Today we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia. So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far. The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family. In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory and recognition of your loved ones, as well as your ability to make choices for your own wellbeing. Dementia affects the lives of more than 421,000 individual Australians, and countless family members, loved ones and carers. There is no known cure for dementia, however there are treatments for many of the symptoms. This episode is heart-breaking and heart-warming in the same breath, and we know you’re about to fall in love with Jim, just like we did. Special thanks to Hamish Macdonald, and the Dementia Australia team, who introduced us to Jim. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/MUk5ED2Ppug  🎧 Things to listen to: Hold The Moment - https://apple.co/3YCOjUz 📺 Things to watch: Still Alice - https://bit.ly/3YD5cyu 🧠 If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with Dementia, here are some great resources as a starting point: Dementia Australia Helpline - 1800 100 500 Dementia Australia - https://www.dementia.org.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like? These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all. In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew. However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh). Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour. So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt 🎧Things to listen to: Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPick Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 📖 Things to read: Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - https://bit.ly/4fpridx 💻 Things to check out: Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - https://bit.ly/40DYgCC The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games. Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training. Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode. Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success. In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test. Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset. Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon. To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP 🎧 Things to listen to: How To Write A Gratitude Letter - https://apple.co/3NGhccf 📺 Things to watch: Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS 📱Apps to download BBL - https://bit.ly/4hldXVd  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait. There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain. We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive. However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting. People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful.  With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents. On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait. Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner. Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - https://bit.ly/3BZimwO To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7 💻 ADHD Resources to check out: ADHD Foundation Australia Hotline - https://adhdfoundation.org.au/adhd Stardust Support - https://www.stardustsupport.com.au/ Curtin University ADHD Support Group - https://bit.ly/40fIm14 For support groups at other universities, contact your counselling or psychology service 🎧 Things to listen to: Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf Dr. Emily - Truth vs Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 📖 Things to read: Elaine Aron’s work on HSP - https://bit.ly/4eYlO9H Research paper on ADHD genes - https://go.nature.com/3YGcgui 📺 Things to watch: ADHD Meme Account Recommended by Ryan - https://bit.ly/3YrxwCt The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House. In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today. Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time. In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life. Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w 📖 Things to read: Uses for Obsession by Ben Shewry - https://bit.ly/4f8Z6eA 🎧 Things to listen to: Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ Rana Hussain - Belonging for Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWC Slip Slidin’ Away by Paul Simon - https://bit.ly/3NyRqGL 🍴Things to check out: Attica - https://www.attica.com.au  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s tiiimmmmeeee, to get vulnyyyyy (again). And this time, we’re talking about year 12 exams. With the WHOLE TEAM! Whether you’ve hid a possum in your cupboard the night before your English exam, or lost your voice on stage in your drama final, or maybe didn’t even take exams, we’ve been there, and we’re here to tell you, it will be okay. So, get out your papers and pens (do kids still use these?), sit down and enjoy. Love, The Imperfects. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YkRBuk See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!). Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip). With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep with Julia and discuss the role of justice in forgiveness and the place of grace in today’s society. Julia, it was such an honour, and definitely a name ticked off our dream-guest bucket list. To watch the full episode on YouTube click here - https://youtu.be/3Xjy4eABOQ4 🎧Things to listen to: Not Stupid podcast with Julia Baird and Jeremy Fernandez - https://apple.co/4h3mhIS Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - https://apple.co/404jXv7 All that really matters - Teddy Swims - https://bit.ly/3NmAt26 Renegades: Born in the USA with Barack Obama and Bruce Springsteen - https://apple.co/3BJbhQW 📖 Things to read Julia Baird’s ‘Staying Upright’ ABC column - https://ab.co/4f31HGN Phosphorescence by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/3Y2MK0M Bright Shining by Julia Baird - https://bit.ly/4eNfaCX Silent Spring by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3NpOhcf The Sense of Wonder by Rachel Carlson - https://bit.ly/3A5UPcP The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating by Elisabeth Tova Bailey - https://amzn.to/3A1w3L1 AWE by Dacher Keltner - https://amzn.to/3BGEk7E The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga 📺 Things to watch Barack Obama singing Amazing Grace - https://bit.ly/3BG1WsV The Pool documentary - https://thepoolfilm.au 🌊 Information about Ocean Swimming Groups Phosphorescence Swimming Group (Melbourne) - https://bit.ly/488EWPp Margaret River Swimming Group - https://ab.co/4dKT02P  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The birth of a child is completely overwhelming, in every way. What gets you through is your newfound love and connection. Right? But what happens when your heart doesn’t break open with love? What happens when you don’t feel what you’re meant to be feeling? Jack Post is a pillar of Australian radio. Cackling Jack of Hamish and Andy, Side-Kick of the Christian O’Connell Show, Jack has worked hard to always be in the right place at the right time. In this Vulnerabilitea House, Jack is so remarkably honest about his experience with post-natal depression. The shame, the unbearable expectation, the support, and the newfound self-love, Jack shares his journey and the hard work that he has done to get here. This is not an easy conversation, but it is such a very important one. We don’t have favourites, but this episode is an exception. Jack, it was an honour speaking to you. We love you so much. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/1ly4jm4vrqA 🎧 Things to listen to: Hamish & Andy Podcast- https://apple.co/47YDVJC The Christian O’Connell Breakfast Show - https://bit.ly/47VdSTK Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://apple.co/4gWYZEs 💻 Things to check out: SYN FM Radio Program - https://bit.ly/47WXhis If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression, these are a few great resources: PANDA - https://panda.org.au DadSpace - https://www.dadspace.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh. Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it. Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous). We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x TO BUY TICKETS TO JOSH’S GIG (!!!!!) - follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zG9XxG To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YiWANo 🎧 Things to listen to: The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg - https://apple.co/4dKKbpI Vulnerability Update - Josh Wrote a Song! - https://bit.ly/3Nld9BV James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr 📺 Things to watch: we were here - Josh van Cuylenburg Official Video - https://bit.ly/405eFzs Nick Cave Australian Story - https://bit.ly/4858zRY See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you believe that if you stop worrying, the worst-case scenario will happen? According to Dr Emily, uncertainty, is the only certainty (mic drop) (jaw drop) (the crowd goes silent). If you weren’t having an existential crisis yet, strap yourself in, because today we’re talking worry and uncertainty. In this emisode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove talks us through our new-age uncertainty intolerance, and why we continuously seek reassurance and data to drive our decision-making process. We talk big, global-warming size unpredictability, and also small, picking a restaurant without reading reviews uncertainty, to explore the role of worry in our lives. Without further ado, let’s dive into the unknown and find safety in the present moment. You can watch this full episode on YouTube here - https://youtu.be/jo5Ex1a2OwM 🎧Things to listen to: Myf Warhurst - The Anxiety of Uncertainty - https://apple.co/3Z2KKYj Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://apple.co/4cAKDq8 Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPick Ann Davidman - Should You Have Children? - https://apple.co/3MivhMn Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk - https://apple.co/4fZpp8c Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - https://apple.co/47PubRU 📺Things to watch: Brene Brown - The Call to Courage - https://bit.ly/3AD6XSR 💻Things to check out: Mother of Mindfulness (Ellen Langer) - Making the Decision Right - https://bit.ly/4eKjoLa Increasing Intolerance of Uncertainty Over Time - Nicholas Carleton - https://bit.ly/47PMRB8 Rick Hanson - I am all right, right now - https://bit.ly/3AFIe07 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific. Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time. Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following. But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent. Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it). Zoë, what a joy. To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cfaS-lIj9Mk 📖 Things to read: Things Will Calm Down Soon (Zoë’s BRAND NEW book) - https://bit.ly/3XWiTIA  Scaredy Bath by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3XQ3A3Q No One Likes A Fart by Zoë Foster Blake - https://bit.ly/3Xz3wEu Zoë’s entire back catalogue of books - https://bit.ly/3ZyMQj2 How To Be Idle by Tom Hodgkinson - https://bit.ly/3Zto6Zs This Is Marketing by Seth Godin - https://amzn.to/4dhxh2f 💻 Things to Check Out Go-To, Bro-To and Gro-To Skincare - https://gotoskincare.com Balance App - https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS 📺Things to Watch The Wrong Girl - https://apple.co/3Bg5nqe Michael Phelps Doorway Technique - https://bit.ly/3XAT9Qz Slumdog Millionaire - https://bit.ly/3Zw2lIj 🎧Things to listen to Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://apple.co/4cAKDq8 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr Billy Garvey gets kids. A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem. Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health. In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues). Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure.To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47BHJAw 📖Things to read: Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health by Dr Billy Garvey - https://bit.ly/4eqyTb6 🎧Things to listen to: The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician - https://apple.co/4doCYM8  An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/4e2vQpP Another Imperfect Chat About Men - https://apple.co/3B6WkaW Pop-Culture Parenting - https://bit.ly/4e0VRpp Kendrick Lamar: The Art of Peer Pressure - https://bit.ly/3TupbMT 💻Things to check out: Social Learning Theory - https://bit.ly/3ZlYGwP and https://bit.ly/4dV9NkJ This episode references domestic violence. If this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, please skip this one, and come back when you are ready. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be.  Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained. In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed!  Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MIykxv 📺Things to watch: Beefy’s Motivational Speech at Collingwood - https://bit.ly/3T9dCub Hugh’s ‘GEM’ Amazon Special - https://bit.ly/4dFL4AW 🎧Things to listen to: Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes 📖Things to read: The Courage To Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - https://bit.ly/3Z0M1iK How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie - https://amzn.to/3Z0jhqq How To Fight The Urge to Make Everything About Yourself - https://bit.ly/3yJddb3 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others? That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do.  Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering. In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments. And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?)    To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4gdli8B  📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point) Against Empathy - Paul Bloom - https://amzn.to/4g53tbR Fierce Compassion - Kristin Neff - https://amzn.to/4cJESGI 🎧Things to listen to Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkP Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9 💻Things to check out Kristin Neff’s online resources - https://bit.ly/3XspqKL Paul Gilbert’s review on Self-Compassion - https://bit.ly/3AQbJML Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.” Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed. Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye. Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way!  Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely. To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - https://bit.ly/3MitxTh. To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC 📖Things to Read The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner: A Memoir - https://bit.ly/3AMZX5z Betrayed by my body - Michael Salter - https://bit.ly/3AzB2m0 💻Things to check out The Grace Tame Foundation - https://bit.ly/4cEHtld 📺Things to watch Grace’s Australian of the Year Award Speech - https://ab.co/3yVZBJr 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/ Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services.  Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/ Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt excluded? Or like you don't belong? It turns out that belonging is a fundamental human need. To thrive, we need to feel safe, we need to feel welcome, but very importantly, we need to know the tribe has our back. In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to founder of Good Human, Rana Hussain. Rana is a host of The Outer Sanctum podcast, a board member of Reconciliation Australia and consultant to a plethora of elite sporting clubs on bettering their diversity and inclusion strategies.In this episode, she shares how to get curious in a respectful way, why listening is everything and how to live a life true to your identity. Ohh and there's a pretty incredible love story in the ep as well!   Rana, it was an absolute joy, and you definitely left us better than you found us. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - 💻Things to check out Good Human - https://www.goodhuman.au Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs - https://bit.ly/4dsy3KX 🎧Things to listen to The Outer Sanctum - https://spoti.fi/3WJ9iCU Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong - https://apple.co/3M3iEV5 Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://apple.co/3M4A8k8 📖Things to read Belonging: The Ancient Code of Togetherness by Owen Eastwood - https://amzn.to/3M7s16l The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

‘The Inspired Unemployed’ began when a couple of tradies, Jack Steele and Matt ‘Falcon’ Ford, began an Instagram to catalogue the skits they were writing and filming overseas. Since then, Jack and Falcon have launched Australia’s fastest selling beer, collaborated with Fendi and Louis Vuitton, have 2 million followers on Instagram, launched a podcast exclusive to Spotify AND star in their own TV show The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers. Life, from the outside, seems pretty much perfect. In this Vulnerabilitea House we chat with Jack Steele about his fear of losing relevance. Extremely generous in his vulnerability, Jack opens up about his terrifying panic attacks, anxiety over not being productive; his ADHD diagnosis; and what it’s like to live and work with your best mate, while still trying to be, well, best mates. Jack, we’re in love with you. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click this link: https://youtu.be/xxAx0kOOAo8  🎧Things to listen to: Hamish MacDonald- How To Be You - https://bit.ly/4dhN8Ph 📖Things to read: ADHD 2.0 - Edward Hallowell - https://bit.ly/4dlE8IP 📱Things to scroll: The Inspired Unemployed on Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dDpdtm 📺Things to watch: The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers - https://bit.ly/4fGD2Jm Anomalisa - https://bit.ly/3Avx1il 📋Things to do: Maria’s Resilience First Aid Training - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT 👨‍🦲Things for hair loss Hugh’s hairspray product - https://bit.ly/3yuh4ss Finasteride (please note this a prescription product and should only be used after a consultation with your GP) - https://bit.ly/3WNw2BI The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one. We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist. Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes). We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people. So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business. To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/3AvhAqp  🎧Things to listen to: Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy - https://bit.ly/3WSCF7f The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN  Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure - https://apple.co/4dzh356 Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6 📖 Things to read: Stress Study: https://bit.ly/46A9bOB Defining Protective Resilience: https://bit.ly/3SFBQfm Resilience First Aid Evaluation: https://bit.ly/4dFRXll The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree. Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom. Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YrXrf9 Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to https://bit.ly/3yv9BZX  🎭Things to check out Jackson’s Fringe Show - https://bit.ly/4cYNXwf Jackson on Instagram - https://bit.ly/3YoQoDZ Community Care Collective - https://bit.ly/3zYbUFb 📺Things to watch Ricky Stanicky - https://bit.ly/4bYQXat Mr Inbetween - https://bit.ly/4d4YZ31 🎧Things to listen to The Killers - Rut - https://bit.ly/4cUn4JM If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start: Call DirectLine on 1800 888 236 for 24hr support Marijuana Anonymous Australia - https://bit.ly/3WG4boj Family Drug Support - https://www.fds.org.au/ 🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into: The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/ Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. Or visit the below support services.  Beyond Blue - https://www.beyondblue.org.au Suicide Call Back Service - 1300 659 467 - https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/ Reach Out - https://au.reachout.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is not compulsory listening, but then again, it kind of is. We’re back to have another imperfect conversation about men, violence and consent, because we're still imperfect and we believe reflecting on behaviour is key to changing it.  We don't have all the answers, but in collaboration with Teach Us Consent and future OAM Chanel Contos, we’ve come up with some new Vulnerabilitea House questions to help anyone get vulnerable and think deeply about these issues.  In all honesty, we’re pretty nervous about answering them, but reflecting and getting vulnerable with ourselves and others is how we do better and become the people we want to be. You can find the questions on our instagram: https://bit.ly/4dnfjvO Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen as our authentic selves, even when we don’t know how others will respond. To be vulnerable is to take an emotional risk and while it does promote connection, it can also cause distress and should never be forced. So take care of yourself and others while answering these questions. Always vulnerable responsibly.  To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4fx8lWP  🎧Things to listen to Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://link.chtbl.com/mhDPOcpH An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://link.chtbl.com/BVlSy3Kf 📖Things to read Chanel Contos - Consent Laid Bare - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm  Malcolm Gladwell - Blink - https://bit.ly/3WG8Er7 💻 Things to help you learn Teach Us Consent Instagram - https://bit.ly/4dlzKJG Teach Us Consent Website - https://www.teachusconsent.com Our Watch - https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV White Ribbon - https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs If you're a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5 If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732. If you need support for your own mental health of the back of this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it. The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now. From the first spark of inspiration, to the make-or-break scene straight from a movie, Hugh gets pretty vulnerable with Ryan and Josh about all the ways he failed on the road to success. So grab your glitter pens, rule up your calendar, and pencil in dis super special episode.   📺 Things to watch How Hugh Built Dis on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3y8gAId 💻 Things to check out The Resilience Project - https://bit.ly/3zT8RhJ The Resilience Project Journals - https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK 🎧 Things to listen to Martin ‘Rac’ Heppell - The other F word… Failure - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk  The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - https://apple.co/3ZerqqN  How I Built This with Yvon Chouinard (Patagonia) - https://apple.co/4bXMbdk 🦋 If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder, these are some great resources to look into:  The Butterfly Foundation - https://butterfly.org.au/ Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://edfa.org.au Uncovery - https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your values are perfect - according to our resident psychologist Dr. Emily Musgrove. Although this sounds counter intuitive to what we usually say…it’s actually a beautiful place to start. Figuring out what your values are, and where they come from can be a pretty intense experience. Lucky we have Dr Em to help, breaking down why they are important and how they can add purpose to your life. As she explains, our values work like a compass, and when used responsibly, can point us in the direction of the person we want to be. Links mentioned in the episode:   🎧 Previous episodes of The ImperfectsPat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ  The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN  James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr  Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO  📺 Things to watch Life of Brian “Individual” - https://bit.ly/4bLR74U   📖Steven Hayes books to read  A Liberated Mind -  https://amzn.to/4bRIHJz  Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://amzn.to/3Wp95ou  🛠️ Tools to use The Resilience Project 6 month journal -  https://bit.ly/3RUBke7 Steve Hayes’ research into values - https://bit.ly/4fhrsnU 📺 To watch the full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/46795xC   Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the ultimate power move, we interview Zan Rowe, ‘one of Australia’s best interviewers’. Talk about pressure.  Champion of the airwaves, TV presenter, music journalist and podcaster, Zan has soundtracked the lives of many Australians. In this episode of the Vulnerabilitea House,  Zan draws the card; ‘how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?’  In between getting ‘death ready’ and facing burnout just when her professional dreams were all coming true, Zan and Hugh fan-girl hard for Johann Sebastian Bach. You can watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/g-ABdHgMKyE  Links mentioned in this episode: 🎧 Previous episodes of the imperfects Linda Marigliano - https://apple.co/4hUsiIl  📺 Things to watch To watch Take 5’s episode with Guy Pearce - https://ab.co/3xRKYGA 🎧 Things to listen to Zan's podcast 'Bang On', with Myf Warhurst - https://ab.co/3SbvDHN  Night of the Swallow by Kate Bush - https://bit.ly/4cw18o4  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever made a really bad decision? Made a call that you couldn’t undo? It's a fear for many, and for others, living with the reality of a ‘roll of the dice’ gone wrong, is cause for great sadness, and discomfort. But, there is wisdom in mistakes. And for Poh Ling Yeow, learning to own her bad decisions, meant she could move forward with empathy and acceptance. A skill she's honed through a life of ‘magooing’ to her way onto our screens through Master Chef, into our kitchens through cookbooks, and very much into our hearts. (Ref. Mr. Magoo).  In fact, the level of maturity Poh is able to bring to so much of her life, is unlike anyone we’ve ever met before. Links mentioned in this episode. 📺 Things to watch Masterchef on Tenplay - https://bit.ly/4cwzbg8 South Park - Morman fellowshipping of Kyle - https://bit.ly/4cniH9x 🍽️ Things to cook Poh’s latest cookbook - https://bit.ly/4cA1dXo 🎨 Art to see Poh’s paintings - The Girl - https://bit.ly/45u0rZI The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How does food affect our mood? Does diet actually impact our mental health? What is a gut micro-biome, and can we still eat a few chips without ruining it?In this Academy of Imperfection episode, we are joined one of the worlds leading experts on the relationship between what we eat, and how it effects our mental health, Professor Felice Jacka. And if can we trust anyone to get to the bottom of the vagus nerve ‘highway’; our hippocampus shrinking; our mitochondrial reaction to ultra-processed foods (don’t worry we didn’t know these words before either) - it’s her.  There was a lot to 'digest' in this chat (so to speak), but thankfully, there is so much we can do, by making informed choices about what we put in our bodies, to improve our mental health.    See below for links & research mentioned in this episode, information on Felice and her work and extra resources: 📖 Things to read The Food and Mood centre - https://bit.ly/3xdmkjw. Felice’s published research - https://deakin.au/3VWggpb, Felice’s shorter articles - https://bit.ly/3RvfeO2. Felice’s recent research in Molecular Psychiatry Review -https://go.nature.com/3xozlqq. SMILEs trial - https://bit.ly/3KLjGEL. Kevin Hall’s study on Ultra-Processed food - https://bit.ly/3z7akjY. Brain Changer, Felice Jacka, https://bit.ly/3xpYGjJ, There’s a Zoo in my Poo, Felice Jack & Rob Craw https://bit.ly/3RrHxNd.   🎧 previous Imperfects Episodes mentioned in this episode: Tim Spector - https://apple.co/3OjRlXR    This episode with Professor Felice Jacka includes a discussion about disordered eating. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready. If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations: The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5 Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last season we met Chanel Contos from Teach Us Consent and we were completely blown away by her courage and the work she's taking on. So much so, that within minutes of Hugh opening and reading Chanel’s book, “Consent Laid Bare”, he had nominated her for Australian of The Year.  In this snippet from the full episode, Hugh, Ryan, Josh and Chanel discuss the normalised and systemic nature of sexual violence against women and the pervasive issue of rape culture; including what it is and how we can all take steps to dismantle it. To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0 🎧 Things to listen to Chanel Contos - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm  📖 Things to read Consent Laid Bare - https://bit.ly/40Z0Xgh To view a version of the 'rape culture pyramid' - https://bit.ly/49XPFgh The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would it feel like to have the very thing that mad you great - your body, strength and co-ordination - slowly and painfully taken away from you? As a swimmer, Michael Klim was on top of the world - he was literally ‘World Swimmer of the Year’. Trips to the Olympics, medals of every colour, 21 world records AND his face on the cover of a Foo Fighters Album, Michael really did have it all. However, in 2022 Michael was diagnosed with a life changing condition, wherein your body attacks it’s own tissue - chronic inflammatory demyelination polyneuropathy (CIDP). In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about his equally impressive life out of the pool, and how his CIDP diagnosis has taught him a lot about identity, grief and relationships. In 2023, Michael partnered with Australian Red Cross Lifeblood to help raise awareness for the vital role blood donation plays in not just his life, but the 1 in 3 Australians who will need blood products in their lifetime. To help recipients like Michael and countless others book a blood donation here. https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link. https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi   Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:   📺 Things to watch Homer Simpson’s journey through the Stages of Grief - https://bit.ly/4epRAMJ. The Imperfects x Lifeblood video - https://bit.ly/3z0Suiv   🎧 Previous Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here - https://apple.co/492kgsN  Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8  Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - https://apple.co/47PubRU  Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility - https://apple.co/4fUmEEm    📖 Things to read Kubler-Ross Grief Cycle is here https://bit.ly/45tThVu   ⛑️ To support Lifeblood - https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN The Klim Foundation - bit.ly/4ejtGTj   🎧  Things to listen to: Milkshakes for Marlee - https://bit.ly/4cwRDEW   The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you have boundaries? Have you ever crossed someone else’s boundaries? How would you react if someone crossed yours? It is WAY easier to ignore it. Avoiding potential conflict and awkwardness is second nature to most of us. For those of us with people-pleasing tendencies, telling someone they have violated a boundary can be an acute version of living hell. Luckily for us, our resident psychologist Dr. Emily is here to help us navigate what a healthy boundary looks, feels and sounds like. And why understanding, implementing and protecting heathy boundaries is good for all of us...even if it does feel a little awkward. Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources: 🎧 Previous episode of The Imperfects Grant Denyer - https://apple.co/4fyvmsj  Dr. Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7  Dr. Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://apple.co/3COk1pd  Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO  Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself - https://apple.co/4eAJNuw  📱 Things to follow Nedra Glover Tawwab’s instagram - bit.ly/4bWnvCK 📖 Things to read Nedra Glover Tawwab’s ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’ -bit.ly/3xpFKBw. Cheryl Strayed’s ‘Wild’ - bit.ly/4emwAXa 📺 Things to watch Curb Your Enthusiasm - https://bit.ly/3VCsXVH Poor Things - https://bit.ly/3VmQ3OJ The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is not a life sentence, as Rick Davies so eloquently tells Hugh and Josh in this episode of The Imperfix. Best known as Jimmy from the TV show 'Offspring', Rick is unbelievably vulnerable in sharing his story with OCD - from the awkward and painful compulsions, to the relief of a diagnosis at 18 years old. Here Rick share's how he was inspired by the trailblazing work of Penny Moodie and talks through finding peace and happiness amidst the torment. 🎧 Things to listen to Rick’s full Imperfects episode - https://bit.ly/3wZQmHf  Penny’s Imperfects episode on OCD - https://bit.ly/459PbkY  📖 Things to read Penny’s book, The Joy Thief: How OCD steals your happiness and how to get it back - bit.ly/3x3IG6T The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From being ‘canceled’, to alcoholism and post-natal depression, Yumi Stynes knows how to get vulnerable in the Vulnerabilitea House. Starting as a magnetic, music presenter on Channel V, Yumi’s career spans more than 20 years on our screens, on the radio, or in the very successful books she’s written. However as she shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, there were times when the phone simply didn't ring and her career felt like it was at a stand-still.  In this episode, Yumi shares stories from her childhood, from feelings of isolation; to being the victim of racism in 1980s Swan Hill; we discuss the loss of her father and how that experience shaped her perspective on life; to what it was actually like being 'cancelled' and the role friendship played in her lowest moments; above all, Yumi tells us of her struggles with alcohol, and how her decision to quit transformed her life. So buckle up for a big one! We know you’ll love this chat as much as we did! 📖 Things to read ‘Welcome To…’ book series https://bit.ly/3yPqb6O The Food Fix (Garlic Honey Soy Chicken recipe) https://bit.ly/3RjbaQN 📺 Things to watch The Circle ‘cancelling’ moment https://bit.ly/3RfcGUk ⛑️ For help & support with post natal depression Call Panda on 1300 726 306 or visit https://bit.ly/45fCULX Call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit https://bit.ly/3yPDggh For further research and learning visit Mumspace - https://bit.ly/3Vzsjs4 ⛑️ For help & support with alcohol abuse Call Alcoholics Anonymous on 1300 222 222 or visit https://bit.ly/4bT6Pfq Call the National Drug & Alcohol Hotline on 1800 250 015 or visit https://bit.ly/4aPgvGJ The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Unfortunately, we all know what bad leadership looks like, for many of us, it doesn’t take long to think of examples…but what does it actually take to be a ‘good leader’? This week in the Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh are joined by a legend of the sport, former rugby league player and current coach of the Queensland Maroons, Billy Slater. Billy has been called the best fullback ever to have played the game. As a player, he’s won more awards than we could possibly list. As a coach and a leader, he is nothing short of inspiring. In this episode, Billy talks about leadership, coaching and how he approaches it. He shares how playing to your strengths can actually be more beneficial than lingering on weaknesses; he discusses how sometimes, good leadership requires ‘letting go’; and he shares why he spends so much time creating feelings and moments for his players, reminding them that what they’re trying to achieve is something bigger than themselves. You can watch the full episode with Billy on youtube here. https://bit.ly/4c45lih Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources: 📖 Things to read Link to Billy’s auto biography - https://bit.ly/3R62RIb Link to Phill Jackson 11 Rings book - https://bit.ly/3yGgQ0N The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How kind is your inner voice? What does it say to you when your with friends, having family dinner, at work, when you mistakes, or, when you look in the mirror? We all have an inner critic and for lots of us, that voice can be loud and relentless - holding us back from thriving, from living the life we want to live and being the person we want to be. In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we jump back into an episode with Dr Em and get up close and personal with ‘our inner critics’. In this snippet we explore the role of the inner critic, what’s its purpose? How can we learn to live with, and maybe even befriend it. To listen to this full episode with Dr. Em, follow this link: https://apple.co/3XaFdw9  Links mentioned in the episode: 📺 Things to watch Shirzad Charmine’s Ted Talk, ‘Know Your Inner Saboteurs’, click here: https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa 📖 Things to read Daniel Siegel https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Its hard to imagine a life more remarkable, or as unique as that of Nathan Cavaleri. Nathan rose to fame as an 8 year old blues prodigy, regularly appearing on Aussie TV screens in the 90’s, but there is so much more to Nathan and his story than that. Whether it’s touring Australia with the likes of Jimmy Barnes; or touring America with blues Legend B.B. King; being signed to Michael Jackson’s label; or starring in a Baywatch spin off with David Hasselhoff; Nathan’s life from the outside, really does look perfect. However, as we all know, perfect isn't what this podcast is about. In this episode, Nathan talks about the challenges he has faced along the way. From his battle with Leukaemia as a child; to his overwhelming struggles with anxiety as an adult that resulted in him passing out on stage. Nathan is a wonderful person, a beautiful storyteller and he’s a real joy to listen to in this episode of the imperfects. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/9XlJBw6fdq8 To see Nathan perform live & check out his tour dates follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Kgqz0x To book Nathan for speaking events, or exclusive performances, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44Z6IN0 To follow Nathan on Twitch, where he live streams his creative process and regularly connects with  fans, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3yqDutY Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:   🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects Dr Em - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It there?  - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9    📺 Things to watch Nathan’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/3wMGTCW Hugh’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/3USSxEn Camp Nowhere - https://bit.ly/4bM7MWA   🎧 Things to listen to Nathans latest albums (Demons, and Miracles) - https://bit.ly/3WTbYj5 https://snd.click/miracles   🚨 To support The Starlight Foundation - https://bit.ly/3WR1f8I   🛒 Things to buy Tickets to Nathan’s live tour - www.nathancavaleri.com/tour Vulnerabilitea house cards - https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR   The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After his sister, Niki, was murdered by her ex-partner, Tarang Chawla made a decision - that he wouldn’t allow Niki to be remembered as just another statistic. Since then, Tarang has become an activist, working to reduce incidents of all forms of violence and abuse towards women in Australian. In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we reflect on a conversation we had with Tarang back in 2022. Here, Tarang discusses the importance of believing and supporting women when they disclose abuse, and understanding the role of power, control, and gender inequality in such scenarios. Tarang also emphasises the need to separate individuals from their potentially abusive behaviour, underscoring the collective responsibility of men in combating violence against women. Here are some important links from this episode. 🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Mens Violence https://apple.co/3APcuGi  An imperfect chat about men - https://apple.co/4e2vQpP  📱 Things to follow Tarang Chawla’s Instagram - https://bit.ly/4bQa8Up 🎧 Things to listen to There’s no place like home, with Tarang Chawla https://bit.ly/3yst5Oq 🚨 For support Our watch https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV White Ribbon https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs No To Violence https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5 If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend calling the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do. As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours. In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all. Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:   🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here - https://apple.co/492kgsN  Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential - https://apple.co/3Z1E4Ix  Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8  Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ  Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word…FAILURE - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk  📺 Things to watch Tim Minchin - Play it Safe https://bit.ly/44PnJc4 Moana - https://bit.ly/4bJZyy2 🎧 Things to listen to How i work - Amantha Imber - https://bit.ly/3WNGxXw 📖 Things to read Acceptance and Commitment Therapy -  https://bit.ly/3wE7nqm 🛒 Things to buy The Resilience Project & Dr Em’s - 6 Month Wellbeing Journal https://bit.ly/3K8Z9cK The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We mean no disrespect to any of our other guests, but when Hugh says that Dr. Kiran Martin, is the most impressive person he has ever met, it’s hard not to agree. Dr. Kiran Martin is the founder of ASHA in India. It’s a not for profit, that for over 35 years, has provided healthcare and education to millions of people living in slums in India. In this clip, Dr Kiran tells us of the time she decided to wash the feet of a Dalit woman (an ‘untouchable’ in the caste system of India) in order to demonstrate humility. And it was this moment of true leadership that lead to a feet washing movement throughout ASHA, breaking down caste barriers in the process. You can learn more, or support Dr. Kiran Martin and ASHA’s work here. https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP. To listen to the full episode with Dr. Kiran Martin, click here https://apple.co/4hUYThh See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

All too often when talking about infertility, we only tell one side of the story. Traditionally in the public discourse, it has very much fallen into the category of a ‘women’s issue’. However, as our guest this week Reece Conca can all too painfully attest, 40% of infertility issues are actually male factor related. Reece Conca is a former Australian Rules Footballer, who played over 150 games for Richmond and Freemantle. When Reece and his partner Bell were finding it difficult to conceive, it took them far too long to discover that Reece has a condition called Azoospermia, which effects 1% of men - a condition where in Reece had no sperm in his semen. In this Vulnerabiltea House, Reece speaks openly and honestly about the physical and emotional toll of a fertility journey he is very much still on, the hormone injections, the surgeries and much, much more.  To follow Annabelle and Reece on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreeceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we revisit our chat with Australian comedian Luke McGregor. Many of us live with Anxiety, Luke McGregor has for a lot of his life. For Luke, his anxiety became so overwhelming that it resulted in him having panic attacks on stage in front of audiences. In this clip Luke explains what anxiety looks like for him and what he now does to manage his anxiety, allowing him to continue to work and to get the most out of life. You can hear the original episode in full, with Luke McGregor, here https://apple.co/3CGQJJq See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every Thursday over 3 million people want to hear what James Clear has to say. They do so in the form of his ‘3-2-1 newsletter’, one of most popular newsletters on the planet. In 2018 James Clear published his book Atomic Habits, a comprehensive, practical guide on how to change your habits and get 1% better every day. And that book has now sold over 15million copies. So you won’t be surprised to hear how excited we were to have Jame Clear as this weeks guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection. In this episode we learn about the importance of habits. Both the good and bad ones. We learn James’s four laws of behaviour change (make it obvious, make it attractive, make is easy, make it satisfying); the value of goals; we discuss Josh, Hugh and Ryan’s own personal history with habit setting; and how small incremental changes to your habits can set you on the path to achieving your goals and ultimately becoming the kind of person you would like to be. You can purchase James Clear’s best selling book - Atomic Habits here, https://bit.ly/3UKx0in. If you would like to subscribe to James’ 3-2-1 Newsletter, click here, https://bit.ly/44swR6o. And you can find James’ habit tracking app ‘Atoms’ here https://bit.ly/4b1Pq41See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of the IMPERFIX we revisit one of our many conversations with Johann Hari. However this IMPERFIX starts with Josh, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast, when he felt compelled to share a realisation, that he had been addicted to the internet for much of his life. Johann’s response was as always, heartfelt, engaging, hopeful and empowering. And we thought it was worth revisiting. You can hear the episode in full here. https://bit.ly/4flaoMG See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would you do if a teacher said you couldn’t achieve your dreams because your hair and skin colour weren’t acceptable? When this became Pallavi Sharda’s reality she moved to India by herself and became the first Australian women to lead a Bollywood movie In this episode we meet Pallavi Sharda, a powerhouse actress, who grew up in Taylors Lakes, a suburban area in Melbourne’s west, who went on to not only clock Bollywood, but see tremendous success on screens in Australia, the UK and the US. Pallavi is a VERY impressive person, but she grew up believing that she needed to be exceptional in order to have value in Australia. From living with racism as a second generation immigrant, to navigating Bollywood as a foreigner, Pallavi has been on a search for belonging, carving out a place in the world for herself & all future generations of ‘multi-hyphenated’ Australians. To listen to the Audible Original podcast, Sleep Sound with Pallavi Sharda**,** follow this link: *https://bit.ly/4bhkeNV* To watch Pallavi in 'Wedding Season' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UBUdDh To watch Pallavi in the Australian series, 'The Twelve', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dins5j To watch Pallavi in 'The One' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UE4GhL  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week’s ImperFIX, we revisit an episode from season 2 with Australian BMX racer, world champion and Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him a tetraplegic. In this snippet, we hear Sam describe the bike accident that lead to his injury and his incredible journey of recovery. Most importantly, he shares how meeting NASCAR crew chief, Booty Barker, inspired him to live life again. You can hear the full chat with Sam Willoughby here https://apple.co/4gfVA2L See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt so elated, that in that very moment, you felt yourself and the world around you were in perfect harmony? That feeling is joy!  But for many of us, ‘joy’ can seem elusive, almost impossible to experience, or an emotion that we feel we just don’t have time for. And for some of us, it may feel like we have lost the ability to experience joy altogether.  In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Em explores the experience of Joy. What is it and how we can tap into it. We learn how mobilising joy is and how infectious and connecting it can be.  Because as Dr Em explains, we are often surrounded by joy in our everyday lives,  but don’t pause long enough to see it.  This is an incredibly powerful, uplifting conversation, but it may be difficult to listen to if you're currently experiencing hardship or trauma. If you'd like to skip this one, we encourage you to come back when you're ready. To watch this episode on youtube follow this link: https://youtu.be/JPJ5UXm-5LI To listen to Gina Chick’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8  To hear Sean Turnell’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UaXmJ3 To stream Inside Out on Disney+ follow this link https://bit.ly/49C7gc7 To read the Betoota Advocate follow this link https://bit.ly/3JkO3kC, or you can read The Onion here https://bit.ly/3U1SUfg. The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this bonus episode of The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh have an imperfect conversation about mens violence against women. To say it's a massive problem in Australia is an understatement. Violence and aggression can take many forms that span from small micro-aggressions all the way through to rape and murder. It effects ALL women, with the most vulnerable and marginalised in our community, at the greatest risk. We don’t have the answers to solve it. But we don’t want to remain silent. Through this conversation and many more we'll have on the podcast, it’s our hope that more men start to have the conversation as well. You can follow Penny Moodie’s advocacy on instagram here, https://bit.ly/3JIBf81. To listen to our previous episode on consent with Chanel Contos follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm  Or to purchase Chanel's book, Consent Laid Bare, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49BNDRC To listen to our previous conversation about men’s violence with Tarang Chawla follow this link: https://apple.co/3APcuGi  To learn more about this problem or we recommend Our Watch https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV & White Ribbon https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs If you are a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5 If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.Or, you can call SafeSteps, Victoria's 24/7 family violence crisis service, on 1800 015 188, or visit this link: https://bit.ly/4b1SlsQ. They can provide financial and material aid, pet safety support and court advocacy, as well as support to people with a disability. Or, for further support, contact The Orange Door, who can link you with family violence and parental support services: https://bit.ly/3Q8efTb If you need support now, use Ask Izzy: a free website and service that connects people in need with housing, a meal, money help, family violence support & counselling: https://bit.ly/3xAVnG4 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Scottish comedian, Fern Brady joins us in the The Vulnerabilitea House. In pulling the card “how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?”, Fern shares a very recent story, after receiving a terrifying phone call from her doctor. Fern also discusses being diagnosed with Autism in her 30s, 20 years after telling a doctor she thought she was Autistic.  Fern talks with with great insight and humour, not only about life since her diagnosis, but what it was like living for 30 years with Autism and not knowing - always feeling different to the average person…yet having no idea why. She's an all round brilliant human and we know you are going to love this conversation as much as we did!  To watch the full episode on YouTube click here: https://youtu.be/-DLkVQj8N34 To purchase Fern’s book, 'Strong Female Character', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4aSot20. To see Fern’s Comedy special on Netlfix follow this link: https://bit.ly/49AkQNp. And you can see Fern’s hilarious promo featuring her dad, here https://bit.ly/3vVRb3a There are still tickets available Fern’s antipodean Live tour “I gave you milk to drink”. Tickets still available in Sydney https://bit.ly/49usjgM, & NZ https://bit.ly/3TYM0r9. To learn more about the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower Lanyard Fern talks about in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q466iC You can purchase the book Aspergirls by Rudy Simone here https://bit.ly/3QmYKXZ, and you can stream Six Feet Under here https://bit.ly/3TTZRiD. To try Sam Harris’s meditation app you can follow this link: https://bit.ly/4d7HrUz Or to read his book Lying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3vGDHIK To see Susan Boyle’s Britain’s Got Talent Audition, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VTeKUY The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Imposter syndrome and self doubt aren’t necessarily things you think when you think of Australian comedian Hamish Blake. However when Hamish visited us for a VulnerabilTea House in season 4, that’s exactly what came up. In this episode of The IMPERFIX, we revisit  a vulnerable moment where Josh shared his very real self doubt about his role on the show. This evolves into a beautiful conversation about the self doubt we all feel in the work we do, and culminates in Hamish dropping one of the greatest analogies of all time. To listen to the full episode with Hamish Blake, follow this link:  https://apple.co/49gV9Tz   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Imagine being falsely imprisoned, in a foreign country, where you barely speak the language, during a military coup, with no guarantee of a trial (fair or otherwise) and no idea whether you’ll ever be allowed home?  That's what Australian economist Sean Turnell lived through for 650 days, when in 2021 he was arrested during a military coup over-throwing the democratic government of Aang san Suu Kyi. Sean is a remarkable person and a brilliant story teller who radiates positivity. In this episode, he describes in horrifying, and yet often beautiful, detail his ordeal in the Myanmar prison system. Through Sean’s story we get a unique perspective…and a shining example of how resilient the human spirit can be. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Jts7nD To purchase Sean's book, An Unlikely Prisoner, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMyFlJ To purchase Kylie Moore Gilberts book, The Uncaged Sky, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMbNCV  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In 2018, writer, author & change advocate Jamila Rizvi was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour and needed surgery. In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit Jamila’s story; the tumour and its varied complications, the surgeries and how Jamila and her husband communicated the news to their son.  Jamila is an all round wonderful human being and this is an incredibly moving episode. You can hear the entire chat with Jamila here: https://apple.co/4icJmtx  This episode includes a discussion about disordered eating, if you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations: The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5 Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.