“Joy comes to us in moments – ordinary moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary” – Brené Brown Firstly, write down your worries.  If an anxious thought or worry comes into your head during the day, make a brief note of it. Ask yourself how you could solve this worry and write three things you could do to solve it. Perhaps give yourself a deadline or a commitment to solving the worry. If it’s something you physically can’t control or do anything about – then why are you worrying about it in the first place? Now you have written it down, cross it out in RED or a dramatic line and forget about. The next way to find joy in every day is to LAUGH! That’s right you heard me, LAUGH!  No one would ever argue that laughing doesn’t make you feel good.  Here’s a question – can you remember the last time you really laughed? Chances are, it may have been some time ago, which is a shame because laughing is not only fun, it has been shown to reduce stress, enhance immunity, improve blood flow and strengthen relationships. As adults, we can become so preoccupied with all our ‘grownup’ responsibilities, that we just don’t giggle as often as we did when we were kids.  So, go on, embrace your inner child – have a laugh today! Thirdly, appreciate the small things. This is something I’ve written about previously.  We all have tiny moments or things that go unnoticed or unappreciated, because we tend to think they’re either insignificant or we take them for granted. What if we made it a habit to embrace and celebrate the small things? Real life is happening all around us while we’re waiting for the other things, so why don’t we make a pact to start noticing them?  The truth is that often the things that matter most are the small ones. Lastly, find joy in every day, and surround yourself with positive people! One big mistake we all make is that we don’t realise that happiness is our choice. We can choose to be happy, or not. I know that some of our choices are often influenced by the people in our life and if we change our life influencers for the better, we can dramatically increase our chances for happiness and success. Positive social connection is the greatest predictor of long-term happiness. Welcoming positive people into your world can be one of the most important choices for happiness you make. So, this week – find those little nuggets of joy. While you working to your end goal, don’t forget to and enjoy the HERE AND NOW.   Connect with Rebecca: GRAB MY FREEBIE – Clearing the Negative Narrative - I AM GOOD ENOUGH! •Instagram: @_rebeccahaydon_ •Facebook: @rebeccahaydonmindset •YouTube: Rebecca Haydon - Female Confidence Expert •LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebecca-haydon-mindset-and-confidence-coach-ba2217183/ •Facebook Group : The Female Confidence Club •Website: www.rebeccahaydon.com   WAYS TO WORK WITH ME: Unleash unstoppable confidence in my 90 minute Confidence Accelerator  Deep dive into the inner work with my <a href=...

There is NO time like the present to EMBRACE CHANGE.  It has been a rocky start to 2020 with LOTS of change world wide.  Change is scary, whether it’s big or small it generally comes with uncertainty and a fear of the unknown. Even when change is exciting, there is generally some feeling of fear.  In today’s society, almost everyone is dealing with some form of change and probably on a daily basis. Here are seven steps that I learned and have used several times: 1. Check what your necessary needs are Go back to basics. The first thing I made sure of, was that my basic needs were met. After the jet lag disappeared I made sure I was getting enough sleep, made sure I was getting some exercise and decent food. When I finally started work, I made sure I had a good work/life balance (this was something I really lacked in England and was desperate to address) and made sure I really focused on getting a good balance of all of these things. 2. Ask yourself how much you can control When a big change occurs, it’s important to figure out how much control over the situation you really have. As soon as I feel out of control of any situation in my life, the anxiety or stress kicks in. Understanding your role and how much you can change can help you put things in perspective.  There is something called the “Circle of Concern and Influence” which I read about in a book by Stephen Covey “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” where he introduces this concept. What he is saying is that we should focus on what we can control, and not waste energy on the things that you cannot.  It’s very true! 3. Celebrate the positives Even though it can be a tough ask, focusing on the positives can really help you manage change. While the positive aspects of a situation might not be obvious to begin with, it’s worth seeking them out – no matter how small they might be. It’s likely that you will feel much better about the changes that you’re uncertain of, or are anxious about, if you find some positives from the situation. Cultivate a positive attitude and mindset towards change. If you face it with a negative attitude, you’re more likely to experience negative outcomes. This is something that I’ve practised many times and something my mom generally tries to do – even when we don’t want to hear it from each other, it can make a difficult situation more positive. 4. Make time for yourself I am strong believer of making time for yourself. No matter what you go through in your day-to-day life, one of the best ways to stay balanced and maintain a feeling of happiness is to schedule in pockets of ‘me time’. Rather than rushing around and then trying to gain some kind of peace and serenity at the end of the day, it is better to carve out segments of time throughout your working day. Push time aside to watch a film, meditate, exercise, do yoga, read a book, drink a glass of wine (or a bottle) – anything that really makes you stop in your tracks and have that 10 minutes to breath and refocus. 5. Prepare your emotions It’s important to accept the fact that you may be emotional during periods of change.  It may be happiness, excitement or delight, but on the other hand, it could be feelings of fear, frustration, unhappiness or insecurity.  Remember that these will have an impact on you and your energy levels, so, be prepared. 6. Take Action If the unwanted change is within your control, take an active approach to dealing with it. Try setting yourself some short-term goals to proactively address any challenges. Focusing on the problem at hand, developing a plan of action, and asking for advice are useful active strategies. 7. Seek support It’s perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed if the change you’re facing is really big, or there’s too much change happening all at once. At times like this, think about where you can seek support.  This...

