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Kara Loewentheil
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
Visit schoolofnewfeministthought.com to learn more about The School of New Feminist Thought and more.
369. Marriage & Money: A Conversation with Megan Gorman
Who you choose to tie the knot with is one of the biggest financial decisions you'll ever make. Even though marriage has evolved a lot over time, it is still an economic institution that women regularly lose their financial independence to. So, whether you're single or partnered, how can you prevent this from happening? To answer this question, I'm joined by tax attorney, wealth expert, and author of her new book, "All the Presidents' Money", Megan Gorman. Megan shares how to have those important money conversations with your partner early on and her advice for creating a monthly money ritual with your significant other to stay on the same page. She also explains why women often give away our financial power in relationships - and how we can take it back.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/369
23:3521/11/2024
Bonus: Election Mindset Shifts You Can Make Right Now
Are you catastrophizing about current events and feeling paralyzed by fear and uncertainty? It’s easy to get caught up in the echo chamber of social media and the news, leaving you feeling disempowered and overwhelmed. But what if you could learn to hold belief in the world you want to see, even when the evidence isn’t there yet?In this bonus episode, I explore some of the common thought errors that arise during challenging times. From the idea that we have to be freaking out to prove we care, to the belief that self-coaching isn’t relevant to larger societal issues, these thought patterns can keep you stuck and unable to take meaningful action. I offer shifts that I have seen to be helpful for both myself and my students in cultivating the mental fortitude we need to keep showing up for the world we believe in.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/election-mindset-shifts/
26:3615/11/2024
368. How to Stop Avoiding Your Problems
Have you ever avoided dealing with a problem, hoping it would just go away on its own? I know I have -- and I have a WILD story to share with you about what happens when we do this.Join me this week to understand why problem avoidance is so tempting but so counterproductive. You’ll learn how the consequences of problem avoidance can play out in your life, and most importantly, practical strategies for facing your problems with courage and resilience.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/368
21:5114/11/2024
Bonus: How to Calm Your Brain Right Now
Given the events in the United States this week, many of us have brains that are running wild. You might be feeling scared, angry, disappointed, and a whole slew of other emotions. You're not alone-- and this bonus episode is here to help. Join me to hear why catastrophizing isn’t useful or accurate (even if it seems like everyone else is doing it), my own experience of anxiety and fear the last time we had the same results in 2016, and my top 5 tips for what you can do right now to keep yourself grounded and your head clear. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/bonus-calm-brain/
32:3408/11/2024
367. Leadership & Self Compassion: An Interview with Jerry Colonna
Do you ever feel like the more successful you become ... the worse you feel? Jerry Colonna, a venture-capital-guy-turned-Buddhist-executive-coach, found himself in that exact position - until he decided to do the hard work of confronting himself.In this episode, we discuss how practicing radical self-inquiry with compassion is essential for anyone who wants to lead - whether they're leading a company, a family, or just their own life. You'll learn why resolving conflicts mindfully is a critical skill -- as is embracing the messiness of being human.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/367
40:2907/11/2024
366. The Costs and Benefits of Standing Out: A Conversation with Deesha Dyer
How often do you feel like you’re concealing the “real” you? Do you struggle with being your authentic self, especially in challenging environments? “Authenticity” has become a very popular buzzword -- but what does it really mean? This week, I’m joined by Deesha Dyer, former White House Social Secretary and author of the book, "Undiplomatic: How My Attitude Created the Best Kind of Trouble". Deesha shares her incredible journey from going to community college at 29-years-old to working up the ranks in the Obama White House, and the challenges she faced along the way in staying true to herself. We discuss how to navigate being your authentic self in difficult environments - especially if you hold one or more marginalized identities - and the true costs and benefits of standing out.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/366
24:4531/10/2024
365. When to Choose Therapy v. Coaching
Are you having a tough time figuring out whether therapy or coaching is right for you? Both have their own benefits, but it can be overwhelming to figure out which one is the right fit. And let's be real - people are always trying to compare them and say one is better than the other (trust me, I've got thoughts on this). There's a lot to unpack here, and I'm diving into it all in this episode!This week, I break down the debate of therapy versus coaching and how these practices can actually work together to support your personal growth journey. I guide you through some essential questions to consider when deciding between therapy, coaching, or a mix of both. Plus, I reveal the one crucial factor to keep in mind when making your decision. So grab your headphones and let's dive in!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here:
28:1324/10/2024
Seth Godin: How to Be Strategic In Your Life
I'm sure there are plenty of you who saw the word "strategy" in this episode's title and thought, “I’m not a strategic thinker, so this won’t apply to me.” And I don't blame you -- social conditioning teaches women that we’re either workhorses, nice, or lucky, and that being strategic is beyond our capabilities. Well, today's conversation is here to challenge that conditioning.You've probably heard of Seth Godin - entrepreneur, marketing genius, and bestselling author. He joins me for this bonus episode to explore how you can use strategy to overcome the indoctrination systems that keep us oppressed. You’ll learn why you ARE a strategic thinker, and you’ll see all the areas of your life where you could choose to think more strategically with a long-term perspective, instead of looking for short-term comfort.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/seth-godin-bonus
33:5022/10/2024
364. The Efficiency Trap - And What to Aim For Instead
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I’ve got to get my shit together?" -- even if your life is... pretty together, given the circumstances? Even if you're the most productive woman on the planet, that nagging thought can still creep up—and it’s actually not about how organized or efficient you are. It's just a sign you've fallen into what I call the Efficiency Trap.This week, we uncover the real reasons behind the Efficiency Trap and how to redefine productivity in a way that aligns with your goals, priorities, and values. Let's break free from the endless to-do lists and find a path to productivity that truly matters.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/364
16:5417/10/2024
363. Raising Feminist Kids (and Raising Yourself!): A Conversation with Jo-Ann Finkelstein
How do the messages you received as a child impact the way you parent your own kids? What if we could raise the next generation to be more empowered, resilient, and free from limiting gender stereotypes? To explore these questions, I’m joined by clinical psychologist and author of the new book, Sexism & Sensibility: Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World, Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD.As an expert in feminist parenting, Dr. Finkelstein is here to illuminate how even the most well-intentioned and progressive of us unconsciously transmit harmful messages. Jo-Ann and I explore the importance of both validating girls’ experiences, and opening parents’ eyes to the ways we unintentionally shut down our daughters. Whether you're a parent or not, you do not want to miss this conversation!Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/363
29:0210/10/2024
362. Greatest Hits: Confidence, Happiness & Self-Safety
Have you ever thought about what a truly fulfilling life might look like to you? Not just a life that includes more fleeting moments of happiness -- but a life that's sustainably joyful, calm, and rewarding.Join me for this Greatest Hits episode to hear the difference between the emotion of happiness and big-picture happiness, the role of confidence and self-safety in achieving your wildest dreams, and how happiness, confidence, and self-safety work together in powerful ways. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/362
14:3003/10/2024
361. How to Be Decisive
How often do you feel like you don’t REALLY know what you want? Do you ever catch yourself waiting for someone more knowledgeable, responsible, or wise to either validate your choices or tell you it’s a bad idea? Join me this week to learn why so many women struggle with being decisive and how our socialization impacts the way we think about making decisions and taking risks. You’ll hear why there is so much value in embodying decisiveness, and my top tips for practicing self-coaching around your ability to become a decisive person. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/361
23:2926/09/2024
360. Self-Responsibility: The Cure
As you heard last week, women are constantly taking over-responsibility for everything and everyone in their lives- and it's exhausting. What if I told you there’s an antidote that doesn’t require isolating yourself in the woods or becoming a self-centered jerk? Well, you're in luck because in this episode, I explore the solution to over-responsibility: self-responsibility. You’ll learn why self-responsibility is the key to showing up in a way that’s supportive and aligned with your values, and how to begin letting go of the exhausting burden of over-responsibility. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/360
11:3619/09/2024
359. Over-Responsibility: The Spin
Society teaches women that we are responsible for everything – from our appearance to others’ emotions, and even outcomes beyond our control. This belief system leads to anxiety, guilt, and shame, creating a constant state of mental and emotional exhaustion – and it's time to put an end to it. Listen in as I break down how over-responsibility manifests in women’s lives, what happens when you subconsciously or consciously believe you’re responsible for everything and everyone, and the long-term consequences of staying stuck in over-responsibility. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/359
14:2212/09/2024
358. Why & How to Be Extraordinary (Yes I’m Talking to You)
As women, we’re taught not to think too highly of ourselves or to believe that we’re "special". Only a select few can be extraordinary, so why try, right? This insidious socialization convinces us to keep playing small- but I'm done shrinking myself, aren't you? In this episode, I share a why embracing your capacity to be extraordinary is key to creating the life you want, and how to step into your own unique version of an extraordinary life -- beyond what history has told us we're "allowed" to do. Let's go!Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/358
18:2405/09/2024
357. Using My Brain to Hit the Bestseller Lists
If you have a big, ambitious goal- whether it’s becoming a bestselling author or something else entirely- this week's episode is for you. When my book, Take Back Your Brain, hit the New York Times Bestseller list, most of the other books had been there for weeks, were written by authors with millions of social media followers, or both. So how did I get there? I'm pulling back the curtain this week and teaching you how to adopt the identity and habits you need to achieve whatever big, audacious goal you are working towards right now.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/357
21:1829/08/2024
356. My Feminist Wedding & Future Self
Are you tired of feeling like you have to follow a strict set of rules when it comes to planning your wedding? If so, you NEED to tune in this week. In this episode, I share how my husband and I created a feminist wedding experience that was authentic, meaningful, and joyful for us and our loved ones. You'll hear tips on how to incorporate feminist principles into every aspect of your wedding planning, from choosing vendors who align with your values to finding creative ways to honor loved ones without succumbing to traditional gender roles. It is so important to stay true to yourself when navigating any patriarchal tradition, and this episode is here to help you do just that!Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/356
33:3522/08/2024
355. The Role of Urges in Parenting & Being Parented
Parenting can be a real trip, right? We spend so much time telling our kids what to do and how to behave. But what happens when they grow up and don't need us to micromanage their lives anymore? It can be tough to let go of that control.Here's the thing - even as our kids are become more independent, our brains may still hold onto that urge to guide them. In this episode, I dive into why these urges exist and how they affect our relationships with our children and parents. So grab a cup of coffee or tea and let's go! Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/355
14:1215/08/2024
354. Greatest Hits with Mary's Cup of Tea: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit
As women, we're often placed in prefabricated boxes that come with their own roles and expectations -- also know as the virgin/mother/whore paradigm. But what if you don’t want to be stereotyped into these roles? Is it even possible to just stop giving a shit and live your life the way you want?In this re-release of one of my favorite interviews I've done in the last year, I sat down with top-rated self-love podcaster and author Mary Jelkovsky on her podcast, Mary’s Cup of Tea, to break down the sexist roles and expectations placed on women. We dive into the virgin-whore dichotomy and the maiden/mother/crone paradigm, explore the constantly shifting expectations women face (including a very spicy discussion about Botox), and discuss how to stop giving a shit about other people’s opinions. Hit play to listen now!Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/354
50:4808/08/2024
353. Is Anxiety Ever Useful?
Do you wish your anxiety would just -poof- disappear? Most people would give anything to get rid of their anxiety, but have you ever considered that it could actually be... somewhat useful, too?In this episode, I explore the idea that in some cases, anxiety can actually be a powerful motivator. I discuss when and how anxiety can be beneficial, the importance of understanding its root causes, and strategies for managing it effectively. If you’re unsure about whether anxiety is your enemy or your ally, click play and discover how to harness its energy without letting it overwhelm your life.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/353
21:4501/08/2024
352. Greatest Hits: Is It All My Fault? & Other Questions
There's one big question most people brush up against when they start learning about thought work: "Is everything my fault? These are MY Thoughts, after all!" The answer isn't as simple as it may seem, and I'm showing you why this week.Join me for this Greatest Hits episode where you'll expand your understanding of thought work, discover the flaws in coaching yourself through anger, and learn a crucial question to ask yourself if you tend to get caught up in other people's models. Now grab your headphones and let's dive in!Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/352
22:0125/07/2024
351. From the Horse’s Mouth - Real Stories
Are you waiting for something to magically change in your life? Or, would you rather take control and create the outcomes you want most? This week, I share four inspiring real-life stories from my students in The Feminist Self-Help Society. These women have embraced the tools and coaching offered within our community to transform their lives- and you can too! Tune in now to hear firsthand accounts of transformation and liberation, and discover why The Feminist Self-Help Society is the supportive community you've been looking for. We've got a special bonus available when you join this week - so come check us out at unfuckyourbrain.com/society!Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/351
18:3018/07/2024
350. Greatest Hits: How to Know When Emotional Difficulty Is Worth It
What if I told you that facing emotional difficulty head-on -- instead of numbing out, hiding from it, or trying to "positive-think" your way out of it -- could lead to incredible growth and opportunities? In this Greatest Hits episode, we dive into the concept of self-development not being easy, but oh so worth it. You'll discover how to develop discernment and self-trust, and learn when emotional difficulty is truly worth working through. Facing emotional growth may not be fun, but this week's episode will tell you why it can be one of the best things you'll do for yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/350
24:3911/07/2024
349. How to Stop Giving a F*ck What Other People Think
In celebration of Independence Day, I'm discussing one of the ultimate forms of independence - breaking free from caring about what others think. As social creatures, humans have evolved to rely on relationships for survival, making us sensitive to others' opinions. However, this conditioning is often even deeper for women and can impact every aspect of their lives, including their careers, relationships, self-worth, parenting, and so much more. If you want to stop obsessing over what others think and start living unapologetically, where do you begin?Join me as I dive into why women struggle with this issue and provide actionable steps to rewire your brain and liberate yourself from this mental burden.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/349
14:3704/07/2024
348. Greatest Hits: How to Know What You Want
Understanding what you want is key to creating a life you won’t regret when you die. So why do so many women struggle to pinpoint exactly what that is? If you can relate, in this Greatest Hits episode, I break exactly down what it means to want something (and why women especially might struggle to identify that), how to know what YOU truly want, and how to decide whether it's worth pursuing.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/348
21:3827/06/2024
347. Confidence, Happiness & Self-Safety
How do you know if you’re happy? Not just momentarily, but in the big picture sense of living the life you truly want with no regrets? Join me this week as I outline what big-picture happiness means, how it differs from the emotion of happiness, why creating big-picture happiness involves taking risks, and the roles confidence and self-safety play when it comes to going after what you want.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/347
12:5420/06/2024
346. Why Rest & Pleasure Can Be Hard - But Are Keys to Being Happy
Do you find it hard to relax if there’s still laundry to be done, or if someone’s mad at you? Most women do. The reality is that most of us find resting and feeling pleasure in general extremely challenging. But why?Join me for part two of our mini-series on happiness this week to learn why we find it hard to rest, relax, and enjoy ourselves, and why it’s critical that we learn how to. I’m showing you how our socialization has alienated us from our bodies, the conflicting definitions of happiness we’re fed as women, and the importance of learning how to be physically present. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/346
17:4013/06/2024
Feminist Dating Advice with Lily Womble
Can you be a feminist and still participate in finding a partner in today’s dating landscape? How can you allow yourself to want a partner while maintaining your independence and autonomy? These are some of the questions we address in this bonus episode with one of my favorite people ever, Lily Womble. Lily is a feminist dating coach and the founder and creator of Date Brazen, a feminist dating coaching program and movement that I really wish was around when I was dating. We discuss dating apps and why they are both useful tools and addiction-creating slot machines, how to navigate the dating world with your values and true desires at the forefront, and how to give yourself the radical permission you crave to go after what you want. Her new book "Thank you, More Please!: A feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules and finding love" is out today!Get full show notes, transcript, and links to Lily's work here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/bonus-lily-womble
44:1311/06/2024
345. What is Happiness?
If you identify as a feminist, you've probably heard the stereotypes: we're "angry", "too serious", and "can't take a (typically sexist) joke". While being a feminist does mean caring about serious issues, another crucial part of taking your brain back from the patriarchy is learning... how to be happy, too. But what does that even mean and how do we do it?! If the idea of being happy confuses you, or you're not even sure if you SHOULD be happy, click play because I'm breaking it all down in this episode.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/345
17:5706/06/2024
Kicking Patriarchy Out of Our Brains in the Workplace: A Conversation with Bonnie Hammer
In this episode I sit down with Bonnie Hammer, Vice Chairman of NBC Universal and author of the upcoming book, "15 Lies Women Are Told at Work and the Truth We Need to Succeed." And while I'm not normally impressed by people's job titles... with a book like that on the way? We obviously had to sit down for a chat. ;) Join me as we discuss Bonnie's remarkable career journey, from her early days cleaning up behind-the-scenes to leading major TV networks. We delve into the importance of mentorship, the lies women face in the workplace, and how to shatter those barriers. To join The Society, click here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/the-society/
29:1201/06/2024
344. Mentally Strong Women: An Interview with Amy Morin
Ever wonder if you're capable of having a world-changing idea? Or why so many women struggle with self-doubt and tend to downplay their successes? In this episode, I chat with Amy Morin, a psychotherapist and the author of the international best-seller 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do. Amy's personal journey through grief and loss led her to uncover the secrets to mental strength, and she's here to share her wisdom on building unshakeable confidence. We talk about the societal pressures that make women doubt themselves, explore fascinating research on how boys and girls are treated differently from a young age, and share some practical tips to help you stop self-doubt in its tracks and truly own your brilliance. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/344Order your copy today! Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head - and How to Get It Out: https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com
39:2430/05/2024
343. THE BOOK IS OUT TODAY! (And Why Accomplishments Can Feel Anticlimactic and That’s OK)
Drumroll, please! My book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head - and How to Get It Out, is finally here!Having my book out in the world is such a surreal experience. I’m incredibly proud of the work it took to write it, and get it out into readers' hands all over the planet (and, hopefully, your hands too)! But honestly, there have been some serious highs and not-so-highs with the whole process, and I’m diving into why in this episode.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/343Order your copy today! Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head - and How to Get It Out: https://www.takebackyourbrainbook.com
13:5223/05/2024
Radical Acceptance and Action (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 10)
Dive into the transformative world of Radical Acceptance and Action with me in this episode! We're not just talking theory; we're exploring how to apply these powerful practices in your everyday life. Plus, an exclusive announcement on the release of the Take Back Your Brain audiobook, narrated by yours truly. Whether you're a reader, a listener, or both, I share why this new format is a game-changer. And if that's not enough, when you purchase the audiobook, you'll get a FREE ticket to an immersive one-day virtual workshop in September where we'll go deeper into these concepts. Tune in to find out more and join the journey to connect with your feminist future self. Don't miss out —your radical transformation starts now! Get your copy of Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
09:2020/05/2024
342. Creating Your Feminist Future Self - and The Future World (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 8)
You’ve probably heard of the term ‘future self'... but what does it mean to become your future self? In this final episode of the Feminist Mindset Principles Series, you’re going to learn how to use the concepts and tools we’ve explored so far to become the future version of yourself, and how this evolution creates a better future for the world. I’ve come to see this process as creating my feminist future self, and I’m showing you how to start creating yours today!Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/342
16:5616/05/2024
How to Get Everything Done With Ease (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 9)
In this bonus episode, I'm dismantling the all-too-familiar cycle of overwhelm that seems to haunt us all. You know the one - where your plans to relax are foiled by a messy house, an overflowing inbox, and that nagging inner critic reminding you of all the ways you're supposedly falling short. It's a relentless loop that has us reaching for productivity as a measure of worth and leaves us feeling anything but accomplished. But, what if I told you it doesn't have to be this way? This episode not only dives deep into why this pattern occurs but also offers real, tangible solutions to break free. Listen in now for more!Order your copy of Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
10:0513/05/2024
341. What to Change Today to Change Your Actions Tomorrow (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 7)
How often do you vow to do better in the future, or dream of being different... and how often does that actually happen? Whether it’s a mistake at work, a fight with a loved one, or falling short on your personal goals, it’s tempting to promise yourself "You’ll get it right next time!" But, as you'll hear this week, you can’t just hope or promise to be different and expect it to magically happen. I’m showing you why we tend to jump to this place of delusion, and what you must change today if you want to take different actions in the future. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/341
14:3309/05/2024
Better Money Thoughts (TBYB Sneak Peak Ch 8)
In this bonus episode (and sneak peek of my new book!) we unwrap the often-unspoken complexities surrounding women and money. We'll take a deeper look at my own money story, the societal illusion that money is a domain reserved for men, the stigmatization of desire for wealth and a few thoughts to consider instead!This episode isn't just about reforming your money thoughts; it's a call to action for all women to seize control of their financial narratives, challenge the status quo, and redefine what it means to be successful, wealthy, and most importantly, at peace with money.Order your copy of Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
05:1906/05/2024
340. How to Change Your Brain & Beliefs (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 6)
Does it sometimes seem like your brain has 0 interest in letting go of the old beliefs that no longer serve you? Yep, been there too -- and it's all too common. But the good news is: With the right tools, you CAN change your brain and your beliefs. This skill is the Holy Grail of thought work and it can transform your whole life. However, it's not necessarily easy. So in this episode, I'm sharing the ONE crucial skill you must learn in order to successfully change your beliefs, and two massive brain blocks to look out for.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/340
17:3002/05/2024
How to Feel Calm & Sexy In Your Love Life! (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 7)
Have you ever heard of object-of-desire based arousal? It's a product of socialization that explains why we find it SO hard to feel turned on or sexy if someone isn't actively desiring us. In this episode, I explain this concept and give you a sneak peek of the rest of chapter 7 of my book- which is all about sex, dating, and romantic relationships. If you are struggling in dating or you're unhappy in a romantic relationship... you need to hear what I share in this episode. Let's go!Pre-order my book, Take Back Your Brain, here: http://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
05:1829/04/2024
339. How to Feel Better (Or At Least Less Bad) (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 5)
Ever find yourself caught in a whirlwind of negative emotions? One moment you're feeling hopelessly sad, and the next, you're steeped in embarrassment or grappling with relentless anxiety. We've all been there! So in today’s episode, I’m going to lift the lid on why this happens and how you can nudge the intensity of these emotions down a notch — making them much more manageable. Tune in this week to start your journey towards feeling better... or at least, less bad. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/339
23:2725/04/2024
Perfectionism & Validation (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 6)
In this mini episode, we're taking a sneak peek at Chapter Six of my upcoming book, Take Back Your Brain: How a Sexist Society Gets in Your Head... and How to Get it Out. It's a chapter close to my heart, as it dives deep into the fascinating world of perfectionism and validation, revealing why our brains are so hooked on the approval of others and how this cycle impacts our self-esteem. If you've ever found yourself yearning for someone's approval only to question it moments later? This episode is for you. And don't forget to preorder your copy of the book -- and grab some fantastic bonuses in the bargain -- at https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
08:5022/04/2024
338. Why It Doesn’t Matter If Your Thoughts Are True (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 4)
Have you ever paused and asked yourself if everything you think is... even actually true? That’s exactly what we're tackling in this week's episode, where we'll discuss whether you can ever objectively prove whether a given thought of yours is fact or fiction -- and whether it even matters. This realization is a stone cold game-changer. Listen in to hear why.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/338
15:5318/04/2024
Your Body Manifesto (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 5)
If you've ever found yourself in a silent war with your body, or comparing yourself to everyone around you as soon as you walk into a room -- trust me, you're not the only one. But, here's a thought: what if it's not about changing what's on your plate, but rather rethinking how we consume these pervasive cultural stories that mess with our heads? In today's episode, we're going to chat about a chapter from my book that's all about how our patriarchal society shapes the way we see our bodies -- and how to reclaim our bodies as ours and ours alone, and appreciate them for the incredible vessels of life they truly are.Pre-order Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
09:3516/04/2024
337. Three Keys to Changing Your Thoughts (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 3)
Behind the door of self-coaching lies an entirely new version of you and your life... but there are three keys required to unlock that door. Almost every time I coach someone, they're missing one, two, or all three of these keys -- and it's blocking them from the transformation they want. Today, I'll teach you exactly what the keys are, which one you might be missing, and what to do next. Let's go!Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/337
21:1911/04/2024
How to Change Bad Habits (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 3-4)
In this bonus episode, we delve into the common struggle of changing bad habits and behaviors. Kara shares her personal experience of feeling stuck in a cycle of vowing to be different but not knowing how, until she discovered the key to breaking free. Learn how understanding the impact of our thoughts on our behavior is the first step to creating lasting change. Plus, discover the disappearing bonus of the week in this limited mini-series! Pre-order Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
08:1808/04/2024
336. Self-Help When the World is Burning (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 2)
You know how it kind of feels like everything is going wrong with the world at once right now? There’s war, climate concerns, an upcoming election, and more. Staying on top of the news is so stressful but ignoring it doesn’t seem like an option either. It’s exhausting and demoralizing and it’s a lot for our brains to handle. But don't worry, I've got you. This episode is going to help you solve this conundrum and figure out how to stay informed and realistic without just bottoming out in despair.Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/336
27:3104/04/2024
Three Ways to Handle Negative Emotion (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 2)
If you've ever felt like you're at the mercy of your negative emotions... you're not alone. And in a world of self-help advice that insists you should "Feel your feelings!", what are you supposed to do when those feelings become overwhelming, and you just want them gone? In this second episode of my new limited series, allow me to introduce you to the three Rs of emotions, and offer you three different ways of handling those negative feelings when they pop up (along with a sneak peek of my upcoming book, Take Back Your Brain!)Pre-order Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
11:4601/04/2024
335. Self-Help Without Patriarchy (Feminist Mindset Principles Series Ep 1)
Have you ever felt embarrassed about perusing the self-help section of a bookstore or reading a self-help book out in public? Maybe you wonder whether trying to fix yourself is just the patriarchy at play in your brain. Do you even need to ‘fix’ yourself to begin with? To explore the answers to these questions, this episode is the first in a 10-part series aimed at getting us all on the same page about the foundation of feminist thought work. Listen in to hear the difference between sexist self-help and feminist self-help, and how one is deeply harmful while the other frees you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/335
15:4228/03/2024
Intersectionality, Abuse & Victim Blaming (TBYB Sneak Peek Ch 1)
Have you ever worried that thought work might be helping you get comfortable with bad circumstances? Do you wonder if the idea that we're responsible for our circumstances is a form of gaslighting or victim blaming yourself or someone else? Does the thought ever pop into your mind "Thought work is for privileged people without real problems"? Tune in to today's very special episode for more on this, a sneak peek of my forthcoming book and updates on a very special bonus if you pre-order this week!Pre-order Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
09:3425/03/2024
A Different Life Through Self-Compassion
If you catch yourself worrying “Am I a bad person for thinking that?”, or carrying “Wtf is wrong with me!” guilt for the way you feel about something, congratulations: you’re a perfectly normal human. However, this level of concern about the moral value of your thoughts is unnecessary, and a little misguided! In this episode, I’ll read an excerpt from my new book, and talk about the importance of curious self-compassion (instead of self-judgment), and extending love to yourself in those moments. There's a better life waiting right next to you – you just have to believe it’s possible to see it. Pre-order Take Back Your Brain here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/book
12:1822/03/2024