In this episode of The DMs, Heidi and David give you some suggestions and ideas on how to win influence with your kids.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David and Heidi discuss how Dinner with David went, how to influence your kid, and we talk about doing a survey with your family about the likes and dislikes of your family!! Scary thought we know! We ONLY have TWO spots open for our event this Friday and Saturday!! Sign up here! https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slcAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of The DMs, David talks about some ways to help parents get on the same page with parenting styles.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David and Heidi talk about the rapper Drake and how Heidi's son showed her the music video for his song "God's Plan" and how it made her emotional. David refers back to Tupac's "Dear Mama" and how you can't take a screen shot and label an artist by one song. They also talk about how relationships have expiration dates and how you have to update those relationships, adjust your expectation, and how when you elevate expectations you have to elevate the relationship. Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David and Heidi talk about how sarcasm can hurt others and how sarcasm is used inside of the family dynamic. It may be meant for fun but sometimes it isn't used for fun...Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slcSign up for Dinner With David Oct. 25th: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/dinnerdavidoctEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the DMs, David gives some suggestions and ideas on what to do when your kid wants to quit and quit piano specifically. He failed to mention but he no longer knows how to play the piano after three years of lessons!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi tackle the question of "How To Support Your Child When They Are Affected By Suicide/Attempt in Friend Group?""In this situation you have to take of the hat of mom and dad and being an expert. You have to be the supporter they need in that moment"- DavidSign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heidi talks about her son coming home after being gone for two years, gives her opinion on the past two DMs (#19 and #20), and discusses with David another tool of Face it, replace it, and take action.Sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of the DMs, David dives into some easy suggestions on to regain your teens trust after years of questions even though you have been using STATEMENTS! Rememeber, your teen is secretly rooting for you to be the cool parent! Here is the link to sign up for our workshop Nov 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of The DMs, David discuss with you the steps and options that you have when a teen becomes violent and always to err on the side of safety of the family.Here is the link to sign up for our workshop Nov. 2-3: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/oct2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi are finally both back in town!! They give us a report on how their trips went as well as what they learned. Heidi also discusses what it was like to go from numb to feeling again. Plus we have a special announcement at the end of the episode!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heidi talks about her two week Movara Fitness Resort experience, what she has learned and what she is going to be taking away from these past two weeks.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David goes in depth on how to use curiosity as a tool as well as he talks about his story with Trey and how he first discovered that using curiosity was an asset. As for the title, in previous episodes David has referenced using curiosity as a tool and teens as cats.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, Heidi gives us an update on where she is at while she faces some personal goals down at Movara Fitness ResortAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David is a one man show and he goes in-depth on how to follow through with your kids safety and how to deal with situations involving but not limited to; bullying, harassment, assault, teachers, schools, coaches, organizations, etc. David also give his personal experiences of him "blowing the whistle" on organizations in his professional career. As well as, the personal situation he is dealing with surrounding his daughter and her former school.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What a timely DM!! In this DM, David and Heidi give some suggestions and ideas on how to support your kids to have the best school year yet! Including the older ones going off to college!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David opens up and talks about how he handles the emotional stress of his work and what actions he takes to help keep his "Emotional Cardio" up. David and Heidi also dive into the topic of exclamation statements, explain what they are, and how to handle ones you may hear from your children such as, "I hate my life!"Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode David and Heidi answer the tough question of, "My child/teen checks the boxes and is a great kid but they stay in their room all day and doesn't like spending time with the family.. Is this normal? What can I do to change this?"Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

After taking a week hiatus we are back in the studio recording! We cannot confirm nor deny if the studio got up and walked away from us or if we just forgot to record.... In this episode, we talk about how our first workshop went and the power of "Yet".The word "Yet" can help us calm our brain, help us not freak out, and open us open to open ended options. The relationship with your kids may not be where you want it to be YET.....Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this DM, David and Heidi discuss and give useful tips on how to have a better relationship with your adult children. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

What is cyberbullying exactly? David and Heidi discuss cyberbullying, what it is, what cyber hurting is, what to do if your kid is the one bullying, and what to do when your kid is the one being bullied. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Pornography has become a multi-billion dollar industry that is very taboo, carries heavy stigmas, and shame. David explains in detail the root of porn addiction and some very powerful info to help people make sense of how it can affect people's lives, relationships, and how people can start to get a hold of this issue. DM us your questions at [email protected] Follow us on Instagram @LightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode David and Heidi tackle the question of how to respond to your spouse or anyone using "too much" social media and the best ways to approach the situation. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, Heidi talks about hownits been three years since the passing of her son Cory. We also discuss what a safe place is and how they effect parenting.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we get our first DM question from a Teen! Teens are wanting to know how they should handle being asked by adults "What are you going to do with your life now that you are going to be a senior or just graduated?" Not only do we answer that question but we also give adults/parents the tools to better handle this situation for your teen and/or when you talk to other teens. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode of The DMs, David and Heidi discuss ways to help you have a better relationship with a parent that is unwilling to work on the relationship and what expectations you should have. Here is the link to sign up for our workshop: https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slcEmail us questions at: [email protected] find us on Social Media @lightthefightAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi have a catch up after Heidi’s 2 week trip Downunder. They recap a really cool community connection event that took place in their community in conjunction with Chick-fil-A, and how amazing it was to see people come together. They also announce opening registration for their upcoming LIVE event called “Parenting 2018: Optimizing your influence as a Parent”. Get more info about what you will learn at that event! You can learn more and register at https://www.lightthefight.com/shop/2018slcAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this DM, David answers the tough question of what the right age for a cell phone is. He also gives you tools you can implement right away before your child/teen even asks.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

OH NO!! David needs a therapist?!? Since Heidi is out of the country, David takes this opportunity to tell you the name of the teen podcast, introduce himself, tell his life story, and why he became a therapist.. By the end of it you'll agree, David may need himself a therapist.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, we share the "Wins" of a mom who started using the highs, lows, and who the heck knows with her family! David and Heidi also expand on why the highs, lows, and who the heck knows works and why our brains need those three options.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, David and Heidi go more in-depth on the Instagram message from David on the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. As well as discussing the current situation of the mental health discussion.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi breakdown skills and tools to help when family is criticizing your parenting skills.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Finally, David addresses the long awaited topic of “THE OLDEST CHILD”. In this episode, David shares what he has learned in his schooling, as well as his clinical experience about the unique relationship between the Father and his oldest Son, and the Mother and her oldest Daughter. Learn about how critical an optimized relationship is to overcome difficult cycles within families.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In DM #009, David confesses that this is a topic that he discusses with clients multiple times a week! “How can parents re-trust their teens?” You might be a little surprised to hear David’s advice.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi get a DM asking on the best way to support teens and kids that are dealing with Anxiety. David gives some suggestions of what you can do to support your teens and kids figuring out what works best for them.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heidi shares her experience speaking at her community’s suicide awareness event, and how she has faced her own “resistance” and is seeking “Evolution” ... she also opens up about her first try at “video journaling”.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this 7th DM, David responds to the many questions about cell phones, and how dangerous they are? Instead of debating the dangers, or the addictions of cell phones + social media combo, he talks about how effective our approach is in talking to our kids about this touchy subject! This episode will give you some thoughts on how to discuss it in a more open way with your teens.Social Media Video Link: https://youtu.be/PmEDAzqswh8Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi discuss how you can help someone understand the struggles you are going through and the struggles your kids are going through when they can't personally relate. In this episode, David discusses the book, "Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions" by Johann Hari You can purchase that book here: https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Connections-Uncovering-Depression-Unexpected/dp/B078HSDZSQ/ref=tmm_aud_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode was originally filmed as part of a LIVE stream on Instagram and Facebook! David and Heidi discuss the concept of how we influence those around us by ourselves being MIRRORS that others see themselves in. How do we reflect back? How can we create a more positive reflection for those we come in contact with?Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this DM, David and Heidi are asked a very serious question. "What to do When a Boy Threatens Suicide When Your Daughter Doesn't Like Him?" We give three different options on how to handle this situation. You can DM us at @lightthefight on social media, David @DavidKoz, Heidi @HeidiSwapp and you can email us at [email protected] Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Understanding the vital difference between “victim vulnerability” and “assertive vulnerability” is an absolute game changer in building relationships and creating connections. David explains (and demonstrates) the difference between the two types, giving an important clarity that can otherwise be misunderstood. Learn to spot examples of these two opposite approaches in your life, and how to become more ASSERTIVELY vulnerable in all your relationships, including yourself. In this episode, David and Heidi discuss the Books "Extreme Ownership" by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin and "The Way of The Warrior Kid" by Jocko Willink. To purchase Extreme Ownership: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1250183863/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=jocko20-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=1250183863&linkId=b647a7a20738130a540ea90deab4dfdbTo purchase The Way of The Warrior Kid: https://www.amazon.com/Marcs-Mission-Way-Warrior-Novel/dp/1250156793/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1250156793&pd_rd_r=3Q9W20GNFPTJ0SMPNRYW&pd_rd_w=O3H1R&pd_rd_wg=yo9GN&psc=1&refRID=3Q9W20GNFPTJ0SMPNRYWFollow Light The Fight @lightthefight Heidi Swapp @heidiswapp and David Kozlowski @DavidKoz_Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi dig deeper into the Guilt vs. Shame concept! Specifically, about the power and importance of "Best Friending" yourself...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In DM #004, Heidi reads a question from a mom who is concerned about her son’s "video game” to "real friends" ratio! David’s suggestion for approaching this very common issue, might not be what you expect! Would you believe David says “games first”?Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The natural inclination that we feel as parents is to SAVE our children from things that might cause them HURT and PAIN! In this episode, Heidi remembers some valuable advice that David gave to her in a session they had 3 years ago. This information was hard for Heidi to hear because she felt so hard-wired to protect her son from his own choices. It’s ok to allow our kids to experience the hurt and pain associated with their actions; instead of saving them from it, learn how and what the parent’s role is to support throughout the challenges our kids are facing.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi respond to the DM’s! This time they discuss the struggle that happens between siblings! How do you get siblings to connect and communicate? David shares a great suggestion that you can start now to help build relationships in your family.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In a world that demands to be defined as one or the other: “yes or no”, “right or wrong”, “true or false”, “up or down”, “good or bad”… Episode 10 discusses a third option.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Heidi brings a big question to David about helping anyone that is struggling with depression. However, she admits that the conversation doesn't go how she thought it would… and this episode really became an important discussion about how important it is to EVOLVE faster, and with more intention in making and building relationships. Follow us on Instagram @lightthefightEmail questions to [email protected] Be sure to connect with David and Heidi on Instagram @DavidKoz_ and @HeidiSwappAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

David and Heidi respond to the “DM’s”. This particular question has come in from several people… different situations and scenarios, but the question is very similar: how can I motivate my once self-motivated child? David’s advice goes hand in hand with the discussion from episode 8. Find out how to put your relationships first, and increase your influence as a parent.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy