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Voices in our heads in partnership with ConnectHOW and QualityMinds
It's about the voices! The quiet ones, the loud ones, the voices between you and me. But above all, it's about the voices in our heads. They follow us in meetings, in the shower and possibly even right now. To make sense of the voices, Vera, Louise, Paul and Markus sit down together for 30 minutes every fortnight to talk about them. Vera and Markus work together in Germany at QualityMinds, Paul and Louise in England at ConnectHOW. Different companies, same old voices.
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Voices in our heads in partnership with connectHOW and QualityMinds
Total 10 episodes
1
#10 Our voices on LinkedIn
#10 Our voices on LinkedIn
(00:00) Our voices on LinkedIn
(01:30) Ramaging and clicking in the backround
(03:00) Love and hate relationship with LinkedIn
(04:40) „I do really appreciate the randomness!“
(05:30) From casual observer to creating content
(06:30) Impressions, reactions and comments
(09:00) Lou’s Selfcoach-Friday
(10:30) Tool for self-reflection
(12:00) Unwanted advertising
(13:40) Curated noise
(16:15) „I’m not good at social networks“
(19:30) Responses and the algorithm
(22:00) Our desire for connection
(25:00) Moments of lightness and levity
(25:30) Boundaries and time
(28:00) Manipulation of your algorithm
(29:00) The importance of different voices
32:2420/11/2024
#9 Our voices on goals
#9 Our voices on goals
(00:00) Our voices on goals
(01:40) My voices are chatting away
(02:40) Goals, outcomes and manifests
(05:00) Preshaming your own goals
(07:10) Having the goal of having no goals
(08:20) What if I don’t reach my goals?
(09:50) Overcoming the first steps
(10:30) How big should goals be in order to be successful?
(11:30) Goals, visions and BHAGs
(13:30) Peeling the layers of meaning
(14:50) Rechecking the why
(18:30) The journey of growth
(20:10) Neuro-linguistic programming
(23:10) Goals tell us something about our priorities
(25:30) SMART goals vs. loose goals
27:1205/11/2024
#8 Our voices on comfort zones
(00:00) Our voices on comfort zones
(01:00) Our recording process
(03:00) Magical topic inspiration
(05:20) So, what’s the topic Markus?
(06.30) A nice comfy armchair
(07:45) Stepping out of a comfort zone
(09:30) Different comfort zones for different people
(11:20) Willing to be uncertain
(13:20) The uncomfortable becomes comfortable
(15:00) There might be monsters in the lake
(15:30) Stepbacks and babysteps
(17:30) Difference between „out of your comfortzone“ and fear
(18:00) Comfort zones change all the time
(20:00) Bouncebacks and situationale comfort zones
(23:30) Refraiming certain feelings
(26:00) It could end good!
(27:00) Feeling comfortable in an uncomfortable moment
(29:15) What could go wrong?
(30:00) Bravery is not the absence of fear but trying to to the right things in the presence of fear
32:5522/10/2024
#7 Our voices on conflict
(00:00) Our voices on conflict
(02:00) Conflicted voices on conflict
(02:40) The opposite of peace and harmony
(03:20) Inner conflict between snoozing and sleeping
(06:30) Conflicts at work and fulfilling tasks
(09:20) Conflict is a „bad“ word
(10:05) Compromise is not always a good thing
(13:10) Conflicts and culture
(13:50) Normalising different opinions in your head
(15:00) Conflicts and personal safety
(17:00) Normalising conflicts
(18:00) Hidden and underlying conflicts
(20:40) Growing distance and reaching out
(21:50) Differentiation between the person and the opinion
(22:50) Bed rock, trust and openness
(24:00) If the word is a barrier, take the word away
(25:00) Working with friends and family
29:2808/10/2024
#6 Our voices on prioritisation
(00:00) Our voices on prioritisation
(01:10) A lot of crazy voices
(02:30) Conflict between priorities
(04:45) How do we decide between priorities?
(05:00) The purpose of prioritisation
(05:10) If everything is important, then nothing is
(07:00) Active and passive prioritisation
(08:40) Prioritise people
(11:45) Regret as reevaluation on prioritisation
(12:30) Time spend worrying
(13:55) A problem for my future self
(14:50) Worrying does not solve anything
(15:50) The „right“ choice between priorities
(17:20) The search for certitude
(20:30) Talking about priorities
(21:20) Cross-domain priorities
(23:20) Someone loses and it should not always be yourself
(24:30) Prioritising yourself
(29:15) There are more voices than the ones in our head
30:3824/09/2024
#5 Our voices on self-doubt
(00:00) Our voices on self-doubt
(01:00) Little white-lies
(01:40) The unspoken social contract
(03:00) Multiple voices, one head
(05:20) Am I good enough for this?
(07:20) I can’t claim that I am an expert
(12:10) The difference between advising others and self-coaching
(12:35) Who decides what is good enough?
(12:45) It is a matter of perspective
(12:50) Objectivity is an illusion
(14:15) Do I see value in the things I do?
(16:00) Do I really have to give my best? Again?
(16.25) Do we have to be perfect?
(19:00) We hold ourselves to very high personal standards
(22:30) Different expectations in different situations
(24:15) Markus, it’s time for the summary of this conversation!
(26:25) Pressure makes diamonds but never allows butterfly wings to unfold
(28:35) A good author writes what the universe tells him
31:0910/09/2024
#4 Our voices on gratitude
(00:00) Our voices on gratitude
(01:00) What are you grateful for?
(08:20) Chances to grow
(09:30) Growing but not being grateful
(12:00) Toxic positivity
(14:50) Shift response and support response
(17:00) Showing anger - not accepted?
(19:00) Keep your emotions within the fringes
(20:00) Emotions can be infectuated
(20:30) People want to be seen and heard
(22:50) Big shared experiences
(27:15) We are grateful for growing but not grateful for being forced to
29:5530/07/2024
#3 Our voices on "Am I being good enough?"
(00:00) Our voices on „Am I good enough?“
(02:35) Perfectly imperfect
(03:25) Like an annoying stone in your shoe
(06:40) Who made that guy an expert?
(08:15) It’s always easier to coach somebody else
(09:30) What does this part of me need?
(11:55) Taking your own advice
(13:10) Where is this voice coming from?
(15:35) Theory of „Becoming perfect“
(16:30) How can I make use of this voice?
(17:10) Non-dualistic thinking
(19:30) Fundamental fear of rejection
(21:25) In-Groups and Out-Groups
(23:30) The generational aspect
(24:30) The healed human femur theory
27:4016/07/2024
#2 Our voices on feedback
(00:00) Our voices on feedback
(00:45) Where is Markus?
(01:30) Feedback is such a tricky thing.
(02:15) Vera, how are you getting on with your digital notes journey?
(05:05) Two sides of the same coin.
(06:30) What about judgmental feedback?
(06:45) „You did this and it made me feel like that.“
(07:35) „Every time I’m giving feedback it tells so much more about myself.“
(09:20) „What is the narrative in my head when I’m giving feedback?“
(09:55) The famous „constructive“ feedback
(13:05) Sharing perspectives
(13:25) „There is no right or wrong.“
(14:20) „But what if something bad happens?“
(16:40) „There is a difference between feedback and boundaries.“
(21:20) Listening partnerships
(22:24) „Would you mind giving me feedback on something ?“
(23:55) „We diminish things that are good and really hold on to things that are not so good.“
(26:00) Seven to one ratio
(27:55) „Giving positive feedback is so much more fun.“
(29:35) Limiting believes
(31:15) Attribution theory
35:5502/07/2024
#1 Our voices on change
(00:00) Our voices on change
(01:35) Why Vera doesn’t like digital handwritten notes and still prefers pens and papers
(05:50) Taking notes can be a distraction
(06:40) “A picture tells a thosand words or whatever the expressions is…”
(07:35) “I'm so sorry, this is going to be awful!”
(10:20) First steps are never easy
(11:50) “I am a person of habits.”
(12:20) The voices from my past
(14:30) Do we have to loose something in order to progress?
(17:45) “Wouldn’t it just be easier to do it the way you know?”
(18:50) Imposter syndrome
(21:05) “Lets try it anyway because it could be fun?”
(21:45) “Are you sure enough to be unsure?”
(23:25) “Take all the critical voices and mute them.”
(24:45) “What’s the best thing and what’s the worst thing that could happen?”
(27:30) “We are not mental, or are we?”
28:2118/06/2024