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Headgum & Nicole Byer
Dating can be a hot mess, from being ghosted by your crush to realizing that you've been catfished by a Tinder match. Why Won't You Date Me? is here to help. Join Nicole Byer, the perpetual singleton, as she invites fellow comedians, friends, and ex-flings to talk romance and share their wildest dating tales, from cringeworthy first dates to jaw-dropping hookup stories. Nothing is off-limits.
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How to Make a Man Commit (w/ Abbi Jacobson)

How to Make a Man Commit (w/ Abbi Jacobson)

Comedian and actress Abbi Jacobson (Broad City, The Mitchells vs the Machines) and Nicole go over a list of ways to make a man commit - is the advice solid or is it all just mind games? Plus, Abbi shares how she met her co-star Ilana Glazer, and their combined failure trying to ask out men over Facebook. She also shares her Raya success story, and her empowering message she sends when asking someone out.  Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter! Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:09:2321/01/2022
Throwing Shade (w/ Bianca Del Rio)

Throwing Shade (w/ Bianca Del Rio)

Drag queen icon Bianca Del Rio (winner of Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to chat about the challenges of finding a partner who fits with your lifestyle, the smart system behind her meet-and-greets, getting reported on Grindr, shares secrets behind her impeccable wig lines, and throws lots of shade in between. It's a real good time - get into it! For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify:  bit.ly/wwydmdrag Check out our best episodes of 2021!  Listen at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter! Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:5014/01/2022
Hot Singles In Your Area (w/ Chelsea Peretti)

Hot Singles In Your Area (w/ Chelsea Peretti)

Comedian and actress Chelsea Peretti (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Sing 2) chats with Nicole about the best places you can go to meet singles, strong pick-up lines, and how she met husband Jordan Peele through a DM.  Check out our best episodes of 2021!  Listen at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:10:2207/01/2022
Relationship Deal Breakers (w/ Nina West)

Relationship Deal Breakers (w/ Nina West)

Drag queen Nina West (Drag Race S11, Hairspray) is just as tragically single as Nicole. They commiserate over the single life, talk about how Nina’s life drastically changed after Drag Race, the most annoying responses to get on dating apps, and absolute deal breakers in a relationship.Originally recorded May 25th, 2021. Our Best of 2021 list is here! Listen to top episodes you voted for at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:18:3731/12/2021
Naming Your Body Parts (w/ Heidi N Closet)

Naming Your Body Parts (w/ Heidi N Closet)

Drag queen Heidi N Closet (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) chats with Nicole about how her dating life changed after Drag Race, the kinky things she's introduced in the bedroom, the various names she's given all of her body parts, and lady glory holes. Plus, they answer all of your questions about Valentine's day - the best food to eat,  their worst Valentine's day, and their dream hookup.Originally recorded February 12th, 2021. Our Best of 2021 list is here! Listen to top episodes you voted for at teamcoco.com/dateme2021 Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:07:0924/12/2021
Raw, Unadulterated Fun (w/ D'Arcy Carden)

Raw, Unadulterated Fun (w/ D'Arcy Carden)

Friend, actress, and comedian D’Arcy Carden (The Good Place, Barry) joins Nicole live for some raw, unadulterated fun! They check in on how they've been handling the pandemie, the adorable details  behind D'Arcy's 15 year relationship, microdosing on shrooms, and oh boy really so much more. We had a big teeheehee. Originally recorded January 6th, 2021. Today is the last day to vote for our Fan Favs  list! Vote for your favorite pod episodes at teamcoco.com/datemevote Watch Nicole's new Netflix special  BBW (Big Beautiful Weirdo) Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:22:2117/12/2021
The Nicest Dick I've Ever Seen (w/ Naomi Smalls)

The Nicest Dick I've Ever Seen (w/ Naomi Smalls)

