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Episode: Life can be easier

Author: Michelle Chestovich MD
Duration: 00:11:29

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Physician coach Michelle Chestovich MD has you dream big and think about what changes you'd like to see and offers encouragement to start making progress towards that goal.

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You are listening to Episode 185 of the Remind Yourself Podcast. Welcome to the Remind Yourself Podcast, the podcast for physician moms just like you who want to ditch mom guilt, stop yelling, and start enjoying their lives today.

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I'm your host, Michelle Chestovich, certified life coach, family physician, and mom of four. If you want to overcome overwhelm for once and for all, this is the place for you. Hello, Mama Docs, and welcome back.

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Today, I would like to take you on a little bit of an adventure. I'm going to ask you to dream. What would you love things to look like? This is something that I do with clients who are considering working with coaching.

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I talk to them about what their current struggles are. And I normalize all of that. I'm like, yes, this is exactly right. You are working too much at night. You are feeling overwhelmed. You are feeling stressed and underappreciated. I totally get it.

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You are not alone. And then I take them to a place where I say, what would you love things to look like? And this is what I invite you to do today.

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If you could wave a magic wand and change things for the better, by the end of the year, what would you love things to look like? Now, again, you're really smart.

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We don't have such things as magic wands and we don't get to just wave everything and make people around us behave beautifully, wave our wand and make our bank account go up, wave our wand and have things exactly how we want them.

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And yet there are so many things that can change. for the better. So again, I am going to have you take a moment to dream. And so often women say like, I don't even know what I want. Right? They come to me saying, I'm overwhelmed.

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I'm working a couple hours every night and several hours on my days off where I used to think that I'd be able to like go to the gym, but now I'm catching up on my work.

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And then on the weekends, I'm also catching up on work and trying to keep my house in order and trying to get the kids to their activities and so on and so forth.

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And so when I ask them, well, let's just dream a little bit, you know, let's imagine that we're going to be able to get your notes done faster because that's at the core of what I do is help people gain back time.

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They look at me like deer in the headlights. I don't even know what I want to do. And again, this is so normal. When we are stuck in survival mode, hardly keeping our head above water, it's hard to imagine something amazing, right?

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When you're swimming, trying to swim to shore and waves keep crashing on you, you can't imagine that this is like a luxurious resort that you're heading to.

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I know that's kind of a weird analogy, but that's what came to mind, because so many people say they feel they're drowning. I used to say that all the time. I feel like I'm drowning. I'm so overwhelmed by all of the work. But I say, let's just dream.

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I, as a family doc, loved seeing five-year-olds for their kindergarten checkups, and I loved asking them this question. What do you want to do when you grow up? And most often, their eyes would get wide, and they'd get this little sparkle.

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And the enthusiasm was unbelievable. I'm going to be an astronaut and I want to be a ballerina and I want to start a bakery and of course I want to be a mom. And they just keep going and they believe that all of this is possible.

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So I invite you to tap into your five-year-old self and dream a little bit. What if it indeed it was possible for you to get your nights and weekends back? Because here's what I'll tell you, it is possible. I've helped so many women accomplish this.

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Now again, I love being honest. It doesn't always happen overnight. Now for some people it happens pretty quickly. But I love teaching you that progress is the direction we want to go. We don't need perfection. We need progress. And it is possible.

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Think about what it is you desire and know. that it is possible. Even if you're not exactly sure how you're going to make that happen, it is possible. You just need to figure out some things.

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And what I think is super duper fun is when you realize, I want X, Y, or Z, then your brain is going to offer up all of the things. I think I spoke to it last week in the episode about all the objections your brain is going to offer up.

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The cool thing is once you know what your brain is saying is in the way, you just figure out a strategy for them. Some things are very straightforward, some aren't.

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But if you truly desire to have your nights and weekends back, if you desire to have less stress in your life and more work-life balance, one way to achieve that is to come and join StressRx group coaching for physician women.

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Because here's what I'll tell you. I've been doing this for several years, and I know what it is that gets us stuck. We love to take care of everybody, and we feel really guilty when we don't.

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So when we can uncover that and figure that out, all of a sudden, it is possible. By the end of the year, you could be getting your notes done during your workday.

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You are going to have better boundaries with your patients, which is going to make you less frustrated with your patients.

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Oh, and by the way, you're going to have boundaries with your staff, so you're going to be less annoyed and you are able to refine and reclaim the joy in medicine that you once had.

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In working together over 12 weeks in a community of other physician women who are going through similar struggles, you are going to learn strategies to gain back time. with very simple processes. And this then helps you regain back the joy.

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Because when you're working all night and working all your days off and you are working for free all these extra hours, it's no wonder that you're feeling a little bitter and frustrated during the day.

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It's no wonder that you get a little bitter with your patient who pulls out the back of the envelope list of concerns they have. By the end of the year, you are going to feel confident and certain that you can handle that with no problem.

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Of course, they're going to bring their whole list to you. It doesn't need to be a problem. You can be the leader in the room and say, hey, we're not going to be able to tackle all of that today.

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Let's tackle these first couple of things and then I invite you to come back and you will feel good about this. You will be able to confidently at the end of the day say, I helped people today.

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You learn a self-validation tool that gives you the confidence and appreciation that you desire. Think about where you are now, what are your biggest struggles, and look ahead three months. What does that look like for you? It is possible.

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I'll just share a few things that I've noticed with clients that I've worked with in the past few years through coaching. People notice I have my evenings free. I have a way to connect with my family and be present.

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So instead of coming home from work and thinking about how I got to get the kids to bed as soon as possible so I can log back in, I've left work at work and I can just enjoy the evening fun and chaos in and of itself.

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I've also learned to set boundaries and take time for me. So whether that looks like a night out or just a relaxing evening with your partner, that is possible.

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So instead of locking back in at night after your kids are in bed, imagine sitting with your partner, talking about the day, and maybe playing a game together or watching a show, whatever it is you enjoy doing. That is possible for you.

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I also want you to imagine that you are feeling so much more in control that when you open your computer in the morning to check your census in the hospital or to check your schedule in clinic, you no longer have that nauseous feeling.

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You instead look at the patients very calmly, objectively, and know that you have the capability to see all these patients and do a great job. Whereas in the past, you may have had some drama. Oh my gosh, I can't believe all these patients.

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I'm not going to be able to do it. Oh my gosh, I can't believe X, Y, and Z are on my schedule today. There's no way I'm going to be able to handle all of them. Now you have a better sense of control and much more calm.

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And even when, you know, things go amiss, which of course they do, you will have a way to lower your stress level and think about it more deliberately instead of living reactively.

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That's one of the biggest things I hear from people is that they feel that they have a sense of control, that they're not running around like a chicken with their head cuff anymore, reacting to all of the things.

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They have a plan, they have more calm, and they have more confidence. And that is something that I invite for you as well.

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If you are feeling like your top two emotions during the week are stress and frustration, and you really long to just have peace and calm and control, it is possible.

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Please sign up for a 30-minute chat with me, a free consult where we can talk about it, and I can show you the path. I will work with you to create a burnout prevention plan, and this will be your roadmap over the next three months together.

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You can feel better. Wherever it is you are right now, you are going to feel so much better by the end of the year.

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And on the opposite note, if you stay where you are, feeling stuck, feeling overwhelmed, it's not a bad thing to say, no, I'm just not interested in joining the group. It's not bad at all.

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But I just want to see and think ahead three months, how are you going to feel? Right? we need to make changes in order to affect change in our life.

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And I know that's scary for many of us, and our brain freaks out like, Oh my God, I don't know if it's right for me, or oh my gosh, I don't know, you know, and that's totally normal, but staying uncomfortable and stuck doesn't move you forward.

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Trying something new can be a little bit uncomfortable, but you start to make progress towards the goal that you desire. So if this sounds like you would be interested because you are feeling overwhelmed stress and you don't have time for yourself,

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click on the link in the show notes and set up a 30 minute call with me and or click on the link and sign up. There are limited seats for StressRx group coaching for physician women.

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I keep it small on purpose because I like to keep it intimate and we really get to know each other over these three months. This helps you feel better. Come join us. If you have questions, please sign up for a free call with me. I am here for you.

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All right, my dear friends, I want you to dream a little bit today. What would things look like if you could make some changes? And then again, I'm just going to be the one who says those things are possible.

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Now, all of the things that you're dreaming of might not be possible in three months, and yet getting on the right path, starting to take that journey in that direction is the way that you get there.

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Okay, dear friends, until next week, peace and love to all of you. Are you ready to take control of your life and put these tools into action? I'm here to help.

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I offer free consultations for physician moms to see if my one-on-one coaching package is right for you. You can sign up for a free consult at www.MamaDocLifeCoach.com.