On today's episode I answer a listeners question. Make sure you get out a paper and pen for this one.    " I have two amazing but very high energy rambunctious boys (8 and 5) and lately I’ve been finding the high energy to be a little overwhelming both in the morning and evening. I’m feeling the personal need for a little more quiet space. Do you have suggestions for morning and evening routines that lets them get their energy out without driving me crazy?"    Have a personal question you'd like me to answer on the podcast?  Send it in: [email protected]       

“We are always in a perpetual state of being created and creating ourselves. (p. 221)” ― Daniel J. Siegel, The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are   Teach Your Kid To Meditate Conference  ** FREE Conference is 17 of today's most forward thinking parenting and life GAME CHANGERS www.teachyourkidtomeditate.com    WE'RE NOW ACCEPTING APPLICATIONS for the SUMMER round of my signature group coaching program  Click here for program details and application www.momisincontrol.com/miic      Learn more about Dr. Daniel Siegel www.drdansiegel.com

It's finally here!! The Teach Your Kid To Meditate Conference  Register here: www.momisincontrol.com   In this episode, I talk about what the Teach Your Kid To Meditate Conference is all about and why it's so important for you to practice what you preach. 

We all know how the body eliminates waste, #1 and #2 but what most people don't understand is how the body released old, stuck emotions.  Emotional Poop is the same process and once you see it as 'normal' to begin to bust through blocks that have been holding you back for years.    In this episode, I talk about my experience letting go of old shit. What to do when it feels intense and what to expect when making a commitment to change your life.    Have a question for Heather? Email [email protected] 

" If your happiness depends on your child being happy, that makes them your hostage." - Bryon Katie    I use to hate Mother's Day. So many expectations from others and myself on what exactly the day should look like. This left me miserable, angry and completely out of touch with how I wanted to feel.  These days I see Mother's Day as an opportunity to celebrate myself and the other women who have made an impact on my life, no strings attached.      What are you doing this year to celebrate yourself without any expectations from others?      Have a personal questions? Email me [email protected]    Come join the conversation inside the facebook group.  Mom Is In Control Village. CLICK HERE.  

It's time we stop and really think about what we're telling ourselves about why we CAN'T have what we want.  "My kids need me." "I can't afford it."  "He won't approve."  and the list goes on for days...    But what if you gave yourself permission to DO what you wanted?  How would your relationships change?    What's more important to you? What others think or your mental health?      Join the FREE 21 Day Challenge  www.momisincontrol.com       

" One day it will be time to die but right now it's time to live." - Jesse Itzler   Join the MOM IS IN CONTROL CHALLENGE {it's free}  www.momisincontrol.com    Mindfulness for Teens with ADHD: A Skill-Building Workbook to Help You Focus and Succeed with Debra Burdick CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE THIS BOOK 

“There’s one thing that is guaranteed to increase your feelings of control over your life: a bias toward action.” ― Mel Robbins, The 5 Second Rule.    Purchase your copy on AMAZON     Have a question? Want to connect with Heather?  Email [email protected]    Ready to uplevel your life? Take the MOM IS IN CONTROL CHALLENGE  www.momisincontrol.com    

"As children we found ways to protect ourselves from vulnerability, from being hurt, diminished, and disappointed. We put on armor; we used our thoughts, emotions and behaviours as weapons; and we learned how to make ourselves scarce, even to disappear. Now as adults we realize that to live with courage, purpose, and connection - to be the person whom we long to be - we must again be vulnerable. We must take off the armor, put down the weapons, show up, and let ourselves be seen."  Darling Greatly with Brene Brown, pg 112      Email: [email protected] 

" Infuse your life with action. Don't wait for it to happen. Make it happen. Make your own future. Make your own hope. Make your own love. And whatever your beliefs, honor your creator, not by passively waiting for grace to come down from upon high, but by doing what you can to make grace happen... yourself, right now, right down here on Earth." Bradley Whitford   So many live their lives, fingers crossed hoping things will change. The magic happens in the action.    Have a personal question for heather? email [email protected] 

Every action (or in-action) you take in your life directly affects how you feel. Are your actions in alignment with how you want to feel in your life?  In this episode, I talk about...  * The importance of getting clear on how you want to feel in your life.  * Knowing your relationship to resistance and how to push through it without burning yourself out.  * What anxiety, fear and overwhelm are here to teach you.      Ready to take your life to the NEXXT LEVEL?  Apply today to join us at the next Mindset Retreat www.heatherchauvin.com/takebackcontrol    Have a question for Heather? Nervous to fill out the application? Email her...  [email protected] 

In this episode, we talk about...  * The true addiction of sugar.  * How food and mood are connected. * How to start eliminating your sugar intake.  Renee Heigel, CHHP, AADP shows people how to feed themselves and love themselves. She has merged a unique blend of her experience in marketing, business, entrepreneurship, public speaking, holistic nutrition, wellness and Ayurvedic healing.  In addition to her dual degrees from Northwood University, Renee has earned degrees / certificates in the following disciplines: Holistic Nutrition Practitioner from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, Certified Life Coach, Ayurvedic practitioner, whole foods nutritionist cooking teacher, meditation. Renee’s innovative approach to holistic health and healing include the emotional and energetic self, she has worked with people from medical doctors, actors, entrepreneurs, high profile business people, couples and families. Renee has been featured on ABC and Fox News as a holistic health expert, she also works privately with individuals and corporations both locally and internationally. Renee is mom to Manny, he’s 7 years old. She’s happily in love with her man, Rob. She meditates daily, loves life, moving her body, delicious food, creativity and meeting new people.     Take the 7-day sugar challenge with Renee Jayne  www.winningthesugarchallenge.com      Have a person question for Heather Chauvin  [email protected]     

“Small daily – seemingly insignificant – improvements and innovations lead to staggering achievements over time.” – Robin Sharma   If you're a parent, you're a leader.  If you're a human, you're a leader. There is no escaping.  How you show up everyday matters. People are watching and using you as an example.  The key is to be seen as a GOOD example.    In this episode, I talk openly about what it means to LEAD (or be a leader) for a lot of people without burning yourself out.  How you can preserve your energy while teaching others.  The subtle different between teaching and doing or others.  Why independence is a healthy parenting/work strategy.      Are you ready to take your life, business, parenting and relationships to the next level?  Fill out the application on this page and we will chat:  www.momisincontrol.com/miic    Email us: [email protected] 

  Beliefs Of Successful Women   1) Reframe negative thoughts   2) Define their own success 3) Accept good enough   4) Don't make space for guilt 5) Prioritize life over laundry 6) Willing to help out when needed but never at the determent of what matters most.   7) Pace themselves   8) Don't complain 9) Don't judge other women 10) Lead from where they are by taking action (practice what they preach)  11) Practice balance (alignment)  12) Challenge what's popular         Ready to take your life, work and parenting to the next level? Fill out this pre-coaching form and let's chat. www.heatherchauvin.com/takebackcontrol   Or check out the program details here www.momisincontrol.com/miic    Have a personal question? Email [email protected]    

"The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure." - Sven Goran Eriksson  " Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are more powerful beyond measure. It is light, not our darkness that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" - Marianne Williamson   Ready to take your life, work and parenting to the next level?   Fill out this pre-coaching form and let's chat.  www.heatherchauvin.com/takebackcontrol    Have a personal question? Email [email protected]     

" When my daughter turned one in 2012, I consciously quit my long-standing six-figure career to be home full time. Although this was a blessing to have had the choice to make happen, at the same time it was a huge adjustment from being a career person and having a very structured routine to a non-structured routine and no longer in “control of my day”. At the prime age of 39, I found my daughter was “raising me” in ways I never thought possible. Prior to motherhood, I had parenting “all mapped out” – from how it would “look” and “go” – yet much to my surprise it was anything but what I expected. With my (unconscious ego), I figured since I had all my “ducks lined up” that stepping into my new-found parenting was going to be pretty smooth. Little did I know I was in for the biggest awakening of my life." - Sandra Fazio    Sandra Fazio: www.theconsciousparentblog.com Sandra Fazio facebook: www.facebook.com/theconsciousparentjourney     Ready to take your life and parenting to the next level?  Fill out this application www.heatherchauvin.com/takebackcontrol  * Once you've filled out the application - I will be in touch to connect.    Have a personal question? Email me [email protected] 

"Human beings are not reasonable creatures, instead of being ruled by logic, we are ruled by emotions. The world would be a happier place if the opposite were true. For example, based on a single phone call, I have begun to hope for a miracle. I don't believe in God." - From The Sun Is Also A Star.    I want to hear from you. Send me a personal email [email protected]    Are you ready for the next adventure? Fill out this coaching application.  Let's talk www.heatherchauvin.com/takebackcontrol 

"Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears." - Les Brown  Fear stops you from all things possible. Don't let fear get in the way of anything, especially your dreams.  Fear = False evidence appearing real. Your fears are not real because they're not actually happening - they're based on things that haven't happened yet and therefore don't exist.  (from Staying Strong by Demi Lovato)    Podcast Sponsor:  Letting Kids Be Kids Go Fund Me Campaign  www.www.gofundme.com/lettingkidsbekids When you make a $50 donation or more you get my Teach Your Kid To Meditate Program for FREE.  Email [email protected] after you've donated.  _____   COACHING AND ADVENTURE PROGRAMS   Learn, plan and GROW in Greece (April 2017)  Apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    GROUP COACHING  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    1:1 COACHING (SOUL ELITE PROGRAM) Apply here: www.momisincontrol.com/takebackcontrol   HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL  [email protected] 

It's time we have a serious discussion about avoiding uncomfortable conversations. It's in these moments we find and create freedom and joy.  Avoiding discomfort keeps you small and holds you hostage to your deepest desire.    In this episode, I discuss how and why these are the most important conversations we should be having and who we become by having these conversations.   Podcast Sponsor:  Letting Kids Be Kids Go Fund Me Campaign  www.www.gofundme.com/lettingkidsbekids When you make a $50 donation or more you get my Teach Your Kid To Meditate Program for FREE.  Email [email protected] after you've donated.    FREE RESOURCES:  Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway 20+ sanity-saving resources to support you on this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GIFTS HERE: http://bit.ly/2h6vs19 _____   COACHING AND ADVENTURE PROGRAMS    Learn, plan and GROW in Greece (April 2017)  Apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    GROUP COACHING  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    1:1 COACHING (SOUL ELITE PROGRAM) Apply here: www.momisincontrol.com/takebackcontrol   HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL [email protected]

6 phases of manifesting and where you're getting in your own way.  Listen to your desires Give yourself permission to want what you want Plan to make it happen  Take action  Feel the resistance Watch the miracles manifest      FREE RESOURCES:  Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway 20+ sanity-saving resources to support you on this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GIFTS HERE: http://bit.ly/2h6vs19 _____   COACHING AND ADVENTURE PROGRAMS    Learn, plan and GROW in Greece (April 2017)  Apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    GROUP COACHING  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    1:1 COACHING (SOUL ELITE PROGRAM) Apply here: www.momisincontrol.com/takebackcontrol   HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL [email protected]

Becoming the person we want our children to become is my #1 mission in life. Showing children how to master their own greatness is priceless.    " Simply stated, my students are special beyond words.  I teach in an area of Brantford, Ontario known as 'Eagle Place'.  I am the Grade 8 teacher to 23 strong willed, hard working, and kind hearted 13 year old students who will be venturing off to high school next year. For many of my students, our portable at the back of our school is considered their safe place. It is a  place where they are fed breakfast in the morning, given a winter coat and boots to keep warm, and a place they are cared for each and every day. Their life is far from the typical life of a 13 year old. Responsibilities of their sibilings, going grocery shopping, and keeping the water bill down by showering once a week requires them to carry on their days like an adult. Although some of my students have never seen the likes of "Pizza Day" or travelled to the "North-side" of the city, they make the best of every situation and rise to every occassion. Whether it was walking 45 minutes as a group to their future high-school to win the Spirit Award or learning the game of Volleyball with only 3 balls in total, their determination rises them to the top.  I have been teaching for almost 10 years, and in those 10 years I have never encountered such compassionate and grateful students.  This is my first GoFundMe I have created and all proceeds will go towards sending my Grade 8 students on a Year End Trip and towards their Grade 8 Graduation. I plan on taking them on a day trip to Toronto to see the CN Tower and a Blue Jay's game, which would require a bus, food, and ticket/tour costs. For Graduation, I would use proceeds to order their plaques, reserve bowling lanes for an after-grad event, as well as get a hair stylist to do their hair at school for their big day. Although my students have been fundraising by going door to door to sell pies and pizza kits, the socioeconomic status of their community limits their funding tremendously. My goal is to give them the opportunity to live like a kid, worry-free, for a few days.  I would appreciate anything you could contribute to make their final elementary year something they will never forget. " - Angela Bowman, Teacher Donate here: www.gofundme.com/lettingkidsbekids Email [email protected] to gain FREE access to Teach Your Kid To Meditate Program (www.teachyourkidtomeditate.com) after you donate $50 or more to the Go Fund Me Campaign.        FREE RESOURCES:  Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway 20+ sanity-saving resources to support you on this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GIFTS HERE: http://bit.ly/2h6vs19 _____   Plan The Life You Crave Workshop  Free online workshop, helping you plan out your best year yet.  www.momisincontrol.com/joinme  ____ Vipassana Meditation Retreats  www.dhamma.org       +++ COACHING AND ADVENTURE PROGRAMS    Learn, plan and GROW in Greece (April 2017)  Apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    GROUP COACHING  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    1:1 COACHING (SOUL ELITE PROGRAM) Apply here: www.momisincontrol.com/takebackcontrol   HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL [email protected]

FREE RESOURCES:  Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway 20+ sanity-saving resources to support you on this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GIFTS HERE. _____   Plan The Life You Crave Workshop  Free online workshop, helping you plan out your best year yet.  www.momisincontrol.com/joinme  ____ Vipassana Meditation Retreats  www.dhamma.org       +++ COACHING AND ADVENTURE PROGRAMS    Learn, plan and GROW in Greece (April 2017)  Apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    GROUP COACHING  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    1:1 COACHING (SOUL ELITE PROGRAM) Apply here: www.momisincontrol.com/takebackcontrol   HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL [email protected]

" You must be the change you wish to see in the world. The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Gandhi    FREE RESOURCES:  Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway 20+ sanity-saving resources to support you on this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GIFTS HERE. _____   Plan The Life You Crave Workshop  Free online workshop, helping you plan out your best year yet.  www.momisincontrol.com/joinme    +++ COACHING AND ADVENTURE PROGRAMS    Learn, plan and GROW in Greece (April 2017)  Apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    GROUP COACHING  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    1:1 COACHING (SOUL ELITE PROGRAM) Apply here: www.momisincontrol.com/takebackcontrol   HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL [email protected]

"My legs were barely touching the bathroom floor as I struggled to untie my oversized scrubs and rest my tired, unmotivated glutes on the cold hard plastic of the toilet seat. Being the short petite woman I am, I’ve always wondered what it would feel like to stand next to someone and not feel like they were looking down at me. Over time I discovered that if you stand far away enough from others you give off the optical illusion of being taller than you actually are. In this case, I was unable to hide, no one to distance myself from, just me and my short stocky legs barely able to ground myself while I pulled out the pregnancy test strip from my shirt pocket..." - The beginning of something new    FREE RESOURCES:  Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway 20+ sanity-saving resources to support you on this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GIFTS HERE. _____   Plan The Life You Crave Workshop  Free online workshop, helping you plan out your best year yet.  www.momisincontrol.com/joinme    +++ COACHING AND ADVENTURE PROGRAMS    Learn, plan and GROW in Greece (April 2017)  Apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    GROUP COACHING  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    1:1 COACHING (SOUL ELITE PROGRAM) Apply here: www.momisincontrol.com/takebackcontrol   HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL [email protected]

Raising teens is one of the most important jobs there is.  It’s also one of the hardest! Especially when you’re trying to do it alone. We talk about how it takes a village to raise kids…but we often don’t talk as much about the support we need as parents. Navigating the ups & downs of raising a teen successfully is incredibly challenging, but it can be so much easier if you have support along the way! That’s why I’m so excited to share this incredible FREE event with you… Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway 20+ sanity-saving resources to support youon this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! Join us here.  This event was created specifically for parents of teens, to provide YOU with the resources & support you need to thrive this year. Over 20 contributors (including me!) have joined together for this unique event to celebrate the New Year by giving away thousands of dollars worth of free programs and services to parents of teens, which will help you… Communicate more effectively with your teen Have honest, open conversations…even about the most challenging of topics Become a more conscious, calm, and connected parent Discover how to (and how NOT to!) motivate your teen Discover effective strategies to support your teens with ADHD Encourage your teen to explore careers that are a great fit for them Improve brain health, focus and productivity (…for you AND your teen) Raise genuinely kind and caring teenagers Empower your teen to earn better grades with less stress Improve your teen’s self-confidence and stand up to their “inner bully” Know the step-by-step guidelines to follow if your teen is in crisis Establish effective guidelines for your teen’s use of technology …and so much more! Everything in the event has been donated by our contributors, and is yours to access, absolutely free! To grab a copy of any (or all!) of these free resources, sign up here to get instant access to our event page, where you can review all of the gifts we’re offering, and download the ones you want right away.  If parenting your teen has been feeling like a struggle lately, this is a fabulous opportunity to get access to some incredible resources to support you on your parenting journey! Click here to grab a copy of them today!   +++ Parenting Teens Survival Guide Giveaway20+ sanity-saving resources to support youon this (crazy!) journey to raise happy, healthy, confident teens! DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE GIFTS HERE.   +++   Want some help planning the life you crave? Gain access to this FREE Plan The Life You Crave Worksheet www.momisincontrol.com/joinme    Travel and transform: Greece, apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic    HAVE A PERSONAL QUESTION? EMAIL [email protected]   

I've always been stubborn and an outside of the box thinker. When it comes to making things happen, I take an unconventional approach.  It's time you put your soul back in the game and considered how you want to feel.  Just because you're a mother now doesn't mean you need to sacrifice everything, in fact, this will get you into more trouble.   It's time to start fresh and make it happen.    Step 1: Take Inventory  Step 2: Let it out  Step 3: Organize your thoughts  Step 4: Jump into the resistance  Step 5: Prioritize  Step 6: Implement    Want some help planning the life you crave? Gain access to this FREE Plan The Life You Crave Worksheet www.momisincontrol.com/joinme    Travel and transform: Greece, apply now: www.sunandsoulretreats.com  Apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind www.momisincontrol.com/miic     

25 reflection Q’s to ask yourself before 2017 (compliments of Mind Body Green) 1. What am I most proud of this year? 2. How can I become a better _____________? 3. Where am I feeling stuck? 4. Where do I need to allow myself grace? 5. Am I passionate about my career? 6. What lessons have I learned? 7. What did I my finances look like? 8. How did I spend my free time? 9. How well did I take care of my body, mind, and soul? 10. How have I been open-minded? 11. When did I feel most creatively inspired? 12. What projects have I completed? 13. How have I procrastinated? 14. In what ways can I re-structure my time? 15. How have I allowed fear of failure hold me back? 16. Where has self-doubt taken over? 17. When have I felt the most alive? 18. How have I taught others to respect me? 19. How can I improve my relationships? 20. Have I been unfair to anyone? 21. Who do I need to forgive? 22. Where is it time to let go? 23. What old habits would I like to release? 24. What new habits would I like to cultivate? 25. How can I be kind to myself?   Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]     

When I heard these words, I knew what I had to do.  "Your child isn't living up to his potential."  In this episode, I discuss...  Why human greatness is about leading and not dictating.  How to become what you desire for your children.  Seeing yourself in your child's emotional struggles.    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com  Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]     

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.” - Steve Maraboli    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]  

Dear Ones- START KNOWING. This is something I wrote in my journal a few months ago.  These words came to me through a powerful internal voice. Allow me to explain.  I hear voices sometimes. It's cool. Don't be alarmed. It's all good. I'm willing to bet you hear voices sometimes, too.   AT LEAST I HOPE YOU DO.  Every powerful woman I know is guided by voices. Here's a story: I have a brilliant friend who used to work in academia. She told me once that she'd been conducting a series of interviews of accomplished women, for a research project about women's success in the workplace. On the outside, all these women appeared to have nothing in common. They came from all different cultural and ethnic backgrounds, and all worked in different fields -- corporate and non-profit, secular and religious. But each woman carried herself with confidence and ease, and all of them had become quite powerful in their own corners of the world. When my friend asked these women how they had gotten so far, they all began by dutifully reporting the same sorts of standard statements about the importance of hard work, and cultivating discipline, and fostering good professional contacts, and staying positive, and uplifting other women, and seeking out mentors, and blah, blah, blah.. Sounds perfectly logical, right?  But then there would come a moment in each interview where EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE WOMEN would seem to get bored with the questions, or maybe she was just feeling mischievous. Then each woman (EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM!) would ask my friend to turn off the recording device. Then the woman would lean in really close to my friend, and say in a conspiratorial whisper, "But do you want to hear what REALLY happened?" And then EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THOSE WOMEN would report how — at some point in her life — she had heard a voice. A mystical voice. An otherworldly voice. A powerful and certain voice. A commanding voice. A voice that could not be explained away rationally. And each of these women reported that this voice had told her exactly what she needed to do next. And she had done it.  "I know it sounds crazy..." they would say. But it was true.  They had heard a voice, and they had followed the voice.  It hadn't been easy for any of them, they reported. The voices often told them to do really, really hard things — things that often felt like total disruptions of their lives.  Maybe the voice had said, "It's time for you to move to Los Angeles now" — even though the woman had just signed a lease on an apartment in Houston.  Or maybe the voice had said, "It's time for you to go to medical school" — even though she'd just had a baby. Or maybe the voice had said, "It's time for you to leave that boyfriend" — even though her parents really liked him.  Or maybe the voice had said, "This religious path is no longer authentic or meaningful for you" — even though she had been raised by fundamentalists.  Or maybe the voice had said, "It's time for you to learn Mandarin" — even though she'd never been to China. But the voice had come. And whatever the voice said, the woman in question had taken the enormous risk of deciding to follow it. Even when it was inconvenient. Even when it was challenging. Even when it seemed prohibitively expensive. Even when it meant cutting her losses and walking away from any sense of security whatsoever. Even when it cost her the approval of friends and family. Even when everyone thought she was insane.  And THAT'S how she had gotten there, to her place of power in the world. It really had nothing to do with professional contacts, or mentors...it was just that she heard a voice, and she chose to listen.  EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM. So. I hear voices, too.  I heard voices when I was a teenager, saying, "You are meant to be a writer," and when people said, "But how will you make a living at THAT?", those voices were still like, "Yeah, whatever...you are meant to be a writer." And when I got rejection letters for years and years, and nobody was interested in my work, those voices were STILL like, "Yup...you are definitely meant to be a writer." And those voices STILL tell me I'm meant to be a writer. I'll stop writing when the voices stop telling me to write.  I heard voices telling me to move to New York City when I was young. I heard voices telling me that it was imperative that I see the world, and that I learn how to travel alone as a woman — no matter what the cost or risk. I heard voices telling me not to settle for the security of getting a "real job" — but instead to just work odd jobs, and to keep traveling, and to keep writing, and to keep gambling everything for creativity and an exploratory life of the mind. (You guys, I can't tell you how many times the voices tell me never to choose security over creativity. It's exhausting and sometimes scary. But they seem to REALLY MEAN IT.)  When I was in my 20's, I heard voices warning me not to get married, but I went ahead and got married anyway (side note: it's REALLY HARD for young women to push back against the forces of culture and tradition sometimes) and then I SERIOUSLY started hearing voices when I was 30 years old, and firmly married, and living in a shiny new house in the the suburbs, and my mind and body were absolutely falling to pieces, and I was supposed to be trying to have a baby that year, and the voices started screaming, "OH, NO YOU DON'T, MISSY!" And then I had to leave everything behind, in order to re-calibrate my path to my own truth. (This was awfully inconvenient and horrible and expensive and terrifying. And it's REALLY HARD to decide not to have a child in a culture that still tells women that having children, ultimately, is the only thing that shall fulfill them. But the voices were like "NOPE", so I had to leave it all behind. We call that "a course adjustment". It's never easy. But you don't get to chart your own life without making some pretty hardcore course corrections along the way.)  I still hear voices. I heard voices this spring telling me to leave everything behind yet again, and to gamble everything for love. (Very hard. Very scary. Very ACCURATE.)  Where do the voices come from? Beats me. You can call it "intuition". You can call it "the still small voice within". You can call it your "inner compass". You can call it "God". You can call it "Angels". You can call it your "spirit guides". You can call it your "gut instinct". You can call it your "dead ancestors speaking though you." You can call it "the flow"...but whatever it is, those voices exist. And you must train yourself to trust them, and to risk everything in order to follow them. Notice that I didn't say, "You must train yourself to hear them."  I don't think you have to practice hearing them. I think they are always talking to you. I just think you have to train yourself to TRUST THEM. That's the hard part.  Learning to trust those voices is a practice that you can cultivate. Just like any other craft or skill, it is worth the effort to learn how to master it.  So...Today, I want to tell you what my voices have started telling me lately.  It's just these two words: START KNOWING. Here's the thing about my voices. They can be merciless. They are not always sweet and gentle. Sure, there are times when my voices say, "Poor baby! Poor little small one...we are so sorry that you are suffering, please take care of yourself, and lie down in a soft and safe place with a warm towel over your head"....but there are also times when my voices are like, "Oh for God's sake, FIND YOUR STRENGTH. Grow a fucking spine, woman, and take the action you need to take right now, and stop wasting time...we didn't send you here to let you pretend to be damn weak." (Interesting side note: The difference between THAT voice and my dark internal voice of self-hatred is that the dark internal voice of self-hatred says, "You're such a baby, you aren't worthy, you are a scum person, just curl up on the floor in a pile of dirty towels and die," but the mystical all-knowing voice says, "We love you too much to let you keep pretending that you are so powerless...COME ON! Let's DO THIS! GROW A FUCKING SPINE! WE HAVE THINGS TO DO! WE HAVE A DESTINY TO CREATE! STAND UP OFF THE FLOOR!!!! LET'S GOOOOOOO!!!!!" See the difference? Good.)  There have been times in my life (this year, among them) where my voices have needed to get really firm with me. They have challenged me, and they have pushed back against my arguments. They will hold my face in the truth and make me look at it, even when the truth hurts. They will not baby me. They refuse to enable me. This is good. They will not say, "It's OK, honey! Don't worry! It's all good! It doesn't matter — you're doing your best, and everyone's human!", but instead they say, "Actually, honey, it's NOT ALL GOOD. This situation is NOT OK, and the way you are behaving is NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU, and it's time for you to grow a spine, and challenge yourself more, get creative, and change everything. Let's GO!"  But mostly, this year, my voices have been saying to me just these two words: "START KNOWING." Anytime I am faced with a dilemma, and I start to feel very small and confused, and I hear myself saying, "I don't know what to do!", some voice from deep within me rises in full power and says, "START KNOWING."  (I even wrote it down in my journal one day, for my entire entry that day. So that is what this picture is all about START KNOWING.) What my voices are challenging me is to realize is that when I am feeling sad and scared and small, and I keep saying, "I don't know what to do!" — the truth is that usually I DO know. In fact, my voices are pretty certain that I always know. Somewhere, deep within me, I have always known what I need to do. I just don't want to do it sometimes, because it's too hard, or too scary, or seems to wild or too risky. Or I don't want to hurt anyone. Or I don't want to be judged. Or I don't want to lose what I have already attained. But still — I do know. Secretly, I do know. And my voices get impatient with me, because they're like, "Look, lady, we don't have forever, OK? You have all the information you need. Nothing will change now unless you change it. Make a move right here. Stop pretending you don't know what you need to do. START KNOWING." I'm sensing this in so many women whom I encounter these days, too. They seem stuck and frustrated and confused and insecure and afraid. They have grown too comfortable/uncomfortable in the realm of "not knowing" what to do. They come up to me at my speaking events, and they introduce themselves by telling me about their injuries and their wounds. Before they have even told me what they want to create in this world, or who they long to become, they tell me the worst thing that has ever happened to them. Then I hear them start spinning and spinning and spinning the same story they've been telling for years about what happened to them, and how it damaged them, and what they want, but what they aren't getting, and why they can't change it, and why this situation is impossible, and what they wish would happen, and why can't it all be different, and why it's too late...and then they say, "I just don't know what to do!" And I swear to God, this fearsome strong voice starts to rise out from the center of my spine, and all I want to do is take that woman by her shoulders, shake her, and shout at the top of my lungs: "START KNOWING!"  (But in a loving way. I love you all! Seriously, I love you guys! Smiley face! You go, girl!)  But seriously...this voice that rises within me is not a voice of judgment or contempt. It's not a disgusted voice. This is just the voice of the Archangel of Womanhood — a divine force who cannot abide seeing any woman who has ANY power in her life pretending that she has no power in her life. Not you, not me, not your sisters, not your daughters, not your mothers. She just can't take it anymore. So voice of the Archangel of Womanhood says (out of a sense of fierce but merciless compassion, and a desire to liberate us all), "START KNOWING!"  Yes, it's hard. Of course it's hard. What did you think — it would be easy? Did you think they would just hand your destiny to you, cost-free? Yes, you might have to risk everything. Yes, you might have to cut your losses. Yes, some people will hate it. Yes, some people may never understand and never forgive you. Yes, you may walk away from the situation with a permanent scar, or a bad limp, or a battered heart. Yes, yes, yes, blah, blah, blah... But come ON!   START KNOWING. Stop saying, "I don't know what to do!" Because I believe that — somewhere deep in your center — there is some powerful truth about your life which YOU ALREADY DO KNOW.  If you're afraid of making a hasty decision, just remember that the alternative is to stay stuck in the same bullshit garbage death swamp you've been stuck in for years. (I say that lovingly! I love you! Smiley face!)  So start knowing. Start knowing what you already know. Start knowing what is so damn obvious about your life that a perfect stranger could see the problem, if you told her about your situation in a five minute conversation. Start knowing that you will no longer degrade yourself with the illusion that are powerless, that you're in a trap. (Here's the evidence of that: Tell me your story of how powerless you are, and I will find you a story of a woman who was in EXACTLY the same situation, and she changed it. I know...that sounds harsh. But it's true. Start knowing that it's true.) Start knowing that you have far more agency than you think. Start knowing that the story you've been telling yourself about your limitations, or your helplessness in this situation, is NO LONGER GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU. Start being honest with yourself about something that your body has been trying to tell you for years. (Listen to your body's pain — IT KNOWS. The body always knows. The body knows exactly the thing that is causing you suffering, and holding you back. I had a boyfriend once who I was madly in love with, but every time I got in his bed, my body would explode into pain, because my body already knew, "This man is no good for you." I didn't want to know it, because I was blinded by love — but my body knew. Start knowing what your body already knows.)  Start knowing the kind of woman you need to become — so that your daughters can have a better chance of becoming that kind of woman, too. Start knowing that the universe didn't send you here to this fearsome planet of change and danger so that you could practice being more afraid...but rather, the universe sent you here to this fearsome planet of change and danger so that you could practice being more BRAVE. (Stop waiting for the world to feel safe, before you live your life. The world never will never feel safe. This planet has a nickname in the universe, you know. It's called: THE ADVANCED SCHOOL FOR UTMOST HUMAN BRAVERY. They do not call our planet: THE COMFY RESTING PLACE FOR PRACTICING EASE AND SECURITY.)  Start knowing how brave you are. Start knowing how resilient you are. Start knowing how resourceful you are. Start knowing that you are the descendent of thousands of years of survivors, and that have you inherited all their wiles. Start knowing that the Archangel of Womanhood loves you too much to let you keep acting meek and degraded. Start knowing how willing you are to walk away from all of it, if you must. Start knowing that there are no victims in this room. (I can't tell you how many times my voices say to me, "THERE ARE NO VICTIMS IN THIS ROOM." I hate it sometimes when they say that to me. But the Archangel of Womanhood is quite firm on the matter. There are no victims in this room, she says. Period.) START KNOWING, you guys.  Try saying those two words to yourself in a very calm, very wise, very ancient, very adamant voice — the next time you panic. Just say it (START KNOWING) and then breathe. Then get quiet and see what comes up.  I promise you that your very next thought will be the truth.  It might not be easy, but it will be true.  And you are ready for it.  Seriously, you are.  Start right there. That's what every powerful woman I know has done.  Because the voices within you already know everything. But they can't work with you until you are willing to START KNOWING, too. OK? I love you. Smiley face. Let's do this. ONWARD, LG   See post on her facebook here.       RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]       

"It's now or never." When I heard these words come out of her mouth, I said YES! Want to know who I was talking about? You will have to listen to today's episode.    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]     

Peace and contentment come from within, and it's possible to create this feeling during the holiday season.  During this podcast episode, I talk about...  The difference between feeling pressure and feeling angry.  Specific questions to ask yourself about the type of holiday experience you want to create.    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]     

Give yourself permission to hustle, push, push, push, thrive but also let yourself BE with what's ALIVE within you.  In this episode, I talk about the power of nature.  The calmness of water.  The POWER of water. The importance of knowing how to use your power to get what to want when you need it.  RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]

“How many of us stop short of success on purpose? How many of us sabotage our own happiness because failure, while miserable, is a fear we're familiar with? Success, however, dreams come true, are a whole new kind of terrifying, an entire new species of responsibilities and disillusions, requiring a new way to think, act and become. Why do we REALLY quit? Because it's hopeless? Or because it's possible...”  ― Jennifer DeLucy   RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]   

    " Your children express genetically whatever you repress. The purpose is to make sure that whatever you disown in your life, you attract into your life to learn how to own it so that you can be whole.   Your children are designed to have a different set of values than you. You genetically gave it to them and their job is to make sure that any part of you that you haven’t loved and haven’t owned, they are going to push the button until you love it because you are going to love them no matter what and you have to learn to love that part of you that you ignored.   So they are not here to be taught by you anymore than they are here to teach you. When you feel your buttons being pushed either by their actions or inactions; instead of reacting, reflect on the benefits of their traits to you and see how these actions or inactions serve you."  Dr. John Demartini    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]     

Your mind will convince you; you can't do something if you don't want to do it.  Your mind will convince you; you CAN do something if you WANT to do it. This is the power of intention.  In today's episode, I talk about thinking less and taking action as a strategy to get what you want in life and parenting.  It's easy to over-think things.  But the magic happens when we take action.    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]    FREE ONLINE CONSCIOUS MOTHERHOOD SUMMIT: Join here.

During today's episode, I talk to Anne-Marie Fortner. Anne Marie Fortner is the co-founder of www.sunandsoulretreats.com and an avid adventurist.  During this call, Anne-Marie talks about the adventure she is currently on and where it's taking her.  She also openly talks about the fears are coming up during this process and what she's doing to make sure they aren't running the show.    Previous Episodes with Anne Marie Episode 65: CLICK HERE TO LISTEN.     RESOURCES: Apply today - for the group coaching program. Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level. Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com   Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]  

Life will gift you contrast when you least expect it. Listening to the signs and symptoms of your body, mind, and soul will give you the freedom to feel the way you want to feel.    In today's episode, I talk about... Taking action without expectation.  Trusting the process of your evolution.  And knowing the difference between growth and stagnant.    CHALLENGE Q Of The Day: Are you growing or have you become stagnant? What action are you taking to shift how you want to feel?    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]     

On today's episode, I talk about my favorite Bryon Katie saying, "we teach people how to teach us." and how you can start to feel in alignment in your relationships (including parenting).  What does this mean? Boundaries.  Healthy, happy people, have healthy boundaries and often this is a skill that doesn't come naturally to most.    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]  

I've challenged myself to podcast for 30 days. Taking you behind the scenes of what it truly looks like to live, work, play, and parent from a place of ease.  There is a big difference between struggle and challenge.  On today's episode, I talk about the importance of retreats. Creating the space for yourself to grow and living the life you were born to live.    RESOURCES:  Apply today - for the group coaching program.  Mom Is In Control Mastermind.   Take 2017 to the next level.  Greece Experience: www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a person Q? Email us at [email protected]   

" Push. Turn up the volume. Go hard. Go harder. Re-prioritize your aches and pains. Infuse your sensitivities with courage. Tell fear to fuck right the fuck off. Devote to Done. There are soul-justified reasons to cancel. There are times to stop.  This isn’t one of them. Keep going. Show up. Full on. Full tilt. Full out. Decide to be one of those people who pull it off. Do what you say you’re going to do. Don’t let us down.  Decide to rise." - Danielle Laporte    In this episode, I talk about...  Why fear is a good thing.  How to use it to fuel what you want.  How to listen in, lean in and turn things around.     Join us in GREECE we are now accepting applications.  www.sunandsoulretreats.com    Have a personal question? Email me [email protected]       

  What do Lobsters and growth have in common?  They cast their old shell when they feel pressure. They know when they are uncomfortable it's time to grow a new shell.    In today's episode, I talk the video that inspired today's episode and how you can use stress as a positive rather than a negative.    NEXT ROUND OF GROUP COACHING IS OPEN:  Click here to apply for the Mom Is In Control Mastermind.  www.heatherchauvin.com/miic    JOIN US IN GREECE: SUN & SOUL RETREAT  Click here for details    JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP.  Click here to join.

Communication in my eyes in the #1 still needed to master relationships.  Personal or business, every human we come into contact with we have a relationship with.    In this episode, I talk about a situation that left me feeling 'gross' and how I turned it around without losing control.  I also talk about how you can start creating more freedom in your communication during uncomfortable conversations.      Soul Elite Coaching Experience Apply today: www.heatherchauvin.com/takebackcontrol    Now accepting applications for the Mom Is In Control Group Mastermind.  www.heatherchauvin.com/miic 

We did it! First annual THRIVE conference was a huge success. Women from all over came to shift how they live collectively, work, play, and parent.    In this episode, I openly talk about my personal journey while creating this event and how it unfolded.    Enjoy!     

Have you ever wondered why some of your child's behaviors trigger you while others do not?  In this episode, I talk about the importance of understanding TRIGGERS.  Finding the deeper story we are telling ourselves about the behavior and learning how to positivity cope and heal these stories.    FREE WEBINAR: LIVE Q&A Why Won't My Child Listen To Me?  Understanding your child's behavior on a whole new level.  Register here: www.webinar.heatherchauvin.com 

Your child isn't intentionally trying to piss you off.  Your child's emotional health is NOT your fault. We have to stop blaming ourselves for everything that happens to our children.  Parenting is an opportunity to coach/lead and guide our children to become better people.  Now is the time to do just that.    In today's episode, I talk about...  * How your child's behavior is TELLING you something.  * Why it's important that you understand your emotions before telling your child how to manage their own.  * Knowing the difference between visualizing what kind of parent you want to be and taking ACTION on the type of parent you want to be.    TODAY'S IN CONTROL ACTIONS  1) FREE WEBINAR: "Why Won't My Child Listen To Me?" Understanding your child's behavior on a whole new level.  REGISTER HERE.  2) Send in your questions - regarding understanding what your child's behavior is telling you. Email [email protected] and I will do my best to answer your questions LIVE on Thursday's webinar.     

There is something the self-help industry tries to avoid telling you. It's that growth is painful, it's comfortable, and there is a process that unfolds when you let it go and trust the process.   In this episode, I talk about...   The recent flood that entered my home.   How I dealt with my own epic adult meltdown.  The natural process that unfolds as change enters your life.    Take the FREE Mom Is In Control Challenge.  Click here to join.   Join the private Facebook Group.  Click here to join.   If you have any personal questions you can email me directly at [email protected]   

In this episode, I talk about energetic responsibilities and the difference between LIFTING someone vs. CARRYING them.    How do you hold someone energetically responsible for their life? You see them struggling what do you do?    It’s not about doing the work for our children and others; it’s about guiding them to learn how to do the work for themselves.      PERSONAL REFLECTION CHALLENGE FOR THE DAY   Where are you trying to lift people up and where are you trying to carry people?    ++++++   UPCOMING EVENTS:    THRIVE Women's Conference    www.heatherchauvin.com/thrive    PROMO CODE: PODCAST $20 off your ticket.        TAKE THE FREE TIME FREEDOM CHALLENGE   www.timefreedom.heatherchauvin.com        WIN 2 FREE TICKETS TO THE THRIVE WOMEN’S CONFERENCE    How to qualify    Step 1: Go to Facebook Fan Page www.facebook.com/heatherchauvincoaching  Step 2:  Share the GIVEAWAY post on your own Facebook.  Step 3: Send an email to [email protected]  with a short (less than 100 words) paragraph of why you would like to attend THRIVE Women's Conference.  GIVEAWAY QUALIFIER ENDS OCTOBER 7th at midnight EST.  Tickets CAN be gifted to someone else as gifts. We have a waitlist of women.