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Today we are blessed with the beautiful presence of the one the only My only option was to honestly join the military like I didn't want to go homeless or anything baby Bella She wouldn't even believe that I'm an artist right now.
You are doing what you were born to do Are you really Bretman's cousin like?
Hello, guys.Welcome back to another episode of Pretty Basic.I'm your co-host, Remy Cruz.I'm your other co-host, Alisha Marie.And today we are blessed with the beautiful presence of the one, the only Miss Bella Porch.
Thank you so much for coming on today.We've been so excited.So little backstory, you and I were at an event more recently and we were, you know, just hanging out, doing our little thing.And I was sitting there with Ollie.
I found a chair as I normally do, because my feet were hurting.And so I went to the corner, I found a chair and I sat.And then all of a sudden you come up to me and you were like, hi.I was like, hi, Billboard.And you were like, I love your podcast.
And I was like, You like my podcast?And so I was like, well, which one?And you're like, both are like pretty basic.I was like, hold on.And I literally texted Alicia, Bella Porch watches Pretty Basic.
No, like it's still like, we literally talked about it.All my heart was like, I cannot believe she watches our podcast.Like I can't believe anyone watches.I can't believe. You watch.And I'm just like, I was gagged.
And then more recently we were on a Bretman's yacht together and had a wonderful time.I told the whole story about how I was thrown up a lot on the podcast.You really kept your composure though.You were all good.
I mean, I'm used to it.I used to be in the Navy.
I was going to stop you before you embarrassed yourself. both those facts.I just like did not put that together till now, which we will get more into everything.But just to say thank you so much for coming on.Thank you for watching the podcast.
And we're so excited to have you here today.Hey, I can't wait.It's good.
Okay.And we're about to get into it because right before we started recording, we actually filmed our reaction to your new music video. We are about to live react to Bella's new music video.The first outside viewers.So getting a first look.
You look gorgeous.Oh, no.Stop.I got chills.Break them up, bitch.Break them up.
I literally have chills.That was so good.Wow.Oh my God.That was really good.
I have no words.Um, and I actually have so many words and I really want to dive into it because it's been really hard to keep it in.
Give us a little intro of yourself first.Will you?Um, so hi, I'm Bella Porch.Um, I'm a singer and I'm also a content creator.Yes. And like a huge, huge TikToker.
Like an amazing content creator.Have you always been a singer or was that like a hidden passion and you're now just exploring it?Like what?Tell us everything.
Yeah.I mean, I've been singing since I was seven and it was my brother who was like, you can sing, you should sing.
That's like not a normal brother thing to encourage you.That's very sweet.
Yeah, I love my brother.I was singing Reflection by Milan.That's a hard one too.What's your go-to karaoke song?Oh, listen.I feel like you already knew that, kind of.We had Redmond on, he was like. That's the Filipino national anthem.
I watched that episode.Dude, that's so true though.Like everybody can sing.Listen.
Well, we tried last karaoke and it was rough.Everyone can try.Not everyone can sing it.But also because you're Filipino, I feel like you just naturally in your blood can sing very well.Correct?
Yes.I feel like 90% of the population in the Philippines can sing.So it's like very competitive when it comes to karaoke.
That's what Bretman was saying too.It's like it's a talent competition for a karaoke night.It's not like for fun.It's like this is a sport.
Yeah.Every family event that I'm invited to with like Bret, he has this like little cousin that would sing like the hardest songs and like Bretman's like Bella, you have to top that.
She's like so good.I'm like, I can never energy of me being like, Oh yeah.Well my friend, she's a chef too.That's amazing though.
Okay.So your new single sweet delusion is already out.When this episode drops, we'll have it linked down below.Listen to it.We did just watch the music video and we have a lot of thoughts.Alicia needs to say go watch the music video.
Oh my God.Like one, beautifully executed.Like everyone involved, like the cinematography, the editing, everything.You look stunning.Also, you're just as stunning in person.I'm sure people tell you that.Like, you're like, is that a compliment?
That's like when people are like, oh my God, you raised me.I used to watch you like so long ago.Do you still make videos?You're like, yeah, no. You're like, still here.
I mean, I'd rather have people say I look prettier in person than online, I guess.Cause like, obviously no one would want to be like, oh, you look better online.You look so much better with Paris.No stunning.The music video though.
One, I feel like it's so different than your other stuff.Build a bitch iconic, like truly, truly iconic.But this one, I feel like you're being a lot more vulnerable. And I feel like the lyrics alone cut me in a way.
Even you singing Sweet Delusion, you can hear the emotion in your voice.And that's what I love.I love when it feels like it's your story, whether you wrote it or not.And I think that's so rare.And you can just feel it.And then the wedding. gagged.
Like if anyone has been with anyone who's ended up married to someone else, you will be wrecked.You're going to want tissues and you'll want to watch it 20 times over again because you just like weirdly like the feeling of pain and you want to feel.
or that's just me.Were you trying not to cry?No, honestly, I almost cried.I honestly kind of almost cried.Can you tell us the process of like how involved you are in the execution of even like filming a music video like this?
Cause you can tell it's very personal.
I'm very involved, honestly.I wanted the music video to match the song itself and like, especially lyrically and Yeah, I mean, we're all kind of like delusional in our own way.
So like I wanted the story to be that, like just being in love and just being like deep in love with someone and you only see like the good things, not the bad.
And like, even though they walk away from your life, you're still kind of like delulu, still hopeful that, you know, maybe one day you guys still end up together, but it's like.
Yeah, that's beautiful and how how heavily involved are you in with the writing process of your music too?
Yeah, I wrote it and actually by yourself I wrote it with like people but it is my story and like it was really fun writing it with other
like people honestly and because like I don't know I've never really talked about my story like that with like strangers but it's this like group of people I write with and this new producer that I just like met that day no way well not met but like the first time working together it was just like all of our like chemistry like it was the chemistry and like we all just
We all just kind of like wrote like a great first song together.That's insane.
That was the first day that you've ever worked together and you came up with that masterpiece.
Yeah.And at that moment they were like, so what do you want to write about?And I just told them like how I felt and this is what came out of it.And it was crazy because yeah. That's so beautiful.
I was going to say beautiful and not to sound cliche, but like, especially something so intimate, like songwriting.They're like, what do you want to talk about?What do you want to sing about?
And you're just like, here's like my, all of my trauma scars, delusional thoughts and every like, here's like the deepest parts of my soul. please help me make it into a good song.
That's so scary, let alone with someone who you hadn't even worked before with.I don't know, I think this truly, I can see this and see it's so good simply because it's so true and authentic, and I think that's what the music industry lacks a lot.
The whole time I was so speechless, because I was just like, I don't know, oh my God, there's so much to it. dissect into this.Like, it's seriously so good.And we only watched it once.
We do need to watch it like over and over again.But overall, it was beautiful.You can act your ass off.So good.You and I were talking on, at Bretman's party and like had like a really long heart to heart.
And you were just like, you're such an open book.You're definitely like more quiet and reserved.So when you were telling me all these things, I was like, first of all, we just met, like, you don't have to tell me all these things.
But thank you so much.And it was just like so sweet and so appreciated.And I like appreciate your vulnerability.I think it's so admirable.
And I do think as obviously you blew up overnight on TikTok and we'll get into like your history and everything.So you have such an interesting story.And that's what I kept telling you.I was like, this is crazy.
And you were telling me you've only done a couple podcasts before this one.Truly very honored.But also like we are people who have been online
for over a decade and have shared like every innermost thought, every stage of our lives, like all these things with so many people.So they've seen so much.Whereas I feel like on TikTok, you're not super, super open.
You obviously blew up with doing like a lot of sounds and things like that.So I feel like people didn't fully get to know you.
And obviously people get to know you more on podcasts, but I feel like music is such a beautiful way to be able to share you with people.That is so true though.
And you're doing a really great job at it.
Thank you.Thank you so much.And I like that you mentioned that you could feel like the lyrics like when I'm singing it is because I'm actually like the last part of Like the the chorus.
I was actually crying I was like teary-eyed and um, it was funny cuz um, I It was like a few days before I had to submit the song to my label.I decided to re-record all the vocals because I thought they weren't emotional enough.
And so I stayed up till 4 a.m.re-recording the whole song.And I'm so happy that I did so because it sounds so much better.
No, like so many people are gonna be able to relate to this and like even sharing that like that's such an interesting fact that like most people wouldn't go above and beyond for something like that.They'd be like, okay, cool.We did it.
It's good enough.Like, it's going to be a hit.I already have followers.It'll like do well, blah, blah, blah, whatever.But like caring about the craft, like I see that here.It's so admirable.
Cause again, I think so many people in social media and stuff, it's like, especially once you get fame or money or whatever, you get all these opportunities and like, they just don't love the art or the craft of what they're doing.
I don't want to say not all of them, but I just feel like it's so common for people to get wrapped up into that.And I just like, am so inspired.
by your approach to music and even pivoting your whole career of having this, okay, I blew up on content creation, but I actually want to fully give music the attention it needs.And I think, again, that's just, it's so rare.
And most people, I'm sure you had so many people we can talk about this too, like expecting you to fail when you started music or expect it like I'm sure.But then Build-A-Bitch, it was it was so good.So I feel like maybe they didn't.
Did you know you always wanted to, like, go full force with music from the beginning or like after TikTok happened?Were you like, you know what?I'm like, what was that turning point?
Yeah, I mean, I've always wanted to be a singer.I was actually part of the Navy Choir.And yeah, so even in service, I was singing like on the weekends.
And yeah, so my first ever TikTok video actually that I uploaded is a cover of Raindrops by Ariana Grande.And it got like 100 views.So I put it down. I was like, for now, yeah.
And so I was like, yeah, maybe I'll just do like fun stuff, like lip syncing stuff.And that's when it started like blowing up.
No way.How soon after from your cover did you, because your first video is the one that blew up, correct?Or do you have like a lot of other videos before?
other videos.Like I was, it was just like all lip syncing videos though.Like not talking at all.Okay.
And then specifically the one that blew up.Wow.How long had you been making videos before that one blew up on TikTok?
It was like a few months, like three months.Okay.But still really fast.
Wow.And that was 2020?Yes.Okay.Okay.So you were just making videos for fun.You obviously like blew up like crazy overnight.What was kind of like the aftermath after that? with TikTok in general?
I was living in Hawaii.So, um, I like my man, my ex managers at that time, um, they were like, Oh, you should come to LA and cause you wanted to pursue music and maybe we can help you out with that.And so like, I was here in LA for a little bit.
It was supposed to be only for like three months and I was supposed to fly back to Hawaii, but I just, I stayed here ever since.And I was living in hotel rooms and
There was like a rumor saying that I was like being like trafficked or something because I was like all my videos were literally in a hotel room.And so they're like, this is sketchy.Like, is she even a real person?Like, what is going on?
That's so crazy.And like, you can't like make a video being like, no, I'm, I'm okay.
That's so interesting.And so how long were you making the TikToks of like, cause you were doing a lot of like the trendy stuff, obviously cause you were just growing, growing, growing, growing.
How long did you wait before you like started sharing your love for singing?
I did my first cover, like I think 2020 it was, yeah, it was a cover of a Gracie Abrams song.What was it?Friend.Yeah.It was friend.I love that song. I had a lot of like haters before that.And so that definitely like shut them up.
I was going to say, I bet they got real quiet.Yeah.Yeah.It shut them up real fast.They were still hating.They were like. Her ukulele's not even in tune, like what the hell.I'm like, go ahead.They'll find something.
They will find anything.But that's so comical.
I was gonna say, oh my God.
They're like, oh, she actually has talent.
And during that, I honestly was still like trying to figure out what I wanted to do, like how to be an artist and stuff like that.So I was still learning.And like, I was going in like my first studio session.I was so nervous.Yeah.I'm sure.Crazy.
I was meeting a lot of people.I have social anxiety so that, That was a lot.Oh, I bet.Same.
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People didn't know much about your life, obviously, again, because you were making lip sync videos.And then I remember when it came out, like, I remember there was a big thing about your age, right?
Because people thought you were a lot younger than you were.
Everyone thought I was like 18 or something.How old are you right now? I'm 27.
Ah, love it.And so I remember people being like, whoa, she's older.And then when it came out, you were also married.People are like, wait, this is crazy.But you've been married for a little while, correct?
And you're telling me you guys met in the Navy.Yes.Will you give us like a little backstory on that?
Yeah.So we met in Japan.I was stationed there for like two years and that's where we met.And honestly, I was going through so much mentally during that time.And he was one of those people that was just like very
very supportive and like, Oh, maybe you should like, you know, he, he was one of those people that helped me through so much.
I know you haven't been on that many podcasts, but I know you've talked about your story a lot.Um, so sorry if you don't want to repeat anything, you don't have to repeat anything, but I feel like you were such an enigma to the whole internet.
Cause they're like, at first they just think, Oh, it's just this like teenage girl.Who's like cute making faces and like, doesn't have talent.And then they like, find one layer of you and they're like, Oh, she's like older.Oh, she's married.
Oh, she has like, she has a whole story.She was in the Navy.She has a whole story.Like, Oh my God, there's so much to you.And I think that is one of the things that like just has drawn so many people to you.But I know Growing up was extremely hard.
Like, I really love that talk that we had on the boat and I just feel like you're so open and like, I know you've talked about it, but I also think it'd be interesting for people that don't know, like just your whole story in general.
So you were telling me that you were adopted and your brother was adopted as well, correct?
Are you guys, do you have the same biological parents or different parents completely?
Okay.So both adopted by a couple here in the States?
Yeah, so my adoptive father, he wanted to retire in the Philippines and he met my adoptive mother there.Oh, okay.Yeah, they got married.So I was adopted in the age of three.And my parents were like, not the best, honestly, they were horrible.
Actually, but I lived in like the middle of the farm The first time I saw like huge buildings was on the way here to the US when I was 14 Oh, yeah, cuz we had to go to Manila to take the plane and I was like, this is crazy like City is crazy.Okay.
But yeah I yeah I wasn't allowed to like have friends growing up like it was insane and I wasn't even allowed to speak Tagalog at home because like my dad only spoke English so he wanted to be able to understand everyone when they were speaking.
and also like I wasn't allowed to like basically just celebrate my culture like I wasn't allowed to watch Filipino shows or like Filipino movies growing up but really yeah so but in school like I would I would always like speak Tagalog like yeah I would try to yeah I wanted to not be
you know, not be separated from my culture.
Yeah, like assimilate with everybody, I'm sure.Wow.And what brought your family to the States when you guys, when you moved when you were 14?
Yeah.Um, so my dad had to get a bypass surgery and I guess they couldn't do it in the Philippines.So he had to, um, go to the U S and so after the surgery, he was like, um, You know, I can't really like I have to be here.
Like he has to be like confined in the hospital for a while.And so he decided to take me, my brother and my mom.
OK.Yeah.And then you were 14 when you moved.And what part of the state did you move to or Hawaii?
No, actually, I was stationed in Hawaii.So I decided just to stay there after.Yeah.OK.My service.Yeah.So, um. I was moving around a lot.At first, I was in San Francisco for like a few months.I was living with my aunt and like every, yeah.
And then I went to Fresno, California.And I went to high school there.And then that's where I also graduated.
Wait, I didn't know that.
Yeah, it was cute.I met like a couple of friends that I'm still friends to this day.They're so sweet.But yeah, and then after that, I moved to Texas.And I was like, at that time, I was like 16. It was crazy.It was such a culture shock.Yeah, I bet.
Texas in general.I can't imagine.
I'm sure.And if you were 16, that means you were what, like a sophomore or junior in high school?I actually skipped a few grades.Oh.
Well, also like my parents were so strict, like I could not even get a B. Oh, and I'm sure like school was like an escape too.Yeah, it was crazy.Yeah.When you come to the States and you're like, Oh, y'all are dumb.
I had to wait a whole year before I was able to join the military.And so I was working at Target.We were just talking about Target before you came in.
Oh.And how you have to steal $950 worth of merchandise before they'll arrest you.Oh shit, what? Is that true?That's what we saw.We Googled it too.Because they'll just like watch people on the cameras and they'll just wait.
And as soon as you take enough merchandise, boom, arrested.Oh, wow.Yes.You're not on the same side of TikTok as we are.
We see the body cam footage.Shit, you saw that on TikTok?Yeah, it's all over TikTok all the time.
That's crazy.I know.Maybe they've changed since you were 16 though.Maybe they changed the briefing. You know?Yeah, yeah, yeah.In orientation.
It's changed differently now.
Okay.So you were, and you told me that you also followed your brother, right?Your brother went into the... Yeah.
So my brother went and joined the military first.And, um, at that time I really just, I didn't want to run away from home and not have a plan because like, I really, I didn't, I didn't like my parents.
They were like very abusive, like physically and mentally and emotionally.So like, I just wanted to get out of there and I was so young.And so, yeah. My only option was to honestly join the military.Like I didn't want to go homeless or anything.
So yeah, I joined when I was 17.I had to force my parents to sign the waiver saying they they'd let me join.Really?Yeah.
Was that a hard conversation to have with them or did like how did that go down?
They honestly didn't care.Really?Yeah.The day I was going to boot camp,
They didn't even drop me off at like the yeah, they didn't I had my recruiter drive me because they didn't even want to drop me off and they didn't even like Like my mom didn't say goodbye.Like she was still in bed.
It was like at 8 a.m in the morning and like my I was gonna say goodbye, but I Thought both of them were asleep.But as soon as I go like outside like I opened the door I was about to close the door and my dad showed up and he was like
If you fail bootcamp, this is not your home.This is not your return address."And I literally was just like, okay. And yeah, that was like, honestly, I was so happy.I was so happy.
To leave or so happy that?
I was so happy to just get out of that situation.Yeah, I'm sure.
Like if anything, I'm sure that just solidified your reasoning for wanting to leave.
I was gonna say also, yeah, I'm sure it was like very, just like goodbye, validating, never gonna talk to you again.If you don't mind me asking, do you know contact with them now?
They reached out back in 2021, but it wasn't for good reason.
I was just, yeah, like after you blew up, I would like, I feel like that often happens with kids and parents.I'm really sorry.I think that you have handled everything with such grace, though.So you went into the Navy and then how soon into that?
Well, first of all, how was your just your experience in general?
Honestly, I was having fun while everybody was like, I want to go home in boot camp.Like the first night there, I was just like so excited and everybody was just like weirded out.But they're like, why are you so happy? And I was the youngest one too.
And so everybody was just like babying me, but it was honestly so fun.Like every night was like slumber party.
I mean, I can't imagine, like you had the opposite of everyone where they're like, oh, I'm missing, I'm not gonna see my family.I'm missing like home and stuff.And you're like, I finally am free.I have this whole new like life ahead of me.
So I can see how that would be exciting to like feel like you can do whatever you want, watch whatever shows you want or like, you know what I mean?Just have like freedom in a way that you've never had before.
You mentioned them being like abusive in different ways.How would you say that affected not just your mental health, but like your own self-worth, like for yourself?
I mean, it was hard, but therapy honestly helped me a lot.And just surrounding myself with like amazing people that care about me.Honestly, like the hate comments, I was like, I've honestly heard worse. from my own family.Yeah.
And so like, yeah, it affected me, but like not as much as like how, you know, like what I went through when I was a kid.So it taught me to be so kind to everyone because you never know what they're going through.
I think a lot of people though could come out of that situation being very jaded or very just obviously I wouldn't wish that upon anyone, but to be able to come out and find the silver lining and also apply it to meeting with other people.
And then just like becoming a better person because of it is incredible.
I can't believe how you seem so put together and like you have such a good head on your shoulders and a great outlook on life, like despite everything.And that's so rare.
And I, I always like kind of struggled when people always said like, Oh, like you're such a good role model to like my daughters or whatever, after having, um, a platform and stuff.But like, and I just hated it.
Cause I feel like it's a lot of pressure, but I truly mean, I'm like, I feel like you're just such a good role model.
Like, like for girls to be able to look up to you and like, see like not only your story, that's beautiful, but like how you've overcome that.And then still like having a whole life after what you thought was going to be your life forever, you know?
one of like the big reasons why I like write music and I love sharing like my experiences with people is because like I just want to be able to help someone that is going through the same thing or like gone through the same thing and I just want them to like you know relate to how what I went through and just say well if she if she made
made it through like I can make it through, you know, because, yeah, it's it's really hard.
When I was growing up, there really isn't a lot of, you know, like role models and the people who I was supposed to look up to, which was my parents, were not even like good role models.
What age were you or do you remember even when you realize like, oh, most people don't grow up like this?Like, was there a moment that you remember?
Um, in school.Yeah.Okay.Yeah.Like, um, I mean, I would show up in school with like bruises and like, yeah, people would just like, they wouldn't even honestly, they didn't really ask too much questions.
Yeah.I feel like also just times have changed a lot too, since when we were younger.And I think that people are like, I just think things were very different back then, but it's obviously not OK.
And I wish that you had someone back then who would have protected you and like stepped in for you and or called someone for you, because it's obviously not OK.
I think it was my brother too.He was trying his best, but he was also young.He's four years older.
Yeah.I'm sure he did his best.
Really hard when he went to the military.
Yes.I was like, how dare you leave me?
How many years?Cause you went 17.So was it three years?
No, he was like, he left when I was 16.Yeah.So yeah, it was just like, honestly, just a year.
Yeah, we were writing each other.Yeah, I was writing him like when he was in boot camp, I was just like writing him and stuff.And then you met up with him in Japan.
Oh, my God.What was it like when you saw him for the first time?
It was crazy because we both like I mean, I look different.Like I I knew how to do my makeup like.
Cuz like I wasn't allowed to put on any makeup when I was like, yeah when I was still at my parents house Not even like a skincare routine like whatever like yeah, I wasn't allowed and Yeah, so he was just like shocked yeah, he was like wow you've you've grown so much
And how long is the bootcamp?Like what is bootcamp process like and how long is that for?It's like for three months.
Okay.Yeah.It's honestly just training you mentally and physically.Yeah.Yeah.I, the, the hardest part of bootcamp is getting like your shots, like your, um, what is it? Vaccine shot.Oh my gosh.We have this thing called the peanut butter shot.
That goes into your butt cheek.And oh my gosh, I could not sit for like two days.And I feel like military people that know what a peanut butter shot is.Cause it feels like, like it's thick peanut butter.Yeah.
It feels like when, when they shoot peanut butter in your butt cheek.
Like, it's not just like, and they don't even tell you they're like, okay, Time to get your vaccine shots.And they literally put you in, you form a line and like through that line, there's just like people.Next.
Oh my God.It's just like.It's the build a bitch.The music.
Yeah.Literally that.Literally.And there's like four people with like needles.That's crazy.
Oh my God.And so like, obviously it's very regimented, but like, what's the schedule like for those three months? I assume it's very retroventive, right?
You wake up at like 6 a.m.and then you form a line to go eat breakfast.It's always like waiting.Lines, lines, lines.Yeah.Honestly, the military taught me how to be so patient because that's usually like 50 percent of boot camp.
Very interesting.Physicality wise, what was that kind of like?
They teach you how to like, I guess like build your endurance like running Push-ups.Oh, I hated push-ups.I was so weak, but after boot camp I was like, okay, I can do like 10 push-ups now In three months, it's actually pretty good.
Yeah, that's actually a fail Yeah, thank God they didn't have to like make us do pull-ups.Cause I would literally, I probably would have never.I can do like one pull-up and that's a total fail.I think Marines, you have to do like three, right?
That's why the Navy.Yeah.I joined the Navy.Okay.
So then after the three months bootcamp, then you joined, then are you just kind of automatically admitted?
No, they send you to like, well, in my case, I was sent to aviation school.So that was in Pensacola, Florida. Wow.Yeah.So they teach you about like your job.
What was your main role or did you have, I'm sure you had multiple, but was there like one?
I was like a plane captain.I was a, but my main role is a evasion ordinance.So like, um, basically any weapons that go into an aircraft carrier.
Yes.She told me that.Isn't that insane?Like crazy weapons, right?Like, just like, like, like little her and like these giant weapons.You, you assemble them and then you put them on there.
Oh yeah, you just like put it together.
Yeah.And then at what point you met your husband?At what point during the time or ex-husband?So sorry, ex-husband.
Um, that was like my, like my first, um, duty station.Oh yeah.So Japan.Yeah.
And did you guys meet and just like get together immediately essentially?And like kind of had that whole experience.
I saw him in a hangar bay and we just locked eyes.No.And I was like, Hi.And he did not say a thing.That is so him though.He does not talk.He has social anxiety like me.So he's just like, he does not talk at all.
But it was like, yeah, he was like flirting with me with his eyes.You're like, okay.We were so young.We were like 19.It's crazy.
Cause then you feel so old.Like when you're like 18, 19, 20, And then looking back, it's so crazy to be like, I was actually so young and I just didn't realize it.What year did you get married?2019.Oh my God.
So then the very next year, TikTok happened.
Oh my God.And COVID.Where were you guys living at that time?
When we got married, he was still stationed in Japan.So we had to fly to Hawaii. Yeah, to marry me.No way.We got eloped.
If he wanted to, he would.Where'd you guys elope at?
It was in one of the beaches in Kaneohe.I forgot which beach it was, but it was, it was literally just us and a photographer and like the officiator.Yeah.Yeah.Yeah.It was so cute.
Diving into your breakup after and your divorce after TikTok, was it hard to not be resentful towards social media or because I'm sure that caused a lot of issues between you guys?In your gut, did you just know like this wasn't going to work out?
Like how was navigating that?
Honestly, it was fine at first.Back in 2021, actually, I I posted something like saying I was married because I was getting hit on with like by so many people.
Yeah.And so I had to post that.I literally posted like my wedding pictures.Yeah.And then he was getting a lot of hate and the hate comments.And it was like it was crazy because even people he knew were like we both mutually knew like
were hating in the comments.What?I'm sorry.Like friends outside of social media?Yeah.What?Yeah.Why?I don't, I don't know.That's what I didn't understand.But like, I was like, don't you know this person?He's like, yeah, he's my friend.
Like, that's weird.Literally, they were like talking shit in the comment section.And so I was like, damn.And I just saw how it affected him.And I just wanted to protect him.
And he was having a little trouble because he didn't like Was it specifically the hate that he really struggled with?Which obviously that's hard for anybody.
I think it's just like being in the public eye.Yeah.I mean, he doesn't have any social media at all.Even when I met him, like he had like Facebook to talk to like family.
Like he had Messenger and stuff like that, but he never really had Instagram or like, yeah, he had Twitter, but he never posted.
Wow.Very far removed.And then just got, thrown into internet virality, essentially what felt like overnight.And then on top of that, they were being mean to him, which is, that has to be so hard.
Would he download the TikTok just to keep up with everything?Was he keeping up with that at all or wanted to just not see anything?
No, he didn't even have TikTok.Honestly, he was very supportive, but he didn't wanna be part of my videos like that.He didn't wanna show his face or anything.
I guess what was like the main thing you learned from that?
Main thing I learned from that. I used to never date again.I think I'm just gonna not date.Really?We're just done?Oh my gosh.Yes.I don't know, man.That's a lot though.And like to experience that very young too.
Honestly, I mean, I got married at a young age.I was so in love and like, it just never worked out in the end.So like, I don't know.Something about that just ruined dating for me.
Do you feel like jaded towards dating and like love in general now?
Right after like my divorce, Everyone's like, oh, Bella, like, why aren't you dating anyone?Because there was like, like three months or so, everyone's just like, oh, you're single, right?Like, get back out there.
When again, your DMs are like... But also like marriage and like, I feel like there's some sort of, obviously there's a very deep bond between you two getting married so young.
Like that is, it's hard to move on in general slash also three months later.Like I understand everyone just like wanting you to have fun.Like, oh my God, you're like in this amazing, like prime time in your life.
But like, I can't even imagine how hard that was to go through.
Yeah, no, he's like my best friend.So like, it was really, really hard.And then when I was, you know, more comfortable, my first date was a disaster.Anyways.
It was just like, because I never really experienced dating.Yeah.First of all, what the heck is a situation shift?
What is that?You got married with a guy that gave you a look.19, that's amazing.
Okay, so yeah, you really didn't date. Me and my ex-husband, like we were already basically dating the first day we met.So like, yeah, like we just knew we were, you know, we were going to end up together and stuff.
But like, I don't know, like going out on dates was so weird for me because I never really experienced that.Yeah.And were you dating in LA?I was talking to someone.
I don't know, I don't even, it lasted like a week and a half, so I don't even think it's considered dating, honestly.
But going from being married to then that, like that would be hard to be like, oh, like you're starting all the way back to zero, negative, because it's in LA too.
Like I've had a connection with someone, I've been married, I've already done a lot of that, and it's just like, it worked out so seamlessly the way I met my ex, and like now where do I start?Where do I go?Do you just download? Like dating apps?
I don't even, yeah.I don't even have any dating apps.Like I, I never downloaded any of them and everyone's like, oh, you should go on Tinder.You should go on Raya or like all these apps.And I'm like, I don't know.
I don't know if that's how I want to meet someone.Also social anxiety.
It's like the talking is hard.Cause you're like, hi, like what, like what?
Yeah.I feel like it helps when you're both awkward.Cause you can just like laugh. That's so cute.
Now, if it's like, if one is like very good at small talk and then one isn't, I feel like you're just like, oh, but I don't think I'm good at small talks, but I can, I can fake it.I feel like.
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Discover the fabric of now at thefabricofourlives.com.I have a question about your ex-husband.So he obviously didn't like the idea of being in the public eye so much.Was there a world so had he like come to you and been like, I don't like this.
And was there a world where you were like, I'm potentially going to step away?Or was there like a push and pull for you at all?
He's always been like supportive with my dreams and stuff.And yeah, I told him like, I've always wanted to be an artist like I Yeah.
And I can't, you know, he didn't really like make me choose, you know, like, oh, like quit being an artist and we can be together forever.Yeah, it wasn't like that.I think it was like we both kind of already knew what he wanted and what I wanted.
It's heartbreaking, but I'm glad there's like so much mutual respect and love still there.
And I think that's a whole other level of heartbreak because you're like, no, I wish you cheated.I wish you were a horrible person.I wish you were doing all those things.So it'd be easier to be like, no, this is needs to have a clean break.
But it's like, I still have so much love for you.You are one of my soulmates in my life.But that makes me so happy that you guys. are okay now, like you're still friends.I think that also hopefully can give a lot of people hope watching too.
Like there is a world where that can happen.Is he dating or like married?Like have you had to like deal with that yet?Yeah, maybe it's best not to know.
Okay.Yeah.That's true.In the beginning you mentioned that the song, your kind of like idea behind the whole thing is like wanting to be with someone and like maybe there's a chance that they could, that we could like, Do it again.
Is there a world where you would want to be back with him again?Also, I'm so sorry if I'm prying way too much and you don't.
No, no, no.It's all cool.I think so.I mean, I don't know.I love being single.I love being just like being focused on myself right now.Like, yeah.
I feel like this is also just like, again, with music and how it's just so clear to me that you were meant for this, like even like your whole story behind, like everything about your life was meant for this.
can only imagine you also feeling like, no, like I just know this is what I need to be doing right now.And like, give it my all and like not have any, I hate saying distractions, but like that, I don't know.
Like you just, this is what you need to be doing.And you're going on tour soon.Yes.Are you excited?Are you nervous?
And it's your first time performing live, correct?That's crazy.I know. Yeah, I'm definitely going to be performing Build-A-Bitch.I've been waiting for so long.
The looks are going to be so good.Oh my gosh.Have you already picked everything?You're going pretty soon.Yeah.
A month from today.Right?
Yes.Oh my gosh.Yes.Oh my God.How exciting.
Are you on a bus?I don't even know yet. We are flying, but that's amazing.
So you're going to be flying around and you're going to how many, do you know how many stops you're going to?Or like, where are you most excited to go to?
Yeah, honestly, I'm excited for the LA show.
Can we come?Yeah.She's going to be from Texas too.
Cause I mean, I was there when I was like 16.Like, yeah, I just, I just know like, there's going to be like a lot of emotions there.And, um, I mean, I'm performing in Chicago and New York as well. And can people buy tickets right now?
Yes.Okay.Check out the description.Everybody go buy ticket.Are you doing like dancing choreo and all the things or like, what's the vibe?
There are songs that I will be dancing choreo to, but yeah, I also will be performing unreleased music.Yeah.So I hope, yeah.That's super exciting.
It's going to be so good.I'm so excited for you.
And Sweet Delusion is the beginning of like a new era for you.Will you describe this era to us and kind of like what people can expect?
Yeah, so this new era is gonna be like the stripped-down version of like Dolls EP, honestly.Because like my past music, like my EP Dolls was like emotional, but like production was very like dark pop, you know.
Yeah, music that you can dance to and stuff.But this time around, I wanted it to be more like… I wanted it to make you feel something, honestly.Like whether it's anger, sadness, happiness.
Like this new era is all about authenticity and just like storytelling.
I also feel like that with your previous music, like all of your songs always have such beautiful messaging behind it.Like I really do believe like you're already so vulnerable and so open and like sharing such beautiful
messages that people should take away from it.So to imagine that like on an even higher level, like that's very exciting for all of your fans, I'm sure.
Yeah, especially for my album.The concept for my album is the best and worst experiences that happened in my life.And so I'm going to be able to like talk about like what the song's about and like what the story behind it is.
And it's not going to be like, sad songs and it's not going to sound sad.It is going to be sad lyrically, but I wanted the production to be like a contrast.So it's like, you can't tell it's a sad song.
Yeah.Contrast and stuff is so good.But even like your fashions like that, it's like edgy, but still girly and like feminine.
But like, I feel like that is a perfect example.Yeah.That's so exciting.Okay.I feel like we've talked a lot about some of the worst moments in your life that you just mentioned.Will you share some of the best moments?
Because I feel like I wanna end on a high for this episode.
Oh my gosh.Best experiences, honestly.Or just things that inspired the songs that are about the best things.Yeah, so I have this one song I wrote literally after I came back from my last Paris trip.Oh my God.And it's called Chase Me.Okay.
Oh, I was there for like Vance.They invited me. to this crazy event.It was really fun.But so one of my friends, Chloe, Chloe Kim, shout out.
Oh, I love Chloe Kim.She's the sweetest.She's amazing.
Yeah.So she invited me to go to this party and I was like, yeah, I'm down.I mean, it's my last night in Paris and I have like a 10 a.m.flight the next day.And so I'm just like, you know, I'll just party with you and not sleep and just.I'm sorry.
It's really crazy that you do that a lot. Like I feel like you party and then like leave in the morning.Like even in Hawaii, I was like, oh, I'd be out for like days.
I would just rather sleep in the flight.I would just would probably miss the flight on accident.
That's what I worry about.Like we're messes, we would miss it.But like, she's like, she parties and she's like at like a 6 a.m.flight, like makes it.And still looks gorgeous, I'm sure.No, like comes in a look.
I'm so sorry to interrupt, but it's just, it's an incredible skill that you have and you need to honor that.
Oh, thank you.So yeah, so I went to this party with her and as soon as we walked in, It just felt like everyone was staring at both of us.In a good way.Yeah, honestly, I mean, she looks hot.I feel like I looked cute.You looked hot.
But yeah, it was honestly the best night ever. Really?Cause we weren't even paying attention to anyone else.I was just like dancing with her.People were like offering us drinks and we're like, we're good.Yeah.Like, yeah, it was really cute.
Like, and that's one of those, it's so cool when, I mean, it could have been any party, love you Vans, but it could have been any party, but it's just the fact that like in 10 years, you're going to look back and that will be a core memory for you.
You know what I mean?And it's just like one of those moments that you're going to look back and like, oh my God, that was one of the best nights ever.Just a good energy, good friends and like just dancing and not caring.
And everyone's like flirting with us, but we didn't care.We're just like, we're just here dancing.Okay.We just want to dance.Yeah.
We're just trying to dance.Literally.Yeah.Can you move so more people can see us? I think it's so funny cause like every little like piece of that makes the story even better.
Like you had a flight the next morning, you're going with your girlfriend, you guys are just like sober, having fun, dancing, you look hot, you feel hot.And it's like in Paris, it's even better.
Was that your first time in Paris?Or had you been before?No, it was like my third time.But I think that was the most fun because I mean, I had a friend there and we were just like,
Yeah, and I'm sure obviously like growing up It's like you never would have thought you'd be in Paris like doing all of these crazy things like I feel like that has to be So cool, like just thinking of your younger self when you have all of these moments Like I can tell you're so appreciative for like everything you have.
Yeah.No, I'm honestly so grateful and like baby Bella She wouldn't even believe that I'm an artist right now.Like she'd be like, you're kidding.There's no way.And the label, how did that, did they approach you?
Was like, how did that happen?
My management during that time helped me.So they basically like reached out to like Warner and I just, yeah.I showed them a couple of songs like covers and stuff and yeah.
Okay, so right out the gate, you've been working with a label then, starting with Build-A-Bitch.Yeah.Wow.That's amazing.How is that like a full experience?
Like what's the process in working with a label and like producing all your own stuff and writing everything?Like how does that work exactly?
Honestly, I recently like With the album, I've just been working with mainly one person.And because I just love writing with people who I'm also friends with because it's easier.
And like, I also love working with other people, but I feel like it's different when you're working with like people like that you already know and just like love being around with.Yeah.
I feel like the energy would just be good.
Yeah.So like the label helps me like find new producers or like.Oh, cool.Yeah.People that, you know,
Like I've heard great stories about labels and I've heard horror stories about labels, about just like the controlling aspect.Have you felt like they've allowed you to have your voice and like your creativity, like creative input?
And- Yeah, definitely.I feel like I'm so grateful that they're very supportive.
You do a good job, so I can't imagine them being like, no, it's not good.
You know what I mean?Like you just do a good job.Yeah, I'm so happy that they trust me, honestly.
I'm curious about like, what's the quickest time it took you to write a song on the album?And then what was the longest time it took you to write a song on the album?
Oh, just keep smiling. That was the easiest one.I just came to you quickly.Yeah, that day I was so depressed.I was literally like, I didn't even want to show up to my session that day because I was just so down.Like, yeah.
And my producer was like, how are you feeling?And I'm like, I'm I feel like dying, literally.Like I. Yeah.But let's let's write a song about it.
And yeah, so it's the song is just about like dealing with depression, depression, because I'm diagnosed with major depressive disorder.So like, yeah, it's
It's kind of different with like struggling with that because all year you just like every day you feel depressed and it's hard.And so, yeah, that day was just like extra hard on me.Like it was difficult.
And yeah, I was able to put that in like how I feel.
I'm glad it can be so therapeutic.Like it's an outlet for you, like writing and stuff.And not only that, you get to share it with everyone.
What would you say, like mental health wise, what's something you wish like people who don't understand mental health or go through it themselves, like what's something you wish they understood or knew?
I've met people that actually don't struggle with any mental health issues or anything.It's crazy.One thing I want them to know is just like, you really can't tell when someone's dealing with something.
And yeah, because with me, when I'm having a bad day, I usually just put on a mask, honestly. I'm so different.Like, yeah.And then when I'm when I'm home by myself, that's when like, oh my gosh, like that's when all the emotions come out.
I'm like, you know, that's a really good question.
No, I love not judging in a world that judges everything, especially online.Because like it's it's you really don't know what someone's going through.I feel like you felt that. about baby Bella, but then also older with mental health too.
It's like, you truly, truly just don't know.And even however much you choose to share online, people still don't know.Like that's still only one little sliver of what you're like showing online.And again, going back to why I think
people were so like invested in you and your story was because they thought they knew you.They thought, oh, we've seen this before.Again, it's just like, she's probably just blah, blah, blah, whatever.
And then having so many layers to you and so much vulnerability.And I love that that's one of the main things you want people to know, because I think it it's so true.We judge everyone so much. over stupid things too.Like, and it's like, for what?
And you truly never ever know what someone's going through.You were literally just lip syncing.
Like why do people have, you know what I mean?Like who actually cares?Like scroll if you don't like it.Like that's what, that's crazy to me.To what age were you when you received that diagnosis?
Well, I first found out when I was in the military.
Oh, because they do so many checks.
Yeah.I didn't even know what depression was until I joined the military.Like, I didn't even know that was a thing.
I was like, that's why I've been feeling that way. Yeah.And it was it was it was tough at first because like, should I go full details again?I guess you really have to.Yeah.
So like not a lot of people know, but I've been in a psych ward before, like a military psych ward.
And yeah, it's like it's one of those moments when I when I realized like I was really going through it and I needed to speak to someone and just like, yeah.And that's when I started like therapy.
I feel like I'm honestly grateful for like that moment because I also met like amazing people.Yeah.
Yeah.Like I'm still friends with one of the people I met in this.Yeah.Mike.
Hi.But I'm sure like growing up in the house that you grew up in where you couldn't even speak Tagalog.You couldn't even like so much of you in like surface level things or deep things were
pushed away, I'm sure that mental health was not a topic of discussion.
So to be 17 or whatever age it was when you got there for the years that you were there, to not even be able to like articulate or understand like that's what you're going through and to have to go through it there, I'm sure it was incredibly hard as it is already.
Yeah, it was it was hard at first.Because like I knew something was wrong with me.Like, sometimes I just want to sleep all day and stuff like that.I guess that.Yeah, it wasn't really normal.And like, I always get nightmares because I have PTSD.
I'm sure there's so much stuff down from the age of three.Yeah.You know, like not understanding what's quote normal, not understanding like what love should look like.That's a lot to process for anyone, let alone your very specific niche situation.
And then going into the military, not even understanding mental health or what depression is.So I'm just so amazed that
I'm so grateful you were able to find these people, like you said, or like to even to be in that situation where you're like, no, let's get this under control and like unpack it all.
Cause I feel like if you weren't able to like get that out, cause what, 19?
When I was diagnosed.Yeah.Yeah.
Like imagine if it was when you were 30, you know what I mean?Like what your life would be so different.So I feel like it was such,
a blessing to be able to start that healing process, even though you were forced to, because it was like part of your routinely checkups.
Like, I think that was a very beautiful blessing in disguise because you're like, okay, I have to deal with this sooner than later, but like, at least we're getting through it, you know?So I feel like I'm speaking for you.
I'm like, yeah, I'm sure you felt that way.
Do you feel like the military has a good system in place to help those with mental health?
Yes, now they, honestly they do now.I'm glad to hear that.When I first joined, not so, but they've been better.Good.
Yeah, I want to tell you guys like the story of when I was like stationed in Japan and I was in the middle of the ocean because I was deployed and Um, I would, I would be deployed like six months out of the year.
So we would just be, um, sailing through the oceans basically for six months.It's crazy.Wow.No wonder you were fine on that boat.This is when like, I didn't know I was struggling with depression or like anxiety or anything. It was like one moment.
It was like a stormy night and they say, everyone just stay in your beds.No one was allowed in the flight deck during that time because it was just very stormy and the winds are crazy. the waves are also crazy.
And so they had everyone just like chill for that day.And there was like a hatch open.So it's like a little window.And I was just like, I was having suicidal thoughts.
And as I was about to jump out, this stranger literally pulled me and threw me on the floor.And he said, don't do it. And I never got to see this person's face because it was at night and during night hours, the lights are all red.
Like they turn, yeah, they turn red.And so like, I couldn't, I wasn't able to know who this person is.And there was 5,000 people in that boat and I never got to see like who it was.
And it was like that moment I was just like, damn, I really need to like, seek help and stuff.And to this day, I wonder if it's like a guardian angel honestly.
I was gonna ask, I was like, does part of you even think it was like an angel or something?I don't know what you believe in.
I think so, yeah.But like, wow.I wrote a song about it, but it's like beautiful.
I'm sure that must have been crazy the next few days.Like for a long time, I'm sure, but like wondering like who that was.
Yeah, no, it made me feel crazy a little bit.But yeah, because he just walked away after that.He's just like, don't do it.And he walked away. And in that moment, I was just like, damn, like I didn't even know what to do.
I just got up and like went to my bed.And then I was like, maybe I should, I should talk to someone.And so I went to, I went downstairs and it's like, they're like corpsmen.
I talked to a corpsman, which is like basically a nurse, like a military nurse.And I told them that I was having like, you know, I was having flashbacks from like PTSD and like my depression symptoms.
Like I was just telling them everything and they're like, whoa, That's insane.You should talk to someone.And so they helped me out.
And after that, what kind of followed suit after that?
They honestly was talking to me for the next few days because I, yeah, I was, I was in the, yeah, I was like in the Navy clinic. I don't know how else to put it.Also, you're still on the ship.Yeah, we were still on the ship.
Yeah, they're not going to like... Yeah, like we got to go back.Not for me.But yeah, they were honestly just trying to help me out the whole time.And yeah, I didn't want to tell my co-workers because I didn't want to worry them.
And so I was just like, yeah, I was seeking therapy in the ship while also like still working and spending time with people, like friends.Wow.Oh my gosh.Thank you.Thank you for sharing that.
After being at such a dark place, do you remember like one of the first like times laughing with your friends or like times after that where you were like, oh my God, I feel like an out of body.
Like an out of body experience or just a time where you're like, wow, I feel happy again.Or like I had a glimmer of happiness.Like a reminder.Yeah.Did you ever have like anything like that that you can remember?
Um, I guess when we pulled in port, Like, it was in Korea.We were in Busan.Yeah.And I got to like, just like eat good food and spend time with people I care.And my ex-husband was also there.Yeah.So.
Was he deployed with you on the ship?Yes.Oh my God.
But we barely saw each other because I, he was, I was night check.So I worked at night and he was like day check.So we barely saw each other. If we were to see each other, it'd probably be like breakfast.And that's like barely.
I can't believe there's 5,000 people on those ships.That's huge.It's an aircraft carrier.
So it's just a huge, huge, huge.
And was your time in the psych ward before that happened or after that happened?After.After.
Okay.After.Okay.That's something I haven't spoken up about.Yeah.It was in Hawaii, actually.
It's sad how people used to have to have so much shame around that.And I'm so glad that it's talked about more.
I mean, I've always been open about my mental health and stuff.And not a lot of people know actually what I've been through.And I feel like I don't know.
I want to be able to share it because there's so many people that struggle with the same thing I do.
I think I agree with what you're saying, though.There's such a negative stigma around something like a psych ward, but for you to talk about it and other people to normalize it, I think it's a beautiful thing.
But what was your experience like in the psych ward?
Honestly, I kind of liked it. They taught me a lot of things like meditation.Yeah, honestly, I, like I said, I met good friends from the psych ward.It's crazy cause it's a military psych ward.
So it's like a whole different, no phone, like no windows, like X games mode.Crazy.You still have to wake up at like 6am in the morning, make your bed the military way.So it's like, it's still, you know, very regimented.Yes.
But yeah, it felt honestly, it felt nice meeting people there that was also struggling with the thing like the mental health issues that I was also struggling with.And we got to like talk a lot and we got to like talk about like really deep things.
I'm like, so what are you, what are you here for?Tell me your lore.
I'm just talking about like no small talk and going straight into deep conversation.
And it's not even awkward.Cause we're all there for a reason. Like we were painting we were doing um, like they were teaching us like coping Mechanism.
Yeah, I could help us when we're like, you know Is there anything from there that has stuck with you even today like a breathing exercise or like something that?You still that still helps you to this day with anxiety or anything?
Um, journaling.Yeah, they made us write a lot, but they never actually read what we wrote.But yeah, we were able to like journal.
What was their reaction when they heard about all your success with everything?
My friends were all kind of just like goofy about it.They're like, oh, there's like Bella Portia's not even your real name. Yeah, it's like it's funny.
Um, they think it's cool Yeah, I'm able to like write music and like release it and stuff I know it was so different because it was through the military, but I've heard some people have horror stories going To like psych wards or mental hospitals and stuff.
I mean I had a good experience The only bad experience honestly for me is that well, it's not even a bad experience.It's actually a very sad experience
I was the only one who had visitors and literally it was they were like they were making fun of me they're like oh there there she goes again like because um the visiting hours are like from three to four and like I was the only one being called on the speakers and was like oh like you have visitors coming to see you and like no one else gets like called and I'm just like I'm so sad I'm like
Damn, like, and that's when I realized, like, I have really good friends.
And it's like, that's something that's so out of your control too.That must just be like, that must've been hard just to like, sit there and not to just like, wait.
Honestly, we just all just laugh it out.Honestly, they're like, there she goes again.We'll see you in an hour, whatever, loser.
I think it's really beautiful though, like hearing your story from being seven and knowing that you want to be a singer and going through so many hardships and just such a tumultuous life in general to now here.
and all the ups and downs, and it still led you to this beautiful place that you're sitting here now with so much wisdom to share and such a beautiful outlook to share with everybody, with your listeners, with your audience, with everybody.
So I think that's so beautiful.And I also just love at the end of the day, you are doing what you were born to do.And that's amazing.
Thank you guys.You guys make me feel so comfortable.You're so sweet.I hope so.
Actually though, wait, I know it's already long, but we do have some questions.Can we ask like a couple like quick little questions?Because people want to know, I'm sorry, just to like pivot.But first of all, are you really Bretman's cousin?
That was a big question we got.Yes.
And if you're not watching this on YouTube, first of all, can you not tell like,
Okay, I love that people are wondering about your music when you're gonna release your music it's already out go listen we already answered a lot of these but I I saw a lot of questions that were just in general.
I think people, again, just want to know more about you.They want to get to know more and they want to know you more.Have you ever thought of starting a vlog channel or just like sharing more about your life?
Yes, I actually posted my first vlog ever on.So I have two YouTube channels.One is for like music and one is just like for me being silly.But yeah, I posted my first one.So go check that out. So there is a vlog channel, gorgeous, link down below.
Those were selfishly questions that I actually just wanted to ask you.
The fans have been wondering.I was actually just very, I was very curious.It is me.Thank you so much for coming on and thank you for being so vulnerable with us again.
No, seriously.Like this is our first time meeting.So like it's, I've heard stories through Rem and stuff.She's like, she's the nicest person ever.Like, like all of these things and like seriously exceeded my expectations.
Okay, well check out Sweet Delusion.It's linked down below, you guys.Check it out.Watch the music video.It's incredible.And go check out Bella's YouTube channel.Anything else you want to shout out?Shout out to the Philippines.Yeah.That's it.Amazing.
Well, thank you so much.And make sure to come back to the channel, you guys.Listen to us on obviously wherever you're listening to your podcasts or check out the YouTube channel for new episodes every Wednesday.And we'll catch you guys next week.Bye.
You're going to want to come next week to see our Halloween costume.
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