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Headgum & Nicole Byer
Dating can be a hot mess, from being ghosted by your crush to realizing that you've been catfished by a Tinder match. Why Won't You Date Me? is here to help. Join Nicole Byer, the perpetual singleton, as she invites fellow comedians, friends, and ex-flings to talk romance and share their wildest dating tales, from cringeworthy first dates to jaw-dropping hookup stories. Nothing is off-limits.
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Being a WOMAN (w/ Sasha Colby)

Being a WOMAN (w/ Sasha Colby)

Drag queen mother Sasha Colby (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S15) sits down with Nicole to discuss the unique challenges of dating as a trans woman. Sasha shares her experiences of dating in the closet during high school, recounts where she's had heartwarming meet-cutes, and delves into her personal interpretation of what it means to be a ~Woman~. Nicole pays for the Raya feature that shows who's liked her. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
53:3515/12/2023
Surprise Date Ideas (w/ Lisa Gilroy)

Surprise Date Ideas (w/ Lisa Gilroy)

Comedian Lisa Gilroy doesn't want you to think about her little tiddies, okay? So she shares her adventures in surprise dating, complete with tips on how to execute your own fun surprise date for your partner. Lisa reflects on her journey as a 'teenage bride,' recounting her marriage to her high school sweetheart. She pitches an innovative concept for a live dating show to help Nicole find love, and Nicole opens up about her humiliating experience on Celebrity Dating Game. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:0708/12/2023
Cancelled (w/ Kathy Griffin)

Cancelled (w/ Kathy Griffin)

Comedy icon Kathy Griffin sits down with Nicole to tackle the burning question: Is she still cancelled? She discusses her relationship with her tour manager, who supported her through a tumultuous five-year period marked by FBI investigations and a struggle with pill addiction. Kathy shares stories of her past relationships, including dating Quentin Tarantino, lying about her age to date Joey from NSYNC, and sleeping around with her students at the Groundlings. Plus, get the scoop on what it was like living next door to celebrities Kim and Kanye. Is Kanye as weird to talk to in person? The answer will not shock you. Get tickets to Kathy's upcoming tour at kathygriffin.com/tour. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
56:1801/12/2023
The Celibacy Choice (w/ Kel Mitchell)

The Celibacy Choice (w/ Kel Mitchell)

Comedian Kel Mitchell (Kenan & Kel, Good Burger) joins Nicole to explore his evolution from teen heartthrob to youth pastor. They delve into the merits of building romance on the foundation of friendship, the transformative impact of three years of celibacy on his relationship, and the art of mastering conflict resolution in partnerships. Kel recounts an unforgettable wingman adventure, plus, Nicole dishes on a juicy juicy couple's argument she overheard.   Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:08:2224/11/2023
How to Spot a Hobosexual (w/ Alesha Reneé)

How to Spot a Hobosexual (w/ Alesha Reneé)

Actress & TV personality Alesha Reneé (Grand Crew, Girl Code) joins Nicole to delve into the world of 'hobosexuals,' revealing her experience dating one and offering tips on how to spot if you are too. She opens up about a past partner's breach of trust, when she found out he had been secretly reading her diary. They review the "worst" places to go on a first date, and Alesha shares the bizarre story of how she got robbed by a clown. Plus, Nicole opens up about her first attempt at cooking for a man, and let's just say, it didn't quite go as planned. Check out Alesha's new series, Unleash for Love, available on Audible! Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:2017/11/2023
Reading Nicole's Fortune (w/ Witch Sutton Crawford)

Reading Nicole's Fortune (w/ Witch Sutton Crawford)

Ever wonder what it's like to have your tarot cards read? Witch and intuitionist Sutton Crawford gives Nicole an on-air reading regarding her love life. Sutton shares her journey to recognizing her own intuitive gifts, and chats about the mystical effects of eclipses and the cosmic influences you might be feeling. Plus, she shares a chilling ghost story and teaches how to set firm boundaries with the spirit world to keep those unwanted ghostly visitors at bay.  Meanwhile, Nicole opens up about establishing new boundaries on dating apps. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:01:4710/11/2023
Saying I Love You (w/ Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins)

Saying I Love You (w/ Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins)

Actress Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins (Dear White People, Grand Crew) joins Nicole to chat about her perfect engagement story, getting over the nerves to say "I love you", and learning how to enjoy the beauty of being single. Meanwhile, Nicole is living her "horny for love" era. While some of her manifestations are starting to come true.... the question remains: can she manifest the partner of her dreams? Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:3003/11/2023
Kink Gone Wrong (w/ Jonathan Van Ness)

Kink Gone Wrong (w/ Jonathan Van Ness)

Hairstylist and icon Jonathan Van Ness (Queer Eye) shares with Nicole an unforgettable and horrifying story about his first foray into the kink of watersports, what it was like to have his wedding over Zoom, and consults Nicole on her Instagram page, offering savvy tips on how to up her dating game on the app. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:5327/10/2023
Relationship Manipulation Tactics (w/ E.R. Fightmaster)

Relationship Manipulation Tactics (w/ E.R. Fightmaster)

Comedian E.R. Fightmaster (Shrill, Grey's Anatomy) joins Nicole to discuss the benefits of keeping romantic partnerships out of the public eye, how dating reality TV shows are normalizing abuse in relationships, and the common manipulation tactics to watch out for in your love life. Plus, they share horniest they've ever been in their life, and what it's like to write horny music.Check out E.R.'s new EP, VIOLENCE, out today. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:5820/10/2023
Hurt People Hurt People (w/ Kenny DeForest)

Hurt People Hurt People (w/ Kenny DeForest)

Comedian Kenny DeForest joins Nicole to explore how an amicable split after 8.5 years can transform someone from a 'fuckboy' to a 'boyfriend without a girlfriend'. He shares how being an only child can lead to challenges entering the dating pool, the extremely addictive nature of dating apps, and tackles the ethical dilemma many comedians face: should you give your ex a heads-up if they're the subject of your latest stand-up routine?Check out Kenny's new special, Don't You Know Who I Am?, now streaming on YouTube. Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:0713/10/2023
Advice From an Intimacy Expert (w/ Shan Boodram)

Advice From an Intimacy Expert (w/ Shan Boodram)

Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram (Sexology, Lovers & Friends) joins Nicole to teach her how to radiate better vibes on dates, master the art of life goal prioritization, and explore the intriguing concept of marriage pacts. Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be the intimacy coordinator on 'Too Hot to Handle'? Shan spills all the beans on that and more. Plus she gets personal, revealing how she turned a fuckbuddy into a spouse, and shares the guidelines governing her non-monogamous relationship.Submit a dirty message to Nicole! Write it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:0006/10/2023
Breaking Up (w/ Eric Andre)

Breaking Up (w/ Eric Andre)

Is it worse to break up with someone, or get broken up with? Comedian Eric Andre (Bombing with Eric Andre) joins Nicole to delve into the heartache of breakups, including the time Eric was dumped via note. He also shares the nerve-wracking story about losing his virginity, talks first crush, first boner, and hard drugs. Plus, they answer your submitted questions, from awkward run-ins with exes to how to get your partner in therapy.Have a question of your own? Submit it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on air.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
45:3729/09/2023
Positive Affirmations to Change Your Psyche (w/ Leslie Jones)

Positive Affirmations to Change Your Psyche (w/ Leslie Jones)

Comedian Leslie Jones (SNL) chats with Nicole about the challenges of adjusting to a new relationship, strategies to eliminate negative self-talk, and offers Nicole advice on her latest breakup. Plus, Leslie talks about the married chucklefuckers approaching her after shows, and reveals the dating app that's been a game-changer for her.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:3122/09/2023
Achieving 'Couple Goals' (w/ Michael Jai White)

Achieving 'Couple Goals' (w/ Michael Jai White)

Ever wondered what lies behind those picture-perfect 'couple goals'? Action star Michael Jai White (Black Dynamite, Outlaw Johnny Black) joins Nicole to spill his secrets to a happy, argument-free relationship. He shares why he doesn't believe in 'dating' and offers a fresh perspective on building a relationship with a partner.  Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
54:2615/09/2023
Sex and Love Addict (w/ Maria Bamford)

Sex and Love Addict (w/ Maria Bamford)

Ever wondered what it's like getting intimate with a clown? Deep dive as comedian Maria Bamford (Arrested Development, Big Mouth) unravels her experiences as sex and love addict, the relationship tools she's learned in her 12 step programs, and her mental illnesses. Plus, for those seeking lasting love, Maria shares the 4 behaviors to avoid divorce. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:3608/09/2023
Feeling Safe in a Relationship (w/ Uzo Aduba)

Feeling Safe in a Relationship (w/ Uzo Aduba)

The Emmy-winning Uzo Aduba (Orange Is The New Black) chats with Nicole about how her dating app DMs changed after booking Crazy Eyes, finding love at a mixer, the deep connection between her personal grief and art, and the importance of honesty in relationships. Plus, Nicole fails to hit on a cashier. Recorded July 13th 2023. For more information on the SAG-AFTRA strike, see sagaftrastrike.org. Consider donating to the Entertainment Community Fund to assist struck entertainment workers.  Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:4101/09/2023
Nicole Eats a Banana from a Sex Worker's Pussy (w/ Naomi Rodgers)

Nicole Eats a Banana from a Sex Worker's Pussy (w/ Naomi Rodgers)

Broadway star Naomi Rodgers (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical) opens up about secretly dating her co-star while on tour, and offers advice how to grieve and get over a breakup. Nicole shares her latest European dating mishaps, including an unforgettable visit to the Red Light District. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
56:3525/08/2023
300 Episodes of Why Won't You Date Me (w/ Sasheer Zamata)

300 Episodes of Why Won't You Date Me (w/ Sasheer Zamata)

It's episode 300! But how is Nicole STILL SINGLE?  On this milestone occasion, she's joined by her best friend Sasheer Zamata (co-host of Best Friends) to get to the bottom of it. In this special retrospective, they explore: How Nicole's dating life has evolved with the podcast The highs and lows of her love life Their favorite dates they've been on The best dating advice they've received Their new favorite sex toys they've been using And they answer your questions about whether you should call out cheating in other people's relationships, dating someone with a bad social media persona, and their thoughts on Tinx's Box Theory. We're back in the studio, and folks, the energy is unhinged. You don't want to miss this one. Be sure to check out Sasheer's new special, THE FIRST WOMAN, available at 800 Pound Gorilla.  Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:08:2518/08/2023
Romancing Overseas (w/ Zurin Villanueva)

Romancing Overseas (w/ Zurin Villanueva)

Broadway superstar Zurin Villanueva (Tina: The Tina Turner Musical)  joins Nicole for a discussion about the awkwardness of working together with a past hookup, safety precautions when dating abroad, and the best grocery store to find a good man. Plus, don't miss Zurin's recounting of a date gone awry when her phone rang, and on the other end? Her date's ex. Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to [email protected] for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:5511/08/2023
Gay Orgies (w/ Jay Jurden)

Gay Orgies (w/ Jay Jurden)

The hilarious comedian Jay Jurden joins Nicole to talk about his secret relationship with a frat boy, working at Abercrombie & Fitch during its peak era, the best app for threeways, and what goes on at a gay orgy. Plus, Nicole gets hit on by a 911 responder. Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to [email protected] for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:09:5904/08/2023
Dating an Asexual (w/ Gigi Goode)

Dating an Asexual (w/ Gigi Goode)

Drag queen Gigi Goode (Drag Race S12) joins Nicole for a supersized live episode of the podcast! They talk about her trans journey during the pandemic, how the type of people who are attracted to her has changed since transitioning, making friends through Tinder, and shares her experience being in a long term relationship with a partner who's asexual. She also tells just so many, bad, no awful, date stories.  Plus, an audience Q&A: Do queens get cozy on the set of Drag Race? Is it possible to date someone you're not attracted to? What's the best one-liner for a dating app? Dive in to find out!Recorded live at The Elysian 4/5/2023. Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to [email protected] for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:47:0928/07/2023
Mutual Ghosting (w/ Robin Fierce)

Mutual Ghosting (w/ Robin Fierce)

Drag queen Robin Fierce (Drag Race S15) LIP-SYNCS TO THIS VERY PODCAST! She talks about remixing Nicole's comedy in her drag performance, opens up about her relationship with Drag Race contestant Amethyst, shares the new subtle way to look for a sugar daddy on dating apps,  and speaks out on how people are using Grindr for their own personal meet & greets.  Robin gives us a exclusive look at her Snatch Game audition as Nicole Byer (and why it didn't help her book the show). Plus, the haunting tale of a Grindr date with a catfish.  For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Nicole wants to hear from you! Need dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to [email protected] for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:04:4221/07/2023
Catfishing Men on Craigslist (w/ Bosco)

Catfishing Men on Craigslist (w/ Bosco)

Drag queen Bosco (Drag Race S14) joins Nicole to discuss their long-term relationship with a fan, recounts her most enchanting full-day date, and tells how to spot chasers vs. genuine men. She shares how catfishing on Craigslist for attention ignited her trans journey, plus spills the tea on the severe highs, lows, and trauma shooting Drag Race.  For more drag queen interviews, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to [email protected] for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode. Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
54:2714/07/2023
Nicole Wins an Orgasm Contest (w/ Matteo Lane)

Nicole Wins an Orgasm Contest (w/ Matteo Lane)

Comedian and friend Matteo Lane returns to the podcast! They reminisce about his love life since his last episode, getting kicked off Grindr and Tinder for "catfishing" as himself, and why men are intimidated by successful women. Nicole wins the orgasm contest at the Thunder from Down Under Vegas show. Matteo hooks up with a dancer from Magic Mike. Plus, a whole lot more.  Watch Matteo Lane's new special, Hair Plugs & Heartache, free on YouTube. Have a question for Nicole? Submit it to [email protected] to have it answered on a upcoming special. Follow Nicole Byer: Now on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken.Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
41:5207/07/2023
Tasteful Dick Pics (w/ Jermaine Fowler)

Tasteful Dick Pics (w/ Jermaine Fowler)

Comedian & actor Jermaine Fowler (The Blackening) joins Nicole to reminisce on their time working on Guy/Girl Code, his joy of being a unexpected father, and discusses what makes a great dick pic. Nicole is now horny for them, but before you go sliding one into her DMs, she shares her criteria on how to take a tasteful pic. See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
39:5730/06/2023
Finding Your Confidence (w/ Jay Pharoah)

Finding Your Confidence (w/ Jay Pharoah)

Comedian Jay Pharoah (Saturday Night Live) dives into how a messy breakup ended up saving his SNL career, and the bizarre role Donald Trump played in his escape from a toxic relationship. Jay shares the impressions he's been asked to do during sex, and how developing self-confidence saved him from a bad situation. Plus, what's it like to have your photos used by a catfish? See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:02:0023/06/2023
Fake It Til You Make It (w/ Melvin Gregg)

Fake It Til You Make It (w/ Melvin Gregg)

Comedian and actor Melvin Gregg (Vine, American Vandal, The Blackening) opens up about his unique romantic path, where pretending to be a couple turned into the real deal. He takes us on a trip down memory lane, tracing his roots from being a Vine sensation to earning the badge of an early verified Tinder user. Plus, he shares his pro tips on sealing the deal at the end of any date or encounter.  See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
52:4416/06/2023
Transcending Norms (w/ TS Madison)

Transcending Norms (w/ TS Madison)

Actress and activist TS Madison (judge on RuPaul's Drag Race) is here for a heartfelt chat on her journey from being a viral TikTok sensation to a vocal advocate for trans rights, and all of the unseen struggles she faced in navigating systemic biases. She discusses doing sex work for survival, shares real examples of the transphobic harassment she receives to this day, and her relentless efforts to forge a better future. This episode is a raw exploration into the battles and victories that come with being Black, trans, and unapologetically visible.Content Warning: This episode contains audio clips featuring transphobic harassment which may be disturbing for some listeners.  See Nicole Byer live on tour! Get tickets at nicolebyerwastaken.com. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:5309/06/2023
Live Your Rom-Com Era (w/ Sam Taggart)

Live Your Rom-Com Era (w/ Sam Taggart)

Comedian Sam Taggart (host of StraightioLab) is here to spill some juicy insights on gay relationships and why they often swing open. Have you ever thought of Kevin James as a bear icon? Neither did Nicole, but Sam gives us a whole new perspective! He also tells the crazy story of a strange threesome he had with 2 cops from Boston. Plus, a candid chat about all things anal, and why we need to break the silence and start talking about our holes.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
55:4602/06/2023
Sugar Daddies (w/ Sugar & Spice)

Sugar Daddies (w/ Sugar & Spice)

Twin drag queen icons Sugar & Spice (RuPaul's Drag Race S15) join Nicole for a conversation about why you can't skirt around the law of attraction, to spilling the tea on the sugar baby lifestyle and how to shine as a high-value woman in today's dating scene. And if you've ever wondered what it's like for twins to audition for Drag Race, Sugar & Spice pull back the curtain on their journey, talking about their impressions of Snatch game, including the unforgettable meltdown Spice had on-set after Sugar's unexpected elimination. Plus, Nicole reveals a sweet tip on how to score free drinks on a bad date.  Hungry for more drag queen interviews? Check out our drag episode playlist on Spotify: bit.ly/wwydmdrag Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:07:5926/05/2023
Hot Porn Seaches (w/ Bridget Everett)

Hot Porn Seaches (w/ Bridget Everett)

The hilarious Bridget Everett (Somebody, Somewhere) joins Nicole to discuss the hot porn searches they've been into, the need for increased privacy on dating apps, Bridget's experience hooking up with a go-go dancer at a gay bar, and her stand-up routine where she has audience members motorboat her huge titties. Plus, the story about the woman whose breast implants started to grow mold. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:5619/05/2023
Monogamously Challenged (w/ Holly Robinson Peete)

Monogamously Challenged (w/ Holly Robinson Peete)

Actress Holly Robinson Peete (21 Jump Street, Queen's Court) opens up about her experience being in a relationship with someone who is "monogamously challenged", dating around Paris in order to learn to speak French, and being very publicly proposed to on the set of Hangin' with Mr. Cooper by NFL quarterback Rodney Peete. Plus, the challenges single people now face in today's social media-driven world, and how it affects relationships in ways both big and small. Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:00:4712/05/2023
Secrets To a Long, Loving Marriage (w/ John Leguizamo)

Secrets To a Long, Loving Marriage (w/ John Leguizamo)

Actor John Leguizamo (Encanto, Moulin Rouge!, Ice Age) chats with Nicole about his secrets to a long, loving marriage, how he balances work and relationships, and his efforts to boost Latin representation in media.  Write something dirty to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
48:0405/05/2023
Lesbian Sex (w/ Ashley Gavin)

Lesbian Sex (w/ Ashley Gavin)

Comedian Ashley Gavin (host of We're Having Gay Sex) teaches Nicole all about lesbian sex and relationships. They cover scissoring and tribbing, having secret girlfriends in high school, and the details of her open relationship. Ashley also shares her experience being the first openly gay comedian on Carnival Cruise Line, and the homophobia she encountered on the job. Nicole witnesses a bouncer get stabbed at a lesbian bar. Watch Ashley's new comedy special at: youtube.com/watch?v=Ay6jUYPH644& Submit your dirty message for Nicole!  Send it to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:0028/04/2023
"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" Poly Relationships (w/ Zoe Lister-Jones)

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" Poly Relationships (w/ Zoe Lister-Jones)

Actress/writer/director Zoe Lister-Jones (Slip) shares her experience opening and closing her "don't ask don't tell" poly relationship, what she's learned after exiting a 17-year marriage, and delves into the empowering nature of "dating to fuck". Nicole really wants to crash the cool teen party down her block.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:04:2621/04/2023
Staying Friends with your Ex (w/ James Marsden)

Staying Friends with your Ex (w/ James Marsden)

Actor James Marsden (Sonic The Hedgehog, Hairspray, Jury Duty) joins Nicole to talk about his new singledom, remaining friends with all of his exes, his romantic side, and reviews Nicole's latest Tinder profile. Nicole teaches Marsden about bussies and scat porn.  This episode was specially recorded in-person at Team Coco's studios. Thank you engineer Rich and the whole team for putting this together!  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:14:3114/04/2023
A Love Queen (w/ Sasha Velour)

A Love Queen (w/ Sasha Velour)

Drag queen icon Sasha Velour (winner of Drag Race S9) chats with Nicole about coming out to their dad at a TGI Fridays, the challenges of working with their boyfriend, and speaks out on the current backlash against drag.  We just recorded a fabulous LIVE episode of Why Won't You Date Me with Gigi Goode! It's available on video on demand until April 19th. Stream it now at moment.co/dateme. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:4307/04/2023
Why Won't You Go Get a Transvaginal Ultrasound? (w/ X Mayo)

Why Won't You Go Get a Transvaginal Ultrasound? (w/ X Mayo)

Comedian and writer X Mayo (The Daily Show, American Auto, Swarm) chats with Nicole about her success making friend connections on Raya, how she positively re-framed her outlook on dating, and her life changing experience shooting a nude scene in Swarm. Plus, a PSA on pussy health and why you should go get a transvaginal ultrasound. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:06:4731/03/2023
Marrying for Tax Purposes (w/ Jeff Hiller)

Marrying for Tax Purposes (w/ Jeff Hiller)

Comedian and actor Jeff Hiller (Somebody Somewhere) reunites with Nicole to share how he met his husband on Chemistry.com, his experience acting on a reality TV dating show, and how a fight on Fire Island saved his marriage. Plus, Nicole reads the DM that lead her to deactivate a dating app.  We're live streaming a new episode April 5th!  See a live video recording of Why Won't You Date Me? with VOD available for 2 weeks after. Tickets at moment.co/dateme Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
59:4624/03/2023
Being 'In Like' vs Being 'In Love' (w/ Gabrielle Dennis)

Being 'In Like' vs Being 'In Love' (w/ Gabrielle Dennis)

Comedian and actress Gabrielle Dennis (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Luke Cage) chats with Nicole her philosophy as to why falling "in like" with your partner is more important than being in love, opens up about her experience dating a pedophile, and her love for writing Yelp reviews. Plus, the story of the murdering Disney dad.  See a live recording of Why Won't You Date Me?! April 5th in Los Angeles. In-person tickets: elysiantheater.com/shows/nicolebyer.The show will also be live-streamed worldwide, and available on VOD for 2 weeks after. Get the livestream tickets at moment.co/dateme Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
56:0117/03/2023
Mormon and Closeted (w/ Bridger Winegar)

Mormon and Closeted (w/ Bridger Winegar)

Writer Bridger Winegar (host of I Said No Gifts!)  joins Nicole to discuss his experience being closeted to himself until the age of 26, being raised Mormon, and the thrill of setting people up on dates. Nicole reads some nasty messages she's received from the Bahamas. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
53:5610/03/2023
Marrying Your High School Sweetheart (w/ Adam Pally)

Marrying Your High School Sweetheart (w/ Adam Pally)

Comedian Adam Pally (101 Places to Party Before You Die, Who Invited Charlie?) chats with Nicole about why an easy relationship is a often sign of a good one, marrying his high school sweetheart, and how the both of them broke Steve Harvey on the set of Celebrity Family Feud. Plus, what's it like filming with Sonic the Hedgehog? Nicole is dying to know.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
54:5503/03/2023
Being The Only One Left (w/ Michael Cruz Kayne)

Being The Only One Left (w/ Michael Cruz Kayne)

Comedian Michael Cruz Kayne's dating strategy involves being the only guy left available. He joins Nicole to explain the approach and the success that's come with it.  They also discuss how race affects relationships, moving on from them, and his experience getting hit on by the rich kids and moms he was private tutoring. Nicole wishes she was a ~woman~.Season 2 of A Good Cry returns March 9th. Listen to Nicole's episode here. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:1724/02/2023
Dating a Groupie (w/ Steph Tolev)

Dating a Groupie (w/ Steph Tolev)

Comedian Steph Tolev joins Nicole to discuss what it's like to date a groupie, getting matching tattoos with her partners, her experience dating a 60 year old, and shares SOOO many crazy awful dating stories. Plus, is it weird if your parent keeps in touch with your ex? The answer is YES. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
55:2217/02/2023
Having Sex On-Camera (w/ Jordan Firstman)

Having Sex On-Camera (w/ Jordan Firstman)

Comedian Jordan Firstman (Big Mouth, Ms. Marvel) joins Nicole to talk about his experience being involved in a threesome where everyone had COVID, having real sex on-camera for a movie, and finding love in Berlin after a drug-fueled bender. Plus, Nicole shares why sucking dick is so joyful.  Disclaimer: This episode contains discussion of homophobia, including some strong language, such as the F word. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
58:4410/02/2023
Celibate for 18 Years (w/ Debra DiGiovanni)

Celibate for 18 Years (w/ Debra DiGiovanni)

Comedian Debra DiGiovanni joins Nicole to discuss her experience being single and celibate for 18 years, importing her current boyfriend, and shares what it was like to date a feeder. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:3003/02/2023
Nicole's Boyfriend Speaks His Truth (w/ Dan Black)

Nicole's Boyfriend Speaks His Truth (w/ Dan Black)

In January, Nicole shocked the world with an Instagram post announcing her relationship with comedian Dan Black. On this episode,  Dan joins Nicole to respond to some of the comments they've received about their relationship, discuss their kinks, and reflect on their decision to hard launch the relationship.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:06:0227/01/2023
The Sex Lives of Artists (w/ Ilia Isorelýs Paulino)

The Sex Lives of Artists (w/ Ilia Isorelýs Paulino)

Actress Ilia Isorelýs Paulino (The Sex Lives of College Girls)  joins Nicole to chat about her sex life at Yale, being 6′2, growing up brainwashed by her pastor dad, and Curvy Wife Guy's new rap career. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:07:3220/01/2023
Pandemic Divorce (w/ Punkie Johnson)

Pandemic Divorce (w/ Punkie Johnson)

Comedian Punkie Johnson (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss how the pandemic lead to her divorce,  learning to love her partner's ugly feet, and tiddy pain. Nicole reports on the unhappy couples she witnessed while in the Bahamas.  Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
57:3413/01/2023
Stories from Nicole's Road Dog (w/ Christi Chiello)

Stories from Nicole's Road Dog (w/ Christi Chiello)

Comedian and Nicole's opener Christi Chiello joins the podcast to discuss having 5 of her ex-boyfriends come out as gay, why theatre kids are so horny, and crazy stories from touring together. Nicole reminisces about the time she fell down a man's staircase. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to [email protected] for a chance to have it read on-air. Black Lives Matter.  Click here for an updated list of over 100 different things you can do to support racial justice.   Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
01:03:4306/01/2023