What if everything you think you know about addiction is wrong? Johann Hari's personal journey into the heart of the war on drugs led him to ask this question and to write the book that gave rise to his viral TED talk, viewed more than 62 million times. Johann Hari is a best selling author of many books like Chasing the Scream, the War on Drugs, Lost Connections, Stolen Focus, and Magic Pill - The extraordinary benefits and disturbing risks of new weight loss drugs.”We previously released an episode with Kate DeAraugo about her personal experiences with addiction and today we wanted to look at addiction a bit more broadly and unpack how it comes about and why so many of our loved ones are battling with addiction or substance abuse issues. We spoke about: The difficult narrative of loving an addict and not knowing what to do to help The story of what causes addiction isn’t accurate Why blaming it all on biology isn’t helpful, nor is blaming it all on personal choices Policies based on shame and punishment make addiction worse How much control we actually have over our own willpower People with ‘addictive’ personalities The money-happiness trap; the hedonic effect You can find all of Johann’s books and further information at his website. You can follow Johann on Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers!Did you ever compete in the school talent competition? Britt and Laura share the talents that they were proud enough to share with their friends and family. They were subsequently mocked for them! Have you ever accidentally posted something to social media that was meant for close friends or a group chat?British actress Betsy Blue English 'called out' Tammy Hembrow for copying her wedding cake; except she didn't mean to call her out, she meant to share it on her close friends story! We read out some of the funniest accidents that you have caused yourself. A few days ago, Tones and I shared a heartbreaking post with a caption explaining that she had suffered a miscarriage during the rehearsal of her recent Melbourne show.Tones went on to perform the following night, with very few people knowing the pain and the loss that she was experiencing.Today we have a chat about miscarriage and discuss: The pressure women may feel to 'get back to it' and act as though nothing has happened. Laura's experiences of having multiple miscarriages. The feelings of loneliness that miscarriage can force you into feeling. Tones bravely sharing this to reduce the shame, guilt and stigma women feel around pregnancy loss. Whether we should re think 'not telling anyone' until 12 weeks of pregnancy. You can watch our whole chat with Tones and I on Youtube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show.  Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. There's a woman who found out her partner was cheating on her, so she took the urn that had his grandmother's ashes in it! Is this the ultimate bargaining tool or kind of cruel?We then asked you for some of the funny things you've taken during a break up. Vibes for the week:Keeshia Simple Interval Training app Laura Mco Beauty Instant Contour Cream BronzerBritt Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy on Netflix Then we jump into your questions!   PARENTS GAVE MORE MONEY TO MY SIBLINGA couple of years ago, my sibling got married and my parents gave them a substantial monetary gift for their wedding (I got a 1/3 of the amount for my wedding the year before, but was still so grateful for anything). A few months after their wedding, they wanted to buy a house and were loaned the entire deposit from my parents to pay back. A couple of years on, they have not paid a cent back and my parents haven’t asked for it either. I have received approximately 50k less than them over the past 3 years and now that there’s been no repayments or discussions about this, I’m starting to become bitter. They seem to be living a comfortable life and can certainly afford to do more than my parents can. I’m frustrated at both my sibling and parents but don’t want this to seem like I am only chasing money- I want there to be accountability. How would you handle this with your family members? GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHILST ENGAGEDI am in a relationship of almost 9 years and we are engaged. He is the most amazing person ever and ticks all the boxes but the sexual attraction and lust has left for me. I’m starting to have feelings for someone else which is controlling a lot of my emotions at the moment and it’s clouding my judgement!! My fiance and I have just bought a house and have a 11 month old puppy. His parents have gone guarantors for our place too. I feel like I’m stuck in a rock and a hard place with which way to go about it. Do I stay with my current fiance because he is the sweetest guy who would do anything for me or follow my head and heart and take a chance on this other person or even just try it out being single for a while? I’m in my late 20s and just scared I might be stuck in the mentality that I have a lot to lose but also might not be in love anymore. HOW TO RECONNECT AFTER HAVING A BABYI am a first time mum, our baby is now 10 months old. I have been really struggling with connecting to my partner in the last 6 months or so. He's a great dad and I love seeing him with our son but it feels like we've just lost the spark. I don't feel special or 'wanted' anymore. It doesn't help that he injured himself pretty badly in July and hasn't been able to carry his weight around the house - this has left me doing all the cooking, cleaning, bath and bed with the baby, etc. We live in a small rural town away from family so I don't have any help around the house as well, which adds another layer of stress. Months ago Laura mentioned something about just 'getting through those early years' when you have a baby in terms of staying with your partner. She said it gets a lot better once babies grow up a bit. I would love to hear more about this and I suppose my question is, how can I try to reconnect with my partner You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We initially got to know Kate DeAraugo in 2005 when she won the crown of Australian Idol! She was just 18 years old. But her post Idol journey was anything but a fairytale; it spiralled into addiction and legal troubles. In 2017, Kate was convicted of drug possession, drug driving and weapons possession.  This conversation with Kate is a deeply honest recount of what it can be like when you live with addiction. Kate has what a lot of us would describe as an addictive personality, someone who took everything to the extreme. She says that when she drank, she drank too much. When she ate, she ate too much. When she loved, she loved too much. These behaviours took Kate to some fairly dark places.  Kate shares: After winning Idol, the only thing anyone spoke about was her body Record labels saying she needed to lose weight and having full body liposuction at age 19 The narrative of addicts being from ‘broken homes’ isn’t realistic What led her to seeking out drugs in the first place and how that spiralled into more heavy substance abuse The toll it took on her family How families can help support an addict & what her family learnt that ‘worked’ How addicts think and what happens inside their minds Addiction is a lifelong condition, but sobriety is a responsibility You can find more from Kate at her website  You can listen to Kate’s podcast Why Do I Feel This Way  Laura mentioned a famous study about addiction that you can watch in Johann Hari’s Ted talk here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We had the Australian podcast awards but the real take away in the media is how unhinged Laura is and that she (and I quote) "leaves fans questioning her lifestyle habits". Britt is having a bit of a mid wedding planning crisis. Actually a big mid wedding crisis.If you've planned a wedding, did you chop and change your mind on things like your dress in the lead up to your wedding? We discuss the paradox of choice and decision fatigue. It's sledging season! A new term for how people are strung along over the Christmas/New Years period, delaying a break-up or continuing dating someone they know they're not interested in. We chat about when "is" the right time to end a relationship around this time and the reasons why so many couples break up around this time of the year.New Year, New Relationship!   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Today's ep is unlike anything we have had to record before and are heartbroken by the decision that has been made for the show.  Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Laura has had to go on a 'fishing' expedition in the grossest of places all thanks to Lola! Has your kid ever 'dropped' something valuable in a place that they shouldn't have?Britt tried to replace the shrine but failed epically and has had to employ a man who woke up in our friend's bed to fix the problem!  Vibes for the week:Britt - Picking up a new hobby. BasketballLaura - India Oxenberg's book 'Still Learning'Keeshia - By Maay Brooklyn work bag Then we get into your questions! DO I START SLEEPING WITH STRANGERS OR JUST HAVE NO SEX LIFE THANKS TO MY PARTNER?My partner and I have been together for 15 years. We have a 7 year old child who we love. But our sex life is 0. We talked a few months ago about opening our relationship. We both agreed and didn't have many rules. A few weeks later, I slept with an old friend. My partner was unhappy to say the least. Since then he convinced me to let him keep sleeping around but I can only see people I don't know. Now my question is... I'm not comfortable with people I don't know. Sex to me is intimate and needs friendship. Do I start sleeping with strangers or just have no sex for the rest of my life? MY HUSBAND GAVE ME MONEY AS A BDAY PRESENT My husband recently gave me $400 in cash for my birthday present.  For context, we have a joint account and each has a personal account and we get paid equal amounts in our personal accounts every week. We keep a money tin at home where we keep a bit of cash to the side to spend on joint expenses. The $400 birthday money came from our shared tin. At the time I was super grateful and thankful for the cash gift. He also took me out to dinner and paid for that with his personal money which was part of the gift. He said the money is to go towards getting a necklace made that I’ve been wanting for a long time. We aren’t huge on gift giving but I can’t help but feel a little disappointed that he didn’t put any time into thinking about a nice present for me that wasn’t just grabbing money out of the tin and putting it in a card. He did cook me breakfast and show me love in other ways on my birthday but I wish he put some thought into a gift for me. We do live very busy lives and are both self employed and work together so I don’t want to be too hard on him as life has been pretty hectic for both of us lately. How would you bring this up, if even at all? Or do I just move on and stop even thinking about it? Maybe I’m just being completely unreasonable. DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER GO AFTER HE DUMPED ME FOR ANOTHER GIRL?My partner & I were together for 2 years, lived together, were speaking of marriage & kids within the coming year. 8 months ago, something happened randomly and my partner started pulling away. He was so checked out. He said he wanted to go to Bali with a mate and when he returned home he dumped me 2 days later. Little did I know he found a new girlfriend over in Bali, made it official & hard launched their relationship on Instagram 2 weeks later. I was beyond heart broken. I moved back in with my parents & it was the worst time of my life. Fast forward 8 months, he’s called things off with the new girl & has said he can’t move on from me. He said that he’s realised what he’s lost, he has massive issues & is willing to do anything to fix things including couples counselling and deleting his social media in order to gain my trust back… My whole family & friends hate him & I don’t know what to do. Is it worth giving him another go & trust he won’t break my heart again? Or am I risking ending up back at square one and too much damage has been done? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel as though you’re not quite able to ‘do it all?’ During the past 2 decades, there has been a huge push into the world of ‘hustle culture.’ So many of us feel like we are constant hot messes, rushing around to try and get a million things in our day done.  Joining the podcast today is Israa Nasir, New York based psychotherapist and author of the new book “Toxic Productivity.”  Israa is here today to help us let go of the belief that our value is defined by how busy and successful we feel. Israa speaks about this as someone who currently has skin in the game, not from a place of hindsight. We are all having to manage this idea of toxic productivity now! We chat: Productivity no longer just applies to work. It’s infiltrated our romantic relationships, friendships, parenting and personal health Productivity guilt; the guilty feeling when we ‘relax’ The need for external validation can look like people pleasing or a workaholic Chaotic state of a dysregulated nervous system becoming familiar e.g. ”I do my best work under pressure.” “I thrive in chaos.” Dynamics that keep us constantly busy, but never satisfied such as; self-worth, shame, social comparison, burnout, and perfectionism Cultivating a healthier perspective on achievement to understand, manage, and shift our intense emotions  You can find more from Israa, including her new book at her website  You can follow Israa on Instagram    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, It's officially Britt's bangiversary! She's tried to dupe Ben into a fancy gift but Ben's aware of her antics.We speak about the advice we got from our grandmothers. Some of it hasn't aged particularly well.  We might have found the world's most conflict avoidant man; the man who *likely has faked his own death to ditch his family and go to a woman in Europe. There was a video filmed back in June (two months before Ryan Borgwardt's disappearance). It shows a man on a bike asking if he should go to Uzbekistan to meet a woman, despite being married. After the video went viral, authorities say that the video isn't Ryan.  Also, how do you like your labia? We've spoken about symmetry, length and comfort when it comes to labia but labia puffing seems new.We ask: Is our generation more obsessed than ever with labia? Do you think this trend highlights empowerment or unnecessary pressure for perfection? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  A good deed backfires Do you acknowledge the flatulance Callumn Hole Mitch's pitches You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt has had an extremely embarrassing moment at the hairdresser. We would want the ground to swallow us whole.Has your dog ever caused you to be in the most embarrassing moment of your life? Laura is having a bit of trouble getting Lola to give up something that she loves. Lola is in negotiations and Laura is struggling to reach a mutually agreed upon solution!Vibes for the week: Britt: Martha on NetflixLaura: Marigold’s Magic Stars book by Samantha WillsKeeshia: RecipeTin Eats Tonight Cookbook Then we get into your questions! I CAN'T SLEEP WHEN WE ARE IN THE SAME BEDI’ve been with my partner for about four years, he’s 33 and I’m 27. Everything’s great BUT the one thing that I cannot do with him, is sleep in the same bed. This is largely due to his snoring and sleep noises combined with my light sleeping. He would love to share a bed but I seriously just don’t sleep when I’m in the same bed. We always have great sex, have a cuddle at night, but then I’ll go to my room to sleep and then will wake each other up in the morning with a cuddle. It’s been a great arrangement but I get so worked up and worried about ever going away together. I feel like when we do share a room I’m sleep deprived, miserable and resentful. We want to go overseas together soon but again I get worried about future endeavours together because I’m scared I’ll never be able to sleep in the same bed and have a good sleep. Is this a sign that it’s not going to work? Or do we just have to keep making arrangements for separate beds where we can, and I get used to no sleep when the occasions arise that we do need to share a bed? Also just for context, he has undergone nasal surgery to straighten his septum in order to try fix the snoring and I’ve invested in so many different types of ear plugs but nothing has worked. Help please  BOYFRIEND SUPPORTS TRUMPI love my boyfriend but I think he supports Trump. After Trump just got elected, he said “well what did he do that was actually so bad the first time?” He thinks the hate against him is a media conspiracy. Can I be in a relationship with someone who feels this way about misogynistic people? HOLDING IN MY GAS AROUND HIMI’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months now, we’re exclusive and it’s going well. It’s the first time I’m getting serious with someone so the first time I’ve been hanging out with a guy quite a lot over night/all weekend. The issue is I am quite a gassy person… I don’t have any stomach issues. I just tend to need to do a few pop offs after big meals or in the morning, and I also poop quite often too. I have been WAY too nervous to poop around him as I get scared he’s going to go in after me and smell it. I also am holding in ALL my farts. This is causing me serious stomach aches and pain. I’m often recovering from holding them in for 1-2 days after seeing him. Side note- he farts in front of me but I’m way too embarrassed to do it back… You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you have a ‘type’? No, not a physical type. What do the people you’ve been in relationships all have in common? It’s time for us to fully unpack why we tend to go for the same types of people over and over again, and how to break the cycle.  Sabrina Zohar is a relationship expert, entrepreneur and podcast host. Sabrina breaks down a lot of the ‘therapy terms’ and neuroscience to focus on doing the internal work and recognising patterns to chase the right kinds of connections and build healthy relationships. She’s known for her no bullshit relationship advice and telling you what you need to hear, rather than what you want to hear!   We chat: Identifying the patterns and taking accountability for what we are doing to contribute to them Bullshit blueprint - the core beliefs and things that were ingrained as you as a kid Becoming better ‘buyers’ in the dating world Can you trust ‘the spark?’ Looking at ‘what is’ rather than ‘what if’ You can find more from Sabrina’s website  And Sabrina’s instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers!Laura and Matt both forgot their 2nd wedding anniversary. Do you celebrate each year?Are you the person who remembers 'dates'? We're talking anniversaries, birthdays, 'firsts' etc. How about your partner? What happens if one of you is a date celebrator and the other isn't?Britt has picked her wedding dress and Laura wants to see it! Did you share your wedding dress with your friends before your actual wedding day? The government has announced proposed legislation to be introduced to parliament that would ban kids under 16 from using social media, even if they have parental consent. Initially we thought this was great. But once we scratched the surface we realised that maybe it wasn't as good as it initially appeared.We speak about the pros and cons of implementing age restrictions on social media, whether it's a bit of a performative action, how it would be implemented and if there are alternative ways to protect kids online.  