No matter how hard we try to censor and filter things out for them, kids are like sponges, picking up on everything we say and do even if they don't fully understand the meaning of the information they've absorbed. It's part of our job to help them make sense of that information. In my view, the best times to impart our values is when we capitalise on so called teachable moments. It is in the act of living life that they see our values play out organically. It's all well and good to give them a didactic lecture on the merits and demerits of virtue ethics but you'll put them to sleep. Kids will learn more from watching you and seeing how you handle conflict and problems in the heat of a moment. Make the effort to ask them questions about their thoughts and feelings about how they saw a particular situation. Ask them if they thought you ought to have acted differently. Ask them if they would have acted similarly given similar circumstances. Obviously you'll need to adjust such discussion to their age and stage, but the principle remains the same. Use their answers to structure your conversation about whatever values you would like to teach them. You could also use the stories they read in books, or watch on TV to talk about values. I encourage you to do your best to identify and label the values you see being played out; e.g.: "gee wasn't that fox kind to treat those chickens like that" etc..."it's great if everyone learned to give more than they got; then everyone would be better off" etc... Imparting your values early is critical. Believe it or not, as they get older, even though their friends will have some influence on them, they'll filter what their friends say and do through the lens of the value you've already instilled! It's well worth the investment. .... Empathic Connection Resource (FREE) www.huddlewisdom.com/jedimind

****WARNING**** This episode contains some material that might be distressing to some listeners. It contains recent news about the tragedy in Uvalde, Texas I share my thoughts about how we might process this and find some way of preventing such tragedy in the future. I hope it helps. Peace to you.

Directing our intent is a much more powerful way of transforming our lives than goal setting. Intrigued? Let me explain. Tune in to the episode and let's hang out!

Praise and complimenting children can be a 2-edged sword. You have to know the pros and cons. Tune in to the episode and I'll give you the heads up. Go to www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools to get the FREE mini course ' Toolkit for Emotional Storms'

Jealousy is normal, but if mismanaged it can lead to problems that we don't want down the road. Let's talk about how we prevent that. Check out the FREE mini-training resource here for empathic connection: huddlewisdom.com/jedimind Music by Infraction

There's a misconception that people with ASD can't empathise. That's not true, and I'll tell you why. What is empathy anyway? In this episode, I explore some of the ways we can help each other improve our social reading skills; irrespective of whether you have ASD or not.  Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

I don't know about you but I'm notoriously bad at following my own advice. This week, I explore ideas around saying sorry. This episode is just as much for me as it is for anyone else who struggles to let go of hurt and offense. I hope it helps to lighten your spirits. Go well my friends.   I dive into this a little on the Huddle Wisdom blog. Say sorry more   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

The key to being influential is connection. You need to be able to connect with someone before they will trust you. This is a critical skill for any business person, teacher, parent, doctor, human being. Let me tell you about 3 ideas which I think is going to help you out. Let's huddle!    

Social anxiety is normal. But if it gets in the way of our goals, then that's something worthy of intervention. So how do we start helping our kids with this? Let's huddle! Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

If you're frustrated that you're not making any progress. Let me see if I can help you out with a couple of mental models to see if we can move the needle. I want to share a mental concept from my blog that I use when I'm feeling as though life is getting a bit wobbly and when it feels as though we're not on solid footing. I think that this idea along provides a powerful framework for keeping our emotions in check. Don't worry about the wobble!

Hey friends. I hope you are doing well. Join me on this episode as I spend a bit of time going over some key ideas that I think will help you manage the imposter syndrome. I've expanded on what I'd said in the first episode of the podcast, and I think you might find it helpful. Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

How satisfying it is sometimes to find a scapegoat for bad outcomes, but how easily we change our tune when a good outcome happens! Let's see if we can play by a different set of rules and live without needing to blame each other for stuff that just happens in life. Life would be so much better! Attributing outcomes to individual strength or flaws is problematic if we don't learn to recognise the role of circumstances and the complex interactional factors in life that lead to said outcomes. If we can learn to appreciate the role that the system plays in individual choices, I think this could help us break unhelpful and automatic biased thinking patterns. Perhaps the key to making better decisions is to learn how to think more systemically rather than individualistically. Read the blog post here: Stop Blaming. Start Living. Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

Backchatting can be really hard to deal with. It pushes our buttons doesn't it? But here are some ideas to help us cope, manage and teach our kids better ways of dealing with stress and conflict. Take care my friendly friends.    Read the blog here where we talk about 3 tips to help you cope with this. Backchatting - how to deal with this?   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE   Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

There are times when bad decisions get made during emotional upheaval. We need our wizard brain to do the thinking. What's that? Let's discuss this a bit.    I write a little more about this on the Huddle Wisdom blog: Lizards and Wizards   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

Hey friends. Join me on another work commute! A little streams of consciousness here but I hope it makes sense, and I hope this episode encourages you and enriches you today. Sometimes we can block ourselves from enjoying the life we have now, inspite of circumstances. We all struggle. I've got a few concepts and frameworks which I think you might find useful.  If you'd like to support the show please check out my page on buymeacoffee and buy me a coffee so I can keep this podcast going! Any help gratefully appreciated.  Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

My morning musings today after hearing first hand accounts from a Victoria University professor talking about young males who were part of the COVID19 mandate protests in Wellington attempt to set fire to a building with cloth doused with accelerant. Some observations from me here. Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

These can be stressful, disorientating and confusing to deal with. Where do we begin? Have we got the time to figure this out? A framework would be really useful! Come join us for this episode. I know you'll find it helpful. The website (www.huddlewisdom.com) is under construction, but it's coming soon, I swear!  Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

Join me on my drive to work! As I do my best not to do any road ragey things! Fundamental Attribution Bias/error is the culprit. How do we stop it and allow us to have a much more pleasant drive to wherever we need to be?   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts

This is a follow up to last week's episode (Tackling the Imposter Syndrome) where we explore the power of self inquiry; asking ourselves good questions. How do we construct good questions that allow us to find the answers we need to help bust unhelpful thought patterns? Huddle up and let's get into it!   Get the FREE Toolkit for Emotional Storms/Meltdowns/Tantrums here: Emotional Storm Toolkit FREE Bust Unhelpful Thought Patterns now with this cheatsheet: Bust Unhelpful Thoughts