Bill Caskey and Bryan Neale (@advancedselling) of The Advanced Selling Podcast show us we don't have to be in sales to master our "inner game" mindset and get what we want out of life.The Cheat Sheet:Whether we realize it or not, we're all in sales -- no matter what we're trying to accomplish.Understand that your philosophy has an impact on your words and results.Learn how the age-old concept of detachment gives you the power in virtually any situation -- and makes you attractive to your audience.Discover what amateurs say and sound like -- and how to be professional in what you do.Check out this language framework to use in your next meaningful conversation.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bill-caskey-and-bryan-neale-advanced-selling-episode-479/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #45! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How can you objectively qualify relationship red flags in your own situation when your people-pleasing tendencies have blurred the current boundaries on which that relationship was founded?How do you build your socializing and friendship skills up when depression has made you take a long hiatus from being around people?To what extent should one allow the workplace to touch one's personal life (especially when one-sided romantic interest pierces the usual veil of professionalism)?They say practice makes perfect -- are you missing out on this practice by not dating casually when you've made a choice to wait until you're more ready to settle down?What advice does a former kidnapping victim have for someone who keeps getting "manjacked?"If you know you're moving to another country soon, is it wrong to lead on "a sure thing" without telling them?How can practicing gratitude change your life forever?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-45-red-flag-intervention/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) shows us how we can defend ourselves against would-be con artists and use the same principles for more benign purposes in her new book The Confidence Game.The Cheat Sheet:As it turns out, you can fool an honest man. But cynics -- by their own overconfidence in being savvy and "scamproof" -- are just as susceptible to deception. Technology and the abundance of information most of us freely surrender to the Internet makes the con artist's job easier than ever before.What type of person becomes a con artist?How can we avoid getting scammed?Understand how belief works, why we over-believe in some things (even when we have no evidence for them), and how this plays into our susceptibility to deception.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/maria-konnikova-the-confidence-game-episode-478/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Steve Kamb (@stevekamb) gives us a blueprint to follow, based on game mechanics and nerd culture, to finally accomplish things in our lives we've always wanted but never found the time for in his first book, Level Up Your Life.The Cheat Sheet:Stuck in a rut? Need to get in shape and add more adventure to your life? Take your own hero's journey and stop letting fictional characters have all the fun.What is The Progress Principle, and how does it help us stay motivated in pursuit of larger goals?How can you ensure you'll return to your hero's journey when you occasionally falter (as most mere mortals do from time to time)?Life is a multiplayer game.Learn how to identify and quantify your fear, and then take action and use that fear to succeed.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/steve-kamb-level-up-your-life-episode-477/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #44! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!Because Jordan is out of town, Kim Seltzer joins Jason for today's Fan Mail Friday!In this episode:How does someone with Tourette syndrome make good first impressions?How do you break up with someone who has mental health issues?What do you do when you're happy with where you live, but your spouse wants to move to a city that's a thousand miles away?How does a woman who already has a boyfriend make new platonic male friends without leading anyone on?How does someone who's been out of the dating scene for a while due to self-confidence issues get back into it -- especially in an unfamiliar town?What really creates attraction? (And what do you do when you find yourself constantly attracted to the "wrong" people?)Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-44-data-dating/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jon Acuff (@JonAcuff) shares how we can rescue Monday, reinvent our work, and never get stuck -- at any age or stage of career -- in his new book Do Over.The Cheat Sheet:90 percent of Americans are disengaged from work -- are you among them?If you spend as many hours watching television as the average American, binge-ification is ruining your hustle.In spite of its current trendiness, most people shouldn't be entrepreneurs. (Though those who are geared for it wouldn't have it any other way.)Anyone can't do everything. Examples: Not everyone should write a book. Not everyone should release an album. Not everyone should try out for the NFL.Ask these five questions to figure out what skills you really have.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jon-acuff-do-over-episode-476/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) shows us how use the SMART goal system from his new Freedom Journal to accomplish a number one objective in 100 days.The Cheat Sheet:What is the number one reason some entrepreneurs succeed while others fail?Which is more likely to win the battle of changing your life: the physical presence of a giant book that constantly reminds you of its presence versus just another easily ignored app?What's the advantage of trying to accomplish one goal in 100 days over trying to accomplish several? FOCUS (Follow One Course Until Success).How do you ensure your one goal is SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Timely)?Can a regular goal be turned into a SMART goal partway through?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/john-lee-dumas-smart-goals-episode-475/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #43! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How do you keep your work ethic strong when you're surrounded by countless distractions and people whose goals are short-sighted?What are the best habits you can cultivate if you're looking to improve yourself?What adjustments and expectations will make a move from the country to the big city go as smoothly as possible?It would seem like you dodged a bullet when an ex-fiance breaks it off and moves back in with the terrible boyfriend she had before you -- if it weren't for the fact she's carrying your unborn child. What do you do now?If you're afraid to strike up conversations with strangers, what are some exercises you can do to beat approach anxiety?How do you date when you're living with your parents for the next few years while paying off a massive debt?How do you find a positive in every negative?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-43-ignore-mom-talk-to-strangers/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rob Scott (@rob_scott) is a master coach known for hijacking people's minds, rewiring their limiting beliefs, and leaving them completely transformed.The Cheat Sheet:Why is self-sabotage such a common characteristic among human beings, and how can we break away from it?Our beliefs are like lenses; they alter the way we view reality, and they're designed to be invisible -- which can make changing faulty beliefs all the more difficult.What's the "ninja move" that will help you identify and correct your own lenses?Learn how Rob overcame three decades of rough personal history to triumph over a victim mindset and take responsibility for his own course of actions -- even through a life-threatening illness.There are three steps to changing your limiting beliefs: awareness (look), new choice (challenge), and subconscious pattern (replace).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/rob-scott-identity-shifting-mastermind-episode-474/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm team (@TheArtofCharm) recounts personal favorite episodes from 2015. Did your favorite episode get left out? Leave a comment and let us know!The Cheat Sheet:Could you name your five favorite Art of Charm episodes from 2015?Are you sure?You just thought of another five, didn't you?Or was it more like 10? 20? 30?It's almost impossible, but we tried! Here are the results.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-best-of-2015-episode-473/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #42! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Does consistently getting bored with people you date indicate there's a problem with you?What happens when you're only attracted to people who are "super hot" -- and what's wrong with grading potential romantic interests on a scale of one to 10?How can long-distance relationships become long-lasting relationships?Can we make shorter, more condensed Art of Charm podcasts?Do you need to change your technique to pick up people of another ethnicity or culture?What happens in Reno doesn't always stay in Reno.How to stop worrying and assume a positive outcome, instead.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-42-what-happens-in-reno/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shawn Rafferty (@SafetyBlueprint) is here to show us how to avoid being victimized by harnessing the key principles of situational and observational awareness and making them a permanent part of our daily routine.The Cheat Sheet:What's more important than knowing how to react to a confrontation?Learning how to avoid danger is less of an investment of time and energy than learning how to fight -- and more likely to keep you alive.What are the differences between situational and observational awareness?Even though we statistically live during the safest time in human history, cultivating a natural awareness of potential threats pays off more than willful blindness when bad people mark you as an easy target.Learn some tips for becoming a hard target.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/shawn-rafferty-the-safety-blueprint-episode-472/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matt Moore (@HHOFD) is here to show you how to become a better version of yourself -- personally, in relationships, in friendships, and in business -- by cooking and sharing food with others.The Cheat Sheet:If you aren't cooking, why aren't you cooking?Among its benefits, cooking for yourself promotes self-sufficiency, good health, and creativity.What is the number one goal of a chef at a restaurant?Contrary to popular opinion, bacon is not the be-all, end-all of great foods. You can create something healthier and just as satisfying if you know how.We often stress the importance of networking; cooking offers you a chance to be more social and generous.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/matt-moore-the-gentlemans-kitchen-episode-471/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #41! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:"Pull my finger" is the new "It's not you -- it's me." How do you tactfully let a lifelong friend know that their sudden weight gain has you worried for their health?Is going to college still worth it?We all do stupid things when we're young -- but they often make for interesting stories we tell our whole lives. What happens when we get older and wiser and feel like our new stories aren't as exciting?When one person in a steady relationship makes a lot more money, why does the other person always get stuck picking up the tab on dates?What should you not talk about on a first date -- especially if you want to ensure a second date?What sore spots in the past may have left you feeling insecure about something? Jordan talks about it in this week's short video.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-41-winds-of-change/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott Harrison (@scottharrison) has convinced more than 20,000 people to give up their birthday presents to raise money for people who need access to clean, safe water in developing countries. And in only nine years, charity: water has raised more than $200M from one million supporters. But his goals are far more ambitious...The Cheat Sheet:While most Americans take access to clean water for granted, 663 million people (nearly 1 in 10 people in the world) live without it.Without clean water, people suffer from countless health problems (like diseases, parasites, and tumors), a lack of education (especially teenage girls who have to take a week off of school every month for lack of washrooms), and a lack of income (especially women who have to spend hours every day traveling to gather it).On a soul-searching trip to Africa, ex-club promoter Scott Harrison started charity: water to help bring clean water to these suffering millions -- because he witnessed firsthand what happens to people without it.A six-year-old named Lory gave up his birthday presents one year, asking family and friends to donate $6 each, instead, to help build clean water projects. He raised $2,386. How much could you raise?How did Scott start charity: water from his friend's couch while $30,000 in debt?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/scott-harrison-give-up-your-birthday-episode-470/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) presents this toolbox episode about networking and social capital basics that will give you an important leg up in your own relationship development skills!The Cheat Sheet:Relationship development (and, by extension, the dreaded word 'networking') is the highest leverage point you can learn in business and your personal life.How do you make real connections at so-called networking events -- and elsewhere?Any opportunity that you have to meet someone becomes another gate to opening your network.How can you add value to interactions with people as you're beginning to build your network -- even if you feel you have nothing to offer?Avoid the pitfalls of agenda-based (inauthentic) networking and learn how to be authentic when making important connections that will last for years to come.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-toolbox-social-capital-basics-episode-469/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #40! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:In the 21st century, who pays for what and when in the world of (American) dating?When is the right time to bring your serious significant other home to meet the family?Does your relationship have what it takes to level up?How does the responsible, punctual one stop feeling like a weird lurker while waiting for habitually tardy friends?When traveling alone, how do you meet people -- of any gender -- while making it clear that you're not hitting on them?How do you overcome the fear of giving a disastrous toast at a wedding?If you have outdated or inaccurate programming in your brain, you simply can't interpret things differently until you rewire your programming. Jordan talks about it a bit in this short video.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-40-disastrous-toasts-and-punctual-lurkers/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kabir Sehgal (@HiKabir) looks at biological, psychological, and external factors that help us make sense of how we interact with our dollars in his book Coined: the Rich Life of Money and How Its History Has Shaped Us.The Cheat Sheet:What happens in your brain when you think about money? There's a science for that, and it's called neuroeconomics.The anticipation of gaining money tends to provoke a stronger reaction than having money -- part of our survival wiring?The way we deal with money is coded on a genetic level -- in fact, about 20 percent of your credit score is influenced by your genetics.Why should you pay with cash if you're trying to save money (beyond the obvious reason of avoiding excessive interest payments)?Why is the sun a good business barometer?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kabir-sehgal-the-darwin-of-dollars-episode-468/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jay Samit (@jaysamit) is a leading technology innovator and serial entrepreneur who tells us how to master personal transformation, seize opportunity, and thrive in this era of endless innovation.The Cheat Sheet:Are you living your life, or are you just paying bills until you die?Whether by choice or what's already happening, your world will be disrupted by change. It's either an obstacle or an opportunity -- the choice is yours.You don't have to be a brilliant inventor to solve today's problems; examine how existing systems can be modified and combined for new solutions.What is the Zombie Idea -- and how and why should it be cultivated?You can hire expertise, but you can't hire persistence.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jay-samit-disrupt-you-episode-467/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #39! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:When you don't feel like you have enough time or energy for dating, take a cue from Charlie Hoehn and just remember to save room in your life for fun, first and foremost.What do you do when you want to see your talented and passionate friend prosper, but they can't seem to break out of a perpetual cycle of despair and procrastination?Giving up a steady job with benefits can be a hard decision to make, but you also have to weigh it against your personal sanity and happiness.Does she really want to spend time apart in hopes of rekindling the romance that's been lacking, or should you face the painful possibility that the marriage is over?Are you always the friend, never the boyfriend? How do you become more of a "closer" when it comes to women?Where do you begin making the transformation from creepy to courtly?Do you ever feel especially lonely after catching up on your social media feeds? If so, you’re not alone.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-39-from-creepy-to-courtly/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jesse Itzler (@the100MileMan) is a powerhouse of boundless energy with a rigid discipline for time management who has never missed a day of work in 25 years. Still, he hired a Navy SEAL to help him up his routine's game and then wrote a book about it -- efficient!The Cheat Sheet:Loyalty is a rare quality in business today; Jesse tells a story about a now-famous former intern to demonstrate why it's still important.You can achieve more than you believe -- when you think you're done, you're only 40% done.Sometimes it pays to get your foot in the door first and figure it out later.Why is a big breakfast the least judicious meal of the day?Don't forget to make fun a priority!And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jesse-itzler-the-100-mile-man-episode-466/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adrienne Dorison (@adriennedorison) ditched over $45,000 in student debt in less than six months; follow her advice here and achieve your own financial freedom.The Cheat Sheet:Your beliefs about debt -- and your credit score -- don't (and shouldn't) define who you are.Having an attitude toward consumer debt as a normalized facet of modern living makes a lot of us suckers.Why is talking about sex less taboo than talking about money?Learn why creating an emotional attachment to money by using cash instead of credit is a good thing.What is a zero-based budget?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/adrienne-dorison-self-mastery-over-debt-episode-465/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #38! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Is it possible to get out of the friend zone when you've been there since the game began?In science, we must remember that correlation does not imply causation.Here's why you shouldn't get testy when someone you're hitting on "tests" you.We usually talk about good habits to cultivate; here are some bad habits to avoid.Even good advice for someone dealing with a wayward family member is better with Bacon -- Caleb Bacon!Bars and clubs seem to be where the action is, but where can a straightedge guy meet women who don't drink?How do you respond when someone tells you something you already know?In this video, Jordan talks about how we process input from other people through our own emotional biases and how that leads to anxiety and depression -- and what we can do about it.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-38-correlation-does-not-imply-causation/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bobby Umar (@raehanbobby) believes we can change the world by recognizing the power of connection originating within and embracing our own leadership. He specializes in turning lost leaders into thought leaders.The Cheat Sheet:How does someone become a "top tweeter" like Bobby Umar?What is a "lost" leader?If you don't like what you're doing now, how do you figure out a direction you will like?Vulnerability can be an empowering and inspiring way to connect with people.Why should every single person blog or keep a journal (even if it's private)?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bobby-umar-network-anytime-episode-464/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeff Goins (@Jeff Goins) transitioned into his own dream job as a full-time writer; now he helps others overcome common myths and misconceptions about the journey so they can find and answer their own callings.The Cheat Sheet:Everyone has a calling -- how do we use our own life lessons to identify and follow that calling?Discovering what you were meant to do will probably surprise you.Why does fear so often keep us from taking risks?We're born knowing how to dance, but we learn shame.Learn how to make yourself more afraid of not trying than failing.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/jeff-goins-how-to-find-your-calling-episode-463/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #37! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How does a fixer successfully date a complainer?What do you do to rekindle the spark in a 15-year marriage?In order to be at maximum productivity, when is the right time to wake up every day?How does someone with severe hearing loss communicate with confidence in the dating world?Does the phenomenon of "bed death" necessarily signify that your partner's cheating on you?Do you have memories of people who truly changed the trajectory of your life? Sometimes it's worth your time -- and theirs -- to reconnect and thank them for the influence they've had on you.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-37-the-lady-doth-protest-too-much-methinks/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Chris Donaghue (@ChrisDonaghue) is one of only a few hundred people in the entire world certified as a sex therapist, so you'll want to hear what he has to say about the myths of sexual dysfunctions, accepting your desires (even if they don't align with societal expectations), and how to develop healthy sex and dating habits.The Cheat Sheet:Cultures that embrace sexuality have lower rates of teen pregnancy and STDs, and pornography-tolerant societies have lower rates of sex crimes.What constitutes healthy sex?Believe it or not, there's no right (or wrong) way to have an erection.Is sex addiction a myth?The concept of gender "norms": we're doing it wrong.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/chris-donaghue-sex-outside-the-lines-episode-462/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anese Cavanaugh (@anesecavanaugh) knows what it takes to make "busy" beautiful. She helps people and companies unlock leadership potential, create meaningful impact, and enjoy themselves while doing it.The Cheat Sheet:Is the way you're "showing up" helping you create the impact you want?Contrary to popular belief, it's not merely the leaders who set a company's culture -- it's every single person in that company (from the CEO to the janitor).What is the IEP Method?Can you stand to have a presence reboot?Learn the five-step formula for creating intentional impact.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/anese-cavanaugh-contagious-culture-episode-461/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #36! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:We get listener feedback about how to deal with someone who laughs awkwardly at inappropriate times (from FMF 35).Are you blind to the attraction signals that potential romantic partners are trying to throw your way? We talk about how to pick up on them extensively in the AoC Toolbox, but here's some short-form advice in the meantime.You don't have to be a fashion plate to dress appropriately for life's banquet without breaking the bank. Here are some tips to cover the basics. (Also see Indochino.)Now that he's trying to get out of his own shell, one of our Art of Charm bootcamp veterans is having trouble dealing with his shut-in best friend/roommate who prefers to remain a shut-in.Being lousy at remembering names, faces, and conversational context is a problem you can overcome -- Jordan is proof! The keys to your kingdom may just be locked in your Memory Palace.Being platonic besties with your ex may seem like a win-win scenario -- until you try moving forward in your dating life.Hey! We noticed you read this far -- thank you! Here's a short video about how to become more observant so you can thank people when they take the time to read what you have to say on the Internet, too!Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-36-fashion-plate-banquet-at-the-memory-palace/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stephen Mansfield (@MansfieldWrites) strives to inspire men to form a Band of Brothers around themselves to help them perfect noble manhood in their lives.The Cheat Sheet:Learn why most men in contemporary society don't have a best friend.Why does Stephen believe that men need an older brother figure?What is a Free Fire Zone?Discover why assembling a Band of Brothers keeps a man on course to become great.Learn how to build this Band of Brothers.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/stephen-mansfield-building-a-band-of-brothers-episode-460/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch) is known for applying social science to real-life relationship issues and is the author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do, the only book that applies science to your love life from before you meet until you commit.The Cheat Sheet:Learn the four Attachment Styles and what they say about you and your relationships: Secure, Anxious/Ambivalent, Avoidant/Dismissive, and Avoidant/Fearful. How can you change your attachment style if you want to, and why do some opposites get attracted even though they're dead wrong for each other?You should be pessimistic about being single instead of being in a relationship because it’s probably going to kill you faster than being in a relationship.Married couples live with a much longer time-horizon than cohabiting couples.Science is about odds, not about certainty.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/duana-welch-science-based-dating-episode-459/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #35! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:What is the function of self-deprecation when striking up a new acquaintance, and how can you make people comfortable enough that they don't put themselves down while still valuing yourself enough not to do it, too?It's great that you're making positive strides toward changing your own life for the better, but how can you draw out your recluse friend and share the good vibes, man?When you have a great relationship with a significant other, it would be a bonus if your mother approved -- but it's ultimately not a necessity. (And if your relationship with your mother is also great, then she'll understand this -- even grudgingly).You could always answer your boss' awkward laughter with, "I'm funny how? I mean, funny like I'm a clown? I amuse you? I make you laugh?"When the other person in a relationship says that they need "time," should you wait for them or move on?Laying out the harsh realities and consequences of drugs instead of perpetuating myths about them will be more effective (and earn you more respect as a parent) than telling your kids to "just say 'no.'"Ever feel that you’re not sitting in the driver's seat of your own life? Here's a short video about the roles we fall into.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-35-just-say-no-to-drug-myths/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bob Arno (@bambivalent) is a professional pickpocket who uses his powers for good. How? Find out in this episode of The Art of Charm!The Cheat Sheet:How does someone without a criminal background become a pickpocket?What are the psychological differences between a mugger and a pickpocket?Why do pickpockets tend to spot law enforcement before law enforcement spots pickpockets?What kind of shoes should you wear if you don't want to get marked as a target for pickpockets?How should you behave if you catch a pickpocket in the act?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/bob-arno-pickpocket-king-episode-458/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hugh Culver (@HughCulver) teaches us how we can think better, plan smarter, and act now on what really matters by developing Hero Habits.The Cheat Sheet:The first secret of success is to learn failure is temporary.Which pain are you more willing to endure: the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret?Habits are not created in 21 days -- habits are created with rewards.Modifying good habits to suit certain situations is better than abandoning them. Example: Hugh has a workout that he does when he's traveling that's shorter than his regular workout -- but a shorter workout is better than no workout at all.Learn how fast switching to curiosity can help you avoid the habit-crushing negativity of self-condemnation by examining the "why?" behind occasional lapses in discipline (and learning from them).And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/hugh-culver-hero-habits-episode-457/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #34! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How do you deal with an overwhelming sense of envy that springs up whenever you encounter someone with more talent, better looks, or some other perk of an imagined "good life" that you feel you'll never experience? (Depending on your situation, therapy might be one way to address it.)A besieged Syrian under fire loves his country and doesn't want to leave; he writes in for practical advice from us and friends of the show who have experience surviving in war zones. Marine Sean Rafferty was kind enough to offer some of his best tips.An Art of Charm boot camp veteran sees his old friends in a new -- and unflattering -- light since returning home. Is he just a jerk, or have they always been negative, self-destructive, and unpleasant to be around?Are you more fun when you're single?A nice guy posits, as many nice guys before him: why do girls only seem to love jerks?Are they all going to laugh at you if you bring the heavily pierced and tattooed significant other to one of your company's hoity-toity shindigs?What to do when your job sucks.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-34-alt-girls-nice-guys-and-bad-friends/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lewis Howes (@LewisHowes) discusses his new book, The School of Greatness, and its framework for achieving real, sustainable, and repeatable success.The Cheat Sheet:What is a lifestyle entrepreneur?While interviewing successful people, Lewis Howes found eight common themes that they tend to share -- he calls them The Eight Principles of Greatness.Greatness looks different to everyone, but it's rare that anyone ever achieves it by accident.What is your dream? Are you striving to realize it, or are you hoping it falls in your lap by sheer luck?What do you do when your failures become bigger than your vision?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/lewis-howes-school-of-greatness-episode-456/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kimberly Seltzer (@SeltzerKimberly) gives us her five-step process for finding a therapist who is right for you.The Cheat Sheet:We all need help from time to time; there's absolutely no shame in seeking therapy -- just as there's no shame in consulting a tutor if you need help getting through trigonometry or organic chemistry class.Finding a therapist is like finding a dentist or any other professional who will have a meaningful impact on your life. You want to make sure you have a comfortable relationship.How do we begin the search for a good therapist?Here are five steps you can take in preparation for finding the right therapist.Something a lot of people don't know: if you have insurance, it likely does cover some degree of therapy and overall mental health care. Contact your representative for specifics.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/kim-seltzer-how-to-find-a-therapist-bonus/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alex Kouts (@akouts) returns to The Art of Charm to talk about how to get hired at a startup (and if the startup life might -- or might not -- be a good fit for you).The Cheat Sheet:What is a startup?How does a startup find a sustainable product/market fit?What kind of person chooses the potentially unstable startup life over the safer options their parents keep nagging them to consider?The startup life is not a get rich quick scheme -- if you choose it, you'll probably work harder than you ever have before (but with the potential rewards to match).Why aren't you getting any startup job offers even though you've submitted your resume dozens -- or hundreds -- of times online?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-getting-hired-at-a-startup-episode-455/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereviewStay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #33! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Sometimes your partner will complain just to vent about something that's bothering them, and other times they want legitimate solutions to their problems. How do you tell one from the other?Emotional conditioning can be a powerful force. A listener with a PhD in psychology chimes in about some advice we gave in Fan Mail Friday #31.Is tragedy a prerequisite for success and wealth, or can normality ever hope to compete?What happens when you can talk the talk to find a partner, but your skills lack in the sack?Immigrant insecurity is a real thing -- and it comes with a whole tapestry of negative feelings about self and society that can be hard to overcome.Contrariwise is a real word, and lack of vulnerability might be what makes your attempts at a long-term relationship so...vulnerable.True success needs no comparisons.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-33-contrariwise-bedroom-superheroes/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Manson (@iammarkmanson) is the author of Models: Attract Women Through Honesty, and he blogs to an audience of millions about psychology and personal development.The Cheat Sheet:Love is not enough; people prioritize love over other more important values, such as self-respect, trust, and boundaries.The relationship scorecard is toxic habit 1, where people feel as though they are always "owed" things by their partner.Boundaries basics: taking responsibility for your own thoughts/emotions and expecting your partner to take responsibility for theirs.World travel is both empowering and limiting; you gain new perspective, but it limits your ability to form commitments.Realizing that everything you do doesn't matter is a good thing, because it means you no longer have any excuses not to be who you wish to be.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/mark-manson-unconditional-communication-episode-454/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zachary Stockill (@zfstockill) shows us how overcoming retroactive jealousy and possessiveness is as easy as learning to let go.The Cheat Sheet:All jealousy is related to insecurity in some way.How should we deal with the complex cultural politics of social media in 2015 as they relate to retroactive jealousy?What are your values?Jealousy and possessiveness often cause us to stay in unhealthy relationships for far too long.Is it fair to judge our partners based on their past? Or is the present all that really matters?And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/zachary-stockill-retroactive-jealousy-episode-453/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #32! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:While it might not be the end of the tunnel, it's good that you're seeing the light -- just make sure it's the right light.How do you practice genuine gratitude without coming across as a kiss-ass -- especially in the workplace?25-year-old virgins aren't as uncommon as you may think. (But if you're among them and you don't want to be, here are a few tips.)You may be aware that you're making progress in your life goals, but how do you quantify that progress?When you're giving a presentation, how do you deal with a question you don't really want to answer?How do you save time with one simple email?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-32-advice-for-the-25-year-old-virgin/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Neil Strauss tells The Truth about past transgressions in his latest book, but it's more than just a head-cleaning confession -- it's an exploration of options most people probably haven't considered."Nobody's making you do anything. You have complete freedom of choice at all times. You just have to accept the consequences of that choice." -Neil StraussThe Cheat Sheet:We may look up to -- and even envy -- the rich and famous without realizing that fame just amplifies the flaws people already have. (05:59) We're not going on the line to say this is true in all cases, but many relationships get stronger after a tell-all confession. (08:18)What should you do first when you love your partner but you have a sexual desire for someone else? (12:11)How do people in non-traditional, non-monogamous relationships separate love and sex? (13:59)Two different people can be doing the exact same thing -- one for healthy reasons; the other for unhealthy reasons. But how? (24:28)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/neil-strauss-the-truth-episode-452/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you can learn to tell a good story, you can captivate any audience -- whether as a public speaker, while interviewing for a job, or when you're on a date. "If there's one big piece of advice that I have -- albeit I have a lot of them -- it's: make sure that you are driven to tell the story that you're telling." -Amy Port The Cheat Sheet: Even the best, most personal story can be lost in the hands of a bad storyteller. (04:26) A good story is sculpted around Aristotle's three-act structure: exposition, conflict, and resolution. (05:59) What makes a story funny? (09:53) Where do we begin if we know we're not great storytellers? (14:33) What's your story's throughline (also, what the heck is a throughline)? (25:36) And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/amy-port-heroic-public-speaking-episode-451/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #31! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:How do you learn to trust yourself and your instincts (especially when it comes to money)?A doctor brings a medical perspective to some advice we gave a listener in a difficult relationship back in Fan Mail Friday #27.Do phrases like "staying at home" and "left at home" make it sound like the person raising the kids and maintaining the sanctuary is doing something less than the person who goes out and brings home the paycheck?How do you overcome a negative association with something that is unfairly lumped in with a bad experience?Stop asking if you can afford to leave a job you hate if the real question is: can you afford not to? It all depends on your risk tolerance.Sometimes the best treatment for a case of Imposter Syndrome is a dose of keeping it real.Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-31-homemakers-of-the-world-unite-and-take-over/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every interaction is a performance -- whether you're speaking up in a meeting, pitching a client, negotiating a raise, or walking into a job interview. Michael Port tells us how to steal the show."There's a benefit to being chameleon-like." -Michael PortThe Cheat Sheet:At its core, a good performance is genuine. (08:10)How do we separate our desire for validation from a desire to get results? (14:58)An authentic performance requires clear objectives (20:50)Avoid talking in absolutes (it invalidates your arguments). (27:30)Choose early, and choose often. (34:42)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/michael-port-steal-the-show-episode-450/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By recognizing in our own behavior what keeps us from being resilient against life's obstacles, we're empowered to stop the cycle and focus on what it takes to become mentally stronger."Every time you take your eyes off of your own goals and you start resenting somebody else, it's another minute that you didn't spend working towards whatever it is you want to achieve." -Amy MorinThe Cheat Sheet:How do mental health and mental strength differ? (08:37)Being mentally strong is more about self-awareness than acting tough. (09:54)There are three parts to building mental strength: regulating thoughts, managing emotions, and behaving productively despite your circumstances. (11:41)What wastes our time and energy to keep us from becoming mentally strong? (13:03)You’re only as good as your worst habit. (13:29)And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/amy-morin-mentally-stronger-episode-449/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #30! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!In this episode:Contrary to popular belief, a lot of intelligence agents have trouble pulling off the smooth James Bond routine when trying to genuinely interact with people in real life.Sometimes, being embarrassed by and hating your "old self" just means you've made progress. Still, don't be so hard on your old self -- he or she made the choice to become who you are today.Is it wrong to abandon your wallflower friends to mingle with the crowd in a social setting?When you're in a sales position, how do you sell yourself while staying authentic?How do you stop your impressionable cousin from joining a terrorist organization like, say, ISIS (or the Baseball Furies)?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-30-social-chops-for-covert-ops/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices