Have you ever fallen for a woman you knew was bad for you? You know something is off but the combination of hotness, excitement, and possibility of a love connection keep you hooked. 

In this podcast, we’re going to look at the crisis behind why so many men are struggling to get into relationships?Are men the problem? Or maybe women are the reason why men are single or is it society or maybe dating apps? Who’s fault is it and can we rescue relationships? Should we rescue relationships and you are probably thinking, what’s wrong with being single? 

Back in January, my son and I were testing for our next tae kwon do belt. I had just started tae kwon do 2 months earlier after quitting 30 years ago, so I was excited to do it with my son. Long story short, my ex, who had picked him up from school, texted me and said he didn’t want to go to my testing because he was tired and had a long day.  I was incensed by this.  I told her she wasn’t teaching him the right thing about how to support a family member, that we were making memories together.  I insisted that he come with me. She said she was surprised how selfish and narcissistic I was being. She later said to me, do you know how much he is in engaged in tae kwon do to make you happy? 

If you’re anything like I was early in my Nice Guy recovery, you have a hard time setting boundaries. Especially with women. We tend to let a pretty woman walk all over us, afraid if we set boundaries she will walk away.Over the years, working with hundreds of Nice Guys, I’ve noticed they struggle with boundaries too. I used to think boundaries were negative, that they made you rigid, and that people with boundaries were just selfish. Then one day, I heard Dr. Glover say, “Boundaries are an act of love.” This threw me because I couldn’t see how love could be rigid. But he explained that boundaries show others what you will accept and what you won’t. Without boundaries, there’s no love, especially for yourself. And if you can’t respect yourself enough to have limits, how can you truly love others?

In this podcast, we’re going to explore Is Being Vulnerable Unattractive To Women? Now, there are a lot of messages fed to men that being vulnerable is key in relationships, but this is also confusing as some men as they report that when they are vulnerable, she pull away, look disgusted or become upset.So, should you be vulnerable in a relationship or not? If not, then why not? If yes, how can men be vulnerable without killing attraction?

Why do so many men struggle with social skills? Why do so many men struggle to understand women? Why are so many men isolated and lonely? Why are so many men hypersensitive?  These questions come up regularly with nice guys I work with.  Some then ask me, does this mean I’m on the autism spectrum? Am I just wired this way? 

In this podcast, you will learn how you can still date successfully even if you have kids. I will share my experience, mid 40s I date women in their early 30s and how they treated me and my kids.

In today's episode, we'll explore the self-limiting beliefs that Nice Guys carry, beliefs that keep them stuck in life. We'll uncover the origins of these beliefs, how they take hold, and most importantly, how we can break free from them. We'll delve into the steps to transform these beliefs, empowering you to live with integrity, confidence, and passion.

Ever found yourself saying, 'Of course I'll take care of the dishes,' to your spouse, only to conveniently 'forget' later? Or maybe you’ve caught yourself saying, 'Sure babe, I’d be happy to weed the entire yard while you go take a bath! Whatever you want,' then ruminating and secretly planning their demise in a revenge fantasy straight out of the Show Dexter? Welcome to the realm of passive aggression, where 'Nice Guys' have turned being incredibly agreeable into an art form—while seething like a pressure cooker on the inside. It's like being the world's most polite volcano—on the surface, we’re all “sure, you bet, anytime” smiling and being calm, but beneath, there's a molten core of frustration just waiting to blow."

Have you ever seen two people in a relationship that you know is dead but somehow they didn’t get the memo?  You probably know on a gut level what I’m talking about - you see two people who do nothing but argue, complain about each other, or completely ignore each other. I believe that a relationship is a living thing with its own life force that can die.  The two partners may still be officially a couple and they may still be attached to each other but the love and care and energy have evaporated. Yet the thing just keeps going, staggering around from day to day, draining those who come in contact with it. This is what I call the nightmare scenario: a zombie relationship.  How do you know if you’re in a zombie relationship and how do you prevent it? 

In this podcast, you will discover How To Be More Social & Create a Social Circle even if you are shy, an introvert or an nerd… andIf you find yourself spending too much time isolatedworking from home anddon’t have many guy friends to hang out withnothing to do over the weekend and feel LONELY a lotthis podcast is for you.And for the guys who get into a relationship and start neglecting their guy mates and their hobbies and know you want know how to make friends and where to go to make friends.

Today we’re going to delve into a polarizing topic. No, not which direction should the toilet paper hang. Not does pineapple belong on pizza. I’m talking about friends of the opposite sex if you’re in a committed relationship. Gasp! What do you do if you’re in a relationship and she has a lot of male friends? Are you okay with that? Or are you just insecure if you don’t want her to have these types of relationships? Is it okay that you have friendships with members of the opposite sex if you’re in a committed relationship? 

A lot of men want to know, will I be a nice guy forever? The conventional wisdom in nice guy coaching is that you will always be recovering from vestiges of the syndrome, that you are always susceptible to falling back into nice guy patterns.  But can some or all nice guy patterns be fully resolved or eliminated? Just how much can someone change?

Have you ever had a woman say to you:You are not listening to me.You are not empathic.You don’t get it or understand me.Wait a minute, what about you guys?Let’s hear it for the men.Do you find women listen to you?Do you feel understood and respected?Well, let’s find out if only men are bad listeners. In my book, that may not always be the case.

Why are men’s groups so critical for a man? When I  started my journey of becoming a conscious man, I did it through books and 1 on 1 coaching. And I made a lot of progress.  I learned more about how to lead in my relationships, set boundaries, and get out of my comfort zone. But I didn’t realize that I had actually hit a wall in my growth. If you want to understand what this wall is, then keep listening.

Have you ever had a woman who’s constantly nagged, complained about you all the time and criticized everything you did, and no matter what you did, it never resolved the complains. Then this podcast is for you  and I we will share why women complain and what you can do to stop the complaining.

Welcome to the Nice Guy Show. With Faisal Khokhar, Ari Graff and Chuck Chapman.The three of us are coaches dedicated to helping nice guys because we are recovering nice guys ourselves. Together, we have decades of experience helping men level up. Our mission is to help men develop the confidence and the skills to get the love, sex, and success they desire. Today's guest is Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, who discusses cheating.

An anxiety I’ve often had in the past when it came to my relationships was that my partner might leave me. This only contributed to my Nice Guy Behavior in, well just about every area of the relationship. This fear that “she may leave you” is fuel to the Nice Guy Syndrome. I’ve seen this pattern over and over again with the men that I work with in my coaching Nice Guys who are trying to recover and become integrated men. It seems that this fear is so deeply entrenched that it’s almost written into the Nice Guys DNA. That’s because it is.

What is it about bad boys women can’t get enough of?Why do women keep going back to bad boys they know they are trouble?What type of men are they?What type of women bad boys?Why do nice-guys finish last?Do nice-guys need to become bad boys?

There is one stereotype about the nice guy that he is needy and clingy and stays in a bad relationship no matter what.  And yes, I’ve been guilty of that. But what about the nice guy that can’t commit? Can’t commit to a woman or a job or a hobby or even meeting your friend for dinner?

Recently I was complaining to my personal men’s group about being tired, about being disappointed in the ambivalence in some of the men I work with and men in general aren’t interested in self-development, and just uninterested in anything other than sex, sports and video games. I’ve been doing men’s work for almost 20 years both as a participant and a leader. Quite frankly, I was tired, burnt out, and not seeing the fruits of my labor, at least in my expectations. I was contemplating giving it all up and retiring to become an artist. One of my brothers brought out what we refer to in our group as the sacred dick and slapped me in the face with it.

Are you hard on yourself and others?Do you tend to criticize and judge harshly?Do you always see life as half empty instead of half full?

Are you a nice guy who has been diagnosed with ADHD? Or do you suspect you have ADHD? Why does it seem like every man with nice guy syndrome has ADHD too?  In this episode we are going to break down just what is happening here and what are the differences between ADHD and nice guy syndrome. 

Want to know the best and easiest places to meet attractive great women without dating apps or loitering around nights club? And especially if you are shy.Stick around for this episode Where To Meet Attractive Women If You Are Shy And Without Coming Across Creepy EP and I will reveal where you’ll find abundance of single women and hardly any competition, and you can do all of this wihtout breaking your bank or coming across creepy.