The holidays are here! As a gift, we're releasing the livestreamed episodes from behind the paywall!  On today's episode, drag queen Naomi Smalls (RuPaul's Drag Race S8, All-Stars S4) joins Nicole to talk about her experience being a sheep farmer, how she navigated backlash from the Drag Race fandom, and the nicest dicks they've ever seen.  Plus, Naomi and Nicole answer your questions about the best food to eat before and after sex, their most awkward hookup stories, and the weirdest place they've boinked. Originally recorded November 11th 2020. We're putting together a Fan Favs episode list! Vote for your favorite pod episodes at teamcoco.com/datemevote For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Watch Nicole's new Netflix special  BBW (Big Beautiful Weirdo) Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:30:0410/12/2021
My Dominatrix Roommate (w/ Joyelle Nicole Johnson)

My Dominatrix Roommate (w/ Joyelle Nicole Johnson)

Comedian Joyelle Nicole Johnson lived with a dominatrix. She talks about the type of clients that would visit her apartment, and the kinky 'services' she was offered. Plus, she shares how she met her husband at a funeral, making a 'dessert room' for a wedding, and the importance of couples therapy in any relationship.   Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air.   Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
58:3403/12/2021
Best Relationship Ever! (w/ Jimmy O. Yang)

Best Relationship Ever! (w/ Jimmy O. Yang)

Comedian and actor Jimmy O. Yang (Silicon Valley, Love Hard) joins Nicole to tell the story of how he met his girlfriend, discusses at what point does a relationship become serious, and suggests Nicole change the name of the podcast in order to better manifest a partner. Jimmy gives acting tips and shares what he would teach in his 'practical acting' course, and Nicole's excited to have started watching The Office. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
55:5126/11/2021
Kidnapped and On the Run (w/ Aida Rodriguez)

Kidnapped and On the Run (w/ Aida Rodriguez)

Comedian Aida Rodriguez was kidnapped twice as a child.  She describes her time on the run with a murderer, and how she uses her stand-up comedy to process her traumas. They also discuss dating red flags to look out for, Nicole's love for a serial killer, plus a story from a listener who dated a sock-sniffing Trump supporter. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it answered on-air. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:0819/11/2021
Real Life vs Your Persona Life (w/ Raven-Symoné and Miranda Maday)

Real Life vs Your Persona Life (w/ Raven-Symoné and Miranda Maday)

Raven-Symoné (That's So Raven) and wife Miranda Maday join Nicole to share the story of how they met, broke up, and got back together again. They discuss learning to love your real self as well as your persona self, organizing a micro wedding during COVID, and Raven shares her experience co-officiating a wedding with Cardi B. Miranda suggests to Nicole how she can find love at OA meetings. This podcast is nominated for a People's Choice Award! Please vote at  bit.ly/VoteWWYDM Black Lives Matter.  Click here for a list of ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:07:5012/11/2021
From DM to Marriage (w/ Shannon Joy Rodgers)

From DM to Marriage (w/ Shannon Joy Rodgers)

Friend and writer Shannon Joy Rodgers (Jimmy Kimmel Live!, Ellen) joins Nicole to talk about roller-blading, the costs and challenges of planning a COVID-safe wedding right now, and how she found her husband by sliding into the DMs. Plus, in a podcast first, Nicole receives a musical answer to the question "Would you date me?". The podcast is nominated for a People's Choice Award! Please vote at  bit.ly/VoteWWYDM Black Lives Matter.  Click here for a list of ways you can support racial justice. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:4405/11/2021
The Art of Taking a Profile Pic (w/ Rob Corddry)

The Art of Taking a Profile Pic (w/ Rob Corddry)

Comedian Rob Corddry (Childrens Hospital, Hot Tub Time Machine) joins Nicole to discuss cannibalism, the art of taking a good profile picture, Rob gives advice on Nicole's dating app bio, and they both geek out over cars. Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it answered on-air. The podcast is nominated for a People's Choice Award! Please vote at  bit.ly/VoteWWYDM Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:5929/10/2021
Zoom Speed Dating (w/ Gilli Nissim)

Zoom Speed Dating (w/ Gilli Nissim)

Friend and writer Gilli Nissim (The Other Two, A.P Bio) joins Nicole to discuss breaking up in the middle of the pandemic, her experience speed dating over Zoom, and traveling abroad for hookups.  Nicole wishes that she can go on Birthright. Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:4122/10/2021
Attached (w/ Brittani Nichols)

Attached (w/ Brittani Nichols)

