Talking to yourself again? Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen assures you’re not going crazy. You’re simply thinking out loud, which is not only normal, but beneficial.

When a friend or loved one is diagnosed with cancer, the right words can be hard to come by. The good news: you can’t go wrong with heartfelt authenticity. Guest author, psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, has some helpful tips for what to say. Plus, the 7 things to avoid at all costs.