thank you so much for answering my question! You are so kind and understanding. I'll try to live by this concept... this doesn't necessarily mean not to do any kind of treatment for the physical body right? Because if there is something that could potentially improve your situation why not do it? 

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I just watched the webnar. Very interesting. I learned a lot. My issue is that I cannot bear the humiliation and distress in the discomfort when trying to do the things I fear. It's all so devastation to me. I hate attention and I hate being humiliated, pitied or seen as mad or odd. X

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I’m not sure if this is about boundaries or just reactions sorry, or maybe that’s the same actually.I was listening to your podcast episode on boundaries and expectations in relationship.I’ve actually been questioning my reactions over the past week, and this is just fascinating. At my age I’m amazed that I’ve not learned to look at myself in relationship this way EVER before so this episode is groundbreaking for me!What is the solution when we recognise one of these behaviours playing out that is not about the other person. Like my anxiousness when my new partner doesn’t text me back for 5 hours, or acts in a way that “makes” me feel anxious?Instead of responding in a defensive or needy way, I am trying to notice it and not act. But now I hear this, I feel like this is as you say as the other extreme, allowing “someone walk all over me” which is not happening but I’m still allowing something that doesn’t feel ok with me at the moment. What do I do with these reactions of mine once I notice them? How do I actually go about healing them? 

What is freedom? Listener question

"When you are inspired… by some great purpose… All of your thoughts, break their bonds… Your mind, transcends limitation… Dormant forces, talents, faculties become alive, and you discover to be a greater person than you ever dreamed to be!" -- Patanjali, 300BC - believed to be the sanskrit author of the yoga sutras A friend just shared this and what if the some great purpose is recognizing who we really are as aware, alive, intelligence?

Today I saw why cutting people off was/is such a hobby for me. I wanna cut them firstly and with that dissarm them so they can't leave me.Less painful if I leave them, than to be left by others.Only inteligence is capable to make such a creative defense.It is made from the same media ...conditioning & healing... wow :)

I wonder if the term ‘insanity’, as commonly understood and which you use quite frequently in this clip, isn't helpful to an ‘identified’ person? For someone lost in programming, might not shame be added to their burden when hearing that suffering is indicative of madness, particularly since suffering is the means through which our innate health/wholeness/freedom is remembered?

We could talk and explore the ''THEM'' course for the rest of our lives. For me it always opens so much pain, grief, anger, resentment and of course shame.And the last one goes so perfectly hand in hand with the vulnerability of which you talk about in today's course video.Each time I faced painful feelings I tried to hide them in front of others, even the closest people in my life. It was and still is unbearable for me to show weakness to be seen weak. I was always the one who took care of others, comforted them, etc. I was in no position to ask others for help and allow myself to receive it.I guess this is still one of my biggest confusions in friendship relationships.Wanting them and pushing them away at the same moment.And when things accumulated I cry ... alone ofcourse :) How do you see crying in the role of healing? And also in a role of letting ourselves be or feel vulnerability?

If the trigger from within a relationship is a mirror to us, then is each triggering circumstance we encounter also a mirror?When we're triggered by a circumstance which does not involve a relationship and which, say, appears to be a recurring circumstance, is the circumstance (similarly to aspects within relationships) mirroring something in us that needs to be fully seen, and thus if we identify and fully feel the physical feeling of the emotional suffering being experienced, the 'charge' is then gone, sanity results and the circumstances must necessarily stop recurring given our vibrational universe?For example, I seem to experience more than my fair share of 'water events', leaks, road floods, bursting pipes.  A friend encounters nests of various descriptions, birds, wasps, ants repeatedly and another friend is in the wrong place at the wrong time when heated arguments on the street break out.  But even if it's a one-off event, like when I had my phone stolen out of my hand, was even that, single trigger informing me of something going on within me, such that it occurred or even could occur?

What can we do when faced with personal criticism? 

 I know the theme of others not being interested in what I have to say (for example) is present/recurring but I can't find a feeling in my body when I attempt to sit with this.  If I think I about it, really try to bring it to mind and make it matter in the moment, I can cry perhaps, but then it's the feeling of crying.  Does it take practice for a localised sensation to become clear maybe?  

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On the food webinar, I am going back to the “no brainers” at the end that you suggest. Not so sure how to identify a “no brainer” because it seems so wrapped up in behavior and “correcting” a wrong behavior. (I have many beautiful practices in the morning time that connect me with truth of living, evening is the time where all the “restriction/no restrictions worries come in) Even the books recommended on the food webinar — going into the details of what to eat or when and where or “good” and “bad” foods is right where everything gets stirred up for me. I tried listening to Alan Carrs guide to emotional eating about a year ago and had extreme reactions to his making certain foods good and other foods bad. Couple that with my sisters health journey she ate spinach and sweet potatoes and almonds and more for so so many years thinking she was eating the “good” foods and she now has extreme oxylate toxicity and bone deterioration. So there’s that. (Can you hear and feel how feelings and thoughts are ramped up?So I suppose there’s another question in here. I want to establish a few no brainers for the evening and need help with that. 

My question is about expectations in relationship. You often here in spiritual circles "let go of expectations". I am seeing more and more the less expectation we have of others and the more aligned we are to ourselves, other people's actions affect us far less. When do not have any expectation to have our needs met and we forgive people's actions easily,  I can feel myself being a bit boundary less and letting anything go. Can you see a question in this? I do not want to repeat past misunderstandings that someone has to change for me as I don't like how they are being..

Hello Clare, I have listened to your book REAL and I absolutely loved it.  It helped my mental health a lot.  But I have difficulty living by this concept when it comes to my physical health. I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and due to that Cranio Cervical Instability. It is a horrible condition , which has absolutely destroyed my life. I have been bedbound for 2 years.  I can't work. I can't meet friends .  I can't read. The only thing I can do is watching movies and listening to music. This is a very rare condition and the doctors say there is no chance for it to get better.  I was 21 when I got sick. Now I am 27. Right now I am still fighting and trying out different things because the idea of accepting my current state is unbearable.  It is even hard to write this message because it is difficult for me to think... I have found  a few people online who say the y got better but they did a million things for that and I don't know if I have the energy to do that...  I would love to hear you opinion on this situation. .. 

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Seven day mini series on Resources #1 Time#2 Energy#3 Money#4 Attention#5 Compassion #6 Will # 7 Capacity 

#6. Will Seven day mini series: #1 Time#2 Energy#3 Money#4 Attention#5 Compassion #6 Will # 7 Capacity 

#1 Time#2 Energy#3 Money#4 Attention#5 Compassion #6 Will # 7 Capacity 

7 part mini-series #1 Time#2 Energy#3 Money#4 Attention#5 Compassion #6 Will # 7 Capacity 

Our third 'Resource' of our seven part series 1. Time2. Energy3. Money4. Attention5. Compassion6. Will7. Capacity

Seven day Resources mini-series. Episode 2 Energy

Seven day mini series on Resources. Episode 1. Time. 

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I wonder if you could say something on the podcast about death. I have just suddenly lost my husband - one second we were sitting chatting, the next he he had a sudden cardiac arrest and was dead before he hit the ground. So, yes I am in shock. But I am also struggling even to believe in death, let alone "understand" it. What is it? How can it be? I know you lost your father when you were younger. Please, where and how does death fit in with everything in this understanding? You said everything is a reflection of our inner reality. You won't upset me whatever you say as I truly want to know how this might work here. I am utterly stunned and bereft and feel quite unreal, but I feel a need to try and get a sense of what death and dying even is, if that doesn't sound too stupid, as it just doesn't even seem believable right now.Mary OliverIn Blackwater WoodsLook, the treesare turningtheir own bodiesinto pillars of light,are giving off the richfragrance of cinnamonand fulfillment, the long tapersof cattailsare bursting and floating away overthe blue shoulders of the ponds,and every pond,no matter what itsname is, is nameless now.Every yeareverythingI have ever learned in my lifetimeleads back to this: the firesand the black river of losswhose other side is salvation,whose meaningnone of us will ever know.To live in this world you must be ableto do three things:to love what is mortal;to hold it against your bones knowingyour own life depends on it;and, when the time comes to let itgo,to let it go. |    

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I was listening to your last podcast and something you said around 'no truth in what the mind is projecting',  made me think, maybe that's not true?!  My mind projects something and it seems to come true time after time.  Can you say a little about this?

If I'm not mistaken I heard you say on a Food webinar to use a bit of will power with no brainer behaviours.I was wondering how this fits together with no doer? 

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Levels of consciousness and intelligence

Comment from Tony on this video Noticing of late quite strong resistance from my conceptual mind to challenge these explorations.  This is interspersed with some periods of beautifully deep inner calm and a connective knowing of a kind where the simplest things are paying off with exquisite moments of joy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKVFz8XCFb8&lc=UgwFwJdBTaeGgTqMf7p4AaABAg.9r37u-1-Aik9r3bbpLiInf

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I had (what I thought was) an epiphany about restriction.  I have a lot of thoughts around being restricted or told what or what not to do or to eat.  So I thought, hmmm. Maybe I think of restriction as a problem.  My mom controlled what I ate, along with my family and even my dad up until he was 90!.    So if restriction is a problem, my solution was no restrictions.  I gave up restricting myself with any foods or food groups.  Trying to understand if this was even what might fit into this idea has still confused me.  I am not certain I understand well, and not even sure I am explaining this with clarity.  I also know I see (my) overeating as a big problem.  So if overeating is a problem and then the solution is to restrict, there we go with the restriction.  But here it is a solution.  Can you take this confusing question and make it any more clear to me using these examples of overeating/restriction/no restrictions?

When the thought arises about food when our bellies start to rumble, and our attractions towards our addictions are so intense that we begin to get agitated with the people that love us, and all we can think about is eating.How do we stay present, not react to the feeling of starving ourselves and offload our anger onto others when we feel we are the only ones important. Like a dog to a bone 😂🤗🌹

I'm a GP and see people every day who are struggling with anxiety and depression. The focus is very much on getting rid of symptoms which, as part of this group, we understand are helpful.In short 10 minute consultations, time is very limited. Any thoughts on how such an opposing perspective could be communicated in such a time limited situation?I recommend books / resources to my patients and always try to leave them feeling hopeful and highlight that they're not broken even when it really looks to them that they are.Thanks for your thoughts on this.

Why do we simultaneously crave and avoid connection? Listener question 

I just listened to the podcast this morning about the core identity and I’m wondering - how do we get though periods when ALL areas of the identity are being challenged simultaneously - the deep really painful layers, how do we still show up and function?  I’m feeling bombarded :(

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This is the most downloaded of all our podcasts. I am republishing it today as follow on from last week's FOOD webinar. 'Easy way to quit emotional eating' Allen Carr (the Sunday book)