This week we're sharing advice on:    Update: Unstable stepmom trying to poison fiance's dad Boyfriend meeting with other girls on his days off Long-distance boyfriend delaying coming home Dating a friend's ex Don't Blame Them: choosing a career   Change the name of Sir Francis Drake High School: https://www.change.org/p/tamalpais-union-high-school-district-board-of-trustees-change-sir-francis-drake-high-school-s-name   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Call 1: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I am twenty-three. I am a Cancer, gross, I know. My boyfriend is a Sagittarius, we're in a pretty new relationship. We've only been together for four months. So everything's been pretty good so far, but there is one issue that I have. Um, so I'll give you some background. He works really long shifts like eleven, twelve hours. So usually when we hang out it's him getting off of work at 11, midnight, him coming over we watch a movie or something and go to sleep which I understand because of his work schedule. Um, he does get two days off during the week. And so my issue is that in the four months we've been dating, we've probably hung out during the day like when the sun is out like maybe four times. We've probably got on like to quote unquote dates and it didn't really bother me at first but I kind of been thinking about it and on his days off I try to make plans with him, but he's usually got something else going on and it usually involves hanging out with another girl. He has a lot of friends that are girls and that's something that I knew from the beginning and it didn't really bother me because I trust him, but like for example the other night he went and smoked with this girl and they kinda just got outside and like watched the sunset for like four hours and it kind of just honestly made me like jealous that he's making those plans, type of plans with other girl, but when I try to make plans like that with him, he's always busy and it's like every time he has a day off he's doing something like that, another example he went and got like coffee and sat in a park with a girl for like an entire afternoon, and I brought it up to him, and he always says that he's going to make more effort to hang out with me during the day, but he never really does and I don't know how else to bring it up to him or what else to say, or if I'm just being crazy. So any advice would be appreciated. Thank you. I love you guys. Bye.   Call 2: Hi Meghan, Melisa, and anybody else who is listening, I am calling hoping to get an honest opinion on whether I am being unreasonable with my boyfriend. We're both 27 we've been together for five years, and we've been long distance for 4 and 1/2 of those years because his job requires him to be out of state, he needs experience that he can only get in certain places and I can't follow him or move with him, I have a steady job where we live and family to take care of here so me moving around with him has not been an option so we've just made it work long-distance. Lately because of the coronavirus, things have been kind of up in the air and he promised me in the beginning of this past year so the beginning of 2020 that he would for sure be home permanently by December / January of 2021 but then the virus happened and he didn't get the experience that he needed, couldn't get the experience that he needed, so now he's considering going back from January to May of 2021. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable by asking him not to do that I know that he made the promise not knowing obviously what would happen with coronavirus but I feel like I've put in my time you know being supportive of him, needing this experience and there's also no guarantee with the virus that he'll be able to get it then anyway so I just don't know if I'm being unreasonable he is very confident that he's going to get the experience and the money that he needs to start our life together, we talk about that all the time, we talk about how much fun we would have being married and raising kids and we agree on all of those fundamentals we want the same things but my timeline just looks a little bit different than his and I'm naturally an impatient person to begin with so ultimately I just want to hear somebody else's thoughts and feelings it has been a long road and I would hate to give up on a good guy but I also would hate to be waiting around forever so thank you so much in advance for any help that you can give I hope I gave enough detail but also a bonus points Meghan if you can guess my astrological sign and I promise I will call back and tell you if you were right and give you an update if I can get advice thank you so much!   Call 3: Hi Meghan and Melisa. I'm twenty years old going into my sophomore year of college and I'm a Leo. I'm in a bit of a pickle right now because one of my best friends from high school, we we reconnected over this past summer is she has dated this past guy who I'm actually still friends with but I've been kind of juggling these two friendships at the same time not to mention they dated about two years ago for about almost a year and broke up about a year ago. So it's been kind of a really messed up situation because basically I have become interested in this guy. He showed an interest in me and I had kind of tried to make sure that I didn't have any feelings for him because I didn't want to mess with my friendship with this girl, but he showed an interest and now we've opened up these weird feelings for each other and he asked me whether or not I'd be interested in like a friend with benefits kind of situation and not knowing really what to do at all. I decided to reach out to my friend and ask her because I'm a really honest person. I'm a really honest communicator. She's a Taurus by the way. He is a Pisces if that matters at all and basically I just wanted to have open communication with her and talk through it because I didn't want to hurt our friendship. And so I laid it all out on the line and she gave me the green light to go but and then she started to kind of flip that story and get a little bit angry at me later with other friends kind of reaching out getting a little bit angry and where it stands now is essentially I have realized I have had feelings for this guy and he has feelings for me, but I still don't want to mess up my friendship with this girl. So, my consciousness is telling me not to go for it, but my feelings are involved and so it's making it really hard to kind of decide what to do here. If I should definitely not date him cuz I don't want to mess with my friendship with her or if it's really too far at this point, and I've already messed with my friendship with her if I should just explore this because I do have feelings. So any help would be really appreciated. Please. I need to get out of this pickle. Thank you.   Call 4: Hello, Meghan, Melisa and potential guest. I'm needing some advice on how to handle a situation with my fiance. We've been together for three years and just the other - well, I guess it's been about three weeks now, he's been having symptoms of what I thought was a UTI but um, I guess it's not, he went to get tested for an STD and for UTI or whatever his results have come back that he doesn't have a UTI so his other results haven't come back yet, but he's pretty certain that it's going to be an STD. I have not been with anybody else in three years, he swears he hasn't either and I definitely believe it by the way he is acting towards me being accusatory that I've done something telling me that I'm going to take a polygraph test if it comes back positive for an STD and I've done a lot of research and I have seen where if you have had an STD before it could be lying dormant in your body and come back. I did have chlamydia before, my ex boyfriend gave it to me about four years ago and we went to get treatment but we never went to get back - we never went back to get retested. So is this a possibility that it could have came back and I could have now infected him? I had an ectopic pregnancy about two years ago. And I have through my research discovered that if you have pelvic inflammatory disease or you do have an STD that that could happen. So I'm obviously going to get tested as well go to the doctor and everything, but as far as reassuring my fiance that I haven't done anything and you know getting through this difficult time, what advice do you have for me? Because I don't want it to take a toll on our relationship. I don't want there to be any trust issues even though there is now. I just don't know what to do and then taking a polygraph test is crazy and I have anxiety. So I do worry about failing that even though I'm not guilty. I haven't done anything wrong. So I don't know. I just the only thing I can figure is that he I gave it to him. But because he did get tested two months after we were together though, and he was negative for STDs. So how could he get the negative after we slept together and then gotten it three years later and be positive. I just don't know. So any advice would be appreciated. Thank you so much.   