This is the Ramsey Show, where we help you win in your life. win with your money, win in your work, and win with your relationships.So excited that you're with us.888-825-5225 is the phone number.888-825-5225.
I'm Ken Coleman, joined by the absolutely incomparable, the fabulous Jade Warshaw.We've got a great studio audience today.I've got to say, the studio is packed.
They're lively, a lively bunch.
Yeah, they look very excited to be alive, and that's always exciting.So they're here, they always give us a little extra juice, so we want to say thank you to all of you who are here.And let's get right to it.It's time to coach some people up.
Carly is going to start us off in St.Louis, Missouri.Carly, how can we help today?
Yeah, I recently purchased a home within five years ago with my ex-boyfriend now. And we are separated.He has restraining order against me.And I'm not sure where to go at this point.I have violated it a few times.I'm trying to get my belongings back.
And I know I've been trying to seek a partition suit or going on a route or what my rights are.And we have a dog together.That's the most important part, really.
So you were in the relationship, you bought the house together, are both of your names on the deed?They are.Okay.And he's the one still living in the house and you are the one who no longer lives in the house, correct?Yes.Okay.
You're legally not allowed to go to the house or you're just not allowed to go to the house when he's there?
Um, I am not allowed... Actually, that's a really good question.I'm pretty sure I'm not allowed to go to the house at all.
Listen, I'm going to ask the questions that inquiring minds want to know.What did you do to get the restraining order?
Can we ask?I wasn't going to do it.
He lied.He lied.He just did a deposition and he lied.
So you didn't do anything?He said that you did what?
Um, didn't do anything.He lied.He lied.Um, he, he's on a deposition and I contacted the judge and he lied.And the problem is I'm not an attorney.Um, and I told the attorney this, I talked to law enforcement, I've contacted them at least 10 times.
They don't want to get involved.Or if they do, and they're a nice police officer, they tell me what to do and say, Hey, you need to tell the judge contacted the judge. but the judge can only do so much when I email them.Um, okay.
So I lost my job, I've lost everything.And the only thing I have left is really my house and my dog.Really?I don't care about my clothes.95% of the house, it's a very large home.I don't even care, you know, about that.
Where are you living now? with my parents.
Oh, I'm so sorry.So you have a place to be.You're not homeless, correct?
Okay.So, sweetheart, we are so sorry for you.You've got a lot going on here.
And I have a lot of legal trouble because of this, and I can't get a job now.Because the restraining order?Because I broke it.Oh.
Okay, yeah, this is tough.I'm sorry.
You can't get a job because you broke the restraining order?
He filed property damage?Well, personal property damage and theft. Even though it's from my own home that I'm on the Dean and Morgan's team.
It's insane.Sweetheart, we got to try to figure out what little we can do here today and so I want to help.So a couple things.Did you call us today to figure out how to get out of this house?
I want to move on. I want to do something.I can't move on.I can't buy a house.It's a very expensive house.What is the house worth?A million dollars.Holy crap.
What do you two owe on it?
Okay, so I'm just trying to take some liberty here to try to get us going forward where we can help.
If you could sell it today, if you could somehow get him to agree to sell it, and you got off of this loan and you started moving on and you guys came to some settlement, that would be your ideal situation on the house.
Obviously, I know you want to get the dog, but I can't help with the dog, so I'm trying to focus on what we can.And I'm so sorry.Is that why you called us today?
I'm just... Have you talked to a lawyer?
Well, you've got to get a lawyer.
I have two or three lawyers.Okay.
Okay.And what are they telling you?Just take a deep breath.
I don't know.Nobody knows anything.Nobody can help.It's just... I don't have any money.Do your parents have any money?No, they don't anymore.Everybody's just...
So let me bring this down.Let's talk about best and worst case scenario.
Worst case scenario is you let this ride for a while, but since both of your names are on the deed, both your names are on the loan, the negative side of this is if for some reason he decides to stop paying the payment, your name is on it, right?
And so it affects your credit. He's not going to do that.Yes, but you don't know that.I'm talking, I'm talking about the worst case scenario.Let me talk.Let me talk.Let me talk.I'm talking about the worst case scenario.
You don't know what he's going to do.Okay.So the worst case is anything that you guys have your names together on the debt, whether it's a car, a house,
If the person who's been paying the bill stops paying the bill, it has the effect on either of you since both of your names are on it.That's the negative.So what the ideal scenario is, let's get our names off of this.
Now, you're on a restraining order, you can't go onto the property, let's honor that.Is there a way that you can contact him and say, I want to divvy up our assets and I want to split them, are you open to that? and just find out, what has he said?
Is he open to selling the property?Do you know that?
His attorney doesn't respond.
Okay, have you, not the attorney, have you talked to him?Do you know, or will he not talk to you?I'm not allowed to contact him.Okay.
All right, I want to jump in here.I can ask him tomorrow.Okay, here's what I think.Or within the next couple weeks.
Yeah, when you get a chance to, whatever the arrangement is, because there's legalities here, find out what his sentiment is.If he's out to jack you, then yeah, you're going to have to get a lawyer.
And here's the thing, if your lawyers aren't doing anything, fire them and get somebody who will.It sounds like you're not working with good attorneys and so you can change that.You're overwhelmed and you should be.
But I'm here to kind of grab you by your collar and kind of shake you a little bit because
Can I jump in there and shake a little bit?Carly, I understand about the legality of the restraining order, but this idea, this notion that you can't work and make money right now, you're going to have to absolutely reject that.That's not true.
If I were you, if nothing else, you can babysit, you can walk dogs, you can do so many things and the one benefit you got going for you right now is a place to be safe with mom and dad with very little expenses.
Sweetheart, you've got to make money doing seven jobs.Quite frankly, your life is an absolute disaster and the best thing for you right now is to put all of your effort into working You can't be in pain if you're working and busy, number one.
Number two, we need the income, Jade, because she's got to fire her lawyers and get a legitimately decent lawyer who gets you in front of the judge and we begin to unravel this thing.
You need money so you can get a good lawyer and get in front of the judge.That's it.Those are the three things in your life right now.That's all you have time for.Do that and you'll get out of this mess.This is The Ramsey Show.
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Alongside Jade Warshaw, I'm Ken Coleman, and you have joined the conversation about you. here on the Ramsey Show, 888-825-5225.It's hard to believe.I feel like I sound like my dad right now.
But like, where did the year go?Like I'm that guy who says that now.You know what I'm saying?
The fact that it's October?
Yeah, and the holidays are right around the corner.I stinking was in the mall last weekend and ran into a Christmas decoration.
That's a whole nother rant. And that's a whole nother rant.
But I bring this up, you're probably wondering where are you going with this, Kat?Have your meds worn off or you got a point?And the point is, the holiday season is here and that means everybody's budgets are going to be a little tight.
We got all this pressure.We probably didn't plan for it.Some of us are in the baby steps out there that are listening and watching right now.They're going,
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CJ, how can we help today?
Thank you guys for answering my call, first of all.But my question is, so I bought a vehicle a couple months back, a RT Durango. And I love the vehicle obviously, but I feel that it stops me from investing.
I'm 21 years old and I watch your guys' podcast relatively often.And I want to, my biggest goal was obviously I want to start a Roth IRA, but I feel that the payment on my vehicle is kind of like it gets in the way of that.
What's that payment?Tell us. I need to get my Tums.
Where are the Tums?Well, let's make it worse for Ken.He's gonna have to go extra strength because what's your income every month?
So I'm a union worker.It's different every month.What's a good month and what's a bad month?A good month is probably around $7,500 or $8,000.That's on the top end. On the lower end, four grand.
So, I mean, minimum, I'm probably bringing home a thousand a month.
Yikes.Yeah, it's definitely getting in the way, Jade.Yeah.That payment's in the way.
It's 100% in the way, and I'm glad that you're realizing that, because we say it all the time here.The car payment is what keeps middle class middle class.
It's what keeps you broke, and it's what keeps you from getting ahead, because that 625, let me tell you something, that's suspiciously close to what you're supposed to be investing every single month.So, let's find out
if you're at the point of an investing, okay?So you've been listening for a little while, we teach a series of baby steps and investing is baby step four, okay?
And before you can invest, we talk about clearing out your debt, saving up three to six months of expenses.So my question is, have you paid off all of your debt?
No, I have the loan on the vehicle, that's my only debt is just the loan on the vehicle.That's it.But any other debt, Yeah, it's paid off.
I, so before I, I've watched you guys probably since I got out of high school and uh, which obviously it's only been like three years, but, uh, so I had a, a, a decent emergency fund and then I started spending because I got bored.
It was, it was like $8,000 which I was living at home at the time.So you said was, yeah, what's it now? Nothing.Probably a thousand dollars.
Well, is it nothing or is it a thousand dollars?Cause that's a big difference.
I don't, I don't have anything in it right now.All my money is in my savings or not my savings.I'm sorry.My checking.
Got you.Okay. So let's clarify this, let's make it simple.So baby step one, you need $1,000 of savings.Don't keep it in your checking account.
Anytime you have savings, you wanna keep it separate from where your month to month money goes because you don't want to, in quotes, accidentally spend it, right?And so you're gonna take that $1,000, you're gonna drop it in,
I don't know, just a basic savings account or a high yield savings account.Either one is fine, but you're going to get it out of your checking account.That's thing one.That money is there for an emergency.
An emergency is something that is completely unexpected, completely necessary.Like I got to do this and there's got to be like a time constraint.Like I got to do this fast.
If it's something that you gotta do in three months, then it's not really that much of an emergency, right?So it's gotta filter, it's gotta check those three boxes in order for you to pull from that fund.Now we focus on the car.
What do you owe on the car?$36,000, and if you were to sell it, what could you get?
It definitely holds negative equity right now because I just got it. You know, three, four months ago, I could probably get 27 or 28 out of it.
It dropped that much because of negative equity.Okay.And that's private sale or are you doing looking at trade in value?
Uh, That's trade in value.I think private sale, I might be able to push 29 or 30, but I don't think it's going to be.
Cause I got it for 30.Okay.
Oh wow.Okay.Look it up on Kelly blue book and see, um, exactly what you could get if you sold it on your own.
Then either way, you know, to your point, since you said, I want to get out of this car, if I were you, let's pretend you're actually $8,000 upside down.
I'd probably go to my credit union and get a loan for it and a little bit more so you can buy something in cash.Maybe you spend five or six in cash, but at the end of the day, I'd rather have a loan for $16,000 than a loan for $36,000.
Agree?Right.That was my question.That was my question is how you guys would go about it because I just feel like it's like it weighs you down a little bit.Obviously I have, extra coming in every month still on top of the car payment.
I could keep it if I wanted, but I feel like I could be so much better off if I just didn't pay on the car.
You're a smart guy.Yeah, you're right.By the way, you do exactly what Jade said.Exactly what she said.That's the answer to your question.
Because you're going to probably cut your payment in half, and all of a sudden we have a much more manageable debt that we got to get rid of at $16,000.And so that's going to motivate you.
It's going to give you a little bit of breathing room because that payment's going to come down, obviously.That's the textbook answer. So that's what you got to do.
There's no wiggle room on this because every week, month that you delay, this car keeps putting you in a bigger negative hole.So this decision needs to be made today.We're trying to unload this car in the next week.Intensity.
So the question is, if you did this, if you got off the phone today and did what we just told you to do, how quickly could you save up six months of expenses?
very quickly.I have a significant other that helps me with utilities and rent and she all heard she's debt free and all that.I mean, obviously just dating.So funds aren't joined yet.
But, uh, I do have somebody helping me with half expenses at home as well, which does help.
Yeah.And the other question I have is what kind of work are you doing?
Do you have, I don't know the rules where you are, can you do side stuff or does the union prohibit that?
Certain ones do, mine doesn't because I'm just a laborer.
But I have looked into getting my own side gig and stuff like that.
Yeah, I gotta get everything figured out.
No, no you don't.Just get after it.You don't have to figure out anything. You have a skill, experience, you know your market, you got pretty decent on those good months.That's a really nice paycheck.
But right now you need to get out there and get that car paid off quickly and then get the six months emergency fund.I mean, this is just a function of you working really hard.
And can I tell you the opportunity cost?Here's why you're smart because you figured out early this 625 car payment is doing me and I need to get rid of it.
If tomorrow you do what we said and you start investing that $625, by the time you're 65, you're going to have $5.9 million, which is suspiciously close to $6 million.If you don't do anything else with your life, except invest $625 a month.
Mike drop.You don't have to figure anything out.Jay just told you what to do.
He figured it out.That's how smart he is.
I know, but this is all about effort.Effort turns into $6 million.Wow.All right, quick break.We'll be right back.This is the Ramsey Show.
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Hey folks, welcome back to the Ramsey Show.I'm Ken Coleman and Jade Warshaw is in studio with me.888-825-5225 is the phone number for us to coach you up.
She'll be leading on the budgeting and what to do with the debt calls and I'm going to lead on how to make more money, how to move up in your professional life so we can make more money, more freedom. That's the theme there.
So we'd love to hear from you.And how about a question from the Ramsey Network app?Jade, you up for one of those?Sounds good.Let's do it.All right.This is from Anne.She writes, I'm engaged and my fiance just bought an RV.For, you're ready for this?
Hard swallow.But he's not sure how he's going to pay for operating it.Yikes.What? I'm concerned that he may take a loan out.So he'll not only have a monthly payment, but also all the expenses and upkeep that go along with owning an RV.
My question is, how do I proceed?Because we plan to get married next year and we disagree on money issues.Yikes.
Oh wow.Yeah, that's a big red flag.Dude went and bought an RV.I don't think I realized that RVs were this expensive.Oh man.
yeah that's a house oh yeah on wheels basically okay yeah yeah oh but but doesn't go up in value right dropping like a rock yeah dropping like a rock okay you should be concerned the fact that she's concerned that he's going to take a loan out makes sense he took a loan out for the rv so yeah he'll probably take a loan out for the upkeep the biggest issue is they don't degree agree on the money issues ken
I don't know about you, I believe that money, it's one of those big overarching themes you've got to be aligned on.It's money, politics, religion, and how you see raising your kids and family, that kind of thing.
And so, this is a big one.The best way, I think, to call this out is just to sit them down and say, listen, here's what we've said our plans are together.We obviously plan to get married.
I've started noticing that you and I have different views on how we view money and how we view debt. Can you tell me a little bit more of how you see that playing out in the future?And maybe just kind of set him up with some questions.
Hey, in the future when we want a car, what do you think we would do?Would we try to save up and pay cash?Or do you think we would take out a loan?And just kind of ask him. Learn more about what he would say.
And then you, once you've heard his response, then you come back and say, okay, well, here's my viewpoint.I think that if we were gonna buy cars, I'd like to pay cash and here's why.
And then lay out your side and say, I just wanna have a clear conversation and see, is there a way that we can get on the same page with this?Because this feels like it could cause problems down the line and I don't want that for us.
And you just have to have a hard conversation.
Yeah, I agree with everything you said.I'd probably ratchet up the technique here.
Yeah, I'm gonna go with the, he needs a text.
I'm gonna tell you.You're gonna text him the questions?No, I'm gonna text him and say, we need to talk.
Okay, now you know that, that strikes fear.If you didn't have bubbles in your tummy, when you receive that text, you will have bubbles.
You need bubbles, we need bubbles. This is a bubbles level conversation.
So you want to create uncomfortability going in?
He needs to know how serious it is.Okay.This is not a manipulative power play.It is a, we need to talk.It's time to define the relationship.Because she says in this question, I am really concerned that we don't see eye to eye.
And I think I agree with everything you said.I just would put some seriousness on it. It's not a threat.Serious sauce.It's not manipulation.I'm just saying it needs to be... I don't know that we should be talking about getting married.
Or no, I don't know.We shouldn't be talking about getting married.
If we can't get this on tape.
We've got to press pause on this because this will break us down the road and this has nothing to do with my feelings for you.I think it's that serious.I'm approaching this as if she were my daughter.
Okay, but here's, here's, let me push on this a little bit.
There we go.This is why people show up.
Let me push on this a little bit.I would be afraid because love goggles make you, can make you change parts of yourself.
Can you, and this is embarrassing, but give me a real quick 15 second on what love goggles means.I think I know, but I'm not sure I've ever used it.
Love goggles are, you see them and everything's perfect because you've got like these, you don't notice their back hair.
you don't notice you know the little things that after you get married you'll start to notice you know okay okay so you think she's got love goggles yeah she did she doesn't now no she doesn't but my point is if he has love goggles on if she makes it feel like an ultimatum
then he might change some of his answers in order to get what he wants.And I'm not saying like maliciously or like in a diabolical way, I'm just saying that sometimes... You think he feels the pressure?
Yes, because the truth is you are your best self when you're in your dating phase.You're your best, like you're on your best behavior.And so he could be like, oh yeah, yeah, honey, you know, we don't have to do that.
So you think my approach, help me, how is my approach not, how does she then make it serious?
Because I think if she makes it, I think if she just makes it a conversation and we're talking, she's more likely to get the real answer.
But if she puts the stress of, we need to talk, we need to define this relationship, then he could feel the need to be like, well, okay, okay, yeah, yeah, no debt, no debt, that's fine, that's fine.But that may not be really where his heart is.
I know.Okay.So, okay.So let's say I go with your approach.I'm not there yet.
Let's say she has that conversation and then there's no real outcome.Then I think she can ratchet it up.I think I would start a little more casual.So you like my plan, you just aren't ready to push that button.
Yeah.We're on like level two and you were coming in hot on like medium high.
All right, that's fair.And listen, I can now say, I understand that, but you know I was truly coming at it from
it's your daughter if it's my daughter and she's having this conversation she says dad what would you do i went dad i pushed the dad button everybody oh jade thank you for pulling me off of it if it was my daughter i'd be like let me go talk to him oh okay hello you just took me and said hold my beer and i'm gonna i'm gonna kick the door down all right all right very good uh but you get my point i do i would say this i think you said it well
And I want to park it here.Can we park it?Yeah, that's a good point.Because here's why.You nailed it on the things that cause marriages to splinter and unfortunately break.You gave a whole list.Kids, faith, politics, money.
And to that point, we have a lot of new people that are joining this program all the time.I'm parking it here because I think it's important that we share with people why this actually happens.
There are deep-seated habits that come from beliefs, the environment, on all of those issues.You can pick any of those issues.We're only talking money right now.But when you have two completely different value sets
And you mentioned love goggles, let's just talk about money goggles.If the two sets of goggles and the way you see money are so different, it literally can cause chaos in your relationship.True or false?Is that too strong of a statement?
No, I think that's exactly right.
Well, you know, think about it.One is, let's let's filter it through the question.She is a person, obviously a little bit more frugal.She sounds like she's debt averse.She sounds like she understands the value of keeping your income every month.
And that might be because it's all of that belief is because of how she's experienced the world up until this point. And then he's the opposite.
I'm not saying he's a bad guy, I'm just saying that his beliefs are based on how he's experienced the world up until this point.
And when you want somebody to change what they believe based on how they've experienced the world, that is a hard fought fight. It's their default mode.It's their default mode.So, it's not just as simple as, well, change.
Well, I got to go back in and I got to figure out how do I feel about this and what does that mean about me because I've always operated like this because of this.So, it's not just a surface level request.That's right.
Hey, I don't want to use debt anymore.Oh, okay, no problem.Like, it's never that.These are, and that's why I say when it comes to these money issues, we do say, Ken, Sometimes it might sound a little bit flippant.Get on the same page with your money.
And the point is, it's not a light switch that you just flip up or flip down one day.
It's a journey.I agree.And I would say on all of those issues, I think all those issues should come up in premarital counseling.Can I just put that out there?But I certainly believe money ought to. Just press pause.
Don't get married until you get on the same page with this stuff.I think you're going to save yourself a ton of stress and everything else.My goodness, it's that important.So just a little relationship thing.We talk about this.
Relationships and money, folks, you just cannot untie those.They are tied together whether you like it or not.So really good stuff.All right.Quick break.Don't move.More calls.They're all lined up, folks.We're going to get to them.
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Welcome back to the Ramsey Show.I'm Ken Coleman.Jade Warshaw is in studio with me.888-825-5225.Thrilled to have you with us.We're here to coach you up.Let's go to Brandon in Minneapolis, Minnesota.Brandon, how can we help today?
So I just enrolled in an HSA this year and I'm wondering if it makes sense.I had a couple of, uh, a couple of hospital visits pop up this year and I'm anticipating the same thing next year.
So even with the compounding interest, I'm spending thousands of dollars each year.Does it make sense to still hold onto the HSA?
Um, well, it depends.I mean, when you do know that you're going to have qualified medical expenses, it could make sense to pay for them through the HSA.Um, and in that way, you're not, you're not taxed on that money.
Um, so that could make sense for you.So you're thinking about it more, um, through the lens of your actual health purchases.You're not thinking about it as an investment vehicle, which a lot of our callers do.Correct.
Well, no, I am looking at it as an investment vehicle.I'd like to have it in retirement.
Oh, OK.Well, in that case, an HSA is a great idea if you know that you don't go to the doctor much, if you're willing to have that higher deductible because maybe you know that you're not going to meet it.That could be great for you.
And then, of course, if you're thinking about it as a retirement vehicle, that's great, but it would not be my first choice. it would be what I would do maybe tertiary to a 401k or a Roth IRA and then I'd go in and do an HSA.
Have you already maxed out those other options?
I've just been paying for everything out of pocket so far.
Okay, so if we're looking at it through the lens of strictly investing, yeah, I'm starting with a 401k.If I have it through my work, you know, start with that.If there's no match, you start with a Roth IRA first.
Now, for the use of, hey, I want to filter some of my actual health expenses through this, then yeah, you could fund it up to the point of Yeah, I know that I'm going to spend, I don't know, $3,000 on health care this year.
So I'm going to put that in there and then I'm going to use that HSA to then pay for those expenses.You could 100% do that.But I would not overfund it to the point of investing.Does that make sense?
Yeah.It's set up weird where I have to have $2,000 in the regular HSA and then everything above and beyond I can invest.
Yes.And if you, if you know, Hey, at this point, the $2,000 that are in there, I'm actually going to use that on healthcare care costs this year.And this is a great funnel for it.Yeah.I'm all for that.
But as far as you overfunding it to the point that you can then invest the rest, I would not do that until I've overfunded my 401k and Roth IRA.Makes sense.
Yeah, and I'm, you know, giving the max up to the match for the 401k and I'm slated to max out the Roth IRA.
Okay, great.Good for you.Yeah, and if you do all three of those, you are what's known as winning at life.That's amazing.
Yeah, congratulations.Thanks for the call.Yeah, good call.By the way, speaking of winning at life, you dropped tertiary out there.I want to just give a little shout out to that.It's a great word.Tertiary?Yeah, yeah.That's a word, by the way.
You figure out how to use that right.Drop that in a sentence this week.You get a good brand at work.So there you go.Just call that out.Thanks for the call.I was impressed.Tertiary.I appreciate that.Yeah, very nice.Word of the day.
Connor's up next in Boston.Connor, how can we help?Hi, Ken.Hi, Jade.
Love you guys.Thanks so much for taking my call.
All right.So my wife and I just got married.We're in the process of combining our finances, and I basically have a retirement question.My question is, should we convert the money that we have in our traditional 401ks into Roth?
Or should we just from this point forward put money into the Roth 401k option?
Okay, what baby step are you in?
We're in baby step 3b.We're currently renting and we're going to be renting for the next couple of years because we're not going to be in the city that we're in long term.
Yeah, I mean... How much do you have?
Can I ask you a question?How much do you have in your 401k?
Yeah.So across my wife and my accounts, we have about 220,000 in there.Uh, our household income is about the same.
Okay good.Very good.Typically we would wait until baby step six to make a rollover like that because the truth is you're going to be on the hook for some taxes associated with that obviously.Right.
And with the goals that you have up until this point, in this case it's saving for a down payment, it could really eat into that goal that you have.So
For this matter, from this point on, I would do Roth style, that's what I would invest in, but I probably would wait to roll it over until you're ready to fit the tax bill and that it's not gonna put a dent in your other very important goals.
So yeah, you could wait till baby steps to do that.
Okay, great.Thank you very much.Absolutely.Love that call.They're rocking.Love hearing that.Spokane, Washington.Near your birthplace, isn't that right?
The city where I... Hey, before we go to Spokane, let me go back to that because somebody might be like, why do they want to do that?What's the purpose? So their 401k that they have now, they have not paid taxes on that money, right?
And what they're trying to set themselves up for is a situation that when they get into retirement, they can pull money and not have to pay taxes on it.
So if you do a Roth account, you're paying the taxes upfront so that when you're 59 and a half and older, you can pull money from that and you're not taxed on it. Most people would like to carry that burden now instead of waiting for later.
So that's the purpose of that.And whenever you attempt to move that money that you have not yet paid taxes on it, well, then you will have to pay taxes on it.
Okay.Yeah.No, good, good explanation.I'm glad you did that.All right.Randy's up in Spokane, Washington.Randy, how can we help?
Hi Ken.I was recently let go in my mid fifties from an executive position making North of 200 grand a year.
And since I'm completely debt-free everything, and I have a pretty good nest egg set aside investment wise, I'm thinking about making a career change, but to start out, I'd be making maybe maybe 50 a year, the first couple of years later on, you know, it goes up, but, uh, it's something, uh, it gets me out of the corporate stress and the hassle.
I don't have to move. Uh, it's right down the road from my house.That's completely paid for that.That sounds weird.
No, it doesn't sound weird given what you just experienced.I mean, when you lose a job like that, that is a real shot.We know from psychology studies that it's the equivalent of losing a loved one.So number one, I'm sorry that happened to you.
Number two, it's not weird for you to be thinking through this.My first question comes down to the transition phase. So financially, can you make ends meet making this pivot to the $50,000 a year deal?
And then how long would you have to live in that situation?
Yeah, so I'm cash flowing it all out, and I have access to about a quarter million dollars in cash outside my 401k investments, Roth, all that.So my thought is that
while I learn this new career path, and maybe I pay myself three grand a month out of that month of cash that I have.And, you know, we just... Okay, so that's... ...a little bit more complicated than what we were doing before.
Right.So that's $36,000.Jayden and I are keeping track of the money.So would that then get you to a place where we've got margin if you used $36,000 of the $250,000 that you got set aside?
That's what my spreadsheets tell me.Okay.
Now, what is the, I'm just curious, what is this new path?
Being a surveyor, a licensed surveyor.
Okay.And so, uh, how much would, is it, excuse me, is that a government job?Is that like a county level, state level?Or is it private?
No, it's actually, it's actually, it's a little private company that, uh, they have their own little firm. run a little business.
All right, so $50,000 a year for how long before it goes up, and then what does it go up to?
Probably the first couple years, and then as you get more experience and you're running your own jobs and everything, it gets into $70,000 to $80,000 a year.At that point, it's just me and my wife.
And you've got in your investment situation, you started off the call saying your investment situation is good.In this situation, I'm okay with this.I just wouldn't limit myself just to the $50,000.
I'd be doing some other stuff in the meantime because I really don't want to use any of that $250,000 I've set aside.That would be my advice.If you love it and you can make that change, then I'm okay with it.
It's not my favorite idea, but not a bad idea.This is The Ramsey Show.
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I'm Ken Colman.Jade Warshaw is with me and we're here for you.888-825-5225.We'll start it off in the Motor City, Detroit, Michigan.Sarah is on the line.Sarah, how can we help?
Hi.Good.How are you doing?
Good.What can we help with?
Well, first of all, thank you for taking my call.I love you guys.You guys are absolutely amazing and helped me so far.Um, what the challenge I'm facing now is I have $300,000 worth of debt and I just, I can't see a way out.
Um, I'm working three jobs and it just, it just doesn't seem to work.
Wow.We'll break it down for Jade here.So start off with, uh, your income, uh, through the three different jobs, give us a range and then walk, walk her through your debt.
My salary position, I bring in 80, I'm sorry, my salary is 80.Um, I gross, um, I'm sorry, I bring in 80 and then I net 55 and take out tax insurance.
And then I have a second job that I, I gross 40, but then I, I'm an independent contractor, so I had to take out taxes and stuff.So I net about 30 to 35,000 and then I have another part time job that brings in about 600 bucks a month.Okay.Okay.
So 72 on the 85, so you're somewhere in that 92-93 range with those numbers, is that right?Net?
Yeah, I mean that sounds amazing, but that's... Yeah.
Yeah.But you can do something with that.Yeah.Dr. Jade is in today, so it's going to be okay.
I'm going to pretend like you didn't say that.
The debt doctor.Oh, okay.
Okay.I'll take that.You didn't know what I was doing.I didn't know where you were going.Sarah, now that I know where he's going.
You can do surgery on this.I can help you.There you go.
So you're bringing in almost $8,000 a month, which ain't too shabby, but you've got $300,000 of debt.So walk us through this debt.It's all student loans. Okay.Private?Federal?
I have $12,000 with private.I will have those hopefully paid off by December.Good.The rest, the $300,000 is all government.Okay.
What was it for?I'm just curious.
And are we practicing law?
And that's the number one amount of money you gave us?What kind of law are you doing?
Yeah, I do estate planning, probate stuff.
Gosh, it feels like we've got a path to be making a whole lot more than that.Am I right?Or are you feeling like you're capped out and why?
No, you hit the nail on the head.I've been looking on Indeed and stuff and that's actually the average pay for where I live.And it's pretty, it's hard to deal with because I do feel that I should earn more, but it's about average.
Is there anything keeping you tied to the Detroit area?
One other silly question, Jayden, and I'll get out of the way.
I am curious with what you've done so far, is there a pivot or some type of additional legal work that you could do that would add to your income based on your current qualification or specialization?
So I got my real estate license about a year and a half ago, so that's my second job.
Yeah, I'm talking just the legal field right now.
Well, the reason why I got a different type of job is I'm really burnt out practicing law.So I'm trying to expand on other things.So that's why I got my real estate license to help bring in more money.But that's extremely part-time.
But I really want to try to pivot out of practicing.
I get it.And again, I'm about ready to hand it to you, Jade.
But you got $300,000 in law school debt.I don't think you get the burnout yet.And I think that the greatest opportunity for you to make money is through your law, your legal work.You just don't have time to sell houses.That's a full-time deal.
You know, so it's either or.It's like you go all in on selling homes, and if you do that, then there's no limit to what you can make.But I'm just going to make that point.
You know, you've got to bring in some more income here, because $300,000 is doable.I'm going to hand it over to Jade.Jade, walk her through the process here.
OK, so the loans, did you consolidate them, or are they single, singular?They're single.OK, good.That's good.That's good.OK, so as trite as this may sound,
All we're doing is listing them from smallest to largest and we're paying minimum payments on all of them.Hopefully, I don't know, are you enrolled in any of the assistance plans?Are you in save plan or anything like that?
The income driven payment, I've been on that for about 13 years.Okay.And is it going to run out or do you still have time to be on it?
I mean, honestly, I try to re-enroll and it takes months and months to get an answer.So I don't know, I'm kind of in limbo right now.
Okay, what's your current payment for the lot of them?I don't pay anything.Okay, good.So here's what we do.
The fact that your minimum payments are zero is a good thing for you right now because that means you can put the full strength of your income on the smallest debt and knock it out fast.
I wish there was a way to tell you that there was an easy button here.There's just not.And if you've listened to our show for any bit of time, you know, my husband and I had 280.Okay.
And at the time we weren't making what to combined what you're making now.And so there's, there's a part of this that you have to just you know, ride that income until the debt is gone.
You know, once you have maxed out your money for your time, and I don't know that you have yet, Ken.I agree with Ken.I think that you can do more to max out your time and get better money for it.
But once you do hit that point, there is a point where you just go, okay, this is what I'm making and this is how long it's going to take.And as I've said many times before, you got to ride that horse to the old town road and just,
That's what you gotta do.And then when it's done, it's done.
That song is going to be in my head now all day.I'm having you to thank for that.
I'm kind of like, yeah, I'm kind of like torn because I actually make more money selling real estate in half the amount of time versus my salary position.Of course I get that paycheck every two weeks.
Well, then what's that transition look like?Because that's what I'm getting at.Like, if you get after it and you can double, triple your income, then this is a game changer.
Key word is consistently. If you can do that consistently, then that's a great sign.
It's almost like, what would have to be true for you to change your schedule? uh, stock some money up or something to be able to then go, all right, I'm dropping one of these jobs.
My gosh, you got more jobs, you know, than you, than you know what to do with right now.So we got to create some margin time-wise, which means we got to have some margin money-wise.Right, Jade?You tracking with me?I'm tracking with you.
What would it take for her to get to a place to where she can now go all in on real estate?And that's going to take a little bit of time to build that pipeline up.
Yeah, I mean, we're always looking for you to be able to replace whatever your income was at its best, right?And if you can do that consistently with real estate, I say more power to you.
The weird thing about real estate, though, is of its nature, it tends to be up and down.
What's the market like in Detroit area?
It's slow.I get consistent, at least my two listings and closings, but it's a roller coaster.
You know, see, so you got it to Jade's point, we've got to factor that in.The market determines what's going on in some degree.You don't just, you know, hang a shingle and it's everybody wants to buy a house from you.
I'm going to tell you, when you have this kind of debt, there is something to be said for being able to count on.I know what's coming in and I know what I'm doing with it.There's just kind of that assembly line that you can just, I'm cranking it out.
I'm paying off the debt and this is temporary.And when the time comes, you'll do what you love.I agree.
Because of the market where it's at, I'm gonna go with Jade's.Decide what you can do and lock in on it.And then if something changes, then the timeline changes.But get that mindset for the climb, right?
It's gonna take me a while to climb this mountain, but I will get there.Appreciate the call.You got this.Stay encouraged.This is The Ramsey Show.
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That's right.Today's question comes from Dean in New Jersey.Hey, where can I find accurate
market research on the salary of my current position and positions I'm considering in my field and making a case to my manager that I am underpaid or looking at other job opportunities in the industry.
What websites should I be looking at or should I talk to others in the same role?Being respectful and coming to my boss with accurate numbers is important for me for obvious reasons.
Well, to avoid coming across like I endorse any site, I'm not going to give specific names, but this is very easy to look up.I would be looking at job sites, the well-known job sites that are all over the place.Can I say, like, Glassdoor, Indeed?
Yeah, that's where I would go.
Yeah, just pull up the research.And what you want to do, though, is be very, very specific.I love how you just jumped right into that.That was fantastic.But what I would do in this situation
is I would make sure that I'm also doing the second thing that he asked.It's yes and yes.I would absolutely be talking to people in your area, in your field, with similar skill and experience, so that you get a real-time situation.
Now, here's the deal.Not all these people are going to tell you what they make.
That's what I was going to ask, Ken.
So again, you could say to them, if they want to tell you their situation, you say, hey, I'm just curious. based on my skill and experience, what do you think is, give me a range of what you think is market-based value.
Then they will talk to you about that, because then you can say, give me a range, and they may say, and I'm making this up, 60 to 75.Because what you're asking for is, give me a range, give me a low, to a high.
And what's the interval of that range that you're looking for?Because you don't want them to give you a $30,000 spread, right?
No, that's why I said that.Yeah, so you want to say, give me a low, and then you're asking questions and you can come up with your own number.
But between the two things, the research and the feedback that you're getting, you can come up with a pretty good number.Now, the key thing that I want to talk about is not so much the number, because you can go out and get a number all you want to.
but companies have budgets and this decision is rarely made directly by your superior.Yes.It is very rare that you're just going to go to your superior and it's all in their hands.So you need to, so you know your situation in this case, uh, Dean.
And so in that case, what you're going to have to do is, is you can say, okay, I want to get to this number. But realistically, can my superior get me that number?
And the answer is probably not, which means you've got to do as much as you can to help your superior make the case on your behalf, right?And so what you're going to do is you're going to go get real market research that is viable.You can verify it.
You go in and go, hey, I want to get here. And I understand that that may or may not happen right away, but I'd really like to discuss a growth plan.I never want somebody to go in and go, I just want to get to this number.
What you want to do is say, hey, I want to talk growth, and so I want to talk about what I can do to get better.Give me some areas where I can upskill.Give me some areas where I have some blind spots.
What if you already are there?
Well, if you're already there, then you don't have to have that conversation.
I'm saying on the skills, but not on the money.
Well, in that case, again, the growth plan is the way I'd want to talk about it because now I want more responsibility.I see.Okay, smart.Because you're never going, just give me more money.Right.
You've got to give the leader a narrative.
Okay.If in fact that I'm right and this is my supposition that it's rare that the boss goes in and you go and they go, all right, yeah, let me correct.Let me move some numbers around.I'll get back to you tomorrow.
Right.It doesn't work like that.
So in that case we want to create a narrative where it shows some hunger, some humility, I want more responsibility and with more responsibility can we measure that and those results and then can we tie that to comp.
That's different than saying hey I did some market research I'd like a raise.
Yeah, you can't come in guns a-blazin' like that.
That's my take.In the same conversation, it's just we're not putting that leader in the defensive posture.Because then, that never works out.So, that's my rule of thumb.I'm with it.Back to the phones we go.888-825-5225.
Amy's on the line in San Francisco.Amy, how can we help?
Oh, hi.I called because I don't know what I guess my moral and obligations are as a daughter.I am a middle child and I know that my parents gave my two sisters $40,000 more than me.
But I also know that from past experiences that I'll be the one that's more expected to be there for them when they get older and when my aunt gets older, when my grandma is older too because I'm close by.
But I just can't help but feel it's unfair that I have to work harder because if I had the same amount of money, I would just be investing in it. and not have to work as hard as someone that got significantly more than me.
$40K more for what?Are you talking about... $40K more for what?Is this inheritance?Is this college?Why was this given out?
It was for whatever we needed.My little sister used it for her down payment for our home.I used it for a down payment on my studio.And then my sister, I think she invested it in stock.
But you're saying they got more money than you?
Yeah.What did you get total? 60.60 and they got a hundred?Yeah.And you're the middle child and you feel in some type of way.Yeah.
I do.No, it was different times.That's the thing.So my little sister, her historically has made more, so she was able to buy a home sooner than me and my big sister.
Um, so she got that money first, obviously my mom, you know, and then, um, my big sister, and I got $60,000 kind of in the same time, and then I know she got another $40,000.
And then I remember, I found it, you know, just to be hearing conversations like, oh, then I'm, I'm going to do my $40,000.I know it.
It stinks.It stinks.Did you ask?Well, let me ask, let me ask you this.When you received the monies, did your parents say, and you're going to get this and they're going to get that?
Was there any conversation from the parents or you found out about what they got through the grapevine basically?
I think I found out through the grape bomb.It was she never sat us all down and said, I'm going to give you each 100,000.It was kind of like, oh, my little sister got 100,000.And then I got her full.
And then when I asked for like, listen, hold it, hold it, Amy, you are it's you are a Lay's potato chip.You are so salty and I get it.I
Well, first of all, I get what you're laying down.We only have about two minutes.I want to address what you said.
I didn't hear a direct question in there, so I want to make sure that we... I think I know where you're going with this, but what's the question?
My question is, I feel like when they grow older, I'm the one that needs to take care more of them because I live in San Francisco.I'm made to feel that way.
That's not your problem.I thought that's what it was because you said that earlier.So I'll be quick.I want Jay to jump in. There's two things going on here.One I'm sure of, the other I think.The one I'm sure of is your parents exercise poor judgment.
I don't care what their reasons are, I think they're very nice people, but they just exercise poor judgment because of how this thing is played out.
um and and i and i also whatever's going on i believe you that when you say they make you feel like you're gonna have to be the one that takes care that's the thing i'm sure of that sucks and that's not on you and you gotta shed that the thing that i think is going on and this will be my transition to hand it to jade uh for her take
I think you're codependent, and I think that you've built up some of this in your mind too, like you're the one that has to take care of them because you're more responsible than the other sisters.
The studio audience is agreeing with me, which tells me I might be right.I think you own the money.But you've got to release both.
You gotta release both.Yeah, they can put something on you or you can put something on yourself about what the future holds, but what actually happens is up to you.And your obligation is to you and your family.
And if your parents had the money to give you all $240,000, then they should be able to take care of themselves.And if your sisters were gifted $100,000, they should be able to take care of themselves.And that's the truth.
And the rest, like Ken said, you're going to have to let it go because that resentment in your heart is sickness to your body.So you got to let it go.
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Welcome back to the Ramsey Show.I'm Ken Coleman alongside the budget queen herself.Did you like that?
Jade Warshaw.The debt doctor?Okay, we can keep going.Speaking of which, one of the things we've been doing lately on the show, and this is so practical, we've got Phillip on the line in Little Rock, Arkansas.Let's bring him on.Phillip, how are you?
I'm doing well, sir.How are you doing?
Good.Are you ready for a budget breakdown with Dr. Warshaw over here? Yes, sir.All right, take it away.
Sorry that took that to the next level.
Of course, that's what I do.
Okay, so Phillip, let me just set it up for the audience because what we asked is for people to send us their budget, you know, because starting a budget for the first time can be tough and you don't know all the factors to it.
And so we wanted to give people a little leg up here.And so Phillip, you sent us the budget, 32 years old, Little Rock, Arkansas.You're single, yeah?It's just you?
Okay.And so what do you do for a living?
I'm actually a schoolteacher, band director, to be exact.
Okay, so band director, you're making $51,000 a year?Yeah.But you're taking home $3,191?Yes, ma'am.
your goals that you told me, you said, okay, my goal is I want to save three to six months of expenses.I want to get out of debt and I want to purchase a car, but it looks like there's a decent amount of debt that's standing in your way.
According to my screen, you've got $69,589 in all one student loan.Is that right?Yes, ma'am.
Okay, so that being said, I was able to take a look at your budget and we're gonna kinda go through some areas where we think that you can find some savings and some ways that we think that you can kinda get your head and your money around this student loan.
Okay, so let's go through this.First off, did I ask you, are you investing at all?
Okay, not investing.And can I ask you about your tax return?Because those are the areas where we're usually able to free up a little bit of money when you get your tax refund every year.What does it look like?
Sometimes, I think max I've got was like $1,200.
Okay, so I would say there might be some room in there that if you adjust your withholding, you can get that money back in your paycheck, because the idea is for you to break even.Maybe you pay $100, right?
As opposed to getting back money, because that's money that you could have had throughout the whole rest of your budget, $100 a month.So that's something. So that's the first thing I do.
I'd probably check out my withholding there and make that adjustment.But let's kind of go through this budget here, and they're going to bring it up on the screen.So your rent is looking good.$535 for rent.Electricity, fine.Internet looks good.
Gas looks good.Let's look at groceries.$120 for groceries?What are you eating?
Not much. Nah, I do a lot of cooking because I'm dating, and so my lady, she likes to cook, so I would do a lot of cooking for her.
Yeah, but to Jade's point, what are you cooking?That's only $120.You got some meat in the freezer?Yes, sir.
Look at that dollar store meat because that's sketchy.Okay.
Dollar store meat and the commercial break.I need more information on that.Okay.
Groceries, 120.You are killing it.That's amazing.Restaurants, $40.If you really wanted to go ham on this, you would knock that back.I don't know what that means.
It just means to really go hard.
Oh, okay.I actually hardly eat out and when I do eat out- He's just cooking for his lady. Yeah, I do more cooking than anything.
Okay, good.Keep doing that.Phone bill, $80.Again, can't get much better than that.And you're currently paying $0 on your student loans.I'm guessing you're on a save plan, something like that.I love that you're giving.
And then there's $2,000 in your emergency fund over here, which is pretty good.So, That also shows me another thing you could do.
You know, we say $1,000 while you're in debt is enough, and so you could immediately throw that additional $1,000 onto your debt.My question about the student loan, did you consolidate it into one?
No, ma'am.Actually, This loan is not my first payment is not due to December 2025.So I kind of want to get ahead on the game, get a plan started so I can go ahead and get that out because I want to get that out in two years.
So so I want to get ahead of the game.OK.No, that's all one loan.
So the way to get ahead, I mean, currently with your existing income and with the fact that you've got $1,800, so if you look at the top of the budget there, all the way up here, his margin is showing $1,831 of margin.
I mean, you and I can do the math on that and say, if you do that on the student loan, it's gonna take you quite a while to pay it off, right?And so the key is we gotta bring in some margin.So are you doing anything as a side hustle?
No, I'm actually been putting in get some second jobs working so I can go ahead and knock this out.
Okay, but no.Well, if I were you, I suggest everyone do a side hustle.They need to be making at least $500 extra a month.But for a guy like you, if you can find a way to bring in
Basically, another, like you said, part-time job, if you can pull in $2,500 a month, if you can pull in $3,000 a month doing another second job, that is going to cut this down to a two-year window for you.
What do you do or what have you done?Tell us a little bit about your professional background.
Well, I recently got certified because I've been teaching school for a little minute, been on and off in different places. you know, with Amazon.I used to work at Amazon.I recently left Amazon to go teach school.
And that's kind of where it's been from thereafter.College has been getting into the school system.
Okay.What were you doing at Amazon?
At Amazon, I was in the stores and store section.I was a store there.Then I moved up to learning ambassador.
Okay.What were you making?
That was like, well, I think, well, 40, 30 something.
And you're a full-time teacher right now in the public school system?Yes, sir.Okay, what are you making?I missed that, I'm sorry.
Yeah, I wonder if the tutoring, or I'm just trying to give you some ideation here on, you know, I like Jade's suggestion here, like what would have to be true, or in other words, we could say it this way, what could you do to make an additional couple grand a month?
and I'm wondering if tutoring or some type of training, instruction, you got all this background as a teacher, you know, I wonder if you could get some part-time hours doing some type of training or something.
I would just be looking in that direction.You're an instructor, and to the extent that you could get some of that contract work, that's where you could stack up some decent money.
That makes sense.Yes, sir.
So let's look at this in terms of real numbers.I'm just kind of trying to do some rough math over here.
So right now, with your margin, $1,831 a month, over the course of the year, that's almost $22,000 that you would pay off from this debt, which means you'd be debt free in about three years.
But if you do what Ken and I are saying, if you added $2,500 to your budget, that would give you $4,331 of margin.And over the course of a year, that's $52,000.You see where I'm tracking?
And so this, this is huge.
So, you know, I'm not saying tomorrow you're going to wake up with $2,500 of margin, but let's start $500, $1,000, $2,000, and let's stair step this up to get to where you want to get because that's, suddenly that's not a, that's not a big pill to swallow anymore.
No, it's very, very doable.Are you feeling that momentum?
Yes, sir.I've been feeling that for a minute.I've been back and forth, you know, to go talk with my pastor about things.I'm like, Pastor, I'm ready.I'm ready to go.We gotta get there.
I know, that's right.And what'd your pastor say?
He said, well, yeah, you're a single guy.
He said, faith without actions is dead.Go do it.
Wow.When the student is ready, the teacher appears.That's right.I think Jade did a wonderful job.Phillip, we're very excited for you.I think this is all about intentionality and I'd add some intensity into this.I think you could be making more money.
I'm with Jade on that.That would be my number one.Let's go, Phillip.Cheer.Let's go make some more money and speed this timeline up. That's right.That's what I like about that.
He's got three acts of homework, and these are probably homeworks that apply for you too.If you've got additional money sitting in savings that's above $1,000, you need to put it towards your debt.Number two, you need to check out your withholding.
If you're getting a tax refund, that's money that could be back into your monthly cash flow.And then finally, are you side hustling? 40% of Americans are side hustling because they know we need this extra money in our budget.
And so that includes you too, America.Look out there and see what you can get.Try to put $500, $1,000, $2,000 back in your budget and see what it does.
And don't forget another piece of advice.She just dropped in there earlier.Stay away from the dollar store meat.I need to learn more.
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Welcome back to the Ramsey Show.So excited that you're with us.I'm Ken Coleman and I'm joined by Jade Warshaw.You learn something new every day.So learning a lot, learning a lot on today's show.Thanks to Jade.
She's getting me to be more and more culturally relevant.Apparently I'm very irrelevant, which I'm increasingly aware of.
That's all right, Ken.That's what I'm here for.
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And, uh, I'll tell these fine folks that are in there, uh, in the lobby right now, I am going to, um, I'm going to have some cruise, some cruise outfits.
If you know what I'm saying, I'm going to have the, the top siders, I think, uh, kind of the preppy sailor look maybe a couple of times.
You're giving me Gilligan's Island.
I'll wear a Gilligan hat.
Yeah.Yeah.No, not Skipper Gilligan's more my speed. Really?The red shirt with the white collar?No, but that little, the bucket hat, I think I could pull off.
Oh, okay, okay.I was about to say.
Yeah, I think I could pull the bucket hat off.We'll see.Depends if the hair is long or not at that point.
All right.We'd love to see you on the crew.It's going to be fun.Now, Dave, Dave on the skipper hat, that's what people want to see.Him rolling around the deck with a skipper hat on.
Oh, gosh.So, I'm not going to say what I want to say.Let's move on.
Well, I don't think I want to now.I feel like, okay, during the break and then I'll decide if we can bring that back.Okay.We'll run it by James as well.Annie is up in Boston, Massachusetts.Annie, how can we help?
Hi.Um, so I have kind of an unusual question.Um, recently my husband inherited some money, um, and we started calling it our money, but when it kind of time to decide where this should go, um, he kind of,
but they put his foot down and decided that it should be invested as opposed to paying down our mortgage.
Um, so the total that would have eventually invested was about 140,000.Um, we are on technically step six, um, looking to, we are debt free.Our kids are all set with their five 29s and, There's money set aside elsewhere.
We're contributing to our 401ks and our Roth.
How much do you guys have invested or how much did you have invested?Let me stop for a second.Have you already invested the 140 or is this just something he said this is what we're going to do?
It's in there.And I disagreed.I wanted to pay down the mortgage and I'm just struggling with that.
I get it.So we'll get to that in a second.
So let me just ask, can you tell me what that looked like when you said he put his foot down and what did that look like?Did that look like him going and doing that without telling you?Tell us how that happened.
We definitely did it jointly.I'm not a fighter.So, um, I said, I'd really love to put it towards the mortgage.And he said, well, I'd really love to invest it. And then we looked at each other and he goes, so we're investing it.Right.
And you know, he kind of like trumped me a little bit.
This was about two weeks ago.
All right.So real quick, before we get into that, hold on, hold on one second.All right.So, well, here's what I want to know.We'll get into that in a second.
Cause this is a relationship issue, not a money issue, but I'm just curious how much, how much was in the retirement accounts before you put the 140 in?
So there is a separate investment account that we started.So in his 401k, his retirement account, he has about $450,000.I have about $250,000.We're just at different contribution rates and he's a little bit older than me.
And how old is he and how old are you?
Okay, so you guys were at about $600,000 in your separate accounts, and now we created a separate investment fund with the $140,000 in it.Is that correct?
Correct.We have both of our names on it.
Right.How much is left on the house?
About $300,000.Yeah.Okay.
Well, Jade, the reason I'm asking all these things is I just think all we can provide here is perspective, number one, because this is a relationship issue.You guys are in great shape.I can see.I will say this.
um i can see why he did what he did i can and i can also see why you wanted him to put it on the house you're almost cutting it in half
Financially speaking, nothing is broken because this decision was made.On either, if you guys had put it towards the house, yes, that's in keeping with the baby steps and that's what I would have advised you to do.By investing it, nothing broke.
You guys are in a great situation.To Ken's point, this is a relational thing.It didn't sound malicious the way you talked about it.It felt a little dismissive, but if I might add, I think it was dismissive on both ends.
I think that he dismissed you when you initially brought it up, but I also think you dismissed yourself if you didn't bring it up again more intently.
Um, so, so for that reason, I do think it's, but let's, let's figure out what's at the core of both of those sides.
I agree.And maybe it's because, um, technically the inheritance was to him.So I, I almost felt as if like, okay, well, you know, his opinion should matter just a little bit more.I could see that.
I totally understand that.
I'm not saying that's right, but I can understand your way of thinking.
Um, is he opposed to paying the house off?
No, but I don't think he under, like, I have a different urgency.He wants to retire in eight years.
and i'm only making two extra i sound like a snob when i say this and i'm very sorry i'm only making two extra payments on our mortgage every year and i feel like we could do more to pay off the mortgage so that I wouldn't have a mortgage.
And I think that's the conversation.When I say that this is a relational thing, I agree with Jade.I think you got to go back to him and go, Hey, well, first of all, two things.
Number one, I think I love that you called us and I love that you admitted that you're resenting him right now. I think that's important that you're expressing those feelings, and I'm guessing you've expressed that to him, and I think you should.
I really think you should say, hey, I'm struggling with this, and I'm resenting you, and I don't want to.And I think we've got to get together, whether that's with a therapist or a pastor, or if you two have a great relationship.
This is just a chill conversation.It's not a big fight, because as Jade said so beautifully, nothing's broken here. other than feelings are hurt.And I think most of the feelings are on your side.And I think you've got to address that.
So here's what I would do.I would say, I understand what you did.I need to get this out, but I want you to understand why I'm resenting and what's going on underneath this.I'm not going to resent you anymore. but I need you to know that I'm fearful.
I'm fearful with this mortgage hanging over our head and not being gone eight years from now when you plan to retire.Can we please talk through this?I just need you to know why I'm feeling what I'm feeling.Jay, do you agree?
I think that's the approach here.
Yeah, 100%.I think Ken covered it.And just based on the way you're talking about it, I do think that you probably stepped lightly, maybe a little too lightly.
um yeah and and yeah this is the truth is you are in a marriage it what's his is yours and what's yours is his and you both get to make this decision together that is the truth in a healthy marriage that is the way that should work it's a good point um are you going anywhere annie you going anywhere are you gonna leave him no is he gonna is he gonna leave you no okay i know that was i know you're chuckling but do you know why i asked that question that's the perspective you got to take off this call
We're in this for the long haul.Yeah, this is just a little hiccup.We're going to be okay.
But there was no wrong answer, right?No, no, no, no, no.
Nothing messed you up.You're still on a course to succeed.You are going to pay the house off.And the intensity level is determined by the two of you when you have that conversation.
Thank you for the call, Annie.You're a good lady.This is The Ramsey Show.
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