Hit it with a hammer.Done. If only it were that easy. In reality, the cycle of emotional and spiritual abuse feels like a freight train rushing down the tracks of your everyday. An unstoppable force. And if you stand in its way, you’ll be run down. A sad little pancake beholden to the destructive patterns you’ve existed in since…who knows when. My dear. You forgot about two things.First: You can’t stop that train. Second: You don’t need to stop that train to heal and be free and come into your power. Remember the handle thingy on the side of the tracks, controlling the railroad switch? Yup. Start there. In this episode:A heart-warming tale of what the Flying Free podcast is accomplishing in the lives of survivorsHow many nickels I theoretically have and why (very important)What love has to do with breaking cycles (I’ve got a great, but super old, example)The reason giraffes refuse to have short necks (a purely scientific explanation)Why authentic growth is the opposite of abusive control Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

Are you confused over whether you have legitimate grounds for divorce?How should you respond to people who claim you’re cynical and oversensitive when you try to speak against emotional and spiritual abuse?What’s the best way to handle family members, especially children, who think you’re the bad guy in your abusive marriage?What if you’re separated but you just aren’t ready to divorce…and the clock keeps ticking? Limbo is a fun party game…and a lousy place to live. So let me offer some advice that will break you out of the ruts these difficult questions might have you stuck in.Highlights from this episode:The three main Christian views on divorce (and how your belief in God informs your view on divorce)Why the future has a hefty price tag (and how to determine what price you want to pay for which future)What pigs and pearls have to do with hard conversations (it’s not the smell or the irritation)Why Jesus is “in a ditch” instead of trying to convince other people they’re wrong (and how this example applies to us)The effects of living in limbo (and I don’t mean the ridiculous, back-breaking game)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

Is your husband great at playing dress up? One moment, usually in public, he speaks sweetly, cuddles the baby, and prays over your family. The next moment, usually in the privacy of your home, he glares at you, yells in disgust, and gives you the silent treatment. He’s the sun and a raging storm. He’s heaven and hell.He’s…? How do you figure out reality? How do you come to terms with the oil and water of who he is? And what do you do when nobody believes that he and others like him are actually wolves in sweet, little sheep’s clothing?In this Q&A, I discuss:Why serial killers are a great analogy for victims of emotional abuseWhy “embracing reality” is critical (you NEED the truth to be free)How Flying Free can be a pivotal part of your journey to wholenessWhat fear over people’s perceptions leads to (it ain’t pretty)What you can do to get your power and freedom backAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

Feeling like a moldy lemon? Maybe you’re just an onion.If you've escaped the horror of a destructive relationship, but you still feel numb, anxious, depressed, and like a steaming hot mess...it's easy to believe that “being jacked up” is the new normal. And your whole identity.It’s not. In fact, what you're searching for is closer than you can believe:You're still a whole person. Your true self isn’t lost. Your body is actually trying to help you heal. The best of you is still there.But some of these things are covered by layers. Like an onion. Coatings of trauma. Blankets of pain. Wrappings of core wounds. Cocooned lies. Want to know how to find that sweet little onion core again? Sara Richmond and I explore this very question.Listen as we discuss the following revelations and more: How your story (and information about abuse) can be a distraction from real healingWhy “brokenness” is a crappy description for survivors (and a better word that she's claimed)Why our bodies often "act" broken (HINT: Whatever you resist, persists)What embracing her emotional stress through somatic therapy revealed to Sara (it was sad but extremely powerful)Examples of triggers that she and I peeled back and resetThe word that Natalie couldn’t remember (sadly, it wasn’t “onion”)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

There’s a reason why people say all abuse is physical abuse. Emotional abuse is a double whammy, destroying your mind and your body. Long after the abuse stops, you’re still dealing with the fallout. It can feel like your body has failed you. Like you’re permanently broken. It can feel hopeless and frustrating. So how do you regain your health and fitness in the aftermath of abuse? Kylar has a unique approach, one of endless compassion, wisdom, and empathy. Because he’s been there too. And it works. Now he’s healthy and strong, from the inside out and helping others just like you. Listen to:The amazing story behind Kylar’s 22 years of abuse and 19-year fitness journey Why high-intensity workouts are NOT a good idea for survivors (what a relief)How our perspective on physical health aligns with patriarchy and shame-based fitness cultureThe biggest contributor to the aging process (HINT: it’s not time)How a simple and intuitive approach is the best, with examplesAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:Find Kylar on FacebookCheck out Kylar’s blogIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comKylar Dunn is a massage therapist, personal trainer, and life coach. He grew up in an abusive, hyper-religious home and later developed complex-PTSD and related health issues. After embracing the courage to leave home at age 22, he became obsessed with the health journey, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Kylar combined education and research with intuitive body awareness to navigate the tightrope of challenging health symptoms, including extreme fatigue and the inability to build muscle. Today, he helps survivors care for their bodies and live the lives they dream.

What’s it like to experience divorce as a kid?You’ve heard from me. You’ve heard from experts. You’ve heard from survivors. What about the young ones caught in the throes of things they don’t understand. The ones who only know that Thanksgiving, and Christmas, and life, will never be the same again. Divorce through the eyes of a teen…my own daughter. This episode is a spotlight on:A honest report from a teen who had a close relationship with her abusive father How things changed, year over year, as separation turned into divorce and a “new normal”The flaws in the idea that everything (traditions, joy, togetherness, fun) has been destroyed by divorceWhy joint custody actually helped lessen the emotional burden of divorceThe fact that every child’s experience is different  and why it’s important to considerA really hopeful “finish” to the story of my family (though it’s far from over)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

It took you years, decades maybe, to understand what you were going through. It’s no wonder your kids don’t recognize emotional abuse for what it is. Especially because they’re wired to trust their dad. They’re wired to need his love. So they still call him good, loving even. They still think you and their dad should be together.You know better. And it’s agony.What now?In this episode:Why just showing up makes all the difference in your kids’ livesHow divorce is like an earthquake (and how approaching it from a long-term perspective makes all the difference)The reason letting your kids go actually gives you a better chance of getting them backWhy allowing your kids to love their dad (and feel all the feels) is important for their well-being, your peace, and your relationship with themHow all of this advice lets you lay down the torment and angst over this topic…for good!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

