What's it like being a dominatrix to the devout AND to the de-constructing Mormons? Mx Novatrix serves and teaches in the SLC area of Utah, which is arguably the most sex-negative region in the United States. Let’s talk to them!2:00 episode begin5:00 Utah/Idaho mormons more intense than outside states10:00 mass exodus from Church in some ways15:00 Joseph Smith was a known con man18:00 yes these are problematic terms “indian” and “savages”22:00 return with honor ewwww26:00 what are Bishop’s interviews?30:00 confession or worship sessions33:00 Sisters and sissification36:00 be gay in quiet39:00 the magic underwear43:00 what are Blue Laws?46:00 trans masculine people in drag?50:00 No confession needed54:00 film - Touch of the Master’s Hand58:00 BDSM fear in therapistsYour host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is ExMormonDomme.comand also at MadazonCanCan.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s 4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic12:00 - double standard of working 15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful 20:00 - what makes a good shift?23:00 - negative impact of stigma28:00 - use cheap makeup33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas36:00 - nice partners do exist41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old47:00 - social media suppression51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd55:00 - owner favoritism59:00 - sex tip!Your host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is www.alexavan.com @thebadalexavan IG@alexavanauthor tiktokSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Are you a current or former Christian still learning how to have guilt-free sex? Mattie Jo Cowsert is a recovering Evangelical who moved to New York City to find her husband - and then learned the world is bigger and more diverse than she had been raised to believe. Meet a shameless oversharer who wrote about her experiences with God, Sex, and Rich people.3:00 evangelical and moved to NYC7:00 sex and shame10:00 rich people were unexpected13:00 white, blue eyed woman privilege 18:00 where my Evangelicals at?20:00 abuse dismissed as sin25:00 jesus defended cheaters from death29:00 further reading for hip Christians34:00 what are “misogynist daywalkers”37:00 how to give yourself permission to have good sex41:00 disordered eating mention44:00 on spirituality now49:00 DOGMA was a weird movie 52:00 a confession from Mattie Jo55:00 red flags57:00 “sex ghosts” is a weird orgy1:01:00 progress and pushing forward1:06:00 have sex with people who respect youYour host is ElleStanger.comYour guest is MattieJoCowsert.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What does penis health have to do with heart health? A lot! Erica Leroye was a teacher and a lover when a tragic death led her to a new calling: teaching people about penile health, and doing touch work around pleasure and healing. You’re invited to November’s ‘Soft Cock Week’, and listen here now to learn about the penis in its most common state: soft.3:00 - this episode can save lives8:00 - sex is outercourse and intercourse 12:00 - retrograde ejaculation and ED - common symptoms of undiagnosed diabetes16:00 - go to the Genital Gym19:00 - “you have to train for what you want to be good at”22:00 - how do I help men tap into the erotic self?25:00 - pleasure mapping29:00 - her fave way to play with a softie 33:00 - what is Soft Cock week?37:00 - what else can you learn?42:00 - what to eat?46:00 - create a scavenger hunt for a treat49:00 - trouble with orgasm52:00 - “is gooning bad?” 54:00 - disconnect between brain and penis59:00 - fear of penis in medical systems1:03:00 - am i normal? VISIT and JOIN https://www.softcockweek.com/Your guest can be found at https://www.softcockweek.com/soft-cock-blog/welcome-from-your-new-2024-hostessYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsGETTHELAYER.com - discrete waterproof sex blanket - use CODE ELLE for 10% offPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Lenora Claire was a business owner and public figure in Los Angeles before her stalker incidents led her to becoming a private investigator and media consultant.  Learn how survivors and perpetrators of stalking can be handled smarter, by a person who teaches better practices for true-crime coverage.2:00 - reality shows and progressive parents5:00 - crime show producers don’t know how to treat survivors7:00 - Batman and Superman to the rescue!10:00 - why blocking isn’t always best14:00 - risk assessment 18:00 - “what did you do to upset them?”23:00 - her current work25:00 - Private investigator things28:00 - women producers and empathy31:00 - British production companies doing it better34:00 - treated like dogshit by cops when reporting38:00 - how to help people open up?41:00 - disclosure tips45:00 - being judged on appearance 51:00 - what to NOT do to survivors in interview56:00 - what is the guiding purpose of the media?58:00 - a sex tip? Maybe :) Your guest can be found at lenoraclairellc.comYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Jack Parker has been doing sex work since just before he was an adult, and he’s now a writer and publisher of an anthology of stories from other trans-masculine sex workers. Let’s talk about how queerphobia makes unique spaces and options for some working guys in the arts and adult industries.3:00 sex work before 18, before public7:00 making $4 an hour? WHAT10:00 not enough options for advertising or undies14:00 how to transition without them knowing?17:00 any port in a storm23:00 my favorite part is strange bookings26:00 nightmare coworkers can make it hard28:00 enjoyable client sex32:00 age gaps with clients36:00 clients objectifying us, their own insecurities41:00 where to find the book!45:00 how to find trans masc providers50:00 targeting for homosexuality54:00 criticisms of jack’s work57:00 resources for more readingFind your guest on JackViolet.com and @mxjackparker on all socials.Your host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

