Not everyone gets horny in the same way or at the same pace! This week we’re discussing the difference between responsive desire and spontaneous desire, and how to be respectful of your partner’s desire style even if it differs from yours. Come As You Are | Responsive vs. Spontaneous | Consent | Sexually Relevant Data | Gender Differences | Different Desire Styles | Revving Up Responsives | Responsive4Responsive | Brakes & Accelerator | Kink vs. Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Navigating conflict is one of the trickiest parts of being in a relationship, so this week we’re discussing our best tools and techniques for having hard conversations with loved ones. Noticing the Need | Initiating a Conversation | Now’s Not the Time | Anger | Internal Family Systems | Taking a Break | Structure | Endings | Lingering Feelings Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing more behaviors that might be cheating, or might not be – like keeping your ex’s nudes, neglecting to use condoms, or crushing on a friend. Talk About It | Ex’s Stuff | Ex’s Nudes | Secret Crush | Emotional Connection | Sexting & Phone Sex | Intent vs. Impact | Threesome | Check-In After Bedtime | Safer Sex Protocols | Intoxication | Responding Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

There’s a lot of confusion over what constitutes cheating on someone, so this week we’re discussing what we think cheating is, and what it definitely isn’t. Not Monkeypox | Define “Cheating” | Masturbation | Sleeping in the Same Bed | Porn & OnlyFans | Camming & Nudes | Curdled Ink Podcast | Jerking Off Together | Flirting with Friends | Fantasizing | Custom Videos Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re releasing this bonus episode, originally recorded for our $12+ Patreon supporters, on our main feed this week because Billy is out sick. Enjoy our discussion about exhibitionism, hypnosis, rough body play, and more! Hyprov | Exhibitionistic Beating | SELF+Jimmyjane | Vibrating Finger Massager | Nude Beach | Public Nudity | Rough Body Play | Gun Dildo | RealCock Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What the hell is squirting, anyway? This week we discuss our experiences with squirting, our theories on the controversies that surround it, and our favorite toys and techniques for making it happen. Hello, Billy! | Is It Pee? | Where Is It From? | UTIs | Is It Orgasmic? | G-Spot Orgasm | SELF+Jimmyjane Vibrating Slimline Massager | Jimmyjane | How to Squirt | Njoy Pure Wand | Fingers vs. Toys | Squirting on Dicks | Motion of the Ocean | Movie Magic | Full Bladder | Squirting During Oral | Hole Punch Fluke | KR Curve | Njoy Eleven | Chin Play Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re busting more bisexuality myths this week, like: Are bi people more likely to want to have a threesome? What’s the difference between bi and pan? And do bi femmes exist? Threesomes | Trans Inclusivity | Self-Definition | Bisexual vs. Pansexual | Stigma & -Phobias | “Straight-Passing Privilege” | Bi Femmes | SELF + Jimmyjane Vibrating C-Ring | Jimmyjane | Assumed to Be Bi | STIs | “Picking a Side” | Sitting in Chairs Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Since it’s Bisexuality Day on Friday, this week we thought we’d bust some common myths and misconceptions about bisexuality and bi people. 100% Bisexual | Does Monosexuality Exist? | Comp Het | Blurred Lines | “Straight” by Hanne Blank | Behavior vs. Orientation | Identical Attractions | “It’s a Phase” | Gatekeeping | “I Kissed a Girl” | “Just Date Women” | Wider Dating Pool | Men | Promiscuity & Cheating | “Greedy” | Slut-Shaming | Gender Differences in Biphobia | Left for Someone Else Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Lately we’re both unenthused about doing kink with people we don’t have an emotional connection with, so this week we’re discussing the role of connectedness and intimacy in kink and sex. Camp Struggles | Demisexuality & Demiromanticism | What is Connection? | Fast Food Kink | Affirmation | Being on the Same Page | Authenticity & Honesty | Being Honored | Honey Play Box | Seduction | Crying | Romantic vs. Platonic | Edge Play | Getting Triggered | Roleplay Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

How do our kinky tendencies affect other areas of our lives? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss how dominance, submissiveness, toppiness and bottominess can manifest in not-directly-kinky situations. “Daddy” Song | Dominant Tendencies | Submissive Tendencies | Advice & Guidance | Dark Side | Dating Vanillas | Making Better Decisions | A Doll’s House | Historical Lack of Knowledge | “Tradwife” Movement | Topping Tendencies | Stand-Up Comedians | Bartenders | TikTok Wood Chopper | Magicians | Vanilla(-Ish) Tops | Kinky Flirting | Switching | Cocktail-Domming | Balance | Bottom Guilt | Bottom Skills | Positive Reinforcement Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we revisit the topic of group sex: threesomes, foursomes, and orgies. We discuss how our mindsets about group sex have changed over the pandemic, and offer some tips on initiating and negotiating. How to Find Someone | Unicorn-Hunting | Healthy vs. Unhealthy Motivations | Predicting Success | Experienced People vs. Newbies | Vetting | Self-Reflection | Negotiation | Feeling Included | Communication During Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’ve both tried a lot of sex toys, and this week we’re talking about some of the weirdest ones we’ve ever encountered, from the Lelo dick tuxedo to the butt plug-shaped shoes. What is “Weird”? | Teddy Love | Lunabelle’s Teddy Love Review | Wake-Up Vibe | Lelo Tux | Lifestyles Tuxedo Condoms | Plug of War | Funkit Chess | Hole Punch Evolver | Trump Butt Plug | Ainsley-T | Tongue Cupcake Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We both love strap-on sex, and this week we’re discussing our fave harnesses and dildos and our top tips for giving good strap. Our Strap Experiences | Strap-On vs. Handheld Dildo | Strap-On vs. Dick | Pleasure for Tops | Strapless Strap=Ons | We-Vibe | Sili Saddle | Tenga Eggs | Practicing Alone First | “Pegging” | Harnesses | Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit | Tantus O-Rings | Beginner Strap-On Recommendations | SpareParts Joque | Aslan Leather Jaguar | SpareParts Deuce | RodeoH | Dildos | Godemiche Ambit | VixSkin Goodfella | Proprioception | Stamina Exercises | Positions | Liberator Jaz | Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re celebrating our 300th episode by talking about our “top 3” choices in a bunch of different categories! Pain Implements | Dirty Talk Lines | Fan Encounters | Fantasy Threesomes | Senses to Play With | Vibrators | Places to Do Kinky Things | Other Podcasts | Ways to Flirt | Surprising Kinks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Privacy can be a tricky subject to navigate in sexual relationships, so this week we’re answering listener questions on the fine line between privacy and secrecy when it comes to sex and dating. Our Boundaries | Phone Access | Sharing Porn Info | Non-Monogamy Disclosure | Telling Children | Trauma Disclosure | Noisy Roommate | Hickeys Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Femmes are somehow both erased and revered in the queer community. This week we’re discussing Kate’s femme identity: what it means, how she arrived at that label, and the joys and difficulties of being femme.Transmasc Fem(me)ness | Cis Woman vs. Femme | Femme vs. Feminine | Clothes & Makeup | Tattoos | Tomboy Side | Male Gaze | Straights Dressing Queer | Butch/Femme Dynamics | Butch is a Noun | Gaydar | Femme Invisibility | Gatekeeping | Pronouns | Asking About Pronouns | Femmephobia Follow the Dildorks: Patreon | Twitter Follow Bex: Website | Twitter | Instagram | OnlyFans | JustForFans | ManyVids Follow Kate: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Books | Newsletter | YouTube Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we set out to have a discussion of creativity in kink, and it turned into a meandering discussion of that, Bex’s adventures at kink camp, our traumas, roleplay, boundaries and more.Bex’s Health | Classes as Aftercare | Suffering | Edge Play | Kink & Trauma | Screening Therapists | Turning Point | Seeking Sadists | Creativity Through Constraints | Flirty Roleplay | Non-Sexual Enjoyment | Knowing Your Boundaries | Palette of Permission | Nipple Stuff | Being Known | Clit Trust | Learning | Cum Cocktails | Follow the Dildorks: Patreon | Twitter Follow Bex: Website | Twitter | Instagram | OnlyFans | JustForFans | ManyVids Follow Kate: Website | Twitter | Instagram | Books | Newsletter | YouTube Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Kate’s spouse Matthew Bischoff returns for a discussion of kinky apps, sex machines, electrostimulation and other fun sex tech. Notes App | Dominance Technology | Sex Menu | Protocol Apps | Obedience | Streaks | Sex Toy Spreadsheet in Notion | OSSM | Fucking Machines | 3D-Printing Sex Toys | Heckin’ Lewd | Nanobots & Nerve Pathways | Electrostimulation | Self-Hosted Options | Buttplug.io Intiface | Video Game Haptics | Edge-o-Matic 3000 | VR Sex | Phone Sex | Scent & Taste Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Could sex apps, high-tech vibrators and sex robots ever replace sex with actual humans? This week Kate is joined by her spouse Matthew Bischoff, a technologist, app developer and cohost of the Absolutely Crushed podcast, for a discussion of sex tech. Sex Apps | Online Censorship | Hypnokink | Bluetooth Sex Toys | We-Vibe | Mozilla Privacy Audit | Cellmate Chastity Cage | Best Companies | Ana Valens on Dominatrix Simulator | Buttplug.io | Custom Coding | Music Vibes | Most Powerful | VR & AR | Educational Tools | Sex Robots Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re joined by our friend Brent Black (a.k.a. Brentalfloss), who’s currently working on a sequel to his hilarious party game Use Your Words. We chat about games, being a public figure who’s out as bisexual, weird sex toys for penises, and more. Use Your Words 2 | Diverse Writers Team | Coming Out As Bi | “Bi Enough” | Representation | Straight Lines | DMs | Nobra Twincharger | Slubb | Arcwave Ion | Urethral Sounding | Penis Vibes | Swan Wand | Balldo | Old Toys with New Partners | Avoidant Attachment Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we discuss sex dreams, romantic dreams, wet dreams, and other ways that crushes and carnality show up when you’re dreaming! Getting Mad | Sex Dream About a Friend | Dream As Excuse | Social Media Dreams | Romantic Dreams About Exes | Getting Over Dreams | Dreams About Women | Inducing a Sex Dream | Hypnosis | Wet Dreams | Angry Partner | Freud Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

It’s been a while since we talked about erotic hypnosis, so this week Bex interviews Kate about how hypno is manifesting in her relationship and kink life currently. Mystery | Dollification | Long-Distance Realism | Slipping Into It | Submission | Aptitudes | Subject Skills | Trance vs. Subspace | Waking Yourself Up | Depth & Metaphor | Altering Perceptions | Pre-Talk | Topping | In-Scene Feedback | Real vs. Hypnotic Sensations | Non-Sexual Stuff | Hypno Goals Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

People have a lot of feelings about body hair, so this week we thought we’d discuss pubes, armpit hair and leg hair: our feelings about them, our removal tips, and how we incorporate them (or don’t) into our sex lives. Current Feelings | Sensitivity | Gender Norms | Waxing | Partners’ Preference | Armpit Hair | History of Shaving | Enjoying the Process | Tweezing | At-Home Waxing | Pubes in Mouth | Ethics of Preferences | Paying For It | Making It Hot | Shaving Cream Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Bex interviews Kate about her other creative outlet besides writing about sex: writing songs (including songs about sex!). We discuss the songwriting process and how it relates to kink, porn, and sex education, as well as what it’s like to write and perform vulnerable songs about one’s own sexuality. History | Pop Performers | Songwriting Process | Changes in Process | Choosing Subjects | Spring Awakening | Simmering | Tinder Swindler | Genre & Tone | Skill-Building | Happiness | Songs About Sex | Nuance | A Song A Week Challenge | Favorites | Political Songs | Future Ideas | Sex Doll Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Bex’s partner Ashe recently celebrated 6 months on testosterone, and Bex has been on it for 5 years – so this week the two of them sat down to chat about their experiences on T. Previous T Episode | Method of Delivery | Ritual & Service | Body Hair | Deciding to Start | Impostor Syndrome | Body Modification | Surprising Effects | Voice Changes | Stumbling Upon Progress | Bottom Growth | Arousal & Orgasm | Cleaning | Refractory Period | Arousal Non-Concordance Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re talking about masturbation again this week! Tune in to hear us answer listener questions about solo sex. Donate to Your Local Abortion Fund | Sex Strikes | Keeping It Interesting | Being Watched | Masturbation is Better | Public Places | Touching Your Own Clit | Curious Partner | Age-Appropriate Education | Household Upgrades Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy Masturbation Month! This week we’re answering complex questions from listeners about the logistics and ethics of masturbation. Grumpy About Masturbating | Exploratory Approach | Lube on Dicks | Is It Cheating? | Insecurities | Pics of Exes | Telling Them | Condoms | Daily Challenge Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ever enjoyed spending money on someone, or being spoiled by someone? This week we’re discussing financial domination: why it’s hot, how to do it (with or without actual cash), and what kinks it pairs well with. Why Is It Hot? | Tangibility | Humiliation & Ripoffs | Guilt | Keeping Up Appearances | Professionals vs. Amateurs | Boundaries | Budgeting | Cuckolding | Ideal Items | Bimboification | Freedom & Relaxation | Findom on the Cheap | Negotiation Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

A very happy 4/20 to all who celebrate! Once again this year, we’re celebrating by doing “Highpotheticals,” i.e. getting high and answering your weirdest, wildest hypothetical questions about sex and dating. It’s Tradition! | Last Prisoner Project | Strains | Cis Men’s Feelings | Sex Work Budget | Orgasms on Command | Sexiest Pokémon | Any Location | Number of Fingers | Universal Kink | Crush List | Mainstream Celebrities | Small Orifices Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re so excited to be talking to sex-positive singer/songwriter Rachel Lark, who we’ve both adored for many years! We chat about her new rock musical, the vulnerability of writing explicit songs, getting over sexual shame, and more. Coming Soon: A New Rock Musical | Internal Family Systems | Arousal vs. Patriarchy | Pleasure vs. Ethics | Shame | Sex-Positive Family | Vulnerability | Specificity vs. Relatability | Musical Influences | Kink | Consent | Vibrator Manuals Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re diving deeper into the topic of sex parties: how to break the ice, handle conflicts, communicate what you are and aren’t up for, and more. Surprise Orgy | Overcoming Awkwardness | Soothing Anxiety | Games | Establishing Rules | Consent | Making Introductions | Dealing with Harassers | Communicating Boundaries | Attendance Restrictions | Hal Dente Drag | Differentiating Your Event Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Throwing a great play party is a surprisingly complex task. This week we’re discussing the ins and outs (so to speak) of planning a fantastic sex party. Social Anxiety | How to Find Parties | Inclusivity | Number of Attendees | Host’s Responsibilities | Designated Roles | Beducated | Location | Music | Food | Intoxicants | Should the Host Play? | Themes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sexual ethics is always an interesting subject, so this week we’re weighing in on ethical dilemmas, like sex with a coworker, faking orgasms, and having a sexual history with your therapist. Coworker Sex | Faking Enthusiasm | Beducated | Friend/Therapist | Lying About Orgasms | Lying About Pleasure Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

What does it mean to “worship” someone sexually? This week we’re discussing how body worship makes us feel (while giving or receiving), the various ways we like to do it, and even its spiritual implications. What Makes It Worship? | Devotion & Love | Sensate Focus | Clit Worship | Foot Worship | Roleplay | Beducated | Self-Esteem & Body Image | Love Languages | Use the Right Words | Long-Distance Worship | Worshipping Submissives | The Sublime Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

The names and titles we use in bed (or in the dungeon) can really affect how we feel about our partners and ourselves. This week we’re discussing kinky honorifics: the ones we use, the ones we don’t use, and the advice we have for other kinksters who are horny for honorifics. What Are Honorifics? | Affectionate Nicknames | Daddy | Princess, Etc. | Pet | Daddy, Again | Honorific Exclusivity | Queering “Daddy” | Non-Monogamy | Equivalents to “Daddy” | Finding Titles | Yes/No/Maybe List | Non-Gendered Honorifics | Introducing New Ones | Premature Honorifics | M/s Language | Mollena Williams-Haas’ Risk Story Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re returning to the topic of objectification to answer listener questions about dirty talk, dysphoria, combining this kink with other ones, and more!Degradation vs. Praise | Self-Esteem | Aftercare | Types of Objects | Dirty Talk | Our Fave Scenes | Fancy Shoes | Dysphoria | Chronic Pain | Race Play | Kink Pairings | Sissies vs. Bimbos | Impact Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re pleased to welcome back Kenton from Funkit Toys to discuss his latest project: the Random Encounters sex dice! Join us for a nerdy discussion of sex toy creation and the joys of sexual randomness. Origin Story | NoFrilldo | Dildo Fundraisers | Sex Dice | Survey | Clear Imagery | Outdoor Sex | Rooms | Mouth & Hand Stuff | Random Number | Toys vs. Tools | Instructions & Consent | Kinky Expansion Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Objectification can be so so bad or so so good, depending on context and consent. This week we’re discussing how consensual, kinky objectification relates to – and differs from – more mainstream concepts of sexual objectification. What is Objectification? | Feminist Arguments | Martha Nussbaum | Instrumentality | Denial of Autonomy | Inertness | Fungibility | Violability | Ownership | Denial of Subjectivity | Objectifying Doms & Tops | Alien Sex | “Pleasure-As-Byproduct” | Clinical Objectification Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re delighted to chat with Leigh Cowart, the author of one of our favorite recent books, Hurts So Good: The Science & Culture of Pain on Purpose! We discuss sexual and nonsexual masochism, some of the brain science behind pain, and the process of writing their incredible book. Hurts So Good | Recording the Audiobook | The Origins of Masochism | Sexual vs. Nonsexual | Lightbulb Moment | Hot Peppers | Polar Plunge | Hot Ones | Being Witnessed | Hook Suspension | Physiological Predisposition | Learning to Like Pain | Arousal & Pain | Focus | Pain Processing Techniques | Psychedelics | Subspace | Emotional Pain | Post-Fifty Shades | Spanking with Our Books Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week we’re discussing the ways service kink manifests in our relationships currently, and what our biggest service-related fantasies are.Teacher/Student Fantasies | Sexual Service | Day-to-Day Service | Initiating Service | Caregiver/Little | “Good Girl” Feeling | Dopamine Machine | Learning to Receive | Gratitude & Feedback | GSRM Coaching | Anticipatory Service | Good Service | Clarifying Questions | Remembering Details | Long-Distance | Housework | Oral Service Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sex toys for penises are seldom discussed, compared to their vulva-focused counterparts, so this week we’re shining a light on our favorite toys for dicks and how to use them! Stigma | Sexual Economics | Coolness | Simple vs. Complex | First Toy | Tenga Egg | Fleshlight Quickshot | Fleshlight STU | Penis Vibrators | Fun Factory Manta | Hot Octopuss Pulse | Cobra Libre | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Stroker Wand Attachment | Vibe Technique | Orgasm Difficulties | Lovense Max 2 | Gender-Affirming Toys | Balldo | Exo | Cute Little Fuckers | Mobility Issues | Bump’n Joystick | The Handy | Lovense Gush | Fleshlight Mount | Encouraging a Partner Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

