SPECIAL EPISODE: this is an adaptable guided meditation to help you wake up in the morning and recharge with positive, warm energy for the best possible start to your day! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

if you’re like me - and you have ever felt resistance or a sense of overwhelm with trying to convince yourself that you need to meditate and seem to struggle sitting down for three to five minutes at a time, and cant quite understand why? I get it, bc I’ve been there. Quite a bit. And in my experience, the best way around that resistance is to remind yourself that meditation is not a time to DO meditation and all the other pre-assigned definitions of the word - you’re kinda defeating the purpose of the damn practice in itself, which is to release expectations.So, instead of stressing out finding the right insight timer, or worrying about how hard it’s gonna be to clear your head, or how much you don’t feel like focusing on your breathing, drop all that shit and just focus on showing up as you are. Switch from “damn, i should get up and go meditate” towards “I love the time and peace I get to create through taking time and space for myself by doing and being nothing for a few moments every day.” For me, personally, when even the idea of meditating is off-putting, i don’t tempt fate by wrestling with finding the right guided voice - I simply turn on the timer on my phone and breathe. If I struggle to focus on my breath and it’s not a good vibe - I toggle between two mindfulness strategies that my friend Casey introduced me. Because typically if I am unable to focus on my breath for more than a minute it’s a signal for me that it’s a good time to either release something or fill my cup up a bit cuz I am running on empty. Depending on what I need more of in that moment, I kinda vibe with an internal guided monologue which I want to encourage you to listen through the one I will be sharing with you so you can create your own version that feels right. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In my opinion, the only true, long term solution to not wanting to stay in bed all day, and that is to create genuine motivation to get your ass out of bed and begin your day. Obviously knowing you have to do taxes wont get you out of bed but knowing you have a zoom friend date with some grocery store sushi and a bestie from middle school this evening is far more likely to get your ass amped for making moves. Focus on the parts that sound good. I don’t like making my bed but I love having a tidy space, so I focus on that. I don’t like showering but I like feeling clean and smelling good, so I focus on that. I don’t like making breakfast but I love housing it. So I focus on that. Figuring out what truly gets you going, isn’t easy. It’s a lifelong journey of trial and error and a bit of discomfort for most people - but a good place to start is anywhere. So just start looking, figure out what works and try to have a bit of fun in the process. Life is not meant to be all work and no play. But if you’ve ever done too much play and not enough quality work - you know you can also get burnt out with that too. Find your balance. Ideally you can work towards creating work and play that suits you in a way that makes it easier to get out of bed and get your day started. When we create a good mix of both fun and purpose, we feel more balanced in general and less resentful that one isn’t the other. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When it’s time to start moving there are a variety of tactics I find myself cycling through to effectively get myself off my ass and in a better energetic mindset for the day. Some ways to help you get out of bed: MYDB PODCAST: Listen to the Make Your Damn Bed Podcast + practice associating it with starting your day.PLAYLIST: Put on a hype up/game day playlist and blast it. BLAST OFF: count down 3-2-1 and bounce up on the 1. BUG DROP: Imagine bug on you, get up with a jolt + scream. SHAKE OUT: Start shaking + wiggling until your energy rises.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you want to participate in discourse get educated if you’d like to have opinions. Ideally you are only listening to multiple Reputable sources from different organizations and areas and are as unbiased and unsponsored as possible.  then - if you have the capacity to do something to help in any way - which I have to be honest, I don’t know that writing our alderman is really gonna work on this one so if you have suggestions, I’m all ears and down to do what I can to fight the good fight - but once you’ve researched, educated, and done what you can to be of support, you gotta set it down. That shit is heavy and will weigh you down in ways you don’t even know if you aren’t careful. If you are safe, currently, and have the privilege to set it down, please do so.  Get to know when you’re starting to burn out. Recognize signs of obsession, fatigue, burnout, fear, anxiety, and take breaks. Schedule and stick to times you will and wont research and discuss this shit, etc. and so on. Whatever you need to prevent burnout so you can be the most well rounded, protected and accounted for version of yourself is always gonna outweigh being the the most profoundly educated or motivated.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I believe, in general, if bad news or even just the idea of news genuinely incapacitates you from life and you cant deal with learning or knowing or watching or doing anything that makes you feel heavy, fuck it. You are under no obligation to learn or know or watch or cater to anything heavy for a while.  