If you’ve ever watched mainstream tv or movies with sex scenes in them, you can appreciate the people who make them look more realistic, while helping the performers be safest. Let’s talk with our guest Jamie Monahan, who works as an Intimacy Coordinator and Director.3:00 #MeToo history6:00 actors are taught to Say Yes8:00 sexual alignment on film 11:00 there is a lack of lube in film 14:00 history behind intimacy coordinator17:00 scenes that stuck in your mind21:00 other memorable scenes25:00 kissing on film28:00 elle’s preference on oral sex visuals/contact31:00 prosthetics are not common35:00 more rules and regulations40:00 the sounds of sex on film 45:00 don’t copy movies and that includes Titanic49:00 have you ever mimicked a film?54:00 SAG requirement to become ICYour guest is at www.Jamiemonahan.comIG/Facebook/X: @JmemonahanYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Elizabeth Foreman works sober in New Orleans strip clubs these days. Here she shares her experience with sex work and sobriety which has given her insight, tactics and coping mechanisms while she continues to share her healing journey with others. 4:00 disclaimer - experiential and not academic6:00 dancing instead of full-service9:00 confusing laws around sw and trafficking 13:00 NOLA vs PDX stripper economics17:00 how she got started in sobriety self-help20:00 alcoholism in the family and the club24:00 tips to not get drunk at the strip/club27:00 check-ins reminders29:00 AD -  getthelayer.com - discount code ELLE32:00 why do you use while working?37:00 mental strain of sobriety40:00 why we numb out or use it to enhance performance48:00 practicing setting boundaries54:00 don’t stop drinking abruptly57:00 what happens when you stop drinking?1:01:00 do you have the wrong prescription?1:05:00 resource share1:08:00 the downsides of AA1:12:00 ADHD and sex tips, slow downTip Elizabeth for her sobriety help to CASHAPP $liz4mannolaFor more self-help books mentioned in the episode: See this list by Raina LeGrandYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Erica Smith is a sex educator specializing in purity culture trauma and recovery. Let’s talk about dealing with shame and some tips for better sexual health and lives.4:00 a controversial event in 20007:00 working in abortion clinic, juvenile justice system10:00 youth in sex work or experiencing trafficking14:00 how purity culture relates to juvenile justice17:00 the Army of God loves fake anthrax20:00 sexually active teens23:00 she who is without shame!27:00 how to tell my partner I’m queer?30:00 use your hands more33:00 chronic health disclosures to partner?37:00 herpes shaming, we hate it40:00 purity culture grossness43:00 social media and sex education47:00 who is her clientele?50:00 tradwife trend will have impacts later - @missgingerlocks on IG53:00 confessions57:00 sex adviceFind your guest at purityculturedropout.comYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Have you ever been made to feel like an object instead of a person? Do you objectify others? What does objectification mean, how can we take our power back, make the best of it, or get off on it? Let’s talk with Suzannah Weiss, author of “Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject”2:00 See her live August 18th at Sanctuary club in Portland6:00 growing breasts made people treat her differently 9:00 sexuality healed her disordered eating!13:00 people being degrading at cam models16:00 this economy making me do more18:00 if a SW takes advantage!21:00 examples of objectification from others 24:00 “I don’t do bareback with someone I just met”28:00 former sex worker(?)30:00 examples of objectification in language33:00 Nina Menkes + film POV36:00 we need to see what women desire, more often39:00 it is a turn-on for me, being objectified 42:00 anxiety about fantasies in relationship 46:00 Stoya started hitachi reading! 50:00 less respect happens for escorts55:00 work stress - stigma 59:00 examples, more1:02:00 sex tips from suzannah and elleFind your guest at SuzannahWeiss.comYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

How can intentional psilocybin use help people heal from big life events, or create a better understanding of theirselves? Let’s talk with “trauma queen” expert and educator Jimanekia Eborn.4:00 policing to psychology 7:00 numbing vs pushing through 15:00 what has changed for you?17:00 tripping tips 20:00 how did shrooms impact you?23:00 AD - FeministTrash.com discount code STRIPPERWRITER27:00 more advice for tripping 30:00 sensory play ideas 34:00 small vs big trauma37:00 germ transfer overload41:00 AD GetTheLayer.com - discount code ELLE44:00 that medication might not work for you!48:00 dating a survivor class 52:00 you're going inside, not outside55:00 sex advice Check out Cintima.co and find our guest on TraumaQueen.loveYour host is ElleStanger.comSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What’s it like to go to a clinic to receive an abortion? Our guest has been escorting patients for years and talks about the science of medical abortion, care tips and how to advocate for yourself when you need one. Meet the Executive Director of Nebraska Healthcare Resource, Shelley Mann.3:00 patient to clinic escort to executive director 6:00 why people need abortions8:00 known as the abortion lady 12:00 pointless to argue with these people 15:00 why are you so obsessed with me?18:00 AD: GetTheLayer.com - sex blanket!20:00 how to tell my boyfriend I need an abortion?23:00 find out as early as you can25:00 TRAP laws and “cardiac activity”28:00 more on clinics getting shut down31:00 “late term abortion” is not a medical term34:00 99% of abortions prior to 21 weeks 37:00 what can you do to prepare for an abortion?40:00 how to care for yourself after?43:00 what about a bad experience?49:00 pregnancy and birth is 13.5x more deadly than legal abortion53:00 www.plancpills.com, www.ineedana.com, www.abortionfunds.org55:00 sex tipContact Info: 312-663-0338. www.neabortionresources.org.See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Naomi left the strict Amish at seventeen, and worked for twenty years in adult entertainment, and wrote an erotic memoir about that time. We talk about dating, parenting, boundaries and sex clubs.1:00 raised as strict Amish, left at 174:00 literally pushed to audition by friends10:00 financial advice from a coworker 14:00 the regret was having to hide it18:00 online use21:00 being OUT to family?24:00 dark days and substance abuse28:00 coercive partner sex31:00 leaving the situation33:00 parenting a kid now37:00 I know that sex club!40:00 everybody is different! 45:00 how to prevent sexual assault in small communities?48:00 communication53:00 try new things!Find our guest @AmishInspiration on IG, TikTokUse code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Miss Mei is a political organizer in Miami Florida and talks sex work, explains what can help prevent trafficking and police abuse, and gives tips on how to look for bad-actor organizations.3:00 - a friend got her work doing threesomes to begin SW6:00 - they prefer in-person work9:00 Slutwalk helped lead to #MeToo12:00 reclaiming the word Whore15:00 Amber Rose did not invent Slutwalk19:00 women’s spaces and nonbinary ppl 22:00 no arrests YET26:00 when the client follows your Other Work30:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off MayerLabs.com condoms and lube32:00 child labor laws in Florida37:00 a long road ahead about record expungement 40:00 I grew up as a young whore47:00 @ Jonni_qwest is a pal50:00 In-fighting 54:00 “Sex Workers and the Left: Pass The Mic” Tryst.Link article 58:00 AOC endorsed anti-SW and homophobic organization NCOSE1:01:00 “we cannot defeat what we cannot define”1:04:00 should strippers be able to work at 18?1:07:00 fibromyalgia and copsFind our guest at @MultiverseOfMei on Twitter/X/IGFind Decrim305.orgUse code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Mike Stabile is a journalist and documentary filmmaker and ol’ gay activist who has written about and advocated for sex workers and sexual speech for twenty years.2:00 - I was an anonymous hand once6:00 - why Twitter is relevant to free speech and liberties8:00 - Polari - slang speak of gay sailors and sw’s10:00 gay porn film history and Chuck Holmes15:00 - what is KOSA and why should we hate it?18:00 do u want the government to see your searches?21:00 age verification doesn’t work25:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off MayerLabs.com29:00 do journalists fear cops?32:00 more fear about retribution?35:00 why journalists are fooled by cop press releases40:00 Tim Ballard and Operation Railroad is a scam42:00 “ending modern slavery” is a red flag 46:00 protecting safety and privacy49:00 if a journalist contacts you as a SW53:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE code for 10% off54:00 haters?58:00 conspiracy theories AGAIN1:02:00 be your own expert on your life1:04:00 Lorelei Lee tweet (they/them)Find our guest on: IG @fauxjob and Twitter/X @mikestabile and https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/staffUse code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Born in India, neurodivergent, non monogamous, a New York sex therapist who loves sex-positive spaces, let’s talk healing with Nikita Fernandes MHC-LP and learn some healing tips for life and sex.1:00 meet our guest3:00 women’s gender studies classes were key to critical thinking 6:00 assimilation as a safety mechanism9:00 tips for therapeutic movement 12:00 dance, hiking, kink, gym15:00 medical issues19:00 The People’s Book of Human Sexuality - Laureano23:00 coping tips26:00 more tension release tips28:00 fantasies around sexual assault 40:00 needing to offload or share to others43:00 what if I’m not responding to trauma?50:00 DBT (dialectical behavior therapy)55:00 partner jealousy and disclosure58:00 working all the time makes healing harderFind our guest on: healingwithnikita.comUse code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

He’s telling his life story besides the two random events that led to him working in the xxx industry as a Bull in the cuckold scene. “Thrash: “Penetrating the Business” author talks about filming and life.4:00 Brickhouse Magazine6:00 the pros of accessible technology9:00 @brickhousemag on Twitter13:00 there’s levels to it18:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off lube/condoms at MayerLabs.com20:00 what is the best part of being a bull?24:00 filming vs real life29:00 a one man show on stage33:00 GetTheLayer.com code ELLE for 10%37:00 reflecting on the cuck episode40:00 does Thrash have preferences?43:00 trends in porn?47:00 becoming ambivalent to porn54:00 sex tipsFind our guest on:IG @thrashculture23Use code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Pomma is a xxx content creator who tirelessly informs followers on news, legislation, harm reduction practices, and hazards related to online sex work and adult industry work. Let's talk!4:00 what kind of work?7:00 money is tight for many 10:00 socialized to be performative as youth13:00 banned from social media ooops16:00 FOSTA SESTA19:00 facial recognition and TSA22:00 will this get me evicted?27:00 when your beloved sugar daddy dies30:00 the athletes of sex workers 35:00 thick models like London Andrews, Valentine Von Bettie39:00 some advice for receiving shibari ties 42:00 please do not ask to meet us while on paysites48:00 STRIPPERWRITER 20% OFF FeministTrash.com50:00 UNICEF supported bad legislation FOSTA and SESTA54:00 law enforcement raiding Backpage.com owners57:00 Decrim305, Cupcake Girls, SWOPBehindBars.org1:00:00 organizations we like1:03:00 sex tips for our audience?Find our guest on:IG: @onlypomma @notonlypommaTwitter: Succubusluut Tiktok: Juicypomma2.0 and LeaveJuicyPommaAloneUse code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

His nickname is The Dick Whisperer and he’s spent years perfecting his penis-injections services and science: Meet the founder of PhalloFill . Let’s talk about why some men want to augment theirselves and why you should always follow post-procedure advice!3:00 - hair removal and penis augmentation4:00 - the P shot began7:00 porn, peer comparison, indirect teasing11:00 how to talk to youth about media 14:00 confidence in the workplace18:00 let’s talk about complication rates21:00 increase in sensitivity25:00 what is Hyaluronic acid?28:00 explaining the filler and amount31:00 Phalloboards.info - forum 34:00 he’s the penis master38:00 more science on filler41:00 what is fascia?46:00 example patient who needed a fixjob52:00 discussing costs55:00 width vs girthFind them on PHALLOFILL.comUse code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

She’s a model, full contact fighter and martial arts instructor, genderfluid princess and more: lets meet Sybilla Bakzaza.3:00 martial arts, baseball, football, sailing, relay racing, US NAVY5:00 a commentary on Marine culture or US Navy8:00 (devil dock is a penis joke)9:00 cross-dressing as an entry12:00 American assimilation 18:00 what can suck about gym environments22:00 she has a team of Hulks on her side25:00 how to screen employers/venues?29:00 advice on showing up as trans in cis spaces?32:00 you gotta project confidence 34:00 red flags for clients39:00 on bullying in the workplace43:00 what is your support network?49:00 perception is more powerful than truth sometimes53:00 some people are only as good/bad as their commanders55:00 sex tips!59:00 some inspo and support from our guestMeet our guest on TikTok, OF, and Twitter and Use code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s explore the history behind masturbation misinformation, pseudoscience and shaming, with clinical psychologist and author Dr Eric Sprankle.3:00 how he got here7:00 a vast conspiracy to teach education (elle has worked with PH tho)10:00 history repeating on anti-porn 13:00 misinformation is the same 16:00 exploring negative online comments20:00 be a man - destroy your lungs23:00 how do people feel about the word?27:00 does ejaculation impact hormone levels?32:00 what do “sex rehab programs” look like?36:00 how can masturbation be harmful?38:00 chemical castration40:00 high libido does not equal offensive behavior45:00 sperm vs semen vs female ejaculate48:00 more about ejaculate fluid51:00 events causing shame56:00 online communities and hate groups1:01:00 white genocide conspiracy1:06:00 a cute childhood anecdote1:09:00 Dr Drew - how could you?!?Visit our guest at DrSprankle.comUse code TheyTalk20 for 20% off your MayerLabs.com lube or condoms purchases!See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Our last episode of this season and O what fun - let’s talk cuckolding!  Join Mistress Elle for a chat with her favorite cuckold and hear how he discovered his kinky lifestyle, how he interacts most ethically with the women he worships, and please enjoy some of our funny stories, too.3:00 how he finds women to worship5:00 a catholic priest client - Lady Vi8:00 legal and artistic aid for a friend10:00 scrotal piercings for a leash11:00 Mickey Mod and Mistress Gia DeMarco13:00 first anal cream pie14:00 Mistress Sandi in Montreal16:00 his first ever cucking appointment - Mistress January Seraph21:00 there’s a lot of cum soon25:00 moral of the story is be yourself29:00 what’s the best part?33:00 beneath a woman and helping her36:00 how to protect yourself from scammers?39:00 losing friends over it?43:00 am I gay or less of a man?47:00 economic impacts?52:00 Americans are more taboo about sharing55:00 Shoutout to his Doms59:00 honored to be the firstFind your host Ellestanger.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected] code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon for 20% off through November 28th - Kimono Swirl CondomsSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening 20TALKSWIRL2 for 20% off our suite of Swirl products on Amazon now until November 30th.See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

We catch up with our fave herpes educator Courtney Brame for some updates and additional facts about a common virus that many of us live with, and Elle had new experience with. Let’s talk herpes again!1:00 he gets more topless-views3:00 a big herpes survey7:00 clinically massive outbreak11:00 sex workers + herpes 14:00 consented to not using barriers17:00 sexual infidelity is a possibility21:00 herpes location vs Type 1 or 223:00 why do lab tests during outbreak?26:00 20TALKSWIRL229:00 sex toy snafu, unrelated32:00 what is a “normal length” outbreak36:00 May 2024 results survey + St Louis MO40:00 how might one get herpes?43:00 can you get tested without an outbreak?47:00 sex as a polyam person51:00 Courtney got a sex toy too small54:00 jolihamilton.com58:00 a Feeld app match gone awry 1:03:00 saying no to sex1:06:00 $2.45Million lawsuit about herpes transmission1:15:00 elle0ellepdx on TTFind your guest on SPFPP.ORGFind your host Ellestanger.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected] code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon for 20% off through November 28th - Kimono Swirl CondomsSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-opening 20TALKSWIRL2 for 20% off our suite of Swirl products on Amazon now until November 30th.See my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

A traumatic attack caused our guest to reframe how she was living her one life. She’s now chosen to work as an erotica writer, a legal courtesan in a nevada brothel, and she’s here to talk about making positive connections between mind-body healing and sex work.2:00 gang bang playwriting4:00 a traumatic event showed a bird’s eye view of life7:00 surviving the home invasion assault10:00 find her at the brothel14:00 be a nun or get married at 16, literally 20:00 how to screen for clients23:00 sexting advice27:00 learn to see the strange as familiar32:00 on being called “old” now40:00 a sexy oracle reading43:00 feel it to heal it46:00 catholic guilt in the inbox53:00 empowerment is the underlying theme55:00 how AI writing scares us58:00 more sex adviceFind our guest on OnlyFans.com/GoodassGoddessFind your host Ellestanger.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected] code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon for 20% off through November 28th - Kimono Swirl CondomsSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

