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Alan and Trent are pastors helping churches and leaders make a difference and last.
Episode 249: Keeping it fresh at Christmas and Easter
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Episode 249: Keeping it fresh at Christmas and Easter
Keeping it fresh
Maintain your series
Pray
Change your perspective
Keep a look out.
Tell your story
Invite another minister to come and preach
Let Children and Youth tell the story
23:2611/12/2023
Episode 247: Build-A Sunday School Teacher
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Episode 247: Build-A Sunday School Teacher
This person can make or break so much of your church
Has an outreach mindset
Has a passion for the class
loves them
prays for them
ministers to them
Has committed to the long haul
Has good study habits
Committed to study scripture and background material
not just Saturday night
Has teaching skills,/is learning how to teach
Willing to ask good questions
Not a lecturer - get everyone involved
Has the ability to apply:
Can make the lesson relevant to life today! - make it come alive!
Has people skills - Doesn't let one person take over the class discussion
Has the ability to accept constructive criticism
26:2404/12/2023
Episode 246: Build-A-Deacon
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Episode 246: Build-A-Deacon
In 1 Timothy 3:8-12 Paul lays out the qualifications for a deacon:
1. A deacon is self-controlled in speech, appetites, and actions (1 Tim. 3:8; see also 1 Tim. 3:11). According to Paul, deacons must be “dignified, not double-tongued, not addicted to much wine, not greedy for dishonest gain.”
2. A deacon is sound in the faith (1 Tim. 3:9). Deacons must “hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience,” which means that they must have a firm grip on the truths of the gospel and live consistently with those truths.
3. A deacon has been tested (1 Tim. 3:10). Paul writes, “Let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless.” Practically, this means that deacons should have a proven track record of faithful service before they are appointed to the office of deacon.
4. If married, a deacon is faithful to his spouse (1 Tim. 3:12). If single, the deacon must honor Christ with his body (1 Cor. 6:18-19).
5. A deacon manages his children and household well (1 Tim. 3:12). Does the way he manages his household indicate that he will faithfully serve the church’s needs? The basic message is that deacons are to be Christians whose trustworthiness, self-control, and soundness in the faith shows that they are able to be trusted (i) to faithfully care for the church’s physical needs and (ii) to serve as an example of faithful service to others.
1. Student of God's Word
2. Integrity
3. Unifier
4. Servant -hearted
5. Positivity
6. A formal or informal teacher
7. Faithfully consistent
8. Proactive
27:3427/11/2023
Episode 245: Build a Student Minister
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Episode 245: Build a Student Minister
1 Able to go without sleep - live on pizza
1a. A coachable spirit
2 A Disciple-maker
3 Mission-mindedness
4 Collaborative
5 Communication and people skills
6 Team player
7 Technological awareness
8 Family-focused ministry
30:3320/11/2023
Episode 244: Build-a-Worship-Leader
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Episode 244: Build-a-Worship-Leader
If you could build your music minister- what would be your 8 must haves
1. They are authentic worshippers both privately and publicly.
2. They demonstrate humility ( a non-diva)
3. They love God's word
4. They lead out...eyes open, proper communicationn
5. They are teachers and are teachable
1. They are team builders
7. They work with the whole staff team well
8. They are involved in other areas of church life.
26:4513/11/2023
Episode 243: Build-a-Pastor
Episode 243: Build-a-Pastor
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Like build a bear - but if you could build a great pastor - what would be 8 “must haves”
Snowman
1 - A sincere personal faith
2 - A loving, caring person
3 - A hard worker
4 - A good communicator
5 - A willing learner
6 - A capable leader
7 - A humble disposition
8 - An engagement with other pastors (accountability)
27:0806/11/2023
episdode 242: Just Keep Leading
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Episdode 242: Just Keep Leading
The Bible on Endurance
22 You will be hated by everyone because of my name. But the one who endures to the end will be saved. -- Matthew 10:22 (CSB)
11 Up to the present hour we are both hungry and thirsty; we are poorly clothed, roughly treated, homeless; 12 we labor, working with our own hands. When we are reviled, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure it; 13 when we are slandered, we respond graciously. Even now, we are like the scum of the earth, like everyone’s garbage. -- 1 Corinthians 4:11-13 (CSB)
6 Love finds no joy in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. -- 1 Corinthians 13:6-7 (CSB)
5 But as for you, exercise self-control in everything, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry. -- 2 Timothy 4:5 (CSB)
Endurance is a powerful word:
Requires a willingness to pay the price...a willingness to train
Requires big shoulders to accept the responsibility...a willingness to lead
Causes physical reactions...a willingness to know yourself
Works best with a coach or accountability system...a willingness to share and learn
Leads to benefits...a willingness to get through
Want to know more about physical endurance read Alex Hutchinson's Endure
25:5530/10/2023
Episode 240: 5 Issues You’re Probably Talking about in Your Preaching
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Episode 240: 5 issues you're probably talking about in your preaching
The issue if identity - what does it mean to be "in Christ"
The issue of anxiety - providing a "non-anxious presenece"
The issue of failure - failure seems so final in a cancel culture
The issue of resilience - how do we get up when we've been knocked down
The issue of morality - how individual choices affect others
24:4923/10/2023
Episode 239: Insider Training
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Episode 239: Insider Training
Calling out vs calling in
Encourage your church folks to stay in
In their secular job
In their families
In their community
Insider Training:
mentorships
apprenticeships
training events
ongoing activities like Sunday School/small groups
27:0716/10/2023
Episode 238: How to Respond when Tech Goes Haywire
Episode 238: How to Respond when Tech Goes Haywire
So how do we handle when things go wrong?
What types of technology go haywire
What could possibly go wrong
1 electricity goes out
2 internet goes down
3 sound board on the fritz
4 Projector/tv not working for song words
5 Copiers
6 phone systems
7 fire alarms
8 live stream
Sound and microphone
screens and data
other: like electrical outages
2roads
the Freak out road
the laugh it off road
Some things to consider
May we suggest a 3rd option. A teachable moment
Training more people in the area of technology
Make sure batteries are fresh
Upload videos early and check connection early
Make your technology as good as you can, and go simple when its simple is better.
Opportunity: technology ministry for older church members
28:3609/10/2023
Episode 237:More About What We Do
Episode 237:More About What We Do
Enjoy This conversation about the roles Alan and Trent fulfill as associational leaders.
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25:5301/10/2023
Episode 236: 10 Ideas to Help You with Your 2024 Budget
Episode 236: 10 Ideas to Help You with Your 2024 Budget
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1. Pray for your budget
2. Look at your past trends
- per capita giving
- growth or decline patterns
3. Ask, do people in my church know our church's vision and priorities?
4. Expect insurances to increase significantly
- health insurance
- facility insurance and umbrella coverage
5. Speak truthfully regarding items in your budget.
6. Recognize the value of people
- a smaller, well compensated staff will accomplish more than a larger poorly compensated staff.
- well-compensated does not always mean full-time
- stipends are more common approach than ever before
7. Be a tithing church
- give in the same measure or better than you expect.
8. Unused space is more costly than ever; plan to use your space creatively.
9. Put something in a fund to provide for long-term maintenance issues.
10. Pray some more!
30:4025/09/2023
Episode 235: How to Welcome Well
Episode 235: How to Welcome Well
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Don’t do this
1. Ignore or turn away
2. Frown
3. Pass by
4. Be invasive
5. Take the back row
Do this instead
1. Smile. Number one key
2. Wave - international symbol that all will recognize
3. Say “hi welcome to our church - my name is _____”
4. Ask few questions.
5. Invite a guest to sit near you.
6. Ask if they have any questions.
7. walk with them to guest area or nursery etc
24:3018/09/2023
Episode234: Am I a Lead Follower?
Episode 234: Am I a Lead Follower?
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Am I a follower before I am a leader?
Am I setting a reasonable pace?
Am I "in love" with leading?
Am I too busy leading?
Do I have a bad attitude about the concept of following?
As a pastor - am I following Jesus in faith
As a worship leader - am I a lead worshipper
As a youth minister - am I leading young people to higher ground
25:0511/09/2023
Episode233: Revivals: Check Yes or No?
Episode233: Revivals: Check Yes or No?
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Questions that arose...
1. Answer the question: What is a revival?
- revival is for God's people
- crusade/outreach for lost
2. Answer the question: How does revival take place?
- Only God can launch a revival
- We can have a hopeful expectation
3. Know your people to know what is needed.
4. Make sure any speaker/preacher aligns with your philosophy of ministry.
5. Have a plan for preparing your people
6. Recognize that whether or not you use revivals or crusades, our people need to hear another voice on occasion.
7. The "unplanned" revival that happens from the natural activity of God's work is powerful.
8. A revival gathering is no magic bullet.
9. Do the work of discipleship.
10. Know God longs for all His churches to be full of life.
25:3804/09/2023
Episode232:Do We Revere Scripture?
Episode232:Do We Revere Scripture?
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Westminster Confession
"The authority of the holy Scripture, for which it ought to be believed and obeyed, dependeth not upon the testimony of any man or church, but wholly upon God (who is truth itself), the Author thereof; and therefore it is to be received, because it is the Word of God."
Every great movement of God has been grounded in Scripture. We believe every enduring church has its roots firmly in Scripture.
Do we as pastors revere and hold holy God’s holy scripture?
Do we study it first before any other book for a sermon?
Do we encourage our flock to bring their Bible to church ?
Do we encourage our flock to study their Bible outside of church?
Do we encourage our flock to memorize scripture?
23:1228/08/2023
Episode231: Culture Takes Time
Episode231: Culture Takes Time
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13:3621/08/2023
Episode 230: Tent And Dana from Interlaken, Switzerland
Episode 230: Tent And Dana from Interlaken, Switzerland
As summer draws to a close, Trent and Dane remind us about the importance of time away.
11:4614/08/2023
Episode229: Interview With DR. Mike Miller about Apologetic Preaching
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30:0107/08/2023
Episode 228: Ka-Ching: Talking About Money
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Episode 228: Ka-Ching: Talking About Money
1. Let the Bible determine when and how often you talk about money.
- If you preach systematically, the subject will come up.
2. Plan a sermon series on money, finances, stewardship.
- They might be different in meaning, but people interpret them the same way
3. Avoid apologizing for preaching on the subject.
- Hypocrisy in this area is unforgivable to many.
- You shouldn’t apologize for God’s word
- Ask yourself - Do I want my church family to be blessed?
- Malachi 3:10 New International Version (NIV)
- Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.
4. Speak honestly and clearly
- define your terms: tithe, offerings, generosity, stewardship
- the ministry needs resources
5. Keep your church budget available and talk about it
- Everybody has limits and boundaries on their income and expenditures. They recognize that for the church.
6. Share stories, and let others share stories
7. Use small groups
Two controversial statements:
1. If your church is not practicing good stewardship, don't preach on the subject. - WHAT?
2. if you are not practicing good stewardship, don't preach on the subject. - WHAT?
30:4531/07/2023
Episode 227: 10 Statements About Healthy Churches
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Episode 227: 10 Statements About Healthy Churches
Ten Statements about Healthy Churches:
1. The pastor is spiritually healthy and growing. A church tends to follow its leader.
2. The pastor is a collaborative leader. Our best idea is rarely the best idea. The best ideas are filtered through others where they can become something better.
3. The church has a way of connecting people to smaller groups. A large gathering cannot do discipleship effectively. Do people want to connect with what you are doing?
4. The church welcomes and equips new leaders. Think from a teaching perspective. The more teachers trained and equipped, the more groups you can have.
5. People regularly invite guests to church with them. Healthy churches have guests, because people are excited to share their church with others.
6. The church deals with conflict constructively. Healthy churches have as much conflict as many unhealthy churches, they just deal with it constructively.
7. The church values intentionality over busyness. Healthy churches care more about “why” they do something than other churches. The “why” matters.
8. Prayer is more than a time-filler. Healthy churches spend dedicated time in prayer.
9. The church is optimistic ad joyful. The battle is already won, and the gates of hell cannot stand against Christ’s church. If optimism should thrive anywhere, it should be in church.
10. The church spends more time looking forward than it does looking backwards.
In healthy churches people are excited about what God is going to do next. In unhealthy churches, people lament what has been.
If your church isn’t healthy what steps can you take to get to health personally and collectively? Are you connected with others who can feed into you a healthy perspective? Church health is fragile. We have to take great care to maintain it.
31:4624/07/2023
Episode 226: Five skills worth developing further
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Episode 226: Five skills worth developing further
1. Your people skills
- compassion and passion (Lencioni)
- challenging through love
2. Your organizational awareness
- what's going on in your church
- how do things get done in your church
3. Church trends and church history
- what can we learn from
- what should we expect
4. Your own internal workings
- emotional intelligence
- spiritual development
- self-assessment
5. Communication
- conflict resolution
- openness
- encouragement
30:2617/07/2023
Episode 225: Cross-training Your Church
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Episode 225: Cross-training Your Church
Areas Crucial to cross-training
Finances
Administration
Technology
Teaching & Preaching
26:4010/07/2023
Episode 224: Do’s and Don’t in Resignations
Episode 224: Do's and Don't in Resignations
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When its you?
Is it the right time?
- Start with the right people
- Be gracious
- Be direct and positive
- appreciative but confident in your decision
- Keep as little delay as possible in telling your key leaders and the whole church
- know some people will be upset you're leaving or that you did not meet with them personally.
- know your leadership influence is pretty much over in that environment
- make sure your church has key information
When its a staff member:
- What are the circumstances?
- When its for a person who has served well
- be gracious and supportive
- determine who is going to read the resignation
- give the church an opportunity to show their appreciation
26:4903/07/2023
Episode 223: Do You Have a True Friend?
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Episode 223: Do You Have a True Friend?
Article from Christian Post
African proverb
"You can go faster alone
But you can go much farther together"
Is it possible for a pastor to have a true friend?
its hard to find a friend at my church
I find it hard to trust enough to be honest with someone from my church
I worry if I share with someone from church - everyone will find out
What does a true friend do?
Will come any time - any where to help
Keeps confidences
will be understanding but also honest
They will check in on you from time to time
They look out for your best interests
They will give you an honest review of potential ideas
They will be a guard for you AND your family
What does a pastor have to do to have a true friend?
They have to be willing to open up to someone
They have to be willing to be vulnerable
They need to pray for discernment to know who to trust.
They have to take time
29:3826/06/2023
Episode 222: Are You Teaching Your People to Pray?
Episode 222: Are You Teaching Your People to Pray?
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Pastor, Teach us to Pray
One. Model good praying for your congregation, pastor. “Being examples to the flock” (I Peter 5:3).
Two. Teach us to pray faithfully in the privacy of your home/office/car without ever telling anyone. Let this be between you and the Lord. Anything less turns us into hypocrites. Telling people to do what we are not doing is never good.
Three. But in worship services, understand that people will be learning from you how to pray.They’re listening, and they are learning.
Four. Therefore, give advance thought to your public prayers. Work on praying better and more effectively.
Five. Always be aware that people are not only praying with you, but listening to how you pray so they will know how to do it better. Even if they are not aware of it, they will be copying some of the things you do.
Six. . Teach us to pray when in public prayer:
–Most public prayers should be short. Especially, those spontaneous prayers which we all do from time to time should be brief and to the point. Otherwise we will ramble and become repetitious.
When you pray in public, you are speaking to the Lord on behalf of everyone there. So, your prayer says “we” and “our,” not “me” and “mine.” See the Lord’s prayer for guidelines on this.
–The exception to short public prayers is when you are praying a formal dedicatory prayer, such as for an ordination of a minister, the dedication of a building, or some such. David’s and Solomon’s prayers for the temple were long and profound and inspiring.
Seven. You will also want to teach us about our private prayer.
–To have a definite time and place for prayer, preferably in the morning, and in a spot where you can leave your Bible and notebook.
–To continue praying throughout the day, in snippets (aka “prayer arrows”), as they have a moment here and there. This surely is what “praying always” means.
–To pray as Jesus did: Beginning with praise, and then moving into our requests, and ending with praise and committal.
–To excise dead phrases from their prayers.
–To retain a sense of holiness in their prayer while at the same time being conversational.
22:3619/06/2023
Episode 221: Together in NOLA
Episode 221: Together in NOLA
Link to Episode 120 Ranger Danger
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22:0112/06/2023
Episode 219: 6 Shifts to Consider in Disciple Making
Episode 219: 6 Shifts to Consider in Disciple Making
From surface belief to conviction
"We are not transformed by facts and information, but by what we believe in our bones" - Jessie Cruickshank
From instruction to imitation (observation then imitation)
walking in the steps of Jesus
From programming to identification
I am learning disipleship versus I am a disciple
From corporate to individual
Individualized rather than a one size fits all
mentor as guides ( a life to observe)
From option to expectation
we often make discipleships sound optional
Are you willing to be discipled? If not willing to make a commitment and give the time - then you are not a follower of Jesus.
discipleship is a culture
From passive to active
do we just hope for results or do we see results?
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23:1505/06/2023
Episode 218: When You Say Yes To VBS
Episode 218: When You Say Yes To VBS
Find and train a VBS director (could be sports camp...)
Select the optimum time and dates for your context
early, mid, late summer
am or pm
M-F, Tu-Sat, Su-Th, once a week for 5 weeks....
Train and support your workers
What is the role of the pastor?
whatever you want it to be
Be involved
Be available
Be evangelistic
Some of our best suggestions
Alan: Pray with your workers before the day begins
Alan: I often was the funny skit guy
Alan: get down on a kids level to talk with them
Alan: mingle and talk with parents when they are picking up their kids. (we did not allow for drive by pick ups)
Trent: lead music and teach actions
Help with video and audiovisual
Help with registration
Lead in pledges
Follow up on decisions; keep family information for other events (get their permission)
Schedule baptisms soon
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27:0729/05/2023
Episode 217: Shuffling Shepherds and Sickly Sheep
Episode 217: Shuffling Shepherds and Sickly Sheep
Does Shuffling of shepherds produce sickly sheep?
Churches and denominations have developed a bad habit of shuffling shepherds.
This has lots of effects on churches
Discipleship is cut short
Teach them to observe (great commission KJV)
Vision is cut short
churches continue the same bad cycles and never move forward.
The sheep suffer: Bad shepherds are moved to new locations and continue to kill the sheep
The shepherd is not trusted: Trust is never developed
You don't become someone's pastor till . . .
Wolves move in: Other bad intentioned and selfish leaders move in - wolf in sheep's clothing.
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25:5322/05/2023
Episode 216: 7 Ways to Boost Attendance
7 ways to boost attendance:
Be evangelistic and see people baptized.
its the evidence of a fruitful ministry
Always be on mission! local and beyond!
Have a vibrant, multiplying small group ministry.
small segments grow more quickly
Talk about the importance of regular church attendance>
if we don't address it, what should we expect?
avoid guilting
Build a sense of expectation.
a culture of high expectations is not a negative
Expectation = excitement = I want to invite my friends
Use special emphasis.
not as successful as they once were, but can be successful
Reach out to first time guests quickly
The quicker you respond to a guest's visit, the more likely they are to return.
Make connecting easy
don't ask for too much
don't speak as if everyone knows everything you are talking about.
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21:5415/05/2023
Episode 215: Responding to a New Pastoral Life Cycle
Episode 215: Responding to a New Pastoral Life Cycle
Thom Rainer and Church Answers have revised the pastoral life cycle:
https://churchanswers.com/blog/the-life-cycle-of-a-pastor-updated/
Honeymoon: 0 to 6 months.
Challenges and conflict: 6 months to 4 years.
Acceptance and stability: Year 4 to year 7.
Inflection point: Year 7 to year 10.
Mystery: After year 10
Some reactions to this:
Honeymoons are shorter and might not even exist
bad processes in finding a pastor
unhealthy pastors moving from church to church
distrust of organizational leaders
Inflection points
will the church move in a positive or negative direction
connection to other pastors
willingness to re-evaluate one's own leadership
habits of personal spiritual health
Mystery of the long tenure
no pattern
larger church versus smaller church
rural versus urban versus suburban
"fire in the belly" or "just hanging on"
Must re-establish your leadership every 2-3 years rather than every 4-5 years
Everything is sped up.
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26:3008/05/2023
Episode 214: Summertime
Episode 214: Summertime
Summertime is a time of opportunity
To experiment
try some new things especially in outreach
allow new people to explore new leadership roles
To eliminate
To establish momentum
To evangelize
To enjoy
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27:1801/05/2023
Episode 213: Sunday Routine
28:1424/04/2023
Episode 212: What We’ve Been Reading
Episode 212: What We've Been Reading
Alan's List
RARE Leadership by Wilder and Warner
brain science and leadership (Fast track versus slow track)
identity is fast track, but we tend to try an grow spiritually on the slow track)
Remain Relational
Act Like Yourself
Return to Joy
Endure Hardships Well
why accountability fails -its fear based
Building a Second Brain by Tiago Forte
organizing and gaining more productivity out of ourselves through leveraging technology
The Servant: A Simple Story About the True Essence of Leadership by James Hunter
Several Books about WWII
A Higher Call - Adam Makos
Taregt Tokyo - by James M .Scott
Race of Aces - John Bruning
Valley Forge by Drury and Clavin
Trent's List
I am a terrible reader but listen to audio books on audible - subscription holds me accountable
Made to Stick Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die
By: Chip Heath, Dan Heath
Winning the War in Your Mind Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life
By: Craig Groeschel
The Ruthless Elimination of HurryHow to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World
By: John Mark Comer
What Got You Here Won't Get You ThereHow Successful People Become Even More Successful
By: Marshall Goldsmith, Mark Reiter
Any book by Jon Gordon
The Energy Bus
Training camp
The Carpenter
The Seed
Canoeing the Mountains Christian Leadership in Uncharted Territory
By: Tod Bolsinger
Getting ready to start
Powerful Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People Over 325 Ready-to-Use Words and Phrases for Working with Challenging Personalities
By: Renee Evenson
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27:1917/04/2023
Episode 211: Blind Spots in Preaching
Episode 211: Blind Spots in Preaching
We fail to get their attention
We fail to include and explain doctrine.
We fail to include apologetics.
We fail to call for action.
We mis-read our audience.
overestimate their spirituality
underestimate their spirituality
We are unbalanced in our preaching.
all Bible genre's
short series, we tend to focus on our "pet" subjects
long series, we tend not to get into other portions of the Bible
multiple style and methods
We preach too often.
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25:3810/04/2023
Episode 210: Moving On Up, Pt 2
Episode 210: Moving On Up, Pt 2
When moving a person internally, consider....
Evaluation
Evaluate the relationship between this person and church and you as leader
Evaluate the ministry
Evaluate the gifts for a different ministry
Conversation
Are they interested in a change
Do they love the church
Timing
If everything is positive
from your view
from the potential person of change's view
from the church view
Then what is the best time to make the change?
Are there times of business that need to be avoided? youth - summer
Are there church events that need to be planned for? Music - Christmas program
Are there training opportunities that you want this person to attend?
Major principles
Lots of prayer
lots of open communication - no one likes to feel that they have been left out of the loop or that you're trying to get rid of them.
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20:2903/04/2023
Episode 209: Moving On Up, pt1
Episode 209: Moving On Up, pt1
To keep good talent, many churches are moving staff to new positions in the church.
example - Youth minister is getting older and doesn't want to do all the youth stuff anymore.
example - Music minister is getting older but sees that the church needs to change direction to reach younger people. He doesn't feel equipped to lead differently but loves the church and would like to stay there.
Is it a good idea to hire from within:
The benefits:
An insider can probably cut the transition time down for the congregation.
An insider knows how the church works.
An insider has some key relationships already in tact.
An insider has an awareness of the church history.
The cautions:
The personal transition time for the leader often happens at a slower pace.
An insider is tempted to make changes too quickly because they have such a deep awareness of what is wrong.
An insider may not have the ability to take on a role at a different level.
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20:2027/03/2023
Episode 208: When to Make An Event Disappear
Episode 208: When to Make An Event Disappear
How do you determine an event your church has is outliving it's purpose?
Gather post-event information
the next event is determined by the outcome of the last event
Consider an event's purpose?
Does it match your purpose?
What is the goal
outreach
inreach
service
Consider your ability to do the event well
differing expectations for different events
church picnic versus a regional conference.
people power
resources
Consider the benefit of the event.
Is it worth the effort? Or could something else have yielded better results?
Is your church energized?
Consider the cost?
Was the investment of time, talent, and treasures representative of the benefit?
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21:2520/03/2023
Episode 207: 5 Ways To Derail Your Ministry
Episode 207: 5 Ways To Derail Your Ministry
5 Ways To Derail Your Ministry as soon as it starts
We stop learning.
We inflate our egos.
We lose our sense of timing.
too fast or too slow with changes
We create an echo chamber.
We look a the past with contempt.
history
people
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24:2313/03/2023
Episode 206: The Power of Three
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19:4206/03/2023
Episode 205: Interview With Laurie Acker of Small Church Ministry
Episode 205: Interview With Laurie Acker of Small Church Ministry
Find our more about Laurie's ministry here: Small Church Ministry
Reach out to us:
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22:5126/02/2023
Episode 204: Are You Loving the Bride Well?
Episode 204: Are You Loving the Bride Well?
Pastor are you loving the Bride?
with all your mind?
are you lusting after another church?
are you giving complete attention to your church?
Are you only serving half heartedly at your current church
With all your strength?
are you working at least what is expected or more for your bride?
are you leading in outreach?
are you at church events?
are you fully engaged and serving with your church family?
with all your heart and mouth?
are you speaking well of your church?
are you speaking well of your job?
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25:3520/02/2023
Episode 203: An Interview With Sam Byers About Small Rural Church Ministry
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40:1713/02/2023
Episode 202: Raising Expectations From Zero
Episode 202: Raising Expectations From Zero
If you don't plant, you won't harvest.
We need to build a sense of expectations:
Plan for guests
how do make them feel welcome
plan for the guests you want have
don't make your guests targets
Plan for decisions
are you asking for those
how are you gonna handle those
don't put people on the spot
Plan for new members
how are you going to receive new members
New members class?
"Expectations are landmines, you can lose a limb if you don't know what they are."
Plan for outreach and missions
how are you going to to reach your community and world
Expect people to step out and lead
staff & volunteers
job descriptions
for accountability
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30:1406/02/2023
Episode 201: Preacher or Pastor
Episode 201: Preacher or Pastor
Difference between a preacher and a pastor
A Preacher is:
Has the wrong motivation
in it for the money
in it for name recognition
Tends to live in his own world
Keeps church relationships at a distance
Isn't there when needed
runs out of things to say quickly
A Pastor is:
Is motivated by God's Word
Gets involved in the lives of His congregation
Allows for the joy and pain of close church relationships
Is all in when needed
Because he knows his people and God's Word always has something to say.
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21:4930/01/2023
Episode 200: 8 Revelations from Our First 200 Episodes
Episode 200: 8 Revelations from Our First 200 Episodes
We know a lot less than we than we thought.
Lone Ranger Pastors are far too common. see episode 120
The cultural shifts in churches over the life of our podcast has been monumental.
We started pre-covid
Covid exaggerated the health or lack of health of churches
The Pastoral shortage and church leader shortage is growing faster than anyone thought
The local church is important because it is God's chosen instrument to reach the world
The love affair with Mega church culture is over.
small is the new large
The local pastor
needs to be lifted up - but not worshipped
needs to be leading the church - but not burned out
They are not coming back - so reach out to them like pre-Christians and bring them in again.
We have more to say
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31:1122/01/2023
Episode 199: The Meeting Before the Meeting
Episode 199: The Meeting Before the Meeting
Many times pastors and church leaders bring on themselves and on their church undo stress - because they have not had the meeting before the meeting.
Questions to ask yourself
who is most invested in the topic we will be discussing?
ask them to explain why this is important to them.
what are the non negotiables - things they won't give in on
who among the member is most highly regarded and trusted?
answer all questions this person may have about the upcoming meeting.b
ask if they would support the item being voted on - if not why not.
ask them what potential problems they see.
who is most likely to stir the pot?
ask what info they would need
ask what questions they could see coming up during the meeting
These are the folks that you might want to have a meeting before the meeting with.
If you have these meetings you will accomplish these things:
you will avoid most conflict
as a leader you will be able to guide the conversation by sharing the most important info or leading others to share that info.
You will have the opportunity to have the answers ahead of time to questions that will probably come up during the actual meeting!
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22:4716/01/2023
Episode 198: Preparing for a Storm
Episode 198: Preparing for a Storm
Here are some thoughts on how to be weather aware and prepare your facility and people.
Checking roads
who does this?
how long before the service?
Leadership who decides if service is cancelled?
Communicating closure
What places do you communicate
Social media/texting
Local TV
Local Radio
Send out robo call
Website
designate one person to do communication
Cancelled if School cancels
in case of snow do this:
clearing sidewalks
greeters and helpers
mop to dry up water on the floor
in case of rain do this:
have umbrellas handy for greeters to help people from cars
mop to dry up water on the floor
In case of tornado do this:
does the church have a designated shelter?
do teachers and leaders know where?
Communicate to families that everyone is ok
For wind do this:
some places have high winds from time to time and need people stationed at doors to hold on to the door.
28:0609/01/2023
Episode 197: Preparing for a New Year
We all work differently, but some of the things I have done:
1. A Word for the year
In October, I begin praying God would give me a "word" for the coming year. For instance this year was "design." I knew God was leading our association in a new direction. Just as God designed the world with intentional purpose, we need to set up our association with a deliberate design. In the past, the word has been "discipleship" or "trust." The word sets the tone for the year. For me this year is "construct." We are in the process of building a new associational model based on our new design.
2. A vision series
As a senior pastor January was a month where I would always take a Sunday to lay out a visionary message for the church. From the time I sensed I had my "word" from God, I had opportunity to examine the Scripture more closely. Since the word usually arose from my own study, that process was typically natural, but sometimes the word would lead me down a pathway of study that challenged me and surprised me. The most important part in preaching a vision series is that you can share what the church should look like at the end of the year. A vision sermon might be one week, but most of mine ended up being two to four weeks.
3. Personal Development
What are you going to do to grow yourself over the next year? Many pastors don't have an intentional plan of growth. One example I can remember is a sense where I needed to grow a bigger desire for international missions. I registered for a February conference across the country held by a church passionate about missions. By Easter, I had taken a trip to Lebanon, and my church was joining me in developing a greater passion for missions. Books, Conferences, accountability groups or cohorts, seminary or certifications...what are you going to do to develop your skills? (As the churches of DTBA, we are here to help you in this.)
4. A Challenge to be addressed
In ministry, we all grow frustrated with the infrequent attendance issues of our congregation. One year, I challenged our church to address this issue. I asked them to consider their attendance patterns and challenged them to see if greater faithfulness made a difference in their lives. For many it did. We reaped the benefits, we also felt the challenge as it was a year the enemy really attacked our church. That year I saw the benefit of addressing challenges directly. Because we were learning to face obstacles, we were able to overcome them more easily.
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25:3602/01/2023