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Headgum & Nicole Byer
Dating can be a hot mess, from being ghosted by your crush to realizing that you've been catfished by a Tinder match. Why Won't You Date Me? is here to help. Join Nicole Byer, the perpetual singleton, as she invites fellow comedians, friends, and ex-flings to talk romance and share their wildest dating tales, from cringeworthy first dates to jaw-dropping hookup stories. Nothing is off-limits.
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Living Your Hoe Phase (w/ Atsuko Okatsuka)

Living Your Hoe Phase (w/ Atsuko Okatsuka)

Comedian Atsuko Okatsuka returns! She chats with Nicole about dating her community college teacher for 7 years, exploring the world of swing parties, and discusses whether hoe phases are overrated.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
58:2430/12/2022
Eloping on Christmas (w/ Manila Luzon)

Eloping on Christmas (w/ Manila Luzon)

Drag queen legend Manila Luzon (Drag Race S3, All-Stars 1 & 4, Drag Den) joins Nicole to discuss her Christmas Eve eloping in Las Vegas, dating after mourning the loss of her boyfriend Sahara Davenport, and some of the most iconic moments from her seasons of Drag Race.  For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:4223/12/2022
Let's Talk About The Bag Dress (w/ LaLa Ri)

Let's Talk About The Bag Dress (w/ LaLa Ri)

On Drag Race, Nicole guest judged one of the most iconic outfits in franchise history - LaLa Ri's gift bag dress.  Today, Nicole finally sits down with the queen to express her thoughts that never made it to air. LaLa introduces Nicole to BLK, a Black version of Tinder, and shares the crazy sexual requests she gets from fans on Grindr. Nicole goes to the LA Auto Show for some dick.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:3916/12/2022
The First Black Chippendale Dancer (w/ Quentin Plair)

The First Black Chippendale Dancer (w/ Quentin Plair)

Actor Quentin Plair (Welcome to Chippendales) chats with Nicole about the fetishization faced with being the first Black Chippendales dancer, the empowering nature of stripping,  and whether playing football or dancing attracts more women. Want to write to Nicole? Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:0409/12/2022
How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)

How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)

Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace, why she avoids posting relationships on social media,  and how she's learning to trust again after her boyfriend slept with her best friend.  Plus, is it ever okay to hack into your partner's phone? Keke teaches us, in great detail, exactly how to do it.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
43:5902/12/2022
Building Your Date's File (w/ Larry Owens)

Building Your Date's File (w/ Larry Owens)

Multi-award winning actor and comedian Larry Owens (A Strange Loop, Abbott Elementary) chats with Nicole about his experience attending a bear festival, being the fixer-upper in a relationship, and the dangers of Googling someone after a first date. Plus, Larry teaches Nicole some complex new vocabulary. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:3325/11/2022
Open Relationships (w/ Cole Escola)

Open Relationships (w/ Cole Escola)

Comedian Cole Escola (Difficult People, Tuca & Bertie) helps Nicole craft the perfect answer for dating app small talk, shares the secret to their successful 3 year open relationship, and the terrible time they had taking a Tinder date to Paris. Plus, Nicole learns about the new dating app "The League", which costs $99 a WEEK!  Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
52:4118/11/2022
Nicole's Kicked off Hinge (w/ Julie Klausner)

Nicole's Kicked off Hinge (w/ Julie Klausner)

Comedian Julie Klausner (Billy on the Street, Difficult People) chats with Nicole about the corny messages she gotten from dating apps, why Nicole was kicked off Hinge, and whether or not Nicole would've met the love of her life at Heidi Klum's Halloween party. Plus, they discuss their favorite New York restaurants.  Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:1911/11/2022
Set Up (w/ Aimee Carrero)

Set Up (w/ Aimee Carrero)

Actress Aimee Carrero (She-Ra, Elena of Avalor) joins Nicole to discuss hookup hygiene standards, marrying the man she was set up with, and running into her ex on his honeymoon. Also, Nicole snatches a baby. We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at bit.ly/PCAVOTE2022. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:09:0804/11/2022
Self-Sabotaging your Relationships (w/ Caleb Hearon)

Self-Sabotaging your Relationships (w/ Caleb Hearon)

Comedian Caleb Hearon (Human Resources) joins Nicole to discuss self-sabotaging relationships, dating while still in the closet, and an awful date he went on at a Chipotle. Meanwhile, Nicole plans to fly to Houston for some dick. We're nominated for a People's Choice Award! Cast your vote for Why Won't You Date Me everyday until Nov 7th. Vote at votepca.com/pop-culture/the-pop-podcast-of-2022. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
51:4528/10/2022
Playing an Extra in a Porno (w/ Rose Dommu)

Playing an Extra in a Porno (w/ Rose Dommu)

Writer Rose Dommu (Out Magazine, Like a Virgin podcast) joins Nicole to chat about the story behind her transition, the dangers of dating a trans chaser, writing fan fiction, and her experience appearing as an extra on the set of a Cock Destroyers porno. Plus, they answer a listener's question about how to respond to someone when they say call themselves fat. Got a dirty message, question, or comment for Nicole? Email it to [email protected]. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:2721/10/2022
Rewriting the Tinder Bio (w/ John Stamos)

Rewriting the Tinder Bio (w/ John Stamos)

Actor and heartthrob John Stamos (Full House, You, Big Shot) is here to figure out the core of Nicole's dating issues. Stamos tells the story of how he met his wife while acting together on Law & Order: SVU, shares his favorite memories of Bob Saget, and rewrites Nicole's dating app bio.  Plus, Nicole continues to match with some wackos on Tinder.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
52:3814/10/2022
Praise Kink (w/ Jujubee)

Praise Kink (w/ Jujubee)

Iconic drag queen Jujubee (Drag Race S2, All-Stars 1 and 5) joins Nicole to reminisces over her many seasons of drag competitions, her sobriety, playing a matchmaker, and having a praise kink. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:5207/10/2022
Sex Contracts (w/ Guy Branum)

Sex Contracts (w/ Guy Branum)

Comedian Guy Branum (Billy On The Street, Bros) chats with Nicole about establishing sex contracts before a hookup, being a dom/sub in the bedroom, and the perfect sized bed for sleeping with your partner.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:3030/09/2022
Chased by the KKK (w/ Brandon Kyle Goodman)

Chased by the KKK (w/ Brandon Kyle Goodman)

Actor and writer Brandon Kyle Goodman (Netflix's Big Mouth, Human Resources) chats with Nicole about the time he was chased by the KKK, the struggles of doing a long distance relationship, and the adorable first date story with his husband, and saving money by getting married at the courthouse. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:10:1623/09/2022
Comedy Dominatrix (w/ Nori Reed)

Comedy Dominatrix (w/ Nori Reed)

Comedian and writer Nori Reed (Raven's Home) chats with Nicole about getting her breast augmentation, how she soft-launched her transition process, and what it's like being a comedy dominatrix. Plus, Nicole continues to beef with Magic Mike Live. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:4916/09/2022
A Halloween Wedding (w/ Mary Holland)

A Halloween Wedding (w/ Mary Holland)

Friend and comedian  Mary Holland (Corked podcast) chats with Nicole about having a spooky Halloween themed wedding under a blue moon, managing her codependency in a relationship, and her time working as a wench at Medieval Times. Plus, Nicole shares her first time trip to Disneyland.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:06:4209/09/2022
Relationship Baggage (w/ Justin Cunningham)

Relationship Baggage (w/ Justin Cunningham)

Actor and co-star Justin Cunningham (Grand Crew) chats with Nicole about recognizing toxic relationships, finding a partner who has a mutual respect for your baggage, and how his selective erectile dysfunction has become a indicator of true compatibility with a mate.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:3102/09/2022
The Art of Online Stalking (w/ Sona Movsesian)

The Art of Online Stalking (w/ Sona Movsesian)

Conan's assistant, Sona Movsesian (author: The World’s Worst Assistant) is here! Sona shares how she met her husband at Comic-Con, the art of online stalking a date, giving your number to your waiter, and dating guys who just wanted to get close with Conan. Plus, Nicole pitches her new business idea: Rent-A-Baby.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:1726/08/2022
Throupled (w/ Mae Martin)

Throupled (w/ Mae Martin)

Comedian Mae Martin (Feel Good) chats with Nicole about being in a throuple relationship, their experience addicted to drugs, and starting a fresh life in new country.  Plus, they share their changing theory on love and relationships, and why they were kicked off Hinge. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:5819/08/2022
Dealing with FBoys (w/ Nikki Glaser)

Dealing with FBoys (w/ Nikki Glaser)

Comedian Nikki Glaser (FBoy Island, Good Clean Filth) chats with Nicole about being in a 9 year on-and-off again relationship, how to deal with an FBoy, why men struggle to express their feelings, and offers tips on how to attract a partner.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:05:0012/08/2022
Hired a Matchmaker (w/ Amy Aniobi)

