As we think about how we can show up differently and make positive changes in our lives for 2019, we must also think about self worth. In today's show, I offer you a meditation to do just that, cultivate self worth. Without a feeling of worthiness it's difficult to make our lives happen. Enjoy the meditation! Download the meditation: http://traffic.libsyn.com/theadultchair/mc_meditation23.mp3

We look and look for ways to love ourselves but nothing seems to create lasting change. In today's show we look a little deeper at The Adult Chair model, and how it helps us to love ourselves. I also share a few other tools that we can use to take us on an inward transformational journey that results in self-love. Self Love Meditation to download

Ahh the holidays. Such a busy time of year and boy can they throw us in our Adolescent Chair. In today's show, I chat with you a bit about how the holidays can throw us into "story and assumption" which creates drama in our lives. How do we end drama? You guessed it...The Adult Chair! Enjoy the show and Happy Holidays all!

Giovanna was struggling with anxiety and depression and stumbled upon The Adult Chair podcast. Giovanna shares with us how her life changed in 6 short weeks by listening to the show and applying a few simple tools that she gained. She has reduced her anxiety, improved her relationship with her husband and kids and learned how to love herself.    Book: The Adult Chair: A Guide to Loving Yourself   https://tinyurl.com/y7mdg2uy   Podcasts:    How to become Conscious Parents  #34 https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/34?rq=%20parenting   Helping your Kids Cope with Anxiety  #123 https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/123?rq=sharon   Own your Reality  #128 https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/128?rq=own%20your%20reality  

Feeling drained or fatigued?  Maybe you pick up on other people's emotions and can feel what they are feeling? This "phenomena" is not random, these are qualities of an empath. When we understand the qualities of being an empath, we can get healthy and live in the world with greater peace and better health. In today's show, Sarah Weiss shares incredible information about being an empath as well as the blessings and difficulties that come along with it. It was an awesome conversation, jam packed with invaluable information.    Episode #21 Grounding and the Energy of the Earth with Sarah Weiss  https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/21?rq=Sarah%20weiss   Sarah Weiss website: www.SpiritHealOnline.com     Audible book: https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair  The Empath's Survival Guide  Dr. Judith Orloff    

In life, we sometimes hurt or damage relationships. The one's that we often regret the most are the one's that are with our kids or other loved ones. The question is, is it possible to repair these relationships and if so how? In today's show, I discuss with you how to live from your Adult Chair and mend broken relationships with people that we deeply care about.    Audible book: https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair   Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships Healing the Wound of the Heart By: John Welwood   Podcasts suggested in show:   Own your Reality #128  https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/128?rq=own%20your%20reality    The Power of acceptance  #131   https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/131?rq=acceptance      Charlotte workshops January 26 and 27, 2019   $100 off. https://www.theadultchair.com/workshop 

I have great news for you. Yes we can end our triggers! In this show I share with you what a trigger is and what to do with them to end being triggered. Hallelujah! I even go into one of my triggers and how I walked my way out of it and transformed it. I share with you lots of examples that will help you too to be able to transform and end triggers for good. Audible book: Debbie Ford The light side of the dark chasers https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair 

Trauma is such a heavy word and when we think about overcoming it, many of us feel defeated or that it could take a lifetime. In today's show we learn otherwise. Courtney Armstrong joins me in a discussion of trauma and offers tools that we can begin using today that can change our trauma, heal and transform it for good. This is not a show to be missed! Show notes: Courtneyarmstrong.net theadultchair.com/workshop Audible book The Body Keeps Score Bessel van der Kolk https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair

Many people think acceptance is weak or it's something we do when we are defeated. It's actually the opposite. There is great power in acceptance. It's a choice we make from a clear intentional place within. When we do this our drama or anger can be done and gone. In today's show I speak with you about accepting things we are not happy about, things we cannot change and how our lives can transform with acceptance. Audible: Tara Brach Radical Acceptance Show notes: - Transforming Triggers podcast #98 https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/98?rq=triggers - theadultchair.com/journal 30 day Journaling Challenge - theadultchair.com/workshop Charlotte, NC workshop Jan 26 & 27 - theadultchair.com go to podcast page and click the blue button to leave a 5 star review