She’s been a top lesbian content creator on Youtube for a decade, now learn what’s next for Bria Kam after years of growing with her audience, and being part of the first successful UK revenge porn lawsuit. We talk love, strapons, and web work!1:00 how we met4:00 on making our own porn7:00 on being “Mommy” 10:00 how did you start filming?14:00 they won the first ever UK revenge porn lawsuit17:00 Pamela anderson was done dirty 22:00 only one of us likes sucking D25:00 advice for people who make X media?29:00 dating polyam and monogs 34:00 direct porn sales?38:00 web searching “lesbian porn”41:00 what kind of porn does Elle watch?44:00 yes I can orgasm from penetration oooo49:00 what is your top kink?53:00 a new hope for love after a breakupFind our guest on OnlyFans.com/BriaKamFind your host Ellestanger.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected] by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Have you ever seen healthcare providers who have no idea what you are experiencing personally? Lucie Fielding is a therapist, sex educator and writer who saw the gaps in healthcare and the biases against trans people by their providers, and works to share info and insight about better clinical approaches to trans sexuality.2:00 a clarifying anger6:00 I want clients/people to feel lovable9:00 psychoanalysis was designed to be intensive13:00 what does Yes and No feel like in the body?17:00 “these poor people”20:00 what is anti-trans sensationalism23:00 how people are misled to believe transphobia28:00 what is muffing?31:00 balls and labia are homologous tissue35:00 https://fuckingtranswomen.org/37:00 what are puberty blockers?40:00 kids choosing their own identity prevents self harm44:00 “ambivalence is essential to the change process”47:00 top surgery and boob jobs52:00 I need help with asking how to name their parts!55:00 how do we name our parts?59:00 what is Project 2025?1:05:00 what’s next for Lucie?Find our guest LucieFielding.comFind your host Ellestanger.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected] by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s explore Oregon and and particularly Old Town Portland, which has its roots in racism, beer, gambling and sex work, and predatory policing. This city truly was built by alcoholics and hustlers: Let’s talk ghosts of old-timey Oregon with Weird History Podcast Host and author, Joe Streckert.3:00 why weird history is important 8:00 tour guide in Portland11:00 a brief history of Vanport, Oregon14:00 early Portland history demographics17:00 beer and gambling and sw 19:00 why is Oregon so white and covertly racist?23:00 Oro Fino Saloon and enforcement against sex work 26:00 why factory-working women also did SW29:00 policing and sex work32:00 Nita Belles is a modern day Lola Baldwin35:00 psychics, bowling, shooting galleries were targeted by cops too38:00 Chinese business owners and respectability politics41:00 Marie Equi and birth control and lesbianism 44:00 a note on eugenics and early birth control47:00 prostitution and “green” attitudes51:00 why are Oregon clubs so different from neighboring states?55:00 all old downtown buildings may have been used as brothels or rooms58:00 the myth(?) of Nancy Boggs and the floating brothel1:06:00 QAnon is like early century white saviorism Find your guest on JoeStreckert.com and WeirdHistoryPodcast.comFind your host Ellestanger.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected] promo code 20TALKSWIRL on Amazon through October 31st for Kimono Swirl Condoms.Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Bella Cummins has owned her Nevada brothel for thirty-seven years and talks about venue management, what the regulations are like, and how to create a safer and more fun environment for everyone..1:00 beginning the day at the brothel 3:00 administrative and staff training5:00 only cis women working here at this time 7:00 decrim vs legalization discussion10:00 clarification on decriminalization in NZ14:00 safer working in brothels than outcall17:00 discounts to Utah residents!21:00 laundry is important at the brothel 25:00 is this a calling for you?28:00 how staff can be proactive33:00 process for business approval by police and city 36:00 law enforcement regulation41:00 condoms used to be way thicker46:00 deadname and origin story49:00 more legal distinctions54:00 why discounted rates for Utah?58:00 more on regulated work1:00:00 sex advice Find our guest on Bellas.UsFind your host Ellestanger.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Do you have sex questions? She’s a Black sex educator who advocates for HIV prevention, sex toy exploration and straightforward communication: Ashley Cobb from Atlanta, Georgia offers straightforward and candid input on common questions about anal sex, penis size, and more.1:00 began teaching sex ed in 20155:00 she thinks redheads are cute9:00 38 vs early 20’s11:00 pRep for Black women14:00 raw sex equals pregnancy or STIs17:00 syphilis and COVID going up why?21:00 why to have sex before you get married24:00 why insecure men might prefer sexually inexperienced women27:00 how often should I get screened?31:00 when one of you wants to have sex more often34:00 ways to be intimate without PIV37:00 ethical porn discussion42:00 more anal tips for newbies45:00 small penis tips and use your hands48:00 on “sex-negative feminism”53:00 Somaya Critchlow art discussion56:00 what’s next for her?Find out guest on IG @sexwithashleyListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

She’s a self-taught therapeutic dominatrix and touch provider, who specializes in helping people play and explore boundaries and kinks. Meet Lara the Divine Theratrix and learn about what it’s like to explore feeling big, small, and primal.3:00 therapeutic approaches to hands-on work6:00 autism and body language learning9:00 Dr Stewart Brown - on play and communication14:00 protection from obsession19:00 humans are animals 22:00 being fluid and changing26:00 creative Safewords30:00 special interests are so important 36:00 JoyClub, Beducated, Fetlife41:00 discrimination against dominatrix by doordash44:00 sex workers rights and SWUnionUK47:00 examples of worker controls or protections52:00 examples of types of play54:00 play makes life worth living Find our guest on DivineTheratrix.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk about male bisexuality, biphobia, role-modeling mental health and have a raunchy, fun time with Zachary Zane. He’s an advice writer and the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto.1:00 a book about bisexuality and shame3:00 having OCD as a child and now6:00 mental health and spirituality10:00 bisexuality and stigma13:00 not enjoying sex due to stress16:00 a darn good therapist session20:00 how do you role model healthy male sexuality?25:00 tips on coming out to family members 28:00 more discussion on this ^31:00 how to address my gf’s biphobia34:00 Bi-Men, By Women book38:00 if they aren’t 100% enthusiastic, maybe avoid them42:00 real non-fiction erotica stories46:00 theragun in the butt story49:00 Boyslut things and projects52:00  cancel culture vs call-ins 55:00 any sex tips for our audience?Find our guest on ZacharyZane.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What are your personal ethics around sex work and matrimony? Why do some people share their interactions with spouses and other people hide them? How to support your partner in sex work? Is it cheating to pay for services? Let’s discuss this with a happily married sex worker, Jessie Sage.1:00 a spicy viral twitter post4:00 cancer, and caregiver roles7:00 what work she’s done in sex10:00 feedback from her clients14:00 a public-facing nonbinary spouse18:00 on blaming the sex worker22:00 oral sex or we aren’t getting married26:00 helping sex lives of other spouses29:00 disclosing to your family that you’re dating a sex worker34:00 keep it simple and name what is happening39:00 besties who get weird around SW44:00 outsiders and misunderstanding 48:00 addressing their shame 51:00 how to be a supportive partner article56:00 @thotscholar, Lorelei Lee writing recommendation Find our guest on JessieSage.com and Cybelerain.com Twitter.com/SaptiotextualListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Who else has ADHD? Our guest noticed a lack of sexuality-related info for people with attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder. For two decades he has served people who need help with dating, sex, self-care and relating. Let’s learn and laugh with therapist and author Ari Tuckman.3:00 he wrote the books because there was a lack of help for ADHD-ers5:00 a lot of mental health and medical pros have little or no sex education7:00 he gravitates to people with ADHD10:00 how does ADHD make dating hard for you?14:00 more examples19:00 people-pleasing behaviors25:00 maintaining interest after novelty wanes30:00 ADHD and staying in the mood 34:00 moving on after oopsies37:00 other tips for re-directing your attention41:00 more ways that ADHD can show up during sex44:00 one study about ADHD people and sex49:00 quirky can be charming or annoying, truly 55:00 medication and sleep questionFind our guest on AdultADHDbook.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Why do some people pay others to teach them how to be sexual and intimate? Surrogate partners work with clients to learn their bodies and how to have consensual, boundaried, erotic contact with others. Brandon of AmpersandIntimacy expands on our previous episode about surrogate partner therapy, and the benefits and barriers to these treatments.3:00 gaming and play, kink and sex6:00 previously he was a clinician9:00 on people who aren’t listening to my boundaries13:00 who his clients typically are16:00 on why people pay for sexual touch22:00 not being distracted or disturbed24:00 hygiene requests27:00 scheduled sex for couples29:00 on over-regulation33:00 client-rejection 37:00 being mean to push me away 41:00 sex therapy is historically for white hetero men46:00 what is Upnegotiating and how to avoid it?48:00 some people test things52:00 tell me your boundaries PLZ58:00 sex tips View our guest at ampersandintimacy.comListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk with Leilah of A Stripper’s Guide about privacy issues and safety, queerness at the stripclub, and listen as she gives tips on setting boundaries and maintaining a healthier relationship with partners and self.3:00 she works night shifts for a few reasons7:00 curious but condescending 10:00 plz don’t ask her about her sex life12:00 “gold star lesbian” discussion15:00 on the asexuality spectrum: demisexual18:00 artificial intelligence 24:00 feeling shame vs seeking privacy28:00 I identify with the slutty-looking girl33:00 private about her sex life 37:00 on sounding polite while setting boundaries42:00 image impacting income 45:00 on seeming available 47:00 non-sexual methods of partner bonding53:00 on feeling touched-out 1:00:00 book recommendations Find our guest at astrippersguide.com and IG @asg.headquartersListen on Podurama!Write to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

How does spirituality and sexuality relate? It depends on who you are and what you believe. For this episode we talk sex and spells with guest Serena the Blessed who is a Black, Indigenous, Jewish trans-femme tarot reader and magic-maker in Portland, Oregon.3:00 how magic works6:00 OYE ancestors and priesthood family10:00 “Black” magic and Hoodoo and Voodoo, Santeria13:00 Yoruba origins of “queen”16:00 gay culture can be different than queer culture 21:00 all oppression is connected23:00 more genders than two were common29:00 Hoodoo and Voodoo work33:00 her offerings40:00 in what ways can I practice spiritual sexuality45:00 on masking identity 50:00 seduction vs shining brightly 57:00 counseling and spirituality for Black Americans1:04:00 white people can be poisonous1:11:00 Third Eye Books and Cally’s Hot WigsFind our guest on IG @serenatheblessedWrite to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s talk about aging and sexuality with an elder provider and playwright. Charla Hathaway became “a whore at fifty-four”, and she shares some things she’s learned.3:00 starting her life over at fifty-four6:00 anal play table-turning9:00 Joseph Kramer on body healing11:00 on the term “prostitute”16:00 expert level hustling mastery20:00 how to lead an erotic session25:00 backlash29:00 body changes and adapting sexual practices34:00 older guys want intimacy too37:00 breathing reminders42:00 how to lead an erotic session 246:00 men being taught to receive51:00 she has a September show coming up54:00 things to reflect on?57:00 the body is a temple Find our guest at charlahathaway.comWrite to Elle about the show [email protected]’t sleep in the wet spot! Use code ELLE for 10% off GETTHELAYER.COMSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

How does social standing relate to sexuality and dating? Have you ever been ostracized for reasons unclear, or been targeted in a smear campaign? Licensed counselor Halle Thomas joins me to discuss the complex issues and impacts of cancel-bullying.2:00 former Catholic, queer and Creole4:00 writing about shame 6:00 grief, racial and sexual identity and relational problems9:00 originated in Black queer spaces12:00 elle hates it when people lie about abuse18:00 cancel-bullying is a suicide risk 21:00 obsessive behavior and unhealthy impacts 25:00 RSD - rejection sensitivity dysphoria29:00 Elle hits pregnant strippers, pass it on31:00 making people houseless for “justice”38:00 how to recognize people that aim to be destructive42:00 stalking and violence and victim’s gender45:00 when you’re being targeted 54:00 definition of fighting 57:00 identifying friends who exaggerate claims against them1:01:00 impact vs intent 1:06:00 Bebe Montoya, Africa Brooke, Juniper Cameryn, Clementine Morrigan, Jay Lesoleil - cancellation resources1:10:00 life after cancellationFind your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcastFind your host on Twitter @ellestanger Follow our guest on IG @chicorycounseling and chicorycounseling.comWrite to Elle about the show [email protected] by Aqua Lube– 20AQUALUBE takes 20% off your lube purchase through June 27th.Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

She came, she saw, she conquered pornmaking and media: meet Joanna Angel and learn what her work and married life is like as a longtime porn icon of our generation. We have jokes and marketing advice!1:00 on feature-dancing and stripclub work4:00 she works in marketing8:00 started stripping to pay for her porn site 11:00 a golden era of stripping14:00 the hottest people don’t make the most17:00 monogamy and porn work21:00 jealousy and business and work24:00 what do the fans say?29:00 the heyday of gonzo porn32:00 creating a niche kink36:00 self care and interests 39:00 how to deal with haters and negativity 43:00 younger people innovating porn now45:00 sex work is not for everyone49:00 what’s next for Joanna?52:00 save your money and live your life55:00 sex tip from a porn queenFind your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcastFind your host on Twitter @ellestanger Follow our guest on IG @ joannaangelWrite to Elle about the show [email protected] by Aqua Lube– 20AQUALUBE takes 20% off your lube purchase through June 27th.Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What’s it like for Stoney Faye to be an autistic stripper and parent? Let’s talk about the intersections of disability and sex work, and swap some ridiculous hustle tales.2:00 disability acceptance5:00 heightened sensitivities 8:00 on being canceled10:00 on being a sugar baby13:00 echolalia and decriminalization of sex work16:00 not naturally feeling close to people21:00 sensory stuff and sex24:00 our libidos are very different but orientations are not29:00 our fave customer in common33:00 nerve endings and genitals36:00 I hate kissing most people41:00 people who don’t yet know they are autistic 45:00 on hidden queerness49:00 exploring identity as an adult51:00 stimming and self-hitting57:00 detaching from social norms1:00:00 men dating women (or others) who out-earn them1:03:00 an autistic friend for the end of the worldFind your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcastFind your host on Twitter @ellestanger Follow our guest on IG @ fairyst0ned_Subscribe to our guest at Allmylinks.com/stoneyfayeWrite to Elle about the show [email protected] by Kimono MicroThin XL – use code 20MICROXL on Amazon for 20% off your Kimono purchase through June 27th.Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Let’s speak to Aja Corynn who made the documentary film “Pleasers”. Our guest applies her anthropological background and creative lenses to her experiences as a stripper; Let’s talk stripclubs, relationships, retirement and media.1:00 anthropologist and former stripper2:00 why she quit6:00 California Girls in Anaheim, Deja Vu in Hollywood10:00 “Black and kinky” NY dominatrixes14:00 I’m inside looking around17:00 on survival sex work vs empowerment 22:00 mandatory tipout27:00 don’t write about strippers if you aren’t one31:00 racism and in Vegas36:00 on the good things40:00 technology replacing strippers?46:00 bad managerial practices51:00 on AB5 in CA and employee status54:00 camaraderie 58:00 don’t settle Find our guest on IG @AjaCorynn & @pleasersseriesFind your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcastFind your host on Twitter @ellestanger Write to Elle about the show [email protected] by Kimono Microthin Plus Condoms - use code 20MICROAQUA on Amazon for 20% off your Kimono purchase through June 27thSponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Nate Hazen is a certified bouncer in the state of Oregon and works in downtown Portland. Meet your host’s coworker and listen as we swap stories and tips on how to be safer and more fun as a patron of the adult entertainment industries.2:00 could you work in a strip club with the lights and loud music?6:00 felons, veterans, and foster system kids9:00 de-escalation and working downtown Portland 12:00 on men who shouldn’t be bouncers15:00 some people have intent to be malicious22:00 basic etiquette for beginners and all25:00 don’t come in the club w/o money28:00 on no-touching rules31:00 DTF = down to fuck, btw 35:00 on tip-out being unfair 40:00 where my dogs at?44:00 maybe a tv show about portland strippers?48:00  death and grief in the industry53:00 on being street smart and vigilant57:00 don’t hit on the dancers when you work with them1:00:00 pay attention to when you feel shame——————Find your guest on IG @natehazen and @stripcitytv Find your guest’s OF on onlyfans.com/johnny_bananaFind your host on IG @stripperwriter @elle_stanger @theytalksexpodcastFind your host on Twitter @ellestanger Write to Elle about the show [email protected] by Kimono Microthin Condoms - use 20MICROTHIN for 20% off your AMAZON purchase before June 27th, ‘23Sponsored by JoliQuiz.com - for smarter relationship-openingSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

How might one person manage their co-occurring chronic illnesses and disabilities, and have a fulfilling sex life? Meet Katherine Harlow the Park Avenue Pinup and discover how she strategizes her health, pleasure, and functioning. Learn some care tips and disability advocacy with us.2:00 endometriosis, pelvic floor disorder, narcolepsy, Autism, PTSD5:00 70% of people with pelvic floor dysfunction have TMJ7:00 tips for self care and immune system support9:00 some of us wanted to be adult entertainers 12:00 cis men have been born with endometriosis too15:00 strategy around chronic pain18:00 vaginismus is a symptom of larger pelvic floor dysfunction22:00 “admin drain” - @invalidart 25:00 more feedback on invisible disability 28:00 disabled people are accused of lying 31:00 self-advocacy and interviewing doctors33:00 how can partners help?37:00 tips for managing pain40:00 she’s on the same sexting app as your host 45:00 Andew Gurza resources49:00 queer and trans people are more likely to be disabled53:00 burlesque is not sex work, true 55:00 more resources like Mia Mingus, @itswalela Sponsored by OpenEasier.com - research based non-monogamy resources.Find our guest on theparkavenuepinup.com Find your host on ellestanger.com See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

