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Episode: 690: RACH TALK | HRT, Martha Stewart, The Excuses Holding Us Back
Author: Three Percent Chance
Duration: 00:27:36
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In this episode of the Rachel Hollis podcast, Rachel explores the evolution of her motivational outlook over the past six years, reflecting on how her approach has shifted from hardcore discipline to a more compassionate and self-aware mindset.Pre-order your audiobook of ‘What if YOU Are the Answer’ narrated by Rachel
on Audible today! You can also pre-order your e-book or hard copy at Amazon, Barnes & Noble (they have signed copies!), Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold!We're on The Final Batch! Get the Start Today Journal - https://starttoday.com/products/start-today-journala00:00 Introduction: You Are Your Own Savior00:49 Welcome to the Rachel Hollis Podcast01:21 The Real Reason Behind Excuses03:02 Coffee Talk: Life Updates and AI Theme Songs05:40 Hormones and Health: A Personal Journey13:38 Martha Stewart and YouTube Adventures16:36 Reflecting on Past Successes and Personal Growth24:35 Understanding Your Needs vs. Wants26:52 Conclusion: What Do You Need in This Season?Sign up for Rachel’s weekly email: https://msrachelhollis.com/insider/Watch the podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/RachelHollisMotivation/videosFollow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices.
Summary
In this episode of the Rachel Hollis Podcast, Rachel reflects on her personal growth over the past six years, shifting from a strict discipline approach to a kinder, self-aware mindset. She discusses the importance of recognizing excuses that hinder progress, with a focus on her health journey regarding hormonal balance and hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Rachel shares her struggles with heavy menstrual bleeding and the need for open discussions about women's health, encouraging listeners to differentiate between their needs and wants at different life stages.
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We are the only person who is going to save us. You are the only person who is going to make your life better. You are the only one who is capable of making positive and lasting change. Nobody else can save you. It is on you.
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I still absolutely believe that. But I think the biggest difference in that version of me six years ago and who I am today is the tone of how I would explain those same principles.
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And in a lot of ways, the compassion that I would bring to a conversation like that, not just for you, but for myself, Hi, I'm Rachel, and in this show, we talk about everything.
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Life and work, health and healing, relationships with others and with ourself. These are stories for the seekers. These are conversations for the curious. This is The Rachel Hollis Podcast. Welcome to the podcast and a conversation about excuses.
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The real reason that you are held back by the excuses made up in your own mind and it might not be what you think.
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Because when it comes to this topic, I think what we've seen most is hardcore alpha bro, no excuses, like nothing else matters, you have to do the thing, like you can't let an excuse hold you back.
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And I'm not gonna lie, there is a version of me when I was younger that loved that kind of idea. I loved the concept that no excuse was too big to hold you back from pursuing your goals and dreams.
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But that was only because I was in a season of life where I wasn't debilitated by grief, or pain, or loss, or hardship.
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Because saying that there are no excuses big enough to stop you from pursuing your goals just means that you're probably living a pretty okay existence currently.
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because there are really good excuses for why this might not be the right time for you to do the thing that you want to do.
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But my intention with this episode is to hopefully give you some workarounds to those excuses that hold us back and to give you some affirmation and some ideas that you can tell your head the next time it tries to make you quit on something that you're pursuing.
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Let's talk about excuses today, but first let's talk about hormones. Let's just start with a chatty conversation. I realized that lately all of my podcasts have been starting with this like coffee talk moment.
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We're sitting down, you and I, and we're having coffee together and I'm just catching you up on my life and I'm really loving it. I genuinely don't know if you guys love it, but I'm genuinely loving it.
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I love sharing with you what's going on and I hope that it feels like a fun way to enter into conversation.
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So I told Jack, what if we came up with a little song to signify the opening moments of the podcast to let people know that this is the part where we're just going to talk about life. I promise that later we're going to come back.
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You and I, if you are one of those listeners that is just here for like Give me some motivation and inspiration. I promise that's coming. But first, let's be friends.
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I did ask Jack if it was possible to have AI write us a theme song and he was like, I think so. I'm pretty sure AI could do almost anything. So he
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went wherever you go for such a thing to occur i don't know what prompts he put in but i would like to play you guys the song that ai came up with coffee with rach that made me laugh so hard i wanted to pee my pants and
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Honestly, it's horrible, but I love it. And I think henceforth, this is the you and I having coffee and chatting. Jack says, this is my first try working with the AI on theme songs. Here we go, guys. Get ready.
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Time for coffee and talking, talking and some more talking. Listen. coffee and some talking and stories and some coffee come get gossip and giggle with rake
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Just so we're clear, she did say, come gossip and giggle with Rick, because that's how she read the word rage. But I think, guys, we got to keep it. Wow. I mean. This is, I don't have words.
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I think we can all agree that that is a fabulous theme song and let's talk. I wish I had my coffee cup for you guys, but I chugged it before I started. So just know I'm fully caffeinated and hormones.
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Y'all know, if you have been hanging out with me over the last four years, that probably one-third of the episodes of this show have been about hormones, perimenopause, menopause. I talk to everybody about it.
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And I talk to everybody about it because it has been such a significant factor in my life. I've had Dr. Taz on. I've had Dr. Mindy Pelz on. I've had I've had nutritionists who specialize in hormone health. I've had naturopath doctors, Dr. Brush.
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Like, I've had my blood works done here on the show. I mean, all of these episodes exist, and you can go listen to them.
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But I'll tell you, when I was writing the new book, I was working with a new editor I haven't ever worked with before, and over and over and over, I got the note you're talking about your period too much. You're talking about your uterus too much.
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You're talking about hormones too much. Because I bring it up a lot. And I trusted her opinion. And I did pull some of those conversations out of the mix. Because I definitely don't want you guys as readers to be like, girl, we get it. You have a period.
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But I was thinking about it this week. And I would like to circle back on how much I talk about my period for this reason. It is really affecting my life.
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And I just keep thinking that if it is really affecting my life, it must be really affecting y'all's life if you are perimenopausal and experiencing some of the same symptoms that I am.
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It's not affecting me like a little bit, it's affecting me a lot, every single month. And I am doing everything that I know how to do to try and make myself as balanced and healthy as I possibly can when it comes to hormone health.
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But I honestly think it might be time to try HRT. which is, if you're not familiar, hormone replacement therapy, which is something the doctor has suggested to me for the last couple of years, particularly because my progesterone levels are so low.
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And I honestly, oh my God, I've tried everything because I don't want to go on any sort of medicine or anything I don't need.
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Even though if I'm going to do HRT, I will absolutely do bioidentical hormones and, you know, do all the research and figure it out. And I heard recently that you can get progesterone from like, I don't know, yams or something.
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I might have totally made up where you get them from. But basically that you could do it in a healthy way. I have a friend who's done it. She's found it really helpful.
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But I was trying as hard as I could to not add anything else to my system and really trusting my body's ability to heal itself and fix itself. But I am so sorry if you are the one random dude who decided to listen today.
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It's probably time to bail because I'm really going to talk about it. I have such heavy periods. I have such heavy periods that if I was following Google's advice, I would be in the emergency room every single month.
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Like, if you Google how much bleeding is too much bleeding, I am so far beyond what it is saying. It's hilarious. It's like, if you bleed through more than four tampons in two hours, like, Girl, I am bleeding through four ultra tampons in two hours.
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And I have another girlfriend who is experiencing the same kind of thing. And this is why I want to talk about it, because I want you to know that you're not alone if you are experiencing this. I can't go out in public.
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On one or two days of my period, the first couple days of my period, I literally can't go anywhere. Even at home, you guys, I will bleed through everything that I'm wearing. I am wearing period panties. I am wearing ultra tampons.
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And if I forever use a menstrual cup, but I can't use a menstrual cup on day one and two because it's so heavy. It's awful and I have anemia because of how much I'm bleeding and I'm super pale and I'm cold all the time and it's so crazy.
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I woke up the other night and I like three o'clock in the morning I just like bled all over my bed all over my bedding And it was, I didn't even have my period yet.
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So it wasn't like, oh, I'm in my period and I knew, no, I just started like Niagara Falls, like just going bananas. It just sucks. It sucks. And I just, Know that people are like, stop talking about it.
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But no, because those of us who are living in this reality, I just don't know how to fix it yet. I don't know how to fix it. And I told you guys a couple weeks ago that I found out that I have cysts in my breast, which is because of hormone imbalance.
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And I'm just over it. I'm super over it. I can't, I said, I told Kez the other day, I'm like, it's not getting better.
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I have really devoted the last six months especially to like really trying to fix this particular problem of bleeding so much and it is controlling my life.
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So I think I'm I have an appointment tomorrow with a doctor and I'm gonna I really feel like I'm supposed to try something because oh my god I just Look, I'm so freaking lucky because I work from home.
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So if I'm sitting here recording this for you right now and I accidentally start bleeding, yeah, I don't want to ruin my furniture, but at least it's at home.
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I have a girlfriend who's a teacher and was at school and just kept bleeding through everything. And they finally had to go home because it's just nuts. And I think a lot of people are dealing with it and not talking about it.
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And it's embarrassing and it ruins your clothes and it ruins furniture. And I know someone who was at a business meeting at someone else's office and was sitting on the sofa and started bleeding.
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And I just, God, I just wanted to talk about it in case you're experiencing it too, because it's really frustrating and there has to be a better way. And so I'm going to look for a better way and I'll keep you guys posted on what happens.
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God, I'm so sick of it. Like I live in fear of doing a podcast interview with like, I mean, I don't want to do it with anybody and start bleeding. But like, what if I'm like interviewing a dude? And you know what? Okay, so anyway, that's
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That's what's happening there and I'll keep you guys updated, but the hormones are raging. I'm wearing what I call my period pants.
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I usually show off my outfits on Instagram if you guys want to watch me do stories about my outfits, but I have more than once
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done videos about my period pants which are just sort of oversized black jeans that kind of fit high on the waist and I love during period season to wear the period pants with a tight fitting top because I think it's about dressing for
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emphasizing the good stuff and during my period I might be bleeding but my boobs look fantastic so I rock my period pants I wear my tight shirt and you know yes it's covered up by a giant flannel but whatever guys we're doing what we can.
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OMG I can't believe I didn't lead out with this have you guys watched the Martha Stewart documentary? Guys It's so fantastic. It's so fantastic if you're a Martha Stewart fan. It's so fantastic if you are an entrepreneur.
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It is so fantastic and actually really smart for her and for her team. She doesn't strike me as someone who wants to maybe show vulnerability, but she is so vulnerable in that conversation.
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And I was astounded learning so much information about when she went to prison and what happened to her business and just all of the details around that. I found, oh my gosh, it's so good.
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And side note, if you like Martha Stewart, it is literally worth getting Masterclass just so you can watch the Martha Stewart Masterclass. Because you know how other masterclasses they're legitimately teaching you like how to do a thing?
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Martha Stewart masterclass is essentially like if you ever wanted a farm or a ranch, Nothing will turn you on more than episode one of Martha Stewart's Masterclass. It's so fantastic. Y'all, trust me, go watch it. Go watch them both.
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I've watched her Masterclass like four times, because I just, the very first episode where it's just her like taking care of her turkeys and, you know, trimming bushes and, oh, I'm just like, this is who I want to be.
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You're like, Rachel, who do you want to be when you're in your 80s? I want to be Martha Stewart living on a farm, taking care of animals. So we started posting podcast episodes onto the YouTube channel.
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If you were the kind of person that likes watching a video, if you like graphics,
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If you like, you know, when Jack cuts in behind the scenes footage, if you want to see videos or pictures of my life that maybe I don't put other places, YouTube is the place to go.
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But in putting things on YouTube again, I was actually reviewing the most popular videos that we've done over the years. And you have to know about me and Jack. Number one, we have worked together for over a decade. Jack is my producer, my
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videographer, my editor. He's all the things. He's a very dear friend. We've just been doing this a really long time. And to be totally honest, we have never, ever successfully done YouTube. We really have always felt kind of confused about it.
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I think we've done Facebook really well. We've done Instagram really well. We just never really leaned into that video category.
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But we have consistently, no, not consistently, it hasn't been consistent, but we have posted for a very long time, just not consistently and not with any real strategy about what we were doing.
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There were times we did Rach Talk episodes, there were times we did cooking segments, there were times we did motivational videos and I clicked on to like popular videos and the most popular video,
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I ever did was six years ago, which is pretty bananas, and it was straight motivation, which makes sense. Like I get why that would be such a popular subject.
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And I was watching this video because it had like 600,000 views, which is bananas for me because I think like average the videos on YouTube have like 2,000 people watching them.
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So it has all of these views and I was watching it and I was watching the beginnings of my career in this space.
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It's cut with all of this B-roll of me traveling for work and doing keynote speeches and building the first RISE conference and writing my book and it's cut over the top
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of me saying, it's going to be hard and you have to keep going and you're going to have to stand up and go again and you are capable and you are strong.
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And I get why the video is so popular because sometimes I also need someone to kick my butt a little bit and tell me to believe in myself and tell me to stand back up and go. So I get why the video is so popular.
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And it resonated so much with me when I made it six years ago.
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And it's really precious to see the evolution of how far I've come and how different things are because I still believe so many of those principles, this idea that we are the only person who is going to save us.
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You are the only person who is going to make your life better. You are the only one who is capable of making positive and lasting change. Nobody else can save you. It is on you. I still absolutely believe that.
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But I think the biggest difference in that version of me six years ago and who I am today is the tone of how I would explain those same principles.
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And in a lot of ways, the compassion that I would bring to a conversation like that, not just for you, but for myself. If you've listened to this show for any time at all, you've probably heard me reference New Year's. I love a new year.
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I did the last 90 days challenge as a way to build up to the new year. I love ending the year with a calendar audit so that I can set up my year on January 1st for all of the intentions that I have to level up. I am such a dork about it.
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It's my favorite, which is why I picked the new year to launch my brand new book. It's called, What If You Are The Answer? And it is a framework to start your new year with.
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26 different questions that when I heard them for the first time, read them in a book, a friend asked them of me, the question was so powerful that it changed my perspective, that it forced me to confront hard truths or allowed me to level up on my level up.
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So, if you are part of this community, I want you to be the first to know, What If You Are The Answer comes out January 7th. We have the most incredible pre-order gift, which we are launching November 1st. I promise to tell you more about it soon.
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But in the meantime, if you want to pre-order your book now, or if you want to reserve a signed copy, head over to the link in the show notes and check out the new book, the new book cover, and what it's all about. Thanks for reading.
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I watched that yesterday and I genuinely got emotional. I wanted to cry for her, for that version of me, because I can see it. I think you could probably see it if you were watching the video. I am trying so hard. I am motivating myself every day.
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I am standing back up. I am going again. I'm watching that version of me. pushing, pushing, trying to prove herself, trying to become an author, trying to become a speaker, trying to be a good mama, trying to be a good wife.
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Like I was working so damn hard and I didn't have a lot of grace for myself. So it would have been almost impossible for me to have grace as a teacher.
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As someone who's writing or sharing ideas, it was almost impossible for me to not be so intense is how I would describe the conversation. And I don't regret that at all because I know for me
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Yeah, there are times where I really have needed that voice of authority with passion, with absolute certainty to challenge me and tell me to keep going.
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I think we have to know what we need in certain seasons of our life and there are seasons when I have needed that kind of like drill sergeant, like, yes, you can get up, go again. You have to do it. You must do it. Like, I've needed that at times.
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It's not something that resonates in my spirit today. six years later, my heart has been so broken so many times over the last six years that I just can't lean into that kind of intensity.
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And I think that if you find yourself in a season where you really need it, listen to that. Because there are some incredible teachers out there that have a much more intense approach in how they tell people to go about things.
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And I used to be one of them. I'm positive you can find a bunch of old content of mine where I will like challenge you into believing in yourself. But so much of the work I'm interested in today is more about how do we
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follow the same path, but do it with love and compassion and from a place of abundance, not a place of scarcity. Because I do think that that was an underlying piece of my
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ideology back then was I have to do it and I have to do it now because if I don't do it now I will never have the chance, it will never be mine, my children will suffer, my family will suffer, my dreams will die.
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Like I had that kind of intense belief system about what I was doing and guess what? It worked. It worked.
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That way of thinking is 1 million percent, 1 million percent why I began to experience success in my career, why I was motivated to write books and make a podcast and build conferences and do all the things that I've done.
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It was because of that mentality. So I don't begrudge anybody if they feel like this is the season of hustle. It's just a shift for me now versus me then. But I loved watching that video and seeing how far I've come. And I was really curious.
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I was asking myself, like, God, what would that video sound like today? What would that – we call it a voiceover when you have, you know, the sound of the voice telling you something and then you see a bunch of different pictures and videos.
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I'm like, what would it look like today? It would be so different. It would probably get six views, not 600,000. But I think the lesson for me in that, and I hope for you, is to just really be mindful of what you need and when you need it.
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There's a chapter in the new book that's all about what you want versus what you need. And those are two very different things. I mean, sometimes it would be amazing if there was overlap and what you want and what you need are the same things.
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But I found in my life that my ego tells me or my mind tells me is what I need is not actually what I need. It's what I want. It's what I would like to happen. But what you need and what you want are often two very different things.
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And the goal, I think, for us is to figure out the need component. Yeah, it's great to want that thing. It's a nice to have, but not a need to have.
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And when you can drill down into the actual needs, when you can start to meet your own needs, whether that is maybe this is the season where you need more comfort.
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I know, everybody tells you, push yourself outside your comfort zone, and push harder, and do more things. But maybe this isn't the season where you go outside your comfort zone.
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Maybe you've had a really stressful year and this is the season that you build yourself a little nest and kind of bed down and take care of yourself because you are resting on the abundance that, you know what?
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Come Q1 of next year, I'm going to hit the ground running and I'm going to be so much stronger and ready for this marathon because I rested. Or maybe the opposite is true.
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Maybe you, if you're being totally honest with yourself, know that you maybe haven't been pushing as hard as you need to. And this is not a season of comfort. Maybe this is a season of challenge.
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And maybe understanding that will allow you to put yourself in a place where you start to surround yourself with some people who will challenge you, who will motivate you, who will force you to kind of rise up to their level in order to stay inside the same circles.
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Only you are going to know what you need in this season of life, but if you don't slow down long enough to ask, you'll keep doing the same thing and not actually get anywhere better.
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This was a little all over the place, coffee talk kind of moment before we get into a bigger conversation about excuses. Spoiler alert, sometimes we need a little shake up and a little butt kicking around the excuses that we're making.
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But before we jump into that conversation, it's worth just asking yourself, what do you need in this season of your life? The Rachel Hollis Podcast is produced by me, Rachel Hollis. It's edited by Andrew Weller and Jack Noble.