UAzksMtn Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In the 4th part of this series on values we are going to look at the gaps of what you say is important, if it truly is and how to bridge the gap.  It’s not about picking the core values that “sound good or make you look good”, it is about picking the core values that are actually who you are at the core. This is how we set ourselves up for success especially when it comes down to making decisions in our life and business. Our core values define who you are, what you stand for and if you actually walk your talk.  Your limiting beliefs determine if you actually live by those core values. Our negative core beliefs are incredibly important and powerful in creating our limitations and ultimately our reality.  In this episode we discuss: 1) As we increase our self-awareness to understand and live in our core values, we may identify a number of our own negative core beliefs and can often link them to our experiences. They can usually, however, be distilled down to two common examples: I am not good enough or worthy, or I am broken and this is what I deserve. Once these core beliefs are formed, they bed in. The human mind likes, above most things, to be right. We spend time looking for evidence in all situations that supports them. We reinforce them over and over. If we have spent our life believing in these limitations, our subconscious mind will constantly search everywhere for proof of these beliefs. 2) Re-writing our core values must include changing these limiting beliefs.  Address them, call them out, painting the grim picture of what it looks like if you don’t change these limiting beliefs for months, or years.  Who do you not help? What gifts do you not use? What is your level of fulfillment? Then asking if you are ready to change these limiting beliefs and then re-writing these beliefs in a new format.  3) Looking at your core values,  what does it feel like in your cells as you look at these words?  What emotions does it bring up? What is your belief level of bringing these visions to life and living by your core values? 4) Rewriting your limiting beliefs as mantras, and surrounding yourself with them everywhere.  If this is completely new for you, give yourself some grace and compassion and set yourself up for success. Rewriting these core values in a script format is how it all changes.  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Values in Life and Business in presale right now for $333, will be $777https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/UAzksMtn Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode I wanted to share a simple concept that I learned from another coach that hit home.  It all comes down to the HOW, and wanting to have the perfect plan in place before we start anything.  1) The how is irrelevant.  We only ever learn the how in reverse. Try to think of one time in your life when the “how” was shown to you beforehand and you followed that roadmap to a T and it worked out perfectly. 2) The how is only seen in reverse, in hindsight and we know hindsight is 20/20.  We are never meant to see the how ahead of time.  We are responsible for seeing and owning the vision of what we want to create and then allowing ourselves to get into action to create and bring that vision to life.  3) The how is actually in the now.  It is created by trying, taking an action step, falling down, course correcting, starting over and applying those lessons learned to the next step.  We are creating the how as we go.  4) We may learn tools and tips from other coaches about how their how worked, and it can be a shortcut for us in some way shape or form, but they can’t give us our roadmap.  They can help us to see what’s possible and help us uncover what is blocking us from seeing our own how, but it is not their job to give it to us. It is ours to create.  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Values in Life and Business (a 6-7 day program starting at the beginning of February) https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/UAzksMtn Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we are speaking with Author and Public Speaker, Erin Paterson.  Erin is a Canadian author and public speaker who tested gene positive for Huntington’s Disease (HD). Shortly after she started suffering from depression, then received more crushing news, she was infertile. Despite those diagnoses she was determined to have a family and live a joyful life. She is on a mission to positively impact other people’s lives by writing and speaking about genetic disease, depression, and infertility. She shows that it is possible to live a meaningful life even when faced with unexpected obstacles.  She is the author of All Good Things: A Memoir About Genetic Testing, Infertility and One Woman’s Relentless Search for Happiness. Erin is also the founder of Lemonade Press, a local publisher focused on empowering patient communities by helping people write and share their own journey’s in specialized medical anthologies.In this episode we discussed: 1) The journey that Erin had to go through during her HD testing, infertility experience, as well as her work to move through a deep depression.  Erin shares how at the time it was survival and stacking one small thing on top of each other to build herself to where she is today.  2) The concept of vulnerability hangover and how it is a process of checking in every single day with what you need or what decision you need to make to move you one step closer to where you want to be. Sharing our stories can be an incredibly taxing and vulnerable process, yet it leads us to a beautiful space of seeing the gifts in our adversities. 3) Learning to share her story of testing positive for HD and infertility, allowed Erin to control the narrative, unpack her story, and allow her to support others in seeing that they are not alone in their stories of struggle. Connect with Erin: Website: https://www.erinpaterson.comPublishing Company Website: http://lemonadecommunity.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/erinpaterson_allgoodthings Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ErinPatersonAllGoodThings LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erin-paterson Email: [email protected] Erin’s book is available on Amazon:https://www.amazon.ca/All-Good-Things-Infertility-Relentless/dp/1777917913/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=erin+paterson&qid=1639275611&s=books&sr=1-1 Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In the 3rd part of this series on values we are going to break down the word values, core values and see how this pertains to our life and business.  The first episode focused on what core values and helped you to identify them in your life. The second episode dove into are those core values in alignment in your life?  Instead of looking outward at people, programs or comparison for what everyone else is doing for alignment, it starts with looking inward.   In this episode we will be discussing how your life is a representation of the core values that you say are important to you and looking for the gaps.  We will also be talking about the things that you might not be recognizing such as expectations, standards and the boundaries that might be missing to solidify these core values in your life. In this episode we discuss: 1) Identifying the gaps, and what is blocking you from living a life in alignment with your core values. 2) The difference between expectations and standards.  Expectations are living in the future and are based on things you can’t control or predict.  Standards are what you can control, and those are based on decisions you make every single day. 3) Where can you raise your standards? Raise your standards for what you do, say yes or no to every single day.  How can you raise your boundaries, give back to yourself, listen to what you need and receive all that is available for you?  Raising your standards allows you to plan out your life accordingly to set yourself up for success. If you want a deeper understanding of standards and expectations, listen the Episode #122 Raise Your Standards Not Your Expectations, https://apple.co/32c6zaG 4) Boundaries are a moving line, like a bubble.  Not a hard line in the sand with no negotiating and also recognizing that this changes every single day.  If you find that your self-care practices are low, your stress is high, I guarantee your boundaries will be the next thing affected. Catch this before it happens and unravels.  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Values in Life and Business in presale right now for $333, will be $777https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/UAzksMtn Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode, I am diving into my understanding and lessons about the energy of worrying.  According to Psychology Today, “Worry tends to be more focused on thoughts in our heads, while anxiety is more visceral in that we feel it through our bodies.   Our thoughts create our reality, and the continuous response and energy of worry is putting visceral stress on our bodies, so if we can change our thoughts we can manage, shift or change what is happening inside of our bodies.  Thoughts of worrying are all future based, focused on things we can’t control, and blocking us from how we can control our present circumstances.  It is an avoidance of energy and actually a waste of our own energy, which is the only resource we have to create change in our lives. 1) Worrying is a habit. It is a response, a learned response to post-traumatic stress.  It also comes from avoiding doing the healing work that our nervous systems require.  It is living in the future, creating a false sense of belief of control and not living in the present moment.  Sometimes the present moment is too difficult or painful to live in, so we avoid it.  We use our energy to relive the past or try to control the future. 2)  Healing requires focus on the present moment, what we need to be our best selves and honouring what we need, including the boundaries that we may be missing.  Look at what the triggers are, phone/screen use, lack of sleep, stimulants, people, social media, and take radical responsibility to change one small thing at a time. 3) On one side of the paper, write down all of the things you are currently worried about.  The things that are taking up your energy, mindset or thoughts all day long. Don’t edit this list, brain dump it out with no judgement.  Then on the other side of the page check mark the things you can control and then put the two numbers into perspective.  Now script out the sentences that shift your thinking or are the exact opposite of what you are worried about. 4) The act of deep breathing (also called diaphragmatic breathing) is a practice that enables more air to flow into your body and can help to calm your nerves, reducing stress and anxiety. This can help your focus, attention span, nervous system, and help to promote healing.  This takes work, but start with recognizing where these emotions are starting from. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcm Join the Values in Life & Business MasterclassMarsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we are speaking with Business Mentor, Jillian Murphy. Jillian is a sales mentor and business coach for entrepreneurs. After 22 years in the corporate space Jillian moved online after losing it all during the pandemic. In the beginning of the pandemic, Jillian dove in head first into the online space growing her business from scratch.  Over these past 6 months, while working through medical conditions, Jillian has had to dive into healing, listening to what her body needs and trusting this process with her. In this episode we discussed: 1) What happens when we are forced to pivot, change in our business, and how it comes down to asking what your audience needs.  Learning to speak to your audience and engage with them is different from talking to your audience or putting something together that they are not asking for.  2) What selling means, how selling is an act of service, and how we can make selling difficult or mean something completely different based on our own experiences with selling.  3) The importance of always being in mentorship, and how sticking with a mentor is important to see potential success. Sometimes it is easy to get distracted by what all the other coaches are doing and offering.  Also let your audience see you, it doesn't have to be perfect to be successful.  In fact that is not being authentic with your audience.   Connect with Jillian Website: https://[email protected]: https://www.instagram.com/thejillianmurphy Email: [email protected] Guaranteed Tips to Attract Your Dream Clients:https://mailchi.mp/6abcf21ade32/6-guaranteed-tips-to-attract-your-dream-clients Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this series we are going to break down the word values, core values and see how this pertains to our life and business.  A value is simply a way of being or believing that we hold important. (Brene Brown).  Living into our values means that we do more than profess our values, we practice them.  We walk our talk - we are clear about what we believe and hold important and we take care that our intentions, our words, thoughts, and behaviours align with those beliefs. Without having a knowledge or understanding of our core values, we are not making decisions from a grounded position of knowing ourselves and what is important to us.  Sharing my own personal story of values, learning and understanding them and using them as the basis for major and minor decisions in our life. In this second episode we are looking more closely into the core value words that speak to you.  In this episode we discuss:1) Values are individual beliefs that motivate people to act one way or another.  They guide our human behaviour, choices and decisions.  Not right or wrong, just a clarification of what drives us and what we hold most important. 2) Speaking of alignment…. Looking external instead of internal by knowing yourself.  This is about choosing words that speak to you, that are important to you as a person.  Now comes the harder part, looking at what you say is important for you, and asking yourself the hard questions of, “am I living in alignment within myself with what I say is important in my life?”.  For example, if you have core values that you are not aligned to, yet you say they are important, you are already in a disconnect.  Saying health is important, but not eating to nourish your body, drinking water or moving your body; or self-worth, but deep down you don’t feel worthy; trust but surrounding yourself with people you don’t trust or respect…you get the picture.  3) Don’t look for alignment externally, it all starts internally. Ask yourself the hard questions, why did you pick these words, are they your words, what is missing for you to live by them, what boundaries are missing and where are you out of alignment?  4) What would life look like if you were living by your core values?  What would have to change?  Let your mind be open to the vision of what that would look like.  Remember you are the master of your thoughts, and everything we do originates from our thoughts and beliefs, so this is where the work starts.  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Values in Life and Business in presale right now for $222, will be $777https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/UAzksMtn Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode, I want to share some thoughts on comparison and what it is doing to us in our lives and in our business. In this time of building our businesses online, especially this year when so many people are having to continue to pivot, shift, change or completely reinvent themselves in an unknown territory, it is too easy to stop and compare your “progress” to someone else’s “perceived progress”.  Comparison is the biggest block in your progress, and you are the one who keeps putting that roadblock up. So much of my understanding of comparison comes from my learnings from Brene Brown, and her book “Atlas of the Heart” is incredible. In this episode we discuss:1) Comparison is a creativity killer.  “Comparison is the crush of conformity from one side and competition from the other - it is trying to simultaneously fit in and stand out.” It is saying, be like everyone else, but only better. ~ Brene Brown.  There is upwards and downwards comparison and both are equally blocking in our movement and success.  Social comparisons (up or down), make us feel less than, not worthy or better than or superior. All of the energy leads to the negative emotions of lack and lack of worthiness, fear, shame, anger, and sadness.  No change is created in this energy space. 2) Comparison is the thief of joy ~Theodore Roosevelt .  As soon as we fall into comparison to others, we are taking our eyes off of our own journey. We are losing sight of our own gifts, our own journey and what we are capable of creating.  We also are comparing our chapter X to someone else’s unknown chapter. When we think we know someone else’s story, I promise that we don’t.  Think of all of the things on your own journey that you don’t share with the world. 3)  The energy of comparison actually messes with our own perspective.  It takes it all out of context.  It starts with awareness and recognizing the emotions that drive us into that space in the first place. Celebrating another person’s success does not take away from your own, it actually is celebrating that another person is showing you what is possible.  If someone is triggering you in a toxic way that affects your energy, then mute or unfollow.  4) Find the people who trigger you showing what is possible. The ones who expand you, and learn from them.  Compare yourself to past versions of yourself and find ways to honour, love and support your younger version who fought like hell to get you here.  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Scripting Micromind starting January 5th, 2022https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/2Q4ntxWs Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we are speaking with People Strategist, Jackie Serviss.  Jackie is a seasoned Human Resource Executive and Certified Executive Coach (CEC) with over a decade of assisting leaders in aligning people strategies and talent acquisition best practices to scale their organization.  As a business owner and people strategist, Jackie leverages her leadership and integrated approach to drive strategy around talent planning and forecasting organizational design, leadership development coaching, change management & staffing services. With a passion for driving sustainable business growth through the power of people, Jackie focused on strategic partnerships with leaders to drive results, build teams and create sustainable impact. In this episode we discuss: 1) Jackie’s health journey, her intuition, dealing with a brain tumour and the changes in her personal life and business.  2) Human design, understanding and embracing who we are, and learning to grow and change in our lives and business.  We talked about being recovering people pleasers and fighters, leaning into the masucline approach to business, and learning how we can build our lives by embracing the masculine and the feminine approach.  It can be and, not just either or.  3) How being grateful for the journey, for all of the lessons and bumps in the road and how it truly does make us who we are today.  Connect with JackieWebsite: https://www.jackieserviss.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jackieservissEmail: [email protected] Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this series we are going to break down the word values, core values and see how this pertains to our life and business.  A value is simply a way of being or believing that we hold important. (Brene Brown).  Living into our values means that we do more than profess our values, we practice them.  We walk our talk - we are clear about what we believe and hold important and we take care that our intentions, our words, thoughts, and behaviours align with those beliefs. Without having a knowledge or understanding of our core values, we are not making decisions from a grounded position of knowing ourselves and what is important to us.  Sharing my own personal story of values, learning and understanding them and using them as the basis for major and minor decisions in our life. In this episode we discuss:1) Values are individual beliefs that motivate people to act one way or another.  They guide our human behaviour, choices and decisions.  Some values are intrinsically motivating such as love, truth and freedom while others are externally motivating such as ambition, radical responsibility or courage.  Not right or wrong, just a clarification of what drives us and what we hold most important. 2) I have linked a page from Pinterest that you can look through to see what you consider important to you.  This comes down to your values and beliefs.  Examples might be health, family, freedom, connections, loyalty, security, relationships, commitment, courage, integrity, etc.   Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Scripting Micromind starting January 5th, 2022https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/2Q4ntxWs Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode, I am sharing an interview with Brand Expert, Content Strategist, and Storyteller, Jennifer Yassen.  Jennifer and I connected in a mastermind in early 2021, and I loved how she helped brands and entrepreneurs to use their stories to build their brands. We connected multiple times over the past few months in live coaching calls, webinars, masterclasses and now a mastermind starting in January called Your Story Makes Your Brand.   Together we are helping entrepreneurs unpack or unlock their story to gain clarity in their messaging to attract and connect with their ideal audience to grow their brand.  This mastermind will include 1-1 support, a max of 5 people at one time so that we can dive into supporting you in your business.  Join us for the Your Story Makes Your Brand Mastermind starting in January 2022 with incredible bonuses.  Today we wanted to dive into how strategy isn’t enough to build a business. In today’s episode we discuss: 1)  So many coaches spend thousands of dollars on trying to learn the how or the strategies to build their business, when it starts to become clear that without the belief or mindset that you see it as being possible to grow your business, then the strategy doesn’t matter. 2) Also how so many coaches want to explode their brand as they continue to compare themselves to others in the online space, yet if they don’t have a clear picture of what their brand is, or how to brand themselves, since you are always your brand, then it doesn’t matter.  You come first, you are the brand and the heart and soul of your business. Your Story Makes Your Brand Mastermind (starts January 10th, 2021)https://bit.ly/2ZPSyQW Rising Leaders Collective Membershiphttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we speak with Coach Paul Casey.  After spending his teenage years, 20’s and early 30’s in and out of incarceration, he made a huge mindset shift.  When his mom passed in 2013 he gave up on life and went down a very dark hole which eventually led him to a fork in the road, he had to change everything or end up dead. The day he finally reached out for help was one of the hardest yet most freeing moments of his life. By participating in every self-help group or college class offered and reading every book on physical, mental, and emotional health he could get his hands on while still in prison, he changed his mindset and the direction of his life.   In his mother’s honor, he now helps people transform themselves into their healthiest, happiest, and most confident selves. He has helped 100’s of people get in the best shape of their lives. He is the owner of A Better You Fitness LLC and creator of the Better Body series.  He is a certified personal trainer through ISSA, certified Group fitness instructor through ACE, certified OTF coach, water Rower, and TRX Certified.   In this episode we discuss.  1) This episode dives into all things addiction, time in prison, self-worth, and connection. Paul’s destructive path started in his young teens and he spent most of his 20’s incarcerated and he shares the experience, lessons learned, and how he is now using these lessons to pay it forward to others. 2) The power of forgiveness and how it is truly a life-changing practice to forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made (there is no failure, only feedback), and how forgiving others for their actions can truly repair and heal relationships.  This creates space for healing and doesn't mean that you have no boundaries.  It means choosing what you want to carry and recognizing how that affects you in your life. 3) Paul’s passion in giving back to youth and supporting others with the lessons he learned on his journey.  This gives so much purpose to his journey and allows him to continue to make an impact on others.  He wants to inspire others to learn how to bring their best self forward in their life.  That is how he is creating a ripple effect by sharing his story. Connect with Paul:Email: [email protected]: https://www.abetteryoufitnessllc.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_coach_paul/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/paul.casey.16940/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_coach_paul?lang=en Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.rlcmBlocks to Owning Your Story Quizhttps://www.marshavanw.com/story-blocks Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, a practice that I do to start the year off and it has everything to do with intention and not goal setting. In the episodes leading up to the end of 2021, I spoke all about Scripting, the power of subconscious reprogramming, and how this practice is great for business owners, or anyone who is looking to create results in 2022. 1) It always starts with gratitude, celebrations, looking at your wins for 2021, what challenges you overcame and how proud you are of what you have achieved in 2021. 2) Then moving to knowing what your values are, what you want to change, and possibly the boundaries you are missing and know you need to put into place. This also involves unpacking and re-writing your money stories and this can be a very difficult process to work through.  3) Pick a timeline to focus on and write your intentions for how you want it to unfold, and speak it into existence as though it is your reality. 4) Writing, re-writing, speaking it out loud, or recording the script on your phone to listen to regularly. This is a process that can lead to re-writing and changing your limiting beliefs which essentially will lead to changing your self worth story.  