There’s a myth that many guys believe: that looks, status, or wealth are the keys to a lasting relationship. But this isn’t true. And if you fall for that myth, you’ll wind up in a loveless and eventually boring and sexless relationship.  While these attributes might have created that initial spark of attraction for each other, as your relationship matures, other attributes become much more important.  In fact, I call these attributes the “Four P’s.”  Besides keeping the fire alive in your long-term relationship, the “Four P’s” also create a thriving sex life that both you and your partner find deeply fulfilling.  So, what are the “Four P’s?” How do you cultivate each of the “Four P’s”? And why do many guys struggle with building the “Four P’s” in their long-term relationships?  In this episode, I reveal the answer to each of these questions, so you can build a thriving long-term relationship full of passionate sex, emotional connection, and unconditional love.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why it’s a myth that the key to maintaining a relationship is about keeping up your looks, status, or wealth (and the 2 keys to making a long-term relationship thrive) (1:04) How “P&C” prevents your relationship from slipping into monotony, complacency, and even heartbreak (2:14) The “Four P’s” secret that keeps the fire alive in your relationship and grows into a fulfilling 50+ year relationship (3:09) How going through self-development for the sake of your relationship instead of yourself dooms your relationship to die prematurely (4:06) The fatal mistake most guys commit after being in a relationship for about 6 months (and the “small gestures” trick to prevent this with your wife or girlfriend) (7:11) The weird way embracing more feminine energy can enhance you and your partner’s sexual attraction (13:23) How neediness seeps into your body language, your choice of words, and the tone of your voice, silently alarming your partner to jump ship (18:42) Why your repressed sexual shame will lead to a sexless relationship (and how to create a thriving sexual life with your partner) (26:41) How to reignite the sexual spark in your long-term relationship (even if you haven’t had sex in months) (30:28)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Men have been told for generations that feeling or showing their sadness is a sign of weakness. This myth has misled entire generations of men to suppress their sadness. And nothing has led to men being more isolated, lonely, and disconnected—from themselves and others—than this toxic myth.  Why?  Because suppressing emotions like sadness deprives you of the very love and connection you yearn for. In fact, sadness is the gateway to love. And fearing emotions like sadness keeps us locked away from true, unconditional love.  But there’s another way…  In this episode, we’re directly attacking and shattering the pervasive myth that suppressing our emotions is the key to happiness down the road. Instead, I’ll show you how feeling your emotions and embracing your vulnerability requires more strength and courage. And how this shift in mindset opens up the road to a more fulfilling and love-filled life.  Searching for love and happiness and connection in your life and don’t know where to turn?  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The pervasive myth that’s led generations of men to detach from their emotions and stifle their happiness, love, and connection (1:07)  The counterintuitive reason feeling your sadness is often the quickest route to experiencing love (3:59)  How to build your psychological resilience according to emotional psychology experts (and why most men shy away from building this resilience) (8:37)  The insidious “False Stoicism” trap many men fall into which erodes their best relationships and drowns them in sadness (8:59)  Why viewing your sadness as an ally instead of an adversary is the key to a life filled with love and joy (10:29)  How toxic masculinity blocks you from the authentic connections and experiences and keeps you lonely and miserable (13:22)  Why unburdening your exiled parts effortlessly makes you more attractive to women (21:31)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Most guys see their emotions—both positive and negative—as a sign of weakness and root cause of sabotage. This leads them to take one of two approaches to their emotions:  Either they repress their emotions entirely, fooling themselves into believing everything’s fine when it’s not, causing resentment and passive aggressive behavior. Or they take the opposite approach: Unbridled self-expression of their emotions, which leads to angry outbursts and regret.  Here’s the unfortunate truth:  Both of these approaches to your emotions are toxic. While they might provide some short-term relief, they also come equipped with a world of long-term pain.  The real solution?  Figuring out how to master your emotions, so you control them instead of the other way around. Mastering your emotions doesn't mean you’ll never feel painful emotions—but that you’ll handle these negative feelings in a beneficial way. Both for you and the people around you.  In today’s show, I dispelled the myth about emotional repression and unbridled self-expression. I share 4 techniques you can practice today to gain control over your emotions. And I reveal the 4 “METI” skills to help you master your emotions (even if you’re a pushover to them today).  Tired of your emotions sabotaging your relationships, fulfillment, and joy?  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The “Emotional Sailboat” secret for steering your feelings towards love, connection, and significance instead of constantly battling against them (1:26)  Why most people’s first reaction towards negative emotions creates a ticking time-bomb powerful enough to sabotage all the good in your life (and the correct way to handle negative feelings) (2:10)  Why repressed emotions are like a poison that slowly influences your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors until they explode on you one day (9:36)  Do you always feel anxious or depressed? Here’s the “Pressure Cooker” reason your repressed emotions might be to blame… (9:55)  How talking too much or being too funny when you’re around others are warning signs of repressed feelings (12:29)  4 cognitive therapy techniques that you can use to get a hold of your emotions and be able to better regulate them (15:56)  Why the simple act of naming your emotion gives you power over it instead of letting it subconsciously ruin your day (17:59)  How do you express your emotions to others more effectively? Here’s why the “Interpersonal Influence” method makes this a breeze (19:47)  Why vomiting your emotions onto your girlfriend or wife will make them secretly start to despise you (20:14)  The only 4 skills you need to master your emotions (and how you can build each of these 4 skills) (26:23)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

If you’re an achiever, you probably prioritize growth over everything else. You set goals for the distant future that you think will make you happy and fulfilled – goals that can only be achieved after dedicating long hours of grueling work and sacrificing your happiness in the short-term.  But here’s the problem:  When you finally achieve these long-term goals, you’ll realize they haven’t given you lasting happiness or fulfillment. Because society has sold you on the idea that the unenjoyable grind is always necessary for success. Well, I’m here to tell you the truth… You don’t have to sacrifice your enjoyment of today to reach lasting happiness and fulfillment.  There is no good reason you cannot accept your current situation and find enjoyment in it, while also crushing through roadblocks to get what you most want in the future. In this episode, I dissect the common myths that society conditions you to believe, and how you can unlearn these unfulfilling behaviors to live a life of true happiness & satisfaction—today and in the future. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Sinister ways society conditions you to be unhappy in pursuit of your goals (and how to achieve fulfilling goals without sacrificing your happiness) (00:48) The toxic truth about personal growth (and how it prevents you from getting what you want) (2:50) The Perfection Myth: How certain goals keep you unhappy, unfulfilled & stuck in life (5:20) How to consistently reach your goals without making yourself miserable (11:24) The “Inner World” secret for making mundane and boring activities fulfilling and fun (13:44) Try this “Reframe Growth” technique to crush through obstacles with ease (and live a life of supreme satisfaction) (15:27) How to find the balance between growth & enjoyment so that you don’t end up stuck grinding for “something more” forever (19:40) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In today's complex dating world, numerous men find themselves grappling not only with the intricacies of modern romance but also with deep-seated anxieties and fears that surround it. They fear starting conversations with women. They worry about what others think of them. And when they do end up in a relationship, it eventually devolves into dramatic fights, falling apart, and heartbreak.  Why?  Well, the short answer is these men haven’t addressed and healed the burdens of their inner child parts. Suppressing these deep-rooted emotions only makes them lash out at the worst possible times.  Instead, they turn to YouTube and the internet for the type of dating advice that attracts women who only care about your looks or status.  That’s the bad news.  The good news?  The therapeutic process is the single most effective way to address and heal these disowned parts of ourselves, which directly makes you more attractive, confident, and happy.  In this new episode, I reveal 6 distinct ways therapy can transform your dating life, how to address neglected emotions before they self-destruct on you, and how to use therapy to attract higher quality women and people.   Listen now! Show Highlights: The Notorious Big 3: Three ways the modern dating landscape misleads men into misery and heartbreak (1:05)  The weird way using your looks and status to attract women makes them eager to ditch you as soon as they can (2:13)  How “ego validation,” a wicked and sneaky form of neediness, sabotages a relationship before it even begins (3:34)  10 non-material things that women desperately crave from men (7:39)  How your unresolved emotional issues manifest in and undermine your relationship—in 6 distinct ways (9:47)  Why your “Attachment Style” can predict recurring patterns in your relationship (and how figuring this out can prevent your relationship from falling apart) (14:02)  How neglecting your exiled parts instead of addressing them can ruin even the best relationships (19:40)  Can therapy really help with your dating life? Here are two proven reasons it can… (21:08)  Still doubting the impact therapy can have on your dating life? Here’s a real life example of how one former client went from an anxious wreck to a ladies magnet (21:54)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In this new episode, we are diving deep into the world of emotions and success.  Have you ever wondered why working hard for years may not lead to the rewarding experience you've always dreamed of?  Or why so many people treat emotions as obstacles to success?  This episode reveals profound insights on how repressing emotions can actually hinder our ability to fully enjoy the rewards of our hard work.  We'll explore the fascinating concept of alexithymia and how the pursuit of success can become a monotonous grind devoid of true fulfillment.  Join us for an eye-opening journey as we learn why and how true joy and fulfillment lie in living fully and experiencing everything, rather than just reaching for a distant goal. This is an episode you won't want to miss. Listen now! Show Highlights: The Truth About Success: Why Hard Work is Meaningless Without Emotion  [00:02:08] Success ≠ Happiness: The Myth You've Been Believing  [00:03:21] The Secret to Emotional Strength  [00:08:11] How To Rebuild Your Emotional Intelligence  [00:11:41] Discover the Effects of Poor Proprioception  [00:15:13] The Surprising Solution To Mastering Your Emotions  [00:19:08] Discover How Releasing Trauma Can Boost Resilience [00:22:21]  How to Rise From The Ashes of Deep Shame and Exhaustion  [00:25:42] Are You Unsatisfied at The Peak? Here’s Why [00:28:14] How to unlock hidden emotions for ultimate fulfillment [00:35:03] The secret dangers of emotional suppression [00:37:16] Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In this new episode, we delve into the fascinating world of emotions and explore how a life well lived is more like a captivating piece of music rather than a relentless pursuit of achievements. Have you ever found yourself constantly striving for the next milestone, only to feel empty and unsatisfied when you finally reach it? Well, you're not alone. Society has conditioned us to believe that worldly success is the ultimate goal, but what if we told you there's a different way to approach life? Join me as we challenge the conventional notion of success and delve into the vital role emotions play in our existence. Discover the transformative power of embracing and understanding our emotions as we navigate the journey of life. Are you ready to break free from the achievers trap and start savoring each precious moment? Tune in to this captivating episode to uncover the secrets of emotional well-being and learn how to embrace the beautiful art of living.  Grab your headphones, prepare to be enlightened, and join us in this immersive exploration of emotions.  Listen now! Show Highlights: Science reveals this secret power of emotions  [00:01:10] Logic fails without this crucial element  [00:05:26]  Here’s why a logical man struggles to make decisions  [00:07:32] The hidden power struggle within your mind and why it decides the quality of your life [00:11:00] Discover this secret to both pleasure and fulfillment  [00:16:36] How to break free from the trap of a success-driven mentality   [00:19:34] How to avoid an empty, unfulfilled life for good  [00:21:58] The Truth About Life's So-Called Success Journey  [00:24:23] Powerful Ways to Embrace Life's Challenges  [00:30:23] Discover the Secret to True Inner Happiness  [00:32:09] Here’s how to make sure life doesn’t pass you by  [00:37:27] Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Have you ever been told to "stop being so sensitive" or that being emotional is bad or useless? It's a common experience for many men, and it's time to challenge this notion. In today's episode, we'll explore the hidden costs of suppressing our emotions and why it's important to embrace our authentic selves.  Join us as we uncover the truth behind the myth that repressing our emotions leads to success. We'll explore how repressed emotions can impact our intimate relationships, our professional lives, and even our overall sense of fulfillment.  Get ready for some eye-opening insights as we delve into the psychology behind repressed emotions and learn how to master our emotions to create deep, meaningful connections and achieve lasting happiness.  Listen now! Show Highlights: Why do people believe in using masks to attain success?  [00:02:11] Find joy in the climb and reach new heights  [00:06:06] Repression disrupts balance. How to embrace emotions for greater success.  [00:07:41] How does repressed trauma impact our bodies and overall well-being?  [00:11:15] How do intimate relationships reveal hidden truths about ourselves?  [00:15:30] Discover the secret dance of personal growth [00:18:40] Revealing the shadow parts that lead to profound intimacy [00:21:41]  Clearing mental fog through awareness and integration  [00:26:18]  Peak health, happiness, and harmony await you here [00:29:48] Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Do you feel like the people in your life push you around? Like your voice and opinions don’t matter? Or that other people frequently take advantage of you?  Well, here’s the cold, hard truth:  Unless you're comfortable with being assertive, you'll just end up being a doormat. This applies to every relationship you have: with your significant other, with your coworkers and bosses, and even in general social situations.  To make matters worse, many men struggle with being assertive. They didn't have good assertive role models growing up, and they fear exploding with aggressiveness or anger.  But asserting yourself has nothing to do with being aggressive or angry. In fact, it’s the complete opposite.  In today’s show, you’ll discover how to assert yourself effectively, why toxic shame and trauma makes being assertive tougher, and how being assertive improves every relationship you enter.  After listening to this episode, you’ll walk away with the confidence and strategies to ensure that you're seen, heard, and respected—without having to resort to being a brute or being aggressive.  Listen now! Show Highlights: Why others take advantage of you (and how to put an end to it today) (2:03)  The biggest misconception about assertiveness which instantly make you more assertive and attractive (2:46)  The weird way being assertive means you respect the other person involved (and how this helps you be more assertive if you’re not naturally assertive) (4:03)  How reading this sleazy-sounding book can help you naturally become more assertive (6:52)  Why growing up in a well-meaning Christian family makes you an easy target for hawks who want to take advantage of you (8:54)  Dealing with an unreasonable demand from someone in your life? Here’s why standing your ground prevents you from being a doormat (11:28)  True story: How the assertive “3 C” system can land you a free flight to France (17:24)  The “Early Method” for eliminating nervousness before asserting yourself so tension dissipates instead of builds (25:52)  7 actionable techniques for becoming more assertive, especially if you shy away from conflict (and how to apply them in real conversations) (33:50)  The “I statement” secret for handling conflict without attacking the other person (34:35)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Several listeners have asked about handling disrespect, especially when it comes from your partner. And I get it:  Disrespect is a breeding ground for contempt. And contempt will sabotage any healthy relationship you have.  So, what do you do when you feel disrespected?  In today’s show, you’ll discover what you should do when you feel disrespected, the root cause of disrespect you probably haven't considered, and how to turn disrespect into respect instead of letting it blossom into hate.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The “thorn in your side” problem that blossoms into resentment and turns your relationship into a ticking time bomb (0:58)  The “Four Horsemen” signs responsible for ruining all healthy relationships (and how to prevent falling victim to this poison) (2:03)   Why having a lack of self-respect spells trouble for your relationship (even if you think you’re in a healthy relationship) (7:45)  How to create self-respect doing nothing other than looking at adorable puppies (9:42)  One question to ask yourself that instantly makes you realize you don’t need respect from others (19:20)  The vicious self-fulfilling prophecy many men find themselves in that leads them down the road of being cheated on and heartbroken (23:40)  Can’t land a promotion because your co-workers don’t respect you? Here are the 4 things you must do to win them over (27:20)  Why toxic shame might be behind your lack of assertiveness (27:57)  John Gottman’s #1 red flag that signals your relationship is doomed, which he discovered after studying relationships for 40+ years (31:37)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

After reviewing the Barbie movie, many listeners wrote angry emails and comments to me. They didn’t like the way the Kens were treated in the movie, but I did. In fact, I saw Ken as the hero in the movie.  Why?  Well, years ago, after discovering my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me, I stood on the 57th floor of the Marina Bay Sands Hotel looking down trying to jump. Even though I didn’t, I let my rage and hatred consume me.  Because of this rage and hatred I felt, the Red Pill world appealed to me. I dove deep into Red Pill material at the time… and while it helped me feel good temporarily, it didn’t serve me or my relationship pursuits in the long term. If I had continued down that road, I never would have found fulfillment in life, attracted my wife, or have had a successful marriage with anyone.  And that’s why the Ken character relates to me. At a certain point in the movie, Barbie tells Ken that he needs to discover who he is without her. And this is something all men need to discover if they want to have a successful, 50+ year marriage.  In this episode, I reveal how I went through this transformation from being suicidal to finding myself, how you can do it too, and why doing so is the most important thing you can do for your happiness and the health of your future relationships.  Listen now! Show Highlights: Did the Barbie movie’s depiction of Ken anger you? Here’s why Ken isn’t meant to represent all men… (12:45)  Why discovering that my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me made me want to off myself (and how this story can save your life if you’re going through a similar situation) (17:47)  The insidious mindset Ken has towards Barbie which many guys subconsciously mimic (and why this mindset demolishes your joy) (19:20)    How I fell hook, line, and sinker into the Red Pill world (and why leaving this world is responsible for my incredible marriage today) (21:06)  The “RSR” secret to prepare you to get into and strengthen any relationship you have (even if it’s a casual one) (25:45)  Why public posting on social media between couples is a major red flag (33:07)  Has an ex cheated on you? Here’s why revenge anger will only leave you more isolated and depressed (37:02)  The single best piece of advice Barbie gave Ken in the Barbie movie (and how this sentence can instantly make you more attractive to women) (47:04)  The weird way being a successful pickup artist prevents you from experiencing true love (even if it helps you get into bed with attractive ladies) (50:58)  How “womansplaining” helps you understand women at a deeper level and unlocks a more attractive version of yourself to them (59:47)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

The “Fixer Mindset” plagues every nice guy who can’t seem to even talk to an attractive lady, let alone start a relationship with her. If you continue letting this broken mindset subconsciously guide you, it can end in complete catastrophe:  Like bending over backwards for an ex who still lives with you, and starts bringing new guys into your apartment. This happens more often than you’d think.  Why?  Well, if you haven’t overcome your early childhood traumas, then you’ll subconsciously recreate this dynamic of being taken advantage of in order to earn love in every relationship you have.  Not only will this cause intense heartbreaks, but it also fills you with a deep depression that lingers on you no matter what.  That’s the bad news.  The good news?  There is hope! In fact, I used to suffer from this exact same mindset years ago.  In this episode, I break down the “Fixer Mindset” in nitty-gritty detail, including why it happens, how it happens, and how you can finally overcome it. I also reveal what happens when you don’t address it—hint: it only gets worse. And the three most important steps you can take today to finally free yourself from its destructive grasp.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The insidious “Fixer Mindset” most men silently struggle with that makes you bend over backwards for a girl who wouldn’t do the same for you (2:10)  4 deadly coping behaviors you picked up as a toddler that you’re subconsciously using today that scares women away (12:08)  Why making more money or getting a six pack won’t help you attract the ladies (even if you think it will) (15:32)  The single biggest fundamental flaw in the human condition that sabotages your chances with girls, fills you with existential dread, and causes untold amounts of stress (15:46)  How becoming a pickup artist can help you get girls (and why this only sets you up for humiliating heartbreak) (18:13)  Why evolution has failed us when it comes to being emotionally stable, healthy, and happy (and how you can fix this in your life) (22:13)  The cold, hard truth about why most people don’t end up in happy relationships (25:12)  How neglecting your “little boy” hidden deep inside you gives you a wicked case of the addicting “Martyrdom Fantasy” which causes you to sacrifice your relationship for nothing (26:00)  3 simple steps to finally overcome your “Fixer Mindset” and effortlessly magnetize attractive women to you (33:43)  Why traveling alone is the single best “antidote” to deep-seated childhood traumas (36:13)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Did you see the latest Jonah Hill controversy with his ex-girlfriend?  She shared their text exchange on Instagram, and while they both brought up some good therapeutic points, each of them handled the situation in a poor manner for varying reasons.  Since many listeners have written in wondering what I thought about this exchange, I figured I’d dedicate an entire episode to it. What Jonah did wrong, what he did right, and what he should’ve done in this situation if he was fully mature through his own therapeutic process.  In this episode, besides revealing what Jonah Hill should’ve done, I’m also going to cover what healthy boundaries are and why they’re so important to understand. Why you need to get clear on your values and standards before looking for a partner. And most importantly, why you need to allow for grace when evaluating other people.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The “room temperature water” reason why picking a high-quality woman is the single most important thing you can do in your life (0:20)  How using passive aggressive sarcasm when communicating your boundaries backfires and can even make your partner despise you (9:26)  Did you see the Jonah Hill controversy with his ex-girlfriend? Here’s what Jonah should’ve done instead… (14:24)  The single biggest mistake men make in the earlier stages of their relationship that all but guarantees your relationship won’t become a happy and healthy 50-year marriage (17:41)  Mark Manson’s “F Yes, or No” rule for deciding with certainty whether your relationship will last or not (even if you’re still in the honeymoon phase) (23:28)  The weird way you owe being a player or pickup artist now to your future wife (25:18)  How simply staying curious about your feelings and emotions can prevent massive arguments and fights from erupting in your relationship (29:59)  How to have tough conversations with your partner without coming across like an icky  controlling boyfriend (34:31)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmasteryThis episode features guest Steve Mayeda, a father of four and a life coach specializing in men’s personal development. You can learn more about Steve and his work here: https://www.stevemayeda.com/

Just because you haven't found love or a successful relationship doesn't mean those two things don’t exist. Yet, this is one of the many myths the Red Pill movement tricks you into believing.  The truth?  The truth is that the Red Pill community reeks of immature masculinity, marinating in suffering. Inside of everyone fooled by the Red Pill is a little boy who just wants unconditional love.  But instead of using the pain to break past your own barriers, the Red Pill dupes you into creating more barriers, further pushing peace and happiness and love away from you.  And the worst part?  Following this Red Pill route will never result in what you’re truly looking for: Unconditional love.  But here’s the good news:  In this episode, my friend and men’s coach, Steve Mayeda joins me again to rip the Red Pill movement to shreds for you, so you can find the unconditional love and happiness you’re after.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The bizarre “all women have an eating disorder” hypergamy myth peddled in Red Pill circles that’s easily disproved at (4:43)  How submitting yourself to your higher self magnetizes women to you (and enhances the health of your relationships) (8:17)  The lethal “white knight narcissism” many Red Pill guys corner themselves in without even realizing it (11:25)  Why following the “Iron Rules of Tomassi” fills you with a deep, inescapable insecurity that will make quality women run away from you (13:20)  How asking yourself these simple questions gives you a tremendous insight into your deeply-held traumas (29:27)  The tragic truth about why Red Pill guys will never experience true love and connection (even if they’re in a “successful” marriage) (31:13)  How integrating feminine energy in your healing makes you irresistible to women (even if Red Pill guys scream you have to be an “alpha”) (42:58)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmasteryThis episode features guest Steve Mayeda, a father of four and a life coach specializing in men’s personal development. You can learn more about Steve and his work here: https://www.stevemayeda.com/

Listeners and fans have written in for quite a while now wondering what my opinions are about the Red Pill movement, which was largely inspired by Rollo Tomassi’s book, The Rational Male. The Rational Male and the Red Pill movement tries to teach guys how to be “alpha.”  But there’s a big, fat problem with this ideology:  It’s filled with bitter resentment:  Towards “alphas.”  Towards women.  And worst of all?  Towards yourself.  In this episode, my friend and men’s coach, Steve Mayeda, and I reveal why The Rational Male is white knight syndrome masquerading as alpha, the problem with trying to be alpha (and why it shows immature masculinity at its worst), and why following the preachings of the Red Pill will leave you alone and miserable.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The insidious “slave to your hatred” trap Red Pill guys fall into that ruins their chances of finding a high-quality woman (8:18)  Can’t find a good girl? You may be acting like a “compensatory narcissist,” here’s how to fix it… (10:17)  Why adopting an alpha mindset will make women you’re interested in laugh behind your back (12:51)  The counterintuitive reason Red Pill guys are just white knights masquerading as alphas (and why falling for their lies will leave you alone and miserable) (20:39)  Do you feel like you have to sacrifice and compromise in your relationship? Here’s the weird reason it’s destined to fail… (31:29)  How to make almost anyone you talk to love you simply by listening as your true self (41:10)  Tony Robbins’s “APR” secret for making your girlfriend or wife so happy in your relationship that breaking up never even crosses her mind (46:42)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery This episode features guest Steve Mayeda, a father of four and a life coach specializing in men’s personal development. You can learn more about Steve and his work here: https://www.stevemayeda.com/

There’s been considerable backlash about the Barbie movie from both critics and listeners of my show.  The problem?  Well, most of the criticism comes from certain types of men. In fact, I had to search the darkest corners of the internet just to find a negative review of Barbie that made a decent point. And believe it or not, this fact could explain why they don’t understand women, have no luck attracting them, and can’t create a thriving relationship (even if you have a great desire for one).  Why?  Barbie is a movie for teenage girls based on a doll made for teenage girls. Of course some men have a hard time watching it: It wasn’t made for them. But this also reveals a deep societal insight that can improve your relationships with women:  The reaction to Barbie reveals how male-centric the world we live in still is today—in 2023.  In today’s show, I explain how this male-centric centering of society hurts your understanding of women, why watching Barbie (and Sex & the City) can help you succeed with women, and what ugly truths hating Barbie reveals. Listen now! Show Highlights: The weird way to attract higher quality women by watching the Barbie movie (3:02)  The insidious “Turn Back Time” trap some men find themselves in which wrecks their chances of having a successful, modern relationship (3:56)  Did you see Barbie and hated it? Here’s the surprising thing that this reveals about you and your potential with women… (6:52)  How you can mimic Ken’s character arc from Barbie in real life (and become a magnet for high-quality females) (14:14)  The “Sex and the City” secret for getting a PhD in understanding women (18:11)  How ‘gender’ differences being more foreign than ‘race’ differences could be the reason you’re not good with women (25:07)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

If you really want a relationship, then I have bad news:  Most guys aren’t ready for a relationship yet. And even if you somehow find a relationship and experience success within it, there’s a good chance that you’ll sabotage the relationship—causing heartache and pain and divorce.  So, how can you tell whether you’re ready for a relationship or not?  Well, it turns out, there are 3 different “Relationship Levels,” and most guys I coach are stuck in level 1: The level where you’ll sabotage your relationship if you get into one.  That’s why, in this episode, I reveal what the 3 different “Relationship Levels” are, how to tell whether you’re ready for a relationship, and how to “level” up if you’re stuck at the first level where heartbreak and self-destruction loom.  Want to discover whether you’re ready for a relationship, and, if not, how to become ready for one?  Listen now! Show Highlights: How to tell if your current relationship will last or will cause gut-wrenching heartache and pain (0:35)  The lethal way loneliness can sabotage your relationship (even if you’ve been in your current relationship for years) (2:35)  The counterintuitive reason not wanting a relationship actually improves your chances of finding a loving partner and building a long-term relationship (8:16)  How intimacy makes your neediness rear its ugly head (and why this undermines “successful” long-term relationships) (11:18)  3 “Relationship Levels” which will tell you with certainty whether you’re ready for a relationship or not (11:44)  How to move through the 3 “Relationship Levels” so you’re ready for a long-term relationship (and won’t accidentally sabotage it) (17:16)  The 10 basic, fundamental human needs—and how to meet these needs yourself so you don’t rely on anyone to help you meet them (18:38)  The insidious way watching movies or reading books written by this specific type of person will make you worse off for a successful long-term relationship (24:58)  Why being able to make new friends is more important for attracting a long-term relationship than your physique or personality (27:08)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

A listener recently wrote in and asked the question: “Do women want a dominant, aggressive and masculine man in long term relationships or do they prefer men with emotions?”  Now, there are a lot of different angles to attack this question, and I hit on the major ones in this episode. But the simple fact of asking this question means the listener committed a sin of sexual attractiveness, which will undermine his success with women.  What’s this sexual attractiveness sin? I reveal the answer in today’s show. Plus, you’ll also discover the 31 most attractive qualities women find in men (and why you shouldn’t stop everything to cultivate these attractive qualities).  Listen now! Show Highlights: Do women want a dominant, aggressive and masculine man in long term relationships or do they prefer men with emotions? Find out here… (1:47)  The “Double Dichotomy” trick for increasing your sexual attractiveness (4:23)  The weird way toxic masculinity tricks you into being a boring partner that women won’t want to build a future with (8:42)  31 qualities that women find most attractive in men (11:45) Why making yourself more attractive based on what women find attractive can actually make it harder to get a date (do this instead…) (16:09)  The insidious “Sacrificing Character” mistake most needy guys make and wonder why they can’t get women (even if women find them sexually attractive) (20:53)  The most thorough and cost-effective personality trait assessment available today (and how taking this test can help you attract higher quality women) (24:48)  How reading this book will help you figure out the best seduction style for your unique personality (27:23)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Most guys are a lot needier than they think because neediness reveals itself in hidden ways. For example, the simple act of worrying if you’re attractive is a tell-tale sign of neediness that flies over most guys' heads.  But women have a sixth sense for identifying neediness. And nothing will make them feel as disgusted as hanging around a needy man.  Here’s why I bring it up: Many listeners of the show write in to ask me about crying in front of women. But most of these listeners are needy, and are trying to weaponize vulnerability to make them more attractive. This backfires. But that doesn't mean all forms of crying—whether alone or in front of a lady—are bad.  In this episode, you’ll discover some of the hidden signs of neediness that could be wrecking your chances with girls, why crying in front of a woman will ruin your relationship, and how crying can raise your sexual attractiveness.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The real reason why guys who aren’t as attractive as you get more girls and enjoy better relationships (1:23)  The weird way worrying about your attractiveness instantly makes you less attractive (1:59)  4 hidden ways your neediness manifests and gives girls an icky feeling (even if you don’t realize it) (2:29)  Why crying in front of a girl can end your relationship if you haven’t gotten rid of this… (5:20)  How expressing your feelings around women turn them off (even if you think vulnerability will make you more attractive) (16:05)  Why being sad alone can actually raise your confidence, attractiveness, and happiness (20:32)  The “Compassionate Instinct” trait hardwired into women that makes your vulnerability sexy (29:17)  Why women found Loki more sexually attractive than Thor in the first Thor movie (30:23)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery  

Have you ever heard “nice guys finish last?” Imagine this: you’re super nice, know how to flirt with women, but after months of talking to an attractive woman, you get rejected. It always seems to go well until you fall in love with her, only to have it spat back in your face. Most men after years of being the “nice guy” are fed up (and rightly so.) They decide to become an alpha male. They go to the gym, learn “game”, try their hand at pick-up artistry, and for a few dates they’re successful. But most of these alpha males hit rock bottom years into their new identity, only to be a repressed shell of their former self. So if getting shredded and becoming an alpha male isn’t the answer, then what is? On today’s episode, you’ll discover how to magnetize women to your presence (without being an alpha male or a nice guy.) You’ll also discover the 8 step process to open the floodgates to lasting happiness and true fulfillment.  Listen now! Show Highlights: The sneaky trait from “American Psycho” which blocks you from experiencing unconditional love and inner peace (1:51) How preventing your girlfriend from putting a knife in the toaster sabotages your relationship with her (2:26) If you have (this personality trait), discover how dating your mom could be more satisfying than dating Dua Lipa (7:07) How dressing up like Jack Black unlocks a harem of women (and why dressing up like James Bond mutilates your chances with the exact same women) (16:53) Why adopting the opposite of “Machiavellian gameplay” magnetizes women and worthiness (21:38) Why consuming self-development content on YouTube eliminates passionate lovemaking sessions from your life (29:51) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Here’s a true story: James was at a party with his girlfriend. There was a hilarious, tall, and handsome dude who kept making her laugh — obnoxiously loud.  She was giving him attention and practically ignoring James. And the jokes he made? They fell flat on their face — she didn’t laugh at all. At first, he started to think, “Damn, I suck.” But after a while, his mind began to race with questions: Is he actually funny, or is she laughing way too hard to get his attention? Should I bring this up with her? Should I work on my own humor and social competence? Should I let go of my jealousy somehow? Or maybe I should just hit the gym and become a 21st-century Arnold? Stop. There are 3 big issues with this type of thinking. These issues potentially lead to you being emotionally manipulative — and sabotaging your relationship because of it. On today’s episode, you’ll uncover why sharing your insecurities is actually a subtle form of emotional manipulation. You’ll also discover how falling madly in love with an ugly French bulldog matures your attitude towards women (and magnetizes unconditional love.) Listen now! Show Highlights Include: An exclusive Facebook group where you’ll uncover the biggest sexual complaints women have about men (1:41) Discover the 23 “telltale signs” required for a passionate and loving relationship full of steamy lovemaking (and avoid countless years in a dead end and lifeless relationship) (3:40) When is it just a lack of physical attraction or just your jealousy? (not knowing could leave you blind to potential cheating and flirting with other men behind your back) (5:34) The harmful vulnerability mindset 95% of men possess that sabotages your relationship by forcing her to “do all the dirty work” (11:34) Adopt the “Marlboro Man” attitude to unlock a sensuous bond with your girlfriend (and why seeking praise, approval, and motivation is a surefire way to ruin to a relationship) (13:56) How drinking “old wine” may result in a 50-year marriage with 2 kids and 4 grandchildren (14:42) Why looking like Brad Pitt and owning multiple Ferraris betrays your loved ones for momentary pleasures (17:00) The insidious way trying to be funny creates relationships cursed to fail from the very beginning (22:42) Insecure about your attractiveness? Here’s how to flip the narrative on its head — in your favor — by asking her, “are you slutty enough?...” (31:23) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Have you wondered what you’re doing “wrong” when attracting women? Have you dove down the rabbit hole of YouTube dating advice looking for answers? If you have, you’ve realized the tactics from popular videos often don’t work for you. That’s because these tips don’t address the real reasons women may not want to date you. The truth is, people are more complex than most dating advice assumes. To really succeed with women, you need more than smooth lines and batting practice. In this episode of The Masculine Psychology Podcast, host David Tian explains why you need to move beyond dating tips to attract the right relationships in your life. Listen now to discover why “dating tips” might be holding you back in life and love. Show highlights include: Why popular “dating tips” won’t improve your dating results — and why the “lazy way” to meet women works against your happiness (1:13) How the WebMD approach to self-improvement barricades access to your true, attractive self (7:59) The “dangerous” dating practices that can hook you like heroin and destroy your relationships (9:09) What to do if your anxiety level approaching women is above 2 of 10 (11:07) How to stop creating barriers in your mental “self” to naturally attract women (18:23) Why success with tips and tactics keeps you from connecting with the right women (23:13) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum  

From a young age, attractive women become masters at sniffing out neediness. Most men don’t discover this fact about life until they’ve sabotaged their dating lives and relationships. But here’s the good news: There’s a proven system for overcoming your neediness. It won’t happen overnight, but it will free you from the sadistic grip neediness has over you.  In this episode, you’ll discover the 7 steps to obliterate your neediness for good.  Listen now.  Show Highlights Include: How your fear about relationships dupes you into making relationship-ending mistakes (even if you don’t realize it) (2:40)  The counterintuitive reason becoming wealthy skyrockets your neediness (3:04)  Why women can see through your inauthentic attempts to get to know their personality like Swiss cheese (4:41)  The fundamental human needs that help you exterminate your neediness (9:03)  Why having an agenda of picking up women when you go out subconsciously repels them from you (13:27)  The 7 experiential steps to meet your own needs and obliterate your neediness (20:30)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

While sexual attractiveness is important for a healthy relationship, most men overvalue how important it is. This, as a result, makes them more likely to sabotage their relationships.  Why? Because it directly violates the one “trump card” for sexual attractiveness to women. Women have a sixth sense at identifying whether you have this “trump card” or not—and caring too much about your sexual attractiveness is a tell-tale sign you don’t have it. The solution?  Well, first you must realize that sexual attractiveness is not the end-all-be-all. In fact, it’s not even at the top of the list of ingredients that make a healthy relationship. Then, you need to listen to this episode, where I reveal what this “trump card” is, and how you can cultivate it if you don’t have it already.  Want to not only become more attractive to women, but improve your chances of succeeding in a healthy, long-term relationship?  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why sexual attractiveness isn’t even at the top of the list of factors that build successful, long-term relationships (2:51)  The weird way your sexual attractiveness can hinder the success of a long-term relationship (3:21)  How developing your emotional maturity will do more for your relationships with women than getting a 6-pack (9:21)  The single most attractive quality that women crave in men (10:08)  The 3 most important books to read to obliterate your neediness (11:45)  The 5 most common ways men practice neediness (and how eliminating these behaviors instantly boosts your attractiveness) (14:44)  How leaking neediness in your personality prevents you from being attractive to women (even if you’re fit, wealthy, and handsome) (17:010  Why thousands of years of evolution prove that women find THIS more attractive than material possessions (28:06)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Here’s the unfortunate truth for most men dating in our modern society:  They’re not emotionally mature enough to sustain a successful long-term relationship. When they’re not mature enough, sexual temptation will sabotage their relationships—almost as soon as they exit the honeymoon phase.  The solution?  Well, first you need to understand that sexual temptation comes from sexual shame when you’re younger. Then, before you’re ready for a long-term relationship, you need to learn how to handle sexual temptation without repressing your sexual desires.  It may not be easy, but it’s the only way to predict whether your relationship will last 50+ years or fall apart.  In this episode, you’ll discover how to know with certainty if you’re ready for a long-term relationship. And some steps you can take if you’re not ready, so you can fast track your way to a healthy and fulfilling marriage.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How prematurely entering a long-term relationship creates a world of heartache (0:51)  Spoiler alert: If you’re in a new relationship without having this, your relationship is destined to fail (1:48)  An easy litmus test that reveals if you’re ready for a long-term relationship or not (2:30)  The insidious “Biggest Loser” effect that can sabotage your relationship as soon as you exit the honeymoon phase (3:22)  Why bringing your girlfriend into a nightclub surrounded by hot guys can instantly tell you if your relationship will last or crumble (7:40)  The weird way sexual shame during your adolescent years stunts your ability to have a successful long-term relationship today (14:01)  How to predict with near perfect accuracy if your long-term relationship will survive depending on if you visit this particular website (19:55)  The only indispensable requirement for success in a long-term relationship (hint: it’s not attraction or even love) (24:50)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Many men are ignorant about how attraction actually works. Because of this, they’re forever destined to stay single (and alone.) While attraction definitely involves muscles, good looks, and money, it has more to do with: Where you rank on the “Provider Vs. Lover Distinction Ladder.” And what I mean by this is: even the most chiseled, 6-foot hunk of a man can fall into the “Provider” category within a heartbeat. A category with: No respect No sex And you’re treated like a doormat Likewise, a fat, nerdy, IT programmer can be in BOTH categories — lover and provider — which means both short-term and long-term dating success. And if any of this interests you, then you’re going to love today’s episode. In this new episode, you’ll discover what women are actually attracted to in a man.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The secret to attracting women effortlessly isn’t about fancy one-liners or tactics, but this: What are women actually attracted to in the first place? (0:56) Think the answer to being friend-zoned is to voice “intent” you want to date her earlier on? Here’s why that’s completely wrong (and why the answer will blow your mind because of how simple it actually is) (1:37) How do I tell her I like her (without sounding like a creep)? (1:45) The most sophisticated, accurate, and effective resources that explain how attraction actually works (and is far superior than dating advice from YouTube) (2:59) How to find “the one” by applying long-term mating strategies instead of short-term mating strategies (4:32) Turn a woman on instantly by using nothing but this technique (and it’s got nothing to do with looks, status, muscles, or even what you say) (5:19) Where do you rank on the “Provider Vs. Lover Distinction Ladder”? Women make their mind up about a man before he even opens his mouth according to this ladder (5:50) In the friend-zone with an attractive woman? There’s still a chance you can date her (and marry her). You just need to know how, and we discuss the answer at (6:43) Who’s more likely to succeed in the dating arena? A chiseled, 6-foot hunk of a man, or a fat, nerdy IT programmer? The answer might surprise you (33:54) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Most of the events and decisions that cause you psychological issues today happened in your early childhood years. This is actually one of the main culprits behind why it’s so difficult for you to attract women now. Being needy, a push-over, or having no assertive bones in your body require that you “reparent” yourself, especially those inner child parts of yourself that lash out or cause self-sabotage when they get triggered.  But you know what?  Even though the concept of “reparenting” might sound difficult, especially if you’re single with no kids yourself, it’s actually much easier than you think.  In this episode, you’ll discover how to reparent yourself to get rid of neediness, learn how to set boundaries, and create a safe space for your inner child, so every relationship you’re in—yes, even intimate relationships—improves.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How almost all of your psychological issues have their roots in childhood (and how to parent your kids—or yourself—so they grow up without these issues) (1:45)  The “Reparenting” technique for fast tracking your therapeutic journey and ditching the micro traumas you experienced as a kid (3:43)  Why becoming your own inner parent can extinguish your neediness for good (4:24)  3 examples of parenting boundaries (and how they help you set healthy boundaries with your girlfriend or wife) (11:17) How validation and empathy can calm any triggered inner child parts of you before they undermine you (13:55)  Why it’s necessary to feel good inside before making positive changes (even if your favorite self-help book preaches otherwise) (21:51)  The 13-word sentence to say to yourself in the mirror to instantly boost your assertiveness (23:15)  The counterintuitive way ruptures in a relationship are the greatest source of deepening connection and love (30:46)  How punishing bad behavior actually makes it more likely to happen again (and what to do instead) (46:40)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Your parenting style can either make your son an easy, compliant pushover in life or a strong, confident, and assertive man.  How so? For example, when parenting largely centers on behavior rather than the underlying reasons why your child feels a certain way. And if you continue to focus on behavior, it could to lead to this for your child: Being bullied at school by kids who had “strong” parents Losing his job because he fails to fit in and click with his team He’ll struggle to talk to girls  Sounds bad, but there’s a relatively “easy” fix. And in today’s episode, I reveal exactly what you should do to make sure your son is strong, confident, and knows how to stand up for himself.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The 7 classic psychotherapy books which allow you to live a fulfilled and happy life (without seeing a therapist) (1:01) We have all been shown examples of sub-par parenting, but what exactly is the correct model to emulate? I discuss the answer at (2:30) Why you’ll feel forever feel triggered by your spouse or partner’s minor indiscretion because of a “misinterpretation” of the therapeutic process (3:03) How to tap into the higher version of yourself that’s naturally confident, courageous, and attractive to women by “re-parenting” yourself (4:33) Want to be the best father you could ever be? At (8:46), I reveal how to have an amazing interaction with your child (even if he or she is throwing a tantrum) Why modern parenting “advice” forces your kids to rebel against you when they grow up (10:59) How to get your kids to love you as a father — and have an amazing family life — without having to play “good cop, bad cop” (21:19) Jordan Peterson’s parenting methodology which subconsciously develops your child to be an easy, compliant pushover in life (and what you should do instead) (27:35) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Many people sabotage their relationships because they’re so nervous about getting it right, or saying the “wrong” thing. And the reason for this? Their parents subconsciously taught them the harmful concept of “Frustration Intolerance.”  And if you have it, you’re more likely to have fights with your spouse, be triggered by small indiscretions your wife makes, or noisy kids in the car.  Worst part? Most guys have no idea whether they suffer from “Frustration Intolerance.” And if they do, it only bubbles to the surface after months and months of intense therapy. So, if the concept of “Frustration Intolerance” intrigues you, then read on. In today’s episode, you’ll discover why you fear saying the “wrong” thing when talking to your girlfriend, wife, or tinder date. I also reveal why your wife or girlfriend triggers you for seemingly no reason.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Does your wife or girlfriend trigger you for seemingly no reason? It might be because of a common circumstance known as your “family of origin” (1:42) “A good therapeutic process helps you to ‘reparent’ yourself” (8:34) Struggle with rejection from dates on tinder? It might be because your parents didn’t know how to deal with “Frustration Intolerance” (11:54) How to hack your brain to tap into as much information in as little time as possible (essentially becoming a super computer) (15:59) Feel nervous when talking to your partner or spouse, out of fear you might say something “wrong?” I reveal the answer at (23:36) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Good girls date men who are clearly “bad news.” And even though most bad boys display blatant warnings and red flags, the allure of dating one is too strong for most good girls. Why is that? Well, for starters, looks, muscles, money, and even spontaneity is only part of the equation. The other? It’s all to do with the “unfinished business” in both his and her lives. And in today’s episode, I reveal the exact reason why good girls can be attracted to bad boys.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce. Child support, crippling alimony payouts, and heartbreak. Here’s how to avoid a traumatic divorce (4:24) Caught your wife cheating with a coworker? Here’s why that doesn’t necessarily mean a divorce (and why it actually could be a long, and passionate marriage) (10:59) How to have a long lasting marriage by understanding the three stages every single marriage goes (11:55) Why exciting, passionate sex in a marriage has very little to do with physical looks, but more so to do with your psychology (28:18) In a bad fight with your wife or girlfriend? Here are five losing “strategies” that could push your marriage closer towards divorce (36:37) Why good girls have so much sexual chemistry with bad boys (and why it’s partially her fault) (38:11) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery  

“The Dual Dynamic” makes or breaks your relationship. And if you don’t understand it, your relationship is doomed (even if you don’t break up, and stay together in the long run.) Because even if you stay together, there’s no chemistry, connection, or passion, leading to… Less sex, less intimacy, more fights, and ultimately divorce.  Now, if the above scares you, then read on.  By listening to this episode, you’ll discover:  How to build the initial stages of chemistry How bad guys always seem to the win the hearts of good girls Why most marriages are plagued with “bland sex” And what you can do to reignite the spark in your marriage Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How to understand the difference between a healthy and a toxic relationship (3:16) So, why do good girls like bad guys? There’s two main reasons, and we discuss them at (10:26) and (23:05) How your parent’s strict discipline forces your wife to view you as a “boring” and “harmless” nice guy (and these are NOT good traits to have if you want passionate sex with your wife) (10:44) Why nice guys can be locked in the friendzone forever — even if she finds him a total 10/10 (20:06) How men — by default — “reverse” the attractive qualities of their girlfriend (the same qualities that made her attractive in the first place) (25:05)  Finally! We know why women try to “fix” their crazy boyfriend (even if he’s a repeat offender, and has been to jail multiple times) (27:40) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery  

Most guys mistakenly think falling in love equals a thriving sex life. Unfortunately, it’s not that easy. They’re two separate concepts. And if you don’t understand the difference, there’s a good chance that… You’ll end up in a sexless relationship. One where you sleep in separate beds.One where you never have sex. And the only time you do, you awkwardly climb on top of her, spend about 30 minutes with the lights off, but…  She doesn’t feel anything (and neither do you.)  So, that’s the bad news. Ready for the good news? In today’s episode, I reveal how to ignite sexual passion in your relationship (even if it’s been more than a year.)  You’ll also discover how to create sexual desire for yourself (even if you’re overweight, and a “nice guy.”) In fact, sexual desire has more to do with your brain, and less with your body.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Yes, even as a “good guy”, you can create sexual desire for yourself (works even if you haven’t had sex in a while) (3:21) Falling in love DOES NOT equal a thriving sex life. The way to achieve passionate sex in your relationship? Eliminate your “sexual shame” (3:48) Trying to “earn” sex by being nice is why white knights don’t get laid (11:19) How to have mind-altering sex with your wife by visiting the cop shop (13:54) Why focusing on “sex psychology” turns your wife on 80% more than physical sex techniques (15:20) How to give any woman a spectacular orgasm without even touching her (you could do this with a messenger pigeon) (19:16) Yes, women like men who are dominant in the bedroom. But what’s “too far” in terms of dominance? The answer is at (20:07) No, contrary to popular belief, women don’t like being penetrated by a “jackhammer.” They prefer (this) (20:59) How to turn your wife on like a faucet by using these 3 “bad boy” qualities (and no, you don’t have to be a “bad boy” to use them) (29:47) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Smart men repulse attractive women. And it’s not because of their looks, status, or sex appeal either. But it’s all got to do with failing to understand “EI.” Once you naturally tap into “EI”, flirting, dating, and relationships become a breeze — It’s near effortless.  Not only that, “EI” isn’t some new concept. It’s been around since the 20th century, and celebrities like David Beckham, Leonardo DiCaprio, and Keanu Reeves all tap into “EI.”  And if you want to have a long-term, successful relationship, then you must understand “EI.”  In today’s episode, I reveal how smart men can succeed at relationships with “EI.”  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why nerds are forced to settle for women who are way past their peak sexual market value (2:25) Are you a smart guy that just got married? Here’s how to avoid “hell” commonly seen at the Year 3 mark of any marriage (2:52) How intelligent men can enhance their relationships by understanding “EI” (and “EI” has nothing to do with looks or sex appeal) (3:55) The wrong way to approach a relationship? Fall in love with her (20:30) How smart men sabotage their marriages by viewing their wife as a “sidekick” to their life’s greater goals (23:27) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery  

Women HATE men who need to be right all the time.  The most anti-seductive and relationship-destroying action a man can do is intellectually argue with his wife or girlfriend. When men “correct” or debate their partner while ignoring her emotions, she feels: Unseen Unheard Unsafe And she will pull away unconsciously because of the lack of emotional connection So, if men want to enjoy successful relationships or even successfully date women, they need to get rid of the, “Either I’m right or you are” mentality. And in today’s episode, I reveal how to deepen your connection with women and your partner by being ok when she says something you think is “wrong.” You’ll also discover why we are actually programmed by society to think like children.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: What single guys get wrong about attracting women (It’s got nothing to do with looks, status, presence, sex appeal, or muscles) (0:54)  How to adopt the correct attitude for a positive long-term relationship with these 13 words (1:54) The flat out bizarre way to find your dream girl by secretly dating the female version of Adolf Hitler (2:47) [Single White Guys] Are you actually any better than a psychopath? (3:22) Why “authoritarian” domestic violence laws force men to unleash their rage in an unhealthy way (6:30) How to stop nasty fights with your wife by looking over your shoulder, making sure no cars are there, and putting it in reverse (12:02) Why finding “the one” is harder than ever before because single young people are programmed by society to think like children (supported by psychologists) (15:10) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Women are turned on by emotionally strong men — they crave rugged masculinity. But if you’re going through the therapeutic process, you have to lower the gates to the castle. In short, you need to be vulnerable. And during your process of healing and growing, it might be too much for your significant other. There’s a possibility she’ll think you're an “emotional basket case.” Worst part? If you don’t include her in your transformation, there’s a real chance she’ll feel threatened and alienated by your progress — and the relationship could terminate because of it. That’s the bad news. The good news? I reveal how to undertake the therapeutic process — without alienating your significant other. Today’s also a special episode, because for the first time, we have a guest. Today’s guest is Brandon, and we have an on-air, live chat about how to figure out exactly how vulnerable he should be in front of women. We also delve into exactly WHY he feels vulnerable, as well as the coping strategies he unknowingly implements. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Ever ask yourself, “why did I say that?!?” and feel horribly image conscious? Brandon and I discuss this at (4:17) How to unlock supreme security in your self-image by teaching others jiu jitsu (even if you have no experience with jiu jitsu) (5:27) The shocking degree to which your parents unknowingly installed positive—or negative—traits in your life (without IFS therapy, you have very little control over how you react in certain situations) (9:33) How to tap into the deepest parts of your psyche by holding a small, fragile puffer fish with delicate care (12:26) Ever feel an uncontrollable urge to argue with others—even when normal people would consider your actions “over-the-top”? The answer is at (15:43) Your pre-installed “mischievous little brother” part which forces you to shut down and ignore others (sabotaging your relationships because of it) (18:45) Ever crave for an older brother, father, or male-mentor in your life? We discuss why at (33:08) The “unblending” strategy to stop a flurry of overwhelming emotions (and finally be able to settle down into a long-term relationship) (37:22) Why attending therapy with your significant ensures you don’t become an “emotional basket case” in front of her (39:18) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

=== “Hi David, Why do we crave women we’ve only just met? And why are we depressed when we get rejected when asking for a longer relationship? What's behind it, and how do I tackle this situation? When I meet a new girl, I’m happy and I jump around — my life is full of joy. I think about her all the time, and I’m in a needy state… even though the chances for a long-term relationship at this point are still miles away. So, how do I control my feelings in a healthy way? A way so I don’t get destroyed if she rejects or friendzones me? === That question came in from Listener Ronnie. And in today’s episode, I reveal how to eliminate the feelings of anxiety and neediness when dating women. I also share WHY you crave women you’ve just met, and a few unconventional methods to overcome your pre-installed traits. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How learning to seduce a 9 or 10 by giving her “the look” still leaves you needy and anxious for her approval (2:54) Why believing a girlfriend will “complete you” sabotages your long-term happiness and fulfillment (3:21) Ever crave for a woman you’ve only met for a short time? Why is that? The answer is at (6:43) Do you feel depressed when rejected by a woman—even one you’ve only known for a couple of weeks? The answer is also at (6:43) How to feel unending bliss—and live a life full of joy—by left-swiping women on Tinder who are spontaneous (and add fun to your life) (7:20) Why the “Twin Terrors” force you to self-sabotage on a date—and act like an emotionally manipulative victim. Most men suffer from this their entire life… do you? (9:26) Over 40 and feel like you have to perform in order to feel worthy of love? The answer is at (11:07) The 4 different “attachment styles” which points out why we need to constantly check if she’s replied back (20:40) How to terminate neediness when meeting a woman by using a depth gauge and a compass (authorized by the Navy Seals) (24:59) The “abundance theory” superpower which eliminates neediness with one tap of a button on your phone (and here’s why this mindset will obliterate any hope of a successful long-term relationship) (26:50) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Few people know their true purpose in life and even fewer follow their purpose on a regular basis. Most people lack hope, joy, and meaning. It robs them of any happiness they used to have in life. They don’t feel motivated to do anything Struggle to roll out of bed at 10am Procrastinate for hours about brushing their teeth And it looks like the Tsar Bomba exploded in their room They’re chained to their desks. Secretly want to strangle their boss. Hang off the edge of their seats, desperate for their Apple watch to hit 5pm. So, how do you find meaning in life? In today’s episode, I reveal the “Contemplation” tactic that’s required for discovering your life’s purpose. You’ll also discover why endlessly scrolling through your phone creates a vicious cycle of depression, anxiety, and mental chatter. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why playing a round of bingo with the old folks — instead of watching an Andrew Tate video — enhances your life’s direction by a power of 10:1 (1:36) How to uncover fulfillment, happiness, and constant success in life by accessing your “mind’s eye” (no, it’s not meditation or chakra training) (2:46) Tune into your subconscious’s deepest thoughts, feelings, desires with the “60:20 Rule” (and achieve a sense of clarity and peace like you’ve never felt before) (5:48) Under 30 and lack purpose? Unlock direction in your life by watching commercials from 2006 (6:50) How binge watching motivational videos for 6 hours sucks the motivation and energy from your body like a Hoover vacuum (12:14) 9 “Introspection Practices” to break free from your constant mental chatter (and eliminate your anxiety and nervous thoughts) (18:39) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Do you want a long-term relationship, or do you want lots of casual, hot sex? Reason I ask: a “one-size-fits-all” approach when dating women doesn’t work. What’s worse, is mixing up the approaches, and applying the wrong approach. For example, if you optimized your dating life for short-term, promiscuous sex… Then you’re making it near impossible to find a healthy, happy, and fulfilling relationship. The opposite is true as well. If you try and optimize for the long-term, then your chances of bedding a woman every week is impossible. So, what are these approaches I speak of? In today’s episode, I reveal how to hook up with as many hot, college aged girls as you can. And If that isn’t of interest to you, you’ll also discover why being discriminatory to a certain group of people is the key to having a long-term marriage. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why “WPF” destroys your marriage before it even starts (and is especially harmful for men who have no dating experience, but still want to get married later on) (5:37) The counterintuitive reason why being a man-whore at 19 “ethically forces” you to be a loving husband (who never cheats on his wife) (6:00) Are you interested in hot sex with lots of women? Or are you interested in a long-term relationship? There are 5 different personalities, and you can learn which one you are with the “Truth Tree” (9:21) How even butt ugly guys can have a rock solid relationship — one with a 95% success rate — by choosing (this) (12:11) Why thinking “I’ll date a couple girls, and I’ll marry the one I like the most” murders your chances of a loving relationship (14:41) How to turn on your soulmate by turning her off as quick as possible (18:02) [Asian Men] Looking for a long-term, authentic relationship with a white girl? Take her to a sashimi place (20:40) Are you palms sweaty, knees weak, and arms heavy when on a date? It’s because of your “toxic shame” (not to be confused with toxic masculinity) (32:03) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

“She stares deeply into your eyes, with a playful smile across her face. She races across to the far right corner of the room, and flicks off the switch with her left hand. Your eyes haven’t adjusted to the new lighting, it’s now pitch black, and you can hear her shifting around near the bed… She’s getting undressed.  The nerves start to kick in. Your stomach starts to churn. It’s finally happening — and you’re not prepared. After what feels like an eternity, she’s completely naked, with the sheets off, lying on her back in your bed. She rolls over to her left, makes full eye contact, slowly raises her hand, and curls her index finger.  She wants you to come into bed. What do you do?” The reason why I wrote this short vignette: Many men have a hard time in the bedroom. Even though we love to fantasize about what we’d do, the reality is, many guys still choke up in the bedroom. And the reason for this is sexual shame.  Sexual shame is: What holds us back from taking the lead role in the bedroom (essential, as research shows the majority of women don’t like submissive guys) What stops us from enjoying sex Feeling like a “creep” or “monster” for simply being attracted to women Guilt over having purely physical desires for sexual contact with someone Feeling overwhelming shame for indulging in some kind of sexual activity or self-pleasure Obviously, sexual shame is a huge burden among men. And in today’s episode, I reveal how to overcome your sexual shame. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why your own sexual shame is one of the biggest burdens preventing you from accessing your natural attractiveness (0:25) How the feelings of post-nut clarity psychologically represses you and your ability to find a girlfriend (2:21) The “Good Boy” coping mechanism that distracts you from overcoming your shame (which prevents you from falling in love with the “one”) (3:00) Enjoy flirting and banter by unburdening yourself from your sexual shame (3:34) How to get your girlfriend begging for more by accessing your “Inner-50-Shades-of-Grey” (4:59) “If you leave your sexual shame unexamined, it will sabotage your attractiveness as a man” (38:06) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

For men struggling to get a date, dating techniques do nothing but: Batter their self-worth Make them feel ashamed for not living up to “expectations” of what a man should be Ruin their self-confidence And sabotage their chances of finding true love As these men apply dating techniques in the real world… Their hands tremble, their knees quake, their lips shake, they choke up, and they sweat bullets when talking to a girl. Why? Because dating techniques are a bandaid over a gaping wound — the gaping wound being your own subconscious mind. And the only way to overcome your severe anxiety and nerves is through the therapeutic process. In today’s episode, I reveal why most dating problems are indeed therapeutic problems. I also reveal how to uncover your pre-installed wit, charm, and humor. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Feel like a “fake” when trying to appear confident in front of girls? Use the 8’Cs of true-self to melt away your nerves, fears, and anxiety (2:29) How to uncover the pre-installed witty, charming, funny, and sexually attractive parts of you by “tricking” your subconscious (works even if you’re a shy or nerdy guy) (4:08) Why you’re subconsciously ignoring the parts of you that enjoy being sexy, taking risks, and likes experiencing adventure (5:43) “You don’t get to experience your full potential until you go through (this)” (5:59) Think dating’s all about good looks, money, or status? Here’s the “martial arts” secret that debunks this popular myth (and enables you to become — at least — a 7/10) (6:18) Why you should never listen to the advice of a fat, ugly, short janitor who picks up 9’s and 10’s at the club every weekend (8:20) The difference between a “cup of coffee” at her place and sleeping alone is the use of “DT” at the end of your questions (15:27) You’re already naturally talented at flirting, banter, humor, and wittiness. You just need to know how to access it (17:55) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

In order to find a loving relationship, you need to become somebody you’re not. You need to rock a new haircut, fill your wardrobe with designer clothes, and hit the gym 24/7. You need to morph into Sean Connery’s James Bond. Charming, handsome, seductive, and irresistible to modern women. Here’s the thing: If you’re seeking a long-term relationship, this is easily the worst advice you could ever listen to! Now, if you're optimizing your life for a short-term fling, have at it. Be the “player.” But I’m assuming you're reading this because you want a long-term relationship. And if you are, then what you need to do is unburden the already naturally attractive parts in you. In today’s episode, I reveal the 7 steps to unleashing the already naturally attractive parts within you. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The “BSYANA” myth that sabotages your chances of finding a loving relationship with the “one” (3:28) How to unleash the naturally attractive parts of yourself with these 7 steps (9:03) Why most men fail to be the man that modern women desire most (hint: it’s not being a macho man like Sean Connery’s James Bond) (16:23) The “LASAE” strategy to be sexually attractive in the eyes of hetrosexual women (21:01) How to form deeper emotional connections with women by teleporting back to your teenage self (23:33) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There are 3.9 billion women in the world. And trying to attract every single one of them is damn near impossible. But when men optimize their Tinder profile for short-term hookups, that’s what they’re trying for — they’re making themselves “mass-market” to attract women. And this never works. Instead, they become a commodity — “just another player.” And when their potential soulmate sees them… She’s physically repulsed — and doesn’t want anything to do with them. So, if being “mass-market” doesn’t work, then what does? I propose you “niche down” your personality to attract the ONE girl that truly matters. And in today’s episode, I reveal how to create a loving long-term relationship by being more of who you already are. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The “always growing” lie propagated by the so-called “self-help” world (and how it cripples your ability to be unconditionally loved) (1:36) Why “shrinking the pool” of women you speak to amplifies your chances of finding “the one” (8:08) How clicking pause on an Andrew Tate video ensures a beautiful future with your wife, children, and grandchildren (9:52) Why Tinder feeds your inner beast (and makes your soulmate seem irrelevant) (12:28) The sobering reality behind your chances of success on Tinder, as explained by The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast (14:00) How to get your ex back with the “Intense Connect” strategy (18:15) The “Long Tail” method Amazon uses to be positioned as the most successful option (and how you can copy this exact approach to find the love of your life) (22:26) Why appealing to every woman’s innate sexual desires is the best way to ruin your chances with the one that truly matters (23:36) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Do you want to be ‘the man’, a ‘player’, or a so-called ‘bad boy’? I’m going to assume a big, fat no. Most guys aren’t looking to bed 50 women every week. They’re looking to settle down with a beautiful, attractive, and mature wife — not endless one-night-stands with club bimbos.  And this is where Andrew Tate, Fresh and Fit, and other pick up artists are steering you in the wrong direction. Their approach is optimized for these club bimbos. It’s great for when you’ve just left a divorce, and want to make up for lost time, but… If you’re looking to have a 50-year long relationship, start a family, and feel fulfilled, then this approach is near suicidal to your happiness.  The pick up artists from the 2000’s are single and unsatisfied. And if they’re married? They often resort to cheating or visiting prostitutes — their marriage has no passionate sex!  So if listening to these YouTube dating gurus isn’t the answer, then what is? In today’s episode, I reveal how to optimize your dating life for a long-term relationship. I also reveal why you need to give her the chance to cheat on you. Unconventional thinking, I know, but hear me out. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How “being yourself” turns her off before you even open your mouth (0:43) Why 50-year long relationships (full of passionate, steamy sex) require you to give her a chance to cheat on you (1:05) How to unlock unconditional love with an amazing girlfriend by taking off the “BS mask” (2:09) Why participating in “hookup culture” automatically sabotages your chances of finding unconditional love with a beautiful wife (3:23) Why the majority of attractive women are immature (22:11) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Men feel like they lack true purpose and meaning in their relationships. Why? Dating apps and most dating advice promote short-term dating strategies that only work on immature women. These strategies leave men without meaning, purpose, and true connection when they try to settle down. That’s if they can even settle down at all… When you’ve spent years programming these short-term strategies into your mind, it’s near impossible to break these habits. When that happens, you become a repellant for women who are seeking a long-term relationship. Now, if you don’t care about having a 50-year long relationship, true life partnership, or unconditional love in a committed relationship, then this episode isn’t for you. But if you are, then what I’m going to share will be the most exciting podcast you’ve ever listened to. In today’s episode, I reveal how to be in a loving and committed relationship by deleting this specific app off your phone (it’s not Facebook, Instagram, or Tik Tok.) You’ll also hear my take on Andrew Tate (and how he’s actually battling sexual shame in himself.) Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The counter-intuitive reason why having poor self-image makes you more attractive to women who are in it for the long haul (4:50) Why you have a greater chance of finding meaning and purpose in a relationship compared to that kid in middle school who got girls whenever he wanted (15:28) How showing up to the bar dressed in tattered clothes, a spluttering 94’ Honda Civic, and a wingman who looks like Brad Pitt will help you find unconditional love (16:24) This secret technique allows you to tap into the mind of women (and get her turned on by your mere presence) (22:16) Why receiving a text saying “I’m not into you” is actually a surefire sign that she’s into you (23:09) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Women. Can’t live with them, can’t live without them. This is definitely true, and there are certain types of women you must avoid like the plague (unless you like dealing with suffering, feeling helpless, and an empty bank account.) Before you think, “Oh yeah, I’ll just avoid the clubs and meet someone with morals,” I have to stop you right there. There’s proof that shows there are women who are “fake, good”, and merely pretend to be moral. And there’s also proof that women who hit up clubs are the best option for a long term relationship. So how do you avoid wasting countless years of your life speaking to toxic bimbos? On today’s episode, I reveal how to find the exact type of woman who’s a perfect fit for a successful, long term relationship.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How to only date women who’ll make you happy (and avoid draining countless years of your life speaking to toxic bimbos) (0:39) Why dating insufferable women establishes negative programming into your brain (3:19) How Andrew Tate and FreshandFit deceive you into pursuing unsuitable, immature women who are not ready for long term commitment (10:44) Why executing your inner nice guy with a 12 gauge shotgun will open up your mind to the reality of how women think (especially the reality of how women are with their sexuality) (13:48) Think you should protect your little sister from “bad boys”? Think again! Your little brother is at more risk of being taken advantage of from predatory single women (15:23) How to live a life of sexual abundance by not being a blatant hypocrite (18:55) 3 key traits every woman must have if you want to seriously consider a long term relationship (if your pursuing a woman, and she doesn’t have these 3 key traits, move on) (21:56) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

There are two big myths most people believe—my former self included—about therapy which sabotage their results. Especially over the long-term.  Even if you have initial success on your therapeutic journey, believing in one of these myths can undermine your progress. The result? You're back to square one, and believe therapy just can’t work for you. But it’s the myths, not the therapeutic process itself, responsible for you snapping back into your old patterns.  That’s why in this episode, I’m peeling back the curtains and revealing more about my personal therapeutic journey, so you can duplicate my success. Plus, I reveal three examples of how my early IFS therapy process (as a client) fills me with joy to this day.  It won’t be easy, especially at first. But nothing worthwhile ever is.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: Why therapy feels impossible for you (and how to make it feel effortless) (5:02)  The cold, hard truth about why people revert to their old patterns after leaving therapy (and the single best way to prevent this) (7:24)  Why picking a therapist who has a therapist themselves enhances your success with therapy (8:25)  The “Here and Now” secret for unlocking the best results from therapy (10:04)  How having a heated argument with your wife can actually improve your experience with the therapeutic process (11:54)  Why resisting your extreme emotions unleashes pain throughout your body (and how to feel extreme emotions without pain) (16:46) How focusing too much on the model of therapy can sabotage your results (and how to succeed with any model you use) (24:28)  The sneaky way you can neglect your parts even after unburdening them (35:08)  Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/  Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Sadness is something most guys struggle with. But it’s the one emotion they repress the most. And this repression leads to increased stress, anxiety, and depression. Not only that, the increase in cortisol associated with stress can lead to changes in heart rate, motivation and sleep.  Worst part? Men who repress their emotions are more likely to visit McDonalds, drink Jack Daniels on a Wednesday, and smoke a pack a day — which leads to women finding them unattractive.  This creates a vicious cycle.  In today’s episode, you’ll discover exactly how to deal how to overcome your sadness (even if you’ve tried everything before.) You’ll also discover why getting a girlfriend or wife won’t make you happy.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: If your answer is to disown, repress, or wish away your sadness, then you’ll never be able to feel happy (2:20) Why integrating your sadness unlocks fulfillment and satisfaction (and why you’ll be finally able to experience the love flowing from within you) (3:14) How embracing your sadness is the one key to opening up your natural attractiveness and start magnetizing attractive women (4:20) Feel like getting a girlfriend will solve all your problems? Here’s why that’s not the case (and what will provide fulfillment, satisfaction, and happiness) (4:53) Why feeling lonely isn’t sadness (and how the “loneliness text” that’s biologically programmed within you forces you to reconnect with your friends) (7:12) How to win friends and influence people (8:36) Under 30 and didn’t have sex in 2022? Don’t worry, at (10:21) you’ll discover how 1/3rd of people (men and women) under 30 didn’t have sex for the whole year Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum

Last week we covered how “pain is not an emotion.” Ok, great. But what do you do about an emotion that feels painful? In today’s episode, you’ll discover exactly how to deal with painful emotions (even if you’ve been to an IFS therapist before and it didn’t work.) You’ll also discover three emotions that immature people consider to be painful.  Listen now! Show Highlights Include: How to murder the feelings of anger, fear, shame, inferiority, and anxiety by mastering these 4 emotional skills (our society and schools actively avoid teaching 95% of men these critical skills) (3:10) Why standard therapy is a great way to flush $5,000 of your precious cold, hard cash down the toilet if you can’t be “present with your emotions” (5:28) The most common pitfall affecting most intellectuals when going through the therapeutic process that sabotages their progress (6:57) Sick of feeling paralyzed with fear? Check out this free, gentle meditation that instantly soothes stress, anxiety, and calms your nerves (works even if you’ve tried other “traditional” meditation exercises) (11:42) The “float-back” secret that eliminates your fears (19:08) Why listening to this piece of advice from Jordan Peterson could make your son feel isolated, excluded, and left out of society (28:32) How “guru-worshiping” stunts your intellectual capability (and in a sneaky way, turns you into a snowflake who can’t disagree with other people's opinions) (29:55) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now. For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Get access to all my current and future online coaching courses by applying for the Platinum Partnership program today at: https://www.davidtianphd.com/platinum