After four years of this podcast, I felt like it was time for a refresher of the three chairs. In this show, I discuss where the Adult Chair model came from and a review of the three chairs. For long time listeners, this will reinforce your knowledge of the Adult Chair. For new listeners this will help you to build a foundation for this model. Either way, it's filled with great information about the three chairs! The Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal 

Abandonment can leave an incredible wound inside of us. We do our best to bury it and not feel that pain but it leaves its mark on us. We move through life unconsciously guarded and ready for abandonment to happen again. We want to be free of this wound but don't know how. In today's show I go over the two types of abandonment and offer steps to heal this wound. Journaling Challenge: theadultchair.com/journal Inner Child link: https://kh519.infusionsoft.app/app/form/inner-child-form?cookieUUID=b1f9ab62-0aff-4de4-94d4-3aff2b1fd68e Narcissism podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/104?rq=narcissism Grief podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/93?rq=grief Parts podcast/Who is sitting in my Adolescent chair: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/38?rq=Adolescent%20chair Healing from Betrayal podcast: https://michellechalfant.com/podcast/125?rq=Betrayal Audible link: https://www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair Book of the week: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson

There is huge power in owning our reality, yet most of us don't know how. We hide behind masks to cover our true selves up and show up in the world how we think others want us to be. This can be exhausting and so wearing on us. In this show, I speak about the power in owning your reality and the benefits of doing so. On the show I mentioned: 1. Podcast #103 It's all About You 2. The 30 day Journaling Challenge-www.theadultchair.com/journal Audible book: Reinventing Yourself How to become the person you always wanted to be By Steve Chandler https://audibletrial.com/theadultchair

We feel responsible for fixing and taking care of others. When we aren't "helping", we may feel anxious or useless. These could be symptoms of codependency. In today's show, I review what happens in childhood that sets us up for codependency, what it looks like in adulthood, and how you can heal and transform your life. Additional Show notes: Journaling Challenge: Go to www.theadultchair.com/journal to sign up. Podcast: #11 Codependency: I"m OK if you are OK Podcast: #70 I am not your lifejacket! Ending Codependency in Relationships Podcast: #27 Who are You? Self-Validation and Projection Podcast: #84 Raising Self Esteem There is no shame in being codependent blog: Oct 25, 2016 Melody Beattie Audible download: www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair Codependent No More: Melody Beattie

When we experience a trauma, there is a part of us that can get stuck in time, yet we continue to physically grow. Part of the work of the Adult Chair is finding these parts and integrating them into the self in order to help us to feel whole and healthy. My client Sarah graciously agreed to share her session today which demonstrates the integration of her 10 year old part. It was a beautiful session and I am so grateful to Sarah for sharing her experience.

Betrayal is the worst kind of pain. It blindsides us, it can shock us and leave us in total disbelief. We wonder how we can move through such pain and feel ok again. In this show, Michelle shares her own experiences with betrayal and offers an 8 step process that walks us out of our pain and helps us to find trust again. Photo credit: @aleksdahlberg Resources mentioned: Living and Loving After Betrayal: How to Heal from Emotional Abuse, Deceit, Infidelity, and Chronic Resentment www.audibletrial.com/theadultchair

We don't end relationships well, unfortunately no one teaches us how to do this. We get stuck in our victim or get caught in the blame game which only keeps us stuck! Katherine Woodward Thomas offers us a fresh perspective on breaking up and ending well. On today's show we discuss her book and process called Conscious Uncoupling, which Gweneth Paltrow and Chris Martin made famous. She shares with us the 5 key elements in the book that teach us how to live happily even after. Resources mentioned... Katherine Woodward Thomas-http://www.consciousuncoupling.com/ Conscious Uncoupling-5 Steps to Living Happily Even After - book FREE offer: Conscious Uncoupling starter kit-http://www.consciousuncoupling.com/starterkit/ Audible book recommendation - Conscious Uncoupling-5 steps to living happily even after.