What might healthy spirituality and sexuality look like for Catholics? Let’s meet Sister Shannon who specializes in pleasure and shame-less education and self help for her online audiences, and opposition to her work.1:00 she’s been deactivated online 3x3:00 sexual support for Catholics: there is a need6:00 common questions: masturbation, family shame9:00 imagine Mother Mary as a single mother12:00 How do folks relate to Catholicism and sexuality?15:00 “widen your knees” instead of “spread your legs”17:00 The Old Testament had erotica in it! “Song of songs”22:00 Sister Shannon’s current best contact info is [email protected]:00 the church does not let gay people get married or women be priests - don’t beg the hierarchy 26:00 God is non-binary?30:00 who is reporting Shannon’s IG online?34:00 Mary Magdalene wasn’t a sex worker, sorry37:00 abstinence “education” results in a lot of shame and guilt40:00 bad experiences motivated Elle to find better ones45:00 Richard Rohr, Lavonne Briggs49:00 God probably doesn’t care if you have multiple sexual partners52:00 this show can be surprisingly unsexy :) 55:00 does God approve of Jesus-memes?Find Shannon on IG @ItsSisterShannon or @Sister.ShannonSponsored by OpenEasier.com - research based non-monogamy resources.Find your host on ellestanger.com See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

Tom-boys, dykes, butch females, masc4masc, men, and more: how do nonbinary , cis men, and masculine-leaning people experience our world? It’s a spectrum of intersectionality! We speak with one person about gender, licensed sex therapist Grace Ballard.2:00 Classic psychotherapy vs Buddhist psychotherapy 4:00 some people love to be disruptive to others8:00 on OCSB (out-of control sexual behavior)13:00 playful, competitive, aggressive, touching = the gym16:00 legitimacy in the workplace19:00 work clothing is performative21:00 how do you express your gender?25:00 how does Elle express femininity for swork?29:00 on gender and power play33:00 masc people report boundary pushing too37:00 on street harassment40:00 take a woman-centered approach?43:00 on sexual functioning for men47:00 men and women need each other 53:00 demonizing masculinity prevents people from being truly healthy55:00 homophobia robs men of healthy touch59:00 diversify your touch1:03:00 break all the fashion rules1:06:00 resources: Doug Braun-Harvey, Liz Plank and moreSponsored by OpenEasier.com - research based non-monogamy resources.Find your host on ellestanger.com Find our guest at graceballard.comSee my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsPlease rate and review this podcast :)

April Flores is an award winning pornmaker with almost two decades of years of experience and knowledge about the adult film industries. We talk sex, dating, and grief. Listen to her!3:00 “Fat Girl” photo art book in 20136:00 on being approached by Belladonna9:00 the actual sex part is a small part 13:00 on having fake answers for real questions16:00 on rigorous STI screening for pornmakers18:00 on her late husband Carlos Batts22:00 it’s a mindfuck, death26:00 on fandom from former teenagers (adults)31:00 praise kinks vs baseline respect 35:00 the importance of other SW friends39:00 on aging as a performer42:00 screening dates as a performer46:00 a ghostly protector48:00 toy tips for bigger bodies52:00 NY vs LA dating58:00 on studying fat pornography1:03:00 “people wanna see my lonjas”1:07:00 on working with friendsFind April on onlyfans.com/theaprilfloresFind your host on ellestanger.com See my $1 subscriber material Patreon.com/strangebedfellowsSponsored by JoliQuiz.com now: research based non-monogamy resources.Please rate and review this podcast :)

Do you want to understand what human rights are at risk in the United States? How is social media censorship linked to facsism and reproductive care? How to identify bogus organizations that lie with well-framed media campaigns? Listen to Woodhull Freedom Foundation folks Ricci Levy and Mandy Salley, and enjoy our last episode of this season. See you in 2023!3:00 what is Woodhull Freedom Foundation?6:00 incarcerated women shackled while in labor9:00 attacks on human rights in the US12:00 Governor Abott in Texas sucks so bad15:00 government overreach and intended consequences18:00 how to identify anti-advocacy groups21:00 it is vitally important to vote25:00 on framing messages to mislead29:00 on life less safe33:00 Meta allows harm language, not arousal language37:00 AI searches for CSAM but broadly40:00 shadowbanning makes people poorer44:00 impacts on libraries, schools, disabilities48:00 how to discover if an org is unethical?54:00 WFF is not as impacted online1:02:00 when AI goes bad1:07:00 resources for sexual freedomwww.woodhullfoundation.org@WoodhullFreedom on all social media platforms @Mandy_Farsace on Twitter@RicciLevy onTwitter*Thanks to our sponsor Beducated.com - get 40% off courses and sex ed and pleasure videos and practice sheets, with code: http://beducate.me/pd2244-elle 

Our guest is a non-judgemental therapy intern, sometimes-sex worker, cannabis educator, and sexuality educator. Danielle Simpson-Baker’s work is for couples and singles, and we offer practical advice for people trying to manage and repair relationship conflicts.3:00 therapy, sexology, cannabis education and sw6:00 whorephobia in academia and how we are fighting it9:00 experience in full-service, with privilege 13:00 representation as a Black woman 16:00 things ppl don’t want to tell their therapist YET20:00 more therapist-shaming, on cannabis and porn27:00 how to reconnect after a partner-conflict?30:00 on non-sexual bonding first, after a conflict33:00 how to help a partner with shame36:00 porn and comedians perpetuate false messages39:00 sensate focus therapy practice43:00 on grief and sexuality45:00 feeling guilty about pleasure after a death 48:00 talking about a taboo desire52:00 hate mail can be hilarious56:00 on privilege despite doing illegal sex work59:00 “turning toward” makes better relationships1:02:00 @cptsdwhisperer is nonbinary, to clarify1:06:00 Dr Lex Brown - resource + recommendation1:09:00 on going downFind your host on ellestanger.comFind your host on Twitter.com/ellestangerFollow your host on Patreon.com/strangebedfellows for just $1 a monthFind our guest at sexpottherapyllc.com*Thanks to our sponsor Beducated.com - get 40% off courses and sex ed and pleasure videos and practice sheets, with code: http://beducate.me/pd2244-elle