What is codependency? Download my book for free here....https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ Our world class programs specialize in Dealing with Addiction in the Family and Codependency, Toxic Relationship Recovery. We are on a mission to teach you how to deal with an addicted loved one and how to recover from the relationship trauma that has left you drained, numb, resentful, perplexed, anxious or hurt. Throughout my revolutionary coaching programs, you’ll be expertly guided to create the healthy relationships you deserve! You’ll decide what you truly want and stop settling, self sacrificing, and struggling. You’ll end all relationship confusion and never be blindsided again. No more one sided relationships where you feel all alone. It’s finally your turn to be loved the way you love others. You'll stop repeating old patterns. Raise Your standards and never settle again You'll heal and learn when and HOW to detach Cultivate your most powerful self! Who are our programs best suited for? About Heidi Rain D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

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Married to an Addict or Alcoholic: how addiction is like a hurricane. To learn more about our program, go here...https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/addict... I Help High Achievers Fix Their Dysfunctional Relationships With Expert Guidance and World-Class Coaching. Are you in the Right Place? You are dealing with an addicted, toxic, or dysfunctional person and need to know exactly what to do. You’re the glue, the hero, or the rock in your relationships. You have caseloads instead of relationships. It’s totally unbalanced and you feel unsupported. You’re confused. Should you stay or should you go? Can this relationship work or be saved? You walk on eggshells in your relationships. You work overtime to protect the feelings of others. Talk with me about my coaching options https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ and ... You’re trying to fix or change someone. You’re tired of putting up with the behavior you don’t deserve. You want someone to love, respect, and value you. You’re successful. You’ve achieved a lot in your life, but relationships are difficult for you. You’re ready and determined to create a happy, healthy relationship. You want a true partner in life who will put in as much effort as you do. Throughout my revolutionary coaching programs, you’ll be expertly guided to create the healthy relationships you deserve! You’ll decide what you truly want and stop settling, self-sacrificing, and struggling. You’ll end all relationship confusion and never be blindsided again. No more one-sided relationships where you feel all alone. It’s finally your turn to be loved the way you love others. About Heidi Rain McGuirk D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

The power of detachment. What do you need to detach from and how do you detach? I Help High Achievers Fix Their Dysfunctional Relationships With Expert Guidance and World-Class Coaching. Are you in the Right Place? You are dealing with an addicted, toxic, or dysfunctional person and need to know exactly what to do. You’re the glue, the hero, or the rock in your relationships. You have caseloads instead of relationships. It’s totally unbalanced and you feel unsupported. You’re confused. Should you stay or should you go? Can this relationship work or be saved? You walk on eggshells in your relationships. You work overtime to protect the feelings of others. Talk with me about my coaching options and ... You’re trying to fix or change someone. You’re tired of putting up with the behavior you don’t deserve. You want someone to love, respect, and value you. You’re successful. You’ve achieved a lot in your life, but relationships are difficult for you. You’re ready and determined to create a happy, healthy relationship. You want a true partner in life who will put in as much effort as you do. About Heidi Rain McGuirk D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University. Book a consultation here..https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/

The healing power of setting boundaries with yourself and reclaiming your sacred NO! To learn about our toxic relationship and codependency recovery program go here....https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/codepe... To learn about how to deal with an addict or alcoholic go here...https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/addict... Heidi Rain McGuirk Heidi McGuirk is a Master Practitioner of NLP, Addiction Professional and Master Certified Empowerment and Relationship Coach. She specializes in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. She is co-creator of the Revolutionary Family Program and Love Yourself First Empowerment School. It’s her passion to equip and certify those who want to help others through her Empowerment Coach University. Heidi held an esteemed faculty position at one of the world’s leading drug and alcohol treatment centers where she created empowerment programming and facilitated psychoeducational lectures, seminars and group therapy. This experience with thousands of clients over many years, led to the creation of much of her life changing curriculum and proprietary methods. Heidi blends her vast professional experience, world class education and personal experience to create exceptional results with her students and clients. She has a unique understanding and fresh perspective which helps her to truly get results with those she helps. Her riveting style of using humor and candor encourages and inspires people to heal.

If you have experiences a relationship that was abusive, toxic or dysfunctional, it can be hard to believe in love again. In this video, I share my top tips for being able to heal form a toxic relationship and have the relationship you deserve. Check out our codependency and toxic relationship recovery program here...https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/codepe... Check out our addiction in the family program here...https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/addict... About Heidi Rain McGuirk D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

How to find peace in a toxic or dysfunctional relationship with Heidi Rain About Heidi Rain McGuirk Schedule a consultation... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

Heidi Rain what are the codependency traits? How do you know if you're codependent? https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ Love Coach Heidi, Th.D, D. Div, MNLP, MCC, is a Master Codependency Coach and creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

What is codependency? Download my book for free here....https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ Our world-class programs specialize in Dealing with Addiction in the Family and Codependency, and Toxic Relationship Recovery. We are on a mission to teach you how to deal with an addicted loved one and how to recover from the relationship trauma that has left you drained, numb, resentful, perplexed, anxious, or hurt. Throughout my revolutionary coaching programs, you’ll be expertly guided to create the healthy relationships you deserve! You’ll decide what you truly want and stop settling, self-sacrificing, and struggling. You’ll end all relationship confusion and never be blindsided again. No more one-sided relationships where you feel all alone. It’s finally your turn to be loved the way you love others. You'll stop repeating old patterns. Raise Your standards and never settle again You'll heal and learn when and HOW to detach Cultivate your most powerful self! Who are our programs best suited for? About Heidi Rain D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

What causes a controlling personality: The controlling Codependent To learn more about our program and to schedule a consultation, visit https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ About Heidi D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

What causes a withholder attachment personality? For a consultation head to https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ About Heidi D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

In this video, I discuss the origin of a FIXER personality and we take a look at the fixer in action. how does a fixer behave? What does a fixer do? How is a fixer in relationships with an alcoholic or addict? To schedule a consultation, visit https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ About Heidi D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

Are you in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic and do you identify as a fixer Prsoanlity pattern? For more help, visit https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ and schedule your complimentary consultation. Heidi Rain Love Coach Heidi, Th.D., D. Div., MNLP, MCC, is the Founder and Professor of The Codependency Institute. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

To book a consultation reach out here... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com Heidi Rain, D. Div., MNLP, MCC, is the Founder and Professor of The Codependency Institute. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

s codependency a bad thing? Today we take a look at the fixer personality and how it creates feelings of resentment. You can download my free book on the Attachment Personality Patterns to understand your codependency programming here... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ you can also schedule a complimentary consultation. Love Coach Heidi, Th.D., D. Div., MNLP, MCC, is the Founder and Professor of The Codependency Institute. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

Withholding Codependent in Relationships: Intimacy Issues To learn more about attachment personality patterns, you can go here...https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ Love Coach Heidi, Th.D, D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

Attachment Issues codependency explained. When you're born into a family dynamic, you learn quickly who you need to be in order to survive, thrive, connect or cope in that family system. And if that family is dysfunctional, toxic, or addicted, you end up with codependency traits. In this video, I discuss the different codependency attachment issues. These attachment issues create problems in our relationships and often lead us into relationships with toxic, dysfunctional, or addicted people. To download our free book on Attachment Personality Patters visit... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/

The controlling Attachment Personality Pattern Most of the articles you read about a controlling person will actually be describing an abusive person. And that’s simply because all abusive people are controlling. But the fact is, all-controlling people aren’t abusive. So, if you are in an abusive relationship where you are being hurt in any way, please call the national abuse hotline. www.Thehotline.org Today, I’m not necessarily outlining abuse. I’m simply giving a perspective of a controlling person as it relates to attachment patterns. I created the patterns as a way to describe what happens when we grow up in dysfunctional, toxic abusive homes. When we’re born, we find a way to thrive, survive, connect, or cope in that family. I call these Attachment Personality Patterns or APPS. Today, we are taking a look at the Controller. Before I write about the 5 core traits of a controller, you must know that there are many more traits, especially if we are discussing an abusive person. For the sake of this discussion, I’m speaking of a person that does NOT cross the line of abuse, but whose behavior is still dysfunctional and codependent. The controlling pattern is a codependency pattern. And we can work to get healthy from codependency by understanding how to have healthy, mutually beneficial, and respectful relationships. Personality is not fixed. We can change. Personality disorders however are different. I am not diagnosing anyone nor am I dealing in Personality Disorders. I am coaching on patterns, not pathology. I am looking at these patterns through a compassionate lens and assuming the best about the controller. I’m going to assume they are not consciously or maliciously trying to hurt anyone. I’m choosing to believe this pattern is unconscious and that they desire to change when the pattern is made conscious. I’m attempting to foster understanding and empathy by explaining the traits of the pattern and likely their point of origin. That said; let’s look at the 5 core traits of the controller. Please like and subscribe. You can find me over at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com to inquire about working together.

This is the last Pattern of all the Attachment Personality Patterns I have been teaching over the past 8 weeks. And it’s been the most difficult. I have sat down to write about this pattern 4 times. And each time, I go and try to find where I was writing, I can’t find it. I have stopped and started this thing over and over. When I sit down, I wonder, “How can I word this the best way?” “What’s the right thing to say about this pattern?” And then, judging what I wrote as not good enough, I vow to come back to it later. Such is the life of the Perfectionist. Before we get into the pattern, if you’re new to me, let’s talk a little about Attachment Personality Patterns. When you’re born into a dysfunctional family, whether it’s alcoholism, addiction, chronic sickness, smothering, or absent parenting, you develop a way to thrive, survive, connect, or cope in that family. Essentially, you find a way to be loved, or not get hurt and I call these Attachment Personality Patterns. They are a form of codependency. I’ve come up with 5 core traits of each of the 8 personalities, you can find them at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com It’s important to remember that patterns are not pathology. You can change your pattern when you choose to do the work of codependency recovery. But the very first step is awareness because you cannot change what you don’t see. With that awareness in mind, here are the 5 core traits of the Perfectionist.

When we are born into a family of dysfunction, we find a way to function. We develop a way of being that allows us to survive, thrive, connect, or cope. I call these Attachment Personality Patterns (APPS). Today, we are discussing the APP of the Withholder. It is not my intention to diagnose you. I am simply giving you a framework to identify patterns of codependency behavior so that you can break free from these self-destructive patterns and in turn, create the loving, mutually beneficial, healthy relationships you deserve. That being said, there are 5 key indicators of a Withholder. Although there are certainly more than 5 ways this shows up, I find these 5 to be prevalent in most Withholding Types. You do not need to identify with all 5 to type as a withholder. You may simply identify strongly with 1 or 2 key indicators. The important thing is that we cultivate awareness around how withholding shows up in your relationships and sabotages your connections with others. With that awareness, you will be well on your way to breaking free from this Pattern. Patterns are not pathological. And they are not fixed. You also may identify with more than one Personality Pattern. The important thing to know is that you can change your Attachment Personality Pattern at any time simply by deciding to begin your codependency recovery journey. Watch the video to learn the key indicators. Now that I’ve identified the 5 key indicators, I want to discuss the point of origin for this Attachment Personality Pattern. Likely, you were born into a family that was dysfunctional in some way whether it is abusive, alcoholic, or addicted. The main theme was uncertainty, unreliability, and unpredictability. You wanted the love of your primary caregiver(s) but found that loving them meant you got hurt in some way. So while you longed for the closeness intimacy could provide, you simultaneously feared it. You inevitably ended up abandoned, rejected, or hurt. So today, one of the core internal battles a withholder faces is the deep need for intimacy and the simultaneous fear it will destroy her/him. Withholders don’t necessarily fear abandonment because their strategy is to never get too close to anyone in the first place so it won’t hurt when /if they do leave. They believe that by keeping their distance, they won’t love too much. Meaning, if they did allow themselves to get fully vested in someone, the pain of their inevitable betrayal would be too much to bear. So they maintain distance to avoid feeling too vested. What is the path to recovery for a withholder? If you recognize that you fit this pattern, the work begins with your recovery journey. That’s why I created LYFE School which stands for Love Yourself First Empowerment. In LYFE School, I teach the 7 tenets to overcome all codependent Attachment Personality Patterns. You learn to speak your truth and share your authentic self with those you love. You learn to open up and allow others to love you the way you want to be loved. You work through the old programming and fears that have kept you from truly connecting with others. If you are interested in LYFE School you can find more out at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com Love, Coach Heidi

5 Core traits of a FIXER Attachment Personality Pattern: Overcoming codependency When we’re young, if we’re born into a dysfunctional family where there is addiction, abuse, or toxicity, we take on a way of behaving and being to survive, thrive, connect, or cope in that dynamic. I call these ways of being Attachment Personality Patterns (APPs). Think of them like masks we wear. Instead of being who we really are, we become who we need to function in the dysfunction. We ask ourselves, “Who do I need to be in order for this to work?” One of the 8 Attachment Personality Patterns is The Fixer. You can think of the Fixer as the Hero in the family. As a child, this will usually be the most responsible person in the house. The parents can be addicted, and the Fixer is making the other sibling’s breakfast and checking homework. The toxic parent will often reference the Fixer as proof that their drinking isn’t that bad, thinking everyone is okay, even though it’s the Fixer making sure of it. This personality pattern helps the child survive in the house. They make everything run when it would otherwise fall apart. They aren’t afraid to call out the problems. They are adept at spotting them. The problems for the Fixer usually develop later in life when the strategies they used once upon a time to rescue their family members have turned into a way of operating in most relationships. Though it’s a new day, they are acting out of an engrained pattern. Before I give the 5 core traits, I want you to understand that I’m not diagnosing you. As a coach, I deal in patterns, not pathology. And it’s my belief that any patterns can be interrupted and changed. The first step is awareness, So, it’s important to identify yourself in the APPs so that you can consciously break the patterns that were once on autopilot. Core Trait 1. You consider yourself an empath. You have a knack for knowing what people need. You seem to feel their energy and find yourself in situations where you are highly attuned to the needs of others. You often can feel what others are feeling even if those others are unaware of what they need or feel. While this is a wonderful quality, it presents a problem when you are not equipped to protect yourself from the energy of others and you find yourself getting sucked into their emotions. Core trait #2. You have a compulsion to help even when help is not asked for. At your worst, you may become overbearing, inserting yourself into others’ problems. Because you believe you know what needs to be done to fix the problem, you may leap into action without being asked. You may also find at your core; you believe most people are incapable of taking care of their own problems. Core trait #3 You must be needed to have a relationship. If you do a relationship inventory, you find you play case manager, therapist, or coach in almost every scenario. Your relationships are unbalanced. You do all the giving and others do all the taking. Your primary goal is to tend to the needs of others around you and you become hyper-focused on finding and solving their problems. You find this endears you to others as they come to rely on your help. Core Trait #4 You become resentful when others don’t take or follow your advice or don’t appreciate your help. Core trait #5 Your problems go unrecognized and your needs go unmet. While you are busy fixing others, you’re not able to focus on your own shortcomings. At its worst, you can be oblivious to your own issues. You put your needs on the back burner in favor of helping others. As you can imagine, any one of these traits would warrant concern. But if you happen to have more than one, you may be a Fixer. If you see this pattern in yourself, know that there is a way out. On the other side of this codependent behavior is the freedom to be loved for who you are, not what you DO for others. Fixers believe at the core that they’re not lovable unless they’re helping others. Fixers get their self-esteem from solving other people’s problems. Fixers believe they must “earn their keep”. Bit what if none of that was true? What if you didn’t have to fix one more person or situation in order to be lovable? The way out of this codependency Patten is to begin to work a recovery program. We’d love to have you in LYFE School which stands for Love Yourself First Empowerment. It’s a step-by-step system to overcome this old programming so you can have the relationships you deserve, If you are curious about that, you can find out more at lovecoachheidi.com Please leave your comments and let us know what resonates with you! Love, Coach Heidi www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com

Let’s talk about the Attachment Personality of the Victim. Firstly, what is an attachment personality pattern? When you're born into a family Dynamic, particularly one that is dysfunctional. toxic, abusive, or addicted, you start scrambling and hustling to try to figure out how to do life in that family. You try to figure out how to survive, thrive, connect or cope in that family of origin and you take on a personality in order to function in the dysfunction. I call those ways of being and behaving Attachment Personality Patterns and they are types of codependency. As a codependency coach, it's my hope to help do a couple of things. The first thing I want to do is foster awareness of any subconscious patterns that you might be living out within your current relationships that you once adopted as a way to function. But now it's not working anymore. And then I want to give you the tools and strategies to break free from those patterns once and for all. Because patterns aren't pathology, you're not sick and there's nothing wrong with you. But there's a way that you're behaving and showing up in your relationships today that just isn't working for you anymore. It's holding you back from having the relationships that you really deserve and that you really want. Now here's what's ironic about the role of the victim ( the role we’re discussing today) in this dysfunctional family dynamic. Likely victims aren't the ones reading this! In fact, the only time a victim personality will ever search out a video on YouTube about being a victim is to prove people wrong that they're not actually a victim. So if the victim personality isn’t reading this, who is? It's likely the role of the Fixer attachment personality pattern who's looking to properly diagnose the victim in the dynamic and figure out how to fix that person or help that person best. I also work with a lot of therapists and I certify coaches, who are likely trying to figure out how to better work with this personality. Before I dive into the 5 core traits of a victim personality, let me just give you a caveat. This role is particularly hard to help and in many ways because there is a refusal to recognize that the person is actually in the victim role. Victim Personalities are not true victims. They are simply playing the role of victim. The role of the victim in this functional family Dynamic it is usually played by the toxic or dysfunctional person in the household. If they are actively alcoholic, addicted, narcissistic or toxic, their level of insight is slim to none as far as the impact that they're having on other people goes. That said, let's get into these five core traits first, and then we can talk a little bit more about what's the path out of this. So how can you help? Encourage the Victim Personality to get into recovery. If they are actively using drugs or drinking, recommend they get into treatment. I have several videos on my YouTube Channel to help with this. If you want to discuss how to heal from your own involvement with a Victim Personality, please reach out at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com and schedule a complimentary consultation.

In Coming to America, there’s a scene where Eddie Murphy is about to marry his prescribed bride. Before the “I dos”, the groom wants to make sure the bride is a good fit. So, he whisks her “backstage” to ask some questions. She starts, “All of my life I have been trained to serve you.” He answers, “I know, But I’d like to know what you like.” She says, ‘Whatever you like.” “What kind of music do you like?” “Whatever kind of music you like.” As he points out that he knows she has been trained to like whatever he likes and do whatever he wants, he eventually has her barking like a dog. The scene is supposed to be funny, but it speaks of a deep seeded problem that many codependents face and that is the pattern of people pleasing. Pleasing others isn’t inherently wrong. It’s a wonderful thing to want to make others happy and comfortable. But then it falters into the land of self-sacrifice and self-betrayal in favor of others, it becomes a big problem. When you grow up in a dysfunctional family, one that is addicted, abusive, absent, narcissistic, etc, you take on a way f being in order to survive, thrive, connect or cope in that family. Especially, in a hustle to get love or at least not get hurt, you ask, “Who do I need to be?” And you become that. I call those Attachment Personality Patterns. It’s programming that allows you to find a way to function in the dysfunction. One of the 8 patterns is that of the Pleaser. Pleasers are bred to make others happy and keep the peace. These aren’t bad traits. But pleasers are in one-sided relationships where their behavior is not reciprocated. Pleasers become resentful and passive-aggressive. It’s important to remember that Patterns aren’t Pathology. You can change your patterning and become healthier , achieving balanced, mutually beneficial relationships. Here are the 5 core traits of a Pleaser Personality. Core Trait #1. Pleasers have unbalanced relationships. Pleasers give more than they receive. In an attempt to endear themselves to others, they say yes when meaning no. They tend to take on more than others and do not ask others to help. They feel that asking others to meet their needs will take them out of favor. Core Trait #2 Pleasers Have difficulty making decisions and overvalue the opinions of others. A pleaser will often need the input of others before committing to a path of action. They don’t simply consider themselves when making decisions; they want to check with everyone else to make sure it’s good for them too. If everyone else agrees that it is a good decision, then they’ll likely do it, even if they are still unsure themselves. Core Trait #3. Pleasers will give up personal truths or desires to avoid rocking the boat or disapproval. They’ll go with the flow to avoid confrontation. If a pleaser has an unpopular opinion, they will keep it to themselves. Core Trait #4 Pleasers feel overly responsible for the emotions of others and work hard to mitigate the feeling of others. Like the fixer, the Pleaser is empathy and the ability to feel others' emotions and have a sixth sense as to what others need. However, Fixers are not afraid to experience being out of rapport with another person if they believe it will help them. Meaning, a Fixer may call out a loved one to help them, whereas a Pleaser won’t want to upset anyone. So, they are more likely to do what they can to ensure others feel good all the time (even at their own expense.) A Fixer can be a hero (actually helping save the day) whereas a Pleaser is more likely to be an Enabler to keep the peace. Core Trait #5 Pleasers are passive-aggressive. Because confrontation is not something a pleaser is willing to do, when the resentment from their unbalanced relationships builds,, they will behave in passive-aggressive ways to let the person know they are hurt without outright stating it. Like the withholder, they may withhold attention, affection, approval, etc. Triangulating (playing people against each other), playing the victim, or avoiding any interaction at all. So what’s the path out of this behavior? Awareness is always the first step. Once you become aware, you open yourself up to having a choice. You can choose to get into codependency recovery and enable yourself to have the mutually beneficial, respectful relationships you deserve. Of course, we would love to have you join us in LYFE School. That’s our codependency recovery program which is a step-by-step system to undo your patterning and find your true Self. To find out more about LYFE School, visit www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com Love, Coach Heidi

There’s a funny portrayal of the clinger personality in the movie Wedding Crashers. The lead character attracts the affection of a young woman who comes on strong and never stops. She throws herself at him, uses her sexuality to enchant him, and demands her be a couple with her. The funny thing is, at the end of the movie, he realizes she really is the one even though for the first ¾ of their forced one sided relationship, he’s trying to escape her. Such is the desperate reputation of Clingers: “One day, you will realize how much you love me and never leave me. And I’ll do anything to make that happen.” In other movies, like Single White Female and Fatal Attraction, clingers are portrayed as dangerous, loose cannons, waiting to kill you should you have the audacity to reject them. Such is the bad reputation of the Clinger: I’ll get you or I’ll get you back. It’s all very black and white in those two depictions. But there is a gray area where people display an unhealthy attachment style that’s not so dramatic but perhaps equally as disturbing to the Clinger him/herself or the recipient. Before we begin, what is an APP or Attachment Personality Pattern? When you're born into a family of dysfunction, one that is toxic, abusive, addicted, or alcoholic, you find a way to function in that dysfunction. You end up trying to find a way to survive, thrive, connect, or cope in that family of origin. And I call those attachment personality patterns. Essentially, they’re a form of codependency. It’s important to remember, patterns are not pathology. Your personality is not fixed. You’re not the same person today as you were yesterday from the personality standpoint. These patterns can be interrupted and replaced with healthier ways of relating. Let’s get into the 5 core traits of a Clinger Attachment Personality Pattern. Please like and subscribe if you find the channel useful to you. If you want more help or to schedule a consultation, please visit www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com

Mistakes partners of addicts and alcoholics make Boundary course here...https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ As an addiction consultant and a codependency expert, I provide people in toxic, addicted or dysfunctional relationships with laser focused coaching so they know exactly what to do. Let me help you get your life back. Our world class programs specialize in Dealing with Addiction in the Family and Codependency, Toxic Relationship Recovery. We are on a mission to teach you how to deal with an addicted loved one and how to recover from the relationship trauma that has left you drained, numb, resentful, perplexed, anxious or hurt. Throughout my revolutionary coaching programs, you’ll be expertly guided to create the healthy relationships you deserve! You’ll decide what you truly want and stop settling, self-sacrificing, and struggling. You’ll end all relationship confusion and never be blindsided again. No more one sided relationships where you feel all alone. It’s finally your turn to be loved the way you love others. You'll stop repeating old patterns. Raise Your standards and never settle again You'll heal and learn when and HOW to detach Cultivate your most powerful self! Who are our programs best suited for? About Heidi Rain D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

Even though I used to pride myself on having a built-in bullSh*% detector the size of Texas, being able to spot a phony a mile away, I was regretfully unaware of all the ways I was bullshi*&ing myself. I had suppressed my truth for so long that I forgot what it was. When you grow up in an alcoholic home (or any dysfunctional home), you follow a set of imaginary rules that help the family keep secrets. One of those rules is “Don’t talk about problems. Don’t have any problems. We’re fine. You’re fine. Nothing’s wrong.” If you happen to suffer abuse in that home (either physical, emotional, psychological, or sexual) the gaslighting that ensues can be so intense and successful that you start to believe the lies and internalize them as your new truth. I remember being beaten or berated and simultaneously hearing, “I’m not hurting you.”, “You’re not hurt.” “It wasn’t that bad.” or any other version of “That didn’t happen.” You start to wonder if you’re really just fine. You’re clearly NOT fine. But you start to dilute yourself that you are. You know deep down things are not as they appear. But you do anything to avoid being “found out”. Naturally, you start to work even harder to seem as though you’re better than fine. You lock yourself into a pattern of overcompensating to hide your feelings of defectiveness. You become a Pretender. If all the world is a stage, a Pretender wants the starring role. Watch the video to learn the five core traits of the pretender. And reach out for help at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com We offer codependency coaching and have many programs to help you n your healing journey.

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Guilt trips and BOUNDARIES: When they make you feel bad for holding your bottom line. If you’ve finally gotten to the place of setting a boundary, I first want to take a minute and congratulate you! It’s no easy feat! Setting a boundary with someone you truly care about is hard. But now that you’ve set the boundary, it’s being met with resistance or push back and that’s making you feel pretty bad. So, what do you do about that? I had a video request about this very topic from a wife of an alcoholic. Likely, if you get to the place of setting boundaries, you too are doing wit with an unhealthy person. This could be a toxic, dysfunctional, or narcissistic person. Addiction looks a lot like narcissism in that it displays the same level of denial of the impact on others and lacks insight and empathy into the feelings of those effects. In this particular scenario, the wife had set a boundary with her husband that she was unwilling to sleep in the same bed with him if he was drinking. A while later, after holding the boundary, he complained that he didn’t feel like they had a relationship because she wasn’t sleeping in the same bed as him. Now, here’s the thing, narcissists and addicts are delusional in many respects. They live in denial. So as he sees it, she’s creating a problem in the marriage, totally missing the fact that she’s set a boundary about his drinking. Addicts, alcoholics, narcissists, and toxic people use blame, shame, guilt, and denial when confronted with their own behavior. So, it’s natural that he behaves in this way, blaming her and totally missing the point. But his wife, if she gets sucked into the lie, will believe that she is causing the problem, losing sight of the real issue too. Her job is to stay awake when he’s asleep to the truth. The best thing to do in moments when someone is using blame or guilt is to calmly restate the boundary, reminding him or her why you set the boundary in the first place. Please watch the video for more. If you want help setting boundaries, you can schedule an appointment here. https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ If you want to request a video topic, you can do that here. https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/

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Do you have an addict, alcoholic, or otherwise narcissistic person in your life that continues to treat you with disrespect and disregard? Today I will be giving a talk on boundaries. As always, LYFE School is the place to be if you want to break free! Come learn more at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com

Here's the truth. You can have absolutely everything else but if you have a relationship that causes you confusion, anxiety, resentment, or pain, then you'll ask yourself “what's the point?” You deserve better than that. So, how do you have the peace and sanity you deserve, especially when it comes to dealing with a relationship with an addict and alcoholic? Let's be real. When you have a relationship with an addict or an alcoholic, you feel like you have two people. You have the person you know your loved one can be and you have the person that is currently showing up for you. There’s a tug of war between the two and you wonder if you can ever trust this person to do the right thing. You grow so resentful and tired of believing the lies only to be disappointed over and over again! When should you stop trusting an addict or alcoholic to do the right thing? There comes a point where you think, “I’ve got to stop being so gullible.” So we remain “cautiously optimistic.” But what does that really mean? Trust is the foundation of every good relationship. Without trust, we have nowhere to go. I know you want to trust and I know you are keeping the hope alive that your loved one will finally get it! But I also know you are in immense pain and your feelings run the gamut from despair to numb. You’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop and when they are sober, you can’t even feel happy because you think, “it’s only a matter of time before it all goes to Hell again.” Your pain is real. Your anxiety is valid. Your feelings matter! But if you’re used to walking on eggshells, you won’t know what to do with your pain. You may feel guilty for being angry or feeling distrustful. Your addicted loved one may even put the blame for their relapse on you for not “believing in them enough”. It’s an unbelievable hard place to be in. We don't talk about the family enough. And that's why my mission is so important to me. Addition affects the family so much more than we realize or give attention to. There’s a lot more help for the addict or alcoholic. And one can feel like you have nowhere to go. The truth is, of course, the addict has had it rough. But you may have had it worse. Why? Because while the addict was high, checked out, or sleepwalking their way through the pain they caused, you were awake for every second of it. You may find out that you’re just now realizing the massive impact this has made on you mentally, spiritually, emotionally, financially, and physically. So, back to trust. When do you stop trusting that the addict or alcoholic will do the right thing? Here’s the rule. You can always trust something to be what it is and you can never trust something to be what it is not. For example, I am going to trust that a chicken is a chicken and a tree is a tree. But I’m not going to trust that a chicken is a tree. (no matter how much potential I believe it has or how much I think it should be or the story that if the tree loved me it would.) What that means for you when a person is active in their addiction, you’re not going to trust him or her to behave in any other way than an addict in active addiction would behave. You start to realize that getting mad at an alcoholic for drinking is like wanting a chicken to be a tree. When you say, “I trusted you that you wouldn't use drugs”, “I trusted you that you wouldn't drink today”, “I trusted you not to get high.”, “I trusted you to go to the meeting.”. It is the same as saying, “I trusted the chicken to be a tree.” It’s ridiculous. It doesn’t make any sense. So, what do you do? Give up believing? Give up hope? Stop trusting forever? No. You never give up hope. You never stop having faith that things can and will be different. But you give that to your higher power and you deal in reality. Here’s what happens. You call out the person for using. They promise they will get help and start to work some kind of program. You get happy. Your brain gets flooded with happy chemicals and you become high on hope. You think, “Thank God! They finally get it! It's over!” BUT NOTHING HAS ACTUALLY HAPPENED YET. So, in the video, I give you a new way to look at things. If you need help with boundaries, you can find a free workshop at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com So that’s it for now. I’m keeping it simple because it is. Love, Coach Heidi https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/

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Trying to control an addict's behavior. what is enabling? If you have an addicted spouse, partner, or addicted child, you know all too well the lengths you go to to try and control their using and their behavior. In this video, I'm explaining some of the ways we try and control along with what you can do to help your loved one get better as well as yourself. go here to book a consultation... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com

Are they choosing alcohol over you? Do they love you enough to quit drinking?   schedule a consultation here... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/   Love Coach Heidi, D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

What's a nice alcoholic? Are you in a relationship with an alcoholic? Let's talk about the impact of alcoholism on the family. To schedule a consultation, visit https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ Heidi Rain Love Coach Heidi, Th.D., D. Div., MNLP, MCC, is the Founder and Professor of The Codependency Institute. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

If you are in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic, you are being impacted in 6 major ways! Learn how you've been impacted so you can start the journey to healing and health! As always, LYFE School is the place to be if you want to break free! Come learn more at www.LoveCoachHeidi.Com

when you grow up with an addicted parent, it leaves you with many issues in your adult life. Trust issues Intimacy Issues Vulnerability issues control issues Perfectionism issues People pleasing Fixing and many more. Love Coach Heidi aims to educate and equip you with the insight you need to break free from codependent behavior. Reach out for more information at https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/

There’s no more frustrating relationship than the one with an addict and alcoholic because it's like you're with two people: the person you know that exists inside of the person you love and the person they're showing up as today. Are you asking yourself “Should I stay or should I go? How do you know when is it time to leave the relationship? Likely, you have put what you want on the back burner in hopes of getting your loved one better. Most of the time you're so busy figuring out what's going to help them or get them sober or stop them from hurting themselves or others that all of your focus and energy is on them instead of on what you really want. Here, we are going to look at 5 key indicators that it’s time to consider leaving the relationship. That may also mean taking some time away to work on yourself because here's what I know for sure~ you need to get better whether they get better or not. Being in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic hurts you in ways you may not yet recognize. It impacts the entire family. Understanding this impact is the key to your healing. That’s what we try to do at https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ . We want to equip, educate and empower you with the resources you need to live a sane, happy life. I hope you have found this helpful. Please leave a comment, like or share if it has benefitted you so we can continue to reach more people. With Love, Coach Heidi

How to forgive an addict or alcoholic. Join Heidi Rain (Love Coach Heidi) as she discussed the 3 steps you must take in order to forgive an alcoholic or addict. For help implementing this information, consider joining our program called LYFE School. It's a 12 week journey with Heidi to understand codependency and addiction so that you have all of the tools you need to break free from toxic and dysfunctional behavior. You can apply here... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ About Heidi D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

How to deal with an addicted spouse what's codependent? Dealing in dysfunctional and toxic relationships is my area of expertise. And there is nothing more frustrating than dealing with an addict or alcoholic. You feel like you're living with two people: the one you married and the one you have now. You wonder how to get then to stop drinking and using drugs/ You just want to get your partner back. In this video, I give you 5 things you need to know when dealing with an addict or alcoholic. For more information and a free checklist on helping versus hurting, visit here, https://www.lovecoachheidi.com Heidi Rain McGuirk is a Master Practitioner of NLP, Addiction Professional and Master Certified Empowerment and Relationship Coach. She specializes in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. She is co-creator of the Revolutionary Family Program and Love Yourself First Empowerment School. It’s her passion to equip and certify those who want to help others through her Empowerment Coach University. Heidi held an esteemed faculty position at one of the world’s leading drug and alcohol treatment centers where she created empowerment programming and facilitated psychoeducational lectures, seminars, and group therapy. This experience with thousands of clients over many years led to the creation of much of her life-changing curriculum and proprietary methods. Heidi blends her vast professional experience, world-class education, and personal experience to create exceptional results with her students and clients.. She has a unique understanding and fresh perspective which helps her to truly get results with those she helps. Her riveting style of using humor and candor encourages and inspires people to heal. you can find her at https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/

What's Wrong With Me? The lasting impact on children who grow up in addiction, abuse, or dysfunction is a book written by Heidi Rain to help Adult Children of Alcoholics, Substance Abusers, and Children of Dysfunction understand the impact as it relates to codependency traits and dysfunctional behavior. Inside the book, you will find the many ways codependency shows up in one's life. My hope for this book is that it will be used as a discussion tool for curious individuals, therapists, and drug and alcohol treatment centers around the world. My desire is that it provides hope, healing, and compassion for those who read it. Please consider helping us by sharing this video or purchasing the book. https://www.amazon.com/Whats-Wrong-He... You can reach out to me if you'd like me to speak at your even or treatment center as well as find information about our codependency recovery program here... https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/   Music Composed and performed by Russ DeSalvo   About Heidi D. Div, MNLP, MCC, Addiction Professional, and Master Codependency Coach is the creator of Attachment Personality Patterns and the Rapid Detachment Method. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, and ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development company, Empowerment Coach University.

Love Coach Heidi answers the question can an addict change? To schedule a complimentary consultation, visit https://www.lovecoachheidi.com/ Love Coach Heidi, D. Div., MNLP, MCC, is the creator founder of LYFE School. Her books, courses, and programs specialize in codependency, self-love, dysfunctional/unhealthy relationships, and dealing with addiction in the family. Her goal is to increase awareness of generational dysfunction through codependency education, fostering personal responsibility through masterful coaching, and affecting lasting change by breaking toxic patterns, ending the cycles of dysfunction for good. To further the message, Heidi certifies coaches, therapists, and healers through her training and development companies: Empowerment Coach University, and The Codependency Institute.

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