Life can be overwhelming at times and it can cause us to lose ourselves. This may look like difficulty in making decisions, setting boundaries and or standing in your truth. This meditation will help change that, as it helps you to tap into your inner strength and regain empowerment.

It seems like a growing number of kids today are suffering from anxiety. As parents and caregivers of these kids, witnessing their anxiety can leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do. Often times, what we do doesn't help and even makes things worse. Today Sharon Selby, Registered Clinical Counselor and expert in the field of anxiety with children, teens and families joins me on the show. Sharon offers some incredible advice for those of us needing help with our children and teens struggling with anxiety, and gives us tips on how to bring more peace and empowerment back into the family. Resources mentioned: Sharon Selby - www.sharonselby.com FREE Offer: happy to offer your audience my free ebook: 8 Common Mistakes to Avoid When Your Child Is Anxious. Download the book here: www.sharonselby.com Audible book recommendation - Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous and Independent Children By: Lynn Lyons, Reid Wilson PhD.

Anxiety, ruminating thoughts, stress and negative impulses can make us feel like we are imploding! When we implode, it feels like our world is collapsing and we have no way out. In today's show, I help you find your way out of imploding and even stop yourself before you collapse with 10 easy tips. The great news is that it only takes minutes to change your emotional state with these, and you don't even have to do all of them to feel better! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Don’t Feed the Monkey Mind: How to Stop the Cycle of Anxiety, Fear and Worry by Jennifer Shannon LMFT

We are born with a divine connection and guidance system. This part of us is the spiritual aspect of who we are, the part of us that is wise, all-knowing and always connected with us, that is always guiding us and illuminating our life path. We have the ability to connect with this part and deepen the connection. Let us now awaken and connect to this divine part: the higher self. Enjoy the journey.

People change and relationships end. This can be such a painful time but also a time of great change, perhaps positive change. In the episode today, I talk with you about how we can go through the ending of relationships in a new way, a conscious way, from our Adult Chair. Sitting here can change how you navigate the end. In today's show, I offer 6 "Truths" for relationships and how and why they may be ending. It may offer some new insights about relationships and change how you feel about things being over. Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud.

We use statements like, "I'm so in the flow today, everything fell perfectly into place." We also hear, "I was so out of the flow today, it was the worst day." Does this "flow state" randomly happen to us or can we choose it? I believe we can access this state and ride it like a wave! In today's show, I explain how we do this, with a 4-step process to access and harness your own flow state. Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Flow: Living at the Peak of Your Abilities by Mihaly Csikzentmihalyi.

“How do I find my way out?” What are you in? That doesn’t matter! If you’re in a situation that is painful, scaring you, causing you discomfort, no matter of external advice is going to help you get yourself out of it. To dig out, you have to go inside, to find the parts of you that that you don’t understand that keep you locked into a cycle of pain, that prevent you from finding clarity, from freeing yourself from the ego of your Adolescent Chair! I've had so many people come to me stuck in struggle and pain lately so on today's show I have four tools to offer that will help you on the road back to peace and into your Adult Chair! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer!

I could not be more excited about today’s show! Dr. Dan Siegel joins me to talk about his new book Aware, and the work he’s been doing that can radically accelerate our journey toward learning to live in the present moment. This is an amazing partner to all the work each and every one of you are doing to learn to live in your Adult Chair — I know you’re simply going to love this! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Aware by Dan Siegel! About Dr. Dan Siegel Dr. Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of mindsight, which teaches insight, empathy, and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for both the professional and lay audiences. His four New York Times bestsellers are: Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human, Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain, with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D: The Whole-Brain Child, No-Drama Discipline, and the upcoming The Yes Brain (2018). His other books include: The Developing Mind (2nd Ed.), Mindsight, The Mindful Brain, and The Mindful Therapist. Dr. Siegel also serves as the Founding Editor for the Norton Professional Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology which contains over fifty textbooks.

We’re back! I’m thrilled to be back to the podcast after our summer break, a break that’s been filled with much emotion for me personally. I share that experience with my friend Karen Campion on the show this week as we talk about the true power of letting go to move forward. Karen is wonderful and I’m sure her insights will resonate with you, just as they do with me! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön! Links & Notes Learn about Karen and her work

Unfortunately, we all experience shame at some point in our lives, some of us more than others. In this guided meditation exercise, you will be guided through a process from the Adult Chair model that releases and transforms shame.

How do I live authentically? If you find yourself asking that question, you’re not alone. I hear this from clients practically daily, each feeling a connection with the concept, knowing they’re disconnected from their true, authentic selves, but at the same time struggling to move into that place of living their own lives authentically. To help us answer this question and better understand the practice of living authentically, Sandra Rojo is with us to share her expertise. Sandra is founder of Journey to Authentic living and her practice is dedicated to helping others find their authenticity through her practice in the healing and therapeutic arts. Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Essentialism by Greg McKeown or Soul Shifts by Barbara De Angelis! About Sandra Rojo Sandra Rojo is the Founder and President of Journey to Authentic living (JTAL). JTAL is a Coaching, Training and Consulting Company. Sandra has more than 15 years of hands-on experience working with clients to achieve positive lifestyle and behavioral changes. Sandra lived in Northern Italy for many years where she served as a teacher, interpreter, and coach for young women. Links & Notes Journey to Authentic Living YouTube Instagram Facebook

Pain can feel heavy, like a dark cloud that won't go away. We often times don't realize that we are carrying our pain with us from the past, in hopes that something or someone will make it magically go away. Today, Rea Wright and I offer 5 ideas for relieving the darkness of pain and living a lighter more peaceful life. Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at audibletrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Molecules of Emotion: Why You Feel the Way You Feel by Candace B. Pert!

The Enneagram is a personality typing system that helps us to identify more clearly who we are, and is an exciting tool that is gaining in popularity all over the world. Today on the show Ramona Reid blends the wisdom of the Enneagram into the Adult Chair. Ramona shared with us how she experiences the Child, Adolescent and Adult through the lens of the Enneagram and the commonalities of the two models and how they enrich each other. This was an enlightening episode that will surely take you deeper into self awareness. Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth by Christopher Heuertz!

This week on the show I have a guest to talk to us about one of the most misunderstood and over-used labels I’ve run across: borderline personality disorder. Dr. Robin Arthur is a fantastic and knowledgeable expert who has been working with BPD individuals for years and has managed to offer us the tools we need not only to understand it, but to differentiate it from other personality disorders that are often confused. She’s got tips to share, examples to demonstrate her points and a terrific set of recommendations for supporting those in your life living with borderline personality disorder, too! Sponsor: This week’s show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Randi Kreger and Paul T. Mason! Links & Notes Find Robin at Transform Consulting

It’s a little bit of a heavy subject today, but it’s one we have to talk about: Healing our Shame. It’s a subject that crosses my office practically daily in insidious and subversive ways. Shame contaminates our work and our relationships and creates a cycle of binary, either/or thinking. But we can take back our power in our relationship with shame if we work to understand it, relate to it, and use the tools we have that are built in to The Adult Chair! Get ready everybody… we’re going to move through some shame today! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw!

I adore our guest today! Patti Elledge joins us to talk about adult attachment wounds. She’s a brilliant therapist and practitioner and gives us so much depth through our conversation on the role of attachment in our lives and how we can heal ourselves — plus, her work fits _perfectly_with what I teach in The Adult Chair. So grab some coffee or tea and settle in for a wonderful conversation that can change your life! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller! Links & Notes Find Patti on LinkedIn DiannePooleHeller.com

What do we do when we feel like we just can’t put one more thing on our plates? When the people we love and care about are expecting so much from us, it feels like we’re suffocating? When our career obligations increasing anxiety beyond our ability to cope? I know the feeling, and I know you know the feeling, and today on the show, I’m going to share a recent experience that had me turning to MY Adult Chair. I hope you find taking a seat in your own Adult Chair can help you soften the blows of stress and anxiety, too! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Peace Is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life by Thich Nhat Hanh!

The rush of anxiety and overwhelm can quickly take over our experience of the world. Being equipped with the tools to ease that experience is central to living in the Adult Chair. Let us journey.

The only way you’re going to heal is to own your life. That’s the overriding message of the show today and it comes thanks to the story of a fabulous client we’ll call “Carolyn.” She’s graciously offered her story for this week’s show as a demonstration of owning your own stuff, and making great strides in breaking the damaging patterns and programs that play over and over in our lives. Thanks to her work with the Chairs, she’s found grounding and hope in moving forward through relationship addiction and more! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: Personal Development Simplified: An Easy to Follow Guide to Personal Development for Beginners, Identify and Break Negative Patterns, Become a Better Version of Yourself, Guaranteed by Coach KP!  

We do everything we can to keep ourselves safe and loved in the world. To do this, we look to the past and gather up stories and then based on those stories we project into the future based on assumptions. Living like this creates stress and keeps us out of the present moment and stuck in the Adolescent Chair! When we learn to become "story busters" and live from a place of fact and truth, we find ourselves seated squarely in the moment and in the Adult Chair. In this episode, I share with you how easily and quickly we fall into stories and assumptions, and how quickly we can change our lives when we step into the moment and find our new truth from the Adult Chair. Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero!

As children, we unknowingly inherit dysfunctional or unhealthy beliefs. This meditation takes you on a journey to find your true self and along the way, remove the inherited unhealthy and dysfunctional beliefs. Find yourself at the end feeling more worthy, strong, empowered, confident, brave and lovable with a beautiful boundary keeping others dysfunctional opinions or beliefs out. Enjoy the journey.  

Ted is back! This time we're kicking it off with a big question about men and emotions, but I guarantee you there are some surprises in store from there! Ted shares his personal journey to understanding, learning to feel and experience his emotions. Along the way, he teaches us some important lessons on men and women and how we experience our emotions in different — but powerful — ways! Join us! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman, Ph.D.! Links & Notes Dr. Ted Klontz Ted’s Courses at Creighton for Financial Services Professionals

I get this question all the time: “how to do I get (fill in the blank loved-one here) to get into their Adult Chair?!” I get it. You’re doing all this fantastic work on yourself, you’re sitting in your emotions and learning to move with them, not in spite of them. You’re doing all the great things that you need to do to live authentically yourself … now why won’t other people get on this train with you? Great question. And I’m going to take on exactly that this week on the show — I hope you join me! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: Conversations with God (Book 1) by by Neale Donald Walsh of Enlightened Relationships by Eckhard Tolle! Links & Notes Register now for The Adult Chair Level 1 — Nashville, April 28-29, 2018

Annie Waugh is an integrative therapist and dear friend and she’s joining me on the show today to talk about an area of particular expertise: Essential Oils! I love oils and cherish everything Annie has taught me — and I can’t wait for her to share some of these great lessons with you all today. We tackle depression and grief and hormone balance and so much more! So grab your diffuser and settle in for some terrific and practical instruction on integrating essential oils into your healing journey! Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for our recommended book for the week: The Healing Power of Essential Oils: Soothe Inflammation, Boost Mood, Prevent Autoimmunity, and Feel Great in Every Way by Eric Zielinski, D.C.! Links & Notes Learn More about Annie Waugh Register now for The Adult Chair Level 1 — Nashville, April 28-29, 2018

Shannon Thomas sits down in the adult chair with me today to talk about narcissism, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse and emotional trauma that can plague our relationships. This is a wide-ranging interview thanks to YOU! So many of the questions Shannon takes on this week come from your responses in our Facebook private group — far more than we could cover in one sitting! So, consider this a start, and know that I’ll have Shannon back soon to keep this conversation moving. Sponsor: This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: _Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse_by our very own Shannon Thomas! About Shannon Thomas, LCSW Shannon Thomas, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social work supervisor, the owner and lead therapist of an award-winning private practice counseling agency in North Texas and best-selling author of ‘Healing From Hidden Abuse’. In ‘Healing From Hidden Abuse’, Shannon bridges the gap between pop culture and clinical advice and also outlines her ‘Six Stages of Healing’ model. Her passion is helping people overcome life challenges and seeing abuse survivors living to their fullest potential. Shannon approaches her work from the lens of a therapist and as a fellow survivor of psychological abuse. Links & Notes Find Shannon at Southlake Counseling ShannonThomas.com Shannon Thomas on Facebook Shannon Thomas on Instagram Shannon Thomas on Twitter

Go ahead and say it out loud right now: “It’s all about me!” My clients have a lot of trouble saying it, as if it gets stuck in their throats. But being able to say that it’s all about you isn’t selfish, it’s ownership! It’s your charge that you are taking responsibility for your own emotions, feelings, desires. You’re going to look after yourself first, and thus open the door to being able to be an even better, whole support for those closest to you! All that and more on this week’s show! This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: Edgar Cayce on Mastering Your Spiritual Growth by Kevin J. Todeschi! Plus, listen all the way through to the end this week. Remember Pete Wright? Producer of this very show? Well, he has a new podcast and he’s released a trailer that I’ve included at the end of the show this week. It’s called “What’s that Smell: A sometimes-funny podcast about humans and their anxieties.” I know so many people that feel such shame about their own anxieties and Pete and his partner are doing a wonderful job sharing the things that cause them anxiety and modeling how we can all be better about laughing together as we own our own stuff! I’ve listened to the first few episodes and they range from off-the-wall to downright sensitive. Give it a shot! Find it in iTunes here, or their website at RashPixel.FM.

Karen Gelstein is another of my favorite people. She’s a therapist based out of New York City and when you hear what she has to say on love addiction, love avoidance, narcissism in the show this week you’re definitely going to want to learn more about her work. We’re of the same mind, and I think you’ll find in this show that her perspectives absolutely cement the critical importance of inner child work in healing from this emotional space. It’s terrific! Links & Notes Karen Gelstein on PsychologyToday.com This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: Healing Your Attachment Wounds by Dianne Poole Heller!

This week on the show I'm thrilled to welcome one of my precious clients and author of one of my very favorite quotes on healing, “soothing cannot be outsourced.” Susan introduces us to her journey of discovery in the Adult Chair which encompasses so many of the elements of struggle that so many face: loss of family, grief, reconciliation, all milestones on a path to discovery and love of self. Thank you so much to Susan for her willingness to join me for this conversation and sharing her own journey! Links & Notes This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: The Power of the Heart: Finding Your True Purpose in Life by Baptist de Pape.

What an amazing milestone! Never in a million years would I have imagined the love and grace I've discovered in the audience of this podcast. Thank you so much for everything you've done to make the journey to episode 100 so special. And now, let's get started on our journey to episode 200 with a conversation on self-love! I have ten tools you can use to drive your own journey to self-love, each part of a practice I use with my clients to help recenter and find joy inside themselves. I love each step on this journey and I believe you will, too. Remember: it's a practice! Be patient, and let's journey! This week's show is brought to you by Audible! Get a free audiobook to spice up your commute and learn and love through reading. Sign up for your free book at AudibleTrial.com/theadultchair. From there, search for my recommended book for the week: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay!

One of the most cherished, empowering, and attractive experiences in a relationship comes when both partners are strong in the belief of their own worthiness in the world. This meditation serves as a reminder of that strength and beauty: You Are Worthy. Let us journey.

Carrying around feelings of blame, shame, anger, sadness, or apathy from un-forgiveness can be incredibly heavy on us. This forgiveness meditation will help you to gain a new perspective with the person or event that has made you feel stuck and unable to move on. During this meditation, we cut cords, relieving us of the heavy burden we have been carrying and let go of the energy of the pain. In the end, we find ourselves transformed, lighter, and ready to move on. Let us journey.

Many of us grow up learning to please others, to give up our personal space to ensure others are ok before ourselves. We violate our personal space and drop our boundaries in order to not offend others, maybe we walk on eggshells, attempting to keep the peace, forgetting we are betraying ourselves in the process. This meditation is to teach others how we want to be treated. It’s a meditation that re-programs our misbeliefs about ourselves and helps us to learn how to improve our sense of self and how to set boundaries.