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Episode: 693: RACH TALK on a WALK | Full Moon Dinner, How To Keep Focused on What Matters
Author: Three Percent Chance
Duration: 00:26:51
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Did you pre-order Rach's NEW book? Get all your FREEBIES here!In this episode of The Rachel Hollis Podcast, Rachel introduces a unique format where she invites listeners to join her on a walk while discussing various topics.Pre-order your audiobook of ‘What if YOU Are the Answer’ narrated by Rachel on
Audible today! You can also pre-order your e-book or hard copy at Amazon, Barnes & Noble (they have signed copies!), Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold!We're on The Final Batch! Get the Start Today Journal - https://starttoday.com/products/start-today-journal00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview00:37 Getting Moving Together01:00 Power Girl Playlist and Music Talk03:56 Full Moon Rituals and Letting Go09:04 Staying Focused Amidst Distractions09:42 Promoting Your Work and Staying Grounded18:42 Gratitude and Thanksgiving Plans19:50 Personal News and Reflections20:49 Finding Humanity in Neighbors26:07 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSign up for Rachel’s weekly email: https://msrachelhollis.com/insider/Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RachelHollisMotivation/videosFollow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices.
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In this episode of The Rachel Hollis Podcast, Rachel discusses her tradition of hosting Full Moon Dinners, emphasizing rituals of reflection, letting go, and goal-setting. She highlights the significance of focusing amidst distractions, the personal challenges of promoting creative work, and the energy dynamics that attract both opportunities and challenges. As Thanksgiving approaches, Rachel encourages gratitude and recognizing humanity in neighbors, urging listeners to foster a connection with community and positivity.
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00:00:00 Speaker_02
Hi guys, it's Rach. Welcome to another episode of the podcast in a completely different format than I have ever done before. I'm out on a walk!
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Hi, I'm Rachel, and in this show, we talk about everything. Life and work, health and healing, relationships with others and with ourself. These are stories for the seekers. These are conversations for the curious. This is the Rachel Hollis Podcast.
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Since we are posting these short and sweet podcast episodes on Sundays, I thought it might be fun if you and I get some movement in together.
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So I know the audio isn't the best, but if you're down, maybe you put on some socks and some sneakers and you head out in your neighborhood and get a little movement in while you and I catch up.
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So one of the questions I got into the hotline recently was about, like, they're making their Power Girl playlist. They were like, what's the song that you love? that really pumps you up.
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And honestly, if you guys follow me on Spotify, you know I love a playlist. I have all sorts of them to pump you up for different reasons. But this morning, I was driving home from dropping Nila off at school.
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And you know how when you're listening to Spotify, it's like, hey, here's a new song by an artist that you love, and maybe you'll dig this. this morning it was like hey there's a new song and I look at it and it is a mashup between
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Pitbull and Bon Jovi. And y'all, I don't even care. I like I was immediate, like I couldn't press play fast enough. And it was basically like Pitbull rapping over the top of It's My Life.
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And it is that you know what, if that song doesn't pump you up, I assume that you're under the age of 35. because Bon Jovi just means something.
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He means something to those of us who have ever seen him play live and have felt certain feelings about John. So I love that and that is my answer to what is the pump you up playlist.
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You'll be happy to know that I have turned on my Apple Watch to record this walk. I don't care how slow I am moving. If I am moving in any sort of exercise fashion, I want my Apple Watch to clock it.
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And you're like, oh, is that because you are, you know, tracking. No. I just need something to acknowledge that I've done work and the watch will be fine for me. It's the Enneagram 3. It's the Achiever. I feel great about it.
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But before it was an Apple Watch, it was a pedometer. It was just like my sit bit so I could see how many steps I was getting. But I swear I am more likely to move and do things if I am tracking it. Also, in my neighborhood, Do you guys have this?
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Any of you have the CHP, which is the California Highway Patrol? You're not a Californian. They have spots that they park. and just wait for people to make mistakes. Like they've identified the spots where people break the law and they live for it.
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Like they just sit there and every time I take a walk in the morning, you'll just see, it's like they're printing cash, just giving everybody a ticket. You gotta stay safe. You gotta be on the lookout.
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If you're not on the lookout for them, they're on the lookout for you. It's a full moon today, by the way, guys. And if that's not something that you are familiar with, let me tell you a little story about my journey with the full moon.
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Years ago, my friends and I were looking for a way to like get together once a month and talk about life and talk about our goals and stay on track. And one of the things that we decided to do was to get together on the full moon.
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And we ended up creating these things called the full moon dinner. which is essentially just us having dinner on a full moon. But we chose that date because we discovered that in spiritual practices, the moon represents the completion of a cycle.
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It represents sort of closing the loop on something. So we thought, well, gosh, that would be such an awesome day to get together and talk about how we're doing in pursuit of our goals.
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And that might sound funny, like, wait, if you're pursuing your goals, why would you be talking about things you don't want to do anymore, things that you want to let go of? It's because I discovered a long time ago, through a lot of trial and error,
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that you get to where you're going so much faster by removing things from your life. Not by adding stuff, but by taking things away. And if every single month you sit down, it doesn't have to be on a full moon. Full moon's kind of witchy and fun.
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But you could do it on any day of the month.
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But if once a month you commit to asking yourself what you need to let go of, what you need to let go of to be the best version of you, or what's something that's no longer serving you, what's a relationship that's draining like it's not at all
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helping you or it's making you feel worse? Do you have any energy vampires in your life that you need to get real about?
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Maybe it's a club that you're part of or a job that you're doing and you know in your heart that you probably need to look elsewhere or find something but you stay in it because this is the hard thing that you know. Right?
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How often do we stay in something because we're like, assuming that the unknown will be way harder than the known. I get it. That's a safety precaution. That's a protective mechanism that we have around us.
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But the full moon really is a fantastic time to just ask yourself that question. You don't have to do a big elaborate dinner like we do. But you could ask yourself the question and see what bubbles to the surface.
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One of the ways that I was able to incorporate this in my life is really simple. I just got a calendar, like I Googled which days are the full moon this year. So like for every month of the year, I would put into my calendar that that was a full moon.
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And not only do I do it on my calendar, but it's also on, I have a family calendar that I share with my kids. Only the teenagers are on it, I think there's ones who aren't. everyone can see it. So they all know that this is coming.
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And they all start to be mindful of it before we even sit down at that dinner table and ask the question. And I just think that's a really powerful thing to ask yourself before you head into the month before you and
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just to make it even more woo-woo, if that's your jam, not only do I put that it's a full moon, but I also will put what the full moon is.
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So, back in the day, let's say like way, way, way, way, way back, each moon had a name, and those names still stick, so they'll be like, the Harvest Moon, this month is the Beaver Moon, there's the Sturgeon Moon, the Hunter's Moon, they all have,
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different names, and if you look up what that represented at the time the moon was given that name, they represented different things that were happening in nature. So in the springtime, for instance, one of the moons is called the Worm Moon.
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And that is the time period when all of the worms started to come out of hibernation, when all of the caterpillars were going into their chrysalis to turn into butterflies.
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There's some really beautiful meaning behind each of the moons, and if you want to get super woo-woo, like I do,
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you don't just put that it's a full moon, you put which moon it is, and then you can do a little research that day on what this moon represents.
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At least for me, I think about my own life and I'm like, okay, this is the month that represents new beginnings, right? Like it's springtime and this is where we've planted seeds and we start to see those seeds come to fruition.
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How does that manifest in my life? What can I look at in my life right now? And that sort of tracks with where I am. And it's just a way to take a deeper dive, and get quiet and ask myself questions and, and look deeper and see what's going on.
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It's so easy, freaking a man, it's so easy to get disconnected from your North Star. And from the work that you're trying to do and a person that you're trying to be
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I feel that right now with the promotion for the new book, which, like, side note, I interviewed one of my favorite, like, someone I've admired so much. I cannot wait.
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I'm putting his episode tomorrow because I just want you guys to hear it, especially those of you who are freelancers. entrepreneurs, you're like building a career, Seth Godin, tomorrow, it's going to be amazing. You absolutely have to check it out.
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But in our conversation, he and I were talking about how much we hate promoting books. which like, let me just back up the tiniest bit. I'm so grateful for the fact that I get to write a book that gets to be promoted.
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Like, that is now I'm so freaking grateful that I have books that are in print. What a gift childhood dream come true. I still pinch myself. But promoting something is very different than creating something. Even if you're not an author.
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Maybe even if you don't have a public facing job. I think you could probably figure out your version of this that like,
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It's one thing to do your hobby, to create your saying, to take your photo, to paint your painting, to build your business, let's say. It is something else entirely to then have to talk to people about the thing you created.
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it's so hard and if I could wave a magic wand and have any life that I could imagine I would be just like in a writing cave writing like I would just write and write and write and write and then put stuff out and hope you guys liked it but I'd go back to my cave and write some more but it is
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I don't know, a disservice to this thing you have created to not talk about it and to not promote it.
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And even though it's not nearly as comfortable or as fun as sitting in front of my computer trying to put words together into sentences, it is a part of the world of being an officer or whatever you do.
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Like, it's a part of this world of creating something and putting it out. But in the process of promotion, It is so freaking easy to get distracted. And you don't even have to be promoting something. Maybe you just got, maybe you got promoted at work.
00:11:39 Speaker_02
Maybe you're taking on something new. Maybe you've got something big going on in your life. But basically, when you've got a lot of energy coming at you, or when you're generating a lot of energy, it is so easy to lose track of your North Star.
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Because inevitably, When you're creating a lot of energy, when you're raising your vibration, then other people sort of are like, oh, wait, what are you doing? Oh, do you want to do this? Oh, look at this opportunity. Look at this shiny thing over here.
00:12:07 Speaker_02
There's so much distraction that comes when you're in a season of promotion. Like, there's just so much distraction that happens whenever you're doing something new and exciting.
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Even like, let's say you're planning your wedding right now, or you're preparing for the birth of a child, or it's your senior year of high school, it's your senior year of college.
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Like, when you have a lot of energy around a life experience, I swear that is the moment that every possible distraction shows up. And I think that's because our vibration is higher, our energy is higher, so it's sort of like magnetic.
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More things are coming into your life, which is beautiful, except that it is the easiest way to lose your focus. It is the easiest way to lose track of where you are and where you want to go. Yeah, I think this happened because, honestly,
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when you're generating more energy, you essentially become a magnet. You become a magnet for opportunity. You become a magnet for new friends, both good and bad. You become a magnet for all kinds of attention.
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And if we're not careful, it will completely distract us from where we are trying to head. This is how you get to the end of the year. And maybe some of you have experienced this in 4024.
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This is how you get to the end of a year where you have worked your tail off and you look back and you're like, oh my God, I'm nowhere closer to where I was trying to be at the beginning of this year. And it's so frustrating. It's so discouraging.
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And you cannot figure out how on earth you worked this hard and you haven't made more progress. It's because we get distracted. So anything you can do, it doesn't have to be a full moon. It could be a journaling session. It could be a walk.
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Whatever it looks like to you, just make sure you are coming back to yourself. Right? Just make sure you are using time. I actually use my walks for this a lot.
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When I'm driving home from dropping the kids off at school, I'll often just do no music at all, like no sound. And I will pray. And my prayer looks like talking out loud. I'll be like, what do you think about this?
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And like, I'm struggling with this and help me with that. Just as much as possible, getting quiet. finding some time by yourself to just check in and make sure that you are headed in the right direction.
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And that, honestly, maybe that's the place that you need to start. Maybe our conversation today is more about you realizing like, oh my gosh, I don't know what my North Star is. Like, I don't know where I'm headed.
00:14:55 Speaker_02
And I'm going to keep talking about it because tomorrow's episode is so good. Seth says something, and he's specifically talking to people in business, but I honestly think that this is freaking epic life advice. He's talking about freelancing.
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Which, even if you've never done it, I think you guys, you know someone who has. freelancing or being a small business owner.
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And he said, you know, it's so easy to think that if you just do a good enough job on the little things, like you'll take on any client, you'll do anything, you'll work for any amount of money because you're just hustling, right? We all do this.
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Like you're hustling to try and get your business off the ground or to try and earn a living. And we trick ourselves into believing that if we do a good job hustling on those crappy jobs, that that's how we're gonna get the big drops.
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He's like, your dream client will never hire you because you did a good job with a crappy client you shouldn't have been working with.
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When I tell you that I truly like slid down in my chair to the floor, I was so, like that one hit me because, oh my gosh, I remember that. I remember being new in business and taking on any event client for any amount of money.
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And I would fill up my calendar with these jobs with these like not great clients. who had no money and I was doing things for way less than it was worth because I just thought, man, if I hustle hard enough for these...
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clients, and that's how my dream client is going to notice me. And it's just not true. Even if you don't have a business, I think that that is a really good way to look at your goal or your dream right now.
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And just ask like, dude, where in my life am I hustling and like trying to prove that this dream is worth it trying to like get ahead. But it's actually not going to help me get any closer to the goal.
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The only way that you're going to know that is if you know where you're headed. Oh my gosh, so easy to get distracted. Someone's bringing Christmas lights. I'm so excited. Sorry, I got distracted. I'm actually impressed.
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That's the first time this has happened on our walk. Speaking of Christmas lights. We're decorating the tree this weekend. Guys, and I don't know when you're gonna listen to this podcast, but it is mid-November.
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It is mid-November and I've waited long enough. I usually don't put the tree up until the weekend after Thanksgiving, but I'm just, I want it. I need it. It makes me happy. I feel like a teensy bit embarrassed that it's gonna go up so early.
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Like I still have my Thanksgiving decoration on the front porch. And yet I am putting up a Christmas tree. And I know I'm not the only one. I know I'm not. I know you guys are doing it too. Not all of you, but some of you.
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And if you are an early decorator like I am, let's just embrace it. Let's be proud of ourselves. Let's bring the joy. I feel like it's okay because as I walk around, I see lots of houses that are also already decorating.
00:18:21 Speaker_02
I assume this is just because we all feel like we need it for one reason or another, so... Get ready. If you thought I put a lot of Halloween content up on social, you just buckle up. Literally nothing is better than the Christmas season.
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Guys, I just realized that I am going on this walk with you and that Thanksgiving is coming up. And I am wondering if we could make an episode that's just gratitude. That's just like a gratitude waterfall.
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Have you ever done one of those where you're like one person stacked on top of another just saying the things that they feel super grateful for? Can you help me do this? Here is how. Will you call into the hotline?
00:19:07 Speaker_02
It will take three minutes of your life. The number is 737-400-4626. You just call and be like, hey, this is Becky from Milwaukee. Give me your name and the city that you live in and tell us one thing that you're grateful for.
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because I thought wouldn't be so cool. Even if you're not in the US, here in the US, we have one day a year where we are meant to really practice gratitude. And that is Thanksgiving Day.
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And I would love to create a podcast episode that's just joyful and filled with gratitude. So whatever you are grateful for right now, give me your name, your city and a quick blurb on why that's awesome. The hotline is 737-400-4626.
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In personal news, my second born child, Sawyer, who is 16 and a half, did in fact get his driver's license this week. I'm not gonna lie, I didn't know he would pass because he is pretty nervous driving with me.
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He's not nervous driving with other people, he's nervous driving with me, probably because I'm nervous driving with him. But I'd only ever really seen him behind the wheel in a nervous manner. So I was like, Oh, man, I hope. I hope he gets this.
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And he did. He passed with flying colors. So I now have two teenagers who are licensed drivers, which is terrifying. And I would recommend that you stay off the streets. Stay off the streets in our neighborhood. Because Wow. Good morning. Yeah.