Join us for the 5 day Scripting Micromind workshop starting on January 5th,  Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Scripting Micromind starting January 5th, 2022https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/2Q4ntxWs Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we are speaking with the Founder of Train Like A Gymnast, Wilhelmina Fitness Model, Certified Personal Trainer Danielle Gray.   Danielle is a formerly competitive Junior Olympic gymnast who retired from the sport before college. After graduating from the University of Southern California in Public Relations, she worked full-time at a digital marketing agency and part-time as a gymnastics coach. Once she realized she forgot she was getting paid for coaching, she turned down a promotion at her desk job and pursued personal training and fitness modeling. She founded her own company, Train Like A Gymnast, to show people how much more capable they are. Her training style is challenging, yet approachable with a heavy focus on form, mindfulness, and intention. She is also a Wilhelmina Fitness Model, an iFit Trainer, a Ninja Warrior, an aerialist, among many other things. If you follow her on Instagram, you can see her adventures with acro, pole dance, travel, and walking her cat Zara. In this episode we discuss: 1)  The power of our stories, sharing authentically, and how we can continue to help others not feel alone in their struggles and stories.  We discuss mental health, suicide, asking for help and how to support others, and how darkness and light can exist at the same time. 2) The process of making decisions to leave one job to pursue her passion of helping people train like a gymnast, to building her company and app, and where the vision of her company is going. 3)  The pros and cons of a lifetime of competitive gymnastics and how that has challenged and prepared her for the work she is doing today.  Connect with DanielleWebsite: www.trainlikeagymnast.comWebsite: www.daniellegrayfit.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellegrayfit Facebook: https://facebook.com/daniellegrayfit Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trainlikeagymnast Email: [email protected] with Danielle:Fitness App: www.trainlikeagymnastapp.comOne Day Workshops, Destination Retreats, Online Courses, and more: www.trainlikeagymnast.com for more details Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing my experience, lessons learned and experiences with the tough word called “boundaries”.  Especially coming into the Christmas season, this is the time where boundaries are so important, necessary and truly a sign of self-respect.  So here is another episode on boundaries and I know that it will serve you. 1) Years ago, I didn’t even know what a boundary was or how to even create one. Every time a counselor mentioned the word it felt impossible and selfish for me to have boundaries in my life.  Little did I know that understanding, learning, and creating boundaries would literally save my life.   I knew I had to share this with my clients and surprisingly very few people understood boundaries. 2) Boundaries start with clarity about where you are feeling some anxiety in your life.  Ask yourself what is missing, where you are feeling anxiety and what you know is missing.  You know the answers.   3)  Boundaries start with our values, and clarity on our values makes it easier for all the yes’ and no’s you will follow through with in your life and business. Once you have determined your values, take a look in your life to see where you can raise your standards, not your expectations. Raising your standards allows you to plan out your life accordingly to set yourself up for success. If you want a deeper understanding of standards and expectations, listen the Episode #122 Raise Your Standards Not Your Expectations, https://apple.co/32c6zaG 4) Boundaries are a moving line, like a bubble.  Not a hard line in the sand with no negotiating and also recognizing that this changes every single day.  If you find that your self-care practices are low, your stress is high, I guarantee your boundaries will be the next thing affected. Catch this before it happens and unravels. 5) Determine where your boundaries won’t work or where they tend to break down. We have to recognize where things are not working so we can put a plan into place to make it work.  Our boundaries are all about us, they aren’t about anyone else. We must set our boundaries to honour the goals and priorities that we have set for our own lives. This is the only way we can conserve and honour our energy to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. No one is going to do this work for you.  It is 100% your responsibility. 6) Boundaries are everywhere and encompass everything, our time, energy, people, relationships, demands, work, self-care, etc.  Everything is impacted and affected by boundaries. Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Scripting Micromind starting January 5th, 2022https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/2Q4ntxWs Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Today we are speaking with Transformation Coach, Sandra Compton.  Sandra Compton is known as Coach Compton with 21 years experience in the fitness industry.  Sandra taught and practiced all things kickboxing/boxing coach, weight training, yoga instructor, reiki practitioner and life coach.   She is dedicated to helping women with their mindset on fitness, nutrition and weight loss, while educating others on healthy lifestyles. That there are no quick fixes or cookie cutter programs when it comes to a healthy lifestyle. Sandra is a true believer that Movement is Medicine. In this episode we discuss: 1)  Sandra’s health journey, and her story of prepping for and recently going through back surgery. We connected through our stories on social media, which shows again the power of sharing our stories. 2) Sandra shares her fears, anger, resentment and all of the emotions she went through before the surgery and how she used the power of scripting to shift her subconscious thoughts.  3)  This is an incredibly powerful episode that will inspire you to commit to the work to shift your mindset whether you are scripting for a certain time period or for a specific event in your life.  Connect with Sandra Website: www.sandracompton.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/coach.compton/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachscompton Email: [email protected] with Sandra:Embodiment Coaching 1:1 Programs (life, fitness, nutrition, mindset, emotional and spiritual transformation)Let's Get Back To You - 6 Week Group Fitness and Nutrition Online ProgramThe Practice - 4 Week Program Of BreathWork, Movement, Mindset. Mediating and Releasing Energy Join the Scripting Micromind starting in January 2022https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/2Q4ntxWs Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm  Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

Today we are speaking with Addiction and Recovery Specialist, Podcast Host of Naturally High, Co-Author of The Epiphany Project, Master Practitioner & Trainer of NLP & Clinical Hypnotherapy & Life and Success Coaching, Jeanne Foot.  Jeanne is the founder of The Recovery Concierge, a premier mental health concierge boutique, co-author of The Epiphany Project and Host of the Naturally High Podcast, and Master Practitioner & Trainer of NLP. Jeanne uses her 15 years of experience as a certified addiction and trauma recovery specialist to give clients of The Recovery Concierge the best chance for sustainable recovery and an enhanced quality of life.  Jeanne knows that all behavior has purpose and substance abuse is not about drugs or alcohol, but rather the root causes that are beneath those compulsions are part of the emotional response caused by past trauma. The customized concierge supports that Jeanne and TRC provide allows clients to move from ‘surviving to thrive with a 97% success rate.  Realizing that the path to recovery is not always linear and supporting each individual and family through their own unique journey is the driving force behind Jeanne’s mission to change the misconceptions people have about the meaning of recovery.  In this episode we discuss: 1)  You are the common denominator in all areas or situations in your life.  This is the power of taking radical responsibility in our lives. Not from a space of blame, from a space of taking back your own personal power.  When we don't take radical responsibility for ourselves we then outsource our happiness and wellbeing to others. 2) All about healing generational trauma and how shame is universal.  There’s a mindset or a shift in perspective that we are chosen for this work.  We can choose to step up and make our pain our purpose. 3)  We are all in recovery of something in our lives. We talked about the concept of vulnerability, surrendering, and the power of self-care and listening to what we need so we can give to ourselves to give back to others.  Connect with JeanneWebsite: https://therecoveryconcierge.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theholisticrecoveryspecialist/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_recovery_concierge/ Email: [email protected] Listen to the Naturally High Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/naturally-high/id1585263254 Work with Jeanne:Email [email protected]  https://www.amazon.ca/Epiphanies-Project-Twenty-Personal-Revelations/dp/1737664607  Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this "Monday mindset'' episode, I am sharing my experience with scriptwriting as a part of the extended work of affirmations and how I apply this to money stories.  It’s not as simple as standing and speaking affirmations.  It is about changing your thoughts from the level of your subconscious mind. These are the steps I use to write a script for my brain to focus on where it is going. After running a 2 hour scripting workshop in early December, it reminded me the importance of money stories.  In today’s episode we discuss: 1) Awareness, unpacking and looking at your money stories. 2) Start with your gratitude for where you are today and what your key values are and what you want to change. 3) Writing a letter to money as though it is a person, an entity or a friend.  How have you treated it in your life and if it were a friend, would it still choose to be in your life?  3) Writing, re-writing, speaking it out loud, or recording the script on your phone to listen to regularly. 4) Here is a link to the Scripting Micromind starting in January on pre-sale now. Click the link to join Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://marshavanw.com/rlcmJoin the Scripting Micromind starting January 5th, 2022https://www.marshavanw.com/offers/2Q4ntxWs Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

In this episode, I am sharing some thoughts on how to embrace vulnerability and where to start.  This one is going to be different than you think because I want to share one question that I ask a lot of my clients when they say where do I start with vulnerability?  This is the question I ask them, “what is one thing or one story you wish you could be more vulnerable with your audience or others about?”  This usually stirs up the gasp, the oh I would love to but what would they think, and all the stories and doubt creep up into your brain.  What if that is exactly where you start?  So in the true fashion of this podcast, I am sharing a story with you that I wish I could be more vulnerable about, so why not do it right here. In today’s episode we discuss:1) My health history is complex.  Health is one of my top values, and it’s important to recognize where in your life it's in or not in alignment with your values. 2)  Holding onto stories that harbour resentment, frustration, comparison are not meant to be held onto.  This only traps energy, increases the shame and keeps us stuck in a loop of our story that doesn't serve us.  We are the only ones who can let it go. 3) The stories only have the meaning that we give them. That is it.  We decide the meaning we give it which also includes the energy we give it.  What if we ask different questions, look at our circumstances differently, how would that change what we are going through?   Join the Rising Leaders Collectivehttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Your Story Makes Your Brand Workshophttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/hYxPPtSQ Your Story Makes Your Brand Mastermind (on pre-sale now)https://bit.ly/2ZPSyQW Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others

Healing Trauma is the Path to Re-Writing Your Story with Meleah Christensen Today we are speaking with Trauma-Informed Life and Relationship coach, Meleah Christensen.  Meleah helps high-achieving women have the relationship they've always wanted after surviving trauma. After experiencing childhood and adolescent trauma herself, and escaping from an abusive relationship in her early twenties, she began her journey of self-healing. It is now her passion to help other women step into a new life of healthy and authentic connection with themselves and others. Outside of her coaching business, she is on her path towards becoming a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and has been in the mental health field for over six years. In this episode we discuss: 1) What trauma is, how it is stored in the body, how to work to heal it, and the topic of trauma comparison. 2) How healing our trauma can help us to improve other relationships in our life as well as lead us to life a more aligned life as our healed self. 3) How the journey of sharing her story helped Meleah to heal and build the beautiful relationships she has in her life today.  Connect with MeleahWebsite: https://www.meleahrose.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meleah.roseEmail: [email protected] Work with Meleah:  Meleah offers 1:1 coaching and a program called Shifting Love to help women with past trauma have the secure, loving, and empowering relationship they've always wanted. Book a 30-minute call to apply for the program at https://www.meleahrose.com/links Meleah’s eBook called The Ultimate Self-Care Guide for Healing through Emotional Trauma can be found at the same link. Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode, I am sharing an interview with Brand Expert, Content Strategist, and Storyteller, Jennifer Yassen.  Jennifer and I connected in a mastermind in early 2021, and I loved how she helped brands and entrepreneurs to use their stories to build their brands. We decided to collaborate and offer a 2-hour immersive workshop to help these entrepreneurs unpack or unlock one aspect of their story to gain clarity in their messaging to attract and connect with their ideal audience to grow their brand.  We will combine it with some hot-seat coaching to understand their brand and how they express that in the online space and how their customers see and view them. 2 hours with 2 coaches here to support you in this interactive workshop. Want more support than this?  Join us for the Your Story Makes Your Brand Mastermind starting in January 2022 on pre-sale pricing with incredible bonuses.  Join us in the link below. In today’s episode we discuss: 1)  This workshop is for entrepreneurs, speakers, authors, podcasters, coaches, or business owners. If you know you have a bigger calling to create a platform to share the lessons you have learned from your life experiences, or if you are stuck in how to use your story in your business, or if you are ready to level up your calling, this is for you. 2) This workshop includes tangible tactics to unpack your story, find your key message, and offer to attract your ideal audience to grow your brand. This is an actionable workshop that includes hot-seat coaching, a workbook, along with our methods for Owning Your Story to Build Your Brand. Your Story Makes Your Brand Workshophttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/hYxPPtSQ Your Story Makes Your Brand Mastermind (on pre-sale now)https://bit.ly/2ZPSyQW Rising Leaders Collective Membershiphttps://www.marshavanw.com/rlcm Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life CoachMarsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others