Parenting is challenging. Some of the challenges—like effective disciplining and present moment awareness—are ubiquitous to parenting. No matter who you or your kids are, moments and experiences will test your patience and your wisdom. But while no parent has it easy, parenting children with special needs, neurodiversity, or mental or physical health issues comes with unique, extraordinarily trying experiences, and big questions to which it can be hard to find reliable answers. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael talks with Dr. Russell Barkley, an international authority on ADHD. Russ is also author of many books, including the bestselling Taking Charge of ADHD and his recently released 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD. Using principles from his books and decades of research, Russ takes on questions Yael collected from friends, family, and peers about parenting children with ADHD. Join us to hear in-depth and reliable answers to our most pressing questions about how to raise neurodiverse children! Listen and Learn: The seven executive functions and how they’re impacted by ADHD Russ’ expert, in-depth answers to your questions about parenting and loving people with ADHD! What ADHD is and why the label can be misleading About some misconceptions parents often have about ADHD How to better parent a child with ADHD How to be compassionate towards yourself and your child as you parent Key differences in behavioral markers of ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) About the long-term data on medication for children How to find, appreciate, and reinforce strengths that show up in neurodiverse children Effective parenting and discipline strategies for children with ADHD Russ’ hopes for his legacy, and the future of ADHD Resources Discussed on this Podcast Episode: Dr. Barkley’s book, 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHDFind some of Dr. Barkley’s lectures on his websiteFind other interviews with and lectures by Dr. Barkley on YouTubeEmily Perl Kingsley’s poem, Welcome to HollandJon Kabat Zinn’s book, Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful ParentingAlison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter About Dr. Russell Barkley: Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized authority on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) in children and adults who has dedicated his career to widely disseminating science-based information about ADHD. Dr. Barkley retired as a Professor of Psychiatry and Neurology from the University of Massachusetts Medical Center (1985-2002) and subsequently worked as a Professor of Psychiatry and Health Sciences at the Medical University of South Carolina (2003-2016). He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Virginia Commonwealth University Medical Center (2016-present). In semi-retirement, he continues to lecture widely and develop continuing education courses for professionals on ADHD and related disorders, as well as consult on research projects, edit The ADHD Report, and write books, reviews, and research articles. Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 14. Mindful ParentingEpisode 48. Practical Wisdom with Dr. Barry SchwartzEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not To Lose It with Your Kids with Dr. Carla NaumburgEpisode 161: The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Setting healthy boundaries can be challenging, whether it is with someone you love or someone you dislike. Sticking with your boundaries once you set them, is also difficult. Relationship expert Nedra Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, has the insight and tools you need to set boundaries so that you can thrive. In this episode, Diana and Nedra discuss strategies to overcome barriers to boundary setting so that you can set boundaries and find peace today! Listen and Learn: Diana and Jill’s take on the importance of boundary setting Nedra’s expert definition of boundaries and explanation of how they impact mental healthThe science behind how setting healthy boundaries can provide peace and freedom from anxietyPractical advice on how to set boundaries with toxic individuals, narcissists, your parents, your in-laws, your children, and yourself!Barriers that might be affecting your ability to set a healthy boundaryWhat to do with the feeling of guilt when it shows up during the boundary-setting processNedra’s practical advice on how to be a clear communicator and set effective boundaries in particularly toxic dynamicsThe differences between a soft boundary and a rigid boundary (and when to be flexible with them!)What clear boundaries sound likeThe subtle differences between assertiveness, aggressiveness, and passivityNedra’s take on setting ultimatums (and why they aren’t always a bad thing)Why it’s important to set boundaries with your kids and how to teach them to set their own Nedra’s personal experience with boundaries and how setting them has changed her life Resources: Nedra’s book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself Nedra’s website which has TONS of FREE resources including worksheets, a relationship quiz, a boundaries quiz, and Nedra's book recommendationsCheck out co-host Diana’s workshop, An Introduction to ACT: Growing Psychological Flexibility through Acceptance, Caring, and Tiny Daily Practices on February 28th from 2pm to 5pm Pacific Standard Time  About Nedra Tawwab: NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB, a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, has practiced relationship therapy for twelve years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has been recently featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, Psychology Today, Self, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Don't Keep Your Day Job, Do the Thing, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family. Connect with Nedra Tawwab on Instagram @nedratawwab. Find out more about her book, here.  Related Episodes: Episode 98. Narcissism with Dr. Avigail Lev and Dr. Robyn Walser Episode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-LevinEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being an ally in the workplace involves a willingness and personal commitment to take action in pursuit of justice and equality for the disenfranchised. Too often, the burden of attaining equality is placed on marginalized individuals. A good ally takes on that burden instead. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill is joined by Brad Johnson and David Smith, co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace, to discuss how men can be better allies to women in the workplace. Together, they discuss good ally behavior including educating oneself about different identities or experiences, challenging one’s assumptions and beliefs, and learning and practicing the skills necessary to make lasting change. Engage in some good ally behavior right now, and listen in to this episode to learn how to be a better ally today! Listen and Learn: -Brad and David’s take on the problem of gender equality and whose job it is to solve it-How to practice situational awareness and make invisible workplace issues more visible-What the zero sum bias is and how to use the most current research on it to inform your behavior-All about EQ, IQ, and how they can work for you (or against you) in the workplace-How to be a ‘good guy’ in the workplace and how to inspire other ‘good guys’ to take action-What a likeability penalty is, who it affects, and why-Expert-approved steps you can take to be a more proactive ally at home and at work-Why the global economic benefits to eliminating the gender pay gap aren’t more of a concern and who to hold accountable for eliminating that gap-Brad and David’s views on the pandemic and gender in the workforce Resources: Brad and David’s books, Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the WorkplaceAlicia Menendez’ book, The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You AreEve Rodsky’s book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)Brad and David’s most recent article on Harvard Business Review about male allyshipKimberle Crenshaw’s article, Demarginalizing the Intersection of Race and Sex: A Black Feminist Critique of Antidiscrimination Doctrine, Feminist Theory and Antiracist Politics About Brad and David: Dr. Brad Johnson is Professor of psychology in the Department of Leadership, Ethics and Law at the U.S. Naval Academy, and a Faculty Associate in the Graduate School of Education at Johns Hopkins University. Dr. Johnson is the author of more than 130 journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of mentoring—and 14 books, in the areas of mentoring, gender in the workplace, and professional ethics. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships. Dr. David Smith is Associate Professor of sociology in the College of Leadership and Ethics at the U.S. Naval War College. As a sociologist trained in military sociology and social psychology, he focuses his research in gender, work, and family issues including bias in performance evaluations, retention of women, dual career families, military families, and women in the military. Dr. Smith is the author of numerous journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of gender and the workplace—and 2 books in the area of gender in the workplace and inclusive mentoring relationships. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships. They are co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace. Learn more about being a workplace ally, here at workplaceallies.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. But this holiday can be challenging for anyone that’s been stung in their relationships. And it's especially difficult for individuals who’ve experienced an affair or other significant relationship betrayal. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon, co-author of Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair, discuss affairs, major relationship betrayals, and how you CAN (contrary to a common cultural message) heal and get past them. So grab your a box of Valentine’s candy and join us to learn about using emotions for good, effective listening, forgiveness, and much more! And speaking of celebrating those we love, we at POTC want to celebrate you, our listeners! We’re giving away Dr. Gordon’s book Getting Past the Affair to a few lucky listeners! If you, someone you care about, or those you treat are dealing with an affair, you'll want this book in your arsenal of tools. This book teaches an assortment of crucial strategies for coping, healing, and moving forward that have been proven to work. For details on how to enter our #bookgiveaway, check out our Instagram, @offtheclockpsych. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on anger and other emotions and when and how they’re useful (and when and how they’re not!) How Kristina's research on forgiveness helps couples Dr. Gordon’s expert definition of forgiveness and how to grant it Why affairs are so common and how couples can recover from them If there are times to not tell your partner about an affair and how to decide if it’s one of those times About the three stages of healing from an affair What might be happening psychologically for each member of a couple after an affair Practical (game-changing!) advice on how to effectively listen to your partner during tough conversations The difference in how guilt and shame impact relationships Dr. Gordon-approved tips on working through big emotions in ways that serve your values Exercises for communicating more effectively with your partner, even in the face of painful feelings How to talk about the details of an affair Common reasons that partnerships become vulnerable to affairs Examples of how Dr. Gordon would approach therapy with couples at various stages of healing How Dr. Gordon guides couples through the decision to stay together or not About Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon: Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor and Associate Director of Clinical Training in the clinical psychology program at the University of Tennessee at Knoxville. Her research focuses on forgiveness, infidelity, and couple’s therapy. In Knoxville, she maintains a private practice specializing in couple’s therapy. She is coauthor of the self-help resource Getting Past the Affair and of the related book for professionals, Helping Couples Get Past the Affair. Resources Mentioned in this Podcast Episode: Dr. Gordon’s books, Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the AffairYael and Dr. Gordon’s paper from 2007, Predicting sexual infidelity in population-based sample of married individuals.Dr. Gordon’s paper investigating forgiveness in women who were in domestic abuse situations, Predicting the intentions of women in domestic violence shelters to return to partners: Does forgiveness play a role? Related Episodes: Episode 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After DifficultyEpisode 28. Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With Relationship Expert Dr. Yael SchonbrunEpisode 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional Intelligence is not really about feeling better but, rather, it’s about getting better at feeling. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Marc Brackett, founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel, discuss practical skills you can use to better understand your emotions, and respond to them effectively. Emotional intelligence is often neglected in pursuit of what some refer to as “rational thinking.” However, emotional intelligence skills can actually help with thinking - and might even save you time and money. Find out how in this episode, and learn more about naming, understanding, and expressing your emotions in healthy ways! Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie’s break down of “stress” and “overwhelm” and how they practice emotional intelligence skills in their own livesPractical skills you can use to get better at feeling right now!A real-time example of Marc Brackett and Debbie naming their emotionsWhy children and adults struggle to understand and express their emotions in a healthy way (and how problematic that can be)How Marc is working to make sure everyone receives an “emotion education”The emotion expert’s explanation of how emotional intelligence actually helps with “rational” thinking An overview of the RULER emotional skill set, and the contexts where those skills show upHow learning some emotional skills might save you time and money in the futureWhat a “Meta-Moment” is, and how to do it in four stepsWhether the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence thinks children will be okay after the pandemicMarc’s practical words of wisdom for parents, teachers, caregivers, and anyone else invested in helping kids make it through tough times like the pandemic Resources: Marc’s book, Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive Find out more about Marc at his website, www.marcbrackett.comGet access to the recorded version of POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit here, https://www.accelevents.com/e/POTCSummit#about About Marc Brackett: Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. His research focuses on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. Marc is the lead developer of RULER, an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL that has been adopted by over 2,000 schools across the United States and in other countries. He has published 125 scholarly articles and received numerous awards. Marc consults regularly with corporations like Facebook, Microsoft, and Google on integrating emotional intelligence principles into employee training and product design and is co-founder of Oji Life Lab, a digital emotional intelligence learning system for business. His research has been featured in popular media outlets such as the New York Times, USA Today, Good Morning America, and NPR. He is the author of Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive, published by Celadon Books, a division of Macmillan. Find out more about Marc on his website, www.marcbrackett.com. Related Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast Episodes: Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West  Episode 69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Dr. Daniel Goleman Episode 9. Children’s Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child’s Feelings Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's a common belief that to be more successful we need more resources — that we should earn more money, acquire more resources, accomplish more, spend more time, and expand our network of people. But when we focus on chasing down additional resources rather than using those already at our disposal, we are rarely satisfied with our work, and may in fact be less successful in the long run. Instead, could it be possible to do more with less? In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Scott Sonenshein, author of Stretch and coauthor with Marie Kondo of Joy at Work, discuss the ideas of "chasing" and "stretching." Scott shares some practical wisdom for how to stretch in work and life. The conversation adds a whole new meaning to TLC’s lyric “don’t go chasing waterfalls!” Listen and Learn: How Debbie and Jill are trying to stretch in their personal lives How Scott Sonenshein, an expert in organizational psychology, applies principles from organizational psychology to other domains of life About a potential silver lining of the pandemic and our "new normal" (and Scott’s practical advice for creating your own silver lining anytime!) Debbie’s delicious example of constraint leading to resourcefulness in her own life Scott’s breakdown of the two mindsets that can help or hinder our efforts to be flexible Scott’s personal experience with the chase mindset in Silicon Valley and the lessons he learned in the dot com era The benefits of the stretch mindset — and practical advice on how to get into that mindset today The ultimate question for starting your growth journey Why it’s okay to not be an expert and how dabbling in many areas can be useful Practical examples of how to move from a chasing mindset to a stretching mindset The most important thing Scott learned from collaborating with Marie Kondo What ‘activity clutter’ is, how it might be impacting you, and three questions you can use to prioritize Resources Scott Sonenshein’s book, Stretch: Unlock the Power of Less and Achieve More than You Ever Imagined. Scott’s and Marie Kondo’s book, Joy at Work: Organizing Your Professional Life Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times Dr. Scott Sonenshein Scott Sonenshein, Ph.D. is the Henry Gardiner Symonds Professor of Management at Rice University and New York Times best-selling author whose books have been translated into over 20 languages. His award winning research, teaching, and speaking has helped Fortune 500 executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals in industries such as technology, energy, healthcare, retail, education, banking, manufacturing, and nonprofits. He holds a PhD in organizational behavior from the University of Michigan, an MPhil from the University of Cambridge, and a BA from the University of Virginia. His research appears in the very top academic journals and has contributed to several topics in management and psychology, including change, creativity, personal growth, social issues, decision making, and influence. Scott sits on five distinguished editorial boards and is a former associate editor of his field’s top publication, the Academy of Management Journal. Scott also worked as a strategy consultant for companies such as Microsoft and AT&T and lived the rise and fall of the dotcom boom while working for a Silicon Valley startup. He serves on the External Advisory Board of McKinsey & Company’s implementation practice. Scott has written for the New York Times, Time Magazine, Fast Company and Harvard Business Review. He has been interviewed on national and local television, NPR stations throughout the country, and has been featured in most major newspapers. To find out more about Scott’s work, visit his website, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s world, it’s easy to stay on-the-go. Sometimes, on-the-go behaviors are necessary and functional. But often we engage in these behaviors to avoid discomfort. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill and Matt Boone, co-author of Stop Avoiding Stuff, discuss avoidant behavior and how to address it with skills from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Make a committed action and join us in this episode to learn more about what you might be avoiding and how to respond instead! Listen and Learn: Jill and Debbie’s personal encounters with “doom scrolling” and other behaviors that feel good in the moment but cost us in the long-run Matt’s breakdown of what his book, Stop Avoiding Stuff, is about and how you can benefit from it Why Matt decided to write about avoidance in a digestible (bathroom-book) format About Matt’s professional understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Other places where Matt can train you in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy How to effectively use your understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to practice the skills in Matt's book Why Matt’s accessible explanations of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are particularly useful right now The inside-scoop on what’s inside Matt's book  Practical advice on how to identify and become more mindful of your own avoidant behaviors Exercises for practicing awareness and willingness right now! How Matt came to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and what role it plays in his personal life Resources: Matt’s book, Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work Jill’s books, Be Mighty and The Big Book of ACT Metaphors Matt’s webinar on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times About Matt Boone: Matt Boone is a social worker, psychotherapist, and public speaker who specializes in translating mental health concepts for the general public. He is the co-author, with Jennifer Gregg and Lisa Coyne, of Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work. He is the director of programming and outreach at the student mental health services of the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences, where he’s an instructor in psychiatry. At Lyra Health, a mental health tech startup, he led the clinical development of Lyra’s mental health coaching program and gave talks on subjects like stress and stigma to audiences at Facebook, Uber, and Genentech. At Cornell University, he oversaw the development of Let's Talk, an outreach program to underserved students that has since been replicated at nearly 100 colleges and universities.  He is an Association of Contextual Behavioral Science peer-reviewed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer and a former consultant for the VA ACT for Depression training rollout. He regularly provides ACT trainings for professionals and the general public. He lives in Little Rock with his wife, cat, and guitars, and he loves talking about mental health with people who think psychotherapy and self-help are a bit cringy. Find out more about Matt on his website, matthewsboone.com. Related Episodes: Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji SchoendorffEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeuneEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes   Episode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s only the second week of the New Year, and many of us have already failed at (or given up on) achieving our New Year’s Resolutions. We often rely on sheer willpower to achieve these types of goals. However, willpower simply isn’t enough. On this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Benjamin Schoendorff, co-author of The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion, discuss the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) matrix. The matrix is a complex therapeutic tool used to help clients contact experiences which keep them from living in ways that serve their values. In this episode, Benjamin breaks down the ACT matrix in a way that is accessible for all. Grab a cup of coffee, and join us to learn, practice, and grow today! Listen and Learn Diana and Yael’s take on the ACT matrix, what it is, and how it’s helped them to live in ways that serve their valuesBenji’s expert definition of psychological flexibility Some practical exercises you can use to become more psychologically flexible right nowBenji’s breakdown of each quadrant in the matrix and what they represent About Diana’s personal experience working through the matrixHow the ACT matrix can be helpful for couples, parents, organizations, achieving New Years Resolutions, and much more!What the “Dead Man Rule” is and how it might be impacting your mental healthWhy values are often more important than willpower when it comes to achieving your goalsWhat ‘loops’ and ‘hooks’ are and how we get stuck in them (and how to behave in service of your values instead!)Benji’s personal explanation of how moving through the ACT matrix influenced his spiritual practice Resources Books Benji co-authored, The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix : A Step-by-Step Approach to Using the Act Matrix Model in Clinical Practice and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion: Tools for Fostering Psychological Flexibility Paperback – Illustrated, December 1, 2014 Connect with The Contextual Psychology Institute Read more on what the ACT matrix is (and see what it looks like) here: https://contextualscience.org/act_matrix Register for Diana’s free, weekly meditation course here: https://drdianahill.com/tuesday-teachings/ Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times About Benjamin Schoendorff Benji Schoendorff   Benjamin Schoendorff is a licensed psychologist and international trainer living near Montreal. Benji has a passion for helping people get unstuck and move toward valued living and travels the world over to train clinicians from all backgrounds in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP). In addition to his clinical and training practice, he currently researches ACT in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder as part of the Montreal university mental health institute. As an author and trainer, Benji is renowned for his down-to-earth, authentic, relationship-centered and deeply compassionate style. He believes effective science-based methods to get unstuck are too precious to remain confined to academia and has made it his life mission to disseminate them in an engaging and easily accessible way. Simple, but not simplistic. Benji dreams of a scientific psychology in the service of spreading love, peace and understanding. He has written books and chapters in French and English including co-authoring The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion. Related Episodes Episode 116. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. These five words (Richo's "Five A’s") are necessary ingredients to any healthy relationship, but many of us don’t start off with them in our relationship pantry. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Yael is joined by Dr. Dave Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. Join us as Yael and Dave discuss the power of the Five A’s. You'll learn how fulfilling these needs affects both our personal growth and our behavior in relationships. So grab your partner (and your ingredients!), and join Yael and Dave today to learn more about how to be an adult in your relationship. Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s real life hacks to meeting “The Five A’s”What makes Dave's, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, so enduringly helpful for peopleDave’s expert breakdown of the ideal goals for adults in relationshipsProfessional, evidence-based advice for how to (healthily) orient around “The Five A’s” in your relationshipHow your childhood experiences may be impacting your relationship The way mindfulness applies to relationshipsDave's approach to productively reframing and working with blame and feelings of rage towards your partnerAbout avoiding landslides of grief in relationships when years-old mountains of ill will loom nearby (and why it’s important to fully experience that grief instead!)Practical exercises for reframing your orientation in unhealthy relationships How Dave and Yael might apply “The Five A’s” and some of Dave’s tools in therapy with a couple (READ: free thought-exercise for therapists listening in!)What to do when you’re feeling unloved or unlovable Resources: Dave’s book, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful LovingDave's book, Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start HealingAnger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat HanhThe New York Times breakdown of Harry Potter, So You Know Nothing About ‘Harry Potter’? Let’s Catch You Up   About Dave Richo: David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco California. He combines Jungian, poetic, and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. One of his best sellers, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, is going to be coming into its 20th anniversary this fall. Find out more about Dr. Richo on his website, davericho.com. Related Episodes: Episode 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Dr. Avigail Lev    Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKayEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ending a tumultuous year like 2020 calls for slowing down and reflecting. In this episode, Diana and Debbie take a pause to answer some end of year questions. Then they share their hopes for the New Year. Afterwards, Diana chats with Dr. Stephan Rechtschaffen who is the author of Timeshifting. He is a co-founder of the Omega Institute and Blue Spirit Costa Rica. During the conversation, we explore slowing down, finding intention, and trusting the process. Happy holidays and blessings for a healthy New Year in 2021 from all of us at Psychologists Off the Clock! Resources for Slowing Down and Reflecting: Check out Diana’s 20 Journal Prompts to Close 2020 on Instagram @drdianahillTimeshifting by Stephan RechtschaffenHow to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. KendiThe Brave Learner by Julie BogartNeurodharma by Rick HansonSlow by Brooke McAlaryAnne Lamott on business and how to find timeResearch on time perception and the pandemicNPR story on how the pandemic has changed our sense of time Stephan Rechtschaffen M.D.   About Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D.:   Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D. founded Blue Spirit Costa Rica and co-founded the renowned Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY. He is a nationally recognized holistic physician who lectures on health, wellness, nutrition, longevity, and time. For decades, he has been involved in developing communities that model sustainable and spiritual dimensions of living a more wholesome and authentic lifestyle.  He is a coauthor of Vitality and Wellness and author of Timeshifting, a book that focuses on one’s relationship to time and stress amidst the quickening pace of modern life. These interests have drawn him to living and working in the more mindful and slower paced environment of Blue Spirit in Costa Rica.   99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam139. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 1)141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We humans are pretty good at learning from experience, and it turns out, it’s not all in our heads — it’s in our bodies too! In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Rebekkah LaDyne explains how both our minds and our bodies learn from stressful experiences. Rebekkah talks with our co-host, Debbie, about how undersupported, overwhelming, and unwanted life events can dictate how we respond to future stress and overwhelm. The learning that takes place in those events can get in the way of effective responding for years to come. Bring your mind and your body, and join us in this episode to learn some body-based practices to help you more effectively respond to stress and overwhelm! In this Podcast You'll Learn: About Rebekkah, Diana, and Debbie’s personal experiences with stress and overwhelm How day-to-day stress is different from overwhelm About the process of becoming overwhelmed and what to do when/if you’re thereRebekkah’s expert breakdown of hyper-activation, hypo-activation, and functional activationWhat’s actually happening and what to do when it feels like you’re spinning out The important differences between freeze, fight, and flight mode and how they affect you physiologicallyWhy “thinking your way out” of overwhelm doesn’t work and a few (expert-approved) methods that doRebekkah’s empirically-based approach to dealing with stress and overwhelm Practical exercises for returning to a felt sense of ease and well-being Resources Rebekkah’s book, The Mind-Body Stress Reset: Somatic Practices to Reduce Overwhelm and Increase Well-BeingCheck out our First Annual Psychologists Off the Clock Wise Minds Summit for all sorts of self-care goodness! Rebekkah LaDyne About Rebekkah LaDyne Rebekkah has spent twenty-five years in the field of embodied well-being. After working in therapeutic mindfulness for 15 years, she studied Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University and conducted clinical research in somatic self-regulation. Based on her research in mind-body medicine, her comprehensive training with the Somatic Experiencing Institute, and her decades of professional experience, she authored The Mind-Body Stress Reset, with a foreword by Kathy Kain and endorsed by Peter Levine. In addition to her book, she has recorded several wellness CDs, appears on the radio, and YouTube. As a somatic wellness specialist, she meets with clients online from all over the globe in her. Rebekkah lives with her husband, two daughters, and their puppy-dog in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can learn more about Rebekkah on her website. Episode 145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert Episode 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) With Patrick McGinnisEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release)Episode 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 For far too long, women have been held responsible for completing an unfair share of work (especially invisible labor) at home. Even if a woman works a full-time job outside of the home, she is often also expected to complete the majority of domestic and emotional labor. What’s to be done about all the “invisible work” women do to keep partnerships afloat? In today’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live), and co-host Jill answer that question. Women have been held to an unreachable standard for too long. Now, take a breather, and join us to learn about creating equal partnerships at home, navigating unmanageable demands, and much, much more! Listen and Learn: About Jill, Diana, and Eve’s personal struggles with trying to be the perfect partner, mother, and worker How an invisible “I should do” list might be affecting your life and your relationship Some important (and shocking!) statistics on how motherhood affects women Why women’s invisible workload matters and how you can help shift the system that supports it Eve’s breakdown of Fair Play - her empirically based, step-by-step system for impacting lasting change in your partnership The important differences between playing fair and keeping score with your partner How modeling good-partner-behavior might impact your kids for the better About Jill’s experience playing Eve’s card-game, The Fair Play Deck (and Eve’s tips-and-tricks for playing fairly) How to connect your work-time balance to your values through a minimum standard of care Resources: Eve’s book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) The accompanying card deck for Eve’s book, The Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck for Prioritizing What's Important  Marianne Cooper’s work on women in the workplace and more  Jill’s 2020 report on women in the workplace About Eve Rodsky, J.D. Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time by coming up with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home. In her New York Times bestselling book Fair Play, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose. Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance and disposition of funds. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children. Visit her website to learn more! Related Episodes: Episode 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de MarnEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 174. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sleep is a hot topic right now, and many health experts argue your sleep is as important as eating well and exercising for your mental and physical health. Sleep medicine research has advanced a lot, and there is new information about what it is and why we do it, and strategies that work for insomnia. We can all rest easy because in this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Diana is joined by one of the top experts -- Dr. Rafael Pelayo from Stanford Health Care Sleep Medicine Center. In this episode, Dr. Pelayo, author of How to Sleep, provides an overview of sleep, sleep’s function, and strategies to help you get a better night’s rest tonight. Get cozy, and join us to take a deep dive into the world of sleep and change yours for the better!   Listen and Learn:   The different stages, the cycles within the stages, and what happens when any of those are interruptedWhat the function of dreams might beThe indications of remembering (or not remembering) your dreams What happens when we experience insomnia and how to put it to bedHow our phones (or, as Dr. Pelayo calls them, our handheld computers) are impacting our sleep and what to do about itWhat to do when you wake up in the night (Hint: It’s not what you think!)How to get your kids to fall asleep and stay in bedDr. Pelayo’s expert opinion on co-sleepingAbout Diana and Dr. Pelayo’s personal experiences with winding down before bedtimeWhat to look for and when it’s the right time to visit a specialist Why you should probably go visit a doctor if your snoring every night   Sleep Resources:   Dr. Pelayo’s book, How to Sleep: The New Science-Based Solutions for Sleeping Through the NightVisit Diana's website to get her FREE meditation to help you fall asleepCheck out our First Annual Psychologists Off the Clock Wise Minds Summit where Dr. Paleyo will offer a live question and answer session!   About Rafael Pelayo, MD:   Dr. Rafael Pelayo   Dr. Rafael Pelayo, author of How to Sleep, is a clinical professor at Stanford University where he co-authored the textbook for and continues to teach the popular Sleep and Dreams undergraduate course (where you may get squirted with a water gun for sleeping!). Since 1993, he has worked with the Stanford Health Care Sleep Medicine Center. His initial exposure to sleep medicine was as a medical student working with Dr. Michael Thorpy at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine. He joined the Stanford Sleep Disorders Clinic in 1993 as a fellow and never left. In 2013, he was appointed as a clinical professor at the Sleep Medicine division of the department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science at Stanford University. Dr. Pelayo’s clinical focus has been the treatment of sleep disorders in patients of all ages. He has lectured nationally and internationally and has appeared frequently in television, radio, and print. He has served as chair of the Sleep Disorders Research Advisory Board of the National Center for Sleep Disorders Research at the National Heart Lung Blood Institute at the NIH. He has also chaired the pediatric special interest section of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. You can find out more about Dr. Pelayo on his Stanford profile or at the California Sleep Society webpage.      7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse60. Helping Children Sleep With Gaby Wentworth59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Working parenthood is hard, and even the most Instagram-perfect parents and professionals have their fair share of tears, overwhelm, guilt, and anxiety. Though there are no simple solutions, learning how to work and parent more mindfully can help you build greater success and have more joy. Join our conversation with Lori Mihalich-Levin, author of Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, founder of Mindful Return, and Working Mother Magazine's “working mama guru.” Lori talks with co-host Yael about the ins and outs of mindful working parenthood. When you tune in, you'll learn tips that can help you work and parent more successfully and more joyfully, even in the face of the day-to-day challenges working parents experience. So go ahead and snuggle your nearest kiddo while you learn how to more mindfully enjoy your baby and your career! Listen and Learn: What motivates Lori and her personal tips on how to take on the impossible in work and parenting Why companies fail to retain women after they have children How to be a psychologically flexible working parent About the strategies Lori uses in her personal life to navigate parenting, her career, and her sanity What mindfulness is, what it involves, and how to be mindful in your own life Recommendations for parents who struggle with the guilt that often accompanies juggling multiple roles How to plan effectively (even if you aren’t a self-proclaimed planning nerd like Lori!) Why boundaries are necessary and how you can establish them Lori’s tips for using your parenting skills to become a more effective leader at work How to build community, and why you should About the importance of passion projects for your work as a parent and your work at work! About Lori’s work in diversifying her Mindful Return courses to meet the needs of more individuals, including dads and parents of children with special needs Work, Parenting, and Mindfulness Resources Mentioned in This Episode Lori’s Mindful Return Program (and the mom-specific, dad-specific, and parents of children with special needs versions, as well as a course for employers) Lori’s book, Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave The Free Meditation App - Insight Timer Emily Oster’s book, Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool Lori's podcast, Parents at Work Parenting in a Pandemic support groups for moms and dads About "Working Mama Guru" Lori Mihalich-Levin, JD Lori is the founder of Mindful Return, author of Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, and creator of the Mindful Return Maternity Leave E-Course. She is mama to two wonderful red-headed boys (ages 7 and 9), is the co-host of the Parents at Work Podcast, and is a partner in the health care practice at Dentons US LLP. Her passion is empowering new parents by providing them with the strategies and tools they need to be present with their babies and in their careers. Lori’s work has appeared in the New York Times Parenting, The Washington Post, Thrive Global, and The Huffington Post. And just recently, she was featured in The Female CEO Magazine. Lori holds a law degree from the Georgetown University Law Center and completed her undergraduate studies at Princeton University’s Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs. She has been committed to promoting women’s equality and leadership throughout her career. Most recently, she founded and Co-Chaired for two years Dentons’ Parent Professional Network (now ParentsLEAD). In her prior job, she founded both the Returning to Work Community (RWC) for mothers at Association of A... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 In his TEDx talk, Michael Herold, public speaker, confidence coach, and podcaster extraordinaire, says, “Things you will achieve in your life, you will achieve because of your disability, not in spite of it.” In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Michael talks with Debbie and Yael about confidence, self-doubt, and overcoming limitations. Limitations are all around us. These might be thoughts about how unqualified we are, feelings of anxiety, or even physical disabilities such as spinal muscular atrophy, but Michael Herold has some good news. We can overcome the limitations that come from our own heads, by taking Comfort Zone Challenges! Join us in this episode to learn about how to work with those limitations, instead of against them, to achieve the life you want. The Psychologists Off the Clock are excited to welcome Michael aboard as our new Strategic Consultant. Join us to for this episode to meet Michael and learn about our new team member! Listen and Learn How to build confidence and step outside your comfort zone About Michael’s transition from animator to public speaker, coach, and podcaster Why Acceptance and Commitment Therapy resonates with Michael and how it changed his life How Michael’s disability, spinal muscular atrophy, has shaped his unique perspective How you can use values to overcome your limitations About motivational porn and the microaggressions we often use when discussing people who have ‘overcome’ disability-related limitations Why it’s so important to connect with people and how to do that Inside information on how Coach Michael works to build his clients’ confidence Tips and tricks from the master himself on how to build your own confidence Resources from this Podcast Episode Michael's TEDx talk Michael’s website Michael's podcast: The Art of Charm The Art of Charm Podcast's Episode featuring Michael The Art of Charm Podcast's Core Confidence Program Viktor Frankl's Book: Man's Search for Meaning Michael’s Short Film “When I grow up” All of Michael’s short animated films  Michael Herold About Michael Herold Early in his life, doctors told Michael Herold’s parents that his severe disability would keep him from living a normal life. The doctors were right. Michael’s life has been anything but normal. In fact, he is quite a renaissance man. For over a decade, Michael was a successful animator for Nickelodeon and worked on a variety of shows including Penguins of Madagascar and Kung Fu Panda. He currently does public speaking around the world and has recently spoken in front of parliament and given a TEDx talk. Michael also uses skills and exercises from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to provide coaching on a variety of life-skills including public speaking, self-doubt, communication, and, primarily, confidence. Visit Michael’s website to find out more!   Episode 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin AndrewsEpisode 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica WilliamsEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven HayesEpisode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ MoranEpisode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Performance pressure is pushing down on us and Queen was right - that pressure is terrifying! In this Psychologists Off the Clock podcast episode, Yael speaks with Dr. Sian Beilock, an expert on performance and brain science, and author of Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to. Listen in to hear Sian's insights and about her research into how our experiences, neurology, emotions, and thoughts interact to both foster and stump our ability to perform under pressure. You'll learn about how mind-body communication leads to sub-optimal performance. And you'll gain knowledge and strategies to make high pressure situations work to your advantage! Performing under pressure is a skill, like any other, Sian tells us. Tune in to learn how to build it. Listen and Learn: Why Sian started studying choking in the first place (hint: it was a bit of 'me-search') Sian’s definition of choking What types of situations and personal characteristics lend themselves to choking What’s going on physiologically and neurologically when you're choking under pressure Strategies, tips, and tricks from Sian for dealing with choking About embodied cognition, rest, and relaxation How perfectionism and role switching might be involved in choking Why self-compassion is so important when you’re performing under pressure How prejudice, stereotypes, diversity, and evaluative apprehension impact the likelihood of choking Performing Under Pressure Resources Mentioned: Sian’s book - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to Sian’s book - How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel Alex Pang’s book, Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less Jessica Lahey’s book, The Gift of Failure Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Deborah Spar’s book, Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection About Choke Expert Dr. Sian Beilock: A cognitive scientist by training, Dr. Sian Beilock earned her Bachelor of Science in cognitive science from the University of California, San Diego, and doctorates of philosophy in both kinesiology and psychology from Michigan State University. Sian has served as the eighth President of Barnard College at Columbia University since 2017. Her work as a cognitive scientist revolves around performance anxiety and reveals simple psychological strategies that can be used to ensure success in everything from test taking and public speaking to athletics and job interviews. Sian is one of the world’s leading experts on the brain science behind performing under pressure and the brain and body factors influencing all types of choking (from test-taking to public speaking to your golf swing). She has authored two critically acclaimed books published in more than a dozen languages - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to and How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel, as well as over 100 peer-reviewed publications. Her 2017 TED talk on why we choke under pressure has been viewed over 2 million times. You can find out more about Dr. Beilock here. Related Episodes from The Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast: Episode 34. Strengths, Goal Setting, and Grit with Dr. Alexis Karris Bachik Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang Episode 75: Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer Episode 88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin Episode 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Episode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Compassion is not a passive process, but an active one. It means being aware that someone (including you) is suffering and moving toward that suffering so that you can offer help. Compassion takes courage, wisdom, and strength. And, we can build more compassionate minds with practice. In this episode, Diana talks with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch about Compassion Focused Therapy, how they apply the principles of compassion to their family and in their work as founders and director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy. Listen in to hear heartfelt insights for a more compassionate future. Listen and Learn: Why it’s so hard to be compassionate when we feel threatenedWhy we have an inner critic and how to respond when it shoes itThe core qualities to develop to build a more compassionate mindHow compassion is different from kindnessHow we can respond to a long, dark winter with compassionHow we can heal divides with compassionWhat yoga and compassion focused therapy have in commonSuggestions to build a more compassionate future together Resources: The ACT Practitioners Guide to the Science of Compassion by Dennis Tirch, Benji Schoendorff, and Laura TirchHow to be Nice to Yourself by Laura Silberstein-TirchStephan Porges on the Polyvagal TheoryThe Compassionate Mind Foundation About Laura Silberstein-Tirch Dr. Laura Silberstein-Tirch Laura R. Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD, is the Director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy., and serves as an Adjunct Assistant Professor at Albert Einstein College of Medicine of Yeshiva University. Dr. Silberstein-Tirch is a clinical supervisor and compassion-focused therapy (CFT) trainer who presents internationally on mindfulness and compassion and is an author of 3 books, including “How to Be Nice To Yourself." She is a founder and Past-President of the New York City chapter of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science and the Compassionate Mind Foundation USA. Her research interests include psychological flexibility and emotions as well as CFT for anxiety and depression. About Dennis Tirch Dr. Dennis Tirch Dennis Tirch, Ph.D. is the Founder of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) in NYC, Past-President of The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), President of The Compassionate Mind Foundation, North America and an Associate Clinical Professor at The Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai, NYC. He is an internationally acknowledged expert psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer in CFT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Buddhist Psychology (BP). Dr. Tirch is an author of 7 books, numerous book chapters and peer-reviewed articles on mindfulness-based psychotherapies. Dr. Tirch regularly trains CFT and ACT globally, through workshops and courses in-person and online. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and NPR among other media outlets. Through regular Twitter and other social media posts, Dr. Tirch shares compassion focused insights with tens of thousands of people each day. Dr. Tirch is an Ambassador for the Ram Dass Fellowship, and an advocate for yoga, sobriety, and vegetarian/vegan living. Dr. Tirch is a Zen dharma holder, lay teacher of Sharma. 50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Dr. Russel Kolts145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Paul Gilbert90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living like Crazy147. Extending Compassion with Dr. Janina Scarlet and Sara Shairer 46. Altruism and the Flow of Compassion with Dr. Yotam Heinberg131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Diana for a short but sweet Soothing Rhythm Breathing break!   Soothing Rhythm Breathing is an exercise from Compassion Focused Therapy. It is particularly helpful when you feel anxiety, anger, or other emotional dysregulation. Soothing Rhythm Breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, increases heart rate variability, and activates the Parasympathetic Nervous System. Soothing Rhythm Breathing shifts your body/brain systems from drive and threat toward safeness and compassion.     131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges81. A Gift For You: 10 Min Breathing Meditation70. A Gift For You: Loving-Kindness MeditationA Gift For You: Pranayama Breathing Meditation   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Microaggressions. These small, often unintentional acts of racism are probably affecting you more than you know! In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Monnica Williams, author of Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces and co-author of Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings, and our co-host Debbie discuss microaggressions in therapy spaces, race-based mental health disparities, and racial trauma. Join us for an informative episode, where we can grow and learn together! "Good people can and do commit acts of racism."Dr. Monnica Williams Listen and Learn: What microaggressions are and why they’re so pervasiveThe different categories of microaggressions How microaggressions have affected Debbie and Dr. Williams personally How self-identity impacts the occurrence and aftermath of microaggressionsHow subtle, covert microaggressions impact race-based Mental Health treatment disparityThe psychological impact of microaggressions and racial traumaDr. Monnica Williams’s recommendations for the mistakes therapists make in therapyDr. Monnica-approved methods for pointing out, apologizing for, and validating the experience of microaggressions if you commit one (as we all do sometimes!)  Resources Mentioned on the Podcast: Link to our sponsorship pageFollow Dr. Monnica on Twitter: @DrMonnica Visit Dr. Monnica’s website: http://www.monnicawilliams.com Dr. Monnica’s blog on psychology today: Culturally SpeakingDr. Monnica’s book: Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings Dr. Monnica’s book: Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces About Monnica Williams:  Dr. Monnica Williams is a board-certified, licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapies. She is an Associate Professor in the School of Psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada Research Chair in Mental Health Disparities, and Director of the Laboratory for Culture and Mental Health Disparities. She is also the Clinical Director of the Behavioral Wellness Clinic, LLC in Tolland, Connecticut, and she has founded clinics in Kentucky, Virginia, and Pennsylvania. Dr. Williams completed her undergraduate studies at MIT and UCLA. She received her doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the University of Virginia. She was an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine in the Department of Psychiatry for four years, where she worked with Dr. Edna Foa who is a world renowned expert on OCD and PTSD. She was also a director of the Center for Mental Health Disparities at the University of Louisville.  Dr. Williams has published over 100 peer reviewed articles, books, chapters, and scientific reports with a focus on anxiety related conditions and cultural considerations. She was named one of the top 25 thought leaders in PTSD by PTSD Journal, and she frequently contributes to the public scientific discourse as a media expert. She is frequently featured on PBS, NPR, and the New York times, and she has a fantastic blog on psychology today called Culturally Speaking. Along with Daniel Rosen and Johnathan Kanter, Dr. Monnica co-authored the book Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings. In this episode, we discussed her most recent book, Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces. You can learn more about all of Dr. Williams’ work here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A great wizard once said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it." Humans are social animals who thrive on effective communication. However, each of us has a different communication style, and sometimes, differences in those communication styles inflict injury. In today’s world, where communication looks very different than it used to, understanding differences in communication styles and learning to remedy word-inflicted wounds is of utmost importance. In this timely episode, Dr. Deborah Tannen talks with Jill about how communication styles affect our everyday relationships. Join us to learn more on the ‘best’ way to talk in different contexts, gender differences in communication styles, saying what you mean, meaning what you say, and much more! Listen and Learn: Dr. Tannen’s definition of conversational styleWhy communication style is important in various domains including intimate relationships, workplace relations, and difficult conversations Saying what you mean and meaning what you sayJill and Dr. Tannen’s account of gender differences in communication stylesDr. Tannen’s wisdom on the ‘best way to talk’What a double bind is and how it affects women Questions and phrases you can use to improve your communication style right nowHow different communication platforms change the intent of your words Resources Link to our sponsorship pageGary Chapman’s five love languagesVisit Yael’s website to find out more on her work with couples Dr. Tannen’s memoir and where you can purchase itInformation on Dr. Arlie Hochschild Dr. Tannen’s books, That's Not What I Meant! and Talking from 9 to 5Alicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap Dr. Tannen’s training video on women’s language in the workplace The New York Times’ article, It's Not Just You: In Online Meetings, Many Women Can't Get a Word In About Dr. Deborah Tannen Dr. Tannen is a University Professor and Professor Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. She is best known as the author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, a book that has brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness as a New York Times best seller. Her collected works include eight books for general audiences as well as sixteen books and over one hundred articles for scholarly audiences. Dr. Tannen is one of only six in Georgetown University’s College of Arts and Sciences who hold the distinguished rank of University Professor. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and spent a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, New Jersey. She has twice been a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences at Stanford in Palo Alto, California. The recipient of five honorary doctorates, she is a member of the PEN/Faulkner Foundation Board of Directors. Read her recent essays in The New York Times and The Forward or view a full list of her articles for general audiences here. To learn more about what Dr. Tannen is up to, visit her website at deborahtannen.com. Related episodes Episode 163: The Likeability Trap with Alicia MenendezEpisode 165: How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine KinzlerEpisode 62: Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu VillatteEpisode 104: You’re Doing it Wrong with Professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret QuinlanEpisode 121: Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 28: Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With R... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have unhelpful habits, and whether you overeat, use substances, or worry, you may have noticed these habits have gotten worse lately. In this episode, Diana joins Dr. Judson Brewer (Dr. Jud), neuroscientist and author of The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits, for a fascinating conversation about why stress makes our habits and addictions worse. Additionally, they talk about what’s happening in your brain when you’re caught in these habits, and how to unhook from even the trickiest ones using mindfulness and curiosity. Listen and Learn: Diana’s and Debbie’s pandemic habitsHow Diana’s shifting unhelpful habits to values-based ones (get her free download here!)The three core elements of a habitWhat’s happening in your brain when you are cravingWhy uncertainty and stress makes it harder to break unhealthy habitsHow anxiety and rumination are similar to smoking and eating Dr. Jud’s groundbreaking brain research on mindfulness and the Default Mode NetworkHow curiosity changes your brain and why it is key to unhooking from habit loopsWhy it doesn’t work to “think your way out of a craving” or “think your way out of anxiety”Mindfulness tools you can use right now with yourself and your kids to get groundedWhy swapping choosing kindness and generosity over self-righteous rumination is “so much sweeter”The personal values that underlie Dr. Jud’s work Resources Five Finger Breathing with Dr. Jud BrewerWatch Dr. Jud study Anderson Cooper’s brain in an fMRIThe Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How we can Break Bad Habits, by Dr. Judson BrewerDr. Jud’s Ted Talk: A Simple Way To Break a Bad HabitDr. Jud’s App-based behavior change programs: Unwinding Anxiety®, Eat Right Now®, and To Quit®.  Get 20% off with coupon code OFFTHECLOCKChange unhealthy habits into values-rich ones with this handoutDr. Yotam Heinberg on “growing roots” practice Listen to Diana’s interviews with Paul Gilbert here and here to learn more about threat, drive, and compassion systems in the brain Dr. Jud Brewer About Dr. Judson Brewer Dr. Judson Brewer is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as a research affiliate at MIT. Before that, he held research and teaching positions at Yale University and the University of Massachusetts’ Center for Mindfulness. Read more about his research here. As an addiction psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for treating addictions, Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety (Eat Right Now, Unwinding Anxiety and Craving to Quit). Based on the success of these programs in the lab, he co-founded MindSciences, Inc. to create app-based digital therapeutic versions of these programs for a wider audience, working with individuals, corporations, and hospital systems to put effective, evidence-based behavior change guidance in the hands of people struggling with unwanted behaviors and “everyday addictions.” 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran103. Healthy Habits with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert46. Altruism And The Flow Of Compassion With Dr. Yotam Heineberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Seuss told us, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” But what do you do when you’re in charge of many brains in many heads? What happens when you’re in charge of steering many feet (some of which have tiny shoes) traveling in many different directions? Is there any room left to choose? In this week’s episode, Sarah Argenal, author of The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, discusses her framework to escape survival mode, find balance, and defeat burnout. She explains that we often find ourselves working from problem-solving mode, moving from problem to problem and finding the quickest solution for each. As we get caught up in solving problem after problem, we experience burnout and find ourselves trapped in survival mode. Unless we get more strategic in how we approach our many life roles, life can become small and lose its vitality. Sarah provides a strategic framework for working from the inside-out so that we can allow our many purposes to better serve us, and to bring back a vitality that guide us in each of our many life roles. Listen and Learn: How survival mode might be affecting you right nowFour steps you can take toward creating a more vital lifeTips and tricks for escaping survival modeStrategies for including more self-care into your routinesMethods for discovering what areas of your life are most important to you (and which are less important)What gets in the way of working from the inside-out, and how you can approach this work (even if you are too busy and tired!)How to make your purposes better serve you (instead of you serving them!)How to defeat burnout, find balance, and escape survival mode About Sarah Argenal: Sarah Argenal attained her masters in counseling psychology with an emphasis in marriage and family therapy and adult development from the University of San Francisco. She is the founder of the The Argenal Institute LLC based in Austin, TX, host and executive producer of Working Parent Resource Podcast, and author of the book The Whole Self Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode For Good. Sarah uses twenty years of experience and her signature program, the Whole SELF Lifestyle™, to help working parents escape survival mode and enjoy their lives. Resources: The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, by Sarah Argenal For more from Sarah’s work, check out the resources at The Argenal Institute. Yael’s essay on working parenthood in the Wall Street Journal. 24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown 83. Tao of Work and Family Balance 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine Thank you for joining us on this episode of Psychologists Off The Clock. Like what you’re hearing? Support us on Patreon. We appreciate your feedback. Please take a moment to leave a quick rating and review of the show on Apple Podcasts. It helps us spread the word to more folks like you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How you talk informs who you are, who you group up with, and how you perceive others. But while language is a profoundly powerful influencer of how we engage in the social world, we seldom acknowledge its impact on social injustice. In this episode, Yael talks with professor and psychologist Katherine Kinzler about the role of language and accent in prejudice, empathy, identity, morality, and ingroup/outgroup formation. In Katherine’s book, How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, she describes how language and accent are an often overlooked contributor in cultural affiliation and discrimination. Katherine offers evidence for their critical role in perpetuating injustice, and shows us why increasing awareness of linguistic biases can empower us to pave the way towards a more just and compassionate future. Listen and Learn: The surprising ways that language influences who we are and our cultural affiliationThe power of language in perpetuating prejudice and stereotypingHow media and film perpetuate stigma related to language and accentWhy the evolution of language can predispose humans towards prejudiceHow recent events demonstrate the overlooked role of linguistic discriminationThat language is not just about communication, but rather is about social lifeWhy common myths about monolingualism are wrongHow we can use language as a tool to increase compassion and empathy, and reduce prejudice About Katherine Kinzler Dr. Katherine Kinzler is a psychology professor at the University of Chicago. Her research sits at the intersection of developmental and social psychology where she focuses on the origins of prejudice and ingroup outgroup thinking with an emphasis on understanding how language and accent mark social groups. Katherine’s writing has appeared in the New York times and other media outlets and the world economic forum named her as one of the 50 scientists under 40 working to shape our future. Resources: How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, by Katherine Kinzler NPR Interview with Katherine Kinzler NYT Book Review on How You Say It Katherine’s University of Chicago webpage Other Resources: Article showcasing the work of Dr. Deborah Tannen Link to Duolingo, a fun, game-based app that helps adults and children learn new languages Psychologists Off the Clock 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you are experiencing Pandemic Stress, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help! This is a stressful time for most of us; the mental health aftermath of a pandemic is sometimes called a "second pandemic" because of the rise of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. And in addition to fear of the coronavirus itself, we are currently facing other major, global stressors like climate change, forest fires, systemic racism, economic uncertainty, and political divisiveness. No wonder so many of us are exhausted! In this podcast episode, co-hosts Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen discuss Pandemic Stress and give examples of how they use ACT practices themselves, as they experience emotional ups and downs. Whether you are anxious, depressed, lonely, or irritable, Diana and Debbie have some strategies from ACT that might help you be more flexible and accepting in the face of the pandemic. As Diana says in the episode, "it's almost like ACT was made for Pandemic Stress!" Listen and Learn About Pandemic Stress and the "second pandemic" of mental health concerns. Diana and Debbie's own experiences with Pandemic Stress. The difference between threat, fear, and anxiety.How Psychological Flexibility and ACT offer the key to navigating pandemic stress.Why practicing acceptance is more helpful than experiential avoidance. Shifting your perspective when "doom and gloom" thoughts arise.Letting go of unrealistic personal expectations, and finding a healthy routine that supports your wellbeing. Loneliness, moral distress, and loss during COVID.How we can reconnect to our values, do the next right thing, and have a sense of common humanity.Building social connection and effectively working from home. Resources Diana’s 6 ACT Strategies for Transforming Anxiety & Increasing Psychological FlexibilityDebbie’s Pandemic Stress Blog PostsIf you need a good cry, here’s a link to the song The Next Right Thing from Frozen 2Diana's friend Gwendolyn's beautiful song and you can sign up for Gwendolyn's community singing newsletter Pandemic Stress Articles "How I used ACT to cope with COVID"Article on Pandemic-Related DistressUncertainty and Psychological FlexibilityFamily systems and Psychological Flexibility The Moderating Roles of Psychological Flexibility and Inflexibility on the Mental Health Impacts of COVID-19 Pandemic and Lockdown in ItalyResponding to Moral Dilemmas in the age of COVID Older Adults and Social Connection while Social Distancing 4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1)5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2)7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse37. Post-Traumatic Growth42. Strategies to Increase Focus and Work More Effectively43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard (now our fabulous co-hosts!)116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore118. Moral Injury and Shame with Dr. Lauren Borges and Dr. Jacob Farnsworth124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal 133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Dr. Robyn Walser134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne149. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women are told to be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable. Join Jill for her interview with award-winning journalist and author of the book The Likeability Trap, Alicia Menendez, as they examine the impossible bind women find themselves in: to succeed, women must be competent and likeable; but the more women are seen as competent, and the more they achieve, the less likeable they become. Alicia discusses how women can let go of old rules and reimagine leadership rather than reinventing themselves. Listen and Learn What likeability traps areWhat the "Goldilocks Conundrum" isThe problem with focusing on women as the solutionThe need for systemic changeIdeas for where to start moving the conversation forwardHow to think about ambition during a pandemic and how to juggle the challenges of today’s difficult times About Alicia Menendez Alicia Menendez Alicia Menendez is an MSNBC anchor and host of the Latina to Latina podcast. Dubbed “Ms. Millennial” by The Washington Post, “journalism’s new gladiator” by Elle, and a “content queen” by Marie Claire, her interviews and reporting have appeared on ABC News, Bustle, FusionTV, PBS and Vice News. Her first book, “The Likeability Trap” was published in November 2019. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and two daughters. Resources Visit Alicia's webpage Buy the book The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You Are 49. Empowering Women with Dr. Robyn Walser 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Karen Suyemoto, the chair of the APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology. Race and culture are present in all of our interactions. As mental health professionals, it is our ethical responsibility to understand the ways in which race and ethnicity impact us personally, our interactions with clients, and the communities we serve. Everyone is also caught in the system of racism and oppression. It is our responsibility as mental health providers to strive towards understanding the complexities of this system and how we can contribute to systemic change. Listen and Learn How do race and ethnicity interact, and how are they definedWhy understanding the influences of race and ethnicity is so central to psychologyThe role personal inquiry plays in the guidelinesWhy practicing cultural humility and understanding positionality is important in the work of a psychologistHow racism and privilege has impacted the field of psychologyHow the therapy room can be a reenactment of racial traumaWhat it means to be an activist in psychologyHow we can carry out a deep commitment to changeHow to hold both race and the individual authentic relationship in our inter-racial interactions About Karen Suyemoto  Karen Suyemoto has a joint appointment with the Psychology Department and the Asian American Studies Program and Critical Ethnic and Community Studies graduate program at the University of Massachusetts, Boston. Their research interests focus generally on Asian American psychology and issues related to social justice and anti-racist therapy/ practice/education. Their research addresses fostering awareness and advocacy for social justice through examining relations of race and racism to mental health; investigating effects of resistance and coping with racism, and exploring the complexity of relative and ascribed power and intersectional discrimination. Additional research addresses how cultural responsiveness and racial social justice can be developed through and integrated into education, training, research methods, and practice. Their current research projects include a quantitative study examining the effects of racism for people of color and how taking action to challenge racism may moderate negative psychological effects and a two-book project focused on transformative teaming and learning about oppression and privilege (with Grace Kim and Roxanne Donovan).   Professor Suyemoto was the Chair of the recently released Guidelines for Race and Ethnicity for the American Psychological Association. They served as the past president of the Asian American Psychological Association and as the AAPA delegate to the American Psychological Association Council of Representatives. In 2013, they were recognized as a White House Champion of Change: Asian American Pacific Islander Woman Leader and also awarded the Asian American Psychological Association’s Distinguished Contributions Award. Resources: APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in PsychologyDr. Suyemoto's Web site 150. Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Dr. Sandra Mattar156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Modern parenting is high stakes, leaving parents terrified of failure in their parenting and in their children. But it turns out that the overprotective behaviors driven by our fears undermine our children’s—and our own—successes throughout life. Join Yael for a conversation with best-selling author, teacher, podcaster, and parent Jessica Lahey for a thought-provoking conversation about how parents can learn to relate to failure differently for themselves and their children. And why we should. Listen and Learn: How overprotective parenting can undermine competence, independence, academic potential, and emotional healthWhy failure gets a bad rap and how to reframe itHow autonomy, competence, and relatedness can help our kids learn to learn betterThe importance of intrinsic motivation and how to help children build itWhat external motivators are and why they are problematicHow to “parent in place” with greater ease (what we can do less of and what we can focus on while our children are learning at home)Why it’s important to focus on process over product About Jessica Lahey: Jessica Lahey Jessica Lahey is a teacher, writer, and mom. Over twenty years, she’s taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, Vermont Public Radio, The Washington Post and the New York Times and is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons. Her second book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, will be released in April 2021. Resources from Jess: Jessica’s WebsiteThe Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, by Jessica Lahey #AmWriting Podcast with Jessica Lahey, KJ Dell’Antonia, and Sarina BowenParenting in Place Masterclass From The Atlantic, Why back-to-school night made me feel like a bad mom, by Jessica Lahey Other Resources: Yael’s essay in Rick Hanson’s Wise Brain Bulletin, How to Be a Happier Parent Under Quarantine Jessica's bibliography containing the books referenced during this episode (and many others Jess refers to in various speaking engagements and writing).The Stinky and Dirty Show on Amazon Prime 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parenting is stressful right now. This is because we are educating our kids at home while juggling work with limited childcare. We are also navigating difficult, important conversations about racism, the pandemic, and world events. How can we regain our sanity and parent in a way that is meaningful? Join us for a conversation with Jen Lumanlan, a child development expert and podcast host from Your Parenting Mojo. During this episode, we explore homeschooling, pandemic pods, and socially just parenting. Listen and Learn: How Diana and Debbie are navigating school at homeHomeschooling strategies that foster deep learning and keep kids engagedHow to form a pandemic pod in a socially just wayWhat is “patriarchy” in parenting and how it harms our childrenWhite privilege in parentingActions parents can take against racism  Jen Lumanlan About Jen Lumanlan Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed. She hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researchers and the principles of respectful parenting.  In each episode, she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children. She lives in California with her husband and daughter. Resources Your Parenting Mojo Podcast Resources: Trying to make a decision about homeschooling versus school-based programs?Looking for resources related to parenting and race?Want to start a Pandemic Pod? Try the Pandemic Pods 'in a box' courseWant to get started with Homeschooling? Check out The Confident Homeschooler  Other Resources Mentioned: Nice White Parents PodcastYuval Noah Harari on what the year 2050 has in store for humankind Carol Gilligan on Patriarchy in Parenting with Jen LumanlanHow to Get Away with Parenting podcastUrban Intellectual Black History Flashcards 141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Dr. Daniel Goleman159. Challenging Times During Adolescence with Dr. Louise Hayes78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) With Patrick McGinnis9. Children's Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child's Feelings14. Mindful Parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pandemic, online school, social distancing, climate change… this is an especially difficult time for adolescents, who are already in a transitional time of life. Dr. Louise Hayes is one of the world’s foremost experts on using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Adolescents. She joins us on the podcast for the second time, to talk about her new book for adolescents, and share her thoughts on helping adolescents cope with today’s challenges. Listen and Learn The unique challenges of the pandemic for adolescents, and how they can cope.Why losses associated with the pandemic, even seemingly small ones, are real. Why we should all be listening to what adolescents have to say.About the concept of “active hope.”Louise Hayes’s thoughts about bullying and procrastination. How to take small steps toward self-care during difficult times.How to go from “zombieland” to “vitalityland.” About Dr. Louise Hayes Dr. Louise Hayes is a clinical psychologist who is well known for her work using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for young people in schools and clinical settings. She is a former president of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. Dr. Hayes is an author, international speaker, a senior fellow with The University of Melbourne and Orygen Youth Health, and a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (ACT) trainer. Dr. Hayes is the co-author of the The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection. Her newest book is called Your Life, Your Way: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills to Help Teens Manage Emotions and Build Resilience. Together with Joseph Ciarrochi, she conducts research and treatment development; her latest work uses a DNA-v (Discoverer-Noticer-Advisor-Values) treatment model for young people. Louise is also an active humanitarian, taking mental health professionals into the Himalaya to developing their mindfulness skills and raising funds for poor children in remote Nepal. Resources: Your Life, Your Way: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills to Help Teens Manage Emotions and Build Resilience https://amzn.to/3iTWEva Praxis DNA-V online training with Louise Hayes: https://www.praxiscet.com/events/dna-v/The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection https://amzn.to/31fZvsu Sherry Turkle Reclaiming Conversation https://amzn.to/3laC3VJ Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes: https://www.offtheclockpsych.com/podcast/helping-adolescents-thriveParental Burnout with Dr. Lisa Coyne: https://www.offtheclockpsych.com/podcast/parental-burnout Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Jill speaks with Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and best-selling New York Times author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, about her smash hit book and the art and heart of therapy. Join their intimate discussion about ultracrepidarianism (one of Lori’s favorite words!), vulnerability, breaking therapy rules, reducing mental health stigma, and more! About Lori Gottlieb: Lori Gottlieb Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times Bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone which is being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The Atlantic Weekly’s “Dear Therapist” advice column and contributes regularly to the New York Times and many other publications. Her recent TED Talk is one of the 10 most-watched of the year. A member of the advisory council of the Bring Change to Mind and advisor to the Aspen Institute, she is a sought-after expert in media such as The Today Show, Good Morning America, The CBS This Morning, CNN, and NPR’s “Fresh Air.” She is also the co-host of the new iHeart Radio Podcast “Dear Therapists”, produced by Katie Couric. Learn more at LoriGottleib.com or by following her on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram at lorigottlieb_author.  Resources: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori GottliebThe Atlantic Weekly’s “Dear Therapist” advice column by Lori GottliebLori’s TED TalkiHeart Radio Podcast “Dear Therapists” with Lori Gottlieb and Guy WinchLoriGottleib.com“In Psychotherapy the Toilet has Become the New Couch” April 30, 2020, The New York Times Article by Lori Gottlieb@LoriGottlieb1, Lori’s Twitter accountlorigottlieb_author, Lori’s Instagram 106. Therapy from "The Heart of ACT” with Dr. Robyn Walser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our culture shies away from talking about death. But Katy Butler, author of The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life, argues we have an obligation to think about what constitutes a well-supported death. In this episode, Yael embarks on a thought-provoking, important, and timely conversation with Katy. In their discussion, Katy shares ways we can honor the death process relationally, practically, medically, emotionally, and spiritually, both for ourselves and those we love. Listen and Learn: How we can honor death in the time of Covid-19What it means to die wellThe value of longevity versus quality of lifeWhat is slow medicine?Ways to infuse sanctity, even in a hospital roomWhat is an advance directive?The importance of cleaning up our emotional legacyUsing ritual in virtual ways (The Bathing and Honoring Ritual)How we can cultivate hope when prolonging life becomes tenuous About Katy Butler: Katy Butler Katy Butler is an award-winning journalist, public speaker, and bestselling author. Katy Butler has written two groundbreaking books about the end of life and is a thought leader in the national movement for medical reform. Her newest book is The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life. Her first book, Knocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death, a national bestseller, was named one of the 100 Most Notable Books of 2013 by the New York Times. Katy’s writing has appeared in The New Yorker; Mother Jones; Scientific American, Atlantic, Tricycle, Psychotherapy Networker; Best American Essays, and Best American Science Writing. She has taught writing at Esalen Institute in Big Sur and at Tassajara Zen Mountain Center. A Buddhist, Katy was lay-ordained by the Vietnamese monk and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh. Resources: The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life by Katy ButlerKnocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death by Katy Butler“What Broke My Father’s Heart: How a Pacemaker Wrecked Our Family’s Life,” June 18, 2020 New York Times article by Katy ButlerKaty Butler’s websiteFive Wishes, ways to talk about advanced care directives 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Diana for an important and empowering discussion with Dr. Helen Neville, Dr. Hector Adames, Dr. Bryana French, and Dr. Grace Chen, four BIPOC psychologists and members of The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective, about steps we can take at the individual and community level to heal from racial oppression. Collectively.  Listen and Learn What is radical healing?How does radical healing differ from conventional healing approaches?Why NOW’s a key time to raise the critical consciousnessWhy cultural authenticity mattersWays radical healing can help BIPOC communities weather Covid-19 Tips on how to talk about race, racism, and inclusivityHow to approach “hot moment” conversations about race to engender changeWhat is radical hope and how to cultivate it in trying timesResources, resources, resources! About The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective Dr. Helen Neville About Dr. Helen Neville: Dr. Neville is a Provost Fellow and Professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign in the Educational Psychology and African American Studies departments. She is the former President of the Society for the Psychological Study of Culture, Ethnicity, and Race (American Psychological Association Division 45) and the lead editor of the Handbook of African American Psychology. Dr. Neville has authored, coauthored and edited 7 books and close to 90 articles. She also serves on the editorial boards of several other psychology and Black Studies journals. Dr. Neville received her doctorate in counseling psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara. Dr. Hector Adames About Dr. Hector Adames: Dr. Adames is an Associate Professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Chicago Campus and the Co-Director of the IC-RACE Lab (Immigration Critical Race And Cultural Equity Lab). He is also the editor of Latinx Psychology Today (LPT) and is on the editorial board of The Counseling Psychologist and Professional Psychology: Research & Practice. Dr. Adames is the co-author of Cultural Foundations and Interventions in Latino/a Mental Health: History, Theory and within Group Differences. He also co-authored two forthcoming books; Race and Colorism: Towards a Racially Conscious Understanding of Latinxs and Caring for Latinxs with Dementia in a Globalized World: Behavioral and Psychosocial Treatments. Dr. Adames received his doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Wright State University in Ohio. Dr. Bryana French About Dr. Bryana French: Dr. French is an Associate Professor in the Graduate School of Professional Psychology at the University of St. Thomas. She researches the psychosocial impacts of sexual coercion among racially diverse adolescents and the radical healing of black, and indigenous people. Dr. French’s work has been published in several journals such as The Counseling Psychologist, Journal of African American Studies, and Journal of Interpersonal Violence and she has held several leadership roles in the American Psychological Association. Dr. French earned her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology at the University of Illinois. Dr. Grace Chen Dr. Grace Chen: Dr. Chen is a licensed psychologist and life coach in Menlo Park, CA. Dr. Chen specializes in helping clients with marginalized identities to feel heard and understood and empowers them to embrace their strengths, gifts and potential. Dr. Chen also facilitates support groups for graduate women students at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business and was formerly a professor at the Palo Alto University. Dr. Chen earned her Ph.D. in counseling psychology from the University of Texas at Austin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are not alone if you’re feeling more stressed out and using unhealthy means to cope. Four months into the pandemic may find you Netflix binging, stress eating, or reaching for that extra glass of wine more than you would like. Or you may be struggling with addiction and/or working hard to maintain recovery in the midst of increased pandemic stress. In this episode Yael speaks with Dr. Rebecca Williams, a psychologist and co-author of The Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction and The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction. Her approach offers strategies for managing the big emotions we’re feeling now and concrete strategies to build the neural pathways in our brains to pivot toward wellness and healing (rather than of unhealthy coping mechanisms/problematic addictive behaviors) in the face of stress. Listen and Learn: What is addiction?Why mindfulness is key for those struggling with addictionNeuroplasticity’s role in healing and ways to cultivate it Why our feelings don’t have to change for us to be okTeasing apart cravings from commandsTips for folks with a hard time getting in touch with their valuesThe relationship between loss and addictionTips for individuals who love someone struggling with addiction About Dr. Rebecca Williams: Dr. Rebecca Williams Dr. Rebecca Williams is a psychologist and award-winning author of two books, integrating mindfulness and recovery from addictive behaviors. Her first book, The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors incorporates over 60 worksheets and exercises for readers and therapists to identify healthy coping strategies in recovery. And her second book, The Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction is a pocket coach of mindfulness skills that readers can practice every day to stay focused on self-care and commit to a healthy recovery. Rebecca is a lifelong yoga practitioner and brings the ancient teachings of yoga and meditation into understanding mental health and recovery. Resources: The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors by Rebecca E. Williams, PhD and Julie S. Kraft, MAThe Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction by Rebecca E. Williams, PhD and Julie S. Kraft, MA, MFTA Better Chance: A non-profit organization dedicated to creating leaders of color.Untamed, by Glennon Doyle 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hillary Connery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healthcare professionals usually choose their careers because patient care is meaningful; most want to make a positive impact and help others. However, with a broken healthcare system and unending occupational stressors, burnout is all-too-common, sometimes resulting in tragic consequences. Join Debbie for Part 2 of a rich two-part series with health psychologist Dr. Abbie Beacham, a clinical psychologist/trauma expert Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Dr. Bernard Chang, Associate Professor of Emergency Medicine at Columbia University, on the wellbeing of healthcare providers. Part 2 is about strategies for refueling for the deeply meaningful work providers do. Listen and Learn (Part 2): Strategies, strategies, strategies…The power of micro-moments - like the 20-second handwash!How to embrace the wobble board of a busy life.The importance of saying yes to basic needs, and why providers’ basic needs matter too!How to put pragmatic mindfulness to work for you.The benefits of self-compassion (and ways to sneak some in). About Dr. Abbie Beacham: Dr. Abbie Beacham Abbie Beacham, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist who has spent her career working in healthcare and medical settings. She has her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Louisville. Dr. Beacham also completed her internship in Clinical Health Psychology at the University of Florida Health Sciences Center and Post-doctoral Fellowship at the University of Kentucky Colleges of Medicine and Dentistry. Over the past four years she has worked extensively with physicians and other healthcare professionals across the Rocky Mountain Region addressing their stress, burnout and well-being. As part of this work, she collaborated with colleagues to develop and implement evidence-based well-being programs for health professionals. Her most recent training “Cultivating Personal Resilience” has been presented to hundreds of professionals in both in-person and online formats. Dr. Beacham recently relocated from University of Colorado School of Medicine in Aurora, CO to assume the position of Director of Behavioral Science at the University of Louisville School of Dentistry in Louisville, KY. She is co-founder of Project Well-Being, where she continues to do presentations, trainings and online well-being programs to audiences large and small. A licensed psychologist in Colorado and Kentucky (provisional) she maintains a small private practice serving healthcare professionals via online consultation and therapy. In her spare time, she can be found hanging out with her family or pedaling her road bike (“Ruby”) among the birds, trees and streams in Kentucky and Colorado. Her guilty pleasure is searching the world over for the best cup of coffee (medium-dark roast please). About Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd: Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd is a clinical psychologist on a mission to help professionals create deep, meaningful lives. She uses evidence-based therapy and coaching to foster resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven work. Dr. Makin-Byrd received her Ph.D. from Pennsylvania State University, and subsequently received advanced training at the University of California San Francisco and Stanford University. She has held professional appointments at the National Center for PTSD and at New York University. She has served as a researcher and national subject matter expert on trauma and PTSD, and has authored over 30 peer-reviewed studies, Congressional reports, and clinical chapters on trauma and resilience. She received the Special Contribution Award from the Veterans Health Administration in recognition of the national impact of her policy contributions and clinical teaching on VA mental health services. Kerry is a founding board member of the Kids Compassion Project,... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healthcare professionals usually choose their careers because patient care is meaningful; most want to make a positive impact and help others. However, with a broken healthcare system and unending occupational stressors, burnout is all-too-common, sometimes resulting in tragic consequences. Join Debbie for Part 1 of a rich two-part series with health psychologist Dr. Abbie Beacham, a clinical psychologist/trauma expert Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Dr. Bernard Chang, Associate Professor of Emergency Medicine at Columbia University, on the wellbeing of healthcare providers. Part 1 is an exploration of issues related to healthcare professional wellbeing, both before and during the era of COVID-19. Listen and Learn (Part 1): About the occupational stressors and systemic factors in medicine that contribute to burnout.The impact of COVID-19 on healthcare professional wellbeing.Why mental health symptoms are higher among physicians than the general public.The physical health impacts of working in medicine.Why a multi-pronged approach to healthcare professional wellbeing is key. About Dr. Abbie Beacham: Dr. Abbie Beacham Abbie Beacham, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist who has spent her career working in healthcare and medical settings. She has her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Louisville. Dr. Beacham also completed her internship in Clinical Health Psychology at the University of Florida Health Sciences Center and Post-doctoral Fellowship at the University of Kentucky Colleges of Medicine and Dentistry. Over the past four years she has worked extensively with physicians and other healthcare professionals across the Rocky Mountain Region addressing their stress, burnout and well-being. As part of this work, she collaborated with colleagues to develop and implement evidence-based well-being programs for health professionals. Her most recent training “Cultivating Personal Resilience” has been presented to hundreds of professionals in both in-person and online formats. Dr. Beacham recently relocated from University of Colorado School of Medicine in Aurora, CO to assume the position of Director of Behavioral Science at the University of Louisville School of Dentistry in Louisville, KY. She is co-founder of Project Well-Being where she continues to do presentations, trainings and online well-being programs to audiences large and small. A licensed psychologist in Colorado and Kentucky (provisional) she maintains a small private practice serving healthcare professionals via online consultation and therapy. In her spare time, she can be found hanging out with her family or pedaling her road bike (“Ruby”) among the birds, trees and streams in Kentucky and Colorado. Her guilty pleasure is searching the world over for the best cup of coffee (medium-dark roast please). About Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd: Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd is a clinical psychologist on a mission to help professionals create deep, meaningful lives. She uses evidence-based therapy and coaching to foster resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven work. Dr. Makin-Byrd received her Ph.D. from Pennsylvania State University, and subsequently received advanced training at the University of California San Francisco and Stanford University. She has held professional appointments at the National Center for PTSD and at New York University. She has served as a researcher and national subject matter expert on trauma and PTSD, and has authored over 30 peer-reviewed studies, Congressional reports, and clinical chapters on trauma and resilience. She received the Special Contribution Award from the Veterans Health Administration in recognition of the national impact of her policy contributions and clinical teaching on VA mental health services. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can we, as helpers, give the best care to our clients, loved ones, and ourselves during this unprecedented time? We’re being called to live through something as massive as a global pandemic while simultaneously helping others experience and process it too. In this episode, Jill speaks with Harvard Medical School psychologist and popular TED speaker, Dr. Susan David, about the importance of getting back to the basics when we feel as if we really have nothing left to give. Listen and Learn: What is “gentle acceptance” and why it is so important right nowHow to optimize the small moments Why achieving and striving aren’t helpful right nowWhat’s structure got to do with it? Striking the balance between structure and letting goThe power of letting ourselves be cared for About Dr. Susan David: Dr. Susan David Susan David, Ph.D. is one of the world’s leading management thinkers and an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist. Her new #1 Wall Street Journal bestselling book, Emotional Agility based on the concept Harvard Business Review heralded as a Management Idea of the Year and winner of the Thinkers50 Breakthrough Idea Award, describes the psychological skills critical to thriving in times of complexity and change. Susan’s TED Talk on the topic went viral with over 1 million views in its first week of release. She is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, Washington Post, Wall Street Journal, and guest on national radio and television. Named on the Thinkers50 global list of the top management thinkers, Susan is a sought-after keynote speaker and consultant, with clients that include the World Economic Forum, EY, United Nations, Google, Microsoft, NASDAQ, and many other national and multinational organizations. Her focus is on defining and executing effective strategy, especially in the areas of engagement, high-performance leadership, and culture change. Susan is the CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, on the faculty at Harvard Medical School, a Cofounder of the Institute of Coaching (a Harvard Medical School/McLean affiliate), and on the Scientific Advisory Boards of Thrive Global and Virgin Pulse. Susan lives outside of Boston with her family. Resources: www.susandavid.comChecking in with Susan David, a podcast with TED related to pandemic copingEmotional Agility by Susan David, Ph.D.The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage TED Talk by Dr. Susan DavidEmotional Agility Quiz, Dr. Susan David’s online quiz with a free 10-page personalized report offering specific strategies to help you become more emotionally agile 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of us struggle in our relationship with food and weight. If we are going to have a chance at restructuring our relationship with food, it helps to understand the complex interactions at the individual and systemic levels. In this episode, Evelyn Tribole shares her expertise on intuitive eating, a non-diet approach to healing your relationship with your body and food.  Listen and Learn: 10 principles of intuitive eatingHow diet culture contributes to being disconnected from your body and loss of control over foodWays to cultivate your inner wisdom around eatingHow to rediscover your hunger and fullness cuesWays to get started on your intuitive eating journey todayHow to support intuitive eating in your kids About Evelyn Tribole: Evelyn Tribole Evelyn Tribole, MS, RD is an award-winning registered dietitian, with a nutrition counseling practice in Newport Beach, California. She has written nine books including the bestsellers Healthy Homestyle Cooking and Intuitive Eating (co-author). Her newest book is the Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food. Evelyn was the nutrition expert for Good Morning America, appearing from 1994-’95 and was a national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association for 6 years. She was a contributing editor for Shape magazine where her monthly column, Recipe Makeovers, appeared for 11 years. She is has appeared on hundreds of interviews, including CNN, Today Show, MSNBC, Fox News, USA Today, Wall St. Journal, and People magazine.  Evelyn qualified for the Olympic Trials in the first-ever women’s marathon in 1984. Although she no longer competes, Evelyn runs for fun and is an avid skier and hiker. She also enjoys surfing, kayaking, and white water rafting. Evelyn’s favorite food is chocolate when it can be savored slowly. Resources: Intuitiveeating.orgIntuitiveeatingcommunity.org; a free peer-to-peer support group  Intuitive Eating Training for Health Professionals@evelyntribole; InstagramIntuitive Eating, 4th Edition: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch The Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschCheck out this great article and podcast on Decolonizing Beauty Standards Check out this article on the impact of weight stigma on health Psychologists Off the Clock has had a number of experts on the show sharing their expertise in weight concerns, the neuroscience of eating, eating disorders, and movement. Check them out here!  67. The Hungry Brain: Outsmarting Instincts That Make Us Overeat With Dr. Stephan Guyenet93. Effective Weight Loss with Dr. Evan Forman36. Weight Loss Strategies From Acceptance And Commitment Therapy With Dr. Jason Lillis129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Dr. Jennifer Webb132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman, M.S.128. ACT For Food Restriction And Anorexia With Dr. Rhonda Merwin18. Appetite Awareness Training with Dr. Linda Craighead31. DBT for Binge Eating with Dr. Debra Safer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over 40 million US residents are foreign-born. Immigrants and refugees face many circumstances impacting their mental health. These include the trauma of the immigration process and the acculturation process that follows. Additionally, many face systemic oppression and the threat of deportation. These challenges are complex and multifaceted. Therefore, therapy and psychology need to do a better job at orienting toward contextual and systemic factors in mental health treatment.  Join Diana for this inspiring conversation with Dr. Sandra Mattar, Assistant Professor at the Boston University School of Medicine and leading expert on immigrant and refugee mental health. Dr. Mattar speaks of her experience as an immigrant to the US. Additionally, she talks about the impact of trauma and health disparities in the populations she serves. Dr. Mattar also discusses how to provide compassionate, culturally sensitive treatment to support these members of our community to heal and thrive. Immigrant mental health is American mental health. As the Informed Immigrant states: “You deserve to feel safe and empowered, no matter your immigration status.” Listen and Learn The individual and systemic challenges impacting immigrant and refugee mental health How the recent Supreme Court decisions on DACA and refugee asylum impact immigrant and refugee mental healthWays to shift from an individualistic therapy approach to one prioritizing contextual factors How mental health treatment with immigrants and refugees is adapting to COVID-19 Ethnocentric ways to address the ongoing trauma that immigrant communities faceHow to practice self-care and self-compassion while taking values-based action as a therapist  About Dr. Sandra Mattar Dr. Sandra Mattar Dr. Sandra Mattar is a clinical psychologist and an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Boston University School of Medicine and the Boston Medical Center Boston Center for Refugee Health and Human Rights. Her research and clinical interests include culturally informed trauma treatment, immigrants and refugee mental health, mental health disparities, multicultural psychology, and mindfulness and spirituality.  Dr. Mattar is an Associate Editor for the Journal of Psychological Trauma and a member of the American Psychological Association (APA) Race and Ethnicity Guidelines Task Force. Dr. She was also a founding member of the Division 56 (Trauma Psychology) of the APA and a Past Chair of the Committee on Ethnic Minority Affairs of APA. Dr. Mattar is a graduate of the William James College (formerly MSPP) and the Universidad Católica Andres Bello in Venezuela. An immigrant herself, Dr. Mattar was born and raised in Venezuela.   Resources Connect with Sandra Mattar:Twitter: @Sandramattar23Website at Boston University School of MedicineAPA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in PsychologyImmigrant Mental Health Resources from the Informed ImmigrantCOVID-19 and U.S.-based refugee populations by Sandra Mattar and Linda Piwowarczyk in June’s issue of Psychological TraumaThe Undocumented Americans by Karla Cornejo VillavicencioAwakening Together: The Spiritual Practice of Inclusivity and Community by Larry YangMcMindfulness: How Mindfulness Became the New Capitalist Spirituality by Ronald PurserACBS World Conference 2020 ONLINE 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is here, which for parents means Season Two of pandemic parenting. Parent tempers are triggered in so many ways now and we’ve lost access to the time and space that we need to calm our buttons. If you’re a parent and losing your cool more than you’d like with your kids, join Yael for an engaging and refreshingly irreverent interview with Dr. Carla Naumberg, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent. Spoiler alert: This episode’s chock-full of advice for how to make temper buttons less pushable and practical skills for what to do when you’re ready to explode at your kids! Listen and Learn: Carla’s 5 basic truths about losing it with our kids Owning our triggersWhy kids are button pushers and not triggers Specific practices to “calm” our buttonsWhy self-compassion is key, especially now, and how to engage itBest practices to apply after losing it with your kids/after the sh*t storm About Dr. Carla Naumburg: Dr. Carla Naumburg Carla Naumburg, Ph.D., is a writer, mother, and clinical social worker. She is the author of three parenting books: the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015), and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). Carla has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives outside of Boston with her husband, daughters, and two totally insane cats. Resources: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent by Carla NaumburgReady, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family by Carla NaumburgParenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters by Carla NaumburgSelf-Compassion for Parents: Nurture Your Child By Caring for Yourself by Susan Pollack 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Criminal Justice Reform is an important, and often overlooked element of Racial Justice. In the U.S., Black men are significantly more likely to be incarcerated. Individuals in the criminal justice system are likely to experience inhumane and dehumanizing practices, including solitary confinement. Severe social isolation can have a harmful long-term impact on physical and mental health. In this eye-opening episode, Debbie speaks with Taylor Pendergrass, an ACLU lawyer dedicated to criminal justice reform and co-editor of Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary. The book includes a collection of the rarely heard personal stories of people who have experienced long-term solitary confinement. In the episode, Taylor and Debbie discuss mental health, incarceration, and why we need to end the dehumanizing practice of long-term solitary confinement in the United States. Listen and Learn: Why solitary confinement is used in the U.S, and why long-term solitary confinement is a problem.About “SHU syndrome,” and the long-lasting psychological and physical effects of isolation on humans. Why mental health units are a more effective, humane alternative.What conditions are like in solitary confinement cells. What we can learn from European prison systems.How you can help promote criminal justice reform! About Taylor Pendergrass Taylor Pendergrass Taylor Pendergrass is a lawyer and activist who works on criminal justice reform for the ACLU. He has spent over a decade collecting stories of people who have been impacted by the criminal justice system. Along with Mateo Hoke, Taylor co-edited the book Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary which, through personal history narratives gives readers a better understanding of the horribly dehumanizing impact of solitary confinement on people’s lives. Taylor has a BA in Environmental Policy from Duke University and earned his law degree from the University of Colorado Law School. Resources Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary by Taylor Pendergrass and Mateo HokeDebbie's unabridged interview of Taylor Pendergrass on The New Books Network13th, a documentary directed by Ava DuVernay on NetflixThe New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander “I Begged Them to Let Me Die”: How Federal Prisons Became Coronavirus Deathtraps by Keri Blakinger and Keegan Hamilton, The Marshall Project, June 18, 2020 “Coronavirus Cases Rise Sharply in Prisons Even as They Plateau Nationwide” by Timothy Williams, Libby Seline and Rebecca Griesbach, New York Times, June 16, 2020 ‘People are Sick All Around Me’: Inside the Coronavirus Catastrophe in California Prisons by Sam Levin, The Guardian, May 20, 2020 NY Times articles (here and here) about solitary confinement in Colorado by Rick RaemischPen Pal program with people in solitary confinementAn overview of research on the psychological impact of solitary confinement by Craig Haney, Department of Psychology, University of California, Santa Cruz 144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of us are struggling during this time of COVID-19 and police brutality. It can feel hard to extend compassion to those with different views, let alone to ourselves. In this episode, psychologist and creator of Superhero Therapy, Dr. Janina Scarlet, shares her origin story that led from exposure to Chernobyl radiation as a child to immigration to bullying to discovering her calling: helping people with emotional pain become the heroes of their personal journeys. A major element of her Superhero Therapy is practicing compassion. Remembering to apply these useful skills can be a challenge. That’s where the founder of the non-profit Compassion It., Sara Schairer, comes in. Sara shares her inspiring story of how she created a worldwide social movement to teach and spread compassion. Janina and Sara talk with us about extending compassion even to those with whom we disagree, and why this matters, especially right now. And Sara leads us in an experiential compassion practice. Listen and Learn What Superhero Therapy isWhat Compassion it.tm is and how we can join the compassion missionHow we define compassionWhy compassion toward others, including those with whom we disagree, is importantA helpful compassion exercise About Dr. Janina Scarlet Dr. Janina Scarlet Dr. Janina Scarlet is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, a scientist, and a full-time geek. A Ukrainian-born refugee, she survived Chernobyl radiation and persecution. She immigrated to the United States at the age of 12 with her family and later, inspired by the X-Men, developed Superhero Therapy to help patients with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Dr. Scarlet was awarded the Eleanor Roosevelt Human Rights award from the United Nations Association for Superhero Therapy. She is the author of “Superhero Therapy,” “Therapy Quest,” “Harry Potter Therapy,” “Dark Agents” Superwomen,” and “Supernatural Therapy”. About Sara Schairer Sara Schairer is the founder and executive director of Compassion It®, a nonprofit organization and global social movement whose mission is to inspire daily compassionate actions and attitudes. Sara Schairer A facilitator of the Compassion Cultivation Training® (CCT) course developed at Stanford University, Sara has led trainings for audiences of all walks of life, from corporate executives to inmates at a maximum-security prison. She also led compassion trainings in Africa sponsored by the Botswana Ministries of Health and Education and spent a week at a Rwandan refugee camp working on unleashing compassion within its health care system. Sara is a contributing author to the book The Neuroscience of Learning and Development: Enhancing Creativity, Compassion, Critical Thinking and Peace in Education, and writes for Deepak Chopra’s Center for Wellbeing website. Sara gives talks and leads experiential workshops on burnout prevention, implicit bias, mindfulness, and compassion. She also created the one-of-a-kind reversible Compassion It wristband that prompts compassionate actions on six continents, 50+ countries and all 50 states. Resources The Center for Stress & Anxiety ManagementSuperhero TherapyCompassion ItBe An AdvocateWristbandMeditation 50. Compassion Focused Therapy with Dr. Russell Kolts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Burnout. It can happen at work, and it can happen to parents, too. Nowadays, with the COVID-19 pandemic, parents are especially stressed. They are navigating new roles and demands while trying to parent, teach their kids, and provide for their families. All of this with no childcare breaks. It’s the perfect storm for Parental Burnout. In this episode, Dr. Lisa Coyne, a parenting and child expert at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School, speaks with Debbie about signs of parental burnout. She offers practical strategies to help. Dr. Coyne gives suggestions for talking with children and teenagers about the emotional aspects of coping with the pandemic. She provides us an exercise to help reconnect with their big-picture parenting values. Listen and Learn What is parental burnout?Who’s at risk?Why pandemic parenting may lead to parental burnoutSimple practices to shift fed-up mood states and increase self-compassionThe power of treating kids as if they’re about to do the next right thingStrategies to support emotional growth in kids of all ages The crucial first response when parenting frustrating kidsPutting “values and vulnerabilities” conversations to work for youA helpful values exercise for overtaxed parents About Lisa Coyne Ph.D. Dr. Lisa Coyne Lisa W. Coyne, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, assistant professor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, and founder of the McLean OCD Institute for Children and Adolescents (OCDI Jr.). She also founded and directs the New England Center for OCD and Anxiety and is a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Trainer. Dr. Coyne has authored or co-authored several books on parenting, children and families including The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years; Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Clinician’s Guide for Supporting Parents; Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling when OCD Gets Noisyand Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway. She is the incoming president of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS) and earned her BA in Psychology from the University of Scranton and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Mississippi. Resources PRAXIS: An ACT Approach to Parental Burnout Webinar with Dr Lisa Coyne and Evelyn Gould“Dr. Lisa Coyne Offers Support for Kid and Teens During the Pandemic” McLean Hospital Webinar“Dr. Lisa Coyne Offers Tips to Help Parents Prevent Burnout” McLean Hospital Webinar“Dr. Lisa Coyne Shares Coping Strategies for Families During COVID-19” McLean Hospital Webinar“What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic April 17, 2020 Article by Kate JulianThe Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years; by Lisa Coyne, Ph.D. and Amy R. Murrell Ph.D.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Clinician’s Guide for Supporting Parents by Koa Whittingham Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D.Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling when OCD Gets Noisyby Ben Sedley Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D.Upcoming book for Pre-order: Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway by Matt Boone, LCSW, Jennifer Gregg Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D. 79. Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Compassion is good for your body and brain. Caring for and collaborating with others is also key for a healthy future.  In this episode, Dr. Paul Gilbert, founder of Compassion Focused Therapy, offers some wisdom and action steps to harness your compassionate mind and get through this pandemic, cooperatively.  Listen and Learn How our brains evolved to cooperateHow you can use your compassionate mind to regulate your threat systemWhat is the “Flow of Compassion” and how can we use it to navigate COVID-19 and beyondThe science behind compassion for others/cooperationTips to not let the psychology of entrapment get the best of us in quarantineA heartening take on the impact of social distancing on our childrenWays to harness our drive system to strengthen immune function About Dr. Paul Gilbert Dr. Paul Gilbert Paul Gilbert, FBPsS, Ph.D., OBE is Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Derby and honorary visiting Prof at the University of Queensland. Until his retirement from the NHS in 2016 he was Consultant Clinical Psychologist for over 40 years. Dr. Gilbert has researched evolutionary approaches to psychopathology with a special focus on mood, shame, and self-criticism in various mental health difficulties for which Compassion Focused Therapy was developed. He was made a Fellow of the British Psychological Society in 1993, president of the BABCP 2002-2004, and was a member of the first British Governments’ NICE guidelines for depression. Dr. Gilbert has written/edited 21 books and over 250 papers and book chapters. In 2006 he established the Compassionate Mind Foundation as an international charity with the mission statement: To promote wellbeing through the scientific understanding and application of compassion. Dr. Gilbert was awarded an OBE by the Queen in March 2011 for services to mental health. He established and is the Director of the Centre for Compassion Research and Training at Derby University UK and has written and edited many books on compassion. His latest Book is Living Like Crazy.  Resources The Compassionate Mind FoundationLiving Like Crazy, by Paul Gilbert, PhDThe Compassionate Mind, by Paul Gilbert, PhDIn the Battle Against Corona Virus, Humanity Lacks Leadership by Yuval Noah Harari 144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)89. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In response to current events, we are re-releasing an interview Diana conducted in June 2019 with an African-centered psychologist and expert on racial trauma, Dr. Kristee Haggins. Racism is a public health crisis with deep, ongoing negative impacts on psychological and physical health. In this episode, Dr. Kristee Haggins discusses how to identify racial trauma and strategies to support healing. Dr. Haggins describes how black people can connect with the truth of their history, cultivate healing, and make choices that are good for themselves, their families, and larger communities. Dr. Haggins also offers recommendations for the work that those who do not identify as black can do to promote racial healing and change. Listen and Learn How do you know if you or someone you care about is experiencing racial trauma and stress? Effective self-care practices that black communities are using to heal racial trauma together Internal and collective “work” white and other non-black people can do to promote systematic and grassroots change Ways in which mental health professionals can better meet the needs of black and other diverse communities About Dr. Haggins Dr. Kristee Haggins is a community healer, African centered psychologist and professor who takes a holistic approach to healing mind, body, spirit, and community. She is a founding member of Safe Black Space Community Healing Circles and is committed to promoting health and wellness particularly in the Black community. Dr. Haggins studied Psychology as an undergraduate at the University of Southern California where she received a B.A. with honors. She earned her M.A. and Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from The Ohio State University. Dr. Haggins has had a multifaceted career as a clinician, educator, consultant, trainer, and university administrator. Currently, she is a professor at California Northstate University and at Alliant International University, Sacramento where she teaches courses in multicultural counseling and therapy skills. Dr. Haggins has expertise in racial stress and trauma; African American mental health; multicultural psychology/diversity issues; and spirituality and mental health. She offers training and tailored workshops and consultation in these areas, in addition to others upon request. In 2016 she was awarded the Community Healing Award by the Community Healing Network (CHN) for her collaboration with CHN and the Association of Black Psychologists. Resources Dr. Kristee Haggins Web siteSafe Black Space Community Healing CirclesAssociation of Black PsychologistsThe Racial Healing Handbook by Annelise SinghSomebody Told a Lie One Day quote by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado51. The Psychology of Political Division Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you – like us – are prone to parental guilt, struggle with pandemic parenting, and wonder if it’s possible to satisfy your own soul while raising kiddos then this is the episode for you! Dive in and join Yael for a candid discussion with KJ Dell’Antonia, former editor of The New York Times Motherlode Blog and author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. KJ offers practical advice for pandemic parenting, on mindset shifts to increase parenting satisfaction, and in raising happy, healthy, capable, and resilient kids. Listen and Learn Why happier parents make for happier kidsWhy you can be happy – even when your children aren’t4 things happy parents do wellHow to find success with kids and chores How to approach screen time              Why not accommodate your kid’s every whim               About KJ Dell’Antonia DJ Dell'Antonia KJ Dell’Antonia is the author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute and a regular contributor to the New York Times, where she covers the personal and policy aspects of parenthood. Her research, interviews and reporting on the topic are geared towards helping all of us figure out “how it’s done” in the bits of family life we find most challenging. KJ is the former editor of The New York Times’ Motherlode blog and co-host of the #AmWriting podcast. An attorney and former prosecutor, KJ is a graduate of Kansas State University and the University of Chicago Law School. She lives in Lyme, New Hampshire with her husband and four children. Resources Diana's free resource "My Summer Map for Kids"How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute by KJ Dell’Antonia“Why I Won’t Sacrifice My Sanity to My Kid’s Online Schooling” WBUR April 27, 2020 Commentary by KJ Dell’Antonia“What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic April 17, 2020 Article by Kate Julian“Turn Your Demanding Child Into a Productive Co-Worker” New York Times April 30, 2020 Article by Michaeleen Doucleffkjdellantonia.comInstagram and the #BooksThatWon’tBumYouOut seriesTwitter: @KJDellAntoniaFacebookKJ’s irregular emails about creative family life: http://followkj#AmWriting PodcastThe Chicken Sisters by KJ Dell’Antonia (released June 30, 2020) 141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart75. Mindful-Self Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wouldn’t it be great to feel more confident, courageous, and less stuck about decision-making? In this episode, Jill talks with Patrick McGinnis, who coined the term FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) about his new book Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice. Join us for this fun and rich discussion about the causes and pitfalls of FOMO. We also talk about FOMO’s darker cousin FOBO (Fear of a Better Option). Later get tips for how to overcome indecision You'll find the power to choose what’s right for you by honing your decision-making skills. Listen and Learn What are FOMO and FOBO? FOMO and FOBO’s evolutionary roots FOMO’s dark tollFOBO’s darker tollWhy FOMO’s good- in moderation- and FOBO’s always badHarnessing FOMO’s upside to work for youPatrick’s hacks to squelch indecisiveness Tips to help your kids not fall prey to FOMOHow FOMO and FOBO fluctuate across the lifespan About Patrick McGinnis Patrick J McGinnis is an international venture capitalist and author of Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice. Patrick coined the term FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) as well as the term FOBO (Fear of a Better Option) in a 2004 article in the student newspaper at the Harvard Business School. FOMO has since been added to the dictionary and FOBO has become an increasingly popular framework to describe analysis paralysis. Patrick is the host of the hit podcast FOMO Sapiens, which is distributed by Harvard Business Review, and the author of the international bestseller The 10% Entrepreneur: Live Your Startup Dream Without Quitting Your Day Job. He has been featured in the New York Times, Politico, The Financial Times, the Guardian, and Inc, and gave a popular 2019 TED Talk on FOBO and decision-making. Patrick has traveled to 103 countries and lives in New York City. Resources Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice by Patrick McGinnisThe 10% Entrepreneur: Live Your Startup Dream Without Quitting Your Day Jobby Patrick McGinnisWebsite: www.patrickmcginnis.com Podcast: FOMO Sapiens Instagram: @patrickjmcginnisTwitter: @pjmcginnisFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ItsPatrickJMcGinnis 127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have been unexpectedly thrust into the responsibility of educating our children from home. How can we survive the "wandering nomads", boredom, video games, and parental fears that our children are “falling behind”? Is it possible to find magic, a love of learning, and joy while educating at home? In this episode, Diana interviews Julie Bogart, a master in compassionate, meaningful home education. Julie shares her homeschool expertise and practical tips for thriving while learning at home. She guides us on how to harness your children’s interests, build family bonds, and create life-long learners of our children while at home.  Listen and Learn: How to embrace the home environment and flexibly shift our schooling methods How to use a child’s interests and values to support curiosity, problem-solving skills, and buy you some more time!Answers to common concerns about math, academic standards, and social connection when educating from homeHow to use the cozy home environment to nurture learning What Diana is doing (and not doing) with her kids during this wild learning experiment!Resources to transition to homeschooling if you choose to for the short/long termWhat to do when you are exhausted from it all About Julie Bogart: Julie Bogart Julie Bogart is the popular voice of common sense and compassion for home educators. Her online coaching community, The Homeschool Alliance, her podcast, and her YouTube channel are lifelines for tens of thousands of weary homeschoolers all over the world. Julie’s the author of The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool Learning and Life. She also the creator of the award-winning, innovative online writing program called Brave Writer and the fast-growing weekly habit called Poetry Teatime. Julie home educated her five children who are now globe-trotting adults. Today, Julie lives in Cincinnati, Ohio, and can be found sipping a cup of tea, planning her next visit to one of her lifelong-learning kids. Resources: Read Julie’s book The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool Learning and Life.Find Julie on Social Media: Instagram, Twitter, FacebookJulie's online coursesGet Julie's summer resources for parents and kids by signing up to her email listHere is Julie's online resource for math at home: Boco MathDebbie's article on Medium.com Parents: Get Ready for The Summer of Boredom 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg9. Children’s Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child’s Feelings Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Yael for Part 2 of a truly transformative two-part series with Dr. Hanson about his latest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Continue to explore what’s happening in the brains of individuals who have made it their life’s work to develop a more grounded, calm and contented sense of being and learn more concrete and accessible practices from Neurodharma to develop your own unshakable core. Listen and Learn: How missing “the now” diminishes happinessThe neurological basis for how mindfulness increases wellbeingSimple hacks to take things less seriously and amplify happinessConcrete practices for increased awe, gratitude, and transcendenceWhy play and exuberance help hardwire Neurodharma seven power practices About Dr. Hanson: Dr. Rick Hanson Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including his newest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Dr. Hanson’s other books include Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence. Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute. Resources: Neurodharma (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s 8-week online program in the practical science of a steady mind, kind heart and inner peace...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40The Foundations of Wellbeing (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40 Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomNeurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, by Rick Hanson Ph.D., Jan Hanson, and Ricki Pollycove, MDThe Neurodharma of Love: Rewire Your Brain for Healthy Relationships, an audio CD by Rick Hanson Ph.D. Just One Thing, Dr. Hanson’s free online newsletter 139. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 1)122: Taking in the Good with Dr. Rick Hanson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices