Transformation Tip: “We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are or as we are conditioned to see it” - Gabor MatéEvery action is rooted in the thought that produced it Your worldview is the collection of your attitudes, values, stories, expectations, etc. You don't often think about what is truly shaping your decisions, but your worldview is impacting how you see and respond to situations every single day. Factors that shape worldview: EnvironmentParents Culture EducationSpiritual/Moral PrinciplesTransformation Application: Think of a topic you have a strong opinion about or affiliation with and then ask yourself “What or who shaped that belief or affinity towards that thought”? Trace it backward and recognize if that root is healthy or unhealthy. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “It ain’t what you know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” - Mark TwainIt is essential to keep growing as a leader and as a mature adultAlvin Toffler said: The illiterate of the future are not those who can’t read or write but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. What to do with your old thinking when confronted with new evidence: Scrap it Edit it Augment it Create a new category Transformation Application: Is there an old mindset that isn’t serving you well? Take time to articulate it and ask yourself if you should scrap, edit, augment, or create a new category. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “It is an acknowledged fact we perceive errors in the work of others more readily than in our own”  - Leonardo DaVinci The more we understand how our brains are wired, the better decisions we can make. 3 Types of Cognitive Bias: Anchoring Effect - influenced heavily by the first piece of information you’ve received about somethingNot taught, but caught Confirmation Bias - favoring information that conforms to your existing beliefs and discounting information that doesn’t.Hardwired into your brain Affinity Bias - unfair favoring towards your own group, tolerating errors, and making excuses for our “in-group”Transformation Application: Be aware of the information you receive, stop, and ask if you have an anchoring effect. What do you truly believe? Are there people you are continuously judging?  Be careful about labeling and aware of bias.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “We judge ourselves by our intentions and we judge others by their actions.”Mindsets: Don't react with fight or flight. Face it. Don't let things fester. Practical Tips: Practice relational hygiene Grow in emotional intelligence Be curiousOwn your emotions Strike three process Weigh the consequences When you get a resolution, it can become a coaching moment Transformation Application: Information + application = transformation. If you’ve been stewing on a conflict choose to address it. Start the conversion with curiosity, not anger. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Whether we realize it or not, many of us have inner conflicts that affect our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode, Steve and Pete offer practical tips for putting relational conflict behind you to find full freedom.  Transformation Tip: If you own this story, you get to write the ending. Roots of conflict that cause us to get off track Involuntary: what people have done to cause conflict to youVoluntary: what you have done to cause conflict to othersHow to bring ourselves back into alignment:Involuntary ForgivenessVoluntary Taking responsibility ForgivenessAccepting yourself Pete’s Poem: “Should” When I take stock of who I am and see that things are good. A thief comes in to steal my joy accusing me, “but you should”. You should be more productive. Your body should be slim. That guy right there is so well-liked. You should be more like him.So now there's a rubbly where my esteem once stood, knocked down with cruel intention by the wrecking ball of should. “How dare you be contented! Your best will never do.”“Try harder still”. His voice demands, “become a different you”.I get back on the hamster wheel determined to improve but hear him say to my dismay, “the finish line has moved”.Then in a time of clarity, I see I have a choice. I can choose to tune him out and hear a different voice. I hear I am accepted. I hear I am enough. And where I lack, God’s got my back, I'm covered by his love. I'll celebrate my talents working hard at what I do. I'm doing fine with my design my limitations too. I don't do super exploits. Sometimes I wish I could, but I accept me as I am. I've had enough of should.Transformation Application: Write your list and complete the forgiveness exercise discussed in the podcast. If you need more guidance on this topic or want to dive deeper, go  buy Steve's book “Free to be Me” :) Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: Everywhere you go, there you are. How do I know I have inner conflict?Lacking motivation Can’t stop thinking about it Self-doubt Short temperWhat causes inner conflict?OffenseAngerRejectionFailure Disappointment Questions to help you identify the cause of your inner conflict: When did these feelings start? Are you seeing any repeated patterns?What was the message about yourself that was being sent to you?Transformation Application: Take your situation and see if you can identify the source of conflict. What did that situation speak to your value and your security?Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Greg Wallace joins the show to talk about resolving cultural conflicts and diffusing stereotypes.  Greg has been a labor and employment lawyer, an executive at a Fortune 500 company, a ministry leader, a consultant to non-profits, an author, an adjunct professor, and an academic dean. He’s now president of The Wallace Group, a firm focused on developing leaders and aligning their organizations. Transformation Tip:  “Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.” – Stephen CoveyTransformation Application: Take time to greet someone who you normally don't. (Example: cashier, neighbor, someone at work, etc.)  Get in touch with Greg! The Wallace Group: thewallacegroup.orgEmail: [email protected] On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip:  Action begets clarity Ask yourself these questions to help you start moving forward:What do I need to let go of? What do I want to see happen? Envision it!  What do I need to accomplish this goal?Work out a simple planIt doesn’t always have to be a leap. Focus on a single step forward! 4 practical questions to journal: What are you doing that you need to stop doing? What needs to be eliminated What goals can you give up on What do you need to keep?A good routine Something that is serving you well Where are you finding joy and thriving?What do I need to adjust? Doesn’t need to be cut out but needs to be tweaked What do I need to add? What will help me reach these goals? Transformation Application: Commit to giving yourself time to disconnect. Map out the changes you want to see (the question prompts that were given above). Go try it out!Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Learning to weed out bad habits and exchanging them for good habits can bring incredible transformation to your life. This episode will equip you with practical tools to develop good habit creation patterns and tackle the ones that are bringing you down.Transformation Tip: “There is no elevator to success, you have to take the stairs.” - Zig ZiglarCreating good habits:Obvious and tangible; something within reach Small steps, don’t leapThe more shortcuts you take the longer it takesVictory and maturity happen in the journeyWhat activates the habit? Learn to manage your triggers. You can make a trigger work for you by associating it with something that already occurs, then replacing the bad habit with a good one. We are bound to stumble during our habit-breaking process. Just because you slip up doesn’t put you back to zero.Practical steps for breaking bad habits: Make a planOnly try to tackle one habit at a time Add some accountability What will you do if you relapse? (plan for it!) Transformation application: Stress can be directly related to bad habits. What are the things causing you stress right now? What can you do to deal with that stress and put yourself in a position to replace bad habits with good ones? Remember, you are more powerful than you think. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Why do we often find it much easier to extend grace to our loved ones than to ourselves? Unfortunately, many of us condemn ourselves for failures, rather than exercising self-compassion. This episode will teach you practical ways to root out negative self-talk and find grace and compassion for yourself through your mistakes and imperfections.Transformation Tip: “Talk to yourself like someone you love.” - Brene BrownSelf-compassion results in resilience - it keeps your mental state healthy when dealing with difficult situationsThree components of self-compassion:Be kind to yourself Common humanity (everyone makes mistakes)Mindfulness Ways to show yourself compassion:Root out negative self-talk Awareness of negative thought patterns When you get 20/20 hindsight - where does it take you?Failure = “I just learned something”Everyone makes mistakes You are human!Failure is where you learn (growth mindset)Mindfulness Embracing where you areExcepting your experience just the way it isCare for yourself in your present moment Transformation Application: Think about one negative narrative that often goes through your mind. Imagine what you normally tell yourself and then change that statement into a statement that has grace and compassion. Write it down and practice using the new statement.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Disappointment is a natural part of life. It can also be a powerful force that keeps us stuck or paralyzed. In this episode, learn to deal with your disappointment in a healthy way so you can move forward and come out on the other side better than before. Transformation Tip: You can’t be disillusioned unless you were believing an illusion to begin with.Dealing with disappointment does not mean burying it or ignoring itTime can only heal disappointment if you truly face it and deal with itWays to deal with disappointment:Let it out Don't contain it - you need to feel it Find a therapist or a trusted friend to vent to Journal about itGain perspective Find a trusted outside perspectiveWere your expectations too high?Separate your desire from the object of your desireRecenter yourself Don’t let disappointment define you - let it refine youRemind yourself who you are Live in the presentDisappointments of the past do not have to define who you are in the presentAllow disappointments to become learning experiences (growth mindset)Allow yourself the ability to start overTransformation Application: If you’re holding on to a disappointment, find time to let it out or gain a new perspective by talking to someone. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Can you think of a moment that you wish you could go back to and respond differently? Learning how to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally is key to developing your emotional intelligence. This episode gives you practical tools to better manage your emotions moving forward.  Transformation Tip: “Feelings are like kids. You don't want them driving the car, but you don't want to stuff them in the trunk, either.” - Abby Stumbal  How to manage your emotions: Count to 10 - make a better word choice Sleep on it - allow yourself to reset Burn off the adrenaline - exerciseBe quick to let it go - the longer you hold on the more it will affect you Be humble - take ownership of the part you played in the situation. Humility always disarms conflict.Pay attention to your self-talk - avoid using words like always and neverGet it out of your head - write it out or talk it out (with safe people)Ask someone to help you with performance coaching Maintain good sleep hygiene - when you’re rested your ability to respond vs. react is much better. Transformation Application: Pick one of the tips we gave you and use it this week. The easiest one to try is counting to 10 - give it a shot! Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Old mindsets can keep us stagnant and stressed. In this episode, Steve and Pete discuss four ways to evolve old mindsets to bring maturity, growth, and success to your current endeavors.Transformation Tip: “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change” - Albert Einstein Staying stuck in old mindsets will stunt your growth We tend to be unwilling to change because we know we have to put work into it If we look at our past as a launching pad it can be less intimidating because we are not starting over, but continuing the journey into something newWays to evolve your old mindsets:End itUpgrade it Scale it Pivot Transformation Application: Take a look at your life -  is there something you have been doing or thinking that simply is not working for you anymore? Look at the four options we went over and try one!Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

We all have weaknesses and limitations. Learning to embrace them helps us to focus on our strengths and improve our emotional intelligence and growth trajectory. This episode reminds you that you don’t have to be good at everything, but simply be the best version of yourself.Transformation Tip: To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; and to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength - Criss JamiWhat will happen if you don't embrace your limitations?Tendency to see your limitations as a source of shameYou feel like you have to perform your way out of themYou will not love yourself for who you are you will become way too self-reliantIf you don’t embrace your limitations, you limit the people around youOptions on how to handle your limitationsDon’t do it Try harderBorrow someone else’s strength Leverage one of your strengths to supplement your weaknessTransformation Application: Identify one limitation that you have, and embrace it. Tell yourself that it's okay to have that limitation. For extra credit - go tell someone else!Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Each of us is designed with a unique purpose and talents. When we are not working within our design we can get frustrated and burnt out. Oftentimes, this is caused by simply being unaware of our strengths and weaknesses. In this episode, gain practical tools to help you identify the areas where you thrive as well as potential blind spots that may be holding you back. It’s time to align with your design!Transformation Tip: “Don’t compromise yourself - you’re all you have” - John GrishamHow to Align With Your Design:Ask people who know you - We are our own worst counselors. When we allow people we trust to speak about our strengths and blindspots it brings clarity to our purpose.Ask your history - Reflect on past accomplishments. What was a time when you felt completely alive and in your zone? What were you doing? What was the setting? What was the verb/action?Ask science - Use an online tool such as StrengthsFinder, Myers Briggs, Hermann Brain Institute, etc. to learn more about your strengths, weaknesses, and unique design. Ask your faith - How was I designed? What is my purpose? Who was I created to be?Transformation Application: Ask people you know to identify blindspots in your life. Go to https://www.petecoaching.com/blindspot for a guided tool to help you apply this exercise.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Self-awareness should not be viewed as selfish or self-centeredness. Self-awareness helps you bring out the best version of yourself. Taking the time to reflect and grow in our areas of weakness allows us to improve our relationships, our confidence, and our lives! Transformation Tip: Know Thyself. Self-awareness is NOT:Self-centerednessSelfishAbout focusing on your flaws, but the greatness that you carry Benefits of self-awareness: Improves your relationshipsImproves your confidenceAllows you to become a better person Enables you to be who you are!Clues that you need to become more self-aware BlamingVictim mentality Space invadersPeople are unaware of your boundaries Attention seeking If you feel rejected you try extra hard to be exceptedInterrupting Transformation Application: Rate your self-awareness on a scale of 1-10. Next, find someone who is close to you and ask them to rate your self-awareness on a scale of 1-10. Is there a difference? If there is, it’s time to do some deep reflection. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Many people find themselves stuck in difficult situations because of their need to please everyone around them. People-pleasing can be exhausting and overwhelming. This episode will help you identify the causes and effects of this habit and teach you how to establish healthy boundaries for yourself. Transformation Tip:  “I can’t tell you the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone” - Ed SheeranSymptoms of people-pleasing:You find it really hard to say no  You feel responsible for everyone’s happinessYou feel governed by guilt You feel a sense of over responsibilityYou avoid relational conflictNegative effects of people-pleasing: Every time you people please you lose a sense of your personal boundariesPeople begin to assume that you can do and will do anythingYou become spread too thin and then you cannot do things to the best of your ability which causes people to become upset with you Manipulative and abusive people will be drawn to and take advantage of youCauses of people-pleasing:The need for validation causes you to chase opportunities to please peopleFear of rejectionFear of being incapable (needing to prove you can do something)How to overcome people-pleasing:Recognize your triggersStart saying noNo is a complete sentenceYou will face resistance Be ready to stand your ground Transformation Application: Say ‘no’ to something this week. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

A big key to becoming more self-aware is identifying blindspots. Blindspots are aspects of ourselves that we have not been aware of or not fully known. In this episode learn practical ways to discover both your positive and negative blindspots to help you develop your EQ and put the best version of yourself forward. Transformation Tip: How do you know when you’ve been deceived? You don’t. How to discover your blind spots:Ask people for feedback - you cannot see your own blindspots so ask someone who can!Use assessments - are there disparities in the results and what you believe to be true about yourself? Are you upset by the results? Maybe this is revealing something you didn’t know about yourself. Consider your strengths - our blindspots can be found in the shadows of our biggest strengths. We can become too comfortable with our strengths and come across in a negative way or we can overuse our strengths. Transformation Application: Take some time to reflect on potential blind spots. Think back to a situation that didn’t go well for you. What was happening? How did you behave? What feelings did you have?Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Once you've identified patterns of rejection in your life, it's important to know what to do next! In this episode, Steve and Pete give practical tips on how to overcome rejection and move into a place of acceptance and freedom. Transformation Tip: "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it." -- Charles R. SwindollBreaking out of the rejection cycle is crucial for moving into acceptance. Three C's for breaking rejection: Conviction to make the changeCourage to make the change Consist in making the changeTransformation Tip: Make the three lists that Steve highlighted in the episode, and begin to work on forgiving yourself, forgiving others, and celebrating who you are! Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: "In life, I have met two types of people: the rejected and the super rejected." -- Derek PrinceRejection is painful. Rejection is when you feel devalued and begin to doubt your worth. You are the one who gets to choose whether you agree with the rejection or reject it. Three types of rejection: self-rejectionself-protectionrejecting othersFear of rejection leads to self-protection which leads to more rejection. Transformation Application: Recognize and observe where rejection might be rooted in your life.  If you can,  see which category it fits in: self-rejection, self-protection, or rejecting others. Remember to be kind to yourself! Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Do you find yourself constantly looking for external validation and approval? This episode is for you. Learning to approve of yourself (flaws and all!) is key to being able to live in a place of freedom and bring the best out of those around you. Transformation Tip: A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval - Mark Twain If you keep finding yourself in the approval trap, it is an indication that you are having a problem fully loving and accepting yourself. Examples of the approval trap: Name DroppingFishing for complimentsTransformation Application: Answer these 3 questions. 1) Do you approve of yourself? 2) Why or why not? 3) If you don't, what will it take until you do? Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: "Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are." - Kurt CobainA healthy identity is essential to fulfilling purpose, finding peace, and developing healthy relationships. If you don't know your value, you will spend your life trying to find it.Knowing who you are and loving who you are is essential for peace and security in your identity. Are you living from identity or for identity? Transformation Application: Go get the book! Purchase The Free To Be Me Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C6P2S84Y/ref=nodl_?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_dp_MQ2354040DH5GMDYZWNX&dplnkId=d72b60e8-7e4d-45eb-8e7d-66407c5c8f84Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

HollyKem Sunseri joins the show to talk about how to identify your inner voices to find your true self. Transformation Talk:  “Don't believe everything you hear - even in your own mind.”— Daniel AmenWe all have three inner voices: wounded selfprotective selftrue self When you are feeling anxious or if you impulsively negatively react to something, ask yourself: which voice was that? Dig a little deeper to see if there is a wound there or if your actions were triggered by your protective voice. Transformation Application: The next time you feel anxious this week, try and identify which voice is speaking and then try to hear what your true self is saying. Get connected with HollyKem! https://www.ihaveavoice.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@IHaveAVoice1212A Roadmap to the Soul: A Practical Guide to Love, Compassion and Inner Peace: https://www.amazon.com/Roadmap-Soul-Practical-Guide-Compassion-ebook/dp/B01MTFLG3H/ref=sr_1_2Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

In part 2 of our series on addictive behaviors, Steve and Pete provide a practical process for getting to the root of addictive behaviors and how to overcome them. Transformation Tip: “Asking for help is never a sign of weakness. It’s one of the bravest things you can do. And it can save your life.”Addictive Behaviors are most commonly triggered when you are: lonelywoundedoverwhelmedTransformation Application: Start noticing your triggers and begin logging them. Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Most people associate the word addiction with an extreme such as substance abuse,  but the reality is, most of us have addictive behaviors that we operate in often. In this episode,  Steve and Pete start a new series on resolving inner conflicts to unpack the root cause of addiction and how to begin the process of stopping it. Transformation Tip: "Breaking addiction unlocks the power to create a brighter future."Shame and guilt are often underlying keys to identifying causes of addictionAddictive behavior is used to comfort, escape, or reward Transformation Application: Identify the trigger that is causing you to comfort, escape, or reward. Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Being a mentor means inspiring others to discover their own wisdom, not just imparting yours.”We make an assumption that talent is enough. People need development. Key qualities of the type of person you should invest in or develop: HungryHumbleTransparent/vulnerableTeachable Do they want to learn Willing to change/flexibleYou can't want someone to change more than they want to change.  Every great mentoring relationship is a partnership. If it is one way, it will not work. Transformation Application: Think about the people in your life who you are responsible for developing. If someone is not reaching their full potential, ask yourself: Have I taken the time to actually develop them?Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Behind every successful person, there is a mentor who believed in them before they believed in themselves.” What does a good mentor look like?Good listenerNot judgmental  Brings clarityYou feel connected to them Helps you find a pathway to success A mentor is not responsible for your growth. You are responsible for applying the wisdom that your mentor provides. Respect your mentor Value their time Show gratitudeTransformation Application: If you don't have a mentor, make a list of 3 people who you might like to mentor you and then approach them. If you have a mentor, think of a way that you can show them appreciation this week.Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Efficiency is doing things right, effectiveness is doing the right things.” - Peter DruckerEfficient  - achieving maximum productivity with minimum waste of effort and expenseManagement focusedEffective - being successful in producing a desired result Leadership focused With efficiency and effectiveness, one is not better than the other, it is knowing when to use each one.Efficient - take your ideas and assert them Get your team on board with your idea by forcing it Effective - collaborate Slow down so everyone is on board You need other people to round out your ideas Transformation Application:  Ask yourself “What tasks could I allow others to do that I have been doing myself? Put it into action and teach others how to do those tasks!Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

John F Kennedy once said 'Leadership and learning are indispensable to one another.' In this episode, Steve continues his conversation with Chuck Proudfit on key developmental areas within every leader.  Transformation Tip: Leadership and learning are indispensable to one another - John F KennedyLions Lead Competencies Continued Leadership essentials Leadership presence Purpose directed Boldness Perseverance Transparency Getting things done StrategicCreativity Achievement Organized Applying judgment Leading other people Ability to be a gameplayerBuilding trust Attentiveness Building relationships Empowers others Composure Reasoning Analytical thinking Vigilance Resilience TensionLions Lead is a powerful tool for developing leaders. If you're interested in taking the LionsLead assessment, email Chuck Proudfit: [email protected]:https://skillsource.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/https://www.lionslead.com/Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Leaders are made not born. Some of us may be better leaders than others, but all of us have the capacity to lead. Even if we are only leading our own lives or family members, our ability to learn and grow in our leadership gifting is extremely impactful to the people we are responsible for.References:https://skillsource.com/https://www.lionslead.com/Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

When you live for significance rather than success you will begin to make a greater impact on the environments around you.  The shift comes from focusing on who you are rather than what you do. Transformation Tip: “Great leaders don't just focus on getting results, they focus on getting great people who get results. When you invest in people they will invest in your vision.” - Simon SinekBuilding blocks of leadership continued: Block 3: Production Focus on results If you want people to be productive you have to lead by exampleDownfalls:Not giving clear expectationsNeed to monitor these goalsBlock 4: People Development Pouring into people to help them growHow can you impact the lives of the people that you are leading?Prepare and equip them to make it on their ownBlock 5: Pinnacle Highest level of leadershipYou are an example to other leadersLive for significance, not success This process is a journey (usually a lifetime!)N  Transformation Application: Envision yourself as a stage 5 leader at the pinnacle of your life’s influence, what does that look like? Who are you influencing? What kind of legacy do you want to lead? What do you want to be known for? Then, ask yourself: what adjustment do you need to start making now that will help you get there? References: 5 Levels of Leadership - John Maxwell Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Transformation Tip: “Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flow charts. It is about one life influencing another.” - John MaxwellLeadership is needed in every aspect of lifeLeadership is a progression and requires the right foundation The foundational building blocks of leadership:Block 1: Position Having the right to lead Authority comes from position Focus: maintain control and enforce rulesGreat leaders do not have to use their position to get things done You cannot tolerate toxic behavior Using position should be the last resort, not the first  Block 2: Permission Using relationships to build trust (don’t fall into people pleasing) Creating a positive environment where people want to listen to you Thanking, and showing appreciation to team members You need to have position before you have permission “Not everyone is going to like you, but you do need to be likable” Transformation Application: Reflect on situations where you have not set the right boundaries, think about how you can establish them through your connection.Go back to our previous podcasts on boundaries and people-pleasing to give you insight on this topic! References: 5 Levels of Leadership - John Maxwell Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Motivation is not the same as inspiration. It's important to learn what motivates us so that when inspiration leaves we can keep moving forward. In this episode, Steve and Pete share 5 different types of motivators to help you ignite self-motivation in your life. Transformation Tip: “If you can dream it, you can do it.” - Walt DisneyMotivation is not the same as inspiration. What will sustain you when inspiration leaves? You are responsible for your own motivation.Different Types of Motives Rewards Freedom/AgencyMeaningful Relationships Learning and GrowingBeing In your lane Transformation Application: Make a list of things you enjoy that you can use as rewards to motivate you. Make a list of people you would like to connect with that can stimulate growth or motivation in you.Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Before you can manage others, you must learn how to manage yourself. This episode provides practical tips for living with daily intentionality, getting organized, and finding balance so you can direct your life rather than letting life direct you. Transformation Tip: “There is no such thing as time management, only self-management.” - Rory Vaden Practicing Self-ManagementBe intentional and direct your life rather than letting life dictate you Tips on intentionality Goal setting What are you going after?“Start with the end in mind” Plan on how to reach your goal Start the day right Take a moment to be still and breatheSee what you want to accomplish on that dayCreate margins or breaks in between tasks during the day Getting organized Free up space in your day Write things down!Take care of your healthPhysical Mental Transformation Application: This week start each day by giving yourself 10 minutes to be still and envision what you want to accomplish. Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Many people are overly focused on external leadership, but fail to realize the importance of self-leadership as a means to becoming a better leader to others. In this episode, Steve and Pete give practical tips for creating healthy self-awareness and developing the leader within each us.  Transformation Tip: “Everything rises and falls on leadership” - John C. MaxwellAs soon as you notice something off, try to process it right when it happens You can never bury your problems dead, they will always resurrect Taking care and paying attention to yourself is important!Stop and take stock of where you are. Establish rhythms where you reflect on what happened in your weekListen to those around you Learn to articulate what you are feeling when an issue arise within you. Ask yourself: “What or who is causing this situation?” Ask yourself: “Why is it impacting me?”Ask yourself: “How have I been handling this?”Ask yourself: “What character traits need to be developed?”Transformation Application: Start a journal. Try for 3x a week. Review your day and start developing self awareness for yourself. Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Your story is powerful! When you allow yourself to be vulnerable and share the challenges and victories you have experienced, it can give inspiration and hope to others going through similar situations. In this episode, learn how to use your story to impact others for good. Transformation Tip: “Your heartache is someone else's hope. If you make it through, somebody else is going to make it through. Tell your story.” -- Kim McManusGaining perspective on our past helps us to move confidently into our future Transformation Application: Find someone and ask them to share their story. Ask them about their background or what their childhood was like. Focus on listening and understanding. Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Your story can help you grow and mature if you choose to let it! When you look back on the  journey of your life, it can reveal strengths, weaknesses, identity, and purpose.  In this episode, Steve interviews Pete on his journey to becoming an executive coach and shares  tips for analyzing your own story to find where you thrive. Transformation Tip: “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you” - Maya Angelou Our stories mature us (if we let them) When you reflect on your story you can determine strengths, weaknesses, identity shaping moments, and purpose. Your story gives you clues to where you will find joy and thrive in life. Transformation Application: Map out your life and focus on significant/pivotal moments. What are your strengths?  What are your weakenesses? What opportunities can come from the challenges you have endured? Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedInPete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Sometimes all you need is a little momentum. In this episode, Steve and Pete discuss procrastination instigators such as overwhelm and perfectionism and share more practical tips on how to get over the hump and get activated! Transformation Tip: mile by mile, life is a trial. Inch by inch life is a cinch.Breaking projects down from macro to micro can help you to complete them instead of being overwhelmed  When there is too much on your plate you lose the ability to prioritize and make effective and efficient decisionsIf you have a task and you’re procrastinating, break that task down Perfectionism can trigger procrastination Something not quite perfect is better than nothing perfectCatastrophizing Say out loud the worst possible outcome and hear how ridiculous it sounds. Then get moving! Procrastination tips for projects or tasks you don’t enjoy: Cluster unpleasant classPick a time to do all of your least favorite tasks and get them all done at once Do the hardest thing firstGet it out of the way Delegate Get a virtual assistant Use employees to help Collaborating Work togetherWork in the same environment as someone for accountabilityJust don't do it Sometimes it makes sense to give it up (Not always!)Transformation Application: Take the three lines concept discussed in the episode and apply it to a task or project in your life. Set dates for when you want to start the task, finish the task, and a progress deadline in between to help you through it. Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Let's be honest, sometimes procrastinating feels good! In the moment, pushing something off until later is a great feeling, but the feeling that comes later is often one of stress and anxiety. In this episode, Steve and Pete talk about the underlying causes of procrastination and practical solutions to apply in your life. Transformation Tip: A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single stepProcrastination becomes nature and a force of habitCauses of procrastinationFear of failure Low self-esteem Immediate gratificationDistraction Instead of looking at what you want to change, look at who you want to be Transformation Application: If the fear of failure is pushing you into procrastination, look at the fear and think about the benefits of facing it and how it might impact you in a positive way. Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Old mindsets can keep us stagnant and stressed. In this episode, Steve and Pete discuss four ways to evolve old mindsets to bring maturity, growth, and success to your current endeavors. Transformation Tip: “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change” - Albert Einstein Staying stuck in old mindsets will stunt your growth We tend to be unwilling to change because we know we have to put work into it If we look at our past as a launching pad it can be less intimidating because we are not starting over, but continuing the journey into something newWays to evolve your old mindsets:End itUpgrade it Scale it Pivot Transformation Application: Take a look at your life -  is there something you have been doing or thinking that simply is not working for you anymore? Look at the four options we went over and try one! Connect On Social:Podcast Facebook PageSteve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

It’s the season of giving! If you take a minute to stop and look around, you will see many opportunities to be generous and meet the needs of those around you. In the final episode of season 2, Steve and Pete provide tips and encouragement for looking outside of yourself and being a blessing this holiday season. Transformation Tip: “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” - Pablo Picasso Engagement steps: Blessing If you know your value, you add value.By feeding into others’ needs, your needs ultimately get met.ConnectionMust build trust The key to building trust is being authentic How can I be there for others?Meeting someone's felt needs Their felt need is from their perspectiveIf you don't meet the need in short term then you won't be able to meet the long-term needsDifferent types of needs:Relational Motivational Material Spiritual Transformation Application: Go meet a felt needCoaching Resources:http://www.stevechuaintl.comhttp://www.petecoaching.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/ Connect On Social:Steve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Conflict in today's culture leads to polarization, hatred, and hurt. Learning how to navigate conflict instead of running from it will help you to grow and improve your relational, intellectual, and emotional depth. In this episode learn practical tips to help you work through issues of conflict in your own life. Transformation Tip: “An eye for an eye ends up making the whole world blind” - Mohandas Karamchand GandhiLearn how to navigate conflict instead of running from it. How do we grow through issues of conflict?What you miss out on when you don't deal with conflict:Relational depth Intellectual depth Emotional Depth Do to others as you would have them do to you.Rather than judge and accuse someone, start by asking for clarity and context:“Am I hearing you correctly when you say..”“This is how I experienced what you said..”Transformation application: Is there someone you are avoiding? Apply some tips from this episode and try and confront them. In the future try to do this early and often! Coaching Resources:http://www.stevechuaintl.comhttp://www.petecoaching.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/ Connect On Social:Steve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Receiving feedback is not something most people enjoy, but it is a necessary skill to learn. Embracing feedback can help you grow and develop into the best version of yourself. This episode provides practical tips to help you receive feedback in a mature and positive way. Transformation Tip: “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfills the same function as pain in the human body and it calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.” - Winston Churchill Receiving feedback Principles:This isn’t easy - we are sensitive Remember the concept of blind spots Need to have a growth mindsetLook at criticism as a teaching moment that will ultimately help you upgrade yourselfAllow yourself to come out of your comfort zone Always remember that the person giving you this feedback usually has your best interest at heart Tips for receiving feedback Thank the person who is giving your feedback Don't be afraid to ask for clarification or an example Respond, don’t react Even if you disagree, work to find a way to filter out the truthAsk that person for practical ways that you can address the feedback they have given you Transformation application: On a scale of 1-10 how well do you embrace feedback? If you rate yourself at 6 or lower, ask yourself why you find it hard to receive feedback.Coaching Resources:http://www.stevechuaintl.comhttp://www.petecoaching.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/ Connect On Social:Steve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Feedback is an extremely important relational tool. Developing the skill of giving healthy feedback can help you to build trust and respect with the people around you. This episode provides practical feedback tips that you can use in your workplace, at home, or in any environment! Transformation tip: “Candor is the key to collaborating effectively. Lack of candor leads to a dysfunctional environment.” -  Edwin CatmullGiving healthy feedback: Be kind - candor with kindnessCheck your motive Sandwich method Bread - start with a positive comment/compliment Middle - give the constructive criticism feedback Bread - finish with another positive comment Constructive criticism is not constructive if it is only negative When you’re giving feedback just get it out there  - be clear, be specific, be briefConsider the person you’re addressing - do they receive feedback well? Consider timing and setting3 traits that are prone to be received as extra critical If you are an analytical person and need concrete proof Natural problem solver Command Transformation Application: Check yourself before giving feedback - are you trying to help? Or just venting?Coaching Resources:http://www.stevechuaintl.comhttp://www.petecoaching.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/ Connect On Social:Steve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

The world is full of so many incredible, unique, and beautiful cultures. Our ability to learn, connect and appreciate each one and their differences will help us to gain fresh perspectives on people and the world around us. Transformation Tip: “Strengths lie in differences, not in similarities.” - Stephen Covey Being culturally aware doesn’t mean we have to agree with everyone, but we need to be open and accepting of all people and our differencesTips for cultural awareness Think beyond race and ethnicityWho are they on the inside?Ask open-ended questions with respect in order to educate yourselfDon't assume you know everything when coming into a culture Manners matterTake time to exchange stories Remember every human being wants to be valued and seen Make honor and respect your culture Transformation Application: In the next weeks find someone from a different culture than you and ask them how they celebrate the holidays! Coaching Resources:http://www.stevechuaintl.comhttp://www.petecoaching.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/ Connect On Social:Steve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

There is a big difference between listening and hearing. Learning how to be fully present in conversations will strengthen your connections and relationships. One of the best ways to show honor and respect to another person is to truly listen to what they are saying. In this episode, gain practical tools to help you become a better listener.  Transformation Tip: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.” - Stephen CoveyThere is a big difference between listening and hearing. Ways to focus on listening: Put your phone away! Be fully present Let people finish their sentences before jumping in with your thoughts Pay attention to the other person’s body language Empathize Give encouraging verbal cuesClarify and paraphrase what you’ve heard Ask good questionsPeople become much more open to hearing what you have to say when they know that you have listened to what they have to say Transformation Application: PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY! Be fully present when listening to people. Coaching Resources:http://www.stevechuaintl.comhttp://www.petecoaching.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/ Connect On Social:Steve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedInConnect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

In this special Transformation Talk episode, Pete talks with Craig Muster, an essential life coach, and business consultant, about how sharing unfiltered and honest stories can create deep and meaningful connections and relationships.Transformation Tip: 'Where there is perfection there is no story to tell.' —  Ben Okri  Learn to listen to other people's stories and pay attention to how you tell your own stories. When we tell our stories with filters and perfectionism, we don't allow ourselves to be vulnerable and we keep ourselves from truly connecting with others. When you try and "appear" a certain way, you cannot truly connect with people's hearts. When you hear someone else's story it gives you permission to think differently about your own story. Performance will never give you what connection can. Connection satisfies your soul. Transformation Application: Have two courageous conversations this week. In a discussion, ask a question, and then simply listen (not just hear). Listen to the heart, not just the facts. Connect with Craig: www.craigmuster.comPlunder Darkness Book Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn

Are you socially aware? A key element of emotional intelligence is social awareness. In this episode, learn practical tools to help you become a better listener, express empathy, and read body language in social settings.Transformation Tip: “You can observe a lot by just watching.”Tools of social awareness: Good listening Truly understand the person you’re listening to Switch your attention to listening not just responding It doesn’t mean you have to agree with them Listen with your eyes Everyone has a backstory Everyone is dealing with struggles Don’t be so quick to judge the present without understanding the past FORM (exercise to get to know someone)F - Family O - occupation R - recreation M - message Empathy Body language Expresses more than words do Pay attention to body language Learn to read the room Transformation Application: In your conversations this week, work on eye contact and staying engaged with people.  Coaching Resources:http://www.stevechuaintl.comhttp://www.petecoaching.com/https://www.insightoutcorp.com/ Connect On Social:Steve Facebook Steve InstagramSteve LinkedIn Pete FacebookPete Instagram Pete LinkedIn=Connect On Social: Podcast Facebook Page Steve Facebook Steve Instagram Steve LinkedIn Pete Facebook Pete Instagram Pete LinkedIn