Don't Blame Them: Hi, I'm calling for Don't Blame Them and this is in regards to the girl who, she currently works in the political office and she is interested in social media. However, she is considering a career in nursing and I just thought I can relate to this because I mean unlike her I don't have my bachelor's in political science or something in that range, but I did study political science for a year and I'm very interested in it. But I just realized my true passion was nursing and while nursing is a more stable job, everyone just assumes that nursing is just working at the bedside and working in a hospital all day every day, but that's not true, if she's looking for really great benefits and where I think that she can use her other degree in is public health. So public health nurses basically would go out into the community. And especially with her human and family development degree that she got I think that will really benefit and most of the public health departments. They work Monday to Friday nine-to-five  and they have state benefits because it's actually a state job so that would get great insurance. So I don't encourage her that, you know, although it's not her passion. She can definitely find a way to make it passionate for her. She can also get into policy-making which if you study as a BSN, you will take a policy development class and kind of learn the steps to see if you're interested in that as well. And you know, that's just my life to go for it. If you want to go for go for it. If you don't it's totally fine. Just do what makes you happy, but just know that if you are going to be a nurse, you don't have to be stuck in the hospital all day. All right that's it, bye! Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. 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This week we're sharing advice on:    Update: Telling sex stories Dating based on astrology Telling someone your real age Liking a man when you're gay Working at a kind-of strip club Don't Blame Them: Telling sex stories   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Call 1: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I thought of you both to ask this question because I know that sometimes you reference astrology. There is this a dating app it's called like Nuit something like that, but I've been utilizing it cuz I'm into astrology and I met this guy we'll name him Jerry and we got in a 92 in romance. It's basically like gives numerical amount to your synastry connections like if your entire birth chart, so we got a 92. To me, that means that we are meant to be, right? But he's really really dragging his feet on things. I'm an Aries, I'm Venus in Aries so I'm very impatient and we like spent a lot of time in messages, but he doesn't want to meet up like he keeps blaming it on, you know, social distancing which I totally understand but it's like where we live our city we're out of the zone where we're able to like meet up so I don't really get it, I'm having a hard time like moving on cuz normally I'm an Aries that's like if you know if it's not like going anywhere I'm totally done with it but like our charts are so so compatible. So I like lowkey feel like he's the one so I just I'm looking for some advice like you think that he would just make that an excuse like he still messages me all the time or should I just move on even though our stars are aligned and we're literally meant to be. I don't know why he's not recognizing it - a 92 for god's sake. But anyways, appreciate any insight you can give, love the pod, have a beautiful day.   Call 2: Hey guys. I'm calling in for some kind of relationship advice. It's kind of just a sticky situation I got myself in. So me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now. And when I met him, I told him I was a year older than I actually was. Not because for any specific reason like we just were friends at first, but always told people that I'm a year older than I actually am cuz my birthday is like late, just according to like the school months and I met him when we were in school. So yeah, I told him I was a year older than I actually was and we're we've been dating for two years. So I've only had one birthday like just like with him of that make sense and we're long distance right now. So I didn't have to worry about it like cuz I had forgotten like he thought I was a year older but this birthday coming up I remembered again and I realized like, oh shoot. I need to tell him because when I turn of age or twenty-one, I think that's of age like I'm sure he's going to want to do something like something like that I actually have to be 21 for and I feel really secure in our relationship, but I'm still like like I'm just really like I don't know how to bring it up. Okay, I don't know. I feel like that's kind of like a big confession type of thing. But yeah, I'm a Leo. He's a Taurus. Yeah, we are long-distance again, but I know it was kind of fucked for me to do in the first place and like I acknowledge that and I made a huge mistake. Well, not a huge one, but it's just kind of like a stupid one. Anyways, if you guys have any advice for me, I would love to hear it. Thank you guys.   Call 3: Hi friends. I just wanted to call and say one: I love your podcast. I listen to it on all my road-trips. But I was calling cuz I have a little bit of a predicament. So I'm I've always I'm gay. I've always identified as gay since I was like probably fifteen years old. I came out as gay to my super religious family that had kind of a hard time with it. And so like it took them awhile to accept me, but eventually they came around and it was like a thing that made us stronger or whatever. But recently, I've been kind of requestioning my sexuality. I have been kind of curious about boys because there is this guy that I met on OK Cupid and he has like all the qualities of someone that I would like he's, you know a Hufflepuff which is really important me, he's a Libra he's an ENFJ, I think I don't know I know he's ENF something. I'm an Aries. And I love Libras. Like I love Libras. They always crush my heart but I love them and we get along really well and he wants to have sex but I'm really really worried because I've never had sex with a man, and I'm just really confused and just concerned cuz I do have some - I do have some trauma with like men, not really a big fan. So I'm worried it like we're going to try and during I'm going to like freak out on him and it's going to be a whole big thing but I just I don't know what to do. I'm so confused. I'm worried that if I do like him I'm going to have to re-come out to my parents and be like "Hi parents, remember, when, remember I told you that I was gay surprise, there's a man I like is it was all for nothing and they're going to feel emotional and I'm just really concerned. So if you could help me that would be great. Cuz I really don't know what to do. Anyway, like I said love your show. Love you all. I'm like I said, I'm an Aries. He's a Libra. Yeah, I hope you can help me bye.   Call 4: Hey you guys so I'm in a bit of a pickle. I'm trying to cut this down short cuz I sent a phone call but it was too long. Anyways, I've been with my boyfriend for over a little over three years. I'm a Leo. He's a Sagittarius. I've known him practically my whole life ever since elementary school and me and his mom were super super close, literally talked almost every day. I visit her at work, we would go to on dinner dates together. She I like saw her as one of my friends not my boyfriend's mom. Well, I used to work at this type of establishment. It was kind of like a strip club but not really but we did dress like strippers but we didn't dance but it was also partial nudity and we kept it a secret and she somehow found out that I worked at that type of establishment and she also found out what I was wearing and when she brought it up to my boyfriend, he was super embarrassed and he got really mad at me and I was really confused. Cause I was like you gave me permission to you know work at this job. I asked you if you were okay with it. He said yes, I was like, okay cool. If he wasn't okay with it, I totally would have left cuz I don't have any problem with that. Anyways, she found out and it's been it was really really awkward. It also was on that the first week of shelter in place here in California, and I haven't talked to her for months and then just one day I decided to reach out and like hey, like I know you know where I used to work at, if you want to talk like I'm really sorry. I just feel super awkward about this situation and then she ended up texting back like hey, we don't have to talk about it if you don't want to but I responded, but I feel like I need to because I'm dating your son and it was really awkward and she was like, okay, like we'll talk about it soon like see you soon, and it's been months since I have last seen her and she never texted me back. So what do I do? I want to reach out and like rekindle our relationship because I'm literally planning on like having kids with this man and marrying this man and we live together and have lived together for like two years. So please if you have any advice on how to reach out if I should reach out if I should not reach out. What do I do? Thanks guys, love the podcast bye.   Call 5: Hi Megan, I'm calling in I am in my twenties and I just wanted to get some advice on a current situation that I'm in. So I was friends with this girl who I know through. I don't want to give too much detail, but I I basically know this girl and I've been friends with her for a while and we got really close like the kind of close where like you share really personal information that sort of thing. Well, I started getting more information from like like who she is and like what types of stuff she follows through one of her social media accounts. and turns out she's basically a closeted Trump supporter did not know that about her. I am the literal polar opposite. I hate him with like every fiber of my being and he completely offends me. So I just I guess I'm asking for advice on A: how to handle the fact that due to how I know this person, I can't avoid them, but also like this is like the second person that I've gotten close to who I you know liked as like, you know, like a person in my life and gotten really like gotten along well with them and they've ended up being a Trump supporter and I just I I guess I'm asking for like, how do I find these red flags? Like why am I not seeing them? I'm I am so anti-Trump. Like I am so actively anti-Trump and like I am all the thing against him because he's so terrible and like as a woman like I just I I can't fathom anyone supporting him like wholeheartedly and I just how do I find these red flags cuz like I'm really struggling. Any advice you have would be great. Thank you.   Don't Blame Them: Hi ladies, so I am calling about the last episode where the girl had her boyfriend asking to tell him about like previous sex partners and stuff. So I my boyfriend actually likes the same thing and I used to be really uncomfortable with it too but how I figured out that like it was more comfortable for me is like I was kind of like do it like while we were having sex and like let's say like he's hitting it from the back. I'd be like, oh my gosh, like I loved when Josh did it like that and he fucked me like so hard, you know what I mean? I'm kind of bring it up like that and kind of like make him excited or just kind of be like, oh like so-and-so did it like this and it felt so good good like not exactly like, oh one day like on a Wednesday, so and so they like the so that just kind of like made it easier for me and then you know, you kind of get more comfortable with it after doing it so many times. So that's just my advice to her. Thank you guys. Have a great day. Bye. Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. 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This week we're sharing advice on:    Boyfriend texting his ex Friend accusing you of cheating How to get over your ex Dealing with a boyfriend's girl best friend Don't Blame Them: Boredom in quarantine   If you want to read the call transcriptions, see the bottom of these notes!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Call 1: Hi Meghan and guest, so my boyfriend and I have been together for about five months, but I'm having a problem with his ex. They broke up four years ago and they are still in constant communication like they probably talk every week or so. In the beginning he would get really emotional about her and kind of talk about like how much she hurt him because she actually cheated on him and that's why they ended things. So eventually after like him talking about it for such a long time, I told him that he had to stop talking about her to me because it hurt me and it just like makes me feel uncomfortable and he was like, "yeah, that's fine whatever," but it's still just like bothering me that he talks to her so much. He says that they just send each other memes and that it's nothing serious, but it feels really disrespectful. I've talked to him many times about how uncomfortable it makes me and cried about it actually and I just haven't asked him to stop talking to her completely cause I don't want to be that girlfriend, but I definitely hinted at him maybe possibly doing that. But he just like take that hint. His ex actually lives across the country, so I'm not really worried about him cheating, but I have doubts that he's ever going to like really get over her even if he says that he's over it. I love him and I can see a future with him, but it sucks. So any advice would help, is this a dealbreaker? Should I ask him to cut her off completely? I'm not really sure but any advice would help. Thanks guys.   Call 2: Hi guys, first off just saying I'm a huge fan, listen to the podcast all the time. Also, I didn't prepare, write anything down, or like go through this in my head. So sorry in advance. And also, I'm an Aries and I'm twenty-two. So anyway, I had this really good friend and I was being a good friend to her. We were hanging out all the time. She started getting toxic in my life. So I dropped her, didn't really say much, just like told her I didn't want to hang out, just like that like blew off plans, didn't reply, just tried to give like a subtle hint and then I found out that she had admitted to being in love with my husband. So I maturely texted her and said "I don't want to be friends with you anymore. It just, I'm not getting anything out of the friendship anymore." And then I just blocked her. Well, one of my friends randomly added her on Snapchat and Facebook and she goes on to tell my friend that I've cheated on my husband and slept with one of his best friends and that I'm a horrible person, that I talked all this crap about everybody, which is why we're not friends and the reason we're not friends because I randomly blocked her on everything and then she went on, within the same hour, to add my husband on Snapchat. So I was there I said, "please please add her, I want to see what she has to say." And he said "I don't want to like add fuel to the fire, I just don't want to entertain this" and I said, "I just want to see what she has to say." So he added her off and she told him the same stories that I had slept with one of his friends, but she named him and he told her "I don't care who my wife sleeps with, leave me alone" and then blocked her. I don't believe that she believes that was him. She probably thinks that that was me. But all my friends are telling me I need to go beat her ass or confront her. My mother-in-law is telling me I need to confront her and I'm just at the place where I don't think I need to because I'm going to just be giving her what she wants but I wanted an unbiased opinion on if you think I should confront her and what I should say, because it didn't really piss me off the fact that she said I cheated or anything. It was just the fact that she said I was a bad person and a bad friend because I was the complete opposite to the friendship and ended the friendship very maturely and yeah, so anyways unbiased opinion on what you think I should do or if I should stay the bigger person. All right. Thanks guys bye.   Call 3: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I'm a twenty-year-old Virgo and I have a current situation that I could use some insight on, please don't judge me though. I'm a little sensitive. About a year ago, a year and half ago, me and my ex broke up but we continued a friendship like a few months after the break-up, but our friendship obviously turned into us hooking up 98% of the time and we kind of just act like a couple after we have sex and then through this time I was pretty aware of my place as in that I'm his ex and I tried to not get too caught up with my emotions. We've both been aware of the fact that we both still have feelings for each other but never really talked about it and I ended up hoarding so many questions in my mind but a few days ago, he called me to tell me that he's been talking to somebody for a few weeks. I don't really understand why he told me if he's only been talking to them for a few weeks, but I guess he might take it more serious than I assume. I remained pretty calm during the conversation, but then I eventually asked him all the questions that I was hoarding onto such as if he saw us getting back together in the future, if he still had feelings for me. He said yes to both of those. There are other questions too, but they're just too much to explain. He didn't say it word for word, but it kind of felt like he was saving me for later or something like that. But now I'm at the point where I need to kind of force myself to get over him but having that conversation made it super confusing. I don't really understand why he would want to start a relationship but still have feelings for me. I have a tendency also to get pretty depressed for a while when something makes me upset and I could really use some advice on getting over him while also trying to keep my mental health stabilized. I don't have many friends and with COVID it's definitely harder to make friends. I also don't have a therapist but have been thinking about getting one for a while. It just makes me uncomfortable because my parents are pretty judgmental about like mental health issues. But anyway, thank you for listening if you do listen or take my call bye!   Call 4: Hi Meghan, Melisa and potential guest, I'm calling in today to talk about my boyfriend. So for context we've been together for about three years now. Love him to death, great. In the last year, so something that's bugged me a lot which is that, so he doesn't have any social media apps besides Snapchat. He's just like he's always told me like "I'm not that kinda person, like I just don't have anything to post, like I just don't really care that much," which I've always respected because you know, like you keep off of this bump and yeah, so anyways in the last year, I've noticed that there is this burner instagram account that watches my Instagram story. It followed me in the past and I tried to follow it back and it wouldn't let me. I know for a fact that it's him because the people that it follows are people who he went to high school with, who I went to high school with, who he knew from his old hometown, so I know it's him. And I have brought it up to him a couple of times now and kind of been like, okay, like I think this is you and he denied it. So I'm frustrated because I know it is him and I don't care about him having social media, the thing is like I wouldn't care if he had a normal Instagram account and just you know followed all these people on that. However, the fact that it's like a secret and then it's like just a burner account makes me uncomfortable. I - ever since I brought it up to him, the last time, he has stopped using it and so it doesn't watch my stories anymore. So I know it's him, however, it really bugs me that he won't admit to it, because I just, you know, obviously there's something he's hiding then. Anyways, I'm just frustrated and I love him and I don't wanna believe he's doing anything bad on these accounts, however I'm sure you both will be like thinking otherwise, but I just want to get to the bottom of this. It really bugs me and yet I don't want to keep bringing it up just to have him keep denying it. So any advice would be much appreciated. I love you guys a lot and yeah, right. Thanks. Bye.   Call 5: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I'm a twenty-seven-year-old Capricorn in my first relationship. We met last November and fell pretty quickly for each other before he got into grad school at the end of the year across the country. We weren't sure if we were going to do long distance but the quarantine brought us closer together and we decided we could make it work especially since I can now work remotely or at least the fall semester at his place. That's not why I'm calling but it's part of it. I'm calling because I recently asked him a question I'm learning most people avoid. He once told me his ex who he did long distance with in college was always jealous of his friends that were girls and it finally occurred to me that maybe it was because something happened with one of them. After worrying for months who it could be, I finally just asked him flat out and he said it was one of his close friends that he talks to all the time. This was crushing for me because I know they're very close. She helped him through his break up with his ex and his depression. They had sex a few times the summer he and his ex broke up in college. He never cheated on her when they were together, but his ex couldn't get past it. His friend has had a boyfriend now for the past three years and they're very serious and won't live anywhere near my boyfriend when he moves. I know I can't punish him for something that happened five years ago, but I now feel extremely uncomfortable because he's been pushing a friendship with this girl and her boyfriend since we met. I did like her before I knew all this stuff, but now I can't stop thinking about them together and how much more she probably knows about him than me at this point. I know I can't tell him not to talk to her again. But every time I learn he has I feel like throwing up and my mood changes, I definitely can't handle being near her anytime soon. I just feel lied to and insecure. My experience before him was very little and I didn't keep any of those people in my life. He knows all this and has limited his contact with her at least while he's around me, which makes me feel horrible. My question is how do I not think about them together every free second I have? It's been a month, and I thought time would help. It comes the most when he's not around so I'm more nervous than ever about long-distance. I love him, and I trust him, but I can't seem to get over it. Thinking about it all the time makes me miserable, but I'd be even more miserable that ended things with someone I love over something that happened before me. Maybe I just need more time, but I'd appreciate any advice you can give. Thanks.   Don't Blame Them: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I am calling for Don't Blame Them for the episode from June 29th of this year. So I'm actually a therapist. Um, and I just have some thoughts on the girl who was calling about her girlfriend who drinks and smokes too much. So I really second everything you guys said, I thought that it was so on point, and I would you know echo that that's what that girl should do. I also wanted to add that it really perked my interest when the girlfriend said that she's bored and that's why she wants to use and I get it like it's quarantine and like there's nothing else to do and like everything just feels so bleak. So that's what that's how it goes back to your guys' advice of like sussing out what's going on, but I just wanted to throw out there that ADHD and substance abuse actually has a very strong correlation. For people who have ADHD, Meghan as you probably know, boredom can feel painful and it's not really talked about a lot but there is the strong correlation of people with ADHD using substances to cope with how painful boredom is and all the other things that come with ADHD. I also have ADHD so that's definitely something that I've experienced and can speak to as well as speaking to on a professional level. So she definitely should talk to a professional obviously that professional could help her in that way like if that is the scenario, but I just wanted to throw that out there especially if other people are experiencing that like if you just feel like you don't know what to do with yourself and you're not trying to cope with anything, but boredom just feels like painful and you're wanting to take that feeling away. It's just something to think about that it's not talked about as much as it should be. Thanks guys. Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Choosing a last name A friend changing Going through a abrupt break up Your stepdad dating after mom's passing Update: stripper cheating on two men   If you want to read the call transcriptions, see the bottom of these notes!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Call 1: Hi, Meghan and Melisa, I'm 23, my fiance's 24 and we've been together for four years. We just got engaged this month and one conversation would always come up for us, but especially now that we're engaged is what our last name is going to be when we get married. He likes his last name and I love it. It's how I met him, how I have always known him for the last four years. So it just seems simple that that will be our last name, but his mom wants him to change it because he has his dad's last name who's basically done nothing for him his entire life. This doesn't bother my fiance. He has a great relationship with his grandparents and his stepbrother on his dad's side. So that's his family too. But his mom thinks he should take her husband's name. So his stepdad, who came into his life when he was already like 12 and they have the most awkward non-relationship, but she thinks since she raised him and her husband has supported him financially and those are his other siblings last names. He should do this the irony is that his stepdad's family is even more problematic than his dad's family and I absolutely do not want to be associated with them. My thing is I feel like this is creating a problem that has never really been there because this has been his name for twenty-four years and it just has the potential to piss off way too many people I feel like for no reason. My fiance thinks it would be disrespectful to his grandparents and his brother on his dad's side, but his mom can't come to grips with her grandchildren potentially having the same last name as my fiance's dad. I really love his mom and we have a good relationship, but she's very emotionally invested in this topic, understandably, and I don't really know how to talk about it when it comes up cause she gets really heated about it, which I totally understand, especially because one of the main reasons I care is that I really don't like her husband and that's a totally different topic. I don't want to have his last name and I can't exactly tell her that. My fiance also loves his mom, and he has a hard time standing up to her, but he basically doesn't really care either way as long as he's not taking his step dad's last name, which is what his mom wants. I come from a very drama-free family so I'm not really sure how to act. I know that him taking my last name is an option, but my last name is really boring, and it's just not my favorite option and I do want to have the same last name as him. I just need advice on whether to just stop caring. How do I talk about it when she brings it up again? Any advice will help. Thanks. Bye.   Call 2: Dear Meghan and Melisa I hope you can understand me as English isn't my first language. I'm in my early thirties so naturally all my girlfriends have one, two, or three kids. I personally love kids but I don't want any for myself. Now my best friend has changed since she became a mom a few years ago which I guess is normal because my other friends have as well but hers is more extreme. She says she's finding herself, getting closer to her true self, and I've known her for 25 years and her finding herself is very far from the girl I know and love. This includes being a mom before anything else, she's considering anti-vaccining, sharing very stereotypical and cringey inspirational quotes with sunsets in the background on Facebook, and the newest addition is that institutions traumatize our children and to work around this, she has quit her job to stay with them full-time, which is also fine but her husband makes less than her so if this was truly for them I guess she would work and he would stay at home. I really suspect that this is about her more than the children. Her texts include very much me, I, myself, me me me. I've never commented on my friends' parenting even if I disagree with them because, well I'm not living their lives and I assume they make the right decisions and also the few times I have had an input I've been told that I won't know until I become a mom myself which I never will. So to this best friend, I've asked her how her husband is feeling cause she doesn't mention him in all of this. I would personally be upset if my partner one day announced that they quit their job to find themselves because it would also affect me. I would have to work harder, we would have to not go on holidays and so on. She replied, he has a hard time being the only provider, but I feel so relieved not working and I feel that I am getting closer to myself. So should I challenge her, what about her pension when she isn't working, she says they will have to take a huge loan, is he the only one who's going to pay off a shared loan? I used to help children who had eating disorders and a lot of them actually had their self-harming problems because they were all their parents had, they didn't care about their jobs, they didn't see their friends, they didn't have any hobbies, so they put all the responsibility of their happiness on their children. Is it a good friend move to confront her about these things, including that she might be pushing her husband away or is this me being selfish and missing the friend I used to have instead of accepting the choices she's making now? Can I put a friendship on hold? What do I do?    Call 3: Hi Meghan and Melisa, love the podcast so I'm 25, I'm an Aries and I need your guys's advice or words of wisdom whatever, because I got myself into a situation that is pretty annoying to me right now. So about a month ago I started dating or seeing (I don't know) one of my closest and oldest guy friends so we've known each other for about 20 years now and it's always been a little flirty, over the past couple months at least, and I know that when we were like 15 or so he had like a crush on me and asked me out but back then I just didn't understand or get it I don't know I was young and naive but so about a month ago I went camping with his family actually and the weekend after that we both got super drunk and then had sex and after that it kind of just rolled into this whole thing where we now basically see each other at like at least three times a week, I always sleep over at his house, we also hang out during the day, it's always super fun, we laugh a lot, I've met his friends that are like outside of our friend group, and apparently like the guys and even his girl best friend like me, like he told me that. Yeah it's just like overall a good time and it's pretty much like he would always text me like a good morning and good night texts and he told me that he really likes me and thinks I'm funny and all that and everything would turn into like kind of relationship if he was not in love with his coworker who is actually in a lesbian relationship though, and so she's been in this relationship for I think three years and she says that she's still in love with her girlfriend but she'll also like text my guy all the time and just like flirt with him and talk about all of these super personal intimate things and so now he's like or has been apparently for years for a couple years super in love with her and totally thinks that she's the girl for him even though she day by day chooses her girlfriend over him right, and so all of his actual friends and like his girl best friend like they all don't like her, we all think that she's just like not a nice person for playing both of them, like my guy and the girlfriend, but now I'm seeing him and it's super weird, because I think I'm honestly starting to really really like him and I just don't know what to do, so please help me.   Call 4: Hi, I just called but it was kind of a messy call so I 'm going to try it again. So I am 21 in this situation and my ex is 22 and we're both Aries. So what happened was that last week he broke up with me on Friday. It has now been three days later. I'm very much still mourning and grieving but the issue is that all happened out of nowhere and I'm struggling to believe his reasonings for the break up. So the entire time last week, everything was completely normal. There were so many I love yous and verbal affirmations and heart emojis, even the day before everything had happened where he broke up with me. I sent him like "Hey, I'm really looking forward to seeing you tomorrow, it's going to be so fun you know hanging out again" and he was like, "yeah, likewise, of course" and even the night before it, like we always text each other goodbye or sorry not goodbye, good night, and he sent me a voice memo and he said I love you like two times in it and it was just a very like sweet and cute voice memo so I kept it. And the next day rolls around and it's a very normal day again, you know, nothing much to comment on there and what I realize happening was that yeah. I was just, sorry. I was just getting ready and everything and he was at the gym and out of nowhere it's like, "Hey, can I stop by your house really quick?" And I was like "sure, but why" and he said "it was better to be said in person and I'll be there in 20 minutes." So I had twenty minutes to shift my perspective from, yo, this guy could be the one that like I can marry, I could definitely see a future with this guy. We've been working toward the future, we have that common goal and he comes over, he breaks up with me and his reasoning was that he doesn't love me anymore and I'm struggling to believe that, because every part of his behavior said that he loves me still, like I asked him if that's true, like why were you giving me so many verbal affirmations? Why were we making plans for the future? I was supposed to be hanging out with him this week, it was his plan and he just told me that he was, it was all a lie and he was just breaking down and sobbing and I'm sorry. I just really have a hard time believing his reasoning. And I guess I would just like you guys to tell me about what you think of all of this because it truly did come out of nowhere and even towards the bitter end to him and I were just hugging and laughing and at one point I kissed his cheek and he just smiled back at me and we were holding hands and I kissed his hand and he kissed mine and I asked him how much how much of the relationship was real and he said all of it, so very clearly my issue here, is that it just it seems he seems so conflicted. So I guess I'm looking for guidance. I know that you guys can't read his mind. But what do you think is going to happen with him?   Call 5: Hi Meghan and Melisa, I'm trying to keep this short without sparing any like big details but basically so my mom passed away a year ago last July and we just hit a year, and I'm an immigrant. She was an immigrant and I currently am living with my stepdad, the man who she married to come move here. We moved out of the house that we lived in with my mom and we are living in a duplex while he's building a house. So, you know, he gave me a room there, all that kind of stuff whatever anyways, for reference. I'm Twenty-One and he's in his fifties. So I started realizing last night. He was like, oh I'm just going to like go out or whatever and he was all dressed up and he left at like 3 and he didn't come back until like 10:30, which is strange and I was texting my boyfriend and he was like, well, maybe it's a work dinner thing and I'm like, no, like he's not a late-night person whatever and then today I was with a friend and we were leaving the house and he like changed his clothes and he's like, you know, just going to go drop off the rent check, I was like, okay, well like he'll be back home when I get back home cuz we were going shopping to get a swimsuit anyways, and I've been back home for 3 hours now and he is not here. And so I feel like he's starting to date again. I don't really know how I feel about it. Like we're not very close. So if he were to just like seriously start dating, I don't know like where I would go or what I would do or what my relationship with his family would be like because I'm closer to some of his family members than I am him and like a few weeks ago, he asked me to take pictures of him for his mom, which is like really weird. He got like dressed up and like got on his bike cuz he likes cycling and stuff. You know again, I'm just saying I asked his mom and she didn't know of anything and I'm putting it out all together and he's definitely dating again. I don't know if  like if this is normal to feel like I'm mad at him, because I feel like this is so fucking awful. But I feel like he should still be like grieving and not dating, and like I was at my boyfriend's house. I came back and my bedroom door was closed, all the little things that I had left out in the living room and stuff, were just thrown on my bed. So he obviously had people over and like he doesn't have any friends by the way, so it's not like he had like a party. I don't really know what I'm asking for. I guess I just want to know like is this normal and if other people have dealt with it and like what to do because he hasn't said anything about it and people keep telling you to bring it up. But like I said, we're very close so it's kind of uncomfortable. Yeah, it's weird and I'd like to go on a road trip with him to help his oldest daughter who is like 24, move out of her apartment, and it's just like uncomfortable. I don't know. Please help me. Okay. Thanks. Love you guys bye.   Update: Hi guys, this is an update. I'm calling back from the episode - I don't know the like seasons or the episode numbers cause I don't see them anymore - but it was just the latest episode that is titled "my boyfriend is jealous of my sex toy". I'm the girl who was cheating on these two guys, one of them being my my boyfriend living in Hawaii, the other one being my fuck-buddy living in California. I also live in California so yea Melisa was right, I do travel from LA to Hawaii. It is a quick flight. Anyway, I have a great update, some great news for you guys. I am in therapy and my therapist and I have discussed all of these things and worked all these things out and I realized that I wasn't being aware of my own cheating and I just thought it was okay and dismissful because these other two men were cheating on me too, and I realized that that's not fucking okay, and so I completely blocked my fuckbuddy on everything. We do not speak anymore and me and my boyfriend - I decided to give that a real and genuine shot. So I aired out all my dirty laundry to him and worked through that and he has accepted that because he also made mistakes in the past and we are working to have a healthy relationship. I know that you guys told me to either have an open relationship or to break up with both of them, but I didn't see the podcast until today. So that is what has happened. Things are going really really good with me and my boyfriend right now. I have been completely faithful to him. And from what I know, he's been completely faithful to me and the trust issues are getting patched and everything seems to be going great. So yeah therapy is the answer, is the lesson learned here. Therapy is always the answer. Please do it. It's saved me so much heartache, so much headache, everything. It's amazing and I love you guys. Thank you for the advice. I love you bye. Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Choosing a career Discerning biphobia Wanting to get married Supporting strangers online Update: boyfriend wants a polyamorous relationship   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Making friends Differing hobbies in a relationship Boyfriend won't wear a condom How to tell if a guy is into you Update: boyfriend calling you fat   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Getting ghosted by dates Not being ready to move in together Living with your boyfriend's mom Dating with a pelvic floor condition Don't Blame Them: talking with teens about sex   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Best friend ghosting you Friend backing out of living together Pandemic dating Dating as a demisexual Update: Boyfriend's ex threatened to kill me   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Telling dirty stories in bed Having trouble with penetrative sex Boyfriend needing to add a third person to the relationship Dealing with an unstable stepmom Don't Blame Them: boyfriend gaining weight   Never Sleep Alone Call Dr. Alex at 646-484-9371 and be part of the NSA Podcast! https://www.neversleepalone.com/nsa-podcast   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa @sheisnotmelissa on Twitter: https://twitter.com/SheIsNotMelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Roommate acting like you're a couple Feeling inferior to others Fiance getting someone else pregnant How to navigate two guys at once Update: best friend used me to cheat on her husband   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Being asked to be a bridesmaid when you don't want to Saying no Partner identifying as gender-fluid Boyfriend not initiating activities Don't Blame Them: supporting friends in a toxic relationship   Subscribe to the new Don't Blame Me YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Dating someone whose stepbrother is your uncle Friends not actively supporting Black Lives Matter People thinking you're spoiled Mom wanting to move in Update to a Don't Blame Them: dating a momma's boy   Subscribe to the new Don't Blame Me YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out the YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/ Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trigger Warning: Negative Body Talk - Call 1   This week we're sharing advice on:    Boyfriend gaining weight Telling your boyfriend's sister you don't have sex Being concerned your boyfriend is overmedicated Bad tasting cum Don't Blame Them: boyfriend playing too many video games   Subscribe to the new Don't Blame Me YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SMwL3ZgCUsD-yIDU_Zsqg/featured   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Why your conversation went dry Girlfriend smokes and drinks too much Girlfriend getting a culturally-inappropriate tattoo Supporting a friend in a toxic relationship Don't Blame Them: having a senior boyfriend   Never Sleep Alone (Melisa's second newest podcast!): If you've got a question about sex or dating, call Dr. Alex at 646-484-9371 and be part of the NSA Podcast. All callers remain anonymous, and no topic is off the table.   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Boyfriend talking to a teacher Boyfriend checking in on his ex Boyfriend texting escorts Talking dirty to your husband Update: Coma   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Dealing with your racist friend Knowing if a guy is genuine Being stuck in the middle of a fighting family members Wishing your boyfriend would spend more time with you Update from the caller that dated her friend's ex Threads of Black Owned Businesses to Help: https://twitter.com/hopewrlds/status/... https://twitter.com/jadealycebod/stat...   If You're Not an Ally, You're an Enemy: https://www.instagram.com/p/CAvvLskDapa/   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

DISCLAIMER: This episode is pre-recorded and has no discussion of current events. To our Black listeners: there is no potentially triggering race content in this episode. To our white & non-Black listeners: here is a resource doc made by twitter user @botanicaldyke on countless ways to help the cause https://bit.ly/3doDFXB    Threads of Black Owned Businesses to Help: https://twitter.com/hopewrlds/status/... https://twitter.com/jadealycebod/stat...   If You're Not an Ally, You're an Enemy: https://www.instagram.com/p/CAvvLskDapa/   This week we're sharing advice on:    Public image of your relationship Anxious about starting college online Coming out as Asexual Sleeping with every guy on the first date Update from the caller that met a 35-year-old man on a cruise when she was 16   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Season 6! This week we're sharing advice on:    Being pressured to marry so you can financially take care of your boyfriend's family Big man (douche) on campus doesn't want people to know he's dating an underclassman Only fantasizing about exes when you're having sex with your boyfriend Don't Blame Them: Getting involved with your girlfriend's husband Update from the caller who was pregnant by her stepbrother   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Not getting along with your quarantine roommate Hiding a green card marriage Telling your partner you don't want to have kids Boyfriend having pictures of your little sister Don't Blame Them: Boyfriend calling his friend his sister   Audio excerpt courtesy of Simon & Schuster Audio from YOU'RE NOT SPECIAL by Meghan Rienks, read by the author. Copyright © 2020 by Meghan Rienks. Used with by permission of Simon & Schuster, Inc.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Your partner not wanting kids with you Hating your mom's fiance Internalized homophobia Too respectable boyfriend Update: Faking Orgasms   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Talking too much Dating a celebrity Staying friend with a much older man that befriend you when you were a teen Telling your friend you dated her ex Update from Vicky the Homie Hopper   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Someone flirting with your boyfriend Hating your boyfriend's brother's girlfriend Best friends having sex next to you when you were passed out Breaking up with someone Don't Blame Them - Insight on unattractive therapist   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Adjusting your picker A guy joking about wanting to fuck you then taking it back How to ghost Being forced to eat ass Update from the caller whose boyfriend didn't understand white privilege    Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Boyfriend complaining about different decorating tastes Having different styles of communication Partner not saying, “I Love You” Missing your ex that you're still cuddling with Update: Caller clarifies that her boyfriend isn't gay   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Living with messy roommates Boyfriend doesn't believe in pharmaceuticals Wanting to change your almost boyfriend's physical appearance Being self conscious about your vagina odor   And in Don't Blame Them a caller shares her advice on being called mommy by your boyfriend's kid.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  This week we're sharing advice on:    What to do if your friend is mad your hanging out with a guy she use to talk to Boyfriend doesn't want to get married Boyfriend can't stay hard Not having your medical conditions define who you are Update from the gal that got her back blown out from sex   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing advice on:    Dealing with friends who don't think you like them  Missed dating opportunities How to date without getting too attached Gag reflexes And in Don't Blame Them a listener shares her advice on getting messages about your boyfriend cheating.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bekah Martinez of, “Chatty Broads,” joins us this week! We're sharing advice on:   If your boyfriend doesn't know how to communicate without flirting Your friend's possessive boyfriend Discussing difference of political views with your partner Being falsely accused of asking for dick pics.   And we have an update from the caller who wanted to break up with her boyfriend but his mom was her boss.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @bekah https://www.instagram.com/bekah/ @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Meghan Tonjes is here once more to share advice! This week we're answer your questions on:   Boyfriend doing a favor for his ex Boyfriend liking bikini pictures of other girls How to improve your sex drive Having trouble masturbating   And in Don't Blame Them a listener shares experience about hooking up with a step-sibling.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @meghantonjes https://www.instagram.com/meghantonjes/ @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joslyn Davis is back once again to share advice! This week we're answer your questions on:   Toxic Friendships Commitment Issues Pyramid Schemes Sharing Your Faith With Your Partner   And in Don't Blame Them a listener shares her advice about parents having sex.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @joslyndavis https://www.instagram.com/joslyndavis/ @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing our advice on what to do if: A guy confesses having feelings for you when he's drunk Having sex with your hot husband feels like a chore Women are DM'ing you that your boyfriend is cheating Your husband kept details about his crazy ex away from you.    We also have an update from a caller who's recent boyfriend was coming on too strong.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boze joins us this week to share advice! We're sharing advice on what to do if your boyfriend's family doesn't want a relationship with you, how to be friends with someone that dates your leftovers, talking to your boyfriend about sex, and how to break up up with your boyfriend even though his mom is your boss. In Don't Blame Them a listener shares her own advice about your dog being in the room while you're boning.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @bigbossboze https://www.instagram.com/bigbossboze/ @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're sharing our advice on what do if you hear your mom rubbing one out, handling if your sometimes boyfriend won't post you on social media, if you should take your friend with benefits to a wedding, how not to sleep with your stepbrother, and we have an update from a caller who wasn't sure about her sexuality.    Pre-Order My Book: Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982110104/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_esnrEbTFC0HX2 Barnes & Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/youre-not-special-meghan-rienks/1129349295?ean=9781982110109#/    Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My boyfriend Mats is here again for our annual Valentine's Day episode. We're sharing our advice on how to save up for a house, if you should get together with your friends with benefits, if your partner should give you unconditional support, and what to do if your boyfriend wants to try shrooms. We also have an update from a caller that went through a traumatic breakup and needs more advice.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved! Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.   Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tiffany Del Real is here the weeks to share advice! We're answering your questions on what to do if your friend doesn't invite you to their wedding, finding out why your boyfriend won't let you meet his ex that he's still friends with, being on your friend's no bang list, and leading a guy on. In Don't Blame Them a listener shares her advice on selling feet pics.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @real_tiff https://www.instagram.com/real_tiff @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gina Darling is here this week to share advice! We're answering your questions on holding on to a penpal, getting past casual relationships, and how to give your boyfriend a handy-j. We have an update from the caller who kept finding the ex's clothes in the closet of the guy she was seeing and in Don't Blame Them someone shares their experience with bringing a vibrator to the bedroom.   Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved!   Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @missginadarling https://www.instagram.com/missginadarling/ @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa     Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,' PLUS exclusive bonus episodes.     Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]    … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I'll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you're under 18, please get your parent's permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can't blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Geo Antoinette joins us this week to answer your questions. We’re sharing advice on how to overcome religious sex stigma, dodging your boyfriend’s ex who’s super territorial, and finding people to date that don’t have a teacher fetish. We have an Update from the caller who felt weird about her boyfriend watching porn and in Don’t Blame Them a listener shares her advice about not wanting to be called certain pet names.  Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved! Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @geo_antoinette https://www.instagram.com/geo_antoinette/?hl=en @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by Betterhelp and Dipsea. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we’re sharing our advice on how to befriend your boyfriend’s friend’s girlfriends, if you should still talk to your ex even though his ex girlfriend is jealous, wondering if you’re in a relationship with a guy if he asked you to be his girlfriend while he was sleep talking, and what to do if your ex is dating his roommate who is actually your ex-best friend. In Don’t Blame them a listener shares her advice on dating if you’re plus-sized. Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved! Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by Zola and BetterHelp. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jessi Smiles joins us this week to answer your questions on what to do if your co-worker acts coldly around the guy you’re dating, how to handle your boyfriend making fun of your fake tan, easing your boyfriend’s concerns about selling feet pics, and confronting your boyfriend about his addiction to porn. In Don’t Blame Them a listener shares their own advice on constant UTI and cuming one way. Join our PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions correctly to be approved! Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @jessismiles__ https://twitter.com/jessismiles__ @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by BetterHelp. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Closing out 2019 with another MnM ep! We’re sharing our advice on what to do if you lied about graduating from college, handling your boyfriend’s friend who is a dick, and what to do if your friends with benefits gets mad at you for sleeping with another guy. We have an update from a caller that had a friend obsessed with her and in Don’t Blame Them a listener shares her advice on the girl dating in boarding school. Join our (new) PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions! Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by BetterHelp. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to our annual holiday episode with Aislinn Paul. We’re answering your questions on what to do if you’re dating a guy that bores you over the phone, if you’re holding on to a relationship that shouldn’t be, and letting your current boyfriend know you’re triggered by being called “babe.” In Don’t Blame Them a listener shares her experience with dating someone that’s bad at sex. We also have an update from the caller that was afraid of dick. Join our (new) PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions! Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @aislinnpaul https://www.instagram.com/aislinnpaul/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by BetterHelp, Hinge, and Zola. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My twin Leo Howard is here once again! We’re sharing our advice on what to do when you give more than you get out of a relationship, getting around red flags, crushing on your friend with benefits, and dating after having a baby. In Don’t Blame Them a listener shares her advice on paranoia in a relationship. Join our (new) PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions! Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblameme  https://www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod/ @whoisleo https://www.instagram.com/whoisleo/  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by Duke Cannon, Betterhelp, and Hinge Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Television host Kamie Crawford is here this week to share advice! We’re answering your questions on: if you should have a backup plan, dealing with a roommate that doesn’t talk to you, flirting with a guy to get your boyfriend’s attention, and dating someone that is older than you. In Don’t Blame Them a listener shares her advice on networking in law school. Join our (new) PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  You must answer all questions and get at least a 60% to be approved. It’s a D. Just like the other D, it’s easy. Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @kamiecrawford https://www.instagram.com/therealkamie/ @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by The Dream Podcast, Pill Club, Betterhelp, and Hinge. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s our 100th Episode, baby!!! We’re doing something special for this one. We’re talking to the callers LIVE on air and sharing advice on carrying emotional baggage into a new relationship, what to do if your high school sweetheart won’t make time for you, dealing with your study buddy who never talks about his girlfriend , and talking to your partner about bad sex. We also have an update from the caller whose dad was sleeping with masseuse. It’s a fun one. Thanks to EVERYONE who has listened over the past 99 episodes. Join our (new) PRIVATE Facebook Group: www.facebook.com/groups/dbmsecretgroup  Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa   Listen to ad-free on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by Hinge. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nikki Limo is back and we’re sharing some very sexy advice. This week we’re answering your questions on non-conventional masturbation, faking it for three years, discovering your boyfriend is into furries, and coregasms. In Don’t Blame Them a listener shares her advice on HPV. Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @nikkilimo https://www.instagram.com/nikkilimo/ @dontblamemepod www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa Listen to ad-free and bonus episodes on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by The Real Real and Hinge. Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re answering your questions on what to do if the guy you’re seeing doesn’t want to have sex with you, making time for sex with a busy schedule, telling your friend that her bridesmaid is crazy, and dating a nice guy that’s weird. In Don’t Blame Them, a listener shares her advice about being misdiagnosed.  You’ll want to WATCH this one if you can. There’s a diagram.  Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @dontblamemepod www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa Listen to ad-free and bonus episodes on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by Hinge, The Real Real, and Duke Cannon Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Claudia Sulewski is back and she’s joined by her boyfriend Finneas O’Connell to share advice. This week we’re answering your questions on what to do if your friend thinks you FWB isn’t good for you, how to get back together with a guy that ghosted you, how to talk to your live in boyfriend about things that annoy you, and handling your ex that’s hooking up with your friend. Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @claudiasulewski www.instagram.com/claudiasulewski @finneas www.instagram.com/finneas  @dontblamemepod www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Allison Raskin joins us again to share advice! We’re answering your questions on what to do if a guy jokingly proposes to you, how to handle your boyfriend’s parents that want him to move back home, confronting your boyfriend about a found used condom, and coping with having an out of body experience during sex. In Don’t Blame Them a listeners shares her own experience about being in a BDSM relationship. Follow Us! @meghanrienks www.instagram.com/meghanrienks  @allisonraskin https://www.instagram.com/allisonraskin/ @dontblamemepod www.instagram.com/dontblamemepod  @sheisnotmelissa www.instagram.com/sheisnotmelissa Listen to ad-free and bonus episodes on Stitcher Premium! For a free month of Stitcher Premium, go to stitcherpremium.com and use promo code 'BLAME,’ PLUS exclusive bonus episodes. This episode is also brought to you by The RealReal Affordable Therapy By State (Curated by Crissy Milazzo): www.tinyurl.com/y64kwdnf    Need Advice?  www.dontblameme.show  Domestic Listeners Call: (310) 694-0976   International Listeners Send a Voice Memo To: [email protected]  … with as much detail as possible under 3 minutes! I’ll do my best to share my wonderful words of wisdom. If you’re under 18, please get your parent’s permission. Advice is for entertainment purposes only, so you can’t blame me if I screw up your life. I kid! My advice IS AMAZING. - Want to WATCH this episode as well? Check out my YouTube channel:  http://youtube.com/meghanrienks Support the show: https://www.patreon.com/join/dontblameme See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices