Hello, friends! Hope you're all doing splendidly. Today's episode dives into the nuances of financial anxieties and the challenges of managing impulsive shopping habits. Two heartfelt listener questions guide our discussion, shedding light on personal struggles and the broader societal context: Tackling Shopping Habits & ADHD: A loyal follower from Vermont expresses concerns over her shopping habits, leading to financial difficulties, accentuated by her newly diagnosed adult ADHD. We delve into the difference between compulsive shopping and anxiety-driven financial behaviors, offering clarity and understanding. The profound influence of ADHD on financial decisions: a look into impulsivity and executive dysfunction. Addressing societal pressures, the modern capitalist world, and their impacts on our financial stresses. Strategies for Financial Well-being: Exploring actionable steps to regain financial control and establish a balanced relationship with money. Emphasizing the importance of budgeting and planning to avoid impulsive bill payments and purchases. Techniques to curb immediate spending impulses and create a waiting period before making purchases. The value of community support, accountability, and journaling for self-awareness and reflection. The potential for therapy to understand and address deep-seated beliefs and behaviors about money. Remember, seeking balance and understanding in our relationship with money is a journey, not a destination. Taking proactive steps, seeking support, and focusing on self-awareness can pave the way for healthier financial habits. As always, feel free to send your questions to [email protected]. You can find the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode372 ---- If you are looking for a brain reset and the normal avenues of therapy and medication aren't doing it for you, consider doing at-home ketamine therapy with Mindbloom. Head over to http://mindbloom.com/duff and use to code duff for $100 off! The holiday season is rapidly approaching and if you are looking for a unique gift for someone that is difficult to shop for, look no further than Uncommon Goods. Head over to http://uncommongoods.com/duff for 15% off!

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is well. In today's insightful episode, we dive deep into two thought-provoking listener questions that touch on feelings of regret after a relationship and the challenges of adapting to a technology-driven society: The Complexities of Relationships & BPD A 27-year-old male grapples with feelings of regret after rekindling a relationship with an ex-partner diagnosed with BPD. We discuss the intricate nature of relationships with individuals diagnosed with BPD, emphasizing understanding, compassion, and communication. Highlighting the importance of self-awareness and personal boundaries when navigating the potential of re-entering a relationship. Shedding light on the challenges of revisiting past connections and the role of personal growth and change. Navigating a Technology-Driven World A listener shares their post-pandemic struggles with adapting to a world where mobile phones dominate social interactions. We explore the societal shift towards digital interactions and the challenges of feeling disconnected in an ever-connected world. Addressing feelings of annoyance with public cell phone usage and ways to reframe our perspective for better adaptability. Questioning medical advice and advocating for the importance of therapy as an initial treatment approach. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected], and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode371. --- If you are in the market for a product that actually heals your skin at the molecular level to reverse signs of aging, check out OneSkin. Use the code DUFF at http://oneskin.co for 15% off! And if you would like some assistance in helping your brain act more like a friend and less like a cat that's annoyed at you, try professional therapy entirely online with BetterHelp. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off!

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is well. In today’s enlightening episode, we delve into two insightful listener questions that touch on ADHD medications and the world of BDSM: The Nuances of ADHD Medications A concerned friend notices that their peers, after starting ADHD medication, exhibit what seems to be exacerbated symptoms. We delve into the complexities of ADHD medication, understanding its effects, and the importance of individualized treatment. Exploring the balance of neurotransmitters, the potential for overstimulation, and the common trial-and-error phase of medication adjustment. The importance of observation, empathy, and open communication when approaching friends or loved ones about potential medication side effects. Journeying through BDSM Interests from Childhood to Adulthood A listener shares their deep-seated interest in BDSM activities from an age as young as six, raising concerns about their adult relationships and personal safety. We explore the broad scope of BDSM, its misconceptions, and the importance of self-awareness and education in safely navigating the BDSM community. Touching upon the potential overlaps between Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) Autism and BDSM tendencies, and the significance of therapy in understanding oneself better. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode370  ---- If you are looking for expert training, accountability, and a real person to help you achieve your fitness goals, check out CoPilot at go.mycopilot.com/duff for a 14 day free trial and a real personal trainer to get your started. The holiday season is rapidly approaching. If you are in the market for unique gifts that are handmade or sold by small businesses, check out Uncommon Goods. They are an awesome marketplace with everything from bar equipment to crafts, to mugs, to jewelry. Head over to http://uncommongoods.com/duff for 15% off your next gift.

Episode 369: Navigating Personal Struggles & Motherhood Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well. In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and powerful listener questions: 1. A 26-year-old woman shares her journey from the depths of a severe depression to her current stable and fulfilling life. Despite her progress, she grapples with anxiety about possibly regressing into her past depressive state. We explore the resilience of overcoming challenges, the changes that occur within us as we grow, and the power of reflection and gratitude in maintaining mental health. 2. A single mother of two confronts the painful reality of potentially repeating the patterns of her own tumultuous childhood. With raw honesty, she reveals her struggles with emotional, mental, and occasional physical abuse towards her children. In response, we discuss the profound challenges of motherhood, the potential for growth and change, and the importance of seeking resources and support. Resources Mentioned: Child Welfare Information Gateway A comprehensive resource hub offering assistance on various topics, from adoption to strengthening families. National Parent Helpline A platform that provides support to parents and caregivers. They offer a directory of parent resources by state. For more detailed information and links, please visit the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode369. As always, if you have questions or topics you’d like discussed on the show, please send them to [email protected]. --- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you find yourself stuck in a rut, consider enlisting the help of a licensed therapist online. Head to http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month!

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well. In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into a pressing concern from a listener who's experiencing heightened flight anxiety, especially after a recent panic attack. Having flown multiple times without issues, the sudden resurgence of this anxiety, coupled with the responsibility of traveling with her two kids, has intensified her worries. We discuss the nature of panic attacks, the paradox of fearing anxiety itself, and the importance of anchor thoughts. By understanding the physiological similarities between anxiety and excitement, one can redirect their focus to positive anticipations. We also emphasize the pitfalls of safety behaviors and the significance of relying on support systems, even those onboard. Lastly, we highlight the importance of self-compassion, preparation, and recognizing one’s resilience in facing such challenges. Additionally, we touched upon the value of grounding techniques like box breathing, the potential of distractions, and the concept of transforming anxiety into excitement using anchor thoughts. We also explore the idea of viewing each phase of the flight as milestones rather than triggers. As always, if you have questions or topics you'd like discussed on the show, please send them to [email protected]. Be sure to check out the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode368. Links mentioned: Pilot walks you through the sounds of a plane Mel Robbins discusses her strategies for overcoming plane anxiety

Hello, listeners! I hope you're taking care of yourselves and finding moments of joy. In today's episode, we deep dive into a comprehensive question from one of our loyal listeners. This listener shares their journey, from discovering our podcast through a Men's Health article on mental health to now being engrossed in Dr. Becca Levy's book "Breaking the Aging Code." The core of their question revolves around the challenges the aging population faces, particularly concerning mental health. They highlight the troubling fact that the majority of mental health providers do not accept older patients on Medicare and express concerns about receiving appropriate care as they age, especially without having a family advocate by their side. Our discussion touches upon the age bias prevalent in the medical community and the importance of proactive health measures, both mentally and physically. We delve into the effects of cardiovascular health on cognitive abilities, the significance of continuous learning and social interactions, and the role of stress in aging. Furthermore, we emphasize the importance of advocating for oneself, understanding the intricacies of Medicare, and the potential benefits of seeking younger medical practitioners who may have a fresh perspective on care. Thank you for consistently sharing your thoughtful questions. They add depth and perspective to our conversations. If you have questions or topics you'd like us to address, please reach out to [email protected]. Don't forget to check out the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode367. ---- This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. If you would like an outlet for your relentless thoughts, try out talking to a licensed psychotherapist entirely online. Head to http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off! 

Hello, everyone! I appreciate your attention and hope you are doing well. In our first segment, we dive into a topic that's close to my heart - the evolution of my own marriage into a non-monogamous, polyamorous relationship. I unravel the intricacies of non-monogamy, elucidate the various terminology surrounding it, and give an insight into my personal journey of 'opening up'. If you're curious about polyamory, its various facets, or simply want to understand what it means to navigate such a relationship, this segment offers a comprehensive overview. The next question touches upon a sensitive yet universal theme: grief. A listener reaches out, concerned about her partner's impending loss of his beloved cat, Jimmy, who has been a steadfast companion through some of life's most challenging moments. We discuss the profound impact pets have on our lives, the unique grief associated with their loss, and strategies to navigate this emotional terrain, especially when mental health challenges are at play. As always, your stories and questions provide invaluable insights, making every episode a journey of discovery. If there's a topic or question you'd like addressed in future episodes, please send them to [email protected]. For a detailed breakdown of today's episode, check out the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode366. ---- If you are looking for a quick and simple skin care routine that targets aged cells to promote longetivity that is backed by science, check out http://oneskin.co and use the coupon code DUFF for 15% off. For many people, therapy and traditional medications are not enough to truly help their depression and anxiety. Luckily there are other options, such as Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine treatment. Get $100 off your first series at http://mindbloom.com/duff and use the code DUFF at checkout.

Hello, all! I hope that you are staying healthy and safe. In this episode, I cover two very interesting questions. In the first, someone has been through almost every treatment for depression and anxiety under the sun, yet they still struggle. Their therapist suggested that they may be on the autism spectrum and the person is wondering whether it would be useful to get an evaluation. We discuss the potential benefits as well as how to go about finding (and affording) an evaluation. Next, someone has PTSD from their partner's PTSD reactions. Their partner is a war veteran with multiple brain injuries and the question-asker is wondering how they can stay afloat mentally when their partner does not get help. We talk about ways to avoid codependence, how to establish boundaries, and when to call it quits. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode365 ----- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Rather than letting your thoughts stay swirling around in your mind, get them out by talking to a licensed therapist. Try BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff Also, don't forget to check out my new shop. I'm putting out new designs all the time including this awesome mug:

Hello, friends! I hope you're treating yourselves well. In this episode, I dive into two compelling listener questions that touch on complex emotional states and mental health diagnoses. First up, we discuss what it means to be diagnosed with PTSD with "schizophrenic episodes." If you've ever been confused by mental health jargon or diagnoses, this segment will provide some clarity. We'll break down the DSM criteria for PTSD and explore the possibility of psychotic symptoms within the framework of trauma. Our second question is a deeply emotional one. It's about the sudden disappearance of body dysmorphia and low self-esteem following the death of an abusive parent. Can such a significant life event dramatically shift one's self-image? We'll delve into the complexities of grief, closure, and self-perception in this intriguing discussion. As always, your engagement keeps this show going. Send your questions to [email protected] for a chance to be featured in future episodes. For full show notes, head to duffthepsych.com/episode364.

Hello, friends! I hope you are treating yourselves well. In this episode, we dive deep into two thought-provoking listener questions. Our first discussion revolves around a listener who's grappling with a profound fear of wasps, known as spheksophobia. This phobia has had a significant impact on their quality of life, especially during the summer. We delve into the nature of specific phobias, their prevalence, and debunk some common misconceptions about wasps. Moreover, we explore potential strategies for addressing and managing such fears, emphasizing the role of exposure therapy and the significance of understanding one's fear hierarchy. The second question opens a window into the world of a couple navigating the challenges of moving in together. One partner has relocated from a cherished home, and both are experiencing the typical growing pains of cohabitation for the first time. We discuss the importance of communication, curiosity, and compromise in this new chapter of their relationship. By establishing routines, rituals, and shared spaces, they can create an environment that feels like home to both, while also setting aside time for individual activities to foster a deeper bond. Your questions always bring valuable insights to our conversations. If there's a question or topic on your mind, feel free to send it over to [email protected]. For full show notes, head to http://duffthepsych.com/episode363. ---- If you are looking for an air purifier that is powerful enough to circulate the air in your room four times per hour and can eliminate airborne particles as small as 0.005 microns, be sure to check out Air Doctor. Right now, you can get 40% off by using the code "duff" at http://airdoctorpro.com    Life doesn't come with a road map. Whether it is navigating changes in your relationship or figuring out how to use exposure to conquer your anxiety, BetterHelp may be just what you are looking for. Get professional help conveniently and quickly plus 10% off at http://betterhelp.com/duff 

Hello, everyone! I hope you are doing super well. As always, I really appreciate your attention. A special thank you to everyone that has left feedback for me about the show. Very helpful. In this weeks episode, I tackle the following questions: Could my symptoms be PMDD and if so, how do I get help? What can I do about my ex that is spreading harmful lies about me? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode362 ---- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you could use the support of a therapist to help you navigate life's challenge. Check out BetterHelp and get connected to a licensed therapist quickly, entirely online. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month. This episode is also sponsored by OneSkin. If you're like me and would like a simple skincare routine that is backed by clinical research, then OneSkin is for you. Visit http://oneskin.co and use the code "duff" for 15% off. 