As the year ends, the darkness grows. Minute by minute. Just before Christmas is the longest night of the year. The holidays are celebrations of love and generosity and joy.But they're also bleak and painful to many — like women going through separation and divorce. So how do you cling to the hope of coming light in your blackest hours?How do you live with the dark as you wait for the dawn?Here’s my story and what I’ve learned.In this episode:The honest truth about the dark hole I was in for my first two Christmases as a single mom of nine childrenThree practical tips for dealing with the pain of busted-up holidays as a survivor (and by practical, I mean easy and doable without causing a mental breakdown)Why you should ask questions about loneliness and grief instead of resenting or dulling themHow to reframe the idea that you’re just a hot mess (News Flash: Nobody’s life is like their Christmas card)Proof that your brain is super smart and super ridiculous (and how to utilize the smartness and not the part that keeps you looped in crappy, self-fulfilling prophecies)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.com

If you’re like me, you were set up for your abusive marriage in the name of love. You thought people were teaching you godly womanhood and wisdom. You thought following the rules meant you’d experience bliss and peace in marriage. You thought you were honoring God by letting people harm you.But you were really just betraying yourself and holding the doors open for your own destruction.So if you’re ready to change your role, this is for you.If you’re ready to experience real, lasting change, this is for you.If you played the part and followed the rules and were the poster child for humility, long-suffering, and submission, but everything came crashing down anyway, THIS IS FOR YOU.This episode is full to bursting with truths to revolutionize your reality:4 important truths survivors need to know to experience and create real change in their livesHow I discovered my true identity after decades of abuseWhat a spiritually healthy person acts (there are some surprises in here!)How I went from helpless to empowered (and how you can too)7 life-changing things I learned that paved the way for more learning, growth, and healing than I could ever imagine A great way to experience my book Is It Me? with other survivors of emotional abuse Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Would you like to go through this book and companion workbook with other women just like you? Sign up to get on the waiting list for our next groups here: https://flyingfreenow.ck.page/groupsIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher here: https://www.flyingfreesisterhood.com/join-flying-higher

Do you wonder why you feel so angry and defeated about the way your husband treats you? It's not cause you were a closet rage monster before you got married. It's not cause you're crazy or demanding or that you just love drama.He’s been stomping in your flower beds. And YOU’VE been told that you had to leave the garden gate open in order to be a good wife and a good Christian. If you’ve been wondering "Is it me?" then let's make sense of your confusing marriage in this two-part episode. Episode Highlights:Boundaries aren't just for countries and sports fields; they're key to healthy relationships and fulfilling, well-balanced lives of peace. This analogy will cut through the crap you've been fed about why your husband's behavior is your fault (it’s 100% NOT).I give a pounding to the faulty beliefs that keep you stuck (and make no mistake, beliefs keep us stuck much more often than super glue, bad relationships, a lack of resources, and quicksand combined).An explanation of your actual responsibility that will SET YOU FREE. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comWould you like to go through this book and companion workbook with other women just like you? Sign up to get on the waiting list for our next groups here: https://flyingfreenow.ck.page/groupsI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher: https://www.flyingfreesisterhood.com/join-flying-higher

The holidays can make the hard things harder. The sad things, sadder. The family fights and frustrations and fractures, bigger and deeper and wider. They often remind you of all you’ve lost and all you never had. Especially in relationships. Maybe they used to be a time of excitement and joy, but now you only feel dread and loneliness and grief. If you find yourself wishing you could sleep until January comes around, or your eyes well up whenever you imagine how miserable these “special” days will be, gather round.This episode is a warm blanket snuggled around your shoulders, a mug of hot cocoa in your hands, and a sweet gift-wrapped dose of hope from me...to you. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

“I’ll never heal.”Has that thought crossed your mind?There’s too much pain. Too much trauma stored in your body. Too many horrible memories trapped in your mind. It’s an ocean to cross, and you’re just treading water.You need deep internal healing.So how do you plunge into the depths of your most profound anguish productively and safely?With help from compassionate, well-learned people who’ve been in your shoes and have dedicated themselves to helping women like you. Megan Owen is such a woman. As a trauma counselor, she’s on a mission to provide comprehensive therapy for abuse survivors that brings the deep healing they’ve been seeking.  In this episode, Megan answers these weighty questions and more:What are spiritual process groups, and how can I join one?How can theology be thick or thin (and why does it matter)?What do the Wizard of Oz and glass slippers have to do with any of this?Why do we need a baseline for healthy relationships?What are EMDR, IFS, DNMS, and CPTSD (besides a list of acronyms)?Why do people say other therapy didn’t help but her multi-dimensional, community-based approach made all the difference?Who is really excited about all that Megan is doing and wants to get the word out? (It’s me. I’m practically squealing. Listen to the episode for proof.)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:You don’t have to navigate trauma alone. Find hope and healing through Mountain City Christian Counseling.Sign up for spiritual processing groups at the website above or by contacting Casey Chappell.If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comMegan is most widely known as the founder of Give Her Wings and Give Her Wings Academy. Since 2012, she has been fully certified as a crisis pastoral counselor (MAR, Pastoral Counseling). After stepping down as executive director for Give Her Wings, Megan turned her sights toward offering trauma therapy and spiritual and relational process groups. She aims to help survivors heal from trauma and abuse and even serve “exvangelicals” who are leaving their church but not their faith. She lives in Denver, Colorado, with her three amazing teens.

Imagine carrying around a backpack full of books from high school.You aren’t taking those classes anymore, but you always carry the weight anyway.It digs into your shoulders. It makes you tired. Slows you down. Doesn’t let you truly rest. It keeps others from getting close. Abuse is like that. It teaches us a lot—lessons no one should ever learn. And lessons we don’t even realize we’re still living out. So we may escape abusive relationships, but we’re stuck in limbo, carrying the textbooks we think hold the truth about life, love, and ourselves. Rebecca realized this. She was living out sneaky, destructive beliefs even after her divorce—in her career, her parenting, and in her new marriage. If you want to be truly free from your past, you’ll love the new lessons this episode has to offer:FALSE: Boundaries only matter in unhealthy relationshipsTRUE: Setting boundaries is a critical part of every healthy relationship (and why she avoided doing this in her new marriage for years)FALSE: Everything in a new relationship with a safe, good person will be like a Hallmark movieTRUE: There will still be difficulty, discomfort, and disagreements (but they won’t become atomic bombs)FALSE: Your career and parenting and mental health will be magically perfect and easy after you escape from your abusive marriageTRUE: Recovery is an 18-course banquet, not a drive-thru snack, and you’ll still live on Earth (but these don’t have to be major downers)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Lydia left her abusive husband.Then she came back.She found the guts to leave him again.And returned another time.In the end, it took SEVEN times for her to get free.If you've been there or if you're wondering whether you'll ever get out too, she's laying it all on the table in this episode.The BEST PART? She's thriving. And she's no longer ashamed of her past. In this raw look at Lydia’s story:The FOUR reasons that kept her from leaving for goodHow she conquered the shame over her broken marriageWhy it was better for her kids to grow up with just one parentThe Bible verse that set her free from condemnation over her divorceWhat punching and floating have to do with the divorce/rebuilding processWhy sexual loneliness is a valid concern when you become single (and how she handled it)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

If you're like most Christian women in confusing and painful marriages, you've tried everything.You've read the books, the blogs, the sarcastic memes, and the devotionals.You've paid for counseling, training, seminars, and conferences.You've asked for advice from other couples, your parents, your pastors, friends, and the lady in the check-out line.You've prayed and given up all the fun things to eat and bit your tongue, and read your Bible and journaled, cried, and begged.But your marriage never changes. Or it just gets worse. You're withering. Your life looks like a wasteland. You feel like a shell of a woman. So what's the REAL ANSWER? What's THE ONE THING YOU’RE MISSING?It's simple. It's free. It’s right in front of you. In this hope-filled intervention your weary soul needs:Why you should be looking in the mirror (and it's not to correct yourself)A simple explanation of faith that can radically change your lifeWho your true rescuer is (and why your "rescue" is never over)What to do with thoughts that feel like facts, like: “I'm not loved. I've lost my faith. There's no hope. I've failed. My life was wasted.”How to use your brain to your advantage (even when you're completely overwhelmed)How your ideas about God tangle with your perspective on abuse and yourselfPractical examples from my own life and the lives of the many women I've helpedAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Do you picture yourself and your children begging on the streets if you dare to leave?Are you overwhelmed at the thought of making ends meet as a single mom?Do you wonder how you'll pay for groceries, much less legal fees, if you escape?One of the biggest fears for women in abusive marriages is that they won't survive financially.And it's a fear based on a lot of truth. But it's not the final say. Hear from a woman who's been there, done, and literally wrote a book on it. So don't turn back. If you feel financially trapped, this podcast covers:Smart tactics for squirreling away money without escalating the abuse in your relationshipSafe maneuvers to keep the peace while you're preparing to leaveA strategy for keeping the lights on when there's more month than moneyA valuable list of resources for women in your exact situationLydia Dominguez’s story of running, returning, and finding freedom from abuse for goodAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:Don’t Turn Back: A Reassuring Road Map to Navigating Divorce after Abuse -Legally, Financially, and Spiritually by Lydia DominguezWomen’s Law: This organization provides legal information and referrals for women in dire straitsThe National Association of Crime Victim Compensation Boards Supports state compensation programs to provide financial aid to victims.  Lydia’s websiteIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comLydia Dominguez currently serves as a technical sergeant in the United States Air Force. She also holds a bachelor of arts degree in business management and has ten years of experience in human resources. She relies on more than a decade of personal experience, as well as the stories of others, to educate and encourage abused women to escape their abusers and start the recovery process. During her own twelve-year physical, emotionally, and financially abusive relationship, she attempted to escape seven times. Each time, Lydia was determined never to go back—until she did. After becoming free for good, she wrote Don’t Turn Back, a book she hopes will promote empowerment, healing, and forgiveness for women in abusive relationships.

When you react to  your husband’s abuse, it can feel like you’re the abuser.When he tells you how hard his childhood was, you may feel sorry for him.When you read about personality disorders, some of the symptoms fit you.When you read about mental illness, the symptoms also fit him. Which makes you wonder…If your husband was abused, is it really fair to hold his harmful behavior against him? If he has unresolved trauma or a personality disorder, is it wrong to expect him to treat you better?  And even more confusing…What if your C-PTSD sometimes mimics a personality disorder? What if your traumatic responses seem abusive? In this episode, I peel back the layers on:·        The ingredients of C-PTSD·        Who you can save before you become leftovers (it’s only ever one person)·        The different flavors of C-PTSD and BPD·        Why the reason behind your husband’s behavior matters less than a hill of beans (and what does)·        A three-step recipe to recover from abuse in your own lifeAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

If your life is already a tough pill to swallow, taking more medicine is the last thing you want to do. Gross. But what if it's the "best medicine"? The type that makes you laugh-cry, hold your sides, and snort with glee.Laughter and joy and humor can transform the darkest days, the bleakest seasons, and the hardest nights. And no matter what you've been through, you really can experience their life-giving power. I talk with prolific laugher, Sara Richmond, about how. The surprising highlights of this prescription:Think you can't laugh and be honest about your pain? Codswallop!Learn how to steal (okay, borrow) laughter on the worst daysWhy surviving a buttload of baloney in your marriage makes you an ideal patient for supreme joyCompletely overwhelmed? Our suggestions: Sing badly, run away, or shriek "Balderdash!" (and what we really mean by self-care during the worst times)How being quirky and weird (or just exactly who you are) is the way to score free joy for lifeA bunch more (because I always overdeliver, from pizza to malarkey to a gaggle of children to my support group)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

If your child was starving and asked you for bread, would you make her eat from a dumpster? If your child was dying of thirst and asked for water, would you pour sand down his throat?Are you that child? Starving for safety. And love. And honesty. And help. And tenderness. And dying a little more each day in their absence and their opposites. So why doesn't God treat you like a daughter? Why does he give food and drink and good husbands and happy families to some but to you...only pain?If these questions keep you up at night, this episode is for you. I answer listener questions about:The SURPRISING thing your abusive marriage tells you about GodThe people I DON'T HELP, and what I do insteadWhy TRIGGERS are often less about past trauma and more about CORE BELIEFSHow asking questions about fears (like the fear that your husband and family are spying on your social media posts) is a simple way to BREAK THROUGH themAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Getting out of an abusive marriage can seem impossible. Especially when it comes to the money aspect. As in...where will you get it? How will you reenter (or start in) the work force? How are you going to add MORE to your already overflowing plate?And those emotions. The big ones that feel like a thick sludge up to your hips or a pile of wet blankets on top of you or a deep, aching hollow in your chest. How do you deal with those?Dear one, it's not easy, but it is simple. I’ve traveled this way before—alone and with others. So let me share my road map.  This episode paves a path to:·        The proof that knowing all the “hows” (as in, how in the heck is all this going to work out) isn't necessary·        What learning to drive has to do with all of this ·        Why I don't tell survivors what to do while still giving them precise, tried-and-true advice·        A way to OWN your valid, real, big emotions instead of being overwhelmed by them·        How your healing ignites all the practical things you haven’t figured outAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

It took 11 words to change the world. 11 words misinterpreted. 11 words misunderstood. 11 words manipulated. A single sentence from the mouth of God to the first woman...Eve. A pronouncement. A prediction. A curse. Or was it?Do you know these words? Prepare yourself. Because you’re about to learn their TRUE meaning. It might blow. your. mind. And it will change the world...again. Why this episode is a must listen:The What: Bruce’s wife spent seven years researching her doctoral dissertation on 11 words. He followed with his own research on correlating New Testament verses. The Why: How your understanding of those 11 words affects your view of women, men, God, and your entire existence.The Are You Kidding Me?: A clear, precise explanation of those 11 words. You may scream. You may dance. You may fist pump several times. You may run around the block screaming incoherently. It’s that good. WARNING: Bring an extra pair of socks. Because this episode is going to blow them clean off. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:If this podcast made you hungry for more, join listeners in 57 countries: The Eden PodcastBruce’s book: “The Book of Eden, Genesis 2-3: God Didn’t Curse Eve (or Adam) or Limit Woman in Any Way (The Eden Book Series)”The Tru3:16 project was started to correct manipulated Bible interpretations. Check it out.If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comBruce C. E. Fleming is a former academic dean and professor of practical theology in French-speaking Africa. He is the author of “The Book of Eden, Genesis 2-3,” founder of the True316 Project, and host of The Eden Podcast\. He hopes to change marriages and the world with the discoveries he’s made about the true meaning in the Genesis story and the Bible, generally.

Was there a day when you realized he was doing it all on purpose? After all your tears, your pleading, and explanations, there was no way you could keep excusing his behavior. His explanations didn’t fly. You knew you didn’t hold the blame. Maybe he finally, actually admitted it.As painful as that realization is, it’s also your secret weapon—knowledge that can empower you.Sound crazy?  In Part 2 of 2, What You Can Do When Your Christian Husband Bullies You, I’ll prove it.This episode covers:The Drama Llama: Where he goes, chaos and division follow. Learn how to put out fires without a hose (or more stress)The Silver Tongue: Knowing you can’t trust your husband at all doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about itThe Funnel: His narrow perspective leads to rigid practices and perspectives. Learn how to avoid becoming a human fossil along with him The Déjà Vu: The thing you hate the most (that nothing ever changes) is actually an advantage—what you can predict, you can plan forThe Leech: Is your marriage sucking you dry? Learn how to get your lifeblood backAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

You are married to a bully. If only he'd steal your lunch money or call you a dingus during math class and be done with it.Instead, he makes everything into a torturous game with changing rules that benefit one person. Himself. On the really bad days, you want to learn karate and get featured on the evening news.Take heart, sweet potato. There's a better way. I've graphed his sleazy points and made a road map for dealing with his shenanigans. Fair warning: It's gonna take guts but it will be well worth it. And you won't even need karate. Your road map includes:The reason your fear that you are abusive is COMPLETE COCKAMAMY 5 common things abusers do (you’re likely dealing with these on an unending loop)How he’s like an 11-year-old and you’re like a computer program5 brilliant ways to respond that will CHANGE not just your marriage but YOUR ENTIRE LIFEAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

The length of your marriage. You’ll never forget it. 3 years of holes in the wall. 9 years of sleepless nights. 17 years of pleading. 25 years of silence. 43 years of lowering your standards again and again and again. While the past can't be changed, and that time is set, your recovery is NOT. It has NO LIMIT. It has NO TIMELINE. The depth of your pain and suffering do not outweigh your ability to heal. It all comes down to whether you want it. The evidence? Women like Marie. She found healing and transformation in community—one that's available to you. The Takeaways of Marie’s Story:What’s more important: How busted up you are or how much you want healingWhy acting like an accountant can speed up your healingThe reason your recovery can stagnate...and what to do about itWhy there’s an application process for the Flying Higher group (it has to do with the toilet)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Have you ever talked to people who weren't there? Imagined conversations in your head? Perfected your argument while showering or lying in bed?I did that...and made it into a podcast. But this conversation isn't with just one person. It's with tens of thousands of people. Pastors. Because the survivor community knows the price of patriarchy in the church. We know the cost of being controlled. We know the damage of being devalued. And pastors NEED to KNOW this too. If they'd only listen, I'd tell pastors:How they create a cycle of shame and perfectionismPeople's fundamental motivation for change (and why it matters in abusive situations)Their view of women is an open invitation for oppressionWhy their treatment of people (and approach to ministry) show how anti-Jesus and faithless they areThe profound and simple FOUR-LETTER ANSWER to all of these problems (and they've been staring at it without seeing it)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Your marriage was like a jigsaw puzzle. A big, confusing, fragmented mess. Once you found the "abuse" piece, everything fell into place. But are you prepared for what happens when you leave? Cause the gloves come off and the rulebook gets tossed out the window. From two women who've been there and who've heard countless stories of the same, here's the cheat sheet for what you need to know when you get out. This playbook includes:Rules of the "Game": Insight into what your husband's "normal" behavior will be (and by "normal" we mean crazy but predictable)Strategy: A tried and true response method to his behavior (it's the most boring, fabulous thing ever)Recovery Tips: Why you should treat yourself like a fuzzy little cat during this time (truckloads of compassion and flexibility...and maybe treats)Inside Secrets: There's another person who's been abusing you beside your husband (and you can't get away from them!)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

"Till death do us part." Those words haunt you. The enemy was supposed to be outside of your home and family. Easy to see. Protection just a prayer or a locked door away. But the one stealing from and killing and destroying you is the one you lie beside at night. The one you promised your forever to.And he's counting on it. You need to listen if:You're overcome with desperation to leave and consumed by guilt to stayYour husband is the greatest source of pain and harm in your lifeYou are responsible for everything, and you are constantly sacrificing your physical health, life dreams, and sanity to make your marriage work (to no avail)You've begun to wonder just how much of his behavior is intentional and whether he truly wants to destroy you, piece by pieceAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here* *Friedman's Fables by Edwin H. Friedman 1990. Copyright Guilford Press. Reprinted with permission of The Guilford PressIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Why are you staying in your abusive marriage? For many women, the price to get free seems too high. They fear destitution, losing their children, revenge by their husband, more trauma and heartache, a scarlet "D" on their chests, the legal hassle...the list goes on. These are real, valid fears. And terribly high, but prevalent, costs. Which raise the question: Is it worth it?Amie experienced all of these things and more to get out. Listen to her story and decide for yourself. This podcast includes:How the Bible was used to FORCE Amie to marry her abuserThe SECRET her husband kept from her for years (ALERT: withholding information IS abuse)Why she stayed for so long even as her health broke downThe heartbreaking trauma she endured from her church, her children, her ex-husband, and multiple counselorsWhere she is today and whether it was worth it (The MOST IMPORTANT part of this incredible story)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

If it's true that we learn from our mistakes, then I know a whole heck of a lot. This episode, Part 2 of 2, is about the mistakes I made in church — the three main ways I lit myself on fire, with the encouragement of church leaders. All while trying to escape the inferno of an abusive marriage.Confused? Horrified? Thirsty?Then tune in. Cause it's tea time, and I'm pouring. Check out these fire starters:Never expose yourself to other learning/beliefs/opinions beside church or church leaders (Don't you DARE think for yourself!)Treat church leaders like they are God (They're ALWAYS right)Believe you are trash (Cause that's what a loving Father wants his precious daughter to do. Duh.)Wash, rinse, and repeat for ultimate cleansing (I did for years, and it nearly killed me.)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Put your stretchy pants on, cause this episode's a three-course dinner on what NOT to do once you realize your marriage is a hamster wheel of emotional abuse. These three mistakes caused me greater pain, for much longer. But I didn't know then what I know now. Because when we KNOW differently, we DO differently. And that's what Flying Free is all about.Dig in to:Unconscious messages I ingested that made me think abusive behavior was normal and even lovingWhy I tried to feed a dead marriage (and the not-obvious-to-me-at-the-time reasons that didn't work)A fork in the road: The two choices I never realized I hadThe potluck approach to decision-making that I no longer take (I stay in my own kitchen now)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Abusers are terrified. They mask their fear with rage, manipulation, false piety, and good ole-fashioned bullying. If they're actually weak, scared babies, how are they so powerful and unchecked in churches (and in marriages)? Because you're afraid too. And you're also really good at pretending. All while being destroyed. It doesn't have to be this way anymore, and I can show you how...to fly free. In today's episode, listen to learn:How the pattern of your destructive marriage isn't just physical—it's mirrored in your brain's perception of realityWhy FEAR prevents us from living a life of love (which heals and protects us)How PRETENDING prevents us from walking in the truth (which sets us free)The BEST RESOURCE I know of for survivors desperate for a life of truth, healing, freedom, joy, and love (don't take it from me; read all the reviews from real survivors)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

If my husband has a mental health issue or a personality disorder, does that excuse his abusive behavior? My husband isn’t the typical abuser; is my marriage actually abusive or just bad? Am I wrong for wanting privacy that my husband demands I should give up? How will I know for sure that my abuser has changed? Since I’ve made the decision to stay in my marriage for now, how can I grow while doing so? I answer these questions and more in this episode. This is a replay of a Q&A done in the Flying Free Sisterhood program. One of the many life-changing benefits of this group is the ability to have your questions answered in a monthly Q&A, weekly during coaching, and every day in the private forum.Listen to learn:The boundaries you can (and SHOULD) still have if your husband has a diagnosisThough you aren’t a computer, your programming is behind all of these questions, and the answersWhat parroting is (it has nothing to do with birds)Why rocking the boat should be your favorite pastime with a “reformed” abuserThe problem with ALL of these questions (it’s their FOCUS)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Love lets evil do whatever it wants, pretends nothing's happened, and calls a prison a palace. Right? This is the kind of "biblical" message Christian counselors often tout. And it's killing women and children, whether all at once or piece by precious piece. If you've been hurt by "love," especially when you were desperate for help and safety, you've got an advocate in Cindy Burrell.Strap in because this episode is loaded with truth bombs:Why abusers have the automatic advantage in most Christian counselingA big, red flag at a counselor's office (when you see it, RUN)Why "Can he change?" is the WRONG question, and, frankly, irrelevant when it comes to abusersTwo things that will bring out the truth, GUARANTEED (Hint: One is a simple, two-letter word)Why the sanctity of marriage is not built on the absence of divorceAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved by Cindy BurrellAn Extraordinary Ordinary Life: A Testimony of God’s Faithfulness by Cindy BurrellIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comCindy is a survivor of a 20-year marriage to a verbal and emotional abuser, the mother of four adult children, and now married to Douglas Burrell. In 2009, she and her husband founded Hurtbylove.com, a web-based outreach ministry for women in abusive relationships. She is the author of approximately 100 articles on  the abuse dynamic as well as several books. Her newest book, Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved, was written to educate victims so they can pick wise, helpful counseling that will lead them toward true healing and freedom. Cindy also offers personal coaching for victims of abuse.

You've got two options and you HATE them both. You know you're married to an abuser, but you DON'T want a divorce. So...you're staying.But will you be consumed by your husband's reckless hate? Can you and Jesus be enough in the years to come? Will healing happen in the midst of destruction? Can you survive staying married and, what's more, thrive? Is it even possible to stay well in an abusive marriage?In this episode, I discuss: How staying well is completely subjective (and some clear examples of what it may mean/may not mean FOR YOU)Why there's only ONE place where you need to look for an answerMy own story of staying well...and leavingAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Ugly. Fat. Frumpy. Gross. These words ache inside of you and echo in your mind. Maybe they were said to you, maybe they were shown to you, maybe society planted them in your mind. Recovering from abuse isn't just about healing the inside, it's about manifesting life on the outside. You were created to embody beauty and appreciate it — in your smile, with your clothes, your hair style, even the makeup you choose to wear — and Jill Swanson is an expert in helping women do just that.In this light-hearted podcast, learn:The secret to why I look so cute (HINT: It's because of Jill)Why caring about your clothes/hair/using makeup is NOT SHALLOW or UNBIBLICALWhat covers a multitude of sins? Clothes!How to use what your mama and the good Lord gave you (don't worry, it's G-rated)REAL-LIFE EXAMPLES of how/why color coordination makes a huge differenceThe heartbreak that led Jill to develop her beauty know-how and start a business helping womenAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:Work with JillSimply Stylish — Look Great, Spend Less! by Jill Swanson30-Day Makeover — Inside and Out Beauty/Bible Study programOut the Door in 15 Minutes — How to Look Fabulous Fast by Jill Swanson20% off discount code for her website: Use CHIC20If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comJill Swanson is a Christian image/style consultant whose passion is to help women feel good about themselves and the way God created them – on the inside and out. Jill understands the second-guessing and insecurity that many of us experience when we look in the mirror. Her goal is to see women blossom as they step into their lives with newfound confidence. With an emphasis on simplicity and affordability, she helps women make the most of what they’ve got, effortlessly, everyday! Jill is the author of several books, including Simply Stylish — Look Great, Spend Less! and the newly released 30 Day Makeover — Inside and Out.

Ever feel like the human version of a fly trap, attracting all the wrong guys? You've escaped one horrible relationship only to find yourself being taking advantage of by a new creep or a long string of them. So, what's the key to flipping your magnetic force so you repel toddlers in grown-up bodies and attract only real men? The secret isn't a dating app, compatibility algorithm, or a 75-step checklist. In fact, it isn't anything outside of you at all. Finding real love after divorce is as much about educating, choosing, and empowering yourself as it is discovering a healthy partner. If you're hankering for the real deal, hit play to learn: FIVE facts that will help you identify emotionally stunted/harmful men so you can stay the heck awayWhy Christian women are the perfect candidates for abusive relationships (through no fault of their own)What an emotionally mature man looks likes (yes, they really do exist)Validation for women who have no interest in a relationship—EVER againThe formula for moving on after abuse (that DOESN'T EXIST, but it is a beautiful process in which you do have the driver's seat)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

From husbands as masters to pimps as owners, women were made to be dominated. Meghan saw it firsthand in third-world countries through the practice of female genital mutilation. She saw it in missionary organizations that refused to let women lead. She saw it in her own story. What we believe about gender roles affects every area of our lives and every corner of the Earth.The answer to this widespread abuse? A place where faith and feminism meet. In my interview with Meghan, we discuss:How everything from barring women from preaching to trafficking them for sex is based on the SAME DAMAGING BELIEFSThe moment that broke her heart wide open and led to a dramatic change in her life, faith, and workWhy there's NEVER a good time to speak up against injustice (so she just does it anyway)How/why a marriage with EQUAL partners works (though many churches will tell you they don't exist or shouldn't happen) Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Women Rising: Learning to Listen, Reclaiming Our Voice by Meghan TschanzFaith and Feminism PodcastMeghan Tschanz’s WebsiteIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comMeghan Tschanz is a writer, speaker, and former missionary who is passionate about empowering women and reclaiming feminism for the Christian faith. She’s a prolific blogger, host of the Faith and Feminism podcast, and an avid traveler. She and her husband, Dustin, live in northeast Georgia.

Living in abusive environments doesn’t just harm our hearts, bodies, and souls, it also wrecks our ability to have healthy relationships. When all you know (or most of what you know) is unhealthy, navigating friendships, family, romance, and even relationships with other survivors can be messy, confusing, and painful. I answer a listener question about the challenges of relationships after abuse and how survivors can break out of toxic patterns that helped them survive the past but aren’t serving them now.In this episode:Why you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t in an abusive relationship (but that doesn’t apply in healthy ones)Which things you need to GIVE UP and which things you need to TAKE BACK to live in freedom, clarity, and peaceThe critical difference between criticism and feedback (and why both are so difficult for survivors)A mind-blowingly easy technique to reprogram your brain out of negative thought patterns (which are the BIGGEST REASON you feel stuck and miserable and afraid)Some simple, overarching truths about this entire process. Hint: It’s all about YOU in the best way, and there’s no rush Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Sex is a Catch-22 for you. If you say "yes," it's out of obligation. You feel used, disgusting, disconnected, and sad afterward. If you say "no," you pay for it, 10x over...or he does what he wants to anyway, to you or with something/someone else.So do you really have the right to say "no" to your husband, or are you stuck in a marriage that is really just domination...and a body that you can't even call your own?Author and survivor Jessica Ghigliotti and I discuss this hot topic, including:A clear definition of consentWhy it's such a toxic, confusing issue in many Christian marriagesThe TEN most common things abusive/coercive husbands SAY and DO about consent (This list will blow your mind with clarity/truth bombs)Questions women can start asking themselves if they think they might be in a sexually abusive marriageAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Jessica’s book: Ten Things Your Husband Says After He Rapes YouIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comJessica Ghigliotti is an Oklahoma girl, mom of 4, contributing writer for 2 “Chicken Soup for the Soul” books, a newly published author, small business owner, college student, and a survivor. 

Some people believe that if your goal is to help people get free from abusive relationships, you can't really love and honor marriage. Many people believe true Christians go to church regularly and always read their Bibles. Most people want easy, clear-cut answers to their difficult, personal questions. But there is no one-size-fits-all approach to faith, marriage, or life. And that's not a bad thing or a cop-out. Want to hear more? In this episode, I field listener questions:Why do I ONLY focus on “breaking up” marriages?Do I care AT ALL about reconciliation or restoration of marriages?What’s my take on BEING SURE you’ve found a good church and a safe Bible translation?Which books do I DEFINITELY recommend for women in abusive marriages?Which relationship books should abused women ALWAYS avoid? Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Women who've escaped abusive relationships often become stuck in the healing process. Trauma has disconnected them from their bodies. They obsess over information that explains the pain they've been through. The dreams they had for their life still seem out of reach. They are plagued by self-doubt and self-hatred. Everything still revolves around the past, and their exes. Sarah Ramsey, a toxic relationship expert and author of Becoming Toxic Person Proof: Clear the Confusion and Learn to Trust Yourself, guides women through strength-based healing so they can recreate themselves and build lives that they love!In this episode, I interview Sarah about:The importance of remembering WE ARE HUMANHow the language we use adds or removes toxic shameWhy abused women are actually high achieversHow to combine your natural strengths AND savviness to protect yourself in the futureWhy your abuser's diagnosis won't help and doesn't matterThe basic steps to healing so you can live a life you're excited about!Sarah K. Ramsey is a Toxic Relationship Specialist, author of the book Becoming Toxic Person Proof, and host of The Toxic Person Proof podcast. She works with women who have experienced toxic relationships to transform their minds and lives by taking back their power, recreating a life they are excited about living, and establishing careers and relationships they love. Her work has been featured in the Emotional Abuse Recovery and Resilience Summit, Healing Narcissistic Trauma Conference, Thrive Global, The Elephant Journal, and The Courageous Woman Summit. Contact Sarah at [email protected] the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Becoming Toxic Person Proof: Clear the Confusion and Learn to Trust Yourself by Sarah Ramsey with FREE BONUS access to 50+ hours of content from her Valentine’s Day Summit with leading faith-based coaches. Email Sarah at [email protected] after buying her book to receive the Summit!FREE MASTERCLASS: The Systematic Strategy High-Achieving Women Use to Find Peace, Love, and Confidence After a Toxic RelationshipHer website with access to free e-book “Bounce Back Better”If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comSarah K. Ramsey is a Toxic Relationship Specialist, author of the book Becoming Toxic Person Proof, and host of The Toxic Person Proof podcast. She works with women who have experienced toxic relationships to transform their minds and lives by taking back their power, recreating a life they are excited about living, and establishing careers and relationships they love. Her work has been featured in the Emotional Abuse Recovery and Resilience Summit, Healing Narcissistic Trauma Conference, Thrive Global, The Elephant Journal, and The Courageous Woman Summit. Contact Sarah at [email protected].

Christian women facing divorce experience tremendous fear around how to protect their children and help them heal.In today's episode, I answer listener questions about staying connected to your kids post-divorce, how to handle parental alienation, a healthy approach to decision-making, figuring out if your husband is really changing, and more! In this episode, learn:Why making tough decisions doesn't have to scare you.The most important thing you can do for your kid(s) in an abusive situation.The reasons rejection can be one of the best things that ever happens to us. The ONE WAY you can be sure your husband is actually changing. How I help women in tough situations like these every day in my group coaching programs, Flying Free (for women in abusive marriages) and Flying Higher (for divorced women). Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Whether you've escaped your abusive marriage or not, your children bear the marks of a toxic home environment. They may even have to see their abuser on a regular basis, through scheduled visitation. Which raises the question: How do we keep our kids from further harm and teach them to protect themselves when home, the very place they are supposed to be safest, is damaging to their bodies, minds, and souls? Dr. Debra Wingfield explains how consistency, resilience, social competency, boundaries, responsibility, and even imagination have a role in helping children to thrive, despite the challenges of an abusive home.Listen to learn:A simple question and several easy approaches to help kids stay protected emotionally and physically while they're around an abusive parent.How resilience skills are critical for keeping kids safe and empowering them to advocate for themselves in the long term.Why parenting with love and logic will actually free you from fear, stress, and a lot of drama, and greatly improve your connection with your kids.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Eyes Wide Open: Help! with Control Freak Co-Parents by Debra WingfieldFrom Darkness to Light: Your Inner Journey by Debra WingfieldThrough a Child’s Voice by Debra WingfieldIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comDebra Wingfield, Ed.D., LPC (retired) educated psychotherapists in small group trainings and university classrooms for over 15 years. She was in private practice for over 20 years, with a focus on treating adult children from dysfunctional families; child abuse victims; domestic violence victims, offenders, and child witness victims. She presented trainings, conferences, workshops, and classroom courses in domestic violence intervention/treatment and addictions related to domestic violence. Her up-to-date courses and training workshops are now available virtually.

We offer a ton of free resources to help Christian women feel some hope and like they aren’t alone in their painful marriages.But do you know where I personally show up every week to answer the deeper questions from individuals? To coach women on their specific problems? To teach classes and create new workshops and offer in-depth interviews with experts and survivors? To help women of faith create life-changing shifts in their minds and lives?Not on social media. Not on my public blog. And not on this podcast.I do that in my private Flying Free Sisterhood program.In this episode, we sit down for tea (I’ll tell you my favorites — and HERE is a coupon for 20% off August Tea), and I share why a comprehensive program where you will be intensely supported and loved and educated is going to 10X your hope and healing in ways nothing else has ever worked before. (I’m not exaggerating either!)Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

Our questions are based on our beliefs. “God did nothing to prevent my abuse. Should I trust him for anything?” “Since separation, I have begun to avoid the Bible, church, and spiritual stuff. Where do I go from here?” “My church kicked me aside after my divorce. How do I find a safe one?” When our life falls apart, our beliefs are challenged. This process is often scary, confusing, and painful. It’s called deconstruction, and Stacey Wynn specializes in guiding people through it. Join Natalie and Stacey as they examine the beliefs behind these listener questions and the surprising way forward from all of them.In this episode, learn about:How differently our deconstruction journeys can look (which is perfectly okay)A way to reframe the hard questions while still being honest with yourself and GodThe freedom that’s found in the tension of “not-knowing” and how you can trust and embrace this processHow deconstruction can lead to a deeper, stronger faithAccess the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

In some Christian circles, the Bible is misused in order to control and neutralize half of the human race through a human construct called Patriarchy. In this interview with Rebecca Davis, we talk about what Patriarchy is, how it destroys women and families, and why it is not something the Bible promotes — but rather exposes. This episode is for women who:Feel like the Bible has only ever been used as a weapon to harm them.Wonder what Patriarchy is and how it has influenced their thinking and faith communities.Can’t understand why they, often willingly and joyfully, bought into a system based on lies and abuse.Wish they could strip away all the religious B.S. and discover peace, safety, and the real Jesus. Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:Untwisting Scriptures: Patriarchy and Authority Book 2Untwisting Scriptures That Were Used to Tie You Up, Gag You, and Tangle Your MindRebecca’s blogIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comRebecca Davis is a writer, blogger, speaker, wife, mother, grandmother, friend, advocate for the oppressed, and lover of Jesus who lives in Greenville, South Carolina. She’s published multiple books on the topic of patriarchy, faith, prayer, and abuse in the church, and also works as a trauma-informed editor and book coach.

Guilt is killing you. Shame is overwhelming you. Fear is crippling you. You can hardly think straight.  The horror of your daily married life is mirrored by the agony within you. Natalie draws from her own story—the pains and the triumphs—to answer two listener questions from women just like you. These women have taken all the blame, and struggle with knowing their true responsibility—whether their bad marriage, and all the fallout from it, are really their fault. Spoiler alert: They're not, and there's even more good news where that came from.Listen in to hear:The benefit (and one significant risk) survivors have in tossing aside the blame for other people's behavior.Your true responsibility and theirs (responsibility never sounded so good or so freeing!).The choices you have to take back your life (whether from inside or outside of your marriage), heal, and fly free!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.

What if it’s not your fault that sex is bad in your marriage?Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, The Great Sex Rescue unlocks the secrets to what makes some marriages red hot while others fizzle out. Generations of women have grown up with messages about sex that make them feel dirty, used, or invisible, while men have been sold such a cheapened version of sex, they don’t know what they’re missing. The Great Sex Rescue hopes to turn all of that around, developing a truly biblical view of sex where mutuality, intimacy, and passion reign.The Great Sex Rescue pulls back the curtain on what is happening in Christian bedrooms and exposes the problematic teachings that wreck sex for so many couples–and the good teachings that leave others breathless. In the #metoo and #churchtoo era, not only is this book a long overdue corrective to church culture, it is poised to free thousands of couples from repressive and dissatisfying sex lives so that they can experience the kind of intimacy and wholeness God intended.Sheila Wray Gregoire is a popular speaker, marriage blogger, and the author of eight books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. She loves encouraging women in their relationships, both with God and with their husbands, children, and friends. Her passion is for marriage, and she and her husband Keith speak together at marriage outreaches and at FamilyLife Canada marriage conferences. Sheila believes in authenticity, and gives real solutions to the very real and messy problems women, and couples, can face. You can usually find her in Belleville, Ontario, where she’s constantly texting her two young adult daughters and knitting. Preferably simultaneously.Warning: The subject of this episode is sex and may contain content inappropriate for children. In this episode you’ll discover:Why Sheila and her team decided to do such a massive study of over 20,000 Christian women.Some of the harmful messages found in best-selling Christian marriage books that have caused the greatest damage in the lives of women.What God’s original plan for sex in marriage actually was and how far the evangelical church has strayed from that plan. Which Christian marriage book got a score of ZERO out of 48 in a rubric that measures healthy human sexuality. (And guess what? It’s the number one Christian marriage book on the market!) Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: “The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended”Sheila’s blog: “Bare Marriage”“The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex”If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list at https://flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-downloadYou can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher at https://joinflyinghigher.comSheila Wray Gregoire is a popular speaker, marriage blogger, and the author of eight books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. She loves encouraging women in their relationships, both with God and with their husbands, children, and friends. Her passion is for marriage, and she and her husband Keith speak together at marriage outreaches and at FamilyLife Canada marriage conferences. Sheila believes in authenticity, and gives real solutions to the very real and messy problems women and couples can face. You can usually find her in Belleville, Ontario, where she’s constantly texting her two young adult daughters and knitting, preferably simultaneously.

In this continuation of Episode 105, Natalie discusses the different stories we tell ourselves to explain abuse and oppression in the world. You'll learn how to question these stories, how to discover the results these stories create in the world, and she'll give you some new ways of thinking about the problem that allow God to be both loving and powerful even in the midst of abuse and oppression. If you're feeling confused and afraid of your Creator, this episode will be like a tall glass of water in a desert land. This episode builds on Part One, so listen to that one first! Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All you have to do is hop on my mailing list. You can also find out about our online education and support program for women of faith at https://joinflyingfree.comAnd finally, if you are a divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, lose weight, have amazing relationships, get things done, build a business or career, and even find a good man (if you want one) - check out Flying Higher.