If you’re anything like us, parenting—and most certainly parenting under quarantine—can feel tedious, exhausting, mundane, and sometimes downright maddening! Yet time and again parents say some of their deepest joys in life stem from the time shared with their children. In this rich episode, Yael speaks with parenting expert Dr. Daphne de Marneffe, author of Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life. They discuss the challenges of parenting for women. They talk about navigating seemingly competing interests in a manner that allows you to manage the stressors more wisely and experience more pleasure, when and where you can. Listen and Learn: The value of parenting for our children and ourselvesHow parenthood makes us more skillful in the workplace The value in being “around and there” (even if you are distracted)The emotional complexity of childcare Making household tasks feel less chore-likeWhy time is so important in our relationship with our childrenHow to value and honor the difficulties in parentingAnd how to value, honor, and take advantage of the times when we make parenting mistakes. Dr. Daphne De Marnefe About Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Daphne de Marneffe, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, couples and parenting expert, and author of Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life and The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together. Dr. de Marneffe’s clinical work and writing are informed by developmental psychology and her decades of experience treating couples and parents. Her work has been published in academic journals and the popular press, including The New York Times, and she is a contributing editor to Parents Magazine where she writes a regular column on couple relationships. Dr. De Marneffe received a B.A. from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from U.C. Berkeley. Resources: Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life, by Dr. Daphne de MarneffeThe Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, by Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Daphne’s website Other Resources for Parents During Quarantine A preprint of the article “First Things First: Parent Psychological Flexibility and Self-Compassion during COVID-19,” by Lisa Coyne, Evelyn Gould, Mikala Grimaldi, Kelly Wilson, Gabriel Baffuto, Anthony Biglan. 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) can be paralyzing and severely affect one’s life. Successfully diagnosing and treating OCD in the teen years gives young people their lives back by helping them meaningfully re-engage with friends, school, and life in general rather than losing hours a day to awful and unwanted thoughts. In this episode, Jill talks with OCD expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, author of The ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD: Unhook Yourself and Live Life to the Full by Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D.about this new resource that combines the best of Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to successfully treat teens who struggle with OCD. Listen and Learn: What is Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)?Why combine ERP and ACT for teens with OCD?Fun exercises like Scrambling and Singing Your Obsessions to engage teens Why this OCD expert adds “choice points” to every exposure session About Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona Dr. Patricia E. Zurita Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, or “Dr. Z.,” is a licensed clinical psychologist, founder of the East Bay Therapy Center in Walnut Creek, California, and author The ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD. She is also a faculty member at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California and has authored Escaping the Emotional Roller Coaster: ACT for the Emotionally Sensitive and coauthored Parenting a Troubled Teen: Manage Conflict and Deal with Intense Emotions with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Dr. Zurita Ona specializes in treating obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), trauma, anxiety and emotion regulation issues and works with children, teens, and adults. She is passionate about helping her clients unhook from fear to live the lives they were meant to live. Dr. Zurita Ona was born and raised in Bolivia and received her Psy.D. from the Wright Institute. Resources actbeyondOCD.com: Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona’s online class for people struggling with OCDThe ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD: Unhook Yourself and Live Life to the Full by Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D.Living Beyond OCD: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for OCD by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D. (published in October 2020)Parenting a Troubled Teen: Manage Conflict and Deal with Intense Emotions with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D., Matthew McKay, Ph.D., and Kirk Stroshal, Ph.D.Escaping the Emotional Roller Coaster: ACT for the Emotionally Sensitive by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D. 108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? with Hope Arnold (Part 1)79. Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud54. Anxiety in Children and Adolescents with Dr. Veronica Raggi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trying to drag people to change doesn’t work. Motivational Interviewing (MI) is a collaborative approach that increases people’s inner motivation and commitment to positive change. Motivational Interviewing is used across numerous settings including weight loss, exercise, smoking, substance use, teaching, coaching and supports people in making change for themselves. In this episode, Diana interviews the co-founder of Motivational Interviewing, Dr. Stephen Rollnick. He discusses the power of empathy and open-ended questions as he demonstrates the spirit of Motivational Interviewing. He offers communication strategies you can use as a parent, teacher, coach, health care worker, partner or friend. “The more we try to persuade people to change, tell them why it was a good idea, tell them how to go about it, the harder they seem to kick back.”Stephen Rollnick Listen and Learn How to use empathy to respond to ambivalence and resistanceHow you can speak with somebody to get the best out of themWhy being a problem solver isn’t always helpfulWhy affirmation is more powerful than praise when it comes to changeHow Motivational Interviewing is used in health care, pediatric AIDS and with athletesWhy being an expert can backfireHow even the co-founder of Motivational Interviewing falls into traps of pushing for change About Stephen Rollnick Dr. Stephen Rollnick Dr. Stephen Rollnick is a co-founder of Motivational Interviewing.  He an Honorary Distinguished Professor in the School of Medicine in Cardiff University, Wales, UK with a research record focused on good practice in efforts to promote change and behavior change among patients, clients and the practitioners who serve them. His work has included support to programs for pregnant teens, children with HIV-AIDS in Africa and medication adherence in different areas.  He is a co-founder of PATA (Paediatric Aids Treatment for Africa) and the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT), an international network for trainers.  He is the co-author of Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change (Miller and Rollnick, 1991; 2001 & 2012), Health Behaviour Change: A Guide for Practitioners (Rollnick, Mason & Butler, 1999) and Motivational Interviewing in Health Care (Rollnick, Miller & Butler, 2008), Motivational Interviewing in Schools (2016) and Coaching Athletes to Be Their Best: Motivational Interviewing in Sports (2020). Resources for Motivational Interviewing Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change by Willaim Miller and Stephen RollnickMotivational Interviewing in Health Care by Stephen Rollnick, William Miller, and Christopher ButlerCoaching Athletes to Be Their Best: Motivational Interviewing in Sports by Stephen Rollnick, Johnathan Fader, and Jeff Breckon 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hilary Connery66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Dr. Nadine Mastroleo72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran3. The Science of Self-Compassion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are facing an unprecedented challenge of how to work, parent, homeschool, and partner in the time of the Coronavirus Pandemic. During this tragedy, many of us have felt overwhelmed by the nuts and bolts of maintaining our most important life roles. In this episode, Yael and Diana draw from psychology research, personal experience, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We discuss strategies to keep our heads above water in each of our life roles while keeping an eye towards finding slivers of possibility to support our work, parenting, and relationships during this quarantine. Listen and learn: How to soothe your nervous system when stressed-outStrategies to engage self-compassion and psychological flexibility How to take breaks, find meaning, and explore the possibilityPerspective shifting so that you can manage expectations, mistakes, and challengesTo look for opportunities for growth and joy in our parenting, work, and relationshipsWays to make room for complex emotions How to support positive connections between work, parenting, and relationships while quarantined Resources: Blessings of a Skinned Knee: Raising Self-Reliant Children, by Wendy Mogel Learn more about self-compassion and resilience: 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer22. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson Ideas for Parenting Effectively and Compassionately: 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak Ideas for Managing Work Under Difficult Circumstances 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin73. Essentialism With Greg McKeown83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance130. Working Less with Dr. Alex Pang Ideas for Maintaining Healthy Partnerships 21. Fostering A Connected Partnership61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Dr. Avigail Lev92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Learn about Values and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Robyn Walser, a frequent guest of the podcast, and Debbie explore how we can be our “better angels” in the midst of these extreme challenges. We can do this by making values-based decisions, while still caring for ourselves and our loved ones. Dr. Walser discusses strategies for effectively caring for one’s mental health in this current moment of extreme trauma and stress, and beyond. We talk about mental health factors like anxiety, alcohol/substance abuse, and sleep. Then we explore how we can come together collectively to find meaning and hope during these difficult times with the new coronavirus, COVID-19. During this time of global crisis with COVID-19, many of us are experiencing fear, sadness, anger, and anxiety. We are all impacted by this pandemic, directly or indirectly, and many are experiencing a high level of stress. Therefore, it is a time when caring for both physical and mental wellness, is more important than ever. About Robyn Walser Dr. Robyn Walser Dr. Walser is staff at the National Center for PTSD, co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Center and is an Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice. Dr. Walser is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has co-authored 5 books on ACT including Learning ACT, 2nd Edition, The Mindful Couple, ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care, and The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Resources Former podcast guest and ACT co-founder Steve Hayes’s blog post on How to be a Corona Virus Hero.Self-care guide in the time of COVID-19 by Dr. Andrea Birnbaum Tips from our former podcast guest Tara Mohr on Handling Tensions While Stuck at Home Together Centers for Disease Control and Prevention websiteCOVID Coach: Free mobile app from the National Center for PTSD designed to help EVERYONE in the community cope with feelings of stress and anxiety in response to the COVID-19 pandemicOnline course, Treating Trauma with ACT, with Dr. Robyn Walser Books by Pema Chodron Supporting Mental Health The Wisdom of No Escape: and the Path of Loving-Kindness Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate LivingWhen Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion 44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth49. Empowering Women with Dr. Robyn Walser102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know we “should” move our bodies but some of us struggle with wanting to or get caught up in complicated, negative and rule-bound messages about how to move our bodies. Join Jill for an uplifting and motivating discussion with Dr. McGonigal, author of The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage about the intrinsic power of movement for everybody, and ways to change your relationship with physical exercise so your brain comes to actually like, want, and need it! Listen and Learn: Tips to train your brain to find joy in movementThe surprising upside of lactic acidHow exercise improves and enhances social connection/communityThe power of moving in synchrony. About Dr. Kelly McGonigal: Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D. is a health psychologist, a lecturer at Stanford University, and best-selling author of The Upside of Stress and The Willpower Instinct. She also helped design the Stanford Compassion Cultivation Training, a course originally developed for the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism, that is now offered worldwide to help individuals cultivate greater empathy, compassion, and social connection. Dr. McGonigal has spent decades researching and steeping herself in neuroscience, health psychology, and movement practices and is deeply committed to translating the latest research from these fields to help others experience improved health, happiness, and wellbeing. Dr. McGonigal received her Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford University and a B.A. in psychology and B.S. in Communications from Boston University. Resources: Kellymcgonigal.comThe Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage by Kelly McGonigal, PhD The Upside of Stress: Why Stress is Good for You and How to Get Good at It by Kelly McGonigal, PhDThe Willpower Instinct: How Self Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It by Kelly McGonigal, PhDYoga for Pain Relief: Simple Practices to Calm Your Mind and Heal Your Body by Kelly McGonigal, PhD 43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman, M.S.129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Dr. Jennifer Webb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Diana in a short Pranayama or yogic breathing meditation. Take 10 minutes to savor the present moment and your breath! Related Psychologists Off The Clock Episodes 81. A Gift For You: 10 Min Breathing Meditation70. A Gift For You: Loving-Kindness Meditation122. Taking in the Good with Dr. Rick Hanson114. The Way of Effortless Mindfulness with Loch Kelly Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stress and anxiety levels are high right now due to the spread of the COVID-19 virus. In this episode, Dr. Stephen Porges offers us a model of our physiology of threat and strategies to boost feelings of safeness, especially with COVID-19 anxiety. Through the lens of Polyvagal theory, Dr. Porges and Diana explore what it means to be human in the face of infectious disease, trauma, and global uncertainty. “To be able to be supportive to those who are around us if they're feeling anxious or uncomfortable, we can't just say to them, ‘forget it, it's not important.’ Polyvagal Theory says our goal, our responsibility, is to support those around us so that they feel safer.”Dr. Stephen Porges Listen and Learn: How Debbie and Diana are responding to current their own COVID-19 anxiety.What “prosocial distancing” is, and how you can participate.Debbie and Diana’s tips for refocusing on values, improving mental health, and maintaining social connection.How the Vagus Nerve regulates our response to stress.The heart-face connection and its role in feeling safe.Why your eyes and voice matter in co-regulating others. How the Polyvagal Theory informs our current understanding of trauma and treatment.The benefits of chanting, singing, and breathing together! Stephen Porges About Dr. Stephen Porges Stephen W. Porges, Ph.D. is a Distinguished University Scientist at Indiana University where he is the founding director of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium. He is Professor of Psychiatry at the University of North Carolina, and Professor Emeritus at both the University of Illinois at Chicago and the University of Maryland.  He served as president of the Society for Psychophysiological Research and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral & Brain Sciences and is a former recipient of a National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Development Award. He has published more than 300 peer-reviewed papers across several disciplines including anesthesiology, biomedical engineering, critical care medicine, ergonomics, exercise physiology, gerontology, neurology, neuroscience, obstetrics, pediatrics, psychiatry, psychology, psychometrics, space medicine, and substance abuse. In 1994 he proposed the Polyvagal Theory, a theory that links the evolution of the mammalian autonomic nervous system to social behavior and emphasizes the importance of the physiological state in the expression of behavioral problems and psychiatric disorders. The theory is leading to innovative treatments based on insights into the mechanisms mediating symptoms observed in several behavioral, psychiatric, and physical disorders. He is the author of The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton, 2011), The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe, (Norton, 2017) and co-editor of Clinical Applications of the Polyvagal Theory: The Emergence of Polyvagal-Informed Therapies (Norton, 2018).  He is the creator of a music-based intervention, the Safe and Sound Protocol ™, which currently is used by more than 1400 therapists to improve spontaneous social engagement, to reduce hearing sensitivities, and to improve language processing, state regulation, and spontaneous social engagement. Resources: The Safe and Sound Protocol by Stephen PorgesMore information about Stephen Porges Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation by Stephen PorgesThe Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe by Stephen PorgesSanta Barbara Song Circles Facebook group: Community Singing Network of the Central CoastWorldwide Song Circles: singworldwide.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Alex Pang is back on the podcast to discuss his new book, Shorter: Work Better, Smarter, and Less - Here's How. Last time he came on the show (Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Pang), Alex told our listeners about the surprising benefits of deliberate rest on productivity and creativity. In his new book, he takes his ideas to a new level by exploring how organizations can help prevent burnout and dissatisfaction, and even increase profits, by shifting to shorter workweeks. In an era where overworking has been the norm, many of us feel we have to put in long hours at the office, and then go home to work even more. With modern technology, many feel the pressure to be working constantly. But a culture of overworking can be costly to individuals, leading to burnout and dissatisfaction. For organizations, a culture of overwork can lead to high turnover and employees who are less productive and creative than they could be. By taking a fresh perspective on how we structure our work into shorter workweeks, Dr. Pang offers a hopeful alternative, backed up by research and successful examples, of a new workplace culture that supports a better work-life balance for all. Listen and Learn: How shorter workweeks can lead to…Increased retention More creative and focused workSustained productivity and profitabilityReduced office stigma About Dr. Alex Pang Dr. Alex Pang is the author of four books, including Shorter: Work Better, Smarter, and Less - Here's How, and Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less. He is the founder of Strategy and Rest, a consultancy devoted to helping companies and individuals harness the power of rest to shorten our workdays while staying focused and productive. He has given talks and workshops around the world about the 4-day week and the future of work, and how deliberate rest makes creative careers more productive and sustainable. Related Psychologists Off The Clock Episodes: Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Pang Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do you find yourself relating to your body as a physical being rather than a physical object? Celebrating what it can do for you instead of fixating on how it looks in the mirror? If you’re like most people, not often! All too often we find ourselves comparing how our body looks to narrowly-defined cultural ideals that are unhealthy, unsustainable, and just plain inaccessible!  In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Webb, associate professor at UNC Charlotte, and Yael discuss strategies for responding to the cultural messages that we receive in ways that cultivate body kindness and inclusivity. Listen and Learn: How looking at our body as process is more useful than looking at our body as an objectHow body shaming de-motivates healthy behaviors How to integrate an acceptance and commitment therapy take on “body flexibility”Specific practices to cultivate body flexibility and kindness About Dr. Webb: Jennifer Webb, Ph.D., is a clinical health psychologist and Associate Professor in the Department of Psychological Sciences at the University of North Carolina (UNC) in Charlotte, North Carolina. Dr. Webb is also the Director of the MIND-BATCH Lab at UNC Charlotte, which is dedicated to furthering research about positive psychology, mindfulness, body acceptance, culture, and health. Her research is informed by multiculturally inclusive values and Dr. Webb is specifically interested in the experience of young ethnic minority women as well as the effects of weight-related body shaming and the mind-body connection on appetite, metabolism, and weight. Dr. Webb received her bachelor’s degree in Cognitive Neuroscience from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Southern California. Resources: To learn more about Jennifer’s research, follow these links: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Jennifer_Webb2https://www.researchgate.net/lab/MIND-BATCH-Lab-Jennifer-B-WebbRealizing Yoga’s All-Access Pass: A Social Justice Critique of Westernized Yoga and Inclusive MovementIs “Yoga Bod” the New Skinny?: A Comparative Content Analysis of Mainstream of Yoga Lifestyle Magazine CoversThe interview with Jennifer on the Body Kindness podcast To learn more about yoga inclusivity resources, check out the following: Yoga and Body Image CoalitionAccessible YogaDecolonizing YogaBody Positive YogaCurvy YogaJessamyn StanleyDianne BondyYes! Yoga Has Curves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

According to Dr. Rhonda Merwin, individuals with anorexia and low weight are, “doing exactly what society has told them makes sense to be a good person.” At the same time, having anorexia and being over-controlled with food narrows your life, increases preoccupation with weight, and has negative health consequences. ACT offers a novel approach to treating eating disorders. By stepping back from eating disorder thoughts, identifying values and increasing acceptance and willingness, men and women can gain headway in recovery from one of the most difficult mental health issues. In this episode, Diana talks with Dr. Rhonda Merwin, Associate Professor at Duke University Medical Center and lead author of ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians about ways to apply ACT to find freedom from anorexia and restrictive eating.   In honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, this episode is dedicated to all who are seeking recovery in their relationship with food and weight. May you find peace. #NEDAwareness #ComeAsYouAre Listen and Learn The power of appreciating the benefits of an eating disorderWhy some people at higher risk for anorexia or restrictive eatingWhy ACT is especially effective for anorexia and disordered eatingWhat functional analysis is and how to use it to assess and treat disordered eatingWhat it means to be “emotion phobic” and how it relates to restrictive eatingWhy over-working, people-pleasing, and being compliant are often linked to anorexiaHow to create a more flexible sense of self that is not coupled with the eating disorderThe role that self-parenting plays in recovery from an eating disorderWhat is it really like to have ACT co-founder Kelly Wilson as your mentor? About Dr. Rhonda Merwin Rhonda Merwin, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and Associate Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Duke Medical Center. She conducts research on the mechanisms and treatment of eating disorders, specifically restrictive eating disorders and eating disorders in the context of Type 1 Diabetes. Dr. Merwin is also a Peer-Reviewed ACT Trainer, the Director of the ACT at Duke University Clinical and Training Program, and lead author of ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians. Resources ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians, by Rhonda Merwin, Ph.D., Nancy Zucker, Ph.D., and Kelley Wilson, PhDACT at Duke.org for further information about Dr. Merwin’s research and educational and clinical activitiesAppetite Awareness Training with Dr. Linda Craighead, Psychologists Off the Clock Episode #18Self Care, Kindness and Living Well with Dr. Kelly Wilson, Psychologists Off the Clock Episode #65 Diana with Dr. Rhonda Merwin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you find yourself so distracted by your phone, email, text, or social media that it’s pulling you away from things that matter? According to Nir Eyal, author of the best-selling book Indistractable, technology is not the enemy. We merely need to learn how to identify and manage the internal and external triggers that lead to distraction and make more time for traction--showing up for what matters. Join Jill for her first Psychologists Off The Clock interview with Nir Eyal as they talk about how to make yourself indistractable. Listen and Learn: What is distraction, and its opposite, tractionWhy we get so easily distractedWhat are internal and external triggers of distractionHow we can change our relationship to internal triggersHow we can change our environment to “hack back” external distractions About Nir Eyal Nir Eyal writes, consults, and teaches about the intersection of psychology, technology, and business. The M.I.T. Technology Review dubbed Nir, "The Prophet of Habit-Forming Technology." Nir founded two tech companies and has taught at the Stanford Graduate School of Business (where he also attended) and the Hasso Plattner Institute of Design at Stanford. He is the author of two bestselling books, Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products and Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. Indistractable received critical acclaim, winning the 2019 Outstanding Works of Literature (OWL) Award as well as being named one of the Best Business and Leadership Books of the Year by Amazon and one of the Best Personal Development Books of the Year by Audible.  Nir's writing has been featured in The Harvard Business Review, Time Magazine, and Psychology Today. He also writes a blog at nirandfar.com Resources Watch Nir’s TED talk hereNir’s website with access to his books, blog, courses, supplemental Indistractable workbook, and more can be found at www.nirandfar.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Breaking up is hard to do, and time-stamped events (like, say, Valentine’s Day) can make the pain of a broken heart stand out even more than usual. As painful as it may feel, you’re not alone in what you’re experiencing. Join Yael and Debbie for a conversation about common responses to break-ups and how you can take steps towards healing. Join us as we draw from psychological science, clinical examples, and personal experiences to discuss practices that can help you to mend your heart. Listen and Learn: Why you might have such extreme emotional responses (or not) in response to breaking up.How to turn towards your pain with openness and acceptance Strategies to manage the pain and prevent persistent sufferingThe role of self-compassion, forgiveness, and seeking kindnessHow to translate pain into wisdom and growthAnd, most importantly, that whatever you are experiencing, you are not alone Resources: How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy WinchThe Wisdom of a Broken Heart by Susan PiversThe Divorce Recovery Workbook by Mark Rye and Crystal Dea MooreThe Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path of Healing Ourselves and Our World, by Desmond TutuPodcast Episodes on Grief (Bearing Unbearable Loss with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore) and Self-Compassion (Mindful Self-Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer)Guided Self-Compassion Meditations from Dr. Kristen Neff Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you could slow down the clock on your aging? According to aging expert and Harvard geneticist, Dr. David Sinclair, we now have the knowledge and technology to live longer lives, healthier. In his revolutionary research, Dr. Sinclair has identified mechanisms behind aging giving us clues into the behaviors and molecules that can potentially extend life.  Listen and Learn: Why is aging a disease and how can it be slowedWhat are longevity genes and what role do they play in healthWhat is epigenetics and how does it relate to aging and healthWhat is hormesis and why is being too comfortable bad for our longevityWhat behavioral strategies can you start today that will lead to a longer lifeWhat molecules Dr. Sinclair’s lab is researching that could be our future fountain of youthWhat are the social and individual impacts of living longer with more healthWhat does Dr. David Sinclair do each day to activate his longevity genes Resources: Lifespan: Why we age and why we don’t have to by David SinclairThe Harvard Study of Adult Development About David Sinclair David A. Sinclair, Ph.D., A.O. is a Professor in the Department of Genetics and co-Director of the Paul F. Glenn Center for the Biology of Aging at Harvard Medical School. He is best known for his work on understanding why we age and how to slow its effects. He obtained his Ph.D. in Molecular Genetics at the University of New South Wales, Sydney in 1995. He worked as a postdoctoral researcher at M.I.T. with Dr. Leonard Guarente where he co-discovered a cause of aging for yeast as well as the role of Sir2 in epigenetic changes driven by genome instability. In 1999 he was recruited to Harvard Medical School where he has been teaching aging biology and translational medicine for aging for the past 16 years. Dr. Sinclair is co-founder of several biotechnology companies (Sirtris, Ovascience, Genocea, Cohbar, MetroBiotech, ArcBio, Liberty Biosecurity) and is on the boards of several others. He is also co-founder and co-chief editor of the journal Aging. His work is featured in five books, two documentary movies, 60 Minutes, Morgan Freeman’s “Through the Wormhole” and other media. He is an inventor on 35 patents and has received more than 25 awards and honors including the TIME magazine’s list of the “100 most influential people in the world”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you want to move your body more but find it hard to fit movement into your schedule and valued activities? It’s not your fault! According to Katy Bowman, bio-mechanist and movement specialist, our modern environment is a mismatch for our movement needs. Katy Bowman offers us some out of the box solutions to build a movement rich life that is optimal for physical, social and emotional health. Join Diana for a thought-provoking and empowering discussion with Katy Bowman about the benefits of “nutritious” movement and a plethora of simple movement opportunities to stave off the slow steady trickle of movement loss that happens as we age. Listen and Learn: What are diseases of captivity?What is nutritious movement? And how are we engaging in “junk food” movementWhy squatting, hanging and walking are essential macro-movements The difference between exercise and movementTips for evaluating where and how to add “move more” options into your day About Katy Bowman, M.S. Katy Bowman, M.S. is a biomechanical scientist, author and educator. She has written eight books on diseases of captivity and the value of re-introducing movement into our daily lives, including Move Your DNA: Restore Your Health Through Natural Movement. Katy directs and teaches at the Nutritious Movement Center Northwest in Sequim, Washington and leads classes, workshops and retreats both internationally and online. She also hosts an award-winning podcast, consults on how to create movement rich communities and educational spaces, and is frequently interviewed on TV shows like NBC’s Today Show. Katy received her Master of Science in Kinesiology and Biomechanics from California State University Northridge. Resources Learn more about Nutritious Movement at Katy’s websiteLearn more about Poco Organic FarmSome of Our Favorite Books by Katy Bowman:Move Your DNA: Restore Your Health Through Natural Movement, by Katy BowmanDynamic Ageing: Simple Exercises for Whole Body Mobility, by Katy Bowman, M.S. with Joan Virginia Allen, Shelah M. Wilgus, Lora Woods, and Joyce FaberMovement Matters: Essays on Movement Science, Movement Ecology, and the Nature of Movement by Katy Bowman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’re a parent you’ve likely had your buttons pushed by your toddler in the throes of a tantrum. We know we have! It’s downright difficult to handle your toddler’s distress and maintain your cool when they’re howling about you doing it “all wrong” … for the sixth time today. In this episode Yael speaks with Dr. Schrag Hershberg, a clinical psychologist and author of The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again, about what tantrums are, how to reduce their frequency and duration, and new and creative ways for parents to manage their own responses to these developmentally appropriate emotional meltdowns. Listen and Learn: What are tantrums and what function do they serve?Strategies to reduce the intensity, frequency, and duration of tantrumsCommon causes of toddler tantrumsHow to reconnect with that loving feeling during a meltdown or painful developmental phaseCreative ways to interrupt a tantrumWhy timeouts and tantrums don’t mixStriking the balance between love and limits About Dr. Schrag Hershberg: Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and founder of the Little House Calls Psychological Services which is based in New York and aimed at helping parents and families manage early childhood challenges. Dr. Schrag Hershberg is also the mother of two young boys and the author of The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again. She Resources: The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D.“Stop Posting You Child’s Tantrum on Instagram” New York Times August 22, 2019 Opinion Page Article by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D. and Daniel T. Willingham, Ph.D.“To Give In or Not Give in” Psychology Today Blog Post by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg“Just Another Gratitude Post” Psychology Today Blog Post by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg“Beautiful Two’s” from Joel Mitchell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your brain is “Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones,” according to neuropsychologist Dr. Rick Hanson. What if you could re-wire your brain to be more grateful, loving, and resilient? In today’s episode, Dr. Hanson offers strategies to use self-directed neuroplasticity changing your brain for the good and developing resilience and wellbeing. Dr. Hanson is a senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, a pioneer in the field of positive neuroplasticity, and teaches how taking in moments of good can sculpt your brain for the better. Listen in to hear Diana and Rick Hanson embark on a heartfelt and deeply personal discussion about developing resilient wellbeing one day at a time. Dr. Hanson shares wisdom from his recent book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness. Start developing key inner strengths like grit, compassion, and gratitude today! The brain is continually being changed...the only question is, 'is it being changed for the better and who is doing the changing?’Rick Hanson Listen and Learn: What is self-directed neuroplasticityHow to shift our brain’s negativity bias toward inner qualities of wisdom, love, and enduranceStrategies to face our middle of the night fears and what Diana does to soothe her threat systemTips on matching specific inner resources and threatsHow to grow psychological resources using the H.E.A.L. practice for developing resilience and wellbeing SPECIAL OFFER for Psychologists Off the Clock Listeners Join Rick Hanson's Foundations of Well-Being program Save $40! Enter Promo Code OFFTHECLOCK40 Become stronger, calmer, and happier with weekly practices and tools from Rick Hanson!This step-by-step journey will help you build the inner strengths you need to hand whatever life throws your way. Lifetime access, 30-Day Money-Back Guarantee, and Mental health professionals can earn 20 CE credits. About Dr. Hanson: Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence. Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology, and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute. Resources: Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Foundations of Wellbeing, Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity. Enter OFFTHECLOCK40 to save $40!!!The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomResilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson PhD Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women of the world, are you stressed out and worried? Do you find yourself up fretting at 4 a.m.? If so, you’re not alone! In a culture where women are expected to look perfect, juggle relationships and career effortlessly, and “just deal” with the harsh realities of misogyny and gender inequities, is it any wonder we’re also twice as likely to be stressed out, overwhelmed, and anxious? Fortunately, there are real tools you can use now to build resilience in a difficult world, conquer your stress and frustrations, and live mightily. In this episode, we talk with our mighty new co-host, Dr. Jill Stoddard, about her new book Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry & Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance. The book teaches you to respond more consciously to life’s daily triggers, discover what really matters to you, and connect with your most authentic self. Listen and Learn: Some fun facts about our new co-host, Jill, and about her work!Why so many women and girls are stressed out and anxious these daysAbout the difference between anxiety and stressWhy we have anxiety and the upside of stressA unique approach, based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, for responding effectively to anxiety and stressHow to respond effectively to your inner criticWays women can support each other and work toward prevailing over systems of power Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry & Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance Resources: Jill’s book Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance.Kelly McGonigal’s TED TALK on StressJill’s blog post “When You Stress About Stress You Are Stressed”McKinsey article “When Women Lead, Workplaces Should Listen”Writing Class Radio elephant hatsBook The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed as You Are by Alicia MenendezWebsite for Rikke Kjelgaard, who offers the online course Fierce, Fabulous, and FemaleBook Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead by Tara Mohr (and be sure to check out our interview with Tara Mohr!)Book WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of us have a harder time managing our emotions. Therefore, we find ourselves engaging in destructive behaviors to cope. Enter Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan, DBT is proven to help people manage overwhelming emotions. It does so by teaching people specific change-based strategies. Because of this, DBT skills help people regulate their emotions. In this episode, Diana speaks with psychologist and author Dr. Matthew McKay. They discuss his newly revised book, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance. In this book, Dr. McKay makes traditional DBT skills more practical and accessible to everyone. Because let’s be honest. We could all use skills to help us more effectively downregulate strong emotions from time to time! “Helping people get down-regulation skills is really important, not only to help them feel better emotionally but to also help them lead less impulsive and dangerous lives.”Dr. Matthew McKay Listen and Learn Key DBT skills useful in regulating emotionsWhat three behaviors perpetuate emotion dysregulationWhy some people are better at regulating their emotions than othersTips to reduce emotional vulnerability About Dr. McKay Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. He is the co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic with Robyn Walser. Dr. McKay is the co-founded Haight Ashbury Psychological Services, a low-fee community clinic in San Francisco, CA. He is the founder of New Harbinger Publications. Dr. McKay received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology. Dr. McKay is also an accomplished writer. He has authored many books including “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook,” “The New Happiness: Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention,” “The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook,” “Self-Esteem, Thoughts and Feelings,” “When Anger Hurts,” and “ACT on Life Not on Anger.” Resources for Practicing DBT Skills The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, Ph.D., Jeffery Wood, PsyD, and Jeffery Brantley, MD The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Card Deck: 52 Practices to Balance Your Emotions Everyday by Matthew McKay, Ph.D. and Jeffery Wood, Psy.D. 85. Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2)108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? with Hope Arnold (Part 1) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The holiday season means joy and connection, but it also means an onslaught of stressors. It can be helpful to think about how to manage the challenges more effectively, as well as enhance the positive elements of what the holidays bring. Many of our previous episodes can help us do just that! In this episode, we point you to previous episodes that can help you navigate the holidays. Episodes to help you manage holiday stressors: For managing the stressors of political debates, check out Episode 51: The Psychology of Political Division To deal with difficult family members who fail to ask you about your life, listen to Episode 98: On Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser To manage the challenges of drinking problems often exacerbated during the holidays, check out Episode 101: The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hilary Connery For those of us struggling with loss at this time of year, listen to Episode 117: Bearing Unbearable Loss with Joanne Cacciatore Take a soothing rhythm break with Episode 89: A Gift For You: Soothing Rhythm Breathing Episodes to enhance the positive elements of the holidays: Build your resilience and self-kindness Episode 75: Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer To prepare for success with keeping New Year’s resolutions (you can do it!), listen to Episode 43: Willpower with Kelly McGonigal Episode 72: Committed Action with DJ Moran Episode 103: Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee Badgley Episode 116: Building a meaningful, values-based life with Jenna LeJeune.. To remind ourselves of strategies to get some peace within the busyness, listen to Episode 26: Our Psychology on Nature Episode 45: Rest with Alex Pang. Thank you for your support in 2019! We can’t wait to dive into a new year full of ideas for living meaningful, rich lives. Happy holidays from us at Psychologists off the Clock! _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shame, betrayal, guilt, anger. As social animals, humans are wired to have moral emotions that bind us to our groups. When we experience a transgression against our moral values, we might experience Moral Injury. Moral injury is a normal human response to a violation of our strongly held moral beliefs, and it can have a deep impact on people’s lives, making it difficult to move forward. In this episode, Debbie interviews two psychologists who are researching moral injury with veterans, Dr. Lauren Borges, and Dr. Jacob Farnsworth, about this cutting-edge and important topic in psychology. In this episode you’ll learn: What moral injury is, and types of situations in which people might experience morally injurious events.How moral injury can impact people’s lives.Why we have moral emotions like guilt and shame.How PTSD and moral injury are related, and how they are different.How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy might be a helpful approach for working with people who are struggling with moral injury. Resources: A seminal paper by Litz on Moral Injury: Moral injury and moral repair in war veterans: A preliminary model and intervention strategy. Clinical Psychology ReviewLauren’s case study: A Service Member's experience of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Moral Injury (ACT-MI) via telehealth: Learning to accept my pain and injury by reconnecting with my values and starting to live a meaningful life. ) Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science.Papers by Dr. Borges, Dr. Farnsworth, and their research team: Temporal Associations Between Moral Injury and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Symptom Clusters in Military Veterans. Journal of Traumatic Stress.Is and Ought: Descriptive and Prescriptive Cognitions in Military‐Related Moral Injury. Journal of Traumatic Stress.A functional approach to understanding and treating military-related moral injury. Journal of Contextual Behavioral SciencePhysicians aren’t ‘burning out.’ They’re suffering from moral injury Stat Sebastian Junger’s documentary films on Moral Injury in war: RestrepoKorengal Dr. Lauren M. Borges is a clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Mental Illness Research, Education, and Clinical Center (MIRECC) for suicide prevention. She holds an academic appointment of assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Colorado School of Medicine. Dr. Borges’ primary line of research concerns the use of contextual behavioral interventions to help Veterans approach emotions like guilt and shame more flexibly. She is a principal investigator on a federally funded study focused on investigating the acceptability and feasibility of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Moral Injury (ACT-MI). She is also interested in using skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (e.g., the chain analysis skill) to help Veterans identify and intervene on their suicidal behavior. Beyond her focus on interventional research, Dr. Borges is developing and validating novel approaches to measuring facets of responding to guilt and shame. Dr. Jacob Farnsworth is currently a staff psychologist at the VA Eastern Colorado Health Care System. Jacob's primary research interest is in the area of military-related moral injury. His most recent efforts have focused on the further development of the construct’s definition, assessment approaches and comparing existing and novel intervention approaches for moral injury. He is a co-author of the Expressions of Moral Injury Scale-Military Version. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At some point, each and every one of us will lose someone we love. But grief is no cakewalk. And however hard grief is, the pain gets exponentially greater when we are met with the deafening silence and discomfort of others. Join us to create space and a voice for grief with a frank conversation about death, love, and the heartbreaking journey of bearing unbearable loss. In this touching and personal conversation, Yael speaks with Joanne Cacciatore, author of Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief about the nature of grief, how grievers can take their journeys more wisely, and what you can do for someone you love who is grieving. Join us to learn: How to turn towards the grief, and why it is important to How we can help ourselves, or support someone we care about, during times of grief How to grieve, even when your life feels too full to make the time and space Why anger often emerges during grief, and how we can respond to it How grief changes over time About Dr. Joanne Cacciatore Joanne is the author of Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief. Joanne is an associate professor at Arizona State University and conducts research on traumatic loss and grief. She offers a graduate certificate in trauma and bereavement at ASU. You can learn about her novel work with care-farming and grief or about the Kindness Project by clicking the links. You can find Joanne on Facebook and you can watch the breathtaking story of the famous rescue horse, Chemakoh, here. _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Living a values-based life is different from a goal-oriented one. A values-based life encompasses more than trying to “feel good” or get to a final destination. When you direct your life toward what really matters to you, you will feel an increased sense of meaning and vitality, whatever situation you find yourself in. Values-based living has greater depth and staying power than goals and resolutions. Join Debbie and Dr. Jenna LeJeune, author of Values in Therapy: A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Life, for an encouraging discussion about what “living well” really means and how to increase values-based living in yourself and in your clients. Listen and Learn: What do “values” really mean, and how are they different in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy? How to disentangle values from morals and goals Tips for how to explore what “living well” means to you Why pain deserves appreciation What to do when you feel like your values conflict with each other About Dr. Jenna LeJeune Dr. Jenna LeJeune is a clinical psychologist, author, and co-founder and president of Portland Psychotherapy, an evidenced-based psychotherapy clinic in Portland, Oregon. Dr. LeJeune specializes in using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to help individuals reorient toward what matters to build a more meaningful and well-lived life. She is a peer-reviewed trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and serves as a mental health expert co-host of the podcast Beyond Well with Sheila Hamilton. A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Lifeis Dr. LeJeune’s first book. Resources Values in Therapy: A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Explore Values, Increase Psychological Flexibility, and Live a More Meaningful Life by Jenna LeJeune and Jason LouomaThe Other Side of Happiness: Embracing a More Fearless Approach to Living by Brock Bastian PhDPortland Psychotherapy Clinic Sponsor: Praxis Continuing Education ACT BootCamp® with Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., Robyn Walser, Ph.D., and Kelly Wilson, Ph.D., cofounders of ACT Portland, OR | February 20–23, 2020; up to 32 CE/CME credits available Sign up with a friend to save 20% off the professional registration price! Meet Our New Co-Host, Dr. Jill Stoddard! In this episode, we also make an exciting announcement about a new Co-Host joining us in January 2020. Listen to learn more about her and her upcoming book you can pre-order! Be Mighty: A Women’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stree Using Mindfulness and Acceptance _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you are planning a holiday dinner, a work conference, or a group therapy session, how you design your gathering has a big impact on its outcome. In this episode, Diana and Debbie use the book The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker to explore strategies to make your groups transformative. Grab a slice of pie, some people you love, and enjoy an episode all about meeting with a purpose! Listen and Learn: How to use purpose to design your next party, meeting, or friends’ weekend away Examples of successful gatherings Diana and Debbie have designed and attended What group therapy teaches us about creating effective meetings Why Debbie is practicing “scruffy hospitality” and why Diana likes to visit her purse at parties Ideas to make your Thanksgiving, Winter Holiday or New Year’s celebration impactful With the help of this episode, we hope you gather well this holiday season, and beyond! Resources and Books Mentioned in this Episode: The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker Playing Big by Tara Mohr Wolf Pack: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game by Abby Wambach The Blue Zones: Lessons for Living Longer From the People Who've Lived the Longest by Dan Buettner Article on The Blue Zones Moais Article on Scruffy Hospitality The Bear That Wasn’t by Frank Tashlin Joss Paper Diana uses in group work Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom   Sponsor: Praxis Continuing Education ACT BootCamp® with Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., Robyn Walser, Ph.D., and Kelly Wilson, Ph.D., cofounders of ACT Portland, OR | February 20–23, 2020; up to 32 CE/CME credits available Sign up with a friend to save 20% off the professional registration price!   Ep. 95. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins Ep. 112. Nature vs. Nature: Why Temperament Matters with co-hosts Debbie Sorensen and Yael Schonbrun Ep. 109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to take your mindfulness practice to the next level? What if you could approach life by relaxing back and down into an already awake mind and heart? Join Diana for an inspiring and illuminating discussion with Loch Kelly, seasoned meditator and author of the bestselling book The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life about awake awareness, an advanced form of mindfulness that, through little efforts and shifts of awareness, imbues living from a more spacious, interconnected, and heart-centered space. Listen and Learn: What is awake awareness? What does “effortless” have to do with it? How does awake awareness differ from deliberate awareness? Awake awareness vs empathy The value of “glimpses” About Loch Kelly: Loch Kelly, MDiv, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, meditation teacher, and expert in the field of meditation and psychotherapy. He has also authored the best-selling book The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life and founded the Open-Hearted Awareness Institute in New York City. Loch’s primary mission is to teach others how to access awakening and to live from open-hearted awareness. Loch contributes to research at the University of Pennsylvania, Yale, and New York University on how training in awareness improves compassion and wellbeing. He received his degrees from Columbia University and Union Theological Seminary. Resources Open-Hearted Awareness Institute The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life, book by Loch Kelly   Shift into Freedom: The Science and Practice of Open-hearted Awareness, book by Loch Kelly   Effortless Mindfulness Now: Awakening Our Natural Capacity for Focus, Freedom, and Joy, audiobook by Loch Kelly Shift into Freedom: A Training in the Science and Practice of Open-hearted Awareness, audiobook by Loch Kelly _________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parenting can be joyful, but, let’s be honest, it can also be a rough ride sometimes! We try to be good parents to our children and still discover that we feel we are falling short. Author and clinical expert, Dr. Susan Pollak, joins Yael for a discussion about how self-compassion can help you journey through parenting more effectively, confidently, and happily. Join the conversation to learn: What self-compassion is and why it’s so useful in parenting The core components of self-compassion Several mindfulness exercises to build self-compassion (Try them while you are listening!) Self-compassion practices that can be done in three minutes, even with eyes open and your kids in the room! About Dr. Susan Pollak: Dr. Susan Pollak is the President of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy, a co-founder and teacher at the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion. She is also the author of Self-Compassion for Parents—Nurture Your Child by Caring For Yourself. Resources: Susan’s website Guided meditations with accompanying handouts from Susan A recent piece on A Mindful Exercise to Heal Old Wounds, by Susan Pollak Welcome to Holland piece, by Emily Kingsley Sitting Together, by Susan Pollak Self-Compassion for Parents, by Susan Pollak, Thomas Pedulla, and Ronald Siegel Susan’s Psychology Today Blog, The Art of Now The Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy Diana’s interview on Self-Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You might sometimes wonder if it’s nature or nurture driving the differences between people. For example, why are some of us extroverts and others introverts? Why are some children risk-takers while others are more inhibited? Well, it turns out that both nature and nurture are important! The nature part of the equation is sometimes overlooked, but our biological temperament plays an important role in the kind of person we become. In this episode, Debbie and Yael discuss Childhood Temperament, the topic of Debbie’s dissertation research at Harvard. They delve into some longitudinal research on the temperamental underpinnings of shyness and behavioral inhibition. They also discuss the clinical implications of individual differences in emotional reactivity, and the personality constructs of introversion and extroversion. Listen and Learn: How “high-reactive” infants differ from “low-reactive” infants How early reactivity correlates with behavioral inhibition and shyness later in childhood Why Attachment research may leave out some important information The importance of “goodness of fit” between parents and their children Whether you a “carpenter” or a “gardener” as a parent parent What introversion and extroversion really means and how to appreciate your personality style Resources: The APA’s list of Eminent Psychologists of the 20th Century Brief Video Showing Kagan’s Temperament Study with Infants Books by Kagan on Temperament: Galen’s Prophecy: Temperament in Human Nature by Jerome Kagan The Long Shadow of Temperament by Jerome Kagan and Nancy Snidman The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us About the Relationship Between Parents and Children by Alison Gopnik Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The delineation that we like to make between mind and body is really an illusion. It’s one complete circuit. -Dr. Cynthia Li In Brave New Medicine: A Doctor’s Unconventional Path to Healing Her Autoimmune Illness Dr. Cynthia Li, an internal medicine physician by training, writes about how her world came crashing down after developing an autoimmune thyroid condition and how she had to journey beyond what Western medicine has to offer to truly heal. Join Diana for a fascinating and important discussion with Dr. Li about functional medicine, a client-centered, science-based approach to looking at and treating the root cause of chronic imbalances in our body. Listen and Learn: How functional medicine differs from both Western and Integrative medicine What are the five main causes of chronic imbalance according to Functional Medicine Tips on specific classes of foods that promote optimal wellness How healing emotional wounds impact physical healing Suggestions for detoxifying your house, re-inhabiting your body, and more! About Dr. Cynthia Li Cynthia Li, MD is a physician, functional medicine practitioner, and author of Brave New Medicine: A Doctor’s Unconventional Path to Healing Her Autoimmune Illness, a memoir about chronic illness and return to wellness that challenges the current healthcare system model. Dr. Li has a private practice in integrative and functional medicine in the San Francisco Bay Area and serves as faculty at the University of California San Francisco Medical School. She is a member of the American Board of Internal Medicine, the Institute for Functional Medicine, and Integrative Medicine for the Underserved. Dr. Li is also a contributing author to the Huffington Post’s “Thrive Global” and Psychology Today. Dr. Li received her medical degree from the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas, Texas. Resources: Brave New Medicine: A Doctor’s Unconventional Path to Healing Her Autoimmune Illness by Dr. Cynthia Li The Institute for Functional Medicine Dr. Cynthia Li’s website, where you can access her blog and links to Functional Medicine resources __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Caring for a newborn has its challenges, but imagine the challenges of caring for two or more newborns at once! More feedings, diapering, laundry and gear to schlep. We are hardwired to respond to our infants so how do you handle more than one infant crying at once? And when the heck do you sleep? It’s no wonder that parents of multiples experience increased sleep deprivation and mental health issues even as they face greater logistical barriers to accessing mental health treatment and care. In this episode, Yael speaks with Dr. Susan Wenze, a mother of twins and clinical psychologist. Sue offers advice for parents of multiples and describes research on the perinatal mental health of parents with multiples. Listen and Learn: Specific mental health concerns for both mothers and fathers of multiples Clever ways to practice self-care in the midst of parenting twins or more How parenting multiples can bring partners closer together and other benefits of parenting twins and more How to ask friends and family for the help that you need Ways to help non-twin siblings also feel special How to do self-care when you are a parent of multiples (terrific advice that can be used by all tired parents!). About Dr. Susan Wenze Susan Wenze, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and assistant professor at Lafayette College in Easton, PA. She conducts research on depression in the general population and perinatal mental health for parents of multiples. Dr. Wenze is also the parent of elementary school-aged identical twins. She received her PhD in Clinical Psychology from American University and completed her clinical residency and postdoctoral fellowship at Brown University. Resources:  Sue’s Lafayette College research website Sue’s work, as featured on NPR National Organization of Mothers of Twins Club, an online resource and community for parents of multiples Twiniversity, an online resource and community for parents of multiples Twins and Multiple Births Association (recently changed the name to Twin Trust), an online resource in the UK __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have your friends or loved ones suggested for you to chill out or relax? If our first podcast episode with Hope Arnold, about excessive self-control, leaves you wondering how to help with this biologically-based personality trait, then keep listening!  Join Debbie for another engaging discussion with Hope Arnold, senior clinician, and trainer in Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (RO DBT), for evidence-based strategies on how to work with “over-controlling” biology in the service of loosening up a bit, more fulfilling relationships, and gaining the capacity to just chill! Listen and Learn: Why eyebrows are important and too much Botox might be a problem. The benefits of being “ordinary,” being wrong, and seeing what hard experiences can teach us about ourselves. How our threat and safety systems play into overcontrol and treatment The importance of “social signaling” How “Radical Openness” differs from “Radical Acceptance” Resources: Hope’s blogs on Psych Central and Radically Open.net Hope’s webpage Radically Open.net Radically-Open DBT Textbook and Skills Training Manual Take the Styles of Coping Word Pairs Questionnaire here Article on RO-DBT effectiveness https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lSm5DASuVY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=An4WpxGOaHE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFDayTx4zL0 About Hope Arnold: Hope Arnold, LCSW, MA is a Senior Clinician and one-day Trainer in Radically Open DBT (RO DBT). She began her RO DBT training with Dr. Tom Lynch, treatment developer, in 2016. Hope writes a blog for PsychCentral on RO DBT topics called Radical Hope. In her clinical work, Hope is the founder of RO DBT Denver in Denver, Colorado, a center dedicated to evidence-based care and treating disorders of overcontrol. She specializes in personality disorders (Obsessive Compulsive PD, Paranoid PD, Dependent PD, Avoidant PD), eating disorders, autism spectrum disorders (special interest in female autism), and treatment-resistant disorders (depression and anxiety). Prior to opening RO DBT Denver, Hope was in private practice at the DBT Center of Houston and was the RO DBT Lead Clinician. Hope graduated from Loyola University in New Orleans with a BBA in marketing. She worked for two of the largest private financial and consulting firms in the world before transitioning to clinical work. She has master’s degrees in social work from the University of Houston and psychology from Saybrook University with a concentration in Jungian studies. Hope has presented at the local, national, and international level on topics related to Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Radically Open DBT, and Jungian Analysis and Theory. She is licensed as an LCSW in the states of Colorado, Texas, and Virginia. For fun, Hope enjoys hiking, traveling, visiting with friends and family, and creating art. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you good at doing things right, following the rules, and controlling your emotions? Maybe a little too good? Having some degree of self-control, emotional regulation, and willpower can be useful in a lot of ways! But having too much self-control has some downsides. Many people who have an Overcontrolled style of coping look like they have it all together on the outside, but in reality, they don't feel like they do, and their suffering often goes unnoticed. Focusing too much on doing everything “right” can lead to rigidity, perfectionism, and loneliness, making it hard to connect with others and enjoy life. In this episode, the first of a two-part series, Debbie talks with Hope Arnold, a therapist, and trainer who specializes in Radically Open DBT (or RO DBT), which is designed to help people who are Overcontrolled learn to loosen up and reconnect socially. In Part 1, we discuss: The difference between being overcontrolled and under controlled Characteristics associated with overcontrol Some of the common pitfalls of overcontrolled coping How overly controlled facial expressions can affect social connection. In Part 2 of the series, Debbie and Hope will discuss evidence-based clinical strategies for helping people with overcontrol to loosen up and reconnect socially! Resources: Hope’s blogs on Psych Central (Radical Hope) and Radically Open.net Hope’s webpage Radically Open.net Radically-Open DBT Textbook and Skills Training Manual Take the Styles of Coping Word Pairs Questionnaire Article on RO-DBT effectiveness About Hope Arnold: Hope Arnold, LCSW, MA is a Senior Clinician and one-day Trainer in Radically Open DBT (RO DBT). She began her RO DBT training with Dr. Tom Lynch, treatment developer, in 2016. Hope writes a blog for PsychCentral on RO DBT topics called Radical Hope. In her clinical work, Hope is the founder of RO DBT Denver in Denver, Colorado, a center dedicated to evidence-based care and treating disorders of overcontrol. She specializes in personality disorders (Obsessive Compulsive PD, Paranoid PD, Dependent PD, Avoidant PD), eating disorders, autism spectrum disorders (special interest in female autism), and treatment-resistant disorders (depression and anxiety). Prior to opening RO DBT Denver, Hope was in private practice at the DBT Center of Houston and was the RO DBT Lead Clinician. Hope graduated from Loyola University in New Orleans with a BBA in marketing. She worked for two of the largest private financial and consulting firms in the world before transitioning to clinical work. She has master’s degrees in social work from the University of Houston and psychology from Saybrook University with a concentration in Jungian studies. Hope has presented at the local, national, and international level on topics related to Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Radically Open DBT, and Jungian Analysis and Theory. She is licensed as an LCSW in the states of Colorado, Texas, and Virginia. For fun, Hope enjoys hiking, traveling, visiting with friends and family, and creating art. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have something you want to create, a message you want to share, or a calling you keep ignoring? Tara Mohr has practical wisdom for you to unhook from praise and criticism, find your calling, and step into Playing Big. Psychologists Off The Clock started with Taking A Leap inspired by Tara Mohr’s work. Now Diana has the chance to talk with her directly about why it is so difficult for women to speak up, how motherhood re-organizes everything and stepping out of ego into wholeness. So drag your dreams out from under the carpet and join us for a thought-provoking conversation with Tara Mohr, author of the Apple iBooks best book of the year Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead. Listen and Learn: Two types of fear that show up for women in Playing Big How to meet criticism in a patriarchal world Why acting on “100% certainty” doesn’t make sense How to reclaim your power through speech How “Playing Big” changes in motherhood The role of women supporting women in Playing Big Resources: Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead  by Tara Mohr Tara Mohr’s Blog Playing Big: A leadership program for women The Hivery: A co-working space for women The Triple Goddess: Maiden, Mother, and Crone About Tara Mohr: Tara Mohr is an influential author, Huffington Post columnist, and expert in woman’s leadership and well-being. Her 2015 book Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead was named a best book of the year by Apple’s iBooks. Through her Playing Big Leadership Program and Playing Big Facilitators Training Program Tara seeks to empower women to find their voice and contribute to the creation of a more sane and compassionate world. Tara has an MBA from Stanford University, an undergraduate degree in English from Yale University, and her work has been featured in numerous media outlets such as the Harvard Business Review, ForbesWoman, and The Financial Times. Tara lives in San Francisco, CA with her husband and two children. 1. Taking a Leap Into Something Meaningful Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Robyn Walser is back on the podcast for an intimate and heartfelt conversation with Debbie about her new book The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. As a master therapist and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (or ACT) trainer, Robyn reflects on how the interpersonal relationship unfolding in the therapy room all too often takes a backseat to applying techniques or interventions when learning a new therapy like ACT. Give this interview a listen for some wise words on how to deepen your clinical practice by showing up more fully and engaging your clients from a process-oriented place. Listen and Learn: How to sit in the therapist seat wholeheartedly Tips on balancing process and technique when doing ACT When to break the therapy “rules” What role does existentialism play in ACT? About Robyn D. Walser, Ph.D. Dr. Walser is staff at the National Center for PTSD, co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Center and is an Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice. Dr. Walser is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has co-authored 5 books on ACT including Learning ACT, 2nd Edition, The Mindful Couple, ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care, and The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She has expertise in traumatic stress and has authored a number of articles, chapters and books on this topic. Dr. Walser has presented her research findings and papers at international and national conferences, universities and hospital settings; and she has been invited to international conferences to speak about ACT and mindfulness. She is invested in developing innovative ways to translate science-into-practice and continues to do research and education on the dissemination of ACT and other therapies. She has had a number of leadership roles in international and national organizations and she served as Member At Large and President for the Association for Contextual and Behavioral Science. New York Times article on making therapy apps: Silicon Valley Goes to Therapy hearts Image by conger design from Pixabay __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Self-care is a hot topic these days and many of us feel like we should be doing more of it. Yet, the last thing we need is another “to do” on our list. In this episode, Dr. Robyn Gobin and Diana talk about why self-care is more than just pedicures and bubble baths. Dr. Gobin shares her personal experience with self-care and strategies you can put into practice today. So, practice some real self-care and take a listen! Listen and Learn: The 6 domains of self-care Why “listening in” and mindfulness are keys to physical self-care How Dr. Gobin is working to change the narrative around self-care and mental health in communities of color How to use "Emptying The Jug” to tend to your Emotional Self-Care How Dr. Gobin practices self-care on her busiest days and what Diana is doing for self-care before bed Simple strategies for therapist self-care About Dr. Robyn Gobin Dr. Robyn L. Gobin is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Assistant Professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign. She is a nationally recognized expert on interpersonal trauma, women's mental health, and the cultural context of trauma recovery in the African American community. She received her doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Oregon and completed an internship and postdoctoral training at The National Center for PTSD, Brown University, and the San Diego Department of Veterans Affairs. Her latest book, "The Self-Care Prescription: Powerful Solutions to Manage Stress, Reduce Anxiety, and Enhance Well-Being" aims to change the narrative around mental health and self-care in communities of color and teach people how to incorporate self-care into their busy lives in a sustainable way. Dr. Gobin serves on national and community boards and committees, including the American Psychological Association's Society for the Psychological Study of Ethnicity, Culture, and Race. She is the recipient of the Judy E. Hall Early Career Psychologist Award from the National Register of Health Service Psychologists and a Citizen Psychologist Presidential Citation from the American Psychological Association. To learn more about Dr. Gobin, visit her website at www.robyngobin.com or connect with her on Instagram or Facebook. To learn more about her book and purchase your copy, visit Amazon or www.selfcareprescriptions.com. Resources: The Self-Care Prescription: Powerful Solutions to Manage Stress, Reduce Anxiety, and Enhance Well-Being by Robin Gobin __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join us for a journey through the fascinating history of motherhood, media, and medical expertise! Yael interviews professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan about the causes and consequences of medicalizing pregnancy and childbirth, and how technology and culture have long created a message that mothers are doing it all wrong. Learn why we need to change that message, and how we can. In this episode, we explore the following questions: How have different forms of mothering expertise grown over history, and how has that development impacted women’s experience in mothering? What are some of the ways that social media proliferates expertise? How does the message of “you’re doing it wrong” impact our experience? What is the difference between lay and technical expertise and why does it matter for our mothering experience How has postpartum care evolved over time and what does that mean for the modern mothering experience? What strategies can we employ to combat the messages of “you’re doing it wrong”? About Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan Bethany L. Johnson (MPhil, M.A.) is an instructor in history and an associate member to the graduate faculty and research affiliate faculty in the department of communication studies at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She studies how science, medicine, and health discourses are framed and reproduced by institutions and individuals from the 19th century to the present. She has published in interdisciplinary journals such as Health Communication, Women & Language, Departures in Critical Qualitative Research and Women's Reproductive Health.  Margaret M. Quinlan is an associate professor in the department of communication studies at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte. She explores how communication creates, resists and transforms knowledge about bodies. She critiques power structures in order to empower individuals who are marginalized inside and outside of healthcare systems. She authored approximately 40 journal articles, 17 book chapters and co-produced documentaries in a regional Emmy award-winning series. Resources You’re Doing it Wrong: Mothering, media, and medical expertise, by Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan (30 percent discount available for our listeners if you use the code to make the purchase through this website. Code: 02AAAA17) Click here to head to Maggie and Bethany’s research page or here to get more information about their new book. You can find Maggie and Bethany on social media using the following links: Twitter: https://twitter.com/JQ_Research Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnsonQuinlanResearch/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnsonquinlanresearch/ The Marketplace of the Marvelous, by Erika Janik Previous episodes we refer to during our conversation include an episode on Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz and our interview with Emily Oster in which we explore strategies to better decision-making in parenthood. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you care about your health, but aren’t the type of person who loves to jump out of bed, hit the gym, and reward your efforts with a kale smoothie, this is the podcast episode for you! We all know what healthy behaviors are, but most of us struggle with how to engage in them, especially when they feel hard and unenjoyable. Join Debbie for an engaging discussion with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley, author of Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To, about evidence-based strategies on how to overcome the internal obstacles that make behavior change hard, and how to sustain lifelong healthy habits. Listen and Learn: Why healthy habits violate the hard-wiring of our “caveman brain” How linking health habits to values can make them more meaningful and build motivation The benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than outcomes to foster success What is a “smart goal” and how to make them work for you How to work with the thoughts and emotions that makes healthy habits hard About Dayna Lee-Baggley: Dayna Lee-Baggley, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and health-behaviors researcher based in Nova Scotia, Canada where she conducts research on behavior change, obesity, chronic disease, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Dr. Lee-Baggley holds appointments as an assistant professor in the Department of Family Medicine at Dalhousie University and as an adjunct professor in the Department of Industrial and Organizational Psychology at Saint Mary’s University. She is also the director of the Centre for Behaviour Change Research in Nova Scotia where she conducts research and training in chronic disease management. In addition, Dr. Lee Baggley is an internationally respected ACT trainer, has authored close to 40 peer-reviewed publications, and is the author of the book Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To. Resources: Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want toDayna’s Website (https://drleebaggley.com), where you can find out more about her research, training, and clinical practice.@DrLeeBaggley, Dayna’s Twitter account, where she tweets about healthy habits and tips for healthcare providers From Debbie and Diana’s Introduction to the Episode: Check out these Beeswax Wraps and Reusable Produce Bags recommended by Diana to reduce single-use plastic consumption! Debbie roasting broccoli to go with tofu and peanut sauce, as a move toward her values-based goal of a more plant-based diet! __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Steven Hayes, a co-founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, is back on the show! This one is big. Dr. Hayes shares with Diana about his groundbreaking book, A Liberated Mind. This book has been 11 years in the making and is a comprehensive, accessible, hands-on exploration of ACT. It was a tall order to interview Hayes on such a masterpiece, and we hope we have done it justice. Let us know in a review! Listen and Learn: What Debbie and Diana love about this book Why avoiding thoughts and feelings can cause us trouble How “feel better” tricks have led us astray The 6 processes that together will help you develop a Liberated Mind How Diana ended up singing her self-doubt thoughts out loud on the show, for all the world to hear! How you can apply psychological flexibility not just to your suffering but also to enhance your performance WIN A FREE COPY OF A LIBERATED MIND! Deadline Sept 15, 2019 Here’s how to enter: Post a review of the podcast on Apple Podcasts Share this episode on social media (Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram) with #wehurtwherewecare Contact us and let us know you completed the above tasks Resources: A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters by Steven Hayes Steven Hayes’s freebees (including how to get his daughter’s book!) Our past episodes with Steven Hayes on Process-Based CBT and Evolution and Behavioral Science Check out more episodes on ACT Here! About Steven C. Hayes: Steven C. Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor in the Behavior Analysis program at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. An author of 44 books and nearly 600 scientific articles, his career has focused on an analysis of the nature of human language and cognition and the application of this to the understanding and alleviation of human suffering. He is the developer of Relational Frame Theory, an account of human higher cognition, and has guided its extension to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a popular evidence-based form of psychotherapy that uses mindfulness, acceptance, and values-based methods. Dr. Hayes has been President of Division 25 of the APA, of the American Association of Applied and Preventive Psychology, the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy, and the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He was the first Secretary-Treasurer of the Association for Psychological Science, which he helped form and has served a 5-year term on the National Advisory Council for Drug Abuse in the National Institutes of Health. In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world and Google Scholar data ranks him among the top ~1,500 most cited scholars in all areas of study, living and dead (http://www.webometrics.info/en/node/58). His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy. __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Addiction is often perceived as a weakness, lack of will power, or a choice. It isn’t. Addiction is a brain disease. It is also a family disease that requires a holistic family approach to treat. Join Yael for an important discussion with the authors of The Complete Family Guide To Addiction: Everything You Need To Know Now To Help Your Loved One And Yourself. This discussion explores the nature of addiction and evidence-based approaches to responding to a family member or friend in ways that heal the disease, yourself, and your relationship with your loved one. Listen and Learn: What addiction is and what addiction is not Why addiction is a family disease How our usual way of responding might reinforces our loved one’s addictive behavior How Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) and positive reinforcement facilitates healing Practical tips to care for yourself while supporting your loved one during treatment. About Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hillary Connery: Thomas Harrison is an author who has spent many years as a legal editor and publisher translating highly complex and technical information into simple English. After a close friend developed a substance use disorder, he realized the need for someone to translate the complicated and technical knowledge of addiction research into practical language for family members and friends struggling to cope with the challenges of addiction. Thomas is also the author of The Family Addiction Guidebook. Hillary Connery, MD, PhD is the Clinical Director of the Substance Use Disorders Division at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. She is also an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard University and the New England Director for the American Academy of Addiction Psychiatry. Dr. Connery contributed to the American Psychiatric Association Practice Guidelines for the treatment of substance use disorders and specializes in treating opioid use disorders and co-occurring mental illness and substance use disorders. Resources: The Complete Family Guide to Addiction: Everything You Need to Know Now to Help Your Loved One and Yourself by Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery, Ph.D., M.D. The Family Addiction Guidebook by Thomas Harrison __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are proud and grateful that we’ve made it to our 100th episode! Take a listen as Debbie, Diana, and Yael share behind-the-scenes bloopers, episode clips, and how Psychologists Off The Clock has changed our lives. The podcast has been a labor of love for all of us. On the journey to our 100th episode, we have learned a lot about the art of podcasting, and about new strategies and science within the field of psychology. We have welcomed renowned psychologists and writers, explored a variety of important topics, and shared personal and professional practices that we use to flourish. Join us in celebrating and reflecting on lessons learned in our first 100 episodes! Listen to hear Debbie, Diana, and Yael discuss: How and why we started the podcast. What happens behind the scenes (loud children, technical glitches, and guests we admire to the point of verbal paralysis). Which episodes we use most in our own daily lives, and which episodes we have recommended to our clients and friends. Some of the Many Episodes We’ve Recommended To Clients and Friends: 7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse 36. Weight Loss Strategies From Acceptance And Commitment Therapy With Dr. Jason Lillis 41. Kissing The Frog: How To Establish a Morning Routine 43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal 44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth 51. The Psychology of Political Division 62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud 79. Thriving In Adolescence with Dr. Louise Hayes 82. Clinician's Corner: Therapist Self-Doubt with Jim Lucas 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe The three of us—Diana, Debbie, and Yael—want to extend our gratitude to listeners, for both listening and for providing us with terrific feedback. Thank you so much for making this a worthwhile venture! Here we are, recording our big 100th episode! (Clockwise from upper left: Diana, Debbie, and Yael) __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time is arguably our most valuable resource, and yet we often don’t manage, allocate, or savor it effectively. In this episode, Debbie talks with Laura Vanderkam, author of several books on time management and productivity, about strategies to make time feel more abundant, memorable, and enjoyable. Listen and Learn: Tips for savoring and stretching out pleasure in the passage of time How to best optimize time by prioritizing your core competencies Why effortful fun trumps effortless fun The benefits of keeping a time log for a week About Laura Vanderkam: Laura Vanderkam is the author of time management and productivity books, including Juliet’s School of Possibilities, Off the Clock, I Know How She Does It, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, and 168 Hours. Her work has appeared in publications including the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Fast Company, and Fortune. She is the host of the podcast Before Breakfast and the co-host, with Sarah Hart-Unger, of the podcast Best of Both Worlds. She lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and four children, and blogs at LauraVanderkam.com. Resources:  Laura’s Books: 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast Off the Clock: Fell Less Busy While Getting More Done Juliet’s School of Possibilities  Laura’s Podcasts: Before Breakfast Best of Both Worlds, co-hosted by Sarah Hart-Unger Laura’s Website, where you can find her blog and time logs - fill one out for yourself! __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio, TuneIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether it’s your boss, your client, or a family member, interactions with a narcissist can be challenging. Narcissism can present as obvious grandiosity and self-importance but also shows up in more insidious and subtle ways. Covert forms of narcissism make interpersonal interactions confusing and difficult to understand, and can elicit self-doubt, guilt, and even a sense of “going crazy” in others. In this episode, Drs. Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser delve into a rich discussion on the different types of narcissism, how to spot a narcissist, and how to protect yourself and/or clients from covert forms of this personality trait. Listen and Learn: Signs you may be interacting with a highly narcissistic person. “Gaslighting” and how to spot it. Strategies for dealing effectively with the narcissistic people in your life. Whether or not people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder can be treated in psychotherapy. Resources: Recorded Online training: ACT For Victims of Narcissistic Abuse by Drs. Lev and Walser Books about narcissism: https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Free-Expanded-Emotionally-Relationships/dp/0425279995/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=H943HC0BLUJA&keywords=psychopath+free&qid=1649117574&sprefix=psychopath+free%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/NARCISSISTS-SECRETS-Know-things-they-ebook/dp/B01ITFG65U/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=KYO8L249D544&keywords=The+narcissists+secrets&qid=1649117955&sprefix=the+narcissists+secrets%2Caps%2C114&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Charm-Harm-Everything-Narcissist-Narcissistic/dp/1523820179/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3ACAZAPTX4I9D&keywords=from+charm+to+harm&qid=1649118029&sprefix=from+charm+to+harm%2Caps%2C138&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Narcissists-Nightmare-Narcissist-Supplying/dp/B01MFGC6KI/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=1UGJ3XQAYBR5R&keywords=The+narcissist+nightmare&qid=1649117614&sprefix=the+narcissist+nightmare%2Caps%2C129&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/STOP-Dancing-Gaslight-Recognize-Domestic-ebook/dp/B00GBJANJM/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=23N3UFG1FA698&keywords=Stop+dancing+in+the+gaslight&qid=1649117642&sprefix=stop+dancing+in+the+gaslight%2Caps%2C85&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Human-Magnet-Syndrome-Codependent-Narcissist/dp/168350867X/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3J74EFMA9VUD5&keywords=human+magnet+syndrome&qid=1649117705&sprefix=human+magnet+syndrome%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=1H7C23AJ3VM65&keywords=why+does+he+do+that&qid=1649117860&sprefix=Why+does+he+do+that%2Caps%2C112&sr=8-3 https://www.amazon.com/s?k=psychopaths+and+love&crid=13Z162P3WYFT3&sprefix=psychopaths+in+love%2Caps%2C96&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_19 Books on narcissism written by narcissists:    https://www.amazon.com/Malignant-Self-Love-Narcissism-Sam-Vaknin/dp/8023833847/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=2SAQYQ4CJQZBR&keywords=malignant+self+love&qid=1649117508&sprefix=malignant+self+love%2Caps%2C83&sr=8-1 https://www.amazon.com/Fuel-H-G-Tudor/dp/1535383550/ref=mp_s_a_1_5?adgrpid=58809104609&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI0_SxlNH79gIVdgaICR0XuggKEAAYASAAEgJnnPD_BwE&hvadid=274736472700&hvdev=m&hvlocphy=9012130&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=b&hvrand=4742615707929732414&hvtargid=kwd-341301954950&hydadcr=22220_10176634&keywords=hg+tudor+books&qid=1649117436&sr=8-5 https://www.amazon.com/Psychopath-Inside-Neuroscientists-Personal-Journey/dp/1617230154/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=3OT4Q20KWFVWS&keywords=The+psychopath+within&qid=1649117538&sprefix=the+psychopath+within%2Caps%2C101&sr=8-1 About Avigail Lev & Robyn Walser: Avigail Lev, PsyD, is a psychotherapist, author, and executive coach in the Bay Area. She is the director of the Bay Area CBT Center, a clinic in San Francisco and Oakland that provides Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for individuals and couples. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What comes to mind when you think of happiness? Joy? Pleasure? A sense of fulfillment? While these states of happiness may make us feel truly wonderful, they are temporary and context-specific. Join us for a discussion about the core components of the “New Happiness,” a path for finding a deep and lasting sense of contentment that springs from discovering and acting upon one’s personal spiritual values. In this inspirational and heartfelt episode, Dr. Matthew McKay, an expert psychologist, professor, and accomplished author provides a fresh perspective on how to cultivate lasting happiness based on psychological research and spiritual wisdom. He also explains the importance of acting on love. Always. Listen and Learn: What role can spirituality play in happiness? How to achieve genuine happiness based on spiritual values and actions The importance of service values and self-growth values, and why both are necessary to experience a deep sense of connection and happiness How moments of choice and pain serve us on the path toward happiness How to love in the face of loss and change Resources: Article Diana sent her psychology tribe: “How to be Happy? A Nearly 90-Year-Old Has Some Advice,”article in Glamour Magazine What Debbie is reading to her kids: Lulu is Getting a Sister: (Who WANTS Her? Who NEEDS Her?) by Judith Viorst Watch and read more about Dr. Sonia Lyubomirsky’s Pie Chart of Happiness here and here Read about 5 Gates of Grief here: The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief  by Francis Weller ACT and Process-Based CBT with Dr. Steven Hayes, “Psychologists off the Clock” Episode Process-Based CBT: The Science and Core Clinical Competencies of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy edited by Steven C. Hayes and Stefan G. Hofmann About Dr. McKay: Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA and co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic with Dr. Robyn Walser. He also co-founded Haight Ashbury Psych Services, a low-fee community clinic, in San Francisco, CA and is the publisher and co-founder of New Harbinger Publications. Dr. McKay specializes in cognitive-behavioral approaches to treating anxiety and depression and co-developed numerous ACT-based protocols, including ACT for interpersonal disorders, ACT for couples, ACT for anger problems, and ACT for spiritual growth. Dr. McKay is also an accomplished writer, having authored and co-authored several books including The New Happiness: Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook, The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, Self-Esteem, Thoughts, and Feelings, When Anger Hurts, and ACT on Life Not on Anger. Dr. McKay received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology. Books by Dr. McKay: The New Happiness: Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention by Jeffery C. Wood and Matthew McKay ACT on Life Not on Anger by Georg H. Eifert, Matthew McKay, and John P. Forsyth The Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay, Jeffery C. Wood, Jeffery Brantley The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook by Martha Davis, Elizabeth Robbins Eshelman, and Matthew McKay  __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, TuneIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discussions of diversity issues are more critical than ever. And yet, conversations about these topics can be difficult, polarizing, and ineffective, leading to anger and hurt on both sides. In this episode, Debbie interviews Dr. Anatasia Kim and Dr. Alicia del Prado about their new book It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability, and Gender in a Polarized World. Drs. Kim and del Prado offer a glimpse into their practical eight-step approach, the Kim Constructive Conversations Model. This approach can help listeners have difficult conversations by talking authentically about issues related to culture and diversity. If you’ve ever had discussions about diversity issues with co-workers, family, or friends that led to anger or frustration, this episode is for you! Listen and Learn: Why conversations about diversity issues can be so painful and challenging. Why we might sometimes choose not to speak up about diversity issues, and why sometimes it’s worth the effort. How values-guided conversations can promote healing. How to set an effective tone in a conversation and how to raise difficult issues while maintaining the relationship. Ways to respond to valid emotions (like fear and anger) without losing effectiveness. About Drs. Kim and del Prado: Anatasia S. Kim, Ph.D., is a tenured associate professor at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA, where she also has a private practice specializing in treating adolescents and young adults. She is a National Ronald McNair Scholar and the recipient of numerous awards, including the American Psychological Association Minority Fellowship, Okura Mental Health Fellowship, and APAGS Guardian of Psychology Award. Kim has served as president of the Alameda County Psychological Association, chair of the California Psychological Association (CPA) Immigration Task Force, and diversity delegate of the CPA. She has presented and published in the areas of cultural competency and training, immigration, women of color in academia, and more. Alicia del Prado, Ph.D., is a tenured associate professor at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA, and a licensed counseling psychologist with a private practice in Danville, CA. She has published numerous journal articles and chapters on cross-cultural psychology, personality, acculturation, and ethnic identity, including the first enculturation scale for Filipino Americans. She provides consultation and training on multicultural issues to companies and colleges. Del Prado is chair and co-founder of the Asian American Psychology Association’s (AAPA) Division on Asian Americans with Multiple Heritages and was awarded both the Alameda County Psychological Association’s Janet Hurwich Award and the AAPA Okura Community Leadership Award. To Purchase The Book: It's Time to Talk (and Listen): How to Have Constructive Conversations About Race, Class, Sexuality, Ability & Gender in a Polarized World Resources: Dr. Kim’s webpages: https://anatasiakim.com/ and https://www.wi.edu/psyd-faculty-anatasia-kim Dr. del Prado’s webpages: http://www.drdelprado.com/ and https://www.wi.edu/psyd-faculty-alicia-del-prado __________________________ Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Subscribe for free where you listen to podcasts! Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Deezer, iHeartRadio, TuneIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Racism is a public health crisis with deep, ongoing negative impacts on psychological and physical health. In this episode, Dr. Kristee Haggins, an African centered psychologist, discusses how to support healing racial trauma. Dr. Haggins describes how black people can connect with the truth of their history, cultivate healing, and make choices that are good for themselves, their families, and larger communities. Dr. Haggins also offers recommendations for the work that those who do not identify as black can do to promote racial healing and change. Listen and Learn: How do you know if you or someone you care about is experiencing racial trauma and stress? Effective healing and self-care practices that black communities are using to heal together Internal and collective “work” white and other non-black people can do to promote systematic and grassroots change Ways in which mental health professionals can better meet the needs of black and other diverse communities About Dr. Haggins: Dr. Kristee Haggins is a community healer, African centered psychologist and professor who takes a holistic approach to healing mind, body, spirit, and community. She is a founding member of Safe Black Space Community Healing Circles and is committed to promoting health and wellness particularly in the Black community. Dr. Haggins studied Psychology as an undergraduate at the University of Southern California where she received a B.A. with honors. She earned her M.A. and Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from The Ohio State University. Dr. Haggins has had a multifaceted career as a clinician, educator, consultant, trainer and university administrator. Currently, she is a professor at California Northstate University and at Alliant International University, Sacramento where she teaches courses in multicultural counseling and therapy skills. Dr. Haggins has expertise in racial stress and trauma; African American mental health; multicultural psychology/diversity issues; and spirituality and mental health. She offers training and tailored workshops and consultation in these areas, in addition to others upon request. In 2016 she was awarded the Community Healing Award by the Community Healing Network (CHN) for her collaboration with CHN and the Association of Black Psychologists. Resources:  Safe Black Space Community Healing CirclesAssociation of Black PsychologistsThe Racial Healing Handbook by Annelise SinghSomebody Told a Lie One Day quote by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do worries about your kids’ safety dominate your parenting choices? How often do you feel pressured to make parenting choices as a result of judgment from others? We are parenting in an age of overwhelming fear and constant judgment. Understanding how we got here, what the dangers really are (and are not), and how we can parent more courageously and wisely, can help us to better navigate parenting in the modern age. In this episode, Kim Brooks, author of Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, joins Yael and offers deep wisdom in parenting well in the current cultural climate. Listen and Learn: Why parenting culture has devolved into fearWhat some of the important dangers are, and which common worries are not worthy of the attention we give themWhy we judge parents, particularly mothers, so harshlyHow to become a more brave and effective parent in this cultural milieu About Kim Brooks Kim Brooks is the author of Small Animals: Parenthood In the Age of Fear. Small Animals was an NPR Best Book of the Year and described by National Book Review as “an impassioned, smart work of social criticism and a call for support and empathy.” Kim’s writing has appeared in NYT, NY Magazine, Salon, and Buzzfeed. Kim has appeared on CBS This Morning, GMA, NPR’s All Things Considered, 20/20, among others. Resources Small Animals: Parenthood in the Age of Fear, by Kim BrooksKim’s WebsiteFollow Kim on TwitterMotherhood in the Age of Fear, New York Times essay by Kim BrooksWhat a Horrible Mother, Salon essay by Kim Brooks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you struggle with maintaining a healthy weight, it’s not your fault. Evolutionary biology, our obeseogenic environment, and psychological barriers make weight loss challenging. In this episode, Dr. Evan Forman, a senior researcher, and expert on obesity, offers cutting edge strategies that incorporate acceptance-based and behavioral skills to change your eating behaviors for good. Listen And Learn: Change your relationship with shame, stress, and other emotions that drive overeating and underexercisingNot waste your resources fighting what you cannot controlHow psychological acceptance enhances self-monitoring of food intake and weightHow to sustain motivation by clarifying values and cultivating willingnessStrategies to enhance stability and habit formation to lose and maintain weight loss About Dr. Forman:  Evan Forman, Ph.D, is a professor of psychology and the founding director of the Center for Weight, Eating and Lifestyle Science, or the WELL Center, at Drexel University. His research focuses on evaluating novel behavioral and technology-based approaches to treating obesity and weight loss. His recent research includes Mind Your Health, an NIH-funded study assessing an innovative acceptance-based behavioral treatment (ABT) for obesity. Dr. Forman also evaluates technological-based approaches such as computerized neurocognitive training, smartphone technology, and Artificial Intelligence to optimize weight control. His research has been supported by the National Institutes of Health (NIH) for over 10 years. Dr. Forman has authored nearly 150 publications, including Effective Weight Loss, a set of books for clinicians and clients that is a part of the Oxford Press’s “Treatments that Work” series.  Resources:  Center for Weight, Eating and Lifestyle Science, or the WELL Center, at Drexel UniversityEffective Weight Loss by Evan FormanPsychologists Off The Clock interview on The Hungry Brain with Dr. Stephan GuyenetPsychologists Off the Clock Interview on Body Image with Dr. Emily Sandoz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your marriage rewarding or is it feeing a bit mundane? Has sex become lifeless or non-existent? Do you miss the person you used to be before marriage? It is common for most long-term relationships to hit a “rough patch” during the mid-life years. What does it take to weather the rough patch and end up with a supportive, lasting marriage? In this episode, author and couples therapist Dr. Daphne de Marneffe discuss her new book, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, with Yael. Daphne offers us wisdom in overcoming marital challenges, Including challenges in our sexual relationships. Listen and discover new and helpful ways to understand and engage in your marriage! Listen to hear more about: Why rough patches are inevitable in long-term committed relationshipsWhy sex matters but at times is so challenging during the long haulWays to approach differences in sexual desireWhether or not to worry about fantasies and crushes outside the marriageThe difference between secrecy and privacy in marriage About Dr. de Marneffe Dr. Daphne De Marnefe Dr. de Marneffe completed her graduate work at UC Berkeley and her work has been published in academic journals, as well as in the popular press, including the New York Times. She is a contributing editor to Parents Magazine and writes a regular column on couple relationships. Dr. Daphne de Marneffe joins us to discuss her book, The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together. Her previous book, Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life explores the role of child-rearing in women’s lives. Resources The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, by Daphne de MarneffeDaphne’s New York Times pieceDaphne’s talk at GoogleDaphne’s websiteMaternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life, by Daphne de Marneffe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Disability is an experience that millions of people have, and yet it is often overlooked in discussions related to diversity and inclusivity. Today Debbie talks with Dr. Erin Andrews, a rehab psychologist and advocates for disabilities rights. Listen and Learn: Why it’s okay to #SayTheWord Disability.How our attitudes related to Disability can contribute to stigma and shame.Disability culture, and models of Disability.Disability issues Related to parenting and children.How we could do better, and why we need to! Photo purchased from PhotoAbility , a source of Disability-Affirmative stock photos! About Dr. Erin Andrews: Dr. Erin Andrews is a clinical associate professor at Dell Medical School and supervisory psychologist and the co-director of psychology training at the Central Texas Veterans Health Care System. She is a board-certified rehab psychologist with her doctorate from Wright State University and a Bachelor of Science from Michigan State University. Dr. Andrews has had numerous publications and professional lectures on disability topics related to her areas of research interest in disability culture, identity and inclusion. She is a past co-chair of the APA Committee on Disability Issues in Psychology and chair of Division 22 Disability Identity Committee from its inception until 2018. Dr. Andrews has completed innovative work to address the needs of parents with disabilities. She is a co-founder of the Disabled Parenting Project (DPP), a resource for support and information for parents and prospective parents with a wide range of disabilities. Her advocacy work in this area includes representing the American Psychological Association (APA) during a 2013 congressional briefing regarding parents with disabilities and participating in a White House forum on the civil rights of parents with disabilities in May 2016. Dr. Andrews has received numerous awards for her work, most recently an APA Citizen Psychologist Presidential Citation in 2018. Resources: Erin’s book, Disability as Diversity: Developing Cultural Competence is now available!Article “#SayTheWord: A Disability Culture Commentary on the Erasure of ‘Disability’”Dr. Erin Andrews’s professional webpage: https://dellmed.utexas.edu/directory/erin-andrewsDisabled Parenting Project: http://www.disabledparenting.com/author/erin/Stella Young’s TED TalkRhoda Olkin’s book What Psychotherapists Should Know About Disability.No Pity: People with Disabilities Forging a New Civil Rights Movement by Joseph ShapiroAPA Division 22: Rehab Psychology Webpage: https://division-rehabpsych.squarespace.com/List of Suggested Reading in Rehab Psychology APA Citizen Psychologist Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices