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Traver Boehm
For people who see through the veil of the civilized paradigm.
How do you find and live your purpose. A Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who struggles with either finding or fully embodying your purpose — then this episode is for you.
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with believing he’s worth doing what he really wants in the world.
He’s a massage therapist who wants to shift to providing bigger and better services for his clients but struggles with that nagging question:
“Who am I to get to live this kind of amazing life?”
Sound familiar?
Some of this call is straight up business advice but then we drop down into a conversation about what his soul deeply desires.
We talk about why these pattern exists, where they comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start giving himself the PERMISSION he needs to charge more, work less, and craft the life of his dreams.
This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
47:0525/11/2024
How to live the life you deserve with Sylvester McNutt III
In this episode I sit down with 10 time author Sylvester McNutt. Sly is a good friend and brother who I’ve known for years now. His new book is all about crafting the life you want to live and letting go of all the things that stand in your way.
You’ll get to hear us dive into how he now has to organize his life since becoming a father, what he sees as the biggest roadblocks people have to creating a satisfying life, and how Sly himself has had to grapple with challenges around food and being a provider.
This is a great episode for you creatives, entrepreneurs, and fathers.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
44:5318/11/2024
Nicky Clinch — To heal or not to heal
I met Nicky at a dinner in London two months ago and knew immediately I wanted to interview her. She runs a world wide company working with people at the deepest levels of their healing. Her work is life changing.
And — her story is equally fascinating. Going from a drug addicted twenty year old to a business powerhouse, then having to rebuild her entire life from the ground up after a freak accident.
This episode is POWERFUL. And Nicky is a brilliant story teller and wisdom keeper.
I know you’ll love this one.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
01:00:1111/11/2024
Why do you struggle with your discipline? A Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who works in a service profession like coaching, teaching, or parenting — then this episode is for you.
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of struggling with discipline when it come to doing the things that will benefit HIM.
If it’s to help one of his students or kids, he has no problem getting up early and putting in the effort.
He also struggles taking up space, speaking his needs, and allowing himself to receive compliments and the good things from life. Sound familiar?!
(All you Nice Guys & Cool Girls just nodded, I know…I did too.)
As a teacher and a father, my guest is constantly helping others…
We talk about why these pattern exists, where they comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start giving himself the same level of care and presence he gives to everyone else.
This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
46:3804/11/2024
Top 5 — Carly Rae Beaudry — Women’s sexual health and why you need to understand it.
I was told NOT to do this interview. Why?
Because “no one cares about women’s sexual health.”
Well…that wasn’t true, as this is the 3rd most listened to episode in the Uncivilized Podcast.
Carly pulls no punches as she teaches you all you need to know about your woman, her cycle, and more.
This is an episode every single man and every single woman should listen to.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
53:2328/10/2024
Ginger Kern: The devotion-based relationship.
Ginger Kern teaches primarily women how to be in relationship in a new paradigm. One based on mutual respect, devotion, and truth. She also adds that this will be a “relationship without leaks.”
Sounds intriguing doesn’t it?
We dive into Ginger’s marriage, why it wasn’t the right fit for her and what has happened in her life and her partner’s life once they stepped into their devotional frame.
Whether you’re currently in a relationship or wanting to be in one, this episode will give you some of the tools and structure on how to create a relationship where everyone wins, everyone is honored, and the steaks and love flow like wine!
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
56:4421/10/2024
Top 5 — Chris Bale — Undomesticate yourself as a man.
Chris Bale is one of the most unique men I know. He’s a fellow acupuncturist, a men’s guide, and an energy worker like no other.
In this episode we bring back one of the Top 5 most listened to episodes of the Uncivilized Podcast just for you — this is the first day I ever spoke with Chris.
We’ve since become good friends and I know Chris well. His teachings are beyond potent as you will hear.
In this episode we break down how and why the slow domestication of men ultimately leads to the demise of their souls, and then of course, the life they’ve worked so hard to build.
This is an episode every single man should listen to.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
59:0414/10/2024
Calling all procrastinators! A Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who likes to put off hard tasks to the very last minute, then of course, beat yourself up for doing so — and not doing more in your life — then this episode is for you.
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his pattern of not doing what he needs to in a timely manner. Then guilting and shaming himself for the procrastination.
THEN beating himself up more for not accomplishing more in his life. OUCH.
We talk about why this pattern exists, where it comes from, and how he can make small shifts in his behavior to start being his own teammate, rather than his own tormentor.
This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
40:4507/10/2024
What’s blocking you from your instinct with Traver Boehm
I’m taking the mic again for this short yet powerful episode on what I see as a major pain point for me — being disconnected from our instinct and intuition.
What blocks access to this powerful source of guidance and information you ask?
Any shame or guilt you have about being a man.
In this episode I share conversations I’ve had with a number of men in the past week and invite you to challenge anyone who tells you it’s not good to be a man.
I also share with you how you can tap into your power, your purpose, and peace — all by trusting your gut.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
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16:2930/09/2024
Top 5 — Duey Freeman — Healing and Horses.
Duey Freeman is an UNcivilized LEGEND. He’s shifted the UNcivilized Movement into a far more relational frame with his teachings, his facilitating at our workshops, and his incredible work with horses.
In this episode we bring back one of the Top 5 most listened to episodes of the Uncivilized Podcast just for you — this is the first day I got to meet Duey!
We dive into trauma, equine therapy, and Duey’s frameworks for development and the therapeutic process.
This episode will change how you view your own life and the things that have happened in it. It’s one of the best conversations I’ve ever had in my life.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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01:30:1723/09/2024
Kristal Desantis — Should men be more vulnerable?
I’ve been waiting YEARS to interview Kristal Desantis as she is a therapist for men. And she’s a woman so her view and understanding of men is unique.
In this episode we explore a number of challenges men have, primarily in relationships, but then take a plunge on the question of whether vulnerability is actually healthy in men’s relationships.
This is a great conversation I know you’ll enjoy.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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01:00:4016/09/2024
When there’s shame around money — a Nice Guy LIVE Coaching Call.
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone who has shame around their financial situation, this episode is for you!
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who shares his story of losing his job, right when he and his new girlfriend are just getting together.
This had the potential to throw him down the stairs of shame and he shares with us how he prevented that from happening. This is big.
We talk openly about the shame so many men have with their finances and debt and how you can work with both without falling down a spiral of self loathing or self hatred.
This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
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44:1209/09/2024
Sophie Alexandra Wurr — Understanding the cosmic masculine
As the nature of relationship rapidly changes and people begin looking for alternate ways of constructing their relational and sexual lives, teachers like Sophie have been continually sought out.
Sophie’s creation of the Cosmic Masculine puts both men and women into a relational frame that’s both devotional and sacred while allowing infinite space for the down to Earth parts of our being as well.
This idea is ahead of its time and will upset many people! Yet those who grasp it will be richly rewarded.
I know you’ll love this one.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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01:02:4202/09/2024
On my father’s passing with Traver Boehm
On Sunday July 7th at 9:30 in the morning, my father passed. I was there with my Mom, holding his hand as he took his final breaths.
While this is a very private moment to share, there are elements to it that I know will touch you and hopefully inspire you in all of your relationships.
In this solo episode I touch on three of the key parts of this experience, one from the wild lead up to the decision of when to go back home, my nightly vigils with him, a hard choice I had to make the morning of his death
This is recorded and shared with the hope that everyone listening gets the opportunity for both closure and open heartedness with their own parents.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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38:0326/08/2024
Blake Chalfant — the failed user manual given to young men.
If you are under 30 you need to listen to this episode.
If you know a man under 30, you also need to listen to this!
Blake Chalfant is already a force to be reckoned with in the men’s space and he’s only 23 years old. His life changed drastically after a spiritual awakening he had as a college student and he know coaches and councils young men, guiding them to live more connected, authentic lives.
In this episode we speak about the unique challenges facing young men and how they can shift to healthier more actualized lives.
Blake is also the author of The Unseen Way.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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01:02:3919/08/2024
When Nice Guy patterns lead to unhealthy boundaries — LIVE Coaching Call.
If you’re a Nice Guy, or someone with loose boundaries, this episode is for you.
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who in a tough spot.
He’s in a relationship that he values but his partner has an unreasonable demand — she wants him to check in with her every hour on the hour.
We get real here with why he’s letting her request keep him stuck, what may be happening on her end with her avoidant behaviors, and how he can navigate showing up with integrity and alignment with her — or leaving a situation that is unsustainable.
Enjoy.
Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
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38:3412/08/2024
Top 5 — GS Youngblood — The masculine in relationship.
Let’s be honest — it’s challenging to be in relationship these days, and that’s because there’s so much conflicting information out there.
Men are supposed to lead! But only at the magical right time…
Men are supposed to be protectors! But that’s also toxic…
Men are supposed to be emotionally connected to their women! But don’t show emotion because that’s weakness…
In this episode we bring back one of the Top 5 most listened to episodes of the Uncivilized Podcast just for you.
GS Youngblood cuts through all the bullshit and teaches men how to actually be in relationship.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
01:03:0005/08/2024
Three stages of sex and relationship with Traver Boehm
I believe there are three levels or stages of relationship you can engage in:
— Extractive & Transactional
— Character & Role Playing
— Sacred, Divine, & Uncivilized
Each stage also has sexual level associated with it…
If you’re curious about what’s available to you relationally and sexually, this is the episode for you. It’s a punch solo where I break down each stage and what you can expect if you’re in it.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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26:5729/07/2024
Elise Micheals — Men, Abusive Relationships, & Christ
Today I sit down with renowned men’s mental health coach, Elise Michaels for the second time on the pod.
Elise is a force in the men’s world with over a million followers across her many channels. In this episode we speak into a variety of topics from her work with men, how men can help shift out of rock bottom, and of course — the last two years of Elise’s life.
She’s recently ended an abusive relationship with an ex partner and found herself fully immersed in Christianity.
As an interviewer I am as interested in the person behind the mic as I am in their work and know you will walk away from this episode with a ton of knowledge on how to live your life more openly and powerfully.
As well as getting to hear how Elise pulled herself out of hell and found herself walking in her spirituality in an entirely new way.
This is a powerful episode and I’m grateful of the openness of my guest.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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01:06:4522/07/2024
How to step into your relationship more powerfully — a LIVE Coaching Call.
In this edition of the UNcivilized Podcast, I have a man from my Kill The Nice Guy community who has stepped into a brand new role — he’s the step father of two teenage twin boys.
He also wants to show up powerfully for himself, his fiancé, and the boys in the family.
We talk about how his Nice Guy patterns are holding him back and keeping him from fully engaging with both his woman, and her kids. And we give him some concrete steps on how to be more powerful while also staying out of the dictatorial role and in the relational role.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
40:3215/07/2024
How to keep your hard earned transformation with Danya River
In this episode of our live show UNcivilized UNplugged, you get to sit in with our studio audience as I chat with Danya River on how you can keep all of your hard earned transformations.
Danya is a master of the human nervous system as well as a high sought out executive coach. I know because I was someone who once sought her out and have worked with her for years now.
In this episode not only will Danya share with you ways you can work with your nervous system as opposed to working against it, stay tuned for the end when she puts you through a live experience to show you how to do this for yourself.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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01:03:3708/07/2024
My two best techniques for building an incredible life — with Traver Boehm
Last week I talked about getting your vision board to become your reality and closing the gap between the life you want to be living and the life you are living.
AND — many of you reached out and asked for techniques that you can use if you don’t have a community around you and you can’t afford to hire a coach or a consultant.
I get it. In this short solo episode I share my two favorite techniques for building an amazing life — ones I still use to this day.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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16:0401/07/2024
Do you need permission to live the life you want to — with Traver Boehm
In my experience of over twenty years of coaching humans, most of you will get stuck in one place — needing permission.
Whether that’s to write your book, start your business, or even just be the healthiest one in your family, permission is a big wall for many people to climb.
And — it may not be the only wall.
In this short, potent solo episode I break down the three reasons why most people don’t achieve their dreams and how you can start to change that immediately.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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14:0024/06/2024
Art, Jiujitsu, and the UNconventional Life with Chris Haueter
Chris Haueter is one of the dirty dozen — the first 12 non Brazilian, Brazilian Jiujitsu Black Belts. He’s also a philosopher poet, an incredible historian, and a teacher.
He’s also my old instructor and my old corner man.
In this episode we get to catch up after nearly two decades and Chris shares his thoughts on a number of topics including how he built a life around teaching the art he loves.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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01:02:0017/06/2024
Developing these attributes will change your life with Traver Boehm
After coaching humans for over 20 years through the good times and the challenges of their lives, I know people and what helps us get past our blocks, our heartbreaks, and our limiting beliefs.
In this solo episode I’ll break down the six attributes I feel you need to either get through a hard time, or engage in a challenging endeavor like building a business, learning to surf, or creating the UNcivilized life of your dreams.
They are:
—Resilience
— Tenacity
— Faith
— Curiosity
— Humor
— Community
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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32:1710/06/2024
LIVE coaching session — Permission to go for it
This week I have something special for you, I’ve recorded a live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.
This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with the idea that you need permission to live life on your terms, to build what you want to build, and to go for something big.
On the call is a young man named JC who’s struggling to go against the conditioning he grew up with to play it safe, “get a good job,” and do what’s reasonable. Here at UNcivilized we have no place for reasonable and playing it safe.
We’re all about following your heart and soul and letting them guide you deep into the life you truly want to life.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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45:1903/06/2024
How to best support a man on his path — w/ Traver Boehm
I get asked this question all the time so let’s dive into it. There are amazing ways you can support your man as he begins therapy, men’s work, or any other path to higher consciousness and healing.
I’ve worked with thousands of men over the years and know these three points are crucial to being there for your man, without letting it take over your own life.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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15:1727/05/2024
LIVE coaching session — Why having poor boundaries makes you angry — with Traver Boehm
This week I again have something special for you, a recorded live coaching session with one of the Kill The Nice Guy graduates.
This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anger and don’t see the connection between having loose or porous boundaries — and the resentment and anger that naturally builds up.
On the call is a man named Kevin who gives and gives and gives and also has a lot of built up anger for the people in his life who end up leaving. This is such a common experience for all of us who struggle holding strong boundaries.
Give this a lesson as I walk Kevin through creating a strong, healthy boundary with his daughter who also happens to be his employee.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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44:3520/05/2024
If you’re using anything to escape your life, listen to this — w/ Traver Boehm
At the root of most addictive behavior is a deep dissatisfaction with one or many areas of a man’s life. I know because it wasn’t long ago that I needed to escape from my life multiple times a day with alcohol, marijuana, porn, exercise and work. Just to name a few.
In this episode I share with you the ROOT of this challenge and give you a frame for your life as a man. One that will create the type of life you don’t want to escape from. It’s not magic but it works.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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15:1213/05/2024
You’re allowed to leave any relationship — with Traver Boehm
This past month I’ve been on the phone with far too many men who are stuck in bad relationships — and refuse to leave them.
Why? Because they’ve made it some sort of badge of honor to stay and suffer rather than leave and start over. In this episode I break down how you can shift areas of your marriage or relationship, and then why it’s more than okay, no matter what society tells you, to seek your happiness elsewhere.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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15:5606/05/2024
The 4B Movement, Passport Bros, and The UNcivilized Relationship
In this fiery solo episode I break down The 4B Movement coming out of South Korea, The Passport Bro Movement here in the US, and the wildly needed UNcivilized Relationship Paradigm.
This episode is going to upset a lot of folks because, well, I’m in support of both movements despite the massive implications they will have societally. And I see them both as canaries in the relationship coal mine indicative of massive changes that need to come forward.
AND — at the end I outline a new way of relationship, one I feel is long overdue.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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18:0129/04/2024
Nickelodeon, P Diddy, and Andrew Huberman — with Traver Boehm
What a crazy month in the civilized world, huh? Who ever would have thought such juggernauts as Nickelodeon, P Diddy, AND Andrew Huberman would come to light for being toxic and horrible — at the same time.
For us at UNcivilized, this is a sign that the civilized veil is falling, truth is emerging, and as men — it’s time for us to deal with what’s in our own shadowy closets.
In this solo episode I talk about what I see and most importantly, how you can make positive changes in your own life because of it.
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Cheers,
Traver
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11:4422/04/2024
Nice Guys —why trying to belong is strangling your authenticity with Traver Boehm
I’ve often talked about and taught the notion of Attachment vs Authenticity when it comes to Nice Guy work. And the idea of attachment is real — but it’s taken me a few years of working with it and hearing about it quite often for it truly to stick.
Thus I’m now shifting to talking about Belonging vs Authenticity — especially with but not exclusive to Nice Guys.
In this short solo episode I break down why your need to belong may be strangling you of your authentic expression and I give you three steps on how to begin to shift the tides
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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20:3315/04/2024
UNcivilized masculinity vs Traditional masculinity with Traver Boehm
An Instagram follower asked me the difference between aspects of Traditional Masculinity and our UNcivilized Masculinity and rather than write him back a novel, I decided to record this solo episode for you.
In it, I jump right to the point and outline what’s great about Traditional Masculinity and — what needed to be upgraded about it. Thus the creation of UNcivilized Masculinity.
I outline what makes us different and why…key word — relationship.
Enjoy.
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Traver
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12:5208/04/2024
Francis Weller — Living a soulfully UNcivilized life.
Francis Weller has been an inspiration for me for years now. The way he speaks and shares his work around initiation and living a soulful life hits me in my core. It stops my frantic mind and makes me feel like the world is going to be okay…even if it may not be.
In this episode I get to sit down with Francis and have a frank conversation about men, about getting in touch with our deeper parts, and with what we need to do to make sure we as a species don’t got extinct.
You know, light fluffy stuff.
Enjoy.
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Traver
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01:00:4401/04/2024
Three massive changes I’ve had from men’s work with Traver Boehm
In this short and punchy solo episode, I answer another question from Instagram:
“What were the most transformative parts of men’s work for you?”
I dive into the top three for you so you can decide for yourself if these are pieces you want to try on yourself.
Outgrowing substances like alcohol, weed, and porn
Getting to be authentically me in men’s groups
Having Michael Gay say, “Set the tone…” and turning the embodiment lightbulb on
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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15:2725/03/2024
Where to begin your men’s work journey with Traver Boehm.
Last week I was on a call with a man who asked me this profound question, “Where do I begin my men’s work journey? There are so many places I can start from?”In this episode I break down a great starting point for you if you’re about to embark on your men’s work journey, or where to return to if you’ve currently been on a break and aren’t sure where to pick back up.
I also share a new frame for you that takes the edge and anxiety out of how overwhelming the decision may be.
Enjoy.Please do share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
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16:0518/03/2024
What to do when you struggle finding your purpose with Traver Boehm.
In this short solo episode, I break down the two main blocks I see when people try to figure out their purpose.
Knowing why you’re here and what you’re here to do is a BIG deal. And being stuck without knowing either can lead to a lot of undue suffering.
This episode will help ease that suffering and give you a path forward when you’re in between major chapters of your life.
Enjoy.
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Traver
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18:5211/03/2024
Failure to Launch
I actually did walk through the woods to go to school, and sometimes it was freezing. I figured out pretty early on that there are a lot of guys who get things handed to them where I didn't. I also figured out I wasn't the smartest but I had the willingness and ability to outwork just about anybody. But we all had one thing in common.
Failure to launch.
We all hit "failure to launch" in our lives, multiple times. The way you get out of that rut is...
Listen to this podcast. And learn. And get out of the procrastination loop.
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16:5104/03/2024
Advanced Concepts — Space holding vs Selfishness
After BDSM teacher Andy Buru came into The UNcivilized Nation and dropped this notion for all of us, I’ve been seeing how potent of an idea this is — balancing space holding and selfishness actually is. AND how confronting it is for so many people to lean into the one that’s not their natural way.
In this short solo episode I break down why being able to do both will change your sex life, your income, and your relationships at large.
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09:0126/02/2024
Duey Freeman — What men fear most is being afraid.
This is an important episode and please stay to the end of it where we go into a depth we never planned on. Last week Duey quoted a book he’s reading about how men mostly fear the experience of being afraid. I put my knife and fork down and asked him to tell me more.
As he did, I knew we had to record this episode and share it with you all. It starts a bit slow but then we get into hard hitting concepts that you can use to shift your life immediately.
Enjoy.
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Traver
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38:1319/02/2024
Jeremy Allen — At the root of all grief is relationship
Making a brief return to interviewing, I get to sit down here with a man who has been a mortician since the age of 18. Wild huh?
We talk a lot about grief, the power of full expression and how we can shift the societal tide that’s preventing so many people from feeling what’s only natural in their lives.
Enjoy.
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01:05:5912/02/2024
Powerful advice for Nice Guys and Cool Girls
In this episode I tackle one of my favorite topics — being a Nice Guy (or Cool Girl). Since this is my background and our most popular course, I’m diving in and giving you three concrete ideas for you to apply right now to start to shift this paradigm in your life.
You will NOT get what you want in life JUST making other people happy.
The life you want will cost you the one you have.
You’re so much closer to the life you want than you think.
Enjoy.
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Cheers,
Traver
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17:0705/02/2024
49 Days In The Pitch Dark
In this episode I sit down with Lama Justin von Bujdoss and talk about many things. Namely, his experience in a 49 day dark retreat, his time working in hospice, as well as his career as a prison chaplain.
The man has seen and experienced beauty and loss on a grand scale. This is a fabulous interview where he talks about how we can all deal with the darker pieces of our lives and the potential challenges we will all inevitably face.
Enjoy.
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Traver
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01:15:0029/01/2024
There are no missteps.
One of the pains so many people experience is from looking back on their lives and thinking they wasted time with a particular chapter. I hear this in workshops and with my private clients.
“Gosh, if I hadn’t spent those 5 years studying agriculture and instead had 5 more years in my current profession of real estate development.” Or something like this.
In this punchy solo episode I share about my own journey to becoming the founder of The UNcivilized Movement and how it was anything but a straight path. And why every “misstep” along the way was actually a crucial part of the journey.
Please share this with one person in your life, or twenty.
Cheers,
Traver
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15:1622/01/2024
Ralek Gracie — From Jiujitsu royalty to filmmaking mastery
This episode is powerful. In it I get to sit down with the great Ralek Gracie. Born into Jiujitsu royalty Ralek has spent his life on the mat, in the ring, and in the cage. His life was about little else than jiujitsu and being a Gracie.
Yet a business failure and the subsequent introspection took his life down a completely separate path, one of art, authenticity, and unapologetic expression.
In this episode you’ll get a VIP pass into Ralek’s journey and how you can immediately apply the lessons it’s taught him.
Cheers,
Traver
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01:15:5315/01/2024
Head, Heart, Whoopsie
Hey UNcivilized Fam,
So many men who get themselves into Men’s Work fall into this early trap. Please give this short solo episode a listen on how you can avoid — forgetting your balls!
In this episode I break down UNcivilized Ethos Tenet #8 and remind me all the beautiful benefits of living a powerful life.
HHB, Fellas. Not just H.
Enjoy and please share this with someone in your life.
Cheers,
Traver
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12:2508/01/2024
2024 The sacred path of power — a personal invitation.
Good day and welcome to 2024. In this raw yearly opener, I invite you to join me and all of us at UNcivilized to walk along side of us in a new way. A powerful way.
In this episode I share my year name and why I chose it as well as ask you to join me on your own powerful path.
Enjoy.
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Traver
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15:5801/01/2024
10 Things Every UNcivilized Man Should Be Able To Do
A Christmas episode for you! Whether you’re taking a break from family or today is a hard day for you, here is an episode to lighten your heart and give you something constructive to work on.
I asked the men of The UNcivilized Nation what 10 skills every UNcivilized Man should have. These are 10 (actually 11) of them. They’re solid.
Enjoy and please share this episode with one person in your life.
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Traver
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28:1925/12/2023
The UNcivilized Ethos — A Quick Breakdown
The UNcivilized Ethos is the core of the movement and a tool thousands of men and women all over the globe tap into and use for their success and to get them back on track when the slip off.
In this quick and dirty solo episode I tell the story of how the Ethos came about and give you two quick thoughts on each tenet.
Enjoy and please share this episode with one person in your life.
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Traver
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16:0918/12/2023