Can you relate to this; you’re going along in your relationship, everything is fine and then you say something, something pretty innocent and maybe even a little funny. To you at least. And then suddenly like a dormant volcano erupting she explodes. Expletives are flying, accusations are being hurled and you find yourself like a deer caught in headlights doing D.E.E.R

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari share their insights on handling breakups like a man. They discuss practical tips and strategies for navigating the end of a relationship with resilience and self-respect, helping Nice Guys keep their cool even when faced with heartbreak.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari explore the concept of raising your standards and how it can make Nice Guys more appealing to women and boost their financial success. They discuss the transformative power of self-respect and setting higher expectations in various aspects of life

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari dish out advice on how the Nice Guy can navigate those moments when his woman is feeling ticked off. They share tips and insights for handling conflict in relationships.

 Chuck, Faisal, and Ari tackle the issue of dealing with a woman's flakiness, offering insights and strategies for Nice Guys navigating unpredictable behavior in their relationships.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss why the Nice Guy often finds it challenging to attract women

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari get real about the importance of discovering and owning your 'why'. They explore how understanding your purpose can fuel personal growth and lead to a more fulfilling life.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari break it down: they discuss how penis size truly isn't that big of a deal when it comes to women.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss how Nice Guys often struggle when it comes to the art of seduction, exploring the reasons behind their lame performance in this area.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss how Nice Guys often fall short due to their tendency to slack off and play it easy, holding themselves back from reaching their full potential.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari talk about dudes who fire off dick pics, why it doesn't turn women on (and how they truly DON'T understand women!)

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss why the Nice Guy often lacks integrity, defining what integrity truly means. They also provide insights from Chuck's latest book, "Find Your Way Without Losing Yourself: The Path To Integrity

Porn addiction is a reflection of Nice Guy shame.  Chuck, Faisal, and Ari show how porn is doing more damage than you might think.

The Nice Guy's world revolves around his woman. Chuck, Faisal and Ari show why it is essential to have good male friends and how making your partner your best friend kills attraction.

In this conversation, Ari, Faisal, and Chuck discuss the concept of victim mode and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They share personal experiences and explore the reasons why people fall into victim mode. The conversation highlights the role of self-awareness and language in recognizing and overcoming victim mode. The speakers also emphasize the importance of balancing challenge and self-compassion in the process. They conclude by differentiating between addressing trauma and engaging in victim mode.

The conversation explores the concept of the integrated man as the opposite of a nice guy. It delves into the tendency of nice guys to overcorrect and swing from passivity to anger and aggression. The importance of tempering rage and finding balance is discussed, along with the role of shame and the need to integrate the shadow side. The conversation also highlights the significance of resetting the nervous system and developing emotional skills. The attributes of an integrated man are outlined as a guide for personal growth and self-acceptance.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari dissect why the Nice Guy needs more than just a relationship for fulfillment in life.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari lay it out plain and simple: when it comes to the Nice Guy's relationships, if it's bad, it's on him. They drive home the message that it's time to stop blaming others and start taking responsibility for the kind of relationship you want.Learn more at niceguyshow.com

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss the significance of dressing well for the Nice Guy. They discuss how personal appearance can be pivotal in garnering attention and commanding attraction.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari discuss the Nice Guy's inclination towards self-help consumption, emphasizing the crucial step of translating knowledge into action. 

 Chuck, Faisal, and Ari delve into the Nice Guy's tendency to get easily hurt and introduce the concept of the Spoiled Brat Reflex (SBR). They explore how this reflex affects relationships and offer insights on managing emotional reactions more effectively.

Have you ever had a woman tell you to grow some balls?Maybe your boss takes advantage of you.Maybe you let your kids run the house.Maybe you still go to your mommy for approval of your decisions.Maybe you let your woman step all over you.  These are some of the most cutting, painful things you can say to a man.  You’re weak. You’re a coward. You need to man up.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari address the common trait of frugality or being 'cheap AF' in Nice Guys, and they explore the underlying reasons behind this behavior.

Chuck, Faisal, and Ari delve into the transformation of the Nice Guy into a high-value man. They discuss the essential steps and mindset shifts required to evolve beyond Nice-Guy tendencies and cultivate a more confident and fulfilling life.