“The grass is greener where you water it” My 4 ways to STOP comparison: TASK 1 : BECOME AWARE OF, AND WRITE DOWN YOUR TRIGGERS. Is the only time you start comparing your life to other people’s when you scroll through social media? I know it’s a massive issue for me, but not the only one.  There could be other circumstances in your life, for example, a certain person who constantly brags about this or that, or a certain activity such as driving past massive houses or dipping into Gucci just to have a browse? These could all be activities that make us feel inferior or discontented with life. So, your first task this week is to make a list of who and what you frequently envy or compare yourself to.Write how each thing negatively affects you and why it’s actually a waste of your time. Now you are aware, it will become easier to control.  If those thoughts come into your head or you see the post from said person or said thing, acknowledge the comparison, and flip it to a positive for you – something you have achieved or done or accomplished. You are the only person you can compare yourself with. TASK 2 : BE GRATEFUL FOR WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU ARE DOING RIGHT NOW I have mentioned this before but being grateful for what is good in your life right now will remind you how much you have going for you.  If you commit yourself to being deeply grateful for what’s good in your life, and remind yourself of it DAILY, you’ll be far less vulnerable to comparison and envy. If someone or something triggers that ugly feeling of negative comparison, stop and remind yourself of what’s good in your life. Go on – list three things RIGHT NOW TASK 3 : TURN COMPARISON INTO INSPIRATION. We tend to compare our ‘behind-the-scenes’ with someone else’s big moment. We focus on their success, not on the thousands of hours they’ve spent preparing and working for their achievement. Instead of letting other people’s triumphs be a time to get down, let it be a door opener to possibilities. Let it be an inspiration for what you can be, do and have in life. So if you do find yourself comparing this week, your task 3 is to take that comparison and make it inspirational for you.  TASK 4 : DON’T LET FEAR BE THE ENEMY  The reason why you don’t make some of the choices to propel yourself into this incredible future you deserve, is due to your fears.  Don’t let yourself stay in that beautiful, easy, safe comfort zone. Do one thing every day that scares you. Push yourself out of your safe boundaries.  So task 4 this week is to do one thing that pushes you out of your comfort zone.  When looking at someone else’s success, you only see the result. You may be looking at years of effort, comparing your beginnings to their end. To achieve the success you desire, you need to walk the road to success. It never helps to jump to the end and make comparisons to those who have arrived. You are not them – things always look better from the outside than they do from the inside. Stop making yourself feel frustrated, anxious or paralysed about moving forward.  Channel your energy into you, your growth, your success, your future. Focus on you. Water your own garden. You are amazing x Want to know a little more about me?  Join my mailing list at www.rebeccahaydon.com Book a clarity call with me - https://rebecca-haydon.as.me/claritycall Join my Linked In Group 'Women Creating Unstoppable Confidence' - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/10529781/Mentioned in this episode:The Subconscious CEO Q1 Planning MasterclassPlan your most profitable quarter yet by reprogramming your subconscious for aligned action and explosive growth. Find out more at...