GHOSTED IN OCTOBER? HOW FESTIVE!!Today's Tuesday episode, Violet dives into winning a job interview, why people who hurt you pretend like you're the bad person, what to do when you've been ghosted, what it feels like, why you didn't see it coming and why it hurts so much, steps to move on, and the type of person that ghosting affects the MOST.Violet then ends the episode with some research behind this topic, a discussion about the effects of loneliness, getting rejected, ruminating, having low self esteem, and the importance of building emotional resilience for a better quality of life.COME TO MY SHOW AT THE HOLLYWOOD IMPROV ON OCT. 24! BUY TICKETS HERE: https://improv.com/comic/violet+benson/ THIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Fashionova: shop your halloween looks here!! https://www.fashionnova.com/collections/halloweenShopify: create your store at https://www.shopify.com/adultingCBDistillery: Get 15% off with code https://www.ADULTING at CBDistillery.comAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmDon't forget to rate and subscribe!!! New episode every Tuesday and Thursday!!! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Continuing with cult month, today we are diving into the world of NXIVM where we welcome two survivors turned whistleblowers of a very famous cult masked as an MLM company. NXIVM became widely known during their high profile RICO case involving celebrities, billionaire heiresses, and the FBI. This week on Almost Adulting, Violet speaks with Sarah Edmondson and Anthony “Nippy” Ames, hosts of A Little Bit Culty podcast and former members of NXIVM. Founded by Keith Raniere, NXIVM posed themselves as a self-improvement group, only to later be exposed as a “sex cult” by extorting, sex trafficking, and implementing force labor upon its members. Sarah and Nippy open up about the details of how they were lured into NXIVM, what it was like on the inside, and the horrifying secrets they discovered after Sarah was forcibly branded. Sarah and Nippy tell the story of how they were integral to the downfall of NXIVM and the arrest of its leaders. The couple is also recently featured in HBO’s The Vow, a documentary diving into the world of NXIVM, and Sarah is also the author of Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult That Bound My Life.TW: sexual abuseCOME TO MY SHOW AT THE HOLLYWOOD IMPROV ON OCT. 24! BUY TICKETS HERE: https://improv.com/comic/violet+benson/ THIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Dave: Download the Dave app to get the financial relief they need with ExtraCash.Athletic Greens: http://www.athleticgreens.com/VIOLETBENSONAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:06 What is NXIVM?02:24 All cults have a mission of ‘saving the world’07:54 “That will not happen to me.”10:28 Why is it important for cults to isolate themselves?12:38 NXIVM is a personality cult17:22 How did it become an MLM cult?23:39 Ranking within the cult27:56 Feeling guilty for recruiting people33:04 The women sub-group: DOS42:12 When women take advantage of other women45:11 Triggering the downfall of the cult48:10 Removing the branding49:56 Are there any people right now that should be in jail? Connect with Sarah and Nippy on:A Little Bit CultyScarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult That Bound My LifeSarah EdmondsonAnthony AmesGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today, Besties, Violet is taking a break from discussing cults because ya'll couldn't even go 2 weeks without falling apart and needing your big sis for advice!! so Violet is here for the rescue with today's AMAZING episode all about the truth behind "right person, wrong time"Depending what you take from today's episode, for those who decide to walk away from their situationship, Violet softens the blow by finishing the episode, with 9 steps to get over someone, even if you never actually dated! The 9 steps are:1 . Cut communication2. Cry, like a lot3. Get a hobby4. Don't react to anything5. Get your ass out of the house6. Find yourself a rebound7. Forgive your ex8. Trust that time heals9. Forgive yourself and LOVE YOURSELFCOME TO MY SHOW AT THE HOLLYWOOD IMPROV ON OCT. 24! BUY TICKETS HERE: https://improv.com/comic/violet+benson/ Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeDon't forget to rate and subscribe!!! New episode every Tuesday Thursday! Thank you for listening and see you next week! Learn more about your ad choices. Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO CULT MONTH ON THE PODCAST!!On today's short episode, Violet walks you through the cults we will be covering this month along with trigger warnings before we fully dive in starting this Thursday.Violet Covers NXIVM, Children of God, The Kardashians, and Scientology.GET READY FOR ONE CULTY MONTH AND COME TO MY SHOW AT THE HOLLYWOOD IMPORV!! - OCT. 24 - https://improv.com/comic/violet+benson/THIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Shopify: Sign up for a free trial at shopify.com/adulting to start selling online today!Gladskin: For 15% off plus free shipping go to Gladskin.com/adultingAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Besties, throughout September we covered all things personal growth and really checked in with each other. So the best way to end this month is by talking to Neil Strauss, a ten-time New York Times best-selling author. His books, The Game and Rules Of The Game, for which he went undercover in a secret society of pickup artists for two years, made him an international celebrity and an accidental hero to men around the world. Though this sounds a little questionable, the topic here is GROWTH, which is exactly what’s displayed here today. This week on Almost Adulting, Violet and Neil begin the conversation by diving right into the controversy of his best selling book, The Game. Violet asks Neil to dive deep to help people understand who he was at that time and unpack the chokehold the book had on society. Of course, this isn't an Almost Adulting episode if the two didn’t talk about relationships. Neil explains why divorce was one of the best things him and his ex-wife could have ever done, leading them to having an amazing relationship today. They also discuss the common mistakes that often lead to breakups, how to move on from said breakups, and why a cheater will remain a cheater unless they mention these specific words…tune in Besties!GET TIX TO MY SHOW AT THE HOLLYWOOD IMPROV ON OCT. 24! - https://improv.com/comic/violet+benson/THIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Shopify: Sign up for a free trial at shopify.com/adulting to start selling online today!Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:40 This is how lonely I’ve gotten04:41 See you guys again at Hollywood Improv!08:25 I get to experience being 15 years old again11:39 The Game17:32 What’s the dirtiest advice?19:20 Non-violent communication22:37 If you’re both not ready, it’s not going to happen24:22 Getting drawn to people familiar to you27:32 Work on yourself and improve your emotional intelligence28:42 Can a player change their ways?31:37 Both partner have to make the relationship work34:12 A relationships isn’t a failure if it ends36:18 How to create a happy relationship?37:32 How do you move on from a relationship that didn’t work?39:20 When you see your partner like a parent43:28 How do you overcome being the villain?45:35 The cheating ex46:54 Do you believe cheaters can change?Connect with Neil:WebsiteFacebookTwitterYouTubeInstagramBooksTo Live and Die in LA PodcastGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BE DELUSIONAL.Today Violet teaches you to choose yourself first, whether it's being delusional that everything will work out or changing your perspective on what you reality is. Violet believes that every day you have a choice. So TODAY why not choose to be delusional??!! and choose to change your life.COME TO MY SHOW AT THE HOLLYWOOD IMPORV!! - OCT. 24https://improv.com/comic/violet+benson/Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and our YouTube channel so you never miss an episode again!!! and also leave a 5 star review on the podcast app since it really helps :DGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When going through a tough time the most annoying thing in the world is everyone seems to have all the advice on what you “should” do, right? Well you’re not alone, but the reality is that sometimes these things recommended to us are actually things we should be doing - but before we can even fathom doing them, we have to drop our bad habits. Besties, welcome Amy Morin to Almost Adulting! Amy is a licensed clinical social worker, college psychology instructor and psychotherapist, and responsible for one of the most popular Ted Talks of all time. Today Violet and Amy start the conversation by unpacking the often stressful topic of habits - how we form them, stick to them, and what we can do when we accidentally break our positive habits. The duo dives into what our bad habits say about us, and the importance of breaking them in order to create good ones. Through this, Amy teaches that mental strength and mental health are actually two entirely different things, and how the lies that our brain tells us affect us on a much deeper level than we realize. Finally, the ladies discuss a topic that life never prepares us for: grief.  Though grief is something no one can avoid, it’s never something anyone is ready for. Through Amy telling her story she learned coping mechanisms that truly changed her life, and that EVERYTHING always relates back to one thing…habits. Whether it be maintaining good ones, or breaking bad ones, habits can be HARD, so give each other grace and tune in to discover the tools you didn’t know you needed. THIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:TalkspaceTo match with a licensed therapist today, go to Talkspace.com. Make sure to use the code ADULTING ​to ​get $100 off of your first month​ and show your support for the show.CBDistilleryVisit CBDISTILLERY.com and click on SYNERGY PLUS. And at checkout enter ADULTING for fifteen percent off. DaveDownload the Dave app to get the financial relief they need with ExtraCash.Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:38 How long does it take to break a good habit?05:45 The way we respond to breaking a habit matters07:39 It’s just a bad choice, you’re not a bad person  08:40 When you’re stuck in the pity trap12:50 Moving on with life without feeling guilty17:17 Too much social media can trigger envy20:34 Three kinds of destructive beliefs23:27 Start challenging your underlying beliefs27:00 It’s up to you how you respond to people30:54 It’s okay to be honest with your struggles33:32 Not everything is up to chance36:05 We only hear the end game of every success story38:41 Just set doable goals a day41:29 Do you believe in toxic positivity?45:14 Improving your mental strength Connect with Amy:TwitterInstagramFacebookWebsiteThe Verywell Mind PodcastBooksGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to Tuesday's Vault Archives and to the 3rd week of September on the podcast!!On this episode, Nazanin comes on and shares things most people didn't know about her, from her insecurities, to how bad days, to how she overcame her eating disorder, and how being a child of divorce affected her outlook on love.They then dive into her definition of cheating, the ups and downs of her and singer/songwriter Miguel's relationship from a much needed breakup to how they make long distance work, dealing with jealousy, handling "Instagram hoes", busy schedules, her love non negotiables, and how they keep the spark alive after 17 years.Follow Nazanin at @NazaninMandi on InstagramTHIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:TALKSPACE, CBD, AND DAVEAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Though we all come from different backgrounds and realities, we are all dreamers. No matter the hardships faced or the obstacles thrown in our way, that doesn’t mean we should be cruel and harsh to ourselves. We can dream multiple dreams even when we can only realize them one at a time.Today we welcome Barrett Pall to Almost Adulting! Barrett is a humanitarian and professional life coach to CEOs of fortune 500 companies, celebrities, Middle Eastern Royalty, and everyday incredible humans - because that is what we all are. Today's episode is opened by a conversation about Barrett finding his voice through the trials and tribulations of his life, which led him to become a major advocate for the LGBTQ community and underprivileged communities. Based on his life experiences, Barrett explains how he was always a dreamer and teaches tools to help practice constant gratitude and mental awareness, regardless of how dark the world may seem at times. Finally, the duo discusses why setting boundaries for yourself especially when using social media is a must, the importance of taking care of yourself so you are able to take care of others, and how we always have a choice of how we approach life and our dreams. Besties, sometimes the going gets tough, but you are never alone - tune in to find out why!THIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Gladskin: http://www.gladskin.com/ADULTING for 15% off plus free shipping!Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:05 Advocating for the LGBTQ community05:12 You have nothing to apologize for or explain yourself06:58 Were you always this positive?08:27 You get to choose if you need to change yourself11:18 Getting obsessed over others sexuality18:16 Stay open for change in all ways22:43 It’s about connection for a lot of people24:48 Queer men can do everything a straight men can do26:24 What money?29:00 No one needs to be babied anymore30:02 Safety practices when using social media34:28 How do you set boundaries?38:09 To dream is a privilege45:22 Take care of yourself first48:10 How do you give back to others?49:12 When you feel you don’t fit in55:35 Hike your own hikeConnect with Barret:TikTokLinkedInYouTubeInstagramFacebookWebsiteGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO TUESDAY'S VAULT ARCHIVES :DToday we cover navigating life as a strong woman, from getting that promotion to having the love that you deserve. Here's how you can have it all. This week Violet is joined by innovative business leader and author, Simone Melisas. Together they discuss how to dominate in both business and relationships. Simone shares her personal stories and how they’ve influenced her life not only professionally but also personally. She lets us in on her past relationship and how finding a good balance and compromising helped her have a better relationship and ultimately being able to look introspectively. By the end of this episode you’ll learn how to put yourself first, and most importantly make the life you've always dreamed of, become a reality.Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm Learn more about Simone here: https://www.simonemilasas.com/Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You might believe in it, you might not - but today you’re going to learn that manifestation is real.No, you’re not just gonna think about a million dollars and it’s gonna appear in your account, sorry. But you will learn the importance of daily practices and application of the art of manifestation, in order to receive the greatness you deserve in your life. Continuing the month of personal growth on Almost Adulting, today we welcome Robert Zink. Robert is a modern day businessman, successful life coach and mentor who teaches astonishing things in the area of personal empowerment, career enhancement, and the law of attraction. Violet and Robert believe in the power of manifestation and how it can truly change our lives. They begin the conversation by defining what manifestation is and how we can attract positive things. Next, Robert explains the three steps to successfully attracting the person you’re interested in, how we always attract people that are like us - whether we’re aware of it or not. Finally, the duo discusses the thin line of when wanting something so badly can turn into an obsession - and how to balance this line in a beneficial way using manifestation. Be ready to receive your blessings Besties, they’re coming very soon!Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:01 What is manifesting?03:23 Start attracting positive things06:26 Is there a wrong way to go about manifesting?13:37 Can people feel when you’re not over them?14:18 Take them off the pedestal  17:25 A relationship is like a good money tip20:39 Anything we manifest, we feel and we see23:45 Hanging on to the hurt and anger25:28 Can someone accidentally manifest harm to others?28:17 We attract who we are31:52 How can one manifest in their sleep?36:42 Joining the program41:41 A story of manifestation44:21 When does it become an obsession?47:58 Can anyone just manifest strongly? Law of Attraction Solutions:WebsiteFacebookYouTubeInstagramLinkedInGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you have the tissues ready? 'cause it's about to get EMOTIONAL. Today I present to you my three-part Manifestation audio diary. Each section is very close to my heart so listening carefully. Do you feel like you've lost track of your dreams? That your life has become so mundane that it doesn't bring you the joy you once had? If the answer is yes, this episode is made especially for you. During this episode, I talk about how important it is to never lose track of your dreams, how to manifest the life that you want for yourself, and blocking negative energies that other people might put upon you. Never let anything or anyone get in your way because you are beautiful and you are loved. Make sure to remove yourself from situations that instead of adding value, make you question why you're even involved. You are a light in this universe and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise BADDIES! Today's episode was brought to you by my sponsors at HBO MAX, check out their newest show F-boy Island.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to TUESDAY'S VAULT ARCHIVES every other Tuesday!!Today we have a fan favourite join the show, fellow podcast host Mark Groves from Create The Love Podcast. He interviews Violet about her life as they discuss attachment styles, relationship, your inner child, self worth, dating, depression, and more!!!Sit back and enjoy because this is one interview you don't want to miss!New episode every Tuesday and Thursday!! Pls rate & subscribe so you never miss an episode again!! :) All episodes will be uploaded to our YouTube channel every Friday.Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm Connect with Mark on:InstagramTwitterYouTubeCreate the LoveSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sometimes the hardest part about dealing with a breakup, isn’t always the breakup. It’s figuring out how to overcome the feeling of failure and low self esteem that can come shortly after.To wrap up breakup month on Almost Adulting, today we welcome licensed psychologist Guy Winch! Guy is a leading advocate for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives, workplaces, and education systems. He is also the author and co-host of the popular podcast, Dear Therapist. In this episode Violet and Guy give us the hard truth about why we often blame ourselves when a relationship falls apart, how chronic loneliness (backed by science) is detrimental to our wellbeing, and even the types of text message you can send to get the answers you want! Finally, Violet and Guy dive into the age old issue of actions vs. words and what you need to do if you’re stuck in this situation. Besties, emotions are overwhelming, but we can all use some help sometimes. Tune in to this episode for some help we all need.THIS WEEK’S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Dave: If you’re in a pinch and need some extra help, don’t freak out! Download Dave and think of it as a helping hand from Future You! Download the Dave app from the App store right now.Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction00:47 The importance of emotional aid04:35 What happens when people are lonely11:59 Low self esteem 14:19 You alone can’t save a relationship16:03 Why do we feel guilty when a relationship fails?19:54 The first 5 minutes into the date23:22 “You deserve better…”26:00 How can somebody build emotional resilience?27:32 Complaint versus confrontation29:40 Anxiety is not an immediate threat35:05 Different friends fulfill different functions in our life Connect with Guy on:InstagramFacebookLinkedInTwitterWebsiteBooksDear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy WinchGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Violet is backkkkk babyyy with another short solo brand new Tuesday episode!!On this episode Violet, discusses friendship breakups, why we struggle with them, and how to cope with losing a friend. We start with a Q&A on feeling lost, letting go, and a weird habit of Violet's that no one knows about but It sure is smelly! She then dives into why friendship breakups are so painful, tips on moving on, and a recent experience of hers. New episode every Tuesday and Thursday!! Pls rate & subscribe so you never miss an episode again!! :) All episodes will be uploaded to our YouTube channel every Friday.Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The ones who know more about you than your own family, the ones you call in an emergency and know they’re gonna pick up, and the ones that you know no matter what, they have your back for life.  In today's special edition episode, Violet takes the stage for the first ever live recording of Almost Adulting. Recording live from The Hollywood Improv, Violet gets real about how she developed true confidence, the power of manifesting, and friendship breakups. Since Violet was joined by all of her besties that came out to see her, she invited some on stage to share their stories about friendship breakups - because nothing brings people together more than talking sh*t about their old friends! Finally, Violet explains the 5 signs that you have a ride or die bestie in your life and how important it is to nourish those relationships even during hard times. Real friends are hard to come by, hold on to them tight Besties! THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Talkspace: http://www.talkspace.com and use code ADULTING to get $100 off your first month! Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fm What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction06:42 Are you always this confident?12:57 This is a toxic advice…14:38 My friendship breakup story18:30 We create our own reality22:44 Last year, I liked a boy…32:14 Let’s dive into friendship breakups39:31 “Why do you think bad things keep happening to you?”40:55 Signs of toxic friendship51:00 Signs you have a ride or die bestie56:49 Reasons why friendships can feel like a breakup01:10:01 Another friendship breakup story Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get in besties, we’re getting ghosted. Welcome to TUESDAY'S CONFESSION CORNER! The Confession Corner is a bi-monthly installment where you guys get to anonymously call VIOLET, and have a chance to be featured on the show!For today's Confession Corner we’re getting GHOSTED. Don’t be shy, it’s happened to the best of us. Today you will hear Violet react and dissect your craziest ghosting stories - but don’t worry she made sure to include her own too and we promise it'll make you feel better about yourself after hearing it LOL Get more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It can be a hard pill to swallow, but you can’t also become the person you want to be if you’re stuck in the past. There’s no fairytale or storybook ending if you don’t fix what’s within, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone!Today we welcome sex and relationships therapist, Todd Baratz! Todd has devoted his entire life to wellness as he actively works against all formalities, traditions and diagnosis. Together Violet and Todd discuss the importance of intimacy negotiation in a relationship, identifying self sabotaging behaviors, and how to fill emotional voids. The two also deep dive into the myth of being “relationship ready”. The truth is, there’s no such thing. Relational love leads to self love. Besties, sometimes the real breakup you need is with your old patterns and behaviors. Contact Todd and find his online courses here: https://www.toddsbaratz.com/Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:02 What it means to start therapy at 10 years old05:03 “I literally just said your partner has fantasies…”08:07 Couple issues tend to come from personal trauma10:17 Our relationships are emotional14:02 Everybody deals with relationships at different pace15:35 Self-sabotaging18:45 Why are we drawn to emotionally unavailable people22:23 How can you tell if someone is emotionally unavailable?23:25 When should you walk away?25:23 Lies that we hear about relationships27:11 It’s normal to sit with your feelings30:03 How do you deal with uncertainty?32:29 The pressure to succeed with relationships35:39 Where’s the line between feeling and thinking?37:56 Stop blaming people about your feelings46:41 Feeling the victim all the time39:38 Why does language matter so much? 43:47 Self discovery happens, it’s not a rush46:39 Being the victim constantly50:01 Can you still be in a relationship while still working on yourself52:27 Good habits to make yourself feel betterConnect with Todd on:InstagramFacebookTikTokWebsiteYour Diagnonsense PodcastGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to another TUESDAY EPISODE!!! A short and sweet episode vault episode to get your week started! We are in the 2'ND WEEK of Breakups/cheating month so figured today we are diving into manifesting and getting ghosted!The first 15 minutes we'll dive into manifesting tips and methods of getting back the life you want with or without your ex while the rest of the episode, we'll briefly dive into why you've been ghosted, how to get him to beg for you back, how to get over it and how to move on.Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and our YouTube channel so you never miss an episode again!!! and also leave a 5 star review on the podcast app since it really helps :DGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

And sometimes…we just need to hear the cold hard truth. Kidding. But when you only focus on the negative things in life, you don’t realize that that’s all you’re allowing your life to be. We all deserve the most beautiful things in life, and sometimes tough love from your bestie is exactly what you needed to hear.Today we welcome TV host, podcaster, and Sports Illustrated model Kamie Crawford to Almost Adulting! Violet and Kamie, instant besties and Scorpio sisters, start off the conversation by talking brutally honestly about some of their own faults, and even their friends. They discuss how their delivery may not always be the best, but it may just be a Scorpio thing. They also talk in depth about Kamie’s life post her 5-year relationship, how NOT having a rebound after a breakup is a painful part of growing up, the two forms of cheating, and which of them is truly worse than the other. The truth hurts besties, no matter which way you put it.THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Function of Beauty: FunctionofBeauty.com/ADULTING to take your hair quiz and save 25% on your first order! DaveIf you’re in a pinch and need some extra help, don’t freak out! Download Dave and think of it as a helping hand from Future You! Download the Dave app from the App store right now.Advertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:48 If you’re arguing with a Scorpio03:59 Something that most people don’t know about you08:15 What is your love language?14:15 Getting too sensitive18:13 Changing yourself to make someone love you22:59 Who’s more jealous in your relationships?27:15 Define cheating32:50 Cheating in marriage36:15 “I remember my first boyfriend…”39:01 Ending a 5-year relationship43:40 The hardest part of a breakup46:42 “I don’t have a problem playing the villain…”51:31 What’s something you'll never put up with again?56:34 Taking accountability for what you did wrong59:57 Unrealistic expectations about finding a partner01:03:18 “You’ve just known him for two days!”01:07:52 Do you still believe in love?Connect with Kamie on:InstagramTwitterFacebookTikTokWebsiteRelationsh*t PodcastCatfish: The TV ShowGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to another TUESDAY EPISODE!!! A short and sweet episode to get your week started!Today, Violet answers some of your silly questions and then dives into some tips on winning a breakup like the bad b*tch that you are!! From how to leave them dumbfounded when they try to dump you, like an actual step by step playbook, to what to do post breakup.Follow this guide, and they will be running back to you in no time!!! but hopefully by then, you won't even want their stinky a$$ back anyway. ew.Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and our YouTube channel so you never miss an episode again!!! and also leave a 5 star review on the podcast app since it really helps :DGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeAdvertise with Almost Adulting at Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Read it and weep besties. It’s the truth. Stop wasting your time over a boy who just wants you around to boost his ego, to do his bidding, and to make himself more attractive to other women. Boys are just now learning how to live without their mom doing their laundry for them, let alone know a thing about commitment yet. Boys will keep you waiting and play mind games with you, and the LAST thing we’re doing is putting up with it any longer.Today, we welcome Patti Stanger back to Almost Adulting. As a third generation matchmaker, Patti founded the Millionaire's Club in January of 2000 after serving five years as the Director of Marketing/Special Events for Great Expectations, the oldest and largest dating service in the U.S. Given her expertise in matchmaking and Violet’s experience in dating men, the duo talks about the male logic while dating, why successful women have higher standards and don’t consider marriage in their early twenties and why we should always keep a three-man rotation. Violet and Patti also discuss the effects of poor parenting, the real reason why men take advantage of the woman emotionally, and the many complicated aspects of dating while technology is evolving. You’re gonna want your pen and paper out for this, everything you’re about to hear is FACT.THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Hello Fresh Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/adulting16 and use our code: ADULTING16 for up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts.What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:04 We all can’t be Kim Kardashan06:20 Why do we pick who we pick?08:26 If you give a man too much of anything14:52 Dating a boy versus a man18:09 You want to know what their intentions are22:05 If you allow yourself to be used25:51 Is giving an ultimatum a good idea?28:46 You get the ring when you have self respect32:07 Why do we give our hearts too quickly?35:17 Be realistic with your standards40:19 Cheating is not the end, check other options46:30 Love bombers are mostly nacissists49:05 Red flags vs green flags52:44 The effects bad relationships have on kids57:21 How do you handle the high’s and low’s?01:00:32 Why are you wasting time?01:06:37 Being able to do other things01:10:11 Do I have to calm down my intensity to not scare off men?01:13:01 What’s the best advice you’ve received?    Connect with Patti on:InstagramTwitterBooksMillionaire's ClubMatchmaker FragranceGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Besties, you are in for a TREAT! PART TWO!!!!Welcome to the CONFESSION CORNER! The Confession Corner is a brand new installment where you guys get to anonymously call ME, and have a chance to be featured on the show! Today we are continuing with part 2 to last week's Confession Corner where we talked all about SUGAR DADDIES. Yep, the good, the bad, and the…wrinkly? Today you will hear me react and dissect your stories from ALL of your sugar daddy escapades. It is about to get WILD and I’m so excited to hear from you guys. Violet also includes a VERY spicy story about a prominent figure in Hollywood who has a thing for considerably younger women…the tea is piping hot this week.Make sure to pay attention to my stories on @VioletBenson and @AlmostAdulting for YOUR next chance to be featured on the Confession Corner! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Besties, you are in for a TREAT!Welcome to CONFESSION CORNER! The Confession Corner will be a bi-monthly installment where you guys get to anonymously call ME, and have a chance to be featured on the show! This is an entirely new concept and something I have been working on for a little bit now that will be released on Tuesdays bi-weekly!For our very first Confession Corner we’re talking all about SUGAR DADDIES. Yep, the good, the bad, and the…wrinkly? Today you will hear me react and dissect your stories from all of your sugar daddy escapades. From getting your butthole licked in a public coffee shop, to the masochist who wanted her to dress up in a Nacho Libre wrestling suit and beat the sh*t out of him - it is about to get WILD and I’m so excited to hear from you guys. Make sure to pay attention to my stories on @VioletBenson and @AlmostAdulting for YOUR next chance to be featured on the Confession Corner! Get tickets to my live podcast recording at the HOLLYWOOD IMPROV - JULY 25!!!!https://www.ticketweb.com/event/almost-adulting-hollywood-improv-the-main-room-tickets/12216115?pl=hollyimprovSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

They say you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife, but we’d like to think otherwise.At some point in our life, whether we are at the height of our career or living our best single lives, we all want to find that one person we can spend the rest of our life with, right? That one true love we all grew up hoping to find one day. I mean, at the very least, who doesn’t want to be with the best partner and have the best s*x at the drop of a dime?Besties, today we are joined by Hannah Berner! Hannah is the host of two extremely successful podcasts Giggly Squad and Berning In Hell, a standup comedian, reality TV star, and now here with us on Almost Adulting! Today Violet and Hannah waste no time getting into things beginning with Violet calling out Hannah for not inviting her to her wedding! Hannah then goes into detail about her transition from hoe life to wife life, what it’s like dating (then marrying) an older guy, falling in love with someone you least expect to fall in love with, and why you should look for a partner that takes ugly photos of you. The two superstars also talk about the harsh realities of their professions and why checking in with yourself mentally is SO important. This episode is jam packed with hilarious stories and advice so sit back and listen up!THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Function of Beauty: FunctionofBeauty.com/ADULTING to take your hair quiz and save 25% on your first order!Lumi Labs & MicrodoseTo learn more about microdosing THC just do a quick search online or go to Microdose.com and use code: ADULTING to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.GET TICKETS FOR VIOLETS LIVE SHOW ON 6/25/22 HERE!https://www.ticketweb.com/event/almost-adulting-hollywood-improv-the-main-room-tickets/12216115?pl=hollyimprovWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:26 The first time I saw you…04:01 Oh, cults?06:38 Let’s talk about weddings11:05 Would you date an older guy?15:47 What people don’t know about me…19:25 When people hurt other people23:24 What’s your definition of happiness?28:11 When you open up and stop pretending to be someone else30:44 Loving someone you didn’t imagine ending up with34:55 Going to the extremes, being emotionally unavailable39:29 What is the purpose when you post on social media?44:24 What about love that scared you the most?47:38 Compatibility in marriage53:47 This is how the chase starts56:15 Being loved even at your lowest01:02:18 One person can’t be your everything01:06:30 Has your definition of love changed over the years?01:09:48 What I like about his d*ck… 01:11:50 How does it feel to have a life partner?Connect with Hannah on:TikTokTwitterInstagramWebsiteGiggle Squad PodcastBerning In Hell PodcastGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Where I share previous episodes or never before aired episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!Your toxic relationsh*t may actually have a chance IF you listen to this episodeToday I have Empathy therapist Figs on the podcast where we discuss, Types of empathy, the importance of having empathy for yourself, becoming the one you've been waiting for, our coping mechanisms, what your partner is really feeling but not saying when you fight.We then dive into turning your toxic relationship back into love, attachment styles, being emotionally unavailable, self sabotaging, reaching true intimacy, and why it's so hard letting go of a relationship where the other person has moved on.For more information on licensed therapist Fiachra "Figs" O'Sullivan, his free quiz, courses, or therapy, VISIT: WWW.EMPATHI.COMThank you for listening besties! To support this podcast make sure to subscribe, write a 5 star review and follow the podcast Youtube channel!! Also check out our sponsors for the week :)Follow me on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues/videosSubscribe to my other show - Hey Besties on Spotify Live every Thursday at 7pm pt - https://spotifylive.link/gVAWrZtn0qbSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey, Besties! It’s the first Thursday of July and this month, we are celebrating relationships! My favorite topic because I am OBVIOUSLY so good at them! So get comfortable because we’re about to get uncomfortable! This entire month we’re discussing love, partnerships, the different types of partnerships, and unpacking all the good, bad, and the ugly that comes with them! But before we get into that, Violet gives a quick life update and tells us about her recent rendezvous to Greece, where she planned on sight seeing and ATVing, but…all she got was c*caine and ket. Better luck next time!See the thing is, we’re ALMOST Adulting. Never said we were all the way there yet! Today, we have Bridget Kelly & Mandii B, hosts of the See, The Thing Is podcast - and with Violet joining the mix, we’ve found the trio you never knew you needed! In this episode we’re covering it ALL. From being the other woman, being the cheater, why or why not we plan on getting married, and even childhood trauma that shaped how we approach relationships in our adult lives. Violet, Bridget, and Mandii start the conversation off hot by diving into the various types of relationships, from the most traditional types, to the polar opposite. With varying opinions on basically everything, this episode is sure to open your mind to some things you definitely have never considered before. The trio also discusses living as modern day women (who’s independent and doesn’t need ANY man - but may want one!) and where men stand when in a relationship with self-sustaining, self-providing, successful career women. We’re starting this month off hot besties, so get ready!THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Lumi Labs & Microdose:Microdose is available nationwide, to learn more about microdosing THC just do a quick search online or go to Microdose.com and use code: ADULTING to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.Dave: If you’re in a pinch and need some extra help, don’t freak out! Download Dave and think of it as a helping hand from Future You! Download the Dave app from the App store right now.Don't forget to tune into Violet on Spotify Live every Thursday at 7PM PST!https://spotify.link/heybestiesWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction03:21 My “amazing” vacation in Greece 12:43 Compartmentalizing relationships13:53 Do you believe in marriage?17:53 Is a healthy polyamorous relationship sustainable?22:39 When you cheated on your partner…27:00 How does it feel like to cheat on someone?28:41 The perfect partner?37:24 As a modern day woman42:19 Is it so strange to have so many friends?46:23 Don’t discount your education completely51:30 Successful women set the bar high52:37 What are the 3 things you look for in someone?56:17 Should you forgive your parents for not being perfect?58:50 Dating a man with children01:05:58 You don’t need to agree but stay respectful01:11:05 You can tell when someone goes to therapy01:13:16 Living with the truth of who you really areConnect with See The Thing Is on:"See, The Thing Is..." PodcastYouTubeInstagramTwitterPatreonGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are things ever going TOO well so your brain forces you to mess it up?Trust me, you’re not alone! As part of our human nature, we yearn for genuine love and affection. We tend to gravitate toward relationships that will reinforce our need for affection and validate our feelings. We always search for someone who can be there with us when we feel lost and helpless, and someone who can embrace us even when we feel unworthy of love. Sounds simple enough right? But if all of that is true, why do all of my relationships keep turning into relationsh*ts?! Well today besties, we’re getting some answers. Today, we have Jessica Baum. Jessica is a psychotherapist, author, thought leader, relationship coach, and founder of the Be Self-full® - a company that provides tailored coaching services, helping women empower themselves. Out of the four relationship attachment styles, Violet and Jessica put their focus on the Anxious and Avoidant style and why people who possess these attachment styles are easily drawn to each other. So if you’re wondering why things can be going GREAT only for your brain to shut down and force you to run away, you’re about to find out! Don’t worry, you’re not as messed up as you think you are. The duo also talks about how love bombing, despite its negative connotation online, can be pleasantly genuine, how to set healthy boundaries for you and your relationships, how we actually CAN get addicted to a person, and why we are responsible for our own anxiety. We’re unpacking A LOT today -  but whatever it is you do, do NOT text your ex after this. So hit play and listen up!THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:ApostropheSave $15-off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at https://www.apostrophe.com/pod/ADULTING/ when you use our code: ADULTUNG to get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for $5. Just Break Up PodcastSubscribe to https://www.JustBreakUpPod.com/ for a weekly dose of love and laughs and all the relationship advice you want to hear!What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:09 What’s your attachment  style?06:42 Avoidant and anxious styles both fear intimacy08:14 Anxious-avoidant dance12:52 Genuine love bombing15:22 Partner with someone who could stay calm for you19:39 How can you help a partner with anxious attachment style26:33 Setting boundaries without hurting other people29:17 From really good to really bad relationships real fast30:41 Why do we tend to self-sabotage?33:33 How is the nervous system related to our relationship?35:26 Is it possible to get addicted to someone?38:50 What is a healthy chemistry like? 40:59 Anxious people are responsible for their own anxiety43:19 How do you recognize an unhealthy pattern in your love life?47:45 What does it mean to be “Be Self Full”?50:37 Self full is all about loveConnect with Jessica on:Be Self FullInstagramLinkedInAnxiously Attached BookGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY OTHER TUESDAY!! Where I share previous episodes or never before aired episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!On Today's episode, we close hookup month on the podcast and pride month with my favourite humans who are also part of the LGBTQ+ community, Amy Ordman and Jack Doge.We start the episode with coming out stories before diving right into zodiac signs, the rule of thumb for dating, how to not get affected with being ghosted, our love for toxic people, why we push people away, love at first sight, why you shouldn't change for someone, myths about gays and lesbians, vageens insecurities, seggs seggs seggs, wild stories and butthole pics, and open relationships in the gay community.Thank you for listening besties! To support this podcast make sure to subscribe, write a 5 star review and follow the podcast Youtube channel!! Also check out our sponsors for the week :)Follow me on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues/videosSubscribe to my other show - Hey Besties on Spotify Live every Thursday at 7pm pt - https://spotifylive.link/gVAWrZtn0qbSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What’s your craziest hookup story? And don’t leave out the juicy (or gross) details!It’s probably one that involves a first date, dinner, alcohol, and some intimate moments that are either hilariously funny or morbidly disastrous. Whatever your story is, I don’t think it can even come close to the one you’re about to hear today. What about the time your boyfriend cheated on you, only for the girl he cheated with to end up pregnant? Today we’re talking about the things that should definitely be told to a therapist, but are honestly way funnier to tell on this podcast. Today, we have Alex Papiccio! Alex is a social media personality, a comedic soul, a recurring guest, and one of Violet’s dearest friends. With their already developed chemistry, Violet and Alex dive straight into their hilarious hookup stories, Alex’s extremely hot boyfriend how their s*xual activities have significantly changed after living together, tips on how you can score a sugar (or splenda!) daddy, and why women need to stop doing “wifey” duties when they only have the “girlfriend” title. I know that one may have stung a bit, but it’s a reality check that we ALL need to hear sometimes. This episode is jam packed and will have you in tears - happy tears that is! Tune in now, besties! THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:AwayStart your 100-day trial and shop the entire Away lineup of travel essentials, including their best-selling suitcases at awaytravel.com/adulting.Hello Fresh Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/adulting16 and use our code: ADULTING16 for up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts.Function of BeautySay goodbye to generic hair care for good today! Go to FunctionOfBeauty.com/ADULTING to get 25% off of your first order.What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:12 “My boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me…”10:28 Have you gotten an STD?12:57 Tips on how to score a Splenda Daddy19:48 Do you still get ready from d*ck appointment?25:21 Setting boundaries for your alone time29:26 Are you scared?31:43 What’s your craziest hookup story?45:12 Do you need sex toys or not?48:26 What’s a pillow princess?53:04 Doing wifey duties when you’re not even the girlfriend59:39 What do you think about female best friends?01:07:00 Work on your best self first Connect with Alex on:InstagramTwitterTikTokGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

HERE ARE 3 SIGNS The D Is Smol </3 AND 3 WAYS TO TELL THE D IS HUGE! / This is probably one of the most hilarious episodes yet, no cap.WELCOME TO CONFESSION CORNER BESTIES!!!! Your weekly short bonus episode every Tuesday where I will be featuring YOU GUYS, the listener's, wild stories or questions surrounding the current month's topic. (you can submit stories/questions weekly via a call in number on the podcast instagram that I will be sharing this week! don't miss it)Episode time stamps:0:00-4:32 - I deliver some bad news. Kinda...4:33 - 7:41 - Netflix & disappointment phenomenon - 3 signs the D is small7:42 - 12:09 - Sign #1 (Dry humping test)12:10 - 15:34 - Sign #2 (Too dirty to write it out on here)15:35 - 18:45 - Sign #3 (Godly woman)18:47 - 23:23 - 3 ways to tell if the D is packing (100% backed by research science. Kinda)Thank you for listening besties! To support this podcast make sure to subscribe, write a 5 star review and follow the podcast Youtube channel!! Also check out our sponsors for the week :)Follow me on Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/daddyissues/videosNew episodes every Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday <3See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO VAULT ARCHIVES EVERY SUNDAY!! Where I share previous episodes from the vault that never made it on the show. Good or bad, you decide!On this episode (from 2019), Remi Cruz and Alisha Marie join me to discuss being single, feeling rejected, getting cheated on, and how to win a breakup even if you never actually dated.We end this episode on a hilarious note where I share fan's first date horror stories from a pop Ziplock bag to sh*tting yourself in front of your date. lol. It's gonna be a sh*t show! Pun intended.Don't forget to rate and subscribe to this podcast so you never miss an episode again!!! New episode every Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday :)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's talk about sex baby! Sex PARTIES, that is…Sex parties, are they a common thing now? Or are they still considered ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ events that are exclusive to a VERY select community? We think we know what these parties are all about from the outside looking in, but you’re about to find out what really goes on behind the scenes. In today's episode Violet gets the inside scoop on Hollywood’s most elite members and what they do to fulfill some of their darkest fantasies. We’re still not sure if money can buy you happiness, but we have confirmed that it definitely can buy you your own 50 Shades of Grey experience.  Today’s guest Damon Lawner is the founder of world renown sex club, Snctm, a private members club hosting erotic black-tie Masquerades, dinners, and classes specializing in fetish & erotic arts. Violet and Damon dive deep into the private world of Snctm events, while also discussing celibacy, masturbation, the art of the orgasm, and how to reach your sexual nirvana. Violet makes sure to get ALL the juicy info you need to know so tune in now!THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Modern Fertility Go to http://www.modernfertility.com/adulting for $20 off your first fertility test. Just Break Up PodcastSubscribe to https://www.JustBreakUpPod.com/ for a weekly dose of love and laughs and all the relationship advice you want to hear!  What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction00:39 What is Snctm?03:38 First experiences with sex07:23 It’s a created playground to live out everything09:33 Do you find yourself to be very sexual?13:37 A lot of girls don’t orgasm through sex16:20 It’s like Cinderella’s glass slipper19:36 My kids found out about Snctm23:48 Doing some phases of celibacy25:55 “I like the person I’m slowly becoming.”29:40 Connecting with someone and giving your full self35:03 Masturbation and orgasm-drunk36:16 Your first BDSM experience?40:07 Self respect versus self-awareness47:34 We are the worst narrators of our own stories50:11 Rigorous application at Snctm55:24 The wildest parties are happening in…58:33 “I tried m*th the first time I came to the US…”01:00:33 Saying YES and NO to someone’s application01:02:28 Craziest sex stories in the club01:07:35 Sex clubs aren’t really male dominated01:10:07 Oh orgies01:14:46 “Yeah, that’s your experience.”01:18:12 Rope tying demoConnect with Damon on:InstagramSecret GardenGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This just in... Violetta Elaia Benson isn't perfect!We all get tired. We all make mistakes. And we all mess up. It’s normal because it is in our nature to not get things right the first try. It’s okay to not be okay when you don’t feel okay. Hello, Besties! Today, I’m sharing an acupuncture session turned therapy session where I was told holding in my emotion is stressing my body out! And speaking of stress, the interview with Bella Thorne came out last week. Before the interview, I had one of the worst days of my life, it made me breakdown afterwards. And I was being hard on myself, which I shouldn’t be doing. So, if you want to know what this is all about and how I was trying to stay alive the whole time, hit that play button! THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:ApostropheSave $15-off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at http://Apostrophe.com/ADULTING when you use our code: ADULTING - to get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for $5.ManscapedGet 20% off and free shipping at https://www.Manscaped.com/ and use the code: ADULTINGWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction03:12 The acupuncture session07:51 What happened two weeks ago?10:55 Before the interview with Bella Thorne18:21 And then the camera stopped recording21:46 Programming your brain when to have a breakdown28:59 Take your mental health walks33:27 Imagine our life as a little play38:40 Setting boundaries and prioritizing yourselfGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“Our society makes victims feel like villains.”Final Episode of May’s Mental Health MonthPeople deal with childhood trauma differently just as the horrible experience is different for every person, for every victim. The only consolation that victims have is a support system that is always there for them, that is present with them when their overwhelming feelings arise and when painful memories are triggered. It is in our support group that we can learn to accept what happened, live through it, and move on with life. But what if we don’t have that kind of support group?Today’s guest is actress, model, singer, and songwriter Bella Thorne. Warning: We are discussing sensitive topics and our way of dealing with these issues may not be what people might expect. Nonetheless, we get to listen to how a victim and a survivor of sexual abuse grew up to be a forward-focused person, always working hard to make a name for herself, and is now open about her experiences with dating and relationship struggles.  THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Diet Smoke Go to https://www.dietsmoke.com/ and use promo code: ADULTING for 20% off your entire order. What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:17 Something weird most people don’t know about you?04:53 How did you get into acting so young?10:17 When you’re feeling a little hateful13:05 “She must have an easy life…”17:16 Losing your father at a young age22:37 Coping with a losing a loved one27:43 We don’t get enough support from our system35:54 The long-term effects of sexual abuse41:41 Talking about your trauma 48:40 Crazy things I did with my sister54:37 Non-negotiable when it comes to dating57:23 What's the worst day you've ever been on?   01:08:25 How do you break up with someone?01:10:32 What are you currently working on?Connect with Bella on:InstagramFacebookYouTubeTwitterTikTokThe Life of a Wannabe Mogul: Mental DisarrayGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO WHAT I LEARNED THIS WEEK - 5 SIGNS YOUR BESTIE IS TOXIC AFA 5 minute bonus episode for my besties that don't do podcasts or have the time! EVERY TUESDAY!!This week I give you 5 MORE signs it's time to let go of your TOXIC friendship. A 5 minute pep talk that will OPEN YOUR EYES about your BESTIE.Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast, share with your friends, and follow our new Almost Adulting youtube channel!!And tune in THIS Thursday, for a very special one hour episode with Bella Thorne.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“What does worry do for you?”Episode #5 of May’s Mental Health MonthIt’s heartbreaking to learn that someone you know is battling cancer. But, there is nothing more devastating than finding out that you have it. Things begin to crumble and the future seems bleak. Uncertainties will haunt you and possibilities of the future will only bring sadness, anxiety, and depression. It’s a battle for your life, one that can make you feel like you’re on the losing end.Today’s guest is Co-CEO & Co-Founder of FabFitFun, Daniel Broukhim. Daniel bravely shares his battle against cancer, how he landed in the ER and later found out about his condition, the inner turmoil he had to go through amidst a flourishing business, and the importance of a good support system that helped him throughout his journey. Now, he is nearing his second year of being cancer-free!   Visit https://fabfitfun.com/ and get $10 off your first box and use the code: ADULTINGWhat to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:31 Diagnosed with the big C16:24 “I was too weak to work, at a certain point.”18:22 How do you support a loved one with cancer?24:37 Everyday is a good day in your life28:39 Is taking psychedelics helpful?34:39 How cancer can threaten masculinity38:04 Are men at higher risk of having major depressive disorder?42:13 Consider the mental health of your support system43:58 Did you have deep regrets?45:59 How did you celebrate being cancer-free?Connect with Daniel on:LinkedInInstagramTwitterFabFitFunGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeTHIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:ApostropheSave $15-off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at https://www.apostrophe.com/pod/ADULTING/ when you use our code: ADULTUNG to get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for $5. Modern Fertility Go to http://www.modernfertility.com/adulting for $20 off your first fertility test.Hello Fresh Got to http://www.hellofresh.com/adulting16 and use our code: ADULTING16 for up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO WHAT I LEARNED THIS WEEK - 5 SIGNS YOU'RE IN A TOXIC FRIENDSHIPA 5 minute bonus episode for my besties that don't do podcasts or have the time! EVERY TUESDAY!!This week I give you pt.1 of 5 signs you're definitly in a toxic friendship. A 5 minute pep talk that will OPEN YOUR EYES.... from your big sis, aka me, Violet Benson. :)Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast, share with your friends, and follow our new Almost Adulting youtube channel!! And tune in this Thursday, for a very special episode of, Life After Cancer.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“Emotion knows no time.”Episode #4 of May’s Mental Health MonthMen are emotional creatures too! They can cry, they can feel pain, they can be weak, and they can become vulnerable. BUT society is telling them not to do any of this. Society is telling them to hide their emotions to stay masculine. They are being deprived of the chance to properly process their emotions.Today’s guest is Traver Boehm, the man behind the UNcivilized Men’s Movement and the author behind Today I Rise and Man UNcivilized. Traver shares his reasons for creating the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, why men are used to suppressing their emotions and the damage it causes, and how you can encourage the men in your life to get help when they need it. What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction00:52 What does it mean to be an uncivilized man?06:27 Having intimacy is an emotional nourishment07:53 What is the UNcivilized Men's Movement?10:05 Is that a real fear for men?14:21 The Marlboro Man Paradigm19:21 Men have higher suicide statistics27:45 Men struggle to navigate around their emotions33:32 One of the lies men were told35:14 The category for a ‘nice’ guy 39:08 How can you be there for your male friend?43:34 Allow other people to have their own space45:20 Can you ask your partner to go to therapy?Connect with Traver on:InstagramWebsiteBookThe UNcivilized PodcastGet more content on:@almostadulting on Instagram@violetbenson on Instagram@daddyissues_ on InstagramYouTubeTHIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:AwayStart your 100-day trial and shop the entire Away lineup of travel essentials, including their best-selling suitcases at awaytravel.com/adulting.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

WELCOME TO WHAT I LEARNED THIS WEEK - He Ain't The OneA 5 minute bonus episode for my besties that don't do podcasts or have the time! This week I learned the truth about right guy, wrong time. So here's a 5 minute pep talk that will change your LIFE.... from your big sis, aka me, Violet Benson. :)Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast, follow our youtube chanel, and tune in this Thursday, as we cover why men need therapy. See you Thursday besties! <3See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

"What makes love so valuable is the grief that is accompanied with the possibility of losing it."Episode #3 of May’s Mental Health Month.All right, Besties, it’s time for part 2, and the title says it all – today’s episode is all about healing! Breakups are never easy, but you need to stop chasing someone who doesn’t want you and choose yourself. Choose yourself first. Love yourself first. Mark Groves is back on the podcast today, and he shares his tips for recognizing when someone isn’t right for you, how to spot patterns in your dating life, and how trust can be rebuilt after it’s been broken. Pull out a pen and paper and take some notes - they might just change your life. What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction01:28 This “I wasn’t enough!” lens05:42 Stop chasing someone who isn’t chasing you back06:46 When you feel like you can’t openly share your emotions09:10 How do you know someone is right for you?17:19 Awareness of your patterns when dating23:49 Relational outcomes are separate from our self worth28:19 There is no psychological safety in conflict33:04 Forgiveness is earned, trust is rebuilt39:05 “I should be looking at the pattern with my mother”Connect with Mark on:InstagramTwitterYouTubeCreate the LoveTHIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:ApostropheSave $15-off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at http://Apostrophe.com/ADULTING when you use our code: ADULTING - to get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for $5.Microdose GummiesTo learn more about microdosing THC just go to https://www.microdose.com/ and use code: ADULTING to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode #2 of May’s Mental Health Month."It's always the people that never loved us that teach us the most about love."If you’ve lost yourself in your last relationship, let me hand you the roadmap to finding yourself again.In today’s episode, Human Connections Specialist, Mark Groves, teaches us all about prioritizing yourself and your healing after a breakup. If you’re not over the last guy that ghosted you, it’s okay because neither am I. The only thing that’s not okay is not loving yourself. I know, it’s easier said than done. But remember, pain might occur in a relationship, but so does healing.THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY: ApostropheSave $15-off your first visit with an Apostrophe provider at http://Apostrophe.com/ADULTING when you use our code: ADULTING - to get your dermatologist-crafted treatment plan for $5. Microdose GummiesTo learn more about microdosing THC just go to https://www.microdose.com/ and use code: ADULTING to get free shipping & 30% off your first order. Connect with Mark Groves-       Website-       Instagram-       Create the Love PodcastSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In honor of May's #MentalHealthMonth, we open the month with a dear episode of mine where I cover all sides of depression and my own battle with it.On today's episode, I share one of the darkest times of my life. As I choke up and cry, I share my painful story of shame, battling clinical depression 6 years ago, and how I almost didn't think I'd survive. I also discuss the difference between being sad, feeling depressed, and having actual clinical depression.PERSONAL MESSAGE TO MY BESTIES OUT THERE:Please know that you are not alone, you are loved, and I'm so proud of you for getting out of bed today! The pain you are feeling won't last forever... I promise. The sun will rise tomorrow and we will try again. <3If you or anyone you know is battling with depression or having suicidal thoughts, please speak up.HOTLINES:Self Harm Hotline: 1-800-366-8288Substance Abuse and Mental Health Administration (SAMHSA)Helpline:1-800-662-4357National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Trevor Project Lifeline: 1-866-488-7386National Hopeline Network:1-800-442-4673LGBT National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564The Friendship Line: 1-800-971-0016Los Angeles County Suicide Prevention Center - 1-877-727-4747THIS WEEK'S PODCAST IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:Modern Fertility Go to https://modernfertility.com/adulting for $20 off your fertility test.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey, Besties! Welcome to Part 2 with Nicole Behnam. Now that we’re done talking about CRYPTO, NFT, and the confusing jargon for dummies, let’s move on to how you can excel in a toxic, manipulative workplace and setting boundaries for yourself at work. And let’s not forget how having a good MENTOR can help improve your career. If you get the chance, get one! And then, we also cover the highs and lows of relationships, being okay with showing emotions and expressions of love, why LOVE BOMBING isn’t gonna work, the RED FLAGS of future bad behavior in your partner, and many more love and relationship lessons from two women who’s seen and been in bad and crazy relationships!Follow Nicole on:TwitterInstagramTikTokBeyond the Interview Follow me on:InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

And I’m back! Last week I talked about how Daddy Issues was created and how a career shift changed my life. Today, we’re pivoting to something interesting that most rich guys are investing in, CRYPTO currency! I sit down with Nicole Behnam, a Crypto, NFT, and Tech investor and advisor to discuss the very basic fundamentals of NFT and crypto, the jargons that are a bit confusing but totally cool when you learn and understand them, and the ins and outs of moving your money around the space. Yeah, it’s a lot to take in but I promise, you need this in your life. You gotta learn about Web 3 and where to invest your money.  What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:16 How Nicole and I met06:19 NFT: Non-fungible token 13:47 Owning an NFT on a block chain15:02 What is a block chain?25:24 All emotions are valid, all reactions are not35:21 How can you buy an NFT?40:39 Where to invest in crypto?49:45 Let’s talk about Discord54:10 The true believers build during a bare marketFollow Nicole on:TwitterInstagramTikTokBeyond the Interview Follow me on:InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Before anything else, let me put this out here, THIS episode talks about BULLYING in the office space and losing yourself in the process because the BULLIES made you believe that you’re supposed to take it all in.Last week, we talked about how to succeed in life and get THE dream job. Today, we will focus on WHY it’s okay to ditch your dream job when it’s making you miserable and unhappy. I started Daddy Issues because I was bullied and even though this alter ego is a completely different person, she is happy. She conquered her world and she thrived in the social circles she wanted to be a part of. So yes, Bestie! You can do it even if others think you can’t. Believe in what YOU can do!Follow me on:InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Besties! We got another 2-part Solo episode. This time though, we will talk about serious stuff, like life lessons, getting a job, and having a career. Surprise! Surprise!High school didn’t have any notable academic achievements but I did have a degree in Accounting and studied business law undergrad. Why am I talking about this? Well, the LIFE LESSONS I’m going to talk about is to show you how a high school underachiever got an internship with the District Attorney’s office, got a new job position created in an accounting firm, and got to compete with overly qualified men for a promotion. You gotta work that ass, bestie!As my Dad had said to an 11-year-old Violet, “All you will have is your education and your career. So you better think smart and you better start now!”What to Listen For:00:00 Introduction02:40 Sometimes, it’s really nice to feel appreciated03:46 I was invited to a Coachella private party 06:43 This is my theory about short men…08:54 On to more celebrity news12:31 Let me tell you about this British guy16:33 That’s how bad I was in school24:23 Lesson #1: How to get a YES30:16 Lesson #2: When you hear a NO, find a way to get a YES36:39 Lesson #3: How do you perfect an interview?43:06 Lesson #4: How do you get a promotionFollow me on:InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After the steamy 2-part episode with Dr. Emily Morse, let’s pivot a little bit and talk about life updates! Let’s talk serious, adulting stuff!So, I start the episode with finally answering why I had to leave behind TOO TIRED TO BE CRAZY for a new podcast name, the personal issues I had to address with my Daddy Issues persona, convo with my mom, and exciting DEALS and PROMOS in the podcast for you guys!Follow me on:InstagramYouTubeSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.