Britt got to enjoy Coldplay and Laura got to enjoy Chris Martin walk solo down Bondi beach looking very, very 'cool'! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  2024 Oxford Dictionary Word of the year  Tom Hanks and the best years of life First date red flag questions Mitch's naked haircut Jamie Oliver  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! First question of the day is who is your 'hear me out' character (which fictional character are you attracted to)? Laura revealed her attraction to Barney the dinosaur by accident the other day and Britt is quite the fan of the ninja turtle Leonardo who would be in their 40s/50s now... Keeshia has a question about tipping etiquette; how do you feel when the tip is automatically applied when it comes to pay and if you don't want to tip, you're expected to select to remove it? Vibes for the week:Laura: The Mailroom coBritt: The Trial of DiddyKeeshia: Christophe Robin Scalp Scrub Then we answer your questions! HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO USE OUR EMBRYOSMy ex husband left me & after 4 years of IVF. We have embryos in storage (we have one beautiful little IVF baby girl) who is my entire world. But I would love to make her a big sister one day too! He has so easily just said let’s donate the spare embryos. I am mortified by how easily he has suggested this and absolutely not interested in donating, I want them! They’re my babies. I walked through the toughest times of my life undergoing IVF and on my 8th transfer, I got my beautiful girl. I’m 33 and I don’t know if I should freeze my eggs and get a donor sperm .. or wait till I ‘might’ meet someone. PSA - I will continue to pay for storage for my embryo babies as I love them too! I also didn’t see our marriage being something that would end but he clearly fell out of love with me & left me 10 months postpartum. CHRISTMAS WITH PARTNER’S FAMILYI have been invited to spend Xmas with my partner's family interstate (we are mid 20s and dated for almost 6 years). My family has been disapproving/disappointed when I told them about not having Xmas at home and tried to guilt trip me out of accepting the invite. However, I really do want to go. How do I approach the topic again with them and is it wrong to spend one Xmas away from your family? THE SEX ISN'T GOOD. HOW DO I NAVIGATE THIS? I've been in a relationship with this guy for 6 months and everything is great. He is a wonderful guy and we share the same sense of humour. He could be my person, however there is one glaring problem. The sex is not good. He's a jack hammer kind of guy where he seems to only be interested in pleasing himself. I have done all of the things that you would normally recommend; we have had the conversations and I have tried to softly guide him to do the things in the way that I like it. The problem is that he does the things I like for about a week and then goes back to the jack hammering. How do I navigate this? How important is having great sex in a relationship?    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Elizabeth Gilbert is one of the most brilliant authors of our time. She authored ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ which sold over 12 million copies and was then turned into a movie starring Julia Roberts. She’s also written books like ‘Committed’, ‘Big Magic’ and ‘City of Girls’.  Elizabeth shares so many teachings around vulnerability, connectedness, living a life that is led by love,  and now  how to become ‘a relaxed woman, pushing back on the expectations of what society wants from you’.  Today we spoke about: Being an award winning writer who wrote about men and was sympathetic to the male experience, until she wrote the number 1 ‘chick-lit’ book of our time. Funnily enough, the award nominations dried up. The shared experience of having everything that we are meant to ‘want’ and feeling so deeply unhappy.  How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships, and how free she now feels being emotionally autonomous  The facts about how marriage affects women: married women don’t live as long as single women, they’re more likely to report being depressed and anxious, they are more likely to have autoimmune conditions, more likely to be addicted to substances etc.  How all of our lives could be titled ‘not exactly what I had in mind’ The complexity of falling in love with someone knowing it will hurt other people that you care about Learning about loss through grief You can find Liz’s Aus and NZ tour dates You can follow Liz on Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys!Britt and Keeshia have spent the entire weekend together and they're the friends that ask you if you can come to Africa tomorrow.Laura shared a story about some of the early days of Marlie's life that aren't quite her best moments! Laura would love to know how many times your kid accidentally rolled off the bed? We unpack the goss from the Wicked premiere! We were interested in how they would approach the PR of the film given the reputational damage that Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater suffered after having a rumoured 'affair.' We wondered whether they would take a 'Don't Worry Darling" approach (Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde) where they kept space from each other in public, or if they would lean in to their romance!There was one line in the movie that we are shocked they kept in!Plus, what would bring you to 'loyalty test' your partner?We speak about the 'how' and the 'why' you may get to a place where you consider conducting a loyalty test. Is the entrapment just as bad as the potential cheating? If you'd like to have your say on the content we make, you can fill in our survey! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Happy Halloween!! Some of our team are more into it than others and you can come to us for all your budget, last minute Halloween costume needs!Are you a Halloween person? Laura's kids are super excited and have been counting down the days, while Britt has outed herself as a bit of a grinch.Vibes for the week: Keeshia - A Man Called Otto film (on apple TV)  Laura - Jailbreak. Love on the Run on Netflix Britt - Dessert Little Moons Mochi Balls WE'D LOVE IF YOU COULD TAKE THE TIME TO HAVE YOUR SAY ON OUR LIFE UNCUT SURVEY Then we get into your questions! DO I TELL HIM ABOUT MY PAST AS A SEX WORKER? When I was 18, I had huge body insecurity and felt like I was unlovable unless I got my boobs done. I also could not find a job, and thought the way to pay for my boobs was to get into escorting. I was very young and naive, and had only had one sexual experience before getting into it, so it was quite unsettling and traumatic. I did it for three months, but couldn’t continue because of my mental health. I ended up going back when I was age 19 and saw a client a handful of times, before deciding I could never go back. I then entered a fairly toxic relationship. When that ended I got therapy because I was in a bad place, and it changed my life. I have now got a great career and finished my degree, and have met my now partner of one year. I am now 24. My question is, should I tell him about my past? Do I need to? If so, how should I do it? Unfortunately I feel like there is still so much stigma around the sex industry. While he is incredible, I have heard him make a comment about a stripper he once slept with, saying she was “just a stripper” as if it meant she was less than. Aside from that, he is so caring, thoughtful and emotionally intelligent. He is very secure and perhaps would struggle to understand what I was going through at 18/19. I really want to be with him forever, and I don’t want anything to risk coming between us, but I feel like he might look at me differently if he knows. I have come so far since I was a scared, insecure 18/19 year old and I don’t want the decisions I made to prevent me from being happy now. Would love for your advice on how I could bring it with him and if it is even worth doing, as it is not like I think about my past everyday! It is only when something triggers it. MY BOYFRIEND IS MOVING IN WITH A WOMAN I have been long distance with my partner of 5 years for a little over a year now (he moved for work). He is the most amazing partner and definitely my penguin. In the last 6 months he has made a good female friend at work. I have met her quite a few times. She is lovely and we get along very well. Recently both my partner and his female friend have had a change in living situations and he asked me if I would be comfortable with them becoming roommates. He does everything to try and make me comfortable and he won’t move in with her if I don’t want him to. I trust him and her completely, yet it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable and I can’t put my finger on why. Maybe jealousy?? But I trust both of them. Is me feeling weird about it ok or am I being unreasonable and I should just let him move in with one of his only friends he has been able to make (it is so hard for adults to make friends in new cities). Would love to know your thoughts? CAUGHT BROTHER CHEATING A few months ago I stumbled across my bro’s profile on a dating app. Profile stated “not looking for anything serious”. We aren’t close - don't have mutual interests, hobbies or compatible personalities, but still see each other at family events etc. Issue is, he has been in a long distance relationship for well over a year. She had returned back overseas less than a week before I saw his profile - it was definitely him, photos were 100% his, the hobbies, interests, age etc were all accurate. My brother is not someone I would have ever considered to be a player or open relationship-er - very conservative. The girlfriend is nice enough - very young, very sweet, very smart. Not someone I could imagine being open. I thought they might’ve split but I hadn’t yet found out. I found out recently he’s going overseas to see her soon -so are definitely together. Idk what to do/think! Help! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Haven Shepherd was born in Vietnam. When she was 16 months old, her biological parents, who had had an affair, detonated a bomb that was intended to be a family suicide. It instantly killed her biological parents but Haven survived. Haven was thrown 10 metres from the family hut and driven for 2 hours on a motorbike to the local hospital where they amputated both of her legs. She hasn’t had surgery since!4 months later, she was adopted into an American family and gained 6 siblings! Haven is now an elite paralympic athlete who competed at Tokyo 2020. She also happens to be a laugh and a half with some of the most outrageous ‘double decker’ date stories we’ve ever heard!In the chat we speak about: What Haven remembers about her early years Whether she holds resent for her biological parents How strangers ask inappropriate questions about how Haven lost her legs How Haven’s parents initially weren’t going to be her parents and the serendipitous way they found each other Why swimming was the best option for her How parents should teach their kids about disability You can find more from Haven's Instagram! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Britt has potentially found a new life... as a trad wife! Either that or she's going off grid more often.Laura has had a bit of a mishap spreading her beautiful grandparent's ashes.How do you feel about sharing your kids online? Where is the line when it comes to kids being paid to create online content? You might remember the horrible story of the mum, Ruby Franke, who was charged with 4 counts of child abuse earlier this year. There is a brand new film called 'Mormon Mom Gone Wrong' that came out on Oct 26 that details the story of the Franke family and their youtube account that had 2 million subscribers.Shari Franke is now 21 years old and has shared her testimony in court about her experiences of abuse and family vlogging. She states that there is no such thing as a moral and ethical family vlogger.We unpack these questions: Should children have a say in family vlogging content? What are the ethical implications of involving kids in content? Can you get informed consent from kids? How should kids be ‘compensated’ if they are making content that makes money? Does it matter if they make money? Does it change when it becomes a significant income source? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  An honest conversation around the choice to have children  Laurs Law - Getting to the bottom of the fight between Britt and Mitch Unbelievable coincidences  How to build resilience in kids Bec Judd and her 8 year olds apple watch You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions! There is a lot of weird news in the world today... mostly the guy who chose to put 15 hard boiled eggs in his backside. Britt's partner Ben has had a hair makeover.Did you 'plan' your hair look for your wedding in terms of colour/length etc? Did you opt for something that was your 'look' rather than going for a short term hair change? Vibes for the week: Keeshia: Sweet Bobby on NetflixBritt: Instax cameraLaura: Fallen Angel Podcast Then we jump into your questions! DID WE DO THE RIGHT THING BY THE DRUNK HEN?We just wrapped up a hen's night where the hen KO'd herself pretty early, before the festivities were finished - the MOH got her home safely (talking 7.30) and the rest of the party headed home. We'd already organised some entertainment, so instead of going out to where it'd been organised for, we made the call to stay in the hotel room and keep an eye on the hen, and enjoyed the entertainment (just the two of us). The groom found out and blew up - said we put the hen in danger, that it was unforgivable, and he doesn't want anything to do with either of us. Major drama! My question - Did we do the wrong thing? Is his blow up and subsequent major drama valid? Or were we fine to have a little fun while we still took care of our friend? It's created so much drama a week out from the wedding, is all the hatred warranted, or is he just being a complete dick? I DON'T LIKE THEM CALLING HER GRANDMAI have a new baby who is now 3 months old, and when I was pregnant my dad’s partner asked to be called Grandma which at the time I felt a bit put on the spot and was like ‘sure’. After thinking about it and chatting with my partner I am not sure how comfortable I am with her being “Grandma”. For context she has been with my dad since I was 18 which I think is relevant because I have never lived with her and she has had no hand in raising me and to be honest we have never had a great relationship. I feel like my mum and my partner's mum have done the hard yards to earn that title which she has not. I also don’t want to confuse my child for example if she is asking on Mother’s Day why “Grandma” doesn’t get a card or present and having to explain she is not actually her Grandma. So basically throughout the end of my pregnancy and having a new baby I never ended up having the convo and tbh I am a bit conflict avoidant. Over the weekend her and my dad met my partner’s parents who are visiting from Spain and she introduced herself as Grandma. So my question is… is it too late for me to have that conversation? I really don’t want her to be called Grandma or anything like that but have I let it go too long? Or how would you go about having the convo? Should I speak with my dad as he knows her better than me and would know the best way to address it?  CAN I TELL HIM TO NOT GO?My partner of 3 years has been invited on a family overseas holiday by his ex-wife and their 2 young kids. The ex-wife is paying for his expenses as one of the kids really wants Dad to be there. The ex wife’s new partner is also joining them. This has left me feeling really uncomfortable and ultimately left out. Is it fair to ask my partner to not go because of how I feel or should I tell him he should go despite it making me feel uncomfortable and anxious. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert. She is the author of ‘Boundary Boss’ and ‘Too Much’. This is the third time Terri has joined us on the podcast! The first time was to speak about cheating, the second was to speak about boundaries and today Terri is joining us to unpack codependence! But, not the standard idea of what codependency is. Today we speak about what Terri refers to as ‘high functioning codependence’ and how we are able to recognise when we are doing ‘too much’ for other people, and need to prioritise ourselves more. Spoiler, none of us identified as being codependent… until we learnt what high functioning codependency looked like and the alarm bells RANG! We speak about: High functioning codependency isn’t what we typically think of a a ‘codependent person’ They’re highly capable, the person everyone depends on, the problem solver, the ‘fixer’ Resentment inventories! We all need to identify where we are ‘over giving’ and ‘over functioning’ Being hyper independent, “I got it” and not wanting to ask for help or owing other people anything  How it all contributes to burnout and cognitive overloadDo you identify with any of these labels? They might be new to you!-approval seeking, -auto fixing/auto accommodator-self sacrificing-hyper helping You can listen to Terri’s previous episodes with us here: People Pleasers Anonymous - Better Boundaries and Once A Cheater, Are They Always A Cheater? You can find everything from Terri: Website  Book website Instagram Podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura has had a weekend away with the friends that she hunted down on Linked in (it's hard to make friends as adults right??). Something that happened on the weekend raised the question for her of when to intervene to protect your kids from something vs when to let them work it out for themselves and build resilience. We're curious to know what you would have done in this situation.Is a more inclusive rebrand enough to save Victoria's Secret? Last week we saw the first Victoria's Secret runway show since 2019. They've tried to be more inclusive with different body shapes and sizes. We speak about the past controversies that Victoria's Secret has been involved in and how the messaging of the company was so problematic. Should companies with a history of exclusion or problematic practices be given the opportunity to evolve and change, or is it too late for brands like Victoria’s Secret? Plus we speak about the friends of Dave Grohl's wife Jordyn Blum threatening to end their friendship if she goes back to him after he has fathered a kid outside of their marriage. Have you ever had to cut off a friend because you were so sick of seeing them go back to a problematic partner? Have you ever felt really exhausted from being the emotional support to a friend, kind of playing therapist, when they seemed to never take advice on board? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  Laurs Laws Can you ask and ex for Money Are we still peeing in pools?  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions.Laura has endured one of the most awkward experiences we could imagine. It involves a naked French man on a stage, a crowd and tears in the front row. Vibes for the week: Laura: Book the trip! Book any trip with your friends/family that you have been planning.Britt: Podcast Kill List by WonderyKeeshia: Cloud Nine Curl WandThen we jump into your questions! MY PARTNER DOESN'T WANT TO WEAR CONDOMS BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE ON CONTRACEPTIONWe unpack a situation from love is blind where the male partner expressed that he doesn't find 'condom sex' pleasurable. The female partner says that she does not want to go on a hormonal contraception. What do you do if you and your partner don't 'agree' to using condoms during sex? HOW MANY DATES BEFORE I HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE?I am recently single and back on the market after nearly 4 years. I’ve come out of my past relationship with a lot of confidence and have been using the dating apps a bit and even got myself some friends with benefits. I have found myself in a situation where I like two guys that I have met but I’ve only been on 3 or so dates with each of them over the period of a month. So my question is, how long/how many dates can you go on with people before you need to make a choice. And when do I need to stop my friends with benefits? I don’t want to end up in a situation where they find out about each other and I end up with neither. I don’t know if I am being selfish/giving player vibes. I just put all my eggs in one basket like I did with my ex and ended up in a relationship 1.5years longer than I should have. Please send help DO I INVITE MY DAD'S GIRLFRIEND WHO HE CHEATED ON MY MUM WITH?I am getting married in 3 weeks. My parents have been separated for nearly 25 years. My dad had been in a relationship since they separated, but my mum has always stayed single. The problem is, my dad’s latest girlfriend, who he has been with for at least 6 years, is one of my mum's old friends, and someone he cheated with while still with my mum. My partner and I have been engaged for nearly 2 years, and I told my mum when we got engaged that my dad's girlfriend would be getting invited to the wedding. I was hoping that with nearly 2 years notice she would be able to come to terms with it and be somewhat civil about it. My mum has recently opened up and told me that she blames this woman for, in my mum's words, "ruining her life". I am not close with my dad’s family, so his girlfriend will be the only person he really knows at the wedding. My mum thinks that me inviting my dad's girlfriend to the wedding is me picking their side and that she doesn't know if she will be able to not say anything or start any drama at the wedding when she sees her, as she has been holding onto this hate for so long. I don't want drama, and I hate conflict, but I feel like I'm in a lose lose situation. Do I:A. Uninvite her and risk my dad also not coming to the wedding and a potential fight with himB. Say something to my dad and his girlfriend about my mum's feelings, and ask them to keep their distance at the wedding which could also just result in more drama.C. Try to stay out of it and cross my fingers that everyone just behavesI feel sick about it all and it's taking over anything else I can think about leading up to my wedding. HE'S GOING TO PROPOSE ON HER BIRTHDAYMy best friend's bf is getting ready to propose, in PARIS! They’re going on a trip to Europe for her birthday (I’m also going on this trip) and he just told me he wants to do it the night of her actual birthday. I personally wouldn’t want to be proposed to on my birthday. However, I don’t know if she would love it or not and I can’t exactly ask her any questions without giving it away! What are your thoughts!? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today’s episode is all about migraines, a debilitating condition that affects millions of people worldwide, including our very own Britt. Britt has struggled with migraines her entire life. We’re joined by Dr. Kaitlyn Parratt, a neurologist who specialises in headache disorders and epilepsy.   We speak about: Why women experience migraines more than men Periods of our lives when you might experience them more How hormones and other triggers affect migraines The genetic component of migraines The physical and psychological toll they take Treatment options, first and second line therapies The process of qualifying for migraine ‘botox’ Chicken or the egg? Anxiety, OCD, depression and migraines Do orgasms help relieve migraine pain? You can find information and neurologists at Sharp Neurology  You can find Dr Kaitlyn on instagram and Sharp Neurology on instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,Britt and Laura won a big, fancy radio award for best podcast hosts!! Laura is finishing off sailing the high seas on her first cruise so producer Keeshia is filling in for her today. Both her and Britt have unexpected and uncalled for hangovers from the awards night.Britt's whole family think Keeshia is a huge creep! Last week we spoke about Monica and Stephen on Love Is Blind and Stephen’s use of ‘therapy speak’ in the pods to make him seem more emotionally intelligent and in tune.More episodes have been released and... it's not good for Monica and Stephen. But, something happened when they were 'breaking up' and it had us questioning whether you should or shouldn't ask an ex to pay you back for any money they may owe you.Have you asked for someone to pay you after you've broken up? What was the amount? Two shows are currently trending about the Menendez brothers on Netflix. One is a documentary that involved the brothers who are currently in prison serving consecutive life sentences for the murder of their parents. The other is a dramatised TV series based on 10 different perspectives and directed by Ryan Murphy.Ryan Murphy is known for his controversial true crime dramas like Dahmer - Monster: The Jeffrey Dahmer Story, the People vs. O.J. Simpson, and The Assassination of Gianni Versace.` We discuss: Whether it’s ethical to create a series that includes traumatic events without consulting with the people most affected by it,  Whether sensationalising true crime stories has gone too far,  How the public perception of victims of abuse has evolved, and The power of social media in turning attention to these stories. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  Charlotte Crosby joins The PickUp Dua's viral drink The man who got fired for his digital footprint Laura's been paying Britt's gas bill Gen Zed vs Millenial  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!Britt's sister Sheri has had her juice go missing from her fridge and the culprit is not a character that you'd suspect!!Have you had a tradie do something that they weren't supposed to at your house? Vibes for the week:Laura: Laundry Apron with pouchBritt: Netflix Nobody Wants ThisKeeshia: Emily Henry Beach Read Then we jump into your questions! WHEN IS IT APPROPRIATE TO MEET UP WITH MALE COLLEAGUES?I am a single, attractive (thanks genetics) female working in sports, which entails mostly male coworkers, travel and a lot of late nights. My question is, when is or isn’t it appropriate to meet up with male coworkers, particularly one-on-one, outside of work? I try to err on the side of daytime or group activities, however, I do feel like I have genuine friendships that sometimes are hurt because of my fear of an interaction appearing inappropriate to others because of the male/female thing, or for fear of a coworker I *thought* was harmless taking things in an inappropriate direction after a few drinks (it’s happened before). Am I over thinking this or are my guidelines for myself appropriately placed? Worth noting that 99% of these men are married. DO I GIVE THE FAMILY SOME MONEY OR RESPECT MY GRANDMA'S WISHES?My grandma passed away. She had been estranged from my parents and siblings and all other family members for over 15 years. During those 15 years I’ve had a close relationship with her. She made me her enduring power of attorney (her decision maker) and also the director of her will. My parents and siblings have had hate and bitterness towards her and completely wiped her, but I never experienced anything they did so my relationship with my grandma was never affected. My grandma has left me with everything including some money. Do I respect her wishes and not give any of the family money or belongings or do I divide it because they want it and said they deserve it? CAN I GET A 4 YR OLD MAKEUP FOR CHRISTMAS?I have a four year old daughter that is obsessed with makeup and clothes. We don’t mind the clothes, she loves dresses and tutus and wears one everyday, even to bed! But I’m a little worried that she loves makeup so much. She sees me put on makeup for work everyday and I explain that everyone is beautiful without make up, sometimes we wear it to look fancy. She now wants to look fancy for daycare everyday. All she wants from Santa is a big makeup kit. I suppose my questions are: Do you think it’s okay to get a four year old a big makeup kit for Xmas? And is her obsession with makeup at 4 years old worrying or okay considering she is very young and we are careful with our messaging around not needing makeup to look beautiful. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is a lot of discussion around women's empowerment in general, but women's leadership in particular is a topic that we are still defining and understanding. We’ve spoken before about gender pay gaps, glass ceilings, sticky floors, opportunity cost and the expectations on women to ‘do it all’ before.  Megan Dalla-Camina is a three time best selling author and award winning women’s leadership and gender diversity expert. She is also the founder and CEO of the fastest growing women's ed-tech platform ‘Women rising’. Today’s chat is about understanding the reasons behind why ⅘ women feel as though they are not thriving at work and the little voice in our head tells us we just aren’t doing a good enough job. Megan calls this the archetypes of the inner critic: The perfectionistThe beauty queenThe scepticThe imposterThe people pleaserThe outsiderThe comparerThe good girlThe overachieverThe self doubterThe chameleonThe empathThe ideal mother We also speak about: What mini burnout looks like and how you feel when the mini burnouts happen one after the other Motherhood paradox of the expectation to work like they don’t have children but raise kids as though they don’t have work responsibilities People pleasing, trying to be an agreeable, easy to work with person and how that leads to you not getting what you deserve at work How we can utilise this information to help us feel more comfortable in finding what is going to be ‘success’ to us and make us genuinely happy Feminine vs masculine ‘traits’ in leadership You can find more from Megan at her website and InstagramYou can get Megan's book Women Rising  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Britt looks like Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson today, but the dress code for her wedding has caused an unintentional stir. The Europeans think she's a bit of a creep!Last week Laura told us how much she loved the reptiles at the reptile park and in a relatively ironic turn of events, she might have 15 of her own coming to her new home!A few days ago, Love Is Blind US (Netflix) released season 7 of the show. There was a particular moment where one of the contestants, Stephen admits to Monica that he has emotionally cheated in the past. He then went on to say “we went through therapy. We worked it out” and “I’m actively in therapy to talk about these things.” We spoke about how speaking about therapy in the dating landscape can be great, but it can also be used as a tactic to manipulate their date into thinking they're more emotionally intelligent than they are! Many women now say they prefer to date men who’ve been to therapy. Do men now use therapy as a badge of emotional depth? We also spoke about "therapy-speak" and the overuse of certain labels or phrases like triggering, trauma, narcissist, gaslighting and sociopath. Do you think the overuse of these terms dilutes the experiences of people who have endured genuine abuse or trauma? We also spoke about how we can spot when therapy-speak is being used manipulatively versus when it reflects genuine emotional growth.  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  Lana Del Ray and her Alligator tour guide husband Shot gun weddings What got stuck in you Mitch's pitches  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers,Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions!We're all a little scattered today driving past turn offs and forgetting entire road trips!  PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Vibes: Britt - Will & Harper on NetflixLaura - Zoe Foster Blake book "Things Will Calm Down Soon"Keeshia - How to find the listed For Sale range or price on any listing on Domain or Real Estate Davey Hamilton Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD 'FAMILY PLANNING' BE ASKED BY MY BOSS?I’m a medical doctor going through my final years of subspecialty training. I had a missed miscarriage in April this year and had to ask for time off work to go through the miscarriage and I developed complications afterwards resulting in a hospital admission. This time off “had to be approved” by my head of department I was told. A few months later I interviewed for a Fellow job (a promotion) and was told I’m “not ready”. Then in my supervisor meeting a month or two later, my supervisor (who is the HOD) flatly asked me how my “family planning” is going?!? I feel very uncomfortable about this situation and feel like I’m being held back because I’m a mother hoping to have another child. I guess my question is:- Am I wrong to feel I’m being discriminated against?- Is there anything I should/could do about this?- Should I just suck it up and put up with it?Keep in mind these people have total control over my career progression in training and in the hospital WORKPLACE GIFTSWhen I first joined my workplace, within a short time there was the 40th birthday of one of the 9 staff members in our office. Despite there being no party that colleagues were invited to, there was a collection of money for a gift for this person. At the time I was in my early 20’s. Fast forward and I’ve recently had my 30th and had celebrations without my work colleagues invited (intimate small gatherings out of town). Now I didn’t receive a gift from my colleagues. No biggie I thought, whatever. But now another colleague is having his 60th and we’ve been invited by the family to lunch and there’s an office money collection for a present. TBH I’m like WTF! I don’t know if this gift is meant to be in lieu of maybe some free food at the party, but I’m not impressed. I kinda want to make a point and not put money in, but being in a small office, I know I will be talked about and so I’ll just cave to social pressure and put cash in… But have I missed some social cues here? Would love to know the girls thought HOW DO I GET THIS GUY OUT OF MY DMs AND INTO A REAL DATE?I’ve been messaging this Aussie ‘influencer’ since January. He’s mentioned multiple times that he ‘can’t wait to see me,’ but still hasn’t asked me out despite living just 25 minutes away. I get that he has a busy, travel-heavy life, but it’s frustrating that when he’s back in town, he doesn’t make the effort. I’ve even called him out, saying it feels like he’s just keeping me around to stroke his ego. He insists that’s not the case but always has some excuse. Our mutual friends have hinted that he can be sketchy, so now I’m wondering—do I keep him around for banter or just a ghost DO I INVITE MY EX BEST FRIEND TO MY WEDDING?My ex best friend and I were best friends for 10 years, she saw me through the best and worst of times and a few of those years were long-distance (international). We had a falling out two years ago - it was pretty rough and we tried to work through it, but it just wasn’t working so we stopped speaking. We never spoke about it to resolve things but since then we’ve messaged each other for each other’s birthdays, and any other big events (she texted me congrats on the engagement) and it’s always been pleasant. Her family and I have remained super close which includes her parents and her sister (who is like a little sister to me). I definitely want to invite her family to my wedding, does that mean I have to invite her? If so, how do I approach the situation? The wedding will be only with my closest family and friends (100 people max). She was always my other half, and I never imagined having my wedding without her. But is it weird to invite someone who you’re not that close with any more just because they used to mean a lot to you? I think about her every day and I wish that we could reconcile our friendship, but I fear that the distance is too hard as that was our falling out You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Michelle Bridges is a fitness icon, TV personality, and bestselling author of 17 books! Recently, she developed a new program specifically for women navigating menopause, combining her personal experience with her expertise in fitness to help women stay strong and healthy during this life stage. We previously released an episode on perimenopause and menopause with Dr Louise Newson that you can listen to hereDr Newson gives us a really important medical insight into the changes that can happen during this time, and we wanted to extend this conversation and speak with Michelle about her lived experience and some of the lifestyle factors that can impact this time of women’s lives. In this episode we speak about: The lesser known symptoms that Michelle experienced during perimenopause The steps Michelle took to work out what was going on in her body The importance of finding a GP who specialises in women’s health Being offered antidepressants when Michelle didn’t identify with being depressed Feeling really empowered during this stage of life How exercise, nutrition and supplementation can impact menopause You can find more from Michelle’s Menopause Method  You can follow Michelle on Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Laura went to the reptile park and had a brilliant time. She's also planted a new fear in a friend's child by accident. Are there activities that you feel like you can't do unless you have kids with you? Do you think you can recycle and reuse nudes? Do they have an expiry? Does it matter if they're taken while during the current relationship? Britt and Ben are on different sides of the fence for this one! We break down the new 'dating terminology' coming to 2025 that includes: Swamping No-habiting Fiscal attraction Loud dating Marmalading Digital ex-pression Are you meant to say anything to a woman who is pregnant? There is currently a huge amount of commentary about Margot Robbie's pregnant body. But, is this type of commentary only for celebrities and pap pics or do most women receive comments on their body when they're pregnant? We speak about how some comments are received in a different way to what they may be intended and how inappropriate some of the common types of comments are. We also spoke about Kate Winslet being labelled as 'brave' for being okay with her 'belly rolls' being on display during a topless scene in a new film that she stars in.  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  Laura has a warning for all the teachers out there - and a confession cough she cheated on her HSC Britt's first dance is going to be a disaster Mitch wants equality for all women Mitch's questionable anniversary Your workplace secrets   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Have you ever developed an allergy later in life? Laura may have developed a new one and it's impacting every aspect of her life and every pore in her body!Vibes for the week:Britt - Summer Fridays Jet Lag MaskKeeshia - Huberman - Esther Perel: How to Find, Build & Maintain Healthy Romantic RelationshipsLaura - Into the Fire: The Lost Daughter on Netflix We mentioned our episode with Esther Perel Then we jump into the questions: IS IT BETTER TO TURN A BLIND EYE?Recently I found texts on my boyfriend of 5 years phone that appear to be organising to have sex with a sex worker, as well as messaging other girls to meet him out while he was working in another country (I don’t know if this ever eventuated). We don’t see each other much as I work in Aus and he works overseas for a lot of the year. He has a much higher sex drive than me and long distance/not much sex doesn’t bother me but it really bothers him. I haven’t told my boyfriend I know this yet and I haven’t told any family or friends. I know as soon as I tell anyone they will hate him and tell me the things that I would tell anyone else - to break up with him. The problem is I’m 30 next year, I want to have a baby in the next two years andI  had my life pretty much sorted with him on paper. He has his faults but he is my best friend. The thing is, he makes an enormous amount of money and I don’t. In our future I know my children will be looked after and they won’t have to struggle. I know I won’t have to struggle. I come from a family who doesn’t have a lot of money and being with my boyfriend means I know I can take care of them better than if I’m single. Right now I don’t know whether to confront my boyfriend because I know as soon as I say this out loud I can’t take it back and it will mean that I have to break up with him as cheating is not something I want in a relationship. Is it morally wrong to just look the other way because of the benefits this relationship brings me, my family and my future family?  I know this seems like an obvious answer but I know how hard life can be and being with him means my life will in some ways be easier with him in it. Or if this will always be in the back of my mind and ruin my happiness even with the security it brings. Help. Please. I feel like I’m old, have nothing to show for myself and I’m scared I’ll never be a mother if we break up now.  HOW TO CHOOSE WEDDING LOCATION WHEN FAMILY ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF AUSI have recently got engaged and we have already started talking about when and where as these are the biggest questions we have to answer. We would like to have it maybe this time next year to allow people interstate and international sort their lives out to come. Now the big question is, where? My family is all east of Australia and we live in WA. My fiancé’s immediate family is here in WA as well. Our friends are in WA. I have family that are elderly and wouldn’t be able to travel. We have brought up the subject with my fiancés parents and my MIL didn’t have a very good reaction which I knew would happen. How do I say that I don’t know how long my elderly family members will be with us and I want them at my wedding as they mean so much to me. How do I approach this topic and not seem like I’m being a bridezilla making us have our wedding east? Or do we elope and have two parties one east and one west? DO I TELL HER THAT HER HUSBAND IS CHEATING?I'm in a tough situation and need some advice. I overheard my partner talking about a night out where one of his coworkers cheated on his partner, who is home with their 6-month-old baby. I feel awful for the woman and want to tell her, but I don't know her or her partner, and my partner would be furious if he knew I was eavesdropping. On top of that, if I say something, it could put my partner in a difficult position since the cheater is connected to management. I can't shake the feeling that I need to do something, but I’m worried about the consequences for everyone involved. What should I do?We got some additional info - the partner works FIFO and was disturbed when he heard the coworker say that he had been cheating. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Louise Newson is a leading expert in the field of menopause and perimenopause. She's a GP, menopause specialist, educator, podcaster and author. She’s the woman in the know of menopause and today we would like to break down the misunderstandings, myths, misconceptions and medical misogyny surrounding menopause. In this chat we speak about: Changing hormones & how it affects our brains and behaviour The tendency for medications like antidepressants or sleeping tablets to be prescribed How the labelling of menopause doesn’t really mean anything How the loss of ‘zest’ for life impacts their relationships What type of hormones are safe to take for HRT and contraception What lifestyle factors largely affect hormones Whether other conditions like PCOS, endometriosis or diabetes can change the onset or ‘severity’ of menopause You can find the episode on PMDD that we mentioned here - PMDD You can find everything from Dr Louise Newson including her resources, podcast and book here! Dr Louise Newson's Website   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Britt's jet lagged after her trip to Romania. It was somewhat eventful and she's now an experienced quake girly. Laura's daughter Marlie is about to graduate from preschool and we're curious to know what your graduation song was. Was it Green Day or... eye of the tiger?Now that Laura has had a week off and Marlie Mae is about to go to school, she's back considering having another child. Britt is strongly considering blackmail! If you already have kids and you’ve thought about having another, did you mention it to your kids? Did you want their thoughts on whether they’d like an extra sibling?A dating app has brought in a new feature to try and reduce dating fatigue and avoid analysis paralysis. Hinge will now stop you from matching with someone new if you have 8 or more messages waiting for a response from you. The idea is to make it a more conscious effort and only have a few conversations going at a time. If you're in the dating world, is this good news for you?Do you think it will cut down on people 'window shopping' or just swiping for validation? We spoke about the episode we did with Therapy Jeff - Why Is Dating So Hard These Days? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. This episode was recorded a week in advance as Britt is visiting Ben in Romania. Britt opens up about some of the challenges of long distance and what she’s really struggling with at the moment.Britt has also called one of our listeners a loser. We deeply apologise YourGirlSidney Do you think it’s okay to be in a relationship if you know that the person isn’t ‘the one’ (or end game) for you? How long is it okay to be ‘working’ this out? Does it depend on the age of the people in the relationship? Vibes for the week: Britt: Your Girl Sidney  Keeshia: Medusa Wispy Light Human Hair Fringe - Air Bangs- Clip In Laura App Eat Club Then we get into your questions! HE WON’T GO DOWN ON ME & DOESN’T MAKE AN EFFORT TO PLEASURE MEI'm 21 and my male partner is 23. We have been together for 3 years. Since we have been together he has only gone down on me maybe 3 times in total for about 20 seconds. I have brought this up with him and asked why he doesn't do it and he replies with "I don't like it sorry" which is totally fine but when we do have sex I never get anything out of it as he never really tries to pleasure me. We have tried sex toys but I think he gets awkward about it and then it never happens again. I talk to my friends about it but all they say is tell me that my relationship is not right and tell me about how good they have it. Sometimes I wonder what I am missing out on. Every other part of our relationship is amazing because he is an amazing human who I love so much. Am I missing out ? And if so what the hell do I do? HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STII’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 7-8months. He asked me to help him with a work medical claim, he sent over a pack of documents for me to read to help him write a letter. Reading the documents it said he had herpes. When we first started dating I made sure we both had sexual health checks - he was pushing to have sex without a condom, something I’ve never done and didn’t feel comfortable doing without the STI checks prior. The tests came back with no issues flagged so we started having unprotected sex. 7 months later I read this document - he said initially that “he forgot,” then ended up telling me he lied to me because he thought I would break up with him if I knew. Additional context: his previous girlfriend gave him herpes and also didn’t tell him until 2 months into dating. I don’t know what to do - I thought this guy was my penguin, help! FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS WITH A COLLEAGUEShould I enter a short term friends with benefits situation with a colleague that’s leaving at the end of the year even though I’m inexperienced and not sure how I’ll emotionally handle it? I think it could be a great idea for my overall satisfaction and self confidence, but I don't want to get rejected, or catch feelings and then get really sad when I’m rejected and/or he moves away. Is it worth the risk for good sex? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Before being known as Danielle Laidley, she was a hugely successful AFL player and played 151 games for West Coast Eagles and North Melbourne football clubs, and winning premierships  and going onto be the youngest senior coach ever at 36, coaching North Melbourne for 149 games across seven seasons from 2003 to 2009. For decades, Danielle kept her gender to herself and threw herself into sporting success and became a workaholic. Eventually the pain of keeping this secret led to some dark coping mechanisms like substance abuse.  In May, 2020, a police officer took a photo of Danielle in an interview room at a St Kilda police station while wearing a wig and make-up. This photo was shared in a group chat before it was leaked to the media & the public.  Now, following her diagnosis with gender dysphoria, Danielle works extensively as an advocate for transgender people, raising awareness in a quest for acceptance of diversity. In this chat we speak about: The different phases of Danielle's life & always knowing who she is Growing up in the hyper masculine environments of football and cricket How she coped with the public exposure of her transition before she had been able to speak with her family and friends about it How the football world has responded to Danielle's transition How parents can help support their kids who experience gender dysphoria Her beautiful relationship with a woman she's known since grade 1 Danielle's perspective on transpeople in sport You can find Danielle's Instagram and book - Don't look away You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers,Keeshia is in the hot seat filling in Britt while she's in Romania.Have you ever accidentally done something illegal? Laura's renovation project has made Keeshia realise that she's been accidentally shoplifting for over a decade.Do you ever lie or withhold information from your partner? Do you hide packages or lie about new items that you've bought and say that you've had them forever? There's a tiktok from Thewestcoastmama that has us questioning what's normal and who is in the wrong.Today we take a deep dive on what friendship means to us and whether we're too quick to deprioritise friendship when other responsibilities rear their heads. We spoke about Simon Sinek and his conversation on the Prof G Podcast and his Youtube with Trevor Noah What are you currently looking for in friendship?Has that shifted over the years as your life has gone through different chapters?Is there too much pressure to maintain friendships when there are all of these other things that we are trying to do well? 92% of you have experienced a friendship breakup. Most of you think about the breakdown of a friendship more than the breakdown of a romantic relationship. We speak about our own experiences of friendship breakdowns and whether we would ever be able to reestablish those friendships. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  Producer Grace gets stopped at security Nickname origin stories Lola was not writing in her 'diahorrea' Massages gone wrong   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. Laura and Matt are having some *creative differences* in their house reno visions. Laura wants to live under the rainbow and is anti beige brigade. Matt wants a bright blue laundry. When it comes to the aesthetic of your house and you having opposing opinions to your partner, who gets final say?Vibes for this week:Keeshia: Perfect Wife on Disney PlusLaura: Figma Colour WheelBritt: Tanologist Self Tan Drops Then we get into your questions!DO WE STILL HAVE TO GET THEM A WEDDING GIFTOne of my closest friends is getting married in Canada, I am one of her bridesmaids and I am so stoked for it. Obviously to go to the wedding my partner and I have booked flights over to Canada (not cheap) and also booked the hotel that was chosen for the wedding party (also not cheap). I don’t mind about these costs because it's my close friend and it's a holiday to Canada! My partner and I have debated whether we should get them a wedding gift? I don’t mind getting one and like giving gifts, but my partner thinks we have already spent a lot of money going to the wedding. I’m curious to know what you guys think? Should you get someone a wedding gift if you have already invested $4,000 to get to the wedding and stay there. DO I DOUBLE MESSAGE HIM?My now ex boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago after I found out he was cheating on me. It was awful as we lived together and I went to uni not only with him but also with the other women. We were together for 3 years. Another guy I also go to uni with and used to date 5 years ago (my ex was aware and they were still really good friends) also broke up with his girlfriend he dated for a similar amount of time. We have always been friends ever since the breakup and I was also friends with his ex girlfriend. Fast forward to now, I am now a lawyer and finished with uni and don’t have to see my ex except at social occasions. I have caught up with this other guy a couple of times and we have had a vibe for about a month now. On Saturday he invited me to his house with a bunch of other lawyers from uni including my ex. After a lot of alcohol my ex and the other people left and this other guy asked me to stay and chat which I did. One thing led to another and we had sex and it was really good. He also said he really enjoyed it. I stayed the night where we hugged. He made me coffee and breakfast in the morning and took me home. A few hours after he dropped me off I messaged him and said thank you for dropping me off and I had fun last night. He read the message and still hasn’t replied, in the whole 5 years I have known him he has never left me on read. I don’t want to come across as desperate but do I double message him? I still have his clothes and don’t know what to do. It’s also not like we will never see each other again, we have lots of mutual friends and are both invited to another party this weekend. Please help! PUBIC HAIRI’ve always been curious how females maintain pubic hair?? My husband says he doesn’t care whether it’s bare or hairy .. but I still can’t figure out what I prefer either … like what’s the norm these days? Completely bare or hairy and how do you maintain and how often? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jeff Guenther AKA TherapyJeff is here to help you take control of your dating life, by tuning into who you are, what you want, and how you can get there. Therapy Jeff has over 3.8 million followers on socials. He is a licensed therapist with twenty years’ experience in private practice. Today we are going to unpack a bit of the psychology behind why we are the way that we are in relationships and how that impacts different aspects of our dating lives! Today we chat about: Growing up with a mum who is also a therapist. Is that good or bad? Can we blame our parents for who we are attracted to? Why is dating so hard right now? If you’re on dating apps, you could be dating an AI avatar of the person When we ARE the problem and how to take control of that Patterns: are you after chaos and drama or a healthy stable relationship? No, but really what are you actually searching for? How much can you change someone to help them meet your needs? How to spot the difference between love bombing and the honeymoon phase Can you survive cheating? What determines whether you can or can’t Find more from Jeff’s websiteFind Therapy Jeff on Instagram and tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,Sorry for the start of today's ep. Not sure what else to say about it to be honest. If you've had the 'back' lasered, how do you get it done? What's your therapists 'go to' position? Britt is headed to Romania to see Ben! She shares how some of the challenges of being in a long distance relationship have affected her and why she's looking forward to seeing him so much! Unions are pushing to keep bosses from 'trawling' social media and reprimanding employees because of what they're getting up to on the gram. It could be a faked sickie, or a perspective that doesn't align with the values of the business. Do you think employers should be able to reprimand their employees for things that they post on social media? We also speak about the brave woman Gisele Pelicot, who has chosen to waive her right to anonymity after her husband drugged her and allowed her to be sexually abused by 70+ men. We speak about the shift in the way that society views victimhood and the strength that it takes for victims to publicly share their stories to advocate for justice. We also look at the role the media and legal systems play in shaping the choices of survivors. If this conversation brings up anything for you, a confidential information, counselling and support service is available at 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. On the show:  Britt has a fight with a taxi driver Mitch gets his regular Ask Uncut Yo-Chi Icks The kid who broke a 3500 year old urn Mitch's Pitch You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.