Nobody is checking you to ask what you know or what you don’t know about current events. Don’t feel guilty if you need to sit this one out. Maybe check in with the real world once in a while because if you want to function and also sustain boundaries in our society it’s always helpful to be informed, but if you really do need to sit a couple weeks of news cycles, do that shit. If you never need to look at the news again, great. Boycott it. People survive in this world all the time without knowing a damn thing about a damn thing and we are none the wiser. Do whats best for you. That said, if you are more on the cusp of this concept and, like a lot of people, see the value and maybe even like to know what’s happening in the world but still struggle with how and how much and when and where and all that shit, this is for you. And if you are like the person above that really does believe learning about the current conditions of the social and environmental climate is genuinely not worth your time, I encourage you to listen anyway because I may have snuck in a few nuggets of wisdom for you, too. Lemme start by saying, there are a lot of valid reasons to want to avoid the outside world. Maybe You’re like me and you are a very sensitive sally and when everything sucks and hurts out there, it also sucks and hurts in here. If this is you, too. I’m telling you, I get it. That said - we really gotta learn boundaries so we can feel safe when life happens and not feel like wee have to hide all the time. Because we really gotta know the bullshit so we can better understand the bullshit if we want to have any chance of figuring out how to how prevent, stay out, and help others out of the bullshit if we do have ANY window of control, which most tragedies don’t allow for but regardless, knowing the basics of whats going on is typically something that makes me feel slightly more in control. So, whatever your thing is - find your motivation to learn about shit way we can continue to feel in the loop but not bound by it.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Be raw when you can because it shows others they can be raw too and it also shows the world it’s okay to need shit, to not be perfect, to have blemishes, and make mistakes. Life is nuanced - what you compare yourself to should be too! Don’t get stuck in echo chambers of single minded, neutral looking, straight sized bodies. Diversify, branch out of your comfort zone, and be more objective with the content you’re digesting and letting into your baseline of comparison. Whatever your passion is, keep doing it. Don’t waste time chasing after success or comparing yourself to others. Every flower blooms at a different pace. Excel at doing what your passion is and only focus on perfecting it. Eventually people will see what you are great at doing and if you are truly great success will come chasing after you. - Suzy Kassem.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Had a great revelation during the recording session of the relative comparative baseline series and wanted to share it with y'all! I am spending a lot of time findin' the right balance that works best for my style and preferences and most optimized results. With trial and error, I find more and more things that I find surprising to admit they genuinely bring me joy. Who would've thought bringing a broom to the workspace could make a girl so excited to work?Back to the finale of the series for relative baseline comparison, tomorrow! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

And every new human I meet and every new story I learn only encourages me more to show up fully in my own life. I like knowing the wide world has lots of options and there is not any expectation for me to be the best or worst of anything. I will fall somewhere in between and where I land is ultimately up to me and fate. If I follow the kardashians I am far more likely to end up on amazon buying waist trainers and brow Gel than when I follow financial literacy influencers who send me spiraling towards investment articles and financial planning appointments.and I am not saying your social media and social group has to be all education and elevation and optimization. I am simply encouraging you to diversify the shit out of your baseline. Plus, the more realistic you set your baseline - the more realistic your own expectations for your own life get and the better and you feel in the process of obtaining the one that works best for you. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

if people who are raw and “UGLY” or messy or open or authentic online, and that is off-putting to you - check in on why - is the reason valid or is the hesitation because you’re so used to seeing perfectionism and unrealistic expectations in your feed?I know people very personally who share very misleading versions of their lives online which genuinely makes me jealous even though I see them and know the reality behind it doesn’t actually make me feel that way. It almost doest matter that we know its fake. It’s like the cousin with the box analogy I used yesterday - If I didn’t know the flashy toy existed I wouldn’t care but damn my box looks like shit all of a sudden even though this box has been my favorite box in all the land for a very long time. We all have our shiny toy/box metaphor. It may be bodies that don’t look like yours - which for me - following fitness influencers and half naked confident humans with atypical bodies has changed my take on what is genuinely beautiful and I have always been a very inclusive lover but damn sexiness changes when you see it in various forms. Plus it’s helped me know the power my curves hold - which is an episode for. Different day.But maybe following fitness influencers that are both similar and different than you can show you bodies like yours and smaller and larger than yours can do hard things and so can yours if you start small but show up consistently. Also - this is no shame to anyone who enjoys filters or photoshop - it’s just saying - as soon as we recognize how inauthentic the things we’re comparing our lives to are - the better we are at setting our own standards and expectations for ourselves in a way that promotes long term happiness and sustainable success. If social media isn’t motivating you - change your feed to be more motivating. And I know I’ve said this a million times - but this time I’ve backed it with science and substantial reasoning so ha!  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A good place to start when it comes to expanding your baseline of comparison and relativity - is social media. And I recommend starting to realign that by looking around you - does everyone at the grocery store in your area look like the people that come up in your timeline feed? Or is your feed filled with one type of body or person? One type of content? If it’s all puppies or recipes - great. But if the influencers, friends, bots or whatever that make you feel like shit or feel like you need to buy more shit - you need to reset the baseline and reevaluate your relationships. Diversify diversify diversify. The more broad our spectrum is for comparing ourselves, the more likely we are too find a comfortable place in the middle of it.If I only follow bikini models - next time I see my body in a bikini - my brain will filter through the last few reference points for what this is “supposed to look like” and if it can only find bodies that don’t resemble mine - I may not feel as comfortable as I would if I was following people of all body types rocking all different types of swimwear and proving to my brain that they not only look amazing and confident but they also encouraged me to wanna look that good and confident in my own version of this metaphor. I like to think of social media as a tool and a resource that can inspire, educate, and motivate you. Of course, you can use it as entertainment, but even then - that’s a tool that can empower without damage.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Day III of series. Please go back to day one if you're new here! If you chronically feel not good enough - your baseline of comparison is probably too fucking high and unrealistic. Reevaluate and recalibrate that shit. The grass is always greener and our brains are designed to get bored of repetition so novelty is more important than getting ‘the best of the best’. Basically, we need to remember that comparison can be great for leading us towards our deepest wants and desires. Of course, it can also be a trap - we can often find ourselves fighting to experience shit that our friends experienced just because we saw it existed and that looked cool enough to distract us from our own goals but in reality - you will only reach true inherent success and happiness if YOU choose what creates that for you. And only you can know that. So change your baseline of relativity to reflect what you actually want and where you are to create a more realistic and reasonable comparison window that makes you feel inspired instead of lesser than - and you’re likely to stay the course that actually brings you TRUE real lasting happiness without distracting you with other baselines that aren’t even relevant to your actual pursuit of personal success or joy. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This extra special extended episode features the incredibly brilliant Dr. Darcy (you can find her and take the quick lil trust quiz at www.thetrustquiz.com) and we chat about common relationship drama, inheriting generational trauma, and why we act out around our mama*.*I did this for the rhyme, we cover why we get meaner to the people we are closest to, but you get it. I hope you enjoy this episode as I did making it happen for y'all! Hope the rest of your day is half as magic as you. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Success as a whole is relative - which means it’s kinda bullshit. They did a study on people wanting to own nice cars based on the proximity to lotto winners who won or immediately purchased nice cars and the chances of you investing in a new car multiplied by 50% ish if you were in the neighborhood and 80% if you were the next door neighbor. If your social media feed is filled with mean, fake bodied, rich influencers who manufacture every post to look casual - you will absolutely think that your real, genuine, authentic casual life is pale by comparison. But if you follow people who are being vulnerable and honest - posting photos without edits and makeup and posing and curating and filters and stylizing and whatever - you’re more likely to see that other people’s houses aren’t always tidy or they also have bags under their eyes or their hair also does that weird thing like yours - and you’re less likely to feel lack in your comparisons.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A big part of our personal baseline of happiness is based on our relative comparison to the world around us. Basically - we are only as happy as is appropriate to the level of happiness we believe the people around us are. In the most laymen terms - we are constantly comparing to what we know but we typically don’t know the whole story. Even when we’re aware of this shortcoming, we still seem to measure our own happiness and success by comparing ourselves to others. Studies show that bronze medal winners are happier than silver because they are comparing to the baseline of almost not ranking and the silver medal winner is more likely to be a bit disappointed because they’re comparing their baseline to ALMOST winning gold. Generally, we wouldn’t want nice cars or decent jobs or great educations if the society around us didn’t put value on that shit. We’d never buy name brands if we didn’t see other people - that we have deemed successful and happy - with those brands. Comparison is the thief of joy, but in a lot of ways it’s also the creator of it. So stay conscious of this shit, if you can and recognize when your baseline you’re using to compare yourself is unrealistic, unattainable, or just plain unattractive to you. Tomorrow I will continue this relative comparison series with some more examples from my real life and some ways to combat it’s tendency to make us feel like we’re lacking in comparison to the world around us.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take time to make time. I recently spent 30 seconds to fix a drawer that has been inconveniencing me only slightly for the last 8 years. My life has changed dramatically since taking that 30 seconds out of my day and probably saved me 5 minutes of frustration already, and I only just fixed it.Look for ways in your life and surroundings where you can take a little time to make a little time. It’s worth it.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’re not taking time for yourself you’re making more of it. When you're trying to catch up or get out of a funk, don’t focus on the tasks - focus on YOU and your systems and your foundations and the rest will fall into place. It sounds counterintuitive but when you take the extra time to eat your veggies and drink your water and shower and tidy and show up for yourself first - it actually buys you time to show up for the other shit better in the long run.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

https://www.nedratawwab.com/set-boundaries-find-peaceI have always struggled with boundary setting and even though I recognize my people pleasing tendencies now and avoid falling into the same patterns most of the time - I still struggle with saying no to things I like doing. It’s a weird thing - I can say no without explanation to any fucking thing that doesn’t interest me -but I will rework my entire schedule to accommodate anyone and anything if it means getting to do another thing I like doing. As you probably know based on some of the more vulnerable moments I have shared the past few days, I have been feeling a bit behind and overwhelmed in general. That said - other than the dog’s medical stuff - the overwhelm that I have been feeling is all things that are 1. Self inflicted and 2. Enjoyable tasks for me when I am in a more regulated state of mind. Don’t be afraid to analyze the boundaries you have with yourself. Do you go to bed when you want to or do you rebel against you own best interest in an effort to regain a sense of control before bedtime. Do you respect yourself enough to tidy the spaces that you know you work better after tidying?  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Keep an open mind and see if you can squeeze anything valuable out of the experience - you may be surprised at what you gain by doing so.How to set yourself up for a resounding TAROT session: 1. Get in an energetic alignment with the part of you that wants to gain insight from the reading. Even if its just a general reading - really take your time to breathe, get comfortable in the space and allow yourself to really buy into the experience for the time being. I have had readers that shuffle for me and some that allow me to shuffle my own read and I personally like to put my energetic alignment into the cards themselves. This helps me to connect with where I am and really get present by providing a tangible, grounding device. 2. Set your intention for the experience you want to have. What do you want to know? Again, even if it’s a general reading - set your intention on buying in and resonating with what you can and leaving behind what you can’t.3. Ask if you can have a moment to look at the cards without interruption for a moment and see if you have any unforeseen insights that arise by looking at the images that came up. I love how each tarot reader interprets in their own style but has the basic meanings of the cards that speak the same truth so I feel like going in with little preconceived notions about the cards at all and simply interpreting them earnestly without prejudice is a great way to kind of see or find out where you’re associating and protecting your own feelings into your own perspective of your issue or what have you.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

even barring the magic altogether - tarot is such a powerful tool for reflection, connection, inspiration, insight, and perspective. Throughout my life there have been certain people that just inspire the heck out of me and fill the hell out of my cup so that when were done hanging my creativity is piqued and my inspiration is sparked and I want to clean my space and write and live. But those people typically appear like lil glimmers in my life - we may live far away or I have people who inspire me sure, but the ones that give me the friendship super power energy - those may be too powerful for even me to be able to be nonstop interacting with - but who knows maybe one day I will meet my match. The point is - the way I felt after hearing my reading left me with that feeling of inspiration. I kinda put it in the same place in my head as treadmill legs - like you feel a little lighter and a little floatier but you know it’s all in your head.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

as always the case for me when it comes to Make your Damn Bed and basically ANY other content or human being that speaks to you ever - you should be generating your own informed opinions by looking at diverse and credible sources before communicating, or honestly even formulating, any opinions of your own, and I Julie Merica have not ever claimed to know what the hell I am talking about - so it’s all opinions.  Long story longer - It took me a long time to be fully comfortable when my cute lil witchy friends would talk about the moon or crystals and tarot. And now I am at the point where I have fully bought in. I truly adore interactions that I don’t find boring or tedious and people who buy into magic are not only not boring but some of my favorite kind of people because they haven’t given up hope like the rest of us negative nellies - and magic is beautiful and undeniable in certain capacities even if you believe in science there is stuff science cant explain and even still - I truly think science is just the magic we CAN explain - you may remember my airplane episode - I think nearly everything cool is literal magic but here we are.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On a recent episode of Queer Eye (Craw Zaddy) the client (Todd) said something that hit me hard: "ya know sometimes, it's too easy too exist and too hard to live." and as someone who as fully agreed with that statement at certain times in my life, I now believe it's a trap. The effort you put into LIVING will make life easier - which will in turn make it easier to exist altogether which you'll no longer want to simply do because you'll have tasted the sweet nectar of living. You’ll never regret showing up for yourself and if you’ve been busy just existing start slow life gets better when you choose to make it better unless you get real lucky. The reward system with effort is ten fold. ^^^Which is what I keep reminding myself over and over and over whenever I have a rough day/week/month like the one that is occurring for me currently as I realize I didn't save this episode properlly. Honestly, I am just overjoyed the majority of it did save. Tiny victories - and new (more specific and difficult) lessons learned. luh you, Off to bed. BYEEEE. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I've been vegetarian or vegan for the past 16 years so here are some of my go-to tips and tricks for increasing your plant intake and decreasing your consumption of meat. I would love to challenge you to do a meatless day every week or a meatless meal Monday or at least a mindful minute in which you search for more locally sourced products and research where your meat that you’re consuming actually comes from! It may surprise you.If you are vegetarian maybe try vegan one day or one meal a week. Tag me in your favorite vegan and vegetarian recipes and I can start sharing my favorites in my newsletter if you’re interested in that, lemme know. HAVE A GREAT DAY, SUNSHINE. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

CW: Been really reevaluating my relationship with alcohol lately.Follow Samantha: https://www.empoweredspirituality.online/ If you have strategies that you use to set boundaries with yourself like “ill only spend $30, I’ll set intentions for every sip, I’ll switch to water after 2” whatever - let me know. Tag me @MYDBPodcast on IG or [email protected]  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

good morning sunshine. This episode is Julie sharing a few thoughts about style, refreshing a space, and the energetic ties we hold to dust. Talk to you tomorrow! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We often let ourselves get swept up in other peoples problems as a way to avoid dealing with our own bullshit or sometimes just because it’s hard not to - like I said - energy is contagious as fuck and toxic energy is the most contagious of all. So we have to definitely be aware of that reality and get comfortable catching ourselves when we start sinking into the cycles that we don’t want to get into. This is why - I think - so many people harp on the importance of a healthy social group - because toxicity travels. It spreads. But so does positivity. When your friends are fired up about life and hyped about the day ahead - you’re far more likely to be psyched up too. If you have to spend every day picking your friends out of the slumps - and they don’t want to get out on their own - you’re more likely to join them in the slump than they are to escape it. You can absolutely bring other people up but they can bring you down twice as easily. So be conscious of your own place, your own energy, your own mindset, and how you’d like to experience a situation before you enter it so you can more effectively notice and catch whenever someone is dragging you into their mess.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thank y'all for understanding I needed a minute. Sometimes all ya have to do is communicate you're having a problem and people may surprise you with a solution. There really is a lesson in everything, huh? Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/canada-doctors-can-prescribe-time-in-nature-with-free-admission-to-national-parks/ PaRx Canada now consists of over 1,000 physicians, nurses, and other medical professionals in B.C., Manitoba, Saskatchewan, and Ontario who can prescribe the annual Adult Parks Canada Discovery Pass from the Canadian parks authority.A University of Saskatchewan student, speaking with CBC news, described the idea that nature should be looked at as the “fourth pillar” of health, alongside diet, exercise, and sleep. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

https://www.healthline.com/health/hedonic-treadmill#bottom-lineThe hedonic treadmill is a metaphor for the human tendency to pursue one pleasure after another. That’s because the surge of happiness that’s felt after a positive event is likely to return to a steady personal baseline over time.In the same way, the negative feelings you experience after a traumatic event also tend to soften with time.However, there’s good evidence to show that some kinds of happiness are more durable than others. Pleasure that comes from selfless acts, for example, tends to outlast physical pleasures.Research also shows that you may be able to increase your long-term sense of well-being through mindfulness, personal growth, gratitude, and investing in relationships. Learning to savor simple pleasures as they happen may also help you hang onto happiness a little longer. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sign up for today's Heartbroken Anonymous Meeting and get to know Naz more here: https://www.heartbrokenanonymous.com/ Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MY LOVE! (how stinkin' amazing is it that the episode was somehow 11:11!? I almost cried. literally.) Truly couldn't be more excited to have pushed through my initial plan for 66 days and commit to 6 full ass beautiful seasons together.This episode is one of gratitude and genuine love for YOU for being the type of person in the world that the world needs right now - because if this show resonates with you, YOU ARE the magic. I am ridiculously excited to see where the next 365 days together leads us.Reminders:nobody is mad at you. if you didn't do anything wrong, quit worrying. if they are mad they'll tell you and if they don't tell you that's on them.you're the creator of your world. you control the momentum created in your life. put your energy into the things you want to see grow.self love and self care are acts of rebellion and community care. keep saving the world by showing up for yourself first.i love you. i am proud of you. and i am unbelievable fucking grateful for you.Happy one year anniversary! Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Check out the full article here: https://www.healthline.com/health/hedonic-treadmill#bottom-line Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

https://www.healthline.com/health/hedonic-treadmill#bottom-line Medically reviewed by Timothy J. Legg, PhD, PsyD — Written by Rebecca Joy Stanborough, MFA: Rebecca’s article says: Psychologists say that when human beings experience something good — a long-awaited promotion, a new car, a winning lottery ticket, for instance — the surge of happiness that’s experienced is likely to return to a steady personal baseline over time.It’s a phenomenon known as the “hedonic treadmill,” sometimes also referred to as hedonic adaptation.Interestingly, the same principle applies to difficult events. Most of the time, when people experience a loss or setback, the feelings that accompany the negative event lessen in severity over time. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

@TIKTOKTRAUMADOC shared an amazing technique for battling our negative self talk that truly has made a huge difference in the way I speak to myself. She asks us to try WHAT IFFIRMATIONS instead of affirmations. Instead of saying: ‘I deserve love.’ Ask yourself, ‘what if I deserve love?’ ‘I’m beautiful.’ Try ‘What if I believed I was beautiful?’‘I love my body.’ Try ‘What if I loved my body?‘When we form our affirmations into questions - our minds open up to the possibilities behind whatever it’s asking. Hearing a question will trigger your brain’s neural pathway to instinctively elaborate in order to react to the question. Hearing a statement presented as fact can often make us want to get defensive, but hearing a question presented as a realistic possibility? That’s where the real magic happens.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Good news source for this week: https://www.theskimm.com/news/10-good-news-moments-from-january-2022-5TvAkrstAJUyONg807dw8k Mj Rodriguez reaction: https://twitter.com/PopCrave/status/1480389921810444293?s=20 Inspiring story: https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2021-12-24/conservationists-create-home-for-wildlife-north-of-l-a Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Learning how to take the note is not easy but it’s an important practice to master. The more you put yourself out there, and ask people for support the more you open yourself up to constructive criticism. Eventually, you may even seek it out as a way to level up because effectively applying constructive criticism can sometimes be the missing link between good and great work. Having someone else’s objective eyes on our process can be a great way to grow and level up, and shouldn’t be overlooked just because it can be hard to hear.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to handle constructive criticism without crumbling like a nature's own bar: Breathe, stay calm, & just listen. Imagine a protective bubble that allows you to listen objectively & feel safe (you are!) Feel the feelings without reacting. If needed: cool down, ask relevant & productive follow up questions, and take appropriate accountability without deflecting. Reflect, apply any applicable notes, and be gentle with yourself in the process. Get cathartic: release in a healthy way (journal, boxing class, therapy, vent session, etc.) Nurture yourself extra hard for doing this work. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Once you reframe the ideas around criticism, you can better hear out the words that are being communicated to you and you may just walk away with a new perspective.That said, even if you get good at knowing why something is happening, it can still be difficult to have to actually bone up and sit through the experience in real time. Tomorrow I will share a structured way to get through a personal critique and hopefully give you a few tips to make the process a little less painful and a bit more constructive.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Any time I feel particularly discouraged, hopeless, or lost and need a pick me up, I play a very fun call and response game with the universe to remind me that life can be fun and more malleable if we get intentional with ourselves and our thoughts. How to initiate a play date with the universe:1. Choose something to visualize + manifest. 2. Keep searching for that thing over the next week. That’s it. All you have to do is ask to see more _____ and you see get more ______. You’ll be shocked at how much you see whatever you chose.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michael Pollan's How to Change Your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence "over time, we tend to optimize and conventionalize our responses to whatever life brings. Each of us develops our shorthand ways of slotting and processing everyday experiences and solving problems, and while this is no doubt adaptive—it helps us get the job done with a minimum of fuss—eventually it becomes rote. It dulls us. The muscles of attention atrophy. Habits are undeniably useful tools, relieving us of the need to run a complex mental operation every time we’re confronted with a new task or situation. Yet they also relieve us of the need to stay awake to the world: to attend, feel, think, and then act in a deliberate manner. (That is, from freedom rather than compulsion.) If you need to be reminded how completely mental habit blinds us to experience, just take a trip to an unfamiliar country. Suddenly you wake up! And the algorithms of everyday life all but start over, as if from scratch." Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Commercial breaks are actually good for you. Take a pause once in a while to remind yourself you're actually really enjoying the regularly scheduled programming. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/wellness/story/81-year-tiktok-influencer-fitness-inspiration-75036202"I think my advice is fairly simple: Do not do anything extreme - there is no need to -- and start slowly," said Rischko. "Just eat healthy, but do not chastise yourself.""And figure out what works for you," she added. "Find a sports activity that you enjoy because if you do not enjoy it you will not last, and if you are not as disciplined as I am, find a workout partner as it is not that easy to cancel on somebody." Rischko's final advice is to start being active now."I just wish I had started even earlier, before I turned 55," she said. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Travel and vacationing is incredibly amazing for your brain and your emotional and mental well-being. And according to Forbes 63% of Americans say they go six months or longer without a vacation, with more than a quarter (28%) of respondents going a year or more between trips. So, if you’re one of these people who rarely take time off to vacation and can’t see how you could afford one, reframe your life to be one big ass vacation, instead. And maybe plan a real vacation for yourself to look forward to, too. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It can be a staycation, if you want. A 2014 study by Gilovich and colleagues found that people were happier when they were anticipating an experience more than a material purchase. So, save your money on stuff you don’t need but feel you may want, and spend it on experiences instead.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Learning what I want took a lot of trial and error. Learning how to communicate it properly took even more trial and error. Now I know what I want and I've surely narrowed the playing field but at least now I am only scouting people who could actually make the roster. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I took what scared me and listened to why - I realized it scared me because it was important to me not because the act itself was scary and I followed that fear home. Since then, my relationships with myself, others, and my passions have changed. I want you to take the amazing advice of Jay Sukow and follow your own fear.  Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

According to science, humans kind of suck at knowing what will genuinely make us happier in the long run. Society tells us what we really want is to find love and money and success, but in reality, we may already have all the things that we could ever want to be happy people, but were too busy trying to meet some arbitrary societal deadline to notice. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Get comfortable being wrong. Get comfortable being criticized and called out. We practice getting comfortable with this by allowing ourselves to get vulnerable. Put yourself out there, open yourself up to feedback, and practice listening without getting defensive. You are a human being living a human experience which means you’re gonna fuck up sometimes. You’re gonna make mistakes. You’re gonna say the wrong thing. You’re gonna embarrass yourself sometimes. All of this is to be expected. Let it hit you, note it for future reference, and let it roll off your back so you can get up and face the next possible malfunction with full attention. Being corrected means you’re learning and growing. Learning and growing means lightyears ahead of those around you. Keep doing what you’re doing and take notes as necessary feedback instead of critique and watch how much the world expands around you.   Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.