Here we are, folks.November 6th, 2024, Tuesday after the election.This is reality.This is what we got.Now, if I know anything about you, my dear friends, I see you coming in here on Instagram.
If I know anything about you, I know that you are a person who knows what it's like to be knocked the fuck out. down.
You know what it's like to have people in your life, systems that are working against you, that are making it feel impossible to have the things you want.That's what I know about you.
So I don't know how you're feeling today as you wake up in the morning, get your kids off to school, get yourself off to work.
I woke up at 4.14am for the first time in the past couple of days, not because my kids woke me up, just sitting in bed, la la bing.Like I know I went to bed early last night, but I knew what I was going to be waking up to today.Bing!
There was no fantasy that I was going to be able to go back to sleep contending with reality, mourning the loss of what I hoped would be happening as I went into the evening of. November 5th.
It quickly became clear that the reality I wanted, the reality I had hoped for, was not going to come to pass.
For those of you who are watching, this is gonna be a podcast too, but for those of you who are watching on this Instagram Live, type into the chat, how are you feeling in this moment?What are you noticing?
I went to walk my kiddo to school today, looking around at the people, the people's faces.All the parents were saying good morning, and then making this, Sad face, hoping the kids wouldn't see.First of all, my kids are gonna know what reality is.
My kids are gonna know.Balanced.Kirsten says, I feel like shit.How do you feel today?Sad, Joy Tree says.Sad.Potentially humbled.Potentially confused.Not surprised, Jennifer said.I knew this was gonna come.
If you're just joining, type into the chat, how are you feeling as you wake up this morning and look out on the landscape That is our future.All the heaviness and seeing it within others.Numb.Numb.We got numbs here.Folks, you are not alone.
You are not alone.And I'm going to say, I want you to take all the time.I told my team today, if you need to take time, team, take your time. Take your time today, take your time for the next four years, right?
Humboldt said, so annoyed by this election talk.Glad it's over and ready to move forward.Hurting and itchy and grief, heavy.We're all gonna be in different places.We all handle our. our grief.We all handle our surprise.
We all handle our disappointment differently.But here's why I wanted to come on today.I wanted to come on and give you a little hope.You don't have to hold it.You can be grieving.You can be struggling.You can be sad.
I want you to hold all of those things. But for me, I want you to know for you, for us, I'm holding hope.Here's what I don't like.I do not like the limbo.I do not like being in limbo.What's gonna happen?What's gonna be next?
What is our future gonna look like?What's the future of democracy?I don't like that.What I do like is knowing what reality is.I like to know the reality.That's all I want.
Once I know what's real, once I know what I'm contending with, I can fucking show up. I can think about who and how do I want to be showing up now that we have this reality.This is what we do in Lim.In Lim, in our community, we invite our students.
We invite the therapist in Lim or who are on our newsletter or who are following us on Instagram.We invite you to step into reality.We don't avoid it. We don't put our head in the sand.We don't pretend it's not there.
We don't sit and lament and wish it was different.I mean, you could do all those things for a few minutes.But then, we show the fuck up.We step the fuck up.And we say, given that this is reality, what am I gonna do?Who am I gonna be?
Because here's the thing I know about you.I know, I know that you know how to fight the fucking man. I know that you've contended with hardship, whether the time you're little, dealing with folks, parents who didn't know how to show up for you.
When you showed up fully, when you were yourself, you were told you were too much, sit down, shut up, you're too loud, you're taking up too much space, you're taking space from me.I know that that was your early days.
And then I know you went into a system that told you, shut up, sit down, Prioritize other people first, martyr yourself.If you want something for yourself, you're greedy.Your desires, your presence, your voice is too much.I know that about you.
And then I know that you went into a professional community as a therapist, as a mental health clinician, that again said, serve other people first, put yourself second, put yourself third, put yourself last.And now here we are, looking around,
at this landscape, looking at this fire that's about to come upon us, here's what I know.Here's what I know about you.You know how to rise from the fucking ashes.You know how to rise from the ashes.You've done it before.And look, you may be tired.
I'm tired.I got up at 4.14.My kids are not respecting the time change.They're not interested in the time change. I'm tired.You're tired.Take your time.Take the time you need.But I know about you.I know that you're a fighter.You're a fucking rebel.
You're not gonna sit back and give up and lay down and say bye.You are going to fight for what you want.You are the kind of person who's gonna say, I want a world that reflects what I want. I wanna practice that's in line with who and how I wanna be.
I wanna be a therapist that shows up and does amazing clinical work.I wanna fight, I wanna be emancipated from a system, a system that was not meant for me.That's the fact, this system you're in You were set up to fail.
This system has set you up to fail.So as long as you keep attempting to live within the system, and I'm not talking about, well, I was about to say, don't go break the system.The system's fucking broken.The system is already broken.
So where can you make change?When you think about your practice, it's a small spot.It's a small place to be.I want you to think about what you desire.I want you to take a moment to separate your thoughts.What are the things I want?
What are the things if I really check in with myself?Liberation is my priority now, Jamie says, yes.
And I'm talking about liberate your mind, liberate your self, your psyche, from the thoughts, from the system, the messages that have gotten inside of you that said, you're too big, you're too loud, you're not good enough, you don't deserve it.
You can have wealth, you can have freedom, you can have ease, when you work a little harder, when you get another certification, when you, ah, when you deserve it.I'm here to tell you, you deserve it right now.You deserve it right now.
Nobody's gonna fucking save you.This system we have is not going to save you.There is one person.It's not your mom.It's not our president.It's not me.It's not the insurance panels.There is one person who is going to save you. And that is yourself.
Does that mean you cannot be in community?No.I want you to be in community.Does that mean you're going to have to be alone?You know, a joy.Does that mean you have to be alone?Absolutely not.In community, in community.
But at the end of the day, it is your job.It is your job to get crystal clear about who you are, how you want to show up in the world.It is your job to, to be aware of, and then set aside. The messages that say you are not enough.
Your desires are not worth it.What you want is greedy. you can say, fuck that.I'm going to show up.I'm going to earn the money I need.Exactly right.Our jobs have not changed.Our jobs have not changed.
And your clients are going to need you now more than they ever have.They're going to need you.And this is why, by the way, I don't know if you all know me.My name is Tiffany.I help therapists charge premium fees.
This is why I encourage therapists to make bank for what you do. You have to show up today and tomorrow and the next day and be of service to your clients.
You have to be the one who can hold space for the mourning, the grief, the loss, the disappointment, the sorrow.You have to hold space for that.I'm going to be here to hold space for that for you.Feel free to send me a DM.
If you want to join LIM, look, I'm going to open LIM up for 24 hours.So you want to join LIM, send me a DM.I'll let you into our community. I'll be here to hold space so you can actually show up.This is real.This is reality.I want you to stand firm.
Ooh, I like what Jane says.Feeling holy energy right now.Energized to show up as powerfully as possible to have more influence for good.That is exactly right.That is exactly right.You mourn, you suffer, you have disappointment.
I want you to have all that and know that there are people like me and pretty soon it's going to be people like you who are going to say no. Nope.I'm not waiting for this system to save me.
I'm not waiting for insurance payers to reimburse me at a higher rate.I'm stepping out of this fucking system and I'm going to design a system that works for me.And it's going to start with my practice.I'm going to earn the money I need to earn.
I'm going to work the hours I need to work so that I can have ease, freedom, and wealth.And then with that power, with those resources, I'm going to look out on this landscape.And let me say something here. I don't know about you.
Maybe, you know, I've been around a minute.Been around a minute.This is not my first rodeo.We do not get to escape.We do not get to escape the wheel of time, the wheel of history.What?What's happening right now?
This was set in motion long before you or I were on this planet.This is bigger than us.This system is going to roll.History is playing out.So it's our job to pay attention to, Who and how do we need to be?How do we strategically show up?
How do we need to set ourselves up professionally as clinicians, as people in private practice, as parents, as women, as folks from marginalized communities, people of color, queer folks, folks with disabilities.Nobody is going to fucking save you.
So how do you need to be stepping up and showing up in order to make sure you, the people around Your clients are taken care of in this moment.I want you to think about that.If you want some support, send me a DM today.I'll be in my DMs.
I'm going to be in my DMs.Whatever you want to share, let me know.The system is not going to save you.You can fucking save yourself.And I know, I know that if there's one thing you know how to do, you know how to fight the fucking man.
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