For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Parents often face overwhelming situations that can easily lead to angry outbursts, affecting both themselves and their children. Learning to control this anger is essential for fostering a calmer, happier family life. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs shares practical techniques designed for parents to manage their anger effectively. Key strategies include using the STOP approach, using I statements for communication, and prioritizing self-care. By implementing these methods, parents can break the cycle of anger and cultivate a supportive atmosphere that promotes emotional well-being for both themselves and their children. Tune in for valuable insights that can transform your parenting experience and strengthen your family dynamics.Key Takeaways: Feeling angry as a parent is normal, but how you express anger matters. Using the STOP approach can help parents respond calmly in stressful situations. Implementing routines at home creates a secure environment that reduces anger levels. Positive reinforcement encourages good behavior in children and fosters a supportive atmosphere. Establish a quiet space where children can calm down to prevent emotional outbursts. Self-care is essential for parents to manage stress and maintain a peaceful home. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit https://angersecrets.com/training/.

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Is anger truly a choice? This episode of the Anger Secrets podcast delves into this profound question, exploring both the superficial and deeper aspects of whether anger is truly a choice. Anger expert Alastair Duhs explains that while feeling angry is a natural human emotion, how you respond to that anger is where your choice lies. By becoming aware of your emotional triggers and recognising your early warning signs of anger, you can regain control of your emotions and decide how to react. Alastair also emphasises the importance of understanding the thoughts and beliefs that shape your responses, ultimately empowering listeners to take charge of their anger and improve their relationships. Join us as we uncover the layers of anger and equip you with the tools to manage it effectively.Key Takeaways: Anger is a natural emotion, but how you manage it can greatly affect your relationships. Awareness of your anger is crucial; it allows you to choose your response. Recognising early warning signs of anger helps prevent escalation and promotes better control. Your thoughts and beliefs shape your reactions; you can choose to change them. Anger becomes a choice only when you recognise and are aware of your feelings. The way you perceive a situation influences your emotional response to it. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit https://angersecrets.com/training/.

Mindfulness is an important practice for anyone struggling with anger issues, as emphasised by Alastair Duhs in this insightful podcast episode. In this episode Alastair elaborates on the essence of mindfulness—being fully present and aware without judgment—and its crucial role in defusing anger. By cultivating mindfulness, you can learn to recognise your emotional triggers and respond to them intentionally, rather than reacting instinctively, which often leads to regrettable outbursts. This episode breaks down three valuable mindfulness techniques: deep breathing, body scanning and thought observation. Deep breathing helps to engage the parasympathetic nervous system, fostering a sense of tranquility even in moments of rising anger. Body scanning encourages self-awareness of physical tension, serving as an early warning system for anger. Thought observation teaches listeners to witness their emotions without getting swept away by them, allowing for a conscious choice in response. By integrating these practices into daily routines, listeners can develop a sustainable approach to managing their anger and nurturing more respectful and loving relationships.Key Takeaways: Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and aware without judgment. Practicing mindfulness helps you pause and choose your response instead of reacting emotionally. Deep breathing activates your body's calming response, helping manage anger effectively. Body scanning increases self-awareness of physical tension related to emotional states. Observing your thoughts allows you to distance yourself from anger-inducing thoughts. Regular mindfulness practice strengthens brain areas responsible for emotional control and decision making. Links referenced in this episode:For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit https://angersecrets.com/training/.

Do you feel you and your partner speak different languages when it comes to love and affection?Or perhaps you and your partner struggle to understand each other's needs and desires.Or maybe you've heard about the 5 Love Languages idea before but aren't quite sure how to apply it in your relationship.If any of these situations sound familiar, this episode is for you!In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into the concept of the 5 love languages. The episode explores what the 5 love languages are and provides 5 practical tips for applying the 5 love languages to strengthen your relationship. Alastair also offers additional resources on his website, angersecrets.com, for those needing further assistance in controlling their anger and improving their relationships.Key TakeawaysIdentify Love Languages: Discover the primary love language for both you and your partner, using tools like the Love Languages quiz or honest conversations.Speak Their Language: Learn how expressing love in your partner's preferred language strengthens bonds and enhances intimacy.Recognise Triggers: Understand what actions may unintentionally make your partner feel unloved, and how to avoid them.Deescalate Conflicts: Use love languages strategically during disagreements to promote reconciliation and maintain connection.Adapt and Evolve: Love languages are not static—continuously check in with each other to adapt as your relationship grows and changes.Resources Mentionedangersecrets.com – Explore a variety of free resources to enhance your emotional control and relationship skillsBook a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/trainingTime Stamps00:00 Introduction01:40 What Are the Five Love Languages?02:17 Words of Affirmation02:38 Acts of Service03:04 Receiving Gifts03:27 Quality Time03:50 Physical Touch04:05 Importance of Understanding Love Languages04:24 Practical Tips for Applying Love Languages07:04 Conclusion

Are you fed up with losing your temper with the people you love most?Do you recognise that you need help managing your anger but need help figuring out where to start?Or perhaps you're painfully aware of the devastating consequences your anger has caused, yet you can't find the motivation to change.If any of this resonates with you, then this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast is what you need.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into the profound journey of Colin, a 38-year-old father who faced the devastating consequences of uncontrolled anger. After losing his marriage due to his anger issues, Colin took a transformative step by enrolling in the Complete Anger Management System. Colin's story highlights the importance of addressing anger issues before it's too late and showcases the powerful changes he has made through the program, not only for himself but also for his children. Listen in to be inspired by Colin's commitment to breaking the cycle of anger and paving the way for a healthier, happier future. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that it's never too late to seek help and start making positive changes.Key TakeawaysUnderstanding the Impact of Delayed Help: Recognise the far-reaching consequences of postponing anger management.Colin's Commitment to Change: An inspiring example of personal accountability and a drive to create a better environment for his children.Breaking the Cycle: Practical steps and insights into altering the destructive patterns of anger within families.Resources MentionedThe Complete Anger Management System: Discover the program Colin enrolled in to start his journey of change. Visit angersecrets.com/course for more detailsBook a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/trainingTime Stamps00:00 Introduction00:29 Meet Colin: A Story of Anger and Loss01:05 The Turning Point: Seeking Help02:03 Colin's Journey: From Realization to Action03:30 The Anger Management Course: Tools and Techniques08:29 Breaking the Cycle: A New Beginning12:01 Conclusion

Do you often feel trapped in the same patterns of conflict with your partner?Have you noticed that your relationship sometimes feels like a game in which someone always blames, rescues, or feels like the victim?Do you want to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and create a calmer, happier and more understanding relationship?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces the Winner’s Triangle, a powerful model created by Australian psychologist AC Choi, as a solution to break free from the Drama Triangle. Alastair details how the Winner's Triangle's three roles—Assertive, Vulnerable and Caring—contrast with the negative roles of Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer in the Drama Triangle. Throughout the episode, Alastair provides practical examples and guidance on how to shift roles effectively to foster healthier, more respectful communication. This episode encourages listeners to practice these roles to transform their relationships and promotes resources.For further support on anger management visit at AngerSecrets.com.Key TakeawaysUnderstanding the three roles of the Winner's Triangle: Assertive, Vulnerable and Caring.How to identify when you're falling into the Drama Triangle roles and strategies to shift into the healthier roles of the Winner's Triangle.Practical examples of how to apply the Winner's Triangle in everyday situations to improve relationship dynamics.Resources MentionedVisit angersecrets.com Book a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/trainingTime Stamps00:00 Introduction: Breaking Free from Toxic Relationship Patterns00:31 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast01:28 Introducing the Winner's Triangle02:38 Understanding the Roles in the Winner's Triangle05:20 Applying the Winner's Triangle in Your Relationship06:57 Example: Using the Winner's Triangle in Everyday Situations08:35 Conclusion