Comedian and writer Brittani Nichols (A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about recognizing different adult attachment styles in relationships, how her relationship sparked by a DM slide asking "Who's that zaddy?", and discusses why it's healthy to date multiple people at once. Plus, Nicole plays dead on a date.Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:3315/10/2021
Second Puberty (w/ Carter Ray)

Second Puberty (w/ Carter Ray)

Filmmaker Carter Ray (The Change Up) chats with Nicole about their experience going through a 2nd puberty while on hormones, the challenges they faced coming out while attending a Christian high school, and the difference in dating women as a lesbian vs as a trans man. Carter shares his goal to reshape the representation of trans people seen on-screen.Black Lives Matter. Click here for a list of over 100 different ways you can support racial justice.Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
58:0208/10/2021
Pooping Together (w/ Meghan Trainor and Ryan Trainor)

Pooping Together (w/ Meghan Trainor and Ryan Trainor)

Does the couple that poop together, stay together? Grammy-award winning singer-songwriter Meghan Trainor and brother Ryan Trainor (co-hosts of Workin on It') discuss the special relationship that's bonded over pooping. Meghan confesses she had 2 toilets installed in her bathroom so her and her husband can poop together. Ryan shares how the pandemic lead him to sobriety. They also discuss dating red flags, the importance of being regular, and the effects on dating if you avoid social media. Plus, Nicole tries a Sybian.Black Lives Matter. For a list of over 100 different ways to support racial justice, click here. Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter:@nicolebyerInstagram:@nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
51:5401/10/2021
Awkward Sex Talk (w/ Crystal Methyd)

Awkward Sex Talk (w/ Crystal Methyd)

Drag queen Crystal Methyd (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) joins Nicole to chat about their most romantic date, getting the 'sex talk' at the age of 22, and debates if you should text your date back immediately. They also discuss their journey into drag, finding their drag aesthetic, and their experience shooting Drag Race in the middle of the pandemic. Meanwhile, Nicole is worried her Netflix show is cockblocking her.Thank you to all that have supported the show through 200 episodes!Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see linktr.ee/nationalresourceslistFollow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter:@nicolebyerInstagram:@nicolebyerNew Merch Store! podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
48:0024/09/2021
Playing Hard to Get (w/ Ms. Pat)

Playing Hard to Get (w/ Ms. Pat)

Comedian Ms. Pat chats with Nicole about her time in jail for drug trafficking, shares the secrets behind her 28 years of marriage, and offers advice on how to play hard to get. Plus, Ms. Pat's not happy that Nicole's sleeping around with random audience members, so she decides to set Nicole up with a man. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see linktr.ee/nationalresourceslist Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:2217/09/2021
Yelp for Escorts (w/ Alexa Eason)

Yelp for Escorts (w/ Alexa Eason)

Full-service sex worker Alexa Eason shares about her life as an escort. She teaches Nicole about BDSM, the relationship risks involved with sex work, Instagram's censoring of fat bodies, and the dreaded "Yelp for Escorting" sites where escorts are ranked against each other. Alexa gives advice for anyone looking to get started doing sex work. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
55:1309/09/2021
Catfish Catcher (w/ Justin Martindale)

Catfish Catcher (w/ Justin Martindale)

Comedian Justin Martindale joins Nicole to discuss how their 'summer of love' has been disappointingly dry for the both of them. Justin shares the time he got catfished by a cop, how he deals with chucklefuckers while touring, and the craziness behind the #FreeBritney movement. Plus, what's up with these people getting duct taped on airplanes? Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
45:2303/09/2021
Sucking D in the Locker Room (w/ Laganja Estranja)

Sucking D in the Locker Room (w/ Laganja Estranja)

Drag queen and choreographer Laganja Estranja (RuPaul's Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to discuss her truth coming out as trans, finding confidence in self-love, the thrill of sucking dick in the high school locker room, and getting off on Grindr messages. Plus, Laganja discusses the injuries she sustains stunting, and answers if she would participate in a future season of RPDR All Stars. For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:0527/08/2021
Hot Girl Summer (w/ Lawrence Chaney)

Hot Girl Summer (w/ Lawrence Chaney)

Drag queen of Scots Lawrence Chaney (winner of RPDR UK S2) chats with Nicole about his dating live after winning Drag Race, how he got banned from Tinder for 'catfishing' as himself, and pitches to host the UK version of Nailed It!. Meanwhile, Nicole's plans for a Hot Girl Summer have gone awry. For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:08:4020/08/2021
I got 99 problems... palsy is just one (w/ Maysoon Zayid)

I got 99 problems... palsy is just one (w/ Maysoon Zayid)

Comedian and actress Maysoon Zayid was born with cerebral palsy. She chats with Nicole about some of the cruel comments she receives about her disability, the struggles comedians of color face in Hollywood, and shares her wild industry rejection stories. Maysoon also advocates why speed-dating is a cost-effective and efficient way of finding love, and helps break down the current Israeli-Palestinian conflict. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
56:5713/08/2021
How to be Intuitive About Your Love Life (w/ Laura Day)

How to be Intuitive About Your Love Life (w/ Laura Day)

'Psychic to the stars' and best selling author Laura Day is here to teach Nicole all about intuition and how to develop it. She discusses how she realized she had intuitive powers, coaches how to be intuitive about your own love life, and how to train your pleasure receptors and send out pleasure signals to a potential mate. Black Lives Still Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:1306/08/2021
Problem Solving on the Toilet (w/ Yola)

Problem Solving on the Toilet (w/ Yola)

What a treat. Grammy nominated English musician Yola is here! Nicole and Yola chat about the difference in racism when dating in the UK vs the US, how crying on her motorcycle back from her mother's funeral inspired her songwriting, and how sitting on the toilet can be the best way to solve creative challenges. Check out Yola new album, Stand for Myself, out today. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer New Merch Store! podswag.com/dateme Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:4530/07/2021
Thriving Alone (w/ Harvey Guillén)

Thriving Alone (w/ Harvey Guillén)

Actor Harvey Guillén (What We Do in the Shadows) is single but not quite ready to mingle. He discusses why he guards his profession from his dating life, how he found love on Instagram, and the important need for space in any relationship. Nicole reads some wild dating app profiles. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:5423/07/2021
Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) talks about the struggles of being a mother of twins, explains the latest fad of 'co-parenting', and describes how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest your dream person. Meanwhile, Nicole counts down the days until her dick appointment. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, see blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:2716/07/2021
The Cost of Being 'Cute' (w/ Cat Hollis)

The Cost of Being 'Cute' (w/ Cat Hollis)

Cat Hollis led the 2020 Portland Stripper Strike. Here, she explain why it happened and her work for equitable workspaces in the adult industry. Cat discusses the costs of being cute, shares the common challenges people face when dating a stripper, and gives advice on how to feel sexy even after a rejection. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
47:5509/07/2021
The Power of 'I Love You' (w/ Sam Richardson)

The Power of 'I Love You' (w/ Sam Richardson)

Actor and comedian Sam Richardson (Veep, I Think You Should Leave) chats with Nicole about his success finding love on Raya, wanting kids so he can continue doing kid things, the power of saying 'I love you' first in a relationship, and pitches ideas for dating app opening messages. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
54:2502/07/2021
Are you 'Love Avoidant'? (w/ Reggie Watts)

Are you 'Love Avoidant'? (w/ Reggie Watts)

Comedian and musician Reggie Watts (The Late Late Show with James Corden) chats with Nicole about his unique eating habits, his time spent playing in a 70's cover band, and the weird shift from being a fake band leader on Comedy Bang! Bang!, to a real band leader for The Late Late Show with James Corden. Nicole learns she may be 'love avoidant'. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:4125/06/2021
We're living in the wildest times (w/ Jason Concepcion)

We're living in the wildest times (w/ Jason Concepcion)

Jason Concepcion (host of Takeline, Binge Mode) joins Nicole to discuss the culture shock he experienced visiting the Philippines during a coup, how the pandemic revealed America's systemic failures, their favorite small businesses to support, and the WNBA. As America opens back up, Nicole's back in the dating game but it's not going so well. Are dating apps operating fake profiles to keep you engaged? Plus, Nicole runs into an old fling and things got weird. Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:04:3318/06/2021
Back in the Dating Game (w/ Shea Couleé)

Back in the Dating Game (w/ Shea Couleé)

Drag queen Shea Couleé (Winner of RPDR All Stars 5) talks to Nicole about finding love at the club, being a drag mother, wig mishaps, and doing poppers. Plus, Nicole's back in the dating game and it's off to an awkward start.For more Shea & Nicole, check out Nicole's episode on Shea's podcast Wanna Be On Top? For more drag queens on WWYDM, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co.Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:06:3404/06/2021
Sleeping with Your Uber Driver (w/ London Hughes)

Sleeping with Your Uber Driver (w/ London Hughes)

Comedian London Hughes (Netflix's To Catch a Dick) and Nicole chat about her experience moving to America during a pandemic and race war, sleeping with her Uber driver, doggy style techniques, sucking dick, and pitch their new doomsday movie idea. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to support, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:08:4728/05/2021
Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)

Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)

Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) and Nicole chat about how his proposal to June Diane Raphael went terribly wrong, how June's wedding ring was stolen from her finger, and shares good wisdom on the importance of relationship building. Plus, June sits nearby, fact-checking Paul's stories. May 25th See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE featuring Drag Race S11's Miss Congeniality Nina West! Get tickets at live.nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:1921/05/2021
Kinky in Public (w/ Jessica Rothe)

Kinky in Public (w/ Jessica Rothe)

Actress Jessica Rothe (Happy Death Day, La La Land) and Nicole discuss if it's OK to do kinky acts in public, the bizarre ways people are monetizing kinks, and the surprising reality of male escorting. Plus, Jessica describes her pandemy micro-wedding, and her major mic-drop "I love you" moment in her relationship. See Why Won't You Date Me LIVE May 25th! Tickets at live.nicolebyerwastaken.com Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:13:1814/05/2021
Filming Sex Scenes (w/ Casey Wilson)

Filming Sex Scenes (w/ Casey Wilson)

Comedian Casey Wilson (Happy Endings, SNL) chats with Nicole about shooting her recent sex scene, exchanges crazy nannying stories, and shares how she met her husband on the set of Happy Endings. Plus, Nicole matched with her Nailed-It camera person and things got weird. Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:0107/05/2021
Being 'Sexually Smart' (w/ JB Smoove)

Being 'Sexually Smart' (w/ JB Smoove)

Comedian, actor, and self-proclaimed 'Love Doctor' JB Smoove (Curb Your Enthusiasm) joins Nicole to provide his wisdom on flirting, roller skating, developing rhythm, and shares his guide on having sensual sex. Then, JB elaborates on some motivational quotes. For more of JB’s wisdom, check out his new daily podcast May I Elaborate? Daily Wisdom from JB Smoove. We're nominated for a Webby Award! Please cast your vote here: bit.ly/wwydmvote Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
45:4830/04/2021
Bad Dating App Bios (w/ Aparna Nancherla)

Bad Dating App Bios (w/ Aparna Nancherla)

Stand-up comedian Aparna Nancherla (BoJack Horseman, Corporate) joins Nicole to discuss how her first and only Tinder date evolved into her longterm relationship. They read some bad dating app bios, talk The Real Housewives of Potomac, and Aparna gives advice on preparing for the possibility of a Handmaid's Tale-like apocalypse. We're nominated for a Webby Award! Please cast your vote here: https://vote.webbyawards.com/PublicVoting#/2021/podcasts/general-series/comedy Follow Nicole Byer: Upcoming Tour Dates: linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
49:5223/04/2021
Will You Be My Girl? (w/ Jillian Bell)

Will You Be My Girl? (w/ Jillian Bell)

Actress and comedian Jillian Bell (Workaholics,The Pole) joins Nicole to solve the reasoning behind their mutual singleness. They discuss the results of their recent psychic readings, how they confront people who aren't wearing a mask, QAnon, and manifest qualities of their dream partner. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:14:0416/04/2021
Finding the G-Spot (w/ Marc Rebillet)

Finding the G-Spot (w/ Marc Rebillet)

Loop Daddy AKA Marc Rebillet Fucks. He and Nicole have a very horny chat about how he's enjoying his singledom, gaining the confidence to dominate submissive women, and why being brutally honest in a relationship will save you so much time. Plus, Nicole shares some self-loving tips she learned from her therapist. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
54:3809/04/2021
Deputy Gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department (w/ Cerise Castle)

Deputy Gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department (w/ Cerise Castle)

In this bonus episode, Nicole talks to reporter Cerise Castle about her multi-part series, A TRADITION OF VIOLENCE, uncovering the history of deputy gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department. Please note that this episode contains descriptions of police brutality and sexual assault that some people may find disturbing. Read Cerise's ongoing investigation here: knc.la/tradition See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
49:3706/04/2021
Arranged Marriages (w/ Hari Kondabolu)

Arranged Marriages (w/ Hari Kondabolu)

Stand-up comedian Hari Kondabolu (The Problem with Apu, host of Politically Re-Active) joins Nicole to break down some common misconceptions about arranged marriages, shares how he met his wife on Facebook, and discusses the importance of having personal space in any relationship. Nicole reflects on an odd conversation she had on a date about dingleberries, plus shares dating advice she received from John Cena while on the set of Wipeout. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:5502/04/2021
Acid Tripping (w/ Bowen Yang)

Acid Tripping (w/ Bowen Yang)

Actor and comedian Bowen Yang (SNL) is just as fiercely single as Nicole. They talk about the struggles of singledom, the crazy current news cycles, their acid tripping experiences, and Bowen shares dating advice he received from Adam Sandler. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:0826/03/2021
Polyamorous and Experimenting (w/ Ashley Ray)

Polyamorous and Experimenting (w/ Ashley Ray)

Comedian and pop culture expert Ashley Ray (host of TV I Say podcast) used Tinder to run an experiment where she dated every zodiac sign for a month at a time. She explains her findings, her polyamorous dating life, and what it was like to have 8 boyfriends at once. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Buy Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book: www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:04:3919/03/2021
How to Manifest your Dream Man (w/ Alaska Thunderfuck)

How to Manifest your Dream Man (w/ Alaska Thunderfuck)

Drag queen Alaska Thunderfuck (RuPaul's Drag Race S5, winner of Drag Race All Stars S2) joins Nicole to discuss what it was like to date another drag queen, how to manifest your dream man, their unexpected dating life after Drag Race, and some nightmare customer service stories. Plus, Nicole recounts the time she performed sketch comedy to Dolly Parton. For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:4612/03/2021
Unravelling From A Breakup (w/ Rhea Butcher)

Unravelling From A Breakup (w/ Rhea Butcher)

Comedian Rhea Butcher (Adam Ruins Everything, Good Trouble) chats with Nicole about how they quit smoking after 16 years, being a lifetime vegetarian, and their old stand-up show, Put Your Hands Together. Rhea then discusses what it was like to unravel from their past relationship, dealing with the public aspect of a breakup, and the story of how they met their new partner. Stream Rhea's new special, "Pull Yourself up by Your Bootleg" at bstlnk.to/butcher. Black Lives Matter! For a list of resources and ways to help, go to blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:4205/03/2021
You Need Therapy (w/ Nore Davis)

You Need Therapy (w/ Nore Davis)

Comedian Nore Davis talks with Nicole about the movies that have brought them joy, why he's decided to 'date himself', leaving a toxic relationship, and the importance of therapy. This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:3026/02/2021
Love & Music (w/ Randy Jackson)

Love & Music (w/ Randy Jackson)

Musician/producer/host Randy Jackson (American Idol, Name That Tune) shares his skepticism with app dating, the worst date he’s been on, his favorite love songs, and catfishing. This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
39:0119/02/2021
Stripping & Sex Work (w/ Teddy B. Ruxpin)

Stripping & Sex Work (w/ Teddy B. Ruxpin)

Dancer and sex worker Teddy B. Ruxpin chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. They discuss her start into the profession, finding her niche as an "alt girl", dealing with racism in the workplace, and her work for stripper advocacy. Plus, Teddy reveals she dated a comedian who would talk about her work in his stand-up routine. Tonight - See a LIVE virtual episode of Why Won't You Date Me? with Heidi N Closet! Tickets: onlocationlive.com/nicolebyer This Black History Month, research anti-racism resources and donate to Black Lives Matter at blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyer Instagram: @nicolebyer Facebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
52:2012/02/2021