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Oh, I was making a note.OK, take that out.All right.Well, I don't really have to sing the theme song, right?He can just stick it in.Unless it gets you guys in the mood.It gets me in the mood.
Stick it in, it gets me in the mood, yes.
That wasn't good.OK, OK, OK.All right. Dear Krinkle, would you be so kind to answer our questions?What do you have in mind?Oh yeah, now I'm in the mood.
Welcome everybody to Dear Krinkle, the great mini-podcast offshoot of Nobody Listens to Paula Poundstown.We're a mini-sode right here.
It's featuring Paula Poundstown, Adam Felber, and Tony Anita Hall, but it's starring our own Captain Krinkle here to offer you advice.Bonnie Burns, how are you?
Yes, I'm ready for your questions, and I'm here to go.
That's so much less sexy than I think you hoped it would be.
No, I wasn't.I was just telling them a different voice.Yeah.There you go.How are you, Bonnie?Good?Don't do it again. I'm good.How many different ways can I say I'm really enjoying getting your questions?Okay, I know one.
I'm good, and I hope we'll be of help today.
Oh, there we go.Hope we'll be of help today.
That's wonderfully done.Tony Anita Hall, why don't you step on up with the first question for Dear Krinkle?No.
Captain Krinkle has saved lives.
Yeah.Hey, NLTPP folks and Captain Crinkle.I moved to my home in the South a few years ago and made the mistake of greeting neighbors with a perfunctory invitation to, quote, drop by anytime.
In reality, I would prefer not to constantly entertain folks.I'm pretty busy and free time is precious these days. One neighbor in particular has taken to calling and texting on a regular basis to see if they can come hang out.
I'm stressed out making excuses as to why I'm not available.They drive by my home and see if my car is in the driveway, so it's difficult to claim I'm occupied. I don't know how to walk back my invitation without directly hurting their feelings.
On top of my fear of offending Southern decorum, I know this neighbor is a dramatic gossip.Will they blacklist me from neighborhood functions?How do I get this neighbor to leave me alone?Anonymous.
Oh, Anonymous, you really have a problem there.
Why he or she wrote in, I would say.
But I think just getting that empathy probably is meaningful to Anonymous.
I like that the nation's preeminent advice giver is surprised that somebody who wrote into her advice show has a problem.
Yeah.I gave this a lot of thought.Well, I gave it some thought.Well, I didn't think of it at all, really. Okay, gosh.
You know, I think everything I suggest probably isn't going to work, but I would not make myself miserable because of this person, even if she goes and gossips and all that.
I think what I'd say is, you know, I'm sorry that we haven't had a chance to get together, but I've been so busy, whatever it is, at work, I don't know if you work, and you know, when all this is over, let's get together.
I realize that's an out-and-out lie.Maybe you don't have to add the end.My daughter says I talk too much.You know, I always feel like I have to add something at the end and then it gets me in trouble.Yeah.Like this stuff?Yeah.
Yeah.You know what?This reminds me a lot of you, the whole thing. The drop by any time thing reminds me of you.Not that I've known you to say drop by any time, but anonymous.
No, I've never been to Bonnie's place.
Years ago.Well, I spent so much time over at Tony's.I don't have time to go to Bonnie's.
You don't go to Tony's place either.Bonnie and Tony have never invited us to their places.
Yeah, they don't care about us at all.All right, so years ago, I had a stalker at one point, a woman.What?Yeah, I have told you this story before.
This woman who showed up at a lot of things, and one day she left a sign on a tree just outside of my house. which means what was upsetting about it was now she, you know, she used to stalk me at shows, but now she knew where I lived.
It was very upsetting.And I told Bonnie and I was very upset.And she said, you know, maybe we could hire her. She wanted to like, she was like, well, let's just take that energy and that enthusiasm and, you know, turn it in.
And Bonnie has a tendency to come up with just horrible ideas.And, and speaking of horrible ideas, stuff like drop by any time, you know, and she'll say it and then we're trapped.
Any number of times I've had to say to Bonnie, don't say that to somebody because then she'll go, oh yeah, I knew it as soon as I said it.So I wonder, Anonymous, if you knew as soon as you said drop by anytime that that was a terrible idea.
If you really are too busy to visit with your neighbor, why not just say I'm busy? Why not just, each time the text comes in, go, you know what, geez, sorry, it's not gonna work for me, I'm busy.
What's wrong with responding each time if you're honestly too busy?And if you're not honestly too busy, then maybe this is the lump you take for having said drop by any time.
Wow, I think that's such bad advice.
I don't, I have to say, I don't agree with the lump part.I don't think you have to take that lump.But I also think that it might not be that she said drop by anytime.
I don't think that's necessarily the reason why this woman is calling, texting and dropping by.
I think, I think she's a nosy neighbor in a Southern neighborhood who, you know, she's the lady who drops by and she's the lady who will take any invitation, even if there is no invitation.So I think, yeah,
I don't think lying is a great thing, but I totally lie on this one.Pretend you're writing a book or something.
I would just block her number.
Block her number?No, you can't block her number.That'd really piss somebody off.
I would just say, oh, I didn't know you were texting me.They haven't been coming through.
I would pretend that you're super busy.
Did she say they te- oh. Taking their calling and texting on a regular basis.
Had you read the letter, you'd know their calling and texting and- Wait, isn't there one more?Yeah, there's one more.
Okay.Hey Tony, you got another one there for Dear Crinkle?
Yes, I do.Dear Captain, big fan, I have found myself working for small businesses with smaller staffs.
I like to relate to my coworkers, but the more I get to know them, the more annoying I find them, especially when people present their opinions as fact.I find this to be a sign of, well, stupidity.
I know this is my issue for letting them get on my nerves. I am not good at debate, so I don't know how to exist with this type of person.Interactions consume my mind when the day is done.Do you have any sage words?Much appreciated, Liz.
Hi Liz.Thanks for writing in.
Wow.That is, that is a warm reception to Liz right off the bat.Okay.
Liz, here's what I think.Number one, don't engage in debate.I've learned this from experience with stupid people because you're just going to lose energy over it.And What's the point of talking to stupid people?I wouldn't do that.
I think one thing you could do, maybe exercise before you go to work or after work so that you can get a lot of this resentment out of your system or you could feel more positive when you go to work.
And then I think you just got to tolerate it and not be so friendly.
Have you been in situations, Bonnie, where you work in a small business with a small staff? Yeah, I think I have.And you found them annoying?Has that happened?You found them annoying?You know, I don't know.
No, I'm not— What are we getting at here?
There's no way to say anything to that, because I— About how small was the staff?Would you say there was about, well, including you, four people?
Is that— Maybe four people total?I don't— You know, she could keep a journal, Liz, and get all the— Is that what you did, Bonnie?
Did you keep a journal about the person or people at work that annoyed you?No, no, I can't— You know— You know what?I can't wait to read Bonnie's journal about this small business.
This isn't, okay, this isn't a good one.I didn't think you guys would take this direction.I thought we don't think it's a good one.
Let's take a different direction.
I always say that conflict is an opportunity to stay curious.So ask a lot of questions because eventually people get tired of answering them. And they'll just give up.
Is that some B'nai Brown, whatever her name is, that you listen to?
Well, you sounded like you read it.
No, I do think, like, I do try to embrace conflict as an opportunity to be curious.
Okay, but this isn't conflict.But when you say curious, you mean you're just trying to get people to talk themselves out so they shut up?
Well, it depends.It depends if I'm really interested, I'll ask questions.But then sometimes you can just ask them so many questions that they talk themselves into circles and get tired.
Oh my god, I just think that's horrible.
No, it's, trust me, trust me.
It's a little like Paula's or Tony's advice.
I'm well, I know this situation well.And I'm telling you worse.
Of being around stupid people at work? I've been around a lot of stupid people, not people I work with, but, like, let's just say my daughter's horse, one of my daughter's horse trainers.One of your daughter's horses?
Oh, come on!Were you trying to show it the beads?Okay, horses are not... Not every horse can add, Bala.Yeah, and you're not going to be able to get through to every horse you talk to.This is... I don't see how this is helping Liz.
So, Bonnie, Cap'n Crinkle, what's your... Dear Crinkle, would you be so kind as to tell us what you have in mind for Liz?
Liz, I just think, you know, know that they're stupid people, you don't have to be friends with them, and cut it back a little to encounters.
I would kind of agree with that.I would say, like, if you know they're stupid, then you got to figure out how not to let their opinions annoy you.Their opinions obviously don't matter.If to you they're stupid, then
You know, pull that marker out of the ground.You don't need to contradict stupid people.You don't need to take their opinion seriously.But what you can do is let it not annoy you as much as it does.I got it.D-E.
Don't engage.Oh, yeah.Oh, wow.So you not only don't engage, but you also have a code for it.
That's great.The code makes it sound more professional, so I'll give her that. All right, well this has been clearly the misanthropy edition of Dear Crinkle.I thank all you listeners who wrote in who just don't want to be around people anymore.
I understand where you're coming from.
Yeah, this is Dear Crinkle, the stupid, cloying people edition. Yeah, this one kind of had a theme.Yeah.Yeah.Yeah.
And that theme was, uh, hell is other people.Hey, if you want to ask a question of Dear Crinkle, well, you can write in and the address is easy to remember.It's dearcrinkle at gmail.com.Bonnie, thank you so much.Hit the theme song.
It's my pleasure.Thank you, Crinklelets.Dear Crinkle, would you be so kind to answer my questions?What do you have in mind?
Wow. I thought Bonnie liked me.
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