How can we use the idea of “archetypes” in our kink scenes? This week we’re discussing some of our favorite kinky archetypes and how we incorporate them into our play. What Are Kinky Archetypes? | No Punishment | Benefits vs. Limitations | Media Influences | Fanfiction | Submissive Archetypes | Teacher/Student | Masochists | Attractive Archetypes | Honorifics | Headspace | Non-Gendered Archetypes | Cis White Dominant Men Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

A lot of people combine sex with alcohol, but how can one do so in the safest and kindest way possible? This week we’re discussing the important intricacies of sex while tipsy. Harm Reduction | Consent | Arousal & Sensitivity | Lowered Inhibitions | First Dates | Intentionality | Booze vs. Weed | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Non-Drinker | Hangover Advice | Advantages | Pre-Negotiation | Flirting at Bars | Invoking #MeToo | Semenology | Serving Drinks Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex and kink adventures from 2021, and setting goals for 2022. Our Holidays | This Year vs. Last Year | New Things | Things We Did Less Of | Toys & Products | Best Sex | Last Year’s Goals | Chaturbate Bio Design | Next Year’s Goals | Fantasies | Silliest Sex Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Happy holidays! We’re finishing off the year by answering some questions about penis size, lesbian sex, sex work, and other sexy miscellany. Scissoring | Dick Size Comparison | A-Spot Dicks | First Time with a SW | Chaturbate Profile Templates | Waiting for Marriage | Medical Issue | Medical Arousal Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

We’re still pontificating about sexting! In this week’s episode, we share our thoughts on sending and receiving nudes, sexting in public, being a polite sexter, and more. Re-Reading Sexts | Sexting Etiquette | Stepping Away | Parentheticals | Masturbating vs. Not | Photo Consent | Text-Friendly Kinks | Public Play | IRL Awkwardness | Taking Nudes | Asking for Compliments | Partner Doesn’t Like It | Voice vs. Text | Replying to Nudes Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Now more than ever, sexting is a key way many people are expressing their sexualities. This week, we share our current thoughts on, and approaches to, sexting! Skeleton Game | Assessing Sext Compatibility | Kink vs. Vanilla | Getting Sexy | Initiation & Consent | HotCherry | Dealbreakers | Face-Slapping | Subs & Bottoms | Parentheticals | Emojis Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

If you know what figging is, then you know that this episode where we got figged during the recording is gonna be a wild one. If you don’t know what figging is… prepare to find out! Introductions | History | Method | First Impressions | Anal vs. Vaginal | Kinks to Combine It With | Safety | Transference | Snapping Off | Fermentation | The Enhanced Male | Magic Wand Rechargeable | Fun Factory Manta | Aftermath Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we’re answering more listener questions about consensual non-consent! More Negotiation Questions | Evaluating Limits | More Real | HUSTLER Hollywood | Rose Gold Butt Plug | Strap U Siren Harness | Guilt | CNC for Survivors | Kink-Aware Professionals | Public Play Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.