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions. I have successfully been treated for cancer, but I can't stop looking at research and personal accounts online for fear that it may come back. How can I stop? How do weight loss medications like Ozempic help reduce the psychological addiction to food? Please give me feedback on the show at this link: https://forms.gle/TGx4puKucMJKjSNz7 As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode361 --- Today's episode is sponsored by Mindbloom. Get $100 off your first at-home ketamine treatment for depression and anxiety at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the promo code duff.

Hello, friends! I hope you're staying safe from the heat and generally taking good care of yourselves. Today, I have two awesome listener questions. The first comes from someone that left her job as a teacher because she was burned out. However, now she finds herself in a difficult situation without insurance or a longterm steady income. I provide advice regarding resources for inexpensive and free therapy. I also talk about different resources available to someone in a situation like this and explain how Maslow's heirarchy of needs explains why the person should focus on basic needs before trying to answer big questions about their life and sexuality. The second question is from a mother with two autistic children and a mother with dementia. She is looking for advice about how to take care of herself without abandoning her family. I provide a variety of ideas for resources that would allow her to have more help and freedom. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode360

Hello, friends! I hope life is treating you well. In today's episode, we're going to dive into two more insightful listener questions: Our first question comes from a listener who's struggling with their spouse's constant engagement with their phone. The impact is such that it seems to supersede any conversation or interaction they might have. They even go so far as to joke that they might be better off texting their spouse, despite being in the same room. We'll delve into this challenge, discussing potential strategies for addressing screen-time issues within relationships, communication tactics, and steps to reclaim mutual attention and presence. Our second question is from a listener navigating the complexities of depression and anxiety treatment. They've been considering ketamine therapy and have concerns about its application, specifically the difference between IV and oral administration, potential lasting effects, and the overall experience. They're particularly interested in hearing about personal experiences with ketamine therapy, including potential side effects and long-term benefits. We'll unravel the science behind ketamine treatment for depression and anxiety, exploring the potential pros and cons, the lasting effects, and the considerations one should have in mind when deciding on this treatment approach. As always, I appreciate your questions and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode359. ---- Sponsor: This epsiode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Life doesn't come with a guidebook, but you don't have to go it alone. Enlist the help of a licensed therapist entirely online at http://betterhelp.com/duff

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing fantastic.   In today's episode, we delve into the following awesome listener questions:   Our first question comes from a listener who has been dealing with a challenging relationship with food. They described waking up each day caught in a cycle of remorse over their previous night's eating and anxiety about what the new day will bring. They also mentioned the negative impact this issue has on their relationships and social life. Although they've begun therapy, their current therapist has admitted this specific problem is outside of their expertise. Together, we'll explore this struggle, discussing possible steps toward understanding and addressing problematic eating habits and how to find the right professional help to navigate this journey.   Our second question is from a loyal listener who's been with us for three years. They're struggling with setting long-term goals due to anxiety. They aspire to move overseas with their partner in the next 5-10 years but are being held back by worries such as the stability of their relationship and financial concerns. We'll unpack the complexities of setting long-term goals while dealing with anxiety, offering strategies to establish realistic objectives without feeling overwhelmed, and ways to manage the uncertainties that naturally come with future planning.   As always, I appreciate your questions and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode358. ---   This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. If you are looking for some assistance in finding your direction in life, consider enlisting the help of a licensed remote therapist at http://betterhelp.com/duffthepsych  

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing great. In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions: Our first question comes from a listener who's considering whether to continue their journey with antidepressant medication. They've been told by their doctor that most people stay on these medications for life, but they're not sure if this path is right for them. They're grappling with how to gauge if the medication is still necessary or if their mental health has improved enough to consider discontinuing it. We will delve into this complex issue, discussing ways to assess the effectiveness of antidepressants, the potential risks and benefits of long-term use, and how to make informed decisions about your mental health treatment plan. Our second question is from a long-time listener who has been struggling with feeling comfortable during intimate moments with their partner. Despite feeling sexy when alone, the listener finds it challenging to relax and enjoy intimacy with their partner, possibly due to a decade-long journey with infertility and miscarriages. Now surgically sterile, the listener is looking for ways to reclaim their sex life and feel comfortable in their own skin during intimate encounters. We will explore ways to navigate this emotional terrain, discussing how past experiences can impact present relationships and strategies for fostering healthy and satisfying intimacy. As always, feel free to send your questions to [email protected]. You can find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode357. --- This episode is sponsored by ONE SKIN. If you are looking to reverse the impact of aging on your skin, check out this simple skincare product developed by several PhD-level scientists. Get 15% off your order at http://oneskin.co with the offer code DUFF!   

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing great.   In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions:   Our first question comes from a concerned parent whose son was diagnosed with schizophrenia eight years ago. At the time, they didn't agree with the diagnosis due to a variety of circumstantial factors, but now they recognize that their son does indeed have schizophrenia. They are seeking guidance on how to help him understand his condition and learn to manage it without relying on medication. They also ask for recommendations on therapists who specialize in non-medication treatment options. We will navigate this sensitive topic, discussing ways to approach the conversation and exploring non-medication treatment strategies for schizophrenia.   Our second question is from a listener who's been struggling with assertiveness and self-respect, often prioritizing others' needs over their own to avoid conflict. This listener also has ADHD which exacerbates the issue, making it challenging for them to communicate effectively during moments of conflict due to executive functioning overload. They seek advice on accepting their shortcomings, cultivating self-love, and prioritizing their own needs without fear of pushing others away. We will discuss the importance of setting boundaries, effective communication strategies, and ways to build self-respect while managing ADHD.   As always, feel free to send your questions to [email protected]. You can find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode356. -----   This episode is brought to you by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine therapy. Get $100 off your first treatment at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code duff at checkout.   This episode is also brought to you by Betterhelp. Take control of your mental health with the help of a licensed therapist, completely online at http://betterhelp.com/duff.  

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well. In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions: Our first question comes from a listener whose partner was diagnosed with ADHD in childhood. They're now wondering if they might also have Bipolar II, as they experience random bouts of depression and "good days" that may potentially be hypomanic episodes. The listener questions if these mood swings could be catalyzed by situational factors or if they are indeed random. We'll unpack the complexities of distinguishing between ADHD and Bipolar II, discussing the different symptoms, overlaps, and possible courses of action to consider. Our second question comes from a listener who's been grappling with deep existential thoughts about the concept of the "soul," particularly relating to individuals who die by suicide. They wonder about possible repercussions in potential afterlife scenarios, despite not being particularly religious. They ponder on possibilities like reincarnation, memory erasure, or even punishment. In response to this question, we'll delve into the intersections of spirituality, mental health, and coping with such existential concerns, while emphasizing the importance of empathy and compassion in our understanding of such tragic events. As always, if you have questions or topics you'd like discussed on the show, please send them to [email protected]. Be sure to check out the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode355.

Hello, friends! In this episode, I tackle two great listener questions about relationships. The first one comes from someone with borderline personality disorder who would like to figure out if and when they should reveal this to potential partners. The second question comes all the way from Columbia and features someone who is concerned about how enmeshed her boyfriend is with his mother. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode354  ---- This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. If you are looking for support and perspective, fill out a quick questionnaire at http://betterhelp.com/duff to get quickly matched with a licensed therapist and receive 10% off your first month!

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well.   Our first question comes from a listener who reached out to express their appreciation for the show, my course, and books. They share a childhood experience of being in a dodge car accident where they were hit from behind, resulting in a significant lump on their head and feelings of sickness and disorientation. They recently heard me speak about frontal lobe damage and its potential effects, which resonated with them. They also suspect they may be undiagnosed autistic. They are concerned about the possibility of having sustained a brain injury and whether an MRI at their current age (31) would reveal any long-term effects. This uncertainty has brought up feelings of betrayal and neglect. I provide insight into the likelihood of detecting an old brain injury on an MRI and offer guidance on the next steps to gain clarity and peace of mind.   Moving on to our second question, a listener in their late twenties shares their struggle with assessing whether to judge people based on how they treat others or solely on how they treat them. They describe ending relationships with men who exhibited disrespectful behavior towards other women, as well as navigating concerns about a close platonic female friend who has made questionable moral choices. They ponder whether to judge people based on their life choices or patterns, and if it's necessary to align values with others or accept them as they are. I delve into the complexities of these situations, emphasizing the importance of personal boundaries, unconditional positive regard, and self-reflection in determining how to approach relationships.   As always, I appreciate your support and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to [email protected], and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode353.   --   This episode is sponsored by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine treatment. If you are struggling with depression and anxiety, try ketamine treatment from the safety and comfort of your own home and get $100 off at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code duff at checkout.

Hello, friends! It's been an interesting week for me, which I address at the start of the episode. From there, I share with you a previous episode of the show that I wanted to make sure that you've heard! This is all about staying focused. It's a great episode for anyone that might struggle with ADHD or simply has trouble concentrating from time to time. Here are the tips I cover: Limit distractions Adjust your space - physical and digital Do NOT multitask Practice mindfulness meditation frequently Journal/Plan every day Check your planner at least 3x per day Set yourself up with an outline before leaving a task Keep a notebook nearby for impulsive thoughts that can wait Force yourself to prioritize If you take it out, put it back Don't procrastinate - if it takes less than a minute do it (unless you're in the middle of something else) Keep a place for your small things Make a mise en place for your workplaces Use neutral inputs to satisfy your attention hunger (white noise etc) Take breaks for movement Abort when you're in to deep Work in shifts Don't use your partner as a coach Use the solution that works, whether it's perfect or not Study yourself This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Don't forget to take care of yourself, so that you can keep being a great support for others. Try online therapy and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode352  

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode. No ads today, but I have two awesome listener questions.  First, I tackle a question from someone that feels the end of their relationship is inevitable due to moving to another state and they are already struggling with feelings of grief. The second question is from someone with a background of trauma that wants advice about how to deal with their friend's angry outbursts. I hope you enjoy!   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode351  

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. Special shout out to the moms out there this week! In this episode, I two awesome listener questions.  Our first question comes from a listener who has been enjoying the podcast and requests an episode focused on "daddy issues." They express curiosity about the causes and potential solutions surrounding this concept. In response to this inquiry, we will delve into the complexities of "daddy issues," examining various contributing factors and discussing potential strategies for healing and personal development. Moving on to our second question, a long-time listener writes in for the first time, sharing their ongoing struggle with severe social anxiety. They describe how their anxiety often leads to dissociation during conversations, causing them to make impulsive decisions to end interactions prematurely. Despite trying conventional treatments such as CBT, exposure therapy, medication, and group therapy, the listener feels disheartened by the lack of progress and wonders if there are other options available. We'll explore alternative approaches and offer insights on how to navigate social anxiety in a more empowering way. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode350 ----- Today's episode is brought to you by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine therapy for depression and anxiety. You can get $100 off your first treatment at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code "duff". 

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer two listener questions.   The first question is from a listener who has been with her boyfriend for over 10 years, but suspects he is a narcissist and compulsive liar. She believes that a car accident at 17, which resulted in physical injuries as well as a TBI, may have stunted his development. The listener is struggling with her boyfriend's lying behavior and wonders if he's lying about their relationship too. She asks how to deal with the lying and gaslighting, and how to tell if her boyfriend's love for her is genuine.   In the second question, a listener shares her concerns about her younger sister's emotional development, given their mother's unpredictable and intense reactions to normal child behavior. The listener worries about her sister's mental health and emotional growth, and wants her mother to be more gentle and understanding towards her. However, the listener is struggling with confronting her mother due to past fear of her reactions. She asks for advice on how to approach the situation.   As always, you can send your questions to [email protected], and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode349.   -----   This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Don't lose yourself in the shuffle. Get linked up with a licensed therapist completely online and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff 

Like most of the world, I have been obsessed with AI tools such as ChatGPT. However, I think they are more than a gimmick. I have been using them every single day to help improve my work and personal life. In this episode, I walk you through the ways that I use ChatGPT and other AI models and I also provide you with some ideas about how you can use them to improve your own life and mental health.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode348   This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp - if you are in a position where you put yourself last and other first, you may be at risk of burnout. Get the help and perspective that you need from a licensed professional at betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off. 

Hello, friends! This one is a bit of a doozy. Please be aware that the subject matter is somewhat more intense than other episodes recently. In this one, I tackle the following listener questions: Should I get treatment for my excessive concerns about germs and contamination? How can I re-engage socially with the continuing concerns about COVID-19? My partner violated my consent and sexual boundaries repeatedly, but they seem sorry and I still love them. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode347 --- Sponsors: This episode is brought to you by Mindbloom - try at-home Ketamine therapy on your terms and get $100 off your first treatment at mindbloom.com/duff with the promo code duff. This episode is also brought to you by Air Doctor. If you are in the market for an amazing air purifier, check out airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code duff for a whopping 40% off!

Hello, friends! In this episode, I tackle one awesome question from a listener. This person has treatment resistant depression and bipolar. Their mania is well-controlled, but they need a higher level of treatment for the depression. Their psychiatrist suggested either ketamine of electroconvulsive therapy, so in this episode, I break down everything you need to know about these treatments.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected].  

Hello, friends! I hope that you are taking good care of yourselves. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following amazing listener questions: I am stable on bipolar medications, but I hate the side effects. What can I do? My CBT therapy just seems to worsen my mood. How can I make it more helpful? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] ---- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get affordable counseling from a licensed therapist completely online at http://betterhelp.com/duff 

Hey, friends! This episode is a little different. Rather than taking listener questions, I decided to share something that is working really well for me. I take you through a five-step process for doing what I like to call "self-therapy." This is usually done while I am in the car or walking the dog. I highly suggest you also talk out loud to yourself like a weirdo. FYI: The website is still under construction. It broke badly and we need to rebuild it. It should be up and runing again soon. In the meantime, if you'd like to send me a question for an upcoming episode of the show, please shoot an email to [email protected] --- This episode is brought to you by AirDoctor. AirDoctor is an amazing air purifier that works quickly enough to circulate the air in an average room four times per hour. It also traps particles as small as 0.003 microns in size. Head over to http://airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code DUFF for up to 40% off (A value of up to $300).

Hello, friends! Huge apologies - the website is currently down. I hope that it is up again soon! In this episode, I answer the following questions: I dissociate whenever I try to talk about my feelings. How can I overcome this? Bad things seem to happen after I masturbate. Am I causing bad things to happen? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode343 (once the website is back up). ---- Sponsor for this episode is Betterhelp. If you are like the individuals in this episode and could use some help with personal exploration, try professional therapy done completely online. Head over to betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month. I mention a resource for looking at spurious correlations in the episode. You can find that at https://www.tylervigen.com/spurious-correlations  

Hello, everyone. I hope you are treating yourselves well. Q&A episode this week featuring the following great listener questions: I have had severe depression and suicidal ideation for the past 25 years and nothing is working. Aside from going into the hospital or an IOP program, what can I do? Can you talk about how the thyroid is related to mood and mental health? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode342 No sponsors this week, so be sure to go check out my author page to find more resources!

Hello, friends! Short and sweet Q&A episode here. Before jumping into the questions, I share a couple strategies that are working well for me right now. Then, I cover the following questions: As a teenager, will my therapist have to report if I tell them about my parents abusing me? I am a therapist and found a new position that will allow me to make a better living, but it means my fees will increase. How can I deal with this? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode341 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! I hope you enjoy this awesome Q&A episode featuring the following listener questions: Why do my intrusive thoughts from OCD seem to impact the environment, such as the television? How can I find a therapist that is awesome like you? I am on my fourth try with no luck. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode340 ----- This episode is brought to you by Mindbloom and Air Doctor. Mindbloom provides innovative at-home ketamine treatments, which can be extremely helpful for those with anxiety and depression. Their research showed that 89% of over 1,200 participants saw improvement after just two sessions. Head over to mindbloom.com/duff and use the promo code DUFF for $100 off your first six-session program. Air Doctor is an at-home air purifier that filters out nearly 100% of particals as small as .003 microns. It is whisper quiet and super easy to use. If you suffer from horrendous allergies like me, check out airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code DUFF for up to $300 off!

Hello, everyone! I hope that you are staying safe out there if you are in an area with wild weather conditions. I am having a very cozy weekend. This week, we have a Q&A episoed with the following: I spent years obtaining my degree, but I can't find a job that utilizes it. What can I do? I want to feel more in therapy, but I can't access the emotion. How can I move forward? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode339 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hi, friends! In this episode, I do a deep dive into postpartum mental illness including baby blues, postpartum depression, and postpartum psychosis. This was requested by a number of listeners due to the Lindsay Clancy case, which I discuss briefly in the episode.  Please be aware that I do discuss topics such as infanticide, suicide, and the specific case of Lindsay Clancy. However, I do not go into details of what happened and there are no explicit descriptions. As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode338  

Hello, everyone. Short and sweet Q&A episode here featuring the following: I made a mistake and lost my friend of 20 years. What can I do about the loneliness and hopelessness I feel now? My husband had a brain injury when out daughter was young and now she does not want to be around him because of his behavior. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode ------ This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hey, friends! I hope that you are doing well. For this episode, we are back to the usual Q&A format with a ltitle less intensity than last episode. Here is what I cover: What can I do about my adult children that have completely ghosted me? How can I tell me partner that I'm still grieving my ex that died? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode336. This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Magic Mind and Mindbloom. Magic Mind contains a magical combination of 12 active ingredients, scientifically designed to improve energy, improve focus, decrease stress, and improve mood — all things that combined, improve your productivity. Get 40% off your subscription at www.magicmind.co/duff with my discount code DUFF20. Mindbloom is the leader in at-home ketamine therapy for people looking for a new way to treat their anxiety and depression. They combine science-backed medicine with a guided treatment plan that is both affordable and fast-acting. Right now, Mindbloom is offering listeners $100 off their first six session program when you sign up at mindbloom.com/DUFF and use promo code DUFF at checkout.

Hello, friends. Something a little different today. No intro or sponsors. Just a frank response from me to someone that feels that their best option is to stop living. Someone wrote in who is imminently suicidal. Therefore, the contents of this episode might not be appropriate for everyone. Please keep that in mind. You are not alone. http://duffthepsych.com/emergency http://duffthepsych.com/suicide

Hey, everyone! Another Q&A episode for you here featuring the following questions: How can I let go of control when I don't like the way other people do things? Is it dangerous to take more medications for my depression while I am drinking alcohol? What other options do I have? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode334   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

aHello, everyone! I hope you are staying safe and dry(ish) out there. In this episode, I address the following: How can I find better partners when I tend to find people with the same personality types? How can I work on me eating disorder while working from home? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode333 Don't forget to check out (and review) my new book of dating and relationship questions!   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Mindbloom. Mindbloom is the leader in at-home ketamine therapy for people looking for a new way to treat their anxiety and depression. They combine science-backed medicine with a guided treatment plan that is both affordable and fast-acting. Right now, Mindbloom is offering listeners $100 off their first six session program when you sign up at mindbloom.com/DUFF and use promo code DUFF at checkout.

Hello, everyone! Happy new year! In this episode, I review my personal progress and challenges over the past year, reveal my word for the year of 2023, and talk about my approach/focus for the upcoming year. Enjoy! As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode332 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you could use some help easing into the new year, match quickly to a licensed therapist and work with them on your schedule, completely online. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself: How can I recover my memory following a trumatic brain injury? How can I stop making myself anxious and depressed by comparing myself to other people? Don't forget to take a look at my new book of questions including the following one that I include in the episode: What things were and were not talked about in your family of origin? This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and BetterHelp. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! Hope you are well. Back with another Q&A episode this week featuring the following questions submitted by listeners like you: What steps can I add to my exposure ladder for agoraphobia to stop having so many panic attacks in public? How can I work on the lack of sex in my marriage? As always, you can send me questions for the show to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode330   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Uncommon Goods. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff.

Hello, everyone! Exciting news. My new book, 500 Questions for Dating, Relationships, Romance, and More is out! I talk more about it at the beginning of the epidode, but I really think that it will serve as a useful resource to many of you. Orders are shipping quickly right now, so there is plenty of time to get it before the holidays if you're into that kind of thing. Anyways, I have an awesome Q&A episode for you today featuring the following listener questions: Is it weird to be turned on and want to masturbate after therapy? How can I get therapy moving faster? Does it make sense to give a new therapist a document of information? As always, you can send me questions for the show to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode329 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Uncommon Goods and Roman Swipes. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff. Roman Swipes are convenient, over-the-counter wipes that are clinically proven to help you last longer in bed. Try Swipes today with a special offer just for listeners of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast with 20% off your first order. Visit getroman.com/DUFF or 20% off.  

Hello, friends! Hope you are enjoying some time off with loved ones or some quiet time on your own. Here are the question I cover in this episode: I think antidepressants are causing me to self-injure due to being numb. What should I do? I have hit a rock bottom in my mid 50s including divorce, losing my job, and a DUI. How do I survive? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode328 Sponsor: This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Chomper Labs and Uncommon Goods. Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3-way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff.

Hello, everyone! In this episode, I tack the following listener questions: How can I stop myself from cheating like I have in my past two marriages? What can I do about feeling bad when people comment on my weight loss? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode327 Make sure you're on the email list for freebies, inspirational emails, and important updates: http://duffthepsych.com/subscribe   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and BetterHelp. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, beautiful people. This is another Q&A episode of the podcast featuring the following questions: How do I know when I enjoy alcohol too much? Why did I push so hard to keep a relationship that wasn't good for me? As always, you can send me your questions for the show to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode326   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Uncommon Goods. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff.

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode. Just over 20 minutes. No sponsors. Just some Q&A goodness featuring the following questions: Why don't I feel sad that my abusive father is in the hospital? How do I stop crying when I have arguments? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode325 If you have not yet, please subscribe to the newsletter at http://duffthepsych.com/subscribe