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Oh, no, me too. So the first person I just said hi to, I usually say hello or good morning to everybody I've ever passed, but I'm trying to be professional on this really crappy audio podcast with you guys.
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The first person I just said hello to is removing signs from their front yard for the election. You know those, like, the people who put up a little, like, vote for this person sign in their front yard.
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And the sign that she's removing is a different person than I voted for, or a different political party than I maybe align with. And she's still my neighbor. She's still my neighbor.
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I assume she's awesome, because I assumed that about everybody until they threw none of us. And you know how it is post-election, man. There's so much in the media and it will continue to be in the media.
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This is just a state of America now that tries to make you believe that if someone didn't vote how you voted, that they're, you know, a bad person or sort of like they're a monster. There's something wrong.
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Like we make up all of these narratives about people who believe different things than we believe. And I just don't subscribe to it. I can't.
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I think that comes from a childhood inside of a religious structure that had this dogma that if you weren't inside of our religion, if you weren't inside of our church, then you were wrong. Then you were bad. Then you were sinful.
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There was so much rhetoric around people who were other. And I see it happening now with political parties. And I'm not going to get political because I believe we all have the right. I believe in a free country.
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I believe we all have the right to vote for whoever we want to vote for. And certainly there are people on both sides in every part of this country who are not great.
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And there are also people on both sides who are awesome and who are just trying to do the very best that they can. And I just, I don't know, I don't hear a lot of people talking about this because I know it's not the cool thing.
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The cool thing is to pick a side and scream at the other side. But I just think there's probably a lot more of us who we're not as vocal. We're not as loud. We're not as nasty.
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We don't spend our time going on the internet and like yelling at people or telling them how they're wrong. Man, try and find the humanity in your neighbors. You don't have to, like, figure it out for the whole world.
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Just in your neighborhood, find the humanity in someone. It's so, God, close-minded to just make a sweeping decision about someone based on stuff you don't know. You don't know why. You don't know what they're doing. Get to know them.
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Then if they're a jerk, be like, man, Pam's a jerk. Bum that she's my neighbor. Well, we got to get over this divisive, hateful idea that everyone around us is awful if they aren't like us. Because we know that's not true.
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I think that's the narrative that's really popular because it's, you know, clickbait. And, oh wow, there's a mural I've never seen before. How pretty. Yeah, just like, look for the good, guys. Look for the good.
00:24:32 Speaker_02
And I know, so often, people are like, so often over the years with my books or the pod or things I put online, people are like, you know, this is Pollyanna, like, this is too, we shouldn't have to look for the positive.
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Yeah, you freaking should if you want to live a life that isn't miserable. You've got to look for some goodness. You don't have to look for goodness in a political party. You don't have to look for goodness.
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You don't have to be happy about the way things turn out in certain areas of your life. But I'm positive that if you try, you can find parts of it that are good. And in the parts of it that are good, there's some peace.
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And I think that you and I want to be the kind of people that are strong leaders.
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whether that's leaders in our family, leaders in our friendship group, leaders in our team at work, leaders in our synagogue, like we wanna be leaders and leaders open their arms to everybody and leaders hold space for conversation and leaders aren't judgmental.
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Good leaders aren't judgmental. I know there are political leaders who are, but good leaders aren't judgmental. So at the very least, as you walk around your neighborhood, maybe look for some good.
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Maybe you pass out some good mornings and some hellos and you try to meet people where they're at and try and know them and understand them rather than looking for all the ways that they're different from you. That is Sunday's podcast.
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And I hope that the audio wasn't too terrible, and I hope you enjoyed this walk together.
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My Apple Watch tells me that I walked 1.8 miles, so I don't know what you got up to, but hopefully you got a little movement in, or you just enjoyed yourself on the drive to work. I will be back soon with more conversation.
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But until then, as always, guys, I love you, and I'm rooting for you.
00:26:38 Speaker_01
The Rachel Hollis Podcast is produced by me, Rachel Hollis. It's edited by Andrew Weller and Jack Noble.