In this episode, I want to talk about our stagnation, expectations, and judging this feeling of being stuck.  This idea came up after seeing this funny reel online and there is so much truth to it.  So what do you do when you feel stuck or stagnation? Here are a few thoughts. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  We never move as fast as we think, it never happens in the way we think it should and we can spend so much time judging ourselves and resenting that we are not there yet. There is this period of stagnation where it feels like you are stuck in mud and not moving forward or back, like nothing is happening, almost like a cruise control. In this space, “it looks good enough, but there’s a discernment between complacency and contentment. 2)  Contentment is like unconscious cruise control, it all looks good enough.  This is a period of deep observation, listening, asking questions, getting curious and maybe it’s a rest time.  Viscerally you still feel in this time, you might be burnt out, you might need rest, ask what you need and follow through. 3)  Complacency can be a period of time where you aren’t being challenged, you aren’t growing, you are very “comfortable” even though it is uncomfortable. This is a different form of cruise control. Surround yourself with others who can see what you can’t. People who see our blind spots. You feel stuck, or stagnant, and definitely not motivated.  When a mentor asked what parts of my business felt easy, and at that time a lot of it did, that is not always a good sign! Focus on what your inputs are, what are you listening to, watching, your distractions etc. 4)  Stagnation is a state of not flowing or moving, no new growth or change, there’s a block, a lack of activity, growth or development.  You may be asked to be in this stage right now even though it doesn’t make sense.  Ask what you are being asked to learn right now, get curious. And when all else fails let gratitude move you, it moves you because it is the highest vibration possible and it helps you to draw attention to all that you do have in your life and what you have created. That is the energy that can move you forward.  Don’t judge the stage you are in, honour it and let gratitude move you forward. Join the OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken Master Your Emotion Audio Programhttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/YFrLty4v   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.

In this episode, I want to talk about our thoughts and how they are creating and solidifying our beliefs. In this episode, we discuss: 1)  One of the first premises of NLP is understanding that we are being exposed to 2.3 million bytes of information every single day, and with all of that information that is bombarding our system, we create filters to delete, distort or generalize the information and that becomes our internal representation of what we see.  2)  Your thoughts, if you think them over and over, and assign truth to them, become beliefs. Beliefs create a cognitive lens through which you interpret the events of your world and this lens serves as a selective filter through which you sift the environment for evidence that matches up with what you believe to be true 3)  The difference between thoughts and beliefs is that you may have thousands of thoughts going through your mind but none of them give birth to any power except those that are beliefs. A belief is information that you understand as truth or knowledge and it can control your life and actually impact your actions.4)  The thoughts that we continue to have every single day, we are feeding them.  We are feeding the thoughts of where we are going or where we have been.  We get to decide which wolf survives, and it always comes down to the one that we are feeding. Join the OUTSPOKEN NLP Coaching Certification https://www.marshavanw.com/outspoken Master Your Emotions Audio Programhttps://www.marshavanw.com/offers/YFrLty4v   Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker, and Life Coach Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation. Through her programs, coaching, and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support, and impact others.