Empathy, I believe, is your secret weapon for establishing trust in your business and personal relationships.  But it's not just an idea or concept, it's a mindset, an attitude.  We all have the equipment; we just need to activate the software to make it work. Let me show you how! Listen in and I'm sure it will help you and those around you too.    PARENTS! Click here 👇 Empathy for Parenting Success

Why parenting is so tough is maybe because we've gotten a little soft around the edges. Let me explain and maybe it'll give you some motivation in your parenting life.

A few extra comments from me that I forgot to tack on to episode 65. Practice of Empathic Discipline will help you develop your ability to connect authentically and meaningfully while become irresistibly influential in their lives. This is so necessary in the digital age!  www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

Tune in to my interview with Emily. A student with ADHD. I think the most important thing that students with ADHD need is a village of supportive adults and it became clear that that was a critical piece of Emily's treatment.

It can be a disorientating when your child comes to you telling you that they feel they're in the wrong body.  How do you start to approach this? You don't want to alienate them. You don't want to invalidate them. But neither do you want to push them into something they might regret later.  music by infraction

My thoughts about the Posie Parker shenanigans this week in Auckland, NZ. How do we teach our children the right way to behave in this context? A little empathy goes a long way! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

It's useful to have a framework that allows us to work out whether our children ought to be able to have cell phones. Join me and I will share with you what questions I ask to help determine whether a kid should have one or now. Special Offer for 9 ways to empathic parenting audio course: BE THE INFLUENCER YOUR CHILD NEEDS  

You want your kids to respect you? Then...respect your child first... What does it mean to Respect your Child? Come find out     💥💥9 ways to succeed with empathic parenting 💥💥 👇👇👀👇👇 A few more courses available: Pay what you want. CLICK HERE: Be THE influencer in your kids lives

Thanks Kylie for the LinkedIn response. "Pick your battles" is a hallmark of good enough parenting. Join me on my drive home as I do my streams of consciousness thing, trying to unpack this idea. What does it mean to pick our battles? Is the battle worth fighting? What if you win? So what? What if you lose? So what? Think before you decide to battle.

Tune in to get a framework for helping your young ones with emotional storms/tantrums...I warn you; it's a little unconventional...but I think it's worth paying attention to this mental model.    Check out the FREE training material here to get more in depth into the framework.  👉 HELP OVER HERE (It's FREE)   Also there's a few more course offers for the Empathic Discipline/Parenting audio course where YOU get to pay what you want...click to pay what you want...get in quick before this goes away 9 ways to parent emotional kids with empathy 👨‍🎓🧠

  Dealing with failure is not easy but handling it well can be the key to success.   COURSE OFFER Be the influencer your child deserves Empathic Discipline Audio Course: 9 key ways to succeed with empathic parenting 💥 Get in quick before the offer goes!... Pay what you want...nothing...or something! That's right to the first 23 people - at the time of this episode there are 20 spaces left! 👇👇👇👇 CLICK HERE: PAY WHAT YOU WANT

 If you're worried if your kids are going to be okay...tune in...and I'll help ease your mind. But also...here's a little something for you to get you excited (I hope)    Empathic Discipline Audio Course: 9 keys to support your children's emotional wellbeing 💥The first 23 people to click here WIN! 💥 ... Pay what you want...nothing...or something! That's right! 👇👇👇👇 CLICK HERE: PAY WHAT YOU WANT   music by Infraction

We all go crazy sometimes. Let me tell you what to do when you do. Empathy and Discipline course: www.huddlewisdom.com/practice FREE training: www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools Learn how to make easy roadmaps that help you navigate emotional storms with your kids

Violence and aggression is not abnormal but are there things we can do to minimize senseless harm in the world? Yes We cannot pass the buck. We must take collective responsibility but it does not have to be onerous work at all. In fact we can do better by using simple frameworks and mental models. Let me show you how. FREE training ➡️ Roadmaps for emotional storms  Huddlewisdom Course ✅ Help your kids to master their emotions with empathic parenting 3 part empathy model: Empathy triangle  

Children do as children do, our emotional responses says a lot more about us than it does about them. If you want to influence them well...let's talk about what we should do with ourselves first

How does being empathic help us become more influential. Here's a framework for understanding this and get on your way to becoming more influential. FREE training: Emotional Storms - mapping and navigating www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools Empathic discipline Audio course - be less stressed, and see your kids thrive! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice     music intro and outro by Infraction!

If you struggle organising yourself, try the 'circle board'. Efficiently structure your priorities and choices to get more of what's important done and liberate yourself from endless lists!!!!

Another drive home episode here. A brief word about non-verbal communication. Kids might not always use words but they say a lot with body language...learn to keep track of this. I'll tell you how you can start to speak 'non-verbalnese'

Hey my friends. Welcome to 2023.  Is this the year that you become influential? In your life, in the life of others you love and care about? I say yes...and I will show you how! I invite you to join me. This episode is a special one for me. I'm podcasting from Kuching, Sarawak (my hometown) and although I indulge myself in a bit of intellectualising; I've marked the section here in case you want to skip over it, but i invite you to have a listen...you won't regret it.  [10:21 16:21- renovated memories in Kuching. And my review of Nam Joo] https://www.facebook.com/namjoo1964 www.huddlewisdom.com

It's been a minute hasn't it? I summarise my favourite themes for the year from the podcast. Hope you'll join me for it. And hang out for the discount code for the empathic discipline course if you want 'stress-less' parenting and living! C'mon! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

In this episode I share my thoughts about what is wrong with psychiatry and what is right about it.  I hope it helps prospective students and trainees who want to pursue a career in psychiatry.  By the way...stay till the end to get the discount code for our first audio course 'The Practice of Empathic Discipline' - how to raise great kids with less stress! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice  

These thoughts are my own. They are my opinion and doesn't constitute medical advice. I share my biased opinion here to generate discussion.   Who gets to make decisions about healthcare?...should it not be patients ? Who gets to inform us of treatment options for medical treatment?...should it not be doctors? What if parents disagree with doctors about what treatment they want for their child?...should it still not be the parent that makes the ultimate decision? A recent case in NZ makes a real mess of things. Obfuscation of roles and blurring of responsibility etc.  A short summary: NZ parents didn't want doctors giving their 4 month old child, blood from a COVID 19 vaccinated donor during a surgical procedure. Doctors asked one of our courts to hand over decision making rights to the doctors. Parents not happy about that. Would you be happy about that too?    

Simplicity is not basic, but it's basically how we get to awesomeness. Any high level activity or skill requires a deep understanding of fundamental ideas that must be grasped at an advanced level in order to gain mastery...but many people fail to do the work because they think simple is boring...believe me it's not. Stay with me till the end for a gift to you from me...which i think you'll really like. Its' Christmas 2022!!!!! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice Spoiler: discount code for 70% off the price of the course...till the end of decemember. But you have to listen till the end.

Another one from my drive home.  This time, decision fatigue... You feel exhausted and you don't know why. Well you probably do but some people actually don't know.  What are the signs of decision fatigue? How do you tackle it?   www.huddlewisdom.com/practice (a simple method to minimise your parenting and child rearing stress!)

The process of learning is not straight forward. I'm sure anyone reading this who has any experience working on skill acquisition will know the frustration of hitting walls and plateaus in training or learning. The way to deal with this, is to not care...and just keep training! but pull back on the intensity if you're feeling burnt out...just take it down a notch. Take stock. Think about where you want to be. What are your goals. Break them down smaller and laser focus on hitting smaller goals. Soon you'll be moving along just fine.   By the way...if you want less stress as a parent when it comes to raising emotionally disciplined children...then check this out.... www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

Me answering parent questions...this time...what if your kids ask you something you can't answer? also...check out...our course which helps you use what you've got to improve your kids emotional discipline www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

How do we not spoil our kids? Join me in this conversation with Evana Lithgow - a psychologist and who I consider an expert in helping families with the job of transferring and transition of wealth. Who better than to ask than Evana? Check out an article here which is really helpful www.w.campdenfb.com/article/did-great-great-great-grandpa-have-ipad-how-teach-your-children-wealth-responsibility Evana's Linkdin Profile: www.linkedin.com/in/evana-lithgow-35a92b15/ Evana's website: http://workingminds.co.nz/

Another drive to work episode.  Thoughts about what it means to be happy.  It's not just about the absence of unhappiness.  I talk about external vs internal loci of control; reversion to the mean; values; and things that light us up.  I hope you get something out of this my friends.  www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

What is my value? What is my worth? If you're interested, come and hang out with me on my drive to work (not literally) and I hope that the things I say on this episode will help you work through these important questions. By the way. Here is the link to the toolkit for emotional storms that I mentioned www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

Zombies and Bayes Theorem. What?! Okay, bear with me. Sometimes, our intuition leads us into perilous situations. Our brains try to be helpful...but because of mental shortcuts...it doesn't always work out so well for us... So...we have to pause...think and rationalise. Although we cannot predict the outcomes of a bad event. We can increase the probability of a favourable outcome if we learn how to obtain good reliable data and information so we stand a better chance of avoiding bad outcomes... it's not guaranteed to help us do that (such is life) but we can improve our odds of survival. Intrigued? .... tune in and let's huddle. Music by Infraction By the way: Here's the link to some other good mental models to help you survive! www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

Anxiety affects us all. Adults, teachers, parents and kids. How do we help our anxious kids? especially when we're feeling awful ourselves or struggling with our own emotions. Join me and tune in to my conversation with clinical psychologist Tanzi Bennison. She also has a wonderful programme for schools and families which you should definitely check out! www.chillax.org.nz I ask Tanzi some of the most common questions parents and teachers ask. And Tanzi gives us great practical help here. Don't miss it!

We can all feel bad when we're trying to set boundaries; sometimes we carry our baggage from the past with us into the present. It doesn't have to be that way. Sometimes our kids push back...that's normal...but it still feels hard. I'll help you take the guilt out of setting boundaries. Jump in and i'll explain. Here's the link to the emotional storm toolkit which i think will help take the anxiety out of navigating emotional storms. www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

Just adding a little bit more knowledge for you knowledge-philes. I'll drip feed bits every so often to help us 'round' out our understanding of how ADHD affects kids and adults and that'll point us towards more individualised solutions for people I believe. By the way here's the link to the lecture I gave a month ago to a bunch of parents and teachers about how to teach kids to be more compassionate, empathic and influential! www.huddlewisdom.com/lecture

Sorry for last week's dog's breakfast of an episode. Coughing and spluttering is not really great to listen to. This is episode 32a. In the audio I said 31a, that's wrong. It's 32a. Sorry...again. You can listen to episode 32 which does contain some good stuff if you can forgive me for the coughing but this one consolidates all that stuff into one basic principle. I also mentioned my interview with Anita Nowak PhD which was really a lot of fun. WE talked about the principles of empathy and how we can cultivate this and make the world better. Here's the link....https://open.spotify.com/show/1kUXlB4PsfzHaNj00GSMzG Here's is the link to the lecture about how to teach kids to empathise and become more compassionate influential people! www.huddlewisdom.com/lecture   Intro and outro music by Infraction

Humans like to split people and lump people into groups. You're in or you're out. How do we talk to our kids and teach them to see people as individuals so they don't breed unhelpful bias or prejudice in their thinking lives? Jump in and let's talk about it.

Our perceptions of things in life is not going to change reality, but it can change how we feel about ourselves, others and the future. In this episode I talk about the idea of how we can catch unhelpful thoughts that cause us to feel awful about things, and turn it around for ourselves... To find out more go to www.huddlewisdom.com/blog/poo Music by Infraction

Personal reflections from yours truly about feeling like a failure and what I've been thinking about to get through it. Hope it helps.

In this episode I talk briefly about how I like to conceptualise ADHD. It's a helpful way of 'seeing' ADHD and it helps us find creative ways to intervene and help those who have difficulties.

The solution to other people's problems are not always easy to find. Sometimes it's not always what is needed in a moment of crisis. In this episode, I share my perspectives on depression and share some ideas as to how you might want to approach it if you come across someone who's struggling with depression. Just note that the information in this episode is not medical advice or psychiatric advice. It's my opinion and if you need clinical advice please go see your doctor; and if you need immediate clinical help go to your local mental health team. ........ The Practice of Empathic Discipline: Keys for supporting your children's emotional development. www.huddlewisdom.com/practice Music intro and outro by Infraction.

My friends! Do you want your kids to know how to win friends and influence people? Here. Get some pearls of wisdom. You are welcome. Here are some of my favourite tips to help you teach your children to empathise well! It's not just for kids of course - adults will benefit too. Enjoy. Davin ps...check out www.huddlewisdom.com/jedimind (to learn more!)

School refusal is tough to deal with, but it is not impossible. Come hang out and we'll discuss it. Also check out the FREE resource to help you make roadmaps to navigate difficult emotions: www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

I was the naughty and loud kid at school...believe it or not. But I had a teacher who valued me - or at least I felt it. She empathised with me and I found a place in her class. I felt like I belonged because of her. You can hear more about that story her but I also talk about why empathy is so crucial for kids and how you can develop your empathic skills the Huddle Wisdom way, and make it your own. Intro music by Infraction (thank you!) To sign up for the Practice of Empathic Discipline Course go to: www.huddlewisdom.com/practice For FREE emotional storm toolkit (navigate emotional tantrums safely): www.huddlewisdom.com/gettools

We talk about how we can give others the benefit of the doubt while we attempt to understand their perspectives; so we are more reflective rather than reactive.    It's not easy, especially if you sense there is a deliberateness behind your interlocutor's invalidation. BUt hold the line. Do your best to empathise; it is worth it. Remember empathy does not mean you agree; it is simply a way to help you understand your interlocutor.    This can be quite disarming and it takes the wind out of the sails of a conflict; which makes for a more productive sort of interaction.    .... 👀Parents and teachers. Check out the Practice of Empathic Discipline.  If you want kids to learn the gift of empathy and learn to control their emotions, build strong relationships with others and make better decisions then check this out: 👉www.huddlewisdom.com/practice 👍    

Nothing in life that wasn't already given to us is free. We have to wake up every day and get after what we want. How do we impart such a way of living? Do we even want that for our kids? Well, I tell you know, it starts with you. Come hang out and I'll tell you more. Also - please go check out the Practice of Empathic Discipline. It has launched. It's awesome. It's an audio course for parents and teachers too busy to learn a whole course on fluffy emotional stuff. This here, are the keys to helping your kids succeed emotionally and relationally. Go GET IT! www.huddlewisdom.com/practice

While not an exhaustive list; these are 5 of the most common characteristics I come across in practice. And a few things that help find equilibrium. If you're not wired this way. It's all good, there are mental models that can help you cultivate the sort of 'sensitivity' that empaths have. To start learning a bit more about that, check out the free resource here: www.huddlewisdom.com/jedimind #huddlewisdom #empathymatters #emotionalintelligence #parents #teachers

Golden rules to help you avoid jerkdom! Tune in now and start winning.