In today's episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and best-selling author Charles Duhigg to explore the science of effective communication and its profound impact on our personal and professional lives. Charles shares insights from his latest book, Supercommunicators: Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, delving into how skills like empathy, active listening, and understanding different types of conversations can transform the way we connect with others. Our conversation uncovers the neurological underpinnings of communication, including the concept of neural entrainment and the matching principle. We discuss practical strategies for improving communication in various contexts—from personal relationships to the workplace—and address common pitfalls people face, such as social anxiety and miscommunication. Whether you're looking to enhance your relationships, become a better listener, or navigate tough conversations with ease, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you on your journey. Chapters: 00:15 — Introduction: Meet Charles Duhigg 03:00 — From Business to Journalism: Charles's Unconventional Path 08:00 — The Power of Storytelling in Communication 11:45 — Understanding the Science Behind Effective Communication 14:00 — The Three Types of Conversations: Practical, Emotional, Social 17:00 — The Matching Principle: Aligning Conversations for Connection 21:00 — Diagnosing and Matching Conversation Types 24:00 — Looping for Understanding: A Technique for Better Listening 28:00 — Common Communication Mistakes and How to Avoid Them 31:00 — Empathy Without Mimicry: Connecting Without Oversharing 34:00 — Real-World Examples: Doctors, Therapists, and Effective Communication 38:00 — Advice for Introverts and Those with Social Anxiety 44:00 — The Power of Asking Questions in Social Settings 47:00 — Overview of 'Supercommunicators' and Its Practical Applications 51:00 — Navigating Tough Conversations: Tips and Strategies 54:00 — A Challenge for Listeners: Reconnecting with Someone 57:30 — Closing Thoughts and Where to Find Charles's Work Hope you find this enlightening conversation as engaging as I did! Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. About the Podcast I'm Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. On this podcast, we dive deep into mental health, personal development, and the strategies that help us thrive. Each episode is a mix of expert interviews, practical tips, and answers to listener questions, all aimed at helping you live a healthier, more fulfilled life. Guest Links: Charles's Latest Book: Supercommunicators: Unlock the Secret Language of Connection — https://www.amazon.com/Supercommunicators-Unlock-Secret-Language-Connection/dp/0593243919 Website: CharlesDuhigg.com — https://www.charlesduhigg.com/ Twitter: @cduhigg — https://twitter.com/cduhigg Connect With Me: Website: duffthepsych.com — https://www.duffthepsych.com/ Instagram: @duffthepsych — https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/ YouTube: Dr. Duff's Channel — https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych #MentalHealth #EffectiveCommunication #CharlesDuhigg #SelfHelp #Supercommunicators #PersonalDevelopment #ListeningSkills #SocialAnxiety

In this Q&A episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two insightful listener questions. The first explores coping with the end of a therapeutic relationship, while the second delves into the physical manifestations of depression and strategies to manage them. This episode offers practical advice and empathetic understanding for those navigating these challenges. Chapters: 00:15 — Introduction: Returning to Q&A After a series of interviews, I return to answering your questions. Learn how to submit your own and connect with the podcast. 02:05 — Coping with the End of Therapy A listener shares the grief experienced after concluding therapy with a transformative therapist. I discuss why these feelings are normal, the concept of transference, and practical ways to navigate the loss of such a significant relationship. 12:15 — Understanding the Physical Symptoms of Depression Addressing a listener's concern about the often-overlooked physical manifestations of depression, including fatigue, dissociation, and the role of self-injury as a coping mechanism. I explore what these symptoms can look like, why they occur, and practical tools to help reconnect with the body and manage the emotional weight. 24:00 — Final Thoughts and Encouragement Reflecting on the courage it takes to share these challenges and offering guidance on taking small steps toward healing. About the Podcast I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. Each episode combines expert insights, practical tips, and answers to listener questions, all aimed at helping you live a healthier, more fulfilled life. Connect With Me: Website: duffthepsych.com Instagram: @duffthepsych YouTube: youtube.com/duffthepsych Mentioned in This Episode: Book: Skin Game: A Memoir by Caroline Kettlewell. This memoir provides a vivid account of living with and overcoming self-injury. Available on Amazon: I hope you find this episode insightful and supportive. If you'd like to send me a question for a future episode, please email me at [email protected].

In today’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Manu Kapur, a professor of learning sciences, to delve into his unique approach to education: productive failure. Dr. Kapur explains how intentionally designing failure within the learning process can lead to deeper understanding and greater knowledge retention. We discuss the science behind productive failure and how it differs from traditional methods, which often focus on direct instruction followed by application. Dr. Kapur shares his experiences from childhood dreams of soccer to academic life at ETH Zurich, showing how personal failures have shaped his life and work. Together, we explore key concepts like the “four A’s” of productive failure: Activation, Awareness, Affect, and Assembly. This method encourages learners to first explore problems in a safe space, where failure is expected, to prepare them for deeper learning through expert guidance afterward. Dr. Kapur’s insights reveal how frustration and negative emotions, when managed safely, can enhance memory and motivation, making failure a powerful tool in the learning process. In this episode, Dr. Kapur provides real-world examples, from learning statistical concepts in the classroom to developing retrieval paths in social interactions. We also discuss how productive failure can be applied beyond the classroom to daily life and parenting, helping adults model and reinforce the benefits of persistence and exploration for children. Chapters: 00:15 — Introduction: Meet Dr. Manu Kapur and the Concept of Productive Failure 05:30 — The Science Behind Learning Through Failure 12:00 — The “Four A’s” of Productive Failure: Activation, Awareness, Affect, and Assembly 18:30 — Real-Life Examples: Productive Failure in the Classroom 24:00 — The Role of Emotions in Memory and Learning 30:05 — Applying Productive Failure in Daily Life 36:25 — Parenting and Productive Failure: Teaching Kids Resilience 41:50 — Productive Failure’s Global Applications and Cultural Reflections 47:05 — Key Takeaways and Where to Find More from Dr. Kapur About the Podcast I’m Dr. Robert Duff, and on this podcast, we dive deep into mental health and personal growth, bringing expert insights and practical advice to help you navigate life’s challenges. Join us for conversations that break down complex concepts into actionable steps. Guest Links: Dr. Kapur’s Book: Productive Failure: Unlocking the Science of Failure for Deep Learning and Growth Website: ProductiveFailure.com Follow Dr. Kapur on LinkedIn, Connect With Me: Website: http://duffthepsych.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/duffthepsych YouTube: http://youtube.com/duffthepsych #ProductiveFailure #Learning #Education #GrowthMindset #MentalHealth  

In today’s episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I’m thrilled to sit down with marketing guru and best-selling author Seth Godin. Seth shares his near-death experience off the coast of San Clemente—a moment that became a powerful reminder of his mission to teach and contribute. We explore his philosophy of “strategy as a philosophy of becoming” and discuss practical ways to craft personal life strategies that align with our values, whether in creativity, mental resilience, or personal growth. In our conversation, Seth and I cover a range of ideas, from recognizing societal systems that impact our lives to overcoming societal pressures and finding meaning in service to others. Seth’s “lifeguard analogy” emphasizes the importance of focusing on helping others, and his insights are full of actionable takeaways for anyone looking to lead a more purpose-driven life. Tune in for an episode packed with practical strategies and reflections that can help you shape a life you’re proud of. Topics Covered: Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence The Lifeguard Analogy: Why Starting with Generosity Can Change Your Life Recognizing the Systems That Influence Our Daily Lives How Strategy and Mental Health Intersect in Our Modern World Building Powerful Daily Creative Habits Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose Developing Authentic Networks and Finding Your Community Timestamps: 00:15 — Introduction: Meet Seth Godin 02:05 — Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence 06:00 — Learning Through the Lifeguard Analogy: How to Start Contributing Now 12:15 — Recognizing the Systems Shaping Our Lives 18:30 — Personal Strategy and Mental Health: How They Intersect 24:00 — The Power of Daily Creative Habits 30:40 — Real-Life Applications: Who's It For, What's It For? 36:25 — Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose 41:50 — How Strategy Can Help Us Cope with Modern Mental Health Challenges 47:05 — Building Authentic Networks and Finding Community About the Podcast I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist dedicated to breaking down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. On the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, we dive deep into mental health, personal development, and practical strategies to help you thrive. Each episode features expert interviews, useful tips, and answers to listener questions, all to support your journey toward a healthier, more fulfilling life. Guest Links: Seth’s Latest Book: This is Strategy Seth Godin’s Blog: Seth's Blog Seth’s Podcast: Akimbo Podcast Connect With Me: Website: duffthepsych.com Instagram: @duffthepsych YouTube: Dr. Duff’s Channel

In this episode, I sit down with Anna Runkle, better known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, to explore her journey of healing from childhood PTSD and the unique methods she has developed to help others do the same. Anna has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide re-regulate their nervous systems and recover from deep emotional wounds using simple but powerful techniques. We dive deep into what childhood PTSD really is, how it differs from complex PTSD, and what doctors often get wrong about trauma. Anna also shares her personal story of growing up in a chaotic commune, the lasting effects of emotional neglect and abandonment, and the practical steps she used to reclaim her life and happiness. Whether you're personally affected by trauma or seeking to support someone who is, Anna’s wisdom, tools, and personal insights provide valuable takeaways for anyone on a healing journey. Links: Order Anna's book Re-Regulated here: https://bit.ly/44Eo1ma Get Instant Access to Anna's free online course, The Daily Practice here:http://bit.ly/Cf CF_DailyPractice YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy Website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com CCF Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/ Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction Introduction to Anna Runkle, aka the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and her mission to help people heal from childhood PTSD. Overview of the topics to be covered: childhood trauma, PTSD, healing methods, and Anna’s personal story. 2:30 – Anna’s Early Life and Growing Up in a Commune Anna describes her chaotic upbringing in a Berkeley commune, surrounded by addiction, neglect, and violence. The impact of family addiction and how it shaped her view of the world. 7:15 – Understanding Childhood PTSD vs. Complex PTSD Anna explains the difference between childhood PTSD and complex PTSD, and why she uses a more accessible term for the general public. How childhood trauma can stay latent and resurface in adulthood after new traumatic events. 12:45 – Coping Mechanisms and the Breaking Point Anna shares how being the "good girl" helped her survive but eventually led to deep depression. Her experience of hitting rock bottom and the overwhelming effects of what she calls a "trauma storm." 16:30 – The Effects of Gaslighting and Emotional Neglect Anna discusses the emotional invalidation she faced growing up and the gaslighting that made her doubt her own reality. The lasting impact of growing up in an environment of denial. 21:00 – The Role of Attachment Wounds and Limerence How unresolved emotional neglect led to dysfunctional relationships in Anna’s life, especially through a phenomenon called "limerence"—an obsessive, addictive form of love. The cycle of seeking validation in unhealthy ways due to an insecure attachment style. 27:30 – Trauma Healing and Nervous System Regulation Anna explains the concept of nervous system dysregulation and how trauma impacts not only emotions but also physical health. Her personal health struggles with autoimmune diseases and chronic fatigue, and how regulating her nervous system led to profound healing. 33:00 – The Power of Simple Healing Techniques Anna shares the simple yet powerful technique of writing down fears and resentments daily, a method she learned from a friend in AA. How this practice gave her the emotional relief she had been seeking for years. 38:45 – Generational Trauma and Breaking the Cycle Anna reflects on the generational trauma in her family and the importance of breaking the cycle of emotional neglect and dysfunction. How her own healing journey has allowed her to parent with more stability and emotional availability. 43:00 – The Myth of ‘What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger’ Anna challenges the common belief that trauma automatically leads to growth, explaining that for many people, trauma can be devastating without proper support. The dangers of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity. 48:15 – Finding True Healing and Becoming Your Full Self Anna talks about the ultimate goal of trauma healing: becoming your full, real self and creating space to hear your own inner guidance. The importance of personal freedom, acceptance, and helping others on their healing journey. 53:00 – Practical Takeaways and Final Thoughts Anna offers actionable advice for anyone struggling with childhood trauma, focusing on simple daily practices that help re-regulate the nervous system and foster healing. How to connect with Anna and learn more about her work with the Crappy Childhood Fairy. Key Takeaways: Childhood PTSD often goes unrecognized or is misunderstood, even within the medical community. Emotional neglect and trauma can deeply impact adult relationships, leading to patterns of insecurity and attachment wounds. Healing from trauma involves re-regulating the nervous system, a process that can lead to profound physical, emotional, and mental recovery. Simple daily practices, like writing down fears and resentments, can provide powerful emotional relief and open the door to deeper healing. Breaking the cycle of generational trauma is possible, and it begins with self-awareness, acceptance, and practical steps toward recovery.   Support the Podcast: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review! Your support helps others find the show. Follow me on Instagram: @duffthepsych Website: duffthepsych.com Join the Hardcore Self Help Facebook Community: Join Here

In this laid-back check-in episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I take you through a series of updates and random musings. I discuss the current state of the podcast, why I decided to fire my ad agency, and the recent revival of interviews. I also share some personal projects, from working on my bipolar disorder book to collaborating with my kids on a creative game inspired by Minecraft. Throughout, I reflect on AI innovations, the challenges of balancing podcasting with life, and ways I've been keeping active, like my new rucking routine. This episode is perfect for catching up on everything happening in my world, from professional changes to hobbies and everything in between. Links: Email me with your questions or feedback. Visit my website for more contact options. Check out the Insight Neuropsychology blog for more brain-focused content. NotebookLM Pokémon Insurgence Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:00 Podcast Updates 02:00 Fired Ad Agency 05:00 Interview Segment Revival 08:00 Changes in Podcast Style 09:00 Decline in Podcast Numbers and Stepping Away from Ads 11:00 Writing Update - Bipolar Book 13:00 AI Adventures - ChatGPT Voice Mode Demo 18:00 AI Applications - Notebook LM 21:00 Personal Favorites - POV Cooking Channels 22:00 Nostalgia Gaming - Pokémon Insurgence 23:00 Podcast Recommendation - Tim Ferriss Interview with Elizabeth Gilbert 24:00 Work and Mentorship Updates 26:00 Fitness Journey - Rucking 27:00 Creative Projects with Kids 28:00 Reflections on Current Events and Mental Health 29:00 Wrap-up

In today’s episode, I had the absolute honor of sitting down with Dr. David Burns, a true legend in the field of mental health. Dr. Burns is not only a pioneer of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), but he’s also the best-selling author of Feeling Good and Feeling Great, which have collectively sold millions of copies worldwide. Spending so much time with him was a real treat, as he shared his incredible insights into mental health, his innovative T.E.A.M. Therapy method, and his groundbreaking Feeling Great App. We talked about how his methods are helping people achieve rapid and lasting recovery from depression, anxiety, and other difficult emotions, sometimes in just one session. Dr. Burns also gave us a behind-the-scenes look at how his AI-driven app is transforming mental health treatment, making it accessible and effective for people everywhere. This conversation was truly fascinating, and I’m sure you’ll find a ton of value in it. Whether you’re familiar with Dr. Burns’ work or hearing about him for the first time, you’ll come away with practical advice and a deeper understanding of how to break free from the emotional patterns holding you back. In this episode, we cover: Dr. Burns' early work with CBT and how it evolved into T.E.A.M. Therapy. The creation and impact of the Feeling Great App, and how it leverages AI to deliver therapy. Why measuring progress in therapy is essential and how data-driven methods are changing the field. The common cause behind many negative emotions, and how to tackle it. Dr. Burns’ unique approach to therapy—including why he hasn’t charged for sessions in over 30 years. Links: https://feelinggood.com/  https://www.feelinggreat.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@UCEgz2rq7N1xCHMCcjdyU5zg https://feelinggood.com/books/   Reach out! http://duffthepsych.com/contact [email protected]

Breaking Boundaries: Dr. Paul Rivera on Redefining Success and Masculinity In this episode, Dr. Paul Rivera, a first-generation Latino American, shares his inspiring journey navigating cultural expectations and his pursuit of a fulfilling life. From his early challenges growing up in a Latino neighborhood in Los Angeles to his prestigious roles as a professor and diplomat, Dr. Rivera discusses the importance of discovering one's unique superpower, embracing vulnerability as a strength, and redefining traditional notions of masculinity. Together with his wife, Dr. Rivera co-founded BE ACT Change, an organization focused on aligning individuals and organizations with their purpose. He also discusses their book, 'Creating Your Limitless Life,' which provides insights into achieving authentic success beyond material trappings. Tune in for valuable lessons on mental health, family dynamics, and sustainable change. https://www.instagram.com/be.act.change https://www.amazon.com/CREATING-YOUR-LIMITLESS-LIFE-Terms/dp/B0CHL3RW4L Sponsored by 23andMe, promoting proactive steps for health through genetic screening and personalized plans. http://23andme.com/duff  00:00 Introduction: Dreams and Expectations  00:25 Meet Dr. Paul Rivera: A Journey of Defying Expectations 01:28 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Aspirations 02:22 Interview with Dr. Paul Rivera: Early Life and Influences 03:12 Growing Up Latino in Los Angeles 06:33 Balancing Work, Culture, and Personal Identity 18:30 Family Dynamics and Personal Growth 23:56 Challenging Machismo and Embracing Vulnerability 29:50 The Power of Vulnerability 30:38 Creating Safe Spaces at Home 32:11 Community Outreach and Education 33:47 Recognizing and Nurturing Potential 35:07 Discovering Your Superpower 37:03 Empowering Women in Leadership 39:04 Building Trust and Overcoming Barriers 40:21 The Journey to Self-Discovery 42:36 From Diplomacy to Entrepreneurship 43:32 The Mission of BeActChange 51:21 Advice for Feeling Stuck 56:30 Final Thoughts and Resources

Managing ADHD and Long COVID: Strategies for Cognitive Challenges In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff addresses a listener's question about the impact of COVID-19 on ADHD symptoms. The listener shares their struggles with ADHD and how contracting long COVID has exacerbated their cognitive difficulties, impacting their academic performance and daily life. Dr. Duff delves into the comorbidity of ADHD with other mental health issues, discusses research on post-COVID syndrome, and offers practical advice for seeking accommodations and support. He emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and provides steps for managing ADHD symptoms effectively. Tune in for compassionate guidance and actionable strategies to navigate ADHD in the context of long COVID. 00:00 Introduction: ADHD and COVID-19 Impact 00:33 Listener's Question: Struggles with ADHD and Long COVID 02:14 Host's Response: Acknowledging the Struggles 03:04 Understanding ADHD and Comorbidities 04:39 COVID-19's Cognitive Impact 08:16 Executive Functioning Explained 10:20 Practical Advice and Encouragement 13:21 Seeking Help and Accommodations 17:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Revolutionizing Therapy: Colleen Marshall on Two Chairs' Matching Process  In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff interviews Colleen Marshall, Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs, a company dedicated to improving the therapy experience through innovative matching processes and measurement-based care. They discuss the current challenges in finding a suitable therapist, the importance of therapeutic alliance, and how Two Chairs' approach significantly improves client retention rates. Colleen also shares insights into her background, the systematic changes needed in therapy cultures, and the importance of culturally responsive training. Listeners will gain a better understanding of how Two Chairs is transforming mental health care by ensuring clients find the right therapist for their specific needs and continually measure treatment progress.    00:00 The Broken Process of Finding a Therapist 01:04 Introducing Two Chairs: Revolutionizing Therapy Matching 01:52 Meet Colleen Marshall: Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs 02:44 Colleen's Journey in Mental Health and Innovation 06:22 The Importance of Therapeutic Alliance and Matching 10:17 How Two Chairs Ensures Effective Therapy 16:53 Challenges and Successes in Implementing Measurement-Based Care 28:56 Balancing Wellness and Specialty Training 29:23 Efficient Care and Graduation Goals 31:03 Insurance and Access to Therapy 32:04 Therapist's Role in Client Progress 33:52 Matching Clients with the Right Therapist 36:07 Navigating Therapy Models and Approaches 47:13 Two Chairs: Availability and Process 51:11 Future of Therapy and Cultural Responsiveness 53:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two intense and relatable listener questions. The first question comes from a listener who feels abandoned by their spouse after a traumatic car accident left them with PTSD and potential brain injury. I provide insights on the possible brain injuries they might have sustained, while also discussing the complexities of their strained relationship and offering practical advice for moving forward. In the second question, a listener struggles with constant phone checking and tech addiction. I offer actionable tips for managing phone usage, including identifying and challenging assumptions, creating a conscious phone use plan, and finding accountability. This episode aims to provide support, clarity, and practical guidance for listeners dealing with trauma, relationship challenges, and tech overdependence. This episode is brought to you by NoCD. Overthinking can be more than just a habit—it might be a symptom of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). NoCD provides virtual therapy sessions with licensed therapists specialized in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy, the gold standard treatment for OCD. To learn more, visit http://nocd.com and schedule a free 15-minute call. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview  01:16 Listener's Question: Dealing with Trauma and Relationship Issues 02:33 Understanding Brain Injuries from Car Accidents 08:05 Addressing Relationship Concerns and Seeking Separation 08:11 Sponsor Break: NoCD 15:14 Listener's Question: Overcoming Phone Addiction 17:07 Tips for Reducing Phone Usage 25:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Please send questions to [email protected] 

Breaking Cycles: How Attachment Shapes Our Lives with Dr. Judy Ho In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, host Dr. Duff interviews neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho, a tenured professor at Pepperdine University and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment.' They discuss why people often find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles despite different strategies and self-care routines. Dr. Ho explains the significance of revisiting one's past to break patterns, diving deep into attachment theory. They explore how early attachments form who we are, why it's essential to recognize childhood traumas, and the role of self-talk in attachment styles. Dr. Ho also shares her personal parenting insights and the importance of forming a secure attachment with oneself. Additionally, they delve into actionable exercises from Dr. Ho's book that help uncover unmet needs of our inner child and promote lasting change. Tune in for an in-depth conversation about the transformative power of understanding and healing our attachments.   This episode is brought to you by NOCD, a powerful new network of providers specializing in exposure and response prevention. Get treatment for OCD that actually works at http://nocd.com This episode is also sponsored by BetterHelp – get 10% off your first month of online therapy at http://betterhelp.com/duff   Links! https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attachment-Relationships-Reparent/dp/1538741423 https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho https://drjudyho.com/   00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Cycle 00:40 Meet Dr. Judy Ho 01:14 The Importance of Early Attachments 02:46 Personal Stories and Apologies 05:47 Journey into Psychology 18:10 Understanding Attachment Styles 30:11 Understanding Attachment Styles and Self-Talk 31:27 The Challenge of Changing Self-Talk 32:26 The Importance of Patience in Forming New Habits 33:14 Recognizing Overthinking and OCD 35:07 The Mind-Body Connection in Attachment 37:25 Inner Child Work and Self-Attachment 40:22 Practical Steps for Inner Child Healing 44:45 A Real-Life Transformation Story 53:22 Balancing Career and Personal Life 57:04 Parenting and Attachment 01:00:08 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Reflections

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff chats with Tony Weaver Jr., an award-winning author and educator dedicated to mental health advocacy and better representation in media. Tony shares his personal journey from feeling like an outcast in his teenage years, including a suicide attempt, to becoming a force for positivity and change. He discusses how his upbringing in Atlanta and breakthroughs like hearing Fall Out Boy's music shaped his path to self-acceptance and creative expression. Tony also delves into the importance of representation in media, recounting his experiences creating the webcomic 'The Uncommons' and his upcoming autobiographical graphic novel 'Weirdo.' Furthermore, he offers practical advice for children and parents navigating the challenges of embracing individuality in a conformist world. Tune in to hear his inspiring story, candid reflections on the role of conflict in growth, and his passionate stand on bettering cultural narratives through inclusive storytelling.   Links! Weirdo: https://rep.club/products/weirdo The Uncommons: https://www.webtoons.com/en/action/the-uncommons/list?title_no=4520 Tony on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyweaverjr/   Chapters:   00:00 Introduction: Feeling Like the Odd One Out 00:24 Meet Tony Weaver Jr.: From Darkness to Advocacy 01:13 Tony's Creative Journey and Representation 01:38 Interview with Tony Weaver Jr. 02:52 Tony's Upbringing and Early Influences 04:45 The Struggles of Embracing Otherness 09:05 The Creation of 'Weirdo' 13:05 Mental Health and Personal Growth 26:36 Inner Child Work and Reparenting 27:13 Parents' Reactions to the Book 27:33 A Life-Changing Car Accident 28:40 Reflecting on Childhood and Authority 30:17 The Importance of Conflict and Support 35:21 Representation in Media 37:01 The Impact of Representation on Society 43:40 Challenges in Hollywood and Progress 49:40 Promoting the Book 'Weirdo' 52:35 Final Thoughts and Where to Follow

In this episode, Dr. Duff shares personal experiences and discusses the concept of being afraid of breathing. He highlights how anxiety and overthinking can lead to the sensation of not breathing properly. Dr. Duff explains how exposure therapy can be applied using breathing exercises to help alleviate these fears. He provides detailed instructions on different challenging breathing exercises like alternate nostril breathing, resonance breathing, and techniques inspired by the Wim Hof method and the Cradle series. The episode aims to help listeners gain comfort with discomfort and regain confidence in their breathing. 00:00 Introduction: Are You Afraid of Breathing? 00:02 A Personal Story of Breathing Anxiety 00:57 The Cycle of Anxiety and Breathing 01:50 Common Experiences and Avoidance 03:37 Using Breathing Exercises for Exposure 04:12 Understanding Exposure Therapy 07:38 Challenging Breathing Exercises 07:59 Alternate Nostril Breathing 10:40 Resonance Breathing 13:38 The Heaven and Earth Purification Wheel 15:16 Practicing in a Safe Space 16:22 Conclusion and Call to Action http://betterhelp.com/duff http://duffthepsych.com/contact  

In episode 408 of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I'm joined by grief educator and author Christina Rasmussen. We delve deep into the concept of invisible loss, a unique form of grief that stems from unacknowledged experiences. Christina opens up about her personal grief journey, introduces the Life Reentry Process, and shares insights from her book, 'Invisible Loss.' We also explore how early childhood experiences shape adult decision-making, the transformative power of authenticity, and Christina’s venture into using art for healing. Christina discusses her creation of a digital library of invisible losses and reflects on the significance of Andrew Wyeth's painting 'Christina's World.' Join us for actionable tips and profound reflections on navigating and reclaiming life after hidden struggles. Links: Books - https://www.amazon.com/stores/Christina-Rasmussen/author/B0057K44UU https://lifereentry.com/ https://www.invisiblelosses.com/ https://springshow.academyart.edu/schools/fine-art/students/christina-rasmussen/  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Invisible Loss  00:45 Meet Christina Rasmussen 01:17 Christina's Personal Journey with Grief 03:30 Early Life and Education 08:13 Navigating Life After Loss 11:08 The Birth of Life Reentry Process 32:12 Invisible Loss Defined 43:39 Starting the Program and Writing Invisible Loss 44:01 Challenges of Writing About Invisible Loss 44:24 The Concept of Invisible Loss 46:48 Men and Invisible Loss 47:59 The Importance of Self-Expression 49:01 The Role of Therapy and Support Groups 52:38 Time Dilation and Seeking Help 53:32 Ambitious Work and Personal Transformation 56:33 Balancing Art and Professional Life 01:03:00 The Journey of Writing and Sharing Vulnerable Moments 01:13:34 The Impact of Panic Attacks and Authenticity 01:19:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Navigating Intense Anxiety and Career Changes Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Managing Severe Anxiety: A listener is struggling with intense daily anxiety and dissociation, impacting their ability to function in daily tasks like going to work or shopping. We discuss immediate tips, potential medical checks, and therapy approaches to manage anxiety effectively. Considering a Career Shift: Another listener is contemplating a career change from music education to educational psychology. They seek advice on the feasibility, job prospects, and resources to pursue this new career path. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode407 00:00 Introduction to Anxiety 00:17 Episode Overview and Listener Questions 00:56 Engaging with the Community 01:45 Addressing Severe Anxiety 05:15 Exploring Medical and Therapeutic Options 11:24 Understanding Anxiety and Fear 20:43 Career Change Considerations 28:10 Conclusion and Farewell This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Head over to http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month. Links mentioned: http://duffthepsych.com/episode195 http://duffthepsych.com/episode395 http://duffthepsych.com/findatherapist http://kickanxietycourse.com http://facebook.com/groups/hardcoreselfhelp https://www.amazon.com/Hardcore-Self-Help-Robert-Ph-D/dp/1514866005

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Patrick McGrath, Chief Clinical Officer at NOCD and a leading expert in OCD treatment. We dive deep into understanding OCD, debunking common misconceptions, and exploring the most effective treatment approaches. Dr. McGrath shares practical advice for managing OCD and introduces an amazing new tool that’s helping people across the country manage OCD from the comfort of their own homes. Whether you're personally affected by OCD, know someone who is, or just want to learn more about mental health, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable tips. Key Takeaways: Misconceptions About OCD: Discover what OCD really is and debunk common myths. Understand the difference between media portrayals and reality. Effective Treatment Approaches: Learn about Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy. Find out what works and what doesn’t in OCD treatment. Explore Dr. McGrath's innovative approach to virtual ERP therapy. Practical Advice for Managing OCD: Get strategies for handling intrusive thoughts and compulsions. Tips for avoiding reassurance-seeking, distraction, and substance use. Introducing NOCD: Learn about NOCD, an online platform offering accessible OCD therapy. Understand how NOCD works and its benefits for people across the country. Find out how NOCD is making treatment more affordable and effective. Personal Insights: Hear Dr. McGrath's personal journey with anxiety and how it shaped his career. Gain inspiration from his transformation from a bullied child to a leading mental health expert. Be sure to check out NOCD at http://treatmyocd.com and send me a question or topic for a future episode of the show at http://duffthepsych.com/contact 

Does Joe Biden Have Dementia? A Neuropsychologist's Perspective   In this episode, I discuss the current political climate in the United States and my concerns as a neuropsychologist regarding the cognitive abilities of President Joe Biden. I explain the difference between normal aging, mild cognitive impairment, and dementia, and provide analysis of Biden's speech abilities from various clips over the years. While I emphasize that it's challenging to diagnose cognitive decline without comprehensive testing, I provide insights into what a professional evaluation would entail and discuss why it's critical to consider cognitive health for a role as demanding as the presidency.   This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month of online therapy.   As always, you can send me questions or topic suggestions to [email protected] and find the full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com 

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we delve into the transformative potential of ketamine therapy for mental health with Dr. Chantalle Thomas, a leading expert in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. Dr. Thomas is a trainer in Fluence’s Advanced Certificate in Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy as well as Executive Clinical Director at Windrose Recovery. Dr. Thomas discusses the complexities of ketamine as a treatment, its various administration routes, and the profound changes it can facilitate when integrated with therapy. We also explore the importance of therapeutic integration in maximizing the benefits of ketamine, the ethical considerations in psychedelic medicine, and navigating the current regulatory landscape. Additionally, Dr. Thomas shares her personal journey into mental health and psychedelics, and the importance of authenticity and attachment theory in therapy. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode404 Links: https://windroserecovery.com/podcast/therapy-unblinded-inside-mdma-research/ https://www.fluencetraining.com/ https://maps.org/  

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: How Do You Feel About Antidepressants and Anti-Anxiety Medications? A listener asks about the use of antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications, expressing concerns about addiction and the potential difficulty of getting off these meds. Dr. Duff shares his positive personal experience with Lexapro, explaining the various classes of medications, including SSRIs, SNRIs, and benzodiazepines. He emphasizes the importance of evaluating both the benefits and potential side effects of these medications, as well as considering the cost of not using them. Dr. Duff also addresses misconceptions about feeling disconnected from reality due to medication and discusses the concept of psychological and physiological dependence. Dealing with a Hurtful Partner: Another listener seeks advice on how to help their partner understand the impact of their hurtful behavior, which includes yelling and mocking. Dr. Duff offers empathetic support, acknowledging the listener's heartbreak. He outlines the importance of healthy conflict resolution, setting personal boundaries, and recognizing signs of potential abuse. Dr. Duff encourages open communication and suggests resources for improving relationship dynamics, while also addressing the need for safety and support when dealing with ongoing hurtful behavior. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode403

Guest: Jenn Harris, Award-Winning Director, Writer, Actor, and Producer Host: Dr. Robert Duff Episode Description: In this episode, Dr. Robert Duff welcomes the incredibly talented Jenn Harris to the show. Jenn Harris is an award-winning director, writer, actor, and producer known for her diverse and impactful work in film and theater. Jenn discusses her latest short film, "She's Clean," which delves into the nuances of intimacy and sexual autonomy in middle age. The conversation explores Jenn's creative journey, the inspiration behind her work, and her thoughts on intimacy, confidence, and aging. Key Topics Discussed: Introduction to Jenn Harris: An overview of Jenn's career and achievements, including her work in the Oscar-winning film "American Fiction" and her latest short film "She's Clean." Jenn's Creative Journey: How Jenn transitioned from wanting to be a doctor to finding her passion in the entertainment industry, and her experiences in theater and film. The Concept of "She's Clean": Jenn explains the inspiration behind her short film and its unique setting in a bathroom, exploring themes of intimacy and sexual freedom. Intimacy and Confidence: A deep dive into how Jenn views intimacy in various relationships, the role of confidence in her work and personal life, and how she has aged into confidence over the years. Filmmaking Challenges: Jenn shares the visual and technical challenges she faced while making "She's Clean" and how she approached these creatively. The Role of Intimacy Coordinators: Jenn discusses the importance of having intimacy coordinators on set and how they help create a safe and comfortable environment for actors. Personal Insights: Jenn reflects on her own experiences with intimacy, relationships, and personal growth, sharing anecdotes and lessons learned along the way. Episode Highlights: Jenn’s perspective on the comedic and serious elements of intimacy in filmmaking. The significance of choosing a bathroom as the primary setting for "She's Clean." Insights into Jenn’s collaborative process with her team, including the role of her editor and intimacy coordinator. The impact of societal expectations on personal choices and relationships, particularly in the context of non-monogamy and traditional norms. Jenn’s advice on navigating creative projects and maintaining authenticity in one’s work. Quotes: "Intimacy is something that's always been comfortable for me, and I think it's a huge part of human behavior that we should observe and understand." "There isn't room for doubt. It will not serve the day. It will not serve the script. It will not serve the scene." "It's really nice when people don't take advantage of my openness in a way." Resources Mentioned: Film: "She's Clean" - Available for streaming on Vimeo. Social Media: Follow Jenn Harris on Instagram @RealJenHarris and @ShesCleanTheFilm. Sponsor: Today's episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Reflect on your progress and set achievable goals with the help of a licensed therapist. Visit betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month. Connect with Dr. Duff: Website: www.duffthepsych.com Instagram: @duffthepsych

In this episdoe, I sit down with Jennie Ketcham-Crooks, a licensed therapist, anxiety specialist, and author of the upcoming book "Look Up: The 30-Day Path to Digital Minimalism and Real Life Maximalism." Jennie shares her compelling journey from an adult film performer to a transformative therapist, opening up about the pivotal moments that shaped her path. They delve deep into the challenges of reducing digital overconsumption, discussing practical, evidence-based strategies from Jennie's book that can help you realign your life with your values and build meaningful real-world connections. Discover how to take on a 30-day challenge designed to shift your smartphone use from unintentional to intentional, making every minute count towards your personal fulfillment. Robert and Jennie also explore the importance of maintaining human connections in the digital age, the potential impacts of overusing smartphones, and how to cultivate a balanced, intentional relationship with technology. Don't miss Jennie's unique insights on parenting, mental health, and the value of vulnerability and intimacy. Tune in for an episode packed with valuable advice, heartfelt stories, and actionable tips to help you navigate the digital world mindfully. Whether you're looking to cut down on screen time, connect more deeply with those around you, or simply hear an inspiring story of transformation, this interview has something for you. Be sure to check out Jennie on intagram and at her website to stay tuned for updates on her new book! This episode is brought to you by OneSkin for wonderfully light mineral sunscreen oil that also works to heal your skin at the cellular level. Get 15% off your first purchase over at http://oneskin.co with the code "DUFF".  

Hello, everyone! Thank you SO much for joining me for episode 400. I can't believe it's been 400 episodes already. Blows my mind. In this episode, I have a (creepy) mystery question that I share, and I also go through some rapid fire questions from the Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. A special shout out to everyone who has been with me from the start. Here is to the next 100 episodes!  As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full transcript at http://duffthepsych.com/episode400 ---   Feeling proud of yourself for 2024 so far? Take time to celebrate your wins and make adjustments. Therapy is a great tool for setting goals, and BetterHelp offers convenient, online sessions to fit your schedule. Just fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist and switch anytime at no extra cost. Visit betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Navigating Dating with a Stutter: A 38-year-old listener shares their struggles with stuttering, particularly how it impacts their dating life. They often need months to work up the courage to ask someone out and lose confidence if they stutter while doing so. We explore the nature of stuttering, its psychological impacts, and offer practical advice on managing anxiety, building self-confidence, and embracing one's uniqueness in social contexts.  Overcoming Self-Harm Scars and Building Confidence: Another listener, who self-harmed from ages 12 to 15, describes the ongoing shame they feel about their visible scars, which has affected their dating life and social activities. They seek advice on how to overcome this fear and become more open about their past. We discuss strategies for self-acceptance, the importance of vulnerability, and ways to reframe scars as symbols of resilience and survival. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode399 ---- I've been pretty open with you guys about my health journey and my goal to reduce blood pressure. That's why I'm excited about Magic Mind, a mental performance shot that includes L-theanine to help you stay energized all day without the crash from caffeine. You can get 48% off your first subscription or 20% off a one-time purchase with the code DUFF at magicmind.com/duff.  

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle three insightful listener questions that many of you might relate to: Choosing Not to Have Biological Children Due to Mental Illness: A listener shares their decision to not have biological children to avoid passing on their mental health struggles. They feel confident in this choice but encounter surprise and judgment from others. We discuss the validity of their decision, the heritability of mental health conditions, and the importance of respecting personal choices. Navigating Barriers to Inpatient Mental Health Treatment: Another listener is considering inpatient treatment but faces significant logistical and financial barriers. We explore the challenges of dealing with insurance, paperwork, and managing life responsibilities during treatment. Suggestions for alternative treatment options like intensive outpatient programs (IOP) and partial-hospitalization programs (PHP) are also discussed. Addressing Mismatched Sex Drives in a Relationship: A listener in a relationship with differing sex drives seeks advice on how to encourage their partner to address potential low testosterone or other medical issues affecting their libido. We delve into the complexities of communication about sexual needs, potential underlying relationship issues, and strategies for fostering open dialogue and seeking professional help. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode398. ---- OneSkin This episode is brought to you by OneSkin. Their products, formulated with the OS1 peptide, target skin aging at the cellular level, helping to strengthen the skin barrier and reduce signs of aging. Get 15% off with code DUFF at oneskin.co. BetterHelp This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy can help you manage stress and improve mental health. Get started with BetterHelp, an online platform suited to your schedule. Visit betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we dive deep into a listener’s question about finding the right therapy for a variety of complex mental health issues. This 29-year-old woman is struggling with childhood trauma, mental health challenges such as anxiety and depression, and relationship issues. She is also seeking guidance on possible autism/ADHD symptoms and needs help navigating the overwhelming array of therapy options available. We explore the IPA framework (Immediacy, Problem, Approach) to help her and others identify the most suitable types of therapy. Additionally, we discuss the different types of therapists and their qualifications, the importance of cultural competency, and practical tips for finding a good therapist using various resources. This episode is a comprehensive guide for anyone looking to start their therapy journey. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode397 Support for today’s episode comes from OneSkin. I’m really excited to share OneSkin’s products with you because I’ve seen great results myself. Their topical supplements are scientifically proven and free from over 1,500 chemicals and preservatives that can cause irritation, making them perfect for sensitive skin. Just cleanse, pat your skin dry, and apply their OS-1 Face, Eye, Body, or Shield products twice daily. They fit easily into your current skincare routine. Founded by an all-woman team of scientists, OneSkin’s products target cellular senescence, a key hallmark of aging. Their OS-01 peptide has been shown to reverse skin’s biological age by reducing senescent cells by up to 50%. For a limited time, you can try OneSkin for 15% off using the code DUFF at oneskin.co. 

Hello, friends!   In today’s episode, we tackle a profound listener question that may resonate with many of you. A listener who survived a suicide attempt at 13 is considering reaching out to the pediatric psychiatrist who assessed them during their hospitalization. They feel that the presence of medical students during their assessment was inappropriate and impacted their honesty. They're seeking guidance on how to provide feedback and advocate for their younger self.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode396   Links:   https://www.nami.org/advocacy/   https://www.patientadvocate.org/   ---   Ready to release your stressors and find a safe space to talk? Try BetterHelp, an entirely online therapy platform that fits your schedule. Fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist, and switch therapists anytime for no extra charge. Get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff  

Hello, friends!   In today’s episode, we tackle a profound listener question that may resonate with many of you.   A listener struggling with agoraphobia seeks guidance on overcoming their anxiety and finding motivation to pursue exposure exercises. They’ve been working with a therapist and taking anxiety medication but feel stuck. We explore the complexities of agoraphobia, the importance of prolonged exposure, and strategies for building motivation and support.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode395 ---   Nourish Your Skin with OneSkin: Combat dry, aging skin with OneSkin’s peptide-powered products, including their moisturizing body lotion and the innovative OS-01 SHIELD SPF. Address skin issues at their root with a 15% discount using code DUFF at oneskin.co.    

Hello, friends!   In today’s episode, we tackle two thought-provoking listener questions that may resonate with many of you:   Cymbalta Conundrum: A listener shares their experience with Cymbalta, a medication prescribed for panic disorder. They noticed feeling amazing on days they forgot to take the medication, leading them to wonder if they truly needed it. We explore the concept of conditioned compensatory response, the effects of medication on the body, and the importance of gradual tapering.   ADHD Focus Struggles: Another listener struggles with focus and motivation despite trying various medications and strategies. We discuss the complexities of ADHD, the importance of environmental adjustments, and techniques like mindfulness, Pomodoro intervals, and accountability to improve focus and productivity.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode394   ---   Take care of your social battery with BetterHelp! Their online therapy platform offers flexible scheduling and matching with licensed therapists. Get 10% off your first month with the code "duff" at http://betterhelp.com/duff  

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we explore the deep and complex emotions involved in expressing love within romantic relationships and the challenging path to recovery following a severe traumatic brain injury. We kick off with a question about the appropriate timing for saying “I love you” in a romantic context, especially considering cultural differences and personal challenges such as being on the autism spectrum. Our listener’s journey brings forward the importance of understanding personal feelings and the unique dynamics of each relationship. We then shift to an inspiring yet poignant story of miraculous recovery and the persistence of hope. Another listener shares the journey of their mother’s recovery from a severe traumatic brain injury resulting from a car accident. While her recovery has been astonishing, they grapple with the lingering issue of facial numbness. This story highlights the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit, the complexities of the brain's healing process, and the necessity of advocating for comprehensive care that addresses all facets of recovery. As we navigate these profound topics, remember, whether it's about expressing love or facing the aftermath of a traumatic event, the journey is deeply personal and filled with opportunities for growth and understanding. As always, you can send your questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode393 --- Are you trying to find the perfect balance between social activity and recharging your batteries? Therapy can help! Try it out with BetterHelp at http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Hello friends! In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Contemplating Harm OCD and Supporting a Friend: A listener shares their concerns about how to best support a friend struggling with harm OCD. They've noticed their attempts to help by offering reassurance or checking things for their friend might actually be counterproductive. We dive into the nature of OCD, the impact of well-meaning actions, and how to genuinely support someone without reinforcing their compulsive behavior. Finding Balance Amidst Life's Transitions: Another listener talks about the challenges of transitioning to a full-time job and living with their partner after college. They've found themselves clinging to rigid routines that have begun to control their life, seeking advice on how to break free from these patterns without losing their sense of stability. We explore the importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness in navigating these significant life changes. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode392 ---- Are you trying to find the perfect balance between social activity and recharging your batteries? Therapy can help! Try it out with BetterHelp at http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two interesting questions that delve into the heart of mental and emotional challenges many of us face. First, we explore the complex world of panic disorder through the eyes of a 24-year-old graduate student grappling with severe panic attacks. Their story illuminates the physical and psychological intensity of panic disorder, revealing how it transcends mere stress or anxiety to significantly disrupt daily life. We dissect the cycle of fear and avoidance intrinsic to panic disorder and discuss the critical importance of specialized care and therapy in navigating this condition. Next, we turn our attention to the challenges faced by caregivers of individuals with dementia resulting from traumatic brain injuries (TBI). One listener shares the struggle of balancing caregiving with personal self-care, seeking resources and support to manage this demanding role. We offer guidance on finding online and in-person resources, emphasize the importance of self-care for caregivers, and encourage seeking professional help to ensure both the caregiver's and the loved one's needs are met. As always, you can send your questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode391. --- Exploring what truly matters to you can be transformative, and therapy can help. BetterHelp provides convenient, online therapy to fit your life. Start with a questionnaire, match with a licensed therapist, and switch anytime. Focus on what makes you happy with BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff.

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Dealing with Hurtful Family Comments: A listener is troubled by their mother's deeply hurtful comment, suggesting they have been a source of stress since birth. We explore the emotional impact of such comments, consider the role of health issues in behavior, and discuss strategies for coping and moving forward. Navigating Identity and Therapy: Another listener, a closeted trans man, shares their experience of coming out to their therapist and the mixed responses received. We delve into the importance of understanding and navigating gender identity within therapy, especially in conservative environments, and ponder whether seeking a gender specialist, in addition to their current therapist, might be beneficial. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode390 ---- This episode is sponsored by Babbel, the language learning app that's as close as you can get to immersion from your own home. Designed for real-life conversations, Babbel is backed by science and makes learning new languages practical and enjoyable. I've even used my Spanish skills from Babbel in a real client meeting! Get started with Babbel and enjoy 55% off your subscription by visiting babble.com/duff. Conditions apply. Exploring what truly matters to you can be transformative, and therapy can help. BetterHelp provides convenient, online therapy to fit your life. Start with a questionnaire, match with a licensed therapist, and switch anytime. Focus on what makes you happy with BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff.

Hello, friends! In today’s episode of the podcast, we dive deep into two incredibly relatable listener questions that touch on emotional and psychological challenges many of us might face. Our first discussion revolves around the complex emotions of worrying about one’s therapist. One listener shares their concern about being a burden by repeatedly discussing the same issues, particularly body dysmorphia, fearing it might negatively impact their therapist. We unravel this common fear, emphasizing the nature of therapy and the professional capacity of therapists to manage their own feelings and support their clients effectively. In our second exploration, we address the heart-wrenching situation of a listener navigating the aftermath of an abusive marriage, particularly the impact on their children. This listener’s struggle with their ex-partner’s manipulation and its effect on their relationship with their children brings to light the challenges of co-parenting and protecting one’s mental and emotional well-being during such turbulent times. We offer insights into seeking support, understanding the dynamics at play, and strategies for maintaining a healthy relationship with one’s children amidst external pressures. As always, your thoughts and questions are invaluable to us. Reach out via [email protected] or explore more resources at http://duffthepsych.com/episode389. Your journey is important, and we’re here to support you every step of the way. --- Breathe Easy with Air Doctor: Spending most of our time indoors means we're often exposed to more pollutants than outside. Air Doctor's air purifier, featuring an UltraHEPA filter, captures over 99% of airborne particles, even those as small as .003 microns, ensuring your indoor air is cleaner and healthier. Try it risk-free for 30 days and get up to 40% off at airdoctorpro.com with promo code DUFF. Nourish Your Skin with OneSkin: Combat dry, aging skin with OneSkin's peptide-powered products, including their moisturizing body lotion and the innovative OS-01 SHIELD SPF. Address skin issues at their root with a 15% discount using code DUFF at oneskin.co.

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we dive into two listener queries that shine a light on the complexities of emotional experiences and relationships. First, we explore the journey of someone grappling with childhood emotional neglect, unpacking the long-term effects of growing up in an environment where emotions were disregarded and undervalued. Our listener shares their struggle with feeling emotionally disconnected and their quest for a path toward healing and emotional awareness. Then, we shift gears to discuss the challenges faced by a couple when one partner feels uncomfortable with being photographed. This scenario opens up a dialogue on insecurities, the significance of memories captured in photos, and the importance of understanding and respecting each other’s boundaries. As always, you can send me your questions at [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode388. --- Feeling overwhelmed by the never-ending to-do list? Discover how to prioritize what truly matters with BetterHelp. Their convenient, flexible online therapy helps you allocate time for what's important, letting you focus on happiness. Start today at betterhelp.com/duff and get 10% off your first month. Prioritize your well-being with BetterHelp.

Hello friends! In this episode, we delve into a deeply personal and complex question that touches on the lasting impact of past relationships, the nuances of friendship, and the boundaries within a current, happy marriage. A listener shares their experience of not being able to stop thinking about an ex, despite being happily married and having no desire to rekindle a romantic relationship. They discuss the significance of this past relationship during a pivotal time in their life and ponder whether they should attempt to cultivate a friendship or strive to move on completely. We explore the importance of acknowledging the role this person played in their life, while also considering the potential implications for their current relationship. The conversation includes practical advice on navigating these feelings, communicating with both the spouse and the ex, and setting healthy boundaries. We also discuss the potential for "relationship drift" and the importance of being honest with oneself about the true motivations and possible outcomes of re-establishing contact. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode387. ---- Discover healthier snacking with Chomps’ tasty meat sticks, packed with protein and free of unhealthy additives. Enjoy 20% off your first order with free shipping at chomps.com/duff, and make better snack choices with their humane, responsibly sourced meat in nine delicious flavors.

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and impactful listener questions, uncovering layers of self-discovery, acceptance, and the ongoing journey towards healing and love: Embarking on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Love: A 32-year-old male shares his transformative journey from battling addiction and isolation to embracing therapy, wellness, and the realization of his deep desire for love and intimacy. Facing fears of rejection, exploring his sexuality, and stepping into the dating scene, he seeks guidance and affirmation that it's never too late to find love and form meaningful connections. Navigating Mental Health Challenges in the UK: A listener from the UK expresses frustration with the mental health support system, revealing a recent diagnosis of BPD after years of being treated for depression. Despite facing suicidality and feeling abandoned by the healthcare system, they search for hope and strategies to cope with the intense highs and lows of BPD, highlighting the urgent need for compassionate and effective mental health care. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode386. --- BetterHelp: Navigate the complexities of relationships and dating with BetterHelp. It’s not just about couples therapy; individual therapy can significantly enhance your dating journey, improving communication and self-awareness. Start your journey with BetterHelp online, tailored to your schedule, and get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff. Dive into therapy designed for you, because understanding yourself is the first step to connecting with others. Babbel: Kickstart your language learning journey in 2024 with Babbel! Whether refining conversational skills or mastering pronunciation, Babbel’s 10-minute, expert-crafted lessons pave the way to fluency in just 3 weeks. Embrace a new language with tools rooted in real-life situations, and get 50% off a lifetime subscription at babble.com/duff. Let’s learn together and make language barriers a thing of the past.

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Navigating Romantic Relationships and Self-Esteem: A listener seeks advice on managing the anxiety and self-doubt that accompany new romantic relationships. We discuss the concept of "correct rejections" and explore strategies for nurturing a healthy sense of self-esteem, such as focusing on personal growth and savoring moments of joy. Overcoming Trauma and Self-Doubt: Another listener shares their struggle with self-doubt stemming from a traumatic experience. We emphasize the importance of self-compassion and challenge the stigma associated with seeking help. We discuss the benefits of therapy and self-help resources, as well as the empowering nature of setting challenges and connecting with others. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode385 ---- OneSkin: OneSkin's skincare products, developed by Ph.D. level scientists, simplify your routine and reduce skin's biological age with their proprietary peptide OS-1. Use code "DUFF" at oneskin.co for 15% off. AirDoctor: AirDoctor's air purifier removes 100% of particles as small as .003 microns, circulating air in 600 square foot rooms four times per hour. Use promo code "DUFF" at airdoctorpro.com for up to 40% off.

Hello friends! In today's in-depth episode, we embark on a comprehensive exploration of depression, a condition that's far more complex than the occasional sadness or the transient moods we all experience. Our journey aims to shed light on the multifaceted nature of depression, affecting individuals across the globe in myriad ways. We delve into the clinical aspects, the personal stories, and the common misconceptions surrounding this pervasive mental health condition. We start by breaking down the very concept of depression, moving beyond the simple definition to uncover its roots and how it impacts the human experience. Through the lens of the DSM-5, we explore the criteria for diagnosing Major Depressive Disorder, highlighting the diversity of symptoms and the profound effect they have on individuals' lives. Our discussion takes a personal turn as we examine the experiences of James and Ellie, two hypothetical cases that illustrate the varied manifestations of depression. James, with his outward success masking an internal struggle, and Ellie, facing overt challenges in her transition to college life, offer insights into the silent battles many face. Addressing common misconceptions, we challenge the stigmas associated with depression, emphasizing its complexity and the fact that it's not a sign of weakness, nor is it something one can simply "snap out of." We also touch upon the idea that depression can affect anyone, regardless of how "good" their life may seem. As we move towards solutions, we discuss the treatability of depression, underscoring the effectiveness of medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. We emphasize that for those facing this condition, there is hope, and a multitude of resources available to support their journey towards recovery. In closing, we reaffirm the importance of understanding, empathy, and support in the battle against depression. We encourage our listeners to reach out for help, to engage in conversations about mental health, and to seek the resources necessary to navigate this challenging yet treatable condition. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode, including links to resources and further reading, at http://duffthepsych.com/episode384. ---- Sponsored by BetterHelp: In my journey to enhance my relationships, I've found therapy invaluable for navigating the complexities of connections with others. BetterHelp offers online therapy that's tailored to your needs, allowing you to work through relationship challenges with a licensed therapist from the comfort of your home. Start your journey towards healthier relationships and get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff. Sponsored by Chomps: If you're like me and snacking is your Achilles' heel, Chomps is the game-changer you need. Their meat sticks are not only a healthier snacking alternative but are also packed with protein and come in delicious flavors like taco, made from high-quality, sustainably sourced meat. Take advantage of 20% off your first order plus free shipping by visiting chomps.com/duff.

Hello friends! In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that I'm sure many of you will find relatable and insightful. Navigating Therapy with a Talkative Therapist: One listener shares their experience with a therapist who often overshadows the session with personal stories, leaving them feeling unheard. This is particularly challenging as the listener is dealing with a controlling spouse with dementia. We explore the importance of feeling heard in therapy, the role of therapist's self-disclosure, and the value of assertiveness in therapeutic relationships. We also discuss the concept of transference and how it can impact therapy sessions. Considering Alternatives to Adderall: Another listener seeks advice about a close relative looking to taper off Adderall, which they've been dependent on for managing ADHD. We discuss the complexities of ADHD diagnosis and treatment, delve into the pharmacology of Adderall, and explore its side effects and potential for psychological dependence. Additionally, we examine Provigil (Modafinil) as an alternative, highlighting the differences in abuse potential and side effects. We also touch upon other medication options like Strattera, Intunive, Clonidine, and Wellbutrin, and emphasize the role of therapy and coaching in managing ADHD. As always, your questions and stories bring a depth of understanding to our discussions. If there's something on your mind, don't hesitate to reach out at [email protected]. For full show notes, please visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode375. --- This episode is brought to you by Babbel, the science-backed language-learning app with quick, 10-minute lessons tailored to your level. Get 55% off your subscription at babbel.com/duff and start speaking a new language in as little as three weeks. Rules and restrictions may apply. This episode is also sponsored by BetterHelp, the convenient online therapy service. Reflect on your strengths and build on them with a licensed therapist, tailored to your needs and schedule. Visit betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month and start celebrating your progress.

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that touch on deeply personal experiences and emotional challenges: Exploring Identity Through Name Change: Our first question comes from a listener who has recently undergone the significant process of legally changing their name, a journey often intertwined with gender identity and personal transformation. We discuss the complexities of introducing this change in a professional setting, especially in environments where such changes might not be widely accepted. We explore strategies for communicating the change, dealing with potential challenges, and staying true to one's identity. Confronting Emotional Numbness: The second question addresses a concerning experience of emotional numbness, where even significant life events fail to elicit expected emotional reactions. We delve into the concept of anhedonia, its connection to depression, and the possible causes of this emotional disconnection. Practical advice is offered on how to reconnect with emotions, including mindfulness techniques, behavioral activation, and the importance of considering physical health factors and professional help. As always, your questions and experiences enrich our discussions and bring valuable insights to our community. If there's a question or topic on your mind, don't hesitate to reach out at [email protected]. For full show notes and more resources, head to http://duffthepsych.com/episode382. ---- Discover healthier snacking with Chomps' tasty meat sticks, packed with protein and free of unhealthy additives. Enjoy 20% off your first order with free shipping at chomps.com/duff, and make better snack choices with their humane, responsibly sourced meat in nine delicious flavors. Breathe easier with AirDoctor's air purifiers, independently tested to remove 99.99% of airborne allergens and pollutants. Get up to 40% off at airdoctorpro.com using promo code DUFF, and transform your indoor air quality with their efficient, high-capacity filtration.

Hello friends! In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that many of you might find relatable: Confronting Career Anxiety in Private Practice: A newly licensed listener, transitioning from a non-profit agency to private practice, shares their struggles with the unpredictability of work and income, leading to increased anxiety. They contemplate returning to a full-time job, questioning the future of their career in mental health. We discuss the common challenges faced in different work settings, strategies for managing career uncertainty, and ways to find a fulfilling path in the mental health profession. Navigating Highway Anxiety with a Unique Twist: Another listener, who enjoys driving but experiences anxiety on long highway trips, seeks advice for their unusual situation. Despite a well-managed health condition and ruling out vision problems, this anxiety poses a significant obstacle, especially for family commitments requiring long travel. We explore potential triggers, the importance of understanding anxiety's impact, and practical tips for gradually overcoming this specific driving anxiety. As always, your questions are the heartbeat of our show. Feel free to send your thoughts or inquiries to [email protected]. For full show notes and more insights, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode381. ------ If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.

Hello friends! In today's enlightening episode, we delve deep into the intricacies of neurotransmitters, specifically dopamine, and their impact on our behavior and mental health. We also touch on trichotillomania and the role of medications like Wellbutrin in treating such conditions. Demystifying Dopamine and Serotonin: We kick off by addressing a common oversimplification in the world of mental health. Dopamine and serotonin are often reduced to mere 'happiness' and 'reward' chemicals in popular culture. We explore how these neurotransmitters are far more complex and play a variety of roles in our body, from movement and mood regulation to learning and memory. Understanding Neurotransmitters: What exactly are neurotransmitters like dopamine? We explain their crucial role in brain communication and their diverse functions. We also discuss other key neurotransmitters such as serotonin, acetylcholine, epinephrine, norepinephrine, GABA, and glutamate. Dopamine's Role Beyond Pleasure: Moving beyond the 'feel-good molecule' tag, we delve into dopamine's involvement in anticipation of rewards, motivation to pursue goals, and its critical role in learning and habit formation. Impact of Modern Habits: How do activities like scrolling on social media, playing video games, or watching TV series influence our dopamine levels? We discuss how these activities engage our brain's reward system and the concept of negative reinforcement in avoiding stress or emotional discomfort. Trichotillomania and Dopamine: Addressing a listener's specific concern, we explore trichotillomania, a complex mental health condition involving recurrent hair pulling. We examine the potential roles of dopamine, serotonin, glutamate, genetic factors, and environmental influences in this disorder. Wellbutrin - A Closer Look: What about medications like Wellbutrin? We clarify how Wellbutrin, or bupropion, an NDRI, differs from other antidepressants and its effectiveness in treating depression, aiding smoking cessation, and its potential implications in treating trichotillomania. Final Thoughts and Recommendations: We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of seeking professional advice for personalized treatment plans, especially for conditions like trichotillomania, and encourage listeners to keep sending their thoughtful questions and topics. As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode380 ---- The new year isn't all about change. Keep and build upon your progress with the help of a licensed therapist through BetterHelp. You can get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff

Hello, friends!  In this episode, I will be wrapping the year up by reflecting back on 2023 and my word for the year, which was "Identity." I talk about what I learned and explored this year and then I tell you what I have chosen as my word for 2024. It should be a fun one! Take care of yourselves, and I will see you in 2024! --- If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.

Hello friends! In today’s insightful episode, we delve into two very relatable and poignant listener questions that highlight the complexities of personal relationships and social anxiety. Navigating Emotional Maturity in Relationships: Our first discussion revolves around a listener's five-year relationship with her boyfriend. She's passionate about personal growth but finds her boyfriend, though professionally driven, lacks emotional maturity in their relationship. We explore the challenges of addressing emotional immaturity in a partner, the balance between accepting inherent personality traits and fostering growth, and the importance of direct communication and understanding in nurturing a healthy, supportive relationship. Coping with Social Anxiety and Jealousy in Adolescence: The second question comes from a 13-year-old listener in the UK, grappling with feelings of jealousy and social anxiety. They talk about the challenges of making friends, the impact of bullying, and the complexities of navigating friendships with older peers. We discuss strategies to manage social anxiety, the significance of self-reflection, and the importance of recognizing one’s value in friendships. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode378. ---- Air Doctor is an at-home air purifier that filters out nearly 100% of particals as small as .003 microns. It is whisper quiet and super easy to use. If you suffer from horrendous allergies like me, check out airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code DUFF for up to $300 off! If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.

Hello friends! In Episode 377, we tackle two profound listener questions that shed light on unique mental health and relationship challenges. Our first discussion revolves around a listener gearing up for couples therapy. They share their apprehension about conveying years of experiences within the confines of therapy sessions. We explore strategies for effective communication, the importance of preparation, and utilizing therapy as a starting point rather than a complete solution. The conversation also touches on the usefulness of additional resources like therapy workbooks and individual therapy in enhancing the couples therapy experience. The second question comes from a 23-year-old male experiencing derealization, depersonalization, and occasional panic attacks. These symptoms make him feel detached from his environment and himself, as if living in an unreal world. We dive into understanding these phenomena, identifying possible triggers, and discussing various coping methods. These include sensory grounding techniques, mindfulness practices, and the potential roles of therapy and medication in managing these dissociative experiences. Your questions continue to add depth and insight to our discussions on mental health. If you have any questions or topics you'd like to share, please send them to [email protected]. For full show notes and additional resources, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode377. --- The holiday season can be rough. If you need extra support to get through it, consider trying online therapy with BetterHelp. You can get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff If you are looking for a brain reset and the normal avenues of therapy and medication aren’t doing it for you, consider doing at-home ketamine therapy with Mindbloom. Head over to http://mindbloom.com/duff and use to code duff for $100 off!

Hello friends! In today's insightful episode, we delve into two intriguing listener questions that touch upon deeply personal and relatable topics. First, we explore the lasting impact of growing up without a father. One of our listeners shares their lifelong struggle with the absence of a paternal figure, revealing how it shapes their relationships and fears about parenting. We discuss the complex emotions tied to this experience, including the search for paternal qualities in partners and the challenges it brings. The journey of understanding and healing from such a deep-rooted issue is unpacked, offering perspectives on self-reflection, therapy, and personal growth. Our second question shifts focus to the challenges of young leadership. A listener in their early 20s, already in a management role, grapples with being taken advantage of due to their age. They seek advice on asserting themselves and managing a team with more life experience. We dive into the nuances of assertive communication, the balance between firmness and collaboration in leadership, and the importance of self-confidence, irrespective of age. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode376. --- If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.

Hello friends! In today’s insightful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that delve into personal struggles and the complexities of therapy in the modern world. Our first discussion revolves around a listener's internal conflict about undergoing a nose job. They share their long-standing desire for this procedure, influenced by cultural norms and compounded by severe anxiety. We explore the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for wanting cosmetic surgery, the impact of cultural pressures, and strategies for managing anxiety related to such a significant decision. The second question opens a window into the world of telehealth therapy and the challenges of maintaining privacy in less traditional settings. A listener shares their experience of feeling uneasy about the lack of privacy during their online therapy sessions. This concern leads us to discuss the crucial aspects of privacy in therapy, the legal and clinical implications, and the importance of addressing and resolving such concerns with your therapist. As always, you can send me questions at [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode375. --- If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off. The holiday season can be rough. If you need extra support to get through it, consider trying online therapy with BetterHelp. You can get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff