“The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.” ~Bum PhillipsThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. It’s baaaaaack… The 36-hour, (once a week), fast ***WARNING** Please do your own research and consult your doctor before altering your diet.***What is it? Why do it? And, the backstory.In 2019, (at 51), I came to the sudden awareness that I’d never gone a day without eating. I wondered if I could fast for an entire day.The only way to find out… challenge myself. My plan was to cease eating around 8 p.m. on Sunday. Then, see if I could make it through Monday without food. If I could then make it to Tuesday at 8 a.m., I’d have gone 36 hours. The first fast was brutal!Afterward, I recall saying, “Maybe I’ll try that again next year.”Then a day went by and I said, “Maybe I’ll do that again next month.”Then another few days went by and I said, “I’m going to do that again next Monday!”The next thing I knew, it was 30 weeks later…30 consecutive weeks of fasting – 36 hours, once per week.I share the experience on a couple of previous podcast episodes.—» LINK & LINKWhy fast in the first place?Reason #1: Self controlI wanted to find out WHO was in control.Was it my impulses and eating habits or was it my mindfulness and willpower?I love Pythagoras’ observation: “No man is free who cannot command himself.”Could I command myself for those 36 hours?Freedom and family are top values. Am I really free if I cannot command myself? Am I in control?Let’s find out…Reason #2: Experiment!As important as habits, rituals and routines are that support our goals and ideals, it’s equally important to experiment.See Dynamism (episode).“All life is an experiment, the more experiments you make the better.” ~R.W. EmersonBy experimenting, I learned firsthand an entirely different level of self-discipline and interestingly, gained a new level of freedom.“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood."~R.W. EmersonIn Siddharta by Hermann Hess, Siddhartha’s mantra is…I can think. I can wait. I can fast.These were things within Siddhartha’s control.Few things in life are in within our control.What we eat and when we eat ought to be. Yet, for most, they are not. Ironically, most people think they are in control of what and when they eat yet, they have never tested that belief.Fasting is a great way to test that assumption.It stands to reason that if one cannot control what they eat, when they it, they really do not control very much.Reason #3: Health and wellness.Here are just a few of the reported health and wellness benefits of fasting:* Fights inflammation* Aids blood sugar control; reduces insulin resistance* Aids weight loss and reduced fat* increases growth hormone* Aids heart health* Suspected of aiding cancer prevention* Aids longevity* Improves clarity* Enhances mindfulness* Enhances spirituality. They don’t call it a “Monk Fast” for nothing. For the record, I’d never heard that term until 2023!How I perform the fast…First, the disclaimer once again: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. PLEASE VISIT YOUR DOCTOR AND DISCUSS ANY CHANGES TO YOUR DIET FIRST.For better or worse, I dove head-first into this experiment with almost no research.I had no idea there are terms like “dirty” fasting.To get through the day, I will probably have about 5-6 cups of hot tea and drink a lot of water, sometimes carbonated. I also have coffee in the morning. That coffee has a touch of coconut oil and sometimes I’ll add a touch of butter.Apparently, this is known as “Fat-Fasting”. I didn’t know that.Purists are likely to say that those are calories and it’s a “dirty fast.”For me, this experiment is about health and I’m confident that those fats are healthy. Further, the reduction in calories from a typical day of 2,000+ to approximately 50 is fasting.Less than 100 calories (far less), during a thirty-six hours period is substantial.I will also take my usual dose of psyllium husk (approx a tablespoon) with some salmon oils, around noon.So there you have it, the quick and “dirty” What? Why? and How?The challenge was to complete every Monday (all five) in October; that happens today.At 55, I expect that I will continue to test, experiment and explore. The good news; it’s week five and it appears that I’m in control.I can think. I can wait. I can fast.Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first, HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesIf you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] methodology to craft game-changing habits on-demand. Check out our latest cohort offering, the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!MORE: “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Optimize your behaviors – cultivate habits and skills – at will and on demand. Background info here.*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“No man is free who cannot command himself.” ~PythagorasThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. To act according to your intentions…Arguably, it’s the crux of the entire personal development industry.How often have you said, “I’m going to…” Only to find, a week, month, or year later, “it” never transpired.Why?There are three main reasons.Reason One: PAIN.Chances are that the task at hand involved some pain; emotional, physical, mental, etc.Humans are wired to avoid pain and seek pleasure.PAIN versus PLEASURE: It’s a perpetual war that is being waged internally.Humans will go to great lengths to avoid pain, naturally.The challenge is that growth and personal development, lie on the other side of challenge and pain. Learning is painful, yet we become smarter as a result of the effort. Lifting weights is painful, yet the effort makes us stronger.How do we reconcile this? Well, the answer is fairly simple.In fact, the answer has been known for millennia and apparently, science has affirmed it recently.“If you wish to be a good writer, write. If you wish to be a great speaker, speak. If you wish to be a skilled musician, play. If you wish to be a good person, be good. There is no other way.” ~ EpectitusDo you see the pattern?Desire. Action. Desire. Action. Desire. Action!Nike learned a thing or two from Epectitus, “Just do it!”A subscriber to our show and good friend, Laura, has now SAID and DONE a number of important goals over the last few years. She shared the below Instagram post from Huberman Lab.The neuroscience research on willpower makes clear that your Anterior Mid-Cingulate Cortex (aMCC) is a key hub for leaning into undesired effort.Your aMCC it is activated by engaging in behaviors that you don't want to do. Or by resisting strong impulses. (MG: that should be an, “AND”)Your aMCC/willpower can grow throughout the lifespan by regularly doing undesired things, that are hard. ~A. Huberman (instagram)Here’s the short STORY: Do things you don’t like to do, when you say you're going to do them, whether you feel like it or not.Repeat.BTW: That 👆 is one of my favorite definitions for DISCIPLINE.Why did Laura share that post with me? Well, we’ve been preaching and teaching this important concept since the show’s inception, 6+ years.It’s just one of the achievement riddles addressed inside The Habit Factor®.Reason Two: MEANING.The key to doing what you say you’re going to do when you say you’re going to do it is simply this; develop a powerful reason – a STORY about WHY it’s so important.By crafting a powerful STORY – a WHY – even prolonged pain is tolerable.“When a man cannot find a deep sense of meaning, they distract themselves with pleasure.” ~Viktor Frankl Find a deep sense of meaning relative to the goal, behaviors, and/or habits you’re trying to cultivate.In my latest book “EVERYTHING,” we learn how it’s the stories at the heart of our “Behavior Echo-System” that drive our emotions/feelings and impact our behaviors/habits/skills – even our environment.Increase meaning; diminish pain.Repeat.MEANING > PAINIdentify and/or craft a story (see behavior model below), that is going to drive you through the pain.Example: I can endure the pain of getting into shape because I want to be at my daughter’s wedding.Example: I can endure the pain of learning because I want to earn more money.Final thoughts… and reason three.You are not tracking!TRACKING AFFIRMS YOUR DESIRE.By habit tracking, you’ll quickly determine if you are sincere in your desire to command yourself or, if you’re just b**********g yourself.Tracking is where the rubber meets the road.Around these parts, we have a saying:GOOD HABITS HAPPEN WHEN PLANNED; BAD HABITS HAPPEN ON THEIR OWN.Most people think discipline is an inborn, innate trait that only a few fortunate people possess.Nonsense. DISCIPLINE IS A HABIT.Discipline is cultivated from repeated exposure at the intersection of DESIRE (volition) and ACTION (willpower) and executing according to one’s desire.Easy Habits = Hard Life.Hard Habits = Easy Life.The habits that are painless and easy, well, those tend to form all by themselves, don’t they? Those are the effort-free, bad habits that don’t serve our goals.Drinking too much alcohol, staying in bed too long, and watching too much TV or spending too much time on social media.Nobody needs to track those habits. They form all by themselves.HOW TO HABIT TRACK THE RIGHT WAY.P.A.R.R.: PLAN. ACT. RECORD & REASSESS.That’s The Habit Factor® method for habit tracking and it’s designed to promote Habitstrength™.And, it’s backed by 13+ years of experience teaching, and coaching.Final thoughts…The more you expose yourself to the intersection of DESIRE and ACTION (and act according to your desire) the faster you will cultivate the habit of DISCIPLINE.The faster you cultivate discipline. the faster you will move in the direction of your goals and ideals.Enjoy the show!~mg***Get the inspiring, free and world’s first, HABITS to GOALS tracking template here: → https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesIf you’d like to understand human behavior at an even deeper level, learn more about the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” which is featured in the book, “EVERYTHING!” I teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] methodology to craft game-changing habits on-demand. Check out our latest cohort offering, the waitlist is now open: The 28-Day Breakthrough!MORE: “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid, and dynamic behavior-change model. It’s the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Optimize your behaviors – cultivate habits and skills – at will and on demand. Background info here.*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“I cannot wait to see genes that operate in a vacuum.”This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. The “Nature vs. Nurture” debate can be traced to ancient Greece and perhaps earlier.In the entertainment world, there have been several books, plays, and movies that touch upon the subject matter.The riddle: How much influence does nature (genetics) versus nurture (environment: culture, family, friends, home, city, etc.) have upon one’s life?For example, Mark Twain’s The Prince and the Pauper, published in 1881, is a tale about two boys who were born on the same day, one a prince and the other a pauper; they accidentally switch places.Not coincidentally, Trading Places, the 1983 hit comedy starring Eddie Murphy and Dan Akroyd, pursued the exact same theme.Recently, I tripped upon a few well-done Khan Academy videos covering this debate. [I link to a few of their videos below.]The short story: While these videos are very well produced, and the instructors do a fantastic job, the longer you watch them, the more your head will spin.And spin.Why?Well, the instructors work hard to articulate how scientists are doing their best to “tease apart genetics and the environment.” The instructor uses the example of “tea in hot water.”Ultimately, though, we arrive at the “money” video:“Gene Environment Interaction”It ends with this statement (transcript):This is the phenomenon known as Gene Envinronment Interaction. So, it's really an interaction between our genes and our environment that initiates the body's responses and behavior. So, we see that the environment is dependent on genetic predisposition. But gene expression is also dependent on the environment. And this is the phenomenon that we're referring to as gene/environment interaction. So, this idea is going to shift our vocabulary away from phrases like nature versus nurture. It's going to bring us to a more correct phraseology, nature through nurture.”Have you heard the joke about the Zen monk and the hotdog vendor?His order: “Make me one with everything!”The longer you watch those videos – frankly, the longer you contemplate this “debate” – the more quickly you realize how futile it is. “Nature versus nurture” is impossible. Nature through nurture, maybe. More likely, nature with nurture; nature one with nurture.The Zen monk nailed it. YOU ARE ONE WITH EVERYTHING.Your body is NOT as separate as it may seem.Go jump in the ocean and tell me your body doesn’t have a direct connection with the water.Walk outside and tell me your body doesn’t have a direct connection with the air.YOUR BODY IS ONE WITH ITS ENVIRONMENT. (REPEAT)Arguably, this is a core, driving idea behind epigenetics. While it may be helpful to understand the various degrees to which each component influences the other, the “truth” is, that depends – often, a whole lot. (See bottom article.)This leads us back to the “Three Circles of Behavior Echo System.”This behavior-change model, Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System, reveals…(drum roll, please)… NATURE (genetics) and NURTURE (environment) are ONE!As far as I know, it’s the only behavior-change model to reveal such a hypothesis.Neither CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) nor TTM (Transtheoretical Model) explicitly demonstrate or articulate that one’s body and environment are one.Take another gander...According to this behavior model, if something isn’t “Thinking/STORIES” (inner circle), or “Behaviors/Habits/Skills” (middle circle), or “Emotions/Feelings” (conduits/membranes), then that something is part of the “ENVIRONMENT.” This includes one’s body. BTW: There is just ONE thing, arguably, that is outside the entire “Behavior Echo System.” Unfortunately, that discussion is for another day. Or, you can find the answer/hypothesis here, “EVERYTHING!”While the timeless nature vs. nurture “debate” may be helpful, there is no way to fully separate one’s genes/body from their environment.Even genes in a test tube possess an environmental influence.Rather than debating nature vs nurture, more attention should be placed on the importance of using the ENVIRONMENT to facilitate the behaviors, habits and skills one is trying to cultivate. Say it with me, “I am one with everything!”Enjoy the show!~mgI teach and coach organizations and individuals worldwide how to best utilize and leverage “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” and the P.A.R.R. [Plan, Act, Record & Reassess] methodology to craft game-changing habits on-demand. Learn more here: The 28-Day Breakthrough!Reference: Khan Academy VideosTwin and adoption studies: https://www.khanacademy.org/test-prep/mcat/behavior/behavior-and-genetics/v/twin-studies-and-adoption-studiesHeritability: https://www.khanacademy.org/test-prep/mcat/behavior/behavior-and-genetics/v/heritabilityThe “Money” video, Gene Environment Interaction: https://www.khanacademy.org/test-prep/mcat/behavior/behavior-and-genetics/v/gene-environment-interactionArticle from the APA - American Psychological Association: Heritability: it's all relative: https://www.apa.org/monitor/apr04/herit.htmlMORE: “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model is a holistic, fluid and dynamic behavior-change model. It is the first behavior-change model to demonstrate how our thoughts, feelings, behaviors and even our environment vibrate (echo and reverberate) to influence each other. Hence, the “Echo-System.” Learn to optimize your behaviors – cultivate habits and skills – at will and on demand. Background info here.The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Take away paradox from the thinker and you have a professor.” ~Søren KierkegaardThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. In 2014 I wrote It’s Both! Your (Habitual) Dichotomous Thinking is Killing You.That’s right, “Killing You!”I went a bit deeper on this concept in The Pressure Paradox™ (2015).It’s worth revisiting as the idea is essential to critical thinking and, interestingly enough, peace of mind. A sure sign of a mature mind is one that can hold two opposing ideas together, at the same time (most of the time).The reason we’re revisiting the concept is that I’m noticing it’s percolating elsewhere.Let’s begin with Matthew McConaughey’s latest book (Sept 2023) Just Because. Just Because is an illustrated kid’s book designed to teach children many life lessons.In so doing, it fosters “Both” thinking.” Few lessons may be more important to understand for children.Straight from McConaughey’s book, examples on Amazon.com.“Just because they don’t hear you, doesn’t mean you don’t have a voice.”“Just because you follow, it doesn’t mean you aren’t a leader.”“Just because you are sitting still, it doesn’t mean you are not busy.”Another recent book is actually titled, “BOTH/AND Thinking” by Harvard Review Press, August of 2022.I’m guessing “dichotomous” in any title is a bit much.Here’s how that book is summarized on Amazon. Life is full of paradoxes. How can we each express our individuality while also being a team player? How do we balance work and life? How can we improve diversity while promoting opportunities for all? How can we manage the core business while innovating for the future?For many of us, these competing and interwoven demands are a source of conflict. Since our brains love to make either-or choices, we choose one option over the other. We deal with the uncertainty by asserting certainty.Finally, there is The Power of And: Responsible Business Without Trade-Offs Columbia Business School Publishing. June 2020.Another book elucidating the very idea; tailored for the business world.“The Power of And” offers a new narrative about the nature of business, revealing the focus on responsibility AND ethics.Sounds a lot like BOTH/AND thinking to me.It is the appreciation – the recognition of multiple paths, multiple perspectives and paradigms, that ultimately leads to freedom — even enlightenment.For instance, you must know what the customer wants AND you must trust and move according to your own intuition.“You are absolutely, 100% totally unique, one-of-a-kind. And, you are just like everyone else.”You must pay attention to the little things AND you must have a long-term, macro-perspective.You must never settle AND you must, most definitely, on occasion settle.Are we really “wired” to choose one answer/option/solution over another?“Wired” may not be the right way to describe it. In the West, in particular, society loves to pit “right” against “wrong”. Left vs Right. Up vs Down. Meat vs Veggies.More often than not, my friends, it’s BOTH.This reminds me of the old saying, “The Left Wing” and “The Right Wing” are connected to the same bird.BOTH. ONE. NON-DICHOTOMOUS.Say it with me, it’s BOTH!The answer, more often than not, is BOTH/AND and maybe even, Just Because. Just because you think there is a single answer, doesn’t mean there aren’t many.Love your show!Sidenote: The truth is life is dynamic, fluid (recent episode), and holistic. By the way, this is precisely what “The Three Circles of Behavior Echo-System” / The Grunburg Behavior Model represents (ask Bard). It’s a holistic, fluid and dynamic behavior model that humans and organizations can use to design behaviors.Arguably, it’s the most accurate human behavior model to date. Learn more here.The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Yeah, Mr. White! Yeah, science!” ~Jesse PinkmanThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers!For our 25th anniversary, my wife and I visited Denmark, Sweden and Italy. One night, in Italy, our hotel’s satellite TV was down.Before heading to bed, she dialed up her Netflix account and soon enough, we found ourselves watching Breaking Bad; our third time through the series!Breaking Bad is ridiculously GOOD.What caught my attention in this particular episode (Season 1, Ep 7) is a fairly comical scene where Mr. White – a grossly overqualified high-school chemistry teacher – has to resort to a motivational/personal development cliché, with the hope of inspiring his would-be crystal meth-dealing partner.“JESSE, TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!” Walter White begins shaking Jesse by the shoulders.The irony of White’s aspirational statement against their criminal intent is clever.Mr. White challenges his former student, Jesse Pinkmen to “think bigger” and not “live a life of fear,” as he requests that he go on a shopping spree for several ingredients to make their largest batch of crystal methamphetamine ever.“Jesse, today is the FIRST DAY of the rest of your life!” Mr. White reiterates the message.This scene serves as an ironic/comical backdrop because it inspired this episode of Habits 2 Goals.We’ve covered this topic before, from a slightly different angle. Then, there was no Breaking Bad reference and we took a different tack. You can find that episode here, One Day!“Today is the first day of the rest of your life! But, what kind of life will it be, huh? Will it be a life of fear? Oh… no, no, no… I can’t do this… of never once believing in yourself? ~Walter WhiteIt’s fair to say we can all reflect upon Walter White’s questions.Will you live in fear today?Will today be the day you believe in yourself?Will today be a day you challenge yourself?Will today be the first day you begin to drink water with all your meals?Will today be the first day you try fasting?Will today be the first day you begin walking 3 miles… maybe jogging?Will today be the first day you begin to meditate?Will today be the first day you begin saving money?Is today day one? Or, is it just another day? While the messenger is just a fictional criminal. The message is pure GOLD.Will you challenge yourself TODAY?Can you make TODAY special? Will you start something TODAY that makes you proud?What new positive habit will you begin cultivating, TODAY?TODAY really is the first day of the rest of your life.Make it memorable.Enjoy the show!The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“One of the best reasons to start habit tracking is that you will develop an ancillary habit, DISCIPLINE.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! program begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —» The 28-Day Breakthrough!You’ve never tracked habits before? That’s alright, most people haven’t.After all, life is meant to be lived, not tracked, right?Well, it turns out, you can and should do both; live and track.As an example, Benjamin Franklin tracked his habits (13 virtues) for approximately sixty years. Sixty years!Apparently, habit tracking is what Hindu priests do as well to refine their character and concentrate better.Habit tracking is an effective method for goal achievement.If your goals are important, you should begin habit tracking.Many people think that discipline is required to track habits.The truth is that discipline is a HABIT. Discipline is strengthened via habit tracking.Nobody is born disciplined.Habit tracking is difficult at first because it requires willpower.What’s the difference between willpower and discipline? Here are some general definitions:Willpower: Control exerted to do something or restrain impulses.Discipline: A system of rules of conduct. That “system” is developed via habit-tracking.Habit tracking develops discipline because it aligns one’s intentions (what they say they will do), with willpower (what they actually do).Habit tracking is where the proverbial “rubber meets the road.”People talk a lot about what they are “going to do.”P.A.R.R., as a habit-tracking method, helps to ensure that one’s intentions and actions actually intersect.P.A.R.R. stands for PLAN. ACT. RECORD & REASSESS.After 13+ years of proven success stories, the P.A.R.R. method stands alone for systematic success in developing habits and improving one’s habitstrength.When P.A.R.R. was originally introduced (2010, The Habit Factor® was published), many of the top behavioral scientists said that habit tracking was not effective.However, today there are scientific studies backing the efficacy of habit tracking and the P.A.R.R. methodology.For that reason alone, understanding the best habit-tracking method can save you a lot of time and frustration.Benefits of following the P.A.R.R. method to develop habits:* It sets you up for success early. * By establishing a PLAN with low “Minimum Success Criteria” and low “Frequency per Week”, you are more likely to succeed.* P.A.R.R. uses what are called “Target Days.” * Target days establish your frequency per week. For one habit, target days might be: M,W, Sa. For another they might be Tu,Th, Sa.* There is NO requirement to perform habits every day. In many cases that fallacy is what sets people up for failure.* P.A.R.R. uses a 28-day, 4 Week rhythm for habit tracking. * This provides a crucial reassessment period and allows the user to “raise the bar” in successive 28-day periods. See habitstrength™ below.* P.A.R.R. anticipates that you’ll fall off track. * By following P.A.R.R., you can miss a day, a few days, a week or even a month and still develop habits and achieve your goals!* P.A.R.R. leverages your innate human capacities of Choice, Intention & Reflection.* Cue, Routine, Reward, another “framework” for habit development, popularized by The Power of Habit and Atomic Habits, is based upon the study of rodents.* You are not a rodent. Cue Routine Reward is very limited in its value for human habit development.* Habitstrength™: Finally, the best reason to follow P.A.R.R. is the recognition that on the path to habit development – a period that could take several months – it’s the compounding of each successive 4-week tracking period that enhances habitstrength™. * As habitstrength™ improves with each successive 4-week tracking period, automaticity (the sensation that these behaviors become more automatic) increases and the habit becomes stronger.* P.A.R.R. works as well for SKILL development. Habits and skills are essentially developed the same way; intentional practice. The P.A.R.R. methodology is a systematic process to increase both habit and skill strength.When you track habits and skills by following the P.A.R.R. methodology, you increase habitstrength and develop discipline.For detailed, step-by-step instructions on P.A.R.R. be sure to download the FREE habits to goals tracking template at https://thehabitfactor.com/templates and/or Google the following: “PARR and The Habit Factor”Enjoy the show!The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Cohort begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The difference between a good life and a bad life is how well you walk through fire.” ~ Carl JungThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! program begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —» The 28-Day Breakthrough!What if a key difference between the successful person and the unsuccessful person was how well they navigate life’s difficulties?The fact is, nobody escapes life’s challenges.Yet, we all know people who seem to complicate matters when things get tough. They react rather than respond.What’s the difference?Animals, babies, and small children REACT.Humans have the capacity to RESPOND.By pausing, an emotionally mature adult can (more often than not), direct their response – tailor it – toward a desirable outcome.Meanwhile, reacting often compounds problems.Think of the people who seem to have drama follow them everywhere; work, home, events, relationships, etc.The collective drama isn’t a random coincidence. Rather, it’s the source of compounding troubles; and constant reactions.One poor reaction after another.Jack Canfield offered an important formula in his “Success Principles” book:E + R = OEvent + Response = OutcomeResponding is what emotionally mature adults do most of the time.As human BEINGS, we get to choose how we’d like to BE (act).You are the only creature in the world that can step outside of your “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System,” assess and even design it.Consider that for a moment. No other creature can do this.Humans can ask: Is my environment conducive for my goals?Are my behaviors, habits and skills conducive for my goals?Is my thinking – the stories running through my head – conducive for my goals?That’s what the spotlight represents, your AWARENESS.To access it, PRESS PAUSE.Are you responding in a way that guides you through life’s challenges better — to help you toward your goals and ideals? Or, are you reacting?Maybe it’s time to press pause and begin responding more.Enjoy the show!The next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! program begins 10/3/23!Learn more here —» The 28-Day Breakthrough!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation”International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood." ~Ralph Waldo EmersonThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.After hearing a Gooroo caution his students, “When it comes to relationships, you must be very careful; relationships are dynamic.”I thought to myself. “That is kind of “funny.” Last time I checked, LIFE IS DYNAMIC.Thus, what got us “here” might not necessarily get us “there.”Deepak Chopra put it like this“The world is not a static place. It is constantly changing and evolving. To live a fulfilling life, we must embrace this dynamism and be willing to adapt to change.”Such an observation underscores the importance of setting worthwhile goals and ideals; the type that helps us to transform.We covered this in a prior episode, “Two Types of Goals.”“The best way to predict the future is to create it.” ~Peter DruckerIt’s the dynamism of life that forces us to keep upgrading our skills and habits to evolve —to keep up with the pace of change.Even better, the pursuit of worthwhile goals and ideals allows us to direct change. (Peter’s point above.)It’s hardly just relationships that are dynamic. Thus, we should perpetually ask, “What new habits and skills should I be cultivating, now?” Some cynics may say. “My results are great — I’m good. I don’t need to change.”Maybe. It’s worth considering that today’s solution may not be a fit in the ever-changing jigsaw puzzle that is tomorrow.Enjoy the show!Our next 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH program begins… 10/3/23! More info here: The 28-Day Breakthrough! *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesCue, Routine and Reward is for rodents—» Learn about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.” ~Leo Tolstoy.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.What if patience was the key to mastering your universe?If courage is the mother of all virtues (according to Aristotle), arguably the father, along with prudence, could be patience.Let’s run through some of the advantages of developing the virtue of being patient.“Patience is the key to paradise.” ~ Persian Proverb* Patience helps you achieve your goals. * Patience helps you make better decisions. * Patience helps you to build stronger relationships. * Patience helps you manage stress better.* Patience helps you stay calm in difficult situations. * Patience helps you learn from your mistakes. * Patience can help you be more creative. * Patience can help you become more resilient. * Patience can help you be more compassionate. * Patience helps you to cultivate discipline. * Patience will enhance mindfulness.* Patience will help you control your emotions. * Patience will help you to be more tolerant of others. * Patience helps you be more grateful.* Patience can foster optimism. * Patience will enhance resilience.* Patience can save your life* Patience leads to prudence. * Patience will help you make a positive impact on the world. * Patience leads to tranquility and harmony.* Patience helps you see things for what they areIn Siddhartha, the fantastic novel by Hermann Hess, Siddhartha resorts to a mantra – a schema – that guides him through his challenge-filled journey.“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”“I can think. I can wait. I can fast.”Now, we migrate in a semi-parallel fashion from Siddhartha to Yoda, Master Jedi. It was Yoda who cautioned a young Luke Skywalker, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”Yoda could have easily offered: “Impatience is the path to the dark side.”Impatience leads to frustration. Frustration leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.Enjoy the show!You keep saying you’re stuck… that you just need a breakthrough? Well, here it is: JUST 12 SPOTS LEFT for the next, 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! Program starts again… 10/3/23! Sign up today! —»: The 28-Day Breakthrough! *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“What I didn’t realize is that everyone is a sailor. Everyone is sailing somewhere.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Right now you are sailing somewhere. The question is, “Do you know where you are headed?”It’s important to recognize that if you’re not pursuing an ideal destination, chances are, you’ll end up somewhere else.Yogi Berra put it this way…“If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.”Seneca the great Stoic philosopher said, “If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable.”No wind is favorable.No wind can help the sailor who doesn’t know where they are headed.If success is creating your ideal future then, it becomes one’s onus – their responsibility – to know where, ideally, they’d like to go.Do you know where that is?If not, that is priority #1. (See below info about The 28-Day Breakthrough!)Clarity – knowing your ideal destination – is essential for living a content and fulfilling life. Now, to be clear, just knowing your ideal destination isn’t enough to guarantee that you’ll arrive. However, not knowing certainly assures that you’ll never arrive.You are a creature — a CREATOR. These two words are inextricably linked. They offer you a way to think about your place in the universe and your relationship to the divine. You are sailing somewhere, right now. Do you like where you are headed?The beauty is that, just like any vessel, you can change course by identifying where you want to go and then grabbing the steering wheel.Enjoy the show!JUST 12 SPOTS ARE AVAILABLE FOR OUR NEXT 28-DAY BREAKTHROUGH! PROGRAM WHICH BEGINS 10/3/23! Get on the waitlist today!Check it out here: The 28-Day Breakthrough! *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The only way ‘it’ gets better for you is when you get better. Better isn’t something you wish for, it’s something you become.” ~ Jim RohnThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Ironically, change is one of the great constants of life. Since the environment is constantly changing; relationships, careers, technology, etc., the same thought and behavior habits that once served us, may begin to make us feel stuck.Thus, one of the best ways to stay ahead of constant change is to set worthwhile personal goals. Peter Drucker put it this way, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.”Translation: Pursue worthwhile goals and ideals!In this episode, we cover two types of goals. Long-term personal transformation goals – these are the type of goals that force you to develop new habits and skills. The other type of goal is relatively simple, an adventure/travel type of goal; say a trip to Paris. Each are often labeled “goals” and each are very different.For an adventure/travel goal, one only needs two resources: time and money. The probability of achieving that goal is likely upwards of 95%.There are also long-term, personal transformation goals. These are the type of goals that require you to develop new habits and skills.Long-term, personal transformation goals force one to metamorphose; to become something new and different by forming new habits (and skills).Thus, the Latin root of habit is "habitus," which means "condition and/or character."The habits one develops shapes their character. Who they become often has an effect on what they can achieve.Enjoy the show!Oops! Sounds like you missed it!?Don’t miss our next cohort starting 10/3/23! Check it out here: The 28-Day Breakthrough! *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Critical thinking is the art of analyzing information to separate fact from opinion.” ~ Carl SaganThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.It’s no wonder people scoff at personal development.Often “GooRoos” will say ridiculous, silly, and dichotomous things like:“There are no good habits.”“Competition is stupid.”The following is a statement that inspired this episode. It’s kinda hard to read.It came in an email and it stopped me in my tracks."When I think of a truly successful person, I think of someone who can authentically say, ‘I cherished every moment of my existence.’”Once I read that, I knew I had to discuss critical thinking.Can you ‘authentically cherish’ the moment your child becomes ill or a loved one passes away?Can you authentically cherish the moment your home burns to the ground?Authentically CHERISH every moment? Come on.Oh, and if you don’t, I guess you’re not a success!?I queried my AI buddy “BARD” Google’s AI “experiment.” I figured I’d ask him/her/it, “Bard, can you see any issues with this statement?”Bard’s response was funny and a bit heavy-handed, ending with this:Finally, the statement is a bit of a cop-out. It implies that if we are not happy with our lives, it is our own fault because we are not cherishing every moment. This is not always the case. Sometimes, we face challenges that are beyond our control. We may lose loved ones, get sick, or experience financial hardship. These are not things that we can cherish, but they are still part of life.The best part is this analysis is that it led me down a road that covers some key aspects of my work.A definition of success, one that I pondered for years before publishing in pre-2010 was developed after much critical thinking.Success is creating your ideal future.Then, there is P.A.R.R.P.A.R.R. is a positive habit-building framework for humans. It helps them to create and align habits to their most important goals. While the world of behavioral science continues to promote Cue, Routine, and Reward as a framework for habit development, basic critical thinking had me wondering:Isn’t C.R.R. based on the study of rodents? Don’t humans possess the innate capacities of choice, intention, and reflection? Even today’s “gold-standard” behavior models CBT and TTM while helpful present challenges of their own when exposed to critical thinking.* Where is the bi-directionality?* Where is the environmental influence on our behaviors and feelings?* Don’t humans think predominately in terms of personal narratives/stories? * Where is that represented?* Can these models be simplified?* How is energy – the flow of energy – represented?* Does human behavior really operate like a business or flow diagram?* Doesn’t energy flow, relative to our behaviors reverberate/vibrate?* Aren’t emotions and feelings, over the long haul, less important to one’s goal pursuits or personal transformation? How is that represented?* Can emotions and feelings, in the moment, be more important and, over time, less important? What would that look like?Critical thinking begins with positing and arguing the opposite: Must one authentically cherish every moment of their life to be a success?Nonsense.Enjoy the show!Oops! Sounds like you missed it!?Don’t miss our next cohort starting 10/3/23! Check it out here: The 28-Day Breakthrough! *Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The philosopher’s product is his life.” ~NeitzcheThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.This episode is a follow-up to last week’s show MIRACLES!In response to a few comments, I do what I can to set the record straight: I was simply practicing what I was talking about. The understanding that the real miracle is to walk on Earth, not water.Hence, practicality lies in its practice!I was practicing what I was preaching and teaching.The real value of any philosophy lies in its practicality.Is there a way to reaffirm one’s practice?Yes. Track it!How should you track it? Follow the P.A.R.R. methodology.PLAN. ACT. RECORD. & REASSESS.Cue, routine, and reward as a habit development framework was developed based on the study of rodents. You are human.You can, and should, use your innate capacities of choice, intention, and reflection.“But”, you insist, “Tracking is difficult and you’ve tried it before and you end up skipping days and fall off track…” (more excuses)Do you want to practice or give up?Since life is a one-day-at-a-time phenomenon, the fact that you can track one day suggests you can track MOST days.Nobody creates their ideal future any faster than one day at a time.And, nobody is perfect.This is why P.A.R.R. was developed.It helps people stay on track particularly after they miss a day or a week or even a month!What is simple, is useful.What is useful is practical.Time to begin practicing P.A.R.R. By doing so, the ancillary benefit is you WILL develop discipline.How does that work?Nobody is born disciplined: Discipline is a habit. (Repeat).See the free habits-to-goals tracking sheet below to begin the process.Enjoy the show!Update:HERE WE GO!!! Check it out here: The 28-Day Breakthrough! Starts tomorrow 8/8/23! Final day to sign up - may be sold out.*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new." ~ SocratesThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.In less than a week this Maven cohort kicks off… The 28-Day Breakthrough!There are approximately 6 spots available.Be more productive than ever before in 28 days, or your money back! 110% money-back guarantee! No breakthrough – I pay you!*Visit: https://maven.com/thehabitfactor/the28daybreakthrough to learn more!Enjoy the show!Update:HERE WE GO!!! Whooohooo! Very excited about next week’s small-group coaching cohort (which is practically free!) A few spots are still available! The 28-Day Breakthrough! begins 8/8/23!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The greatest miracle is the ordinary.” ~Henry David Throreau This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Wouldn’t it be great if there were more miracles in your life?Recently, a woman approached me to explain that a miracle was supposed to happen to her in a few days.“Uh… this is it.” I replied, “This (life) is the miracle. It’s all a freakin’ miracle!”Apparently, Rumi proclaimed, “The greatest miracle is that we are awake and alive.”Einstein reportedly said: “Miracles happen every day, change your perception of what a miracle is and you'll see them everywhere.”Now, from the great Persian philosopher and the brilliant physicist to Insane Clown Posse (band). Yes, ICP! 😀 🤡 👇 I lean on ICP’s brilliance and their fantastic song “Miracles” for some additional inspiration and backup (a few lyrics)…If magic is all we've ever knownThen it's easy to miss what really goes onBut I've seen miracles in every wayAnd I see miracles every dayOceans spanning beyond my sightAnd a million stars way above 'em at nightWe don't have to be high to look in the skyAnd know that's a miracle opened wideLook at the mountains, trees, the seven seasAnd everything chilling underwater, pleaseHot lava, snow, rain and fogLong neck giraffes, and pet cats and dogsThe real challenge is that we’ve been desensitized.We’re swimming in miracles.Like the proverbial fish in water who do not know what water is.“If anything is a miracle, everything is a miracle.” Einstein supposedly observed.It doesn’t matter who observed it. It’s the orientation and the awakening that matters.EVERYTHING IS A MIRACLE. (Repeat).The question is, “How does one reorient themselves to this magical awareness and disposition?Here’s how: AWARENESS. SERVICE. GRATITUDE. MEDITATION. &A LOT OF PRACTICE.Yes, cultivating these habits by tracking them can help! Be sure to follow P.A.R.R. 🙌 It’s difficult to notice and appreciate any miracle when you’re angry, bitter, jealous, frustrated, and/or ungrateful. Or, with your face buried in your phone.In fact, it’s arguably impossible. Take a moment to look up! 👆 Look around.Did you notice that butterfly?“When you change the way you look at things,” Wayne Dyer use to say, “The things you look at change.”Enjoy the show!Update:HERE WE GO!!! Whooohooo! Very excited about next week’s small-group coaching cohort (which is practically free!) A few spots still available! The 28-Day Breakthrough! begins 8/8/23!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Sometimes the best way to find inspiration is to ask an important question.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.In this episode, Jen and I discuss the significance of motivation and inspiration and their relationship to goal achievement.Inspiration tends to be intrinsic, while motivation can be both intrinsic and extrinsic.Both inspiration and motivation are powerful assets for goal achievement. Each has its place and neither is “better” than the other.Wayne Dyer used to suggest that inspiration was a calling from the spirit within. He would often say, “If you want to be inspired, be an inspiration.”How can you apply these ideas to your goals?Consider the person who doesn’t feel inspired to get fit yet, they know they must. They could change their environment, hire a fitness coach, and get a gym membership (external motivation).Motivation is both the carrot and the stick. Typically, it’s the desire to avoid pain that provides the greatest motivation.Both motivation and inspiration are tools that can serve us in our quest to achieve our most important goals.Understanding the difference helps you to know how and when to leverage each. Enjoy the show!Update:You’re invited! The next, live small-group coaching cohort, The 28-Day Breakthrough! begins 8/8/23!*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The very best heroes and philosophers are dead.” ~Friedrich NietzscheThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.The best heroes and philosophers are dead?!What does that mean?I thought I’d ask my AI buddies, ChatGPT and BARD to see if they knew.Unfortunately, their interpretations weren’t convincing; they were too literal. Neither offered the insight I suspected was behind the statement.In short, both AI “experiments” had a similar, weak response:“Nietzsche is suggesting that the greatest heroes and philosophers are those who have already lived and died. He argues that these individuals have already made their mark on the world and that we can learn from their example.”I believed the statement meant something else.Perhaps it was my own philosophical leanings (Exhibit A: Habits 2 Goals), that drove me to keep searching.I slept on this riddle for a while. Finally, the answer occurred to me.Have you ever heard the advice:If you truly admire or love a hero (a movie star, athlete, musician, author, etc), you should never meet them.In short, humans are fallible. They are prone to contradictions, errors, and mistakes. They can even offend people, but only when they are alive. It’s the dead heroes and philosophers who cannot err.Thus…The very best heroes and philosophers are dead.Enjoy the show!Update:Join our next Live Cohort is 8/8/23. Subscribe to be in the know.*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Personal development exists on a spectrum. It’s a gift that allows you to become the person you could by using your intelligence, intention and effort.” This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.“He (or she) is on the spectrum.” A phrase that is probably overused these days.BTW: If it’s a spectrum, then everyone is on it.In this episode, we carry the idea of “The spectrum” and apply it to our personal development and potentiality.If intelligence is goal-directed behavior, then improving one’s wellness (over time) is a terrific use of their intelligence.Is it possible to consider your health on a spectrum from 1 - 10? How would you rate it?What about your finances or your professional career?Is it possible to improve your score in any wellness category over time? Arguably, it’s mandatory.How do you know where to start your personal development journey?The answer is often found by identifying your greatest challenge – the lowest score – in each of the eight, essential categoriesEnjoy the show!Update:Our next Live Cohort is 8/8/23. Subscribe to be in the know.*Recently Awarded: “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Life is like a dew drop, on a blade of grass, in the morning sun.” ~Zen ProverbThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Deepak Chopra said it like this, “Life is a lucid dream.”How well can you recall yesterday?How about sharing a story from your childhood?The painting below has hung in my stairway for nearly twenty-five years. It’s a photograph from our wedding in Baja, Mexico. It has a Monet-type filter applied to it.The original image is a beautiful, crisp photo taken by a professional photographer.Yet, for nearly twenty-five years, the image has looked like this, intentionally blurry.Why?Where have the young newlyweds gone? Where did the 25 years go?As we approach our 25th anniversary, the effect is fitting. The wedding seems like it happened both yesterday and a lifetime ago.The effect perfectly captures the ephemerality of life.This moment is already gone.No matter how old you are, your life is nearly over. It’s just a matter of time……and time is illusory.Even if you live to be 200 years old, your life will be over quickly.This isn’t meant to be depressing. Rather, it’s meant to stoke your appreciation for the moment — this moment.The time will never be “right.” This moment is a gift — it’s the “present” — that enables you to move in the direction of your goals and ideals.Get after it.Enjoy the show!Check out my latest book, recently awarded “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” by the International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Zen is laughter, laughter Zen.”This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.How is Zen like laughter? ☝️Many people think Zen is a philosophy. Philosophies are ideas. The answer can be found in this great quote by Zen master T.D. Suzuki, “Zen has nothing to do with ideas.”How much thinking do you do when you laugh?Have you considered all the amazing benefits of laughter?Here is a short list:* Reduces stress and anxiety. * Boosts the immune system. * Helps to relieve pain.* Improves cardiovascular health. * Strengthens social bonds. * Improves mood and outlook on life. * Improves cognitive function. * Helps with recovery from illness. * Increases creativity. If laughter and non-thinking are healthy. What is the cost of too much thinking or overthinking? How much anxiety and pain is created from too much thought?Isn’t it true that anxiety and most pains are created by thought?These quotes remind us to be careful of our thoughts; to be cautious of our perpetual cleverness — aware of our overthinking and all the stories we create!Ultimately, it’s the practice of Zen that attempts to free us from our mind. Perhaps, the very best way to do that is with a good laugh! 😂Enjoy the show!Check out my latest book, recently awarded “Finalist: Self-help, Motivation” by the International Book Awards: EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“You can only tell yourself one story at a time.”(see EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY)This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.On a recent training run, I reflected upon an answer I’d given in a podcast interview on the Fifth Quarter.Hosts Lason Perkins and Jeff Osterman asked: “Do you celebrate the green lights?”The guests were wondering, figuratively, if I had the habit of appreciating the little blessings in life. I surprised them, and myself, by noticing that very morning, I did just that – celebrated several successive green lights while running.I answered literally.I shared how the green lights allowed me to complete my run without stopping.However, on a subsequent run, I would realize a far better answer. I thought about their question as I approached a red light. I was forced to stop. Automatically, I raised my arms and celebrated. This is awesome!Why was I celebrating a red light!?It wasn’t because I was able to stop and rest. Rather, I was filled with appreciation that I was running…That I was outdoors. That I was getting exercise. That I was above ground!I celebrated a red light!Sure, I had a bit of a runner’s high.As I thought about their question, I wished I could take my answer back. How much better would it have been, I wondered, if I answered, “Green Lights!? Anyone can celebrate a green light……I do my best to celebrate the RED LIGHTS!”Enjoy the show!Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The great value of having a big, hairy, audacious goal is that it forces you to get on your toes. Nobody with big, hairy audacious goals is living passively.” (see EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY!This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.At halftime of a recent NBA playoff game, Kenny Smith (the TNT color analyst) shared a powerful observation about the Warriors’ play and, more importantly, their disposition.Kenny’s observation isn’t confined to the basketball court. The defending NBA champs – the Warriors – found themselves down 0-2 to the Sacramento Kings and were now facing a crucial game 3.At the half, the Warriors were up 53 - 41.Kenny said, “This is the first time in this series that the Warriors look like ‘the hunters.’”----Champions tend to rest and relax. Success breeds complacency. Meanwhile, the competition becomes hungry.Those who are hungry hunt. Those who are well-fed become the hunted.Finding themselves down 0-2 and possessing a halftime lead in game 3, Smith made an important observation: The Warriors regained their winning mentality.They were, once again, the hunters.---Ask yourself, “Am I playing life today like a hunter or the hunted?”Enjoy the show!Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“High expectations are the key to everything.” ~Sam Walton (Founder of Walmart)“The key to happiness is low expectations.” ~Barry Schwartz (American Pyschologist)This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. Which is it?Should you have high expectations or low expectations?How about…Both.Often you should have high expectations. Sometimes you should have low expectations. Sometimes, no expectations are the way to proceed. It depends.----To let go and to possess high expectations are just two sides of the same coin.While Habits 2 Goals is about goal achievement. It is also about appreciating the things we can influence as well as the things we cannot.Put simply: Goal-striving is intelligence in action. However, it is also one’s ego and willpower in action.John was a guy who seemed to accomplish every goal he went after. A goal achiever of the highest order. He’d recently sold his company for millions while undergoing an eighteen month battle with leukemia.Just a week before he would pass away, he did the only thing that was left to do. He let go.That may have been John’s great gift and it was a powerful lesson to all who loved him.---One can practice the art of letting go daily.When it comes to goal achievement, it’s crucial to recognize where the ego is pursuing ambitions and outcomes beyond your control. With awareness and practice, daily frustrations can vanish with the practice of letting go.Enjoy the show!Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“By adding positive pressure, anyone can improve their productivity, performance and even peace of mind.” ~MG (see The Pressure Paradox™)This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. On a return trip to San Diego, I stop in Orange County for breakfast with a great friend – a super friend – who happens to be a championship-winning, professional collegiate rugby coach.Surprisingly, he starts to ping me about setting big goals for himself and, more importantly, about how he can stick to them!----I tell him that the very best way I know (from experience), to stay on track and move toward my biggest goals is to simply track the key, supportive habits that will drive the goal’s attainment.He knows this, by the way.It’s likely that we ALL know this. That is, if it’s important to you, you’d better be tracking.“To know, and not to do, is not to know.” ~ConfuciusHabit tracking is not optional and some methods are better than others ; )Here’s the “right way.”---The first part to ACHIEVING ANY BIG GOAL is to commit! This presumes you are clear and do know what your BIG GOAL is!Such a commitment creates the requisite PRESSURE.Establish a deadline. Pay an entry fee. Establish some real consequences for not following through, etc.Once you are committed, THEN it’s time to begin tracking the core, recurring behaviors (habits) that will bring you closer to the goal.That is step two.TRACK the core, habits that will drive the goal’s attainment.THAT IS HOW YOU STAY ON TRACK.One simply must track to stay on track.That is it. Simple and powerful but not necessarily easy.You got this!Enjoy the show!Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“There are three constants in life – change, choice and principles.”~ Stephen CoveyThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. Principles govern one's results over the long term.— Excerpt from Principles I —Principles can be likened to the law of gravity: Throw a rock out of a window and you know it will fall toward the earth – every time!Principles are environmental factors that control, influence, and dictate one's results.Covey shares his, "Law of the Farm" example to convey a principle in action.It's impossible to plant a seed today and reap the harvest tomorrow.Impossible.The principles at play demand that time and nurture are required to reap a harvest.Thus, principles govern results.Human effectiveness operates similarly – within a context of timeless, environmental principles.Part II is about how the concept of principles coincides with “The 3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System.”---In the model above, where do you think these governing, timeless principles are located?Correct.The environment!One's environment has the ability to be a showstopper depending upon the goal they are aiming for.For instance, just try to grow flowers in the snow.Similarly, imagine a client whose home life is a wreck. They have a tenant they cannot evict and their wife is threatening divorce.How likely is it that they will be able to finish their creative endeavor anytime soon?About zero percent.Why does this matter?It matters because this model reminds us that we must develop our habits and skills within a conducive environment – one that is in alignment with the governing and timeless principles at play.Is your environment favorable for your goals and ideals? Are you working in harmony with governing principles like "the law of the farm?"Are there more tools, and resources (time, money, people) required to help develop the required habits and skills?My latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY, reveals the first and only behavior model to illustrate human behavior in an “echo-system.” Not eco-system.Further, it illustrates how the essential components for personal transformation and long-term goal achievement must be aligned for human effectiveness.Feel free to comment and share. ; )Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“There are three constants in life – change, choice and principles.”~ Stephen CoveyThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. Chances are good that you've read or at least know of the book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.Most people think it's a book about habits. It is not.It's a brilliant book about effectiveness.Here's the key: Effectiveness by operating within the context of “universal, governing PRINCIPLES.”Now, you're saying what the heck does that mean?Principles govern one's results over the long term.----Principles can be likened to the law of gravity: Throw a rock out of a window and you know it will fall toward the earth – every time!Principles are environmental factors that control, influence, and dictate one's results.Covey shares his, "Law of the Farm" example to convey a principle in action.It's impossible to plant a seed today and reap the harvest tomorrow.Impossible.The principles at play demand that time and nurture are required to reap a harvest.Thus, principles govern results.Human effectiveness operates similarly – within a context of timeless, environmental principles.To be effective, one must operate in alignment with principles like:RESPONSIBILITYVISIONPRODUCTIVITY---How do you know these principles govern effectiveness?Try to imagine an effective person who is not responsible.Try to imagine an effective person absent of direction – vision. Thus, each of those (above) are principles that dictate one's ability to produce the results they are looking for.---Collectively, Covey labels these the "private" victory.Be proactive. = ResponsibleBegin with the end in mind. = VisionPut first things first. = ProductivityEach is identified as an essential habit to be developed because it aligns with the governing principles of effectiveness.Check out my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY to see how environmental principles influence your effectiveness.Comment and share.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“If you want small changes, work on your behavior; if you want quantum-leap changes, work on your paradigms." ~ Stephen Covey This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers. Paradigms: Part II – [Episode with special guest Jen Grant]Paradigm by definition:nounpar·​a·​digm ˈper-ə-ˌdīm : EXAMPLE, PATTERNespecially : an outstandingly clear or typical example or archetype… regard science as the paradigm of true knowledge.—G. C. J. Midgley: a philosophical and theoretical framework of a scientific school or discipline within which theories, laws, and generalizations and the experiments performed in support of them are formulatedthe Freudian paradigm of psychoanalysisbroadly : a philosophical or theoretical framework of any kindA model or framework – a typical example or archetype. In short, paradigms don’t just influence behavior, they drive it from within as a self-referential model, similar to an operating system.Why are we talking about paradigms again? As a behavior model, the “3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System” is a paradigm-shifting tool.Thus, this tool/model ☝️ can help anyone diagnose and troubleshoot their long-term goals and/or personal transformation pursuits.Second, similar to "Plato's Cave" allegory, it reveals the power of a paradigm shift by altering what one understands by changing what one “sees.”As Jen says in this episode, "What's interesting is that until you become aware of the paradigms that have been handed to you growing up (by default), you'll never realize that you can create and choose your own paradigms." Choosing your own paradigm is a unique human superpower!Since paradigms drive behavior as a self-referential model - the very first, most important, paradigm shift one can make is understanding how they control and direct the paradigms that direct their behavior.Everyone can intentionally adopt paradigms that support their long-term goals and personal transformation pursuits.Much more about the model in my latest book, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY.Comment and share!Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“If you want small changes, work on your behavior; if you want quantum-leap changes, work on your paradigms." ~ Stephen Covey This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Clichés can become so overly used that people forget their original intent.What does it really mean to have a “Paradigm-shift”?Paradigm by definition:nounpar·​a·​digm ˈper-ə-ˌdīm ˈpa-rə-, also  -ˌdim: EXAMPLE, PATTERNespecially : an outstandingly clear or typical example or archetype… regard science as the paradigm of true knowledge.—G. C. J. Midgley: an example of a conjugation or declension showing a word in all its inflectional forms: a philosophical and theoretical framework of a scientific school or discipline within which theories, laws, and generalizations and the experiments performed in support of them are formulatedthe Freudian paradigm of psychoanalysisbroadly : a philosophical or theoretical framework of any kindA model or framework – a typical example or archetype. In short, paradigms don’t just influence behavior, they drive it from within as a self-referential model, similar to an operating system.A paradigm shift has the potential to instantly alter decades of prior behavior patterns/habits.Yes. Instantly.This is precisely what Stephen Covey means by quantum leap (above) ☝️.EXAMPLE:A story I enjoy telling involves a neighbor-friend who insisted that she could, "Never quit smoking!" Henry Ford used to say, "Whether you think you can, or you can't, you're right."It was safe to say that her paradigm was, "I'm a smoker, and I will always smoke."Fast forward approximately eighteen months. I notice that she is exercising and had lost some weight. She looked terrific. I told her she looked healthy. She then declared, "I quit smoking too!"How is that possible? I wondered.She seemed committed to her story about never being able to quit smoking."I"m pregnant!" She nearly shouted.There you have it.That's a paradigm shift.Roles (like mother or father), titles, names, badges, even uniforms, etc., influence how people see themselves which influences their behavior.Observe the stories that unfold in your life relative to how you see yourself, your goals, and your ideals.How do you regard the world at large?Einstein's allegedly said, “The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a hostile or friendly universe.”The truth is, as I wrote in EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY, it's both a hostile and friendly universe.However, from that simple determination (a paradigm – a self-referential model) an array of decisions, actions, and behaviors spill forward to alter the results of one’s life.Ask yourself what paradigms you have subscribed to. Which may need to change to alter your results?Comment and share!Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”→ Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Most people just go through the motions…” ~ Arnold SchwarzeneggerThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.I came across a Youtube short #youtubeshorts in which Arnold was pointing out that when most people lift weights they are just “going through the motions…”Examine his statement more deeply.It can be applied to everything.Where do you find yourself “just going through the motions?”If the difference in effective weight lifting is the powerful application of concentration – putting your mind into it – where else can this idea be applied?Essentially, this is a different way to approach concentration and focus – “putting your mind into it.”Next time you perform an important task, whether it’s accounting, writing, or lifting weights be sure to PUT YOUR MIND INTO IT!Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“It's not the will to win that matters – everyone has that. It's the will to prepare to win that matters.” ~Coach Bear BryantThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.While watching the NCAA men's wrestling championships a powerful mind bullet emerges.An excited reporter asks the Cornell head wrestling coach, "How can your wrestler assure victory?"The coach chuckles and replies, "Well, this is the easy part. All he has to do now is wrestle!"The lesson is simple and profound: Great performances rest upon a foundation of Planning, Preparing, and Practicing, "The 3 P's."The greater the pressure to perform in any event, whether it's wrestling, a concert, or a presentation, the greater the demand to Plan, Prepare, and Practice better.In The Pressure Paradox™, "The 3 P's" are detailed in depth.Notice how all the elite performers under the highest pressure situations tend to be the ones who Plan, Prepare and Practice the best.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Effectiveness requires an appreciation for monotony and routine.”This Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.A lot of people say things like, "I hate monotony" or "I hate routines."The challenge with such an identity is that it establishes a fixed mindset about one's abilities; what one can achieve.The art of enjoying monotony and routine is an essential principle for success.Try to imagine a masterful painter, pianist, or bodybuilder who doesn't appreciate the value of practice.Consider the monotony of bodybuilding or training for a marathon. Each demand tedious, monotonous, and routine efforts; which become the path to betterment.In the natural world, nothing remains static or fixed for too long. Letting go of a fixed, deleterious story about monotony and routine will lead to growth.Learn to welcome and appreciate the value of routine and monotony as much as variety and surprise.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

"Everyone faces the same challenge; aligning their willpower with their volition. The good news is that by following P.A.R.R. they also develop discipline."This Habits 2 Goals premium episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Five plus years and 500+ Habits 2 Goals episodes later, a single, common theme reveals itself; the significance of habit tracking.Behavioral scientists used to say things like, "habit trackers don't work."They were semi-correct; they do not work when they are not used.When a person tracks their behaviors and follows the P.A.R.R. methodology (Plan, Act, Record & Reassess), they will experience tremendous success.By habit-tracking the 'right' way, they gain positive momentum and feel better about themselves. All because they have aligned their behaviors with their volition.Some people still say things like, "Life is meant for living, not tracking?"The truth is, one can, and should, do both. They should live and track. When your goals are important, it's time to start habit tracking.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.” ~The Dalai LamaThis Habits 2 Goals episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.It finally dawns on me that along with ANY worthwhile goal one chooses to pursue, pain and suffering are part of the “package.” Each is preloaded – like software – with every worthwhile goal and ideal.For instance, if you want to be a great mother, you can rest assured there will be pain and suffering.If you want to become a lawyer, there will be pain and suffering.If you want to become a great gymnast, a chess or surf champ, there will be pain and suffering.Do you want to have the perfect spouse? Brace yourself; there will be pain and suffering.Why is this worth mentioning? Since pain and suffering are inescapable, it’s imperative to pursue goals you are obsessed with and passionate about. Otherwise, you'll quit.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“It's impossible to be grateful when you're complaining.”This Habits 2 Goals premium episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.Do you notice how often you complain to yourself and others?Have you ever tallied the total number of complaints in a day?Are you aware of how often you complain about "things" and "events" large and small?Complaining is a topic that was covered back in June of 2020. Once again, MG decides to address the subtle and disruptive habit.The first day he decides to tally his complaints, he notices the first complaint even before getting out of bed.Then, just fifteen minutes into the morning, he's already tallied three complaints.Why does this matter? Who cares? Complaining can be fun, right?Well, it's tough to be grateful when you are complaining.If you're a parent, how do you feel when your child complains? Are you interested in rewarding that behavior?Without putting awareness around the daily habit, most people won't ever know how often they complain.They may never know how badly it's impacting their attitude or even their relationships.The good news is, like any habit, by adding some awareness, tracking, and practice the complaining habit can be minimized if not removed entirely.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Life is a one-day-at-a-time, phenomenon.”This Habits 2 Goals premium episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.This episode is part three and follows “The Great Convergence and S.T.A.R.T.Part one was about aligning your WILLPOWER with your VOLITION.Part two is about beginning - S.T.A.R.T.ing: Simple. Today Actions. Repeated & Tracked!Today's episode is about recognizing that life is simply a series of challenges. When faced head-on, these challenges can almost always become great opportunities.In order for these challenges to become opportunities one must first lean into them – face them – and believe that a desirable outcome is possible.By recognizing challenges as potential opportunities and aligning your behaviors, habits, and skills to match an ideal outcome you're likely to increase confidence, self-esteem and gain momentum toward your ideal.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The longest journey begins with a single step.” ~Lao TzuThis Habits 2 Goals premium episode is FREE for ALL subscribers.This episode is part two and follows “The Great Convergence: The Key to YOUR universe.”Part one was about aligning your WILLPOWER with your VOLITION.Part two is about beginning.Starting – moving down a path that proves you are willing to align your willpower to your volition. That can only be done by taking ACTION!Many people think their challenge is that they don't finish what they start. They think follow-through is their big challenge. For most, the real challenge is they never begin. They do not start.The Habit Factor's habits to goals tracking sheet will help you to START.By tracking your habits following the P.A.R.R., you demonstrate to yourself, and the universe, that you are intent on matching your willpower with your volition.This tracking sheet is where the rubber meets the road. It ensures that you are tracking your actions (habits) that are aligned with your goals.S.T.A.R.T. today. Simple Today Actions Repeated and Tracked.Once you begin to do that, magic happens. You’ll immediately learn more about yourself and your goal. You will even gain self-esteem, self-confidence, and fulfillment just by STARTING and tracking!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The will is not free - it is a phenomenon bound by cause and effect - but there is something behind the will which is free.” - Jiddu Krishnamurti.This is a Habits 2 Goals premium episode FREE for ALL subscribers.Do you know what “the great convergence” really is?It is not how technology globalized humanity. Not really. “The great convergence,” that I’m referring to semi-jokingly is the key to the universe. Your universe.It’s tough to be effective and to feel good about yourself if you cannot align your volition with your willpower. When you do, many benefits arise: You'll overcome obstacles more effectively, and create new, positive habits easier. You’ll even develop self-discipline and be more likely to achieve long-term goals.All because you can align your behaviors with your volition.You’ll even improve your resilience!Go premium today! Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R., just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt’s time to make your goals “Automatic!”: https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot’s “Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021”New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no action, you haven't truly decided.” ~Tony RobbinsSmoker or not, here are a few stories that you may be telling yourself that are likely perpetuating your bad habits.[This is a throwback episode, never published from 1/2021 Covid era.]Everyday thousands, perhaps millions of people tell themselves that they’re going to quit smoking.Yet, few actually do.Find out if any of the three mindsets (stories you may be telling yourself) resonate.With some challenging questions and just a little reflection, the change you seek is just moments away.In addition to the 3 stories, MG reviews the 4 “ments” required to eliminate ANY bad habit.1) Replacement2) Environment3) Impediment4) ExperimentUltimately, the DESIRE to quit any bad habit must exist! You’ll know it does when you begin to take new actions and start habit tracking!Enjoy the show!*Important* The texting service mentioned at the close of the show is no longer in service. You can find the same habit-tracking template here:https://thehabitfactor.com/templates This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“The COO or the second in command tends to be strong with people issues. They're strong at getting collaboration, strong at getting consensus, strong in planning, and strong in seeing the moving parts. They understand the functional areas well. Yet, they aren't strong enough to be an expert in any particular domain.”H2G welcomes back Cameron Herold!He’s a business consultant, best-selling author, and speaker who has helped architect hundreds of companies’ exponential growth. Cameron has touched thousands of businesses directly and indirectly through his work.By 21, Cameron had 14 employees. At 35, he’d helped build his first 100 Million Dollar company. He was the COO behind 1-800-GOT-JUNK? ’s spectacular growth from $ 2 million to $106 Million in revenue in just six years.Known as the CEO whisperer, Cameron reveals several key, critical distinctions between the COO and the CEO and breaks down his latest bestseller, The Second In Command.Enjoy the show!Go premium today! One idea, one shift, total transformationVisit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R. just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt's time to make your goals "Automatic!": https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot's "Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021"New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“Once she arrived at her ideal destination – her goal – she realized it wasn’t what she wanted after all.”A young lady recently confessed that she felt “almost lost” and lacked motivation.Ironically, she felt that way after reaching an important goal.It turns out, she lacked motivation for two reasons.First, the goal’s reality didn’t match expectations.Second, she was struggling to identify what she wanted to pursue next.She found it difficult to get clear on her next ideal outcome – goal.Further, she wanted some assurance that her next goal would be more rewarding.Moving forward, she agreed that she’d:1) Accept that there are no guarantees in the pursuit of any goal.  2) Appreciate how each “wrong” turn provided new information and guidance.3) Forgive herself rather than beat herself up for "wasting time.”With a new perspective, it was easy to notice how her lack of motivation sprung from her inability to become clear on a new exciting new goal. Enjoy the show!Go premium today! One idea, one shift, total transformationVisit https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesTo learn more about P.A.R.R. just Google “P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor”------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt's time to make your goals "Automatic!": https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot's "Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021"New listeners, grab your free habits 2 goals tracking template here: https://thehabitfactor.com/templatesFREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here:As a Man ThinkethSubscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

“A key idea behind habit tracking is to use the week's rhythm. Thus, 28 days, not 30 days, ought to be the tracking period for each habit.”There are a handful of authors and behavior change "experts" offering various ideas about habit development.Unfortunately, many are misleading. One such idea is that habit tracking is optional when it comes to habit development.While it’s true that people develop habits without tracking them, those habits tend to be negative.To develop good, positive habits, science has proven that tracking behaviors tends to be very beneficial.Here’s why:Tracking habits not only reinforces the habit itself, it also fosters an ancillary habit: discipline. "Good habits happen when planned; bad habits happen on their own."With The Habit Factor’s P.A.R.R. methodology, habit tracking is required. In fact, the method demands you identify specific parameters and targets for each habit during successive 28-day tracking periods. When you track the intended habit, you not only affirm the behavior, you reinforce your intention to develop the habit.Some habit experts offer concepts like "mini-habits," "two-minute habits," and even present "habit-stacking" and environmental design as "types" of habits that can be developed.Regardless of the process or how you label the habit, it's the practice of tracking, ideally, for 28 days, that will more quickly foster the development of the habit!Enjoy the show!~mgIt's time to go premium! Jump over to Habits 2 Goals Premium on substack today. Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates to learn more or Google P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.------Check out, EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY my latest book.Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt's time to make your goals "Automatic!"https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot's
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“You are born alone, and you will die alone.”This week we investigate aloneness. Aloneness is different from loneliness.
In the early ’90s, while backpacking across Europe, I was reading Stephen Batchelor’s Alone with Others, an existential approach to Buddhism.In it, the following ideas are explored:”I was alone at birth; I must die alone; and, in a sense, I amalways alone, for the gulf separating me from others cannever satisfactorily be bridged.” It's either a frightening or comforting thought. Maybe both.Recently, though, I've come to a different realization.While we are born alone, it is with and IN spirit.When we die, it is the spirit that leaves our bodies.Thus, we're not born alone entirely. Nor do we die alone.  Arguably, our spirit is with us. Or, it IS us.Enjoy the show!~mg This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe

"People don't improve by hearing, 'Good job!'"Habits 2 Goals rings in 2023 with an educational and entertaining interview featuring John Rossman. John is the author of the bestselling book, The Amazon Way, Think Like Amazon and The Amazon Way on IoT.John is a business strategist, operator, and expert on digital transformation, leadership, and business reinvention.John has consulted with many great brands including Novartis, Fidelity Investments, Microsoft, Walmart, and Nordstrom. He served as senior innovation advisor at T-Mobile and senior technology advisor to the Gates Foundation.John shares his early days at Amazon (2002), launching the third-party Seller's Marketplace, which today accounts for 58% of all Amazon transactions, and Amazon's first billion-dollar quarter.Learn more about John at: https://the-amazon-way.com/  or https://rossmanpartners.comSubscribe to his fantastic newsletter, The Digital Leader, here: https://thedigitalleader.substack.com/Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates to learn more or Google P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.------Discover EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY here: https://everythingastory.comGet The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt's time to make your goals "Automatic!"https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot's
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"Energy flows where attention goes."This week we revisit a goal achievement first principle: EVERYTHING IS ENERGY.Suppose everything is energy (and it is). That means you are energy, and your goal will require energy.Interestingly, habits are the most efficient use of behavior energy and this is why The Habit Factor process of habit alignment is so effective.There are two key elements that impact one's behaviors the most over a long period of time; their environment and thinking, which is predominantly in the form of stories).To illustrate MG discusses the "3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System," a new behavior model.The "3 Circles of Behavior Echo-System" differs from other, prior behavior models:1. It's the only behavior model representing human behavior in an "echo-system" whereby each component influencer reverberates to influence the others.2. It's the only behavior model representing human thought in the form of stories, predominately at its core.3. The behavior model demonstrates how, at any moment, feelings and emotions may be twice as impactful to our behaviors, yet, over a long period of time, they are less significant.Understanding the essence of this behavior model helps you to better appreciate energy and how each component impacts your long-term goals.Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates to learn more or Google P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.------Discover EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY here: https://everythingastory.comGet The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt's time to make your goals "Automatic!"https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot's
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"Notice all the B.S. stories you tell yourself about EVERYTHING. Then, run them through the H.E.R.O.'s checklist."Your internal monologue is very active!Sometimes it's helpful, and other times, not so much.This internal chatter provides stories about EVERYTHING, from your career to your potential. You even have stories about your spouse, friends, etc.You also have stories about your goals, the ones you choose to pursue or not.These stories establish boundaries. They setup walls that become impenetrable until you notice them first.The more aware you can become of your internal dialogue the easier it is for you to delete, edit and rewrite the stories.The H.E.R.O.'s narrative is a tool – a checklist – to use as a filter to determine if your stories are harmful.Learn about the importance of the HERO's narrative and how you can put it to work right away!Enjoy the show!Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates to learn more or Google P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor.------Discover EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY here: https://everythingastory.comGet The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial!https://audibletrial.com/habits2goalsIt's time to make your goals "Automatic!"https://automaticgoals.comFeedspot's
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"You don't need to eat a piece of cake after you run 5 miles." Studies on habit development support the idea that self-efficacy – the ability to produce the desired result – is rewarding. By following P.A.R.R., (Plan, Act, Record & Reassess), The Habit Factor's method for habit development, users experience self-efficacy, often. Of course, the opposite is true. If a user does not follow through on their habit tracking plan they will be unhappy. Hence, the method encourages users start with low tracking parameters. By creating a habit plan, and then acting on that plan, you demonstrate self-efficacy and feel great in the process. Thus, "It's not about the marathon!" It's more about the process of establishing a Plan, Acting, Recording and Reassessing your tracking data after four weeks. Enjoy the show! Visit https://thehabitfactor.com/templates to learn more or Google P.A.R.R. and The Habit Factor. ------ Discover EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY here: https://everythingastory.com Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals It's time to make your goals "Automatic!" https://automaticgoals.com Feedspot's
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"Discipline is a habit. Nobody is born disciplined." Too often, people say, "I'm just not disciplined enough." The truth is that nobody is born disciplined. Discipline is a habit that can and should be cultivated. Following The Habit Factor's simplified method for habit development, P.A.R.R., anyone can improve their discipline more quickly. A key aspect of P.A.R.R. is that it cultivates habitstrength. Just by tracking your habits and following P.A.R.R., you will improve your discipline.   The key is to follow P.A.R.R. and begin with small "targets." Over time, you'll be eager to track more habits because your discipline habit becomes stronger! Enjoy the show! ------ Discover EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY here: https://everythingastory.com Get The Habit Factor® FREE with your audible trial! https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals It's time to make your goals "Automatic!" https://automaticgoals.com Feedspot's
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"A nail is driven out by another nail. Habit is overcome by habit. ~Desiderius Erasmus Visit: https://everythingastory.com "EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY" a recent #1 Amazon Hot New Release! When it comes to mastering your habits, knowing how to eliminate bad habits is essential. In Season 6, "How to track negative habits," covered a few ways to kill negative habits. In this episode, MG reviews the critical importance of replacement as a core strategy for habit elimination. The listener is challenged to focus on developing a positive habit that will replace the negative one.   "You should concentrate and track the POSITIVE habit you are interested in cultivating in order to replace the negative habit." 
 Habits do not exist in a vacuum. Thus, the classic quotation by Dutch philosopher Desiderius Erasmus, "A nail is driven out by another nail. Habit is overcome by habit." 
 Another essential strategy is to assess your environment with respect to the bad habit. There's a reason the term "habitat" is used to describe one's surroundings.  
 Your environment significantly impacts your behaviors. Taking control of your environment and adding impediments that make the negative habit harder to execute goes a long way to making the cultivation of the new habits easier. Enjoy the show! Find EVERYTHING is a F*cking STORY here: https://everythingastory.com   https://audibletrial.com/habits2goals ===================== Praise for Grunburg's new book, "EVERYTHING" “A very remarkable book! This book shows you how to overcome hidden thoughts and beliefs that may have held you back for decades...don't be surprised if you feel liberated overnight!” Brian TracyPersonal Development Legend | Author of over 70 books "Grunburg's ‘Three Circle’ behavior model is paradigm shifting—it's helped to transform our executive coaching. Because of ‘Everything,’ we teach, coach, and train: ‘Change your story, change your habits, change your life.’” Peter CheePresident & CEO, ITD World, Master Executive Coach "A profound personal development trilogy—read this book! At myNeuroGym, we've taught for well over a decade that when you want to improve your results, in any area of your life, the very first place to begin is your thinking! Martin's work with Everything makes that singular message reverberate so loudly and clearly that you'll find yourself constantly assessing your own stories, relative to any new results you desire, in any area of your life." John AssarafNew York Times Bestselling Author, Having it All and The Answer It's time to make your goals "Automatic!" https://automaticgoals.com **** Feedspot's "Top 10 Habit Podcasts You Must Follow in 2021" New listeners, visit to get your free template and get up to speed immediately on the world-famous Habit Factor process! thehabitfactor.com/templates. Feel free to share the episode and leave a review on iTunes! Grab your FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh ***** Subscribe iTunes here! Subscribe: Android | RSS ***** TOOLS/BOOKS WE RECOMMEND: Bucket List PRO (iOS app) iTunes Grab your FREE copy of As a Man Thinketh (PDF) right here: As a Man Thinketh The 3 C's of SucCcess (Mitch W. Steel) The Psychology of Achievement (Brian Tracy) The Power of Positive Thinking (Norman Vincent Peale) The Magic of Thinking BIG! (David Schwartz) Think & Grow Rich (Napoleon Hill) The Success Principles (Jack Canfield) Getting Things Done! (Allen's Great Book!) TRELLO! **HABIT FACTOR RESOURCES!!** The New HabitXP Planner! (FREE! The Habit Factor's Tracking Template) The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools, and other resources) The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle) The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle) The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android) The Pressure Paradox™ **WEBINARS** Get Unstuck Course  Habit Mastery: (FREE) Learn the process to Master Habit, Enhance Discipline and Strengthen Willpower: The 28-Day Breakthrough! Free Webinar: (Mini-Course) Why Happiness is a Habit and how to cultivate it! Free Webinar: (Mini-Course) Focus & Discipline --------- Thank YOU for checking out this episode and we're always grateful when you SHARE our episodes w/ your friends and family and help us by writing a review ; ) ---------- ---------- This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit habits2goals.substack.com/subscribe