Hired a Matchmaker (w/ Amy Aniobi)

Writer/director Amy Aniobi (Silicon Valley, 2 Dope Queens) joins Nicole to discuss her experience dating with the help of a professional matchmaker, what it was like being raised by parents of an arranged marriage, and making the mistake of posting your significant other on Instagram. Nicole has injured herself singing karaoke.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:05:0305/08/2022
Dating a Mom (w/ Lil Rel Howery)

Dating a Mom (w/ Lil Rel Howery)

Comedian Lil Rel Howery (Get Out, Keepin' It Rel with Young Wayne  podcast) chats with Nicole about dating a single mom of 4, getting thrown off a horse on a date, matching with Lizzo on Raya, and shares his tips on how to hit on women at bars.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
54:2229/07/2022
Main Character Energy (w/ Willow Pill)

Main Character Energy (w/ Willow Pill)

Reigning drag queen Willow Pill (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S14) is here! She chats with Nicole about selling mushrooms as a pandemic side hustle, her thoughts on the iconic catchphrase RuPaul gave her on the show, and partying with fans while tripping on Molly. Plus they celebrate her iconic win being the first disabled person to win Drag Race, and Willow discusses the toxicity of hustle culture and the expectations on herself to work as the winning queen. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:13:2022/07/2022
The Story of a Kissless Virgin (w/ Benton Ray)

The Story of a Kissless Virgin (w/ Benton Ray)

Comedian Benton Ray is a kissless virgin. He chats with Nicole about the circumstances of this choice, they learn new terms for different sexual orientations, and what it means to go "basket shopping" for a partner.  Plus, Benton matches with straight guys on Tinder? There's a lot to unpack here.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
50:0215/07/2022
Bringing Down Your Walls (w/ Penn Badgley)

Bringing Down Your Walls (w/ Penn Badgley)

Oh my god, he's here. Penn Badgley (You, Gossip Girl, host of Podcrushed) joins Nicole to discuss why people are infatuated by his serial killing character, why love is not depicted accurately in media, bringing down your walls to connect with people, and the existential insecurities he had when dating. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:0308/07/2022
Caught Cheating... Twice! (w/ Ketra Long)

Caught Cheating... Twice! (w/ Ketra Long)

Comedian Ketra Long joins Nicole to tell the story about how she got caught cheating twice in her relationship. She also shares the time she convinced Ne-Yo to come see her stand-up show, which she proceeded to absolutely bomb. Ketra teaches Nicole how she manages to get flown out of the country for expensive dates, plus talks about her first kiss and first fingering.  This is a wild episode, folks.  Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:0301/07/2022
A Stalking Ex-Boyfriend, a Gang Member, and a Gun (w/ Aaron Jennings)

A Stalking Ex-Boyfriend, a Gang Member, and a Gun (w/ Aaron Jennings)

Co-star Aaron Jennings (Grand Crew) and Nicole discuss grade school romances, talking finances with your partner, the benefits of dating an older man, and that iconic Oscar #slap.  Aaron shares a wild date story involving a stalking ex-boyfriend, a gang member, and a gun. Plus, Nicole's crazy neighbor pays her a visit at 3:00AM. For more Aaron Jennings, stream Grand Crew on Peacock, and the upcoming A League of Their Own TV series on Amazon Prime. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:1824/06/2022
Having a Drama-Free Divorce (w/ Grasie Mercedes)

Having a Drama-Free Divorce (w/ Grasie Mercedes)

Co-star Grasie Mercedes (Grand Crew, Access Hollywood) reflects on her 14-year relationship and the breakthrough she had in therapy which led to her divorce. They also discuss getting back into the dating scene at a later age, why white men love drinking milk, and what it means to Afro-Latina. Plus, Nicole shares her rave review for a Broadway show which featured many exposed dicks.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:1817/06/2022
Setting Yourself on Fire (w/ Vanity Jay)

Setting Yourself on Fire (w/ Vanity Jay)

Stripper and exotic entertainer Vanity Jay chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. She shares the complicated nature of dating both customers and strippers from clubs, the time she accidentally burned herself lighting her pussy on fire, and the challenges of dating a jealous partner. Plus, they help give advice to a listener seeking sex position recommendations for their partner who isn't the most endowed. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
46:5810/06/2022
Farting in Bed with your Lover (w/ Sudi Green)

Farting in Bed with your Lover (w/ Sudi Green)

Comedian and writer Sudi Green (SNL, I Love That For You) joins Nicole to discuss their awkward encounters with celebrities, having baby fever,  and farting in bed with your lover. Sudi shares a horrible hookup story where her partner was into "intense sex", but failed to preform. Nicole realizes she's horny for magic. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:05:0803/06/2022
Quit your Job (w/ Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté)

Quit your Job (w/ Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté)

Drag queen and reigning Miss Congeniality Kornbread "The Snack" Jeté (RuPaul's Drag Race S14) joins Nicole for a live episode, where they discuss her favorite kind of dick, the bad jobs she had before drag, and the men in prison who are contacting Nicole. Then, they answer audience questions about their favorite sex toys, the weirdest compliment they've gotten on a date, and blowjob tips. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:08:4727/05/2022
Keeping Relationships Off Social Media (w/ Raja Gemini)

Keeping Relationships Off Social Media (w/ Raja Gemini)

Drag queen icon Raja Gemini (winner of Drag Race S3) joins Nicole to discuss the stress of competing in the first all-winners season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars, why she keep her relationship off social media,  and shares all of her firsts - first kiss, handjob, and relationship. Plus, the story of why they got fired from MAC cosmetics, and how meeting RuPaul lead them to a job working on America's Next Top Model. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:0720/05/2022
Coping With Anxiety (w/ Taylor Tomlinson)

Coping With Anxiety (w/ Taylor Tomlinson)

Comedian Taylor Tomlinson chats with Nicole about using Instagram to document her panic attacks, coping with anxiety, and the time she was accused for being a catfish. Meanwhile, Nicole slept with a man who thought Black people were aliens. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
55:4713/05/2022
Married, but Living Apart (w/ Judy Gold)

Married, but Living Apart (w/ Judy Gold)

The hilarious Judy Gold joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of dating a therapist, her experience being selected as one of Time Out New York's Most Eligible Singles, the ethics of writing jokes about your partner, and the benefits of being married but living apart.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:08:4106/05/2022
Do Men Not Like Funny Women? (w/ Drew Lynch)

Do Men Not Like Funny Women? (w/ Drew Lynch)

Comedian and friend Drew Lynch (America's Got Talent S10) chats with Nicole about a harrowing bee incident they had together on tour, managing high levels of anxiety, and why female comics have such a hard time attracting men. Plus, Nicole's horny for emo Batman, and explains why she loves giving blowjobs so much. Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:15:2929/04/2022
Left for my Best Friend (w/ Tika Sumpter)

Left for my Best Friend (w/ Tika Sumpter)

Actress Tika Sumpter (Sonic The Hedgehog 1 & 2) recounts the times that boys have left her for her best friend, losing her expensive engagement ring, and meeting her partner on a Tyler Perry set.  Nicole realizes she has abandonment issues, and campaigns to be cast in Sonic the Hedgehog 3.  We're running low on dirty messages! Write Nicole something nasty and send it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:2122/04/2022
Bisexual Erasure (w/ Stephanie Beatriz)

Bisexual Erasure (w/ Stephanie Beatriz)

Actress Stephanie Beatriz (Encanto, Brooklyn Nine-Nine) chats with Nicole about leaving a 9 year relationship, dealing with bisexual erasure, and explains the scam behind the cult-like Twin Flames dating platform. Nicole recounts her wild experience hosting the Critics' Choice awards. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:07:3515/04/2022
How to have a WAP (w/ Donnell Rawlings)

How to have a WAP (w/ Donnell Rawlings)

Comedian Donnell Rawlings (Chappelle's Show, Winning Time: The Rise of the Lakers Dynasty) chats with Nicole about the powers of having a WAP, why successful Black women have the hardest time in relationships, being a throat goat, and hottest locations to meet new people. Meanwhile, Nicole gets her tiddy caught in a car window. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:04:2808/04/2022
The System is Broken (w/ Lilly Singh)

The System is Broken (w/ Lilly Singh)

Comedian, actress and YouTuber star Lilly Singh (A Little Late with Lilly Singh, Dollface) chats with Nicole about April Fools' Day pranks, setting up a vision board in her shower, her experience hosting a late night talk show,  and offers her tip for getting dates on Raya. Meanwhile, Nicole tries to apply to the Soho house.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
55:5401/04/2022
Nicole gets a special delivery of hot gossip

Nicole gets a special delivery of hot gossip

If there’s anyone who loves mindless gossip more than Nicole, it’s her good pal Solomon Georgio. In fact, it’s the subject of his brand new podcast from Team Coco, The Juice!On The Juice, Solomon sources only the finest gossip stories about regular folks doing crazy s**t — no celeb headlines here! Each week he’s joined by hilarious guests such as Conan, Ira Madison III, Atsuko Okatsuka, and yes, Nicole herself! Just listen as she and Solomon dig into the wild stories that fans send in on the daily. To hear Nicole dish some of HER stories with Solomon, head on over to The Juice and listen to the entire episode. Hit subscribe, leave a great review, and have a juicy day! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
09:0731/03/2022
Mistaken Identity (w/ Raven Goodwin)

Mistaken Identity (w/ Raven Goodwin)

Actress Raven Goodwin (Single Black Female, SMILF) shares her worst first dates, the adorable story behind her picnic proposal, what she planned for her bachelorette party, and how dating long distance helped strengthen the love in her relationship.Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch!! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:5725/03/2022
Twin Divorce (w/ Darcey and Stacey Silva)

Twin Divorce (w/ Darcey and Stacey Silva)

Oh my god, it’s happening. Twins Darcey and Stacy Silva (TLC's 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, Darcey & Stacey) are here! They chat with Nicole about how they were separately cast on the reality tv show, getting divorced on the same day, their plastic surgery journey, and TOM! Darcey also announces her split with Georgi, and Stacey shares details about the model who snuck into her husband's DMs in order to get onto the show. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:1818/03/2022
Granny Chaser (w/ Tenderoni)

Granny Chaser (w/ Tenderoni)

Drag king Tenderoni (Winner of The Drag Queen of the Year Pageant 2021) chats with Nicole about why they love older women, the challenges of performing as a drag king on your period, the scandalous story behind how they met their 12-year partner, and shares tips on how to be a flirt. Plus, Nicole reads some cringey dating app pick-up lines she's received.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:4311/03/2022
Married in a Hospital (w/ Danielle Pinnock)

Married in a Hospital (w/ Danielle Pinnock)

Danielle Pinnock (Young Sheldon, Ghosts) and Nicole get mistaken for each other... a lot.  The comedian and writer chats with Nicole about the different actors they get confused for, the grueling process of booking an acting job, and the very strange story behind how Danielle's wedding ended up taking place in a hospital ICU.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Want to leave Nicole a dirty message? Submit it all to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:05:2204/03/2022
Sensitive Boys (w/ Jackie Fabulous)

Sensitive Boys (w/ Jackie Fabulous)

Comedian and motivational speaker Jackie Fabulous joins Nicole to chat about negotiating prenups, how to gently give direction during sex, finding the funny in your flaws, and how to appear more desirable by looking less horny. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
53:4725/02/2022
Love Exhibited (w/ Moses Storm)

Love Exhibited (w/ Moses Storm)

Comedian Moses Storm lived in an art exhibit where he would sleep, shit, and had sex in front of an audience.  He navigates trying to find love while exhibiting, and being raided by Operation Fashion Police. Moses and Nicole also talk about shooting sex scenes for TV, preparing bits for dates, and the hookup culture on Birthright.Check out Moses's new comedy special, Trash White now on HBO Max! Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:13:0618/02/2022
Dick Tricks (w/ Shalita Grant)

Dick Tricks (w/ Shalita Grant)

Actress Shalita Grant (You, NCIS: New Orleans) talks to Nicole about her life dating an MMA fighter, her straight sex phrase, the moment she realized she was a natural at lesbian sex, and how her interest in polygamous relationships lead to her love of pole dancing. Nicole shares her blowjob trick that works every time.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:11:3211/02/2022
Lesbianity (w/ Gina Yashere)

Lesbianity (w/ Gina Yashere)

Comedian Gina Yashere (The Daily Show, Bob Hearts Abishola) chats with Nicole about the adorable meet-cute story behind meeting her girlfriend at a women's festival. She also discusses the process behind working with Chuck Lorre to co-create the sitcom Bob Hearts Abishola, her non-confrontation approach to hiring a diverse writers' room, and how Different Strokes inspired her dream to come to America. Plus, Gina explains why her birthmark is a sign that she's a reincarnation of her grandmother. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:2704/02/2022
Cumbucha (w/ Lamorne Morris)

Cumbucha (w/ Lamorne Morris)

Actor and comedian Lamorne Morris (New Girl, Woke) is here! Lamorne teaches Nicole about the importance of playing hard to get, and how to act unavailable to attract a man. They read a listener's story about a date who ditched them at the bar to go buy wet wipes and take a shit. Plus, is TikTok now the hottest new app to find a relationship? Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter! Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:3528/01/2022