Are you tired of being stuck in the same argument again and again?Do you feel like you're caught in a never-ending cycle of drama, conflict, and emotional chaos in your relationship?Are you ready to break free from toxic relationship dynamics and take your relationship to a new level of understanding and respect?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs introduces listeners to the Drama Triangle, a model developed by Stephen Karpman that explains the toxic dynamics in many relationships. Alastair dives into the three key roles within the triangle—the Persecutor, the Victim and the Rescuer—and explains how individuals can break free from these unhealthy patterns to create happier and more loving relationships. This episode provides valuable insights for anyone feeling trapped in a cycle of conflict, blame and emotional chaos. Alastair also offers personal support through his website, AngerSecrets.com, where listeners can book a free 30-minute anger assessment call.Key Takeaways:Understand the Drama Triangle and its three roles: Persecutor, Victim and Rescuer.Recognise the Drama Triangle patterns and how they fuel conflict in relationships.Learn strategies to step away from these roles for healthier interactions.Gain insights on creating calmer, more respectful and successful relationships by breaking free from the Drama Triangle.Resources Mentioned:Visit angersecrets.comBook a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/trainingTime Stamps00:00 Introduction: Breaking Free from Toxic Relationship Dynamics00:30 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast01:24 Understanding the Drama Triangle02:57 The Persecutor Role04:06 The Victim Role05:16 The Rescuer Role06:09 Switching Roles in the Drama Triangle07:34 Illustrating the Drama Triangle: John and Mary09:11 Breaking Free from the Drama Triangle10:23 Conclusion

In Episode 101 of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores the critical role of self-awareness in anger management. Self-awareness is the foundation of controlling your anger and making thoughtful decisions, and today's discussion spotlights three transformative tips to enhance this skill. From recognising the subtle signals your body sends during early agitation to understanding personal anger triggers, these insights are designed to empower you to take charge of your reactions. Join us as we unravel practical strategies to transform anger into opportunities for growth and create more harmonious interactions in your daily life.Key Takeaways:Tip 1: Observe Your Early Warning Signs of Anger - Identifying these subtle cues can help prevent escalation.Tip 2: Slow Down - Pausing allows you to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.Tip 3: Get To Know Your Anger Triggers - Understanding your triggers empowers you to manage your emotions more effectively.Resources MentionedBook a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/training.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:26 The Importance of Self-Awareness01:12 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast02:18 Building Self-Awareness to Control Anger02:55 Tip 1: Observe Early Warning Signs04:21 Tip 2: Slow Down05:39 Tip 3: Know Your Anger Triggers07:31 Conclusion

Welcome to the milestone 100th episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast! In this special episode, host Alastair Duhs reflects on the journey of creating valuable anger management content over the past two years. Known for providing practical anger management strategies, this podcast is all about inspiring you with real-life success stories from individuals who have conquered their anger through Alastair's comprehensive course, the Complete Anger Management System. Tune in to learn how profound change is not only possible but within your reach.Key Takeaways:Transformational Journeys: Hear from past clients about how the Complete Anger Management System helped them turn their lives around, helping them to achieving calmer, happier and more peaceful lives.Inspiration and Hope: Discover how effective anger management tools can help you create a more peaceful and loving life.Beyond the Podcast: Understand the purposes of the podcast versus the deeper transformation through the Complete Anger Management System.Resources Mentioned:Book a free 30-minute anger assessment call at angersecrets.com/free-callWatch a free anger management training at angersecrets.com/training.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:29 The Journey of the Anger Secrets Podcast01:34 Introducing the Complete Anger Management System02:17 Real-Life Success Stories04:33 Client Testimonials09:20 Conclusion

Relationships are challenging, especially when you are trying to balance work, family, and personal well-being. If you’re like many of the thousands of men I’ve worked with, you might sometimes feel overwhelmed or uncertain about how to maintain a healthy, healthy and loving relationship. The good news is however, there are some simple and practical strategies you can use to strengthen your connection with your partner, reduce conflict, and create a more happier, more loving and fulfilling relationship.In today’s episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, we dive into the heart of what makes relationships thrive – communication, connection, and commitment. Whether you're facing challenges in your partnership or simply looking to enhance your bond, these five actionable tips are designed to help you cultivate a deeper understanding and appreciation of your partner.Key Takeaways:Take Responsibility for Your Actions: Understanding the impact of your behaviour can transform the dynamics of your relationship.Communicate, Don’t Assume: Clear communication is the cornerstone of effective relationships. Discover how to foster open dialogue with your partner.Listen to Understand, Not to Respond: Learn the art of active listening to create a more empathetic and supportive environment.Make Time for Your Partner: Explore the importance of prioritising quality moments together to nurture your connection.Think "What Is Important Long-Term?": Shift your focus from petty disagreements to the bigger picture of your lifelong happiness together.Featured Clients:Hear inspiring stories from clients like John and Tom, who implemented these strategies to overcome obstacles in their relationships, leading to remarkable transformations.Resources Mentioned:Visit angersecrets.com for free resources on emotional management and relationship enhancement.Sign up for the free training on the top three secrets to control your anger: angersecrets.com/training.Join Us!If you found these insights valuable, share this episode with friends and loved ones who might benefit, and don't forget to leave a rating and review!Remember: You have the power to shape your relationships. Tune in next week as we explore more secrets to fostering love and connection. Take care, and see you in the next episode!

Do you find yourself getting angry more often than you'd like?Or perhaps you lose you temper at those that you love, and know that if things don't change, you may lose the people that matter the most to you?If so, you’re not alone. In today’s episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, we dive deep into the complexities of anger and how it affects our daily lives. Join us as we tackle five critical questions that many struggle with, delivering practical advice and personal anecdotes that resonate with anyone seeking to understand and manage their anger.Key Topics Discussed:What is Anger? – We define anger and explore its various facets and triggers.Why Do We Get Angry? – Delve into the psychological and emotional reasons behind our anger responses.Is Anger Always a Bad Thing? – Understand the potential benefits of anger when it’s managed effectively.How Can I Tell If I Have an Anger Issue? – Learn the warning signs that indicate you may need to take action regarding your anger.How Can I Control My Anger? – Discover various strategies, including our transformative online coaching program, The Complete Anger Management System, that can help you manage your anger and live a more peaceful life.Featured Client Success Story:Hear about Anna's journey from struggling with her temper to gaining control over her emotions, showcasing the effectiveness of structured anger management strategies.Resources Mentioned:Explore free resources and training available at angersecrets.com.Sign up for our free training on the top 3 secrets to control your anger at angersecrets.com/training.Closing Thoughts:Anger management is a skill that takes time and practice, but the rewards are invaluable. Don’t wait to take charge of your emotions and improve your relationships. Follow Us:If you enjoyed today’s episode, please subscribe, rate, and share this podcast with someone who could benefit from these insights. Thank you for listening, and remember, your journey to controlling anger starts now!

Does it ever feel like your anger takes over before you have time to think? Or perhaps you struggle to stay calm when someone pushes your buttons, only to regret your actions later? If either of these scenarios sounds familiar, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you. In this episode, we delve into the often-misunderstood emotion of anger and explore effective strategies for managing it in the heat of the moment. Join us as we share real-life stories that illustrate how awareness and perspective can transform your interactions, creating healthier relationships both at home and in the workplace. Key Takeaways:Awareness of Anger: Learn to identify the early warning signs of rising anger and how this awareness can empower you to respond more thoughtfully.Questioning Your Anger: Discover the game-changing question that can help you pause and consider whether your anger is truly warranted in any given situation.Empathy and Understanding: Understand the importance of recognising the struggles of others and how this perspective can soften your reactions and foster compassion.Featured Stories:Hear how Mark transformed his marriage by recognising his anger triggers and choosing empathy over resentment.Learn from Sarah's experience in the workplace, where a simple shift in mindset led to more constructive conversations with her colleagues.Resources Mentioned:For more tips and tools to manage your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Sign up for our free training on the top 3 secrets to control your anger at angersecrets.com/training.Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a rating, and share this episode with anyone who could benefit from learning how to manage their anger more effectively. Together, we can take steps towards mastering our anger and creating calmer, happier and more loving relationships.

Have you ever felt offended by something that someone said or did, even if it wasn't intentionally meant to hurt you?Do you find yourself dwelling on negative comments or situations, and struggle to let them go?Is it difficult for you to differentiate between constructive criticism and personal attacks in your interactions with others?If so, then this compelling episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast is for you!Join us as we explore how your reactions to criticism can shape your relationships and personal growth. We share compelling stories from clients like Sarah and James, who transformed their responses to perceived attacks into opportunities for connection and understanding. Discover the importance of stepping back when you feel criticized and assessing whether the feedback holds any truth.We also introduce strategies for effectively acknowledging criticism while maintaining your self-esteem. Learn how to embrace constructive feedback as a pathway to improvement rather than a threat. By the end of this episode, you’ll be equipped with practical tools to diffuse potential conflicts and foster healthier communication in your relationships.Key Takeaways:-Understanding the emotional triggers behind taking things personally-Practical examples demonstrating effective responses to criticism-Strategies for personal growth through acknowledging feedback-Tips for creating a supportive environment that encourages open dialogueResources Mentioned:Visit angersecrets.com for free resources on managing anger and enhancing communication.Sign up for our free training on the top 3 secrets to control your anger at angersecrets.com/training.Call to Action:If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Share this episode with friends and family who could benefit from improving their communication skills. Remember, change takes time—be patient with yourself as you implement these strategies!

Have you thought about doing an anger management course, but worried that you won't make any changes? Or maybe you've thought: Even if I do learn how to control my anger in the short term, these changes won't last long term?If you can relate to these concerns, then you're not alone. In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs talk to Michael, a 78-year-old retiree who completed an online anger management program 18 months ago. The episode delves into Michael's significant changes in managing anger, particularly with his family, and whether these changes have been sustainable. Michael discusses his journey, the realisations he made about his anger, the improvements in his relationships and the ongoing effort required for long-term change. This episode aims to show that long-term transformation in anger management is achievable and can significantly improve your life and relationships.Key Takeaways:The Power of Commitment: Sustained change requires ongoing effort and practice—much like a fitness regimen. Michael emphasises that the techniques learned in the course can lead to profound improvements in life quality.Real-Life Impact: Hear how Michael’s relationship with his wife and daughter has flourished as a result of his newfound skills in managing anger.Non-Threatening Approach: Gain insights into how the course structure allows for personal reflection and gradual progress without the pressure of traditional therapy settings.Ongoing Tools: Michael discusses the benefits of the Anger Diary, which helps track progress and reinforces learning, making it easier to revisit strategies as needed.Resources Mentioned:Anger Secrets Website: Visit angersecrets.com for free resources and to book a free 30-minute anger assessment call with Alastair Duhs, Anger Expert.Time stamps:00:00 Introduction00:33 Meet Michael: A Success Story01:19 Episode Introduction02:37 Michael's Journey04:05 Key Learnings and Changes07:52 Impact on Relationships09:22 Advice for Others Facing Anger Issues12:26 Conclusion

Are you tired of letting anger control your life? Has someone told you that your temper is getting out of control? If so, you're not alone.In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs uncovers the Ten Rules of Anger Management that can transform your life.From understanding the key to managing anger to recognising when to seek professional help, Alastair provides a comprehensive guide to conquering anger and enhancing your relationships.Here are some of the key topics discussed in this episode:Taking Responsibility for Your Actions:Admitting when you've allowed anger to control your actions can build trust and respect in relationships, fostering more constructive communication.Using the Tension Scale:Learn to monitor your stress levels and recognize signs of increasing tension to prevent anger from escalating.Seeking to Understand, Not to Win:Shift your focus from winning arguments to empathetically understanding your partner's perspective for healthier communication.Practicing Listening Skills:Effective communication involves active listening. Discover techniques to give your partner your full attention and prevent misunderstandings.Seeking Professional Help if Needed:Recognise when it's time to seek the aid of a professional to address significant anger issues and create a calmer, happier life.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets.com – Access free resources and information for managing anger.AngerSecrets.com/free-call – Schedule a free 30-minute anger assessment call to discuss your specific anger situation.Listener Action Items:Follow the podcast and leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast app.Share this episode with others who might benefit from these anger management strategies.Visit AngerSecrets.com for more resources and to book a free anger assessment call.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:23 Overview of the Episode00:34 Meet Your Host: Alister Dues01:28 Rule 1: Awareness is Key02:24 Rule 2: You Create Your Anger03:21 Rule 3: Anger vs. Abuse and Violence04:17 Rule 4: Anger Does Not Help05:16 Rule 5: Change Yourself, Not Others05:54 Rule 6: Take Responsibility for Your Actions06:46 Rule 7: Use the Tension Scale07:34 Rule 8: Seek to Understand, Not to Win08:16 Rule 9: Practice Listening Skills09:01 Rule 10: Seek Professional Help if Needed09:46 Recap and Final ThoughtsTune in to this episode to master your emotions, enhance your relationships, and lead a happier, more fulfilling life!

Can just six hours a week transform your relationship? According to relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, the answer is "Yes".  In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs reveals the transformative power of Dr. John Gottman's "Magic Six Hours." Learn how dedicating just six hours a week can significantly enhance your relationship, bringing more happiness, love, and fulfillment into your life. The seven essential steps to implement the Magic Six Hours are as follows:Partings: Begin your day with a meaningful goodbye.Reunions: Reconnect consciously after being apart.Appreciation / Admiration: Express gratitude and acknowledge positive qualities daily.Physical Affection: Show regular physical affection, including a goodnight kiss or embrace.Stress-Reducing Conversation: Have a daily 20-minute conversation to decompress and listen actively.Quality Time: Spend at least two hours a week sharing quality time together.State of the Union Meeting: Conduct a weekly meeting to discuss your relationship, celebrate successes, and address any issues.Key strategies discussed in this episode include creating a meaningful morning and evening routine, actively listening during stress-reducing conversations, and setting aside dedicated quality time with your partner.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets.com – Explore free resources to help you manage anger and improve your relationship.AngerSecrets.com/free-call – Book a free 30-minute anger assessment call with Alastair Duhs to discuss your specific anger challenges.Listener Action Items:Follow the podcast and leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast app.Share this episode with others who might benefit from the tips discussed.Visit AngerSecrets.com for more resources and to book a free anger assessment call.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction01:46 The Magic Six Hours02:43 Step 1: Meaningful Partings03:42 Step 2: Reconnecting Reunions04:26 Step 3: Daily Appreciation and Admiration05:26 Step 4: Regular Physical Affection06:17 Step 5: Stress-Reducing Conversations06:54 Step 6: Quality Time Together07:47 Step 7: Weekly State of the Union Meetings08:51 Conclusion and RecapBy incorporating these seven steps into your weekly routine, you'll build a stronger, more connected relationship. Don’t miss out - tune in and transform your relationship with the Magic Six Hours!

Are you tired of feeling angry all the time? Do you find it hard to let go of your anger, even when it hurts you and those around you? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs reveals three powerful mindset shifts to help you let go of your anger and find more peace. Alastair dives deep into the psychological strategies that can transform your response to anger, leading to a calmer and happier life.These mindset shifts include:Practice Acceptance: Focus on what you can control and let go of unrealistic expectations.Practice Empathy: Understand and appreciate others' perspectives before reacting.Maintain a Sense of Perspective: Keep a broader view of life to let go of minor annoyances and focus on what truly matters.Alastair explains how adopting these strategies can help you navigate conflicts more effectively, reduce stress, and foster better relationships.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets.com – Access free resources to help you manage your anger.AngerSecrets.com/free-call – Schedule a free 30-minute anger assessment call to discuss your specific anger situation.Listener Action Items:Follow the podcast and leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast app.Visit AngerSecrets.com for more resources and to book a free anger assessment call.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction01:46 Mindset Shift 1: Practice Acceptance03:27 Mindset Shift 2: Practice Empathy05:11 Mindset Shift 3: Maintain a Sense of Perspective06:50 Recap and Final Thoughts

Are you tired of constant arguments in your relationship? Do you feel like you and your partner are never on the same page? Do you wish you could communicate more effectively and improve your relationship?If so, you're not alone. In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs delves into practical strategies for becoming a better listener in your relationships. Alastair outlines four essential steps to enhance your listening skills and foster healthier, more meaningful communication with your partner. These steps include:Using Minimal Encouragers: Demonstrate active listening through simple verbal and non-verbal cues.Asking Questions: Utilise open-ended questions to dive deeper into your partner's thoughts and feelings.Reflecting (or Summarising): Show understanding by paraphrasing your partner’s words.Giving Positive Feedback: Reinforce good communication with genuine appreciation and positive reinforcement.Key strategies discussed in this episode to improve listening skills include practicing active listening, asking open-ended questions, reflecting on your partner's words, and providing positive feedback to foster deeper connections.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets.com – Access free resources and information on developing better listening and communication skills.AngerSecrets.com/free-call – Schedule a free 30-minute anger assessment call to discuss your specific anger situation.Listener Action Items:Follow the podcast and leave a rating and review on your favorite podcast app.Share this episode with others who might benefit from the tips discussed.Visit AngerSecrets.com for more resources and to book a free anger assessment call.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction01:28 Step 1: Use Minimal Encouragers02:41 Step 2: Ask Questions04:36 Step 3: Reflect or Summarise06:01 Step 4: Give Positive Feedback07:27 Recap and Final Thoughts

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses how to control your anger in 30 days or less.Alastairs shares three critical steps to manage anger, including short and long-term strategies for controlling anger and how to build a healthier relationship. Additionally, Alastair highlights success stories from individuals who have transformed their lives through his online anger management program.Key strategies mentioned in this episode to control anger include recognising and managing your Early Warning Signs of anger, using Cognitive Restructuring to change thought patterns and developing effective communication skills. Success Stories:Jack: Achieved significant improvement in anger management within a few weeks, leading to better relationships at home and work.Sarah: Used cognitive restructuring techniques to control her anger, resulting in improved communication and harmony in her relationship.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets.com – Free resources and information on controlling anger.AngerSecrets.com/free-call - Free 30-minute anger assessment callListener Action Items:Follow the podcast and leave a rating and review on your favourite podcast app.Share this episode with others who might benefit from the tips discussed.Visit AngerSecrets.com for more resources and to schedule a free anger assessment call.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction01:24 Understanding Anger: The First Step01:57 Recognising Early Warning Signs02:54 Techniques for Short-Term Anger Control03:51 Long-Term Strategies for Anger Management05:19 Building Better Relationships06:57 Success Stories: Real-Life Transformations09:16 Conclusion: Recap and Final Thoughts

Do you and your partner argue with each other frequently? Is your relationship lacking in communication and understanding? Are you and your partner drifting apart and you don't know how to stop it?If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, in this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives into three powerful steps to enhance your relationship: addressing anger issues, improving communication skills, and implementing Dr. John Gottman's "Magic Six Hours." Tune in to learn practical tips, habits, and insights that can lead to a stronger, healthier, and happier relationship.Free Resources: Explore a range of resources to help you control your anger and improve your relationships. Book a free 30-minute anger assessment call to discuss your specific situation. Visit our website at angersecrets.com for more details.Time Stamps: -00:00 Introduction to Anger Management-01:11 Understanding Mindfulness-01:55 Benefits of Mindfulness for Anger-03:45 Exercise 1: Deep Breathing-05:28 Exercise 2: Body Scan Meditation-07:50 Exercise 3: Mindful Observation-09:24 Conclusion and Next Steps

Do you struggle to control your anger? Have you tried to control your anger but still feel overwhelmed and out of control? Do you want to learn practical exercises based on the principles of mindfulness to help you control your temper ?If you answered "Yes to any of these questions, in today's episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs describes into three powerful mindfulness exercises designed to help you manage anger more effectively. From deep breathing techniques to mindful observation, these exercises are practical tools you can use anytime, anywhere. But remember, professional guidance is essential for long-term anger management! Tune in and take the first step towards a calmer, more controlled you!Free Resources:Visit angersecrets.com for a range of free resources tailored to help you control your anger. Whether it's a free assessment call or downloadable guides, you'll find valuable tools to support your journey towards effective anger management.Time Stamps:-0:00 Introduction to Anger Management-01:11 Understanding Mindfulness-01:55 Benefits of Mindfulness for Anger Management-03:45 Exercise 1: Deep Breathing-05:28 Exercise 2: Body Scan Meditation-07:50 Exercise 3: Mindful Observation09:24 Conclusion and Next Steps

Do you lose your temper at those closest to you? Are your angry outbursts leaving you feeling lonely, isolated and ashamed? Have you Googled "how to control my anger" too many times to admit and are still confused about your best anger management option?If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, in this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast host Alastair Duhs dives into the debate: "Should I do a face-to-face or online anger management program?" Discover firsthand experiences from Alastair's clients and explore recent research that highlights the effectiveness of online programs. Learn how these programs can fit seamlessly into your busy schedule and provide you with the tools you need to create calmer, happier relationships.Resources:For additional support and to take the first step towards better anger management, check out these resources:-Free training on how to control your anger: angersecrets.com/training-Comprehensive online anger management program: The Complete Anger Management SystemTime Stamps:00:00 Introduction: Do You Struggle with Anger?00:26 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast01:09 Face-to-Face Anger Management Programs02:58 Online Anger Management Programs04:35 Comparing Effectiveness: Face-to-Face vs. Online06:19 Client Testimonials on Online Programs07:59 Final Thoughts and Recommendations09:17 Conclusion and Next Steps

Do you struggle to control your anger? Have you gone to anger management counseling or therapy sessions but still lose your temper in stressful situations? Do you want to learn how to effectively control your anger and improve your relationships with others? If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode is for you. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into the pitfalls that can hinder your progress in managing anger and provides actionable tips to navigate these challenges. From not recognising your Early Warning Signs of Anger to reframing Negative Self-Talk, Alastair covers it all. Whether you're struggling with anger management or looking to refine your strategies, this episode is packed with valuable insights.Free Resources:Unlock a treasure trove of resources to help you manage your anger by visiting angersecrets.com. Download free guides, access online tools, and even book a complimentary 30-minute anger assessment call. Take the first step towards a calmer, more controlled you!Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction: Struggling with Anger?00:26 Meet Your Host: Alastair Duhs01:01 The Journey to Controlling Anger02:24 Common Mistake 1: Ignoring the Root Cause03:46 Common Mistake 2: Suppressing Anger04:37 Common Mistake 3: Blaming Others05:29 Common Mistake 4: Missing Early Warning Signs06:14 Common Mistake 5: Negative Self-Talk07:28 Common Mistake 6: Unrealistic Expectations08:34 Common Mistake 7: Not Seeking Help09:50 Conclusion and Recap10:27 Final Thoughts and Resources

Do you find it difficult to stay calm in stressful situations? Do you lash out at others, even over minor inconveniences or disagreements? Has someone close to you, perhaps your partner or a family member, told you that your anger scares them?If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you! In it, host Alastair Duhs delves into a crucial topic that can impact every aspect of your life: how to tell if you have an anger issue. Alastair explores seven key signs that indicate anger may be a problem for you, and provide insights into how to manage and control it effectively. Tune in to learn how recognising and addressing your anger can lead to a happier, more fulfilling life.Free resources:-Take our quick 10-question Anger Quiz to see if anger is an issue for you. Find it at angersecrets.com/anger-quiz.-Explore a range of tools and resources designed to help you control your anger at angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction: Do You Have an Anger Issue?00:25 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast00:57 Understanding Anger01:51 Seven Signs of Anger Issues02:00 Sign 1: Short Fuse02:29 Sign 2: Physical Symptoms03:06 Sign 3: Regret After Anger03:48 Sign 4: Holding Grudges04:34 Sign 5: Relationship Struggles05:38 Sign 6: Constant Irritability07:01 Sign 7: Feedback from Others08:09 Conclusion and Resources10:15 Recap and Final Thoughts

Have you ever found yourself in a cycle of anger and abuse, unsure of how to break free? Or perhaps you've been raised in a family where you have been exposed to anger, abuse or violence and you are struggling to break this cycle.Are you looking for a life-changing way to transform your thoughts and feelings, so that you do not get angry in situations that would have previously made you mad?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, then you are in the right place.In today's episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, I talk to Fiona. Fiona is a small business owner and mother on one child. Fiona enrolled in my comprehensive online anger management course "The Complete Anger Management System" to help her control her angerAbout 7 weeks after she enrolled, I spoke to Fiona about the changes she had made so far. Key Takeaways from this Episode:-Personal Growth Is a Continuous Journey: Fiona's story exemplifies that change is a gradual process that requires patience, practice and persistence.-The Impact of Online Learning: The flexibility and accessibility of online courses have made invaluable resources readily available to those who seek them, proving effective for individuals like Fiona.-Self-Help Can Be Empowering: Fiona's experience underscores the power of taking charge of one's mental health and the positive outcomes of working through issues independently, yet with guidance.-The Importance of Reflection and Response: The episode reiterates the concept that while we cannot control external forces, we can always control our responses, leading to healthier interpersonal relationships.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets website: https://angersecrets.com/Book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call: https://angersecrets.com/pen-free-call/Call to Action:If today's episode resonates with you, or if you find yourself struggling with anger, remember that help is available and change is possible. Take a proactive step towards managing your anger by visiting AngerSecrets.com to book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call. It's time to break the cycle of anger and take control of your life. Don't wait—book your call today and start your journey towards a calmer, more fulfilling life.

Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of someone's anger and felt helpless and unsure of how to handle the situation? Perhaps there are times when your partner loses their temper and you have no idea what to do.Or perhaps there are times when your partner loses their temper and it triggers you to do the same.Whatever situation you are in, dealing with other peoples anger can be a difficult and overwhelming experience. In many ways its like being caught in the eye of a storm, with intense emotions swirling all around you and often seeming like there is no way out.Well, the good news is that there is. There are many highly effective ways to handle anger from others in ways that do not lead to escalating conflict or disagreements. In this episode you will learn 5 practical tips to handle anger from others and de-escalate difficult situations.Key Takeaways from the Episode:-Stay Calm: Keeping your cool can prevent the situation from escalating.-Don’t Take Things Personally: Remember, the anger is not always about you.-Use Empathy: Trying to understand the angry person’s perspective can help de-escalate the situation.-Set Boundaries: Protect yourself from negative behaviors by setting clear limits.-Seek Support: If facing abuse or violence, it's crucial to get help from professionals or support systems.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets website: https://angersecrets.com/Book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call: https://angersecrets.com/pen-free-call/Call to Action:If today's episode resonates with you, or if you find yourself struggling with anger, remember that help is available and change is possible. Take a proactive step towards managing your anger by visiting AngerSecrets.com to book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call. It's time to break the cycle of anger and take control of your life. Don't wait—book your call today and start your journey towards a calmer, more fulfilling life.

We've all been there. You're feeling overwhelmed by frustration or anger, and suddenly it overcomes you. Your heart races, your blood boils and before you know it, you've lost control and said or done something you regret. In the moment, it can feel impossible to control your anger and respond calmly to whatever situation you are in. But with practice and dedication, it is possible to gain control over your anger, and it can be far easier than you may think possible. In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, you will learn three simple yet powerful steps to control your anger and keep your emotions in check, no matter what life throws your way.Key Takeaways from the Episode:-Awareness is the first step towards controlling anger. Recognising early signs of frustration can help in mitigating anger before it escalates.-Understanding Thoughts and Beliefs: Your perceptions and beliefs shape your reactions. Changing these can fundamentally alter how we respond to anger-inducing situations.-Improving Communication Skills: Effective communication is crucial. This entails active listening, speaking assertively without aggression, and mastering negotiation skills to resolve conflicts amicably.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets website: https://angersecrets.com/Book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call: https://angersecrets.com/pen-free-call/Call to Action:If today's episode resonates with you, or if you find yourself struggling with anger, remember that help is available and change is possible. Take a proactive step towards managing your anger by visiting AngerSecrets.com to book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call. It's time to break the cycle of anger and take control of your life. Don't wait—book your call today and start your journey towards a calmer, more fulfilling life.

Do yourself struggle to manage your children's behaviour without getting angry? Do you want to learn effective and gentle ways of disciplining your children without resorting to anger, aggression, intimidation or threats?If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, then this episode is for you!In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, we dive into the challenging world of parenting—specifically, how to discipline your children without resorting to anger. Through a list of seven practical tips, the episode covers a range of strategies from understanding your own emotions and setting clear expectations, to the power of empathy and the importance of taking timeouts for yourself. The ultimate goal is to foster a positive, respectful and understanding family dynamic where discipline is an opportunity for growth and connection rather than a source of frustration and anger.Key Takeaways from the Episode:-Recognising and managing your own emotions is crucial to disciplining without anger.-Setting clear expectations with your children helps them understand what is expected of them.-Positive reinforcement can be more effective than punitive measures in encouraging good behavior.-Open and honest communication fosters a healthy relationship between you and your children.-Empathy allows you to connect with your child's feelings and can often defuse tense situations.-Taking a Time-Out for yourself is not just beneficial but necessary when feeling overwhelmed by anger.-Seeking help, whether through parenting classes or therapy, is a sign of strength and can provide valuable support and resources.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets website: https://angersecrets.com/Book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call: https://angersecrets.com/pen-free-call/Call to Action:If today's episode resonates with you, or if you find yourself struggling with anger, remember that help is available and change is possible. Take a proactive step towards managing your anger by visiting AngerSecrets.com to book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call. It's time to break the cycle of anger and take control of your life.

Have you ever wondered why the smallest issues can turn into the biggest battles in your relationship? Do you find yourself constantly arguing with your partner over trivial matters?Do you struggle with issues such as how to be more vulnerable in your relationship, or how to be a better parent to your children than your parents were to you?In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, I share Matthew's heartfelt story of overcoming anger and the positive impact anger management has made in his life. Matthew shares his personal experiences with anger, the challenges it brought to his relationships and how my anger management course equipped him with the tools to handle his emotions effectively. Matthew's story not only shows the importance of addressing anger proactively but also emphasises how the anger management tools I teach have improved his personal well-being and family dynamics.Key Takeaways from the Episode:Anger is a universal emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their lives, but managing it effectively is crucial to personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships.Anger management courses offer valuable tools for recognising triggers, understanding emotional responses and implementing strategies to de-escalate tensions.Implementing small, daily habits to manage anger can have significant long-term benefits for individuals and their loved ones.Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Taking proactive steps towards anger management can lead to a happier, more peaceful life.Resources Mentioned:AngerSecrets website: https://angersecrets.com/Book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call: https://angersecrets.com/pen-free-call/Call to Action:If Matthew's story resonates with you, or if you find yourself struggling with anger, remember that help is available and change is possible. Take a proactive step towards managing your anger by visiting AngerSecrets.com to book a FREE 30-minute anger assessment call. It's time to break the cycle of anger and take control of your life. Don't wait—book your call today and start your journey towards a calmer, more fulfilling life.

Have you ever found yourself regretting something you said in a moment of anger? Do you feel like your temper sometimes takes control of you, instead of you being in control of your temper?Are you been looking for ways to better control your anger and prevent it from negatively impacting your relationships and daily life?If you answered "Yes!" to any of these questions, then this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you. In this episode, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into the powerful STOP model of anger management. What You'll Learn:Understanding the STOP Model: Discover the core principles behind the STOP model and how it can transform the way you deal with anger.Implementing the STOP Model: Practical tips for applying the STOP model in everyday situations, helping you to pause and choose how you respond to anger triggers.Breathing and Relaxation Techniques: Learn breathing exercises that can help calm your mind in moments of stress, making it easier to apply the STOP model.Mindfulness Practices: Find out how mindfulness and meditation can enhance your ability to remain composed and prevent anger from taking the wheel.Seeking Professional Help: Recognise when it's time to seek out professional assistance to tackle anger management challenges more effectively.This episode is full of valuable insights.Remember, every step you take towards mastering your anger is a step towards a happier, more peaceful life.Resources Mentioned: Visit angersecrets.com for more information about our online anger management course and to book your free 30-minute anger assessment call.We look forward to helping you control your anger.

Do arguments with your partner often spiral out of control? Do you feel like you're constantly trying to get your point across but your partner never seems to understand what you are saying? Are anger, arguments or poor communication ruling your relationship? If so, then today's episode of the Anger Secrets is packed with actionable advice and insightful strategies for improving communication within your relationships. If you're looking to overcome obstacles and enhance the quality of your interactions with loved ones, you've come to the right place.What You'll Learn:The Power of Active Listening: Discover the importance of active listening and how it can dramatically improve the way you connect with your partner.Expressing Yourself With Clarity and Respect: Learn about the DESC model and how it can help you convey your thoughts and feelings in a non-aggressive yet honest manner.Navigating Difficult Conversations: Gain the strategies needed to tackle tough discussions without losing sight of respect and understanding for one another.Negotiation Skills That Strengthen Relationships: Find out how negotiating effectively isn't about winning or losing but about finding solutions that work for both parties.Practical Tips for Everyday Communication: Beyond theories and models, we share real-life tips that you can start applying in your interactions today.Don't forget to book your free 30-minute anger assessment call through our website, angersecrets.com.Remember, mastering anger is a journey, and we're here to guide you every step of the way.Visit angersecrets.com now to schedule your free 30-minute anger assessment call and take control of your anger today.

In this power-packed episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs dives deep into how to identify and handle your anger triggers. If you've ever found yourself reacting impulsively in a heat of anger or struggling to keep your cool in stressful situations, this episode is for you!What You'll Learn:How to identify your personal anger triggersHow to use an anger diary in recognising patterns and initiating change.Techniques for spotting your Early Warning Signs of AngerThe power of Cognitive Reframing in altering your emotional reactions and promoting mental well-being.The importance of seeking professional advice when needed and the resources available for those seeking help.Whether you're looking to improve your personal relationships, enhance your emotional intelligence, or simply gain a better understanding of how to control your anger, listen to this episode now!.For more resources and a free anger management training, visit angersecrets.com.

Can anger be expressed in a healthy way?In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores this question and shares the distinction between healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger. Drawing from over 30 years of experience teaching more than 15,000 men and women how to control their anger, Alastair acknowledges argues that while anger often leads to negative outcomes, it can serve positive purposes when expressed constructively.In this episode you will learn what constitutes healthy anger and the differences between healthy and unhealthy anger.Alastair also provides practical tips for channeling your anger in a healthy way. If you would like to manage your anger more healthily, this episode is for you!For a free training to how to control your anger, master your emotions and create a calmer happier and more loving relationship, visit angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast00:13 Exploring Healthy vs. Unhealthy Anger00:39 The Impact of Anger on Relationships01:27 Understanding Healthy Anger02:02 Examples of Healthy vs. Unhealthy Anger Responses04:34 Tips for Channeling Anger Healthily07:14 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Do you want to create a happy, healthy and passionate long-term relationship?In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs explores the significance of primary loving relationships for happiness and success in life. Alastair introduces his upcoming relationship coaching program, "Reignite My Relationship", which aims to help couples foster happier, more loving, and passionate relationships through effective communication, developing intimacy, shared goals and much more. The core of the episode delves into a lesson from the program, highlighting friendship as the paramount factor in the success of romantic relationships. Citing recent relationship research Alastair explains how being best friends with you partner is the best predictor of relationship success. If you would like a happier, healthier and more passionate relationship, this episode is a must-listen!To take the next step on your anger management journey, visit angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Welcome to Anger Secrets Podcast00:22 Introducing the Breaking The Anger Cycle Training00:43 Transitioning to Relationship Success Secrets01:10 Reignite My Relationship: An Upcoming Coaching Program02:25 Diving Deep into the Power of Friendship08:28 Practical Steps to Positive Sentiment Override12:11 Concluding Thoughts and Next Steps

Have you and your partner separated due to anger issues? If so, this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast is for you. In this episode, host Alastair Duhs explores the challenge of rebuilding a relationship after separation caused by anger issues. While this is difficult, it can be done!In this episode, Alastair outlines a five-step process for individuals looking to reconcile and rebuild their relationships. These steps include dealing with one's anger issues, accepting responsibility for the impact of one's anger, reestablishing contact when appropriate, showing evidence of change and working on the relationship together. Alastair emphasises the importance of commitment, effort, patience and professional guidance in this difficult but rewarding journey towards a healthier, more respectful partnership.For more information on your anger management journey, visit angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Navigating Anger and Separation02:09 Introducing the Anger Secrets Podcast03:03 Unlocking the Steps to Rebuild Your Relationship04:20 Step-by-Step Guide to Healing After Separation09:48 Conclusion and Resources for Rebuilding Stronger Relationships

Do you struggle to control your anger with your partner?If so, you are not alone. But it is vital that you learn to control your anger as soon as possible.In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs revisits strategies to master your anger in relationships.Anger is a natural human emotion and it's normal to feel angry from time to time. However, if your anger becomes too intense in your relationship, it will cause significant damage. And even worse, it can very easily result in the end of your relationship. Recognising the potential damage of uncontrolled anger to relationships, Alastair shares four key tips to control your anger in your relationship, no matter what your partner says or does.Alastair also offers resources, including a powerful new anger management training to help listeners improve their anger management skills.To access this free training, visit angersecrets.com/training.Time Stamps:00:00 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast00:24 Revisiting Mastering Anger in Relationships01:31 Four Key Tips for Mastering Your Anger01:39 Understanding Your Anger Triggers03:06 Communicating Openly with Your Partner05:00 Managing Stress to Control Anger07:00 Remembering You're on the Same Team08:29 Recap and Closing Thoughts09:04 Looking Ahead and Final Words

In this episode, host Alastair Duhs provides advice on how to avoid escalating conflicts in relationships. Drawing on the work of relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, Alastair discusses the concept of relationship repair, or the ability to deescalate conflicts and resolve them harmlessly. You will learn how to recognise signs of escalating conflict, the importance of valuing the relationship over the conflict, and how to make repair attempts to deescalate conflict. Alastair offers practical examples of relationship repair attempts and emphasises the significance of accepting and acknowledging repair attempts from your partner.For further information on this topic, as well as a FREE training on how to control your anger visit:https://angersecrets.com/Time Stamps:00:01 Introduction00:54 Welcome to the Anger Secrets Podcast01:22 The Complete Anger Management System02:16 Understanding Relationship Repair02:55 Practical Tips for Avoiding Conflict05:50 The Importance of Recognizing Repair Attempts06:26 Final Thoughts on Relationship Repair07:11 Invitation to the Complete Anger Management System07:35 Conclusion

In this episode of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses the importance of not sweating the small stuff in life.Alastair describes how small issues often escalate into larger conflicts, and why this is. This episode will teach you to take a step back before responding to situations, question the long-term significance of any issue you are facing and practice gratitude. Alastair also shares his personal perspective on the value of focusing on the important aspects, and why he does not sweat the small stuff!Finally, Alastair shares how not sweating the small stuff and anger management are linked.For further resources (and a FREE training) on how to control your anger visit:https://angersecrets.com/Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:38 Understanding the Importance of Not Sweating the Small Stuff01:36 Introducing the Complete Anger Management System02:26 Exploring the Concept of 'Not Sweating the Small Stuff'03:32 Why We Get Worked Up Over Small Things04:46 Tips to Let Go of Small Irritations08:26 Personal Experiences and Insights09:42 Conclusion

In this episode, host Alastair Duhs discusses four behaviors that quietly kill any relationship.You will learn what these behaviors are, real-life examples of these behaviors and the "antidotes" (or opposites) to these behaviors.If you want to create a calmer, happier and more loving relationship, this episode is for you.Alastair discusses the importance of managing anger in maintaining a happy, healthy and loving relationship. He also introduces his powerful online anger management coaching program called The Complete Anger Management System.For more information on this powerful program visit:https://angersecrets.com/Time-Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:23 Unveiling the Hidden Killers of Relationships00:48 Understanding Anger and Its Impact01:21 Introducing the Complete Anger Management System02:13 Exploring the Four Relationship Killers03:10 Deep Dive into Criticism04:43 Understanding Defensiveness05:36 Unpacking Contempt06:27 Exploring Stonewalling07:51 Antidotes for the Relationship Killers10:33 Linking Relationship Killers to Anger10:58 The Importance of Communication Skills11:46 Conclusion

In episode 69 of the Anger Secrets podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses the power of active listening to transform relationships.This episode will teach you:what active listening iswhy it is so important, andwhat the four key skills of active listening are.You will also discover how active listening can help you create calmer, healthier and more loving relationships. For further resources (and a FREE training) on how to control your anger visit:https://angersecrets.com/Remember too that struggle with anger is a common issue, but one you need to address rather than hide.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:22 The Importance of Active Listening01:03 Understanding Anger and Its Impact01:52 Introducing the Complete Anger Management System02:44 Defining Active Listening03:22 The Pitfalls of Ineffective Communication03:49 The Essence of Active Listening04:15 Mastering the Skills of Active Listening04:44 Using Minimal Encouragers05:34 The Art of Asking Questions07:40 Summarising and Reframing08:38 Giving Positive Feedback09:21 Recap of Active Listening Skills09:34 Additional Resources for Active Listening09:56 Next Steps

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs addresses an important question to ask while seeking to control your anger: 'Why do you want to control your anger?Alastair describes why knowing your motivation for change is crucial to successfully controlling your anger. Various responses to this question from clients, often complex and deeply personal, are shared, demonstrating the different reasons people seek to control their anger. Key motivations include everything from bettering relationships, setting positive examples, breaking the cycle of anger or abusive behaviors, to leading a calmer and happier life. For individual anger management coaching, or to enrol in Alastair's powerful online anger management program, visit: angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:01 Introduction00:21 The Fundamental Question: Why Control Your Anger?01:48 Personal Stories: Reasons to Control Anger08:49 Common Themes in Anger Control Motivations09:17 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Anger Management09:42 Offering Help and Resources for Anger Management10:01 Conclusion

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs addresses the often asked question: "How do I stop being so defensive in my relationship?'". Alastair begins by defining what defensiveness is. He then suggests four steps to stop being defensive, namely:a) becoming aware your defensivenessb) empathising with your partnerc) taking responsibility for your actions, and d) improving communication to effectively address disagreements without getting defensive.Alastair encourages listeners to listen to and validate their partner's feelings, as well as communicate openly and honestly for a healthier relationship. For individual anger management coaching, or to enrol in Alastair's powerful online anger management program, visit: angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction01:17 Understanding Defensiveness in Relationships02:14 Breaking the Cycle of Defensiveness: Awareness and Responsibility03:39 Empathy: A Key to Reducing Defensiveness04:39 The Role of Effective Communication in Reducing Defensiveness05:12 The Journey to Change: Patience and Practice05:55 Conclusion

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs revisits the popular topic of how to take responsibility for your actions. Listen to this episode to learn the importance of acknowledging your actions, accepting their consequences, and formulating a plan for behaviour change. Alastair discusses four common reasons why people struggle with taking responsibility, including fear of consequences, their family upbringing, beliefs of entitlement and fear of shame. He then elaborates on ways to take responsibility, including how to seek professional help for anger issues. The episode is powerful call towards personal growth and healthier relationships through the power of taking responsibility for your actions.For individual anger management coaching or to enrol in Alastair's powerful online anger management program, visit: angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction01:21 Revisiting Episode 8: Taking Responsibility for Your Actions02:49 Understanding the Concept of Taking Responsibility03:18 Common Reasons for Not Taking Responsibility07:32 Steps to Take Responsibility for Your Actions10:05 Seeking Professional Help for Anger Management11:22 Recap and Conclusion

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs interviews a new member of his Complete Anger Management System, Katie. Building on comments Katie makes in this interview, Alastair discusses why attending traditional therapy sessions is unlikely to effectively address anger issues. Alastair and Katie discuss the benefits of his online coaching program, which focuses on dealing with anger in the present and applying simple, practical and effective anger management tools. Katie also describes substantial improvements in her relationship and parenting practices, stating the program is not only more specific but also comprehensive than traditional therapy sessions. To control your anger now, including accessing FREE anger management resources and information, visit angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:38 Acknowledging Anger Issues01:41 Katie's Story: Struggles with Anger02:05 Why Traditional Therapy Often Fails for Anger Management03:16 The Importance of Practical Tools for Anger Management04:53 Katie's Journey: Taking Action to Address Anger05:33 Interview with Katie: Personal Experiences and Progress11:29 Katie's Insights: Comparing the Course with Therapy12:37 Conclusion and Disclaimer

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses the pitfalls of trying to "be right" all of the time.Drawing from over 30 years experience teaching over 15,000 men and women to control their anger, Alastair advises listeners that instead of "being right", it is more useful to concentrate on understanding others' perspectives.Alastair shares a story of a truck driver who, after listening to this advice, managed to control his road rage by using this advice. To control your anger right now, or to access FREE resources and information to help you create a happier, healthier, and more loving relationship, visit angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction00:08 The Purpose of the Anger Secrets Podcast00:45 A Story of Road Rage02:10 The Importance of Not Needing to Be Right03:40 How to Handle Arguments04:32 The Impact of the New Approach05:20 Applying These Lesson to Relationships05:45 The Dangers of Always Wanting to Be Right06:47 Final Thoughts07:20 Conclusion and Farewell08:02 Disclaimer

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs discusses three tips for building healthier, happier and more loving relationships.These tips include how to manage conflict effectively, how to communicate effectively, and how (and why) to prioritise your relationship. Alastair emphasises that anger is a normal emotion felt by everyone, but when it becomes too extreme or damaging, help should be sought. To access FREE resources and information to help you control your anger and create a happier, healthier, and more loving relationship, visit angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:30 Understanding Anger02:02 Introduction to Today's Topic: Building Happier, Healthier And More Loving Relationships04:36 Practical Tips for Building a Happier, Healthier And More Loving Relationship04:43 Tip 1: Manage Conflict Effectively06:50 Tip 2: Communicate Effectively09:19 Tip 3: Prioritise Your Relationship12:09 Conclusion12:49 Disclaimer

In this episode, Anger Secrets host Alastair Duhs discusses the reasons why some people think they get angry fast. These reasons include:a) Unawareness of the buildup of angerb) Learned habits of reacting with anger, and c) Underestimating the speed of brain's information processing ability. The episode also discusses the Tension Scale as a tool for recognising rising tension levels, discusses how to "unlearn" reacting with anger, and emphasises the use of cognitive speed to respond more positively in anger-inducing situations. For help dealing with your anger issues right now, visit angersecrets.com.Time Stamps:00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:48 Understanding the Nature of Anger01:42 Reason 1: Unawareness of Anger Buildup02:27 Introducing the Tension Scale04:22 Reason 2: Habitual Response with Anger05:23 Unlearning the Habit of Reacting with Anger06:40 Reason 3: Underestimating the Speed of Your Brain08:37 The Power of Your Brain in Managing Anger10:18 Recap and Conclusion10:44 The Complete Anger Management System10:59 Conclusion

In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs provides an encore episode of 6 Easy Tips To Control Your Anger. These tips include1) Understanding that it's not events but your thoughts that create your anger2) Use the "Tension scale" to monitor your anger levels3) Question the efficacy of expressing your anger aggressively4) Practicing relaxation techniques5) Try to see situations from the other person's perspective and6) Take Time-Out effectively.The episode concludes with a reminder that while you can't control others, you can control yourself.For help managing your anger, visit angersecrets.com or book a free 30-minute anger assessment call with Alastair Duhs here.00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:31 Understanding Anger and Its Control01:50 New Year Reflections and Managing Holiday Stress03:19 Six Easy Tips to Control Your Anger03:35 Tip 1: Understanding the Root of Anger05:28 Tip 2: Using the Tension Scale07:43 Tip 3: Evaluating the Consequences of Anger09:28 Tip 4: Practicing Relaxation Techniques11:02 Tip 5: Empathising with the Other Person12:25 Tip 6: Taking a Time-Out14:18 Conclusion and Next Steps15:01 Disclaimer