One of the hardest parts of any growth journey is actually seeing our patterns in real time without blame or shame.  In this episode I explore how this impacts sixes and what to do about it. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Aaron Addonizio is back! We talk through the fundamental nature of how type 6 strategies work against us and what to do about it! Aaron Addonizio is a seasoned Enneagram teacher and coach, holding a Master’s degree in Human Relations from the University of Oklahoma with a focus on counseling and personality psychology. Additionally, she earned a Master’s Degree in Public Administration, specializing in nonprofit management from the same institution. Her career journey began with the establishment of a thriving professional organizing business in 2011, coinciding with her initial role at Enneagram Explorations. Over the years, Aaron’s responsibilities expanded, evolving into a decade-long tenure as a sought-after freelance business consultant and project manager. Notable among her clients was Katherine Fauvre Consulting. In collaboration with her best friend and partner, Sterlin Mosley, Aaron co-founded Empathy Architects in January of 2020, dedicating herself to Enneagram work on a full-time basis. Beyond her Enneagram expertise, she serves as the Executive Director and co-founder of Central Oklahoma Ballet Theatre and she is also a Reiki master. In her current coaching practice, Aaron embraces a holistic approach, incorporating diverse systems and therapeutic modalities to guide her clients through the lens of empathy and understanding. Test link: https://empathyenneagramtest.com Course bundle link: https://www.empathyenneagram.com/bundles/trifix-instincts-bundle EA Substack link for further reading: https://empathyarchitects.substack.com Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

How do we navigate life when the uncertainty is screaming at us from every angle. Listen in for some ideas. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

As sixes we have a strong dislike for unpredictable behavior, yet when we are in stress, that’s what can come out of us! In today’s episode I explore this phenomenon. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Our problems, were first solutions to problems. In this episode I explore the why behind holding onto the very things that keep us stuck in our patterns and explore ways to begin to release into new ways of being. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

As sixes, our desire to resolve and prevent external problems can keep us from learning to resolve internal challenges.  We can break this habitual pattern and learn to bring a more sturdy version of ourselves to everything our lives offer us. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching  

A sixy strategy to manage our own discomfort and fears is to outsource authority, in an effort to protect ourselves from the risk of personal failure. This only serves to INCREASE a lack of trust in ourselves. Listen in for how this manifests and what to do about it! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

As sixes, we can get stuck in loops where we confuse thinking with doing.  We often experience thinking AS doing, and give too much weight to what appears in our minds. Listen in to hear how this manifests in our lives and how to get back into choice and clarity. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I share the different eras of my coaching journey and how that informs how I work with sixes today.   Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

As sixes we unconsciously avoid negative emotions because of what we make them mean. We assume negative emotion means “something has gone wrong and must be fixed!” or “I should have done something different! It’s my fault!” Listen in to start to frame your emotions in a new way. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In order to experience real change in our 6 brains, we have to actively choose curiosity over certainty over and over again. But…how?? Listen in to find out. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode, I talk through the purpose of rumination in keeping us “safe”. We explore what is required to stop letting rumination get the best of our forward progress in life! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

This week lets explore all the parts that show up when we are under stress. Mine won’t be exactly the same as yours, but this example can help you look for and spot your own. When we understand what our system does under stress, we can begin to relate to it differently. This is one way to actually impact the way our system functions over time! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

This episode is a deeper dive into a framework to think…about our thinking!  I also explore the connection between thoughts and feelings and how we can impact that connection by the questions we ask ourselves. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

As we continue to talk about thinking and how to use our thinking for us, let’s explore how to use thinking to manage and influence physical sensations! Sound confusing? Listen in! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching  

In this episode, I explore how to deal with and handle intrusive thoughts. Usually we try to resist them, fight them, wish they wouldn’t impact us so much. This is a different approach, and it works! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Working in the realm of thinking on purpose is such important work for sixes to do. Knowing the right questions to AND the pitfalls along the self awareness journey are critical. Listen in to learn more! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

As we work to connect with our own inner authority, we can often get stuck in cycles of blame which make it hard to move ourselves forward. Inside this episode, I explore how to recognize and get out of this pattern.  Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching  

Sixes need to build a bridge between the doubt that threatens to keep their inner guide forever inhibited and the elusive inner guide itself.  Let’s talk about it! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Sixes do not have automatic access to their inner guide.  This doesn’t mean we don’t have it. We need to discover it and learn to trust it. Here is part 1 of that journey. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I walk through a personal moment of sixy spin and the exact formula I use to regulate myself back into choice rather than being RUN by the unconscious operating system.  Sometimes being UNINHIBITED has everything to do with choosing to inhibit our automatic reactions in the moment. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I describe 3 buckets that sixes tend to inhabit around the experience and expression of anger. Generally our relationship with anger is a complicated one. Building a conscious relationship to our anger is incredibly useful in our quest to develop sturdy self support and healthy relationships with others. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode, as a follow up to last week, I talk through what to do when we realize we are stuck in a pattern of needing to get other people on our page! These are steps we can apply to the moments of realization we are stuck in ANY sixy pattern. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

The desire to connect over shared perspectives is a beautiful part of sixiness. The internal dysregulation that can occur when that is not happening is something that we benefit from having awareness of. Listen in to learn more. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Worry is a coping mechanism to navigate uncertainty, anxiety, and angst. The goal is to have some control over our worry, so it doesn't run our thinking without our permission! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Practicing anything does not make us perfect at it. However, practice IS required to get better and to have any skill work for us. Managing angst when it feels like too much IS a skill. It's also a habit we can change. Feeling better isn't an unsolvable mystery!  Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode, I use a low stakes situation to walk through the components of a common problem for sixes, worrying if someone else is going to be mad at us. Any perceived threats to loss of support can be VERY challenging for us. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I break down a typical example of my adaptive strategies showing up and not only how I navigate it internally, but how I talk to myself about it on the back end. Use this as a case study and apply the bits to something similar in your life!   Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

This is a question, I get asked a LOT. It shows up in conversations around type 6 often in Enneagram spaces. This is a delicate conversation with a lot of nuance and room for interpretation. Here is how I’m currently thinking this through. Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

 In this episode, I dive into YOUR questions about angst, anxiety, and what in the world we can do about it! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

What are the areas to focus on in your life to get to a healthy version of you? Well, I don’t REALLY know, BUT I have some ideas. Here are the main pillars I live by that also inform my coaching philosophy and approach. Of course the Enneagram is a piece, but as with all things, tools used on the right foundation work better. This is the foundation.  Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I reveal how the underlying beliefs we have impact that questions we ask. I show how, as sixes, we tend to reveal beliefs that disempower us and what we can do about it. I also share how we can work WITH the questions we are asking already to help us shift into a more empowered state.  Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I talk about the importance of learning how to support past versions of ourselves at the level of thought AND feeling. Just doing one…trying to think differently, won’t work. What does? Tune in to find out.  Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

There is no “health” without a strong, trusting, reliable, SUPPORTIVE relationship with ourselves. As sixes, what gets in the way and how do we overcome those obstacles to truly get on our own side and stay there as we build the capacity to meet the moments of our lives. Listen in! Helpful Links: If you're interested in joining my Community for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

I’m back with Aaron Addonizio of Empathy Architects to dig into the topic of reactivity and how it affects sixes in their lives and relationships. An important topic and a fun conversation! Aaron Addonizio is a seasoned Enneagram teacher and coach, holding a Master’s degree in Human Relations from the University of Oklahoma with a focus on counseling and personality psychology. Additionally, she earned a Master’s Degree in Public Administration, specializing in nonprofit management from the same institution.  Her career journey began with the establishment of a thriving professional organizing business in 2011, coinciding with her initial role at Enneagram Explorations. Over the years, Aaron’s responsibilities expanded, evolving into a decade-long tenure as a sought-after freelance business consultant and project manager. Notable among her clients was Katherine Fauvre Consulting.  In collaboration with her best friend and partner, Sterlin Mosley, Aaron co-founded Empathy Architects in January of 2020, dedicating herself to Enneagram work on a full-time basis. Beyond her Enneagram expertise, she serves as the Executive Director and co-founder of Central Oklahoma Ballet Theatre and she is also a Reiki master.  In her current coaching practice, Aaron embraces a holistic approach, incorporating diverse systems and therapeutic modalities to guide her clients through the lens of empathy and understanding.  Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I share something from inside my group coaching program that you can use to assess how you are doing in your life in 8 sixy specific areas. You can also use this process to decide exactly what you want to work on, a way to orient your brain on purpose! Sixy Check In Worksheet can be found HERE Join the Zero to Sixy Membership HERE Book a consult with me HERE

In this episode I try to pull apart the idea that sixes have fear of fear. How can we understand this idea in a way that is useful? How can we recognize when we are acting in fear avoidance patterns? And how can we start giving ourselves evidence that we can face this experience of fear and survive it? Join the Zero to Sixy waitlist HERE Schedule a Consult HERE Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode, I share an example of making room for feelings I did not want to feel! I also talk about all the rules we make up to live life by and what the impact of that automatic habit is! Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching    

Listen in as I explore 4 automatic thought traps that catch sixes and what the antidotes are for these traps. Blame, Shame, Anxiety Spins, and Cynicism.Zero to Sixy is OPEN! Find out more HERE. Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I explore our relationship to feelings in general, but really unpack the passion of 6. The passion is the emotional vice of each number…where we get stuck. What do we do about it? It’s all inside. Find the article HERE about Beliefs about Emotional Influence Zero to Sixy Waitlist  Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Doing self-awareness work without also doing self-compassion work is like being a Dr. who has the diagnosis and no bedside manner or capacity to be with the human they are diagnosing. Are you doing this to yourself? Find out in this episode and what to do about it. Zero to Sixy Waitlist  Website on Self-Compassion Other Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy Membership HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Self awareness without self compassion….isn’t actually going to get you anywhere. There is a tendency to wield the Enneagram against ourselves and others without the compassion required to support the vulnerable work of seeing ourselves clearly. I hope this episode helps with both self revealing and the courage to do it with CARE. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy Membership HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I revisit what the fixation of six is and why I think we can get so much movement directly addressing and learning to work with our thinking.  As sixes we have thinking run amok! So much of our thinking is disembodied and contributing to our suffering. Learning skills to work directly with our thinking, to defuse from our automatic thinking, and access embodied thoughts is crucial work for sixes on their growth path. Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy Membership HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

As sixes, part of our strategy to avoid our core fears is to disempower ourselves in situations in our lives. Listen in as I break this down with a personal example and what we can begin to do about this painful pattern Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy Membership HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching .

Sixes benefit from knowing their core values in so many ways. Listen in for the why, an example, and the HOW! VALUES WORKSHOP: https://www.kristinmessegee.com/offers/uLEhmqon Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Membership Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy Membership HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

Each of us over-focuses on an instinctual strategy. Self-preservation, Social, and Sexual instincts are present in all of us to different degrees and levels of sub-conscious focus. Listen in while Kristin and Aaron bring the teaching as well as what this looks and feels like in real life. Aaron Addonizio is a seasoned Enneagram teacher and coach, holding a Master’s degree in Human Relations from the University of Oklahoma with a focus on counseling and personality psychology. Additionally, she earned a Master’s Degree in Public Administration, specializing in nonprofit management from the same institution.  Her career journey began with the establishment of a thriving professional organizing business in 2011, coinciding with her initial role at Enneagram Explorations. Over the years, Aaron’s responsibilities expanded, evolving into a decade-long tenure as a sought-after freelance business consultant and project manager. Notable among her clients was Katherine Fauvre Consulting.    In collaboration with her best friend and partner, Sterlin Mosley, Aaron co-founded Empathy Architects in January of 2020, dedicating herself to Enneagram work on a full-time basis. Beyond her Enneagram expertise, she serves as the Executive Director and co-founder of Central Oklahoma Ballet Theatre and she is also a Reiki master.  In her current coaching practice, Aaron embraces a holistic approach, incorporating diverse systems and therapeutic modalities to guide her clients through the lens of empathy and understanding.  Test link:  https://empathyenneagramtest.comCourse bundle link:  https://www.empathyenneagram.com/bundles/trifix-instincts-bundle EA Substack link for further reading:  https://empathyarchitects.substack.com Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

In this episode I explore the dichotomy that while we REALLY do not like uncertainty, we are set up to create a lot of it internally. Listen in to discover how that is true and some ideas for what to do about it! Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching

New Years Resolutions are generally not a great idea in terms of building self trust, however, you can capture the energy of a new year by considering a long term project for your life and brain. A six brain will be solving problems. The more we can CHOOSE the problems we are working on, the more evolution of ourselves we will experience over the course of our lives. Here are some ideas from my six brain to yours of some projects you might want to take on in 2024! Helpful Links: Sign up for my FREE Series on Confidence You can find me on Instagram HERE If you're interested in joining my Group Coaching for Enneagram 6's, you can find out more about Zero to Sixy HERE! You can contact me HERE if you have questions or want to chat more about Life Coaching