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This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
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Episode 322: Stopping Self-Injurious Behavior & Trichotillomania

Episode 322: Stopping Self-Injurious Behavior & Trichotillomania

Hello, all! This is a really interesting episode, in my opinion. That's due to your awesome questions! Here's what I cover: When I get angry, I headbutt things, which has given me black eyes. How can I get help? What is trichotillomania and how can you work on it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode322 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
35:1914/10/2022
Episode 321: Asking My Wife to Get Help & Codependency With My Kids

Episode 321: Asking My Wife to Get Help & Codependency With My Kids

Hello, friends! After being a Stuffy Duffy last week, I am back with a new Q&A episode. Here are the questions I cover: My wife is struggling with depression and asking for a divorce. How can I ask her to get help? I am distraught when my kids have trouble. How can I be there for them without being consumed by their issues? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode321 This episode is brought to you by my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. I just reduced the price from $300 all the way down to $50 or payments of $15. Now is the time to take your life back from anxiety. With hours and hours of comprehensive video lessons, you can start your anxiety recover journey today.
31:0807/10/2022
Episode 320: Caregiver Pressure & Antidepressants for Concussion

Episode 320: Caregiver Pressure & Antidepressants for Concussion

Hello, all! Short but sweet episode this time covering the following: What can I do about my fear of dying and leaving behind my paralyzed husband? Is it normal to use antidepressants after a concussion? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode320   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
25:2223/09/2022
Episode 319: Medical Clearance for Job & Exposure for Medication Phobia

Episode 319: Medical Clearance for Job & Exposure for Medication Phobia

Hello, all! In this episode I tackle the following topics from listeners like you: My friend is a pilot and is worried about getting therapy because of medical clearance issues. What can they do? I have phobia of medications and injections. How can I use exposure therapy in a situation like this? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode319   If you find that you could use some help with problem solving in your life, you might benefit from individual therapy done securly online. Check out http://betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Quickly match and switch therapists at any time. 
38:4916/09/2022
Episode 318: Feelings for Someone Outside of Marriage

Episode 318: Feelings for Someone Outside of Marriage

Hello, all! This is a short and sweet episode. It's been busy week and it is positively hot as BAWLS right now. So, I take one question. I also ramble a bit about some of my frustrations with neurology at the beginning. Here's the question I cover: Is it normal to have feelings for someone else when I'm married? What should I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode318 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
30:5409/09/2022
Episode 317: Oversharing in Therapy & Losing Friends in Relationship

Episode 317: Oversharing in Therapy & Losing Friends in Relationship

Hello, all! Short and sweet episode this week featuring the following questions: Is it possible to overshare about your trauma in therapy? How can I stop losing friends when I'm in a romantic relationship? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode317  
28:3702/09/2022
Episode 316: Frustrated Therapist & Codependency

Episode 316: Frustrated Therapist & Codependency

Hello, friends! Great episode for you today featuring questions that are follow-ups on previous questions. Here's what I cover: My therapist seems to get frustrated and angry when I'm suicidal. What can I do about this? How can I maintain my self-concept in relationships? As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode316 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Magic Mind and BetterHelp. Magic Mind contains a magical combination of 12 active ingredients, scientifically designed to improve energy, improve focus, decrease stress, and improve mood — all things that combined, improve your productivity. Get 40% off your subscription at www.magicmind.co/duff with my discount code DUFF20. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
37:3626/08/2022
Episode 315: How to Feel Less Numb & Letting Go of Old Therapist

Episode 315: How to Feel Less Numb & Letting Go of Old Therapist

Hello, friends. I hope you're taking good care of yourselves. Here are the questions that I cover in this episode: I can't feel emotions. How can I start feeling things? I keep in touch with my old therapist still. Is that holding me back? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode315   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Organifi and Audible. Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
41:0119/08/2022
Episode 314: Communicating with Autistic Partner & ADHD Shame

Episode 314: Communicating with Autistic Partner & ADHD Shame

Hello, friends! What a week. I'm alive and well, but unfortunately things have been a bit heavy over here. I start off with a little personal update and then into the following great questions: My partner is autistic and talks constantly about her trauma. It's too much for me. What can I do? I am a woman with ADHD and have shame and anxiety because of it. How can I rebuild my self-concept? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode314 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Organifi. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store.
43:4912/08/2022
Episode 313: How My Year is Going So Far

Episode 313: How My Year is Going So Far

Hello, friends! This is a simpler check-in episode. I update you on what has been going on in my life - particularly this wild week. I also revisit my goals that I outlined for the year and reflect on what has stuck, what has faded, and what I'm okay moving on from. Hope you enjoy!  As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to [email protected] and find show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode313 Sponsor: This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Organifi. Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store.
39:2506/08/2022
Episode 312: Co-Parenting with Abuser & Therapeutic Alliance

Episode 312: Co-Parenting with Abuser & Therapeutic Alliance

Hello, everyone! I hope you've had a great week. Back at you with an awesome Q&A featuring the following questions: My ex-wife was emotionally abusive and controlling to me. We share children and she is constantly belittling me when we interact. What can I do? My psychologist does not seem to be trying very hard in sessions. How can I fix things? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode312 - This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
37:4629/07/2022
Episode 311: Overcoming Procrastination & Love Languages

Episode 311: Overcoming Procrastination & Love Languages

Hello, friends! I hope you are staying cool and hydrated if you are in one of the major heatwave areas! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions: How can I stop procrastinating on household tasks, homework, and my job?  My partner said he can't fulfill my love language. What can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode311   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
41:5922/07/2022
Episode 310: Genetic Testing for Antidepressants & Hating Sex in Marriage

Episode 310: Genetic Testing for Antidepressants & Hating Sex in Marriage

Hello, all! This is a really interesting mix of questions. So stick around until the second one to hear me dish out some tough love. Here are the questions covered: Are we able to do genetic testing to tell which antidepressants will work for an individual? I hate having sex with my husband. What can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode310   If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
33:3615/07/2022
Episode 309: Abusive Marriage & Cutting Off Mother

Episode 309: Abusive Marriage & Cutting Off Mother

Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer two questions that encompass difficulties within family relationships. Here are the questions: My wife belittles me and makes me feel terrible constantly. What should I do? I'm thinking of cutting off contact with my mother, but I also have a lot of empathy for her. How should I proceed? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode309 No ads today, but please take a moment to leave a review of the show!
38:3208/07/2022
Episode 308: Anger After Suicide & Restarting Medication

Episode 308: Anger After Suicide & Restarting Medication

Hello, all. A big content warning for this episode, the first question deals with suicide and has a bit more detail than other questions I've answered on the show. It's a very worthwhile question and a great topic to discuss, but I just want to make you aware of that. Here are the topics covered in this Q&A episode: I saw my elderly father kill himself and I am so angry at him. What can I do? My friend stopped medication for anxiety and depression, but she is thinking about starting again. What else can she do to help herself out? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode308.  This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MUD\WTR and BetterHelp. MUD\WTR is a coffee alternative consisting of organic ingredients lauded by cultures old and young for their health and performance benefits. With 1/7th the caffeine of coffee, mud gives you natural energy, focus and more without the jitters and crash. Right now, you can get 15% off your first purchase by going to mudwtr.com/DUFF and using code DUFF at checkout! If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
37:1024/06/2022
Episode 307: How to Set Boundaries & Overcoming Sexual Abuse

Episode 307: How to Set Boundaries & Overcoming Sexual Abuse

Hello, all! In this episode, I take on two really good listener questions. The second one mentions sexual abuse of a child, but there are no details shared. Here are the questions covered: How can I start to set boundaries with loved ones when it feels so hard? How can I improve my sexual relationship with me husband after I have experienced childhood abuse? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode307 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
36:3817/06/2022
Episode 306: Getting Partner Back & Bipolar in College

Episode 306: Getting Partner Back & Bipolar in College

Hello, all! This is a great Q&A episode featuring the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself: My partner left due to me not pursuing her enough. Does it make sense to try to get back together after some time? I had to leave college due to bipolar. Should I go back to the same school after stabilizing?  As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode306 - This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
41:2910/06/2022
Episode 305: Overthinking & Embarrassment

Episode 305: Overthinking & Embarrassment

Hello, friends! I hope you have had a great week. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following questions: How can I overcome my tendency to overthink constantly? Why do I get extremely embarrassed so often in social situations? What can I do about it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode305 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MUD\WTR. MUD\WTR is a coffee alternative consisting of organic ingredients lauded by cultures old and young for their health and performance benefits. With 1/7th the caffeine of coffee, mud gives you natural energy, focus and more without the jitters and crash. Right now, you can get 15% off your first purchase by going to mudwtr.com/DUFF and using code DUFF at checkout!
41:0803/06/2022
Episode 304: Duff the Wife Returns!

Episode 304: Duff the Wife Returns!

Hello, everyone! In this epidode, my beautiful wife, Joelle, comes back on the show for a quick chat about life. We sat on the couch and had a cozy talk about all sorts of topics. I hope you enjoy! As always, you can send me questions to future episodes to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode304 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Policygenius. Policygenius is your one-stop shop to find and buy the insurance you need. They are not an insurance company, but rather a marketplace featuring the best options for you. Head to policygenius.com and answer a few questions. In just minutes, you can compare personalized quotes from top companies to find your lowest price. You could save 50% or more on life insurance by comparing quotes with Policygenius.
49:2927/05/2022
Episode 303: Decreased Sexual Performance & Trouble with Exposure Work

Episode 303: Decreased Sexual Performance & Trouble with Exposure Work

Hello, all! Straight forward Q&A this week with the following awesome listener questions: I used to be able to have sex numerous times consecutively, but ever since a panic attack, I havet been unable to. What is going on? I am having trouble doing my therapist's exposure activities due to panic attacks. How can I do better? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode303 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
30:4320/05/2022
Episode 302: No Intimacy in Marriage & Lost in Life

Episode 302: No Intimacy in Marriage & Lost in Life

Hello, friends! I hope you're doing well. After a very gross story at the top of the episode, I get into the following questions: What can I do about decreased intimacy in my marriage? I am too depressed to do anything what can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode302   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and MUD\WTR. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. MUD\WTR is a coffee alternative consisting of organic ingredients lauded by cultures old and young for their health and performance benefits. With 1/7th the caffeine of coffee, mud gives you natural energy, focus and more without the jitters and crash. Right now, you can get 15% off your first purchase by going to mudwtr.com/DUFF and using code DUFF at checkout!
37:4713/05/2022
Episode 301: Car Crash Amnesia & Husband Suddenly Wants Divorce

Episode 301: Car Crash Amnesia & Husband Suddenly Wants Divorce

Hello, everyone! I hope you're having a great week. Just a nice straightfoward Q&A for you today featuring the following questions: After 12 years of a great marriage, my husband had a sudden realization that he wants to leave. What can I do? My mother was in a terrible car crash and is afraid of remembering what happened. Is that a possibility? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode301 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
33:1306/05/2022
Episode 300: How to Ask for Help & Emotional Literacy for Men

Episode 300: How to Ask for Help & Emotional Literacy for Men

Hello, everyone!  Episode 300!! Holy moly. Thank you so much for sticking with me on this ride. I appreciate your trust and attention so very much. This episode is much like any other. A solid question and answer featuring the following: How can I ask for help as an 18-year-old guy? My relationship failed due to my inability to communicate my feelings. How can I improve? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode300 Policygenius is your one-stop shop to find and buy the insurance you need. They are not an insurance company, but rather a marketplace featuring the best options for you. Head to policygenius.com and answer a few questions. In just minutes, you can compare personalized quotes from top companies to find your lowest price. You could save 50% or more on life insurance by comparing quotes with Policygenius.
36:0229/04/2022
Episode 299: Overcoming Victim Mentality & Cognitive vs Physical Anxiety

Episode 299: Overcoming Victim Mentality & Cognitive vs Physical Anxiety

Hello, friends! I hope you've had a really good week. My week here has been pretty good. As I mention in the episode, I didn't really plan anything good for the 300th episode of the show, BUT I wanted to open things up to you all. If you have written in a question or heard a question from the show that caused you to make a change in your life or there is a follow up story to your original question, I'd love to hear it. Shoot me an email to [email protected]! Anyways, here are the questions that I cover in this episode: Why did nobody tell me that there is mind-based and body-based anxiety? I have experienced a lot of mistreatment and discrimination in my life. This has led to a victim mentality. How do I get myself out of the victim mentality and start taking ownership of my life? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode299 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and BetterHelp. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up! If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
36:2222/04/2022
Episode 298: Emotional Burnout as a Therapist & Seven Years of Loss

Episode 298: Emotional Burnout as a Therapist & Seven Years of Loss

Hello, friends! I hope you have had a wonderful week. For today's episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions: I am thinking of going into clinical psychology, but as a sensitive person, I am afraid of emotionally burning out. What can I do to avoid this? I have lost someone every year since 2015. How can I get back to a normal life with so much loss? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode298   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Ana Luisa and Audible. Ana Luisa make beautiful gold jewelry including chains, statement necklaces, earrings, and rings. They have TONS of different options at price points starting as low as $39. Right now, you can treat yourself and a loved one with Ana Luisa’s Buy One, Get One 40% OFF sale! Go to shop.analuisa.com/duff to claim this offer now! Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
35:4915/04/2022
Episode 297: Quarterlife Crisis & Being the Family Therapist

Episode 297: Quarterlife Crisis & Being the Family Therapist

Hello, everyone! Thank you for your patience on this one. Had to take a couple extra days so that I didn't lose my mind with work. This episode features the following questions: After college, I don't know what to do with my life and find myself depressed. How can I move forward? My family expects me to be the peacekeeper and therapist. How can I set better boundaries? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode297   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
34:0010/04/2022
Episode 296: Constant Paranoid Thoughts & Dealing with a Toxic Workplace

Episode 296: Constant Paranoid Thoughts & Dealing with a Toxic Workplace

Hello, all! This before I get into the questions this week, I talk a bit about my personal situation. Unfortunately, I had a breakup with a partner of mine and I share some of the realizations that I had in the process as well as my protocol for making it through this sort of hardship. After that, I jump into the following awesome listener questions: I have had bipolar I for a long time, but started getting a new symptom of paranoid thoughts over the past few years. Why might this be happening? My workplace and coworkers are toxic, but I am a non-confrontational person. What can I do about it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode296 This episode is brought to you by Ana Luisa Jewelry and Policygenius Ana Luisa has amazing quality gold jewelry at affordable prices. Perfect for Mother's day or any time you want to spoil a loved one in your life (including yourself). Right now, Ana Luisa is doing a buy one, get one 40% off promotion. Check it out at https://shop.analuisa.com/duff Shopping for insurance can be a confusing nightmare, but with the licensed experts at Policygenius, it doesn't have to be quite as scary. They work for you, not the insurance companies, to help gather the best options at the best price points. Head over to http://policygenius.com and answer a few questions to get your free quotes today!
46:2901/04/2022
Episode 295: Dating After Abuse & Healing from Cheating

Episode 295: Dating After Abuse & Healing from Cheating

Hello, friends! I hope that you are caring well for your hearts this week. It's wild out there. Here are the questions I cover in this week's episode: My history of sexual abuse makes dating complicated. How can I move forward? My husband cheated on me but doesn't want to do couples therapy. How can I stop resenting him? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode295 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Athletic Greens and Betterhelp. Athletic Greens simplifies your routine with nutritional supplements you need everyday. Containing a multivitamin, probiotics, immune support, adaptogens and more to support your gut, health, energy, immunity and healthy aging. Athletic Greens is giving listeners a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/duff. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
33:0625/03/2022
Episode 294: Spouse Doesn't Want Help & Depressed About the World

Episode 294: Spouse Doesn't Want Help & Depressed About the World

Hey, everyone. I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. In this episode, I start with a moment of vulnerability about my life lately. That is followed by these two great questions sent in by listeners like yourself: My wife has had anxiety for years but does not want to get help for it. What can I do? I have a perfect life, but I remain depressed about the world. How can I cope? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode294 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Acorn TV. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
39:0119/03/2022
Episode 293: Therapist on Dating App & Cannabis Use Disorders

Episode 293: Therapist on Dating App & Cannabis Use Disorders

Hey, friends! I hope you're having a great week. This is a very interesting episode with the following questions: I am attracted to my therapist and saw her on a non-traditional dating app. When I brought this up, she refused to talk about it. What should I do? How should cannabis use disorders be handled when there are also mental health issues? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode293 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
47:0411/03/2022
Episode 292: Reacting to My Partner's Sexual Past

Episode 292: Reacting to My Partner's Sexual Past

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode where I answer the following question: I recently learned of my partner's previous threesome. I can't stop feeling disgust and anxiety from it, even though I know that's not fair. How can I deal with this? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode292   This episode is sponored by Athletic Greens. With Athletic Greens, all you need is one scoop per day in a glass of water to take in 75 high-quality vitamins, minerals, and other nutrients. Head over to athleticgreens.com/duff to get a free 1 year supply of vitamin D and 5 travel packs along with your first purchas!
29:5604/03/2022
Episode 291: Teen Suicide Contagion & Trauma Dissociation

Episode 291: Teen Suicide Contagion & Trauma Dissociation

Hello, everyone! Pretty heavy episode this time. Nothing graphic, as usual, but I decided to tackle some tricky questions. Before hopping into the questions, I share a quick tip about managing the news cycle during this really intense time. Here are the questions covered: My kid's school had two people die by suicide this year. How can I talk to them about it and should we switch schools? I was abused as a child and have trouble remembering it without dissociating. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode291 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by EveryPlate and BetterHelp EveryPlate delivers pre-portioned ingredients and easy-to-follow recipe cards right to your door, so you can spend less time prepping and cooking, and spend more time enjoying good food. Right now, you can try EveryPlate for just $1.79 per meal by going to everyplate.com and entering code duff179 at checkout. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
42:0025/02/2022
Episode 290: Intrusive Thoughts of Harming Family & Ruminating About Therapy

Episode 290: Intrusive Thoughts of Harming Family & Ruminating About Therapy

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. In this episode, I start off with a quick update about my experience so far on Lexapro (escitalopram), an SSRI medication for anxiety. After that, I jump straight into the following super interesting questions: I have OCD with intrusive thoughts about harming my loved ones. What can I do about this? I ruminate about therapy constantly, having imaginary conversations in my head. Is that bad? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode290 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and Audible. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up! Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
39:0318/02/2022
Episode 289: Self-Disclosure in Therapy and Suicidality vs Intrusive Thoughts

Episode 289: Self-Disclosure in Therapy and Suicidality vs Intrusive Thoughts

Hey, all! Nice Q&A episode for you here. The second questions talks a bit about suicidality, but nothing too graphic. Very interesting stuff. Here's what I cover: How do you feel about therapists self-disclosing in therapy? Should I be concerned about my passive suicidal thoughts or are they just intrusive thoughts? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode289 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
33:3911/02/2022
Episode 288: Confidentiality for Minors & Physical vs Mental Issues

Episode 288: Confidentiality for Minors & Physical vs Mental Issues

Hey, everyone. Short and sweet episode today featuring the following questions: I am a minor in therapy. What can my therapist share with my parents about self-harm? How can I tell the difference between a physical issue like hypothyroidism and a mental health issue like depression? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode288   No sponsor this week, so please check out my recent book, 500 Journal Prompts! 
28:1404/02/2022
Episode 287: Doubting Your Own Trauma & ADHD Misdiagnosis

Episode 287: Doubting Your Own Trauma & ADHD Misdiagnosis

Hello, friends! This episode features two questions related to trauma. There is nothing violent or explicit described, but both questions do involve childhood abuse. Just be aware. Here is what is covered in this episode: I sometimes doubt that my trauma ever happened and use self-harm as a way to remind myself that it did. What can I do? I have several psychiatric disorders and my psychiatrist wants me to be evaluated for ADHD. How can I tell the difference between ADHD and symptoms caused by my other issues? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode287   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
39:4328/01/2022
Episode 286: Anxiety About Time Off & Erectile Dysfunction

Episode 286: Anxiety About Time Off & Erectile Dysfunction

Hey, friends! I hope that your week has been great. I want to give you a big thanks for listening to the show. I really appreciate you. This is a question and answer episode where I tackle the following: How can I get over my anxiety about having unstructured time off from work? I have erectile dysfunction with my new partner and my doctor thinks it is psychological. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode286   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Chomper Labs and BetterHelp. Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3 way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
42:2321/01/2022
Episode 285: Grief and New Relationships & Secondhand Trauma

Episode 285: Grief and New Relationships & Secondhand Trauma

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a fantastic week. Unfortunately, omicron has found its way into the Duff household, but alas... the show must go on! I have a great Q&A episode with the following questions submitted by listeners like you: My wife died two years ago, and I am still completely closed off to romantic connections. What can I do? Is it possible to be traumatized by hearing about something bad happening to someone else? As always, you can send questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode285 ------- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Chomper Labs. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3 way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF.
47:4314/01/2022
Episode 284: How I am Approaching This Year

Episode 284: How I am Approaching This Year

Hello, friends! Haven't talked in a little while. I hope you have been enjoying yourself. I am back this week with a new episode. This time instead of a Q&A, I am going to be talking about how I am approaching the year. I go through a LOT in this episode, come hang for about an hour and listen to me ramble.  Show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode284 And if you want to send me a question for a future episode, shoot me an email at [email protected] ------ This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
57:2707/01/2022
Episode 283: Meth Addiction Guilt & Depression When Everything is "Fine"

Episode 283: Meth Addiction Guilt & Depression When Everything is "Fine"

Hello, all! Great episode here for you today thanks to a couple awesome listener questions. If you haven't yet gotten a copy of my 500 Journal Prompts book, it makes a perfect little stocking stuffer. Check it out! Here are the questions from this episode: My sister is depressed, even though nothing is wrong with her life and I'm frustrated by it. What can I do? Due to my addiction to methamphetamine and heroin, I feel like I don't deserve to get better. Should I feel this way? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode283 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Acorn TV. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
44:2317/12/2021
Episode 282: Getting Over Ghosting & Exercise Induced Anxiety

Episode 282: Getting Over Ghosting & Exercise Induced Anxiety

Hello, all! Hope your week has been phenomenal. I appreciate you all! In this episode, I tackle the following questions: I was recently ghosted after talking to someone I met on a dating app for a few weeks. Why is it affecting me so much and what can I do about it? How can I get over my exercise-induced anxiety and heart palpatations? As always you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode282 and send your questions to [email protected] ---- Sponsor: This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and BetterHelp. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
40:0810/12/2021
Episode 281: Passing on Trauma & Caregiver Burnout

Episode 281: Passing on Trauma & Caregiver Burnout

Hello, friends! Thank you to all of you that have been sharing the podcast as part of your Spotify Wrapped posts. Amazing to think that I've been a significant part of your year. I appreciate you so much! In this episode, I tackle the following questions: I've worked through most of my trauma, but issues still arise in my relationship from time to time. How can I avoid passing these issues down to my young child? I work with severe populations in a healthcare setting. I feel like I could be experiencing caregiver burnout. Is this possible and what can I do about it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and get the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode281 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Ritual and Skylight Calendar. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off their first three months. Visit ritual.com/DUFF and turn healthy habits into a Ritual. With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.
48:1103/12/2021
Episode 280: Low Libido & Relationships Cause Sadness

Episode 280: Low Libido & Relationships Cause Sadness

Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions: I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do? Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and Skylight Calendar. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass. With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.
37:0127/11/2021
Episode 279: I Don't Deserve to Get Better & Fixing Relationship During a Break

Episode 279: I Don't Deserve to Get Better & Fixing Relationship During a Break

Hello, all! Apologies in advance for my croaky voice. My voice is totally shot from the week, but I do my best to give you responses to the following awesome questions: I have brought about my own problems and don't feel that I deserve to get better. How do I approach this seemingly insurmountable problem? My partner and I are on a break to work on ourselves after suffering a number of losses and a terrible year overall. How can I make this work? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode279 -- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
37:3019/11/2021
Episode 278: Sexual Advances From Therapist & Depression That Doesn’t Go Away

Episode 278: Sexual Advances From Therapist & Depression That Doesn’t Go Away

Hello, friends! After a quick update about the whole Thanksgiving situation at my kid's school, I dive into the following amazing questions: My previous therapist was sexually inappropriate. How can I trust therapists again? My depression doesn't go away no matter what I do and I'm not making progress in therapy. What can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode278 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
40:2212/11/2021
Episode 277: Co-parenting Problems & Disappearing Depressed Partner

Episode 277: Co-parenting Problems & Disappearing Depressed Partner

Hello, friends! In this episode, I start with some concerns from my personal life that tie into some social psychology concepts before jumping into the following questions: Co-parenting with my ex is difficult given our difference in opinion about discipline. How do I stop our interactions from driving me crazy? My partner retreats and can't feel anything when he is in a depressive state. What can I do to make him know that I'm here for him? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode277 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Ritual. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off their first three months. Visit ritual.com/DUFF and turn healthy habits into a Ritual.
49:0405/11/2021
Episode 276: Wife Doesn't Care Anymore & Healing Hurts Too Much

Episode 276: Wife Doesn't Care Anymore & Healing Hurts Too Much

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this Q&A episode today. I take the following questions: What can I do when it feels like my wife doesn't care about me anymore? Is there a point where the cost of healing just isn't worth it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and get show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode276 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Seed Health and Felix Gray. Seed Health is a microbial sciences company pioneering applications of microbes for human and planetary health. Their flagship product Daily Synbiotic provides a broad-spectrum, 2-in-1 probiotic + prebiotic to help aid digestion and improve gut health and beyond. Start a new healthy habit today. Visit seed.com/DUFF and use code DUFF to redeem 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic. Felix Gray manufacture the Blue Light glasses that started it all. Get yourself a pair of glasses made for the 21st century and designed for modern, hardworking eyes.  Go to felixgrayglasses.com/duff for the best Blue Light glasses on the market and receive Free Shipping, Free Returns, and Free Exchanges.  
45:1629/10/2021
Episode 275: Suck at Meditating? Listen to This!

Episode 275: Suck at Meditating? Listen to This!

Hello, friends! I have a really cool episode for you today. Meditation is a tool that I use often and is one of the most important things in my personal mental health toolkit. But for a lot of people, meditation just doesn't do the trick. Or it's too hard. Or it's actually scary. In this episode, I share my best tips for meditation. I hope to get you to loosen your interpretation of meditation and the high expectations you put on yourself.  Have a listen and let me know what you think! As always you can send me questions for future episodes to [email protected] and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode275 ----- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
55:3722/10/2021
Episode 274: Can't Talk About Feelings & Feeling Like a Bad Person

Episode 274: Can't Talk About Feelings & Feeling Like a Bad Person

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a great week. I got a great episode for you here with the following questions: How can I get help for my depression when I can't talk about my feelings? How do I stop feeling like such a bad person all the time? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode274 --- Felix Gray manufacture the Blue Light glasses that started it all. Get yourself a pair of glasses made for the 21st century and designed for modern, hardworking eyes.  Go to felixgrayglasses.com/duff for the best Blue Light glasses on the market and receive Free Shipping, Free Returns, and Free Exchanges. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
46:2915/10/2021
Episode 273: Recovering from a Disaster & Overcoming Codependency

Episode 273: Recovering from a Disaster & Overcoming Codependency

Hello, friends! Got a nice Q&A for you today with a little rambling at the top. Here's what I answer: My son went through a horrific tragedy. How can he move forward? How can I avoid being so desperate for love? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode273 ---- Want a website, but have no idea where to begin? Turn to AI to create a unique website in minutes for you from the ground up. Bookmark.com has the world's first Automated AI system to make website building effortless. Use code duff at checkout for 15% off. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
42:1908/10/2021