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Welcome back to Pretty Basic.I am Remy Cruz.And I am Alicia Marie.We are in the studio today and I miss you guys.I feel like it, honestly. I just love coming in to the studio.I love pretty basic days.I love, I get so excited when our episodes go up.
Like today, an episode went up this morning and I always get excited when I realize it's Wednesday and it was uploaded and then I read the comments and yeah.So welcome back y'all.
All the basic babes are tuning in.They are tuned in.Yes.Today, honestly, I'm really excited about this episode because I feel like I used to do this on my vlogs a lot and I feel like I haven't done it in a long time.
I've been wanting to do it for a while.I've been getting a lot of questions and I feel like it's such a perfect topic to bring to Pretty Basic because I feel like it's a good check-in with both of us.
I feel like we've done quite a few episodes about this specific topic that we do, you know, once or twice a season, but it's always fun to check in.
It's fun to listen to past episodes where we've talked about things of this nature because it is an ever ongoing situation, topic that is so prevalent in our lives that will always kind of be prevalent in our lives.
And yeah, I think that we should start out with a trigger warning before though, we get into everything because we are gonna be talking about like body dysmorphia.I'm sure we'll get into like eating disorder things.
And so just wanted to give a little trigger warning beforehand that if any of those things trigger you, then this is probably not the episode to listen to.
Yeah.And, um, I'm excited to talk about all of this too, because we, I feel like we used to do a lot of themed episodes kind of like this on just like different subjects and it's been a while.So one, if you guys like it, let us know.
Um, two, I would love for the comment section just to be uplifting to everyone and feel free to comment anything and like your own story or your own advice or anything like that.Cause it is ever changing.
And I, I'm sure when you mentioned it on your vlogs years ago, or if we, you know, years ago when we talked about it on the podcast, like our opinions or advice has even changed and grown too.
So yeah, I just, I, I feel like this is an ever ongoing struggle.It does get easier as you get older, but like, I still struggle with my body image.Like I still struggle with my relationship to my body.I feel like every day is kind of different.
Like there's days where I feel hot as fuck.There's days where I'm like, I could wear anything.And I just feel like a sexy little thing.
And then there's other days where I'm like, I, like right now, I'm like, I definitely wanted like baggier clothes today.Cause I was just like, oh, I really. I'm just like not feeling the hottest.I like fluctuate with my weight all the time.
All the time.I hold onto water weight like no other.Right now I'm feeling hella bloated.Am I still beautiful and sexy as fuck?Yes.I'm just beautiful, sexy as fuck and bloated.Just add another one on there.Just add another one.
But yeah, it's taken a long time to get, I know where we both are with our relationships, with our bodies.
So excited for us to talk about it, but we also did put it on our Instagram story for Pretty Basic on our Instagram, Pretty Basic Official, go follow it for you guys to ask specific questions because sometimes I feel like
It's easy for us to think we kind of talk about the same thing and I'd love to like actually address specific things that you guys have or things maybe I wouldn't have thought to ask you or you wouldn't have thought to ask me.
So love when you guys get involved, go follow the Instagram.
Also, I do think it's fun though that they could ask the same question or we could be answering the same question that we did last year and have a completely different answer even like six months ago.
I do remember reading something online once and I had felt so seen.
And it just, I know if you've ever struggled with your relationship with food, your relationship with your body, with an eating disorder, which Alicia and I have talked about our own personal experiences before, how we both have kind of gone through eating disorders at some point, which, um,
you know, have been quite a struggle on their own.And we're in a really good place sitting here right now.
But I remember seeing online someone saying, like, once you have one, you kind of always have some sort of I don't want to say eating disorder, because it's not like it changes, obviously, but you just
have a harder time with food usually for like the rest of your life.Like we know a lot of people who have never struggled with food in any way.And it's so interesting seeing their relationship with food.
And like, that's something that I'll never have.And that's amazing for them.And I'm actively everyday working on my relationship with food and my relationship with my body and all these sorts of things.But if you get it, you get it.Yeah.
And it is different for everyone.It's like, it's so, For me personally, I feel like even after I've learned more about having ADHD and stuff, I've learned how a lot of people with ADHD can tend to overeat because they're seeking stimulation.
So even learning about that, I think that's what my biggest piece of advice is really grow to learn your body.And like, I can't change that about myself.Like I'm constantly seeking different stimulation like that.
But so like, don't be hard on myself because that's just like how I am.I can definitely like work with that.But if I, it's pointless for me to sit here and like, look at my friend who never struggles with it and be like, why can't I be like you?
I just want to be like you or like try to emulate their eating patterns or whatever.Like, that's just never going to work.Cause I've tried that before.And like being just so gentle on yourself and you're like, okay, like this is one of my struggles.
Someone else has other struggles, you know?And like, yeah, I think the way that some people even struggle with addictions, like just because they go sober or something, it doesn't mean they still don't have the struggle of alcohol.
It's like a daily battle of choosing not to do that.So I think eating disorders can be very similar because it's a disease.It's like your brain is tricking you.
It's not like, I don't know, I think it has this horrible stigma and I think it just sucks for people to think that it's all just about like, oh, it's so vain, you just wanna look a certain way.
And I'm like, I feel like that's not even 90% of eating disorders.A lot of it's like, feeling out of control, like there's just so much to it.
Obviously we're not doctors and obviously we gave a trigger warning, but I think what's helped me personally is hearing other people talk about it and it not being like such a stigma.
Also the exciting part, and I know you can talk on this too, like I feel like I've truly accepted my body.Like, yes, there's little things I would love to change. love to change here and there.Like, no, I've never gotten any crazy surgery.
Would I ever get some?Maybe, but I love that I'm in a place where it's less about my identity and it's not me feeling less than because I don't look a certain way or have a certain body type.I just, I truly feel like I love myself and my body and
Yes, if you want to get Botox, if you want to get some filler, like do that, that's your body.
No, I totally agree.I know I've talked about it on recent episodes.And then I remember seeing a girl actually made a TikTok talking about how I talked about it on the pod.
And it's so funny because I feel like we sit here and just like, we have, you and I have these conversations all the time.So to me, it just feels like another time we're having the conversation, but you forget it's going out to the masses.
People are listening. people are taking things in.
And so I saw this girl made a TikTok about it and I didn't realize like how much it could resonate with somebody else where I had talked about how I finally in the past like couple years, honestly, in the past year, if you guys did not know, I've been on GLP-1 slash also terzapatide for the past, like a little bit over a year, like a year and three months now.
And we'll, I'm sure there'll be questions about that.So we'll get more into it, but I've been on medication to help with my PCOS and all my symptoms and things.And I lost a significant amount of weight since starting the medication.
I can even get into this more later on too, but I do think at first when I was on the medication, as we all know, so many people were on Ozempic, Menjaro, Wigovi, all these GLP ones, maybe for not the right reasons.
Maybe it wasn't prescribed by an actual doctor.Like mine was prescribed through a real doctor, through a gynecologist, through a PCOS specialist for my insulin resistance and PCOS.
But to be honest, when I got on it, I was comparing myself a lot to all these other people who were on it who might actually not necessarily need it or weren't actually prescribed it.
Or even if they were prescribed it, I was like, like for real actual issues, whether it is like weight loss or, cause some of them are actually approved now for specifically weight loss or for PCOS or whatever it is.
I wasn't losing weight super, super fast.I haven't lost weight super, super fast.And- gradual.Yeah.Not that.And like, I wasn't expecting to get on and lose it all.
Cause I was even apprehensive to start it because I was nervous and just all these sorts of things.I've tried so much medication throughout my life for PCOS specifically.
And I wasn't like sitting at home upset, but there are definitely times where I was like, Oh, like, wow, they're losing weight really fast.
I wonder why I'm not like, I wonder if there's something wrong, but I do think a it's because the medicines like I'm not abusing it for any other reason than like, I'm actually using it for my symptoms.
But I just came to terms with the fact that like, I mean, my blood panels, I just went through them with my doctor the other day, are so, so much better in every regard than when I started.
Like before, there were so many things that were off the charts, from my cholesterol to my testosterone levels, to like my progesterone levels, like so many things were off, estrogen, really low.
Now that I've been on medication, I've been taking care of myself, I've been eating better, I've been working out more.I've developed a much healthier lifestyle, but more importantly, a balanced lifestyle.
I've lost a very large amount of weight, but I've plateaued many a times during my journey.And sometimes I'm like, oh, I wonder if there's something wrong.No, there's nothing wrong. I've literally even checked with my doctor, like, is this normal?
And they're like, it's so normal.Also, she'll look at me and she's like, what I love is that you're strong.Like you can tell that you are strong because I'm actively working out.I'm actively taking care of myself.
I'm not just losing weight because I'm not eating on this medication.Like I've actually like understood. how to live a healthier lifestyle, all to say, sorry, this was so long-winded.
I have realized even after losing a very large amount of weight, I still maintain a curvier body physique, like a shape, because that is just the body that I have been blessed with.
I've lost so much weight and I still need extra wide, not even wide calf, extra wide calf boots, because I just have wide calves.I will always have wide calves no matter what.And like, that's okay.
both of us, especially in our early twenties, like we thought we could change our actual body type, our physique, like, yeah, I'm talking like, like change it when we had the wrong goals in mind of just like quote being skinny or like quote being smaller or like maybe you even getting taller or like smaller calf or whatever, you know, I just feel like it's so much different.
now, cause I feel like a lot of our goals are like health focused of like our own health, our own blood panels, our own, like, you know, making sure your periods are regular, like all these different things.And it's really cool actually.
Cause I feel like we're coming from very different approaches.Like obviously you went from having like no period struggling with, and like needing a medication where like, I'm the complete opposite of that.So I feel like
regardless of where you are in your journey, like hopefully you can relate to either of us.Um, but I feel like now focusing on like, I just want to feel good.
And then when weight loss comes secondary to that, like that's when, when you were talking, that's all I heard you say was like, you were focused on making your body the healthiest it can be.And the weight loss was like a second
part of that and obviously like that was great but if you when we've gone in the past focusing on just those things like it never ends well and just focusing on feeling good and like treating your body like as best as you can for sure yeah absolutely i just want to be like it gets so much better and i like and i'm excited to get into the questions and stuff because i'm very happy where we both are and um
Yeah, if I could go back to my 20 year old self, this is for her, this episode.
We can only go up from here.And we've already made so many strides from when we, I remember when we started this podcast, like I think back when, who I was and what I thought I knew at that time, even doing an episode like this.
And I was so wrong about everything, like everything.You were wrong though, because you didn't even know your diagnosis. No, and like, I don't blame her.I'm like, I just, I'm happy for where I've gotten now.
I am so happy to share all of the knowledge that I've learned about PCOS specifically.I remember more recently, I got a bunch of messages from people saying that Brittany Broski,
had just gotten, which I would love to have her on and talk about it because I feel like that'd be such a good episode, but she had just recently gotten diagnosed.
And I had quite a few with PCOS and I had a lot of people being like, Remy, Remy, oh my God, oh my God.Like, I feel like I've become the poster child of PCOS on YouTube, which I love.
I don't know a lot about it still, but I will like champion to share things.And so I immediately texted her and I was like, I've been going through this for seven, six, seven years now.Let me just give you this information I have since I've known.
I've been going through it my whole life, but just, I've known about it now and I've been trying to find a solution for seven years now.Here's what I learned in the last six months.It has changed my life.
If I could just give that to you now and you don't have to go through any of that.I'm so happy I went through that for somebody else.I really am.Like even one person.For sure. So happy to share, but let's get into the question.
Ooh.Okay.We actually think this is a great first question.Um, I won't say the name, but it says, how do you keep a positive mindset with working out for your mental slash physical wellbeing versus viewing it as a punishment?I feel like that's how I
my first round of me into the health and fitness world, I would force myself to work out almost as like a punishment of like, oh, I ate all of this.Well, now I better freaking work out.
Otherwise, like as a punishment, or I would make myself like, even while I was running, I would like say nasty thoughts to myself. to be like, I just be like, you fucking piece of shit.Like you're ugly as fuck.
Like whatever, like treating, like just treating myself mentally bad.Cause I thought that gave me good motivation, which maybe it did for the 30 minutes I was running, but then like- Makes you feel bad after.
And when you're, I mean, words are so powerful to, so like negative self-talk and alone, is like so hard on yourself.So it only made it worse in the end because it made me more insecure of those things anyway, you know what I mean?
And like, so if I was like walking on the treadmill, I'd be like, oh, like your legs are like jiggling, like you better keep working out so they don't, which hello, it's skin, it's gonna do that, okay?
First of all, unfortunately, it took me way too long to realize that. And then again, secondly, that only instilled my insecurity that didn't fix anything.Do you know what I mean?
So even if you think that's like good motivation, it's not like in the longterm, it's not.And it's only going to make things so much more worse.So I think like, don't even view any workout as a punishment, like view it as. empowering yourself.
Our bodies are so crazy what they can do.Our bodies can literally heal themselves.Our bodies can go so much further than what you think is possible.And they're so strong.They take care of us.Your body's on your side.You know what I mean?
You are working together.Don't fight yourself. And I think just like, it's not a punishment.
You're like doing your body a service by getting a walk in or like, you know, it doesn't have to be a crazy, like 90 minute hit workout, but even just like a walk or going outside and just being outside.
There's so many days where I'm like, at least you didn't even leave the house.Like get outside, breathe fresh air, like take care of your body.Um, and then I think once you start being more grateful for your body, you start,
Stop seeing it so much as like a punishment.
Totally agree with everything you said.I also think something that we need to keep in mind is that everything is genetic.Like you are predisposed to things because of your genetics.So like cellulite, a lot of it is genetic.
So if you, like if your parents have it, you might have it as well.My mom has it.She's always had it.It's what I have.Cellulite, height. Calf size, it's all genetic.So be like, yeah, be a lot more gentle on yourself.
There are so many things that are out of your control.And once you understand that, you will have a much easier time accepting yourself.That was a huge thing for me.Huge, huge thing.Second of all, oh, mindset with working out.I think, I agree.
At one point in my life, I definitely viewed it as a punishment.I also talked about this in the last episode, I do view a lot of things.I'm going to be honest.I don't think I'll ever be a girl who enjoys working out.I really, really don't.
I would rather rot on the couch all day.Like just being so honest.I'd rather be like playing on my phone or computer or like doing literally anything else than like working out. That's just me.
Some people wake up and like love to work out and that is amazing for them.My one advice I can give to people who don't enjoy it and feel like they, like to some degree we have to, like whether it is taking a walk, it's just moving your body.
We need to do that.You can't be sedentary your whole life.So I think start small.
go for a walk, doesn't need to be miles on, could be a walk around the block, like start small and then work your way up slash also finding workouts that you actually enjoy and also workouts that are going to help your body.For instance,
as someone who has high cortisol, PCOS, insulin resistance, the list goes on.You name it.
I hit the genetic lottery.And so I, for so long, I always heard people say, you know, high intensity workouts are not good.If you have high cortisol, it's actually like, not going to help you.Yeah.It's just stressing your body out more and more.
You're not going to lose weight.You're not going to feel good.You're going to be tired.And we're being like, That's mumbo-jumbo.I was doing seven spin classes a week.
And while it was good cardio and like, that was, I did enjoy it, which is good, obviously, like moving your body is good.It actually was stressing my body out so much.
And our bodies, again, going back to how like smart they are, it adapts.Like your body then learned, oh, I'm probably gonna go through seven spin classes this week, so I better hold even, conserve even more energy. which is going against your goal.
Like it's like really working with your body.Yeah.And so now knowing that I've started doing Pilates and I go, I started only going like maybe once or twice a week.Now I'll go like five, seven times a week just because I actually do enjoy it now.
I'm still not like waking up excited to go at 7 a.m.Like, let me be honest.I don't know if I ever will be there, but I enjoy it more than I used to.And I enjoy it more than if I went to a spin class or if I went to like a class that I don't,
enjoy as much or a run, hate running.I'll never like running.So I'm like, I found something that I like more than that.But my body's working with it.
I've always heard that low intensity lists, low intensity, steady state workouts are better for someone like me.So like a yoga, Pilates, rowing, something like that, walking.So I didn't really figure out like what works best for your body.
And then within that, what do you enjoy the most? Swimming, what else can you do?Tennis, pickleball, golfing, literally anything that you enjoy because it'll make it just a more enjoyable experience.
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What are tips to get more water throughout the day besides watching a Remy vlog, of course?Five big sips, everybody.Honestly, getting a big water bottle is very, very helpful.I have this one.This is a 40 ounce water bottle.
I drink four of these a day. So I love water though.I really do.I love chugging water.But someone like Cal who struggles to get water, he got himself a gallon water bottle and he just lugs that thing with him everywhere.
And he just knows, okay, I'm gonna try my best to finish one of these a day.So I think finding like, you know, whatever you want, obviously these like, these little water bottles are so in right now.
You're Stanley, you're brumate, you're whatever it is.It's a really good way to obviously get your water in.But I do think like versus just filling up cups, like I have so many friends that just fill up cups through the day. You can't keep track.
It's not cold.I love my water ice cold.
I can chug this all day long.My biggest thing is like, if I don't have my water bottle with me as if it's my phone, I'll forget.Like today I forgot to bring my thermos or my water bottle.So like I'm way behind on my water.
But the days that I wake up and take it right off my shelf and carry it around with me everywhere, I drink so much more water.
Also, like I have so many friends.My mom is the same way.She hates the taste of water.That's so crazy to me.I love, like I crave water all the time.
But if you're like my mom or like there's so many people in my life that don't like water, a lot of them do like a little like water flavor situation or like an electrolyte situation to get more water in without having to drink as much or like a flavoring something like just to make it easier for them to drink.
At the end of the day, It's such an important thing to get water in for your overall health, to literally hydrate yourself for all the things.So whatever you need to do to get more water in, there's something for everybody.
And sparkling water is just as hydrating as regular water, believe it or not.I was shocked to hear that.So if you're a sparkling girl, chug a lug.
Which is crazy to me, because I never thought it was, but I did see a TikTok that said it was.So is it?I heard from a doctor.
So I'm like, I think it's legit.
Okay, this question is, it's home for me.How do you deal with not comparing yourself to your smaller friends?
I think this is something that like, even if I could go back, I don't know if I could say like, I wouldn't have that insecurity anymore because I just, for whatever reason, The schools I grew up in, I was always one of the tallest in my class.
That's why I always talk about my height now.Like I'm really not that tall.I'm like five, seven and a half, five, eight on a good day.
Like I just like, for whatever reason that like, just always growing up the tallest one when they're like, okay, tallest in the back, I go to the back and like feeling big when all the guys only liked the very, very short, small girls like that clearly like ingrained something in me.
Um, And even though I can logically look back and be like, oh, I just like grew sooner.And these guys literally didn't grow until they were like seniors.You know what I mean?
I can say it sucks because I felt like I always thought I was like ugly or like guys didn't like me or I was just like the duff or like I was, I don't know.
Like, I think that like, I don't know if I necessarily have advice other than it gets so much better.But that definitely like was a huge insecurity of mine, honestly.
Still, sometimes, like if I were super huge heels, I'm like, oh, I would wear these heels if I wasn't seven feet tall, which like. I wish I didn't think that way.Cause if I see a tall girl in heels, I'm like, oh my God, yes, bitch work.
Model, but when it's me, I'm like, I feel like a huge fucking ogre.So like, I'm just not going to wear these really cute Sabrina Carpenter platform boots.
And again, like, oh, it sucks because I'm like, I mean, I still like, I love high heels, but I like, I'll barely wear them.So I don't know if this is necessarily good advice.This is just me saying I'm still struggling with it.
I think that's beautiful though.Like I don't, we don't have it all figured out obviously.Like we are still currently going through it now.And if we do this again, when we do this again, in a year again, I'm sure our answers will change.
But I do think, I totally know what you mean though.Like you could go back to your old mindset.I understand like putting myself back.I could put myself right back in the feeling of feeling insecure and unwanted and all those sorts of things.
when I used to feel that way, like it's so easy to put yourself back there.Even if you understand, yeah, those guys are probably, they hadn't hit their growth spurt yet.So their only options to feel tall were the little five feet girlies.
Like totally understand that, but it doesn't make it better.Like you still can feel those feelings.So I totally get that.I think it's so hard.I grew up with the very, I still have the most petite mom.
Like I look at her, I'm like, how did you birth me?Like I'm taller than her.I weigh like literally twice as much as her sometimes.Like it's just,
I don't understand how it makes sense, but, and like, I feel like a lot of my life, I was just like not understanding why I was so much bigger than whether it was my cousins, like even within family specifically, friends.
Genetically, see, I haven't struggled with that.Like that would be very hard too.It was just like, it just make it make sense.Why is she literally so small?Like one plus one does not equal four.I'm like, I was dropped off on the doorstep.
But it's like, honestly, Again, genetically, whatever it is genetically, I got the recessive genes.I think it's just something that you have to come to terms with.That's the only thing I can say.I wish I had more advice.
I agree with it gets better, it does.
And you know why it gets better?I've talked about this in regards to turning 30, which it applies here too.It's like, am I like, wow, I have the absolute best body type now and I think I look perfect and I'm like so hot and whatever?
No, but I'm just so tired of, trying to feel like maybe I could look somewhere else or like look like this or like, like trying so hard to work out to get like thinner thighs.When now I'm just like, bitch, you got thighs.You will always have thighs.
Like that's, that's okay.You know?So I think it's like coming to terms with like, you know what, like, I can't change this.Everyone, even someone who you think has the perfect body will talk about an insecurity they have.And that happens.
One thing I like, I'm a pear shape.So like my upper abs, like I've, I've never really gained weight in my upper stomach where like, I have, I've had so many people just be like, be like, oh my God, like your abs, your abs.I'm like, okay, but like,
I'm like, oh my God, thanks.No, I'm just kidding.And I'm like, yeah, but because of that, all my weight goes to my thighs and like, they don't, you know, and where they're the opposite.That might not be something they struggle with.
So, but, so it's just, again, everything Grass always is greener on the other side.Even something that like, I don't struggle with, maybe you struggle with and vice versa.And I'm just like, or, oh my God, you have no cellulite.
And I'm so fucking jealous, bitch.You'll wear these short little mini skirts.And I'm like, ah, I want to so bad, which like, yes, I can.But I've also come to terms with, if I don't feel comfortable in something, I don't have to wear it.
That's the one thing I kind of struggle with, with some body positivity stuff, where it's like, wear whatever you want, do whatever you want.I'm like, yes, but I'm like, but in the end, if you don't feel comfortable, you don't have to.
Just because I know I still look hot and sexy as fuck in a mini skirt, doesn't mean I have to wear it if I don't feel comfortable in it.You know what I mean?
And I feel like sometimes it can feel like, no, you should wear this because you can, where it's like, yes, I can, but I also like, feel more comfortable like this.
You know what I struggle with too.I feel like the idea of things being quote unquote flattering.I do understand.
And like also one thing to go back to what we were just saying, the problem with all of this of what we're talking about, which this would literally not be a problem if this did not exist is
the idea of society's norms of what is quote unquote, beautiful and hot and sexy and ideal.Like that is obviously the problem that we have.
If that was never a thing, if the idea of heroin chic was not like so trendy when we were growing up, then we would not be having this conversation right now.
The only perfect body that society tells you isn't even achievable genetics-wise.You want the model legs, you don't get the ass with it.You have the ass, you don't have the model legs that go with it.
It's like it picks and chooses every single quote, good trait and puts it together in a body that's not even achievable without modification.So then it's just so frustrating because it's like, okay, you can't keep up and it'll never, I don't know.
Not all of us are Kourtney Kardashian, who's like, has no body.You know, in the interview, she was like, it was like, they did it.It was so funny.They did it.I think it was for Skims.
You don't remember, it was an ad where every sister modeled the Skims.And it was like, what's your name?My name's Kendall.How old are you?20, blah, blah, blah.
What's your biggest insecurity?And she'd be like, my broad shoulders or something.So like, it went through every sister and Kourtney's was the only one.It was like, what's your biggest insecurity?She's like, I don't have any.
And I was like, no, I'm so jealous.I was like, damn, like I've never really met anyone like that.Who's like, no, I actually don't have any like body insecurities.
But when they're like, what's your better side?She's like, doesn't matter.Oh, mine's my right.Either side can't relate.Honestly though.I love that.
Like, I love that for them.I really do.Sorry.I just thought of this when you said better side, like that's something else.I would get so much body dysmorphia looking at photos and videos of me until I realized I was like, Alicia,
you just have a better side and that's okay.Like I would think, cause I've always wanted a nose job ever since I was freaking in like middle school.And I remember like looking at photos and I'd be like my nose, my nose, my nose.
And now after years and years, after over a decade of filming myself and taking photos for the internet as like an influencer, I've finally realized, oh, I just don't like my face from that angle, which is like everyone, everyone has that.
You know the video of Ariana Grande where she refused to let them see her right side.And what's funny is I'm the opposite. is my left side, but that's fine.
I think our minds are so crazy, especially like you see one photo and you're like, that's what I actually look like.
The way that a wide lens will make me look like my nose is so fucking big because it's a, you put a 0.5 photo on your face and tell me that's what you actually look like.No, but like, it's just, I don't know.
I feel like there's so much to it that luckily now it's like, have you seen those videos that it's a photographer and it takes, photos of a subject with all different focal lenses.
It will show you the difference of a 50 millimeter lens to like a 12 to like a wide.It shows how lenses will distort your body.
You know how people say like, you can't listen to the hate comments, but you also can't listen to like the ones that love you because like, it's not healthy.
I choose to believe that the bad photos of me are not what I look like, but I also have to believe the best photos of me are not what I look like.
She's somewhere in the middle.I thought you meant the best ones are.I'm like, you're so right.I'm so real for that.Like, yeah, like clearly that.
So truly, honestly, it's somewhere in the middle.
Yeah.It's somewhere between Hoot and Demi.When I see a horrible photo of myself, I feel like now I can look and like, well, I'll make fun of it.I'll be like, Remy, look how bad I look.But I'm like aware It's just a fucking bad photo.
And I wasn't ready.Okay.I wasn't ready.I didn't know that the camera was already, it was taken.Okay.That was a test shot.Yes.But that, but me 10 years ago, I would have been like, Oh my God, that's what I look like.
And I would have had this sinking feeling in my gut of like, wow, I'm so ugly.Also I've learned I'm tall, I can't stand on the end of photos.I have to be in the middle.And you know what?
The second I figured that out, boom, suddenly I look hot in every photo.I didn't know that you thought that.I'm getting a nod, yes.Really?Tall girls get it.If you're on the end, you look three times as big just because of the distortion.
Or if I'm not in a line, because you know how normally like the lines kind of V out?If I'm just closest to the camera, I look a foot extra taller.And it's just like, but again, no one else is looking but me.
I mean, it's just so funny, because I know obviously how you feel about being tall. but the way that I would give anything to not have, like to be a little bit taller.Like, so like, I would love to walk in your shoes for a day.
The things you would see.You know what I mean?I know.And I know grass is always greener, but like, like you just said, no one's like looking at that.I feel like if you look tall, I'd be like, damn bitch, you look like a model.
I would just be like, wow, I look so big.Like, like I just look, it's like cute.Like I literally like how Chloe would be to like Kim and Courtney.Like, I'm just like, Speaking of genetics, like damn.
But for me, I'm like, oh my, it's just, it's again, realizing no one else is looking at you.Everyone's looking at themselves in photos is the first step of acceptance.
Also like gym intimidation.Like everyone's always like, how do you go to the gym and work out?Which I'm sure like there are questions about that.No one's looking at you.No one's looking at you.And the most
nice, respectful way, no one cares.Like no one's looking at you.
You are going to the gym to work out and then go home.Like they're all, everyone's there to do it.No one wants to be there.Everyone wants to go home after.So yeah, if you need to stand in the middle, find your good side, that's okay.
Someone asked Remi, how did you find out you have PCOS?Did you ask a doctor or did a doctor tell you?Slash also I'll go into this as well.Cause this will go in.Another person asked, I just started a GLP-1.
What is the one thing that you recommend the most?Okay. So I'll do a little quick spiel in case you didn't know.I found out that I had PCOS, I struggled my whole life with having a period, with weight gain, with tiredness, with all the things.
I will say I never really struggled too much with excessive body hair, which is like a very big indicator if you have PCOS. And that's just one of them, there's so many.Yes.
So I always thought like, oh, I didn't have it very bad because I didn't struggle with all of the lists, all the symptoms on the list.I found out because I had gotten birth control back in 2018.I had gone when I was like 16 or so to the doctor.
I don't know if it was an OBGYN, but a doctor, because I wasn't getting a period, they recommended me to go on birth control as a 16 year old.
And my mom said, well, I don't really want her to get on that if she doesn't necessarily need it, if she's not having sex yet. I wasn't.So, spoiler, I wasn't, not for a long time.
And so she said, my mom was like, okay, well, if she doesn't have to, then I'd rather she not.So I didn't get on anything.
When I was 22, I think it was, I got birth control for the first time and I had done the Nexplanon, which is the birth control that goes into your arm, got that in, had a really horrible experience with that.
Developed like really horrible cystic acne. struggle of my weight plateaued.I was really trying to lose weight at that time.And I like had a really hard time.Like my body just changed.So many things were off.
And I believe you can have it for three years, three and a half years.I had it in for, I believe like two years or so, year and a half.I forget exactly how long.I went to go get it taken out.
And when I got it taken out, I had found out from the doctor very abrasively, very passively that I had PCOS.He was like, well, why would you get this one?Cause I told him I was like struggling with so many of the symptoms.I wanted it out.
And he like looks at my chart and he's like, well, why would you have gotten this one?You have PCOS.And then like literally left the room.And I was like, wait, yeah, wait, question.First of all, what does that stand for?
Second of all, what does that mean? found out I had PCOS, I'd been struggling my whole life, I didn't know.And then I tried to get on other birth controls to help with that after, went through a lot of medication to try and fix it after.
And it wasn't until 2023, I found a PCOS specialist who has been helping me with everything.But I have so many people in my life now, I'm not kidding, like I feel like I am the poster child for PCOS. within all of our friends and things.
If they're talking to me like, oh, I'm struggling with my weight.I feel like I'm trying to lose weight and I, it's not, I'm not losing any weight.You know, my periods are out of whack, whatever it is.They're like, what do you think it could be?
I'm like, go get tested to see if you have PCOS or it could be something else.Endometriosis, like so many other things that could be hormonal. But it's honestly, you can tell from a simple blood test, they just need to run the scan for it.
And it's simply a ratio.If you have X amount over X amount and it's high, boom, you know you have it.So it's that simple.I wish I had known this whole time.I did not know.
But- Also there's levels, like yours is extreme.And I remember I talked about me having PCOS a few years ago, but that's when I was working out so hardcore.
that technically my doctor at the time was like, yeah, like it is PSUS, but it's not like extreme.And now it's like, I don't have those levels anymore.Like the ratio is back normal.
So like, it just shows how like, there are so many different levels to it.So obviously like,
you'll only know that with a doctor.Getting the diagnosis was so great.It was still really sad.Cause I was like, oh, now I feel like I'm, well, it's so nice to have be validated that something was wrong.
Then I felt like I was at the bottom of another huge and even bigger mountain where I'm like, okay, well, how do I figure this out? with the help of my doctor has been amazing.I have been on a GLP-1.I've been super open about that since I started.
And it changed my life.Honestly, it really, really did in so many ways.I think make sure you go talk to your doctor about it.Get real answers from a physician who like obviously knows what they're talking about.Get more than one opinion.
I think it's so important, but I just want to like sit here and I don't want to you know, come on here and like tell everyone, look, you should start it.It's the best thing ever for me personally.
It was amazing because I struggled so much with my high cortisol, with my insulin resistance, all these sorts of things that there, this was literally made to help me.
My body literally works as if I am diabetic and I was very close to being pre-diabetic.And so it's been amazing for me.Um, but also in tandem with, working out with developing a better, healthier lifestyle.Because before I was incredibly sedentary.
I feel like I was just in not a good place.I was honestly slipping into a depressive state because I was so tired all the time.I couldn't do anything.I was just like, I was not enjoying any part of my life.And now I feel like I've
become so much happier because I don't want to just give it on, like, say it was just a medication because it wasn't.And I feel like a lot of people look at my content now and are like, oh, well, she only lost weight because of Ozempic.
And like, I'll get comments that like, Ozempic is Ozempic-ing or things like that.I'll get comments like that.I'll totally give it its flowers.Like it changed my life.
But I feel like a lot of people just look at me and are like, oh, she lost weight because she got on Ozempic. That's it.But it was like, no, I lost weight because A, I have implemented a lot of different changes into my life.
I found a really healthy balance of things in my life.Like I still love food.I love, I will always love eating like fun foods and fried foods and all those sorts of things.
And I'll do a lot of it on camera, but off camera and on camera still, I still am like finding balance and eating healthy things and finding a good balance between the two because I have slipped into
a lifestyle in the past where I was not eating enough and I was working out way too much.And I thought that was the only way that I could quote unquote, take care of myself.And I didn't realize the harm that I was causing.
Now, I feel like I've found medication that has helped me and healed my body.Like that's the way that I like to look at it more than like I'm not taking Ozempic and not eating and starving myself and relying on that and abusing it.
I'm taking it to help me heal the things in my body that needed to be healed.
with also working out regularly, with also going outside, with also eating better, but I still am eating foods that might not be the quote unquote healthiest, but like I found a good balance between the two.I'm not working out every single day.
I work out when I want to work out.If I'm really sore, I take the day off instead of like trying to push my body too much.I feel like someone could definitely look at me and be like, Oh, she's just doing it to lose weight, which like is not at all.
But if people want to think that they can think that all I know is I have found such a good routine.And also what I wanted to say with this, so sorry, my doctor has really stressed to me from the beginning with starting medications like this.
A lot of people will just do them just to lose weight or will not work out or not change their lifestyle.And as soon as you get off of it, boom, you gain all the weight back because you're not actually developing any sort of healthy habits.
So I've been actively trying to do that.She also very much stresses when you're on a medication like this, you need to be hitting your protein goals.You need to be eating a lot of protein because you also need to be gaining muscle.
At the same time, you can't just be losing fat.And also you need to drink a lot of water.So for me every day, I'm really trying to focus on water, really trying to focus on a protein and
developing a healthier lifestyle so that when I do eventually get off the medication, I have these proper tools in place.Next question, girlies, what's your favorite workout at the moment?XOXO, love you both.Love you too.Obviously yours is Pilates.
Yes, been a Pilates girl.
So I haven't really been working out at all.It's actually funny because I actually want to start again and it's finding that routine with it all.But like even yesterday, I just walked on the treadmill.Cause I was like, I just need to like sweat.
It wasn't to like, well, I need to lose 10 pounds.It was like, I just need to like move my body and sweat and like get it going. I also have had a handful of people the past few months being like, Oh, like you look like you've lost weight.
And I'm like, no, I just like truly stopped weightlifting and I gained muscle so quick.I know you're the exact same.Um, and I think that's another like aspects to.
even when I was like my fittest and I was like, so I had like the lowest body fat percentage and I was like super into my like health and fitness.I still didn't like how I looked physically.
And I remember being like, if I'm putting all of this effort into like weights and all these things, and I'm not trying to be a bodybuilder, like I don't need to be in the gym like six times a week.You know what I mean?
Like, and lifting these super heavy weights.Cause I was like, no, like I was just so muscular and I felt so heavy and big because it was all muscle, hardly any body fat.Going back to also, it's okay to wanna like how you look.
I love when I feel confident in myself.And I remember even then being my lowest body fat percentage, I still didn't like how I looked because I felt like I looked too buff basically. And again, it's all like personal preference and stuff.
I guess what I'm saying is it's so interesting how when I like worked out so much and now like, I feel like I've taken like a handful of steps back.
Like, yeah, I technically have more like body fat, but I kind of like how a lot of my clothes fit better too.You know what I mean?Like, I think that's the biggest thing.Like, I don't even weigh myself.I don't even know how much I weigh.
I don't even own a scale.Actually, I think I do, but I think it's in the garage.I just like stopped weighing myself because it really like numbers don't matter.And on top of it, like just go off of how you feel.
Like I can tell I'm bloated as fuck right now because my pants are a little tight, but I don't need to be like yelling at myself when I get on a scale.And that's just me.
Like, and some people can get on a scale and they don't care what number they see.But like, I almost am so good at now knowing what I am because I just know how I feel.And I'm like, if I feel this way,
I'm really bloated, I need to drink more water and I need, like, it's like, it doesn't matter what number it is at all.Because again, I weighed more when I had more muscle too.So it's just like, there's so much that goes into it.
And I think for me personally, I really, I love not having a scale.Obviously, if I go to the doctors, they can weigh me.I just really, really go off of how I feel.
And when I feel more confident, I'm usually wearing like a cute little crop top or something.And if I'm not, then I'm not, and it's fine.Like, it doesn't matter, but I just feel like I'm very, I'm very in tune with, I think, how I feel in my body.
And I've realized like, that's okay.And I think I'm more happier than like, if I don't feel like wearing shorts one day, I'm just not gonna wear them.
And that's okay.I guess in some degree it's like body neutrality or just like some sort of acceptance.
I do think something that's interesting when you were just talking about that, a lot of girls I know are like, I see a lot of conversations online of like, I don't wanna body, I don't wanna weight lift because I don't wanna get bulky.
Like that's a big thing people talk about. And I do think for a lot of people, that's not something that you should be afraid of.But if you feel that way, then obviously that's valid completely just as much as it not.You know?
Going back to genetics, my mom, I remember being young and her being like, I gain muscle so quick.It's just her body.If she does four days of lifting weights, her quads will be so big.And I'm just the same way.
I remember our old trainer once was like, do you know that guys will get calf implants to look like yours?And I was like, Thank you.I don't want that.I wish I could wear regular boots.
No.And it's like cool.Again, grass is always greener.And I'm like, that's cool for some people.Maybe some people would kill for that.But like, I don't want, like, I don't want that.
And like, which I think it's so like totally fine.I was just, I was thinking about that.Cause so many girls are afraid.It is true.Like most people are, are fine and they won't look bulky and that's fine.
And again, you won't bulk unless you're lifting heavy weight, but it's okay too.I feel like I've had multiple trainers throughout the years, you have too.And even though they specialize in it, you still know your body the best.
So even if they're having me do squats with a heavy weight, I'm like, I want this lighter.
You explaining your goals to them helps because maybe they have a lot of girls who don't gain muscle quick with their legs, but I'm just like, hey, I'm letting you know I will and I won't like it.It's okay to be specific.
Yeah, you know your body more than anyone.So if you're like, hey, The same way that you'd be like, hey, I have a bad back.Don't do this exercise.You can be like, hey, I don't want this.
Still trust them, because I do believe like you're not going to bulk.You're not going to look like a bodybuilder just because you lift weights.Lifting weights is actually extremely good for your body.It's good for your muscles.
It's good for everything.All right, guys, we're about to talk about something that has made my life so much easier.Some of you know, Ashley, my sister, recently moved out and.
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And the promo is valid until December 31st, 2024.Okay, next question.I recently lost 130 pounds and noticed how people switched up on me.Can y'all relate? Yes.Pop off bitch.
I have gone through a couple of weight loss transformations on YouTube and I did a whole video about it the first time because I was really confused.The first time I lost a significant amount of weight, I've always been and obnoxious, loud.
Hit the splits.Hit the splits kind of girly.Twerk on a wall.I've always been that kind of girl.Like literally since I was, I popped out of the womb.And so- You popped out in the splits.Literally.Oh, it was a scorpion.
And so I've always been like that. I've always been myself on my vlogs.Like that's always been me.
And then I remember when I lost weight, the first time I lost a significant amount of weight, all of a sudden overnight, I started to get really crazy comments about how I was a slut and I was a whore and all these things.
And I was just like, but I've always been doing the splits, but I've always been like really obnoxious.So I was like, I know that like, this isn't different.Like nothing changed what happened.Well, I remember you would,
have multiple conversations with me separately, with Ollie separately, with both of us, and you were always so confused.And I remember sitting you down being like, Rem, like I could be wrong.Let me say that, but I'm pretty sure I'm not.
I was like, but I really feel like people felt close to you because you were one of the only like, bigger influencers, especially with like next to a whole bunch of people who are like super, super tiny and petite.
And now you losing weight makes them feel bad about themselves.And they're just like projecting and they're just being mean to you.
Like before you were, it was funny when you twerked on a wall and now you lost weight and suddenly you're a slut, like the only common denominator here.And I know for a fact you haven't changed.Cause I've been friends with you before and after.
And it's like, it's a them insecurity.Like you haven't changed.You haven't randomly just become this like self-absorbed slut who like, which like, That's a whole other thing in itself, just like the term.
Be a slut if you want.Be a self-absorbed slut, girl.Slut in the splits.Do whatever you want to do.Like truly, I appreciate that.I remember just being really confused and I actually made a video about it.
I did my own little Nikocado Avocado social experiment where I took a photo.Yeah, we need to talk about that. But I did a, I posed in a certain like kind of risque pose.
There was a girl, one of the like Insta baddies that I followed had posted this photo of her in bikini, like in this really like hot pose.And I was like looking through all her comments and they were just like, so nice.Like, oh my God, you're so hot.
Love you, love you. And I was like, oh, I wonder, I already know, if I pose in the same way, whore, whore, whore, whore.And so I was like, I'm curious.I posed, we literally redid the exact photo.
I had one phone in hand with the girl posing and my other phone, I was like, okay, chin down to the right.
We took a photo and we were like, I posted it.And I was just so curious, like, what is the reaction going to be?Exactly what I thought.Whore, whore, blah, blah, blah.I mean, I used to love you and now I don't.Yeah, I used to love you.You've changed.
You're like a, like, oh my God, this was, I think it might've been before OnlyFans, but like, you know, telling me all these sort of things.And I was just like sitting there laughing.Cause I was like, I knew it. I knew it.
And granted, yes, it was different from the old content that I used to do.And in that moment, if I was going to go in that way with content, I did, quote unquote, change.
But at the same time, it was just interesting to me that I got such a different reaction when this girl who's just been thin her whole life got the reaction that she did for the exact same photo.And so all to say, I've gone through this as well.
I'm going through it currently in my new sort of health journey that I'm going on right now.
And I don't have like an answer for you, honestly, other than I will say going through it right now, it is so much easier when I've already gone through it before.Because I think the first time I was so confused, I was like, wait, but like, why?
I don't understand.Now, I definitely going through it before, understand, you know, when I gained weight back again, or when I was heavier before, I always knew exactly what comments I was gonna get.
It was always gonna be like fat pig, cow, boom, like that's usually like all the comments.And so you kind of like know now, they're always, they're much more creative.I have to give them their props.
It's just funny where I'm just like, wow, like it's just so predictable.Yeah.At the same time, it's like, you're not original.And so I'm just here to tell you, like you going through this right now, whether it's like,
people online or it's friends in real life or it's guys you're dating.I totally understand.Cause I've been here before.Um, with the online things, if you relate to that at all, which I'm sure to some degree, everybody's online.
If you're asking us the question, you're online.Um, totally understand.It happens.Um, Will it go away?
I'm not sure to be honest, but also at the same time, just know it's usually a projection from somebody or if they really do just have a problem, then like totally fine, but that's on them.Like there's nothing you can do to say or change that.
So just want to say that for that.If it's with friends or with guys and dating, with friends, I think, It's very layered.Cause I think if you did it in a healthy way, then your friends should be supportive with you and be excited for you.
You know, I went through it the first time and I definitely had some friends that were really, really mean to me.
And now looking back, I understand it was just a projection, but it's hard when you're going through it and your friends are being mean to you.Cause you're like, wait, why are you being mean?Like, I don't understand.
But you know, those people will not be in your life.They will like, you will either split up or you'll have like something happen.Like that'll just, it'll, it'll happen on its own.And with guys specifically with dating act, treating you differently.
I think that's a hard thing to, to handle because I do feel like it is, it's confusing.And it's also like nothing can kind of prepare you for that.Like being the girl that like, for me, no guy ever wanted.
And then when I lost weight, suddenly I had so much attention that I had been craving for so long because
All my friends, I was always the friend that was always getting it, of all the friends being like, oh my God, your friend's so hot, can you introduce me?
Or never having, struggling to find a date for homecoming, till the last hour, all my friends had dates and no one ever wanted to go with me.Things like that was always really hard.
So when you want it so badly and you watch all these movies and things and then you finally get it, it absolutely went to my head and it did make me a crazy person for a minute. but like eventually it'll wear off.It will wear off.
Cause it just becomes like, you understand it's not what you had imagined your whole life and what people had built up for you, what you built up for yourself.Like it does wear off eventually.
And then you come back down to earth and then you realize that you were being crazy and you need to take accountability and you need to. work on that.
And then you do, I will say too.I mean, obviously I haven't lost a hundred pounds, but a lot of times the insecurities I had when I was my heaviest, I still had when I was my lowest.
And I think that's a whole other topic of conversation of like, unless you really do the inner work to heal a lot of those, um, core beliefs that aren't right.Like just cause you lose weight, like it's not going to fix everything.
You're not going to be like, wow, I finally feel happier.I finally feel whatever.Um, and then when in regards to dating, like you still may feel like no guy wants you, even if you are the way you've always wanted to be.
Like, I think that's also a slippery slope.So like in hindsight now being aware that that's the case, I think I would even put less of a goal on like, um, a goal weight or,
Like, it's not like you need to sit here and be like, Oh, if he wouldn't have given me attention, then he doesn't deserve me now.And like, dah, dah, dah, dah.But like, focus on you.Don't focus on them.
Like, focus on you and like your healing journey.I mean, yeah, if he didn't want you, then he fucking doesn't deserve you now.I will say that.But like, like, I think just don't even focus on them and what people think.Just focus on you and like,
Yourself and glow and be the best you you can be like and regardless of your weight like you are deserving of love I think that's what I was trying to say.
Oh for sure.It's a weird phenomenon for sure I can't even imagine and I can't imagine anybody being able to go through it a hundred percent gracefully Like I really do think it's such a weird scenario
I will say too, this isn't playing devil's advocate, but just a different POV too.I have had friends who have lost a significant amount of weight, you being one of them, and a few other ones too.You being healthy now, you do glow differently.
So it doesn't shock me that you're engaged now, so you don't have guys flocking at you. the glow you have like shows.
So it's not like you weren't glowing before, but it's just like, there's this aura about you that like you're healthy and you're glowing.
So like, I also wouldn't want, like, if you were single right now, what I would be telling you is like, don't feel guilty for feeling like you're glowing now.Does that make sense of what I'm saying?Like, don't feel guilty.
Like if all these guys are coming to you, duh, your aura is amazing and you're glowing and you're beautiful.Like, and it's not that you weren't beautiful before, but the way you carry yourself now is just, so special.
So like, so if you were single, I would be like, don't feel bad if you do have all these guys coming towards you, because it's like the way you're carrying yourself now versus a year ago, regardless of what weight you are, either one is different too.
So I think that's what I would want to tell you now, if you were single.
I don't chase, I attract.Exactly.First of all, thank you.Second of all, I do think there is like thinking about the first time that I went through weight loss, it wasn't, I did it for me, but like the biggest,
thing that I was most excited for that would happen with that is like, oh my God, guys will finally want to date me.That's all I had ever wanted, which I know sounds really embarrassing to say, but like, I know if you get it, you get it.
I think like 90% of people, it was just like, it's all I, all I had ever wanted was cause like growing up again, being the girl that no one wanted, like that's all I ever wanted.I wanted to feel validated.I wanted to feel pretty.
And I was not ready to get into the dating scene. Like I thought that I was so ready.I thought that I, you know, I was so excited.
And then I ended up going into the dating scene in quite possibly the worst place I could have been in my entire life, seeking validation from literally any guy and ended up going after the worst options that I could have had for me.
And just like begging, begging, begging to be liked. by people who were not good to me.And it caused a lot of trauma.It really did.
And I really feel like you did have to just go through that though.
For sure.And I'm actually so grateful for those experiences.And I'm so grateful that I went through that so that now when I'm going through this journey now, I'm so much better equipped.I'm so fine now.
But I will say now, I went through all that obviously, had to learn a lot about myself, had to take a lot of accountability, had to just, I grew up a lot from that scenario, from just like that little time period in my life.
And doing it online was really hard.But I will say now this time that I'm in currently, I am in a healthy relationship.I did it for literally nobody else but myself.And it's such a better mindset to be in now because
I, even when I gained weight and I, Cal and I were together still at that time, like when I, and COVID is honestly where I gained most of the weight.And it was just Cal and I at home.
And I know a lot of people like, you know, you go through relationship weight, you go through like, obviously we had COVID weight and things like that.
grateful and lucky that I'm with a partner who never for a day looked at me differently from a single pound that I gained.Like literally never.I'm so, so lucky.And I know not everybody's in that scenario.
And if you're in that scenario where your partner is making you feel bad about gaining weight, leave them.You don't need it.
But I feel like I was just blessed with like such a beautiful scenario of having the most amazing supportive friends, family, partner, and finding a doctor who like actually helps me and cares about me to set me up for the scenario that I am in now.
And like, it is out there for you.So if you're out there, if you're listening and you're struggling, whether you're in a relationship and feeling that way, whether you're dating and you feel that way, like I've been there too, and it does get better.
I'm gonna cry.I don't know if this is TMI.Sorry, Kyle, putting you on the spot.But like, did you ever wonder if he was thinking stuff?Or like, did you guys have a conversation about it?Or did you never just feel that energy from him?
Like, did you never feel judged?Or like, how do you, I guess, how does someone know if they're in that type of relationship?
I never for a second felt anything, any sort of insecurity, ever. I'll even bring it up now, to be honest, sometimes.
Not in like a degrading way to myself, but I'm just like, I look, I will tell him like, wow, I'm like, I'm so grateful that you've never made me think anything else.And I even look different right now than I did when I met him.
If we're being like super honest, like, you know what I mean?But like technically, He's seen lots of different Remy's in our five years.And he's just, he'll always respond and be like, you're beautiful no matter what you look like.
I don't care what you look like, which is just so sweet and validating to me.And again, like those people are out there.So if you're listening, that is for you.
But I will say, I remember one time when I, before I had found my doctor in this whole situation and I was just like not feeling great in myself, we were, fornicating.And I have a giant mirror next to my bed.Which- Not very feng shui.
Honestly, I need to remove anyways, even for like, no matter what, I just don't like seeing it.But we were just having a little alone time and I looked over and I remember, it like took such a toll on my self-confidence.
And it did for a long time, honestly, because it's just like, such an intimate thing that I feel like I did not wanna see.And I feel like it brought on so many insecurities that I didn't even like, I had never thought about before.
Well, you already have insecurities in your head when having sex, let alone when there's, yeah, to like- I don't need to see it like that.Yeah.
Or like, oh my God, not to make it a funny moment, but the trend of when that girl was like, I wonder what I look like on top.
She like has the camera and then she goes over she goes over and then her eyes get back It was so funny, but it's again angles, you know Some girls were so hot doing it and they looked so hot yeah, I mean, but then it was so it was just very realistic It's like there's no one looks good for that angle.
No one wants to see that You don't want to see it from bottom.You don't want to see it from the side.It just really was, I was like, Ooh, I don't, I just remember feeling like very unconfident.So I should remove the mirror.It's just like nothing.
I felt fine before.I was just physically seeing it myself.I was like, I don't want to see that.But yeah, I mean like we all have those moments for sure.I need to remove that mirror.That's all I'm going to say.Yeah.
Anyways, if you want to buy Mr. Mastin's mirror, there'll be a link in the description box.
Free for you, you just need to come pick it up.
Yeah, free.Just come to LA, let me know.Facebook Marketplace.Okay, last question for our Q&A.I always feel guilty after I eat, quote unquote, unhealthy foods.How can I fix this mindset?
Ooh, one, oh my God.I actually have a, I feel like I have a few answers.One is obviously like, don't punish yourself.Don't feel guilty.Like instead of thinking every day is a fresh start,
Realize that every meal is a fresh start because that used to happen to me where I'd be like, fuck, I already messed up my breakfast.Today's a waste.I'll just eat whatever I want and start tomorrow.That's actually not how it works.
But I remember hearing advice of like, it's actually every meal is a good time for you to restart and like get back into it.And like, even if I sleep in late, I'm like, oh, my day's gone.It's ruined.Like, I can't be productive today.
I guess I'll start tomorrow.It's like, no, like every meal can be a new time.Like, you know what?I had my, those, I didn't mean to have those waffles for breakfast, but they snuck their way into my mouth.
But you know what, for lunch, I'll get back on track.It doesn't have to be an all day or next week or whatever.It's literally just, okay, cake pop fell into my mouth when I tripped.That was crazy how that happened.
How the hell did that happen twice in one week?But you know what?We're gonna get back on it for lunch.Fresh start, it's okay.So that's one thing that really helped me.
Another one, when it comes to like having fun, like we were just in Vegas, as they know.Another thing that's helped is especially vacation.I feel like we travel a lot and it's so easy to be like, I'm on vacation, who cares?
But especially when you do travel a lot, you're like, oh, I'm always on vacation.You know what I mean?Like, I don't, I want to like have fun, but I also don't want to regressing all of the progress I've ever made.
But I think having the better mindset of like, oh my God, when we were in Vegas a while ago of like, we had the best day ever.And I was like drinking my massive frosé and I was like, this is so much sugar.
But like, also I'm gonna look back and this is gonna be one of my favorite days of my life.Enjoy it.Like, don't worry about the weight.Like, don't feel guilty.I'm actively choosing to have this massive frosé in a champagne bottle.
like own the fact that I'm willing to.I think sometimes too, I would easily like, those like cheat days or those unhealthy meals would happen.And then the next day I'd be like, oh no, how did I get here?
And it's like, oh, you should be fucking for real with yourself.You let yourself, and that's okay, but own it.Like, it's like, okay, I am currently choosing to have my frosé and eat my donuts and do whatever.
And I'm gonna enjoy this day with my best friend, because this is what we want to do to enjoy ourselves.And I will get back into my routine later, but more importantly, I'm gonna look back and like, I'm not gonna remember the calories I didn't eat.
I'm gonna remember the fun times we had.And it's like a once in a lifetime, it barely happened.Just being gentle with yourself.And especially when it comes to your birthday, eat the fucking cake.
The amount of years I'd be like, I don't want much cake.It's like, yes, but also as someone who can be all or nothing and can struggle more on the binge side versus the not eating side, don't eat the whole cake.That's okay, Alicia.
You're allowed to have a little bit.You can celebrate your birthday.Or even if you're at friends' birthdays
It can be hard when friends all have birthdays one crazy month and you're like, damn it, I'm just trying to be healthy and everyone's having parties and I want to enjoy myself.You can enjoy yourself, but you don't have to have 10 drinks.
You can have a glass of wine or two glasses of moderation.I think that's the biggest thing when it comes to not feeling guilty is just realizing, you know what?Or another thing that's helped too is if I know I'm having a friend's birthday, then
the rest of the day, don't get me wrong, I'm still gonna eat, okay?Because it's not good to not eat for like a meal like that, but I'm gonna be aware, ooh, we're going out, we're probably gonna have great dessert.So you know what?
I'm gonna be- I'm gonna- Mindful.Be mindful of what I'm eating throughout the day. yes, maybe I want French toast for breakfast, but you know what?I know I'm going to have fucking cake tonight.It's going to be so good.
And like, just like be a, I think for me personally being very all or nothing, I think that's helped me a lot of like looking forward to those dinners of like, Ooh, we get to go to dinner and I'm going to have like my favorite mochi donuts there, like something like that.
And then that helps me have motivation to want to eat cleaner too.And I think like, then I don't feel as guilty when I do have those meals.Um, because you shouldn't feel guilty.Food is so fucking fun.I love food.I love food.
But it's also like, it's okay to pick and choose your battles, you know?
For sure.I feel like a lot of people, this is something I've struggled with a lot.And I think this is just diet culture being ingrained in us since we were young.
But I know a lot of people like to not distinguish food as like unhealthy or quote unquote healthy.And that's something,
I'm not actively trying to unlearn because I do think it's just like, in my head, I do think very, like literally, like a big, large bucket of fries is not going to nourish or give me as much energy or just flat out be as healthy for me as a bucket of apples or a bucket of lettuce or whatever it is.
So like, I do struggle with that if I'm just being honest. Yeah.Cause I know a lot of people are like food should have no association.Yes.Which I totally agree and understand.I just don't know if I'll personally ever get there.
I also personally don't agree with that simply because I like to go off of how I feel speaking of no scale.And I liked how I feel if I eat three bags of candy, I feel sick.So I go off of like, how do I feel?
As much as I fucking love my In-N-Out and I will have my cheese fries, now I'll have my shake.You saw me that one time, I get so bloated.My sodium, I don't know, my face gets physically bloated and I hurt, but it's so good and I'm gonna eat it.
So it's like, I don't feel as good from that as I would from like a well-nourished balanced meal, but I still am fine eating it. make myself feel guilty for eating it.I think it's more of like personal, I don't know.
Yeah, no, I would love to get to the point where I don't, I just see food as food, but unfortunately I think I'm just, again, I think it's from diet culture being ingrained in me, but I will say for me with like,
making so much food content and doing so many taste tests and things for TikToks and things and like, you know, the viral bulldog noodles or the candy or the donuts or like getting so much food and things sent to me.
There was a time in my life where I would have never eaten it or I would have taken a bite and spit it out.Like there is a time in my life where I would have done that and I'm not doing that again, but I will try the things for camera.It is work.
I'm not going to eat it all.I'm so happy when I have everybody on set with me Everybody gets to eat.The other day I stopped by for lunch and you were cooking.I was like, are you going to eat that?I want that.No, it's so fun.
Like, and I love, and I love getting everyone's reactions obviously, but it's like, I'm in such a better place with that now.
But then also I'm aware, like, okay, I, what I film a lot of times on camera is the, like, unfortunately all the viral stuff is all the unhealthy stuff or the, you know, the stuff that's not as nutrient dense or whatever way you want to think about it.
But then off camera for dinners, I try my best to eat balanced meals of protein, hitting my protein goals, having my vegetables, having salads, having, you know, carbs and like making sure they're well balanced meals when I can off camera or still on camera.
But just again, the stuff that goes viral, of course, is just all the crazy candy stuff.
Well, and again, going back to like moderation, Years ago when I was still at the apartment, and that's one of the first times I was in like a fitness thing, I definitely was not having moderation.I would just have my one cheat meal a week.
But if I was filming like a DIY snacks video, the way I would think is I would be like, well, if I already had some, I already fucked up for the day, so I'm just gonna eat the rest all day.
Like that was a very bad way to think of, but that's because I was restricting myself so much from the candy, where now I can be around food and be like, no, I don't want any, because I just don't want it.And I never thought I'd even get there.
Or I can be like, yeah, I'm gonna have one or have a bite, not feel guilty.But the times I felt guilty is when I was highly restricting myself.So I think like that's a whole other, and again, this is all just me.Like everyone's so different.
So personal.Also for me, even like if I have a taste test day where I'm trying candy and donuts and noodles and this and that, like I'll feel sick after.Like I just, it's, it's a lot. There are times where I'm like, I can't do it.
I'm not taking any more bites.Like I feel sick.And then dinner will come around and I'm honestly like, I'm not hungry, but I am trying again to, I don't try these crazy foods every single day.
So I'm really trying to keep up the balance and the schedule and implementing these healthy habits for the rest of my life.
So even if I'm not hungry, I will still make a well-balanced meal and I'll have a few bites and then I'll save it for lunch the next day.But it's still getting in the routine
eating meals, not skipping meals, having well-balanced meals and making sure I'm taking care of myself.
Well, and I love that.Cause even like, think about having kids.You're not going to be like, okay, you ate that all that for lunch.I guess just don't eat dinner.Like, no, we're not almond moms over here and we're not going to be.
So it's like, I think it also makes it easier just to know, Oh shoot, I have dinner in an hour where I'm going to be eating this chicken thing or whatever. to not just like, I don't know, I think it is really hard with what you do.
That would be very hard for me to just like have a few because I'm just like, oh my God.
But I know they taste so good.
And of course it's so good.
So good. But yeah, I mean, we do travel a lot, but even when we were in like Japan and Korea, I wasn't like, oh, I'm not gonna eat that.I'm like, no, I'm literally here.I'm gonna live my life.
I know when I go back home, I'm gonna be bloated, but that's okay.
That's okay.And you know what?Bloat always fades away.She does.She does eventually.It's true.And I feel like that's, Like to end on this note, a lot of people are asking about like weight fluctuation.How do you come to terms with it?
Like we fluctuate every day.I've always talked about, I know I talk about it a lot, but like, I'm so happy to have a period finally.And I love texting Alicia about it.I'm like, oh my God, like, I'm in this phase.We are cycle sisters.
And I just think it's so, as dumb as it sounds, it's really fun.
I get really excited.Also, the last thing on this, and I know we've touched on it before, but the way that I now have learned about like cycle syncing and like understanding the different phases you're in with your period.
it helps me feel so much better about myself and my bloating.Because every time before my period, I get so fucking bloated.And I'm like, how did I get here?I thought I was doing good.
And then the second my period is done, boom, I feel skinny as fuck.Like, it's just like the way that, again, our bodies are so beautiful and they do so much.The knowledge that comes with that, I feel so much less bloated.
I'm so much less hard on myself when it's the week before my period.And there's just, there's not much knowledge about that yet.
Like just now I feel like, especially like I've learned so much on TikTok, but like, I just always thought I like gained a lot of weight every month.
Like, and I didn't realize like, oh, like even if I ate the cleanest meal you could ever find, I still would simply because of hormones.Like, and that's just how- You would bloat.Yeah.Oh, totally.Like I would look like I have a food baby.
which is so, like last month or this month, I think it literally was a couple of weeks ago, I looked in the mirror and I was like, I look super ugly today.
And then I realized, oh my God, I think I was in my luteal phase, which everyone always says like, yeah, you're gonna like feel ugly.And I was like, I was actually so excited to feel that because I have wanted to feel that so long.
And I just think this is such a dumb comparison, but I think about this a lot.When my brother and sister-in-law first had my nephew, And they literally had like a newborn baby.
They were telling me, and I know moms are gonna laugh at this because it's such a dumb, naive way to think, but they were telling me like, you have to feed them every two hours.Two hours, bottle, two hours, bottle, two hours, bottle.
And I remember being like, oh, that's a good amount of time in between.Not really, obviously, because you need sleep and things, and having a newborn is so hard.But I remember being like, oh, you get a little bit of a break.
And then when I was there and I was trying to feed him his bottle, it's not like they glug, glug, glug, glug, glug.And then you get an hour and 58 minutes off.No, it takes them at least an hour to drink the bottle.You got to burp them.
You got to take a little break.They're just like, they're not just chug a lug in.And then I remember being done and I, it was like 40 minutes till the next bottle.And I was like, What?You're like, already?It's again, yeah.And that's incessant.
That's all that happens.It's just that when you have a baby, and this is obviously a dumb comparison, but in the same way, I'm like, with understanding having a period now, I'm like, you go through a phase, and then you're like, you go through it.
Next week, you're in a different phase.Next week, you're in a different phase.Next week, you're period.Next week, you're back to it.It's incessant.It never stops.
I also saw on Instagram that when you're on your period, you're dilated one centimeter, and that's why you have cramps. One centimeter, one centimeter.You have to be at 10 to have a kid.
Crazy if you're doing it vaginally, obviously.Because that's how the blood comes out.
And also it's shedding and stuff, but that's why you have cramps is because it's getting rid of your period.Yeah, crazy, crazy.Also, another fun fact. Our cycles are 30 days.Guys are one day.Track cows cycle.Isn't it so funny?
What happens on their cycle day?Well, that's so, okay.I look into it more because it actually is really interesting, but it was saying how like the day is set up for men and males because wake up, workout, that's the best for their type of body.
Like, you know, at the beginning of the month, we're like, we feel on top of the world and we're like ready to go.That's them every morning, essentially. So like what we go through in a month, they go through in a day.
Obviously it's different because it's different like reproductive organs.Oh, I see what you're saying.
Oh, I thought you meant like one day to the month they have their cycle.
No, no, no, every day, every day, every day.So it's like the way that the society has set up our workday of like, wake up super early at like 5 a.m., workout, get ready, go to work.
Like that is structured for a man's- Isn't everything always structured for a man?
That's what I'm getting at.
Because that's all they study because periods make us too complicated.
Well, it makes sense.If every week's different, who's their test subjects?You change too much.Not a valid excuse.No, it's not.Come on, doctors.Where's your PhD?I'm just kidding. That is interesting though.It's very interesting.
I could be slightly wrong because I did see it on TikTok, but again, you're trusting an influencer for advice.If you take away anything from this episode, don't.Just don't.No, I'm kidding.Thank you guys so much for sending in questions.
I know we answered a lot. that we didn't read, but I know we answered a lot looking through them.We were like, oh, we kind of already answered that.So thank you to everyone who sent some in.We love you oh so much.
And seriously, on a real note, like you are not alone dealing with all of this.I know we've dealt with our own stuff.Everything gets so much better.You are sexy and beautiful.
And if someone doesn't love you where you are right now, leave them, fuck them.Not literally, or unless you want to.
Yeah, on your terms, you decide what you want.And if there's what you want, that's okay.
Yeah.Oh my God.Also, I was thinking this when you were talking about your PCOS, I forgot that we did a, like a Remy PCOS tell all like a few months ago.So any, not you forgetting too.It was Celine.Celine the cyst.Celine.
I didn't remember we did that, but go check her out.Well, I was gonna say, if Rem didn't answer any of the other PCOS questions you had, I know we did a deep dive into like a lot more about that.
So go check out that episode about just like of everything of like diagnosis and all that kind of stuff.But- Oh my God, that's so embarrassing.No. Remy, we have two podcasts and I never know what day it is.I apologize, everybody.No, no, no, no, no.
You did different questions anyway.Okay, good.We love you guys so much and we will see you next week with a new episode of Pretty Basic.If you've made it to the end, comment the heart emoji.
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